This is so timely! I had a good first date on Monday and simply texted her when I got home “I had a lot of fun meeting you tonight! Did you get home okay?” to which she replied soon after “I did too! Yes, I did. Did you?” We exchanged a few more texts, but it was late so we basically left it at “Have a good night”. Two days went by and I didn’t hear from her, so I texted with the intent to ask for a second date. I led with asking how her week was going g and she came back with “Hey hey! Haven’t really had a moment to catch my breath. Sorry, I haven’t even had a moment to pause to listen to Fontaines [Fontaines D.C., a band we talked about on the date]. Have had these school trainings that are sucking up my time.” Now I’m not sure how to respond and ask for the next date since she just said she’s slammed with work. Seems inconsiderate to ask her when she indicated life is busy this week. Do I extend the chit chat until the weekend, then ask?
If she's interested, she'll make time despite her schedule. I would call to ask her out, stop texting aimlessly. You'll get your answer. Hopefully it's not too far in the future
Todd, yep. Be sensitive enough of her schedule, but be interested also. Her long reply and her mentioning the band you talked about is a good sign. Reply what made you busy also, and make a good response about the band she mentioned or you two talked about.
@@lexicon4uExactly, people need to stop this childish texting nonesense. You CALL HER and ask her out… if she can’t then You ask: when are you free to get together? If she doesn’t tell you a specific date, just tell her ok let me know when you have time to meet. Thats it. You can try this 2 times after a week in between, if she still gives you wishy washy responses then just move on.
So you're saying that after my 3 hour date i should text her and keep talking? No thank you, that's horrible advice. I''ll just plan a second date and that's it.
3 day rule is definitely BS She will losE interest immediately If you ignore her. Remember shes a woman. Women don’t need a man. So she cud careless if she ever sees you again. As a man I believe its our job to make the effort to continue building the connection n interest in one another.
WRONG! lol And if I am dating a Women that needs no Men then I don’t need her either. Also you don’t TEXT a woman, you CALL HER, like a real man would. She text you and you respond. You do not get to know someone through text. You do not tell someone about you through text. Thats for children. You call her to meet in person and then talk.
Yall obviously didn’t understand my statement. A woman decides if you get the kitty or not. Obviously there should be = effort on both ends. But your just a number to a woman who is actually high value and has alot of options. Vice versa. And remember Every single woman has options. But it’s a mans job to add value to his own life, the people, and the woman around them. Because like it or not all a man ever has is himself. A man shouldn’t depend on validation from a woman or anybody. If a girl doesn’t see any value in you and your also not persistent. Why would she bother when theres another guy who is adding more value and is actually being persistent. Even if he doesn’t hear from her. If she thinks your butthurt because she didn’t respond. Your not getting anywhere with her. She definitely going lose interest then. And mind you I never said anything about texting. Read the 1st statement again. But Staying persistent can be done in person as well. Simping is when you continue to fight for her love and attention after already getting shut down. Simping is not showing a female a really good time. In your first attempt to get the kitty. Not every female going be into you. So atleast if your a great guy and yall end things on good terms. She’ll be more likely to pass you to her girlfriends or atleast keep you in mind in the future.
@@CoolNWitDaGang I am speaking to a NEW girl. We spoke yesterday for hours on the phone. So far she is in the minority (meaning she is a good woman). She doesn’t care about Men with money and stuff, she dated men like that and it didn’t go well for her. So far she isn’t materialistic either. Hopefully we get together this weekend and see how things go.
@@powerhouse884sorry to break it to you pal but your mistake was talking to her for hours. Women Do not respect men who don’t value their time. Talking excessively, especially to a girl you just meant is generally viewed as feminine.
Yup, I never was a fan of the Dynamics of dating and seduction or attraction but unfortunately hating and resenting that would just be the same as resenting that we have a blue sky and that water is wet. It's like if a woman is simply just pretty or attractive physically or just average or decent looking, she already automatically has options. She is guaranteed to have options just for that only. Men need to have much more than that we have to talk right and behave right or just talk a certain way or behave a certain way, walk a certain way, have certain body language, we have to have all of these certain social skills or behavioral based things, talk a certain way or interact a certain way. Yep I've always been a fan that dating and attracting someone has always required a lot more of men than it has of women
This is very weak. Do you like me? If you do we can meet again... Just get to the point and ask her out again, if she liked you she'll go out again. Don't ruin attraction by texting or talking in the phone
Not good advice in terms "just texting". Maybe for boys around 18-25....but for men in their 30's and 40's....relying on texting is a great way to be like everyone else. And being like everyone is not a smart move. I might stick to coaching women....or boys in college.
What to text after a first date - nothing. Just wait 2 days, call her, have some small chit chat and then ask her out. It's possible within those days she'll message you. If she does, then that's your cue to ask her. And in my experience, every girl loves calls over texting. It shows confidence. If a girl doesn't, she straight up doesn't like you.
Some women may like that, but there are also women who don't find comfort at receiving calls from guys they just dated once. It's safer to be confident that the woman is comfortable with receiving a call from you, and that will only happen if you had a conversation over text after the first date.
Wow. Terrible advice
Fuck this, I’ll just do whatever I feel it’s right
how did it go?
Fr? How’d it go
That is the correct answer. Rules are played out and boring, makes everything predictable which is a turn off.
The irony is the more you listen to this type of content the less secure and more anxious you’ll be in the process 😂
This woman is so lovely. Really helped me out. I'll text tomorrow noon... got it ☝🏽
This is so timely! I had a good first date on Monday and simply texted her when I got home “I had a lot of fun meeting you tonight! Did you get home okay?” to which she replied soon after “I did too! Yes, I did. Did you?” We exchanged a few more texts, but it was late so we basically left it at “Have a good night”.
Two days went by and I didn’t hear from her, so I texted with the intent to ask for a second date. I led with asking how her week was going g and she came back with “Hey hey! Haven’t really had a moment to catch my breath. Sorry, I haven’t even had a moment to pause to listen to Fontaines [Fontaines D.C., a band we talked about on the date]. Have had these school trainings that are sucking up my time.”
Now I’m not sure how to respond and ask for the next date since she just said she’s slammed with work. Seems inconsiderate to ask her when she indicated life is busy this week. Do I extend the chit chat until the weekend, then ask?
If she's interested, she'll make time despite her schedule. I would call to ask her out, stop texting aimlessly. You'll get your answer. Hopefully it's not too far in the future
Todd, yep. Be sensitive enough of her schedule, but be interested also. Her long reply and her mentioning the band you talked about is a good sign. Reply what made you busy also, and make a good response about the band she mentioned or you two talked about.
@@lexicon4uExactly, people need to stop this childish texting nonesense. You CALL HER and ask her out… if she can’t then You ask: when are you free to get together?
If she doesn’t tell you a specific date, just tell her ok let me know when you have time to meet. Thats it.
You can try this 2 times after a week in between, if she still gives you wishy washy responses then just move on.
What happened? lol
@@Fakestockguru I moved on, met a reliable, smart, wonderful woman and we’ve been dating for nine months.
So you're saying that after my 3 hour date i should text her and keep talking? No thank you, that's horrible advice. I''ll just plan a second date and that's it.
3 day rule is definitely BS She will losE interest immediately If you ignore her. Remember shes a woman. Women don’t need a man. So she cud careless if she ever sees you again. As a man I believe its our job to make the effort to continue building the connection n interest in one another.
WRONG! lol
And if I am dating a Women that needs no Men then I don’t need her either.
Also you don’t TEXT a woman, you CALL HER, like a real man would. She text you and you respond. You do not get to know someone through text. You do not tell someone about you through text. Thats for children. You call her to meet in person and then talk.
Two way street man, she can text too.
Yall obviously didn’t understand my statement. A woman decides if you get the kitty or not. Obviously there should be = effort on both ends. But your just a number to a woman who is actually high value and has alot of options. Vice versa. And remember Every single woman has options. But it’s a mans job to add value to his own life, the people, and the woman around them. Because like it or not all a man ever has is himself. A man shouldn’t depend on validation from a woman or anybody. If a girl doesn’t see any value in you and your also not persistent. Why would she bother when theres another guy who is adding more value and is actually being persistent. Even if he doesn’t hear from her. If she thinks your butthurt because she didn’t respond. Your not getting anywhere with her. She definitely going lose interest then. And mind you I never said anything about texting. Read the 1st statement again. But Staying persistent can be done in person as well. Simping is when you continue to fight for her love and attention after already getting shut down. Simping is not showing a female a really good time. In your first attempt to get the kitty. Not every female going be into you. So atleast if your a great guy and yall end things on good terms. She’ll be more likely to pass you to her girlfriends or atleast keep you in mind in the future.
@@CoolNWitDaGang I am speaking to a NEW girl. We spoke yesterday for hours on the phone. So far she is in the minority (meaning she is a good woman). She doesn’t care about Men with money and stuff, she dated men like that and it didn’t go well for her. So far she isn’t materialistic either.
Hopefully we get together this weekend and see how things go.
@@powerhouse884sorry to break it to you pal but your mistake was talking to her for hours. Women Do not respect men who don’t value their time. Talking excessively, especially to a girl you just meant is generally viewed as feminine.
Great video! Have already been working my way through your texting course 😎
wow! that's great. I'm excited for you, John!
Yup, I never was a fan of the Dynamics of dating and seduction or attraction but unfortunately hating and resenting that would just be the same as resenting that we have a blue sky and that water is wet.
It's like if a woman is simply just pretty or attractive physically or just average or decent looking, she already automatically has options. She is guaranteed to have options just for that only.
Men need to have much more than that we have to talk right and behave right or just talk a certain way or behave a certain way, walk a certain way, have certain body language, we have to have all of these certain social skills or behavioral based things, talk a certain way or interact a certain way.
Yep I've always been a fan that dating and attracting someone has always required a lot more of men than it has of women
Went on a first date last night. It went well.
I just texted:
"Hey. I heard you had a HOT DATE last night.
🔥"
Building a better beta as said by Rich Cooper
I CALL; like a man should and women respond with never ending texts. I don't have patience for that.
This is very weak. Do you like me? If you do we can meet again... Just get to the point and ask her out again, if she liked you she'll go out again. Don't ruin attraction by texting or talking in the phone
tbh i just messaged the person like 20 min later saying "get home safe"
That just happened to me. He said, did you get home safe? I said, no I died.... just kidding. Yep 👍
I cant say i agree with any of this....sounds too beta male vibe...you never ask a girl if she had a good time with a smiley face
Awesome, you have a new subscriber here 💪🏻👍🏻
Great video Blaine! Definitely will keep these in mind!
We need the same just for older women
Watching this makes me feel so dumb haha. Thanks for the advice
great all around advice.
No experience, too young to be a coach.
Not good advice in terms "just texting". Maybe for boys around 18-25....but for men in their 30's and 40's....relying on texting is a great way to be like everyone else. And being like everyone is not a smart move. I might stick to coaching women....or boys in college.
Relying entirely with texting is indeed not good. But having good texting skills can save men in the modern dating world ;)
what if you already planned a second date at the end of the first one?
What to text after a first date - nothing. Just wait 2 days, call her, have some small chit chat and then ask her out. It's possible within those days she'll message you. If she does, then that's your cue to ask her.
And in my experience, every girl loves calls over texting. It shows confidence. If a girl doesn't, she straight up doesn't like you.
Some women may like that, but there are also women who don't find comfort at receiving calls from guys they just dated once. It's safer to be confident that the woman is comfortable with receiving a call from you, and that will only happen if you had a conversation over text after the first date.
@@DatingByBlaine a good middle ground between texting and calling is voice notes! I think that they are a game changer in dating! Thoughts? 🤔
@@jayrusty2012Just Call her and don’t be a Puss.
Please pick me ❤