Or just a good time even if you don’t meet up or speak again. It’s nice to just do something social and have a good time even if it doesn’t blossom into a romance or friendship.
My most memorable first date ended in the hospital. I was trying to prove to this guy how cool I was by going longboarding. Ate shit, busted my ankle, completely embarrassed myself. We've been married for 5 years and go longboarding every year on our anniversary.
@@annak.9712 Definitely, I've gotten better over the years! Can't always keep up with him though. But he's definitely showed me how to push myself in a healthy way haha
I thought dating was meant to be an elaborate display ritual involving showing ones brightly coloured feathers and presenting shiny objects to a possible partner. At least thats what the patriarchy taught me
thank you for this video. i just broke up with my first love. he was my first kiss, my first long relationship, my first everything. i loved him and valued our time together. he ended things after he came to terms with finding out he is aromantic. he did g want to keep lying about how he felt and thought i deserved someone who could love me. i miss him, but i’m grateful for the time we spent together, and this video helps me cherish the great dates we went on. thank you noah
First but far from last. Days will come better than days past. Your experiences prepare you for new ventures in the bright future before you. Happy days never come only once. The good times are a constant stream with hardships wedged in between. Sadness is never the end, With happiness just around the bend.
What does _"someone who could love you"_ mean? Did he think that he was incapable considering what is in your best interest in addition to his own or did he think that love is an emotion felt when the brain flooded by a bunch of chemicals?
@ its like someone barely tolerating your presence compared to someone who is excited to see and speak with you every time. one has the capacity to love , the other is most likely incapable of engaging in relationships for anything other than profit motives.
Listen, I'm not good at conversations. I just like sharing random facts and funny things i find. And in our wedding speech which the officiant read, we decided to each write a little thing we loved about each other. I mentioned his calm nature and smarts. He wrote "i love that you send me copious amount of memes on discord" Big love is really small, actually
dating isn't really possible when i'm too disabled and legislated poverty keeps me pretty much stranded in my tiny town and never really leaving my house, because pain and poverty don't exactly motivate me to do anything but bare survival.
that's so rough, i hope somehow someone can come into your life and you can find the love that you are looking for. in the meantime, i'm proud of u for hanging in there despite everything💜
Really sucks. I'm sorry the world is stupid. For dates: I met my wife because we watched the same streamers on Twitch. They lived in the US and me in Europe. So all of our dates were online (while playing minecraft together or watching movies together) for literally months. We became a couple without ever meeting in person. We met irl about a year later when I was finally able to travel to meet them. I don't know if this is useful at all, just wanted to say that dating online/long distance is possible.
My girlfriend finds herself in this situation. I met her in high school around 7 years ago, before it really had an effect on her ability to do things independently. In the later years, she came to school less and less. We still spent a lot of time with each other, as much as was possible since we both lived far from school and far from each other without access to transportation. We would flirt in class, talk to each other while waiting for rides home, and go on informal dates walking around town. After my graduation year, we had sporadic contact with each other, talking on and off through text and phone calls. Until one day in December, after around 11 months of no contact, she reached out to me, on an occasion I had a strong urge to reach out to her, but she beat me to it. We started talking again, making up for lost time with my dearest friend. We played games together. At this point I now live around 700 miles away so we're very isolated from each other. It had been about 4 years since we last saw each other in person, since the last hug. We talked about love for each other and wanting to be together. So, in February, I took a train 14 hours to be with her for a little more than 3 weeks. We spent a lot of time together, going on some dates in town when we were both feeling okay to. We mostly stayed in though. Being together is enough for us. When I came back from the trip, she decided she wanted to come visit me. She stayed with me for a week, it was really hard for her and I'm so proud of her for making it that far. I really need to make my way back over to her so we can be together for much longer, in our hometown where we feel most belonging. We're really lucky to have found each other all those years ago, and I'm so happy we met each other and got together. I think it would have been hard for us to find love away from each other. I know I can't magically will somebody to come into your life like I did with my girlfriend, but what I can do is give my girlfriend my love and make her feel safe, and I can tell you that there is hope out there for disabled people, even when the odds are stacked against you. People with disabilities deserve love.
My major depressive disorder keeps me from leaving my house, but online relationships have been wonderful. I'm not sure if that is something you are interested in exploring, but they are out there :) You can keep it online-only, or you can meet one day if that's in the cards. Online relationships are easier than ever now that video chat is so widely accessible. Disability communities are great for meeting people who understand our experiences, and I've heard of several romantic success stories coming from folks who met in the online disability community. I hope you get the love you want soon
I love this content from you! I wanted to submit something for this video, but my dating history with my partner was mostly long distance and online, and I didn't think it would be an interesting read. But I'll share a tiny story here- she really loves Halloween and we decided to ship each other little Halloween gifts- and when we opened them up on webcam, we realized we were so on the same page that we both bought each other the same mini potions shop- for building a mini spooky town one day. We were dating online for many years, now she's moved to Canada with me and we've been married for two years
I'm one of the guys that doesn't want any sexual stuff on the first date, or even the second or third. My only issue is that I can never even get a date or even matches to begin with, despite asking for advice making my profile as eye-catching as possible. Probably doesn't help that I have mundane hobbies that are nonetheless my passions. I do really want to just spend time with people regardless of where it goes, but even that seems impossible.
same here, no matches or anything along that line. I have tried approaching people in a variety of places, clubs,classes common interest clubs etc (im at college). Damn near done with my degree and I still havent had any luck. Part of me just made peace with the fact that Ill probably be alone for a while, until I figure this out, but idk. Hope things turn out better for you king
With you on that one man... I don't have any advice (as I'm in the same boat), but I think we can think through this together. I think it is hard to think of ways to improve how you come off. Because often times controlling that is difficult. But I think something practical that we can all stand to help out in the realm of dating is to stop relying on profiles to be the be all, end all for us. What I mean is that dating apps are intentionally built so people who are physically attractive are the ones who receive the most attention. It is one of those things that are built into human psychology, for better or for worse. Once we let go of dating apps and profiles, I think that by having a better sense of self we can come off better to people. It is so hard to be yourself in a society that doesn't want you to be, but I truly think that is what makes my favorite people my favorite people. To be so unmitigated and so free, it's refreshing to see and be around. I try my darnedest to be myself in all facets of life, and often times... I get tossed and rejected. But sometimes, I get exactly what I want and get to be around the people I want to be around. So I guess... I'm curious what you find mundane about your hobbies? I, personally, automatically respect people who are genuinely passionate about things. BUT that is with the caveat of that I am speaking with them face-to-face (or it practically bursts through the screen to me). I like to see passion. Is it perhaps just something you're not particularly proud of? Or is it just something that people put down? Cause if it's the latter... fuck em. .... Sorry for the wall of text, but I keep trying to help myself out by seeing what we can all do to be just a tad bit better!
Your issue, my friend, is that you are not someone cut out for dating apps. Some people just wont find much success on dating apps for a variety of reasons. However you do sound like a very quality person. I'd say work on having good vibes, find reasons to smile every day in your life. And really work on building up your social circles. Work on being friends with more men *and* women and through your social connections try dating that way. This is how most people nowadays still find their partners. All of this is easier said than done, trust me I understand, but you will be a much better person with a much stronger community for support and companionship, even if the finding a partner component takes a while longer. Remember, dating apps really just suck
@@win_jayden My hobbies from most time spent to least are gaming (Final Fantasy XIV mostly, I'm hardcore on there and love the story/characters), anime, long boarding, and gardening. I tend to keep my passion about the first two to a minimum, but I can't seem to grasp why. I think it's because the first two have negative stereotypes tied to them, and I fear being judged before I can speak about it. That said, I do host a social Meetup group for ages 20-30, but less often than I want to because of severe social anxiety. I tend to get stuck on where to actually host an event because there are few 'third places' around here despite living in a populated area near a college. So far I've hosted them at coffee shops and mini golf, but those get stale quickly. I appreciate your response! 💛
At this point in my life I've decided dating apps just aren't for me. The negatives massively outweigh the benefits. And I'm okay with maybe never dating. I know my personality isn't attractive and I can't flirt for the life of me. If it ever happens, it's a cool bonus, I guess. But I'm happy with just having good relationships with a bunch of people and going to different events to meet new ones. That's really enough. You can be satisfied with your life without dating even if you're not asexual/aromantic, as long as you have strong connections with people.
you’re the first person I see taking not wanting to date in a better light. many people see dating as the ultimatum or the onus of who you are and it’s just not true. I’m glad you feel the same and that even if dating doesn’t work out just making these connections along the way is more than enough
My first date that culminated in 10 years of healthy relationship: I showed up at his doorstep with a 6-pack of beer, we had some and then went out to a local punk bar, I bought us some house drinks that were a stripy mixture of 3 liquors (named Sipsik after a rag doll from a famous children's story in our country), then we went and made some snow angels and kissed in a fountain that has a statue of a kissing couple (it was -20C so no water) :) A few years into the relationship I learned that he had gotten too drunk from the shots and actually secretly went to throw up in the toilet, like an hour before our first kiss, lol
The minute I stopped looking for a relationship and found something I truly love, someone I truly love found me. She is the best person I've ever met, always considers me and my feelings, dances with me, and treats me fully with love. I didn't need any pickup lines, any 'moves'. We found each other and after hanging out we fell very quickly.
i met the guy i've been dating for like 2 years now through okcupid. we started talking (and realized that we had seen eachother in a park casually the week before, he noticed me because i had a cast on my arm, bike accident, lol), and after a week of really nice conversations we arranged a first date. we just met on the street and started walking and talking so much. i thought it was funny that the first thing he did was kind of playfully make fun of me because i decided where to meet thinking it was a middle point between our houses but i really miscalculated and ended up walking much more than him, it was silly but if felt like if we already knew eachother and already joked around. we ended up drinking a beer on a random bar, and we were super hungry but the kitchen was closed. after we left i accompanied him to his house. we didn't kiss or anything, but everything was so cute and comfortable. and after the date i immediately though "oh, i hope he doesn't start playing around and like, not texting me so i have to text him first" and all those games a lot of people kind of play to get your attention when you're dating, but as soon as i got home he texted me to tell me that he was happy because his roomates cooked dinner and he thought it was cute that i accompanied him to his house kind of traditional roles reversed. and that was it :)
@@sungexpression9093 work on being a more interesting person then! Women hate dating too, because dudes are goofy and boring or need to go to a therapist or are just plain difficult people (just like women). Trust me, there’s demand.
Dating is supposed to be bad, Noah Samsung. God. That's what the manosphallus has told me. I always have to equip tacticool armor and yell commands in reaction to anything a womangeh says to me. I am always prepared. I am literally in warzone at all times. That's how the manospfinger has taught me to be a totally secure alpha male.
Yes! The boba one is so accurate! I just went on a boba outing with someone I met online. We chatted about philosophies of life, friend groups, living in the city for college, and all sorts of other things. It was great! I also like the point about how you can have a good time and not continue a relationship. It's totally normal to enjoy an experience but not seek it out again and just appreciate it for what it was.
Regarding the dating not going anywhere I've always said date for memories, not mammaries. As long as we had a fun time, it was a success. Not every date has to end in a relationship or sex or even a friendship. Often, just having a fun time with someone new is enough.
older guy here. had an encounter at a bar with a great woman [lasted prolly only 10 - 15 min.] exchanged numbers, but rather than pursue anything more, i treasured it for what it was, an immensely stimulating exchange that needn't go further. It was the first time i'd appreciated it for what it was and didn't want to essentially ruin the magic of that night. =D. gettin' older, feeling wisdom. .
to the boobs or butts question, my answer has always been "hips, like that little dip that's almost like a handle, yeah that's my thing, it's not even a sexual thing, i just really enjoying being the big spoon.." typically leads to a fun conversation, now 10 years into my relationship with my wife, if my hand isn't there while laying on the couch, or even before bed if we're spooned up; a jovial poke is made in my direction.
@@livelaughlove0209 i know it's a lot harder to do than it is to say, but don't worry about self conscious thoughts and do you best to ignore them. we're certainly not all made to be attractive to everyone, but from your slight descriptive, and tiny profile picture (assuming it's you lol) you've most certainly got far more wanting to hold those hip dips than not. ;)
@@Frankthegb i'm sorry, who spoke to you? quite literally no one asked for your smarmy response. maybe social media websites aren't for you mate; as clearly you think you're the main character.
I left a really unhealthy long term relationship that has in some ways caused me to have fears about dating and warped my perception of what a good partner is supposed to be. It is hard for me to fathom sometimes how people can be so happy in a relationship and it saddens me that I'm even confused about it. So, I'm working on myself now to try to be prepared for when I potentially meet someone special. I have faith and hope that one day I'll get to be in a relationship like the ones I see in this comment section, they warm my heart to read them :)
Sounds weird, but when I first met my partner online and saw that he was one town over, I just had to meet him even if it was the middle of the night. So I snuck out of the house, met him at a gas station to pick him up and we rode around some backroads singing along to Cage the Elephant. Not only did I hear what a beautiful voice he has, we got to talking and realizing how much we had in common, and I saw what a beautiful person he was. We went to a park that night, but while we were alone and vulnerable, he just held my hand. I told him I wasn’t ready to kiss, and he respected that. He was so attentive and gentle, I actually changed my mind and did want to kiss him, but I waited until I took him back to his car where I picked him up. 2 years later, we’re living together and planning our future! Anyway, weird origin story but he has always passed the vibe check ❤
The very first thing my current boyfriend asked me was “did you read homestuck in middle school? You look like you read homestuck in middle school” And we’ve been dating for almost a year lmaoooo
I decided I was done with okcupid and match. Done looking for a relationship and I just wanted a friend so I downloaded Tinder. I met my now husband on the first date I went on using that platform....after years of countless, pointless dates using the more relationship oriented platform. Go figure. We're about to hit 7 years and it just keeps getting better. He's the GOAT. People think we met organically but nope, Tinder. Freaking Tinder. It's even weirder because we both had our settings to 5 miles and we lived in different states and it was fluke that we even matched. We've been having a stream of consciousness convo ever since we made contact and are best buds. So don't give up! The only way out is through. Each bad date is one step closer to the right date.
@@annnee6818 Yea I mess with tinder passport sometimes but sadly it's mostly Asian ladies with minimal English trying to probably sextort me while I Turing test them 😅
@JesusHammer already did that once. It's somehow a thing I highly recommend and give zero stars at the same time. Never thought I'd do it again. We do it nice because we do it twice? Partner is also divorced so we're equally skeptical.
Hearing about this made me think about my dating story. Think I'll share it here 😊 I had come out of a relationship with my first boyfriend so I was feeling pretty down in the dumps. I had been following this one guy on Instagram but we weren't friends, just liking each other's posts. I saw that he was posting about how sad he was that his partner was leaving the country and that they were going their separate ways and I sent him a DM saying I how terribly sad his story was. He asked me to meet up for lunch and I found out that I was workings near where he lived, so I said sure. On our lunch date we got to talking about relationships and learning about how we went to the same university and came from rival boys schools. But what really surprised me was that we had dated the same guy. We've been together for seven years. ❤
I could not agree more about chorge being amazing bonding time. Simply being in my partner's presence makes chorge fly by and genuinely enjoyable. Before we started living together, she would come with me when I needed to go grocery shopping for my place. She made grocery night into my favorite day of the week. I'm immensely grateful to have her in my life.
I've got one, I met someone in one of my college classes that I pretty immediately found interesting. After being friends for a while I had come to the conclusion she was gay, and (as a straight guy) probably not into me, which was fine, she's a damn good friend regardless and worth every bit to me as one of those as she would be a partner. We talk a bit more, and sexuality eventually comes up. Turns out she's bi. I pretty immediately fess up that I'm really into her. We schedule an actual date rather than our usual hangouts, a picnic. I spent an entire day making food and all of it turns out really good (I'm the lead cook at a pretty nice sit down place, I kinda know my shit), despite myself being sleep deprived as all hell (it's finals week at this point) and making 3 different dishes at the same time. We meet at this park and just talk for hours (basically our typical routine) and then that was it. I didn't get a hug, didn't kiss her, didn't even remotely flirt because I'm bad at it, but it just felt like it was clicking and that I didn't need to. I see her the following week and she tackle-hugs me, we talk for hours, just lost in thought and enjoying each others' presence. I think things are going well and that's just hard for me to wrap my head around but I have a good feeling about her
As a french Canadian earrings Noah trying to say les foufounes électriques (which say sparky butt or electric butt, it’s a punk/goth bar⚡️) made me laugh and made my day . Thank you Noah to be a breath of fresh air ✨🖤
aw, it would be great if you kept doing these, not only bc they're very wholesome but also selfishly bc i'm still kinda hoping my story will make it in even though i made it unfortunately way too long. but iirc i talked about disability and transness suddenly "showing up" in a relationship and i think especially wrt to continuous pandemic eugenics and the insane rise of transphobia in several countries, it is important to message to people that disability and transness don't preclude you from love. ok sorry for that ramble lol. really enjoyed the video!
This sounds like a great story!!! It's unfortunate that it wasn't featured in the video but, I'll be crossing my fingers that there is another video and crossing my fingers that all goes well for you! Just in general lol.
The moment I began to really enjoy dating- and the moment when i became ready for a serious relationship- was when I started veiwing dating as a way to meet and get to know awesome women, without caring what came from it.
I gave up on dating due to how awful all my past relationships went. I don’t think there was ever time I wasn’t being abused, r’d, lied to, or cheated on and it’s lead me to become very anxious and distrusting of new people. I’ve grown to hate being touched or engage in anything physical too. Why risk being broken over and over again when you can just be alone.
I can actually answer your question. To find happiness, im not saying you should start dating again thats your choice but thats the answer. Its a risk and if that risk pays off you get a huge reward but again you dont have to take that risk. You can be happy by yourself as well tho.
@@hamchurger4566 That and therapy. Unlike some, I don’t view it as “women bad” or it being the fault of women in general, but as “bad luck/bad people.” I’ve had good dates with good people that just didn’t pan out, and then I went through a streak of awful human beings who took advantage of me. This is more a reply to that other guy bringing up statistics.
I have a great dating experience to share! Years ago, I (het cis-male) was out with a buddy of mine at the bump 'n grind dance night at a local bar, when from across the room, a woman started giving me eyes. I eventually asked her to dance, and we closed out the bar. I asked to give her my number, but she said she didn't have her phone on her, so instead she gave me hers. I texted her when I got home, and she congratulated me on getting her real number! But it was, like, the day before a trip back home (thousands of miles away) for a couple weeks, so I thought that perhaps the timing was off. A week later, she texted me to let me know that she enjoyed meeting me and wanted to go dancing again. It just made me feel really nice to have her reach out and express interest directly. Just shy of 11 years later, we are married and had our first child--a daughter--last year. She is the love of my life. Thank you for being a loud and proud representative for feminist masculinity in the world--you are really appreciated!
lmao any time I meet a girl for the first time on a dating app, I just tell her I wanna get smn to eat and then we can chill and just talk, and it always lasts all night
@@_utahraptor I just kinda let my personality do the talking, I’ll start off with some more basic style questions and kind of feel out their humor and interests, flirting also helps gauge how their feeling about your date is feeling about you based on how they react to flirty verbal advancements. Almost all of the women I’ve gone out with have lots of personality, just make sure you get to know them before going on dates, like through facetiming and extensive texting because a lot of times, the personality is being held back by general nervousness
@@blakk6lass that just sounds like you're a more fluid and extroverted kind of person. i am shy and takes me time to bond and open up to others. ive also not done any flirting ever (what ive tried cannot possibly be called flirting lol) and i know if I tried itd be awkward. sounds like im set for failure
@@_utahraptor it’s funny because I’m genuinely a very introverted and socially anxious person, but in 1 on 1 situations where I don’t have to be afraid of judgement from surrounding people, I feel like I can be myself freely. I’m sure if you go on more dates, and more specifically *extensively get to know the person before the date*, you 2 will 100% be more comfortable and open with eachother when meeting in person
@@_utahraptor my biggest advice to you is seriously that you should text and facetime your potential partner a lot before you go on a date with them, you’re not set for failure
yeah people are not an equation whose formulae are meant to be found out, if you were looking for a way to "do it right" and automatically have your date progress then you were looking at it completely wrong in the first place
this is what im talking about - setting up the expectation that anything less than long term relationships is “going nowhere” makes it so hard to just enjoy time spent with someone. obviously if the goal is long term then that’s a requirement for you and that’s fine. but you’re not entitled to that just by “doing everything right”
@@NoahSamsen I’m not the kind of person that feels “entitled” to another. I’m just drained from being abandoned by friend after friend. No matter how personable I am, no matter how much they say they enjoy my company. The ones I enjoy talking to the almost always disappear. I try so hard to do everything to be as likable as possible, I even go out of my way to consul them when they are upset. I have no right to their time but I don’t like losing people that I spent so long letting them know me. Going on a date would be extremely difficult for me and for all my effort to just result in another lost peer, it would just syphon me down to a husk. I hold nothing against those who have ditched me, because it wasn’t their fault because the common denominator is me and I haven’t been able to figure out how to get it to stop no matter how hard I try.
Okay, I see where you’re coming from. I don’t mean to try to force positivity down your throat when you’re clearly going thru it and have negative feelings about relationships. But what I’m trying to say in the video is that there’s good moments in life with people despite those moments ending. That’s all
@@NoahSamsen While OP's comment on its face is entitled, there is an underlying frustration that I do understand. However frustration does not mean that youve been actually harmed. But the reality is that if someone does want something serious, then dating can be very grueling at times. We are all busy so making time for a date is one hurdle, and still in many situations it is expected that men pay (I'm a guy and while many women have offered to pay the vast majority of dates there was just this silent expectation that I'd pull out my wallet and pay) and this can be very expensive over time as well. Even coffee dates over time can really add up, and there arent a lot of very fun free things to do especially depending on what city/area youre in. So when you are on a date and youve put in time and some of your own resources both monetary and emotional to go on a date and it goes well just for it to not land anywhere is a bit sucky and can really eat at your self-esteem. Not only that, but if you are someone who doesnt necessarily have people lining up at the door for them then this like once every few months or year date could make that feeling of frustration extra sucky. Bottom line, no one is entitled to a specific outcome in the realm of dating other than respect, but I certainly can see how a story of a great date that went nowhere could be not an exactly positive outcome for a lot of people.
I met a young lady off of tinder we agreed to meet at a hooka bar. We talked, laughed and smoked. We agreed to go back to my house and hook up, then I drove her home. She might not even remember who I am today but I'll never forget her.
I'm watching this over a year into my relationship and just under a year since we moved in together. I've had so many short and long term relationships since I was 17 (10 long years), and I am my boyfriend's first girlfriend as an adult at 24. We've got a relationship built on friendship and trust, and he's among my best friends! Broke my cardinal rule to not date coworkers with him, but it's left me with a huge dork who's intensely compatible with me, so live and let live. I would not label quite all of the past relationships I've had as bad - just most of them. I've learned that it's obvious when someone doesn't actually like you for you, and you should not settle for someone who doesn't actually value you or your time.
I send a lot of time in my own head , so it makes it's hard to externalize my feelings and kinda derails any attempts to ask someone out ; so I've just accepted my isolation (negative feedback loop)
I've been watching my friend hit the online dating scene after extracting herself from a garbage longterm relationship. It's been dud date after dud date for months until she suddenly met this guy that she just vibes with. It's great seeing her light up when she talks about this guy. We're really hoping this is the one. She deserves it after what her ex put her through.
i went on the best date of my life yesterday and i’m so giddy i wanted to share!! my friend left my instagram handle on her hinge profile bc we were swiping together, and we just clicked immediately through text. when i saw her in person she was just the kindest soul and a really good listener. i feel like in general i do all the listening to other people in my life so i felt so special and appreciated, and she said she felt the same way because i went out of my way to pursue her. the date was almost 4 hours, and immediately after leaving she texted me to set up our next date for wednesday!! i’m so over the moon bc it feels so hard to find other queer girls where i live and she’s so exactly my type. anyway, i have no idea if it’ll go anywhere but i’m very glad that i went!!! this video made me so happy!
do not date. but do not become misogynist or blackpill either. move to wyoming. become a hippy cowboy. roam free on the plains and sing carefree songs on the range as you guide the cattle. only engage with short term, spontaneous relationships. whistle constantly. be subtly dominant around other men by constantly chewing either tobacco or gum (everyone knows the head cow is always grazing). write free verse poetry. spend hot summer days lying against the trunk of a lone oak tree, with your cowboy hat lazily drooping over the front of your head while you drift in and out of sleep. this is the way (listen to "Cowpoke" by Colter Wall on repeat)
I found a silly tumblr account that turned out to be an ARG* It was run by one person, and mostly focused on them playing 3 characters. bc it was small, there was a lot of one on one roleplay between the players and the host's characters, including one i jokingly flirted with. me and the host actually become friends, and they've been my best friend of 3 years, girlfriend of 6 months, and they live a few states over, but we're hoping to move in together as soon as we get the funds. *an ARG is a story constructed by one person or a group of people, where participants solve puzzles and interact with the creator(s) in order to advance the plot in real time
From my perspective, the key to dating is just respect, show the person you're dating the same amount of respect they are showing you and a little bit more, if they are the right kind of person they will try to match that respect and it will keep growing for both of you as you grow together, if they are the wrong type of person they wont match you or demand more, these people are usually very emotionally immature and toxic and not worth your time, a relationship where there is an unequal amount of respect will almost always fails cause of cheating, neglect, abuse etc. The thing I hate the most about the internet and modern dating is both men and women are exposed to a unlimited amount of weird "Queen" / "Redpill" content that basically tells them that they deserve all the respect by default, this leads to todays issue where so many people aren't really emotionally mature enough to be in a relationship and just lash out at the other group its crazy you see it the most with people in their 20's which I'm about to be in. Just be respectful and also have some respect for yourself to leave someone when they don't respect you enough but not to the point where you believe you deserve respect, and most importantly subscribe to Noah Samsen.
Hi Noah! I'll try my best to not make this too long, but I just love my partner so much I tend to go overboard when talking about him. So about 3 years ago I was in a not great place, just kinda depressed and feeling worthless... I was just browsing Tumblr and happened to notice one of my mutual followers left a pretty silly tag on this post, so I took a chance and reached out to them via chat. We talked about so much, both serious and lighthearted... I felt this inexplicable sense of comfort and joy whenever there was a new message to read from him. We began talking daily, and eventually the conversation turned from casual into something more flirty... then, one day, he asked me if I'd be comfortable with him taking a plane to come visit me. He lives in Texas, I live in Ohio so it wasn't exactly cheap or easy to see eachother in the flesh... I actually had an ex from Texas and was worried that this would be a repeat of the last time... but he really took the time to consider my feelings and ensure that it was just to see if we could be serious about a future together. He paid for the ride up here and the hotel, I paid for food and drove us around in my car during the time he was here. I picked him up from the airport, and he joked about how shocked he was that I wasn't a catfish, I joked right back saying it was amazing he wasn't either... the attraction was palpable, we had our first kiss in the car, out in the parking garage of the airport just moments later! It was incredibly healing and so much fun getting to explore the city with him, we went on a few dates doing things like picking eachother paint chips in home depot, or walking through the park (it was early november so the trees were beautiful). I was so upset when he had to go home, we mutually agreed that we were a good fit, so much so that it was unlike any time we dated others... he later told me something he was feeling that I also had thought: he and I were previously ready to accept that life would be better alone, and that things like this were just exaggerations, but that all changed once we met. I'm still dating him to this day! I've been down to Texas to meet his family, he has plans to come up here again this summer and we're in the process of looking for a place to move in together. I'm currently a psych student in college, and having him cheer me on has made what once seemed impossible now feasible. We both agree that it's only a matter of time before we get married 💖 can you keep a secret? I'm already looking at possible engagement rings to get him. I'm so happy that I met the love of my life by chance on a whim, it's pure serendipity. Thanks for reading, I really hope everyone gets to have a love like this 💖
I went on a really nice date with my partner tonight. I'm about to leave town for an extended period of time, so we went to the store and they bought me a hat and a pocket knife for the trip, and then bought us dinner. It wasn't anything super extravagant, but just spending chill time with them and eating some nice food and them doing something nice and supportive for me made me feel good. We talked about how much we were going to miss each other and it was bittersweet but reassuring.
Still can’t understand why a bunch of 40 year old men who have never been married or had a genuine relationship are being propped up by all this alpha male red pill crap. Sad a bunch of young dudes watch that crap. They legit say the same thing over and over and over “high value male blah blah blah” It’s insanely cringe, but they’re just confirming biases of insecure people
Speaking from the perspective of a cis gendered het man. I think that a lot of the advice taken from these stories is cool but I think that it mostly applies to certain groups/larger communities of men and women. For instance there are tons of circles of women I know for which making a move on the first date would be seen as sleazy and would turn them off to a guy, and there are other circles which will see a guy not trying to make a first move as a sign that the guy isnt very interested or maybe even wasnt confident enough to do so and either of those can turn them off as well. I'm specifically thinking about the car boba story, I thought to myself "and what if the guy did try to make a move, would that have been bad of him to do?" and I kind of realized that in all likelihood that whether she wanted him to ultimately make a move or not, she probably (I am not speaking in certainties) would not have been the first person to push that situation along and would have expected him to either push the envelope, or not. I think that the issue is that because men are seen as the pursuers in a lot of these interactions, men are expected to push the situation along to something more physical/sexual if it is to happen, and from my own personal experience women can have some difficulty communicating exactly what they want or are expecting out of a situation because of various societal messages ingrained. I think a lot of people are getting better at having conversations about intentions and boundaries, but from my experience this is certainly not everyone, or even most people. So there currently is basically a heterosexual dating dynamic in which men are expected to be the ones who approach and make a move if there is a move to be made, and women have a lot of pressure which prevents them from doing so themselves in a lot of situations. Both parties are not communicating with each other, and due to miscommunication, nonaligned expectations, and various social scripts we all have dating can really just be a mess of a time.
Yeah I'm a cis woman and as much as I would like to, I will probably never ask a guy out or make the first move. Everyone (men and women) IRL I've ever asked about it has told me it comes across as being "easy" and "too eager" and you risk being seen as "one night stand" type of material. It's still super prevalent - even if there are women who want to do it (like me), they probably won't. Unless you're in a social group that's super ultra peak progressive of course, but if you aren't it's not the best idea (in my experience) bc of how society views women who do that, and that cultural brainwashing is deeply deeply embedded even in generally left wing/progressive men.
The font joke got me 😂I'm not into graphic design but I am an amateur calligrapher and an aspiring librarian studying the History of Books (fonts are included in the material I gotta study)
good advice in these stories, the guy who was shy and didnt want to choose bobalangs or peach (dont wanna get comment filtered) was really nice to hear
My "first date" with my first and current partner of 2 years was like 3 months of pain, exhaustion, sweating, stress, and probably developing skin cancer one summer in 2021 doing drum corps. We already saw the worst of each other (and went "ehh... that ain't that bad actually") before getting to see the best. The following months when he went back to his home in Missouri and mine in Florida were shitty but one day in Missouri while visiting him in person, as the time for my flight back home grew ever closer, I decided "Actually... why go back? There's not much for me there" and here we are. :> Getting to learn about who he really was in the real world, outside of a very demanding and monitored drum corps setting, was really fun and interesting. It's like he just keeps getting better and better with each passing day. He grew up very differently than I did so he brings new concepts and ideas into the mix that I would have otherwise never though of or done, keeping both of our lives interesting. And also uh did I mention I love this man very much
I know no one will read this comment but I just want to share my opinion on this: the first anecdote about the bisexual lady asking that "tits or ass?" question and the way in which she presses on for an answer bothers me. The "choose between a girl with a perfect butt but a flat chest" or the reverse. I find it weird that having small boobs is somehow seen as an inherent "flaw" that must be rectified through plastic surgery or at least be ashamed of. It's even more weird that she's insinuating that small boobs are no one's preferences ("perfect butt *but* a flat chest"); which is not true, otherwise no one with small boobs would still exist in 2023. The same applies for the "but with a flatt butt" part. Just because it's the current trend right now to have a big bubble butt doesn't mean a flat butt is inherently ugly or a flaw? This just seems like thinly veiled body shaming. I mean, wouldn't it sound weird if I asked "would you date someone if she was the perfect girl *but* she weighs over 110 lbs?" In my example, it's being insinuated that being over a certain weight is a detriment to someone's 'perfection'. So if that example sounded weird, then why is it seen as okay to shame people for having natural features (in this instance, a small chest and a small butt) they're born with? Why is it socially acceptable to call those features ugly? I simply don't understand.
I met my bf on tinder and it felt like were the same person. We hit it off immediately. On our first date we got Starbucks and hung out in a public area at our university. We showed each other cringe and funny videos the entire time. :) We've been together 4 years.
I ask tits or ass, even on platonic dates with friends cause i think it's a funny question , i don't really care about the answer. I have never had anyone of any gender or orientation respond that way
Honestly would you even want such a boring answer? IMO it only worked because he seriously blushed. Most people would not, and it serves no point to feign disinterest in sex, especially since in most cases it will be dishonest. We can be interested in sex and still not sexually assault our dates, I swear. It's not unheard of, most humans are capable of it. And I would assume that yes the actual choice doesn't matter, the fun/funny part would be listening to how they argument for one thing over the other.
it’s absolutely true though that the fact that a man not trying anything his first time meeting you is insane. before my current boyfriend, especially as a frequent tinder user, that was all i had ever known. similar to the girls story, we met on tinder, and the first time we’d ever hung out was for about 5-6 hours just talking and listening to music. we also sat 4 feet apart on his bed and didn’t look at each other because we were both scared lol. after i had actually been afraid he didn’t like me solely because he didn’t try to make a move on me, which is insane. anyway we’ve been together four months now
These stories are survivorship bias, there are people who did the same thing and weren't successful. Also we don't know the attractiveness and social skills of people in the story
@@sp123 Because if you're interacting with another human being and your only metric for weather or not that interaction was a success was "did we fuck" or "did it lead to a litteraly permanent death do us part relationship." then You've missed the point of human interaction. Did you get to spend time with an interesting person? Did you get to know someone else just a little bit? Did you have a good time? Appreciate it for what it is and move on. And if you're goal is just to hook up, then literally that's just the game. Getting rejected or it not working out is just part of it, the best looking lotharios in the world still get rejected more often than not, they just don't get hung up and weird about it and and move on.
Sorry if this is toxic but hearing about people's successful relationships makes me feel really frustrated and angry. It seems so easy for other people and im over here trying dating apps feeling really rejected and unwanted.
W*men aren't on the apps because they're looking for dates, they're on the apps because of the confidence boost they get from the constant stream of free male attention and validation. 98% of men have no luck there. There probably ain't even anything wrong with you. The problem is on the other end, just remember that. these apps will destroy your self esteem if you use them without understanding that.
don’t listen to theodore, they’re an example of how insecurity and feelings of failure can snowball into extreme hatred. i felt the same as you do, it honestly felt like nothing was going well in terms of romance. it helps to develop or further some hobbies, consistent exercise and joining programs of interest. just getting involved into things socially or working on what you love. i wasn’t in a safe mental space, and if i was in a relationship, it is possible it would’ve soured. first, make it your priority to do things that you love for yourself, because you can only get into a stable, loving relationship if each person is in top form mentally.
@@hikawagetsbitches I can't even see their comment, I can see that there are 2 replies but it must've gotten blocked automatically for me or something idk UA-cam is being weird. Thanks I really appreciate you writing that all out for me. I have been doing hobbies and exercising for myself, I've gotten really into Muay Thai for a few months now. And I've been going to therapy too to work on my anxiety and mental health. Trying to date and form relationships is just really frustrating when it seems like no one's interested in you.
@@hikawagetsbitches Theodore's post was more anti-dating app than anti-woman. Sure the comment reeks of spite, but it's hard to argue it's actually wrong.
My best date was watching the film Your Name. I’d known this guy for years before that point and we’d both been interested but I was too shy to speak to him properly. I’d only seen his witty, intelligent, strong, protective side before this. So, when he started tearing up near the end, I felt really reassured that my emotions would be safe with him. We cried together and then I opened up for the first time. By the end of the night, I was talking way more than before - even though he’d been trying to draw answers out of my shy self up until this point. I’d asked him hundreds of questions, we laughed, joked and just enjoyed each other’s company. It was so refreshing to see him be vulnerable. Anyway, we’re getting married in a month after over 4 years together and now I won’t stfu with him
love hearing about normal people having a normal one
As an aroace person viewing this video you have captured my feeling precisely
Must be chill!
Normal people are my biggest kink
@@glacuonie mmmmm stable behavior mmmm
I stop dating 20 years ago. No point!
I got married
Great first dates that don't bloom into anything romantic can lead to rad platonic relationships.
radioactive
@@hyperboliccancers3269 imagine dragons reference????
Or just a good time even if you don’t meet up or speak again. It’s nice to just do something social and have a good time even if it doesn’t blossom into a romance or friendship.
@ApplesWithPeanutButter Right! It’s the polite way of telling somebody to fuck off.
@ApplesWithPeanutButter you could refute every comment that way. I didn't use a constant.
My most memorable first date ended in the hospital. I was trying to prove to this guy how cool I was by going longboarding. Ate shit, busted my ankle, completely embarrassed myself.
We've been married for 5 years and go longboarding every year on our anniversary.
Ouch! too bad you fucked you fucked up your ankle, sounds like it was worth it tho🙃
I guess pain is worth it sometimes huh!
Did you get better at longboarding though?
How special most people aren’t going to have a wholesome story like that big ups
@@annak.9712 Definitely, I've gotten better over the years! Can't always keep up with him though. But he's definitely showed me how to push myself in a healthy way haha
I thought dating was meant to be an elaborate display ritual involving showing ones brightly coloured feathers and presenting shiny objects to a possible partner. At least thats what the patriarchy taught me
Don't let this nerd fool you. Women LOVE it when you bring them bits of tinfoil and loose change.
thank you for this video. i just broke up with my first love. he was my first kiss, my first long relationship, my first everything. i loved him and valued our time together. he ended things after he came to terms with finding out he is aromantic. he did g want to keep lying about how he felt and thought i deserved someone who could love me. i miss him, but i’m grateful for the time we spent together, and this video helps me cherish the great dates we went on. thank you noah
First but far from last.
Days will come better than days past.
Your experiences prepare you for new ventures in the bright future before you.
Happy days never come only once.
The good times are a constant stream with hardships wedged in between.
Sadness is never the end,
With happiness just around the bend.
@@lazarusthibodeaux this is beautiful!
What does _"someone who could love you"_ mean? Did he think that he was incapable considering what is in your best interest in addition to his own or did he think that love is an emotion felt when the brain flooded by a bunch of chemicals?
@ i assume he meant he wished romantic love for her as opposed to platonic love
@ its like someone barely tolerating your presence compared to someone who is excited to see and speak with you every time. one has the capacity to love , the other is most likely incapable of engaging in relationships for anything other than profit motives.
Listen, I'm not good at conversations. I just like sharing random facts and funny things i find. And in our wedding speech which the officiant read, we decided to each write a little thing we loved about each other. I mentioned his calm nature and smarts. He wrote "i love that you send me copious amount of memes on discord"
Big love is really small, actually
having a good meme game is vital in todays relationships. i agree with his findings
I ruined 69 likes for this I hope you're happy
@@mackieincsouthsea Don't worry, I celebrated the moment while it lasted
THANKS NOAH CANT WAIT TO MAKE OUT WITH WOMEN NOW
can I join
men also 😗
The dating part is the easy part, the finding a person who would like to go out on said date is Ultra Violence difficulty.
Difficulty: ULTRAKILL MUST DIE
hearing about dates that went well but didn't lead to anything more is actually really comforting and takes so much pressure off the idea of dating
a noah samsen video?? on MY day off??
how can it be your day off if it's MY day off
what are y'all doing on my computer????
@@kardemomme7896
Noah said it's my turn on the puter
dating isn't really possible when i'm too disabled and legislated poverty keeps me pretty much stranded in my tiny town and never really leaving my house, because pain and poverty don't exactly motivate me to do anything but bare survival.
that's so rough, i hope somehow someone can come into your life and you can find the love that you are looking for. in the meantime, i'm proud of u for hanging in there despite everything💜
Really sucks. I'm sorry the world is stupid.
For dates: I met my wife because we watched the same streamers on Twitch. They lived in the US and me in Europe. So all of our dates were online (while playing minecraft together or watching movies together) for literally months. We became a couple without ever meeting in person. We met irl about a year later when I was finally able to travel to meet them. I don't know if this is useful at all, just wanted to say that dating online/long distance is possible.
Man that sucks, I wish I could help you out. I’m sending you much love, I’m also proud of you for pushing through. 💛
My girlfriend finds herself in this situation. I met her in high school around 7 years ago, before it really had an effect on her ability to do things independently. In the later years, she came to school less and less. We still spent a lot of time with each other, as much as was possible since we both lived far from school and far from each other without access to transportation. We would flirt in class, talk to each other while waiting for rides home, and go on informal dates walking around town. After my graduation year, we had sporadic contact with each other, talking on and off through text and phone calls. Until one day in December, after around 11 months of no contact, she reached out to me, on an occasion I had a strong urge to reach out to her, but she beat me to it. We started talking again, making up for lost time with my dearest friend. We played games together. At this point I now live around 700 miles away so we're very isolated from each other. It had been about 4 years since we last saw each other in person, since the last hug. We talked about love for each other and wanting to be together. So, in February, I took a train 14 hours to be with her for a little more than 3 weeks. We spent a lot of time together, going on some dates in town when we were both feeling okay to. We mostly stayed in though. Being together is enough for us. When I came back from the trip, she decided she wanted to come visit me. She stayed with me for a week, it was really hard for her and I'm so proud of her for making it that far. I really need to make my way back over to her so we can be together for much longer, in our hometown where we feel most belonging. We're really lucky to have found each other all those years ago, and I'm so happy we met each other and got together. I think it would have been hard for us to find love away from each other. I know I can't magically will somebody to come into your life like I did with my girlfriend, but what I can do is give my girlfriend my love and make her feel safe, and I can tell you that there is hope out there for disabled people, even when the odds are stacked against you. People with disabilities deserve love.
My major depressive disorder keeps me from leaving my house, but online relationships have been wonderful. I'm not sure if that is something you are interested in exploring, but they are out there :) You can keep it online-only, or you can meet one day if that's in the cards. Online relationships are easier than ever now that video chat is so widely accessible. Disability communities are great for meeting people who understand our experiences, and I've heard of several romantic success stories coming from folks who met in the online disability community. I hope you get the love you want soon
Need one of these for us boy kissers fr fr
Hell yeah
imagine not kissing boys, couldn't be me 🙄
I love this content from you! I wanted to submit something for this video, but my dating history with my partner was mostly long distance and online, and I didn't think it would be an interesting read. But I'll share a tiny story here- she really loves Halloween and we decided to ship each other little Halloween gifts- and when we opened them up on webcam, we realized we were so on the same page that we both bought each other the same mini potions shop- for building a mini spooky town one day.
We were dating online for many years, now she's moved to Canada with me and we've been married for two years
that's a lovely story! also halloween is the greatest holiday i agree :)
I'm one of the guys that doesn't want any sexual stuff on the first date, or even the second or third. My only issue is that I can never even get a date or even matches to begin with, despite asking for advice making my profile as eye-catching as possible. Probably doesn't help that I have mundane hobbies that are nonetheless my passions. I do really want to just spend time with people regardless of where it goes, but even that seems impossible.
same here, no matches or anything along that line. I have tried approaching people in a variety of places, clubs,classes common interest clubs etc (im at college). Damn near done with my degree and I still havent had any luck. Part of me just made peace with the fact that Ill probably be alone for a while, until I figure this out, but idk. Hope things turn out better for you king
Make sure your profile clearly says “demisexual”.
With you on that one man... I don't have any advice (as I'm in the same boat), but I think we can think through this together. I think it is hard to think of ways to improve how you come off. Because often times controlling that is difficult. But I think something practical that we can all stand to help out in the realm of dating is to stop relying on profiles to be the be all, end all for us. What I mean is that dating apps are intentionally built so people who are physically attractive are the ones who receive the most attention. It is one of those things that are built into human psychology, for better or for worse.
Once we let go of dating apps and profiles, I think that by having a better sense of self we can come off better to people. It is so hard to be yourself in a society that doesn't want you to be, but I truly think that is what makes my favorite people my favorite people. To be so unmitigated and so free, it's refreshing to see and be around. I try my darnedest to be myself in all facets of life, and often times... I get tossed and rejected. But sometimes, I get exactly what I want and get to be around the people I want to be around.
So I guess... I'm curious what you find mundane about your hobbies? I, personally, automatically respect people who are genuinely passionate about things. BUT that is with the caveat of that I am speaking with them face-to-face (or it practically bursts through the screen to me). I like to see passion. Is it perhaps just something you're not particularly proud of? Or is it just something that people put down? Cause if it's the latter... fuck em.
.... Sorry for the wall of text, but I keep trying to help myself out by seeing what we can all do to be just a tad bit better!
Your issue, my friend, is that you are not someone cut out for dating apps. Some people just wont find much success on dating apps for a variety of reasons. However you do sound like a very quality person. I'd say work on having good vibes, find reasons to smile every day in your life. And really work on building up your social circles. Work on being friends with more men *and* women and through your social connections try dating that way. This is how most people nowadays still find their partners. All of this is easier said than done, trust me I understand, but you will be a much better person with a much stronger community for support and companionship, even if the finding a partner component takes a while longer.
Remember, dating apps really just suck
@@win_jayden My hobbies from most time spent to least are gaming (Final Fantasy XIV mostly, I'm hardcore on there and love the story/characters), anime, long boarding, and gardening. I tend to keep my passion about the first two to a minimum, but I can't seem to grasp why. I think it's because the first two have negative stereotypes tied to them, and I fear being judged before I can speak about it.
That said, I do host a social Meetup group for ages 20-30, but less often than I want to because of severe social anxiety. I tend to get stuck on where to actually host an event because there are few 'third places' around here despite living in a populated area near a college. So far I've hosted them at coffee shops and mini golf, but those get stale quickly.
I appreciate your response! 💛
At this point in my life I've decided dating apps just aren't for me. The negatives massively outweigh the benefits. And I'm okay with maybe never dating. I know my personality isn't attractive and I can't flirt for the life of me. If it ever happens, it's a cool bonus, I guess. But I'm happy with just having good relationships with a bunch of people and going to different events to meet new ones. That's really enough. You can be satisfied with your life without dating even if you're not asexual/aromantic, as long as you have strong connections with people.
Atp i'm fine spending 2k on onlyfans, i'm just too boring n i dont like people.
@@rocatiusmatautia-solomona1314 Don't waste your money on that trash. Save it for something more useful.
brutal blackpill
you’re the first person I see taking not wanting to date in a better light. many people see dating as the ultimatum or the onus of who you are and it’s just not true. I’m glad you feel the same and that even if dating doesn’t work out just making these connections along the way is more than enough
My first date that culminated in 10 years of healthy relationship: I showed up at his doorstep with a 6-pack of beer, we had some and then went out to a local punk bar, I bought us some house drinks that were a stripy mixture of 3 liquors (named Sipsik after a rag doll from a famous children's story in our country), then we went and made some snow angels and kissed in a fountain that has a statue of a kissing couple (it was -20C so no water) :) A few years into the relationship I learned that he had gotten too drunk from the shots and actually secretly went to throw up in the toilet, like an hour before our first kiss, lol
The minute I stopped looking for a relationship and found something I truly love, someone I truly love found me. She is the best person I've ever met, always considers me and my feelings, dances with me, and treats me fully with love. I didn't need any pickup lines, any 'moves'. We found each other and after hanging out we fell very quickly.
i met the guy i've been dating for like 2 years now through okcupid. we started talking (and realized that we had seen eachother in a park casually the week before, he noticed me because i had a cast on my arm, bike accident, lol), and after a week of really nice conversations we arranged a first date. we just met on the street and started walking and talking so much. i thought it was funny that the first thing he did was kind of playfully make fun of me because i decided where to meet thinking it was a middle point between our houses but i really miscalculated and ended up walking much more than him, it was silly but if felt like if we already knew eachother and already joked around. we ended up drinking a beer on a random bar, and we were super hungry but the kitchen was closed. after we left i accompanied him to his house. we didn't kiss or anything, but everything was so cute and comfortable. and after the date i immediately though "oh, i hope he doesn't start playing around and like, not texting me so i have to text him first" and all those games a lot of people kind of play to get your attention when you're dating, but as soon as i got home he texted me to tell me that he was happy because his roomates cooked dinner and he thought it was cute that i accompanied him to his house kind of traditional roles reversed. and that was it :)
Break up
Want dating to go better? Show the lady some respect. Recognize her intelligence. Have some self confidence.
But what if am lady
@@Nae_Ayy not a playable character unfortunately
People do that and still struggle.
Stop giving trite “advice”.
@@sungexpression9093 we all struggle with things
@@sungexpression9093 work on being a more interesting person then! Women hate dating too, because dudes are goofy and boring or need to go to a therapist or are just plain difficult people (just like women).
Trust me, there’s demand.
Dating is supposed to be bad, Noah Samsung. God. That's what the manosphallus has told me. I always have to equip tacticool armor and yell commands in reaction to anything a womangeh says to me. I am always prepared. I am literally in warzone at all times. That's how the manospfinger has taught me to be a totally secure alpha male.
what does these mean
@@airstrikess srry is quite obvious that u are not a real alpha male and thus why u can't comprehend basic stuff
@@airstrikess exaclty
Mmmm. None of these words are in the Bible
Good copypaste, dude, it really gives the cringey vibes
Yes! The boba one is so accurate! I just went on a boba outing with someone I met online. We chatted about philosophies of life, friend groups, living in the city for college, and all sorts of other things. It was great!
I also like the point about how you can have a good time and not continue a relationship. It's totally normal to enjoy an experience but not seek it out again and just appreciate it for what it was.
Regarding the dating not going anywhere I've always said date for memories, not mammaries. As long as we had a fun time, it was a success. Not every date has to end in a relationship or sex or even a friendship. Often, just having a fun time with someone new is enough.
older guy here. had an encounter at a bar with a great woman [lasted prolly only 10 - 15 min.] exchanged numbers, but rather than pursue anything more, i treasured it for what it was, an immensely stimulating exchange that needn't go further. It was the first time i'd appreciated it for what it was and didn't want to essentially ruin the magic of that night. =D.
gettin' older, feeling wisdom.
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to the boobs or butts question, my answer has always been "hips, like that little dip that's almost like a handle, yeah that's my thing, it's not even a sexual thing, i just really enjoying being the big spoon.." typically leads to a fun conversation, now 10 years into my relationship with my wife, if my hand isn't there while laying on the couch, or even before bed if we're spooned up; a jovial poke is made in my direction.
First time I've ever heard a man likes hip dips. As someone with giant hip dips and self conscious about them, it's nice to hear someone likes em
who asked
@@livelaughlove0209 i know it's a lot harder to do than it is to say, but don't worry about self conscious thoughts and do you best to ignore them. we're certainly not all made to be attractive to everyone, but from your slight descriptive, and tiny profile picture (assuming it's you lol) you've most certainly got far more wanting to hold those hip dips than not. ;)
@@Frankthegb i'm sorry, who spoke to you? quite literally no one asked for your smarmy response. maybe social media websites aren't for you mate; as clearly you think you're the main character.
@@Frankthegb I asked.
"masters in ed, short for Edward"
Completely took me by surprise, I'm cackle laughing. 😂
I left a really unhealthy long term relationship that has in some ways caused me to have fears about dating and warped my perception of what a good partner is supposed to be. It is hard for me to fathom sometimes how people can be so happy in a relationship and it saddens me that I'm even confused about it. So, I'm working on myself now to try to be prepared for when I potentially meet someone special. I have faith and hope that one day I'll get to be in a relationship like the ones I see in this comment section, they warm my heart to read them :)
your hair and mustache are both god tier
Sounds weird, but when I first met my partner online and saw that he was one town over, I just had to meet him even if it was the middle of the night. So I snuck out of the house, met him at a gas station to pick him up and we rode around some backroads singing along to Cage the Elephant. Not only did I hear what a beautiful voice he has, we got to talking and realizing how much we had in common, and I saw what a beautiful person he was. We went to a park that night, but while we were alone and vulnerable, he just held my hand. I told him I wasn’t ready to kiss, and he respected that. He was so attentive and gentle, I actually changed my mind and did want to kiss him, but I waited until I took him back to his car where I picked him up.
2 years later, we’re living together and planning our future! Anyway, weird origin story but he has always passed the vibe check ❤
The very first thing my current boyfriend asked me was “did you read homestuck in middle school? You look like you read homestuck in middle school”
And we’ve been dating for almost a year lmaoooo
Gonna name my son Chorge
I decided I was done with okcupid and match. Done looking for a relationship and I just wanted a friend so I downloaded Tinder. I met my now husband on the first date I went on using that platform....after years of countless, pointless dates using the more relationship oriented platform. Go figure. We're about to hit 7 years and it just keeps getting better. He's the GOAT. People think we met organically but nope, Tinder. Freaking Tinder. It's even weirder because we both had our settings to 5 miles and we lived in different states and it was fluke that we even matched. We've been having a stream of consciousness convo ever since we made contact and are best buds. So don't give up! The only way out is through. Each bad date is one step closer to the right date.
Tinder will literally match you with someone 6000 miles away sometimes. Lol. But good for you, glad you had luck
@@annnee6818 Yea I mess with tinder passport sometimes but sadly it's mostly Asian ladies with minimal English trying to probably sextort me while I Turing test them 😅
Get divorced
@JesusHammer already did that once. It's somehow a thing I highly recommend and give zero stars at the same time. Never thought I'd do it again. We do it nice because we do it twice? Partner is also divorced so we're equally skeptical.
Damn I'm jelly
Ngl not a fan of asking people "tits or ass" on a first date, it's pretty weird.
21st century is worse than death
Hearing about this made me think about my dating story. Think I'll share it here 😊
I had come out of a relationship with my first boyfriend so I was feeling pretty down in the dumps. I had been following this one guy on Instagram but we weren't friends, just liking each other's posts. I saw that he was posting about how sad he was that his partner was leaving the country and that they were going their separate ways and I sent him a DM saying I how terribly sad his story was. He asked me to meet up for lunch and I found out that I was workings near where he lived, so I said sure. On our lunch date we got to talking about relationships and learning about how we went to the same university and came from rival boys schools. But what really surprised me was that we had dated the same guy. We've been together for seven years. ❤
You made my morning, I really love hearing these types of stories, You gotta do more videos like this man.
It would be fun to see a twist. Like a video about a "good date" submissions that turned out to not be good at all
Nah that's cringe people watch these types of videos to have hope for the future
Seriously, dating advice is inherently cringe. It also attracts dumb takes from immature people
@@nunyabiz6532 I did not mention dating advice at any point. I just wanna see a bunch of people completely misinterpreting the vibes
I could not agree more about chorge being amazing bonding time. Simply being in my partner's presence makes chorge fly by and genuinely enjoyable.
Before we started living together, she would come with me when I needed to go grocery shopping for my place. She made grocery night into my favorite day of the week. I'm immensely grateful to have her in my life.
“speaterin-fuh-speaturing peter parker as spider and tom holland” im so proud of you for that sentence noah sandwich
I've got one, I met someone in one of my college classes that I pretty immediately found interesting. After being friends for a while I had come to the conclusion she was gay, and (as a straight guy) probably not into me, which was fine, she's a damn good friend regardless and worth every bit to me as one of those as she would be a partner. We talk a bit more, and sexuality eventually comes up. Turns out she's bi. I pretty immediately fess up that I'm really into her. We schedule an actual date rather than our usual hangouts, a picnic. I spent an entire day making food and all of it turns out really good (I'm the lead cook at a pretty nice sit down place, I kinda know my shit), despite myself being sleep deprived as all hell (it's finals week at this point) and making 3 different dishes at the same time. We meet at this park and just talk for hours (basically our typical routine) and then that was it. I didn't get a hug, didn't kiss her, didn't even remotely flirt because I'm bad at it, but it just felt like it was clicking and that I didn't need to. I see her the following week and she tackle-hugs me, we talk for hours, just lost in thought and enjoying each others' presence. I think things are going well and that's just hard for me to wrap my head around but I have a good feeling about her
The More You Noah 🌈
As a french Canadian earrings Noah trying to say les foufounes électriques (which say sparky butt or electric butt, it’s a punk/goth bar⚡️) made me laugh and made my day . Thank you Noah to be a breath of fresh air ✨🖤
same, i snorted when he said "Les Foufou-... Les f- French" and then just moved on 😂
Same, c'était trop drôle lol
aw, it would be great if you kept doing these, not only bc they're very wholesome but also selfishly bc i'm still kinda hoping my story will make it in even though i made it unfortunately way too long. but iirc i talked about disability and transness suddenly "showing up" in a relationship and i think especially wrt to continuous pandemic eugenics and the insane rise of transphobia in several countries, it is important to message to people that disability and transness don't preclude you from love. ok sorry for that ramble lol. really enjoyed the video!
This sounds like a great story!!! It's unfortunate that it wasn't featured in the video but, I'll be crossing my fingers that there is another video and crossing my fingers that all goes well for you! Just in general lol.
Nice to see a new video about a relatively wholesome situation. We need more of those.
Hello, fellow bong 🙋
i date myself.
i had a pin in high school that said "i'd date me" lol
The moment I began to really enjoy dating- and the moment when i became ready for a serious relationship- was when I started veiwing dating as a way to meet and get to know awesome women, without caring what came from it.
@@dant3175 okay incel
I gave up on dating due to how awful all my past relationships went. I don’t think there was ever time I wasn’t being abused, r’d, lied to, or cheated on and it’s lead me to become very anxious and distrusting of new people. I’ve grown to hate being touched or engage in anything physical too.
Why risk being broken over and over again when you can just be alone.
I can actually answer your question. To find happiness, im not saying you should start dating again thats your choice but thats the answer. Its a risk and if that risk pays off you get a huge reward but again you dont have to take that risk. You can be happy by yourself as well tho.
@@hamchurger4566 That and therapy. Unlike some, I don’t view it as “women bad” or it being the fault of women in general, but as “bad luck/bad people.” I’ve had good dates with good people that just didn’t pan out, and then I went through a streak of awful human beings who took advantage of me. This is more a reply to that other guy bringing up statistics.
@@whoisspencer im glad and i hope your doing better.
@Spots Corner I would say…your headed towards a sad life…but atp it’s your own fault if you choose to blame an entire gender for your own faults.
@@hamchurger4566 There is no reward it's just constant pain no matter what you do
I have a great dating experience to share!
Years ago, I (het cis-male) was out with a buddy of mine at the bump 'n grind dance night at a local bar, when from across the room, a woman started giving me eyes. I eventually asked her to dance, and we closed out the bar. I asked to give her my number, but she said she didn't have her phone on her, so instead she gave me hers. I texted her when I got home, and she congratulated me on getting her real number! But it was, like, the day before a trip back home (thousands of miles away) for a couple weeks, so I thought that perhaps the timing was off.
A week later, she texted me to let me know that she enjoyed meeting me and wanted to go dancing again. It just made me feel really nice to have her reach out and express interest directly. Just shy of 11 years later, we are married and had our first child--a daughter--last year. She is the love of my life.
Thank you for being a loud and proud representative for feminist masculinity in the world--you are really appreciated!
lmao any time I meet a girl for the first time on a dating app, I just tell her I wanna get smn to eat and then we can chill and just talk, and it always lasts all night
how. in all my dates conversations are boring and forced
@@_utahraptor I just kinda let my personality do the talking, I’ll start off with some more basic style questions and kind of feel out their humor and interests, flirting also helps gauge how their feeling about your date is feeling about you based on how they react to flirty verbal advancements. Almost all of the women I’ve gone out with have lots of personality, just make sure you get to know them before going on dates, like through facetiming and extensive texting because a lot of times, the personality is being held back by general nervousness
@@blakk6lass that just sounds like you're a more fluid and extroverted kind of person. i am shy and takes me time to bond and open up to others. ive also not done any flirting ever (what ive tried cannot possibly be called flirting lol) and i know if I tried itd be awkward. sounds like im set for failure
@@_utahraptor it’s funny because I’m genuinely a very introverted and socially anxious person, but in 1 on 1 situations where I don’t have to be afraid of judgement from surrounding people, I feel like I can be myself freely. I’m sure if you go on more dates, and more specifically *extensively get to know the person before the date*, you 2 will 100% be more comfortable and open with eachother when meeting in person
@@_utahraptor my biggest advice to you is seriously that you should text and facetime your potential partner a lot before you go on a date with them, you’re not set for failure
i appreciate the nice wholesome video for my eyes and ears. i feel like that’s rare in this community
You mean you can do everything right
and still have it go nowhere?
Very reassuring.
yeah people are not an equation whose formulae are meant to be found out, if you were looking for a way to "do it right" and automatically have your date progress then you were looking at it completely wrong in the first place
this is what im talking about - setting up the expectation that anything less than long term relationships is “going nowhere” makes it so hard to just enjoy time spent with someone. obviously if the goal is long term then that’s a requirement for you and that’s fine. but you’re not entitled to that just by “doing everything right”
@@NoahSamsen I’m not the kind of person that feels “entitled” to another.
I’m just drained from being abandoned by friend after friend. No matter how personable I am, no matter how much they say they enjoy my company.
The ones I enjoy talking to the almost always disappear.
I try so hard to do everything to be as likable as possible, I even go out of my way to consul them when they are upset.
I have no right to their time but I don’t like losing people that I spent so long letting them know me.
Going on a date would be extremely difficult for me and for all my effort to just result in another lost peer, it would just syphon me down to a husk.
I hold nothing against those who have ditched me, because it wasn’t their fault because the common denominator is me and I haven’t been able to figure out how to get it to stop no matter how hard I try.
Okay, I see where you’re coming from. I don’t mean to try to force positivity down your throat when you’re clearly going thru it and have negative feelings about relationships. But what I’m trying to say in the video is that there’s good moments in life with people despite those moments ending. That’s all
@@NoahSamsen While OP's comment on its face is entitled, there is an underlying frustration that I do understand. However frustration does not mean that youve been actually harmed. But the reality is that if someone does want something serious, then dating can be very grueling at times. We are all busy so making time for a date is one hurdle, and still in many situations it is expected that men pay (I'm a guy and while many women have offered to pay the vast majority of dates there was just this silent expectation that I'd pull out my wallet and pay) and this can be very expensive over time as well. Even coffee dates over time can really add up, and there arent a lot of very fun free things to do especially depending on what city/area youre in. So when you are on a date and youve put in time and some of your own resources both monetary and emotional to go on a date and it goes well just for it to not land anywhere is a bit sucky and can really eat at your self-esteem. Not only that, but if you are someone who doesnt necessarily have people lining up at the door for them then this like once every few months or year date could make that feeling of frustration extra sucky. Bottom line, no one is entitled to a specific outcome in the realm of dating other than respect, but I certainly can see how a story of a great date that went nowhere could be not an exactly positive outcome for a lot of people.
That play on the amen break in the outro is lovely!
3:40 - Hey, I realized I'm trans and lost 210lbs during Covid quarantine, so it was actually a positive development for some of us
certified W
Holy shit
Thank christ. This video (and that moustache) has purged my frontal lobe of garbage and turned it into a peaceful bog (with frogs)
first story reminds me of the video of a woman in this russian club and basically asks a guy this and he dead pan just goes "the soul"
came to the comments to say you have a very relaxing voice to listen to, ur vids are the best for when im stressed and need to chill and have a laugh
I met a young lady off of tinder we agreed to meet at a hooka bar. We talked, laughed and smoked. We agreed to go back to my house and hook up, then I drove her home. She might not even remember who I am today but I'll never forget her.
I'm watching this over a year into my relationship and just under a year since we moved in together. I've had so many short and long term relationships since I was 17 (10 long years), and I am my boyfriend's first girlfriend as an adult at 24. We've got a relationship built on friendship and trust, and he's among my best friends! Broke my cardinal rule to not date coworkers with him, but it's left me with a huge dork who's intensely compatible with me, so live and let live.
I would not label quite all of the past relationships I've had as bad - just most of them. I've learned that it's obvious when someone doesn't actually like you for you, and you should not settle for someone who doesn't actually value you or your time.
Already inaccurate in the first minute. I'll have you know, grilled cheese is an incredibly effective dating tactic. Smh my head.
I send a lot of time in my own head , so it makes it's hard to externalize my feelings and kinda derails any attempts to ask someone out ; so I've just accepted my isolation (negative feedback loop)
this video was super refreshing!!! thanks for making me smile
Love this, we need more positive kings giving real advice. Thanks brah
I've been watching my friend hit the online dating scene after extracting herself from a garbage longterm relationship. It's been dud date after dud date for months until she suddenly met this guy that she just vibes with. It's great seeing her light up when she talks about this guy. We're really hoping this is the one. She deserves it after what her ex put her through.
i went on the best date of my life yesterday and i’m so giddy i wanted to share!! my friend left my instagram handle on her hinge profile bc we were swiping together, and we just clicked immediately through text. when i saw her in person she was just the kindest soul and a really good listener. i feel like in general i do all the listening to other people in my life so i felt so special and appreciated, and she said she felt the same way because i went out of my way to pursue her. the date was almost 4 hours, and immediately after leaving she texted me to set up our next date for wednesday!! i’m so over the moon bc it feels so hard to find other queer girls where i live and she’s so exactly my type. anyway, i have no idea if it’ll go anywhere but i’m very glad that i went!!! this video made me so happy!
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Hope the 2nd date goes well!
Hope the second date is awful
Molly can we have an update? How did things end up going?
@@JesusHammerThat is flat, plain, disrespectful. So uncalled for, too.
lol you're funny af! I wish I had found you earlier but hey at least now I have a bunch of your work to binge
I love this series! Keep it up :)
do not date. but do not become misogynist or blackpill either. move to wyoming. become a hippy cowboy. roam free on the plains and sing carefree songs on the range as you guide the cattle. only engage with short term, spontaneous relationships. whistle constantly. be subtly dominant around other men by constantly chewing either tobacco or gum (everyone knows the head cow is always grazing). write free verse poetry. spend hot summer days lying against the trunk of a lone oak tree, with your cowboy hat lazily drooping over the front of your head while you drift in and out of sleep. this is the way (listen to "Cowpoke" by Colter Wall on repeat)
I found a silly tumblr account that turned out to be an ARG*
It was run by one person, and mostly focused on them playing 3 characters. bc it was small, there was a lot of one on one roleplay between the players and the host's characters, including one i jokingly flirted with. me and the host actually become friends, and they've been my best friend of 3 years, girlfriend of 6 months, and they live a few states over, but we're hoping to move in together as soon as we get the funds.
*an ARG is a story constructed by one person or a group of people, where participants solve puzzles and interact with the creator(s) in order to advance the plot in real time
This is so wholesome, thank you for this awesome content ❤
I’ve been waiting for this vid. Thanks for the wholesome content.
From my perspective, the key to dating is just respect, show the person you're dating the same amount of respect they are showing you and a little bit more, if they are the right kind of person they will try to match that respect and it will keep growing for both of you as you grow together, if they are the wrong type of person they wont match you or demand more, these people are usually very emotionally immature and toxic and not worth your time, a relationship where there is an unequal amount of respect will almost always fails cause of cheating, neglect, abuse etc. The thing I hate the most about the internet and modern dating is both men and women are exposed to a unlimited amount of weird "Queen" / "Redpill" content that basically tells them that they deserve all the respect by default, this leads to todays issue where so many people aren't really emotionally mature enough to be in a relationship and just lash out at the other group its crazy you see it the most with people in their 20's which I'm about to be in. Just be respectful and also have some respect for yourself to leave someone when they don't respect you enough but not to the point where you believe you deserve respect, and most importantly subscribe to Noah Samsen.
I'm noit even near the point to go on a date, I'm 22, and I never gone on a date or had a girlfriend.
Lmao at you mentioning your age as if that's gonna change at any point 😂
Hi Noah! I'll try my best to not make this too long, but I just love my partner so much I tend to go overboard when talking about him. So about 3 years ago I was in a not great place, just kinda depressed and feeling worthless... I was just browsing Tumblr and happened to notice one of my mutual followers left a pretty silly tag on this post, so I took a chance and reached out to them via chat. We talked about so much, both serious and lighthearted... I felt this inexplicable sense of comfort and joy whenever there was a new message to read from him. We began talking daily, and eventually the conversation turned from casual into something more flirty... then, one day, he asked me if I'd be comfortable with him taking a plane to come visit me. He lives in Texas, I live in Ohio so it wasn't exactly cheap or easy to see eachother in the flesh... I actually had an ex from Texas and was worried that this would be a repeat of the last time... but he really took the time to consider my feelings and ensure that it was just to see if we could be serious about a future together. He paid for the ride up here and the hotel, I paid for food and drove us around in my car during the time he was here. I picked him up from the airport, and he joked about how shocked he was that I wasn't a catfish, I joked right back saying it was amazing he wasn't either... the attraction was palpable, we had our first kiss in the car, out in the parking garage of the airport just moments later! It was incredibly healing and so much fun getting to explore the city with him, we went on a few dates doing things like picking eachother paint chips in home depot, or walking through the park (it was early november so the trees were beautiful). I was so upset when he had to go home, we mutually agreed that we were a good fit, so much so that it was unlike any time we dated others... he later told me something he was feeling that I also had thought: he and I were previously ready to accept that life would be better alone, and that things like this were just exaggerations, but that all changed once we met. I'm still dating him to this day! I've been down to Texas to meet his family, he has plans to come up here again this summer and we're in the process of looking for a place to move in together. I'm currently a psych student in college, and having him cheer me on has made what once seemed impossible now feasible. We both agree that it's only a matter of time before we get married 💖 can you keep a secret? I'm already looking at possible engagement rings to get him. I'm so happy that I met the love of my life by chance on a whim, it's pure serendipity. Thanks for reading, I really hope everyone gets to have a love like this 💖
Guy in first story who answered "right" is probably the biggest degen
I went on a really nice date with my partner tonight. I'm about to leave town for an extended period of time, so we went to the store and they bought me a hat and a pocket knife for the trip, and then bought us dinner. It wasn't anything super extravagant, but just spending chill time with them and eating some nice food and them doing something nice and supportive for me made me feel good. We talked about how much we were going to miss each other and it was bittersweet but reassuring.
Still can’t understand why a bunch of 40 year old men who have never been married or had a genuine relationship are being propped up by all this alpha male red pill crap. Sad a bunch of young dudes watch that crap. They legit say the same thing over and over and over “high value male blah blah blah”
It’s insanely cringe, but they’re just confirming biases of insecure people
That’s you in twenty years bro!
these made me smile, thank you :)
Oookay. I had to subscribe. I been lurking for a minute and just enjoy the humor too much. You've won me over Noah. *Muah*
Survival bias moment, this entire video is a survival bias moment, you've edited together a bunch of survival bias moments. smh moment.
Exactly, that's why manosphere dating coaches thriving.
Speaking from the perspective of a cis gendered het man. I think that a lot of the advice taken from these stories is cool but I think that it mostly applies to certain groups/larger communities of men and women. For instance there are tons of circles of women I know for which making a move on the first date would be seen as sleazy and would turn them off to a guy, and there are other circles which will see a guy not trying to make a first move as a sign that the guy isnt very interested or maybe even wasnt confident enough to do so and either of those can turn them off as well. I'm specifically thinking about the car boba story, I thought to myself "and what if the guy did try to make a move, would that have been bad of him to do?" and I kind of realized that in all likelihood that whether she wanted him to ultimately make a move or not, she probably (I am not speaking in certainties) would not have been the first person to push that situation along and would have expected him to either push the envelope, or not. I think that the issue is that because men are seen as the pursuers in a lot of these interactions, men are expected to push the situation along to something more physical/sexual if it is to happen, and from my own personal experience women can have some difficulty communicating exactly what they want or are expecting out of a situation because of various societal messages ingrained. I think a lot of people are getting better at having conversations about intentions and boundaries, but from my experience this is certainly not everyone, or even most people. So there currently is basically a heterosexual dating dynamic in which men are expected to be the ones who approach and make a move if there is a move to be made, and women have a lot of pressure which prevents them from doing so themselves in a lot of situations. Both parties are not communicating with each other, and due to miscommunication, nonaligned expectations, and various social scripts we all have dating can really just be a mess of a time.
Yeah I'm a cis woman and as much as I would like to, I will probably never ask a guy out or make the first move.
Everyone (men and women) IRL I've ever asked about it has told me it comes across as being "easy" and "too eager" and you risk being seen as "one night stand" type of material.
It's still super prevalent - even if there are women who want to do it (like me), they probably won't.
Unless you're in a social group that's super ultra peak progressive of course, but if you aren't it's not the best idea (in my experience) bc of how society views women who do that, and that cultural brainwashing is deeply deeply embedded even in generally left wing/progressive men.
All these stories are confirmation bias if the times a relationship worked. We don't hear about the several failures on the way there
Please keep doing these Noah!!!
The font joke got me 😂I'm not into graphic design but I am an amateur calligrapher and an aspiring librarian studying the History of Books (fonts are included in the material I gotta study)
don't have to worry about it when nobody wants to date you
Oof. I dont even know what I want from people anymore. Dating sounds perilously exhausting.
good advice in these stories, the guy who was shy and didnt want to choose bobalangs or peach (dont wanna get comment filtered) was really nice to hear
My "first date" with my first and current partner of 2 years was like 3 months of pain, exhaustion, sweating, stress, and probably developing skin cancer one summer in 2021 doing drum corps. We already saw the worst of each other (and went "ehh... that ain't that bad actually") before getting to see the best. The following months when he went back to his home in Missouri and mine in Florida were shitty but one day in Missouri while visiting him in person, as the time for my flight back home grew ever closer, I decided "Actually... why go back? There's not much for me there" and here we are. :> Getting to learn about who he really was in the real world, outside of a very demanding and monitored drum corps setting, was really fun and interesting. It's like he just keeps getting better and better with each passing day. He grew up very differently than I did so he brings new concepts and ideas into the mix that I would have otherwise never though of or done, keeping both of our lives interesting. And also uh did I mention I love this man very much
I know no one will read this comment but I just want to share my opinion on this: the first anecdote about the bisexual lady asking that "tits or ass?" question and the way in which she presses on for an answer bothers me. The "choose between a girl with a perfect butt but a flat chest" or the reverse. I find it weird that having small boobs is somehow seen as an inherent "flaw" that must be rectified through plastic surgery or at least be ashamed of. It's even more weird that she's insinuating that small boobs are no one's preferences ("perfect butt *but* a flat chest"); which is not true, otherwise no one with small boobs would still exist in 2023. The same applies for the "but with a flatt butt" part. Just because it's the current trend right now to have a big bubble butt doesn't mean a flat butt is inherently ugly or a flaw? This just seems like thinly veiled body shaming. I mean, wouldn't it sound weird if I asked "would you date someone if she was the perfect girl *but* she weighs over 110 lbs?" In my example, it's being insinuated that being over a certain weight is a detriment to someone's 'perfection'. So if that example sounded weird, then why is it seen as okay to shame people for having natural features (in this instance, a small chest and a small butt) they're born with? Why is it socially acceptable to call those features ugly? I simply don't understand.
I should send this to an Andrew Tate stan I met last week while hiking...
The poolhall/cookie monster shirt story has such small town vibes.
The direction this channel has been going is really nice
I met my bf on tinder and it felt like were the same person. We hit it off immediately. On our first date we got Starbucks and hung out in a public area at our university. We showed each other cringe and funny videos the entire time. :) We've been together 4 years.
I ask tits or ass, even on platonic dates with friends cause i think it's a funny question , i don't really care about the answer. I have never had anyone of any gender or orientation respond that way
Honestly would you even want such a boring answer? IMO it only worked because he seriously blushed. Most people would not, and it serves no point to feign disinterest in sex, especially since in most cases it will be dishonest. We can be interested in sex and still not sexually assault our dates, I swear. It's not unheard of, most humans are capable of it.
And I would assume that yes the actual choice doesn't matter, the fun/funny part would be listening to how they argument for one thing over the other.
it’s absolutely true though that the fact that a man not trying anything his first time meeting you is insane. before my current boyfriend, especially as a frequent tinder user, that was all i had ever known. similar to the girls story, we met on tinder, and the first time we’d ever hung out was for about 5-6 hours just talking and listening to music. we also sat 4 feet apart on his bed and didn’t look at each other because we were both scared lol. after i had actually been afraid he didn’t like me solely because he didn’t try to make a move on me, which is insane. anyway we’ve been together four months now
Yes. I loved this normal story time so much. For every "another guy" there's tens of people just being regular.
I hate datingI lost the desire
Just makes me feel more hopeless about how this isn't going to happen to me
Do a flip #sigmagrindset
These stories are survivorship bias, there are people who did the same thing and weren't successful. Also we don't know the attractiveness and social skills of people in the story
@@sp123 Because if you're interacting with another human being and your only metric for weather or not that interaction was a success was "did we fuck" or "did it lead to a litteraly permanent death do us part relationship." then
You've missed the point of human interaction.
Did you get to spend time with an interesting person? Did you get to know someone else just a little bit? Did you have a good time? Appreciate it for what it is and move on.
And if you're goal is just to hook up, then literally that's just the game. Getting rejected or it not working out is just part of it, the best looking lotharios in the world still get rejected more often than not, they just don't get hung up and weird about it and and move on.
@@dant3175 sounds like a skill issue
@@dant3175 but thank you for implying that I seem like someone who gets laid, I appreciate it.
Your videos are so funny!! Hahaha summertime is so much fun and awesome
Thanos snap back is a beautiful audio and visual pun 👏 well done no-ah
W vid mustache man😊
Sorry if this is toxic but hearing about people's successful relationships makes me feel really frustrated and angry. It seems so easy for other people and im over here trying dating apps feeling really rejected and unwanted.
W*men aren't on the apps because they're looking for dates, they're on the apps because of the confidence boost they get from the constant stream of free male attention and validation. 98% of men have no luck there. There probably ain't even anything wrong with you. The problem is on the other end, just remember that. these apps will destroy your self esteem if you use them without understanding that.
don’t listen to theodore, they’re an example of how insecurity and feelings of failure can snowball into extreme hatred.
i felt the same as you do, it honestly felt like nothing was going well in terms of romance. it helps to develop or further some hobbies, consistent exercise and joining programs of interest. just getting involved into things socially or working on what you love. i wasn’t in a safe mental space, and if i was in a relationship, it is possible it would’ve soured. first, make it your priority to do things that you love for yourself, because you can only get into a stable, loving relationship if each person is in top form mentally.
@@hikawagetsbitches I can't even see their comment, I can see that there are 2 replies but it must've gotten blocked automatically for me or something idk UA-cam is being weird.
Thanks I really appreciate you writing that all out for me. I have been doing hobbies and exercising for myself, I've gotten really into Muay Thai for a few months now. And I've been going to therapy too to work on my anxiety and mental health. Trying to date and form relationships is just really frustrating when it seems like no one's interested in you.
It's cause y//'re worthless ❤
@@hikawagetsbitches Theodore's post was more anti-dating app than anti-woman. Sure the comment reeks of spite, but it's hard to argue it's actually wrong.
My best date was watching the film Your Name. I’d known this guy for years before that point and we’d both been interested but I was too shy to speak to him properly. I’d only seen his witty, intelligent, strong, protective side before this. So, when he started tearing up near the end, I felt really reassured that my emotions would be safe with him. We cried together and then I opened up for the first time. By the end of the night, I was talking way more than before - even though he’d been trying to draw answers out of my shy self up until this point. I’d asked him hundreds of questions, we laughed, joked and just enjoyed each other’s company. It was so refreshing to see him be vulnerable.
Anyway, we’re getting married in a month after over 4 years together and now I won’t stfu with him
This was great, thank you!