For those who came first to the comments: It means Paul lied about his blindness saying "he wasn't blind" to get a job. He didn't lie to us, don't worry
Yes. He wouldn’t even have his White Cane 🦯 👨🦯, known Braille, Accessible Technology, or Guide Dog 🦮 with Him either. You can see that His eyes 👀 👁️ don’t look for much visual stimulation, other than His 10% of remaining Vision.
I had to lie on job applications to get a job. I’m visibly disabled and the second I walked in the door for interviews they’d never take any onboarding documents and I’d never hear back. For my first job I accidentally said I was disabled in a question and started crying in the video interview. My boss thankfully had a friend with my disability and fought management to employ me.
I'm really sorry on behalf of the human race for you having to deal with this ridiculous prejudice. I'm also really happy your first boss was so understanding. You deserve the best and if you have to lie on applications I support you. You do what you have to do
The fact that anyone has a need or feels a need to lie on an application makes me feel like we have failed as a species… there is way too much prejudice in this world and it’s just so wrong. I’m so glad you found a boss who would stand by you.
Its understandable to keep something like blindness a secret because of how society treats them for paul to be so proud now and open up about it makes us love him even more.
If anyone ever doubts Paul's blindness, just listen to the way he says retinitis pigmentosa. No-one without a chronic condition ever says it so clearly, quickly and confidently! 😁 😂
@@AishaKyes Try slipping in silly words into it and see if anyone notices (like for Paul I'd go with something like retinitis pigtailtosa) and see how long it takes for people to spot it! 😁 😉
Honestly I don't blame you for any of this. I've lied about being disabled before (mostly when I was high-masking), because ableism is terrifying and sometimes dangerous. I think people shouldn't be too harshly judged when they lie about being abled for safety reasons.
Thats so sweet of your roommate to guide you through the phone! Its also a good idea for anyone that has to walk alone at night to be on the phone with someone making sure you get home safe
From what I grasp from the description - I'm so sorry this was necessary. I wish people with disabilities, or in this case blindness, had more options. I know from friends of my father that are blind how much they are judged and told they can't do it, even if they very much could. Of course I don't know the actual contents of the video yet since the premiere is only in 13 hours, so I don't know the actual reason you had to lie, but I can imagine it was and still can be very difficult. It's sad that people have to lie just to get a job and to be accepted by others. I hope things have gotten easier and if I understood correctly in past shorts and videos Paul is now an artist, which I am very proud of you. I am glad you got to do something you love, despite being blind. You're amazing, don't ever give up on yourself. ❤
I'm legally blind and there are definately not enough resources or jobs. I am able to hide my blindness to a certain degree and people automatically think I am faking. Unfortunately a lot of people view blindness as a lightswitch. Either you are all the way blind or you are not. It's frustrating.
@@dijonwhitmore171I always joke that I feel like I'm blind bc if I take my glasses off, and hold my hand out at arms length, I can't see my fingertips clearly, they're all blurry. Maybe the joke was on me all along...
Paul, as I watch Matthew looking at you when you speak, he has such a love for you that one can only dream of having. Wow! The two of you show such a beautiful relationship! Thank you❣️
I haven't lied about having bowel cancer because it means I have issues with needing to use the toilet a lot, which ultimately means I would have an accident if I didn't go there fast enough. The fear of actually having a public incident is bigger than people noticing I wear pads. I think I'd even flash my disability card to jump the queue in front of the ladies if it were urgent. It's not like we chose our illnesses. We just gotta make the most of life with them! I love how you inspire others Paul. Thanks for this. You're awesome and you two as a couple are the cutest. Best friends and life partners. And a hurrah to the penguins and laughter ❤
I feel this. There are times I have to hide the fact I am disabled, because I don't look disabled. for many people, disabled people is still a new thing. it's like for them "you're either visible disabled or i recognize you as disabled", and not the other way around. such a whacky world.
OMG Matthew and Paul are the cutest couple ever! I watch their shorts a lot, but this is the first full-length video of theirs that I've seen. All the little touches and their synchronized movements just telegraph how deeply in love they are, and I am living for it. ❤
I really feel for Paul with this story because I have lied by omitting so many times about my hearing and Dyslexia. I started having hearing loss problems in 6th grade and I already had a hard time reading. School was always hard for me and continued to get harder. Since I was picked on so much I just tried to pretend like I was fine and hide it as much as possible. When I started working everything just got worse. I would apologize all the time. It was so embarrassing!! Finally a friend pointed out that I should just own it and stop apologizing because I did nothing wrong. The situation is what it is. Now I'm 100% deaf and hear with Cochlear implants. The fear of rejection is still there but I own it. This is who I am. Like me or not
I have a learning disability and I totally get where Paul is coming from. I hid mine as well because I was bullied in school for it. I would not tell jobs because I did not want to be discriminated against to get the job (it's happened before so I quit telling) even if I did tell a manager at work sometimes they would talk to me as if I was a complete moron and talk really slow. It was humiliating and angering. I hadva manager get mad that she had to make accommodations for me from the manager higher up. She told everyone in the department about my disability and yelled at me made me cry. I'm better about telling about my learning disability now but careful who I tell it to.
Telling everyone you work with could be a HIIPA violation. I'm so sorry that happened to you. We all learn at different rates, sometimes in different ways. Don't let that jerk stop you from trying. 😊
Even from just reading your posts title, I knew you didn't mean Paul lied to you about being blind. That's one of the things we love about you guys, your open honesty with each other. I haven't watched the post yet, just had to comment. 😂❤.
I’m nearing blindness as well and when I read the title I immediately knew what Paul was going to say. In my younger years I did the same thing. I have seen other blind UA-camrs tell similar stories and it makes me happy to know I wasn’t the only poser.🤗
Journey is exactly what it is. I was born legally blind with night blindness, but wasn’t diagnosed with RP until age 12. That’s a very difficult time to be different. Now, at 47, I’m so proud. I’m a university professor in Japan and I get to help other professors and teachers help students like me feel more comfortable and get what they need in their classes to make their journeys a little easier.
Yeah it makes me sad that so many abled people assume he lied to his UA-cam audience and was just pretending to be blind? Come on what video did you even watch. It's very predictable, sadly, that a disabled person would feel the need to lie about their disability in some circumstances though or hide it so they aren't treated unfairly. :(
As someone who has an invisible disability, this hit close to home. I haven’t had to lie on a job application because I can’t work anymore. I’m on disability, but if I could manage to work, I would absolutely say I have no disabilities. I love you two though. You’re so adorable together. I wish you the best and hope you have a wonderful joy filled life ahead of you both!
I am so glad I found your channel! I love your senses of humor, and Mr Maple! I can definitely appreciate keeping a disability secret from a job. I've got a disability myself and it seems like every job I am honest with, I don't get. And I used to be really hesitant to talk about my medical issues until a conversation with a nurse. Short version is that she claimed that research about my disease shouldn't be funded because it was so rare so who cares if they die and the funds should go to some more important disease. I realized at that point I didn't want to be silent anymore, being silent wasn't helping me, and in fact was probably hurting me in some respects because I wasn't advocating for what I needed since that would bring attention to my issue.
Sometimes as a person with disabilities myself, it can be denial that you are that disabled. Especially if it comes on gradually. You are perfect and wonderful ❤️
I also first thought "but he looks in the cam" and was confused when I saw his first video, so I can understand how people can judge him... But this is also a chance that it is not visible in some situation. Because people can also behave like your a stupid, or more disabled than you are, just because you look weird. The situation where you would be thinking "I am blind not stupid".
Had some stuff happen at home and now I’m stuck in my car with my cat for who knows how long. I’ve been trying to keep myself emotionally afloat by reading but now that it’s time to put the book down and eat, I felt reality crashing down on me. Obviously I came to UA-cam to rewatch all of y’all’s videos to get me through tonight. I really hope I find what you guys have some day. In the meantime though, It’s nice to learn what it looks like ❤
I love that these two always support one another and they always pretty much have a message, to pretty much love yourself. They also send a message that your disability does not define you! I love these two ❤
I was always told not to tell people about my disability, I always did though, one place flat out asked me if they get money for employing me and another I hadn't told but my contact was the blind society, a computer store that phoned up the blind guy at the front desk of the Blind society and argued with them at how a blind person cant use a computer.
I'm actively losing my vision. I was born with cataracts in 1974. At age 16, I developed glaucoma. All treatments have been exhausted, and my optic nerve is dying. I lose chunks of vision randomly. Im totally blind in one eye. Only light perception. And legally blind in the other with limited central vision. However, my eyes dont dilate so due to light conditions and swelling in the inner eye, sometimes I'm practically totally blind. I can relate to everything you said. There needs to be more education and awareness about what blind people go through. Thanks for being open and speaking up and educating. ❤
Paul, I am so sorry that you had that incredibly frightening experience walking home.... It's great that you can talk and even laugh about it now. It must have been quite traumatic but you are such an upbeat and positive person, an absolute delight. Stay safe and be well ya both. 🙏❤
Yesss Rogers Video!! What a throwback. And being blind in East East Hastings sounds extra challenging. Like you said, it is a neighbourhood with a lot of character but it is stricken with poverty and people with untreated mental illnesses. In all seriousness, I’m so sorry to hear that you had to lie to get a job. The unemployment rate is unfortunately so much higher in the blind population. I’m glad that there are more efforts now to be more inclusive and make accommodations for disabilities in workplaces but it’s still not perfect and stigma free.
The stigma for a lot of things is still rampant and "random" you just don't know who will discriminate you or not. I totally understand lying about something vulnerable like that but in terms of expectations, I feel like you were warrant that lie until it got dangerous. I know of people that were mistreated or discriminated because they can get away with it, and it sucks. Glad to see things are better now.
I am partially blind. 7 years ago my marriage ended and I had to get a job to support my children and self. I also had to lie in order to get a job quickly. I had to tell on myself after they asked everyone to get their forklift licenses. Thankfully I was good at my job and it didn't affect how they looked at me after finding out.
i've been an advocate for my illness since the 3rd grade so, i was always the person telling other disabled people to be proud + forthcoming + honest! until the first time i experienced outright, blatant ableism where i was fired for having my disability despite being MORE than capable + qualified!! 🤬😢 i can't even tell you how much it hurt. so, i 10000% get it now! + even though i'm still proud + choose disclosure 99% of the time as long as it's safe, i feel like it's every disabled person's choice if + when to disclose (if theyre privileged enough to have the option). i'm just saying, i get it Paul! ❤ + thanks for sharing this story + for being such a great advocate! 🖤✊🏾♿
I have an “invisible disability” meaning that I my physical body looks “normal” on the outside. I would lie about not having it to be able to get jobs and opportunities until I realized that it made my disability worse. Stress really aggravates my disability and I become bed bound for days. One day I realized a good job or school opportunity is not worth putting my health in danger. I only have one body and if this is what God gave me then might as well make the best of a kinda crappy situation. Stay strong everyone! 💕
I still "lie" on it (well, don't tell) when I can here, because I like to be treated like everyone else. People were mostly nice with me when I still worked "being there" (I now work remotely from home, which let me hide it), but... it could make the relationship weird. Like I did a bad job and people don't tell me because I am disabled and they have pity. I like that, when people think I am doing a good job here, they say that not knowing I am disabled, meaning they are honest, and not saying that because of pity. (I don't put anyone in danger, I adjust to my needs, I am just lucky that I don't have to give a reason to my job for that, could me family matters, or anything, they don't care, I can adjust my hours, they don't need to know if this is medical issue or what, as long as they know when I can be there, and I do it (so they can count on me), and I do the job, that all what matters). And yes, it gives me more work to compensate my disability, but I like to be able to me 'as anyone else". I also don't tell people who don't need to know because they can judge me very hard/then will only see that in me, and not "me". But if my disability implies things I can't do, I often have to say it, because saying "I can't do that" but not telling why is usually worst.
Oh Glad for the comments about the descriptions-- it's actually what I expected I don't take most titles seriously anyway, especially with all the shorts I've seen, _but_ I figured if it was true, then it was about a one-time situation. And it is. I hope no one sees this 13hr before premiere and leaves assuming they mean in general-- though I think it'd mean they don't know you guys well
8:49 “and it shocked me, I dropped my umbrella” idk why but this cracked me up, it just sounds like the most British thing ever said by a Canadian 😆 You 2 are great, I only found you a few days ago but I’m addicted already, you’re both so lovely!
I feel sorry for him. I know how hard it is for people with sight loss to get a job but thanks to guide dogs like Maple, he can get a job! Since there are blind people here in the UK who are blind who work in the radio and TV sector.
Hearing your story meant so much to me. I also have RP, and I was walking out of a building on campus one night. At this point, I didn't think my RP affected my vision, but later realized that I had trouble seeing at night. Anyway, walking down the stairs from the building on campus, I walked off the stairs before I reached the bottom and I fell on my face down to the concrete. When I got back to the dorm, I didn't want to let the other guys know that I had a disability, so I told him I was mugged by someone. For years and years after that incident, I felt so stupid for not just telling the truth. You helped me to realize that I'm not the only person that tried to hide my disability.
This just proves that you are such a survivor! I just went through a round of interviews with different companies (got a new job in the end!) and especially when looking for a job, little lies are sometimes unavoidable. Well, maybe yours wasn't that little but one is probably nearly never 100 % honest in the interviews. (For example "so tell me why this company?" I'd always go straight into how amazing the company is, what a great role it is for my career but honestly: I need more money and I don't like my current place and the role they offer sounds like a nice one! But of course I'd never say that ;) ) So don't feel bad about it ;)
I’ve been a silent follower for some time and I’d like to thank you both for teaching me a much needed lesson on love and respect just by being yourselves. Thank you.
I've learnt so much from Paul about blind people. I've learnt more from Mathew how to prank the blind. I learnt from Mr Maple how to be an accomplice to pranking the blind. Jokes aside, you 3 are amazing. I love the positivity, the awareness, highs, and lows of your journeys. Most of all, I love the laughter. I wish your little family success, and no matter what, your future is fulfilled with joy. Thank you both to sharing your experiences... but also Paul is my favourite after Mr Maple.... I'm joking you are all amazing ❤ Mr Maple deserves extra treat.
My last boyfriend was blind and he had a great attitude about it. We were able to laugh about things like, what are you blind?! Actually as time went on I had totally forgot he had a vision impairment at all. I have amblyopia (lazy eye) so a lot of my vision is lost in that eye. I hope you keep your positive attitude and laugh frequently ❤
I absolutely love Paul’s laugh. It is so full of joy. The entire reason why I follow this channel is that I 1. Love their pranking 2. Love Paul’s laugh (especially when he says “Matthew!!” Lol
I can relate to this. I st arted having my own vision issues 2 1/2 years ago. Although I haven't had to lie to get a job since Im at the same job I was at when the issue started I was terrified of telling my boss about my vision issues because I thought I would be seen as not worthy of advancement, but I had to come clean because the issue advanced to the level it wouldn't be safe for me to drive and part of my position required me to sometimes drive to remote locations. Luckily this didn't effect me at all because I did get a promotion recently. I still find it a little difficult to admit that I have a visual disability but has been required to explain why i need to make the mouse cursor larger and different color, use magnifier, and/or invert colors on computer screens when I am required to assist other on their computer. It is getting a bit easier now.
I have vision issues too. I've worn bifocals since my 20s and STILL don't see clearly. (I've been told I have cataracts, but no one will fix them until I'm 60. I'm 45.) When I remote into people's computers, I always choose the one that lets me change how their screen is displayed. It also helps that I've been doing this long enough I don't need to CLEARLY see what their screen is saying 90% of the time.
@@andreacook7431Have you received other opinions? It seems strange that you need to wait that long for what seems to be a simple routine procedure. For myself i have gotten cataracts from taking steroid eye drop medications over the past two years, currently I can't see at all from left eye because my vision is so blurred. I have a surgery scheduled next month which hopefully will go well but if inflammation is back at my pre-op appointment then that will be cancelled.
I work in the library and dealt with many people with various challenges. It is no problem to mention them and might surprise you how helpful people can be. I found out I am really good at communicating with deaf, or ESL folk. One just has to ask for a teeny bit of help.
I love that you mimic each other’s body language… especially because Paul is blind, it would be totally cute if Paul was sighted.. but.. yall are just flipping adorable and make me smile and happy 😊
Yes I fell the same way! I try to cover over my disability because it is unseen. I have lied and tell people I have something they will understand, like heart disease!
It is a tricky thing.I prefer to let the manager know and not the recruiter. Recruiters are terrible when it comes to disclosing my disability because I would add the accommodation that is FREE. it doesn’t matter what I say, I never hear back from them. I was completely honest about my disability..I’m trying to better myself and haven’t been given a chance..yet.💔
I have two invisible disabilities (autism and adhd) so I can relate to the "need" to lie about a disability however mine are easier to cover up than Paul's. People rarely believe me anyway when I tell them that I'm autistic and have adhd because I am woman and I don't "look" autistic and adhd, I have no idea what that would even look like tbh.
I am in high school and trying to get testing for adhd I am so happy my mom supports me but I’m scared that the people doing the testing won’t because I have been masking since I was really little and I do good in school. But I’m also worried if I start unmasking, then people will say I’m faking.
A friend's son was diagnosed with Autism as a toddler. She didn't believe it because "he talks and loves to cuddle". She thought all people with Autism were non-vocal and couldn't stand physical contact. People don't know what they don't know.
I have 2 autistic boys and 1 of them makes unique noises and does a lot of stimming so he appears to have some type of special need to many ppl. My other boy doesnt do a lot of stims that are so obvious and seems like a picky/sensitive kid to most. They are like night and day. However both have issues with sleep and eating.
Honestly, sometimes I forget to inform people, because I’ve been completely blind in my left eye since I was 6 (glaucoma, couldn’t control the pressure, and so they ended up needing to "put the eye to sleep") and aphakic in my right eye (so, no lens, so I can see without glasses, but it’s all blurs). I’ve been compensating for long enough, that I forget to mention "oh, hey 👋, my vision isn’t great," more than I remember. To the point that I was literally making out with a girl, and we stopped to gaze lovingly at each other, and my brain thought that was a great time to inform her. She was like, yeah, I noticed - you barely have a pupil, so I figured you probably weren’t seeing great out of that eye. …and, back to making out. But do I remember to mention it when, say, I’m in hospital? Rarely. I did this time, though, and between that, and being neurodivergent (hard to hide, because I was barely verbal when I was in Emerg), and having mobility issues (oh EDS, thanks for all the joint pain), I actually ended up in a private room, and it’s larger than the other private rooms. So, I think telling them this time around made them actually think about where they were putting me. But, yeah, after 32 years of seeing through just one eye, I still forget that that’s not normal. 🏳️🌈Sasha🏳️🌈
I laughed so hard when Paul said the guy came up to him beating his chest saying “You want to fight!” 😂😂 I absolutely love you guys!! The love you two have for each other is beautiful!!
You two are adorable, you popped up on my home page and I thought I'd take a look. So sad that you felt like you couldn't tell the truth, but very happy you were forgiven by both your job and Matthew of course. I hope one day in the near future a cure might come along. Thank you for sharing your story. Happy Christmas 🎄
I get it Paul in a different perspective of being chronically ill. I have multiple autoimmune illnesses that come with a plethora of varying symptoms. I often ‘lie’ when it comes to my career because I don’t want to be judged or thought as less than or not as capable. Of course I am limited but I work around those challenges because I love what I do. I commend you for all you’ve gone through will your vision and still go through. I’m sure those were challenging times trying to navigate what you wanted life to be for yourself. Much love from RI! 🌸 I have a job interview tomorrow and am always terrified of this process. I’m currently a very part time nanny. But am interviewing for care giver with 88 year old stroke survivor. I don’t want to be completely honest about everything 😩 though I won’t lie, I won’t be telling my whole story tomorrow.
I know a bit ( but only a bit) about your situation. I'm older and retired but am still teaching, but only because all my program's classes were moved online after the pandemic. I have developed mobility issues and have other diabetes related illnesses that have really slowed me down. But i haven't told anyone where I teach, not administration, faculty or students, for exactly the reasons you discussed. It's a hard position to be in.
Am I the only one who understands from the title that Paul lied to someone that he isn't blind? It didn't cross my mind to think that he was fakeing a blindness.
I’ve been blind in one eye since birth. Fortunately, I have great vision in the other, but I also have a neuromuscular weakness that led to orthopedic issues and surgeries. My disability, aside from the blindness, is very obvious. In my profession (I’m an attorney), I have a constant fear of how not only clients, but also judges and other attorneys, will perceive me. Thank you for sharing your experiences. You are such treasures. ❤️
I’m hard of hearing and I have hidden it from people who don’t know me well. I’ve felt like hiding it would help me be treated better than if I was up front about it. Feel like a lot of people in the disabled community have done so.
When I started my volunteering year at a special school I nearly lost my job because of my epilepsy. The medical officer examining me was convinced that letting me near children would be child endangerment. She made me miss my first day of work and the only reason I got to keep it was because my neurologist stepped up and told her she'd take full responsibility if a child got hurt through my disability. I had been seizure free for about 3 to 4 years at that time and was actually allowed to drive a car. Anyways apparently disabled people are a danger to all children. Yay.
I've told my employer about my learning disability and they are not understanding that not all disabilities are visible Update they fired me 1/4/24 due to having only 94%QA and not high enough cases per hour
Same. I once requested an ergonomic keyboard due to arthritis. My (new) manager smiled so condescendingly, looked at my hands, and asked for my doctor's note in a way that clearly said she didn't believe me. I hate her so much to this day.
Similar. I developed RSI and had back and neck pain (work and an accident related) and asked for a more ergonomic chair. Was told no and that I needed a diagnosis before it would be considered. Was at least a year’s wait to get relevant tests so I lost my job (and home and everything). It got worse because I kept trying to retrain in different things and pushing through the pain, so haven’t worked since and now have a f***ed up body. I wouldn’t lie these days, if a company won’t make a job accessible to employees they won’t treat them right in any other respect.
@@shawnsmith8558emoloyemnt paralegal here…its not! At least not in us. I just realized today these guys are canadian! You do NOT have to disclose any disablity when you apply or interview. In fact, in many states (my state colorado being one) its illegal for an employer to ask. And upon being hired, they cant fire you for the disablity and MUST make accomidations. Including keyboards ;) This is just sad to realize how many people with disabilities feel pressure to conform. Hugs to you all!
I really understand, Paul. I have relapsing/remitting MS. I do well most of the time, but when I relapse & have symptoms, I do not do well. I did disclose to my employer & got support when I needed it. But I think I often ignored symptoms at times so that no one would think I couldn’t “keep up.”
People accuse disabled people of not being disabled more often than people realize. Like having a disability is some fun club or something. It's infuriating and sad all at the same time.
You guys are adorable. I only just discovered you and I love your sense of humour, both of you, your positive attitude to your disability. You immediately put a smile on my sad face and you inspire me with with my own disability. I am in England but wish I could meet you ! Your videos are hilarious and Mr Maple is gorgeous. The title of this video could be a bit misleading so I'm glad it's not what it suggests
I totally agree and understand because I’m disabled and have a few,and it’s hard to accept your disabilities that you have,but the best thing to do is own it and accept it and no your owning it now with both of you being so cute and beautiful and Matthew is a guy who you can see cares for you sooooo much ❤
I have very acute/severe asthma that I “lie” about all the time. Having asthma is unfortunately common enough that people don’t really take it seriously, so I just have learned that people think I’m exaggerating if I’m being completely honest about my asthma being a life threatening disability. It’s a social catch 22 where I’m considered a whiny drama queen if I’m trying to be transparent, or I’m dangerously refusing to care about my health if I don’t!
Without having seen the video, I can already imagine why he did that. When I was looking for a job in 2010, after a year of rejections, a potential employer wanted confirmation from my ophthalmologist that I could work on a computer instead of just increasing the font size.. And that was one of the largest telecommunications companies in Germany. I know it's a small thing compared to his experiences, but I've personally had a lot of bad experiences in my life when I've told people about my visual impairment and I'm not blind. Especially a lot of medical advice from people with full vision that I didn't ask for, like "Get better glasses" (6th grade math teacher) or "Get your eyes lasered." (other employer). If it was that easy, surely I would have done it wouldn't I? You're always judged by people with perfect vision, what they think, you can do and what you can't do and that's really frustrating and annoying.
I have a large amount of floaters in my vision and they move all the time. It's very disorienting because everything I look at is different every few seconds. A lot of the same things happen to me. I switched from decorating cakes to message therapy to adjust to my life now.
Like me. I did a lot of different things. I'm seeing with one eye (my brain puts my bad eye to sleep so I can have almost clear vision on my better eye) but also with my glasses it's only 70 till 80 % on my better eye. I wanted to work for a painting company in the office a few years ago and during the appointment the woman, who interviewed me, asked me after knowing how bad my eyes are, why am I here when I'm colorblind.😢 I said: "Excuse me, I'm not colorblind. I can see colors like you do." She refused to believe me.
Unfortunately in the dating world once a guy found out I'm using a power wheelchair part time like when going out.....they run for the hills. I don't even try dating any more cause it's so discouraging. Wish it was different but it's not and I found out the hard way.
Learning disability here! Im sorry that you had to lie just so you could get the job and be considered "normal". I consider lying or not saying anything about my disability, when I had to apply for multiple jobs at 18, and not telling them I am not confident with cashier(or doing anything math related). I know its not a mental illness or physical disability that is a problem 24/7, that its not as big as a issue once school is over, but IRL situations can just be as worse especially with no social skills, being shy and not knowing how/want to ask for help because you feel like you to have figure it out yourself and don't want to be a burden, anxiety, and not being confident and overthinking that I can't do it becuase I dont understand and I need more time and patience with similar stuff, which a lot of people dont have in general. I do stocker hours during school hours and I don't earn much, but I am a little comfortable with it. Only gets worse for me, it feels like.
For those who came first to the comments: It means Paul lied about his blindness saying "he wasn't blind" to get a job. He didn't lie to us, don't worry
Yes. He wouldn’t even have his White Cane 🦯 👨🦯, known Braille, Accessible Technology, or Guide Dog 🦮 with Him either. You can see that His eyes 👀 👁️ don’t look for much visual stimulation, other than His 10% of remaining Vision.
Thanks for clarifying👍
@@pyperhinkson8739 No problem!!
I honestly was so terrified for a moment. omg
Phew scared me for a second
I had to lie on job applications to get a job. I’m visibly disabled and the second I walked in the door for interviews they’d never take any onboarding documents and I’d never hear back.
For my first job I accidentally said I was disabled in a question and started crying in the video interview. My boss thankfully had a friend with my disability and fought management to employ me.
I'm really sorry on behalf of the human race for you having to deal with this ridiculous prejudice. I'm also really happy your first boss was so understanding. You deserve the best and if you have to lie on applications I support you. You do what you have to do
The fact that anyone has a need or feels a need to lie on an application makes me feel like we have failed as a species… there is way too much prejudice in this world and it’s just so wrong. I’m so glad you found a boss who would stand by you.
Its understandable to keep something like blindness a secret because of how society treats them for paul to be so proud now and open up about it makes us love him even more.
If anyone ever doubts Paul's blindness, just listen to the way he says retinitis pigmentosa. No-one without a chronic condition ever says it so clearly, quickly and confidently! 😁 😂
HAHA love this
Oh my god, that's so true, whenever I say the name of mine everyone just goes "????" 😂
@@AishaKyes Try slipping in silly words into it and see if anyone notices (like for Paul I'd go with something like retinitis pigtailtosa) and see how long it takes for people to spot it! 😁 😉
Guess Wilfred Brimley doesn’t really have diabeetus…
it's hardly a difficult thing to say 🙈
The fact that Paul even suggests diving into the street to save his assailant proves he’s an absolute SAINT
Honestly I don't blame you for any of this. I've lied about being disabled before (mostly when I was high-masking), because ableism is terrifying and sometimes dangerous. I think people shouldn't be too harshly judged when they lie about being abled for safety reasons.
Thats so sweet of your roommate to guide you through the phone! Its also a good idea for anyone that has to walk alone at night to be on the phone with someone making sure you get home safe
From what I grasp from the description - I'm so sorry this was necessary. I wish people with disabilities, or in this case blindness, had more options. I know from friends of my father that are blind how much they are judged and told they can't do it, even if they very much could. Of course I don't know the actual contents of the video yet since the premiere is only in 13 hours, so I don't know the actual reason you had to lie, but I can imagine it was and still can be very difficult. It's sad that people have to lie just to get a job and to be accepted by others. I hope things have gotten easier and if I understood correctly in past shorts and videos Paul is now an artist, which I am very proud of you. I am glad you got to do something you love, despite being blind. You're amazing, don't ever give up on yourself. ❤
❤thank you so much❤
I'm legally blind and there are definately not enough resources or jobs. I am able to hide my blindness to a certain degree and people automatically think I am faking. Unfortunately a lot of people view blindness as a lightswitch. Either you are all the way blind or you are not. It's frustrating.
that's very hard, i haven't thought about that😢
@@dijonwhitmore171I always joke that I feel like I'm blind bc if I take my glasses off, and hold my hand out at arms length, I can't see my fingertips clearly, they're all blurry.
Maybe the joke was on me all along...
@allisonhunter1063 I can't see mine even at half arms length.
Paul, as I watch Matthew looking at you when you speak, he has such a love for you that one can only dream of having. Wow! The two of you show such a beautiful relationship! Thank you❣️
Wow, thank you
I love their connection and relationship. It shines in their videos. So beautiful to know real love can be found
I haven't lied about having bowel cancer because it means I have issues with needing to use the toilet a lot, which ultimately means I would have an accident if I didn't go there fast enough. The fear of actually having a public incident is bigger than people noticing I wear pads. I think I'd even flash my disability card to jump the queue in front of the ladies if it were urgent. It's not like we chose our illnesses. We just gotta make the most of life with them!
I love how you inspire others Paul. Thanks for this. You're awesome and you two as a couple are the cutest. Best friends and life partners. And a hurrah to the penguins and laughter ❤
Bravo for your health !
I feel this. There are times I have to hide the fact I am disabled, because I don't look disabled. for many people, disabled people is still a new thing. it's like for them "you're either visible disabled or i recognize you as disabled", and not the other way around.
such a whacky world.
Oh man my heart dropped when I read the title, thank you guys for making it more clear.
I nearly had a heart attack until I read the description holy crap 😂
OMG Matthew and Paul are the cutest couple ever! I watch their shorts a lot, but this is the first full-length video of theirs that I've seen. All the little touches and their synchronized movements just telegraph how deeply in love they are, and I am living for it. ❤
Wow, thank you!
same. theyre so sweet
Came to say the same thing 😍 They are so super cute, I wish I’d have a relationship like that 😍❤️
Thank you for guiding me to the description I literally freaked out
I really feel for Paul with this story because I have lied by omitting so many times about my hearing and Dyslexia. I started having hearing loss problems in 6th grade and I already had a hard time reading. School was always hard for me and continued to get harder. Since I was picked on so much I just tried to pretend like I was fine and hide it as much as possible. When I started working everything just got worse. I would apologize all the time. It was so embarrassing!! Finally a friend pointed out that I should just own it and stop apologizing because I did nothing wrong. The situation is what it is. Now I'm 100% deaf and hear with Cochlear implants. The fear of rejection is still there but I own it. This is who I am. Like me or not
I have a learning disability and I totally get where Paul is coming from. I hid mine as well because I was bullied in school for it. I would not tell jobs because I did not want to be discriminated against to get the job (it's happened before so I quit telling) even if I did tell a manager at work sometimes they would talk to me as if I was a complete moron and talk really slow. It was humiliating and angering. I hadva manager get mad that she had to make accommodations for me from the manager higher up. She told everyone in the department about my disability and yelled at me made me cry. I'm better about telling about my learning disability now but careful who I tell it to.
Telling everyone you work with could be a HIIPA violation. I'm so sorry that happened to you. We all learn at different rates, sometimes in different ways. Don't let that jerk stop you from trying. 😊
Even from just reading your posts title, I knew you didn't mean Paul lied to you about being blind. That's one of the things we love about you guys, your open honesty with each other. I haven't watched the post yet, just had to comment. 😂❤.
Thanks for that
9:27 Paul- "did anyone see that?! I won a fight! I didn't... see it; but I bet it was cool!"
😂💚
I’m nearing blindness as well and when I read the title I immediately knew what Paul was going to say. In my younger years I did the same thing. I have seen other blind UA-camrs tell similar stories and it makes me happy to know I wasn’t the only poser.🤗
I think it's part of the journey toward acceptance, and nothing to be ashamed of. Thank you for sharing a little of your own story!!
Journey is exactly what it is. I was born legally blind with night blindness, but wasn’t diagnosed with RP until age 12. That’s a very difficult time to be different. Now, at 47, I’m so proud. I’m a university professor in Japan and I get to help other professors and teachers help students like me feel more comfortable and get what they need in their classes to make their journeys a little easier.
Yeah it makes me sad that so many abled people assume he lied to his UA-cam audience and was just pretending to be blind? Come on what video did you even watch. It's very predictable, sadly, that a disabled person would feel the need to lie about their disability in some circumstances though or hide it so they aren't treated unfairly. :(
As someone who has an invisible disability, this hit close to home. I haven’t had to lie on a job application because I can’t work anymore. I’m on disability, but if I could manage to work, I would absolutely say I have no disabilities.
I love you two though. You’re so adorable together. I wish you the best and hope you have a wonderful joy filled life ahead of you both!
I am so glad I found your channel! I love your senses of humor, and Mr Maple!
I can definitely appreciate keeping a disability secret from a job. I've got a disability myself and it seems like every job I am honest with, I don't get. And I used to be really hesitant to talk about my medical issues until a conversation with a nurse. Short version is that she claimed that research about my disease shouldn't be funded because it was so rare so who cares if they die and the funds should go to some more important disease. I realized at that point I didn't want to be silent anymore, being silent wasn't helping me, and in fact was probably hurting me in some respects because I wasn't advocating for what I needed since that would bring attention to my issue.
Sometimes as a person with disabilities myself, it can be denial that you are that disabled. Especially if it comes on gradually. You are perfect and wonderful ❤️
I also first thought "but he looks in the cam" and was confused when I saw his first video, so I can understand how people can judge him... But this is also a chance that it is not visible in some situation.
Because people can also behave like your a stupid, or more disabled than you are, just because you look weird. The situation where you would be thinking "I am blind not stupid".
Had some stuff happen at home and now I’m stuck in my car with my cat for who knows how long. I’ve been trying to keep myself emotionally afloat by reading but now that it’s time to put the book down and eat, I felt reality crashing down on me. Obviously I came to UA-cam to rewatch all of y’all’s videos to get me through tonight. I really hope I find what you guys have some day. In the meantime though, It’s nice to learn what it looks like ❤
Paul is a great story teller, I love to hear him! Love you guys! ❤
He should be a writer immediately 💕
I love that these two always support one another and they always pretty much have a message, to pretty much love yourself. They also send a message that your disability does not define you! I love these two ❤
I appreciate you two sharing your stories!
Thanks for watching!
I was always told not to tell people about my disability, I always did though, one place flat out asked me if they get money for employing me and another I hadn't told but my contact was the blind society, a computer store that phoned up the blind guy at the front desk of the Blind society and argued with them at how a blind person cant use a computer.
I'm actively losing my vision. I was born with cataracts in 1974. At age 16, I developed glaucoma. All treatments have been exhausted, and my optic nerve is dying. I lose chunks of vision randomly. Im totally blind in one eye. Only light perception. And legally blind in the other with limited central vision. However, my eyes dont dilate so due to light conditions and swelling in the inner eye, sometimes I'm practically totally blind. I can relate to everything you said. There needs to be more education and awareness about what blind people go through. Thanks for being open and speaking up and educating. ❤
Paul, I am so sorry that you had that incredibly frightening experience walking home.... It's great that you can talk and even laugh about it now. It must have been quite traumatic but you are such an upbeat and positive person, an absolute delight. Stay safe and be well ya both. 🙏❤
It was definitely scary!
I love the sneeze. The warning, the execution, and the succinct "continue" afterward. How professional, and yet somehow humorous.
Yesss Rogers Video!! What a throwback. And being blind in East East Hastings sounds extra challenging. Like you said, it is a neighbourhood with a lot of character but it is stricken with poverty and people with untreated mental illnesses. In all seriousness, I’m so sorry to hear that you had to lie to get a job. The unemployment rate is unfortunately so much higher in the blind population. I’m glad that there are more efforts now to be more inclusive and make accommodations for disabilities in workplaces but it’s still not perfect and stigma free.
The stigma for a lot of things is still rampant and "random" you just don't know who will discriminate you or not. I totally understand lying about something vulnerable like that but in terms of expectations, I feel like you were warrant that lie until it got dangerous. I know of people that were mistreated or discriminated because they can get away with it, and it sucks. Glad to see things are better now.
That story was harrowing! I'm so happy you're ok! I'm glad your boss was supportive and switched your hours.
Me too!
Everyone, PLEASE read the description for more information ℹ️.
Yes
I am partially blind. 7 years ago my marriage ended and I had to get a job to support my children and self. I also had to lie in order to get a job quickly. I had to tell on myself after they asked everyone to get their forklift licenses. Thankfully I was good at my job and it didn't affect how they looked at me after finding out.
I don't know whose smile I love more. You bring out all the smiles in me. As much as I love them, the stories are secondary.
i've been an advocate for my illness since the 3rd grade so, i was always the person telling other disabled people to be proud + forthcoming + honest!
until the first time i experienced outright, blatant ableism where i was fired for having my disability despite being MORE than capable + qualified!! 🤬😢 i can't even tell you how much it hurt.
so, i 10000% get it now! + even though i'm still proud + choose disclosure 99% of the time as long as it's safe, i feel like it's every disabled person's choice if + when to disclose (if theyre privileged enough to have the option).
i'm just saying, i get it Paul! ❤
+ thanks for sharing this story + for being such a great advocate! 🖤✊🏾♿
I have an “invisible disability” meaning that I my physical body looks “normal” on the outside. I would lie about not having it to be able to get jobs and opportunities until I realized that it made my disability worse. Stress really aggravates my disability and I become bed bound for days. One day I realized a good job or school opportunity is not worth putting my health in danger. I only have one body and if this is what God gave me then might as well make the best of a kinda crappy situation. Stay strong everyone! 💕
I still "lie" on it (well, don't tell) when I can here, because I like to be treated like everyone else. People were mostly nice with me when I still worked "being there" (I now work remotely from home, which let me hide it), but... it could make the relationship weird. Like I did a bad job and people don't tell me because I am disabled and they have pity.
I like that, when people think I am doing a good job here, they say that not knowing I am disabled, meaning they are honest, and not saying that because of pity.
(I don't put anyone in danger, I adjust to my needs, I am just lucky that I don't have to give a reason to my job for that, could me family matters, or anything, they don't care, I can adjust my hours, they don't need to know if this is medical issue or what, as long as they know when I can be there, and I do it (so they can count on me), and I do the job, that all what matters).
And yes, it gives me more work to compensate my disability, but I like to be able to me 'as anyone else".
I also don't tell people who don't need to know because they can judge me very hard/then will only see that in me, and not "me".
But if my disability implies things I can't do, I often have to say it, because saying "I can't do that" but not telling why is usually worst.
Oh
Glad for the comments about the descriptions-- it's actually what I expected
I don't take most titles seriously anyway, especially with all the shorts I've seen, _but_ I figured if it was true, then it was about a one-time situation.
And it is.
I hope no one sees this 13hr before premiere and leaves assuming they mean in general-- though I think it'd mean they don't know you guys well
8:49 “and it shocked me, I dropped my umbrella” idk why but this cracked me up, it just sounds like the most British thing ever said by a Canadian 😆 You 2 are great, I only found you a few days ago but I’m addicted already, you’re both so lovely!
😁
I feel sorry for him. I know how hard it is for people with sight loss to get a job but thanks to guide dogs like Maple, he can get a job! Since there are blind people here in the UK who are blind who work in the radio and TV sector.
Thanks for being you guys ❤❤❤❤
Our pleasure!
Guys he lied about being NOT blind, read the description
I learn a lot about living with blindness from you guys. Thanks for educating me. Keep up the positivity!
Thank you! Will do!
Hearing your story meant so much to me. I also have RP, and I was walking out of a building on campus one night. At this point, I didn't think my RP affected my vision, but later realized that I had trouble seeing at night. Anyway, walking down the stairs from the building on campus, I walked off the stairs before I reached the bottom and I fell on my face down to the concrete. When I got back to the dorm, I didn't want to let the other guys know that I had a disability, so I told him I was mugged by someone. For years and years after that incident, I felt so stupid for not just telling the truth. You helped me to realize that I'm not the only person that tried to hide my disability.
This just proves that you are such a survivor! I just went through a round of interviews with different companies (got a new job in the end!) and especially when looking for a job, little lies are sometimes unavoidable. Well, maybe yours wasn't that little but one is probably nearly never 100 % honest in the interviews. (For example "so tell me why this company?" I'd always go straight into how amazing the company is, what a great role it is for my career but honestly: I need more money and I don't like my current place and the role they offer sounds like a nice one! But of course I'd never say that ;) ) So don't feel bad about it ;)
THANK YOU SO MUCH
I’ve been a silent follower for some time and I’d like to thank you both for teaching me a much needed lesson on love and respect just by being yourselves. Thank you.
Our pleasure!
I've learnt so much from Paul about blind people. I've learnt more from Mathew how to prank the blind. I learnt from Mr Maple how to be an accomplice to pranking the blind. Jokes aside, you 3 are amazing. I love the positivity, the awareness, highs, and lows of your journeys. Most of all, I love the laughter. I wish your little family success, and no matter what, your future is fulfilled with joy. Thank you both to sharing your experiences... but also Paul is my favourite after Mr Maple.... I'm joking you are all amazing ❤ Mr Maple deserves extra treat.
My last boyfriend was blind and he had a great attitude about it. We were able to laugh about things like, what are you blind?! Actually as time went on I had totally forgot he had a vision impairment at all.
I have amblyopia (lazy eye) so a lot of my vision is lost in that eye.
I hope you keep your positive attitude and laugh frequently ❤
I absolutely love Paul’s laugh. It is so full of joy. The entire reason why I follow this channel is that I
1. Love their pranking
2. Love Paul’s laugh (especially when he says “Matthew!!” Lol
I can relate to this. I st arted having my own vision issues 2 1/2 years ago. Although I haven't had to lie to get a job since Im at the same job I was at when the issue started I was terrified of telling my boss about my vision issues because I thought I would be seen as not worthy of advancement, but I had to come clean because the issue advanced to the level it wouldn't be safe for me to drive and part of my position required me to sometimes drive to remote locations. Luckily this didn't effect me at all because I did get a promotion recently.
I still find it a little difficult to admit that I have a visual disability but has been required to explain why i need to make the mouse cursor larger and different color, use magnifier, and/or invert colors on computer screens when I am required to assist other on their computer. It is getting a bit easier now.
I have vision issues too. I've worn bifocals since my 20s and STILL don't see clearly. (I've been told I have cataracts, but no one will fix them until I'm 60. I'm 45.)
When I remote into people's computers, I always choose the one that lets me change how their screen is displayed. It also helps that I've been doing this long enough I don't need to CLEARLY see what their screen is saying 90% of the time.
@@andreacook7431Have you received other opinions? It seems strange that you need to wait that long for what seems to be a simple routine procedure.
For myself i have gotten cataracts from taking steroid eye drop medications over the past two years, currently I can't see at all from left eye because my vision is so blurred. I have a surgery scheduled next month which hopefully will go well but if inflammation is back at my pre-op appointment then that will be cancelled.
Hearing these 2 laugh together brings me so much joy ❤
I work in the library and dealt with many people with various challenges. It is no problem to mention them and might surprise you how helpful people can be. I found out I am really good at communicating with deaf, or ESL folk. One just has to ask for a teeny bit of help.
Guys you scared me!! I'm glad you decided to be open and honest about this
Held at needlepoint 😂 fellow canadian here love watching you guys!
I’m honestly so glad Paul is ok, things could’ve been worst
You tell hilariously engaging stories and are ridiculously happy. Thank you.
I love that you mimic each other’s body language… especially because Paul is blind, it would be totally cute if Paul was sighted.. but.. yall are just flipping adorable and make me smile and happy
😊
As a deaf person, yep, we’ve all been there ❤
Yes I fell the same way! I try to cover over my disability because it is unseen. I have lied and tell people I have something they will understand, like heart disease!
I was so scared for Paul while at the same time laughing at the crazyness of the story. Very 'I was young' kind of story too😂
YES! It was a crazy moment... I forgot to mention that I didn't even report it to the police!! I was just like... yep, THAT happened.
It is a tricky thing.I prefer to let the manager know and not the recruiter. Recruiters are terrible when it comes to disclosing my disability because I would add the accommodation that is FREE. it doesn’t matter what I say, I never hear back from them. I was completely honest about my disability..I’m trying to better myself and haven’t been given a chance..yet.💔
I have two invisible disabilities (autism and adhd) so I can relate to the "need" to lie about a disability however mine are easier to cover up than Paul's. People rarely believe me anyway when I tell them that I'm autistic and have adhd because I am woman and I don't "look" autistic and adhd, I have no idea what that would even look like tbh.
Oh dont you know all autistic people and people w adhd are seven year old white boys? (/j obviously)
I am in high school and trying to get testing for adhd I am so happy my mom supports me but I’m scared that the people doing the testing won’t because I have been masking since I was really little and I do good in school. But I’m also worried if I start unmasking, then people will say I’m faking.
A friend's son was diagnosed with Autism as a toddler. She didn't believe it because "he talks and loves to cuddle". She thought all people with Autism were non-vocal and couldn't stand physical contact. People don't know what they don't know.
I have 2 autistic boys and 1 of them makes unique noises and does a lot of stimming so he appears to have some type of special need to many ppl. My other boy doesnt do a lot of stims that are so obvious and seems like a picky/sensitive kid to most. They are like night and day. However both have issues with sleep and eating.
SO sweet of you guys to love and respond to my comment.
Love your videos and keep up the good work!!
Margaret from Canada
Of course!!
Honestly, sometimes I forget to inform people, because I’ve been completely blind in my left eye since I was 6 (glaucoma, couldn’t control the pressure, and so they ended up needing to "put the eye to sleep") and aphakic in my right eye (so, no lens, so I can see without glasses, but it’s all blurs).
I’ve been compensating for long enough, that I forget to mention "oh, hey 👋, my vision isn’t great," more than I remember. To the point that I was literally making out with a girl, and we stopped to gaze lovingly at each other, and my brain thought that was a great time to inform her. She was like, yeah, I noticed - you barely have a pupil, so I figured you probably weren’t seeing great out of that eye. …and, back to making out.
But do I remember to mention it when, say, I’m in hospital? Rarely. I did this time, though, and between that, and being neurodivergent (hard to hide, because I was barely verbal when I was in Emerg), and having mobility issues (oh EDS, thanks for all the joint pain), I actually ended up in a private room, and it’s larger than the other private rooms. So, I think telling them this time around made them actually think about where they were putting me.
But, yeah, after 32 years of seeing through just one eye, I still forget that that’s not normal.
🏳️🌈Sasha🏳️🌈
Yes, I tried to get to the first date without disclosing my MS. So they see me functioning NOW...😅
I laughed so hard when Paul said the guy came up to him beating his chest saying “You want to fight!” 😂😂 I absolutely love you guys!! The love you two have for each other is beautiful!!
You two are adorable, you popped up on my home page and I thought I'd take a look. So sad that you felt like you couldn't tell the truth, but very happy you were forgiven by both your job and Matthew of course. I hope one day in the near future a cure might come along. Thank you for sharing your story. Happy Christmas 🎄
I get it Paul in a different perspective of being chronically ill. I have multiple autoimmune illnesses that come with a plethora of varying symptoms. I often ‘lie’ when it comes to my career because I don’t want to be judged or thought as less than or not as capable. Of course I am limited but I work around those challenges because I love what I do. I commend you for all you’ve gone through will your vision and still go through. I’m sure those were challenging times trying to navigate what you wanted life to be for yourself. Much love from RI! 🌸
I have a job interview tomorrow and am always terrified of this process. I’m currently a very part time nanny. But am interviewing for care giver with 88 year old stroke survivor. I don’t want to be completely honest about everything 😩 though I won’t lie, I won’t be telling my whole story tomorrow.
Sending you good vibes for your job interview! You got this!!
@@MatthewandPaulOfficial Thank you! I got the offer this morning!
I know a bit ( but only a bit) about your situation. I'm older and retired but am still teaching, but only because all my program's classes were moved online after the pandemic. I have developed mobility issues and have other diabetes related illnesses that have really slowed me down. But i haven't told anyone where I teach, not administration, faculty or students, for exactly the reasons you discussed. It's a hard position to be in.
I want to have Pauls personality. Well educated, always good words, no offense, so much smiling and happiness. You seem real and happy with yourself
Am I the only one who understands from the title that Paul lied to someone that he isn't blind? It didn't cross my mind to think that he was fakeing a blindness.
I’ve been blind in one eye since birth. Fortunately, I have great vision in the other, but I also have a neuromuscular weakness that led to orthopedic issues and surgeries. My disability, aside from the blindness, is very obvious. In my profession (I’m an attorney), I have a constant fear of how not only clients, but also judges and other attorneys, will perceive me.
Thank you for sharing your experiences. You are such treasures. ❤️
I knew he lied about not being able to see because sometimes people judge. It's alright Pauly ❤. Don't worry. Matthew has your back always ❤❤❤
I’m hard of hearing and I have hidden it from people who don’t know me well. I’ve felt like hiding it would help me be treated better than if I was up front about it. Feel like a lot of people in the disabled community have done so.
Relationship goals...two awesome individuals, the most adorable couple. Love you both and love how you love each other. ❤
Read the description, folks.
Yes 👍
This needs to be pinned tbh
When I started my volunteering year at a special school I nearly lost my job because of my epilepsy. The medical officer examining me was convinced that letting me near children would be child endangerment. She made me miss my first day of work and the only reason I got to keep it was because my neurologist stepped up and told her she'd take full responsibility if a child got hurt through my disability. I had been seizure free for about 3 to 4 years at that time and was actually allowed to drive a car. Anyways apparently disabled people are a danger to all children. Yay.
I've told my employer about my learning disability and they are not understanding that not all disabilities are visible
Update they fired me 1/4/24 due to having only 94%QA and not high enough cases per hour
Same. I once requested an ergonomic keyboard due to arthritis. My (new) manager smiled so condescendingly, looked at my hands, and asked for my doctor's note in a way that clearly said she didn't believe me.
I hate her so much to this day.
@@SewardWriterHow is that legal?
@@shawnsmith8558 I don't know. But apparently, it is. Without a doctor's note, I was powerless.
Similar. I developed RSI and had back and neck pain (work and an accident related) and asked for a more ergonomic chair. Was told no and that I needed a diagnosis before it would be considered. Was at least a year’s wait to get relevant tests so I lost my job (and home and everything). It got worse because I kept trying to retrain in different things and pushing through the pain, so haven’t worked since and now have a f***ed up body. I wouldn’t lie these days, if a company won’t make a job accessible to employees they won’t treat them right in any other respect.
@@shawnsmith8558emoloyemnt paralegal here…its not! At least not in us. I just realized today these guys are canadian!
You do NOT have to disclose any disablity when you apply or interview. In fact, in many states (my state colorado being one) its illegal for an employer to ask. And upon being hired, they cant fire you for the disablity and MUST make accomidations. Including keyboards ;)
This is just sad to realize how many people with disabilities feel pressure to conform. Hugs to you all!
I really understand, Paul. I have relapsing/remitting MS. I do well most of the time, but when I relapse & have symptoms, I do not do well. I did disclose to my employer & got support when I needed it. But I think I often ignored symptoms at times so that no one would think I couldn’t “keep up.”
People accuse disabled people of not being disabled more often than people realize. Like having a disability is some fun club or something. It's infuriating and sad all at the same time.
You guys are adorable. I only just discovered you and I love your sense of humour, both of you, your positive attitude to your disability. You immediately put a smile on my sad face and you inspire me with with my own disability. I am in England but wish I could meet you ! Your videos are hilarious and Mr Maple is gorgeous. The title of this video could be a bit misleading so I'm glad it's not what it suggests
awh i can just see matthew reading some of the comments to paul so he knows what they say and how they have an amazing impact in our life
I totally agree and understand because I’m disabled and have a few,and it’s hard to accept your disabilities that you have,but the best thing to do is own it and accept it and no your owning it now with both of you being so cute and beautiful and Matthew is a guy who you can see cares for you sooooo much ❤
And you guys are funny in these videos 😂😂😂 Matthew really takes it with a good heart xxxx❤
His roommate on the 3rd floor was like an air traffic controller guiding him home!
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i was like WHAT when i read this, and when i read the description, i was like THANK GOODNESS
So sorry for commenting so late...been caught up since the past few days but just saw ur vid ...and it just makes my day perfect to watch u both.
I have very acute/severe asthma that I “lie” about all the time. Having asthma is unfortunately common enough that people don’t really take it seriously, so I just have learned that people think I’m exaggerating if I’m being completely honest about my asthma being a life threatening disability.
It’s a social catch 22 where I’m considered a whiny drama queen if I’m trying to be transparent, or I’m dangerously refusing to care about my health if I don’t!
Smart shirt Paul, im glad you can be open with your manager now and tell yourself exactly what you need
thank you!
As someone who once had a goose egg on my head, I understand Paul’s dilemma. People were legit scared around me.
Without having seen the video, I can already imagine why he did that. When I was looking for a job in 2010, after a year of rejections, a potential employer wanted confirmation from my ophthalmologist that I could work on a computer instead of just increasing the font size.. And that was one of the largest telecommunications companies in Germany.
I know it's a small thing compared to his experiences, but I've personally had a lot of bad experiences in my life when I've told people about my visual impairment and I'm not blind. Especially a lot of medical advice from people with full vision that I didn't ask for, like "Get better glasses" (6th grade math teacher) or "Get your eyes lasered." (other employer). If it was that easy, surely I would have done it wouldn't I?
You're always judged by people with perfect vision, what they think, you can do and what you can't do and that's really frustrating and annoying.
I have a large amount of floaters in my vision and they move all the time. It's very disorienting because everything I look at is different every few seconds. A lot of the same things happen to me. I switched from decorating cakes to message therapy to adjust to my life now.
Like me. I did a lot of different things. I'm seeing with one eye (my brain puts my bad eye to sleep so I can have almost clear vision on my better eye) but also with my glasses it's only 70 till 80 % on my better eye.
I wanted to work for a painting company in the office a few years ago and during the appointment the woman, who interviewed me, asked me after knowing how bad my eyes are, why am I here when I'm colorblind.😢
I said: "Excuse me, I'm not colorblind. I can see colors like you do." She refused to believe me.
I LOVE the way Paul tells stories omg it's like we were all there with him getting blasted in the head together 💙
The way Matthew looks at Paul 😍😍 true love.
❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉🎉Thankyou for the joy you bring Blessings
Unfortunately in the dating world once a guy found out I'm using a power wheelchair part time like when going out.....they run for the hills. I don't even try dating any more cause it's so discouraging. Wish it was different but it's not and I found out the hard way.
Learning disability here! Im sorry that you had to lie just so you could get the job and be considered "normal". I consider lying or not saying anything about my disability, when I had to apply for multiple jobs at 18, and not telling them I am not confident with cashier(or doing anything math related). I know its not a mental illness or physical disability that is a problem 24/7, that its not as big as a issue once school is over, but IRL situations can just be as worse especially with no social skills, being shy and not knowing how/want to ask for help because you feel like you to have figure it out yourself and don't want to be a burden, anxiety, and not being confident and overthinking that I can't do it becuase I dont understand and I need more time and patience with similar stuff, which a lot of people dont have in general. I do stocker hours during school hours and I don't earn much, but I am a little comfortable with it. Only gets worse for me, it feels like.
Thank you for sharing your story!
I HAVE CANCER AND LEGALY BLIND SO I UNDERSTAND THE DIFFICULTY
Damn you Paul, I felt sorry that you lost the job then you said got to keep it so was awesome to hear
Paul is such a humble person 🥺❤️