I'm glad Ben's foster family were able to take him back so it would have been like a "going home" of sorts for him instead of losing you. Getting a new guide dog as quickly as possible makes absolute sense. I can't imagine anyone being critical of that.
Totally agree. I don't exactly know what happened but I know that for not only a blind person keeping the dog who needs special care can be too much. I guess that if he was going to get in a shelter, Molly would do anything to get him a loving forever home. He probably would like to be with her, but he'll be happy and loved with his original family and that's the good news. Also getting a new guide dog asap is totally reasonable for more than one reason - she needs someone to be her eyes and having a new best friend can actually help with grieving. As a person who had more than one pet at the same time, I can tell the worst moment is when you get home and there's no one left to take care of. You just don't know what to do with your life at this point. So I am really glad that Molly got a new guide and that Ben will be with his original family. They'll miss each other but in the long term they will be just fine.
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As a guide dog puppy raiser, you are the type of person we hope will get our puppies-- someone who will love them and care about them as much as we do for the first year and a half of their life. I'm glad that Bennix is back with his puppy raisers, I know that they will take great care of him!
This is very true! It's true now, it's true when you filmed your experience getting Ben, and it's true in the future for anything you go through. Thank you for opening up to us, we appreciate the answer, but remember you don't owe us anything. It's your life/ privacy you're sharing, it's healthy to be reserved with that.
@@mgaspesie I feel bad she is worried about us when she should just be worrying about herself at this time 🥺 I legit cried my eyes out watching. I can’t imagine the pain 😞
I've medically retired a guide dog before, and my current guide is transitioning to retirement due to terminal cancer. Molly, you did exactly the right thing for Ben. Sending you love.
Mira really is so amazing, the fact that they wanted to help you avoid expensive vet bills and took that on for you then immediately found space for you in a new class and continue to support you so much through all of it.. they need so much love!
Those who are so critical of you for needing to get a guide dog after Ben retired is such a prime example of ableism. Yes you love your doggo but you also need the support. You can also see clearly how much this hurt you. I'm so thankful that you were able to get into class so quickly. That definitely was a good choice on your part. I hope things get more smooth and that everyone adjusts to the changes soon!
People forget that service dogs arent pets...they are disability aides. Imagine someone being upset at a person for getting a new at home nurse once thier previous one had to retire abruptly. Like yea you bond with that person/dog and it hurts they are gone and you miss them, but that doesnt change the fact that you still need assistance and someone to help you.
@@vianjelos I worked with people with developmental disabilities I was with a family 5 years I quit. I basically babysit 2 kids. The whole felt like Family to me but they still needed the services.
I wouldn’t say it’s ableism but ignorance. Those who don’t use service dogs don’t understand all the emotions and time and such involved. Yes, have a guide dog is a beautiful thing, but if the relationship between the team is great but when the handler’s safety is involved, the dog needs to retire. It can be very difficult on a person having to retire a dog and it’s very most certainly ok to not be ok. You put your life in the paws of a dog and it is very hard to do this especially if the circumstances are traumatic for your previous dog and such that you have to take time and care of yourself before you can do it again. I lost my first dog at 19. I haven’t gotten one since, and am just now ready to go for another. It’s not a matter of having a dog, it’s a matter of having a dog who is right for you and that you are mentally and emotionally ready to have. ❤❤❤❤❤
@@coffeecat086 It's carnist hypocrisy, and it needs to stop. Every human on this earth causes suffering to animals in order for our existence to happen. People with disabilities do not deserve to be the ones feeling guilty about animal use.
It's absolutely ridiculous to be critical of someone getting a new guide dog. Yes, I would be low-key critical of someone running out to get a new pet right after losing their old one. But guide dog are not (primarily) pets, they are medical aids. No one would be critical if a blind person got a new cane straight after losing or breaking one. On the contrary, it would be incredibly odd if they didn't. Of course, a guide dog isn't an object and it is someone you will bond with just like you would any other pet (I imagine, I'm fully sighted). But leaving time to fully mourn and show respect to a past guide dog means that you have to deprive yourself of what is essentially your eyes, and that is something I think critical people don't understand.
How beautiful that you are wearing an Elton John shirt during this video. Everything happens for a reason, and you will never replace those that help you along your way. I can’t even imagine the hurt and the loss that you feel, building such strong relationships with these animals working everyday, and then ultimately having to say goodbye. I will be sending you good thoughts always 💖💖
My allergen detection and seizure alert dog just suddenly retired due to Addison’s disease 💔 I understand the blindsided pain. It’s so wonderful you have a program at your back that was able to support you right away ❤️
I never realized how strong the emotional bond can be for a blind person with their guide dog. I thought about how it would feel to lose my dog as a seeing person, but it made me think, how much more valuable that relationship would be if I were relying on that animal for support. Love and support to you 💛
The relationship between service dogs and handlers is something really special. These dogs give us freedom - they give us our lives back. Losing a service dog feels like losing a part of yourself. You’re life stops because you NEED a service dog, and without one, the effort required to get another is so much more painful.
I don't have a loss of eyesight but I have Lupus and a lot of complications from that and cancer. My service dog warns me about seizures, picks up stuff for me, is a mobility stabilizer so I an still walk and comforts me during medical attacks or PTSD episode from medical trauma. I didn't like dogs before her (yes I know I know, I'm just a cat person) but she if just the sweetest babe. Training in a dog makes a huge difference.
You’ve always said each dog has come to you at a different “season” in your life, a time of transition. I am hoping that this new dog leads you out of this dark year and into better times. With how special Ben was, it’s clear he was there for you at just the right moment when you needed him the most. I am hopeful that ben moving on to the next chapter means his job getting you though this horrible year is done.
@@daviniusb6798 tysm for the information. 😔🙏💕I’m sorry to ask but could u be more specific about his medical problem? Poor Bennix and Molly. My heart goes out to him and Molly. Im so relieved to learn it’s not terminal cancer, which was my fear. I have a hard time with these devastating and sad videos and news because I have CPTSD among other things. It’s just easier to digest the info by asking in the comments in this case. Thanks.
Here from the future after knowing the significance of that shirt. Going to miss Benny and the Jets but I know your new dog will give you lots of love and what you need.
I'm glad he's okay and back with his puppy raisers. He had so much of a playful personality now he can have treats & play anytime he wants to. He'll be just fine playing, getting love & being a pet. Hopefully he has a yard so he can run around when he wants to also. Can't wait to see your new guide.
Ben had another path for his life. He was holding space and working for you while your true long term guide dog was working towards becoming yours. ❤️❤️❤️
Your connection with Ben was so strong because the universe knew your time together would be short so it squeezed and concentrated all that love you had for each other in the time you had. So sorry you have been going through this Molly.
As a lifetime pet mom, getting a new pet (or guide dog in this case) is NEVER replacement. Sometimes the best way to heal is to find another to fill your time. Hoping you find peace and healing! Sending love to you, your family, Ben and your new furry set of eyes!
I totally agree. While I haven’t experienced the deep connection of a guide dog, I have gotten another dog after a loss, and that is incredibly healing.
So true, I got a 2nd dog as my 1st one was aging, mainly because I heard that having a younger dog around could give them a new burst of life but also I knew I didn't want to be without a dog either and my boy was so good, I wanted my next one to learn from him. It does also help in the grieving process too though. You bond with your dog, no matter how many you have, but all the bonds are different so it's not a replacement it is a whole separate relationship.
I love that people are starting to feel more comfortable with not “needing” or wanting to share everything. It is your like Molly, you get to decide what we get to know ❤️
UA-cam suggested this to me today. I sat and cried while watching your video about Gallop, and to start this video about Bennix and see you're wearing an Elton John shirt before we knew Elton was placed with you was just the smile I needed when watching what I know is a sad video.
I remember when you were in class with Bennix and how he'd had a rough couple of years, I think you've been a blessing to him as much as he has been for you. Thinking of you
The fact that Ben got to go back to his old home with a family that will love him and let you come and continue to love him when you are ready and choose too is probably the best possible outcome that could've happened all things considered. I, by no means, will fully understand what you've been through, because I have not, but I know you'll make it through this, because you are incredibly strong, and because you are not alone. It could take a long time to fully process and finish grieving what could've been, but it will not last forever. I hope you will get to the point of feeling more better than not (if you're not already) sooner than later, because it's hard to lose things and people, especially when they're so emotionally and physically close to you for a long time, or even a short time. We adore you, Molly. And I'm sure most of us will be right here along for the ride with whatever you share with us, whenever you're ready. 🙂
I had to put my dog down half a year ago. He really helped me through my depression. He wasn't a service dog, but he always woke me up when I had a nightmare and sat with me when I felt alone. I'm still grieving a lot and slipped back into depression, but nobody seems to understand. You telling us in your video that it's normal to grieve helps me a lot. Thank you and I sent you lots of love.
Sending condolences 💐 Same thing happened with me 5 years ago. I picked him out of the litter when I was 6. We grew up together and he was there through my ups and downs. He then became only friend near the end of his life. After he was gone I came to even dislike all dogs bc of how much pain it caused me to lose my best friend. I had the same nightmare for about 4 years of him getting sick and me being helpless all over again. I still miss him so much but his memory is no longer painful. And the nightmares stopped. I now just have appreciation I was able to experience the love he gave me
@@Andyyoureastar that breaks my heart to hear how bad you've been hurting. Maybe it's time to open yourself up to a new fluffy friend in the house 💜 if you are ready, the right one will appear. Sending you healing, strength and love 🙏🏼
I'm so sorry Molly :( losing a pet is hard but losing a mobility tool and pet in one is even harder 💔 we all love Ben and will always respect his place in your world this is absolutely not a replacement it's just what's next 💜
It's the worst. Animals, DOGS in particular, are so innocent and lovely and deserve the world. Whys she talking about him in past tense? I hope he finds a loving, nurturing family. So glad Molly can stay in touch. She couldn't provide the quality of life he deserves if he's not working so it's best he's in a bigger home with a yard and stimulation.
A reason, a season, or a lifetime Molly. Ben was so unique, he was older, had lived a not normal life for a regular dog or a guide dog, and there was a heritage link to Gallop. Feels like Ben was with you for a reason to take you through your first transition retiring a guide dog and the world opening back up again. Looking forward to you getting you confidence and independence back with your new aid.
Oh Molly, I’m so very sorry. I know you love and trust your guide dogs with your whole self and this was NOT an easy decision for you to make, or rather a decision that was made for you that you have to learn to accept and live with. This is just devastating. You are in my thoughts 💔🐾
I'm so sorry Molly. I can't imagine life without the mobility aids that I need and I'm so sorry you went without a guide dog for a while. My mobility devices aren't even living beings and I get super attached to them. I had an adorable yellow wheelchair for 6 years that I named The Sunflower. She was a fantastic little chair (small and speedy and compact) up until the end when she started breaking down. My new one, BlueBelle, is a lot more fragile, awkward to maneuver, and constantly breaking. She drives me NUTS. I'm grateful for her but I still miss how much easier The Sunflower was to use and work with. I can't imagine the loss and sadness I'd feel in your situation. You are so brave, and so strong, and so loved. I am praying for you in this difficult time.
Oh Molly, I can feel your pain and how difficult this has been for you. It is so hard to live your life under a microscope, fearing for how others will interpret your decisions. You know what’s best for you and that’s truly all that matters. ♥️
All she does is talk about herself.Not once does she show any concern for that animal. You don't get rid of an animal that's not well.She most certainly did replace him.She got rid of him.Its absolutely disgusting what she did
@@emlee5905 I know it's hard to understand without all the details, but guide dogs aren't just pets. A pet dog who has medical needs is one thing, but a guide dog who has them is a whole different thing. A guide dog needs to be in the best possible health in order to do his job. If he isn't then that poses a serious risk to the dog and guide dog user. Ben is sadly just not able to safely perform his job anymore. So, he was placed in the best possible position for him. It doesn't mean Molly didn't love him. You also have to keep in mind we're only seeing a part of this journey and grieving process. Try and show some patience and kindness. Have a good day.
I just realized that Molly's probably wearing that shirt because one of Ben's nicknames was Bennie and the Jets and she used to sing it to him, that's so sweet 🥲
I can’t imagine how emotionally and mentally difficult it must be losing not only what gave you a sense of safety and confidence and independence, but a dog that you put all your trust and heart into and that you thought you had a guaranteed amount of time with. thank you for sharing, and I hope your heart heals💜
What a kind comment. The thing is, there's never a guaranteed time with a guide dog--or any dog really. But guidework is complex, super stressful, and dogs may need to retire at any time for a variety of reasons. For most teams these days, a premature retirement is a lot likely to happen especially if you've been working several dogs. It can happen with the first--like in my case--or the third in Molly's case. I tell all my dogs they're never allowed to age or retire, and they're like: "Whatever. Here's a toy. Throw!"
Remember that grief is not linear. You’ll go back and forth through those stage and at times with such force you feel whiplash. Make sure to take the time you need to look after and be gentle with yourself.
I understand why bonding to Bennix was different than your previous dogs considering the pandemic and Gallop's retirement, etc. I am sending you love and healing, do whatever you need to to heal and feel better💗
I have both impatiently waited for and dreaded this video. I'm so sorry and I'm crying with you, but I'm also relieved Ben is alive and at least living with another loving family if he can't be with you. Even if you only had him for eight months, he will forever be a part of your life - and you will be a part of his. He will recognize you and wag his tail like crazy when you go visit him in Montreal.
My heart is really hurting for Molly, for Bennix, and for everyone who was a part of his life. My dog is a pet only, but the thought of him not being in my life anymore, is enough to have me bawling (and I did). To have an extra, enormous layer on top of that, where the dog is your guide as well, is really a lot to handle. I hope Bennix has been able to settle back into his puppy home, without too much grief on his end, and I hope Molly doesn't find it too difficult to heal from this. My thoughts will be with everyone. And good luck to the new partnership. Here's to all the Best Boys and Girls, wherever they may be.
As a service dog user, I sincerely appreciate your empathy. I've always had pet dogs that I love and am bonded with, but my service dog is like a third arm, part of my soul. I love her like she's my child. It is so much more. It's a love and a bond I cannot describe.
Saying goodbye to a loved companion is incredibly painful. Don’t let anyone tell you a dog is not part of your family. A guide dog is your eyes and you share his heart. So sorry you had to say goodbye to your friend.
Your pain does have purpose. I had a Service Dog in Training, Brody, for 8 months. I'm still grieving a year after him having to leave. I'm facing a 2-5 year wait for another dog and a power wheelchair. I've already been bed/housebound for 3 years. Watching your videos last year of Gallop's retirement and getting Benelux helped me heal so much when at the time my grief was so raw. I mean it. I had much more strength to fight my depression because I would never hear from another person going through the same things otherwise. I still watch those videos and I will continue to watch the next ones, fighting for healing, hope, and strength. I'm very much alone in my circumstances and without Brody with me, and you have made it better. Thank you love
As a sighted person with bad vision, I get scared and panicy when I lose my glasses, I couldn’t even imagine if I lost my dog who I bonded with, and was my literal eyes. You take as much time as you need to grieve and heal. It’s not just a dog. It’s another life who you connected with, and made a real impact on each other. That’s so special, and not something that’s easily forgettable. You aren’t alone in this, and we’ll be here to support you however you need 💜
I am so very sorry, but I’m also glad to know that Ben gets to have a wonderful home. Do not feel guilty about getting your new friend so quickly, it was definitely the right thing for you and so many of us look forward to meeting him or her.
I hope your relationship with your new dog is just as deep and special, though different, as it was with Bennix. I'm sure he'll cherish the time he had with you just as you will, and I'm so glad you'll be able to visit him ❤
It almost feels wrong to "like" this video... but I am thankful for the update. My heart goes out to Molly, and I, too, am thankful that he was able to back to a home he remembers rather than be passed on to yet someone new. He's been through a lot in his life already; glad he'll be able to live the rest of his life happy and well taken care of.
I agree opening your heart again could really help the healing process. I needed 5 years to get another dog. But I think my heart would have healed faster if I did offer my love to another dog sooner. I literally had nightmares for 5 years of my last dog getting sick all over again. It was hard. Now no more nightmares or guilt for not doing more. Just appreciation for the comfort he gave me for so long. And the happy memories storm to the front now
Molly, I am so sorry. I cried throughout the whole video. I just got my first service dog a little over a month ago (you gave me the confidence to do this for myself) and I’m already so bonded to her. I can’t imagine losing her now, and I can’t imagine how hard it would be to lose her after eight months. I know you will be happy and successful with your new dog, and I’m glad it’s not goodbye forever with Bennix and that you’ll be able to visit. But I am so sorry for your loss. Know that we are all here for you and sending you love. You are so brave.
I didn't want to believe it when I saw it on Twitter a few weeks ago, so sad for Benelux but glad he's back with his puppy raisers who love him so much
"My dogs are like my children, more like an extension of my own being, we are together 24/7, they literally help me stay safe and see the world. There is nothing like it."🥺😥😭 This is were I choked up. 😔
I'm so sorry his condition is such that he can no longer work. I can hardly imagine the grief you're feeling; everything you feel is totally valid! As a veterinarian, I'm so curious what's going on with him and can imagine many things that would end a guide dog's career, but very much understand if for whatever reason you don't plan to go into details. I'm very glad he's alive and well and in another loving home.
I'm also curious but not a vet. Do you have any examples of the types of things that could cause such a young dog to retire early? Because I really don't know any can't think of anything.
@@ellen2805 not a vet, but worked as a vet tech and I am now disabled with a service dog of my own. molly doesnt owe us an explanation of course, so I am in no way going to try to guess what ben has but I can give you a couple of examples that I have seen SD's have to retire for. service dogs, and mobility and guide dogs especially, need to be in top physical health in order to do their job. its not fair to work them if they have any health issues, we shouldn't be putting additional stress on their bodies when they already do so much for us. so because of this, there are any number of reasons a dog could medically retire young: hip dysplasia (when the leg bones dont align correctly in the hips - can cause pain and arthritis). a thyroid condition that makes them anxious or struggle with weight loss. a heart issue that could eventually develop into more of a problem - the work of a service dog would be strain that could worsen this issue and shorten the dog's life. seizures disorders can unexpectedly develop. even severe enough allergies that the dog cant work because they are always so distracted by itching. Basically anything that would be long-term is enough to retire a service dog because they must be peak physical health. Hope that helps!
While I was at guide dog school I met a woman who brought her current guide dog to retire her. In a discussion on the subject with a trainer who had been training guide dogs for 30+ years I learned that there are many reasons why a guide dog must be retired, only a few being those that @mouse mentioned. Bennix was very lucky to have Molly.
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@@ellen2805 agree with @mouse that many many things could cause a young service dog to retire. A guide dog needs to be so focused and alert and consequences could be dangerous or even fatal if they're not at the top of their game, so even many conditions that can be well-managed I imagine could lead to retirement. Illnesses including moderate to severe allergies, inflammatory GI issues, joint issues, honestly pretty much anything. I'm so tempted to start making guesses from anything and everything Molly has shared with us since we first met Bennix, but I won't, out of respect for the fact that I don't know all the details of his symptoms and I would hate for any of my conjecture to cause anything negative for Molly through what is already an incredibly difficult time for her. I will note that it would be interesting to see a Molly video discussing common conditions in dogs that could end their working career, whether she includes Bennix-specific info or not!
a word for Lavender - I hope she's doing okay, suddenly having her friend, Ben, gone from their home, and needing to become comfortable with a new canine friend
Lavender grew with Gallop right? So she might not be drastically shocked. I guess the new dog would also Labernese or either, so temperament wise should be close to Gallop 🤔
@@kikismiley11 I’m so sorry ;( I’ve not tried this but I’ve heard that if you have the ashes maybe let the other cat smell them as apparently they can smell the death and feel closure ?
Probably not the video to be rushing to send out the "first" comment. This is Molly's real life and this has to be incredibly hard for her to share with all of us. Thank you for keeping us in the loop when you don't have to. I'm so sorry Molly. Sending you prayers. 💓
@@bridgetwall6311 someone did actually. They might’ve deleted it because other people replied and told them it was inappropriate but I definitely saw at least one ‘first’
@@bridgetwall6311 do you get off on bullying others or something? Childish. I won't entertain your asinine comments anymore. I'll pray for you too sweetheart.
@@bridgetwall6311 just another perspective, i read the intent as being preemptive, expecting the usual Litany of "firsts" and hoping to prevent them Regardless was your own comment really necessary? OP wasn't disrespectful, had good intentions, why respond to a positive statement with negativity? (I'm really just trying to understand) Anyway I think we can agree we all wish molly healing and hope the best for her, Ben, and her new guide. Right? We're all on the same team (Edit for horrendous amount of typos, that's what i get for not proofreading lol)
Ben has such a special place in our hearts, to be introduced to him and share his story. We love you and your furry family so much. Sending you love and light. ❤️
I received my first guide dog just a month ago and my life is so much better now. My heart goes out to you and Bennix both, and am confident that you will have a very special relationship with your new dog as well, albeit unique, as every dog is special in their own way. I started following you as a cane user, and you and your videos were very helpful to my wife and I as we weighed the decision to get a guide dog of my own. Having had many dogs as companions throughout my life, mostly two at a time, I know how long and hard the road of separation as well as grief can be, and I’m glad that Bennix will remain a part of your life, thanks to the kindness of the people who raised him.
Oh Molly I’m so sorry. I can’t imagine letting Ben go especially with his history and knowing you need a working dog and a friend. Hugs and love and I hope this new dog fulfills everything and lasts for years. Grief isn’t a straight line and you can be sad about Ben and excited about your next adventure.
Yes! One of the first things I thought of was how he had failed with his first person. I’m glad to know that wasn’t the case. I hope that wherever he goes, they can find some ways to make him feel like he has some kind of “job”.
This comment is so wonderful because you acknowledge both Molly and her dogs... many people think about the dog, and yes, the dog is important. But it's often the human who takes longer to grieve and adjust. It took me a long time to learn this after retiring my first guide prematurely twenty plus years ago. And I love that you said grief isn't a straight line; it certainly isn't. My last dog retired three years ago and is happy in his new home, but I still have days when I miss him a lot. He was a "heart dog", that dog that only comes into one's life once, maybe twice if you're lucky.
I needed to hear some of this... I lost my fur baby yesterday. She was too young and no one could have expected this. Though I feel that someone was at fault some of the things you said really helped me put something's to rest. Thank you Molly you are doing exactly what you said out to do. Your pain is valid and I'm sorry you have to go through the things you do. We all love you and you have an army behind you never forget that.
I can't imagine how hard this whole time has been, especially trying to tell all of us ❤ Bennix will always be loved by all of us. He was with you for only a short time, but that time seemed truly amazing. Sending all the love to you ❤❤❤
The fact that you repeatedly said you wanted to make it clear how talented he was, to honor him and protect his reputation, was the most beautiful thing Molly, he will always be known by me to be a willful, hopeful and talented dog, who experienced love, adventure and growth with you, and also how he and Gallop were so kind and accepting of each other when they met, truly class acts both of them, I wish Ben the best in his upcoming journey
I never thought I could cry so hard at the loss of a dog that I haven’t even met. I can’t even breathe out of my nose because of how much I cried with you during this video. I’m so thankful he is still alive and with a family he knows. You were so blessed to have him in his last moments guiding and I know he’ll be forever grateful he got that with you. You both were put in each other’s lives at tough times and I truly believe you got each other through them. You showed him a love as strong as he showed you. I’m so so sorry for your loss Molly I wish I could say something to help this heartbreak your feeling but just know you aren’t alone and I hope your new fluffy friend knows they are so loved by all of us already ❤️
Hugging my Service Dog close, I can’t imagine having to wash her and give her to another family to take care. I understand why you needed time to heal. I’m sorry you are going through this Molly, but I’m also thankful that you have been strong enough to share your journey. I’ve been watching you since I was in high school, and honestly you inspired me to be the advocate I am today. I hope I’m able to get into public speaking like you, and spread as much awareness as I can on disabilities. Thank you for the strength you’ve given me, and hopefully our support can do the same for you. 💕
I’m so sorry Molly this is horrendous I pray you can heal and recover from this pain. Ben was such a sweet boy and he came to you for a reason he was such a special boy and you gave him that second chance that many people wouldn’t have gave him I’m so glad he got that time with you even if it was short thank you for sharing this with us even though it must have been so painful for you🖤🐕🦺🐾
Totally understandable that you waited. It's not easy. Ben will be missed but so happy you get another chance to get another dog. These dogs you get aren't just a dog they are your eyes, your lifeline. Love you and sending lots of love and prayers❤️❤️
I’m sorry you’re going through this, Molly, but glad Ben is alive and able to go on with familiar family and that you were able to move forward with another guide dog. We understand that having a guide dog is essential to your wellbeing and safety and good for your heart. Take care. 💛
It seems so obvious through this video that everyone has tried to do the best for both you and Ben. I'm glad you were able to get the time together that you had.
I'm so sorry Molly! I'm glad that Bennix is still alive and well but so heartbroken that he can no longer be a guide dog. I can't imagine having to say goodbye to a dog so soon after getting him, much less a guide dog.
First of all, as someone who raises guide dog puppies, I can understand how hard this must be on you and your loved ones. You’ll be in my thoughts and prayers. Second of all, thank you for spreading this information and promoting positive mental health strategies. I truly wish you well and will continue to cheer you on from the sidelines
I am so grateful that Ben is still here, even if he can't be with you. I am so sorry for all you lost, with Ben and everything else that you have been through. It is good you took your time and did it the way you felt most comfortable. Thank you for sharing with us not just about Ben but your whole journey through this crazy world. Better times are coming, much love Molly.
He is one of a kind, and the fact that you got any time with him at all is a gift. That we got to share in that was even better. I remember hearing about his journey to you. How he did so many different things, and I think this was just another stage of that. I'm glad that he will still have a long happy life with familiar people who love him.
I'm glad to hear that Bennix isn't dead, but I'm so sad for he can't work as a guide dog anymore. You and Lavender must miss him so much. That's good that his foster family said you could visit him any time you want, though. It's good that you can still have him in your life, just like you have Gallop in your life.
It’s okay, Molly. I’m sure he’s going to still have a wonderful life, and he’s going to bring the same joy he brought you to many more people now. I know Mira will put you with another dog who fits perfectly with you, like they did with Gypsy, Gallop, and Bennix.
I'm so sorry, Molly. The moment I saw that Ben was no longer with you, my hope was that he was with his puppy raisers. I'm relieved that this is the case, and I hope he enjoys the life he'll have with them. I'm so sorry for the loss of your working relationship. He loves you so much and I know you will always love him. I'm also relieved to hear that you're already working with your new dog. I hope this new partner will be amazing for you, and that your relationship with them will be strong and full of trust and love. 💕
I’m a Patreon subscriber. I just want to say that I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through this. I’m also glad that you have a new guide dog to help you through this difficult time. I pray that you’ll be able to keep this new guide dog for a very very long time!
I know I'm late but I just want to say I'm so sorry to hear about Bennix needing to retire so soon. I didn't know him as long as others on this channel but I've still been waiting anxiously for an update on him. I'm so glad to hear that he's okay and is with his puppy raisers living his best life. I can tell by the way you talk about him that you love him very much and am glad to hear that you'll still be able to visit him. Besides him having been able to return to you and continue being your guide dog this is the best possible outcome for him. As you said at least he's back with people that he knows and who love him very much. I wish him a long and happy life for the remainder of time that he is on this Earth.💙 I'm also very excited to meet your new guide dog and get to know them!😁
Ah Molly I'm so sorry. My mother-in-law is a puppy raiser for Leader Dogs and has adopted a returned dog due to a medical issue...His name is Cricket and despite not being able to guide thanks to his training Cricket now provides a healing presence for many people in need including a father during his final days in hospice. Working for you was SO fulfilling for Bennix. I'm so sorry you had to part ways it's so painful in ways no one else would know. Greif is proof of your amazing ability to love and to be loved.
Just off the title, sending prayers for you both Molly. You are such a strong person & you were both lucky to experience each other’s love and bond. ❤️
🐝Hey Molly, I'm so sorry you're going through this 🥺I'm kind of relieved because I myself lost a service dog after only 11 months to cancer, and all the feelings and thoughts you share, make me feel there are there actually somebody who understand such a loss, because it breaks one's heart completely, ❤️ I thank you with all my heart for sharing your story with us 🙏🏼 I want to tell you that you are not alone, I send you the world's biggest hug ❤️ and I look forward to following the next chapter of you and your new service dog live ❤️
I’m crying with you, Molly. I know how much independence having a guide dog gives you, and the strong bond you form with each one. You’ve been through so much lately and this has been such a stressful time for you. Anyone who doesn’t understand that doesn’t have a heart. Keep all the boundaries you need. This is your real life! Not ours. Thank you for being you.
oh molly…my heart aches for you. ben did such amazing things during those 8 months he was by your side. i’m sending all of my love to you during this very difficult time. i hope you take some time to heal and grieve this loss.
Oh Molly my heart hurts for you and Bennix. Life is complicated but your showing all of us it can be done with love and support. May your new guide dog remain strong and healthy providing you years of service and companionship. May Bennix get to see fields of wild flowers to run thru and may he find his joy too. So very sorry you have to go thru this but I believe you are correct better to love and loose than never love. There will always be memories but the heart can love again and again. Xoxo
I’m really sorry to hear about everything your going through. I can’t imagine this being easy. You did what you had to do. I hope this journey lasts much longer. I’m sure Ben will be happy and safe where he is and won’t forget you either. Maybe in the future you can do an update for Ben and your new guide dog could help you pack up a box of goodies to send to him. They could be pen pals, lol. I know this may sound silly to some but whenever I got a new pet, I always “introduced” them to whatever pet I had last. Like I would sit and pat the new pet while sharing a story about the old one.
I feel your sadness. I lost 2 cats in a span of 2 weeks. It’s been 3 months and I still cry every couple of days. I miss them so much. And I felt so empty without them. My heart has still so much space for loving other animals that I brought 2 other cats home. I felt like I was just replacing my 2 lovely angels. But I know now it’s not that. It just helped me get through my heartbreak. I’m sending you a lot of positive thoughts ❤️
I probably shouldn’t have watched this with the way my emotions are today. But if I’m already crying why not cry more. As a patron I knew he wasn’t working anymore but it makes it real like you said. I’m grieving a loss. Not a death. Just a loss and it comes in waves for sure. I was driving down the highway today and just lost it and had to pull over. Sending you all the love and hugs
we could all see your connection with Ben, even through UA-cam, we would see it. It’s something special that we all gained joy from. My heart goes out to you Molly, you are so strong. Thank you for sharing.
We all love and support you. And completely respect any decisions to keep private whatever you want to. Sending love to you, your family, and to Bennix in all the new adventures he’ll have ❤️
I am crying behind my computer screen with you, I can't even begin to imagine how hard this must have been and still is for you. You are so strong and thank you so much for sharing these hard times with us. We are all here to support you and know that better times are ahead. Bennix came into your life for a reason and nobody can take that experience away from you. Much love and healing wished your way ♥
Oh Molly, I'm so sorry you had to struggle through this. I can't imagine how difficult this has been for you. Thank you for giving us all a chance to know Ben and what a wonderful dog he is. My thoughts are with you 💜
I'm glad Ben's foster family were able to take him back so it would have been like a "going home" of sorts for him instead of losing you. Getting a new guide dog as quickly as possible makes absolute sense. I can't imagine anyone being critical of that.
Totally agree. I don't exactly know what happened but I know that for not only a blind person keeping the dog who needs special care can be too much. I guess that if he was going to get in a shelter, Molly would do anything to get him a loving forever home. He probably would like to be with her, but he'll be happy and loved with his original family and that's the good news. Also getting a new guide dog asap is totally reasonable for more than one reason - she needs someone to be her eyes and having a new best friend can actually help with grieving. As a person who had more than one pet at the same time, I can tell the worst moment is when you get home and there's no one left to take care of. You just don't know what to do with your life at this point. So I am really glad that Molly got a new guide and that Ben will be with his original family. They'll miss each other but in the long term they will be just fine.
Was something wrong with the dog is that why the dog went back
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@@carriejames7277 watch the video and she explains. Thats literally what the video is about.
@@loveme_or_not5295 she never explains what exactly was wrong with him though- medical, behavioral, she never specifically says.
As a guide dog puppy raiser, you are the type of person we hope will get our puppies-- someone who will love them and care about them as much as we do for the first year and a half of their life. I'm glad that Bennix is back with his puppy raisers, I know that they will take great care of him!
Don’t worry about it being “hard for us” waiting for an answer of what is going on, it’s your life and you don’t owe us anything ♥️
I agree... It is indeed a privilege. ❤️
This is very true! It's true now, it's true when you filmed your experience getting Ben, and it's true in the future for anything you go through. Thank you for opening up to us, we appreciate the answer, but remember you don't owe us anything. It's your life/ privacy you're sharing, it's healthy to be reserved with that.
@@mgaspesie I feel bad she is worried about us when she should just be worrying about herself at this time 🥺 I legit cried my eyes out watching. I can’t imagine the pain 😞
@@pancakemix8213 yes exactly, it’s appreciated but not expected ♥️ we love u Molly!
What a thoughtful comment and kind comment.
sending so much love and support ❤
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I literally didn't even know UA-cam had a UA-cam account to comment on stuff sooooo... you're extremely special, Molly! But we already knew that. 🥰
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I've medically retired a guide dog before, and my current guide is transitioning to retirement due to terminal cancer. Molly, you did exactly the right thing for Ben. Sending you love.
Mira really is so amazing, the fact that they wanted to help you avoid expensive vet bills and took that on for you then immediately found space for you in a new class and continue to support you so much through all of it.. they need so much love!
I know right! I wish everyone who needed it had a school like Mira!
Those who are so critical of you for needing to get a guide dog after Ben retired is such a prime example of ableism. Yes you love your doggo but you also need the support. You can also see clearly how much this hurt you. I'm so thankful that you were able to get into class so quickly. That definitely was a good choice on your part. I hope things get more smooth and that everyone adjusts to the changes soon!
People forget that service dogs arent pets...they are disability aides. Imagine someone being upset at a person for getting a new at home nurse once thier previous one had to retire abruptly. Like yea you bond with that person/dog and it hurts they are gone and you miss them, but that doesnt change the fact that you still need assistance and someone to help you.
@@vianjelos I worked with people with developmental disabilities I was with a family 5 years I quit. I basically babysit 2 kids. The whole felt like Family to me but they still needed the services.
I wouldn’t say it’s ableism but ignorance. Those who don’t use service dogs don’t understand all the emotions and time and such involved.
Yes, have a guide dog is a beautiful thing, but if the relationship between the team is great but when the handler’s safety is involved, the dog needs to retire.
It can be very difficult on a person having to retire a dog and it’s very most certainly ok to not be ok. You put your life in the paws of a dog and it is very hard to do this especially if the circumstances are traumatic for your previous dog and such that you have to take time and care of yourself before you can do it again. I lost my first dog at 19. I haven’t gotten one since, and am just now ready to go for another. It’s not a matter of having a dog, it’s a matter of having a dog who is right for you and that you are mentally and emotionally ready to have.
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@@coffeecat086 It's carnist hypocrisy, and it needs to stop. Every human on this earth causes suffering to animals in order for our existence to happen. People with disabilities do not deserve to be the ones feeling guilty about animal use.
It's absolutely ridiculous to be critical of someone getting a new guide dog. Yes, I would be low-key critical of someone running out to get a new pet right after losing their old one. But guide dog are not (primarily) pets, they are medical aids. No one would be critical if a blind person got a new cane straight after losing or breaking one. On the contrary, it would be incredibly odd if they didn't.
Of course, a guide dog isn't an object and it is someone you will bond with just like you would any other pet (I imagine, I'm fully sighted). But leaving time to fully mourn and show respect to a past guide dog means that you have to deprive yourself of what is essentially your eyes, and that is something I think critical people don't understand.
How beautiful that you are wearing an Elton John shirt during this video. Everything happens for a reason, and you will never replace those that help you along your way. I can’t even imagine the hurt and the loss that you feel, building such strong relationships with these animals working everyday, and then ultimately having to say goodbye. I will be sending you good thoughts always 💖💖
It was filmed after she got him.
My allergen detection and seizure alert dog just suddenly retired due to Addison’s disease 💔 I understand the blindsided pain. It’s so wonderful you have a program at your back that was able to support you right away ❤️
So sorry to hear that.. I pray that he's well and that your heart heals, although I know it won't make this time any less hard ❤
My psychiatric and medical alert dog just retired due to the same thing, it's such a hard sudden loss. It hurts so bad.
I never realized how strong the emotional bond can be for a blind person with their guide dog. I thought about how it would feel to lose my dog as a seeing person, but it made me think, how much more valuable that relationship would be if I were relying on that animal for support. Love and support to you 💛
Imagine losing your eyes, honestly. It's so heartbreaking and I couldn't begin to know how it feels🥺💙
The relationship between service dogs and handlers is something really special. These dogs give us freedom - they give us our lives back. Losing a service dog feels like losing a part of yourself. You’re life stops because you NEED a service dog, and without one, the effort required to get another is so much more painful.
It’s not only losing their eyes, but also their best friend, their partner in life, their comfort.
I don't have a loss of eyesight but I have Lupus and a lot of complications from that and cancer. My service dog warns me about seizures, picks up stuff for me, is a mobility stabilizer so I an still walk and comforts me during medical attacks or PTSD episode from medical trauma. I didn't like dogs before her (yes I know I know, I'm just a cat person) but she if just the sweetest babe. Training in a dog makes a huge difference.
You’ve always said each dog has come to you at a different “season” in your life, a time of transition. I am hoping that this new dog leads you out of this dark year and into better times. With how special Ben was, it’s clear he was there for you at just the right moment when you needed him the most. I am hopeful that ben moving on to the next chapter means his job getting you though this horrible year is done.
I’m thankful bennix is alive, but so sad he isn’t with you anymore Molly 💛 continue to heal Molly!
I can’t watch the video rn, what happened to Bennix?
@@jessicagorrell4857 He has a medical problem that prevents him from being a guide dog. It seems not to be terminal, though
Me heart is quite literally breaking for you 😭💔
@@jessicagorrell4857 he started off with a medical reason but Molly is keeping some stuff private about it, but he is no longer able to guide :(
@@daviniusb6798 tysm for the information. 😔🙏💕I’m sorry to ask but could u be more specific about his medical problem? Poor Bennix and Molly. My heart goes out to him and Molly. Im so relieved to learn it’s not terminal cancer, which was my fear. I have a hard time with these devastating and sad videos and news because I have CPTSD among other things. It’s just easier to digest the info by asking in the comments in this case. Thanks.
You don’t need to justify to us why you got another dog. You know what’s best for you and we’ll support you through it all 💕
Well said 👏
Yes! And we all know she loves Ben and Ben knows how much she loves him.
Here from the future after knowing the significance of that shirt. Going to miss Benny and the Jets but I know your new dog will give you lots of love and what you need.
I'm glad he's okay and back with his puppy raisers. He had so much of a playful personality now he can have treats & play anytime he wants to. He'll be just fine playing, getting love & being a pet. Hopefully he has a yard so he can run around when he wants to also. Can't wait to see your new guide.
Ben had another path for his life. He was holding space and working for you while your true long term guide dog was working towards becoming yours. ❤️❤️❤️
Love this. ❤️
This is a beautiful way of seeing this situation 🥺❤️
Your connection with Ben was so strong because the universe knew your time together would be short so it squeezed and concentrated all that love you had for each other in the time you had. So sorry you have been going through this Molly.
As a lifetime pet mom, getting a new pet (or guide dog in this case) is NEVER replacement. Sometimes the best way to heal is to find another to fill your time. Hoping you find peace and healing! Sending love to you, your family, Ben and your new furry set of eyes!
I totally agree. While I haven’t experienced the deep connection of a guide dog, I have gotten another dog after a loss, and that is incredibly healing.
Praying for you.
You are strong
So true, I got a 2nd dog as my 1st one was aging, mainly because I heard that having a younger dog around could give them a new burst of life but also I knew I didn't want to be without a dog either and my boy was so good, I wanted my next one to learn from him. It does also help in the grieving process too though. You bond with your dog, no matter how many you have, but all the bonds are different so it's not a replacement it is a whole separate relationship.
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I love that people are starting to feel more comfortable with not “needing” or wanting to share everything. It is your like Molly, you get to decide what we get to know ❤️
UA-cam suggested this to me today. I sat and cried while watching your video about Gallop, and to start this video about Bennix and see you're wearing an Elton John shirt before we knew Elton was placed with you was just the smile I needed when watching what I know is a sad video.
I remember when you were in class with Bennix and how he'd had a rough couple of years, I think you've been a blessing to him as much as he has been for you.
Thinking of you
Hi lovely I know we chatted about this a few weeks ago now but hope you are okay 😘🥰🧡
Im so sorry Molly for this heartbreak. I can't imagine the pain and grieving you've had to go through. Sending all my love.
The fact that Ben got to go back to his old home with a family that will love him and let you come and continue to love him when you are ready and choose too is probably the best possible outcome that could've happened all things considered.
I, by no means, will fully understand what you've been through, because I have not, but I know you'll make it through this, because you are incredibly strong, and because you are not alone. It could take a long time to fully process and finish grieving what could've been, but it will not last forever.
I hope you will get to the point of feeling more better than not (if you're not already) sooner than later, because it's hard to lose things and people, especially when they're so emotionally and physically close to you for a long time, or even a short time. We adore you, Molly. And I'm sure most of us will be right here along for the ride with whatever you share with us, whenever you're ready. 🙂
I had to put my dog down half a year ago. He really helped me through my depression. He wasn't a service dog, but he always woke me up when I had a nightmare and sat with me when I felt alone. I'm still grieving a lot and slipped back into depression, but nobody seems to understand. You telling us in your video that it's normal to grieve helps me a lot. Thank you and I sent you lots of love.
Sending condolences 💐 Same thing happened with me 5 years ago. I picked him out of the litter when I was 6. We grew up together and he was there through my ups and downs. He then became only friend near the end of his life. After he was gone I came to even dislike all dogs bc of how much pain it caused me to lose my best friend. I had the same nightmare for about 4 years of him getting sick and me being helpless all over again. I still miss him so much but his memory is no longer painful. And the nightmares stopped. I now just have appreciation I was able to experience the love he gave me
@@Andyyoureastar that breaks my heart to hear how bad you've been hurting. Maybe it's time to open yourself up to a new fluffy friend in the house 💜 if you are ready, the right one will appear. Sending you healing, strength and love 🙏🏼
I'm so sorry Molly :( losing a pet is hard but losing a mobility tool and pet in one is even harder 💔 we all love Ben and will always respect his place in your world this is absolutely not a replacement it's just what's next 💜
It's the worst. Animals, DOGS in particular, are so innocent and lovely and deserve the world.
Whys she talking about him in past tense? I hope he finds a loving, nurturing family. So glad Molly can stay in touch. She couldn't provide the quality of life he deserves if he's not working so it's best he's in a bigger home with a yard and stimulation.
@@ellaova She's speaking in past tense because losing a bond with a service dog feels like a death.
A reason, a season, or a lifetime Molly. Ben was so unique, he was older, had lived a not normal life for a regular dog or a guide dog, and there was a heritage link to Gallop. Feels like Ben was with you for a reason to take you through your first transition retiring a guide dog and the world opening back up again. Looking forward to you getting you confidence and independence back with your new aid.
Oh Molly, I’m so very sorry. I know you love and trust your guide dogs with your whole self and this was NOT an easy decision for you to make, or rather a decision that was made for you that you have to learn to accept and live with. This is just devastating. You are in my thoughts 💔🐾
I'm so sorry Molly. I can't imagine life without the mobility aids that I need and I'm so sorry you went without a guide dog for a while. My mobility devices aren't even living beings and I get super attached to them. I had an adorable yellow wheelchair for 6 years that I named The Sunflower. She was a fantastic little chair (small and speedy and compact) up until the end when she started breaking down. My new one, BlueBelle, is a lot more fragile, awkward to maneuver, and constantly breaking. She drives me NUTS. I'm grateful for her but I still miss how much easier The Sunflower was to use and work with. I can't imagine the loss and sadness I'd feel in your situation. You are so brave, and so strong, and so loved. I am praying for you in this difficult time.
I hope you’ll get more comfortable with BlueBelle or soon find one that is closer to/ maybe even better than The Sunflower! Take care. 🤍
Oh Molly, I can feel your pain and how difficult this has been for you. It is so hard to live your life under a microscope, fearing for how others will interpret your decisions. You know what’s best for you and that’s truly all that matters. ♥️
All she does is talk about herself.Not once does she show any concern for that animal. You don't get rid of an animal that's not well.She most certainly did replace him.She got rid of him.Its absolutely disgusting what she did
@@emlee5905 I know it's hard to understand without all the details, but guide dogs aren't just pets. A pet dog who has medical needs is one thing, but a guide dog who has them is a whole different thing. A guide dog needs to be in the best possible health in order to do his job. If he isn't then that poses a serious risk to the dog and guide dog user. Ben is sadly just not able to safely perform his job anymore. So, he was placed in the best possible position for him. It doesn't mean Molly didn't love him. You also have to keep in mind we're only seeing a part of this journey and grieving process. Try and show some patience and kindness. Have a good day.
@@emlee5905 Have a little empathy.
So glad Ben is okay, sad we won't be seeing him anymore, but knowing he's gonna be okay is amazing
I just realized that Molly's probably wearing that shirt because one of Ben's nicknames was Bennie and the Jets and she used to sing it to him, that's so sweet 🥲
Thank you for pointing that out.
My cats name was Benny and we used to sing the same song to him ❤️
I can’t imagine how emotionally and mentally difficult it must be losing not only what gave you a sense of safety and confidence and independence, but a dog that you put all your trust and heart into and that you thought you had a guaranteed amount of time with. thank you for sharing, and I hope your heart heals💜
What a kind comment. The thing is, there's never a guaranteed time with a guide dog--or any dog really. But guidework is complex, super stressful, and dogs may need to retire at any time for a variety of reasons. For most teams these days, a premature retirement is a lot likely to happen especially if you've been working several dogs. It can happen with the first--like in my case--or the third in Molly's case.
I tell all my dogs they're never allowed to age or retire, and they're like: "Whatever. Here's a toy. Throw!"
Remember that grief is not linear. You’ll go back and forth through those stage and at times with such force you feel whiplash. Make sure to take the time you need to look after and be gentle with yourself.
this is exactly how grief is and it’s never ending 😢
The pain in her eyes is so striking. I hope you heal from this in due time Molly and be as gentle as possible toward yourself
I understand why bonding to Bennix was different than your previous dogs considering the pandemic and Gallop's retirement, etc. I am sending you love and healing, do whatever you need to to heal and feel better💗
I have both impatiently waited for and dreaded this video. I'm so sorry and I'm crying with you, but I'm also relieved Ben is alive and at least living with another loving family if he can't be with you. Even if you only had him for eight months, he will forever be a part of your life - and you will be a part of his. He will recognize you and wag his tail like crazy when you go visit him in Montreal.
My heart is really hurting for Molly, for Bennix, and for everyone who was a part of his life. My dog is a pet only, but the thought of him not being in my life anymore, is enough to have me bawling (and I did). To have an extra, enormous layer on top of that, where the dog is your guide as well, is really a lot to handle. I hope Bennix has been able to settle back into his puppy home, without too much grief on his end, and I hope Molly doesn't find it too difficult to heal from this. My thoughts will be with everyone. And good luck to the new partnership. Here's to all the Best Boys and Girls, wherever they may be.
As a service dog user, I sincerely appreciate your empathy. I've always had pet dogs that I love and am bonded with, but my service dog is like a third arm, part of my soul. I love her like she's my child. It is so much more. It's a love and a bond I cannot describe.
Saying goodbye to a loved companion is incredibly painful. Don’t let anyone tell you a dog is not part of your family. A guide dog is your eyes and you share his heart. So sorry you had to say goodbye to your friend.
Your pain does have purpose. I had a Service Dog in Training, Brody, for 8 months. I'm still grieving a year after him having to leave. I'm facing a 2-5 year wait for another dog and a power wheelchair. I've already been bed/housebound for 3 years. Watching your videos last year of Gallop's retirement and getting Benelux helped me heal so much when at the time my grief was so raw. I mean it. I had much more strength to fight my depression because I would never hear from another person going through the same things otherwise. I still watch those videos and I will continue to watch the next ones, fighting for healing, hope, and strength. I'm very much alone in my circumstances and without Brody with me, and you have made it better. Thank you love
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As a sighted person with bad vision, I get scared and panicy when I lose my glasses, I couldn’t even imagine if I lost my dog who I bonded with, and was my literal eyes. You take as much time as you need to grieve and heal. It’s not just a dog. It’s another life who you connected with, and made a real impact on each other. That’s so special, and not something that’s easily forgettable. You aren’t alone in this, and we’ll be here to support you however you need 💜
I am so very sorry, but I’m also glad to know that Ben gets to have a wonderful home. Do not feel guilty about getting your new friend so quickly, it was definitely the right thing for you and so many of us look forward to meeting him or her.
Molly obviously has enough room in her heart to love her new Dog without it detracting from her love for Gallop and Bennix.
And even Gypsy, who we never got to meet on this side of the rainbow bridge.
I hope your relationship with your new dog is just as deep and special, though different, as it was with Bennix. I'm sure he'll cherish the time he had with you just as you will, and I'm so glad you'll be able to visit him ❤
It almost feels wrong to "like" this video... but I am thankful for the update. My heart goes out to Molly, and I, too, am thankful that he was able to back to a home he remembers rather than be passed on to yet someone new. He's been through a lot in his life already; glad he'll be able to live the rest of his life happy and well taken care of.
I agree opening your heart again could really help the healing process. I needed 5 years to get another dog. But I think my heart would have healed faster if I did offer my love to another dog sooner. I literally had nightmares for 5 years of my last dog getting sick all over again. It was hard. Now no more nightmares or guilt for not doing more. Just appreciation for the comfort he gave me for so long. And the happy memories storm to the front now
Molly, I am so sorry. I cried throughout the whole video. I just got my first service dog a little over a month ago (you gave me the confidence to do this for myself) and I’m already so bonded to her. I can’t imagine losing her now, and I can’t imagine how hard it would be to lose her after eight months. I know you will be happy and successful with your new dog, and I’m glad it’s not goodbye forever with Bennix and that you’ll be able to visit. But I am so sorry for your loss. Know that we are all here for you and sending you love. You are so brave.
I didn't want to believe it when I saw it on Twitter a few weeks ago, so sad for Benelux but glad he's back with his puppy raisers who love him so much
"My dogs are like my children, more like an extension of my own being, we are together 24/7, they literally help me stay safe and see the world. There is nothing like it."🥺😥😭
This is were I choked up. 😔
I'm so sorry his condition is such that he can no longer work. I can hardly imagine the grief you're feeling; everything you feel is totally valid!
As a veterinarian, I'm so curious what's going on with him and can imagine many things that would end a guide dog's career, but very much understand if for whatever reason you don't plan to go into details. I'm very glad he's alive and well and in another loving home.
I'm also curious but not a vet. Do you have any examples of the types of things that could cause such a young dog to retire early? Because I really don't know any can't think of anything.
@@ellen2805 not a vet, but worked as a vet tech and I am now disabled with a service dog of my own.
molly doesnt owe us an explanation of course, so I am in no way going to try to guess what ben has but I can give you a couple of examples that I have seen SD's have to retire for. service dogs, and mobility and guide dogs especially, need to be in top physical health in order to do their job. its not fair to work them if they have any health issues, we shouldn't be putting additional stress on their bodies when they already do so much for us. so because of this, there are any number of reasons a dog could medically retire young: hip dysplasia (when the leg bones dont align correctly in the hips - can cause pain and arthritis). a thyroid condition that makes them anxious or struggle with weight loss. a heart issue that could eventually develop into more of a problem - the work of a service dog would be strain that could worsen this issue and shorten the dog's life. seizures disorders can unexpectedly develop. even severe enough allergies that the dog cant work because they are always so distracted by itching. Basically anything that would be long-term is enough to retire a service dog because they must be peak physical health. Hope that helps!
While I was at guide dog school I met a woman who brought her current guide dog to retire her. In a discussion on the subject with a trainer who had been training guide dogs for 30+ years I learned that there are many reasons why a guide dog must be retired, only a few being those that @mouse mentioned. Bennix was very lucky to have Molly.
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@@ellen2805 agree with @mouse that many many things could cause a young service dog to retire. A guide dog needs to be so focused and alert and consequences could be dangerous or even fatal if they're not at the top of their game, so even many conditions that can be well-managed I imagine could lead to retirement. Illnesses including moderate to severe allergies, inflammatory GI issues, joint issues, honestly pretty much anything. I'm so tempted to start making guesses from anything and everything Molly has shared with us since we first met Bennix, but I won't, out of respect for the fact that I don't know all the details of his symptoms and I would hate for any of my conjecture to cause anything negative for Molly through what is already an incredibly difficult time for her.
I will note that it would be interesting to see a Molly video discussing common conditions in dogs that could end their working career, whether she includes Bennix-specific info or not!
a word for Lavender - I hope she's doing okay, suddenly having her friend, Ben, gone from their home, and needing to become comfortable with a new canine friend
I hear you, I foster dogs and have a forever cat. She understands the change. And doesn’t have anxiety over dogs coming in and out of herr home.
@@HawtAsianChica I had 2 cats and one died recently but the other one is still looking for him…
Lavender grew with Gallop right? So she might not be drastically shocked. I guess the new dog would also Labernese or either, so temperament wise should be close to Gallop 🤔
@@kikismiley11 I'm so sorry
@@kikismiley11 I’m so sorry ;( I’ve not tried this but I’ve heard that if you have the ashes maybe let the other cat smell them as apparently they can smell the death and feel closure ?
Thank you for sharing with us 🥺 We're here for the whole journey, the good and difficult parts. Thinking of you.
Probably not the video to be rushing to send out the "first" comment. This is Molly's real life and this has to be incredibly hard for her to share with all of us. Thank you for keeping us in the loop when you don't have to. I'm so sorry Molly. Sending you prayers. 💓
@@bridgetwall6311 someone did actually. They might’ve deleted it because other people replied and told them it was inappropriate but I definitely saw at least one ‘first’
@@bridgetwall6311 There definitely is a "first" comment.. Chill?
Yeah someone named Seth. Funny how people can delete comments. So before you make a comment trying to start drama maybe you should look back.
@@bridgetwall6311 do you get off on bullying others or something? Childish. I won't entertain your asinine comments anymore. I'll pray for you too sweetheart.
@@bridgetwall6311 just another perspective, i read the intent as being preemptive, expecting the usual
Litany of "firsts" and hoping to prevent them
Regardless was your own comment really necessary? OP wasn't disrespectful, had good intentions, why respond to a positive statement with negativity? (I'm really just trying to understand)
Anyway I think we can agree we all wish molly healing and hope the best for her, Ben, and her new guide. Right? We're all on the same team
(Edit for horrendous amount of typos, that's what i get for not proofreading lol)
Ben has such a special place in our hearts, to be introduced to him and share his story. We love you and your furry family so much. Sending you love and light. ❤️
I received my first guide dog just a month ago and my life is so much better now. My heart goes out to you and Bennix both, and am confident that you will have a very special relationship with your new dog as well, albeit unique, as every dog is special in their own way. I started following you as a cane user, and you and your videos were very helpful to my wife and I as we weighed the decision to get a guide dog of my own. Having had many dogs as companions throughout my life, mostly two at a time, I know how long and hard the road of separation as well as grief can be, and I’m glad that Bennix will remain a part of your life, thanks to the kindness of the people who raised him.
you are so eloquent in what you had to say about grief and loss Molly. I'm so sorry for your loss ❤
As a puppy raiser, my heart breaks for you. It’s so devastating when a dog can no longer work. My thoughts are with you ❤️
Oh Molly I’m so sorry. I can’t imagine letting Ben go especially with his history and knowing you need a working dog and a friend. Hugs and love and I hope this new dog fulfills everything and lasts for years. Grief isn’t a straight line and you can be sad about Ben and excited about your next adventure.
Yes! One of the first things I thought of was how he had failed with his first person. I’m glad to know that wasn’t the case. I hope that wherever he goes, they can find some ways to make him feel like he has some kind of “job”.
This comment is so wonderful because you acknowledge both Molly and her dogs... many people think about the dog, and yes, the dog is important. But it's often the human who takes longer to grieve and adjust. It took me a long time to learn this after retiring my first guide prematurely twenty plus years ago.
And I love that you said grief isn't a straight line; it certainly isn't. My last dog retired three years ago and is happy in his new home, but I still have days when I miss him a lot. He was a "heart dog", that dog that only comes into one's life once, maybe twice if you're lucky.
I feel like I’m sitting down with an old friend & catching up; *hugs*
This is a grieving process, it’s sad and it’s perfectly fine to feel the pain of a loss after everything that happened. We love you, Molly.
I needed to hear some of this... I lost my fur baby yesterday. She was too young and no one could have expected this. Though I feel that someone was at fault some of the things you said really helped me put something's to rest. Thank you Molly you are doing exactly what you said out to do. Your pain is valid and I'm sorry you have to go through the things you do. We all love you and you have an army behind you never forget that.
So sorry for ur loss💔
So sorry for your loss.
I can't imagine how hard this whole time has been, especially trying to tell all of us ❤ Bennix will always be loved by all of us. He was with you for only a short time, but that time seemed truly amazing.
Sending all the love to you ❤❤❤
The fact that you repeatedly said you wanted to make it clear how talented he was, to honor him and protect his reputation, was the most beautiful thing Molly, he will always be known by me to be a willful, hopeful and talented dog, who experienced love, adventure and growth with you, and also how he and Gallop were so kind and accepting of each other when they met, truly class acts both of them, I wish Ben the best in his upcoming journey
Thinking of you ❤️ I can only imagine how difficult this situation has been for you. Sending love
I never thought I could cry so hard at the loss of a dog that I haven’t even met. I can’t even breathe out of my nose because of how much I cried with you during this video. I’m so thankful he is still alive and with a family he knows. You were so blessed to have him in his last moments guiding and I know he’ll be forever grateful he got that with you. You both were put in each other’s lives at tough times and I truly believe you got each other through them. You showed him a love as strong as he showed you. I’m so so sorry for your loss Molly I wish I could say something to help this heartbreak your feeling but just know you aren’t alone and I hope your new fluffy friend knows they are so loved by all of us already ❤️
Hugging my Service Dog close, I can’t imagine having to wash her and give her to another family to take care. I understand why you needed time to heal. I’m sorry you are going through this Molly, but I’m also thankful that you have been strong enough to share your journey.
I’ve been watching you since I was in high school, and honestly you inspired me to be the advocate I am today. I hope I’m able to get into public speaking like you, and spread as much awareness as I can on disabilities. Thank you for the strength you’ve given me, and hopefully our support can do the same for you. 💕
Wishing you all the best❤️
Oh man. I was worried this was coming. Thinking of you today. I’m so sorry.
I’m so sorry Molly this is horrendous I pray you can heal and recover from this pain. Ben was such a sweet boy and he came to you for a reason he was such a special boy and you gave him that second chance that many people wouldn’t have gave him I’m so glad he got that time with you even if it was short thank you for sharing this with us even though it must have been so painful for you🖤🐕🦺🐾
Totally understandable that you waited. It's not easy. Ben will be missed but so happy you get another chance to get another dog. These dogs you get aren't just a dog they are your eyes, your lifeline. Love you and sending lots of love and prayers❤️❤️
I’m so glad that Bennix has a loving home but I hate that this all had to happen to the both of you. Prayers and love to y’all through this ❤️
I’m sorry you’re going through this, Molly, but glad Ben is alive and able to go on with familiar family and that you were able to move forward with another guide dog. We understand that having a guide dog is essential to your wellbeing and safety and good for your heart. Take care. 💛
It seems so obvious through this video that everyone has tried to do the best for both you and Ben. I'm glad you were able to get the time together that you had.
We’re here for you Molly, you’re so strong 💕
I'm so sorry Molly! I'm glad that Bennix is still alive and well but so heartbroken that he can no longer be a guide dog. I can't imagine having to say goodbye to a dog so soon after getting him, much less a guide dog.
Holy cow?!. Rewatching this video and I see you have your new guide dog’s name on you the entire time. What a sneaky teaser
First of all, as someone who raises guide dog puppies, I can understand how hard this must be on you and your loved ones. You’ll be in my thoughts and prayers. Second of all, thank you for spreading this information and promoting positive mental health strategies. I truly wish you well and will continue to cheer you on from the sidelines
My thoughts and prayers are with you Molly and family and of course gorgeous Bennix, thank you for sharing but take all the time you need to heal ❤️✨
I am so grateful that Ben is still here, even if he can't be with you. I am so sorry for all you lost, with Ben and everything else that you have been through. It is good you took your time and did it the way you felt most comfortable. Thank you for sharing with us not just about Ben but your whole journey through this crazy world. Better times are coming, much love Molly.
He is one of a kind, and the fact that you got any time with him at all is a gift. That we got to share in that was even better. I remember hearing about his journey to you. How he did so many different things, and I think this was just another stage of that. I'm glad that he will still have a long happy life with familiar people who love him.
I'm glad to hear that Bennix isn't dead, but I'm so sad for he can't work as a guide dog anymore. You and Lavender must miss him so much. That's good that his foster family said you could visit him any time you want, though. It's good that you can still have him in your life, just like you have Gallop in your life.
Praying over y’all for healing of the loss and change. That’s a heart breaking process. ❤️❤️❤️
It’s okay, Molly. I’m sure he’s going to still have a wonderful life, and he’s going to bring the same joy he brought you to many more people now. I know Mira will put you with another dog who fits perfectly with you, like they did with Gypsy, Gallop, and Bennix.
I'm so sorry, Molly. The moment I saw that Ben was no longer with you, my hope was that he was with his puppy raisers. I'm relieved that this is the case, and I hope he enjoys the life he'll have with them. I'm so sorry for the loss of your working relationship. He loves you so much and I know you will always love him. I'm also relieved to hear that you're already working with your new dog. I hope this new partner will be amazing for you, and that your relationship with them will be strong and full of trust and love. 💕
I’m a Patreon subscriber. I just want to say that I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through this. I’m also glad that you have a new guide dog to help you through this difficult time. I pray that you’ll be able to keep this new guide dog for a very very long time!
Hello, how does Patreon work? Which tier i need to subscribe to see content and videos?
Wanna support, but i am confused :/
@Dan Sgambelluri Thank you :)
on Patreon is there dog videos already?
@@natashaw401 no not yet.
I know I'm late but I just want to say I'm so sorry to hear about Bennix needing to retire so soon. I didn't know him as long as others on this channel but I've still been waiting anxiously for an update on him. I'm so glad to hear that he's okay and is with his puppy raisers living his best life. I can tell by the way you talk about him that you love him very much and am glad to hear that you'll still be able to visit him. Besides him having been able to return to you and continue being your guide dog this is the best possible outcome for him. As you said at least he's back with people that he knows and who love him very much. I wish him a long and happy life for the remainder of time that he is on this Earth.💙
I'm also very excited to meet your new guide dog and get to know them!😁
Ah Molly I'm so sorry. My mother-in-law is a puppy raiser for Leader Dogs and has adopted a returned dog due to a medical issue...His name is Cricket and despite not being able to guide thanks to his training Cricket now provides a healing presence for many people in need including a father during his final days in hospice. Working for you was SO fulfilling for Bennix. I'm so sorry you had to part ways it's so painful in ways no one else would know. Greif is proof of your amazing ability to love and to be loved.
Just off the title, sending prayers for you both Molly. You are such a strong person & you were both lucky to experience each other’s love and bond. ❤️
🐝Hey Molly, I'm so sorry you're going through this 🥺I'm kind of relieved because I myself lost a service dog after only 11 months to cancer, and all the feelings and thoughts you share, make me feel there are there actually somebody who understand such a loss, because it breaks one's heart completely, ❤️ I thank you with all my heart for sharing your story with us 🙏🏼 I want to tell you that you are not alone, I send you the world's biggest hug ❤️ and I look forward to following the next chapter of you and your new service dog live ❤️
I’m crying with you, Molly. I know how much independence having a guide dog gives you, and the strong bond you form with each one. You’ve been through so much lately and this has been such a stressful time for you. Anyone who doesn’t understand that doesn’t have a heart. Keep all the boundaries you need. This is your real life! Not ours. Thank you for being you.
oh molly…my heart aches for you. ben did such amazing things during those 8 months he was by your side. i’m sending all of my love to you during this very difficult time. i hope you take some time to heal and grieve this loss.
Oh Molly my heart hurts for you and Bennix. Life is complicated but your showing all of us it can be done with love and support. May your new guide dog remain strong and healthy providing you years of service and companionship. May Bennix get to see fields of wild flowers to run thru and may he find his joy too. So very sorry you have to go thru this but I believe you are correct better to love and loose than never love. There will always be memories but the heart can love again and again. Xoxo
I’m really sorry to hear about everything your going through. I can’t imagine this being easy. You did what you had to do. I hope this journey lasts much longer. I’m sure Ben will be happy and safe where he is and won’t forget you either. Maybe in the future you can do an update for Ben and your new guide dog could help you pack up a box of goodies to send to him. They could be pen pals, lol. I know this may sound silly to some but whenever I got a new pet, I always “introduced” them to whatever pet I had last. Like I would sit and pat the new pet while sharing a story about the old one.
I feel your sadness. I lost 2 cats in a span of 2 weeks. It’s been 3 months and I still cry every couple of days. I miss them so much. And I felt so empty without them. My heart has still so much space for loving other animals that I brought 2 other cats home. I felt like I was just replacing my 2 lovely angels. But I know now it’s not that. It just helped me get through my heartbreak. I’m sending you a lot of positive thoughts ❤️
I probably shouldn’t have watched this with the way my emotions are today. But if I’m already crying why not cry more. As a patron I knew he wasn’t working anymore but it makes it real like you said. I’m grieving a loss. Not a death. Just a loss and it comes in waves for sure. I was driving down the highway today and just lost it and had to pull over. Sending you all the love and hugs
"Too big are their hearts, too short are their lives"
we could all see your connection with Ben, even through UA-cam, we would see it. It’s something special that we all gained joy from. My heart goes out to you Molly, you are so strong. Thank you for sharing.
We all love and support you. And completely respect any decisions to keep private whatever you want to. Sending love to you, your family, and to Bennix in all the new adventures he’ll have ❤️
I am crying behind my computer screen with you, I can't even begin to imagine how hard this must have been and still is for you. You are so strong and thank you so much for sharing these hard times with us. We are all here to support you and know that better times are ahead. Bennix came into your life for a reason and nobody can take that experience away from you. Much love and healing wished your way ♥
Oh Molly, I'm so sorry you had to struggle through this. I can't imagine how difficult this has been for you. Thank you for giving us all a chance to know Ben and what a wonderful dog he is. My thoughts are with you 💜
The most beautiful thing is that our hearts have ENDLESS space for as much love as we allow it to have❤ Sending you love