Thank you for this episode...i again feel normal. For the past 12 years, to keep the peace, I've pushed aside my hurt and said "its not so bad", so Nick, thank you for saying "its ok to let this be a big deal..." My heart really needs to let this be a big deal. I wish he would consider joining a 7 pillars group, but he says "I'm fixed." I know he isnt, but my attitude of "its not so bad" has gave him permission to not seek further help. I'm hoping to work on this intensively this year. Thank you!
My husband gets mad at me when I’m triggered. Then I feel a need to explain why and what he’s done in the past that makes this trigger relevant. When I do that he says I’m bringing up the past. It’s maddening. I’m currently separated because I can’t handle it anymore. We are still in the beginning stages because he goes back every few months and repeats the betrayal (porn, contacting exes) bc he says my triggers are too much for him. I can’t get ahead. He has abandoned me during triggers and left to go stay at his mom’s house for two months to act out while telling me that me and my triggers are the problem. He repeats this cycle every few months. We’ve listened to so many things on betrayal trauma but he still gets angry as soon as something triggers me
We're so sorry to hear this! Are you able to do anything for yourself to get healing? Counseling? Group? Please let us know how we can help you in your difficult situation.
Thank you for this episode...i again feel normal. For the past 12 years, to keep the peace, I've pushed aside my hurt and said "its not so bad", so Nick, thank you for saying "its ok to let this be a big deal..." My heart really needs to let this be a big deal. I wish he would consider joining a 7 pillars group, but he says "I'm fixed." I know he isnt, but my attitude of "its not so bad" has gave him permission to not seek further help. I'm hoping to work on this intensively this year. Thank you!
Great podcast this week! As a betrayed wife, I really needed this episode 💜
So glad!
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“If her trigger was justified” THEY ARE ALL JUSTIFIED THE CHEATERS DID THIS TO US
My husband gets mad at me when I’m triggered. Then I feel a need to explain why and what he’s done in the past that makes this trigger relevant. When I do that he says I’m bringing up the past. It’s maddening. I’m currently separated because I can’t handle it anymore. We are still in the beginning stages because he goes back every few months and repeats the betrayal (porn, contacting exes) bc he says my triggers are too much for him. I can’t get ahead. He has abandoned me during triggers and left to go stay at his mom’s house for two months to act out while telling me that me and my triggers are the problem. He repeats this cycle every few months. We’ve listened to so many things on betrayal trauma but he still gets angry as soon as something triggers me
We're so sorry to hear this! Are you able to do anything for yourself to get healing? Counseling? Group? Please let us know how we can help you in your difficult situation.
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