@@jeromepakalomattom1985 The movie should be treated as fiction. As should all movies which claim "based on a true story". The filmmakers took major liberties with the story and the film as a whole exists primarily to serve as anti IRN marketing.
This was an incredibly emotional story. Something I'll never forget. Marrying an Iranian man with those laws is something women need to know in advance. The way he kidnapped his wife and child was difficult to watch and harder to to imagine what she went through.
Freedom is the bare minimum a country can offer it's citizens. American is not the greates, just because it offers fredom. Every country in europe offers fredom and much more that benifits the people living there.
@@slavicaprodanova3225 how dod you just watch this video and come to that conclusion? If every countey was free this womam would be able to leave w her child back to america. 🤣😂🤣
@@patienceroper3517it's surprisingly easy to get random people to help with something like that. A cousin of mine got a random man to help get his sister back from Syria for nothing more than 3000 Swedish krona, a pack of cigarettes and a sixpack of beer
Ignore the posts that say the facts stated in the movie are lies. Everything stated in the movie is true. Her husband basically threatened to take their daughter if she filed for divorce.
Yeah, you are correct. Although, it's technically against UN charter but the UN picks and chooses with some of the richest states. A woman would have to first get their husband or male guardian to allow them to go to another country. For whatever excuse and only then can they ask for asylum.
I'm sick of people calling Betty a liar , especially after her daughter Mahtob has confirmed that the story was true. And they're not the only ones who this has happened to. My aunt and cousins have a similar story.
We aren’t calling her story a lie, but she and her daughter were still American citizens and the embassy failed them and the UN failed them. The facts stated about that specific “law” in this scene is not true.
@@coureenlawrence4915 *They go to other countries and expect everyone to act like normal decent human beings who don't marry children or hot their wives. American women fell for the exotic lie that Islam is a peaceful religion and when their eyes open its too late since they're stuck in hell.
@@coureenlawrence4915 In her particular case she met and married her husband in the U.S. and they had a good marriage for a couple of years.Then her husband told her they should go for a visit to meet his family.She agreed to visit.Once there her once reasonable husband decided that he wanted to stay living in Iran,and that she had no choice in the matter.She and her daughter were trapped. That's why the book and movie are called Not Without My Daughter,he told her she could leave,but not with their child.She refused to leave without her daughter.
I remember watching this movie when I was a small child with my mom. When I started traveling as an adult I always made sure to know where the US Embassy was in each country I traveled to.
At least not in Iran, her rights would be different if they lived in the USA. Then his rights would be less. Women need to learn the laws before marriage. Don’t hope your husband wouldn’t take advantage of laws in their own country.
@@chiendinh-je2xiSorry it's probably religion bigger influences not ethnicity. Iran used to be a free society before the new ruler took over in the 80s.
@@chiendinh-je2xi To be fair, Persia/Iran is not like the other Islamic countries in the Middle East. They practice a different form of Islam and are actually at odds with the rest of the region.
Best movie, I've read the book, watched the movie several several times, can't imagine the life there. I was so glad she's made it home. God blessed her.
The same God who commanded her husband to act the way he did? What an awesome plan this god sounds really smart and has communicated really clearly his wishes. 😂
Not without my daughter In Equalizer 2 Denzel rescues a little girl whose father stole her from her American mother & planned to take her back to his homeland (Turkey) He didn't want the child he just wanted to hurt the mother (she left him because he was abusive) All the Equalizer movies w/Denzel are excellent & all the John Wick movies are excellent also‼️
I used to have a crush on a cheerful Catholic woman who fell in love with an Arab man. They got married and he moved her to over there. Once she was there she realized he had other women and she was not ok with that. She said that to punish her he forced himself on her several times a day, and brutalized her "back door" constantly. It took her several years to escape. When I finally saw her again she wasn't the same person anymore. She had sexual PTSD really bad, she hated sects with a passion - but said she loved Islam. I never saw her smile again. She was full of bitterness.
How ....that makes no sense. I've NEVER been to an embassy that has the countries people working there. For example the guard who answered Iranian, the lady who speaks to her Iranian. .... If you are American, Japanese, Jamaican, Indian the people that work there are your born people
That isn't true. Many embassy's in other countries employ people from this country to guard the doors or do other jobs inside the embassy because they know the language.
@rosinchenpapa it's what her biography says. That info came from Betty Mahmoody herself - so tell me again why it isn't true? Are you insinuating that you know better than the woman who ACTUALLY lived it? How arrogant. A month after her captivity, she and her daughter escaped to the SWISS embassy. "I told Mahtob we were free, we were going home," Mahmoody recalled. "But then the woman at the Swiss embassy told me 'You are an Iranian citizen. You have to return to your husband and abide by Iranian law."" "No one told me when I married an Iranian how it would affect my citizenship. I became a dual citizen of the U.S. and Iran. But Iran did not recognize dual citizenship". Swiss. Not manned by Americans either btw So tell me again you utter muppet, how you know better than the woman who was actually there!!
@@shirleysp8176 You proved his point you slag. She went to the Swiss embassy. A group infamous for ignoring people in need. The American embassy would have had US Marines guarding, State department officials working there, and she would have been flown out as soon as they were able to verify her identity.
Especially if that other country is the USA with mass murders in schools, zero choice over one's reproductive ability, unlivabke wages, healthcare only for the wealthy & evangelical religion promoting hatred & that women are for breeding only...
For those who are wondering why it’s a Swiss-US Delegation it’s because The US doesn’t have an embassy in Iran so the Swiss is an acting representative for the US interests.
I used to have a crush on a cheerful Catholic woman who fell in love with an Arab man. They got married and he moved her to over there. Once she was there she realized he had other women and she was not ok with that. She said that to punish her he forced himself on her several times a day, and brutalized her "back door" constantly. It took her several years to escape. When I finally saw her again she wasn't the same person anymore. She had sexual PTSD really bad, she hated sects with a passion - but said she loved Islam. I never saw her smile again. She was full of bitterness.
Religion has nothing to do with a bad person. Every bad person have some sort of religion. This doesn't make the religion bad. There are thousands of arab men around the world who keeps their wife like a queen, and gulf arabs are damn rich.
@@ishratjahan8627let's be real here it's been shown throughout history that people have done horrible things in the name of religion so don't try to play that card please
@@rakano3733 I'm not playing any card here . There are so many horrible stories about Christian cults etc and Hindu tribes,that doesn't mean the religion is to blame. individuals are responsible for their own wrong doings.
Like I live in iran, and I am an Iranian, but the rules here are awfully The country and cities in it are beautiful for tourists to come but if you want to marry you shouldn't come here cause everything goes to men
Generally speaking, this could be a real strength thou. But It's a double edged sword. It can go both ways. The global dominance of "MAN" and its presence and influence in the world could start with Iran and Iranian men. If it is true and Iran laws are solely in support of Iranian men then that is great. I am interested in those laws have historical been conducive to the betterment of the Iranian people? A lot of times we only hear the bad. But I am really interested in hearing about the good. Personally, my father was and is my biggest supporter! Even beyond the grave, I dare not " Do the right thing" for everyone involved, sort- of- speak. Is Iranian laws in support of men that are supportive of women and children that "Do the right thing" for everyone involved, sort- of- speak in such a way it won't tarnish their global imagery and reputation of "MAN"? If so I think, globally, that would be a wonderful thing! A fatherly cultural revolution sounds a little rebellious and chaotic but in actuality it really gives a sense of "wisdom and guidance and acceptance"
@@godsqueen9437 are you dumb, Iran had no such restrictions upon women as it has now, once upon a time when Iran was free form Muslims it was even more developed than the west but as the muslims increased in number, human rights for women basically vanished. And in which moral or common sense do you think it is ok for men to rule over women? Or women to have zero rights ?
@@godsqueen9437 of you need silencing of women's rights which are basic human rights to feel masculine and maintain your masculine image then trust me you are no man and there is no good in Iran today it was maybe fifty years ago when muslims hadn't invaded yet and it was persia. Iranian laws are sexist and discriminatory they don't even consider women to be citizens and we have had fatherly culture for centuries now see where it has led us, we are rather doomed with such patriarchy, there is no guidance or wisdom if ones mind is filled with superiority complex and lack of consideration for other beings
@@YoungStoic45 Japan favors their citizens in custody. There are a lot of New Zealand and Australians who were married to Japanese people and then the person files there and most always gets the custody over the foreigners.
@@KS-cl8br Preference over citizenship or religion over what's right is straight down pathetic. But, that's the case of most of the marital laws across the world. Men gets trated like shit, except for some cases, like the aforementioned ones.
@@ohyeahyeah1068No. Her husband begged her so his family could meet her and their daughter. However it was all a rues he never planned to go back. They were supposed to be there for 2 weeks I think.
It is not true story. You can't loose your us citizenship because us don't really give a f about Iranian institutions. The marriage is simply invalid to them. Moreover she can't even mary him, because Iranian goverman will not allow it in the first place.
Think about someone coming from this and then live in America , enjoy the freedom... and then criticising America. This scene is so powerful and if this doesn't make you feel grateful for freedom, nothing would.
When they saw the Turkish border and the Turkish flag, they realized that they were saved. As a Turk, my biggest wish is that this situation does not change for Turkey.
@@thefatpakyak2826 hey, muslim daughter here. Men and women are given equal rights. But i believe women are more protected. A countries culture and laws are not necessarily related to religion. Its based off of lies of leaders. Many countries have laws that do not represent religious rules. America, for example, does not have fair nor equal laws. So I am confused as to why you are belittling my religion based on what you see, and not study. Please try to be open-minded and show respect.
@@fatmakacmaz1866 your false equivalence to comparing America as having unfair laws is comical. I’m sure I can easily find 5 unfair laws in Muslim ran countries before you find 1 in America (if even 1)
My grandmother saw this movie and whenever I dated anyone from any other country she would always say, “Don’t be like Sally Fields and go over to a big foreign country! You won’t be able to get out.”😂😂😂😂 I married a Brazilian and whenever I visit I say, not without my daughter. My husband doesn’t get it and we have a son. Great movie.
😢😢😢😢😭😭😭I was in a very similar situation I completely understand something like this happened to me too 😢😢😢 and you suddenly feel you are in a very unpleasant,even desperate situation but it's soo saad you can't leave your children !!😭😭 you ll die just to stay with them! 😭😭😭lucky after 10 years I managed to go back to a liberal country!! Here I am free and safe!!
I read many comments and as an iranian woman i have to say what seems like to you as a nightmare we live it here everyday!!! Americans should be thankful for their laws and their society you have no idea how we live since we born until we die...
It doesn't help to have US passports, you have to go to court & a judge has to give you permission to take the child w/ you. This is what happened to me in Germany. Otherwise, it is illegal & it is considered kidnapping.
Please don’t generalize. Also, laws by a few authoritarians who gain power in a country do not reflect the people who live under those laws. This story was about an abusive man who duped his wife into a situation he knew would entrap her. Unfortunately, she did not research the laws of that country before she went. But it is not indicative of Persians nor is it indicative of Islam. As well, to generalize about “the way things are in the ME” isn’t okay. This is an anecdotal story. If I told you a horrific story about an abusive American man who used local or state laws or systemic contacts (good old boy system) plus pressure from the local church to subjugate and entrap his wife, it wouldn’t be indicative of America or Christianity, right?* I know a number of Iranians (both men and women) who are gentle, kind and proponents of equal rights for all. They are not misogynists, nor are they bigots. Ditto with Persians from Afghanistan and India. This is an excellent movie and compelling story. The problem is that many individuals in the west have used it as “proof” to indicate it is a cultural and religious norm. *BTW, if you want laws and institutions in the USA to uphold our freedoms, vote Blue. Project 2025 and Schedule F are a real thing and I am utterly ashamed at the religious leaders who are backing it and pushing it on our nation. If Trump gets in, we will have white nationalist rule in this country and it will become a rule by the Christian Taliban. True followers of Jesus will recognize this and denounce it vehemently.
All muslim countries aren't like this, but the ones that are literally are an image of the qu'ran. The qu'ran is terribly misogynistic, it literally allows for husbands to beat their wives. These islamic states take the scripture literallg and people are so surprised when they do.
I have read this book “not without my daughter” I remember being glued to the book from cover to cover. This woman’s ordeal was unbelievable. Didn’t know there was a movie too.
good too many women rip their children from their fathers at the first opportunity. Even though every single study done on the difference between a single father and single mother home it overwhelmingly shows a single father home as superior in every way. #1 indicator of a child being molested is being in a single mother home. #1 indicator that a child will become a criminal is being raised in a single mother home. #1 indicator that you will grow up to be impoverished adult is a single mother home. None of these problems occur in a single father home.
@@gabrielboyd8780 The fathers are able to bolt, so the mothers are automatically granted custody since they physically birthed the children. There are a lot of standup guys, but it doesn’t compare to those who flee when faced with responsibility.
@@ommeloise6309This is actually not true. In the US, the reason mothers are granted custody is because *fathers overwhelmingly do not want custody.* Over 90% of custody decisions in divorce are made by the families without the involvement of the courts. When the courts are involved, fathers overwhelmingly voluntarily refuse primary custody. In the extremely rare instances where primary custody is actually disputed the court will advantage *whoever was the primary caregiver during the course of the marriage.* The court does not care whether that was the father or mother. The issue is that in those instances, most of the time the mothers were the primary caregivers during the marriage and are able to demonstrate better familiarity with the ward's daily routines and needs. The idea that there is some major problem with fathers being denied custody is a myth. In real life, fathers tend to lack involvement with childcare during the course of the marriage and tend to refuse custody during divorce. The actual widespread problem in real life is that in addition to denying primary custody, many fathers also fail to attend visitation sessions and refuse to pay support. The problem is not that courts are taking wards away from their fathers, but rather that courts are struggling to find ways to keep fathers involved in their wards lives after a divorce.
@@gabrielboyd8780 Why is this so? Single parenting is single parenting. What makes the gender of the parent more different? Do single men have an equal support system than single women? Or is this a societal thing?
RIP Alfred Molina. He played the husband. May Sally Field grace us for a few more decades! Outstanding movie that these days, should be showed over and over again.
Fantastic movie and casting !!! True story told as a warning to Western women marrying muslims without understanding the dangers to them and their children. She escaped. Majority..didn't.
It's not about Islam...It's about Iranian laws. I'm married to a Jordanian in Jordan (Muslim country) and laws are different in terms of marital laws and children custody. Go educate yourself and stop slandering.
This is why I hate these clips, teaches so much false information. First of all non muslim women can marry muslim men without even converting, those who do have simply chosen to, second of all this has nothing to do with islam, it is simply a strict government system. I am a non muslim living in uae and 80% of my friends and coworkers are all non muslim and most are western, every single one of them is living their happiest life
Liberal women in the U.S. need to watch this movie. It’s heartbreaking how women are treated there. Maybe they’d appreciate the U.S. and the freedoms women have here if they’d watch.
You can appreciate what you have and still want more for yourself. Just cause we have basic rights doesn't mean we should just shut up and take whatevers given.
I remember watching this as a kid, this shaped my view on islam and the arab countries. I was terrified of the way they treated females, no respect whatsoever, females were a commodity. Still pains me to this day to see this film. This reality is atrocious and i still find it hard to process that you can treat mothers,sisters, daughters&wifes as lesser human beings, it showes something flawed about your own humanity and culture.
@@dianavalle3877 I’m American and I hate our law and government. It’s horrible country for women. Unfortunately they treat women like garbage + get away with it!!
@@James-zi5en I'm not saying that america is the best country for women but trust me definitely it's better than Iran. At least you have much more right than us. Don't misunderstood I'm not saying that you don't have any problem as a woman cause I kow you have.
The couple were doctors, the man changed after going back to Iran and Ayatollah but she used every means to reach America helped by humans,,😊 irrespective of their religion they helped her unlike the spineless doctor husband 🙏
It broke my heart how the smile on the girls face faded as she couldnt understand what the lady was talking about looking at her mom hoping is just a mistake 😢
Simple don’t vote Republican. They are the ones taking away women’s rights. Get involved with your friends and family to push back against the Republican agenda against women. Vote Democrat. If women don’t stand up for themselves why would a man?
As an Arab Muslim this actually does not happen in the laws of Islam nor in any Arab countries this only happens in Persian countries thank God for the privilege
The exact same thing happened to my aunt and cousins when their husband/father tricked them into "visiting" his native Algeria. Instead of going home back to France as planned he took their passports and forced them to live in Algeria. The Algerian government did not let my aunt and her cousins leave the country without his permission. They had to bribe a border guard in the end. It's doesn't only happen in Iran.
@@aleksandrac9335 YT will not allow me to say what the mistakes are. I get threatened with my channel being cancelled or that my comment doesn't meet their guidelines.
Oh man!- I saw this movie in my teens, and it kicked off an obsession with reading all sorts of books about women’s lives in the Middle East! I know it’s not the case for all women who live there, but DAMN!- it’s pretty scary as a western woman!
I actually think it's the opposite. None of this would have happened in Iran had it not been for Jimmy Carter who brought the ayatollahs into power and overthrowed the Shah. Obama and Biden continue in the legacy by arming and giving millions to the terrorist militia and their proxies. All the unrest in the world right now is because of them.
My friends mom left the US to Lebanon and her husband did a 180 on her when they got there. If it wasn’t for her mother in law vouching for her, she and her mom would’ve stayed stuck there. Her mother is a Dominican US citizen. Scary shit.
Be careful . Not when marrying any one from another country ( that would depend on where ur are from and another could be the US or England too) . That said be super careful- in fact don’t marry anyone from Certain countries. Period .
A girl I went to high school had to go though this with a man she married from Dubai. It was all over the news. I can’t imagine ever being stuck like this
Betty was a nurse in Alpena, mi. Hospital where she met her husband. Theylived in the biggest house in Alpena. Betty lived in Owossi, mi. After her return to the states. Her daughter went on to college at Westetn U. After yesterday s of hiding from the ex husband, he showed up , looking for the grown daughter.
Not without my daughter. A true story.
Based on true story ?
Yes excellent book. She escaped by the skin of her teeth eventually
When I saw the film.. I couldnt believe all the hardship both endured b4 escaping.
@@jeromepakalomattom1985 The movie should be treated as fiction. As should all movies which claim "based on a true story". The filmmakers took major liberties with the story and the film as a whole exists primarily to serve as anti IRN marketing.
Name of the movie
This was an incredibly emotional story. Something I'll never forget. Marrying an Iranian man with those laws is something women need to know in advance. The way he kidnapped his wife and child was difficult to watch and harder to to imagine what she went through.
Freedom is the bare minimum a country can offer it's citizens. American is not the greates, just because it offers fredom. Every country in europe offers fredom and much more that benifits the people living there.
Completely agree
@@slavicaprodanova3225 how dod you just watch this video and come to that conclusion? If every countey was free this womam would be able to leave w her child back to america. 🤣😂🤣
@@Guardian-io7kl ... do I really have to tell you that Iran is in Asia?
True words
This reminds me of 3 American dudes who went to the middle east and brought back two 7 year old sisters. They were hired by their American mother.
@@frankramirez8618 this reminds me of Amer1can terrorism
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You'd have to hire mercenaries for something like this.
Another movie lol
@@patienceroper3517it's surprisingly easy to get random people to help with something like that. A cousin of mine got a random man to help get his sister back from Syria for nothing more than 3000 Swedish krona, a pack of cigarettes and a sixpack of beer
Ignore the posts that say the facts stated in the movie are lies. Everything stated in the movie is true. Her husband basically threatened to take their daughter if she filed for divorce.
Yeah, you are correct. Although, it's technically against UN charter but the UN picks and chooses with some of the richest states.
A woman would have to first get their husband or male guardian to allow them to go to another country. For whatever excuse and only then can they ask for asylum.
I'm sick of people calling Betty a liar , especially after her daughter Mahtob has confirmed that the story was true. And they're not the only ones who this has happened to. My aunt and cousins have a similar story.
We aren’t calling her story a lie, but she and her daughter were still American citizens and the embassy failed them and the UN failed them. The facts stated about that specific “law” in this scene is not true.
This is like selling your soul without knowing it
Oh, they do, this is what most Americans do. They go to other countries without knowing their laws and think that they can do and say anything.
@@coureenlawrence4915 *They go to other countries and expect everyone to act like normal decent human beings who don't marry children or hot their wives.
American women fell for the exotic lie that Islam is a peaceful religion and when their eyes open its too late since they're stuck in hell.
@@coureenlawrence4915 as an Iranian living in england after my parents immigrated this is true
@@coureenlawrence4915
In her particular case she met and married her husband in the U.S. and they had a good marriage for a couple of years.Then her husband told her they should go for a visit to meet his family.She agreed to visit.Once there her once reasonable husband decided
that he wanted to stay living in Iran,and that she had no choice in the matter.She and her daughter were trapped.
That's why the book and movie are called Not Without
My Daughter,he told her she could leave,but not with their child.She refused to leave without her daughter.
@@AllTooWell_1322 That is terrible. 😔
Check the law and your rights before you marry a foreigner especially if you move to his country.
The sad part is they were on a trip, they don't have to get you to move, just be on that soil.
The movie is called “Not without my daughter”
Thanks I couldn’t remember it.. I remember see it very sad story and sally field play good in it.
thankyou
Thank u for sharing the titel
I remember watching this movie when I was a small child with my mom. When I started traveling as an adult I always made sure to know where the US Embassy was in each country I traveled to.
And never married Middle East man
At least not in Iran, her rights would be different if they lived in the USA. Then his rights would be less. Women need to learn the laws before marriage. Don’t hope your husband wouldn’t take advantage of laws in their own country.
@@chiendinh-je2xi Persian
@@chiendinh-je2xiSorry it's probably religion bigger influences not ethnicity. Iran used to be a free society before the new ruler took over in the 80s.
@@chiendinh-je2xi To be fair, Persia/Iran is not like the other Islamic countries in the Middle East. They practice a different form of Islam and are actually at odds with the rest of the region.
This movie was so heartbreaking but she and her daughter did get back to the United States she went through hell over there
@@trudifruty6078 what's the title?
Not without my Daughter @@freespiritable
Thanks for the spoiler!
@@freespiritable not without my daughter
Best movie, I've read the book, watched the movie several several times, can't imagine the life there. I was so glad she's made it home. God blessed her.
The same God who commanded her husband to act the way he did? What an awesome plan this god sounds really smart and has communicated really clearly his wishes. 😂
@@steveanton763 it's not God's doing. We have free will. God did not make puppets.
@@steveanton763it's not the same God 🤷🤷 people have different religious beliefs
Bad choices made by Mother now regrets
@@isabellegauthier4318 well in islam ...you dont have free will
Not without my daughter In Equalizer 2 Denzel rescues a little girl whose father stole her from her American mother & planned to take her back to his homeland (Turkey) He didn't want the child he just wanted to hurt the mother (she left him because he was abusive) All the Equalizer movies w/Denzel are excellent & all the John Wick movies are excellent also‼️
Agreed 💯👍
@marynorman4797 all John Wick films are 'video games'.
John wick wasn’t even a Twinkie when this movie came out over 30 years ago.
To me, this movie became the best advertisement for *not* marrying anyone from a foreign country.
More like anyone from Iran. These laws are unusual.
A very few country have this law, most of them in the middle east
@@harringt100 I like how you say “unusual” instead of abusive and misogynistic
JUST marry someone normal
I used to have a crush on a cheerful Catholic woman who fell in love with an Arab man. They got married and he moved her to over there. Once she was there she realized he had other women and she was not ok with that. She said that to punish her he forced himself on her several times a day, and brutalized her "back door" constantly. It took her several years to escape. When I finally saw her again she wasn't the same person anymore. She had sexual PTSD really bad, she hated sects with a passion - but said she loved Islam. I never saw her smile again. She was full of bitterness.
How ....that makes no sense. I've NEVER been to an embassy that has the countries people working there. For example the guard who answered Iranian, the lady who speaks to her Iranian. .... If you are American, Japanese, Jamaican, Indian the people that work there are your born people
There was no American embassy in Iran at that time. She went to the American Interests Section of the Swiss Embassy.
That isn't true. Many embassy's in other countries employ people from this country to guard the doors or do other jobs inside the embassy because they know the language.
@rosinchenpapa it's what her biography says. That info came from Betty Mahmoody herself - so tell me again why it isn't true? Are you insinuating that you know better than the woman who ACTUALLY lived it? How arrogant.
A month after her captivity, she and her daughter escaped to the SWISS embassy.
"I told Mahtob we were free, we were going home," Mahmoody recalled. "But then the woman at the Swiss embassy told me 'You are an Iranian citizen. You have to return to your husband and abide by Iranian law.""
"No one told me when I married an Iranian how it would affect my citizenship. I became a dual citizen of the U.S. and Iran. But Iran did not recognize dual citizenship".
Swiss. Not manned by Americans either btw
So tell me again you utter muppet, how you know better than the woman who was actually there!!
You forgot about spies. They turn away from their own country don't they
@@shirleysp8176 You proved his point you slag. She went to the Swiss embassy. A group infamous for ignoring people in need. The American embassy would have had US Marines guarding, State department officials working there, and she would have been flown out as soon as they were able to verify her identity.
This is why it is so very important know everything before getting involved with anyone. Especially someone from another country.
Especially if that other country is the USA with mass murders in schools, zero choice over one's reproductive ability, unlivabke wages, healthcare only for the wealthy & evangelical religion promoting hatred & that women are for breeding only...
For those who are wondering why it’s a Swiss-US Delegation it’s because The US doesn’t have an embassy in Iran so the Swiss is an acting representative for the US interests.
I used to have a crush on a cheerful Catholic woman who fell in love with an Arab man. They got married and he moved her to over there. Once she was there she realized he had other women and she was not ok with that. She said that to punish her he forced himself on her several times a day, and brutalized her "back door" constantly. It took her several years to escape. When I finally saw her again she wasn't the same person anymore. She had sexual PTSD really bad, she hated sects with a passion - but said she loved Islam. I never saw her smile again. She was full of bitterness.
Religion has nothing to do with a bad person.
Every bad person have some sort of religion. This doesn't make the religion bad.
There are thousands of arab men around the world who keeps their wife like a queen, and gulf arabs are damn rich.
@@ishratjahan8627let's be real here it's been shown throughout history that people have done horrible things in the name of religion so don't try to play that card please
Muslim brothers don't claim him. So much Muslim impostors out there...
@@rakano3733 I'm not playing any card here . There are so many horrible stories about Christian cults etc and Hindu tribes,that doesn't mean the religion is to blame. individuals are responsible for their own wrong doings.
Funny thing is, "backdoor" thing is haram in islam. Hurting your wive physically also give wife the right to file divorce.
That's why I'm married to a nice man from Minnesota.
Like I live in iran, and I am an Iranian, but the rules here are awfully
The country and cities in it are beautiful for tourists to come but if you want to marry you shouldn't come here cause everything goes to men
Oposite to the states and mojority of non-musl1m countries smh
Generally speaking, this could be a real strength thou. But It's a double edged sword. It can go both ways.
The global dominance of "MAN" and its presence and influence in the world could start with Iran and Iranian men. If it is true and Iran laws are solely in support of Iranian men then that is great. I am interested in those laws have historical been conducive to the betterment of the Iranian people? A lot of times we only hear the bad. But I am really interested in hearing about the good.
Personally, my father was and is my biggest supporter! Even beyond the grave, I dare not " Do the right thing" for everyone involved, sort- of- speak.
Is Iranian laws in support of men that are supportive of women and children that "Do the right thing" for everyone involved, sort- of- speak in such a way it won't tarnish their global imagery and reputation of "MAN"?
If so I think, globally, that would be a wonderful thing! A fatherly cultural revolution sounds a little rebellious and chaotic but in actuality it really gives a sense of "wisdom and guidance and acceptance"
@@godsqueen9437 are you dumb, Iran had no such restrictions upon women as it has now, once upon a time when Iran was free form Muslims it was even more developed than the west but as the muslims increased in number, human rights for women basically vanished. And in which moral or common sense do you think it is ok for men to rule over women? Or women to have zero rights ?
@@godsqueen9437 of you need silencing of women's rights which are basic human rights to feel masculine and maintain your masculine image then trust me you are no man and there is no good in Iran today it was maybe fifty years ago when muslims hadn't invaded yet and it was persia. Iranian laws are sexist and discriminatory they don't even consider women to be citizens and we have had fatherly culture for centuries now see where it has led us, we are rather doomed with such patriarchy, there is no guidance or wisdom if ones mind is filled with superiority complex and lack of consideration for other beings
@@godsqueen9437 And suppressing women's right and making them slaves to your choices is in no moral or legal value right or even justifiable
Damn that's heartbreaking 😔
Imagine being so brainwashed to believe this propaganda 😔
Don't go to Iran, Egypt, Afghanistan, Japan, Iraq with your kids if you marry someone from there
What's with Japan?
What's with Japan bro??
@@YoungStoic45 Japan favors their citizens in custody. There are a lot of New Zealand and Australians who were married to Japanese people and then the person files there and most always gets the custody over the foreigners.
@@KS-cl8br Preference over citizenship or religion over what's right is straight down pathetic. But, that's the case of most of the marital laws across the world. Men gets trated like shit, except for some cases, like the aforementioned ones.
Egypt??
I wish more people realized this….when you marry out of your culture you better know what you’re signing up for.
Alfred Molina was choose as the Iranian husband. He is Spanish and Italian heritage.
He was born in Paddington London UK
He did such a good job in this movie 🙂
I cried while watching this film. And it hurt all the more knowing it was a true story.
Wasn’t it her fault?
@@ohyeahyeah1068No. Her husband begged her so his family could meet her and their daughter. However it was all a rues he never planned to go back. They were supposed to be there for 2 weeks I think.
The husband tricked her @@ohyeahyeah1068. So if was the husband's fault.
It is not true story. You can't loose your us citizenship because us don't really give a f about Iranian institutions. The marriage is simply invalid to them.
Moreover she can't even mary him, because Iranian goverman will not allow it in the first place.
Think about someone coming from this and then live in America , enjoy the freedom... and then criticising America. This scene is so powerful and if this doesn't make you feel grateful for freedom, nothing would.
There was freedom in Iran by the time her husband left to America
When they saw the Turkish border and the Turkish flag, they realized that they were saved. As a Turk, my biggest wish is that this situation does not change for Turkey.
Saw this movie "Not without my daughter" . one of the best movie based on a real story.
When I meet Americans that convert. It boggles my mind.
Islam has nothing to do with the laws in Iran lol
@@lujainaahmed3580yeah, totally has nothing to do 😂
those are not islamic laws
@@thefatpakyak2826 hey, muslim daughter here. Men and women are given equal rights. But i believe women are more protected. A countries culture and laws are not necessarily related to religion. Its based off of lies of leaders. Many countries have laws that do not represent religious rules. America, for example, does not have fair nor equal laws. So I am confused as to why you are belittling my religion based on what you see, and not study. Please try to be open-minded and show respect.
@@fatmakacmaz1866 your false equivalence to comparing America as having unfair laws is comical. I’m sure I can easily find 5 unfair laws in Muslim ran countries before you find 1 in America (if even 1)
My grandmother saw this movie and whenever I dated anyone from any other country she would always say, “Don’t be like Sally Fields and go over to a big foreign country! You won’t be able to get out.”😂😂😂😂 I married a Brazilian and whenever I visit I say, not without my daughter. My husband doesn’t get it and we have a son. Great movie.
😢😢😢😢😭😭😭I was in a very similar situation I completely understand something like this happened to me too 😢😢😢 and you suddenly feel you are in a very unpleasant,even desperate situation but it's soo saad you can't leave your children !!😭😭 you ll die just to stay with them! 😭😭😭lucky after 10 years I managed to go back to a liberal country!! Here I am free and safe!!
This is a true life story made into a movie with Sally Field. A mother's love is stronger, enough to sacrifice her life for her daughter.❤️
Her voice alone is unmistakable
This is a very good movie based on real life. Sally Fields is an excellent actress! ❤
I read many comments and as an iranian woman i have to say what seems like to you as a nightmare we live it here everyday!!! Americans should be thankful for their laws and their society you have no idea how we live since we born until we die...
“Not without my daughter” it’s a book on real story will give you goosebumps and tears 😢 the way she saved her self and her daughter’s life
I remember watching this as a child i had tears. To think this has happened to many women Im so glad she escape and were able to tell her story
The movie is called not without my daughter and it was completely twisted
I read this book and wow what a brave woman and her story is just so inspiring…
Powerful movie.. Sally fields needed award
It doesn't help to have US passports, you have to go to court & a judge has to give you permission to take the child w/ you. This is what happened to me in Germany. Otherwise, it is illegal & it is considered kidnapping.
Even in the US you must have written permission from the other parent to take your child out of the country, if you aren’t traveling together.
Lesson: think before you marry someone
They need to reshow this. It's obvious from their actions the younger adults of my country don't know how things really are in the middle east
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iran is the only country not others
Please don’t generalize. Also, laws by a few authoritarians who gain power in a country do not reflect the people who live under those laws.
This story was about an abusive man who duped his wife into a situation he knew would entrap her. Unfortunately, she did not research the laws of that country before she went.
But it is not indicative of Persians nor is it indicative of Islam. As well, to generalize about “the way things are in the ME” isn’t okay. This is an anecdotal story.
If I told you a horrific story about an abusive American man who used local or state laws or systemic contacts (good old boy system) plus pressure from the local church to subjugate and entrap his wife, it wouldn’t be indicative of America or Christianity, right?*
I know a number of Iranians (both men and women) who are gentle, kind and proponents of equal rights for all. They are not misogynists, nor are they bigots. Ditto with Persians from Afghanistan and India.
This is an excellent movie and compelling story. The problem is that many individuals in the west have used it as “proof” to indicate it is a cultural and religious norm.
*BTW, if you want laws and institutions in the USA to uphold our freedoms, vote Blue. Project 2025 and Schedule F are a real thing and I am utterly ashamed at the religious leaders who are backing it and pushing it on our nation. If Trump gets in, we will have white nationalist rule in this country and it will become a rule by the Christian Taliban. True followers of Jesus will recognize this and denounce it vehemently.
@@toritori5835and if Joe wins he will probably mandate another experimental medical procedure on workers right?
@@toritori5835vote "blue"??? Like the demented old man who is POTUS now?? And yes, he DOES have significant dementia 🤨
I read the book...shocking, heartwarming and heartbreaking...
Yes, I did take a 2hr break just to go watch this movie and came back to comment.😆
Saw this and read tye book. When this came out, ppl assumed that all muslim countries are like this but its not so at all.
I would rather be safe than sorry. Not taking your advice.
All international custody battles turn ugly.
All muslim countries aren't like this, but the ones that are literally are an image of the qu'ran. The qu'ran is terribly misogynistic, it literally allows for husbands to beat their wives. These islamic states take the scripture literallg and people are so surprised when they do.
Correct
That's hard to believe. 😢
“SURPRISE, SURPRISE, SURPRISE!”
- Gomer Pyle (Andy Griffith Show)
☝️😉🇺🇸❤️✝️
Women, PLEASE KNOW THE CULTURE YOU MARRY INTO.
I remember watching this movie on TV with my mom when I was a kid and it freaked me out
I cried so hard when i watched that movie, its so sad!!
And the sadest part is that its a true story, and she wasn't the only women a man did it to!
This was such a good movie!!! Love this one.
I have read this book “not without my daughter” I remember being glued to the book from cover to cover. This woman’s ordeal was unbelievable. Didn’t know there was a movie too.
And they said patriarchy is not real.
Great movie.
These "women and children" laws sounds EXACTLY like the *COMMONWEALTH OF VIRGINIA*
Uggh, same issh different toilet
good too many women rip their children from their fathers at the first opportunity.
Even though every single study done on the difference between a single father and single mother home it overwhelmingly shows a single father home as superior in every way.
#1 indicator of a child being molested is being in a single mother home.
#1 indicator that a child will become a criminal is being raised in a single mother home.
#1 indicator that you will grow up to be impoverished adult is a single mother home.
None of these problems occur in a single father home.
@@gabrielboyd8780 I believe you need to site your reference to support your statement. I suspect you are cherrypicking data that suits how you feel.
@@gabrielboyd8780 The fathers are able to bolt, so the mothers are automatically granted custody since they physically birthed the children.
There are a lot of standup guys, but it doesn’t compare to those who flee when faced with responsibility.
@@ommeloise6309This is actually not true. In the US, the reason mothers are granted custody is because *fathers overwhelmingly do not want custody.* Over 90% of custody decisions in divorce are made by the families without the involvement of the courts. When the courts are involved, fathers overwhelmingly voluntarily refuse primary custody.
In the extremely rare instances where primary custody is actually disputed the court will advantage *whoever was the primary caregiver during the course of the marriage.* The court does not care whether that was the father or mother. The issue is that in those instances, most of the time the mothers were the primary caregivers during the marriage and are able to demonstrate better familiarity with the ward's daily routines and needs.
The idea that there is some major problem with fathers being denied custody is a myth. In real life, fathers tend to lack involvement with childcare during the course of the marriage and tend to refuse custody during divorce.
The actual widespread problem in real life is that in addition to denying primary custody, many fathers also fail to attend visitation sessions and refuse to pay support. The problem is not that courts are taking wards away from their fathers, but rather that courts are struggling to find ways to keep fathers involved in their wards lives after a divorce.
@@gabrielboyd8780 Why is this so? Single parenting is single parenting. What makes the gender of the parent more different? Do single men have an equal support system than single women? Or is this a societal thing?
Americans love to make themselves look like hero’s lol
That is what any good mother would do it has nothing to do with her being a hero or American don't be a buffoon
I read this book. It lives in my head since then. What a courageous woman.
RIP Alfred Molina. He played the husband. May Sally Field grace us for a few more decades! Outstanding movie that these days, should be showed over and over again.
Fantastic movie and casting !!!
True story told as a warning to Western women marrying muslims without understanding the dangers to them and their children.
She escaped.
Majority..didn't.
Nah mate, should be a warning to Muslims not to marry westerners.
It's not about Islam...It's about Iranian laws. I'm married to a Jordanian in Jordan (Muslim country) and laws are different in terms of marital laws and children custody. Go educate yourself and stop slandering.
This is why I hate these clips, teaches so much false information. First of all non muslim women can marry muslim men without even converting, those who do have simply chosen to, second of all this has nothing to do with islam, it is simply a strict government system. I am a non muslim living in uae and 80% of my friends and coworkers are all non muslim and most are western, every single one of them is living their happiest life
You would think she would have known all that before she married the dude.. like hello!!! 😂😂
This was a MIRACLE! Truly!
This was such a good movie. Truly heartbreaking. Sally Fields gave one of the best performances of her career in this movie.
And they say they are peaceful community and want to impose their law in all countries 😂😂😂
Liberal women in the U.S. need to watch this movie. It’s heartbreaking how women are treated there. Maybe they’d appreciate the U.S. and the freedoms women have here if they’d watch.
“There’s a country worse off than us. Therefore, the US is perfect in every way!”
You can appreciate what you have and still want more for yourself. Just cause we have basic rights doesn't mean we should just shut up and take whatevers given.
@@HashtagSuperior honestly
and yet the US is slowing but surely removing all the rights they gave to women starting with bodily autonomy
Are you kidding me dude? Get outta here with your foolishness
Thats why you should always read the terms and conditions before signing anything
Amazing movie. One of my favorites
And they want these laws in western countries 😂😂😂
I remember watching this as a kid, this shaped my view on islam and the arab countries. I was terrified of the way they treated females, no respect whatsoever, females were a commodity. Still pains me to this day to see this film. This reality is atrocious and i still find it hard to process that you can treat mothers,sisters, daughters&wifes as lesser human beings, it showes something flawed about your own humanity and culture.
Which movie is this ?
Damnn this so scary... Thanks for spreading the awareness
She made her bed, now she’s got to sleep in it.
I'm Iranian and I hate our law and government. Its horrible country for women
Unfortunately they treat women like garbage + get away with it!!
I’m American and I hate our law and government. Its horrible country for women
@@dianavalle3877 I’m American and I hate our law and government. It’s horrible country for women. Unfortunately they treat women like garbage + get away with it!!
@@James-zi5en I'm not saying that america is the best country for women but trust me definitely it's better than Iran. At least you have much more right than us.
Don't misunderstood I'm not saying that you don't have any problem as a woman cause I kow you have.
@@dianavalle3877 yes that's sadly true. I'm trying to find a way to leave and go to the better county 🙂
That's terrible.
The couple were doctors, the man changed after going back to Iran and Ayatollah but she used every means to reach America helped by humans,,😊 irrespective of their religion they helped her unlike the spineless doctor husband 🙏
She deeply regrets her decision 😂 that’s why Iran Law sucks
Name of Film?
Not Without My Daughter (1991)
It broke my heart how the smile on the girls face faded as she couldnt understand what the lady was talking about looking at her mom hoping is just a mistake 😢
Amazing actress
I’m American and I hate our law and government. Its horrible country for women
Simple, leave
Simple don’t vote Republican. They are the ones taking away women’s rights. Get involved with your friends and family to push back against the Republican agenda against women. Vote Democrat. If women don’t stand up for themselves why would a man?
Then why stay?
@@twill1007no have it changed. That is the answer.
At least american women can leave and decide for themselves....
And the people who support Hamas are supporting this abuse of women. Hamas is funded, trained, operated and strategised by Iran.
As an Arab Muslim this actually does not happen in the laws of Islam nor in any Arab countries this only happens in Persian countries thank God for the privilege
The exact same thing happened to my aunt and cousins when their husband/father tricked them into "visiting" his native Algeria. Instead of going home back to France as planned he took their passports and forced them to live in Algeria. The Algerian government did not let my aunt and her cousins leave the country without his permission. They had to bribe a border guard in the end. It's doesn't only happen in Iran.
I cried through most of this movie. A true story that is an eye opener.
She married an Iranian man without thinking of the consequences...
Let her bear the consequences now
So many mistakes in the movie.
But YT will not allow me to write what they are.
Censorship is alive and well.
U notice UTub aren’t on commonwealth🌎
What mistakes?
@@aleksandrac9335 YT will not allow me to say what the mistakes are. I get threatened with my channel being cancelled or that my comment doesn't meet their guidelines.
@@donp3997 sure bro.
@@donp3997 just say you like abusers
Oh man!- I saw this movie in my teens, and it kicked off an obsession with reading all sorts of books about women’s lives in the Middle East!
I know it’s not the case for all women who live there, but DAMN!- it’s pretty scary as a western woman!
Not without my daughter loved this movie we watched it countless times growing up.
Thank you for reminding to vote blue this year
I actually think it's the opposite. None of this would have happened in Iran had it not been for Jimmy Carter who brought the ayatollahs into power and overthrowed the Shah. Obama and Biden continue in the legacy by arming and giving millions to the terrorist militia and their proxies.
All the unrest in the world right now is because of them.
No blue, vote Red ♥️
Voting blue helps expats flee Iran?
How is voting blue going to help? They're the ones who still think these people are from the religion of peace.
I remember watching 😢this movie. Nobody deserves to go through this
My friends mom left the US to Lebanon and her husband did a 180 on her when they got there. If it wasn’t for her mother in law vouching for her, she and her mom would’ve stayed stuck there. Her mother is a Dominican US citizen. Scary shit.
Crazy to marry someone in another country without being aware of citizenship laws whatsoever lmfao
She didn't marry in other country. She got married and had a child in the US. They went to visit his family and he turn abusive
It's very tearingful mothers love ❤
Not without my daughter was a very good story..
It was in that moment that she realized 🥺...
"Its their culture" if people are mistreated, hurt or rights are violate there is no justifications
There's a very apt saying for a situation such as portrayed here: you made your bed, now lie in it.
I seen this movie and it's good really good
I feel horrible for the mothers who have to go through these types of situations
I have read the book in english and in Marathi.. salute to the lady who fought for her daughter and for ger rights..
La mujer No Es porpiedad del hombre, no es un object 😢😢
Sadly, women become property in their country 😢
I can't forget how this movie made me feel
Be careful . Not when marrying any one from another country ( that would depend on where ur are from and another could be the US or England too) . That said be super careful- in fact don’t marry anyone from
Certain countries. Period .
A girl I went to high school had to go though this with a man she married from Dubai. It was all over the news. I can’t imagine ever being stuck like this
Show this movie EVERY YEAR.
Betty was a nurse in Alpena, mi. Hospital where she met her husband. Theylived in the biggest house in Alpena. Betty lived in Owossi, mi. After her return to the states. Her daughter went on to college at Westetn U. After yesterday s of hiding from the ex husband, he showed up , looking for the grown daughter.