Im 19 now, but She cheated on me it's been almost a year and a half since we stopped talking and my ex kept giving me mixed signals. I was being hurt by her so much that I had to force myself to not love or care. Now I just work on myself
This is something my fearful avoidant told me. Looking back, she did love me. She just couldnt express it in the way of saying that she loves me. It does not mean that they DIDNT HAVE FEELINGS, but that the avoidant does not feel comfortable with saying the words, although they DO love you And it had always been that way, even when the relationship was still perfectly fine
It wasn't exactly like that... she told me I care a lot for you but I don't love you and I will never love you, I've tried for two years and a half now I can't try any longer... I hope we can be friends even if we don't talk that much. I decided to walk away... even if I did love her why should I waste my time any longer? I crossed an Ocean for her and she didn't value that she even broke up with me on New Year's eve.... and after two weeks she was already with a "new bestie" who looked more like a future partner to me... so I blocked her everywhere. I deserve better than that. The weirdest part was she mentioned being stuck in a golden cage while we were on an LDR where we talked but not even daily. I had my own things going on with several friends, hobbies, etc. So She had plenty of space to feel like that. That was my experience.
Just got out of a 2 year relationship around 2 weeks ago now. One of the things she told me was the title of this video. Somehow it’s always relevant. I’m doing better every day give or take random feelings of loneliness or missing certain things, but from all the time listening to your content I’ve transformed my mindset to worry about myself and that has meant everything.
This one hit painfully close to home. Girlfriend of almost 4 years came down with depression bad after finishing college, 2 and a half years into our relationship. I begged her to see someone for it. I did everything I could to help her. Cleaned her room, made her ready dinners, did her laundry, she sat curled up on her bed saying 'I don't deserve you'. 6 months into her depression she tried to break up with me over the phone, we both cried and we didn't split. Then in October she comes over and blindside's me. In the middle of her depression she also told me 'I can do better than you'. So when we split, I just let her go. I'm not putting myself through any more of this. I got burned so badly trying to put out her own fire. Wish I walked away sooner. The 'I can do better than you' still really bothers me, that was the last thing I deserved after everything I did for her. Good riddance. Thanks for these videos Rory, they are a life saver!! ❤
In about a week it will be exactly 1 year since my ex partner of 2 years said this to me. I was devastated as we were planning on moving in together just a month earlier. I dove head first into the personal work. Started a new career, got into the best physical shape of my life, and started expanding my social networks. It’s been almost a year and I haven’t heard a word from her, but I’m okay with it now. I just started a new relationship with someone that seems more mature and understanding. Stay strong everyone, I know it doesn’t feel like it now, but there really is light at the end of the tunnel, AS LONG AS YOU DO THE WORK!
I’ve been feeling like this with someone I’ve been seeing for the past 4 months so I appreciate you making this video. I think we get along but I don’t feel much emotional connection. Yet I don’t want to lose him ugh
I was the one who told my now ex this thing. For me, it was that we had different rates of investment. She never got over it and it caused us problems in the long run
This happened to me at 43yrs old. Both divorced and were dating for a lil over a year. At the time of the break up discussion, I finally had the guts to ask how he felt about me. He said, we were just friends. I was absolutely devastated Although I knew if I had to ask how he felt, the answer wasn't a good one.
My ex said it to after 2.5 years. She's a single mother of 2 so didn't have many evenings free but we did travel in the last few months and romantic breaks. At the end she hadn't much going for her, she stopped her college, swimming, socializing with friends whereas I had my gym, friends, work etc. 1 person can't be a village. She also told me we were to comfortable and had no challenges, whatever that means.
4:30 this is exactly my situation. I had a partner who was addicted to me. She could not do anything herself. It was fun at first but then became a burden. I did not have an own life. At some point I realized I dont love her anymore. I just said it because of habit. I became distant to her and eventually had the courage to break up. The relationship was exhausting and I feel better now.
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Im 19 now, but She cheated on me it's been almost a year and a half since we stopped talking and my ex kept giving me mixed signals. I was being hurt by her so much that I had to force myself to not love or care. Now I just work on myself
This is something my fearful avoidant told me.
Looking back, she did love me. She just couldnt express it in the way of saying that she loves me.
It does not mean that they DIDNT HAVE FEELINGS, but that the avoidant does not feel comfortable with saying the words, although they DO love you
And it had always been that way, even when the relationship was still perfectly fine
It wasn't exactly like that... she told me I care a lot for you but I don't love you and I will never love you, I've tried for two years and a half now I can't try any longer... I hope we can be friends even if we don't talk that much. I decided to walk away... even if I did love her why should I waste my time any longer? I crossed an Ocean for her and she didn't value that she even broke up with me on New Year's eve.... and after two weeks she was already with a "new bestie" who looked more like a future partner to me... so I blocked her everywhere. I deserve better than that. The weirdest part was she mentioned being stuck in a golden cage while we were on an LDR where we talked but not even daily. I had my own things going on with several friends, hobbies, etc. So She had plenty of space to feel like that. That was my experience.
Just got out of a 2 year relationship around 2 weeks ago now. One of the things she told me was the title of this video.
Somehow it’s always relevant. I’m doing better every day give or take random feelings of loneliness or missing certain things, but from all the time listening to your content I’ve transformed my mindset to worry about myself and that has meant everything.
This one hit painfully close to home. Girlfriend of almost 4 years came down with depression bad after finishing college, 2 and a half years into our relationship. I begged her to see someone for it. I did everything I could to help her. Cleaned her room, made her ready dinners, did her laundry, she sat curled up on her bed saying 'I don't deserve you'. 6 months into her depression she tried to break up with me over the phone, we both cried and we didn't split. Then in October she comes over and blindside's me. In the middle of her depression she also told me 'I can do better than you'.
So when we split, I just let her go. I'm not putting myself through any more of this. I got burned so badly trying to put out her own fire. Wish I walked away sooner. The 'I can do better than you' still really bothers me, that was the last thing I deserved after everything I did for her. Good riddance.
Thanks for these videos Rory, they are a life saver!! ❤
I'm glad to help!
i wonder if she said that to you so it would hurt less. like maybe she lied to you saying she can do better than you?
Wait, wait... You've been supporting her during her deoression, trying best to make her fell better, etc. And she said thah she can do better??
@@1rax2hey to this day I don’t know what my girlfriend broke up with me
In about a week it will be exactly 1 year since my ex partner of 2 years said this to me. I was devastated as we were planning on moving in together just a month earlier. I dove head first into the personal work. Started a new career, got into the best physical shape of my life, and started expanding my social networks. It’s been almost a year and I haven’t heard a word from her, but I’m okay with it now. I just started a new relationship with someone that seems more mature and understanding. Stay strong everyone, I know it doesn’t feel like it now, but there really is light at the end of the tunnel, AS LONG AS YOU DO THE WORK!
this channel helps me 2 years ago
I’ve been feeling like this with someone I’ve been seeing for the past 4 months so I appreciate you making this video. I think we get along but I don’t feel much emotional connection. Yet I don’t want to lose him ugh
I have a friend who is in a relationship like his. Myself I have been in relationships like this. Thank you. Hugs🙏❤️
I was the one who told my now ex this thing. For me, it was that we had different rates of investment. She never got over it and it caused us problems in the long run
This happened to me at 43yrs old. Both divorced and were dating for a lil over a year. At the time of the break up discussion, I finally had the guts to ask how he felt about me. He said, we were just friends. I was absolutely devastated Although I knew if I had to ask how he felt, the answer wasn't a good one.
My ex said it to after 2.5 years. She's a single mother of 2 so didn't have many evenings free but we did travel in the last few months and romantic breaks. At the end she hadn't much going for her, she stopped her college, swimming, socializing with friends whereas I had my gym, friends, work etc. 1 person can't be a village. She also told me we were to comfortable and had no challenges, whatever that means.
4:30 this is exactly my situation. I had a partner who was addicted to me. She could not do anything herself. It was fun at first but then became a burden. I did not have an own life. At some point I realized I dont love her anymore. I just said it because of habit. I became distant to her and eventually had the courage to break up. The relationship was exhausting and I feel better now.
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i feel like this for my ex and it makes me sad tbh. i was so in love