FTM Phallo | Urethral Stricture Diagnosis
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- Опубліковано 21 жов 2024
- I revived a letter from St Peters Andrology today which finally explains what was causing my urinary issues and why they chose to temporarily unhook my urethra. It also highlights that I will need 2 further surgeries in my phalloplasty procedure before completing the final stage.
To throw the balance a little more positive, I also share the wonderful cards and gifts I have received recently and I give the three furry boys 5 minutes of fame as you said you have missed them!
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You look so much better. Thank you for showing your animals, I was worried about them as well as you. I'm glad that you are all alright and I am thankful for your friends; taking care of you. I hope you get well soon.
Bless you, they are well looked after by a friend when I am away,. I do feel so much better, thank god! Thank you my kind friend
Hello love! So very happy that an arse has been got off of and information was sent!! It's such a relief to have diagnosis/results of what was done to you whilst you happily flew around in lala land!! (insert grumbling....took them stinking long enough.) :D . yay for feeling better. boo for directional dysforia dilemma.. just chant" it's only temporary " We adore you so. Me the yappers n dragons...In Arizona.
So glad to hear you've recieved a letter clarifying what has happened xx
Although most doctors don't swear on the original Hippocratic Oath these days, as it clashes strongly with many modern day ideals and belief systems, there are a few versions of modern day oaths that doctors can choose from.
Extracts from one of the modern day versions of the Hippocratic Oath written by Professor Louis Lasagna in 1964:
"I will remember that there is art to medicine as well as science, and that warmth, sympathy, and understanding may outweigh the surgeon's knife or the chemist's drug.."
and
"I will remember that I do not treat a fever chart, a cancerous growth, but a sick human being.......if I am to care adequately for the sick."
Some medical professionals, for whatever reasons, sadly can become desensitised over time and neglect to take in to consideration the importance of a patient's spiritual, emotional, mental, and intellectual needs when it comes to instilling a sense of personal empowerment and overall knowledge with the patient.. along side their already high standard approach to their physical needs when it comes to the surgery itself. All these aspects to a human being are of equal value - none is less valuable than the other when it comes to holistic health, and it would be nice if medical professionals remembered that. Or even if they are crap at people skills, at least acknowledge that to themselves, and find some other way of getting the necessary information delivered to the patient a lot sooner. Even if it's empowering the nursing staff with the knowledge, as you say.
I once had a conversation with a customer when I worked in a bookshop about his years working as a psychologist and he ended up giving it away. I asked him what was the reason he gave it away, and his answer was "Because I didn't like the person that I was becoming". He went on to clarify by saying it was puffing him up to be someone who thought too highly of himself and not enough of others. I thought that was humbling of him to acknowledge that.
If there are Surgeons out there that end up watching this vlog of yours, it serves as a reminder and constructive feedback just how extremely important a holistic approach is for the overall mental health and wellbeing for a patient. And echoing what you said, it only takes a very short time to take a patient seriously and explain to them what is going on with their own bodies.
I heard somewhere in recent years that along with their overall medical studies, medical students are being introduced to having to take Emotional Intelligence tests as well, because it is being seen that having a warm and dignified bedside manner is just as beneficial toward a patient's recovery as the surgery that they have just undergone. I really hope it becomes a compulsory part of their curriculum, if it is not already, because it needs to be.
You are most welcome for the joss sticks and gem stones, my kind hearted friend. The importance of recovering from such an ordeal also involves the connection to Spirit as well, even if not everyone in the world gets that, at least some of us do, including yourself. And so it is my contribution to help mend any ruptures, spiritually speaking, that may have happened during this ordeal that you've been through.
It makes sense for students to have to work on their emotional intelligence. As you rightly say, being correctly informed and kindly treated has a positive effect on any outcome and means the patient is better informed as to how to take care of themselves post op. I love my jossticks and cyrystals, I need a lot of spiritual healing right now so thank you! xx
Hey Sunshiney Finn, it's good to see you're feeling better and finally got some explanation about what caused the unhooking and stuff. That Mr. Garaffa needs to go back to school, it doesn't matter how good his surgical skills are, it is absolutely part of his job to communicate with people. It's absolutely astounding he's allowed to do his job this way, all his co-workers and superiors are seeing this too.
Anyway, on to positive things! The new hairdo suits you! I'd been a while since we got to see the furbabies up close! I'm curious about your plans for the channel! Don't keep us in suspense too long please :D Your tiredness is most logically because of all the insecurity and aneastetic drugs, it will pass.
Hellllloooooo sweets!!! Yes I agree, its not on at all, how he gets away with it I just dont know!!!!!
Thanks for the hair compliments, I am surprisingly loving having it longer, though it does make my morning bedhead look quite extraordinary.....
Arent my bundles of fur just soooo bloody lovely! Chi is just so resistant to camera posing as you can see.....
I am going to get a vlog up this week re channel changes, just not sure if it will come at beginning of week or the end....Im currently in bed debating this fact :D
SOOOOOOO tired! But Im just allowing it to be :)
Thank you for your lovelyness!!!!!
I bet I speak for everyone when I say your morning bedhead goes perfectly with your quite extraordinary lovely self XD
Now just take your time recovering whichever way you need to , no rush
So good to see you regaining the spring in your step Finn, and you are quite right one simple paragraph of text or even a few minutes of conversation would have saved you weeks of anguish but that is all behind you now and every day is chance to refresh and renew
Yes indeed buddy, its such a simple thing isnt it and makes such an enormous difference. Lets hope surgeons watch these!!! Spring is returning...intermittently, but its there. Bless you my friend
The difference a single paragrah makes :D I´m happy to see you more relaxed and comfortable with the whole situation.
Thank you, it really does!!!
I'm glad you finally know what's gone on with your own body! Finally! Also... love how active the gerbils were in this video lol.. so cute
Great video Finn. So glad you got information, and that you are feeling so much better. And yes, anaesthesia can really take it out of you-- rest away-- you'll be great (as ever!). xox
I'm so glad things are going better for you!
I'm sending you mental hugs and best wishes!
Means the world, thank you!
Really happy to hear you're doing and feeling better mate. :)
And it's good that they've cleared things up a little bit with what's actually been going on.
So glad to see you're a bit happier and in less constant pain. Also I found your pronunciations of surgical terms hilarious, it made my day. ☺Hopefully in the near future you will have the results you deserve. Thanks for the update finn x
I thought people might appreciate that! I am useless with some of these words plus my brain isnt functioning on all cylinders! Thank you so much my kind friend :)
my pleasure finn :) x
hey man so , you are going to with scar tissue aswhile
so happy you're doing better! I love to see you doing well!!
Ah thats so lovely, thank you!
It makes me happy to know that you're feeling better! I love you Finn!
Aw I love you too!
Hang in there man. This is all tough stuff, but you are so strong. Two more before the final must be hard to deal with. This surgeon really needs a lesson on how to handle his patients the right way. I would be very upset too.
So glad they got back to you at last. Let's hope it's all sorted sooner rather than later. As for the tiredness, sounds like what ME people have to deal with day in, day out, so hopefully yours is just temporary but don't underestimate it and continue to rest up properly like you're doing. You're an honorary spoonie for now.
God I really do understand the spoon theory right now! I really do have to choose my spoons carefully each day as if I use to many I have none left the day after and it takes me ages to re gather some! Its hard, but Im gathering a normal reaction to months of stress = 2 surgeries etc. I am seeing doc next week just to check it out with her though. Thanks buddy, oh the trials of the transman!!!
I know this video isn't new, but I am glad everything is looking up for you Finn! I haven't seen your videos in my feed lately, I thought that maybe something bad happened and then I finally remembered to just look your channel up. Glad I was wrong. Hah.
My cat is named Chi! All your little babies are so cute. I will always have a soft spot for any rodent (my first pets were two rats 💕).
(I realize that I somehow just didn't ever see these videos with your updates on this, but saw a few of the videos you made after this. if that makes sense).
i cant believe what is happening to you but im so glad you liked what i sent you and that lamby likes the candle. i have a full set of beads that help me so much (they are just harder to wear and i have to wrap them around my wrist 3 times) i keep them with me and i use them for chanting meditation.
I cant believe it either, will mean a total of 4 surgeries added to the whole process meaning 7 stages in all! Still, it is what it is and it will all be worth it in the end. The beads mean the absolute world to me, its one of the most kind and special gifts I have ever recieved and I really am so very thankful to you
you will just have to find something else to take up your time and spend as little time on the toilet as possible
Finally! Information! I've heard that it's a common failing of surgeons to be poor communicators, and I'm sorry you have had to deal with this. It sounds like your Mr. Christopher is one of the rare few who actually takes the time to explain things. It seems to me like you need a nice, peaceful getaway where you can look at beautiful sights, and relax and meditate and pray. Your soul needs healing as well as your body. Praying for you my friend!
It is apparently true yes, which is ok in general medicine as other nurses/consultants can inform patients but in our specialist surgeries, the nurses havent got a clue, so its so very very important, for the sake of a successful recovery if nothing else, that the surgeon gives the right info. Make me so mad my face itches!!!!
Mr Christopher is always wonderful, so is Mr Ralf, although Mr ralf has never done my surgeries, hes done some of my consultations and he was wonderful
I do need a get away, I did have a retreat lined up but now I am so behind with study I have had to cancel it. So I am making do with balancing work and rest as much as I can as well as increasing my meetings where i can top up my spiritual battery. I am looking at the posibility of a one day retreat instead. I do need that top up!
Thank you for your prayers my lovely shiny souled friend!
Just remember to breathe my friend. And be very, very gentle and compassionate with yourself. HUGS!!
Bombastic shirt 😍glad to hear you feel better 👌🏻
Bombastic! Love that! Thanks my friend!
I'm so glad that you seem to be doing better. It's as if you can see the light at the end of the tunnel now. It might be a little ways off, but it's there now. I'm also glad that you got more of an explanation as to what was done and why. You're absolutely right in saying that just knowing those things is SO important. I hope all continues to only get better.
Also, your babies are all sooooo cute! What sweet little loves!
Thank you so much, Yes it is there indeed, further away than it was but still there!. The furry boys always help to brighten my day, arent they just adorable!!!!!!!
Hi Finn I'm glad someones taking the time to tell you what happened to your body in your surgery! I know your angry about how you've been left to wonder about whats gone on and I know your working to let it go that's a great reaction to have to it all because remember our reactions to things is ultimately going to set us up mentally for dealing with things.
I agree with that 10000000%. This time its been easier, last time it was such an awful shock to be kept in the dark, this time I prepared beforehand for it to happen so although it was still bloody annoying, i was more able to shake it off.
Mate honestly you've been a champ this time around with everything else that's happened its such a lot to take in and you of course everyone has their limits! You/we deserve more better treatment than this surly! its bloody major surgery for goodness sake We need to know and of course Graffa sounds like he could use a class in bedside manner and how not to be so damn arrogant, honestly if i was there i woulda taken him aside and told him off because honestly mate i stand for no shit and i'm really loyal and protective of my friends!
Bless you! I dont think it would touch him to be honest, he gives the distinct impression that hes above everything!!!
Aye from what you've said and I've read else where online i get that impression as well and it's not right that because he seems to think his head is bigger than everyone else's that we should have to suffer.
I'm happy that you now know what happend to you I feel like it's absolutely unacceptable that you had to go through all that to get such an easy explanation I wouldn't go with that surgen anymore just because of that reason I would get extremely angry If I got out of surgery and no one would explain to me what had been done... But It's nice to see so many nice cards and little gifts you have definitely been on my thoughts to I hope everything goes well for you from here lots of hugs and love from Germany 😊
plus I completely forgot my food was in the oven because I saw you uploaded an update 😂 I'm going to check on that now
Its very reassuring to know that everyone I tell about this agrees that its unacceptable, it makes it easier to take less personally, if that makes sense?! Ive been so lucky in the amount of love and support I get for you lovely lot! It helps so very very much. Now please dont burn your dinner on my behalf ;) xx
I saved it and it was delicious :D totally makes sense that the response you get makes it easier :) I love hearing from you you're so nice and strong even when things don't go to plan... You really deserve a great outcome after all of this :)
Im currently burning/cooking a fish pie :) Glad you saved yours, and thank you, I work hard to stay above the rough sea....and I am sure itll be worth it!
Glad you are doing better!!
Thanks my friend, its a relief!!
thanks for the new video, i adore you
Im becoming quite fond of you too :D
You do seem really fatigued hun❤don't be to hard on yourself it's a pretty traumatic journey you've been on especially not knowing what's happening......the problem with these surgeons is that half of em are on the spectrum and have zero people skills lots love from Australia 🇦🇺 love you and your stories ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Bless you. Yes I really am cream crackerd! Im learning to manage the tiredness and get stuff done around it so its ok and I am sure it wont last. Much love and thanks to you :D xx
happy your feeling better
Thank you so much :)
I hope all is well with you. I’m going threw this as well. My catheter comes out tomorrow.
Ah congratulations! I really hope it went ok!
FinnTheInfinncible so far so good. Thank you
Glad to hear you finally know what's going on. It's ridiculous that a letter like that couldn't have been provided explaining that in the first place, if he couldn't be bothered to tell you in person. At least you have a surgeon to go to who actually communicates. And at least things are getting better. :)
I couldn't agree more! Ive learnt a lot from this experience and am much better prepared now should I ever have to have him again, not that I plan too but....well we will see. Lovely to hear from you , thank you my dear friend
FinnTheInfinncible Yeah, at least you know better if you do ever have him again, though preferable not all things considered. But it makes good information for others too so they know if they get that surgeon they can be prepaired for him to not communicate well and that it's not just them or their imagination.
I'm hoping the surgeon I'll have when I finally have lower surgery will be the type to be really good at communication. We'll see, my doctor and therapist have sent the stuff off that they need to get the ball rolling so I can have a consultation with the surgeon who's across state from me, which is the nearest surgeon doing the lower surgery let alone who will actually accept my insurance. So, I'm excited about that and trying really hard to lose a bunch of weight before I even go for a consult. I've already managed to lose 6.6 lbs. :) Anyway, always great to chat with you and to see your videos! I'm so glad you're feeling better! *hugs*
FinnTheInfinncible Yeah, at least you know better if you do ever have him again, though preferable not all things considered. But it makes good information for others too so they know if they get that surgeon they can be prepaired for him to not communicate well and that it's not just them or their imagination.
I'm hoping the surgeon I'll have when I finally have lower surgery will be the type to be really good at communication. We'll see, my doctor and therapist have sent the stuff off that they need to get the ball rolling so I can have a consultation with the surgeon who's across state from me, which is the nearest surgeon doing the lower surgery let alone who will actually accept my insurance. So, I'm excited about that and trying really hard to lose a bunch of weight before I even go for a consult. I've already managed to lose 6.6 lbs. :) Anyway, always great to chat with you and to see your videos! I'm so glad you're feeling better! *hugs*
Thats my plan by sharing this, hoping itll help to better prepare others! So excited you have the ball rolling! Awesome weightloss too!
Aah you got my name right nobody ever gets my name right! Frustrating as it is,at least you have your explanation now and a clear path toward the future :-) I have the biggest smile on right now hehe xXx
Oh I am so pleased I got your name pronunciation right! I did worry! Also very glad to make you smile as you made me smile tooooo!
But can you please tell me what where your symptoms ? In detail . :) . I keep urinating and it’s soooo annoying . And when I wake up I need to run to the bathroom . And I’m waking up after 3 hrs for ex to go to urinate
Love you. Hug you. Big, big, big hugs. Warrior. Btw, some people in life will NEVER take the time they should to leave people with the dignity they can when there's opportunity. They simply don't care enough. Nothing can change that. Although, I trust that life ultimately brings about balance. But thank goodness for the doctor who actually gives a shit about you. Dr. Christopher. And, thank goodness for your ability to turn lemons into lemonade.
You body uses up a lot of energy during the recovery process. I've had quite a few eye operations and I've found that being the case. Zero energy and constantly tired. It does pass though.
That t-shirt is genius :-D
Its it just!!!! I LOVE it!!!
I think i have a urethral stricture . I'm 20 years old male . I don't know what to do . I'm getting very weak stream and difficulty in starting urination . 😭😭😭
See your doctor. Then can run some tests and find out
okay . Can someone die from urethroplasty?
Finn how is your feeling after surgery..
100 % cured...?
Hi please help me i have navicularis stricture symptoms caz when i was kid i hurt that earea and was beleeding.
I'm so sorry to hear that, lm not sure how l can help, it sounds as if you need medical advice?
did you complain to your regular surgeon about this dr not telling you what was going on? you're so frustrated about the whole thing, I can tell. stay strong!
Its difficult to complain, its a worry with them being the only three surgeons, you dont want to upset them you know! I did say to him that I was distressed by the lack of info and that I much preferred him as my surgeon because of his ability to relay information, so hopefully that said enough. I am frustrated but at least the anger is going now. I need it too, its too toxic to hold on to. Now I just have to focus on healing spiritually mentally and physically.
You are so amazing, Finn! Mad respect and love! I know you will heal fast from this and before you know it all of this will be done and over with!
Are those Lamy Cylons? .... and then you busted my bubble. Clone Wars. Sighs. Let me tell you how BSG kicks SW's butt lol. Good to see you got answers. Surgeons are a special breed and a lot of them don't get that while under their knives, fixing it just doesn't cut it if we are left in the dark. I declare anesthesia has made me dumber. Well... that's my excuse.. hehe
LMAO! Yeah! Its ace though right?! I do love battlestar too, any sci fi really! Fixing dont cut it....now I love that! So bloody true! And I am with you, my inability to string a sentence together ,or to get a wedge in trivial pursuits...its purely down to anaesthesia....Thanks buddy :)
Anytime! If you need good reasons for dumb ass behavior. I'm your man. Hit me up. And if by ace you mean cool as shit... damn right it's ace. Though I think the Lamy on the right is a lone bad ass Cylon with his 2 SW inferior buddies. Look how pathetic and submissive they look.. Clear hierarchy right there.
So say we all bro!
Hey Finn so glad to hear things are getting better. Oh Dude you are a amazing and I just admire how you have been able to share with all of us. It sounds like there is light at the end of the tunnel.
Hugs and loves and all good things
Thank you so much my friend, I share as it helps me and hopefully helps others too. Hugs and love back to you my friend!
#first 😄
Lol