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For me procrastination is associated with anxiety, the first form is when I have to do somethin but I can't start because I know it will be unpleasant time, so I keep delaying to avoid the bad feeling, how ever each time I delay the anxiety of not having started yet also rises and when it gets to the point in time closer to the deadline or when the second anxiety is "bigger" than the first, then I'll actually do the task
I’ve recently been asking myself, “Will I regret doing this, or will I regret not doing this?” when I encounter the kind of paralysis that can accompany my procrastination. May or may not be helpful depending on the activity/situation, but I’ve found it useful for things like going to the gym or practicing a skill or working on a project that I know will need to be completed at some point. I wrote that phrase on a sticky note on my desk and I find that sometimes it's the push/reminder that gets me doing whatever it is I've been avoiding!
Interesting! For me procrastination comes from defiance of the authority (school, lol) that is “forcing” me to do stuff I didn’t decide to do (It kinda has to do with c-ptsd and so this defiance is a defence-mechanism against what it thinks as a threat). I think what would help me is 1. Self-regulating and trying to see that teachers are not trying to hurt me and force a harmful thing on me (it’s just homework lol) 2. Realizing that I’m still in control of my decision and that I can choose to do the homework or not do it (and be responsible of the outcomes of that choice) 3. Trying to gain perspective on how doing the homework could be beneficial for me! How can I use it for my advantage. (Especially because I’m in 12th grade and whatever grade I’m getting could help me get into a good college!) (Edit: Wow. that’s a whole essay right there)
Have you heard of "reclaiming your day?" Where people don't feel they own their work day and reclaim it by staying up late. This is why I procrastinate with work. I procrastinate on other things because I simply don't want to do them. For obligatory stuff like work, it's hard to feel empowered by or feel a sense of reward or accomplishment from these activities, especially if the tasks are repetitive and common. I usually willpower through them leading to frequent burnout and procrastination.
I can relate a lot to the guest speaker. I need a sense of urgency to get things done, and I have a long track record of meeting very tight deadlines which has made me ever more overconfident about my ability to get difficult things done very quickly. Sadly, while I'm procrastinating, I'm still stressing myself a lot about the things that I haven't yet done, and that stress isn't enough to get me to do them. It's a struggle because it makes me very reliant on external motivation, and my external sources of motivation are sometimes scarce (because I'm not really worried about not being able to pay my bills, or supporting a family, or my social reputation, which seem to help other people to get motivated).
For my experience, I use to procrastinate a lot when I was growing up in my toxic environment since I was constantly in a flight or fight response. Once I've escaped, the procrastination left and could finally expand.
I am currently experiencing this. I live in a toxic environment and am stressed by things beyond my control, so I experience a lot of anxiety. When it comes to school, I push things off until the last minute or after the deadline has passed. Procrastination hurts my mental and physical health, but I keep doing it because I can’t bear to do the work in front of me.
As I listened to your husband I realize it's that we have different approaches. I think it's only a problem if someone gets super stressed about it, but for me I realize I just have my own timeline to things and like he state that sense of urgency helps me. I start something, allow the idea to marinate, and then that sense of urgency comes in to get it done. I'm sure sometimes there's deeper things to it, but it's also learning our own style and approach to things.
I just finished school, and I procrastinated A LOT. It was for the same reason as your husband. I only procrastinated with school, though, and some household chores. I dreaded doing textbook readings most, but I did okay getting through assignments. I love reading and can read quickly, too, but when it comes to uni, I just put that off until the last 3 hrs (2.5hr to read + .5 hours for the assignment). I also could crank out papers within a few hours with sources. It is just with reading. I want to go for a grad program, but I'm dreading going through that procrastination of reading since I know there's so much on top of the work. Maybe it comes from wanting to understand concepts perfectly (lots of rereading and meticulous notetaking). Anyway, I love the content, looking forward to the horror video, and I hope your honeymoon is special. 🌜✨️🎉
Good one. The fear of failure is definitely an underlying sentiment. I think for me there's a sense of wanting things to be perfect and just never seeming to have the chunk of time that is best fit to start. Professionally, as a Software Engineer, there's also an endless backlog so the strategy of just doing it doesn't apply. In fact, the #1 way I find myself procrastinating is by doing other things that need to be done, but what maybe isn't the most critical in the moment. Would've been nice to see that bit more
I have ADHD and I procrastinate a lot, and meds have helped me a lot. I know not everyone with ADHD likes being on meds but for me it's helped and I have hardly any side effects. So ending the stigma on meds for people who find it helpful would really help in my opinion. Other than that, one more thing I've been doing because I don't take meds daily and I'm a college student: I make a mental note that anything that is due on a weekday is actually due the weekend before. Suppose I have an assignment that is due on Wednesday, I'll note that I have to complete it by the Sunday before. Sometimes I even FORGET the actual deadline and complete it by the weekend before it or at least get most of it done by Monday. I don't even keep track of exact deadlines anymore, just a note on which ones I need to finish by the upcoming weekend, which is anything due next Monday-Friday. It's also less overwhelming than trying to remember exact deadlines of everything.
@@Amandeepsingh-vr7ps I personally take Vyvanse and it works for me. You have to find out what works for you. I was first given Concerta and it did not work for me at all. Good luck!
Dr. Ana, you look so fresh and rejuvenated! Thank you so much for this video. I am currently getting my MSW and am an intern therapist. Crazy times. But I’m trying to adopt this mindset as much as possible. I hope you have an amazing honeymoon!!
As a former perfectionist, for me, it was ABSOLUTELY about fear of failing AND fear of not being good enough. Why? Because my parents modeled for me that I need to be perfect in every way and was criticized if I was anything less than perfect.
The reason for procrastination seems depenedent on the person. I think the most important thing is asking yourself why you're avoiding a task. Hearing other people's perspectives on why they procrastinate might give you ideas of why you might be procrastinating, but they won't all be true for you. It could be self esteem, it could be the need to add pressure. It could be that the pressure drives you to complete the task in less time so you have more time to do fun things before the task is due. Procrastination is very tricky and can't be simplified to just one thing. Maybe Ana is procrastinating relaxing by doing tasks.
I procrastinate for 2 reasons: 1) big projects that can distract me from all other things i want to do 2) lots of small tasks like those i need to google/research with a checklist that doesn't end.
Marinating until deadline is due.. I like that. Building for å peak performance. .. So, better, with less desirabel tasks that are put off, like sorting out everything I have piled on a round table. That is definitely lack of confidence: «What if I never get it done?»
I have the same mentality of needing to get stuff over with at work and it was the same when I was in university. But when it comes to things that aren’t an obligation, that are things I attribute to my passion, I WILL procrastinate because I feel like I’m not good enough to do it 😅
The thing for me is that I found it hard to restart or rejoin an ongoing project. I'd rather get fully prepared and finish it using extremely long period of time even sleepless. Cuz I know deep in my heart if I stop I might never want to do this again. So I kept pushing myself doing it or not doing it at all. And yes Dr. Ana, like you said, I'm kinda afraid of what's coming after I finish it. Even though I know clearly finishing this project would benefit me extremely. I don't know where this kind of fear comes from.
funny enough for me a deadline really helps because i push into plus ultra snd often do my best drawings because i feel like it's go time and there is no place for doubt but if i don't have that i usually struggle alot with procrastinating
I really liked how you handled this topic. I was scared you'd be less understanding and more judging, as I thought you are probably not a person who knows this from personal experience
WOW, Ana you are such an amazing lady and positive role model! Congratulations on your novel and all your hard works, I promise you those seeds will pay off to make your most beautiful garden for you to enjoy, keep shining ❤
The “normal” procrastinator husband and the productivity machine Ana Yudin. There could be deep aspects in the personality at play when one becomes a chronic procrastinator, maybe related to fear of success, self sabotage, an action of the Shadow in the Jungian sense, or a subconscious desire to treat the inner child well and a need to give ourselves some fun or rest that some aspect of ourselves needs to keep going. And sometimes as weird as it sounds, one needs external pressure (a boss or a deadline) to make us do the work if our motivation is low (the question then would be, why is our motivation so low?). The “wait for creativity to do its work” idea the Dr. mentioned here, doesn’t really seem to be the case of her husband, but it could be an explanation for herself - given than she is a writer and a video creator. (and by doing this, discussing this, I’m procrastinating some projects myself. So most definitely am speaking by experience 😢)
Wow what you are describing is so me! There are way fewer people who hate procrastinating than the reverse but it comes with it's own challenges like you said of never relaxing.
I have adhd so procrastination goes a little further than just not wanting to do things sometimes. I'd love to be someone who starts early on a project so I won't have stress at the end. And I know it will never happen. I need the emergency deadline adrenaline to do stuff that I don't want to do at that moment. It's very stressfull for me and my body, but it seems to be the only way I actually do things. I wish timeblocking would work for me, no planner has ever saved me. The only thing that helps me is that I linked my school and work schedule in google calendar, so it updates automatically and I don't have to write stuff into it myself. It gives me a bit of structure when I need it without having me to be consistent with it (because I am lots of things but consistency isn't one of them).
Procrastinating for me on a larger scale probably has deeper rooted psychological reasons there more than I realize, but with little stuff it's usually because I'm just tired lol.
I am not a procrastinator. Is it possible that procrastination is 'trained' into some people? By this I am referring to aggressors and abusers using 'delay' (control) as a technique. If they can create a delay, buy themselves some time, circumstances often change, become more difficult to report, easier for them to maintain the existing dynamic (which they are exploiting). = patterns of delay, procrastination.
Do you think it’s a mindset or this is just your natural personality? Like, a lot of people have heard “don’t do things last minute”, yet most people do even if they tell themselves they won’t waste last minute. So, it feels to me that “I’m gonna have this mindset” just won’t work for most people otherwise they would have already changed imo.
This is not an attack, I'm just trying to express fair criticism because I value your videos: I don't find it ethical that you pretend to talk about how you personally dealt with an issue that you actually never had while using this bait to promote a product related to this issue. I mean, its fine you are doing sponsored videos but the ad should serve the content, not the other way around. It undermine all the previous videos you've made. I hope you'll hear this. Love your videos otherwise.
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For me procrastination is associated with anxiety, the first form is when I have to do somethin but I can't start because I know it will be unpleasant time, so I keep delaying to avoid the bad feeling, how ever each time I delay the anxiety of not having started yet also rises and when it gets to the point in time closer to the deadline or when the second anxiety is "bigger" than the first, then I'll actually do the task
Were you procrastinating giving us this procrastination video?
Yes I was actually haha
procrastination, but ironic
I’m sure you’re already aware that these videos help people. But I figured it still worth mentioning that they constantly help me
How is the cat so chilled with being manhandled😂😂
Because she loves her papa so much. "The things I do for love"
I’ve recently been asking myself, “Will I regret doing this, or will I regret not doing this?” when I encounter the kind of paralysis that can accompany my procrastination. May or may not be helpful depending on the activity/situation, but I’ve found it useful for things like going to the gym or practicing a skill or working on a project that I know will need to be completed at some point. I wrote that phrase on a sticky note on my desk and I find that sometimes it's the push/reminder that gets me doing whatever it is I've been avoiding!
I love this! Thanks for sharing
Interesting! For me procrastination comes from defiance of the authority (school, lol) that is “forcing” me to do stuff I didn’t decide to do
(It kinda has to do with c-ptsd and so this defiance is a defence-mechanism against what it thinks as a threat). I think what would help me is 1. Self-regulating and trying to see that teachers are not trying to hurt me and force a harmful thing on me (it’s just homework lol) 2. Realizing that I’m still in control of my decision and that I can choose to do the homework or not do it (and be responsible of the outcomes of that choice)
3. Trying to gain perspective on how doing the homework could be beneficial for me! How can I use it for my advantage.
(Especially because I’m in 12th grade and whatever grade I’m getting could help me get into a good college!)
(Edit: Wow. that’s a whole essay right there)
You did amazing! And you’re so smart, ahead of a lot of people your age
Have you heard of "reclaiming your day?" Where people don't feel they own their work day and reclaim it by staying up late. This is why I procrastinate with work. I procrastinate on other things because I simply don't want to do them. For obligatory stuff like work, it's hard to feel empowered by or feel a sense of reward or accomplishment from these activities, especially if the tasks are repetitive and common. I usually willpower through them leading to frequent burnout and procrastination.
I can relate a lot to the guest speaker. I need a sense of urgency to get things done, and I have a long track record of meeting very tight deadlines which has made me ever more overconfident about my ability to get difficult things done very quickly. Sadly, while I'm procrastinating, I'm still stressing myself a lot about the things that I haven't yet done, and that stress isn't enough to get me to do them. It's a struggle because it makes me very reliant on external motivation, and my external sources of motivation are sometimes scarce (because I'm not really worried about not being able to pay my bills, or supporting a family, or my social reputation, which seem to help other people to get motivated).
When I have a list of tasks, I avoid procrastinating by knocking out the most difficult thing first, and working my way down from there.
For my experience, I use to procrastinate a lot when I was growing up in my toxic environment since I was constantly in a flight or fight response. Once I've escaped, the procrastination left and could finally expand.
I am currently experiencing this. I live in a toxic environment and am stressed by things beyond my control, so I experience a lot of anxiety. When it comes to school, I push things off until the last minute or after the deadline has passed. Procrastination hurts my mental and physical health, but I keep doing it because I can’t bear to do the work in front of me.
@@issu3e Sending you a Big hug, I know in my heart you will make it through. The universe loves you, you got this 💖🙌
As I listened to your husband I realize it's that we have different approaches. I think it's only a problem if someone gets super stressed about it, but for me I realize I just have my own timeline to things and like he state that sense of urgency helps me. I start something, allow the idea to marinate, and then that sense of urgency comes in to get it done. I'm sure sometimes there's deeper things to it, but it's also learning our own style and approach to things.
I just finished school, and I procrastinated A LOT. It was for the same reason as your husband. I only procrastinated with school, though, and some household chores. I dreaded doing textbook readings most, but I did okay getting through assignments. I love reading and can read quickly, too, but when it comes to uni, I just put that off until the last 3 hrs (2.5hr to read + .5 hours for the assignment). I also could crank out papers within a few hours with sources. It is just with reading. I want to go for a grad program, but I'm dreading going through that procrastination of reading since I know there's so much on top of the work. Maybe it comes from wanting to understand concepts perfectly (lots of rereading and meticulous notetaking). Anyway, I love the content, looking forward to the horror video, and I hope your honeymoon is special. 🌜✨️🎉
Good one. The fear of failure is definitely an underlying sentiment. I think for me there's a sense of wanting things to be perfect and just never seeming to have the chunk of time that is best fit to start. Professionally, as a Software Engineer, there's also an endless backlog so the strategy of just doing it doesn't apply. In fact, the #1 way I find myself procrastinating is by doing other things that need to be done, but what maybe isn't the most critical in the moment. Would've been nice to see that bit more
I believe every word you say, I think the mayority of us think the same, so you should Not have self-doubt about what we feel
I have ADHD and I procrastinate a lot, and meds have helped me a lot. I know not everyone with ADHD likes being on meds but for me it's helped and I have hardly any side effects. So ending the stigma on meds for people who find it helpful would really help in my opinion.
Other than that, one more thing I've been doing because I don't take meds daily and I'm a college student: I make a mental note that anything that is due on a weekday is actually due the weekend before. Suppose I have an assignment that is due on Wednesday, I'll note that I have to complete it by the Sunday before. Sometimes I even FORGET the actual deadline and complete it by the weekend before it or at least get most of it done by Monday. I don't even keep track of exact deadlines anymore, just a note on which ones I need to finish by the upcoming weekend, which is anything due next Monday-Friday. It's also less overwhelming than trying to remember exact deadlines of everything.
which medicine you took
@@Amandeepsingh-vr7ps I personally take Vyvanse and it works for me. You have to find out what works for you. I was first given Concerta and it did not work for me at all. Good luck!
I don’t know how every video of yours that appears of my feed is consistently relevant to my life but thank you for making them.
Dr. Ana, you look so fresh and rejuvenated! Thank you so much for this video. I am currently getting my MSW and am an intern therapist. Crazy times. But I’m trying to adopt this mindset as much as possible.
I hope you have an amazing honeymoon!!
Thank you so much!! Best of luck to you too :)
i was planning on using this video to procrastinate but it actually motivated me to be productive
I love how you light up around him 🥰
Procrastination = Fear of not being good enough
As a former perfectionist, for me, it was ABSOLUTELY about fear of failing AND fear of not being good enough. Why? Because my parents modeled for me that I need to be perfect in every way and was criticized if I was anything less than perfect.
The reason for procrastination seems depenedent on the person. I think the most important thing is asking yourself why you're avoiding a task. Hearing other people's perspectives on why they procrastinate might give you ideas of why you might be procrastinating, but they won't all be true for you. It could be self esteem, it could be the need to add pressure. It could be that the pressure drives you to complete the task in less time so you have more time to do fun things before the task is due. Procrastination is very tricky and can't be simplified to just one thing. Maybe Ana is procrastinating relaxing by doing tasks.
This is true, we often over simplify procrastination and overlook that it might be cause by very different things
You and your husband complement each other so well personality wise!!
I procrastinate for 2 reasons: 1) big projects that can distract me from all other things i want to do 2) lots of small tasks like those i need to google/research with a checklist that doesn't end.
I’m just like you Ana. I rarely can relax if there are things to do. No dishes can sit, no work to be done etc
Marinating until deadline is due.. I like that. Building for å peak performance. .. So, better, with less desirabel tasks that are put off, like sorting out everything I have piled on a round table. That is definitely lack of confidence: «What if I never get it done?»
I have the same mentality of needing to get stuff over with at work and it was the same when I was in university. But when it comes to things that aren’t an obligation, that are things I attribute to my passion, I WILL procrastinate because I feel like I’m not good enough to do it 😅
the way u light up w ur husband is so cute 💡✨
I've just watched the video and now I'm doing the task I was procrastinating! That mindset seems to actually have an effect on me 😄
The thing for me is that I found it hard to restart or rejoin an ongoing project. I'd rather get fully prepared and finish it using extremely long period of time even sleepless. Cuz I know deep in my heart if I stop I might never want to do this again. So I kept pushing myself doing it or not doing it at all.
And yes Dr. Ana, like you said, I'm kinda afraid of what's coming after I finish it. Even though I know clearly finishing this project would benefit me extremely. I don't know where this kind of fear comes from.
funny enough for me a deadline really helps because i push into plus ultra snd often do my best drawings because i feel like it's go time and there is no place for doubt but if i don't have that i usually struggle alot with procrastinating
I really liked how you handled this topic. I was scared you'd be less understanding and more judging, as I thought you are probably not a person who knows this from personal experience
I definitely do the women with the wolves thing! Interesting to hear that explained. That’s totally my creative process.
WOW, Ana you are such an amazing lady and positive role model! Congratulations on your novel and all your hard works, I promise you those seeds will pay off to make your most beautiful garden for you to enjoy, keep shining ❤
"finally revealing the mindset that keeps me from procrastinating." That's a good one! 😂
I’m obsessed with the cat
The “normal” procrastinator husband and the productivity machine Ana Yudin.
There could be deep aspects in the personality at play when one becomes a chronic procrastinator, maybe related to fear of success, self sabotage, an action of the Shadow in the Jungian sense, or a subconscious desire to treat the inner child well and a need to give ourselves some fun or rest that some aspect of ourselves needs to keep going. And sometimes as weird as it sounds, one needs external pressure (a boss or a deadline) to make us do the work if our motivation is low (the question then would be, why is our motivation so low?). The “wait for creativity to do its work” idea the Dr. mentioned here, doesn’t really seem to be the case of her husband, but it could be an explanation for herself - given than she is a writer and a video creator.
(and by doing this, discussing this, I’m procrastinating some projects myself. So most definitely am speaking by experience 😢)
Very timely. I have statistics hw due tonight and I still havent finished it :')
Your videos are very inspirational and motivational! Thank you!!😇
Wow what you are describing is so me! There are way fewer people who hate procrastinating than the reverse but it comes with it's own challenges like you said of never relaxing.
Cutest cat!!!
You look great today Ana
This is just the right video from the right person I needed right now :D
Let that poor cat go! 😂 Forced affection - it’s so tolerant. Cat: endlessly trying to escape. Man: “no, she loves it what are you talking about” 😂
Thanks Ana for your tips in the video. Will probably dive deeper with my therapist about why I procrastinate. Enjoy your honeymoon ❤
Perfect timing on this video because I AM CURRENTLY PROCRASTINATING FUCK
I know this is off topic but you look amazing!
I have adhd so procrastination goes a little further than just not wanting to do things sometimes. I'd love to be someone who starts early on a project so I won't have stress at the end. And I know it will never happen. I need the emergency deadline adrenaline to do stuff that I don't want to do at that moment. It's very stressfull for me and my body, but it seems to be the only way I actually do things. I wish timeblocking would work for me, no planner has ever saved me. The only thing that helps me is that I linked my school and work schedule in google calendar, so it updates automatically and I don't have to write stuff into it myself. It gives me a bit of structure when I need it without having me to be consistent with it (because I am lots of things but consistency isn't one of them).
Whatever works for you! This is just the mindset that works for me :)
i've never wanted a psycho-analysis this bad in my whole life
Thank you for creating such amazing content 😊
I used to be like you, and then I got on anti-anxiety meds
saved to watch laterrrrrrrrrr
your skin looks amazing! Is this a filter or your natural skin?
Procrastinating for me on a larger scale probably has deeper rooted psychological reasons there more than I realize, but with little stuff it's usually because I'm just tired lol.
I Needed this. Thank you!
in my humble opinion, at least to get house work done, there should be steps in which there is an order in which chores one does.
The cat helped tanks😌🖤
how the heck did you know I was procrastinating at this very moment
I am not a procrastinator. Is it possible that procrastination is 'trained' into some people?
By this I am referring to aggressors and abusers using 'delay' (control) as a technique. If they can create a delay, buy themselves some time, circumstances often change, become more difficult to report, easier for them to maintain the existing dynamic (which they are exploiting). = patterns of delay, procrastination.
Do you think it’s a mindset or this is just your natural personality? Like, a lot of people have heard “don’t do things last minute”, yet most people do even if they tell themselves they won’t waste last minute. So, it feels to me that “I’m gonna have this mindset” just won’t work for most people otherwise they would have already changed imo.
Would you be willing to do a video on finding meaning in life?
So, the secret to not procrastinating is "have OCD"?
Lol the cat😂😂😂
You look so good
I missed you!
Good cat :3
This is the video i need right now! I hope i dont watch it later :D
This is not an attack, I'm just trying to express fair criticism because I value your videos: I don't find it ethical that you pretend to talk about how you personally dealt with an issue that you actually never had while using this bait to promote a product related to this issue. I mean, its fine you are doing sponsored videos but the ad should serve the content, not the other way around.
It undermine all the previous videos you've made. I hope you'll hear this. Love your videos otherwise.
Yeah. Also it doesn't really sound like someone ready to work with patients who are dealing with actual issues.
Just imagine saying you don't relate to procastination
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This is so crazy I was literally just talking about my procrastination problem
You had an editing hiccup around 12:58 on this one Ana…
Soooooooo you procrastinated about producing a video about procrastinating?!??!! 😆 🤣 😂 😹. Jk. Love your videos
that cat looks huge
Your husband’s name is Nikolai, right? Is he Russian? Asking, because doing things last minute is something very very characteristic of our ppl 😂
Other you tuber s give discount codes on products they endorse. Js.😮😊