It’s impossible to waste time; all we do is have a positive judgement toward our past or a negative judgement toward it. If one reflects deep enough I believe you eventually arrive at the conclusion that things happened the way they happened and that the past informed the decisions that came next, for better or worse. I don’t see the benefit in believing I wasted my past so rather I see it as an experience that happened and there is no need to ponder the potential that I didn’t tap into at that time. Nice dungarees Steve.
I’m in my 20s right now and taking all the advice I can get to do it right. But it does get exhausting because it creates anxiety about making a mistake when I should just be living
Today I learned that The Mobile Phone Throwing World Championships are held in Finland, and one winner said he prepared for the event by "mainly drinking." what a guy.
I'm also 29 and can't help but feel that my entire 20s have been a complete waste. At 21, I made a promise to become the best version of myself. After college, I worked tirelessly, never took a vacation, sacrificed socializing for better health (avoiding alcohol and unhealthy foods), and focused on saving money. Yet, as I approach 30 in a few months, I haven't achieved any of the goals on my personal checklist. I've begun comparing myself to friends who were more carefree but seem to have better lives than me now. Your explanation of the carrot analogy really resonates with me; that's precisely how I feel at this point in my life. Thank you for sharing this.
I'm 20 and this is exactly the video I needed... It's actually been going on my mind for a year, but you explained it concisely that it made much more sense to me now And I agree on the part about finally getting to be on your own in your 20s... It's scary but it's also exciting because you get to make your own decisions and achieve the goals you want without others telling you what you should do and strive for Mistakes are inevitable, but those would be the stepping stones towards your definition of success and also happiness Now I should stop overthinking and start doing, even if I don't know exactly what I'm doing... Afterall we learn as we go 😁 I know I haven't "wasted" my 20s yet but even someone who just started his/her 20s needs to hear this 😊 tysm Stephen!
I am glad you got this video right at 20 years old, Freylin! (i wish i had videos like this back then haha) I look forward to hearing about your progress in the future!
This is so refreshing. I'd go even futher and draw a parallelism with a tendency in judging that time is wasted in relationships that are, for some reason or another, ended. So untrue. Those experiences are unique and fundamental to make you what you are. People would go as far as sayin 30yrs of marriage and 2 kids have been a waste of time. Personally, i see this tendency mostly in the western world, fixated with the idea of capitalism and productivity pervading every part of your life. Let's get rid of that.
So appreciate this! I've had to do a lot of introspection over the years to define what success is to me and what my values are. I'm sure they will continue to change overtime, but having these guidelines already defined in my life makes decisions on how I spend my time easier!
As someone who really hustled in my 20s, I'll tell you I DO regret grinding so hard. While I certainly wasted nothing, the results were bitter sweet. Sure, having your own business and good money sounds great and does appear like "freedom." But, what about working 70-90 hour weeks with far fewer friends (assuming you have time for "friends")? What about the countless hours you'll spend to keep the money coming? The only ones I've ever seen who can have big money outside of business while having plenty of social time have generational wealth. Even their T-bill and bonds have better cash-flow than most businesses will. That simple. As a society, we need to worry much more about living a life among each other and less about growing (whether money, career, materialism, etc.) at all costs. It's breaking our society down.
Basically focus on the process and the journey and you will inevitably end up in cool destinations as a by product. Enjoying the process and journey should be the focus and the destinations you come by the icing on the cake.
You guys need to calm down. Most people aren't going to have any significant net worth until they're at least 35 -40. And there's nothing wrong with that. Keep enjoying yourself to to that point, learn stuff and gain experience. It's really not complicated. And no, you won't be too old to have great adventures (with a big budget) when you're in your 40s, 50s and beyond.
@@Svartr.HrafnSvartr Promise it to yourself and do it. There's always a shit ton of variables (most of which are inconsequential and should simply be ignored).
@@LisaCulton I'm nearing 50. My body has badly degraded since I was 20. I can barely function at the most basic mundane level now - that's not something that can be simply ignored. I can't envision too many great adventures - the one thing I would love to do is likely the thing that started the damage!
@@Svartr.HrafnSvartr I'm over 50 and climbing up mountains and riding my bike everywhere. My son just recently got me into downhill mountain biking and my boyfriend (also over 50) is going to teach me ski touring this winter. I feel just as fit as ever.
It’s all about finding yourself however long it takes find yourself then everything will make sense great video as always I’m about to binge watch your videos in the morning
i juat try to have as many fun days as possible, take short videos and images so when i need boost on confidence i can look at them and think to myselelf "damn, i was there, i did that".
At nearly 50 and barely functional, I definitely feel I've wasted much of my life. I'm trying to change the negative mind chatter, however... and start over from where I'm currently at.
He can’t tell you because there is a whole crew behind this channel perfecting the lighting so these government paid psychologists can mass promote their message of calmness, even though we all know the state of this country is causing us to waste our 20’s.
I feel like my life was wasted and I'm just 17 years. I just want to get citizenship in another country then spend the rest of my life doing anything music and fashion related.
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It’s impossible to waste time; all we do is have a positive judgement toward our past or a negative judgement toward it. If one reflects deep enough I believe you eventually arrive at the conclusion that things happened the way they happened and that the past informed the decisions that came next, for better or worse. I don’t see the benefit in believing I wasted my past so rather I see it as an experience that happened and there is no need to ponder the potential that I didn’t tap into at that time. Nice dungarees Steve.
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I’m in my 20s right now and taking all the advice I can get to do it right. But it does get exhausting because it creates anxiety about making a mistake when I should just be living
Today I learned that The Mobile Phone Throwing World Championships are held in Finland, and one winner said he prepared for the event by "mainly drinking." what a guy.
I'm also 29 and can't help but feel that my entire 20s have been a complete waste. At 21, I made a promise to become the best version of myself. After college, I worked tirelessly, never took a vacation, sacrificed socializing for better health (avoiding alcohol and unhealthy foods), and focused on saving money. Yet, as I approach 30 in a few months, I haven't achieved any of the goals on my personal checklist. I've begun comparing myself to friends who were more carefree but seem to have better lives than me now. Your explanation of the carrot analogy really resonates with me; that's precisely how I feel at this point in my life. Thank you for sharing this.
I'm 20 and this is exactly the video I needed... It's actually been going on my mind for a year, but you explained it concisely that it made much more sense to me now
And I agree on the part about finally getting to be on your own in your 20s... It's scary but it's also exciting because you get to make your own decisions and achieve the goals you want without others telling you what you should do and strive for
Mistakes are inevitable, but those would be the stepping stones towards your definition of success and also happiness
Now I should stop overthinking and start doing, even if I don't know exactly what I'm doing... Afterall we learn as we go 😁
I know I haven't "wasted" my 20s yet but even someone who just started his/her 20s needs to hear this 😊 tysm Stephen!
I am glad you got this video right at 20 years old, Freylin! (i wish i had videos like this back then haha) I look forward to hearing about your progress in the future!
@@SimonLiftsLife thanks! I'm still figuring things as I go but yeah I'm also hoping for the best 😊
@@freylindapawar9358 Welcome and good luck to our journeys!
This is so refreshing. I'd go even futher and draw a parallelism with a tendency in judging that time is wasted in relationships that are, for some reason or another, ended. So untrue. Those experiences are unique and fundamental to make you what you are.
People would go as far as sayin 30yrs of marriage and 2 kids have been a waste of time. Personally, i see this tendency mostly in the western world, fixated with the idea of capitalism and productivity pervading every part of your life. Let's get rid of that.
So appreciate this! I've had to do a lot of introspection over the years to define what success is to me and what my values are. I'm sure they will continue to change overtime, but having these guidelines already defined in my life makes decisions on how I spend my time easier!
I've (me at 35 now) always said to people turning 20: "your 20s are overrated!"
As someone who really hustled in my 20s, I'll tell you I DO regret grinding so hard. While I certainly wasted nothing, the results were bitter sweet. Sure, having your own business and good money sounds great and does appear like "freedom." But, what about working 70-90 hour weeks with far fewer friends (assuming you have time for "friends")? What about the countless hours you'll spend to keep the money coming?
The only ones I've ever seen who can have big money outside of business while having plenty of social time have generational wealth. Even their T-bill and bonds have better cash-flow than most businesses will. That simple.
As a society, we need to worry much more about living a life among each other and less about growing (whether money, career, materialism, etc.) at all costs. It's breaking our society down.
Basically focus on the process and the journey and you will inevitably end up in cool destinations as a by product. Enjoying the process and journey should be the focus and the destinations you come by the icing on the cake.
I wasted my 20s AND most of my 30s. But like a wise man once told me... the best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago, the next best time is today.
I love the lighting in this video
You guys need to calm down. Most people aren't going to have any significant net worth until they're at least 35 -40. And there's nothing wrong with that. Keep enjoying yourself to to that point, learn stuff and gain experience. It's really not complicated. And no, you won't be too old to have great adventures (with a big budget) when you're in your 40s, 50s and beyond.
I think there are too many variables in life to be making that promise...
@@Svartr.HrafnSvartr Promise it to yourself and do it. There's always a shit ton of variables (most of which are inconsequential and should simply be ignored).
@@LisaCulton I'm nearing 50. My body has badly degraded since I was 20. I can barely function at the most basic mundane level now - that's not something that can be simply ignored. I can't envision too many great adventures - the one thing I would love to do is likely the thing that started the damage!
@@Svartr.HrafnSvartr I'm over 50 and climbing up mountains and riding my bike everywhere. My son just recently got me into downhill mountain biking and my boyfriend (also over 50) is going to teach me ski touring this winter. I feel just as fit as ever.
@@Svartr.HrafnSvartr Check your vitamin D, iron, and hormone levels.
It’s all about finding yourself however long it takes find yourself then everything will make sense great video as always I’m about to binge watch your videos in the morning
i juat try to have as many fun days as possible, take short videos and images so when i need boost on confidence i can look at them and think to myselelf "damn, i was there, i did that".
Some people have unfortunately gotten themselves into entanglements of financial "obligations" in their 20s, i.e blacklisted.
Life isn't about the destination. It's about the journey. Enjoy the ride and don't stress yourself too much.
At nearly 50 and barely functional, I definitely feel I've wasted much of my life. I'm trying to change the negative mind chatter, however... and start over from where I'm currently at.
I absolutely wasted my 20s. Trying to make up for it now!
I love hearing the little Steve stories and the Lively throwbacks 😊
Thank you so much for this.
Simple yet powerful content out here on youtube. You are incredible Stephen.
Well that was a beautiful and reasuring thing to wake up to 😄
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I like his overalls
You the man 🧠💯
Great video bro! I have to stop chasing the carrot stick.
Is there a way i can get in contact with you to have mu camera look this good? Did you do something with the color grading?
He can’t tell you because there is a whole crew behind this channel perfecting the lighting so these government paid psychologists can mass promote their message of calmness, even though we all know the state of this country is causing us to waste our 20’s.
@@DancingDuckProductions you gotta go outside bro
@@reinaldomartinez13 😂
I loved that introduction of all the variety of solutions UA-camrs tout
Amazing message Stephen!
That Luigi fit is fire 🔥 (no cap) I love that shit!
I feel like my life was wasted and I'm just 17 years. I just want to get citizenship in another country then spend the rest of my life doing anything music and fashion related.
Don’t focus on the finger or you will miss all of that heavenly glory. 👆🏾
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OMG how did you know I was eating cheetos???