I'm wondering if my therapist or my psychiatrist dislikes me. I try not to be narcissistic, but this video is making me wonder (not too much) if they dislike me.
lol once i came into my therapy online meeting holding a wine glass full of apple juice bc fuck yeah, apple juice... my therapist asked if it was champagne and i just. held up the actual bottle of apple juice i had poured from bc i had it with me. many laughs were had
I love it when you and your therapist share a good laugh. Recently I was answering intake questions with my therapist when she asked what my orientation was. I answered straight and she noted I was the only client who actually answered that question correctly the first time, everyone else had answered with their gender identity and needed clarification. It’s not really as funny in hindsight but we laughed for a good minute at the time.
I appreciate that these professionals were willing to (anonymously) speak about their experiences, but I DO feel that some of them (MANY of them!) were being very disingenuous. I'm not saying that it's _impossible_ to separate your dislike for a person from their actions, but you could kind of tell that some of these posters were trying to paint the illusion that they were able to PERFECTLY maintain neutrality. I really, _REALLY_ appreciate those posters who admitted that they ended up having to leave a job or even dismiss a client due to being unable to see them as monsters. I actually respected those posters SO MUCH for being honest! It irked me, the other posters who complained about how terrible their patient was, but then turned around in the same breath and insisted that they'd "never" hated a client, "only their actions"...and then proceeded to describe in a few words just _how much_ they DID in fact HATE said client. ..not seeming to realize that we can tell by their description of the patient just how much they hated them. Why respond at all if you won't be honest? Why go out of your way to try to sanitize a bad experience?
Idk, they said dislike, not hate. Also, I don't think it was disingenuous if they said they disliked what the patient did, but have never actively hated a patient. I think it's very telling if THAT many people said the same thing, but idk. You may be right.
Ya'd complain to if ya had to sit 3 ft from them for an hr every other wk for yrs on end and the person either refuses to take care of themselves or not. I think they are delusional when they say they never hated a client. Theyre all human let them feel emotions.
@@Kris-wo4pj they don't have to do that theyre choosing to. Signing up to work with people who have mental health problems then complain that the people arent thinking right.. Doesnt make sense
Its the other way around for me. Had a shrink that was a stone cold butthole. Constantly pryed into my personal life and i fought tooth and claw to keep my secrets most to no avail frick that coin fed therapist for nearly killing my self asteem.
How do you know it is? Trauma is far more common than people think, and a lot of people don’t want to acknowledge that. The systems and culture we accept as normal can be very traumatizing
Had good therapist and bad ones. One who helped me to understand why and how I think. It helped me to change from who I was into who I am now. Therapy works if you want but you have to do it because you want to do it for yourself. Not for anyone else. Yes it can be hard work and scary at times. But we'll worth it
When I saw the title, I was immediately reminded of that guy in Hannibal who got his neck snapped and then Hannibal said "I wanted to do that" or something similar lmao
When I was still in therapy, I at one point told my therapist (while I was in the midst of a depressive episode) that she must really dread working with me, like “oh gosh not Mint again”. She said, very genuinely, “no, that’s not true I like talking to you.” Not verbatim, but her sentiment, not mine. Even now what’s left of my anxiety (I don’t think it’ll ever fully be gone, but I’m learning to live with it) thinks “oh she might have just said that to be nice” but my therapist never just said things to be nice. She was blunt with me when she had to be. So I suppose she was telling the truth.
Ok the 'behavioral therapist for kiddos with autism' is setting a lot of alarm bells off in my head. While I understand people who are not in the know refer to autism as something you have, most who know about ASD understand it's literally the brain itself growing differently. Paired with 'behavioral interventions', it makes me think they're one of those 'superflex' or ABA therapists.
Autistic person here, those were my thoughts too. Makes it very ironic that they complained about neglectful parents when from what I’ve heard from autistic people who have gone through such ‘behavioural therapy’ it’s just torture
@@Johnmarstonredeem bro really thinks correlation equals causation and that children should be subjected to abuse. instead of just regular therapy. Like you can just be taught social cues and people outcasting you is more so the fault of systemic othering towards minority groups, dude. What even is this justification? 'I was friends with bad people in high-school so abuse should be allowed towards autistic kids!' When the option of people just treating you better exists. Accommodation and understanding aren't hard for these people to give you, it's not fair to yourself or anyone else in the way of trauma like that cos of how other people treated for you forgot conforming. That's not even mentioning the burnout you'd get.
@@Johnmarstonredeem bro the 'intervation' you're talking about would just be better parenting, though that is also ignoring that people are individuals with personality traits and history that influence them. Behaviour needs correcting when it's like assaulting people regardless of an autism diagnosis because it's not something inherently tied to ASD. Though being 'silent' (do you mean mute?), chronically online or horny is pretty normal for teenagers nor is it connected to autism. It's also far from bottle of the barrel from what you've described.
@@Johnmarstonredeem damn, why aren't my replies showing up? Anyways dude the stuff you described is being a teenager, not ASD, which is more related to not getting social cues and sensory issues.
The term “personality disorder” seems highly inaccurate given its definition. It sounds like the patients problem and not the responsibility of what messed them up.
Regarding Cluster B personality types, I would agree with you that it has little to do with the personality but more to do with a shared and common lack of remorse/guilt/empathy/moral compass (or a twisted and altered sense/version of these concepts), a set of maladaptive survival methods (which tend to be continued to be used, rationalised, excused far beyond their expiration date), a lack of desire to change, an inability to recognise that their actions may be problematic or divisive (which leads to the former), a difficulty to regulate emotional/behavioural instability or turmoil, a difficulty to maintain mutually beneficial, safe, healthy, secure, loving, trusting, and rewarding relationships (which results from the former), a tendency to blame others or to shift blame onto others (which is what you appear to be doing here, in part), a lack of consideration as to how their actions may negatively impact others, and many more...much more within that particular cluster and outside of it. And in actuality, the designated "personality disorder" is a known misnomer or a more politically correct term that replaced its more radical predecessor long ago, but not that long ago. We can continue to debate the semantics of a term that does not accurately describe how it is not "the patients problem" but "the responsibility of what messed them up," but it will not change anything in terms of improving the patient's life; in fact, it may accomplish the exact opposite (in other words, the exercise is counter-productive to his or her healing). And yes, in therapy and outside of it, it is the patient's responsibility to change behaviour, thought, action, et cetera that is deleterious to him-or-herself and to others if he or she at all desires genuine improvements in all aspects of his or her life. While it is convenient to blame the past and it is easy to remain stuck in it (and therefore why many cling to both), it does far more good (albeit ever-increasing in difficulty the more entrenched one becomes in self-improvement, betterment, growth, self-actualisation) for him or her to face, study, learn from, question, challenge, battle, vanquish, and carry on and move forward from the past and its massive army and into the present and beyond. I would rather fight the many chains of the past toward eventual, ever-so-sweet, libatious liberation from them than to resolve myself to choose to remain forevermore willingly tethered to those chains of the past. The former is a grace, though it may take time to see it and appreciate as such; the latter is no life, semblative of a prison of which its steadily-growing, self-imposed, self-created, and/or adopted bars are mostly, if not all, invisible (i.e. they exist metaphysically).
Well maybe instead of giving parents a out ,you should tell them that many others have it much worse,raise your own kids instead of letting the streets do it,it's not the kids ,it's the so called adults,how can they raise skid when in their minds they are only a couple years older,do better or don't have kids
My dad once made a therapist break down my dad works on a railroad someone committed suicide by jumping leaping infront of a train turns out it was the the therapists sister
I assume using the term to refer just to people who’ve been sexually violent- but to be literal, the sex offender registry is not infallible. Plenty of people are on there who are not rapists. ‘Public indecency’ at one point also used to mean publicly being queer or cross dressing in the US. (And the right wing is trying to make it a sex offence to be publicly, visibly queer again) And as for the ones that do deserve to be on there, it’s not like hating sexually violent people reduces the amount of sexual violence in the world, as much as it’s a natural and justified reaction.
Some people should be left to rot tbh. Too often good people wastes tons of energy to try dealing whit bad people in "the right" way. Morons dont do that, they just suck everything around them. Seriously, if someone is irreversable, let him die. Use your energy to help someone who actually deserves it, your time is not limitless
I had a therapist that tried to get interested in Harry Potter. It would have been okay if I was a 10 year old girl but I was an adult childless woman, married to a man that thought our family was complete with having children with his ex-wife. Needless to say he couldn't understand why I alienated his children and refused to babysit them.
@@cosmicHalArizona Not just baggage but a garbage baggage of step-children I wanted nothing to do with and ignored them. I haven't seen them in 20 years. Praise be.
@@carolej5377 Okay... but it's not the kids fault their dad is a prick. If they are genuinely unpleasant to be around I understand but I would hope you don't hate them just because of their dad. That's not entirely fair on them. However under the circumstances it doesn't seem like you have any obligation towards those children so it's not like there is anything wrong with wanting nothing to do with them. Not that my opinion matters in the slightest I'm sure, I hope whatever you're doing you're happier now.
If this is how the mental health system is doing with the population, then I'm not surprised why people are struggling daily in their lives. Above all, their rants all I could see are just people complaining about their jobs. Mental health is declining, but now it's painfully obvious why.
..... In some cases I think therapists should be able to do a peer review on a client and if the majority vote for it, they get to tell the client they're being stupid or an entitled POS
No person expresses even a slight curiosity about the time you came relative to other human beings. In short, nobody freaking cares about you being first.
I'm wondering if my therapist or my psychiatrist dislikes me. I try not to be narcissistic, but this video is making me wonder (not too much) if they dislike me.
if you wonder if people dislike you, you're definitely not a narcissist.
@@wooltattoo (This is the demonetization symbol)
lol once i came into my therapy online meeting holding a wine glass full of apple juice bc fuck yeah, apple juice... my therapist asked if it was champagne and i just. held up the actual bottle of apple juice i had poured from bc i had it with me. many laughs were had
I love it when you and your therapist share a good laugh. Recently I was answering intake questions with my therapist when she asked what my orientation was. I answered straight and she noted I was the only client who actually answered that question correctly the first time, everyone else had answered with their gender identity and needed clarification. It’s not really as funny in hindsight but we laughed for a good minute at the time.
I appreciate that these professionals were willing to (anonymously) speak about their experiences, but I DO feel that some of them (MANY of them!) were being very disingenuous.
I'm not saying that it's _impossible_ to separate your dislike for a person from their actions, but you could kind of tell that some of these posters were trying to paint the illusion that they were able to PERFECTLY maintain neutrality. I really, _REALLY_ appreciate those posters who admitted that they ended up having to leave a job or even dismiss a client due to being unable to see them as monsters. I actually respected those posters SO MUCH for being honest! It irked me, the other posters who complained about how terrible their patient was, but then turned around in the same breath and insisted that they'd "never" hated a client, "only their actions"...and then proceeded to describe in a few words just _how much_ they DID in fact HATE said client. ..not seeming to realize that we can tell by their description of the patient just how much they hated them.
Why respond at all if you won't be honest? Why go out of your way to try to sanitize a bad experience?
Or the therapist rapping others for expressing their opinions
imo kinda malicious that 95% were "Hate is a strong word", like...
Idk, they said dislike, not hate. Also, I don't think it was disingenuous if they said they disliked what the patient did, but have never actively hated a patient. I think it's very telling if THAT many people said the same thing, but idk. You may be right.
My first psych did NOT like my father and was instrumental in the eventual cps/court case. Sometimes dislike can do a patient good
Some of these therapists were extremely unprofessional in their complaints. Like the one that complained about the “smelly clients” like... Really?
Ya'd complain to if ya had to sit 3 ft from them for an hr every other wk for yrs on end and the person either refuses to take care of themselves or not. I think they are delusional when they say they never hated a client. Theyre all human let them feel emotions.
I just remind myself that 99.5% of stories on reddit are made up if one frustrates me
@@Kris-wo4pj they don't have to do that theyre choosing to. Signing up to work with people who have mental health problems then complain that the people arent thinking right.. Doesnt make sense
I had a couple come in with roaches crawling all over their clothes, it's not a hate thing, it's a panic thing
Nah, bruh, you would be complaining too, and also, people are allowed to complain anonymously on reddit
Hmm, Reddit seems to have a lot more “therapists” than I would’ve thought. One’s who haven’t heard of patient confidentiality agreement
Not me watching this to see if my therapist is talking shit about me
Its the other way around for me. Had a shrink that was a stone cold butthole. Constantly pryed into my personal life and i fought tooth and claw to keep my secrets most to no avail frick that coin fed therapist for nearly killing my self asteem.
Literally am diagnosed ptsd and people who just self diagnosed I’m just like why?
Agreed. I don’t like how the word “trauma” and “being traumatized” is just casually and jokingly thrown around.
How do you know it is? Trauma is far more common than people think, and a lot of people don’t want to acknowledge that. The systems and culture we accept as normal can be very traumatizing
@@alisonpurgatory85Violence causes trauma. Not doing your taxes.
Had good therapist and bad ones. One who helped me to understand why and how I think. It helped me to change from who I was into who I am now. Therapy works if you want but you have to do it because you want to do it for yourself. Not for anyone else. Yes it can be hard work and scary at times. But we'll worth it
When I saw the title, I was immediately reminded of that guy in Hannibal who got his neck snapped and then Hannibal said "I wanted to do that" or something similar lmao
Therapist are heroes we never hear about.
And some are villainous.
Mine tried to send me to a school full of droolers because I had ADHD lmao
16:34 you just admitted the question doesnt apply to you at all
Oh boy, this is so depressing !
You can't hate people who chew tobacco? I can't NOT hate people who chew tobacco (or "dip snuff"). Guess I just can't be a therapist.
When I was still in therapy, I at one point told my therapist (while I was in the midst of a depressive episode) that she must really dread working with me, like “oh gosh not Mint again”. She said, very genuinely, “no, that’s not true I like talking to you.” Not verbatim, but her sentiment, not mine.
Even now what’s left of my anxiety (I don’t think it’ll ever fully be gone, but I’m learning to live with it) thinks “oh she might have just said that to be nice” but my therapist never just said things to be nice. She was blunt with me when she had to be. So I suppose she was telling the truth.
Ok the 'behavioral therapist for kiddos with autism' is setting a lot of alarm bells off in my head. While I understand people who are not in the know refer to autism as something you have, most who know about ASD understand it's literally the brain itself growing differently. Paired with 'behavioral interventions', it makes me think they're one of those 'superflex' or ABA therapists.
Autistic person here, those were my thoughts too. Makes it very ironic that they complained about neglectful parents when from what I’ve heard from autistic people who have gone through such ‘behavioural therapy’ it’s just torture
@@Johnmarstonredeem bro really thinks correlation equals causation and that children should be subjected to abuse. instead of just regular therapy. Like you can just be taught social cues and people outcasting you is more so the fault of systemic othering towards minority groups, dude.
What even is this justification? 'I was friends with bad people in high-school so abuse should be allowed towards autistic kids!' When the option of people just treating you better exists. Accommodation and understanding aren't hard for these people to give you, it's not fair to yourself or anyone else in the way of trauma like that cos of how other people treated for you forgot conforming. That's not even mentioning the burnout you'd get.
@@Johnmarstonredeem bro the 'intervation' you're talking about would just be better parenting, though that is also ignoring that people are individuals with personality traits and history that influence them. Behaviour needs correcting when it's like assaulting people regardless of an autism diagnosis because it's not something inherently tied to ASD.
Though being 'silent' (do you mean mute?), chronically online or horny is pretty normal for teenagers nor is it connected to autism. It's also far from bottle of the barrel from what you've described.
@@Johnmarstonredeem damn, why aren't my replies showing up?
Anyways dude the stuff you described is being a teenager, not ASD, which is more related to not getting social cues and sensory issues.
yeh, can agree on how hate is such a strong word for psychiatrists, unless one of the patients actually did something to them that's hateful
I’m afraid I’m going to lose another therapist because I don’t try. Or I barely start, then abruptly stop doing what would help me.
Don't worry, you're safe to say anything.
See if I ever open up to a therapist again! Glad I have a best friend for ranting to! 😂
They don't dislike clients for opening up or talking they dislike them for other actions
The term “personality disorder” seems highly inaccurate given its definition. It sounds like the patients problem and not the responsibility of what messed them up.
Regarding Cluster B personality types, I would agree with you that it has little to do with the personality but more to do with a shared and common lack of remorse/guilt/empathy/moral compass (or a twisted and altered sense/version of these concepts), a set of maladaptive survival methods (which tend to be continued to be used, rationalised, excused far beyond their expiration date), a lack of desire to change, an inability to recognise that their actions may be problematic or divisive (which leads to the former), a difficulty to regulate emotional/behavioural instability or turmoil, a difficulty to maintain mutually beneficial, safe, healthy, secure, loving, trusting, and rewarding relationships (which results from the former), a tendency to blame others or to shift blame onto others (which is what you appear to be doing here, in part), a lack of consideration as to how their actions may negatively impact others, and many more...much more within that particular cluster and outside of it. And in actuality, the designated "personality disorder" is a known misnomer or a more politically correct term that replaced its more radical predecessor long ago, but not that long ago. We can continue to debate the semantics of a term that does not accurately describe how it is not "the patients problem" but "the responsibility of what messed them up," but it will not change anything in terms of improving the patient's life; in fact, it may accomplish the exact opposite (in other words, the exercise is counter-productive to his or her healing).
And yes, in therapy and outside of it, it is the patient's responsibility to change behaviour, thought, action, et cetera that is deleterious to him-or-herself and to others if he or she at all desires genuine improvements in all aspects of his or her life. While it is convenient to blame the past and it is easy to remain stuck in it (and therefore why many cling to both), it does far more good (albeit ever-increasing in difficulty the more entrenched one becomes in self-improvement, betterment, growth, self-actualisation) for him or her to face, study, learn from, question, challenge, battle, vanquish, and carry on and move forward from the past and its massive army and into the present and beyond. I would rather fight the many chains of the past toward eventual, ever-so-sweet, libatious liberation from them than to resolve myself to choose to remain forevermore willingly tethered to those chains of the past. The former is a grace, though it may take time to see it and appreciate as such; the latter is no life, semblative of a prison of which its steadily-growing, self-imposed, self-created, and/or adopted bars are mostly, if not all, invisible (i.e. they exist metaphysically).
Some people I don’t like working with considering they don’t do their part.
DRUG ADDICTION IS NOT A SPECTATOR SPORT. EVERYONE IN THE FAMILY GETS TO PLAY!
Well maybe instead of giving parents a out ,you should tell them that many others have it much worse,raise your own kids instead of letting the streets do it,it's not the kids ,it's the so called adults,how can they raise skid when in their minds they are only a couple years older,do better or don't have kids
These guys sounds like a bunch of saints who are not telling us the truth.
I'm gonna ask my therapist if he hates i feel it
My dad once made a therapist break down my dad works on a railroad someone committed suicide by jumping leaping infront of a train turns out it was the the therapists sister
Man how can you not hate a sex offender
I assume using the term to refer just to people who’ve been sexually violent- but to be literal, the sex offender registry is not infallible. Plenty of people are on there who are not rapists. ‘Public indecency’ at one point also used to mean publicly being queer or cross dressing in the US. (And the right wing is trying to make it a sex offence to be publicly, visibly queer again) And as for the ones that do deserve to be on there, it’s not like hating sexually violent people reduces the amount of sexual violence in the world, as much as it’s a natural and justified reaction.
@@alisonpurgatory85 oh cheers love!
Some people should be left to rot tbh. Too often good people wastes tons of energy to try dealing whit bad people in "the right" way. Morons dont do that, they just suck everything around them.
Seriously, if someone is irreversable, let him die. Use your energy to help someone who actually deserves it, your time is not limitless
There's no "bad people"There are people with diferent opinions
17:55 this one
oMg!!1! I aM 5tH!!11!!
358!!!!!! oH wEeEeeE
I had a therapist that tried to get interested in Harry Potter. It would have been okay if I was a 10 year old girl but I was an adult childless woman, married to a man that thought our family was complete with having children with his ex-wife. Needless to say he couldn't understand why I alienated his children and refused to babysit them.
Baggage...tough
@@cosmicHalArizona Not just baggage but a garbage baggage of step-children I wanted nothing to do with and ignored them. I haven't seen them in 20 years. Praise be.
@@carolej5377 Okay... but it's not the kids fault their dad is a prick. If they are genuinely unpleasant to be around I understand but I would hope you don't hate them just because of their dad. That's not entirely fair on them. However under the circumstances it doesn't seem like you have any obligation towards those children so it's not like there is anything wrong with wanting nothing to do with them. Not that my opinion matters in the slightest I'm sure, I hope whatever you're doing you're happier now.
@@carolej5377 I can see why your husband doesn't understand you if you're being cruel to children for no logical reason
If this is how the mental health system is doing with the population, then I'm not surprised why people are struggling daily in their lives. Above all, their rants all I could see are just people complaining about their jobs. Mental health is declining, but now it's painfully obvious why.
Hey
..... In some cases I think therapists should be able to do a peer review on a client and if the majority vote for it, they get to tell the client they're being stupid or an entitled POS
Who would have thought that clients with mental issues have... mental issues!!! 😱
First
why
Nobody cares bro
No person expresses even a slight curiosity about the time you came relative to other human beings. In short, nobody freaking cares about you being first.
Some people do actually find it neat as to what number comment they are.
Imagine being so sour, that you have to take the time to complain about a random comment.
My god how hard can it be to narrate a video yourself? Whenever I hear that damn robot voice I click off the video because I know it’s gonna suck.