I think you hit the nail on the head Debs when you said you married a very very kind man. I am married to a very very kind man and my first husband was not. This marriage has longevity and no infidelity because of the bedrock of kindness.
This topic is very triggering for me, I cried through the whole thing! Believing that God will restore my marriage, our pureness, and our love for each other. Thank you for this show ❤
So good so healthy and great Kingdom talk of intimacy in our marriages! Thank you all so much for being bold and speaking out on these things God cares so much about for us in our marriages! Hallelujah!
I really love the honesty talk about this subject, I’ve been married 11 years and with two kids under 5 years old , intimacy with my husband is very rare these days, we have some challenges that we never talk about and choose to ignore. I will follow your advice, thank you
This is such a important subject! We've been married for 35 yrs and very sadly physical intimacy has not been a part of our relationship for several reasons, which really is n excuse. Thank you for bringing this back to the holy table!
This was excellent. The last part when you talked about abuse and the Lord giving grace to divorce really helped me. I loved too, your explanation of it being a gift for us to experience heaven on earth. Very grateful. God bless you dear precious ladies. Love you.
I wish there were much older couples talking about this topic. Things really change for a woman when she goes through menopause and things can be painful and then your husband feels rejection and it's a whole different ball of Wax. But it is nice to hear women talk about this topic usually it's men who talk about this and their perspective is no matter what the woman just needs to give it up. Also age is a factor, health is a factor. Sometimes as we get older it's much more uncomfortable our bodies don't move the way they used to you're less limber you have aches and pains, so I wouldn't say that it gets better the longer you're married.
I would say these women are in there prime sexually, which would be in your 40s or younger. Things really change hormonally as you get into mid 50s into 60s. As you start losing estrogen you lose all sexual feelings in the private areas and you lose desire which does not help and I know there are creams and potions and lotions and pills but sometimes these things mess up a woman's hormonal balance and causes extra problems. Please invite some 50 and 60 year old women because I don't think it sheds a true light on all women.
Yes, I agree, Becky. Certainly desire can lessen due to menopause and changing body shape can leave you feeling embarrassed and unconfident ( assuming you felt comfortable with your body in the first place!) Also aches and pains can add to the whole thing feeling just too much...😔
Marriage and sex can be good at all ages (I’m 50 and spouse 66) they are right it gets better with age. With God at the centre and communication. 🙏 maybe through counselling or using some of the suggestions they have made here you can find healing in this area. Talk and realign your intimacy. As we get older different positions work better and keep a jar of coconut oil beside the bed. God bless you.
Let me jump in here and say… I am in this age category myself and I’m a womens health physician. Very early in my career I had a woman 83 years come see me for a minor problem, and as we discussed the treatment, she interrupted me and said (quite firmly) I needed to know that she still enjoyed sex with her husband, and she wanted to make it very clear, she wanted NOTHING to interfere with that. She told me it was every week after church on Sunday. (The ladies at Emma’s Table have mentioned the connection between worship and married sex.) As you mention, many things can interfere, yet in my practice I emphasize prevention for health. It this is taken seriously and approached as a form of spiritual discipline, many of these can be avoided.
Reflecting on this any my reply, I felt I should come back and say, you are right, there are things that change and it can make it more difficult or even impossible. It is a loss, when that happens, and grief is appropriate. I remind people, when sex is the subject, that you never know till later when you’ve enjoyed sex for the last time, till you look back later and reflect. Thank God for today.
I think the most freeing thing for me has been that we don't always have to have penetration. I will tell my husband straight, I'm not personally feeling it, but I have a hand. Is that good with you? He'll usually laugh. He isn't going to say no. Traditionally though, I've always been the one with a much higher sex drive and it has caused a lot of bitterness with me in the past. It's something I had to work through. The Lord actually is the one that got me out of the heart condition I had, and my changed attitude really healed a lot of the issues we had.
Following on from this, I am sure there is so much more that could be said, as this subject is so much' the elephant in the room' and surely we should be having the best intimacy of anyone but sadly, is often so lacking and so less than....I have probably got this wrong, but Emma, were you writing a book on this subject?
Emma, if you are reading comments written after the recording was posted, can you give some scripture references, or tell me how you know heaven is like the orgasmic experience? I believe you, just pondering it.
This is the GPA team- you could begin with Isaiah 51:11; 2 Cor 5:1-10, Rev 21:4… search Scripture for descriptions of the afterlife with Christ in our new bodies, in the new heaven/new earth.
I don’t know about any verses forbidding sodomy that aren’t referring to man on man sex. I’d have to look into it but I think that any thing goes in the marriage bed as long as it doesn’t a) involve other people outside your marriage. b) it doesn’t damage your body which maybe sodomy can do in some cases and c) is mutually agreed upon.
I wish I had this resource during my first marriage. My husband became addicted to porn - and found me unattractive in comparison- very sad to even remember this .
Love it 😀 I caught the bit about sodomy been the only oraphis forbidden in sex I think I got what you weren't saying ....because I was thinking what about oral
I think you hit the nail on the head Debs when you said you married a very very kind man. I am married to a very very kind man and my first husband was not. This marriage has longevity and no infidelity because of the bedrock of kindness.
This topic is very triggering for me, I cried through the whole thing! Believing that God will restore my marriage, our pureness, and our love for each other. Thank you for this show ❤
Partnering with you and joining in that prayer for you sister ❤️
🙏
So good so healthy and great Kingdom talk of intimacy in our marriages! Thank you all so much for being bold and speaking out on these things God cares so much about for us in our marriages! Hallelujah!
Thanks ladies, we need more of these talks so we don’t feel alone
I really love the honesty talk about this subject, I’ve been married 11 years and with two kids under 5 years old , intimacy with my husband is very rare these days, we have some challenges that we never talk about and choose to ignore. I will follow your advice, thank you
This is such a important subject! We've been married for 35 yrs and very sadly physical intimacy has not been a part of our relationship for several reasons, which really is n excuse. Thank you for bringing this back to the holy table!
Thank you dear Emma, Deb, Ali and Jessica for sharing so much in such an honest way. Even to a 60 year old, this has been a real help🤗
This was excellent. The last part when you talked about abuse and the Lord giving grace to divorce really helped me. I loved too, your explanation of it being a gift for us to experience heaven on earth. Very grateful. God bless you dear precious ladies. Love you.
Thank you so much for your transparency.
This is such a blessing & much needed for the body of Christ !
Love seeing Emma & Jessica’s relationship 😍
I wish there were much older couples talking about this topic. Things really change for a woman when she goes through menopause and things can be painful and then your husband feels rejection and it's a whole different ball of Wax. But it is nice to hear women talk about this topic usually it's men who talk about this and their perspective is no matter what the woman just needs to give it up. Also age is a factor, health is a factor. Sometimes as we get older it's much more uncomfortable our bodies don't move the way they used to you're less limber you have aches and pains, so I wouldn't say that it gets better the longer you're married.
I would say these women are in there prime sexually, which would be in your 40s or younger. Things really change hormonally as you get into mid 50s into 60s. As you start losing estrogen you lose all sexual feelings in the private areas and you lose desire which does not help and I know there are creams and potions and lotions and pills but sometimes these things mess up a woman's hormonal balance and causes extra problems. Please invite some 50 and 60 year old women because I don't think it sheds a true light on all women.
Yes, I agree, Becky. Certainly desire can lessen due to menopause and changing body shape can leave you feeling embarrassed and unconfident ( assuming you felt comfortable with your body in the first place!) Also aches and pains can add to the whole thing feeling just too much...😔
Marriage and sex can be good at all ages (I’m 50 and spouse 66) they are right it gets better with age. With God at the centre and communication. 🙏 maybe through counselling or using some of the suggestions they have made here you can find healing in this area. Talk and realign your intimacy. As we get older different positions work better and keep a jar of coconut oil beside the bed. God bless you.
Let me jump in here and say… I am in this age category myself and I’m a womens health physician. Very early in my career I had a woman 83 years come see me for a minor problem, and as we discussed the treatment, she interrupted me and said (quite firmly) I needed to know that she still enjoyed sex with her husband, and she wanted to make it very clear, she wanted NOTHING to interfere with that. She told me it was every week after church on Sunday. (The ladies at Emma’s Table have mentioned the connection between worship and married sex.) As you mention, many things can interfere, yet in my practice I emphasize prevention for health. It this is taken seriously and approached as a form of spiritual discipline, many of these can be avoided.
Reflecting on this any my reply, I felt I should come back and say, you are right, there are things that change and it can make it more difficult or even impossible. It is a loss, when that happens, and grief is appropriate. I remind people, when sex is the subject, that you never know till later when you’ve enjoyed sex for the last time, till you look back later and reflect. Thank God for today.
This has been good preparation for being in a.marriage etc.Thank you for talking about these things as Christian Women.God Bless you all.xxxx
This was incredibly freeing. Thank you for your vulnerable honesty and just really good advice.
In need of a marriage overhaul here! Thank you for this brave conversation 🙏 ❤️
Stunning !
So great to hear about your own marriages and from your counselling experience.
Yes it does get better, the only thing difference as you grown older is not often as I would like it
Blessings. As a single man, never married. Over 65. Am looking and considering marriage. Needed to hear this . Very impressive 👍👍👍
God bless you to find your wife.
I was married before I came to Jesus, and only lasted two years , my marriage now is in Christ and being married almost 31
I don't know what it is about the table, but I'm hooked
I'm looking at Jess throughout this Episode. I just love you 😍 ❤️
I think the most freeing thing for me has been that we don't always have to have penetration. I will tell my husband straight, I'm not personally feeling it, but I have a hand. Is that good with you? He'll usually laugh. He isn't going to say no. Traditionally though, I've always been the one with a much higher sex drive and it has caused a lot of bitterness with me in the past. It's something I had to work through. The Lord actually is the one that got me out of the heart condition I had, and my changed attitude really healed a lot of the issues we had.
Greatest Godly advice about love relationship.❤️🙏✌🏽
Following on from this, I am sure there is so much more that could be said, as this subject is so much' the elephant in the room' and surely we should be having the best intimacy of anyone but sadly, is often so lacking and so less than....I have probably got this wrong, but Emma, were you writing a book on this subject?
Thank you !!!!
Thank you so much for talking about this!!!
I love you Emma. Bless you all from Peaceland Farm, BC Canada 🇨🇦
Hello Ladies! I been married 30+
Home sweet 🏡
Lelt truck unlike scared tying drive way where wasn't one.
Left lege went nome all up hip.
My dad always said "the marriage bed is undefined"
Thanks for courage.
Emma, if you are reading comments written after the recording was posted, can you give some scripture references, or tell me how you know heaven is like the orgasmic experience? I believe you, just pondering it.
This is the GPA team- you could begin with Isaiah 51:11; 2 Cor 5:1-10, Rev 21:4… search Scripture for descriptions of the afterlife with Christ in our new bodies, in the new heaven/new earth.
Mebey something to minister on to one?
Please talk about porn addiction and chronic narcissistic cheating.. Yes Christians...
I don’t know about any verses forbidding sodomy that aren’t referring to man on man sex. I’d have to look into it but I think that any thing goes in the marriage bed as long as it doesn’t a) involve other people outside your marriage. b) it doesn’t damage your body which maybe sodomy can do in some cases and c) is mutually agreed upon.
Reread the book. It’s the only no no.
Just to be brutally honest I can't see putting a penis in a poo hole to be part of God's gift for marriage - sorry to be so crude !
What is sodomy exactly? Ya get different answers for that?
Communication is the key 🔑 because men are clueless about what we want or need
🙏🙏
I wish I had this resource during my first marriage. My husband became addicted to porn - and found me unattractive in comparison- very sad to even remember this .
Serious question…Are you not supposed to have sex during your cycle? I’ve heard yes and no. I know the Bible says no.
1 Corinthians 7:4
Love it 😀 I caught the bit about sodomy been the only oraphis forbidden in sex I think I got what you weren't saying ....because I was thinking what about oral
❤🇨🇦
Undefiled. Lol autocorrect.
What does the Bible say about oral sex; is this a no-no?
No it’s not a no no. So long as you are both happy. If one doesn’t want to then it becomes a no no.