We Broke Up
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- Опубліковано 13 жов 2024
- So a lot of people have been asking about whats been going on in my life lately so I decided to finally sit down and make a video letting you guys in on my most recent life events. It's been a rough two months but I am coming out of this a stronger person.
Please don't watch this video and think that Matt is a bad guy. When it comes down to it all him and I were just not in the same places in life. He's still a pretty awesome person and once he does find the right guy he's going to be an amazing boyfriend.
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"When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time." --Maya Angelou
In my family, we have a saying... Love is blind and marriage is the eye opener!!!
There are many people who are only able to love temporarily and conditionally, and it's very hard to discern who is like that and who isn't. Passion love lasts for about 3 years so you'll get a better idea after 3 years of where you are going with someone, but some people stop loving even decades further on so I'm not sure if love is ever safe except in romantic movies. I think we need to be safe with ourselves and be strong enough to know that whatever happens in life, we are able to pass through it. For anything concerning money, home, etc, it's good to keep assets for our own security so we know we can find safety when things go wrong. The people who stay engaged for life and never divorce are statistically in minority. Cheers and be strong! (I have been through this, a guy telling me off after 10 years when I was certain it was going to be for life, and I don't think I will ever think like this anymore, that "it's for life". I will just enjoy the ride if it happens but think of remaining strong if I'm on my own like I've actually been for some years now).
Betrayal is worse than rejection.
"Don't worry I won't reject you"... "see ya"
My heart ❤ goes out to you. You are an amazing man , you definitely deserve better. He handled the whole thing like a coward.
There are men that would treat you like the incredible man that you are. I honestly wish I could meet a man like yourself. I am sending you a big hug , you are worthy of a good , loving , kind man.
You deserve someone who would comunicate effectively with you. Always remember how great you are.
An attractive, nice guy.
Everyone must past the failure Don't get discouraged, Keep fighting! You are so nice guy and there are so many nice guys who need you be their boyfriends Hope you can breakthrough the hard time. Love you from Thailand. 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜
It’s alright, brother! ❤️ We hope you recover soon!
gosh man, I really feel your pain. similar thing happened to me and I felt those similar insecurities as you. You deserve better and you will get someone who genuinely loves you.
Chin up buddy. I know it sucks but once the storm passes, you will emerge stronger and more confident. Just remember that every experience you have prepares you for your future!
Yeah I’m looking at it as a learning experience. Gotta make sure the guys you’re dating are in the same life stages as you are. Otherwise when the time comes for them to step up to their next stage in life they might be stepping in a different direction than you.
Yup. Well said!
Drummond, I’m not sure you’ll even see this post but I hope you do. I’ve been a subscriber of yours for a while now so I’ve watched a bunch of your videos, and I just wanted to tell you that I get everything you said in this video...and I’ve also struggled with a lot of the same insecurities, and I think I lot of them are amplified because we live in a very superficial and look-oriented community. I hope you realize how handsome you are, which is actually the icing on the cake ‘cause more importantly you come across as a very good, honest, and genuine person...which is often very hard to find in our community. It took me a VERY long time to love how my face looks and love what my body looks like...so it makes me really happy to see someone preaching that on UA-cam. I’m 45 years old now, and it’s kinda late to find love so I’m content on growing old alone ‘cause I really do have a lot of amazing friends and a great support system...but I hope that your messages reach the younger generation so that they can find love. The LGBTQ world is so different now that UA-cam is out there so that kids can see coming out videos, more and more celebrities and athletes are coming out, and most importantly 4 years ago we had a President that helped to legalize marriage for us...so I’m extremely hopeful for our community’s future.
Lastly, I’m positive that you’re eventually going to find a husband ‘cause like I said, you’re so good looking, you have a great heart, but most importantly you have a lot of confidence which I think is vital to a successful relationship. I look forward to more of your videos and I hope you’re doing well.
PS - your guys’ tatts came out really good. 😁🏳️🌈🤙🏽
45 is not too old to find love. Wow i don't know how you could even say that
Sorry to see your obvious pain! Thank God you didn't go to Texas. Fortunately, you are a very positive person and I know you will remain that way! Ups and downs are part of life; the good with the not so good. My best for the future as you are a great role model.
It's great to have you back after your breakup. I'm so sorry for what you had to go through.
Hey, I wish I see this video earlier. Thanks for your sharing. It means a lot to me. I've been through pretty much the same thing last year. I had been lied in the half of my relationship and I can't get over it even though It's been a year. It's like my life was stopped on that day. I'll keep focusing on the positive things as you've done 5 years ago.
I just wanna reach through the screen and give you a big hug
You deserve better. Really. I think you’ll find someone else who is really worth it in the near future. You have a lot to offer a man who can really appreciate your gifts. Be assured, you’ll make someone a blessing and. He will bless you in turn.
I feel your pain, stay tough, there is someone out there for each of us we just have to be patient. I believe in friends 1st here.
Hi Drummond
I just wanted you to know I always appreciate your honesty and openess. I admire your approach to t
Yes believe them the first time! We are with you.
I don’t know if you’ve conquered your body insecurities but I can tell you that I’ve spent an afternoon viewing your videos - old and new. In every video I’ve seen an attractive, kind, adorable man no matter what look you were sporting. If I were single, younger, and lived in your town, I’d definitely arrange a date to see if we could spark something. If there weren’t those kind of sparks you’re still the kind of person I’d be friends with.
So sorry to hear this. You are a great person. I understand how you are feeling and where you are coming from. Hang in there. Breakups suck. I have been single for almost 4 years now. Now I am going back to college and hope to find a guy who respects me and understands me. Hoping the best for you. Very proud of you.
I’ve learned that you need to seek your passions in life and not guys and by doing that the right guys will come into your life. When two people connect because of similar passions that’s a bond that will be hard to break.
don't let a break-up make you forget that you are handsome, sensitive, honest, kind, and a catch.
Manipulation my friend we’ve all been there. I think from what you have said it was possibly a one-sided relationship you’re worth so much more. Take time recover. Time to move on.
oh wow i couldnt just pass by.
cause i feel u. so sorry.
and really appreciate u being so honest about what you went thru and making us all truly think again about life and relationship.
it's funny how we can only learn big life lessons after everything is over like a jenga game.
Question, did you take video or vlog of your trip to North Carolina you were speaking of in this video???
Sorry for your break up!!! I know it was hard for you, but you did well in not dwelling on the hurt and getting out and doing something that you wanted to do!! Bravo!!! Enjoy watching most of your videos!!!
You seem to be doing better now, at least you are in a good spirit about your life, so that's good. Your ex sounds like someone that you probably do better without. Maybe you'll find someone less superficial, more mature (sending that text - huh!) and someone who loves out just the way you are, and before him you can enjoy the single life. Having a body crisis with your shape sounds ridiculous.
Drummond,
I am sure that I am probably one of the last people you want to see this message from.
First off I am sorry about your breakup, after watching this nobody deserves to experience what you went through, and I feel awful about you losing your job. You out of anyone deserve the best, and you have such a good heart. I apologize that it didn’t work out, however I know you will find someone.
I do agree that you have to find someone that is in the same place in life as you, AND you have to find someone that KNOWS what they want. I learned that the hard-way cause I dated someone on and off for a year and a few months about 8 times total, and it was just a mess.
Nonetheless I LOVE & ADMIRE how you are able to bounce back and that is what is important. My friend always tells me that a relationship is not always going to be smiles and rainbows, but it is how you deal with differences and problems is what will make a relationship great.
If you need anything hopefully you have my number and I am available whenever for you.
Take good care of yourself ok.
-Your “twin” Adam 😊😃
Why would you be someone I wouldn’t want to hear from? We’ve never had any qualms between us. Lol
Hope you’ve been doing well and thanks for reaching out to me. I appreciate it.
I love you. You inspire me and make me a better person each day. ❤️❤️ keep your light you shine on us all
Jasmine we need to do more videos together sooon!
I feel for you! Take care of yourself, heal yourself slowly as you are going through loss. It is a two way street,talk when you need to,I'll listen. ❤️X
I love you Drummond. You are my favorite of all the youtubers. I'll always secretly love you. I support you 100% what ever you deside to do. I'm here to talk too if you need a shoulder. Love you man.
This is a very sad story, been there, done that. I was with someone for 12 years and all of a sudden it ended. She couldn't accept some of the things I had no control over.
Wish you all well now
It takes 2 to make a relationship but it takes 1 to break it.
I am so sorry to hear Drummond! You are such a lovely person! You are such an amazing guy! It happens for a reason for sure. I understand of how you are feeling, I totally get you of where you are coming from. I really hate that when it happens, I have been there as well when I have my ex-half have broken up with me. Your relationship is similar to mine, but only for 14 weeks in the longest relationship I had. I am with you Drummond, Matt is my ex-boyfriend, "Samuel" (personality wise)!
I am here if you want to talk to. You are such an inspirational person Drummond! I will add more of my comment on here when I get to watch the whole video!!!
You have my sympathy and my love too, Drummond!!!
KISSES AND HUGS from me to you!!!
Jake
xxxxx
please take your time you will find someone and your looks or weight will not matter if someone truly loves you other than your weight can bring health issues it is something two people can work together on and if they truly love you they love who you are on the inside of you may God bless you always be true to yourself God bless you always
Believe me I in no hurry to start dating someone. I’m fine with being single until the right guy comes along. I’m living and learning everyday. I know my self worth now. I won’t settle for someone who doesn’t see my worth.
@@DrummondCulture very good for you I have been in a long distance relationship for several years now with someone about your age and things between us have been difficult but the amazing thing is even though we have never met yet I have told him of everything and my living conditions which is primitive as yet I live in the mountains and no stores or mall close by the closest stores and mall is 65 miles away anyway he still says he loves me and wants to live with me so he will be here flying in next week and I can not wait to be with him I love him dearly and pray to God that everything works out I am retired from the us navy traveled the world many times he is an interior designer and works all over the world and I am very much ok with that I encourage him to continue his work it is his passion in life and I want him to feel good about himself and to never worry about me being with anyone else I was hurt many years ago when I came home one day to find the love of my life in bed with my best friend I could never deliver that kind of pain to anyone I walked out with the clothes I was wearing left all my belongings and hitch hiked 2100 miles went back active duty in the Navy and never looked back I have had a wonderful life but I pray it does not take you as long as me to find someone that was in 1980 when I left and it has tAken me this long to find someone as I did not want a one night stand no drugs or alcohol and above all did not want someone for money or material things I wanted someone who truly understood what true love is all about I believe I have found the one they are few and far between but they are there somewhere and may God bless me with this one true lover so in some ways do not be afraid to have a long distance relationship as it can give you both the much needed time to really get to know each other and work out differences sometimes you may not talk to each other for a couple months at a time but if you truly love each other it can work out for the better we both now can not wait to be together for real we have been together now for three years on line but we reached a point we no longer ever want to be alone or apart again ever does not mean he will not be making trips over the world for his work but I'm on with the separation as I have come to really know him and trust him I will be staying behind to take care of our pets he will be gone sometimes for a couple weeks at a time and I will graciously be at the airport waiting for him when he returns I love him very much and will always remain true to him as he has remained true to me may God bless you in your quest to find a terrific person who will respect you no matter what
Hang in there love 💕 you know I’m always here for you! 😘
Thanks Jessica! We most definitely need to plan to hangout soon it’s been way to long since I’ve seen you!
I'm sorry to hear breakups suck my bf and I broke via texting but we were long distant and he became a drug addict despite my efforts to help in the end I couldn't help him if he couldn't help himself so we no longer talk my point is that it is difficult ending a relationship but don't shut yourself off talk with family and friends and of course people on your social media your not alone
a drug addict. when you make it a noun like that you give up. people do it to themselves. if you have not been through addiction yourself it is very hard to help. you are on a learning curve. also very hard to help long distance. one theory has it you can't help and be the lover. nice of you to try at all. i would never call someone an addict. I would say they are using. i make the distinction to their faces. it is an epidemic. such a waste.
So proud of you ❤️
Thanks Kasi! I miss you! We need to plan to hangout again soon!
Aww I miss you too! Yes we do! 😊
So sorry.
Aw. You are a sweet guy. You'll find the right one when you're ready. Being single is quite nice to be honest. I'm thinking I'm too independent now though which is a downside of that.
Come to the UK. You know you want to 😉😂
I’ve always wanted to travel over to the UK.
@@DrummondCulture 😁👍
Oh yeah, do avoid gym obsessed guys unless you are gym obsessed yourself. Hedonism is bleuagh. Love is feeling well around people, not about finding them sexy. You can have sex for life with someone you are deeply attracted to but never really loved.
I’ve always been the kind of person that has to have an emotional connection with someone before I can have sex with them. I don’t crave sex to the point where I could just hookup with some random stranger just because I find them attractive.
I definitely don’t have a problem with someone who enjoys going to the gym to stay fit. But when it comes to someone who constantly talks about it every second of the day that’s when I can’t do it anymore. I feel like someone who doesn’t have a life outside of what they do at the gym shows they have a lot of insecurities with the way they look.
I definitely should go the gym more (I mean: have I ever been to a gym? Not sure) but I find it boring. Zzzzz. Maybe hiking and things like that I woud do with the right friends. Not on my own. On my own I focus on art & entertainment. I don't even find time to flex my body and don't think about it until I think of a guy and it makes me realize "hmm... maybe I should flex more...". But then I go back to an idea that maybe my destiny is to roam the earth on my own and forget about it. Cheers!
Sorry about your break up. I have been in that position myself. I fell for something that individual had. On the other hand I neglected to see what this individual didn't have. After the break up I woke up and realized how different we were. And now I understand that having the same goals and lifestyle are very important in establishing a solid relationship. But I learned it the hard way. Now I know better.
Wish you the best.
I found out one time when I got home early and found my partner in bed with someone he had met in the library on campus. Other time while I was cooking brunch and nobody realized we were lovers and they spilled the beans lol. I was amused though. He was cute but elevator didn’t go to the top floor lol.
Did you guys ever take a trip? You didn’t know each other good enough to be married. I didn’t have sex with my husband until we were married. And we traveled a lot before getting married. You guys were to young. And moving to Texas would have been a mistake.
Matt sounds like a earth sign
I’m an earth sign. I’m not sure about him.
@@DrummondCulture Virgo?
Tim may be right but, no offense, he is over-simplifying.
This guy never loved you and value you for who you are. Don't blame yourself. He lost a great guy.
😢😢😢