Your Loss, His Gain: Hypergamy & Female Nature
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- Опубліковано 24 вер 2019
- If you're a staunch romantic who thinks all girls are princesses, this video may disturb or offend you. But it is what I've seen in nearly two decades of gaming, so in the interest of truth, I thought I should share this observation with you. Also, I think the initial question here is a really good one!
At first, she doesn't really know what she wants. Just some guy to figure it out for her.
That's one way to look at it, but quite frankly I think Todd's point is far more accurate: their mood shifts from one part of the night to the next. For instance, tons of girls genuinely did come out just to dance and let loose with her girls without any expectations for anything else - that doesn't mean a guy can't come along and push her buttons just the right way, and her being swayed by him doesn't mean she didnt know what she wanted it just means the guy had enough game to change her mood.
You never had a taste for something but then something else you hadn't considered got put in front of you and you changed your mind? Doesn't mean the first craving was a lie.
Ha, I had thought it read to "finger" it out for her at first😁.
Holy shit so true
Thanks you
"she doesn't really know what she wants. Just some guy to figure it out for her."
And that's a big danger. You can't pull this stuff these days. Bill Cosby could, being powerful, and in the 70's. But fast forword... he's now in prison.
I love how Todd is open addressing this. No other dating coach would ever even touch this subject.
... until recently. Recently the PUA 'Bulldog' is talking about it.
The Man the myth the legend TODD!!🙏
This vid highlights one of the craziest aspects of female psychology: Buying Temperature is transferable. Never really understood the evolutionary reason for this until I read the book 'Sex At Dawn'.
"The reason that sharing was so widespread-and continues to be in the remaining hunter-gatherer societies in existence-is because it’s simply the most efficient way of distributing risk among a group of people."[4] However, the advent of agriculture led to the advent of private property and the accumulation of power and completely changed people's lifestyles. This change in lifestyle fundamentally altered the way people behave and has left modern humans in a situation where their instincts are at odds with the societies in which they live." interesting
Todd said that there isn't a 'term for it' or no one talks about it in game. turns out he is wrong. buying temperature is transferable is the perfect way to say it puamore.com/wiki/buying-temperature/
buying temperature is what this vid was about. u smart dude
This phenomenon is different than the transference of buying temperature... this is more like transference of decision to go home with someone. Buying temperature is a lot more of an instantaneous thing.
@@AskToddV who am i to question mr miagi
It's on my reading list.
Regarding the decision... It makes a lot of sense though, for the girl to become an easy out after she makes a decision to be pulled.
Because if she makes the decision with one guy, she is admitting to herself that she is a sexual creature and going to perform this socially disapproved act.
But.. she gets shut down for one reason or another....
So she's already eaten the humble pie of admitting her sexual nature ... She's already done the inner work to justify the action... She's paid the mental price...
So, she is incentivized to not let that work go to waste. Even if it means she uses a different dick to make it happen.
Todd, you've changed my life. Thank you. Im trying to apply your ideas to my life and even now ı've started to get amazing results. Thank you...
Every single time I went to a bar or nightclub almost all the females were either a.) Taken. b.) Only interested in talking with or dancing with each other. Exceptions aside.
Both problems can b e solved
We love the validation we get when we go to clubs, but we can often be persuaded. Todd is right, there are no good girls or bad girls - the most innocent of girls will be bad with the right guy. Think your special girl is different? She's not.
How long are you gonna shill on Todd's videos
@@ghosthusler You should focus less on me and concentrate on losing your virginity.
@@sallysmith3885 Yikes. You should focus more on getting rid of your aids and less on shilling with a fake profile and liking your own comments you seething manchild
That mindset of expecting validation and the need to be persuaded to sleep with a guy. So toxic. There are definitely good and bad girls and anywhere in between. We don't judge girls are good or bad base on one action. It's everything else like the way she thinks, the way she was raised, the guys she dates. The good girls, they don't exactly think the way you do. Expecting men to satisfy their needs as a default and trying to make other women look bad for enjoying themselves.
@@blackblue2244 LOL! Sounds like you better stick to your video games little man, because you are clueless when it comes to women. Listen to Todd, he is trying to help guys like you. Best of luck to you.
I dunno,
The juice just isn't worth the squeeze.
September 2019.
Never heard that before
I agree, but why are you adding the month and year to your comment?
Top boyyy
thank you for being alive todd
Girl literally came up to me and said "you're going home with me tonight" and LED ME BY THE HAND home.
Lucky recipient of her sexual frustration or idea of revenge or whatever set it off, I just shut up and let her live her life. Who am I to deny a pretty girl her evening.
I think I gave her a look and a smirk and that was enough.
Women never do anything logically....
It always psychically and emotionally
This one may offend some people's sense of romance, but this is what I've seen from decades of meeting girls and teaching other men to do the same. Enjoy! And if you're willing to risk your feelings further in the interest of learning and success, check out: toddwinnergame.com
My god ,if they are this complicated , why bother
Do you want them to open their legs for every guy???
They ain't worth it. Build yourself up
@@dwight4k yes
So it's kinda like the female version of blue balls right?
Interesting... I understand her.
You chase women and todd chases your money lol
Just realized why he goes by "Todd V" - because he only wears V-neck shirts.
😂😂
eebgoz todd valentine
@@justtrent9519 I know. It was a joke.
eebgoz my bad haha
I've seen girls grab some guy and say your coming home with me ..and I'm going to get married. NOT.
COPE
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it's all about looks. especially at clubs.
JFL if you don't believe this in 2019. Online dating is even worse than the clubs. It has never been harder to get laid as man.
Incel
Love your content bro👍
Oh my god! Western women are way too much hard work if this is the amount of training and attempts you have to deal with. Get some personal respect. #mgtow
You don't need any of this shit if you're good looking. It's funny how things are coming full circle again and humans are going back to the caveman days with their sexuality.
" It's funny how ... humans are going back to the caveman days"
"It's like we're back in the dark ages" - Rush(band) 2007
This also happens in dating at least in my experience she's made the decision and I fucked it up, she laid someone she just met. It's counter intuitive because that screwed up everything with me, but she did it anyway. Strange world.
Later on in the night the girl is drunk and her guard drops off...👍
Next day:
#MeToo
How should you game with classmates and within college areas? My college isnt huge like USA's let's say you tend to see ppl from the same course often beucause buildings are course oriented.Do you recommend a slower and careful type of game? to not become "that guy"?
Filipino? Alamin mo muna kung conservative or hindi yung babae. kung conservative dapat dyan mabilisan ang diskarte and be honest pero dapat nasa lugar (not like being honest na gusto mo siyang tirahin). Kung hindi naman conservative bolahin mo lang ng husto at kada bola mo siguraduhin mo na mukhang sincere ka. Wag na wag ka mahihiya kung classmates mo man siya or building mate mas lamang pa nga sa points yan kung ladlaran mong inaamin na may gusto ka. Time and money effort should always be at minimum but attention effort dapat palaging sagad sagad.
@@aionwafu05 You realise that your comment is composed of two languages right?
You're already in the wrong mindset. You have to believe there's nothing wrong with game, because there isn't. Game is beneficial to guys as well as the girls. Don't be a douche, play a relatively honest, casual game, and remember, "It's not lying, it's flirting", so have fun with it. Some girls at my college think I am "that guy" but I don't let it get to my head, I laugh at them and move on. Don't mind them. Do you.
This is really a good topic and a good video. As well
Could you talk about your approach to European girls or more "confort oriented" girls in general?
They fuck on the first day
What are the questions you find most useful for screening for a girl who is your type? How can you organically sew them into the fabric of the interaction?
Every girl is willing to fuck right at the spot with a guy she just met, it just has to be the right guy. It helps to think you are that guy... also, girls will seek validation from you. Don't let them use you, I neg a lot, especially if they are cocky girls that only have knowledge of these "nice guys". If you tackle them differently, she will immediately see you as a different guy, a guy they have to work for, and they love that.
Is there a way to see if a girl is "ready" to get pulled if you haven't been talking to her? Like screening in an efficient way
Get on the mix of conversation, gauge her response via your intuition, and Lead by Example, don't always wait for her "mating signals" however, If she does show some via body language, facial cues -- remember this rule of thumb -- 2 steps, forward, one step back, and repeat the process, adjust accordingly until you unfurl the outcome you desire!
I trust this guy re women and game more than any other person that I have not met.
Girls just wanna have fun! -Cyndi Lauper
3:30-4:20 what an excellent answer
THERE IS NO LOSS WITH ANY WOMAN, ONCE YOU LEARN THAT YOU WILL BE FREE.
Attraction is 85% looks
10% chadness , alphaness , bla bla
5% luck
Man i need this outro song !
Its instrumental version of Cataleya cover by voyce, but i couldnt find it, justs non intrumental version, if anyone finds it pls post link. Todd also uses different versions of it, sometimes theres female vocals, sometimes not
Todd, do you play bass?
Slapping the bass
Er excuse me at the beginning6your video you have the question in black and white and silence for ten seconds.. So i turn my volume up then suddenly it cuts to you shouting.
Hey Todd. Any tips on girls who speak a different language/little English? I live in a German speaking country. My German is ok but not enough to say everything I want and most girls here don’t speak much English! Tough crowd!!!
transference of her horniness and attention by men for sure .
I so dam glad , my brain 🧠 doesn’t have calculate all these things he thinks we do or don’t need to do , getting a girl is much easier than any PUA wants you to know , that said first you have to be the best version of you that you can be , I mean have your shit together for you and not anyone else in all areas
How can I learn game if because of personal moral hangups I am unwilling to have sex before marriage?
QUESTION: How would you write a hot girl on IG that you have never met ?
(less than 1000 followers)
Is classical conditioning something that can be used with women? How can one use classical conditioning in day/night game? Is there enough time to use this effectively? Or are strategies that might use classical conditioning limited to women that are met on a more regular/consistent basis?
Hey Todd, can you do a vid of the most common fuck-ups? I, like most/all guys, have had nights do a 180 and not realize why. I'd like to think I'm more aware now of where things can go awry but I still have wtf moments. I've gotten better at not "letting that be that" and sticking to the set to try to salvage it but it is an uphill battle and I'd rather not face those pitfalls in the first place. Of course it's possible I'm doing something to disqualify myself without even knowing it, not knowing what I don't know. I feel like it's easier to point out errors from an external perspective and since that's, you know, what you do I thought you might have an ideal vantage point on this one.
Perhaps there'd be particular merit in focusing on the subtle pitfalls.
Taking a stab at it. Feel free to contribute fellas.
* Not escalating.
* Not having a logistical game plan.
* Not identifying potential social torpedoes. (Follow-up: not having a strategy to deal, i.e. getting a wingman to run interference on the ugly friend or pseudo-flirt with the uggo friend to get competitive juices flowing)
* Letting her know she's got you/Taking your foot off the petal/Releasing tension. And by this I mean getting her to qualify and then letting her in. She may not try after, actually likely she won't.
This is real shit 💯🙏 witness and been that guy myself
I appreciate the video and the stratagems Todd laid but tbh much of this advice cedes when you're pretty attractive. You don't even have to be that witty, personable, or clever. Just....be attractive and things kinda lay out for you relatively easy. The only thing you'd have to do is not talk TOO much to fuck it up.
This guy always gets a ton of likes. Enough said 😎👍🏻
Yawn...stop persuing women and doing tricks and backflips to get their attention. Focus on yourself and let them come to you.
Some guys trying that will never get with anyone. Doesn't always work that way.
@@damienholland8103 bull crap. Only losers with loser mentality think like that.
@@queasybeetle 🥱
"let them come to you" - This is the only tactic that has ever worked for me. Anything else will give your intent and power away, and will boost their already-sky-high ego, making the situation worse for yourself, other guys, and even her (an attractive woman today is her own worst enemy). The hard part is figuring out how to get them to come to you, and finding the right situations where they're able to and more likely to come to you.
'You cannot negotiate desire', Rollo Tomassi.
So I'm at a community college, and when I'm having a plutonic convo with a girl about things like what they're going into. Would it be a bad idea to ask, "What do you find sexy about engineering(or whatever)?" or "What's the sex appeal of architecture?" to spice things up a little instead of asking why they're interested in that profession? Also, I could follow it with, "I can see how sexy it is from here." or "I don't see the appeal(maybe add they should show me)". Then follow that up with a disqualifier.
I'm not going to keep it rigid like those r my only two replies. I could say, "I admire when people want to do something not for the money." or something else like, "After hearing that, I don't think we can be friends." Just come up with a reply based on how their reply is.
Great video Todd
tell me about it i see this happening night after night, girl gives me hell nothing i do is enough i leave cause i get frustrated other guy comes takes her without doing shit it even seems like they were together the whole time.
Fuck ya nice sword bro!!!!!!!
What are some of the ways you could STILL mess up a pull when it is on?
bad logistics, you getting real needy for sex all of sudden, being too drunk (either you, her or both of you) etc.
Have you heard of dan bacon? What do you think of him?
LETS NAME THIS PHENOMENON
PUT IDEAS IN RESPONSE TO THIS COMMENT
I'm thinking "Break the seal (of approval)"
1. breaking the seal is slang for when you've decided you are peeing and you started peeing and its very hard to stop. this happens to the woman
2. The first guy broke his own hard-earned seal-of-approval
3. The second guy gets the seal-of-approval for no reason. Because the woman's seal-of-approval system is broken and her inhibitions are gone
I just say she has blue ovaries (like blue balls)
Going out every week chasing tail is a very easy way to achieve less than your best potential.
Bigjaw78 totally agree, but also an easy way to achieve less than your potential in your dating life. Swings and roundabouts
@@costanzauk I have not acheived much at all in my dating life but I own two houses so pretty much live for free. My mates who have dated and/or are dating fit birds are either renting or just starting on a mortgage. Those who are married stand to lose what they have.
@@bigjawontour9679 well you're in a good financial position to start working on your "game" then (if you want to), it only takes about 5-10 hours a week
Hey Todd, I met this girl and we hit it off, but my friends say she has a boyfriend. when I asked her however, she says 'its complicated' and even referred to him as 'my friend'. Does this mean anything? Is she simply an idiot? or does she not want me to see her as unavailable.
You are are over-thinking this. It's not hard. Hell, even Charles Manson got girls. He even got a half-dozen marriage proposal letters every year while he was in prison. ( ua-cam.com/video/PzTFThnkvvs/v-deo.html ) This is a guy with a swastika carved into his forehead, and you are asking your friends and Todd what to do. Go for it. If she has a boyfriend, then screw him. Be a man.
Is that a sword in the background next to the bass?
It's for slay thots
Hey Todd.
How would you approach a police officer when she is on duty and in uniform? I saw her today while she was checking the passports of the passengers in Germany. She was a German 10! Is it okay to game her or is it even legal? Assuming I have good game.
Moreover she was with her male colleague. Which wouldn't bother me if I just knew it is okay.
I need advice. How do you deal with a resting dick face in gaming women? It comes across as judgemental and cold and I can't figure out how to get rid of it whilst practicing game. thanks
Having sex with someone you’re not married to is a sin and degenerate behavior
How does this apply to daycame and lifestyle game?
Just imagine having the option to sleep with at least a few different people at almost any given time, this is what most attractive women carry around with them.
Most ugly women too
@@consciousgentile5141 yo for real man seen it all too much.
Have you got a video on when girl gives bad responses over text one word or just nice
Call that bitch and tell her u wanna hang out this weeknd
What brand is your t Todd?
Thanks
Hi Todd, what's your highest FIDE rating?
2400+
i love knocking back women over 40, i do it in a nice way just to hear the crap that comes out there mouths, i dont have sex with old women that fucked up their lives, women over 40 cant compete with a doll ,not these days,the tech's unreal, and its a 1 time payment
Another question: is it a bad idea to create a schtick with a girl? I think it's been a good way to create a connection and somehow sexualize a convo. Like girl A and I at work would do 👌 that and try to get each other to look but I'd stare on purpose. Last week, she put her finger in my 👌 and I just replied that this wasn't the time or place in a flirty voice and grin. Girl B at work and I would do rock, paper, scissors and on occasion I would say something she did or said was "pineapple" when it wasn't with a grin. "Pineapple" was our safe word at work if something was too sexual.
I go to dance.
TRUTH!!!!
Hey man, I'm in a rough place. Dates go well, then ghosting. A friend said that i come on too strong. I don't suppose you could talk about it?
When you stop trying that's when you get them . All women are looking to get fucked just let them come you and keep your mouth shut
Same with me. As my friend who is "natural" told me: "you accept their body to easily, this gives them needed validation and shows that you are easy and probably desperate. Fu* k around with them a bit, tease them, make them earn you". Well, I'm not desperate, actually I'm quite picky. I just despise game so I honestly show my interest... which is a turn off... and I'm really good looking guy
There's a saying in the manosphere: There are men that women have sex with, and the men that they date.
Women can get sex easy and with almost anyone. They don't even bother dating them.
They date for the meal & the experience.
and the liquor
I've been approaching, meeting new girls and getting lines but when I try to interact with them again like going on a date or meeting them it seems to fail. What am I doing wrong?
Add K They found someone better from the time you got the number to the time you tried to set up a date.
Trying
@@rahh3602 What do you mean by someone better? So what should be my game plan?
@@jonathangant251 it's trying because despite the effort it doesn't happen
@@addk4279 there's millions of women out here looking for men to fuck and some who dude's can't find a starter girl.
Julien mentioned a similar thing called 'The Tempo of the Night' in Pimp.
This dude just teaches you how to get a one nighter. Anyone can do that. Watch Corey Wayne for real advice.
Some guys have all the luck. What can you really do?
What aboit LMR ?
And sometimes you just don't wanna invest too much effort into that hot girl, and it doesn't matter, coz she is just another hot girl. You give it a go and then go home and catch up on some sleep.
The easiest way to get a hottie is to make her feel like a #5 .
How do you build attraction
buy the system he teaches you how
Crazy isn't it.. female mind is a strange thing.....
But that's just so typically of me and my style in life. I don't give a shit what the market wants from me.
I ARTIFICIALLY CREATE THE DEMANDS ON THE FLY - EVERYWHERE I GO - FOR MY "OUT-OF-THIS-WORLD" VISIONARY PRODUCTS.
Yeah... I am more of the Steve Jobs Type in this life - unlike all of you UA-camrs.
Todd makes me want to get really Fucking good
Something wrong here, women and logic don't belong in the same sentence.
What is this dribble? Your game should never be about your opponent, it should always be about you, your strengths and weaknesses.
Drivel, not dribble.
Nice shirt
lol @ pulled
Wtf what kind of girls do you guys meet?
Brooo I won’t lie I’m still a Virgin but like I pull girls and like girls always hit me up for bud and alc. I have been heartbroken so many times but I have like no soul. Most of my free time I go to concerts and party I partied so hard that I woke up in a hospital
The fuck
Sounds like a lot of BS
The fact that someone would ask such a dumb question, I mean the general terms used, highlights how socially clueless these people are. No wonder they are having trouble relating to women.
Your videos are great! But I will like to correct the fact that” it’s not your lose, it’s your gain. Unless you are a low value man. That is a loser. But if you know you are high value then it’s practically a woman’s gain to sleep with you. Trust me. This will add to your confidence if you can indoctrinate that thought in your head. More so, the fact that you didn’t get the girl made you lose, is wrong. Continue to learn rule and norms of dating. But in your course of interacting with women” don’t ever sacrifice your inner values. The stuffs that made you deep down to be a man. Like he puts it “ integrity “ your dignity is all you’ve got apart from money and fame. So protect it with your life. If a ladies talks shits to you and behaves in a way you don’t like, bro, let her go. We men are more Hugh value but we just don’t know it. Women crave to be like men , yet most men act childish with woman all because they don’t know Game and not been red pill. I was once one of these men but thanks to coaches like you that has made me evolved to be a masculine man ; attractive . both girls and guys admire and respect. Sometimes you will lose the girls but it’s fine you have nothing to worry about. She’s just unlucky because you know your value. I’ve had girls rejected me in the past and later regretted their decisions.. because when it comes to standard , Their men are very low compare to me( no offense) . And now most want to accept me. Well, I fuck some and give them back to their boyfriends while other I don’t . Not because they don’t want to but because I don’t want to. I see it as devalue to my reputation. You can’t reject me and pick me whenever you want to . NO. I will not agree. You are not getting my dick bitch . Keep your public hole to yourself. I got lots of clean fresh holes craving my attention... so fuck off. ( alpha mindsets) .
Change your name to pissed tater todd
That was a joke don't take it serious