Are You Ready for Marriage? w/ Sheikh Mustafa Shaybani - Firmly Rooted #3

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  • In this thought-provoking episode, we're diving into the heart of a crucial question: Are You Ready for Marriage? Join us as we navigate the complexities of marriage, self-discovery, and partnership. Our guests share personal experiences, insights, and valuable advice to help you gauge your readiness for this significant life step.
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  • @aljannahquotes3697
    @aljannahquotes3697 6 місяців тому +88

    -Learn about 5 pillars of Islam , Iman(aqeeda), ihsan (purification of soul)
    -Learn about life of prophet (SAW)
    -Get ready in Financially (for men)
    -Learn personal skills
    -Get rid of addictions
    - Get closer to Allah
    - Fix the relationship with human beings

    • @yassinhassan336
      @yassinhassan336 6 місяців тому +21

      Correction: there are 5 pillars of Islam which are; the two testimonies of faith (La Illaha Illa Allah Muhammad Rasulu Allah), prayer , alms tax, fasting the month of Ramadan and pilgrimage. And there are 6 pillars of Iman; belief in Allah, the angels, the scriptures, the Prophets, the Day of Judgement and the Divine Decree, the good and the bad of it.

  • @kaouthar7791
    @kaouthar7791 6 місяців тому +39

    13:50 How do I become mature?
    1. Work on you religion and your knowledge of it. Have certain religious practices.
    2. Know social skills
    3. Set the intention now to get married in so many years and prepare for it from now on by working on yourself
    4. Get rid of temper if you have any or (porn) addictions and ask Allah for help.
    Actions:
    - Take a real look at yourself. And make Tawbah.

  • @alaminbashir4259
    @alaminbashir4259 5 місяців тому +17

    The interviewer asks the perfect questions wallah it almost like he reads my mind when asking them questions

    • @al-farooq7192
      @al-farooq7192 5 місяців тому

      True, so relatable to us as uni students 💯🙃

  • @strivingslave5962
    @strivingslave5962 6 місяців тому +48

    36:20 Every journey begins with a first step. Embrace tauba. Repent to your lord. Feel the guilt. Confess to Allah. Tell ٱللَّٰه that this is my situation
    37:26 Only ٱللَّٰه can put happiness in your heart
    38:32 Sometimes marriage comes very easily. There is a secret behind that: closeness to ٱللَّٰه.
    40:18 Look for solutions
    41:11 First step: Ask ٱللَّٰه for help
    43:10 Start your journey and ٱللَّٰه will help you.
    44:12 First step?
    Fix relationship with your lord.
    Do 2 rakah. Ask ٱللَّٰه for help.
    46:30 Relationship with parents.
    47:25 Whoever fixes their relationship with ٱللَّٰه, everything else gets fixed.
    Know Iman and Ihsan.
    53:03 Marriage is a rizq from ٱللَّٰه.
    Best rizq is a pious woman. You will feel peace with them. Need pious children.

    • @user-rj8oj7bl2n
      @user-rj8oj7bl2n 5 місяців тому

      Didn't talk about having an income source?

  • @sarabenkhaffou
    @sarabenkhaffou 13 днів тому

    Not only is this video helpful to prepare ourselves for marriage but they have also lowkey given the formula for anyone who wants to fix their life, whether young or old.

  • @Abbaas_
    @Abbaas_ 4 місяці тому +4

    42:32 - my favourite part of the video

    • @Omar-qn1uj
      @Omar-qn1uj 4 місяці тому

      Indeed a beautiful story. SubhanAllah! ✨

  • @zamzamabt
    @zamzamabt 6 місяців тому +41

    May Allah make us stead fast in our religion. May Allah forgive our sins and grant us jannah al firdows. Jazaka Allah kheyr

  • @Areeba-lg7pv
    @Areeba-lg7pv 6 місяців тому +12

    JazakAllah khair for sharing this! Was looking forward to listen to Ustadh Hisham for this topic.

  • @EmmanuelChidera-ly2ue
    @EmmanuelChidera-ly2ue 6 місяців тому +12

    This podcast was awesome! JazakAllah Khair Ahki. May Allah ‏ﷻ bless you and the speakers.

  • @yuliiariabchun6338
    @yuliiariabchun6338 4 місяці тому +2

    Welcome Ustaz Hisham!

  • @SA-sj6hr
    @SA-sj6hr 5 місяців тому +3

    JazakAllah Khair Ahki. May Allah ‏ﷻ bless you and the speakers.

  • @khadijahbenali6636
    @khadijahbenali6636 5 місяців тому +3

    Masha’allah tabarakallah. Jazakallahkeer sheikhs for the much needed podcast for our young generation. People can’t get married because family’s make it hard for them.

  • @maria45afrah8
    @maria45afrah8 4 місяці тому +1

    Jazakallah khair. Really loved the practical action points. Amazing!

  • @rukhsaar5164
    @rukhsaar5164 Місяць тому

    Thank you so so much for this podcast. You’ve answered most of my worries

  • @umulsabaah5492
    @umulsabaah5492 Місяць тому

    So many are ready but where are the reputable believers who care enough to help match believers and follow through to help them succeed.

  • @helmsmanpacker3456
    @helmsmanpacker3456 6 місяців тому +10

    BarakAllahu fik Shaykh Mustafa Shaybani has a way with his words, insightful listening to him. One thing I don’t know is the correct spelling of his second name, it’s different on the Al furqaan channel ö
    and dude how is there gonna be a part 2 to this. This episode was so jam packed with beneficial advice and stuff to act upon. I don’t know what’s coming
    I am gonna set these action points as goals, for before the next episode comes out! Insha Allah

  • @neymarzam9297
    @neymarzam9297 6 місяців тому +9

    This was a deep one yani..Alhamduliah ❤..i needed it May bless nd keep blessing the ummah..inn sha Allah

  • @cathyndiaye9399
    @cathyndiaye9399 6 місяців тому +4

    Jazakoum Allahu kheiran for this talk. It was really interesting and the advices are realistic for us young people who are at university in the West.

  • @sma1566
    @sma1566 5 місяців тому +1

    The sheikh brought very relevant and strong points. Very useful

  • @Sadiqul_I
    @Sadiqul_I 5 місяців тому +3

    I loved this video, amazing

  • @Mo_Salafi
    @Mo_Salafi 6 місяців тому +2

    بارك الله فيكم

  • @creativeash4210
    @creativeash4210 6 місяців тому +2

    Masha'Allah ❤ JazakAllah kher for this much needed episode.

  • @Nasrin9437
    @Nasrin9437 5 місяців тому +1

    الله يجزاكم خير

  • @bintouf3544
    @bintouf3544 5 місяців тому

    That was so beneficial, mashallah

  • @12irtezasaheem7
    @12irtezasaheem7 5 місяців тому +1

    23:45 everyone should go through this part, whoever is visiting this video.

  • @Trs0o.
    @Trs0o. 6 місяців тому +6

    Rabbanahab lana min azwajina wathurriyyatinaqurrata aAAyunin wajAAalna lilmuttaqeena imama "Our Lord, grant us from among our wives and offspring comfort to our eyes
    and make us an example for the righteous."
    Al-Quran Al-Kareem 25:74

  • @makamemahmud5986
    @makamemahmud5986 5 місяців тому +2

    SubhanAllah. JazakAllahu Khairan for this practical informative episode. I have to mention, MashaAllah how respectful and humble Ustad Hisham is. The way he looks at Sheikh Mustafa Shaybani and waits for him to speak before he himself answers. TabarakAllah. ♥

    • @al-farooq7192
      @al-farooq7192 5 місяців тому

      Indeed. SubhanAllah. Beautiful manners. 💯✨

  • @ahmedmaniyaruni4300
    @ahmedmaniyaruni4300 6 місяців тому +4

    My people ❤!

  • @7625e
    @7625e 6 місяців тому +3

    Mashallah. Deep podcast

  • @dawahspeakers
    @dawahspeakers 4 місяці тому

    MashaAllah, helpful podcast❤

  • @shira__
    @shira__ 5 місяців тому +1

    Allahuma barik 🤍 I can listen to these sheikhs for long. Very insightful, May Allah increase their knowledge and accept it from them.Ameen

    • @shira__
      @shira__ 5 місяців тому +1

      And the host asked beautiful questions too!!! May Allah bless all who worked on this video🤍

  • @okiokiokiokioki0p8
    @okiokiokiokioki0p8 6 місяців тому +1

    Allahumma barik

  • @yusufnewpone3281
    @yusufnewpone3281 6 місяців тому +1

    اللهم بارك

  • @Amro-elbosaty
    @Amro-elbosaty 6 місяців тому +4

    Very true. A big responsibility- don't ever think about it.

    • @piqueny8872
      @piqueny8872 6 місяців тому +2

      The youth want to marry but don’t want to take any responsibility. If the wife is working the ummah men follow western marriages not Islamic based marriages

  • @dxxnish7170
    @dxxnish7170 6 місяців тому

    50:36 The wording is:
    اعْقِلْهَا وَتَوَكَّلْ
    Tie her and trust in Allah.
    [Ṣaḥīḥ Ibn Ḥibbān 2/72: 726 (دار التأصيل)]

  • @iNikkah
    @iNikkah 6 місяців тому +6

    May Allah make it easy for our youngsters to marry, I wish they would take pre marital coaching, it’s a lot cheaper than a divorce

  • @user-vo3ez4rk8g
    @user-vo3ez4rk8g 4 місяці тому +1

    I have a question: what do Islam says about someone who was engaged after pay nika and did everything that required the legalization of the married, some people who are jelous of the couples, did everything within their capacities to distroys it…?

  • @dxxnish7170
    @dxxnish7170 6 місяців тому

    38:30 As-Salāmu ʿAlaykum; how do we explain the marriages of Prophet Nūḥ, Prophet Lūṭ & ʿĀsiyah (عَلَيْهِمُ السَّلَام), in the end of Sūrat al-Taḥrīm, with this concept in the statement of Allah (ﷻ):
    ﴿ٱلۡخَبِيثَٰتُ لِلۡخَبِيثِينَ وَٱلۡخَبِيثُونَ لِلۡخَبِيثَٰتِۖ وَٱلطَّيِّبَٰتُ لِلطَّيِّبِينَ وَٱلطَّيِّبُونَ لِلطَّيِّبَٰتِۚ﴾
    *«Corrupt women are for corrupt men, and corrupt men are for corrupt women; good women are for good men and good men are for good women.»*
    [24:26]
    Is it true that everything for the believer is good?

  • @user-th1vv6ie9d
    @user-th1vv6ie9d 6 місяців тому

  • @syedmajidahmed8292
    @syedmajidahmed8292 28 днів тому

    39:00

  • @johncharles4146
    @johncharles4146 6 місяців тому +5

    Am ready for marriage I just don't have the fìnance

    • @140_IH
      @140_IH 6 місяців тому

      وَأَنكِحُوا۟ ٱلْأَيَـٰمَىٰ مِنكُمْ وَٱلصَّـٰلِحِينَ مِنْ عِبَادِكُمْ وَإِمَآئِكُمْ ۚ إِن يَكُونُوا۟ فُقَرَآءَ يُغْنِهِمُ ٱللَّهُ مِن فَضْلِهِۦ ۗ وَٱللَّهُ وَٰسِعٌ عَلِيمٌۭ ٣٢
      Marry off the ˹free˺ singles among you, as well as the righteous of your bondmen and bondwomen. If they are poor, Allah will enrich them out of His bounty. For Allah is All-Bountiful, All-Knowing.
      24:32

    • @Amro-elbosaty
      @Amro-elbosaty 6 місяців тому +16

      Starting and providing for a family involves careful planning and responsibility. To begin, focus on securing stable employment or consider creating your own business to generate income. Develop the necessary skills and qualifications that will make you marketable and ensure financial stability. This will not only benefit you but also lay the foundation for supporting a family. Remember, a solid financial base is crucial, so invest in your career and personal development to build a secure future for yourself and your loved ones

    • @piqueny8872
      @piqueny8872 6 місяців тому +3

      As a man is your religious responsibility to provide financially. So start there while educating yourself on marriage rights responsibilities

    • @YDavis.
      @YDavis. 6 місяців тому +2

      @@Amro-elbosatythank you brother you just solved financial struggles 🙏🏾 just get money 🙏🏾

    • @johncharles4146
      @johncharles4146 6 місяців тому +1

      @@Amro-elbosaty am on that path currently

  • @Limbouj
    @Limbouj Місяць тому

    To the interviewer (prophet Muhammad peace and blessings be upon him said you should shave all of your hair or leave it all it's prohibited to shave a part of it. In sahih Muslim 2120a prophet Muhammad peace and blessings be upon him forbade qaza.)

  • @Wayfaringzara
    @Wayfaringzara 5 місяців тому

    44:10🩶

  • @user-vo3ez4rk8g
    @user-vo3ez4rk8g 4 місяці тому

    And now they all said that person is not fit as they responsible for everything that failed the marriage…,they tried to go far in other to make the man sick…,

  • @Drh123
    @Drh123 6 місяців тому +1

    Oh my Allah
    They’re not zero… they’re negative 🤣🤣
    Why did I just feel attacked 😂😂
    I’m not a university student btw💀

  • @Bouda_sr
    @Bouda_sr 6 місяців тому +7

    Shame on any Muslim for making marriage difficult. If by 18 our youth aren’t ready for marriage than it’s a stain on the Islamic society that raised the youth un prepared for something so important.

    • @razamughal4582
      @razamughal4582 4 місяці тому

      Its women that have made marriage difficult by preventing four marriages

    • @fizasiddiqui5801
      @fizasiddiqui5801 25 днів тому

      ​@@razamughal4582 bruh

  • @mekailkamran03
    @mekailkamran03 4 місяці тому +1

    Very beautiful discussion mashaAllah! Gained so many beautiful insights alhamdulillah. JazakAllahu Kahyran

  • @geekygirl648
    @geekygirl648 6 місяців тому +3

    36:20 Every journey begins with a first step. Embrace tauba. Repent to your lord. Feel the guilt. Confess to Allah. Tell ٱللَّٰه that this is my situation
    37:26 Only ٱللَّٰه can put happiness in your heart
    38:32 Sometimes marriage comes very easily. There is a secret behind that: closeness to ٱللَّٰه.
    40:18 Look for solutions
    41:11 First step: Ask ٱللَّٰه for help
    43:10 Start your journey and ٱللَّٰه will help you.
    44:12 First step?
    Fix relationship with your lord.
    Do 2 rakah. Ask ٱللَّٰه for help.
    46:30 Relationship with parents.
    47:25 Whoever fixes their relationship with ٱللَّٰه, everything else gets fixed.
    Know Iman and Ihsan.
    53:03 Marriage is a rizq from ٱللَّٰه.
    Best rizq is a pious woman. You will feel peace with them. Need pious children.