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@@sr6571 Capitalism requires a seller and a customer. Consumerism is the way in which that seller deceives the customer to make them buy more. The “being sold a new identity every few months” is consumerism. It is a strategy used by sellers so that they can exploit our human nature and addictive mentalities to make more money off of us. But you can, as a customer, choose to not give in to the consumerism. That’s not anti-capitalist. Capitalism is an economic system not a selling strategy. If you don’t agree with the trends, don’t buy from them. Because you live in a capitalist economy, you are able to choose whether you follow the trends of consumerism or not. Just because many of us are fooled doesn’t mean we don’t have the option to snap out of it. Greed is what drives consumerism -> Consumerism is the habit of buying unnecessary new things routinely -> And capitalism is the system under which all of it operates. But capitalism is too broad to be an appropriate word to use here. I find very often people call anything they dislike in the economy “capitalist.” Small businesses are “capitalist” too. Vaccine development is “capitalist” too. Free trade is “capitalist” too. Rather than blame capitalism for existing, maybe blame society for allowing itself to be manipulated by the temptations of huge multinational corporations.
Took me years of soul searching to realize that the only thing I ever actually WANTED to wear were completely impractical, huge, frilly princess dresses. I started dressing that way, and, despite the odd looks, it's just about the best decision I ever made. Don't let anyone tell you what you like is wrong
I needed to see this one. I was just telling my friend that I have this dress, very princess or maybe regency-esque, and Ive worn it like 3 or 4 times in the 4 years I've owned it. But like I would wear it ~all the time~ if it was "acceptable." Wow, when it's safe to go out and be social again--that dress is going into circulation.
My first thought when i read this was "lolita fashion" . Not exactly princess and more like pretty doll imo. I love it for that reason though lol turn me into a pretty porcelain doll
@@herzen9857 I actually do wear lolita fashion! I specifically wear hime style though, so I’m going for something like dolly princess (for reference I usually wear stuff from elpress and hinana queen) ❤️
@@ghost_evermore oh my god! I love that! I want to get into lolita fashion too but it can get expensive for me and I'm still a bit afraid of wearing something like that outside. I'll still wear it someday though lol
@@ellasedits_ Save it on a playlist called "Things to Know for Your Twenties" along with Leena's other videos in the series (& videos anyone else has) & come back to it in 6 years.
@@jadecollins7693 it’s about the ‘men’ in relationships that act like children and expect their girlfriend to act like their mothers instead of their girlfriends/the women who accept dating a ‘child’ instead of a partner
I would add a rule to this: Don't limit yourself to the women's section. Some of my most favourite and long-lasting sweaters and more casual tops came from the men's section. As well, if you're a larger person (like me!) men's sizes in T-shirts and such tend to just run larger, so the fit is more generous than women's.
Also on the other end if your a 5ft skinny person like me, the kids section is great! Also idk if its just me, but I feel like the womans section is the most expensive.
As a small woman I also prefer men's t-shirts. Men's T-shirts, small size, are too big for me, so I buy from the children's section, but the fit is so much better than the women's t-shirts that are more tighter and uncomfortable to wear
This! I have broad shoulders, and so even if something from the women's section fits me in the bust/waist, it rides up too much on my shoulders. Men's sweaters + t-shirts tend to fit me better in that regard.
Definitely. I consider myself to be very much on the feminine side, but have tons of clothes, particularly t-shirts, jumpers and sweaters from the male section and I wear them regularly.
"If you really love it, buy two" - yes!! Strongly agree! I cannot tell you how many things I have bought two of in different colors or patterns. Almost always, I have ended up wearing both versions often and it's been a great decision.
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I do the same so often, and often regret when I don't. The only time it hasn't worked out so well so far is a pair of jeans as I then gained weight and now the pair of them are just sitting in a drawer waiting 😅 should've followed Leena's rule about waistlines
When I decided that I loved a certain jegging, I knew I found "my thing" and replaced all of my bottoms with the same exact pair of jeggings in a drawerful of colors, and they made me super happy for the last few years. I wore them everyday with everything. My style has just dramatically changed this year, so I'm saying goodbye to them, but they were like an ex lover that I grew apart from. We have incredible memories together, but it's time to move on. Thank you, Jolt brand techno tuck jeggings. I loved you.
When you try to dress according to trends you'll end up always buying new clothes, but when you buy clothes that you really like without following trends you might keep it for years
I'd say be mindful of trends. I mean if you see a trendy piece that is flattering on you and you actually like it, then by all mean buy it! But still be mindful if it could be considered awful or even tacky in the next five or ten years. I rarely ever buy new clothing except for basics such as singlets, socks and undies.
When crop tops came "back" in style (im not even sure why they were out of style to begin with) I find my new passion. I will never not wear crop tops. It's been years now and theyre so flattering to/on me. I say stay away from trends, but be wary of *styles*. I would say skinny jeans / high waisted jeans are also a "trend" depending on the decade. But maybe you like bootcut or boyfriend or bellbottoms. Wear what you like and not because its a trend. I hate mom jeans bc they arent flattering on me, but boy are they gorgeous on some other people. And id say that trend has been going for years now and people still wear mom jeans. The "trends" i stay away from are certain patterns or fabrics. Like velver was a trend in 2016~2017. And i hate velvet. The same for cheetah/animal print. Thats been back in style since last year and im not a fan. Also when floral was a trend again around 2017, i was not a fan. The same goes for "statement pieces" like a ceryain hairstyle or hairpiece thats a trend (last year it was puffy headbands, the past few years it's been "tiny sunnies") You will never catch me dead wearing a statement piece or trend. But I do think "trends" such as things that are BRAND new can affect people. Like softboys wearing skirts. It isnt the first time boys or men have worn skirts, but I do think that the "trend" is important bc it opens a discussion. The same with things like wearing tops without a bra. I havent worn a bra since crop tops came out and I swear I will only buy sportsbras for the gym or i have one bra for formal purposes / work.
@@MyFictionalChaos I mostly agree with you, but lol I have actually found new loves for things like floral and cheetah that I didn't love the last time they were popular, because I've changed so much. If it weren't for them coming back and making me look at them again as a different "me", I would have numerous less things in my wardrobe that supplement me living my happiest life truest to "me" today :3 but, even with me liking cheetah now, I'm still not going to buy hot pink crushed velvet cheetah printed items. That definitely won't last, and I'm more than happy with a classy variety of what's trending.
I buy some clothes I see online cause of others...but I rarely even wear them and they stay in my wardrobe but items like my denim jacket, I wear for years and years without any doubt of getting rid of.
I have a lot of tees that I've had for 5+ years, but now that I think about it the ones that were "mens" typically wear better and can go for longer without a wash... hmmm. Okay only buying mens tees in future
The moment I get a sewing machine I will start getting mens t-shirts because now even the smallest size goes down to my mid thigh... Honestly when it comes to clothing being short has very few benefits
Most important clothing lesson for every woman: WE DESERVE POCKETS! I have an old pillow case that I’ve cut up to add pockets to all my dresses. It has greatly improved my life
I do the same with all my leggings and yoga pants. I don't know why, but people who design pants seem to be under the impression that women hate pants.
@@catriziacat1756 :O that's a brilliant idea. (Also ridiculous that it's needed given that's what people used to wear before they started putting pockets in clothes. How are we without pockets in the 21st century?!) I just googled and could only find historical ones, costume pieces etc. Is there a shop you can recommend or a pattern? Also how do you wear them, can they be over your clothes?
Mine is a mix of clueless time traveller and vampire who no longer cares about going with the times. I wear many vintage pieces, but combine several decades into one outfit.
both of your styles sound so cool, I wanna have a style but a) I cant afford anything b) idk how to alter/make clothes c) I hate fast fashion but I have zero second hand/thrift shops near me d) I have zero energy/time to even take care of my basic needs The style I want would be the edgy older brother from teen movies except a lot more adrogynous *edit* : a combination of klaus Hargreaves and Rodrick Heffley
@@hideakisorachi3953 I don't have any thrift shops in my area either. They don't really exist in my country. We have some second hand shops, but they are either for designer clothing or children's clothes. I mostly get my clothes from ebay or flea markets. Ebay can be a treasure trove, if you know which search terms to use. Just look up some old catalogues or ads to figure out what some styles are called or from which decade they are or which subculture they belong(ed) to. Sometimes it can help to know which trends inspired other trends. For example I love 70s platforms, but they are hard to find, worn down or expensive. But the 90s took a lot of inspiration from the 70s in some aspects. Stuff from the 90s is much easier to find. Or do the complete opposite and just look into any ebay category without entering a search term and see what catches you eye. Some people can't tag to save their lives or don't know what they are actually selling and so their items don't show up in searches. I got some great stuff that nobody else bid on because nobody could find it. You can also practice sewing or alterations on items that you no longer wear. If it turns out well you get a new item to wear, if not it's not a big loss because you weren't wearing it anyway. Most of all, take your time. In the beginning it's hard to build a wardrobe, because we are often limited by various factors (income, skills, family, work/school, fashion knowledge, confidence, availability). But once you have a few good pieces, you can mix them with the stuff you already own until you can replace that with more items you love. Most of us took years with many trials and errors to get to a place that finally felt like 'this is me'. I hope this can help you a bit.
@@hideakisorachi3953 I shop a lot on etsy because I feel better buying from a small business. While I admittedly do have a lot of throft shops near me, I also love to sew. I would encourage you to try out etsy if sewing isn't for you, maybe even fb marketplace, threadup (so much good stuff here!!), and just general hand-me-downs. I use A LOT of hand-me-downs.
My aesthetic is hermit who lives alone in the woods, full of self-love, and will share ginger-peach tea and disorganized opinion on economics with anyone who visits. Ranging from shorts, messy T-shirt and crocs, to flannel and hiking boots, to very extra period dresses for when there's not much work to do. Cool hats and always pockets. Running dramatically through the moors with anguish in my heart, wading into streams, sitting in trees
I dressed mostly black/alternative in school which was always an issue for some teachers and classmates' parents. Once we had an event where the dress code was fancy, so I wore a gorgeous pink floral dress, white heels, fake pearls, the whole fantasy. All my classmates came in black dresses. It was so surreal and absurd. I'll never forget it. My everyday looks for which I was criticised were their fancy look because fashion dictated it.
The biggest breakthrough in my fashion sense, was realizing that colors are for everyone. As a brown Latina, I thought pastels would make me look darker and uglier. Just embrace the colors, looking darker is not looking uglier.
If you haven't watched Alexandrasgirlytalk 's video on colour PLEASE do she explains how to find colours that make you look your best instead of making the item look the best, and she references a wider range of shades (from rihanna to taylor swift lol) to explain the shade theory she uses.
“Billie Eillish comes and goes but the Sound Of Music is forever” This sentence spoke deep into my soul. Not because I have negative feelings about Billie Eillish or anything, but because I have EXTREMELY FOND feelings for The Sound Of Music.
@@leenanorms My dad publically applauded the degredation of the original Sound of Music tapes, and somehow got an entire movie theater to join in. So I guess my dad dissagrees.
Agreed. Most music and just things nowadays are so temporary. People like Michael Jackson, Elvis, etc... they stay forever!!! (Haven't seen sound of music but those are my comparisons haha) The world We live in is so shit and temporary: music, clothes etc... It's so rare that something made new stays for a long time.
That ripped inner thigh montage is EXACTLY as I've always imagined in my head, every time I rip my favorite pair of jeans then collapse into a heap of disappointment. THANK YOU.
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It's a slower process on me due to body shape but this was my ex's life too and I relate so hard 😂
Even worse: you buy a new pair of pants and they start getting rough in that area after one or two wears already - still looking for a way to fix and or prevent them wearing thin
@@laurinexyz4681 I've worn through like 3 pants from my thighs rubbing together lol but I found out with the last pair they actually make repair/replacement patches just look up "iron on jean/denim patches"
TL:DW 2:51 Don't get swept up in trends; do lean into your longterm loves 3:57 Don't just buy it if you love it; do consider design before everything 7:47 Don't assume that you need it because its a classic; do find a classic that excites you 9:41 Don't only look at cut and color; do become a material master 12:20 Don't see your clothes as passive possessions; do learn do be a good wardrobe parent 15:25 Don't think any wardrobe advice matters; do remember weather matters 16:31 Don't autobuy because it's a staple; do create your own staples 18:56 plan to stay childish 20:01 Don't idolize one; do buy two if you love it 21:11 Don't assume you need a trainers collection; do train yourself out of trainers
Things I learned in my 20s. 1.Colorful clothing is not for me. Thats ok. 2.If I can't wash it and dry it in a machine...goodbye. 3. Buy for my body, not the models. 4. All items of clothing need to be comfortable, even the fancy stuff
I'm a part-time wardrobe consultant with a bachelors in fashion. This is literally the most helpful video I've ever seen done on this topic, and it deserves more views.
🤣 The ad I got in the middle of this vid had a woman saying she thinks every woman should have a pair of beige heels in her wardrobe. All I could think is, "that goes with absolutely nothing in my wardrobe. I don't wear beiges and I don't wear stilettos/pumps. They are not like a little black dress, lady." And this ad was after the section on not buying something because you're told it's a staple. 🤣
I got some for free and was actually thrilled cause all my dresses are crazy and celebrities told me to get beige heels since my shoes suck and never match lmfao
I ran across some beige heels that fit my feet and ngl they just made me look like a little old lady in a completely not cute way. They looked both boring and kinda sad on me. Still though because I have feet that I can never find shoes for since I have really wide short feet. Everything is either swimming flippers or I'd have to cut off a third of my foot to fit them in lmao
"the perfect jean jacket" reminds me of its lesser known older sister: "the perfect leather jacket." I'm a sad owner of one black leather jacket, one brown leather jacket, and one red leather jacket......that have each been worn like once!
Huh I wear my leather jacket like crazy. I love it. It's not for everyone though. I think the key is finding the right fit+style of leather jacket. Mine is a baggy old-school motorcycle jacket (thrifted) and it's got so many pockets!!
I second your comment, I have an amazing leather jacket that I wear on really cold days because it's got this supper soft, super warm inside and it's so nice! But my style is "don't touch me" mixed with early 2000's avril lavigne
Me as well!! And the sad part is I got them just to get them, so the fit isn’t quite right and it doesn’t work with the rest of my wardrobe. Luckily I got them at thrift stores or on sale at various points.
I had that perfect leather jacket and it got stolen at a restraunt when I was in the bathroom (the person at the next table might have thought it was theirs idk) ... I had gotten it from a 2nd hand shop so I was never able to replace it. It was one of the saddest days of my life.
I wear everything twice before washing unless I spill something on it. Outer clothes like jumpers and cardigans go longer. The only exception is hot summer days. Climate and lifestyle really dictates how often you need to wash your clothes.
Only the garments that go directly against the skin need to be washed frequently, and even they don’t generally need to be washed after just one day of wear.
As someone who owns multiple leather skirts and a blazer to die for, as soon as you said "look at this leather top" I immediately thought "you just wipe it clean"
I tried to "reinvent" myself a few times. Threw out all my Halloween shirts and got only mature adult woman shirts. Gradually, the graphic tees and mesh sleeves and general goth finery filtered back in. Popeye said it best. I yam what I yam. I was only changing because the guy I was with wanted me to. So I changed my relationship status instead. 🤭
Hell yeah! Take out the trash! Fellow alt girl here, and I can't imagine having a wardrobe NOT chock full of skulls, spikes, chains, black, and pastels.
I did exactly the same as a teenager. I didn't have a bf pressuring me to. 23 now, meaning that I have collected second hand gothy shirts for years now. I am lucky to have a boyfriend who likes what I wear and doesn't tell me what to do. 😁
"how tight is it on my armpit" yess omg I've never heard anyone mention it before 😂 love me some loose armpit tshirts that I can wash once a month instead of one an hour like the tighter ones
I mean, why not? I kept thinking “if only I could dress this way” and when I actually started doing it I felt so much more happy about my clothes. Now I get that armor isn’t practical for everyday, but there’s tons of ways to twist the aesthetic to fit your life.
@@localtoothfairy same here. I used to dream about how I wished I "could" dress. Wore only boring trendy mall style. Now I'm early 30s, dress exactly how I'd like (like a witch) and have never felt more comfortable
One thing I have learned in my 20s is that there is a difference between what I think looks cute when I am looking at it on someone else vs what I actually feel comfortable wearing. For example you love color but I notice I feel most happy and comfortable in blacks and grays
This but with styles of clothing. I love how some dresses and shirts look on other people ot on the sleg but I had to cime to terms that even if they're pretty, if I don't feel comfortable showing skin, highlighting my cleavage etc, I will never actually wear them.
@@lazynoodle6739 God I hate wearing revealing clothing. Brain stupid, I guess, but I can't wear skirts that go above the knees, v-necks, or crop tops. I love how they all look on other people and I'm mad I can't wear them but I recognize that I should just stick with my maxi sundresses and vibe
@@organa1626 oh! I just had a look at dresses and yes this is so true! I found all the dresses rly pretty but I didn't like how low cut some of them were since I don't like showing that much
@@lazynoodle6739 I resonate with this too, started looking at modest fashion and hijab fashion because you can still look stylish but also be covered and I feel more comfortable like that
the part where you talked about "some californian blogger telling you what you need in your wardrobe when you live in britain" reallys poke to me and opened my eyes bc I'm in New York. I don't need all the things they say I do we live in TOTALLY DIFFERENT CLIMATES it's something I never expected but totally needed to hear, so thank you for that.
Cries in sunny side California. I own well over 10 coats / winter jackets and boots, yet I only have about one week of the year where it's cold enough to wear these things. I definitely need to stop but they're just so pretty.
Wool. What I really need in my wardrobe is wool: Im in Norway. I doubt that California blogger is going to be very helpful with that. Also, good quality/ minimally treated wool clothes literally last for several generations, and hardly ever need washing if, like me, you have a veranda to air them on
I can't tell you how much I appreciated the short montage you included of the pants that are worn in the thighs! This happens to aaaaaalllllll my pants (jeans, leggings, slacks, ALL of them!) and it has upset me deeply for many years. Thank you for not just showing it, but talking about it in such a normal, nonchalant way. I think I might be able to be less self-conscious about this now.
That point about denim jackets omg. I have a few in my wardrobe (as I pursued the Perfect One) but they really don’t get a ton of wear. I too have an army jacket that I bought secondhand and have worn hundreds of times over the years
yes! my sister is always trying to get me into getting one but I’ve never found one I liked aside from the /one/ I had when I was a mere slip of a girl of 14ish I now /also/ have a green army-style jacket I wear every single one of the few actually cold days we get here in southern Louisiana, and several of the moderately cold days too!
Same! I've been wearing long drapey skirts in lockdown and feeling a bit guilty for not getting harder to find new jeans instead, but why?? I like the long drapey skirts better!
I’ve never understood why everyone assumes that ‘neutral colours’ are just white, black, and grey. Cause that’s just not true. Neutrals can be cream, skin tones, terracotta, clay pinks, earthy greens and many more. Whites, blacks and greys can be nice neutrals but they almost exclusively look good on people with cool skin tones. I do think it is good to have a neutral tank top to use as an undershirt and I would rather have a cream tank top or a tank top that matches my skin tone. And yes Jean jackets are so overrated especially since I don’t consider a coat or jacket to be a staple. I like my coats and jackets to be statement pieces. I like my jackets and coats to be unique and colourful as well as versatile especially since I live in Canada where we get a wide variety of weather. (Obviously that’s my own personal preference, you should always choose clothes that suit you and your style best.)
to me, as someone who normally wears the same jacket/coat every day for months on end, I really like them being more of a staple. that way it doesn't matter what my outfit looks like, they always match. same with shoes.
i think it depends a lot on the climate you are in. i have to wear a coat for like... 75% of the year, so i like to get a good quality staple that matches with as many things as possible
What I find myself coming back to usually is “disco clown.” Frilly, but in a goofy as opposed to feminine way. Sleek, but more flamboyant than sultry. High waisted pants, not to show off hips, but to look like John Travolta in Saturday Night Fever. So far it’s worked out!
Until I saw your comment I was prepared to accept that she'd said "Billy *Elliot* comes and goes but The Sound of Music is forever" (I thought it was kind of a weird thing to say, since Billy Elliot is a fairly popular and well-liked musical, but it makes more sense that I'm a fool haha)
Why do older people always target Billie? I keep seeing older people always name drop her as a fad kind of artist, and like.. shes no different than any other artist. I don’t feel it’s fair just because shes a younger artist
Top Tip: Make a list of things you think you want and look at the things on said list regularly. If you get tired of it just by looking at this list you will get tired of it when it is in your wardrobe.
this is so useful! i made a wishlist board on pinterest for this reason and have found that if i still want something over the months and can imagine it going with other clothes i own and then buy it, it tends to get used, but impulse buys don't. and then there are things i straight up forget about after a few weeks of intense pining.
Well her other rule to go with synthetic materials certainly doesn't help the problem. Cotton makes you if not even sweat less it certainly makes it smell less.
Not related to the content and excuse me for saying...can we not say queen to just literally about anything to about just anyone? It really loses its meaning.
I actually do like “all neutrals with a pop of color” but the pop has to be the most obnoxiously bright, punch-you-in-the-face color. Like in Grease when Sandy wears the plain black with the bright-ass red pumps
i have a pair of neon orange sneakers that i loved but i thought i would never wear, but because i tend to wear a lot of black i find i actually wear them quite often. win win!
If I really love a shirt I’ll buy 3. I recently got some health problems sorted out and have been able to start losing weight and I found a plain black shirt I really liked so I immediately bought 6 of them. 2 in my current size and then 2 in one size down and 2 in two sizes down from my current size.
It was really important for me to learn that my “base” and “neutral” colors are conditional on my skin tone. Wearing white makes me look sickly but cream or light pink look so much better. Black is ok for me but navy looks much better to me. And yeah comfort is key and after that is it fun to wear. Life is too short to not wear shirts with exciting sleeves.
Same! I look decent in black, but plum and other purples look fantastic on me. I'm still learning tone wise what other colors look good on me, but I'm getting there!
Yeah I realised this year I look good in cool toned colours like nude pink and khaki but all the essential grey clothes I used to buy dont do anything for me
I love the buy 2 rule! I first started this when I found a work dress that was soft, comfortable, doesn't wrinkle, and doesn't show to much cleavage. I bought it, wore it to work, got tons of compliments, then went back and bought all the colors and double of my favorite! It helped me create a work uniform that was very me
This is me. I have basically all the same work dress. I do have literally two of a couple colors, and a few have different sleeves, but...It's a well-fitting dress with a fun amount of skirt and lovely giant pockets. I want every version I can get my hands on!
Same for me! I have the Caterina Dress from Collectif in every colour and every sleeve length they ever made, in different sizes because I loose and gain weight constantly
I feel the complete opposite.i absolutely don't want to look the same every day no matter how many boxes an item of clothing ticks. Even the word uniform makes me flinch.
I absolutely love all of your tips! I have developed my own fashion rules in my 20s: 1. If it’s dry clean only, don’t buy it. I’m too cheap to want to spend money on dry cleaning. Don’t buy hand wash only staples. I’m too lazy to keep up with that. 2. If it attracts excessive cat hair it’s too impractical to wear. My animals are my lifestyle. If it doesn’t fit my lifestyle it doesn’t fit me. 3. Grunge pieces and black clothes stay in my wardrobe the longest and get worn the most. These are my investment staples that make sense for me. 4. As much as I’d love to be the gothic queen on the outside that I know I am on the inside, whenever I buy goth clothing they are very hard to incorporate seamlessly into my wardrobe and end up not being worn. I have to be very selective about introducing gothic items 5. I’m not a fancy person with a lot of formal places to go. I only need a few formal pieces in my wardrobe. I shouldn’t invest too much money or closet space on formalwear
UA-cam recommended me this video, and I'm gonna be honest I really thought this video was going to be filled with the same cookie cutter advice as in every other video I've seen on fashion/clothing, but I am so pleasantly surprised! Yes to every single thing you said! And the fact that so much consideration to the environment and sustainability went into it just makes my hippie heart bloom.
"You don't need a lot of neutrals." Me: (side eyes my 75% black and grey wardrobe) J/k, I'm one of those people who loves to wear a crap ton of black. Like, I've never been a real goth, but I admire real goths. I express myself in silhouettes and cuts, and there are only a few non black and grey colors I like to wear. It's not for everyone, but it's a look.
Me too, I feel awful in bright colours, I think they make me look sick. Also, with a wardrobe full of black, cream and beige coloured clothing, matching clothes is much easier
I think the point is to find a color palette that works for you. If you don't like neutrals, don't feel like you have to buy them. Don't want even a pop of color? That's fine too! Same for people who want monochromatic looks of their favorite color, or never met a floral print they didn't like, or stripes/plaid/whatever. Themed wardrobes work best, but you should pick the theme YOU like best.
"Plan to stay childish" I LOVE THAT OH GOSH I can't tell you all the times I've gotten rid of something because it was too punk only to miss that element
I'm turning 30 soon. I'm gonna redo my room. Everyone might be hoping that I finally get an ~adult room~ but what's actually gonna happen is a lot of neon pink
@@kaydwessie296 Yes! "Adult" doesn't have to rime with "simple" or "neutral"! Having agency over our own style and the way we express ourselves means we don't have to conform.
Actual conversation I"ve had: Them: "You need to buy neutrals, they go with everything!" Me: "Rainbow goes with everything, that makes it a neutral, yes?" Them: Grumpy grumbling about when am I going to grow up
oh my god I remember saying things like this The only advice I can give is to accept that you will regret your fashion decisions when you're older no matter what. It doesn't matter if you go for blending in or standing out, the outfits will still be mismatched and odd if you aren't buying your own clothe. So you may as well embrace the steampunk mermaid duchess librarian combo of the precocious young teenage girl while you can.
Oh... I guess I worded that poorly. I haven't been a teen in a decade(s?), and I still dress in neon rainbow and glitter. Mom finally accepted that this wasn't a phase in my late twenties...
As a 35 year old woman, I want to echo that this is all fantastic advice. For example, I've now just basically stopped wearing synthetic fabrics because they all make me sweat horribly and I realize no matter how much I love them I just don't wear them. (Rayon frequently makes it into my "loves" list because it has the drape of poly without being synthetic!) I'll also say that if you do love something synthetic, undershirts are a lifesaver if they make you sweat, preferably good quality ones in model, cotton, or even silk if you can afford it.
earrings are my biggest love in my wardrobe! they'll last for forever and can hold such special memories (unlike dresses or other clothes that can wear out or fall apart!)
I agree and disagree on the “trainers” thing. I totally agree that converse are the cargo pants of shoes but I do think that everyone should have one really comfortable pair of sport shoes that are specifically for the type of exercise you most enjoy doing. I spent my early 20s thinking I could do everything in office flats and injured myself because I couldn’t be bothered to buy a decent pair of tennis shoes. I recently bought some and it’s been a game changer. You don’t need to go all MTV Cribs and own a closet full but it’s a worthy investment to have a pair of sport shoes you can go full throttle in when you need to.
It is the same as the "watch where you live" advice. A proper wardrobe includes what you need for activities you do on a regular basis. Steel-toed boots for woodworking are essential if that is your thing. So are proper shoes for dancing. Protective gear for hiking... ect.
For me, I never buy a new pair of shoes bc ive never been a shoe girl but after years ive realize ive been wearing out things from a decade ago. I think it's good to invest in a new or trendy pair of shows bc theyre just gonna wear eventually. Thats something I just realized in my 20s. I have the opposite problem compared to those who buy too many shoes - I dont buy enough! For me, it should be a pair of running shoes for the gym/running, a pair of sneakers for every day, a pair of boots for the rain, a pair of sandals for the beach, and a nice formal pair. Ive been wearing converse for years and theyve completely disintegrated bc I refuse to spend money on clothes. The same for my beach sandals -- I threw them out a year ago and always have to borrow someone's for the beach. I think it is mindful to make sure you have a nice pair of shoes that you can use for most things, and for me a good pair of sneakers fits most occasions for every day.
Yup, agreed. Also, but this is just a personal thing, my feet are very sensitive, I have to wear special insoles with every shoe and my feet are relatively wide, so it's almost impossible for me to find actually comfortable shoes that are not sneakers. I'd love to wear oxford shoes, but if I walk in them for more than a few hours, my feet are destroyed, my soles hurt and my ankles ache. So I must stick to sneakers.
I have the opposite problem. I have one pair of good running shoes, a pair of rain boots, and a pair of chacos that I wear almost exclusively. I wish I knew how to wear nice shoes
I've had several friends and family members give me grief over buying and making so many sweaters since we live in a very tropical climate, but most of my job locations have intense air conditioning installed and I get cold easily. So of course my main staple lately has been the cardigan I made over the summer. There's no greater joy than wearing a knitted cardigan that you made yourself, even if it's not perfect!
I agree with becoming a materials expert! For me it's quite the opposite though as I'm okay with ironing if it means staying away from everything synthetic and static. I try to find 100% linen or cotton weaves second hand and I also love wool! Fun fact about wool, it's fibres actually repel dirt so if you can air it out it hardly needs washing at all
I was about to write the same exact comment! I can't imagine surviving summer without baggy, 100% cotton t-shirts and silk shirts and skirts (ofc I thrift all my silk) I'm "only" 21, but natural fabrics are the first thing I look at when shopping for everyday clothing.
@@gracemaina6593 some wool things are better/more high quality than others, and I've found that wearing something underneath helps. Though, it could also be an allergy!
I feel validated in my aversion to jeans and how they inevitably cut into my gut and make life so uncomfortable. Thank you! Elastic/comfy-high-waisted pants from here on out!
I remember when I was first on the lookout for a pair of leather boots, I'd had myself convinced they needed to be black. But then I was in a store and I saw this AWESOME pair of red/multicolored leather boots (the Malag style from Spring Step), and it finally clicked for me that I'm going to wear a funky pair of awesome statement boots WAY more than some generic black boots.
Same, I have just said "okay and welcome" to my need to wear multiple colors at once, and I don't care anymore if I look like a discordant rainbow !! My favorite scarf is a big multicolored tartan, my boots are bright red and pink, my sweater is lavender with ginormous strawberries on it, my coat is purple tartan with a giant hood, and I love that I am brave enough now to wear what my heart yearns for !
Everything you said about “basics” is SO TRUE. We’re all different, so why would our “basics” be the same as someone else’s? I’ve suckered myself into buying things that are outside of what I usually wear before, but I just never wear those things for long. I know what works for me, which is mostly just a wardrobe of black cardigans for any occasion. Also!!! A tip for those who have struggled with having to buy new shoes/socks because your feet sweat a lot: bamboo socks! I’ve noticed that they last longer and my feet stay daisy fresh and so do my shoes. Best investment decision I’ve ever made!
I'm 36 and this is among the most useful fashion related content I've ever seen. Especially now I'm trying to find my style again after having kids. Thank you :)
This was the first video I've seen on yours, so glad to find youuu! There were so many things I agreed with, but the bit about color- just oof!!! YES, GIRL! I love dressing up in bright colors, it makes me so happy and I think really lets me show off my personality :)
Same situation but the reverse! Once I entered my twenties I started to venture out more and rediscover my love for black that I secretly had since I was about 12 or so but had to hide bc my parents only rediculed me for the clothes I liked and, being your standard autistic girl, I wanted to dress according to their taste. I've subconsciously started to implement her (I hope that's right) tips ever since that turning point in my life, but will now continue to watch to learn more and do these things more consciously!
I am quite simply obsessed with your use of graphics. Oh, and the other incredibly informative and funny nuggets of life improving gold that this video contains as well.
The point about having two of a wardrobe favorite is actually so good!! I've kind of developed a deep-seated negative feeling towards buying multiples of things every since seeing the really rich kids in highschool buy 5 differently colored pairs of, like, shoes, and linking the two in my mind. But now that I have a sense of my own style and a wardrobe that I'm proud of, buying the double of something I've already loved for ages makes so much sense!
I like a lot of these, but also...must disagree with the one about tennis shoes. As someone who has to work on my feet and sometimes walk for 14+ hours at a time, the BEST part of my wardrobe is my good tennis shoes. I used to go through a pair of $10 Walmart shoes every two months, but I've started investing in high quality, well-made shoes instead and it has made a world of difference. For someone who doesn't have to walk all day, I understand the shoes thing. But a good pair of tennis shoes has saved my life and my feet lol! Keep your work in mind when picking clothes. My friend that works in a bank can wear skirts and heels or slacks and flats or whatever she wants, but good jeans and good non-slip tennis shoes are my absolute staple items because they're necessary for my work. Or walking around campus, I can't be bothered to wear flats with no arch support or heels. Tennis shoes saved my life haha
For me, leather sneakers are the best compromise. They look neat enough for casual office environment, but are also great to walk in. If taken care of regularly, they can last a decade. Flat shoes are a big no no, I'd prefer to buy insoles to wear with them
This. A well-built sneaker that I can do all my activities comfortably in is worth far more for my feet and lifestyle than a nicer shoe I can get recobbled, even if it costs a bit more long term. I am thinking about investing in a decent pair of leather work boots once I grind my current hiking boots to dust because even high quality rubber and fabric hiking boots wear out and lose shape after a bit, but for day to day wear I've yet to find anything that's as versatile and comfortable as a decent sneaker.
True. I tend to be on my feet for most of my work day and a good pair of sneakers lasts and looks good for years and years. Quote from my favorite shoe repair shop: "your shoes and your bed should be good quality, because most of your life you're in one or the other."
Yknow, buying clothes based on your location feels like such a simple piece of advice yet my brain never fully processed it until you said it. I love fall and winter fashion, I love trench coats and big jackets and fluffy scarves, but I live somewhere that rarely drops below 70 degrees farenheit. As much as it crushes my fashion dreams I think that’s my favorite tip from this video lol
omg my friends think I’m so weird for being picky about whether or not clothes are tight around my arm pits; finally someone else understands me!! I’ve finally learned to buy tops that are looser there and my life has been changed for the better
Would just say that with synthetic materials, they actually release microplastics with each wash, these are terrible for the environment. BUT! Apparently, you can buy laundry bags to stop that so perhaps invest in some of those.
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I also personally find natural fabrics to be wayy more comfortable and long lasting. But thanks for this reminder, I do still buy plastic clothes second hand and I need to remember to find some of those bags!!
I have to disagree on the denim jackets and the trainers because they're things I love - but that's the point you were getting at I think! I absolutely hate super prescriptive fashion advice. Wear what you love and what makes you feel good.
Okay, I can barely wear a t-shirt for one day before I sweat through it regardless of whether it's close to my armpits or not so if you're really sweaty I don't know what I am
I had that problem and got botox under my arms to help solve it. It was covered on my national health service in Norway, and it was really life changing for me!
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For me it seems to be improving as I get older but yes I feel this
@@j.kaimori3848 Yeah I'm in the UK and honestly temperature has nothing to do with it. It could be minus degrees but if I bike up a hill or walk up a set of stairs I'll probably break a swear
I “matured” from wearing jeans and “sensible” clothes that I felt were boring but hey I was ugly anyway, to dropping the jeans for skirts and dresses and going more goth until I got on the internet and found what I’d secretly wanted my entire life. The lolita style. My eyes widened, hands shaking as I placed my order and... I love it. I stick out like a sore thumb where I live but I love my lolita inspired clothes, I still want to stay practical so nothing too poofy and it has to be machine washable and yeah I don’t own an iron either. While my appearance hasn’t changed much now I actually like clothes! I used to not care because nothing you saw around here really excited me but waking up the child in me has made me feel happy. So what if people think I’m too old (actually they always seem to think that I’m way younger than my physical age but whatever) I’m not dressed like this for anyone but myself. Obviously there’s a slight issue when the temperature here can range from around -20 Celsius to closer to or above 30 during a heatwave in that things should preferably be able to go with or without (thermo) leggings, but on top you have your spring/autumn coat or winter coat outside so that’s a-okay. It’s mainly the problem of not being able to put a pair of outer trousers on when you only wear dresses and skirts, that’s why thermoleggings and even layering them with a pair of normal ones is a neat trick. I sew the crotch of my leggings for as long as possible, my grandpa taught me how to fix elastics when he fixed his socks. Thanks grandpa 🙏
Great to see another person that loves Jfashion/kawaii fashion! I get that stick out like a sore thumb feeling, because I’ve also received gross comments and odd looks when I wore sweet lolita in public. That isn’t gonna stop me from wearing it though, because like you said we are dressing up for ourselves! :) Thermo/heattech leggings are indeed life changing!! I’m assuming you’re Canadian as well.
Also, THE MARKET IS AGAINST YOU! The average size of real human beings are rarely represented as the "normal" or even sold in most clothing stores, and in addition to the photoshop and small, toned mannequins, it can make you feel like crap, and a freak. But it isn't you, it's the stores trying to make you feel bad and spend more money on things to "fix" your appearance.
The industry that does this so much is lingerie. I can rant forever about how a lot of brands set unrealistic standards for both skinny girls and curvy ones
I was definitely like “stop raising him, he’s not .....” whaaaat? Then the rest of the shirt flashed and I could concentrate fully 😂 The suspense was killing me
Strongly disagree with your feelings about jeans, neutrals, and trainers 😂 but I agree with the sentiment behind these! Essentially, buy what works for you, not what people say you “should” have.
Also, as far as owning T-shirts go, if you want ones that you’ll really love for a long time, buy merch/fandom ones! They’re personal to you and great conversation starters sometimes
Me: I only want natural fibers! Better for the environment and better for your body. My mom: yeah. But I hate ironing so I am going to stick with polyester.
I live in a damp apartment and I hang dry most of my washing and I have a great tip for you. If you get a dehumidifier and put it near the washing, it dries a lot faster. A full washing rack would take 2-3 days before, and now is about 1.5 days thanks to the dehumidifier. So I'd recommend getting one.
Honestly I was so excited about Dark Academia becoming sort of "trendy" because it was exactly the aesthetic I'd been looking for. I'd been wearing mostly slacks for a while and been a massive fan of vintage/chunky jumpers for forever but having a set key term to search for when looking for inspiration was magic. Now I always know what I'm looking for in clothing and can easily find gaps in my wardrobe.
That jean thigh wear montage taught me the meaning of skinny privilege - I've always thought of jeans not just as staples; but easy to buy, easy to wear and easy care for. I was wrong. I'm sorry. I will never perpetuate this again.
@@solsthrash2603 Honestly, during that part of the video, I just experienced such an intense rush of cringe remembering myself in my early 20s - thinking I was a Gok Wan body positively queen - AND HAVING NO IDEA WHAT I WAS TALKING ABOUT. 🙈🙈🙈
This pandemic coincided with the height of my mental health issues and because of the whole situation, I gained a lot of weight. (I have had to have my partner talk to my mom because she was going so wild about my size increase, even though we don't live at home anymore. That bad.) Meanwhile, I've been spending the last couple of years trying to reinvent my wardrobe to be more myself and more ecological. Every piece of advice out there seemed to come from rich, skinny people, with lots of time and energy. My clothes are how I want to present myself to the world, but lately, it seemed that I was just too 'wrongly' built to ever fit my own ideals. Then I stumbled on this video. In short, thank you for giving me hope.
Love all of these tips. Wardrobe curation post-college has been so different than all the expectations set by “every girl needs THESE in her wardrobe!” videos and articles.
I recently re-fastened the buttons on a secondhand coat and I felt so accomplished! Taking care of your things feels good. Also, love the point about location - the most important "staples" for me are outerwear bc I live in Norway and 10 months of the year you're going to need some substantial outerwear, and one coat just isn't going to be enough. To a person living in california my 12 coats probably seem excessive, but I use them all regularly!
I'm 24 and because of my financial situation I've been forced to not buy many clothes or shoes since I was 16-19. It's been painful to me to feel so limited in my ability to play with my self expression since I'm admittedly intrinsically vain but it's forced me to getting over stupid hangups like external vanity pressures, pushed my comfort zones and pushed me to be a lot more conscious and critical when I do have any spending money and the opportunity to buy new clothes, shoes, makeup. I'm grateful to the experience today. I'd already come to many of the same conclusions you have but I love that you shared this knowledge and it was nice to be validated in my way of thinking now. My taste is opposite of yours, I've always loved fabric, architecture and textures more than prints and I enjoy neutrals but I've come to the conclusion that I also do love color and some prints I really like. I enjoyed your video a lot for your personality and honesty and did actually learn a few unexpected things that don't really apply to me but may be helpful later. Will check out more of your material and consider subscribing. This video is also inspiring me to make it a project to share this wisdom in my own way more and for my community. Not a content creator but I'm a medical student and in a nonprofit student org that has an environmental health component.
This video is so precisely what i needed. I am 25 and I've just moved back home to my parents because of covid and tight finances. But this means that i have all the clothes I had in my own place combined with all the clothes that i left behind in my teenage closet and ive had NO IDEA how to approach cutting down this mess. So this could not have come at a better time. I especially appreciate "find a classic that excites you." SO good.
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It was the "basics are not everyone's basics" for me. Why did I keep buying trench coats...
They keep ur ass dry when the bench is wet.
That's because people tend to confuse wardrobe basics with wardrobe essentials
Fucking blazers, ugh!!
Hahaha this comment cracked me up! Because of shows like Sex and the City and every major fashion label has its version of the trench coat
People consider trenchcoats a basic? I love them so much but I've never heard they were essential lol
one of the most anti-capitalist tthings you can do is get to know yourself, so you can't be sold a new identity every few months. Imho.
Underrated comment 👏
Honestly I want to print this comment on a t-shirt and wear it everyday. It's so true
I think you more mean anti-consumerism
@@elizabethgrey6040 yes because we consume for the sake of consuming? no maam we consume to keep the capitalist economy rolling
@@sr6571 Capitalism requires a seller and a customer. Consumerism is the way in which that seller deceives the customer to make them buy more. The “being sold a new identity every few months” is consumerism. It is a strategy used by sellers so that they can exploit our human nature and addictive mentalities to make more money off of us. But you can, as a customer, choose to not give in to the consumerism. That’s not anti-capitalist. Capitalism is an economic system not a selling strategy. If you don’t agree with the trends, don’t buy from them. Because you live in a capitalist economy, you are able to choose whether you follow the trends of consumerism or not. Just because many of us are fooled doesn’t mean we don’t have the option to snap out of it. Greed is what drives consumerism -> Consumerism is the habit of buying unnecessary new things routinely -> And capitalism is the system under which all of it operates. But capitalism is too broad to be an appropriate word to use here. I find very often people call anything they dislike in the economy “capitalist.” Small businesses are “capitalist” too. Vaccine development is “capitalist” too. Free trade is “capitalist” too. Rather than blame capitalism for existing, maybe blame society for allowing itself to be manipulated by the temptations of huge multinational corporations.
Took me years of soul searching to realize that the only thing I ever actually WANTED to wear were completely impractical, huge, frilly princess dresses. I started dressing that way, and, despite the odd looks, it's just about the best decision I ever made. Don't let anyone tell you what you like is wrong
I needed to see this one. I was just telling my friend that I have this dress, very princess or maybe regency-esque, and Ive worn it like 3 or 4 times in the 4 years I've owned it. But like I would wear it ~all the time~ if it was "acceptable." Wow, when it's safe to go out and be social again--that dress is going into circulation.
My first thought when i read this was "lolita fashion" . Not exactly princess and more like pretty doll imo. I love it for that reason though lol turn me into a pretty porcelain doll
I henceforth dub thee: Princess Iris
@@herzen9857 I actually do wear lolita fashion! I specifically wear hime style though, so I’m going for something like dolly princess (for reference I usually wear stuff from elpress and hinana queen) ❤️
@@ghost_evermore oh my god! I love that!
I want to get into lolita fashion too but it can get expensive for me and I'm still a bit afraid of wearing something like that outside. I'll still wear it someday though lol
the video: lies to unlearn in your twenties
me, 14: better watch this
You're ahead of the game! As long as you don't forget them by the time you reach your twenties
same haha
literally me and i have the attention span of a goldfish so i wont know enough about this to remember in 6 years
@@ellasedits_ Save it on a playlist called "Things to Know for Your Twenties" along with Leena's other videos in the series (& videos anyone else has) & come back to it in 6 years.
@@Diva380 ahaha ok :)
Whyyyy is no-one talking about the "Stop raising him he's not your son" t shirt? Calling out half of Britain with that mate
I don't get it, can you explain it please?
Thank you for telling me what the shirt said. I couldn't read the last line and it was haunting me
@@jadecollins7693 it’s about the ‘men’ in relationships that act like children and expect their girlfriend to act like their mothers instead of their girlfriends/the women who accept dating a ‘child’ instead of a partner
@@peacechickification ah, thank you!
It's a Florence Given tee if anyone's interested ☺️
I would add a rule to this: Don't limit yourself to the women's section. Some of my most favourite and long-lasting sweaters and more casual tops came from the men's section. As well, if you're a larger person (like me!) men's sizes in T-shirts and such tend to just run larger, so the fit is more generous than women's.
Also on the other end if your a 5ft skinny person like me, the kids section is great! Also idk if its just me, but I feel like the womans section is the most expensive.
As a small woman I also prefer men's t-shirts. Men's T-shirts, small size, are too big for me, so I buy from the children's section, but the fit is so much better than the women's t-shirts that are more tighter and uncomfortable to wear
This! I have broad shoulders, and so even if something from the women's section fits me in the bust/waist, it rides up too much on my shoulders. Men's sweaters + t-shirts tend to fit me better in that regard.
@@priscilaribeiro3865 yeah I've got alot of mens tops in my wardrobe tbh haha!
Definitely. I consider myself to be very much on the feminine side, but have tons of clothes, particularly t-shirts, jumpers and sweaters from the male section and I wear them regularly.
"If you really love it, buy two" - yes!! Strongly agree! I cannot tell you how many things I have bought two of in different colors or patterns. Almost always, I have ended up wearing both versions often and it's been a great decision.
I do the same so often, and often regret when I don't. The only time it hasn't worked out so well so far is a pair of jeans as I then gained weight and now the pair of them are just sitting in a drawer waiting 😅 should've followed Leena's rule about waistlines
Exactly! You extend the wear of things wayyy more that way
Yes! I have a black sweater i bought a few years ago and absolutely love. I really wish i had it in other colours as well, it's just so comfy
When I decided that I loved a certain jegging, I knew I found "my thing" and replaced all of my bottoms with the same exact pair of jeggings in a drawerful of colors, and they made me super happy for the last few years. I wore them everyday with everything. My style has just dramatically changed this year, so I'm saying goodbye to them, but they were like an ex lover that I grew apart from. We have incredible memories together, but it's time to move on. Thank you, Jolt brand techno tuck jeggings. I loved you.
I have a dark denim jacket and a light denim jacket. I love my denim jackets 🤩
When you try to dress according to trends you'll end up always buying new clothes, but when you buy clothes that you really like without following trends you might keep it for years
True and some of the trendy pieces don't even make any sense after a couple of months
I'd say be mindful of trends. I mean if you see a trendy piece that is flattering on you and you actually like it, then by all mean buy it! But still be mindful if it could be considered awful or even tacky in the next five or ten years. I rarely ever buy new clothing except for basics such as singlets, socks and undies.
When crop tops came "back" in style (im not even sure why they were out of style to begin with) I find my new passion. I will never not wear crop tops. It's been years now and theyre so flattering to/on me. I say stay away from trends, but be wary of *styles*. I would say skinny jeans / high waisted jeans are also a "trend" depending on the decade. But maybe you like bootcut or boyfriend or bellbottoms. Wear what you like and not because its a trend. I hate mom jeans bc they arent flattering on me, but boy are they gorgeous on some other people. And id say that trend has been going for years now and people still wear mom jeans.
The "trends" i stay away from are certain patterns or fabrics. Like velver was a trend in 2016~2017. And i hate velvet. The same for cheetah/animal print. Thats been back in style since last year and im not a fan. Also when floral was a trend again around 2017, i was not a fan. The same goes for "statement pieces" like a ceryain hairstyle or hairpiece thats a trend (last year it was puffy headbands, the past few years it's been "tiny sunnies") You will never catch me dead wearing a statement piece or trend.
But I do think "trends" such as things that are BRAND new can affect people. Like softboys wearing skirts. It isnt the first time boys or men have worn skirts, but I do think that the "trend" is important bc it opens a discussion. The same with things like wearing tops without a bra. I havent worn a bra since crop tops came out and I swear I will only buy sportsbras for the gym or i have one bra for formal purposes / work.
@@MyFictionalChaos I mostly agree with you, but lol
I have actually found new loves for things like floral and cheetah that I didn't love the last time they were popular, because I've changed so much. If it weren't for them coming back and making me look at them again as a different "me", I would have numerous less things in my wardrobe that supplement me living my happiest life truest to "me" today :3 but, even with me liking cheetah now, I'm still not going to buy hot pink crushed velvet cheetah printed items. That definitely won't last, and I'm more than happy with a classy variety of what's trending.
I buy some clothes I see online cause of others...but I rarely even wear them and they stay in my wardrobe but items like my denim jacket, I wear for years and years without any doubt of getting rid of.
Can we also not be ashamed of wearing the same shirt for a month (while cleaning it regularly of course) just because we feel like it ? 😂❤️
Always!!! I've been wearing a purple one in Feb, olive green all January, strippy one in December etc xD
Or multiple of the same shirt! There was a dollar sale and they sit well on me. I'm going to darn well wear it.
Just wanted to say I love your pfp 💜😌
Like my work shirt 🤣🤣 booom
@@jinseats5466 ARMY in the wild! sort of...
"T-shirt material doesn't last that long" *looks at all of the t-shirts I've had since late middle school and still wear today*
I think that's the difference between men and women's tees. All of mine that have lasted that long are men's.
@@yugao12 Oh! Yes! Buy men's tees! I have one that only JUST gave up the ghost, and it was 15 years old!
Same. I only stopped wearing some of my t-shirts because they wouldn't fit my chest anymore
I have a lot of tees that I've had for 5+ years, but now that I think about it the ones that were "mens" typically wear better and can go for longer without a wash... hmmm. Okay only buying mens tees in future
The moment I get a sewing machine I will start getting mens t-shirts because now even the smallest size goes down to my mid thigh... Honestly when it comes to clothing being short has very few benefits
It's SO true that staples don't have to be/are rarely neutral - the items that have lasted me years are the more unique ones
One of my staples is a pair of bright blue bell bottom jeans. Totally agree!
It's quite useful to have like 3/5 amazing unique pieces, and 2/5 nuetral basics. Not including knickers, bras or socks though.
Same here
Pink is my staple.
Facts
Most important clothing lesson for every woman: WE DESERVE POCKETS!
I have an old pillow case that I’ve cut up to add pockets to all my dresses. It has greatly improved my life
have u heard about tie on pockets? i made one and its like changed my life...
I do the same with all my leggings and yoga pants. I don't know why, but people who design pants seem to be under the impression that women hate pants.
My god that’s so genius
I will have pockets on all my clothes now yeeeeeeeeeeeee 😊😊😊😊😊😊
@@catriziacat1756 :O that's a brilliant idea. (Also ridiculous that it's needed given that's what people used to wear before they started putting pockets in clothes. How are we without pockets in the 21st century?!) I just googled and could only find historical ones, costume pieces etc. Is there a shop you can recommend or a pattern? Also how do you wear them, can they be over your clothes?
@@hamsterpouches Absolutely you wear them over your clothes. An apron can also be cute over a skirt or dress to provide pockets to an outfit.
I accepted that my style is a combination of 1970 rollerblading disco queen and English librarian who only wears wool a long time ago
Mine is a mix of clueless time traveller and vampire who no longer cares about going with the times. I wear many vintage pieces, but combine several decades into one outfit.
both of your styles sound so cool, I wanna have a style but a) I cant afford anything b) idk how to alter/make clothes c) I hate fast fashion but I have zero second hand/thrift shops near me d) I have zero energy/time to even take care of my basic needs
The style I want would be the edgy older brother from teen movies except a lot more adrogynous *edit* : a combination of klaus Hargreaves and Rodrick Heffley
@@hideakisorachi3953 I don't have any thrift shops in my area either. They don't really exist in my country. We have some second hand shops, but they are either for designer clothing or children's clothes. I mostly get my clothes from ebay or flea markets.
Ebay can be a treasure trove, if you know which search terms to use. Just look up some old catalogues or ads to figure out what some styles are called or from which decade they are or which subculture they belong(ed) to. Sometimes it can help to know which trends inspired other trends. For example I love 70s platforms, but they are hard to find, worn down or expensive. But the 90s took a lot of inspiration from the 70s in some aspects. Stuff from the 90s is much easier to find.
Or do the complete opposite and just look into any ebay category without entering a search term and see what catches you eye. Some people can't tag to save their lives or don't know what they are actually selling and so their items don't show up in searches. I got some great stuff that nobody else bid on because nobody could find it.
You can also practice sewing or alterations on items that you no longer wear. If it turns out well you get a new item to wear, if not it's not a big loss because you weren't wearing it anyway.
Most of all, take your time.
In the beginning it's hard to build a wardrobe, because we are often limited by various factors (income, skills, family, work/school, fashion knowledge, confidence, availability). But once you have a few good pieces, you can mix them with the stuff you already own until you can replace that with more items you love. Most of us took years with many trials and errors to get to a place that finally felt like 'this is me'.
I hope this can help you a bit.
@@hideakisorachi3953 I shop a lot on etsy because I feel better buying from a small business. While I admittedly do have a lot of throft shops near me, I also love to sew. I would encourage you to try out etsy if sewing isn't for you, maybe even fb marketplace, threadup (so much good stuff here!!), and just general hand-me-downs. I use A LOT of hand-me-downs.
My aesthetic is hermit who lives alone in the woods, full of self-love, and will share ginger-peach tea and disorganized opinion on economics with anyone who visits. Ranging from shorts, messy T-shirt and crocs, to flannel and hiking boots, to very extra period dresses for when there's not much work to do. Cool hats and always pockets. Running dramatically through the moors with anguish in my heart, wading into streams, sitting in trees
I dressed mostly black/alternative in school which was always an issue for some teachers and classmates' parents. Once we had an event where the dress code was fancy, so I wore a gorgeous pink floral dress, white heels, fake pearls, the whole fantasy. All my classmates came in black dresses. It was so surreal and absurd. I'll never forget it. My everyday looks for which I was criticised were their fancy look because fashion dictated it.
dude that’s crazy. good on you for dressing the way you saw fit, though!
And I bet that pink dress was a bomb ass look.
The biggest breakthrough in my fashion sense, was realizing that colors are for everyone. As a brown Latina, I thought pastels would make me look darker and uglier. Just embrace the colors, looking darker is not looking uglier.
It's not! 😀 I think the contrast is actually gorgeous 😍
If you haven't watched Alexandrasgirlytalk 's video on colour PLEASE do she explains how to find colours that make you look your best instead of making the item look the best, and she references a wider range of shades (from rihanna to taylor swift lol) to explain the shade theory she uses.
I highly recommend watching @itsyohomegirl. She wears a lot of bright, colorful clothes that you might like.
Hell yeah there's no such thing as an unattractive skin color, hair color, hair texture, the colour etc
I’m white but I love the way bright colors and pastels look on darker skin 🥺
I legit just stick to earth tones and try to buy second hand durable pieces that fit my vague 70s aesthetic lol
Me too sister
me but cool tones. somehow I only wear light denim, black and white and maybe some blues
U just described my wardrobe
That sounds like me lol
I only this year realized i just rly wanna wear pastels and its ok xD
I've actually learnt so much about my style and wardrobe preferences from Animal Crossing. Safe for the planet and wallet experimentation
I love this
me too!! its actually so helpful
LOL SAME
Too precious
YES
I basically go by "does this make me look like an art teacher evil scientist?"
wow what an amazing style to have
@@NessaNo-j5v YES!
THIS IS MY NEW ASTHETIC DESCRIPTION. I never had a title for it but thinking through what I wear/like.....its this. Thank you so much
I absolutely love that!
Do you wear lab coats stained in vivid colours?
“Billie Eillish comes and goes but the Sound Of Music is forever”
This sentence spoke deep into my soul. Not because I have negative feelings about Billie Eillish or anything, but because I have EXTREMELY FOND feelings for The Sound Of Music.
I have found my people!
@@leenanorms My dad publically applauded the degredation of the original Sound of Music tapes, and somehow got an entire movie theater to join in. So I guess my dad dissagrees.
Don't really care for the sound of music but heathers and Dr jeckyl and hyde are my favs
Agreed. Most music and just things nowadays are so temporary. People like Michael Jackson, Elvis, etc... they stay forever!!! (Haven't seen sound of music but those are my comparisons haha) The world We live in is so shit and temporary: music, clothes etc... It's so rare that something made new stays for a long time.
Literally I dig Billie but this so much! Even if not specifically sound of music im always singing showtunes
That ripped inner thigh montage is EXACTLY as I've always imagined in my head, every time I rip my favorite pair of jeans then collapse into a heap of disappointment. THANK YOU.
It's a slower process on me due to body shape but this was my ex's life too and I relate so hard 😂
Even worse: you buy a new pair of pants and they start getting rough in that area after one or two wears already - still looking for a way to fix and or prevent them wearing thin
@@laurinexyz4681 I've worn through like 3 pants from my thighs rubbing together lol but I found out with the last pair they actually make repair/replacement patches just look up "iron on jean/denim patches"
@@Shyknit yeah! They’re so easy to use. I’ve also had a tailor invisibly patch jeans for about $10 that extended their life by years
Yes! I feel like no one ever addresses this problem. The one reason I wish I had a thigh gap 😭
TL:DW
2:51 Don't get swept up in trends; do lean into your longterm loves
3:57 Don't just buy it if you love it; do consider design before everything
7:47 Don't assume that you need it because its a classic; do find a classic that excites you
9:41 Don't only look at cut and color; do become a material master
12:20 Don't see your clothes as passive possessions; do learn do be a good wardrobe parent
15:25 Don't think any wardrobe advice matters; do remember weather matters
16:31 Don't autobuy because it's a staple; do create your own staples
18:56 plan to stay childish
20:01 Don't idolize one; do buy two if you love it
21:11 Don't assume you need a trainers collection; do train yourself out of trainers
Thank you!
Thanks mate!
thx a lotttt
I'm a 15 year old male, how and why did I end up here
Guess I'll take the advice while I'm at it
Honestly take her advice and run with it, this is still applicable to mens style.
Yeah, I was gonna say you don't have to be a girl to learn how to style yourself well. It's rather practical actually.
Proud of you
im also a 15 year old boy and i have no idea what im doing here but now i want to clean my closet
Doesn't matter what gender you are everyone can have a style with what they feel good!
Things I learned in my 20s.
1.Colorful clothing is not for me. Thats ok.
2.If I can't wash it and dry it in a machine...goodbye.
3. Buy for my body, not the models.
4. All items of clothing need to be comfortable, even the fancy stuff
Buy for my body and not the model’s is the HARDEST thing I’ve had to learn
Literally cant wear anything uncomfortable! I bought such a gorgeous designer dress but OMG is it itchy! REGRETT!!!! I will never wear that sh-t
I'm a part-time wardrobe consultant with a bachelors in fashion.
This is literally the most helpful video I've ever seen done on this topic, and it deserves more views.
🤣 The ad I got in the middle of this vid had a woman saying she thinks every woman should have a pair of beige heels in her wardrobe. All I could think is, "that goes with absolutely nothing in my wardrobe. I don't wear beiges and I don't wear stilettos/pumps. They are not like a little black dress, lady." And this ad was after the section on not buying something because you're told it's a staple. 🤣
I got some for free and was actually thrilled cause all my dresses are crazy and celebrities told me to get beige heels since my shoes suck and never match lmfao
I ran across some beige heels that fit my feet and ngl they just made me look like a little old lady in a completely not cute way. They looked both boring and kinda sad on me. Still though because I have feet that I can never find shoes for since I have really wide short feet. Everything is either swimming flippers or I'd have to cut off a third of my foot to fit them in lmao
"A classic to whom?" I'm in my 30s but you're changing my life rn
I am in my 30s too. 😉 I am still figuring out my crap.
"the perfect jean jacket" reminds me of its lesser known older sister: "the perfect leather jacket." I'm a sad owner of one black leather jacket, one brown leather jacket, and one red leather jacket......that have each been worn like once!
This is exactly me 😂
Huh I wear my leather jacket like crazy. I love it. It's not for everyone though. I think the key is finding the right fit+style of leather jacket. Mine is a baggy old-school motorcycle jacket (thrifted) and it's got so many pockets!!
I second your comment, I have an amazing leather jacket that I wear on really cold days because it's got this supper soft, super warm inside and it's so nice!
But my style is "don't touch me" mixed with early 2000's avril lavigne
Me as well!! And the sad part is I got them just to get them, so the fit isn’t quite right and it doesn’t work with the rest of my wardrobe. Luckily I got them at thrift stores or on sale at various points.
I had that perfect leather jacket and it got stolen at a restraunt when I was in the bathroom (the person at the next table might have thought it was theirs idk) ... I had gotten it from a 2nd hand shop so I was never able to replace it. It was one of the saddest days of my life.
"I really need to wear them... More than once before I wash them."
How can you say something so brave and yet so true?? 😂😭😂😭
I wear everything twice before washing unless I spill something on it. Outer clothes like jumpers and cardigans go longer. The only exception is hot summer days. Climate and lifestyle really dictates how often you need to wash your clothes.
Only the garments that go directly against the skin need to be washed frequently, and even they don’t generally need to be washed after just one day of wear.
As someone who owns multiple leather skirts and a blazer to die for, as soon as you said "look at this leather top" I immediately thought "you just wipe it clean"
Yup. I really need to wear my leather skirts more..
I'm literally wearing a black faux leather skirt as I read this, and wiped the front clean some hours ago haha
I have a faux leather jacket, skirt and leggings. I love and wear them so much
I tried to "reinvent" myself a few times. Threw out all my Halloween shirts and got only mature adult woman shirts. Gradually, the graphic tees and mesh sleeves and general goth finery filtered back in. Popeye said it best. I yam what I yam. I was only changing because the guy I was with wanted me to. So I changed my relationship status instead. 🤭
Hell yeah! Take out the trash!
Fellow alt girl here, and I can't imagine having a wardrobe NOT chock full of skulls, spikes, chains, black, and pastels.
I did exactly the same as a teenager. I didn't have a bf pressuring me to. 23 now, meaning that I have collected second hand gothy shirts for years now. I am lucky to have a boyfriend who likes what I wear and doesn't tell me what to do. 😁
"how tight is it on my armpit" yess omg I've never heard anyone mention it before 😂 love me some loose armpit tshirts that I can wash once a month instead of one an hour like the tighter ones
I just want to dress like a D&D character every day... If only.
I know it's not the same, but Ginny Di has a few videos on D&D-inspired aesthetic... It's not the real deal, but it's something at least!
I mean, why not? I kept thinking “if only I could dress this way” and when I actually started doing it I felt so much more happy about my clothes. Now I get that armor isn’t practical for everyday, but there’s tons of ways to twist the aesthetic to fit your life.
@@localtoothfairy same here. I used to dream about how I wished I "could" dress. Wore only boring trendy mall style. Now I'm early 30s, dress exactly how I'd like (like a witch) and have never felt more comfortable
DO it!!!!
@@carlalome ohhh thanks i didn't know her !!
One thing I have learned in my 20s is that there is a difference between what I think looks cute when I am looking at it on someone else vs what I actually feel comfortable wearing. For example you love color but I notice I feel most happy and comfortable in blacks and grays
This but with styles of clothing. I love how some dresses and shirts look on other people ot on the sleg but I had to cime to terms that even if they're pretty, if I don't feel comfortable showing skin, highlighting my cleavage etc, I will never actually wear them.
@@lazynoodle6739 God I hate wearing revealing clothing. Brain stupid, I guess, but I can't wear skirts that go above the knees, v-necks, or crop tops. I love how they all look on other people and I'm mad I can't wear them but I recognize that I should just stick with my maxi sundresses and vibe
@@organa1626 oh! I just had a look at dresses and yes this is so true! I found all the dresses rly pretty but I didn't like how low cut some of them were since I don't like showing that much
I feel that, I keep buying colored versions of styles of shirts I like to wear, but I only wear the dark versions. Lesson learned
@@lazynoodle6739 I resonate with this too, started looking at modest fashion and hijab fashion because you can still look stylish but also be covered and I feel more comfortable like that
the part where you talked about "some californian blogger telling you what you need in your wardrobe when you live in britain" reallys poke to me and opened my eyes bc I'm in New York. I don't need all the things they say I do we live in TOTALLY DIFFERENT CLIMATES
it's something I never expected but totally needed to hear, so thank you for that.
Cries in sunny side California. I own well over 10 coats / winter jackets and boots, yet I only have about one week of the year where it's cold enough to wear these things. I definitely need to stop but they're just so pretty.
Wool. What I really need in my wardrobe is wool: Im in Norway. I doubt that California blogger is going to be very helpful with that. Also, good quality/ minimally treated wool clothes literally last for several generations, and hardly ever need washing if, like me, you have a veranda to air them on
@@mackereltabbie
I don’t think I’ve gone a day without wearing wool since August.
Today I'm wearing a shirt that makes me look both like a Christmas tree AND a musician in a Cuban orchestra. Perfect timing for this video
It sounds amazing and made me smile, so thanks! 😁
This is the best comment ive ever seen please link the shirt
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I can't tell you how much I appreciated the short montage you included of the pants that are worn in the thighs! This happens to aaaaaalllllll my pants (jeans, leggings, slacks, ALL of them!) and it has upset me deeply for many years. Thank you for not just showing it, but talking about it in such a normal, nonchalant way. I think I might be able to be less self-conscious about this now.
Oh my god me too! I always used to think it was because my thighs were too big and no jeans could handle them.. the montage made me happy!
same here!!
Me too! I was holding on to some subconscious shame about this...
It happens to soooo many people, i wish it were talked about more
Her shirt says "stop raising him he's not your son"
(for anyone else who spent too long trying to read the ending lmao)
omg i need that on a t... oh wait
Lol mee
Before I could see the full thing my mind kept going to "stop raising him-he's not a roof".
It’s from Florence Givens book “women don’t owe you pretty”
Read it! It’s a blessing
you can buy it on florence given's store!
That point about denim jackets omg. I have a few in my wardrobe (as I pursued the Perfect One) but they really don’t get a ton of wear. I too have an army jacket that I bought secondhand and have worn hundreds of times over the years
I agree so much
I also have a denim jacket I hardly wear! I wonder who can up with the stupid idea that that a denim jacket is a wardrobe must have?
hahah YES! We have been CONNED, but there is still time to SELF-LIBERATE x
yes! my sister is always trying to get me into getting one but I’ve never found one I liked aside from the /one/ I had when I was a mere slip of a girl of 14ish
I now /also/ have a green army-style jacket I wear every single one of the few actually cold days we get here in southern Louisiana, and several of the moderately cold days too!
My jeans jacket don't fit me, its to small...I have never worn it. But would love to have one and stitch all my band patches on.
When she said “ I hereby release you from your mission of finding the perfect pair of jeans” I audibly sighed of relief 😅
Same! I've been wearing long drapey skirts in lockdown and feeling a bit guilty for not getting harder to find new jeans instead, but why?? I like the long drapey skirts better!
@@SallyWaters24 Long, drapey skirts are the new jeans!
@@skyeofdiamondstars3244 😁 yeah!
I’ve never understood why everyone assumes that ‘neutral colours’ are just white, black, and grey. Cause that’s just not true. Neutrals can be cream, skin tones, terracotta, clay pinks, earthy greens and many more. Whites, blacks and greys can be nice neutrals but they almost exclusively look good on people with cool skin tones. I do think it is good to have a neutral tank top to use as an undershirt and I would rather have a cream tank top or a tank top that matches my skin tone.
And yes Jean jackets are so overrated especially since I don’t consider a coat or jacket to be a staple. I like my coats and jackets to be statement pieces. I like my jackets and coats to be unique and colourful as well as versatile especially since I live in Canada where we get a wide variety of weather. (Obviously that’s my own personal preference, you should always choose clothes that suit you and your style best.)
Agreed! I buy sooo much gray stuff because that's my favorite neutral. So I can pretty much grab whatever I want out of my closet and it will match.
Yes! I'm an olivey neutral, and white just looks *so* bad on me.
@@lilbluecaboose I thought I was the only one who looks awful in white. I'm kinda normal 😂
to me, as someone who normally wears the same jacket/coat every day for months on end, I really like them being more of a staple. that way it doesn't matter what my outfit looks like, they always match. same with shoes.
i think it depends a lot on the climate you are in. i have to wear a coat for like... 75% of the year, so i like to get a good quality staple that matches with as many things as possible
this is why vintage youtubers are top tier lol they never buy anything new usually unless it's fabric to make stuff or thrifted vintage finds
ikr i love em. also micarah often makes dress from thrifted clotjes
What I find myself coming back to usually is “disco clown.” Frilly, but in a goofy as opposed to feminine way. Sleek, but more flamboyant than sultry. High waisted pants, not to show off hips, but to look like John Travolta in Saturday Night Fever. So far it’s worked out!
Honestly I absolutely love that, what a fucking vibe
YESSSS rock that disco clown look!
That sounds amazing!
I decided to stop trying to have one style. I love playing with clothes too much.
“Billie Eilish comes and goes, but The Sound of Music is forever.” Aaaaaaand subscribe.
Until I saw your comment I was prepared to accept that she'd said "Billy *Elliot* comes and goes but The Sound of Music is forever"
(I thought it was kind of a weird thing to say, since Billy Elliot is a fairly popular and well-liked musical, but it makes more sense that I'm a fool haha)
literally this! subbed right then and there
THIS. made me laugh out loud and I'm very much here for laughing out loud when I'm on my own. yes, yes, we stan.
Why do older people always target Billie? I keep seeing older people always name drop her as a fad kind of artist, and like.. shes no different than any other artist. I don’t feel it’s fair just because shes a younger artist
Top Tip: Make a list of things you think you want and look at the things on said list regularly. If you get tired of it just by looking at this list you will get tired of it when it is in your wardrobe.
this is so useful! i made a wishlist board on pinterest for this reason and have found that if i still want something over the months and can imagine it going with other clothes i own and then buy it, it tends to get used, but impulse buys don't. and then there are things i straight up forget about after a few weeks of intense pining.
@@rosereddened Yesss Pinterest boards are so good for this!!!!
That is so smart I'mma have to start doing that plus I need to deep clean my closet anyways
I heard this forever ago but "if you dont want it in 8 months then you shouldnt buy it". I swear i saw it on the internet once and I live by it
Thank you! Makes so much sense.
When you mentioned the fact that you couldn't wear clothes that touched your armpits, I had never felt so seen in my life. Thank you Queen.
Well her other rule to go with synthetic materials certainly doesn't help the problem. Cotton makes you if not even sweat less it certainly makes it smell less.
@@flagerdevil yeah, don't agree with that. I have stopped buying polyester (except for workout and hiking gear) since I was 25. Not worth it.
Not related to the content and excuse me for saying...can we not say queen to just literally about anything to about just anyone? It really loses its meaning.
Note for me later
the 5th one is just an ad tho
@@deemah3602 not really, she just means also to learn to maintain and actually get the best wear out of your clothes also.
I actually do like “all neutrals with a pop of color” but the pop has to be the most obnoxiously bright, punch-you-in-the-face color. Like in Grease when Sandy wears the plain black with the bright-ass red pumps
i have a pair of neon orange sneakers that i loved but i thought i would never wear, but because i tend to wear a lot of black i find i actually wear them quite often. win win!
I bought some really colorful trainers that I wear with a lot of my black clothing. Sadly the main color is white which needs cleaning more often 😅
"If you really love it, buy two"
so my 10 slightly different black crop tops may be a little overboard
Me but with long sleeved black tshirts
omg i feel very called out, i have 3 black crop tops and they're all different
Me with my 4 pairs of black leggings
If I really love a shirt I’ll buy 3. I recently got some health problems sorted out and have been able to start losing weight and I found a plain black shirt I really liked so I immediately bought 6 of them. 2 in my current size and then 2 in one size down and 2 in two sizes down from my current size.
😂 me but solid crop tops and printed joggers!
It was really important for me to learn that my “base” and “neutral” colors are conditional on my skin tone. Wearing white makes me look sickly but cream or light pink look so much better. Black is ok for me but navy looks much better to me. And yeah comfort is key and after that is it fun to wear. Life is too short to not wear shirts with exciting sleeves.
Yes! This is so important! I can wear brights and dark colours and pure white, but pastels super wash me out.
seems like you're pretty 'delicately'-toned. do you find red to overpower you?
Same! I look decent in black, but plum and other purples look fantastic on me. I'm still learning tone wise what other colors look good on me, but I'm getting there!
I cut out all my uncomfortable clothes and it’s an absolute life changer!
Yeah I realised this year I look good in cool toned colours like nude pink and khaki but all the essential grey clothes I used to buy dont do anything for me
I love the buy 2 rule! I first started this when I found a work dress that was soft, comfortable, doesn't wrinkle, and doesn't show to much cleavage. I bought it, wore it to work, got tons of compliments, then went back and bought all the colors and double of my favorite! It helped me create a work uniform that was very me
A work 'uniform' is super useful to have, especially if you aren't a morning person!
I was looked at really awkwardly when I found a good fitting hoodie jacket and bought it in various sizes.
This is me. I have basically all the same work dress. I do have literally two of a couple colors, and a few have different sleeves, but...It's a well-fitting dress with a fun amount of skirt and lovely giant pockets. I want every version I can get my hands on!
Same for me! I have the Caterina Dress from Collectif in every colour and every sleeve length they ever made, in different sizes because I loose and gain weight constantly
I feel the complete opposite.i absolutely don't want to look the same every day no matter how many boxes an item of clothing ticks. Even the word uniform makes me flinch.
I absolutely love all of your tips! I have developed my own fashion rules in my 20s:
1. If it’s dry clean only, don’t buy it. I’m too cheap to want to spend money on dry cleaning. Don’t buy hand wash only staples. I’m too lazy to keep up with that.
2. If it attracts excessive cat hair it’s too impractical to wear. My animals are my lifestyle. If it doesn’t fit my lifestyle it doesn’t fit me.
3. Grunge pieces and black clothes stay in my wardrobe the longest and get worn the most. These are my investment staples that make sense for me.
4. As much as I’d love to be the gothic queen on the outside that I know I am on the inside, whenever I buy goth clothing they are very hard to incorporate seamlessly into my wardrobe and end up not being worn. I have to be very selective about introducing gothic items
5. I’m not a fancy person with a lot of formal places to go. I only need a few formal pieces in my wardrobe. I shouldn’t invest too much money or closet space on formalwear
UA-cam recommended me this video, and I'm gonna be honest I really thought this video was going to be filled with the same cookie cutter advice as in every other video I've seen on fashion/clothing, but I am so pleasantly surprised! Yes to every single thing you said! And the fact that so much consideration to the environment and sustainability went into it just makes my hippie heart bloom.
yeah I honestly have no idea how I came across this vid but im glad I did 😂
"You don't need a lot of neutrals."
Me: (side eyes my 75% black and grey wardrobe)
J/k, I'm one of those people who loves to wear a crap ton of black. Like, I've never been a real goth, but I admire real goths. I express myself in silhouettes and cuts, and there are only a few non black and grey colors I like to wear. It's not for everyone, but it's a look.
For me it's black and oxblood
This right here! I live and breath neutrals. The most colorful items I own are beige haha.
Me too, I feel awful in bright colours, I think they make me look sick. Also, with a wardrobe full of black, cream and beige coloured clothing, matching clothes is much easier
I refuse to wear bright colours and they make me super uncomfy- I only wear black, gray, brown, pastel pink and like Jean blue
I think the point is to find a color palette that works for you. If you don't like neutrals, don't feel like you have to buy them. Don't want even a pop of color? That's fine too!
Same for people who want monochromatic looks of their favorite color, or never met a floral print they didn't like, or stripes/plaid/whatever.
Themed wardrobes work best, but you should pick the theme YOU like best.
I like that you basically said "do your wardrobe so that it sparks joy for you" and I needed to learn this in my 20s.
"Plan to stay childish" I LOVE THAT OH GOSH I can't tell you all the times I've gotten rid of something because it was too punk only to miss that element
I'm turning 30 soon. I'm gonna redo my room. Everyone might be hoping that I finally get an ~adult room~ but what's actually gonna happen is a lot of neon pink
@@kaydwessie296 Yes! "Adult" doesn't have to rime with "simple" or "neutral"! Having agency over our own style and the way we express ourselves means we don't have to conform.
@@trinketeerrine6674 Exactly this!
@@kaydwessie296 that's awesome! Expectations from others can be so exhausting, I'm glad you're living your own life :)
Actual conversation I"ve had:
Them: "You need to buy neutrals, they go with everything!"
Me: "Rainbow goes with everything, that makes it a neutral, yes?"
Them: Grumpy grumbling about when am I going to grow up
oh my god I remember saying things like this
The only advice I can give is to accept that you will regret your fashion decisions when you're older no matter what. It doesn't matter if you go for blending in or standing out, the outfits will still be mismatched and odd if you aren't buying your own clothe. So you may as well embrace the steampunk mermaid duchess librarian combo of the precocious young teenage girl while you can.
Oh... I guess I worded that poorly. I haven't been a teen in a decade(s?), and I still dress in neon rainbow and glitter. Mom finally accepted that this wasn't a phase in my late twenties...
If you only wear pink purple and blue everything matches with everything... that’s how I do
@@Nerdygoddess Damn, well if youre an adult, you're buying your own clothes, and you like it, then really the only accessory you need is confidence
Right? Why become an adult if you still can't wear things you like?
As a 35 year old woman, I want to echo that this is all fantastic advice. For example, I've now just basically stopped wearing synthetic fabrics because they all make me sweat horribly and I realize no matter how much I love them I just don't wear them. (Rayon frequently makes it into my "loves" list because it has the drape of poly without being synthetic!)
I'll also say that if you do love something synthetic, undershirts are a lifesaver if they make you sweat, preferably good quality ones in model, cotton, or even silk if you can afford it.
Another thing that always fits: accessories! So if that’s your thing, yay I guess
earrings are my biggest love in my wardrobe! they'll last for forever and can hold such special memories (unlike dresses or other clothes that can wear out or fall apart!)
I agree and disagree on the “trainers” thing. I totally agree that converse are the cargo pants of shoes but I do think that everyone should have one really comfortable pair of sport shoes that are specifically for the type of exercise you most enjoy doing. I spent my early 20s thinking I could do everything in office flats and injured myself because I couldn’t be bothered to buy a decent pair of tennis shoes. I recently bought some and it’s been a game changer. You don’t need to go all MTV Cribs and own a closet full but it’s a worthy investment to have a pair of sport shoes you can go full throttle in when you need to.
It is the same as the "watch where you live" advice. A proper wardrobe includes what you need for activities you do on a regular basis. Steel-toed boots for woodworking are essential if that is your thing. So are proper shoes for dancing. Protective gear for hiking... ect.
Ah as an american I had to reread it bc we never call them trainers. Sneakers or athletic shoes depending on the use.
For me, I never buy a new pair of shoes bc ive never been a shoe girl but after years ive realize ive been wearing out things from a decade ago. I think it's good to invest in a new or trendy pair of shows bc theyre just gonna wear eventually. Thats something I just realized in my 20s. I have the opposite problem compared to those who buy too many shoes - I dont buy enough! For me, it should be a pair of running shoes for the gym/running, a pair of sneakers for every day, a pair of boots for the rain, a pair of sandals for the beach, and a nice formal pair. Ive been wearing converse for years and theyve completely disintegrated bc I refuse to spend money on clothes. The same for my beach sandals -- I threw them out a year ago and always have to borrow someone's for the beach.
I think it is mindful to make sure you have a nice pair of shoes that you can use for most things, and for me a good pair of sneakers fits most occasions for every day.
Yup, agreed. Also, but this is just a personal thing, my feet are very sensitive, I have to wear special insoles with every shoe and my feet are relatively wide, so it's almost impossible for me to find actually comfortable shoes that are not sneakers. I'd love to wear oxford shoes, but if I walk in them for more than a few hours, my feet are destroyed, my soles hurt and my ankles ache. So I must stick to sneakers.
I have the opposite problem. I have one pair of good running shoes, a pair of rain boots, and a pair of chacos that I wear almost exclusively. I wish I knew how to wear nice shoes
I've had several friends and family members give me grief over buying and making so many sweaters since we live in a very tropical climate, but most of my job locations have intense air conditioning installed and I get cold easily. So of course my main staple lately has been the cardigan I made over the summer. There's no greater joy than wearing a knitted cardigan that you made yourself, even if it's not perfect!
You made a whole ass cardigan by yourself??? Thats so cool!!
@@solsthrash2603 thanks! It was so much fun ! 😄
I'm two thirds of the way through crocheting myself a cardigan, having just learnt how this spring - I'm so excited to see it all come together!
I agree with becoming a materials expert! For me it's quite the opposite though as I'm okay with ironing if it means staying away from everything synthetic and static. I try to find 100% linen or cotton weaves second hand and I also love wool! Fun fact about wool, it's fibres actually repel dirt so if you can air it out it hardly needs washing at all
Agreed, I love wool too, especially cashmere. I don't like merino though, I always find it too delicate and I end up snagging it.
Yeah I wash my wool cardigan like twice in the winter and that is all lol
Why do I find wool scratchy and smelly when it's wet? Am I the only one? Or its a specific type of wool
I was about to write the same exact comment! I can't imagine surviving summer without baggy, 100% cotton t-shirts and silk shirts and skirts (ofc I thrift all my silk) I'm "only" 21, but natural fabrics are the first thing I look at when shopping for everyday clothing.
@@gracemaina6593 some wool things are better/more high quality than others, and I've found that wearing something underneath helps. Though, it could also be an allergy!
I feel validated in my aversion to jeans and how they inevitably cut into my gut and make life so uncomfortable. Thank you! Elastic/comfy-high-waisted pants from here on out!
I remember when I was first on the lookout for a pair of leather boots, I'd had myself convinced they needed to be black. But then I was in a store and I saw this AWESOME pair of red/multicolored leather boots (the Malag style from Spring Step), and it finally clicked for me that I'm going to wear a funky pair of awesome statement boots WAY more than some generic black boots.
Same, I have just said "okay and welcome" to my need to wear multiple colors at once, and I don't care anymore if I look like a discordant rainbow !! My favorite scarf is a big multicolored tartan, my boots are bright red and pink, my sweater is lavender with ginormous strawberries on it, my coat is purple tartan with a giant hood, and I love that I am brave enough now to wear what my heart yearns for !
Everything you said about “basics” is SO TRUE. We’re all different, so why would our “basics” be the same as someone else’s? I’ve suckered myself into buying things that are outside of what I usually wear before, but I just never wear those things for long. I know what works for me, which is mostly just a wardrobe of black cardigans for any occasion.
Also!!! A tip for those who have struggled with having to buy new shoes/socks because your feet sweat a lot: bamboo socks! I’ve noticed that they last longer and my feet stay daisy fresh and so do my shoes. Best investment decision I’ve ever made!
Babe you had me at 'like wearing a glasses cleaner wherever you go'
Is it bad that I use any clothes I wear as a glasses cleaner 👀
@@pipscarlett3183 No, it's completely normal lmao
I'm 36 and this is among the most useful fashion related content I've ever seen. Especially now I'm trying to find my style again after having kids. Thank you :)
This was the first video I've seen on yours, so glad to find youuu! There were so many things I agreed with, but the bit about color- just oof!!! YES, GIRL! I love dressing up in bright colors, it makes me so happy and I think really lets me show off my personality :)
Omg hi! I’m a subscriber! How cool to see you got recommended this video too lol
Same situation but the reverse! Once I entered my twenties I started to venture out more and rediscover my love for black that I secretly had since I was about 12 or so but had to hide bc my parents only rediculed me for the clothes I liked and, being your standard autistic girl, I wanted to dress according to their taste. I've subconsciously started to implement her (I hope that's right) tips ever since that turning point in my life, but will now continue to watch to learn more and do these things more consciously!
Yo! It's my homegirl Nathalie!
I am quite simply obsessed with your use of graphics. Oh, and the other incredibly informative and funny nuggets of life improving gold that this video contains as well.
Aw thank you!
Wearing natural fibers really helps take care of the "sweaty Betty" situation. Synthetics don't breathe!
Agreed. Wearing a synthetic garment can feel like you’re in a wearable sauna.
The point about having two of a wardrobe favorite is actually so good!! I've kind of developed a deep-seated negative feeling towards buying multiples of things every since seeing the really rich kids in highschool buy 5 differently colored pairs of, like, shoes, and linking the two in my mind. But now that I have a sense of my own style and a wardrobe that I'm proud of, buying the double of something I've already loved for ages makes so much sense!
Yep! I have the same cashmere cardi in 3 colours, and the same linen dress in 2 colours, and a T-shirt in 3 colours
I like a lot of these, but also...must disagree with the one about tennis shoes. As someone who has to work on my feet and sometimes walk for 14+ hours at a time, the BEST part of my wardrobe is my good tennis shoes. I used to go through a pair of $10 Walmart shoes every two months, but I've started investing in high quality, well-made shoes instead and it has made a world of difference. For someone who doesn't have to walk all day, I understand the shoes thing. But a good pair of tennis shoes has saved my life and my feet lol! Keep your work in mind when picking clothes. My friend that works in a bank can wear skirts and heels or slacks and flats or whatever she wants, but good jeans and good non-slip tennis shoes are my absolute staple items because they're necessary for my work. Or walking around campus, I can't be bothered to wear flats with no arch support or heels. Tennis shoes saved my life haha
For me, leather sneakers are the best compromise. They look neat enough for casual office environment, but are also great to walk in. If taken care of regularly, they can last a decade. Flat shoes are a big no no, I'd prefer to buy insoles to wear with them
Which brand do you like best?
This. A well-built sneaker that I can do all my activities comfortably in is worth far more for my feet and lifestyle than a nicer shoe I can get recobbled, even if it costs a bit more long term. I am thinking about investing in a decent pair of leather work boots once I grind my current hiking boots to dust because even high quality rubber and fabric hiking boots wear out and lose shape after a bit, but for day to day wear I've yet to find anything that's as versatile and comfortable as a decent sneaker.
True. I tend to be on my feet for most of my work day and a good pair of sneakers lasts and looks good for years and years.
Quote from my favorite shoe repair shop: "your shoes and your bed should be good quality, because most of your life you're in one or the other."
My pair of converse are my most comfy shoe I own. Still need to find some comfy winter shoe I could wear day in day out for lab work at my uni
Yknow, buying clothes based on your location feels like such a simple piece of advice yet my brain never fully processed it until you said it. I love fall and winter fashion, I love trench coats and big jackets and fluffy scarves, but I live somewhere that rarely drops below 70 degrees farenheit. As much as it crushes my fashion dreams I think that’s my favorite tip from this video lol
Let’s switch lives please 🙏🏽😩
omg my friends think I’m so weird for being picky about whether or not clothes are tight around my arm pits; finally someone else understands me!! I’ve finally learned to buy tops that are looser there and my life has been changed for the better
I'm autistic and I CAN'T have sleeves touch my armpits. And a lot of them insist on doing it
Would just say that with synthetic materials, they actually release microplastics with each wash, these are terrible for the environment. BUT! Apparently, you can buy laundry bags to stop that so perhaps invest in some of those.
I also personally find natural fabrics to be wayy more comfortable and long lasting. But thanks for this reminder, I do still buy plastic clothes second hand and I need to remember to find some of those bags!!
I don't buy synthetic materials because of that but now I have to do a ton of ironing lmaooo that is the life I've choose
Not only that but they also can't be recycled and don't biodegrade. So at the end of it's life it's annoying garbage like a plastic bag.
@Em Olive I have one! It works beautifully.
It's the only reason I don't like faux leather, just because it's basically plastic unless you get plant based ones
I have to disagree on the denim jackets and the trainers because they're things I love - but that's the point you were getting at I think! I absolutely hate super prescriptive fashion advice. Wear what you love and what makes you feel good.
Okay, I can barely wear a t-shirt for one day before I sweat through it regardless of whether it's close to my armpits or not so if you're really sweaty I don't know what I am
yeah same lol even jumpers sometimes
I had that problem and got botox under my arms to help solve it. It was covered on my national health service in Norway, and it was really life changing for me!
For me it seems to be improving as I get older but yes I feel this
Are you also in the UK? As someone topically adapted, I hardly sweat under 25°C. It could be about location again is all I'm trying to say.
@@j.kaimori3848 Yeah I'm in the UK and honestly temperature has nothing to do with it. It could be minus degrees but if I bike up a hill or walk up a set of stairs I'll probably break a swear
I do cosplay and theater so I've kept clothes because "I'll need it later"
Do you keep those closets separate?
I know myself as a costume lover I keep a section of my walk in closet for costumes or things I think I can repurpose into costumes.
Same lol I have a bag of ball gowns/Jedi robes and prom dresses in my closet 😂
My mom costumes and directs. We have a whole hoarded costume closet, and yes we do use it!
I “matured” from wearing jeans and “sensible” clothes that I felt were boring but hey I was ugly anyway, to dropping the jeans for skirts and dresses and going more goth until I got on the internet and found what I’d secretly wanted my entire life. The lolita style. My eyes widened, hands shaking as I placed my order and... I love it. I stick out like a sore thumb where I live but I love my lolita inspired clothes, I still want to stay practical so nothing too poofy and it has to be machine washable and yeah I don’t own an iron either. While my appearance hasn’t changed much now I actually like clothes! I used to not care because nothing you saw around here really excited me but waking up the child in me has made me feel happy. So what if people think I’m too old (actually they always seem to think that I’m way younger than my physical age but whatever) I’m not dressed like this for anyone but myself.
Obviously there’s a slight issue when the temperature here can range from around -20 Celsius to closer to or above 30 during a heatwave in that things should preferably be able to go with or without (thermo) leggings, but on top you have your spring/autumn coat or winter coat outside so that’s a-okay. It’s mainly the problem of not being able to put a pair of outer trousers on when you only wear dresses and skirts, that’s why thermoleggings and even layering them with a pair of normal ones is a neat trick.
I sew the crotch of my leggings for as long as possible, my grandpa taught me how to fix elastics when he fixed his socks. Thanks grandpa 🙏
Great to see another person that loves Jfashion/kawaii fashion! I get that stick out like a sore thumb feeling, because I’ve also received gross comments and odd looks when I wore sweet lolita in public. That isn’t gonna stop me from wearing it though, because like you said we are dressing up for ourselves! :) Thermo/heattech leggings are indeed life changing!! I’m assuming you’re Canadian as well.
It's really odd how so many people in this comments section *specifically* gravitate towards lolita and lolita-inspired style, me included!
"what kind of babylon are we building?!" as a first time viewer of the channel, i very much enjoyed it.
Also,
THE MARKET IS AGAINST YOU!
The average size of real human beings are rarely represented as the "normal" or even sold in most clothing stores, and in addition to the photoshop and small, toned mannequins, it can make you feel like crap, and a freak.
But it isn't you, it's the stores trying to make you feel bad and spend more money on things to "fix" your appearance.
The industry that does this so much is lingerie. I can rant forever about how a lot of brands set unrealistic standards for both skinny girls and curvy ones
i always think "I should have a denim jacket" but then i try one on and think "but why??" Corduroy jackets though...
I have clothes in my closet I bought when I was 13.. Still wear them at 25. Such a good video, soo relateable💓
Most of my clothes like that are from J Crew
HOW are you the same size??? 🙃😂
Emma Hunt some people were chubby kids that slimed down when they got older or wore sizes that were too big
@@EH23831 Never really wore super tight fitted clothing, and stopped growing when I was like 12 🤷♀️
@@Ravensflee 👍🏻 I’m just so much bigger than when I was a teenager! 😂 (I am in my 40s though!)
I was definitely like “stop raising him, he’s not .....” whaaaat? Then the rest of the shirt flashed and I could concentrate fully 😂 The suspense was killing me
At 2:25 for literally less than a second the rest of it shows up, it says “stop raising him, he’s not your son”
I come back to this video religiously and it always centers me in my wardrobe/fashion journey...thank you, a million times, thank you!
My total pleasure!
Strongly disagree with your feelings about jeans, neutrals, and trainers 😂 but I agree with the sentiment behind these! Essentially, buy what works for you, not what people say you “should” have.
Same
Me, a Californian who didn't even own a raincoat for 5+ years and is feeling called out:
I live in Australia and I cant even remember what a raincoat looks like
I feel this! 😭
I live in Arizona, I haven't owned a raincoat since I was like 8
@@marieoconnell6191 As a Tasmanian I have one but I'm always caught in bad weather without it
@@kaleidoscope5054 same
Also, as far as owning T-shirts go, if you want ones that you’ll really love for a long time, buy merch/fandom ones! They’re personal to you and great conversation starters sometimes
Life IS too short to iron! Down with ironing! I do love my denim jacket, though.
My compromise is that I'm planning to invest in a steamer. Pulling out the ironing board is the step too far that I'm just not willing to take.
Life is too short for your feet too hurt too. Give up the high heels too.
I've never ironed a single thing except wedding/funeral clothes 💁😂
I.... actually like ironing.... for me it's one of those relaxing household tasks, like vacuuming or mopping, when I can unwind from the day.
Me: I only want natural fibers! Better for the environment and better for your body.
My mom: yeah. But I hate ironing so I am going to stick with polyester.
I live in a damp apartment and I hang dry most of my washing and I have a great tip for you. If you get a dehumidifier and put it near the washing, it dries a lot faster. A full washing rack would take 2-3 days before, and now is about 1.5 days thanks to the dehumidifier. So I'd recommend getting one.
my dehumidifier is the best thing i ever bought in my entire life. i love it so much.
Second this, it works brilliantly
Honestly I was so excited about Dark Academia becoming sort of "trendy" because it was exactly the aesthetic I'd been looking for. I'd been wearing mostly slacks for a while and been a massive fan of vintage/chunky jumpers for forever but having a set key term to search for when looking for inspiration was magic. Now I always know what I'm looking for in clothing and can easily find gaps in my wardrobe.
That jean thigh wear montage taught me the meaning of skinny privilege - I've always thought of jeans not just as staples; but easy to buy, easy to wear and easy care for. I was wrong. I'm sorry. I will never perpetuate this again.
It's okay, it's cool you're gonna keep that in mind but your comment sounds like you did something unforgivable 😂
@@solsthrash2603 yeh haha the drama 😂
@@maisies515 fr 😂
@@solsthrash2603 Honestly, during that part of the video, I just experienced such an intense rush of cringe remembering myself in my early 20s - thinking I was a Gok Wan body positively queen - AND HAVING NO IDEA WHAT I WAS TALKING ABOUT. 🙈🙈🙈
That’s not skinny privilege, that just means your body doesn’t change size lol you can not be skinny and stay the same size
Power to colour in the wardrobe and be childish!! Lol! 🤗
This pandemic coincided with the height of my mental health issues and because of the whole situation, I gained a lot of weight. (I have had to have my partner talk to my mom because she was going so wild about my size increase, even though we don't live at home anymore. That bad.) Meanwhile, I've been spending the last couple of years trying to reinvent my wardrobe to be more myself and more ecological. Every piece of advice out there seemed to come from rich, skinny people, with lots of time and energy. My clothes are how I want to present myself to the world, but lately, it seemed that I was just too 'wrongly' built to ever fit my own ideals. Then I stumbled on this video.
In short, thank you for giving me hope.
Such a useful video. Now we just need people in affordable menswear to catch-up so we can get some colourful masculine clothes too
Love all of these tips. Wardrobe curation post-college has been so different than all the expectations set by “every girl needs THESE in her wardrobe!” videos and articles.
I recently re-fastened the buttons on a secondhand coat and I felt so accomplished! Taking care of your things feels good. Also, love the point about location - the most important "staples" for me are outerwear bc I live in Norway and 10 months of the year you're going to need some substantial outerwear, and one coat just isn't going to be enough. To a person living in california my 12 coats probably seem excessive, but I use them all regularly!
I'm 24 and because of my financial situation I've been forced to not buy many clothes or shoes since I was 16-19. It's been painful to me to feel so limited in my ability to play with my self expression since I'm admittedly intrinsically vain but it's forced me to getting over stupid hangups like external vanity pressures, pushed my comfort zones and pushed me to be a lot more conscious and critical when I do have any spending money and the opportunity to buy new clothes, shoes, makeup. I'm grateful to the experience today. I'd already come to many of the same conclusions you have but I love that you shared this knowledge and it was nice to be validated in my way of thinking now. My taste is opposite of yours, I've always loved fabric, architecture and textures more than prints and I enjoy neutrals but I've come to the conclusion that I also do love color and some prints I really like. I enjoyed your video a lot for your personality and honesty and did actually learn a few unexpected things that don't really apply to me but may be helpful later. Will check out more of your material and consider subscribing. This video is also inspiring me to make it a project to share this wisdom in my own way more and for my community. Not a content creator but I'm a medical student and in a nonprofit student org that has an environmental health component.
Update, I did subscribe :D
This video is so precisely what i needed. I am 25 and I've just moved back home to my parents because of covid and tight finances. But this means that i have all the clothes I had in my own place combined with all the clothes that i left behind in my teenage closet and ive had NO IDEA how to approach cutting down this mess. So this could not have come at a better time. I especially appreciate "find a classic that excites you." SO good.
i’ve been waiting for someone to talk about the armpit touching thing for YEARS