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I just know that I don’t have self control. Everything I touch always ends being an addiction.
Coffee, alcohol, cigarettes, gaming, adult films, I could go on and on. But I’m also diagnosed with ADHD, I’ve heard that people with ADHD tend to get hooked up with anything easily.
Addiction is more behavior than substance. Why people can be addicted to anything
I’m addicted to not being present in my own life. For me, this takes the form of heavy cannabis use, but in the absence of weed, I would find something else. Heck, binging UA-cam (even the educational side) has become an addiction for me, because I use it to avoid responsibilities while feeling like I’m growing, without actually putting in any work.
I’d recommend some heavy, heavy internal searching. ADHD might be making it harder to put down habits, but maybe there’s something else deeper in your life that’s the root cause of the actual attraction to addiction in the first place? Perhaps not, but that’s where I’m at personally.
@@tyler.walkerthis perfectly describes what first drew me to the educational side of youtube, and why i stopped for a while once i realised that i was using it to "feel" like i was making progress, when really it was a distraction/coping mechanism. Trying to come back now, more willing to put the work in though. Best of luck to you too bro
same bro just got diagnosed adhd at 34 and fuckin been in and out of rehab with cocaine and alcohol. Fuck why dosen't he link the full video?
@@IThelpTeamyou can search 'Dr.K addiction', and it will pop up
Ahh, I thought that was the case. Lately whenever I've been feeling the need to be impulsive, I start documenting my thoughts about how I feel in that moment and afterwards I tend to have a bit more control over myself and avoid it.
That’s one off the ways that Dr. K does says for sleep
Whats interesting is im an alcoholic in recovery, ive not drank in around 2 weeks. But i still slip up in my dreans and in my dreams im basically always drunk. But ive found it really helpful to keep in mind the reasons why i wanted to give up, now i treat those reasons as addictions.
i literally experienced this wednesday when i just blew up and resorted to isolating myself and putting myself down, which i tend to do whenever i feel any stress
Same. Been stressed out about interviews and it seems like all the progress i've made the past few months went out the window
its true its like im conscious but at the same time have no control of what im doing in that moment.
Theres also a really good TED Talk (which I know probably sounds like an oxymoron) about addiction, and how the "cage" a person feels trapped inside can make them turn to whatever alleviates their pain. So many people like to sneer at the homeless for being drug addicts, as though that's the cause of their homelessness...and of course in some cases it is. But in SO many cases, they turned to it because it was the one source of comfort and happiness they can find in their lives.
This is a topic I feel so strongly about, since I lost my mom to it. I'll never stop wishing I could have been there for her more, or that she could have found the help she actually needed. At the time, her addiction made me so frustrated and angry, and I can't blame anyone else for feeling that way. But man, it's SO important to understand the whys, and to realize it's not some moral failing on their part!
This! But also in several case it's a way to self medicate when people don't have access to proper psychiatric and or neuropsychological evaluations and treatments. It sucks because then it often creates even more problems on top of the condition they might not even realize they have.
Yeah, I'm that way. I'm currently having to learn to have boundaries and either say no when asked to do things and intentionally pace myself on things I choose to do to avoid burnout and depression. That burnout and depression area is when I become really vulnerable to falling into my porn addiction again.
I like the way he is consistent with what be saids for any kind of addiction
I am a huge empath , BPD ,- but I am one of the ones who feels emotion , empathy, and others feelings
I just realized this about myself the other day and what’s funny is I broke it down exactly how you just did and it makes complete sense. Was addicted to nicotine for a long time, I accepted for a while that “this was just my life” and “there’s no way I would be able to quit” so I didn’t try. Realized one day that this addiction ends one of two ways: I quit now, and ideally suffer no health concerns, or I develop health concerns that force me to quit anyways. That month had be consciously aware of how visceral my cravings were throughout my years of use, and it made me realize how fucked up that was. The drug blinds you from realizing it’s emotional effect on you, which is why you never think logically enough to quit. I thought back on all the times I was literally becoming sick from it, and how my brain wanted more anyways? Literally lying on the side of the road, waiting until I can stand and then taking another hit. I consider myself a very logical person, so the fact that I was acting this way for so long made me realize that this drug was truly dangerous. Little did I know it wasn’t just the drug itself that was causing me to be blind to my emotionally-centred thinking, it was the dopamine. Fast forward to now and I am seemingly addicted to UA-cam shorts. I will stay up later than I should, causing me to be extremely tired to the point where I’ve almost fallen asleep in traffic. Short form content though, is just as hard to quit than nicotine. The dopamine it gives is comparable, however I just forget that I’m not supposed to be watching, and I forget that they are affecting me in negative ways so I just click on a short without realizing it. My brain is still doing the emotionally-centered thinking and choosing to click the short even though I made a choice to stop. It’s hard because shorts don’t directly threaten my physical health like nicotine did, because when I tried to quit nicotine every time I would get a craving after deciding to quit I would think “man look how hard my brain is trying to convince me I need this shit, I have to quit because if I relapse now then it will make it that much harder” but with UA-cam I don’t even get a tangible “craving” I just am watching regular UA-cam and my brain gravitates to the shorts without even realizing it. I’ve been trying to stop for months now, since the start of the year in fact, but I just can’t seem to catch myself.
More videos about (drug) addiction please ! Also longer videos please! 🙂👍♥️
I have only discovered this channel very recently but it's already one of my favorites. This doc is for real.
This is why people need to find a least-harmful way to vent their stress that works for them. Sometimes it's going for a hike or a walk on a the beach. Sometimes it's games, book, movie, etc.
I have a few different addictions and do not blind to this process. I am completely aware of it and use it as destress/reward system to make myself more happy and productive.
People with addictions will definitely benefit from more awareness around their emotional states that's for sure. And to acquire healthier coping skills and catching things earlier on. But also to recognize that they never "have" to use drugs or do the bad habit. It's always a choice in reality. And to face the fear and not give in, to see that you'll be okay, which is very empowering. But also, saying that, being emotionally aware and making the right choices to reduce cravings and temptations is crucial. Including extinguishing it at the thought level and not letting it grow from there through planning, imagining, fantasizing, etc. Including acquiring and developing deeper and deeper motivations throughout the recovery process which is a learning process too.
It's not a lack as much as it's a continuous and conscious dampening of awareness states
I've heard that the definition of an addiction is a behaviour with negative consequences that you are aware of but choose to do anyway. I understand the take in the video but in my mind it just seems contradictory to my experience. Happy to discuss this though.
People claim their bad decisions on addiction being a disease, but at some point as addicts we have to take accountability that maybe it’s a little our fault.
Stay strong and stay sober people, I’m proud of you even if you only got 24 hours 💜
This is why I try to lose focus and replace that hole with something else instead of focusing and using willpower to try to stop a behavior
So then what can I do if I can’t see my internal state 😭
You can practice seeing it through things like therapy, meditation, and just talking to people about it. It’s like a muscle that gets stronger with exercise.
You need to ask yourself "What am I doing right now? How am I feeling?" very often and take notes. This is crucial because you'll be able to spot patterns.
Seconding the people saying mindfulness mediation. There is nothing that has helped me see my internal state more than this.
@@vivvpprofwell I be big chilling now cause I have pushed through certain things through my practice HOWEVER I was sort of playing a character with my original postulation in the sense of trying to condense some of my and the people around me’s feelings towards the situation.
Also I don’t really agree tho, that can work but not really if you are dissociating all the time and feel most to nothing all the time then what patterns are you gonna notice really?
@@HenryZhaosTextbookwell I don’t really think it works like that even if you have the intention of going into your mind most of the time you get to some point that is completely unrelated to the core of your problems but is still can be important in different senses, you can also meditate for nefarious purposes if you didn’t know…
I know many people who meditate in certain type of ways that don’t facilitate growth or discovery in any vast sense. You can certainly use meditation as a form of escapism too. So to say just to meditate I think is way too broad and I really do not mess with the promotion of things like that in the general consciousness of humanity as whilst the intention may be good I don’t think there’s enough information out there on how to do it properly in comparison the how much promotion of it there is.
As well I don’t mess with pure meditation as a tool personally it gets way to messy, I prefer to journal, pray, short meditations, bodily dancing or movements or other things All Together lol, to facilitate the process you are referring to above.
This blind spot exists in everyone.
Psychopaths feel good about themselves by creating a persona that fools other people in to thinking that they're OK, when they are most definitely not OK.
Drug abuse may be a symptom, but not a cause.
I wonder if this is why I've never become addicted to anything despite having a family history of it (including several deaths). I've been in therapy for 11 years, since I was a child, so I am sometimes painfully aware of my inner emotions
I try to be vert aware of my emotions and actions. But when it comes to meth I try and try to quit but one day I just say "todays the day for mistakes". I know its wrong but I just fully embrace the darkness.
Yeah, no, (
"friends aren't inviting them to stuff" hits hard
Actually I'm not blind. I see all the stress but I can't resist.
@@Dimitris_Half thanks for the support bro
this was my thought exactly
Yup. Same here.
When life is going well... Everything tends to get better. Relationships, health, friends, job...
But when everything gets bad... Everything gets worse... Health, weight, pron, isolation.
The only solution I see is constantly have a good life so that I have enough internal control to choose well. Which helps life stay good.
But that's no good as a mechanism if you get blindsided.
@@breakingthemasks things can still go bad. But what helps is setting up safety mechanisms and preparing healthier coping mechanisms for times of pain - even if it's just a tiny bit better than what we'd do without preparation.
That's how we can do some damage control
@@TuskForce ... Anything specific come to mind as examples of such things?
I need a coping mechanism... What's a good option?
They might be aware of it but still unable to deal with it. It’s takes time and practice.
Man I feel this. In college I got full on addicted to video games but refused to acknowledge it. Because "video game addiction" isnt a real thing, its just shit parents and VG haters make up because they hate gamers and gaming culture. I was just trying to have some fun and release stress.
Playing video games for 14 hours a day, skipping classes, homework, and tests, barely eating or only eating as little and quick as possible to get back to games, and staying up until 2, 3, or even 5 in the morning playing games is not healthy. It wasnt just me enjoying myself because I wasnt. I was queing up and booting up games so I didnt have to deal with the failung grades and academic stresses. I wasnt enjoying the games I was playing, but it was all I could think about.
Looking back, it is terrifying just how deep in denial I was in. And how much I masked my own depression and anxiety from myself in an attempt to pretend it didnt exist because being a gamer was so much easier to handle than being depressed, no matter how destructive it became.
Oh yeah. As a sugar addict trying carnivore to improve my health I've relapsed a few times and not even realized it. Carb withdrawals are real and terrible
I’m on a good streak rn but I definitely better understand why I’ve slipped up before
But what do i do if i feel numb about the stress thats straining me and i am indeed aware that i'm scaping reality by playing games but just don't find the willpower to do something else?
Since I overdosed with headache medicine 6 years ago, I've always been aware of my addictions usually it pretty simple if I see that I'm spending alot of time on a particular task or doing this task repetitively ,I can say that's an addiction the same goes for yt shorts
I'm coming up to my 6 months sober date and I still think about alcohol everyday
Same but stay strong, it's a day by day process. I just hit 4 months 💪🏾
Are there people who have addictions but are aware of this process? If so how does that play out? If not, what is it classified as?
Incredibly depicted in “The Gambler” by Dostoevsky
Full length video?
What are some like clinically recommended stress relievers?
Yooo it’s that guy from the Big Bang theory
Idk I've been battling addiction for 15 years now and I'm completely aware of this process as well as my emotional state. It's a willpower issue for me personally.
As someone who has had plenty of addictions, I believe addiction is due to a lack of unmet needs. Willpower is what is needed when your environment doesn't meet your needs but you choose to face it anyway. At some point, the addiction is used to feel better when willpower is out.
It's much like those very obese people that use food to cope with any struggle and one of their struggles is being obese. They started eating when something around them made them feel bad about themself but now they really feel bad about themself and need food even more.
The difficulty is finding what is being unmet. It's all internal ideologies even if the external world is what is making us suffer. Figuring out how to change your core ideologies is the difficult but necessary part. We may not even know what they are.
@@ZanderX10I like your analysis about why people fall to their addictions I’ve battled and broken almost every type of addiction from food to nicotine to weed and video games and most I was able to get over from changing my environment to better suit my life. The only one I haven’t been able to conquer is porn and it’s the one that’s hurt me the most and is the one I’ve had the longest I can’t seem to figure it out even though I desperately want to
@@ZanderX10 oh yeah I agree, my void has been spirituality.
I need to constant evaluate my emotional states to bo backslide.
High stress + sad feeling is my trigger. I dunno what should I do
Relax or meditate
Nah we have an internal awareness of our emotional state. Addictions are hard coded once gained. Any time in life we can return to our former addictive pattern. Aka addiction is for life but abstinence takes a life work too. You don’t just ‘heal’ your addiction, you replace it with something better. But when times get hard and there isn’t a replacement to fall back on (positivity) we fall back into the cycle. An unawareness of emotion state of addicts? Hell no, ask any addict if they’re ashamed of their actions and most will say yes. Is that unawareness?
I’m well aware of my past behaviour and the trick is to susbstitute negative addictions with positive ones. Like ur other saying about eat an apple not a cookie. Bing watch Netflix not food nd drugs. Do milfs not drugs. Chew nic gum if ya have to. Basketball not 8balls. Chase the ball not the dragon. And all that type shit. Or I’m into eating organic and healthy low carb unprocessed food now as well. I have lots of new habits/addictions. That’s the trick anyway. And learn to be happy and content alone because those days will come and you need to enjoy em not fall apart because your lonely.
I have the exact opposite problem, ive quit weed for many years at a time on and off but I always end up falling back into it, not because im stressed but because i forget. I have a lack of general awareness i guess, ill withstand the cravings until they go away and then i just forget that i was ever addicted and that I'm trying not to smoke, because after i succeed im not "trying" anymore. but then someone offers me a hit and without thinking ill do it and start all over again,
This is why when I have my shit together and stay responsible sometimes I just stay up till 7 am one night out of nowhere XD. But thankfully I'm not addicted to anything :)
Sounds like what someone who's addicted to something might say.
If the addiction is accepted by the individual that's an addict and they themselves continues to do so for whatever reasons they deemed fit. could you still say that they are blind? Some people can argue and say the addiction has a hold on them while others just say they are free to do what they want and none would be the wiser.
addiction isnt a habbit ist a fucking diseas if your an addict your sick AND most addicts know that your drinking bc it helps them kill the emotions but your right with 1 thing addicts dont know there internal emotional state iam an morphine addict (clean 15 years) and what you said gave me a headache
We already know why i slip so tell us what we need to know something that might help me
He mentions that the person "has" to use alcohol as a coping mechanism. It's not exactly true, if the person is able to level up their coping mechanisms to be able to cope with more stress than they could before, then in circumstances where they would normally give in to their addiction, they now have other tools to use instead of alcohol. So that's another angle that people could use to beat their addiction, along with what he's saying about being more aware of your emotional states
For around 10 years I smoked weed daily. Then I realized that it doesn't get me high anymore, at least not as much as I want. Now I smoke every 3 to 4 weeks or so, for 1 to 2 days. I wonder now if I smoke weed because I really enjoy being high, or if it's still the addiction described as in the video. I could have access to weed way more often but I don't wanna smoke too regularly.
Not ncessarily. There is also the possibility that they dont have a way to deal with this stuff. No social structure to help them through and they can conciously give in because the alternative would be worse. Addiction is complex
Where do I find the full vod for this please.
Pls solution to it too Dr k
Hello dr K where is the full video?
On mobile, tap the three-dots symbol at the top-right of the short and open the description. That has a link to the full video.
@@SimonClarkstone thank you. I was aware that was the usual way. But at the time I was writing that comment the description was empty. And I thought that was strange. Thank you regardless
What's it called when your kinda ok with it? Like I time it out so it doesn't get in the way of work. But when I can I usually just drink and maybe smoke weed till the world doesn't exist
What if you are aware of it and indulge anyways?
What about self aware addiction
So how do you fix it?? Can you link this vid?
Did you find it?
It's in the description
OK so if your counseling someone with an addiction, what’s the best way to make them aware? Should they do stress reduction daily to prevent the addictive behavior? That’s what I was saying would be best like mindfulness, which is meditation maybe walking????
Isn't it somehow good if they slip up and realise tho. They may increase awerness due to that.
I’m a gaming addict and completely aware of what I’m doing so I don’t know if this applies to every addiction
Holy shit i just realised i have food addiction. I can lose 35 pounds and stay strong on a diet and then i just start eating like an idiot. The worst thing is You really aren't aware of what You're doing. I can literally go downstairs at 3am and eat a 2k kcal meal on autopilot...
okay is this for SOME people, not all?
i’m extremely self aware and still extremely lacking control over my vices. this makes it sound like i’m “fine” almost
alcohol and games being my worst, but i suffer with anything i “enjoy”
please let me know what this is called. is it obsession? is there another word?
there's a big difference between self-awareness and being able to notice your feelings and internal signals when they arise. In some cases it's even due to neurodivergence. For example, being autistic, I find it very easy to do a lot of self-reflecting on a logical level, but if I don't make the intentional effort to listen to my body and my emotions, I don't notice when I'm hungry or thirsty, when I'm stressed, when I'm tired, when I'm agitated, when I'm sad, etc.
This means that I'm more likely to struggle with addictions because it makes it harder to notice the internal signs that I'm about to relaps to be able to talk myself out of it before it happens.
Literally most heavy playing gamers lmfao
Why you are not telling about the solutions?
Or what to do in this situation if you really know about that, then please inform it will be helpful to alot of people.
Or maybe that's all they are willing to communicate about the topic in that scenario?
So if you're aware, you're not addicted?
Me addicted to my phone
Was never blind to it 😢
Hi I'm an addict and Im clean 274 days I must say that N.A really helped me if you are struggling give me a PM❤
How to curb addiction tho?
Speak for yourself I know I'm addicted to alcohol, not everyone is oblivious to their own lives ....... Went to a psychiatrist for months and hearing them tell me the same thing I tell myself everyday without ever seeing one vs 200 bucks an appointment ya what a waste of money..... Yes I have issues yes I'm not psychic but it amazed me this woman tried to tell me everything I literally had written in my journal would help because she had a degree...........the world's gonna be ran by a bunch of fake men pretending to be women in the future I'm ok with being dead before that.....😢
MORE INFO PLEASE
I think moderation is better then Cold turkey it.
I'm not addicted and im not in denial😂
But I mean doesn’t this apply to everyone? Just with addicts there is something problematic to fall back into, whereas other people may do other, less damaging things
Then what's the solution?
I think the doc. is hinting at developing more emotional awareness in order to allow people to process their emotions better than with habitual coping mechanisms such as addicions
This idea has helped me a lot
You can't beat sad feelings with willpower, you have to be aware and address them
drinking
Gain insight into your mental states, thoughts, feelings.
Stoicism
So am I addicted or not?
What do i do about it
Wait until you're old. Hope you don't mess up next time.
Apathy is a hell of a drug
@DeleteTheTalmud Wats the difference between ignorance and apathy?
@Dan.992 I don't know and I don't care 🤣😂
Then explain why people who are aware of their actions knowing the consequences aren't addicts.
Nope... totally aware I like drinking to shut down I give a crap emotions. One doesn't need to be blind to an addiction to have it and the one's that are? Just lying to themselves cause deep down? Even they know it. Example? I quit smoking over eight years ago. How? I couldn't break the addiction so instead I replaced it. Had to because my COPD was getting bad enough that I could easily see myself DEAD in a year or two. It was a hard swap but eventually swapped smoking with vaping. Good news? I'm still alive eight years later. Even better news? Even smoking cigs turns me off immediately. Bad news? I quite vaping? Not an opinion. I TRADED addictions but least vaping isn't killing me. Least not as fast as cigs were. Other perk? For $200 I could buy enough vape juice to last over TWO YEARS and one can BARELY afford two cartons of cigs at that price and what? Maybe last just over a month?!?
AWARE
The obvious stated the root hinted m the cure ? A con ?
So that means that im addicted to something cause i don’t fell like im stressed but at the same time my body has health issues caused by the stress?:0
It's the other way around. Not being aware of your internal signals and emotions makes you more likely to fall into addictions because it makes it harder to spot patterns and stop yourself, but it doesn't MEAN that you're an addict. Although you might still find that you struggle breaking undesired habits too even though they aren't addictions per say.
Shame that you're not allowed to talk about Substance addiction on the discord
I got some demons
Not all people I am sober off heroin and I think I’m not gonna relapse ever again tbh I love life too much and it’s too important and valuable to me to live it to the fullest especially being a walking miracle I owe it to God/Universe and the world to be the best me and progress daily and really enjoy the miracle that is life as I could have died hundreds of times I’m sure💯🙏🫶🙌
Eh, not necessarily. Love ya man but not always true
@@Dimitris_Half In my own case I'm not addicted but I do have bad habits and I say, even if I'm aware of the process that does not lead to me not having that habit
But what dr. K is trying to, but failing to say, is that most addicted people are blind to it, and that being aware can help
@Dan.992 That people with addictions lack awareness of their internal state. That's the problem with these Shorts tho is that with more context it likely would have been more well explained. Dr. K NEVER COVERS A TOPIC IN 15 Seconds. Mental health is just not that simple.
Makes no sense..this guy is not a doctor or therapist. We are aware and not blind.
Not true. I am very aware of the stress that is causing me to eat Chinese food.
way to ruin my hope
What a bunch of garbage. I was completely aware of what I was doing
So the solution is no relationship and no friends, check 😅
Thanks
I don't have a relationship to end
so LET ME END MY FRIENDS FIRST
The solution is to learn how to manage your relationships.
@@yougotsnipedbro6060 don't delay it. Friends are ruining your life it's a well know fact. And good job on the relationship part.
P. S. Of course I wish you and me good relationship, and everyone here
@@mighty_osaker SAY NO MORE
No
false i know i’m a drunk i know i’m drinking cause i’m sad
@@Dimitris_Half hey man i don’t appreciate your positivity. i’m currently being sad so please respect that
@@Dimitris_Half hey man again that’s too positive
@@Dimitris_Half broo stop this positivity is making me wanna drink
@@Dimitris_Half one hand on the liquor the other on the wheel, thanks dan.
No.. don't agree
i already blocked this channel like 145 times
Lmao, imagine being so sensitive you start getting upset and comment on a channel you dislike instead of scrolling
I was struggling with porn, masturbation, social media binging.
I now have absolutely NONE of this desires for a month, instantly after getting filled with the Holy Spirit. ❤️
Seek God, everything will make sense then. ❤
Praying for anyone who's struggling as I was 🙏
That's what we call a radical transformation for Christ. Thank you, brother, for sharing your testimony!
I wish transformation came that fast for those of us who have walked with Jesus for decades.
@@jessicaharris1608 And it came when I really needed it the most! Truly powerful and supernatural!
I believe my miracolous experience will be more and more common as times goes on, because the evil in our world is taking over fast but God's power will be even faster 🙏. I came across Richard Lorenzo Jr videos, his service is many many levels higher than anything I experienced in the past, and it happened because of God's will through him.
Man I'm aware that I'm addicted to alot of things