When The Narcissist Starts Telling People "You're Not That Bad"!
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- When The Narcissist Starts Telling People "You're Not That Bad"!
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Yes that is my two love languages too. I'm very touchy person and I give many people really nice compliments and that's what I like in my life growing up. I'm not a narcissist, my sister is married to one so you've been helping us out Dave Thank you so very much. I appreciate you so very very much
Hey Dave, beautiful prayer and I give thanks to God to have prayed with you All...God Bless You Dave and Peace be with you.
Yes they do and yes I was put down to everyone they knew
Yes! Female narcissists are more likely to encourage the connection between the empath friend and the love interest. However, a female narcissist will latch onto the empaths love interest and seduce them. Sinister
very true... she took it all from me... till the last drop... she totally emptied me out till i became nothing
I had a female narc latch onto any male she assumed was a love interest of mine. They we're just friends though. She victimized them too.
Spelt out that way... atleast now I understand 🙏
Omg so fuckin true!
So true
If you are worried sad and concerned to be a Narcissist _ you're not one ......
We are like the antibiotic medicine that works in the beginning and then later on in the relationship the antibiotic medicine doesn't work so the Narc is off find new medication. NO CURE, absolutely cursed 🙏🙏🙏💜💜
JESUS is the Cure.......If only they would receive him.💔
They'd take the medicine except they think it's everyone else's problem.
How to love languages of a narcissist….. “Give me, and give me more”!!!!!!!
Marriage is give and take. With the narc.; You give and I'll take. Ha!
Once I stop caring about a person I stop caring period! Including about their opinion of me, what they say to others about me etc. They wanna de-value me, well this is how I de-value them in return. Its wonderfully free'ing.
Nice prayer Dave, right on !!!
I am certain, broken bones would have hurt less and healed faster
I was lied to ......
Cheated on and stolen from .....
I HOPE YOU ARE FEELING BETTER AND PROTECTING YOURSELF. NARCS OF BOTH SEXES HURT EVERYONE.
Yep.. whether a guy or a girl "friend" they will do underhanded stuff to stop people form even befriending you. I've had this happen when I was wasn't "on the prowl" even but just having a bit of nice socialization which was extremely rare opportunity for me. They don't want anybody treating you well like you deserve, and they will make sure not to bring you along next time if someone found you smart and funny... and tell you how awkward you were! Oh these people are so despicable... they really do have blood on their hands!
I won't be with anyone unless they have been single as long as me.
Thank You so much for sharing ❤
WOW just WOW
BRILLIANCE, BRILLIANT, SIMPLE SOLUTION
LUV LUV LUV
BRAVO
APPLAUD 👏
Single 2 years, just sayin'
@@nosockaccounts9766 7 years for me, I know who I am and I like/love who I am.
NY past relationships/choices have frightened the beejeezus outta me, hence the reason why I am terrified of committing, I know that there are others out there who have experienced the same but where are they? how to meet people with the same train of thought? I don't know what the answer is, however I will continue to keep on keeping on my path, with or without meeting a healthy addition to my family and vice versa, I will gladly enjoy my journey embracing what's left 😊
The marriage is first with a higher power SOURCE. Then we can be with someone else, who also, must first marry a higher power SOURCE, that holds us both accountable for out thoughts and intentions here.
2 years for me and still struggling with the pain, with CPTSD. Don't think I will ever get better. The only moment of relief is when I'm asleep. As soon as I wake up, the whole process,ie, obsessive ruminating thoughts, the pain, the anxiety start all over again.
Watching your videos is the only thing keeping me going right now. I am in so much pain. Thank You
Yes female narcissist friends always try to outshine as well
I immediately block out these type of people from my life.
I had the love language talk with my ex. He reflected mine right back to me…it was during the love bombing stage. Hindsight….with all of this knowledge…so many things unfolding. I wish I had this knowledge before hand but I know God will use it all for good…it is leading to heal childhood trauma and help someone else. What the devil meant for our harm…God has flipped the script and is using it all for our good…to bring us up higher.
Mine was exactly like this too. She reflected my childhood wounds back at me & told me her love language was i. gifting & ii. acts of service. These were things she had noticed about me during the idealisation & love bombing stages of the relationship since I always liked to give. I wish I had known these deep truths earlier but as the Bible says, all things are working together for our good. Some times I feel shames for being used the way I was used but I look ahead & count it all joy for going through that diverse test of being manipulated, deceived, shamed, guilted, insulted, gas lighted and all. Now that it's all over & I'm in a better place, I can now, have always & continue to address my childhood wounds through the Holy Spirit so that I never have to attract these empty meat shells again. I wish them true healing & that they find God the way God sees us all, in Jesus name. God bless you.
PS it's so amazing and so beautiful that you lift up lift up the name of our Lord Jesus Christ amen
Amen
I’d say his love language would be someone stupid he can lie to and not know, steal from and they wouldn’t care and cheat on and not care. Lots of admiration and money
My best friend I met in college was like you said, a ton of fun! Then it changed to jealousy, then she began to dress like me, act like me to take the spotlight! She was a yes, terrible wingman after it all came to a head. She couldn’t stand if I got more attention and I use that word laughingly…. I was no more prettier than her. It could’ve been a toss up. Men just didn’t like talking to her. She’d actually run them off she was so awkward. She didn’t know which person she wanted to introduce to them and MANY times it backfired! I never saw it then. Only years later. I was never in competition with her. It saddened me that she was the Narc and used me for my co-decency that I was actively trying to heal and spoke to her about. I just didn’t know at the time it happened to “friends” not just “love interest”.
“The 5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman. I bought and started to read that book with my husband… a covert narcissist. Little I knew back then about narcissistic behavior, newlyweds and he didn’t even pay attention to the book. Latter he admitted he couldn’t care less about the subject.
Dave that is on point ! A narcissistic girlfriend does the same .. all eyes on here .. and belittles her girlfriend to her face !
So sad…
Yes- they do ( female narcissist) will shoot you down in a minute. I did not realize how narcissistic my upbringing was, but it was… and I just experienced that whole dynamic earlier this week from a female PLAGUED with narcissistic tendencies. The only thing keeping me from being totally wounded is that I know better- better meaning I know Jesus and I know what she was doing was not about me but about her issues.
Read: Love and Respect. Powerful.
Found it after I left him. Real gem....
She did this to me. And the gifts were never good enough, or she’d notice a flaw in the pearls I bought her.
I feel like most women want to make you look bad in order to make themselves look better. There are exceptions, but few. It happens in personal relationships and at work. They will chew you up and spit you out. I see it happening to other women, and it's happened to me often. Narcs everywhere. I feel like there aren't any "safe" people to be around. I'm utterly alone.
Me too. I feel out of this world. Been single for 14 years... Opened up to a narc 😆 2 months of nonsense texting digging his hole each time.
I'm not on social media besides Facebook, never dated online, wish we were still hanging the phone on the wall like before.
Nobody is real anymore.
I'm really ok being single tho but a friend to take a walk with would be nice.
It’s going to be hard but it takes complete surrender and belief that God is protecting you. Maybe this is a time for you to be alone and do self reflection and grow. Its been exceptionally difficult because of the past couple of years- Covid etc. We tend to attract what we are. Stay firmly planted in that Solid Ground with Christ as your foundation. Anytime I get shaken, it’s because the devil got a dig in me, or I took my eyes off of the Lord ( sometimes even for a second!) and it throws me off kilter. The key is not to give yourself away to just every and any body, but also don’t shut yourself off. In order to have friends, you gotta be friendly:)! 🤣 right? Just guard your heart and don’t spill your guts .There are many many wonderful women out there ( and men too). Stay strong solid ground. Gbu
Narcissists will premeditate your demise. You need to stay in your awareness at all times. Be careful and be blessed.
Yep, looking for some new friends
@@prunelle9051 I wish the phone was on the wall too
We cast down vain imaginations and evil knowledge that comes to us and our enemies, in the name of Jesus, we give Jesus the authority.
Boy that book… do I know it!
it was given to us at a “session” we had with our Pastor, when I felt things were very wrong. He in turned took that book on a “mens fishing retreat”. Told me “I’ll read this at night in my tent”. He rather went to Hawaii with the new supply for 6 days with that book. I was home with 2 year old twins, my mother was dying of 3 stage four cancers. This is how heartless they are, and how they wear a MASK and can lie to your face. Hurt your children. Hurt your entire existence. Dave I’ve listened to you for 3 1/2 years o think. You were the FIRST UA-cam I listened too. You brought what was happening to life and helped me understand what was and had happened to me. It’s been a LONG JOURNEY! But I look forward to hearing from you every week. Healing is possible! Thank you 🙏🏼
Teacher dave .if we stay true to ourself .when the fake narcisissit comes they become our ennemy .when they loose an feel shame they become our footstool.all their years of inflatuation cant add up to one true hug from us an they know that .
I'VE WAITED SOOOO LONG TO HEAR THIS VIDEO ...THT DAY WHEN THE NARC HAS TO GO BACK ON EVERY BAD WORD THEY SAID ABOUT U!!!!...SWEET PLEASURE!!!! HAHAHA HAHAHA IN THA NAME OF JESUS!
Dave me and my sister watch you faithfully. Thank you so much for your insight you're helping my sister out and so many ways. Thank you from the bottom of my heart I thank you so much for this narcissistic information because it's hardly even spoken of. May that our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ bless you mightly. Amen
You are so welcome
What a beautiful prayer & very powerful when we pray together in the name of Jesus!
Agreed! Amen!!!
Amen sister!
Aloha, Dave, excellent take on everything. Missed your prayer at the end. Have my own baby channel & referring others to you. The prayer is a very good idea. Spiritual war - an Ephesians 6: 10-20 thing.🙏☝️❤️
Women narc friends as well ....talk HORRIBLY to you in front of other people
How Dave comes up with his timely content is beyond me. 💗
When you're in touch with GOD, The Holy Spirit speaks words of wisdom and truth.Amen.
Glory to God!
Hello, Dianne the therapist here. It has been my experience that narcissists love language can also be service. They are happy when you are doing something for them
Totally correct words of admiration and physical touch !
thank you yes
Well here's another one Dave. I told her when we first started chatting I would take good care of her, her SPEECHLESS! Again I attribute that to having couch surfed and living at her own as her parents abandoned her and her teen years. I appreciate your wall balanced straight ahead way of doing things. I know that this narcissist actually knows how to love. She told me she never had any idea what love was until she met me. One of her 100 songs that she sends me everyday is have I told you that I love you lately by Rod Stewart. If I haven't told you lately but I love you babe I do. You're doing a great work for the kingdom of God
when the hobgoblin greases the griddle, they're fixin to fry somethin....or somebody.
Thank you for the prayer Dave 😊 and yes, no weapon against us shall prosper because it's God who has the final say, amen!🕊
A previous ex narc I dated asked me what my love language was then slowly stopped doing those things. He said his were receiving gifts and acts of service(me doing things for him) then he laughed. 🤢 sicko
I am well acquainted with that book. I told the narcissist mine was words of affirmation in order to feel loved. He said what do you think mine is. I replied you have all five!
I ❤ your humor. It's good we can all laugh now 👍
Amen! I love that we will be praying after each video I think that's a great idea Dave. All glory and honor goes to God our Heavenly Father because of and by our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Amen
How many times in our own lives_ we dispose the garbage in the trash_ and after disposing it_ we go back to the trash and retrieve out the container the garbage thrown out_ because we say that holds sentimental attachment_ and so we do many times the very same after disposing of a Narcissist ......
I think women narcs do the same thing-elevate themselves to gain supply and diminish those they feel threatened by. One thing I'm sure of us is that trust is a must. Touch, time together and words of affirmation are my 3. Amen to your prayer at the end. I love that you're ending with prayer to our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ!
It's always about extraction . I refer to it today as getting monkeyed. To be Loving it takes selflessness . It's a phenomenon today to observe how many are just oblivious to their self absorption . We had a severe storm warning the other day , with possibility of tornadoes . I was on my home , I had walked up to the local store , and it started kicking up , I was hustling , I experienced a tornado before , heading for safe shelter , and I am witnessing people out there so wrapped up in what their doing their getting pelted by dust , and dirt , and it isn't registering they may be in serious peril . Many also have a false image of Jesus , He was very confrontational , He asked the man , Do you want to be healed Instructed the Samaritan woman to return to her husband , overthrew the tables , and chased the thieves out of the temple . Love takes courage . It's loving to offer correction .
Dave I love it I agree is in Christian Counseling I'm just beginning to work on a masters in counseling from Cornerstone University in Grand Rapids Michigan. I told Jessica that my primary was Words of Affirmation. She's very sweet and soft spoken covert and said that hers was also words. I love the video of yours I just watched last night. It was very kind towards the narcissist. She has been through every imaginable hell that there is on Earth and I have always had a burden for her. She loves me well and she has crushed me well. Her second I'm sure is gift-giving. Lord knows I've sent her a hundred gifts and a hundred days. Her gifts to me are love songs in the video that I'm watching right now. She let me know from the beginning how injured she was and his asked for time and space to heal. She pushes my buttons like the 7-year-old that she is inside but also affirms me and many different ways. I have come to understand and can accept that when we get in our little arguments I'm arguing with a child. She calls me Daddy. I told her I'm David and you're Jessica I don't think we should say Daddy anymore. Jessica said but can I please call you Daddy. She is drop Dead gorgeous 5 ft 2, blonde hair blue eyes in the most perfect heavenly smile you've ever seen. we are both single she is 44 and amazingly beautiful but never married. She is remarkable and gifted and so many ways I think her IQ is probably 160. she basically runs a Christian rehab that we both went through one year apart one year apart. I was a volunteer and much loved until I was kicked out for sending her too many gifts. Just recently the man that kicked me out invited me back to a graduation. I was the only graduate that was invited back. The tides have turned in the attitudes are shifting back towards me. She and I were chatting today and did Church online. Were you started off having a little fight as usual but I've learned not to fight with a 7-year-old. Quickly things passed and I sent her a gift card. It's Crazy Dave I wish you knew the situation someday I'd love to meet you. She loves me better and more genuinely than anybody ever has and yet there was a period of time or she's seemingly discarded me. She blocked and unblocked blocked and unblocked and now that's what I've done for the past few months. I really do believe that God has called me to be her friend for life. Sorry about the textbook I just sent you I hope that you have a chance to read it. I appreciate all these videos that she sends to me to help me understand better how To Love Her. I do love her very one of the things that you say and I know that it's to warn victims against abuse that they are empty meat suits. I know that you're kind-hearted man but I loved the video that I saw expressing the fact that they hate who they are and never wish to become. Thanks again Dave, your buddy Dave
Each of us has all five of the love languages on varying degrees. I came from a hugging family and was always properly touched by my mother. I have no interest or need for gifts because I was a spoiled kid. I need to be affirmed daily, I would love to have someone to spend quality time with, physical touch would be great but I have no need for gifts, I just end up bringing them back or gifting anyway LOL. I forgot what the fifth one was. 😊
Great read David...totally agree with ALL!
My love language is to give and touch
Spot on Dave! I can see your little smirk because of this subject matter 😝
I was the 🍭 in the beginning and in the end when they say your crazy then I was called the NUTBAR.
I said "go find the ultimate candyfloss".
"You leave a trail of candy bar sticks and wrappers all over the country". Laughable 😂😂
I only have speculated guesses on what was said behind my back. Having him tell me daily how he was praising me at work to all his pals. Could only guess the truth. Finding out what he was; was enough of a blow. He tried to get me back after five months of kicking me to the way side. Ten months sending his friends to access how well your doing. Blocking all media, changing phone service, blocking all way of communication. Ending visits from his friends. I could only guess the worse. Living with him was the worse. I expect another attempt again to roll around. Gut feeling. All you teach is mostly spot on. I had enough time to learn what a Narcissist,, Psychopath, manipulator, alcoholic, mental, emotional abuser was, out of one man. I have learned reading, video's it's not only men. I am not trying to be unbiased to any gender at all. Being uneducated of this disorder is cause of confusion,, and imprisonment for so long. Thank you for all your work educating everyone.
Dave, all of us want to see "WING MAN"!!!! Keep working on it! We would all be there to support!
My ex used the love language stuff as his exit strategy... i could not keep up with his demands... so iff he goes to the new supply...you are spot on about the euphoria/love stuff
A true narc needs no reason to lovebomb, demean & viciously discard. It is the nature of the beast they host. No one makes them behave the way they do. They do it knowingly and want no accountability. They do not want to learn anything, but how to destroy souls.
Perfect prayer thanks !
Its great to see ya...Love you Dave and yur wisdom. Remember the story about running into the narcissist with the new supply at a restaurant about lunch time...lol
Absolutely
I won't be with anyone who has Facebook
The false light!
so true... all narcs tell sarcastic "jokes" to belittle others and to elevate themselves... 🇬🇧👀
My ex’s love language was Gibberish! He has always sought validation from one source…his parents! They were masters of conditional love. The odd dynamic of control through guilt and shame was sad to watch and impossible to mend. As they say, the sins of the father.
I have a narc in a social group that speaks gibberish. She uses it to put people off guard by confusing them. Other friends think its amusing and endearing, but I spot it for what it is. She is a master manipulator.
Hi Dave! Interesting video about love languages. For the Narc probably not only gift receiving, but also receiving nonstop affirmations. 👍
And yes, they’re constantly chasing euphoria. It’s the perfect way to describe them!!
Thanks for sharing!
The narcissist love language is Service! Doesn't matter the type, just keep it coming because it's always about them! If you run out of energy, you are doomed by meeting the "out of service" dumpster.
What a great descriptive take!
Perfect insight, it was just like that for me too. I became " out of service " . What a blessing that was!!!
I thank you for the lessons and prayers 🙏
Love your thumbnail🤣🤣💕
Yes, only they will reach in their
pocket, and give the most, if being
watched. Inwardly, they will intensely
dislike the children who put them
in that position.
Thanks, Dave.
Nice to see you 🙂
You too!
Let me tell you Dave!! I can’t with these Narcs anymore .. You are spot on Dave!!!
Haha can we go grocery shopping 😂😂😂exactly Dave!!!
His love language was supposedly attention and physical affection, just like mine 🙄, but gift giving pleased him more in reality. Very materialistic.
Also . ....I gotta say . Your so consistent with your uploads ...it's very comforting and not overlooked and much appreciated !!!!!!! Thank you
You are so welcome
Damn, brother, I love your sense of humor! That’s how you entertain yourself, bwahaha! I think trotting out the Stuck On You cast again is a terrific idea, totally. Funny, my soon-to-be ex has shoved the Love Language book at me, wow. Thanks for your terrific work!
Oh boy. I remember my mom and dad had that book when I was little. I think it was just collecting dust
Narcs aren't friends. One red flag or action like that and I'm out. I give value to my friends and if they are friends they return value. We can all win together!
in my twenties I get from my "best overt narkie friend" a towel and deodorant as birthday present with her words:"wash yourself more often" in presence of her boyfriend that she didn't trust me around just because he was "too friendly" to me... And she whisper everyone not to drink my home made lemonade around the table calling it cheap shit... I think it was my 19th birthday & first time I could afford to pay for 12 people's food on my own coz get a job... Some of narcissists gifts are so mean... like mocking receiver...
I have a friend who's constantly there for me ups and downs. She loves to give advice whenever I'm breaking down. I've always prayed for her to remain in that mood. But when I turned out doing good things, she turns into someone that is not proud of my improvement. She always saying that it will be fine, but the mood was changed if I became positive. When I feel better, she's reminding me of the past actions I did and tell me that I'm so poor on that then. She has the personality also like she's asking me a question like "Am I gonna cut my hair?" and then I say like "It's on you." Then she suddenly says that "Ohh" and then I feel like she's so disappointed for that because of my stupid answer then I'm gonna pick a wise answer. And then if I said like "I think it's better if you'll not cut your hair." and then she doesn't respond because she doesn't like my response and blame me because of that. Like why do I get so much disappointment from her😭 She's making me feel so horrible every time I want to boost my confidence, and she's so pure and kind whenever I am breaking down. But still, I love her.
Amen Dave! Thank you for this video. It really spoke and touched base with me. I reflected back at things he did and said.
YES, TOUCH SPEACH !
My narc sister always did that too me. She always felt insecure. She admitted that she has no empathy within but is trying her best to exercise cognitive empathy. Good for her that she can see it and is at least trying to do something about it. BTW love that your videos finish with prayer.
Fact. I literally was just talking about this the other day. I would always take care of my friends in social situations but any time we were out at a bar (looking back I know that was a bad move to be there) but anyway we are out in social situations they would always take care of themselves and tear me down.Absolutely not good people. That wing man movie is spot on. That would’ve been hilarious.
Yes they always want to be the center of attention.
Amen💖
Amen
Actually usually its the victim that starts to think the narc isn't so bad. That is how a victim is hoovered back in. After not suffering abuse for a while they start to remember when they love bombed you and you question your reality regarding them. When they are abusing you, you remember all the abuse. Flippity flip flippers.
Amen, hallelujah and amen
Loved the prayer brother! God bless everyone!
Yes the women do it. They are very envious
A wise decision ever made without regret by a victim of a Narcissist_ is to break-up free and never_ ever _ look back.....
Amen
I can see a female narc trying to outgive me to make me look cheap, no wingman here either😉
I prayed with you Dave..Amen!!
Really like that you pray at the end of your videos.. awesome !!
Thank you!!
Thanks so much
"I'm in a goofy mood " :says wit the most straightest, serious, stern, you want the truth you can't handle the truth look on his face ...
I love him . 💕💕
lol...that is what editing is all about!!! I laughed a few times
I had 2 femal narcissist friends... one was always trying to act like she was so much fancier than me and the other girl... she lived beyond her means and flaunted fake persona... the other narcissist was always putting me down and talking to me like she was much smarter than me... both had lives and jobs and family and friends outside of our friendship but both were jealous whenever I talked to anyone "outside the group"... their jealousy caused me to shy away from having other friends and literally caused me to walk away from my friendship with them...
Hi love the Channel God bless you Dave blessings👍🏼❤️🙏🏼😁
The narcs love language initially with a person is whatever that person's love language is....they mirror them. That happened to me!
Looking back, Every person I now know was a narcissist had these as their top 3: Touch, words of affirmation and gifts.
None of us were bad we were way too good for them and I believe that deep down when they are forced to be alone in the dark they know it and cant stand it. Block em God bless yall
Everything they do has to be a Kodak moment😂
This is interesting bro, (despite the darkness of it all) you are really neatly honing-in-and-out the practical specifics of how they operate, going through the whole "cycle" from start to finish. With more viewers sharing it, this has the power to break the back of the spiritual mask-wearing epidemic!..
Great take! If all pray together...absolutely!
My love language is touch and words. He suckered me in with exactly what I had craved. I was a lamb to the slaughter. NC just over 3 months.
Liked your story. Sweet dreams. Hugs. 💕
Thanks for listening
Female narcs will try to get the guy you like first to break your heart in the nightclub. And yeah even if she is your "best friend" she will slow dance the guy until he forgets you were looking at him first. Its how it goes.
Hello Dave, thank you for your videos and for the prayer.
Any time
How the he'll are they all so predictable
GODBLESS BROTHER DAVE MUCH LOVE FROM AUSTRALIA WAYS ... BLESSINGS AND PEACE
Amen. Amen.
My wife told people who were a mutual friend that I was a great guy and it really wasn't me as much as it was her. Later on I learned that she bad-mouthed me to literally everybody else. She got caught cheating play the victim card and I was the bad guy
Another thing ex Narc boy said was, " you should give your old toys to the less fortunate". Creepy as 🤪🤪