👉3 Signs of Depression No One Tells You About |
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Hi Julie,
My name is Ryan, I just found you this evening and subscribed, seen a few short clips but it feels like you’re speaking to just me. I’ve been having a rough go at it for almost 5 of years. This is helpful for everyone, thank you 🙏🏻
Is your book on audio? Your voice and accent is very relaxing
It's been 2 weeks of bad days for me now. Nothing seems to pull me out of it.
I have dealt with deppression since a kid
👍
@@amandaburger3312 who is the one who is dealing with depression....? Are you different from it...?
"What do you have to be depressed about?" Hated that question with a passion.
My brain doesn't regulate things the way it should. That's the "disorder" part of my diagnosis.
I get a lot of blank stares for that one.
YES EXACTLY EXACTLY EXACTLY like. "OMG your life's so perfect; you have parents who love you" IDK OKAY I CAN'T EXPLAIN IT 😥
@@teacup17 exactly, seeing the same place again and again gets boring
Same, then the adults are going to say the generation nowadays are "mentally weak", easily depressed, "you're don't have anything to be sad about", truth is, we don't know either, depression is just…a very miserable feeling, with an unknown cause in some of the cases
Yes!🙄
The fact that depression can be lack of emotion rather than sadness is something I have had to explain so many times. Thank you for this
Same here..I am not sad but neither i am happy..lost all pleasure in all activities
@@vaishalikrishna5878 do you have any goals or something you live for, because if not, you need to get some.
I had to explain to people that depression could mean sadness because in their opinion, depression was only if you were empty and couldn't show emotions whatsoever😬😬😬
@@vaishalikrishna5878 I seem to have a pretty severe one then. Sometimes it's like you said, not so much sad, just no pleasure in anything, and merely eating is a chore. Trying to spur myself for decent cooking so I might enjoy my food a bit more is just not happening. It's a depressing loop. House and everything slides, which is more depressing. Then there's also times of profound sadness and grief. Self talking myself over and over that's ok, I'm ok. Even though I'm really not. But you have to try and fight it w/ something, so some reason, that I don't even know anymore.
It's very new to hear for me.
Thank you so much
Is it just me or has it been a really long ass time since I there’s been a genuinely good day.
That sucks... hope you get your good days soon!!
Sometimes there are dark months 😔.
At least in my experience
Yeah, about 22 years and counting.
@@christopherronn8564 26+ and no more counting, cause i know its gonna be another loooooong a*s time
It has been a long time indeed
It’s like an overwhelming feeling of exhaustion.
It’s like standing at the top of a spiral staircase, knowing there is only one way to go; down.
It’s like being in a forest of dark pines, not knowing which way is out.
It’s like never wanting to be a burden but knowing you are.
It’s like being at the bottom of a well, looking up at a tiny patch of sky, feeling that you will never be in the light again, ever.
It’s like hearing speech all around you but not understanding a word.
It’s like standing on a cliff top, knowing logically that you can’t fly but wanting to jump anyway.
It’s like the very worst feelings of guilt you have known, multiplied x 50.
Its like feeling that no matter how much you cry, your tears will never end.
Or feeling like you've disappointed everyone you love.
@@bigbadbillbVery Yes.
This is so important. A lot of times people close to us try to "invalidate" our feelings because *they* can't see the reason.
Most non sufferers can't.
It's depressing!
@Anaya M I mean I haven't felt alive for years now, if it ain't depression I don't know what is
I have one person that does that to me now!!
The worst is: "What have you got to be depressed about? You have a job, a place to stay, a child..." Well depression almost cost me all of those. Or "You don't look depressed..." Just because we don't show it doesn't mean it isn't real. Or "Just pretend you are happy, you know, fake it till you make it..." faking it is why people had no idea I was depressed. I was trying to convince myself that I wasn't depressed
I relate. @@renelaurings5659
“Absence of certain emotions like joy, excitement and hope ” is literally how I feel 80% of the time. Everyone tells me “cleaning your room is fulfilling” but I just feel tired and don’t feel like I gained anything. It’s hard for me to just “be happy” without doing something to influence that like talking to someone, playing a game, reading, etc
My mom and I's depression kind of works a little like this. Her depressionn causes her to clean and shower, a lot. When I was really depressed, I couldn't even brush my hair. I just layed in bed all day and watched memes to try and feel something.
Though my mom is considerate and understands that everyone feels different, so she was never on top of me about it, but so many other people are.
I recommend while playing games, have sunlight coming in and listen to some good happy music. That's what keeps me in a good mood when something stressful is going on.
If that's not your thing, if it's affordable for you, you should try some form of therapy. I wish you all the luck!!
"why are you not happy?" "Why not enjoying the moment and smile?"
Are questions that People has asking me alot for a few years
And i mostly ... can't control myself it's just "is there anything to be happy about?.. there's not"
I agree with that. Most of the time I just don't feel energetic enough to do anything...
I stopped showering, I'm not doing well.
I have the kind of parents that say: “Don’t get into depression okay?”
*Expects depression to yeet itself outta my mind*
Yeah like you have control over it or something…
You still have loved one's. You are very fortunate.
@@pblw4276 ypu do have control over ur mind. Regardless of how you feel.. u nedd to have discipline and stoicism to where it doesn't effect ur decisions and actions. Depression is nothing more than feeling like a loser
Do They think you can get rid of an illness like asthma or headake just thinking you want to get rid off of it?
Why depression would be different?
Ah man - that is not good. Stay strong my friend
She is such a nice person
She is changing the lives of people through the power of social media 👏
She is so helpful 😭 ☺
And she deserves more attention 😌
🥰 thank you 🙏
Omgg u replied 😭 😍 😳
@@DrJulie thank u 💓 💖 🙏 💗 😘
Totally agree!!!🤍💕💫
Spot on. Wish people would stop thinking that someone has a motive to be depressed.
There is always a reason, but sometimes it is very deep and hidden and no one can see it- even who suffers of it.
The fact that no one can see the reason, doesnt mean there is no one.
Absence of other emotions like joy, excitement, and hope. Sounds about right.
And seeing other people that seem to over-emote (especially like people on tv game shows for example) is so annoying. I am not that person. I could feel contentment or joy even without feeling the need to display it overtly.
Thank you for this. I’ve had depression since I was 14, I’m 26 now, & these are important things to know. I feel like a lot of people don’t understand what depression is
I’ve had severe/moderate depression and wanting to be dead since I was 12 :)
You are not alone. I understand ❤
".... an absence of joy, excitement, and hope..."
My goodness. I can't even fathom those three emotions in my life right now. They are as foreign as anything could possibly be. When was the last time I felt any of those?
Your not alone, you only find these true good emotions that never leave- in Jesus. It is foreign cos we live in a dark world... and what you are after is the fathers love.
I would just like to mention that you had such a wholesome reply, mentioning Jesus. You didn’t speak down to the OP or anything, nothing condescending or invalidating. Just love. And I wanna point that out. Few are so down-to-earth and tender.
I’m too scared to message a hotline, I feel like I’m not depressed enough.
I just adore how you speak about the issues with a deep empathy.Not all people have this.💕💕💕
Yep - great channel
Psilocybin saved my life. I was addicted to heroin for 15 years and after Psilocybin treatment I will be 3 years clean in September. I have zero cravings.
This is something that truly needs to be more broadly used in addiction treatment.
Psychedelic’s definitely have potential to deal with mental health symptoms like anxiety and depression, I would like to try them again again but it’s just so hard to source out of there.
Yes, bergwilly11
A lot of people have testified about this and I really want to give it a shot. I put so much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels
The Trips I've been having have really helped me a lot,I finally feel in control of my emotions and my future and things that used to be mundane to me now seem incredible and full of nuance on top of that I'm way less driven by my ego and I have alot more empathy as well
Is he on instagram?
I never knew an absence of emotion can be a sign of depression, then I definitely am depressed, that sucks.
Or you could have dissociation. I’d go to a professional.
@@americanbookdragon I have gone to a professional to, but stuff like it can be pretty hard to diagnose, so yeah, not fun, In any case I am on meds, and I feel like they are working well.
@@StephanieMorelli "hard to diagnose" your correct, but that also means,
"an absence of emotion can be a sign of depression, then I definitely am depressed" is a moot thought
So it doesn't suck that bad, besides, absence of emotions, is Much more likely to be dissociative patterns, or full blown dissociation, way before it would indicate depression.
Absence of the feeling, in that, you haven't felt it. not, that you CAN'T feel it, which is dissociation
Hope that makes sense.
@@renagenic I agree. I disassociated my entire teenage years (diagnosed by a therapist( and was unable to feel emotion however i was still able to function normally.the only symptom I had was lack of emotion. As an adult, I found myself in a safe place and the emotions came back. Now when I suffer with bad depression I feel nothing but I also struggle to function with living a normal life. I stare at a wall for hours with no motivation to do anything to take care of myself. Luckily I haven't had an episode like this for a very long time.
you are not depressed because you do not feel an emotion. this is a self for filling prophesy. she is trying to convince you of lacking something. there are a lot of feeling you will never feel.... are all men depressed because they wont feel what it is like to give birth?
I’m so glad I stumbled upon your channel. Being a disabled military veteran ( homeless) the so called treatments and therapy offered from VA Hospitals is not very praise worthy. I share your channel because your information is so accurate. You really get us. Shalom!🙃
Actually, it can "switch off." I was clinically depressed for many years, no amount of meds or talking therapies worked. I had lost all hope of life ever being different.
Then one day it lifted. Just...went. I remember telling my doctor and seeing him looking worried. Probably thought, "oh shit, a crash is coming." But it never did.
I've been blue in the years since, but never depressed. One day I was reading a book, an autobiography, I think it was Peter Ustinovs though I may be wrong, and he described the same thing happening to him. I can't explain it and I know it's not common. But it happened. Hang in there guys.
Sounds quite like a miracle but I don't think it's much hope inspiring.
You gotta learn to live and work with your struggles in life 🤷♂️
Most time , I've found, it's predators,branding you as outside the norm. If you're going along , someone will always throw you a curve ball for sh1t* and giggles.
That's happened to me before, I am diagnosed though. I call those clicks, or snaps.
Nutrients and gut impact mental health substantially so that makes sense.
Check out Dr ilardis book The Depression Cure or watch his lecture on UA-cam. It's all settled science. 6 steps that can cure depression. Most are free and very easy to do even for those who find it extremely difficult to be motivated. Timestamps are in the comment sections for the impatient, lol. My own daughters mood was lifted significantly utilising just 2 of the steps, then "cured" after utilising a third. What do you have to lose?
Wish more Dr's are like her, understanding
Feels nice that someone is actually explaining it the right way
Thank you for this. I need to show it to my mom. She genuinely doesn't understand. She recently told me to just get over it, that "this is ridiculous," and what could I possibly be upset about. It hurt me so much. I got my mental health issues from my dad's side and her and my brother have never dealt with it.
I think partners see it as a reflection of themselves. Like they caused your sickness. Which is unhelpful.
I’m a genuinely upbeat person with chronic depression taking opioids for chronic pain. With the speed bumps I give myself a break when I need to chill and really celebrate when I get everything accomplished. Times have been challenging. I remain hopeful.
Happy Holidays! 💛❄️☃️🍐🤗
Those opioids are life-savers.
I've been living with depression since my teens, life can be so hard but you can sometimes beat it. Not doing so well right now but I will fight it off best I can. mental illness is nothing to be ashamed of.
I have depression / anxiety and this is so accurate
Understanding things that are not understandable was a game changer in my life.
Thank you, I always try to find reason for depression and if I don't find one I tend to beat myself up for being depressed. Had to learn myself out of it.
so much happens to me!!! its just increasing the depression!! dont beat urself its very normal…many times the least that we expect is someone to simply understand…
@@diptironge2819 exactly! what i do is remind myself to always be kind. Sounds so simple yet it took me such a long time to learn that
Thanks Dr. Julie. I cried everytime I watched your short video. I'm still takes medicine and therapy bout 2 years now. Hopefully the others will make through it someday.. May God bless we all.. stay strong friends 💕
Thank you for your insight. I was on meds for depression for 10 years. Ive been off of them for nearly a year. I still struggle but I feel alot better without them. I allow myself bad days but i no longer stay in bed with the covers over my head
This psychologist is a gem. Thank goodness for her information and goodness on UA-cam.
Some very interesting points.
Thank you!
I had severe clinical depression, took meds for months, times looked tough and impossible to get through. I had lost hope, excitement, will to live. But here I am today, not only out of depression, but at the happiest time in my life excited to live life to the fullest! All of you who are facing these issues in life, I can guarantee you can get through it, and make it out happier and more mature than ever before! Take care
I think item #2 is overlooked. The absence of positive emotions can be as life sucking. When I recognize it happening I try very hard to find SD specific things for which to be thankful AND to say it out loud. Hope that helps others.
I told my best friend that I have it and she said “why are you depressed?” And it made me feel hopeless although she doesn’t understand I still love her soo much ❤❤❤
I need whole the world to listen to this...
What a breath of fresh air Doctor Julie is.
Number two is my personal poison. I can't remember the last time I felt happy.
The times I feel NOTHING are the most terribles times. Sometimes I wish I could feel ANYTHING. Sadness and pain would be welcome at those times. Happyness would be better, of course. But feeling anything would be welcome,too.
Sorry...U R Valuable...you may not be able to see it 🙏
Hi there, u can overcom it , trust me .
No med, no hobby, no gimmick etc
NB: I decided 2 follow Jesus n world behind me, no turnin back! V Elementary, n no cost$ 4 therapist, v successful etc
@@sereneanna4040Stfu, no one cares about Jesus.
@@sereneanna4040You people are a part of the problem.
I was depressed but my friend told me to cheer up and now I'm doing great.
😊
Ohhh God, the absence of other emotions like joy, hope and excitement…never thought it like that, that’s exactly it
The joy of the Lord is our strenght
❤thank you SOOOOO MUCH for your wonderful helpful advice! You explain issues beautifully- easy to grasp.
I’ve been fighting depression over 20 years with illness & an abusive marriage. My divorce was not liberating. It was expensive & impoverishing me & emotionally painful.
Yet ppl expect me to be over it
'absence of other emotions'.....this hit home for me. I don't know what to call it or if it is weird or not but all I feel is numb nowadays. These past years have been like a losing battle and idk why but this year in particular....takes a lot tbh to find some good days in the midst of all the darkness
Dr. Julie, I love your videos and shorts. I've had anxiety and depression during my childhood and my entire adult life. I've been seeing a therapist for 3 1/2 years, and she is fantastic! Your videos coincide with what I have been learning. I have my good days and bad days, but my good days are beginning to outnumber my bad days. I can also see if something happens it doesn't make the entire day bad. Thank you for all you do and for sharing your wisdom and gift.
Thank You.
You're welcome
Dr. Julie, it seems to me, speaks with a note of genuine compassion that is all too often missing in a clinical setting.
But it is indispensable to anyone speaking to people with depression, who are too often met with a world-weary dismissal, as though they were wasting the doctor's time.
If you get depressed long enough then you become violent. I have a theory that those people that shot up places like malls are just people that have been in a state of constant depression for years. In fact they may have never known any other feeling except depression.
I agree. This is what is happening to me.
@@Beandal I hear you, best way to handle it is to accept it. I tell myself "I'm depressed and that's ok, I'm still alive, I'm still breathing and that will have to do." You have to find your "Zen" in the small things. Sorry if I sound preachy.
Not for everyone.....
Thank you! I told someone about my depression but they only tried to find a reason. But I couldn't give them an explanation. Then they dismissed me as if I was faking it. This made me feel worse and made me feel like I needed a reason.
There is NO OFF SWITCH there is pretending to be okay,
Yes it can feel like that for many people. Hope you are ok. Please do seek support from your doctor.
@@DrJulie I have and gave me some medication but it doesn't seem to help at all, thank you for your videos❤
Thanks for telling me this, I have always looked for a reason why I’m depressed sometimes, it’s great to have your help
"You don't need a reason to be depressed"
That one pick me girl: hell yeah!
Fr, there’s so many pick mes in the comments, sharing their “life story they didn’t want to tell”
@@yourselfrespect8201 lol exactly, I’ve seen so many and it pains me
@@king_david__ Yeah 😭
This series is an incredible free therapeutic service to the community.
Take Vitamin D for depression.
It helps more then you would imagine.
It somewhat helps if done along with other activities actually
@@OA2605
Speaking for your self.
It works for me. I'm happy.
Even though my psychologist is doing a fine job, your videos give me some reminders throughout the week to not expect or want too much out of myself and accept that recovery does not go in a straight line. These shorts are great, thanks :)
Keep on doing what you are doing Dr. Julie. You know exactly what you are talking about. I have had a lot of experience with my own depression for years. What you have said, is what it' s all about.
You sit on my face & Both of us would never be depressed.❤
Thank you. I have no one. Im always alone although I try. No one loves me. I am so sad and have been all my life. Im 33. Thank you for putting into words what I experience 🙏🏽
Whatever you said i have experienced it few months ago....my depression symptom starts with continous feeling of nausea and vomiting...i thought something happend in my stomach but then i get know that it in my mind. But am so much better now...i hope everyone who is suffering from this will get well soon..just keep fighting and do not loose hope...you will overcome this...😊
Thank you Dr Julie, your shirt made my day, I was born in 1984 😄 And I am grateful for every little thing that makes me smile 😊 And thank you for your videos, they do help 🤗
Yeah, number two describes me well. I recently had a talk with my mother. Months ago, I started working for my step father's garage as a car aesthetic (idk if that's the term in english, but I make cars shine nice and clean). Pays well and a few months ago, I bought my first house (age 25) and settled in my old town about 5 mins drive from work.
As I was renovating my kitchen, my mother (bless her for being so supporting) came and helped with painting the walls.
At one point, she looked at me and said: "Son, see how nice your house is looking up?"
I told her "Sure, I guess it's pretty nice." And carried on. A few minutes later, my mom gives me a worried look and askes me: "why aren't you excited? You've made so many good choices these past months and I'm so proud of you! Aren't you happy about how things turned out to be for you?"
For the life of me, I could only shrug and say : "Yeah, I guess I did. Makes sense that I chose this path."
Her eyes went wide and she seemed shocked by my lack of reaction. She then asked me : "are you sure you're okay with your choices? Are you well?"
Then it hit me. I shrugged again and told her : "don't take it personnal, but if someone was getting beat up outside my window, I'd simply not care. Also, thanks for helping me, but do not ask me to be grateful or show it to you, I just can't be bothered enough to take the time."
Obviously she was taken abback by that and told me that as long as I say it, she'll be happy for me and will gladly continue to help me settle.
At that point I broke down crying and told her that when I start to "feel" any emotions, they're always negative and every. Single. F*cking. day. Of my life, anytime I wake up, go to sleep, my mind is plagued with dark thoughts and I feel like drowning.
She asked me : "maybe the medications, (called Zoloft or 'sertraline'? Idk if that's its name in english) maybe it does not help?"
I felt a surge of rage, not direcred at her, but at myself. I felt like I was lying to myself and that the medication does jack sh*t. It's just my mind that's f*cked.
I wiped my tears and told her that regardless of all those negative feelings and dark throughts, "I'll probably wake up tomorrow, crack a few jokes and forget about all of our conversation. (Yeah, right...)
And that's how I feel most of the time. I hate it so f*cking much that most days, I just go about living by only using "logic" rather than "feelings."
Sorry for the long read. Just had to get that off my chest.
So so true ❤ Thank you Dr Julie for validating my feelings today
Thank you for this description of depression. The absence of other emotions...yes. In my case it is mixed with anxiety. I am so glad that I have finally achieved contentment. It has taken me 70 years. I wish that you were around earlier.
-i have nothing traumatic that could have caused my depression
-I don’t always feel sad, but I find that I have a really bad lack of most other emotions (I can feel temporarily happy, but then the nothingness I’ve felt takes back over)
-I don’t always end my day feeling bad, in fact, I really only get bad maybe half the days of my life
Thank you for making this and informing people, including myself, about depression
I suffered a lot and I could call myself a depressed person that now is recovering.
I want everybody to know that you are perfect and can do everything you want because nothing is impossible.
May your dreams come true! ♥️ you
Thank you. I would never how to explain people why and how I got depressed. What you said about depression helps me a lot, at least there is one person like you understand what a depression is.
Thank you, Dr. Julie. That helps me to understand my depression.
I speak with a lot of people whose depression varies in both depth and time.
Hearing that darn tune over and over and over depresses the life out of me!
Your videos give me so much validation I don’t receive in my life. Thanks. People always make me feel like I’m committing a crime having feelings or anxiety.
Hello Dr. Julie, Thanks for fighting the good fight!
Im so tired of living. Its so hard to go about your day when you dont even like yourself.🖤
I’ve always said people try to take too much credit for other people’s emotional states. If you don’t have anything to do with their happiness you shouldn’t think you have anything to do with their sadness when it comes 🎀
As a person that has been diagnosed with depression and anxiety, I deal with all of these things. Every day is a struggle and it's incredibly hard to get out of bed in the morning. It's something I would never wish upon anyone. ❤️
We need more people like her. I would love to take therapy from Dr. Julie, I feel like I’m struggling with my mental health and I can’t tell anyone.
Hi Dr Julie.
I stumbled across your videos recently.
Long time suffer with the mental triffecta. Depression, anxiety, anger management with self harm. Had this since childhood, clinical diagnosed since 2013. Yes I'm on meds and I see a psychologist monthly and psychiatrist every 4months. My symptoms are only mild. Never spent a day in bed cause of depression. What you say is so true and to the point. Trying to find the reason for being depressed makes things worse. I come to realise that mental illness is a hormonal imbalance just like the menstrual woman. Learn to deal with it and when I'm down watch funny vids on you tube and try and keep the mind in a happy place. Looking forward to the rest of your videos. I'm 59 these days I do speak freely about this issue I don't care about the none suffers opinion on this condition. They don't carry this around with them.
I am really grateful 🙏 that I subscribed to Dr. Julie. This Doctor explains, simply, what I have been experiencing all my life but have not been able to verbalize
Thank you so much for this, especially about why depression just is.
I don't get tire of looking at Dr. Julie , she definitely my therapy.
Your voice your demeanour are very soothing
Very much like medicinal
You are so comforting. I love your channel. 🥹
Dear Dr Julie, thank you so much for your content! I understand myself way better through your videos. Keep up the good work ☺️
These are amazing to help understand my friend better. Thank you. With these I can help them better.
I just ordered your book and hope to get the workbook soon. I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety December 2019, then Covid hit. I had no idea what depression was like, how bad it could be, and how profoundly it would affect my life, and Covid made it worse. I'm so glad I found your posts....they are very helpful.
Thanks Mam Actually Because of You Finally I Got My Answer
Now it's Time to comeback.......
Here's my favorite quote "just focus on what you're grateful for"...I'm definitely grateful for so many things and that doesn't stop your feelings of depression.
The moment I heard the first point I continued watching...
I've I think recovered mostly from it now..
No more medications..no more frequent chamber visits...😊✨
DR. Julie I love you keep up the good work.. finally someone got it...
I hope you healthy always Dr. Julie,💙
You are so right.
Today I was so depressed and did listen to a field with binaural beats 🎧 and depression went away / had this realization that I’m lucking joy, hope, people and I don’t have anything to do
Block on playing on piano
Recently came back to painting 🖼️ want to finish collection
But today I couldn’t paint felt like it’s a waste of time / boring too
Yes
I had this realization million times I think over the last years
I’m still struggling with depression but it’s gotten a lot a better.
When I was at my lowest, I barely had hope or what it’s called, let’s say, I had a test. I would like instantly just say, “Yeah I’m just gonna fail” I didn’t see how smart I actually was, I always saw the negative things. I had a hard time expressing love, that was because I could barely love myself, and when you can’t love yourself, you can’t really show love or take love in.
I’ve been there, it’s a hell of a struggle. But you can do it, I believe in you.
I'm taking risks and looking everywhere for advice. I described my pain in an email once. Other than that, I don't know how to describe what I'm going through. I just know I want it to stop. Thank you for being part of a solution.
I’ve learned that good change (like healing) is messy. And messy is a good sign.
I genuinely want to be happy, excited, excited to meet a person over and over again. I'm just tired and exhausted of being sad and fake happy.
When you said " depression is not just an increase in sadness sometimes it's more about the absence of emotions."
This is very true. Sometimes we aren’t sad, we just cannot feel other emotions, if anything, I’m ALWAYS frustrated. I’m frustrated because I don’t find joy in things that normally bring me joy, I’m frustrated because I forget tasks I wanted to get done, I’m frustrated because doing the laundry went from a simple task to something I get exhausted just thinking about, depression is a frustrating illness.
Thank you Dr. Julie! Watching from Las Vegas, NV, USA.
I enjoy watching and truly listening to your videos - Thank-you
Hate to admit how right she is
Spot on
I just want to add sometimes you can't tell how far you're depressed until your spiraling down and then it's too late, At least for me and my experience sometimes
Deppresion is not the presence of sadness but its the absence of joy , excitment and hope !!!!
Hit my situation 😑😕
God bless all of us that has Depression
I hope you know how much you effected my life
There is so much emotional damage i couldn't bear with before and now I'm in progress with them thanks to you ❤
I send this videos to anybody i think may need them
My home is the biggest reflection of my depression. It was so pretty. Now I can even walk threw It. I let my life go down tubes cause I wanted friends and family when I had none. And I still don't have a single soul on this earth who cares. So gota hard up suck it up some how keep going cause no one is ever there for u. U gots be for urself
I realized the ones closest to u hurt u the most. And that was my downfall. So if I am distant and guarded no one can hurt me anymore
Be for urself. Stop for others. Somehow one day get up and keep going cause no one cares but for themselves its the world we live in now. Just don't expect som of us to be so nice we just exist and not live. Hope I gave up. Hope is for me to change. So we have no support we just move on wen we get ready and tired of living and feeling crappy.
Hey doc. Thanks for sharing, I agree with your points…. Also, for anyone out there suffering, just know there are many different approaches to getting better. Your internal and external are reflections of each other. In my experience, these are some core pillars to progress.
1. Respect the power of language because it really does shape your life. “I am depressed” = this is a part of my identity. “I am currently experiencing depressive thoughts, emotions and behaviours” = my mental software is due for some updates.
2. Focus less on the problems , and more on solutions. Understanding past traumas etc is way less important than focusing on what you want and taking steps towards it.
3. Practice gratitude. Accept that life is supposed to be hard. But that you’re blessed, you have clear water, food, technology and access to knowledge that our ancestors could even dream of. You’re top of the food chain in an amazing time
To be alive. You could’ve been born a snail or a house fly but you’re a human. You’re not blind, you’re not deaf. You have all 4 limbs working. You have clean water, plumbing, access to healthcare. The ability to learn and earn. Without the pain you wouldn’t be able to appreciate joy.
4. Work on the small things, they all add up. Eat healthier, exercise, do some good deeds regularly, give thanks to god/the universe/yourself. List your sins and regrets, apologise/ make amends to those who you love and/or have let down. Learn to defend yourself so that it’s harder for people to take advantage of you. Fix your credit score, earn more, spend less.
5. fill some spiritual voids, if want to speed this up, join some communities, if you’re struggling just start by going to religious temples/churches charities support groups etc, you don’t have to convert/believe/become obsessed. Just go there for that higher vibration. It will rub off on you.
7. Be careful of who you take advice/info from. A lot of people/experts/guru’s/doctors & pharmacies profit off other peoples misery.
8. Build a life where you have good people around you. Remove toxic people. You may be the toxic one, if so do the above to remove that rotten shit from within, when you do… good people and good energy’s will surround you slowly but surely.
👍🏽 we’ve all got work to do… now get off ur arse and create the life that you deserve. One day at a time 😁 don’t be a victim, be strong.
(If you’ve been severely abused, if you’re disabled, dying or have PTSD from life threatening experiences then yes, you will benefit from other forms of professional help in addition. But most people have become dishearten, weak and complacent. The good news is, that’s hasn’t come to stay, it has come to pass and help u grow stronger. Don’t let ur past dictate your future