It was a nice surprise to run into you yesterday on BTS, and I am very glad to have the opportunity to tell you in person how much I have enjoyed your videos.
It amazes me the number of dudes who tell on themselves with glib “no money, no honey” comments, or some variation within. I worked at a Thai company and dated lots of middle class, or upper-middle class, university-educated women in Bangkok. No one asked me for money, or wanted me to support their families. Lots of men are simply unwilling to do what it takes to move beyond foreign ghettos and seek out higher quality partners. Maybe they don’t have the qualities needed to find higher quality partners. Because a middle class girl isn’t interested in an overweight alcoholic old enough to be her dad. Dudes wouldn’t go to a brothel outside of Vegas or the Red Light district in Amsterdam and seek relationships with sex workers. So why do they do it in Thailand, and then draw broad conclusions about Thai society based off of those interactions? So often people criticizing Thai society are really just relaying their own poor lifestyle choices.
@@cnxghost It will never not be ironic to care enough to respond to a person’s opinion, while also telling them they shouldn’t care enough to express said opinion. In short, we live in a world shaped by the ideas of others. I do find value in challenging some of the bad ideas people share about Thailand. It just might spare me from another conversation with a half-drunken incel trying to sell me on what’s clearly a crypto Ponzi scheme. At least I can hope…
Sadly, that is only half the story. To be sure, though, it makes me cringe to see so many elderly, overweight western men involved with young Thai women, and in these situations I think it reasonable for them to be paying a monthly allowance.
sadly but true over a few decades part of issan culture has become knowing the way to get income is either by working or sending your daughter(s) to find a foreign sponsor. not only farang but can be japan, china, malaysia, etc etc. some women try to do the same but with thai men. every now and then such women become famous in media for a scandal. one such lady offered a course to teach other women how to string along multiple thai male sponsors. hiding her identity extremely important as each thai man thought he was the one and only. the lady feared for her well being if her identity got out.
@@muajin i knew a very nice looking(by thai standards) gal that was working in a bar but her thai bf was too jealous and gave her 10K baht salary to stay at home with him. he was insecure and below 5/10
The main reason Thai woman date westerners is for a better quality of life, IE money. I have been married 25 years. Starting out I helped her family about $300 a month. Now having a western income she pretty much takes care of the family herself.
...but most of them try getting kids from u and don't work. Than crying for living near family. U dumb buy a house and soon family lives there and if money finished the throw out.
Just a friendly reminder to my bros. If you met some spicy hot Thai girl in a bar and she asks you to sponsor her, save your money because she's probably got 10 other sponsors already. Let someone else be the fool because you're too cool for that!!!
I was dating a bar girl for a few months. Just a lighthearted casual thing, but this girl told me she has multiple guys all sending her money, all thinking she's living in her rural family home. This girl was raking it in, 200k+ a month from sponsors alone, plus whatever money she was earning from the bar
Facts! I’ve been to pattaya a few times, never dated or paid for a bar girl or FL. Save your money, don’t get involved in them. Your wallet and mental state will thank you for it later.
I have lived in Isaan for four year found a 50-year-old thai lady qualified accountant but decided to stop working two years ago , within one week she asked for 50,000 baht to cover her only son's university fees, i refused and took the opportunity to set the boundaries, she refused to offer to pay for anything. The final straw was pulling into a PTT,station she filled her Toyota fortuner and turned to me to pay the 2000 baht I walked away.she failed to understand why.. Point im making its not just young disadvantaged thai woman that wantvto extract money its across all thai society Any educated Thai woman' normally avoid foreigners its frowned upon within their social circles and lowers their status My conclusion is that 90% of thai women will ask for money' whist there monthly salaries remain untouched.. its thaii culture!!
not all have that attitude but i have experienced that also but as u i walked away fast. i dated a registered nurse from issan. we more or less shared expenses. bali trip; i covered flights, she covered hotel. when i took bus to issan i covered inexpensive hotel. she provided car and food. another one, a lady medical doctor insisted on sharing expenses.
I agree all thia women want money especially from foreign men its in thier culture if you want them you have to pay for it thialand women ain't as good as some of these expats claim thia women are very money hungry especially towards foreign men
You have to set boundaries, if you are gonna do it make sure it's a set amount monthly.. check yoself before you wreck yourself, walk away if necessary
I could agree with the idea of supporting OAP parents with the lack of a pension but unfortunately, a lot of Isaan parents will retire the second their daughter meets a white guy and expect monthly transfers whilst in their 40's... You have to question the morals of the girl raised by this kind of family too...
Wow. I really cannot believe this. She is the first normal person to be interviewed on this channel. I have been watching since almost the beginning...and...yes for sure....She is the first normal person I have watched on Thairish Times... (Other than Pete and his Wife, of course!).
I'll keep saying this until it registers: The answer is NO! Hell NO! F word NO! Absolutely NOT! if a Thai girl and her family can't sustain themselves financially on their own without your money DO NOT GET INVOLVED!!!
I dated single Thai women with jobs/hobbies, who were educated and had traveled/studied abroad. I Was never interested in the Bangkok bar scene as that was not my style. However, I did learn a lot about Thai culture by dating these Thai women from various backgrounds. I came to the realization that some aspects of Thai culture were too 'superficial' and not aligned with my western values and views. This view led me to seek another long term partner from a different Asian country. I've been with my lovely partner for 10 years and we have a 6 year old son. Glad to have had the experience of dating Thai women but that type is not for me.
Most of my friends tell me that thai girls are not for me, so different culture and cannot talk only about food or money all day...deep talks very rare
What does it have to do with culture if I fall in love with a woman who then demands that I support her entire family? That is just outrageous. The term culture has positive connotations for me.
My wife is Thai. We live in southern California. Here is the deal: give her a fixed amount each month. What she does with that is up to her. No more. She can spend it, send it back home, whatever. In a TRUE emergency, you can give more, but this should be very infrequent.
Thanks, Man!. for the new episode: In fact, I have been in dire need of something decent to watch, all day, since I woke up this morning. I will now watch this while I eat a bowl of rice, Thai Jasmine, and chew on a chicken breast, purchased at Lotus. Happy to be here, again, for one more week.....
Never give money. And i guess why its hard to keep a relationship for me...... originally i gave out a bit every month. 10 000 to 12 000 baht to the gf to stay at family home when i worked in canada, and only 4000 baht a month when i was in Thailand living with her. Relationship Lasted 3 years. After that i stopped giving money out...i fully supported the girls but not the family. No relationship lasts more than 1.5 years with 3 other girls since. Overall i think im done with Thailand for a while. Been a crazy 12 years but now im going somewhere else.
Realize that women all over the world, due to evolutionary programming, desire men to make some kind of investment. If you give nothing, you better be smoking hot and loyal.
Thanks Pete for the video and thanks Ying for explaining all her experiences. Long distance relationships are not easy, that's why I am not confident in them except if there is a common long term plan for staying together. I delt with the money issue, by pondering how much, my thai girlfriend needed each month....and after that, no many problems. She has passed away. I am still supporting one of her two sons..now he is adult, I give just enough he can survive. No more because he has to learn how to win some by himself. My style worked fined ...other people can do differently, always remember you have choices, ... choose wisely.
if you are serious about a relationship with anyone.....set boundries at the start, and learn their language as soon as possible or have your love speak your language. We all need a little help sometimes. But dont be a mark, or a target for people to exploit.
Great video Pete, when dating a girl there is a lot of difference compared to our cultures. I personally think if you are dating a thai girl or living here you should learn the language or attempt to. Hope everything is well in Dublin ☘️
Ironically, this issue highlights the socio-economic position of both the girl as well as her man. A girl with a proper job and education is more likely to be able to earn her own money and from a family that doesn't need such support, but also, she is more likely to partner with a better quality, more flush foreigner! But its trouble in paradise with those foreigners who are trying to survive on the pension from home at 40k baht a month taking on a girlfriend who is 20 years younger and is literally an economic immigrant from Issan (yes, she left home, often told you're pretty enough to go to Pattaya/Bangkok/Phuket etc. and make money from foreigners!). What could possibly go wrong?!!!
This discussion always should be done way prior to marriage along with learning about other expectations. I would suggest to find out early in dating any Thai woman how much she sends home monthly to her family and use that as a rough benchmark. if the man loves the woman and can afford to help his future wife then it's up to him - either accept or reject. If the woman is asking for an absurd amount % wise above what she provided prior to marriage then that's a clear sign she's a gold digger and it's not love. Lastly, if the woman works or has worked in the nightlife industry I would not consider marrying her as the probabilities of failure and heartbreak goes exponential 📈....the odds are already stacked against you so no need to make it worse.
Many guys still date or marry a bar girl/FL (even with the countless horror stories out there) guys either don’t see the vids or they do but think (my situation is different, she really loves me) the happy stories are very rare. Don’t date them, your wallet and mental state will thank you.
The fact is, most Western men date and marry poorer Thai women from the countryside, which is why they often find themselves in situations where the women ask for money. Wealthier Thai women are typically less interested in foreigners, as they are independent and don't need support from a Westerner. As a result, they are more inclined to date Thai men, which is why you rarely see Western men with middle- to upper-class Thai women
Ying, you are a great ambassador for your country. It was a pleasure meeting you and hearing your story, I think a lot of foreign visitors would greatly benefit from watching your interview, so thank you Ying, and all the very best for you in the future.
Could you consider doing a video with Mickey Stotch ? He’s been living in Bangkok, Thailand 10 years and has a you tube channel. A Great kind soul. Would be amazing !
I have that fifine microphone that's on your desk. The sound is actually absorbed from the front. So turn the mic around so the green light is facing you and the sound will be much better. So, point the mic at your monitor.
Iv been with two girls from Pattaya Now and both of them have told me that there kids have been in hospital one of them even sent me a photo of the hospital 😂😂
Ying is a very smart attractive young lady who is very open minded to new things and very goal oriented. She is also very pretty w a beautiful smile. I would love to find a Thai lady like Ying.. Her parents should be proud.
that can often be a mask. I don't fall for it. Many that learn English, will often be better hustlers and put on a good front to catch the bigger fish. Think about it
@@mythai05 They do, but at least they enjoy the best and hottest ones while it lasts, lol. 😂 I've seen some Westerners get completely taken for a ride by Thai women that no local man would ever go near. 😂
You can support your family in everyway possible sweetheart, but not with my money, and most forgein dudes feel the same. 3 years in Thailand single life, fully embracing the "pump n Dump" way of life, and never been happier.
the big wake-up call for the passport bros: the realization that, in exchange for getting a lady way out of your league, your job is to serve as the ATM machine for her and her family forever until the end of time. there's a price for everything
I am married to my thai wife for almost two years now. I did not pay any sinsod, i never supported her family and i never got asker to do so by my wife. Not sure why this needs to be done by certain people. It causes unnecessary stress.
It's only the social under class that asks for money. Indeed, the middle and upper class won't ask for money. So it is not so much culturally driven buy social class driven.
It’s tricky because in most cases a lot of women asking for money are gonna be on the take especially if you meet them in a tourist area, however it doesn’t mean that if you’re supporting a woman financially it can’t be love also it’s a tricky one , just set your boundaries before you get into relationship I would say and go with your gut 👍🇨🇷
Older and younger successful men who are fit and have there life together don't want 30 yo plus broke girl from anywhere Love many, trust few and protect your stack at all times boys and girls. Its a jungle out there.
So true; no bar girls. I’m dating a girl from Up Country in BKK. She’s never asked for money. I offer to buy her a dress, shoes, jewelry. Hard, but small town girl, “No”. She will not take anything. I kinda think it’s the Buddhism. The middle path? Or is it just how she was brought up. She does have a good work ethic. Just her personality. Just don’t know for sure.
The schools she is referring to, the ones that accept students for after-school instruction, are sometimes called cram-schools. In Chinese, we call them BuXiBan... To BuXi means to review and study and reinforce what one has previously learned. The BuXiBans in Taiwan, China, and Japan, and Korea, too, put much pressure on students. Of course, if one is just studying English after school, at a good English-language school, such as, maybe, CMU....then fine!
@@YuChiGongG I think she was taking about a tuitor, many rich Thai people higher them to help their kids after school or weekends. Like you mentioned to cram for tests. You often see students with them in food courts in malls.
@@glenloader639 She seems to be talking about "cram schools". She probably worked as a teacher in one of the many cram schools that can be found in Taiwan, Japan, Korea, China, Hong Kong, and...yes.... Thailand. (Should we ask her?)
@@YuChiGongGI used to be a teacher and work at one of the famous international school in Ubonratchathani Province. It’s the actual school not tutorial school etc. if this is what you mean?
@@YuChiGongG No need to ask her, I really don't care. I've seen her on One Night In Bangkok potcast before, she really doesn't have much to say! She and the type of girls one night in bangkok brings on his show really don't have anything of value to say. They seem to want to be the Paris Hilton of bankok, which was being famous but really not doing anything!
@@glenloader639I actually have a lot to say and talk about. It really depends on what you want to hear. However the purpose of this interview mainly discussing on the questions host asked so if there are other topics, I will surely speak about them. If that makes sense. Also on One Night In BKK show, I didn’t join as an actual guess and I didn’t get asked so that’s why you don’t see me talking that much.
Thairish, I would love to give you a tell all of my first time in Thailand, everything you could almost think of happened to me in Patong. I’d like to give people my advice and experience so they avoid all the mistakes I did. How do I message you?
Isaan and the rest of Thailand have really different cultures… The whole idea of supporting the lady and her family doesn’t exist for modern Bangkok women.
Same culture bro it's Thailand. In Asia family is everything so understand that first and foremost. Poor family will need help by food or money is the support. Rich isaan or Bangkok Thais don't need your money but you better not be poor or stingy towards the family and they need you to be there at every event, drive a Benz or BMW, daughter is happy, and let it be known that you have money and a large dowry this is your support.
It’s the same as a charity, you can support by giving your time and effort, it doesn’t necessarily need to mean money. But “supporting” in Thailand usually always boils down to money as the lowest common denominator.
Ima be honest the reality is if a man is not financially stable he will lose his wife eventually. The best option is to find a woman where she can also make money and where you don’t need to support people you don’t really know.
I guess though in western world for example if say we had an Irish wife and your wife's sister for example had huge accident and they needed specialised surgery we would pay too...or money for a funeral ....I know a strange example but if a Thai wifes family needed help surely we should/ would help without question.....? Off course I mean emergency not monthly payments !!
Agree. In Ireland it would be unknown not to help other side of family out if badly stuck. So why would that not be the same in Asia ! But Thailand is top heavy with old farangs divorced or single living on the scrapings of tin and for sure won't be helping anyone out !!
the emphasis on relationships, thai girlfriends, dating is so blown out of proportion but i guess that is a big reason a high % are in thailand. i see ying's channel is also trying to capitalize on the fascination with thai women.
She loves me and I love her , she cares about me and I care about her so her problem is mine and my problems are hers and I have the money to do so. So why not???
It's always about the money because why would a good looking lady want to do with frang who lost his looks in his 20s. Also most men can accept and are willing to pay for a relationship with younger thai lady. Its not for me but if they want that , let them get on with it. Good luck they will need it.
14:29 ... that is right: 600,- B a month. Imagine you would have to survive on that o whole month long!!! Although the parents of my Thai-wife receive a pension of only a few hundret Bath per month, I was never asked for any support in five yeas. Her brother works in Israel on a farm and her sister works as secretary and they supprt the parents. In Thailand family is everything and that is good that way. Take a close look on the whole family before starting a serious relationship. Avoid the greedy ones. Happy wife, lucky wife
There's a misconception in Thailand that in the West we don't support our parents. We do support through our taxes and the government administers disbursement though Social Security programs in most countries. This is better in my opinion because you're not giving your children the burden and payment is legally guaranteed.
A very simple solution is to date only ones that don't have their family as burden, and are well off (uno reverse card). I'm not going to get into a long term relationship in my home country either with someone who thinks that their spouse should fix their financial problems. Cultural understanding works both ways.
Wasn't this the Ying on Jonny Somethings happening channel? I think it was a story about how much he spent on her. The American dude was spending about 30-40k bart per month on her.
I wouldn’t spend 30 or 40 baht on her.. One failed relationship. It’s just going to keep on going until she hits the wall. I go on Thai dating sites and get hundreds of messages from old Thai women (35 to 55) with kids looking for a guy. I’d prefer to eat broken glass.
I help my Thai wife`s family financially, but it`s not because they in some way tricked me into it. I help them because they helped me when my wife and I needed help and so I help them back now. There is no sponging involved.
My Thai wife’s father… after the crash of 2006 his business went. He was selling spectacles. His reason for not working was….. I don’t want to work for anyone else. 😡 So, my wife and her brother decided to give them money every month. Bad move on their behalf. What about them? My wife is still giving money. He retired at 46 years old. 😡😡😡😡😡 I don’t like them, they could work but don’t want to. Surprise, getting money for free. This is Thailand. I’m not giving them fa.
She is a good example of a player and user, disrespectful of humans, Buddhism and Dharma. I can only guess she is quite pleased with her choice, and sad for the good people she burns. Watch the comments, many stories of content foreign men in good balanced realationships & soem men that are quite bitter and spewing anger wanting to paint the entire country with one brush stroke. MY STORY - Luck or wisdom or streetwise? I followed the path of Buddhism and Dharma and avoided any bad stories per say or encounters with this sort of abusing lady on your channel. I really do not know how she suckers in anybody? OK, that was my vent, just this sort of two faced woman gets me worked up a bit when I should be calm. Take care 🙏
Check out Ying’s channel youtube.com/@yingonyoutube?si=mCYUSL1pD_rgojW8
It was a nice surprise to run into you yesterday on BTS, and I am very glad to have the opportunity to tell you in person how much I have enjoyed your videos.
If you are looking for love in thailand buy a dog.
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Thank you everyone for watching, hope you enjoy the video 🫶
Thank you so much for having me on your show Pete. It was a nice chat 😇🙏
@yingonyoutube swasdee krap nong ying! Great interview and best of luck with your UA-cam channel na kap 🙏
@@GalwayBluebirdthank you 😊
Thanks for coming on the channel Ying 🙏
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Hi Pete
Great that you give Thai women a platform to voice their side of the story. To many one sided youtubers out there bashing Thai women.
It amazes me the number of dudes who tell on themselves with glib “no money, no honey” comments, or some variation within.
I worked at a Thai company and dated lots of middle class, or upper-middle class, university-educated women in Bangkok.
No one asked me for money, or wanted me to support their families.
Lots of men are simply unwilling to do what it takes to move beyond foreign ghettos and seek out higher quality partners. Maybe they don’t have the qualities needed to find higher quality partners. Because a middle class girl isn’t interested in an overweight alcoholic old enough to be her dad.
Dudes wouldn’t go to a brothel outside of Vegas or the Red Light district in Amsterdam and seek relationships with sex workers. So why do they do it in Thailand, and then draw broad conclusions about Thai society based off of those interactions?
So often people criticizing Thai society are really just relaying their own poor lifestyle choices.
@@cnxghost It will never not be ironic to care enough to respond to a person’s opinion, while also telling them they shouldn’t care enough to express said opinion.
In short, we live in a world shaped by the ideas of others. I do find value in challenging some of the bad ideas people share about Thailand.
It just might spare me from another conversation with a half-drunken incel trying to sell me on what’s clearly a crypto Ponzi scheme. At least I can hope…
Meanwhile this guy is prob still single. He’s a Chad/player with no interest to settle down.
Sadly, that is only half the story. To be sure, though, it makes me cringe to see so many elderly, overweight western men involved with young Thai women, and in these situations I think it reasonable for them to be paying a monthly allowance.
They only date bar girls, as a normal girl doesnt want a beer gut old farang !
very well said🙏👍
There are two types of Thai culture in Thailand.
One for Thais and one for foreigners. This lady knows that and plays it.
poor boy,
Thai husband will never give monthly salary to his in laws. He will never pay to construct house of his in laws. Dowery wont be a million.
@@amaana3758are you Thai guys won’t give a woman 10-30k baht allowance and pay to support her in-laws?
sadly but true over a few decades part of issan culture has become knowing the way to get income is either by working or sending your daughter(s) to find a foreign sponsor. not only farang but can be japan, china, malaysia, etc etc. some women try to do the same but with thai men. every now and then such women become famous in media for a scandal. one such lady offered a course to teach other women how to string along multiple thai male sponsors. hiding her identity extremely important as each thai man thought he was the one and only. the lady feared for her well being if her identity got out.
@@muajin i knew a very nice looking(by thai standards) gal that was working in a bar but her thai bf was too jealous and gave her 10K baht salary to stay at home with him. he was insecure and below 5/10
The main reason Thai woman date westerners is for a better quality of life, IE money. I have been married 25 years. Starting out I helped her family about $300 a month. Now having a western income she pretty much takes care of the family herself.
...but most of them try getting kids from u and don't work. Than crying for living near family. U dumb buy a house and soon family lives there and if money finished the throw out.
Yes, a man needs to realize the true value that he brings.
Wrong!! many Thai women don't prefer dating farangs.
Just a friendly reminder to my bros. If you met some spicy hot Thai girl in a bar and she asks you to sponsor her, save your money because she's probably got 10 other sponsors already. Let someone else be the fool because you're too cool for that!!!
Facts
I was dating a bar girl for a few months. Just a lighthearted casual thing, but this girl told me she has multiple guys all sending her money, all thinking she's living in her rural family home. This girl was raking it in, 200k+ a month from sponsors alone, plus whatever money she was earning from the bar
Yes. No more how lonely you are you can do better than that
Facts! I’ve been to pattaya a few times, never dated or paid for a bar girl or FL. Save your money, don’t get involved in them. Your wallet and mental state will thank you for it later.
@@ctb1977 Doubt she worked in a bar, while getting 200 k per month, good try tho
I have lived in Isaan for four year found a 50-year-old thai lady qualified accountant but decided to stop working two years ago , within one week she asked for 50,000 baht to cover her only son's university fees, i refused and took the opportunity to set the boundaries, she refused to offer to pay for anything. The final straw was pulling into a PTT,station she filled her Toyota fortuner and turned to me to pay the 2000 baht I walked away.she failed to understand why..
Point im making its not just young disadvantaged thai woman that wantvto extract money its across all thai society
Any educated Thai woman' normally avoid foreigners its frowned upon within their social circles and lowers their status
My conclusion is that 90% of thai women will ask for money' whist there monthly salaries remain untouched.. its thaii culture!!
not all have that attitude but i have experienced that also but as u i walked away fast. i dated a registered nurse from issan. we more or less shared expenses. bali trip; i covered flights, she covered hotel. when i took bus to issan i covered inexpensive hotel. she provided car and food. another one, a lady medical doctor insisted on sharing expenses.
She disliked you so much that she made an ultimatum: give me all your money or get lost!
Passport bros go for the lower educated ones then? I get where you coming from.
@@akpowerlifting what would they do if western men stopped going for Thai women?
I agree all thia women want money especially from foreign men its in thier culture if you want them you have to pay for it thialand women ain't as good as some of these expats claim thia women are very money hungry especially towards foreign men
I think I’ve purchased half the live cattle in Thailand since 1980.
or just covered their medical bills
@@mrwangchronicles Tell her to eat the sick buffalo for meat.
A Big Brain Move is to buy her buffalo a health insurance policy.
Hahahaha 😆!!!
Hi handsome man, send me baht
You have to set boundaries, if you are gonna do it make sure it's a set amount monthly.. check yoself before you wreck yourself, walk away if necessary
I could agree with the idea of supporting OAP parents with the lack of a pension but unfortunately, a lot of Isaan parents will retire the second their daughter meets a white guy and expect monthly transfers whilst in their 40's...
You have to question the morals of the girl raised by this kind of family too...
Wow. I really cannot believe this. She is the first normal person to be interviewed on this channel. I have been watching since almost the beginning...and...yes for sure....She is the first normal person I have watched on Thairish Times... (Other than Pete and his Wife, of course!).
I'm obviously not normal then :)
@@PaulWalliswriter Well, maybe that depends upon which one of the several Paul Wallises you are.
@@YuChiGongG Surely. there's only one of me!
Paul is the best! We need more interviews with him!
Great interview Pete, congrats on the 50k+ subs! A celebration livestream is needed ;)
Cheers JP, will do one next weekend
@@ThairishTimes Perfect, looking forward to it
I'll keep saying this until it registers:
The answer is NO!
Hell NO!
F word NO!
Absolutely NOT!
if a Thai girl and her family can't sustain themselves financially on their own without your money
DO NOT GET INVOLVED!!!
Based
Yet many still the mistake of thinking they're the ones to take the bar out of the girl
Those women are scammers, will suck you every penny, avoid
I dated single Thai women with jobs/hobbies, who were educated and had traveled/studied abroad. I Was never interested in the Bangkok bar scene as that was not my style. However, I did learn a lot about Thai culture by dating these Thai women from various backgrounds. I came to the realization that some aspects of Thai culture were too 'superficial' and not aligned with my western values and views. This view led me to seek another long term partner from a different Asian country. I've been with my lovely partner for 10 years and we have a 6 year old son. Glad to have had the experience of dating Thai women but that type is not for me.
Most of my friends tell me that thai girls are not for me, so different culture and cannot talk only about food or money all day...deep talks very rare
What does it have to do with culture if I fall in love with a woman who then demands that I support her entire family? That is just outrageous. The term culture has positive connotations for me.
Happy Weekend. Nice to see the Thai ladies' side. About life in Thailand. Great interview. As always.
My wife is Thai. We live in southern California. Here is the deal: give her a fixed amount each month. What she does with that is up to her. No more. She can spend it, send it back home, whatever. In a TRUE emergency, you can give more, but this should be very infrequent.
Thanks, Man!. for the new episode: In fact, I have been in dire need of something decent to watch, all day, since I woke up this morning. I will now watch this while I eat a bowl of rice, Thai Jasmine, and chew on a chicken breast, purchased at Lotus. Happy to be here, again, for one more week.....
Very good interview again another great interview 🎊 🎉
Never give money.
And i guess why its hard to keep a relationship for me...... originally i gave out a bit every month. 10 000 to 12 000 baht to the gf to stay at family home when i worked in canada, and only 4000 baht a month when i was in Thailand living with her. Relationship Lasted 3 years. After that i stopped giving money out...i fully supported the girls but not the family. No relationship lasts more than 1.5 years with 3 other girls since.
Overall i think im done with Thailand for a while. Been a crazy 12 years but now im going somewhere else.
Realize that women all over the world, due to evolutionary programming, desire men to make some kind of investment. If you give nothing, you better be smoking hot and loyal.
Thank you for the interview and congrats to 50k subscriber. Well deserved! Cheers
Cheers buddy 🙏🙏
Thanks Pete for the video and thanks Ying for explaining all her experiences. Long distance relationships are not easy, that's why I am not confident in them except if there is a common long term plan for staying together. I delt with the money issue, by pondering how much, my thai girlfriend needed each month....and after that, no many problems. She has passed away. I am still supporting one of her two sons..now he is adult, I give just enough he can survive. No more because he has to learn how to win some by himself. My style worked fined ...other people can do differently, always remember you have choices, ... choose wisely.
if you are serious about a relationship with anyone.....set boundries at the start, and learn their language as soon as possible or have your love speak your language. We all need a little help sometimes. But dont be a mark, or a target for people to exploit.
Thank you for all your hard work, Pete. I thoroughly enjoy your content.
Thanks so much buddy🙏🙏🙏
Great video Pete, when dating a girl there is a lot of difference compared to our cultures. I personally think if you are dating a thai girl or living here you should learn the language or attempt to. Hope everything is well in Dublin ☘️
Wise words buddy cheers
Never make a Thai woman choose between you and her family, you will lose every time!
She would choose her Thai bf over her foreigner hubby too. lol
If you are put in that position there may be far more wrong with the fundamentals of the relationship?
@@MrCanada-x2u Agreed
And rightly so!
That should be the way with anyone from any country. (Family first)
Ironically, this issue highlights the socio-economic position of both the girl as well as her man. A girl with a proper job and education is more likely to be able to earn her own money and from a family that doesn't need such support, but also, she is more likely to partner with a better quality, more flush foreigner! But its trouble in paradise with those foreigners who are trying to survive on the pension from home at 40k baht a month taking on a girlfriend who is 20 years younger and is literally an economic immigrant from Issan (yes, she left home, often told you're pretty enough to go to Pattaya/Bangkok/Phuket etc. and make money from foreigners!). What could possibly go wrong?!!!
This discussion always should be done way prior to marriage along with learning about other expectations. I would suggest to find out early in dating any Thai woman how much she sends home monthly to her family and use that as a rough benchmark. if the man loves the woman and can afford to help his future wife then it's up to him - either accept or reject. If the woman is asking for an absurd amount % wise above what she provided prior to marriage then that's a clear sign she's a gold digger and it's not love. Lastly, if the woman works or has worked in the nightlife industry I would not consider marrying her as the probabilities of failure and heartbreak goes exponential 📈....the odds are already stacked against you so no need to make it worse.
Don’t EVER marry.
Play them at their game.
Many guys still date or marry a bar girl/FL (even with the countless horror stories out there) guys either don’t see the vids or they do but think (my situation is different, she really loves me) the happy stories are very rare. Don’t date them, your wallet and mental state will thank you.
What sane man would even consider getting married these days … 😂
She wants money, my response "My Mother told me to never give money to a girl" - they are lost for words as they are thought to respect the Mother.
lol I like this tip
"Five dollars is all my mom allows me to spend" Private Joker - Full Metal Jacket
Oh I'm stealing this one hahahah
Yet you are paying for the girl so how does that work?
@@davidpark2509 That’s my response if they ask for money
The fact is, most Western men date and marry poorer Thai women from the countryside, which is why they often find themselves in situations where the women ask for money. Wealthier Thai women are typically less interested in foreigners, as they are independent and don't need support from a Westerner. As a result, they are more inclined to date Thai men, which is why you rarely see Western men with middle- to upper-class Thai women
Ying, you are a great ambassador for your country. It was a pleasure meeting you and hearing your story, I think a lot of foreign visitors would greatly benefit from watching your interview, so thank you Ying, and all the very best for you in the future.
nonsense.
Good topic. I'm in Jomtien. I'll probably live stream tomorrow night Thai time
Could you consider doing a video with Mickey Stotch ? He’s been living in Bangkok, Thailand 10 years and has a you tube channel. A Great kind soul. Would be amazing !
I have that fifine microphone that's on your desk. The sound is actually absorbed from the front. So turn the mic around so the green light is facing you and the sound will be much better. So, point the mic at your monitor.
as usual great content pete, keep it up......💪
Iv been with two girls from Pattaya Now and both of them have told me that there kids have been in hospital one of them even sent me a photo of the hospital 😂😂
And they forgot to tell you Thais get free healthcare under the 30 baht scheme.
@@cnxghost I guess in their eyes 2000 baht is probably not a lot of money to us so they will try and get away with making up a story and asking
Ying is a very smart attractive young lady who is very open minded to new things and very goal oriented. She is also very pretty w a beautiful smile. I would love to find a Thai lady like Ying.. Her parents should be proud.
This is an opinion from an educated modern thai girl its totally different mentality from 90% of the general thai street girls
that can often be a mask. I don't fall for it. Many that learn English, will often be better hustlers and put on a good front to catch the bigger fish. Think about it
Money talks. period!
the crude truth is NO MONEY no funny !!
Western girls the same, yet, once they are sick of you, they take it all !
It's not crude. Try being older and average looking and offering nothing else anywhere else in the world. No funny then either.
If they think you are a buffaloe, you will be taken for a ride. A foreginer will never be treated like a thai.
You think Thai men never get taken advantage of by Thai women?
@@mythai05 They do, but at least they enjoy the best and hottest ones while it lasts, lol. 😂 I've seen some Westerners get completely taken for a ride by Thai women that no local man would ever go near. 😂
When 6 guys are supporting her family unbeknown to each other
As I've said before find a woman without parents and children. You will be happier.
She"ll always have a "brother" somewhere
Exactly what I have and shes great with me and no money problems whatsoever
That leaves you with a very limited selection.
@@jacktersey3688 A much better selection.
@@thaimanclark Maybe but good luck finding them.
yeah she's perfect for most guys, and she knows it. Good interview. Hope she gets what she wants.
Like it or not ,you will help support the family ,
I never had.Been married 24 years.Never given anything or to my Mrs,she's got her own money
@@simoncook1325 you are more the exception
@@simoncook1325 did she get western citizenship thru you tho?
Good for you
You bad man.
You not help Isaan family!!
You can support your family in everyway possible sweetheart, but not with my money, and most forgein dudes feel the same. 3 years in Thailand single life, fully embracing the "pump n Dump" way of life, and never been happier.
My social though are full of thai girls being paid summer holidays by young fellas in Europe, and of course invisible in the pics..
50k subs let’s goooooooo
Yes Jonno!!! I must come to the new bar in a couple of week
No. You will never be able to meet the demand
Correct. It's like being blackmailed.
Once you pay then it never ends.
the big wake-up call for the passport bros: the realization that, in exchange for getting a lady way out of your league, your job is to serve as the ATM machine for her and her family forever until the end of time. there's a price for everything
Yeah
Can you imagine a rich Thai lady doing that for a poor farang?
Tru dat!!!
That’s an interesting interview question/topic to ask a passport bro
don t get into a situation where u ll be financially abused. it also happens in the west. women are the same evrywhere and men are simps
There are advantages and disadvantages in everything
I am married to my thai wife for almost two years now. I did not pay any sinsod, i never supported her family and i never got asker to do so by my wife. Not sure why this needs to be done by certain people. It causes unnecessary stress.
Thankfully my Thai wife doesn’t see me as an open bank account!
😂
I thought the same at one point!
It's only the social under class that asks for money. Indeed, the middle and upper class won't ask for money. So it is not so much culturally driven buy social class driven.
Good luck getting a mid or upper class as they don’t want westerners ..
@@Masta2A exactly👍 some of these people have no clue. They have probabbly been here for a few weeks holiday or fresh off the boat, as so to speak 😂
A lot of women out there who dont ask for money. You just have to dig through the majority who do look for financial support
they don't ask for money.... in the beginning
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100%
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Then the buffalo sick BS comes out.
Ying wouldn't, because she's a good earner. Just an example
Thumbs up 👍
It’s tricky because in most cases a lot of women asking for money are gonna be on the take especially if you meet them in a tourist area, however it doesn’t mean that if you’re supporting a woman financially it can’t be love also it’s a tricky one , just set your boundaries before you get into relationship I would say and go with your gut 👍🇨🇷
Have the woman and family pay you. It isn’t rocket science
Older and younger successful men who are fit and have there life together don't want 30 yo plus broke girl from anywhere
Love many, trust few and protect your stack at all times boys and girls. Its a jungle out there.
Not all Thais support their parents and family, never dated a Thai who has asked for money, hmm but i never dated a Bar girl either
it has nothing to do with just bar girls
So true; no bar girls. I’m dating a girl from Up Country in BKK. She’s never asked for money. I offer to buy her a dress, shoes, jewelry. Hard, but small town girl, “No”. She will not take anything. I kinda think it’s the Buddhism. The middle path? Or is it just how she was brought up. She does have a good work ethic. Just her personality. Just don’t know for sure.
“If you are not willing to support her family then she will dump you slowly and permanently” lol😂
😂😂😂 facts
@@tomlukas5784 Possibly for you, as bar girls love fat old men
not really, met many who dont, and still with girl !
@@mixalis6168 bc your time hasn’t come yet. Wait for a while. lol
So don't date them who ask money
She’s is so beautiful! Great interview!
The schools she is referring to, the ones that accept students for after-school instruction, are sometimes called cram-schools. In Chinese, we call them BuXiBan... To BuXi means to review and study and reinforce what one has previously learned. The BuXiBans in Taiwan, China, and Japan, and Korea, too, put much pressure on students. Of course, if one is just studying English after school, at a good English-language school, such as, maybe, CMU....then fine!
@@YuChiGongG I think she was taking about a tuitor, many rich Thai people higher them to help their kids after school or weekends. Like you mentioned to cram for tests. You often see students with them in food courts in malls.
@@glenloader639 She seems to be talking about "cram schools". She probably worked as a teacher in one of the many cram schools that can be found in Taiwan, Japan, Korea, China, Hong Kong, and...yes.... Thailand. (Should we ask her?)
@@YuChiGongGI used to be a teacher and work at one of the famous international school in Ubonratchathani Province. It’s the actual school not tutorial school etc. if this is what you mean?
@@YuChiGongG No need to ask her, I really don't care. I've seen her on One Night In Bangkok potcast before, she really doesn't have much to say! She and the type of girls one night in bangkok brings on his show really don't have anything of value to say. They seem to want to be the Paris Hilton of bankok, which was being famous but really not doing anything!
@@glenloader639I actually have a lot to say and talk about. It really depends on what you want to hear. However the purpose of this interview mainly discussing on the questions host asked so if there are other topics, I will surely speak about them. If that makes sense. Also on One Night In BKK show, I didn’t join as an actual guess and I didn’t get asked so that’s why you don’t see me talking that much.
Thairish, I would love to give you a tell all of my first time in Thailand, everything you could almost think of happened to me in Patong. I’d like to give people my advice and experience so they avoid all the mistakes I did. How do I message you?
Missing your videos Pete. Hope all is well.
Cheers buddy🙏🙏🙏
One point . Government never give You anything.Firstvthey must take it over from society or directly from You .Amen.
Stop being simps, guys. Man up.
Isaan and the rest of Thailand have really different cultures…
The whole idea of supporting the lady and her family doesn’t exist for modern Bangkok women.
I’m pretty sure it does.
Same culture bro it's Thailand. In Asia family is everything so understand that first and foremost. Poor family will need help by food or money is the support. Rich isaan or Bangkok Thais don't need your money but you better not be poor or stingy towards the family and they need you to be there at every event, drive a Benz or BMW, daughter is happy, and let it be known that you have money and a large dowry this is your support.
@@888connection5 you don’t have a clue…
@@muajin why you think so?
@@888connection5 wrong!
It’s the same as a charity, you can support by giving your time and effort, it doesn’t necessarily need to mean money. But “supporting” in Thailand usually always boils down to money as the lowest common denominator.
I'm the Oscar Schindler of Thai Buffalos, there are generations and generations of them walking around because I saved their grandparents lives.
Would you financially support your wife's family in the U.S., UK, etc.? If no, why would you do it in Thailand?
Ima be honest the reality is if a man is not financially stable he will lose his wife eventually. The best option is to find a woman where she can also make money and where you don’t need to support people you don’t really know.
I guess though in western world for example if say we had an Irish wife and your wife's sister for example had huge accident and they needed specialised surgery we would pay too...or money for a funeral ....I know a strange example but if a Thai wifes family needed help surely we should/ would help without question.....? Off course I mean emergency not monthly payments !!
people seem to get a liitle too immeresed in thai analysis VS just good actions in a relationship?
Agree. In Ireland it would be unknown not to help other side of family out if badly stuck. So why would that not be the same in Asia ! But Thailand is top heavy with old farangs divorced or single living on the scrapings of tin and for sure won't be helping anyone out !!
Some of these emergencies are fabricated to get money from the foreigner
the emphasis on relationships, thai girlfriends, dating is so blown out of proportion but i guess that is a big reason a high % are in thailand. i see ying's channel is also trying to capitalize on the fascination with thai women.
If you think that you dont have to support your spouses family when marrying a woman from Isaan, especially a poor woman, then you are delusional.
Based
Should a guy support any woman ??? Same deal everywhere. Relationships are a transaction.
She loves me and I love her , she cares about me and I care about her so her problem is mine and my problems are hers and I have the money to do so. So why not???
You sound very green lol
😂😂😂 just your turn
It's always about the money because why would a good looking lady want to do with frang who lost his looks in his 20s. Also most men can accept and are willing to pay for a relationship with younger thai lady. Its not for me but if they want that , let them get on with it. Good luck they will need it.
14:29 ... that is right: 600,- B a month. Imagine you would have to survive on that o whole month long!!! Although the parents of my Thai-wife receive a pension of only a few hundret Bath per month, I was never asked for any support in five yeas. Her brother works in Israel on a farm and her sister works as secretary and they supprt the parents. In Thailand family is everything and that is good that way. Take a close look on the whole family before starting a serious relationship. Avoid the greedy ones. Happy wife, lucky wife
Be cautious white knights, once a slapper always a slapper
and a gentle reminder that the western bros heading to thailand for a date are not white knights but the "swipe lefts" of the west
What does snapper mean in this context?
True. Everyone thinks I'm a slapper but my missus Jada is the real slapper in our family
Do you have a bf?
I errr no err not a bf.
lol 💦🐷💦
Once a monger always a monger😂
That happens with Filipino families too.
Hey do you know what happened to Steve Rosse? He said he wasnt in the best of health and hasen't put any videos out for a while.
He’a still around buddy
Thank you!
She is not convincing she is better to stay working and she can focus later always two sides to a story
There's a misconception in Thailand that in the West we don't support our parents. We do support through our taxes and the government administers disbursement though Social Security programs in most countries. This is better in my opinion because you're not giving your children the burden and payment is legally guaranteed.
Sorry, this lady is not convincing
@Tony-eb5kh - which part wasn't convincing?
@@kevinp8108 read comment from R Kevin.
My experience is from living amongst her type.
@@kevinp8108 read comment from R Kevin.
A very simple solution is to date only ones that don't have their family as burden, and are well off (uno reverse card). I'm not going to get into a long term relationship in my home country either with someone who thinks that their spouse should fix their financial problems. Cultural understanding works both ways.
Culture is screw the simps in every way.
Very nice interview. Lovely and intelligent lady.
Wasn't this the Ying on Jonny Somethings happening channel? I think it was a story about how much he spent on her. The American dude was spending about 30-40k bart per month on her.
I wouldn’t spend 30 or 40 baht on her..
One failed relationship. It’s just going to keep on going until she hits the wall.
I go on Thai dating sites and get hundreds of messages from old Thai women (35 to 55) with kids looking for a guy.
I’d prefer to eat broken glass.
Ohhhhhhhh- THAT's where I've seen her
So she is a gold digging 49'er
A Thai 304 pretending to be pure 😂
@@muajin She never said "I'm pure". She said she has a uni degree and works in IT. No guy would fund her fam
I help my Thai wife`s family financially, but it`s not because they in some way tricked me into it. I help them because they helped me when my wife and I needed help and so I help them back now. There is no sponging involved.
"No" is the biggest word in any language and woe betide any man that doesn't learn to say no to the demands of a woman, wherever she may be from. 😉
My Thai wife’s father… after the crash of 2006 his business went. He was selling spectacles. His reason for not working was….. I don’t want to work for anyone else. 😡 So, my wife and her brother decided to give them money every month.
Bad move on their behalf. What about them? My wife is still giving money. He retired at 46 years old. 😡😡😡😡😡 I don’t like them, they could work but don’t want to. Surprise, getting money for free. This is Thailand. I’m not giving them fa.
You should have asked her what her family actually does
Ive come across Western women with the same mindset also.
rare nowadays. western women making their own money now and often more than you
I wonder if Ying is setting money aside for her retirement, or will she rely on "thai culture" when she retires
The culture is totally changing. WHY, no children how can 2 kids take care of 2 parents and there own kids, its ridiculous
I'm glad the money is going to the village granny. She's better looking.
did we really get the BIG question answered?
She is a good example of a player and user, disrespectful of humans, Buddhism and Dharma.
I can only guess she is quite pleased with her choice, and sad for the good people she burns.
Watch the comments, many stories of content foreign men in good balanced realationships & soem men that are quite bitter and spewing anger wanting to paint the entire country with one brush stroke.
MY STORY - Luck or wisdom or streetwise? I followed the path of Buddhism and Dharma and avoided any bad stories per say or encounters with this sort of abusing lady on your channel. I really do not know how she suckers in anybody?
OK, that was my vent, just this sort of two faced woman gets me worked up a bit when I should be calm. Take care 🙏
loved being introduced to Ling