That's exactly what I wanted to happen - to put their arms round each other, lost in each other and hearing the music inside. Absolutely wanted to slap those girls!!!!
Ben has never felt unconditional love from phil and thus finds it hard to believe that people could actually love him without expectations, without conditions. That’s why it’s so hard for him to truly accept that Callum loves all of him.
This episode sums up Ben's insecurities. He cannot understand how Callum could possibly still love him. "I'm not the person you fell in love with," is Ben's complex talking. Silly boy is really underestimating the depth of Callum's love for him. And I really wanted to jump into the screen and give a tight slap to those nasty cows laughing at Ben! Just when he was feeling the beat of the music. Seriously, people are so damn judgemental. Riles me up...even though we're talking about a soap, lol. Thanks, Zebra!
I don’t think those girls were laughing at him. That’s Bens paranoias. I think they were doing what I would have been doing. Staring at a cute gay couple where 1 is looking after and helping the other. Giggling and squealing and Awww 🥰 at the cuteness.
Phil (sociopath/narcissist) ruined him, unless he breaks free, Ben will continue to seek self-worth through Phil and have trouble accepting anyone else's compliments/validation.
It maybe a soap but what occured mirrors reality. It does suck especially for those who have low self esteem and those who don't have a strong support system/group.
That argument wasn't even an agrument, it was just Ben showing all of his insecurities with that one line "how can you" and that hurt. the way Callum loves Ben is something that Ben's never had before because growing up Phil never loved him and the last person he loved died. So ben thinks he's unworthy of love and that he doesn't deserve it. I just want to hug him and protect him. Ben has never been loved unconditionally because of all the trauma in his life and the ways Phil treated him just breaks my heart. Also Phil can fuck off with all the "put on a front" and those girls laughing at Ben, made me angry. Like that was a cute moment and then Ben seeing those girls laughing.
Ayyy Callum is legit #PartnerGoals. His empathy and compassion is amazing. I love the idea of getting him to feel the music. EE is doing a wonderful job with this storyline!
My heart melted when Ben was smiling with his ear pressed on the speaker. So cute. And the angst wasn’t too bad tonight, it’s the kinda angst I expect from this sort of storyline. Not gangster crap! Loved it :)
Mythologoumenon Lol Thanks. I just wish they would focus more on the deaf part of this storyline but it’s most centred around this gangster stuff innit? Oh well, at least he gets screen time! :)
Okay this was a powerful scene. Speaks volumes about how society can be so judgmental and can't seem to mind their own business. This is just so sad and infuriating at the same time.
I think it speaks a lot more about Ben's paranoia and insecurities. A group of girls laughing in a club isn't an unusual sight and probably had nothing to do with him
@@MonsieurMcRib well, and that too. But everybody is insecure to a certain degree. In this case, Ben's insecurities were just a bit easier to trigger especially with his handicap. People should be mindful about how they act (i know, this is too idealistic but well, i can't help but wish ) around people who are a bit physically and mentally challeged. Because for some, their handicap could amplify their insecurities. And who knows what goes around their head once these insecurities kick in. Also, I don't think those girls were just randomly laughing. They were laughing at Ben and they made it worse with those ugly smirk plastered on their face. Those smirks they threw were really unnecessary and quite frankly, bullyish.
I read on a scoop somewhere that Phil kicks Ben off the job because he’s frustrated he can’t hear and apparently Ben manages to get hold of a gun. But Ben sees a mysterious van follow Phil and the other guy doing the job and gets worried so follows them to check what’s going on and ends up in serious trouble.
They are really doing a good job of showing how this affects the person and their partner. Both of my grandparents were almost completely deaf. People who are blaming Phil really don't understand that a lot of this is how Ben feels about himself, he doesn't feel like himself. Phil could die tomorrow and that wouldn't change. A major disability will do that to anyone when they first endure it.
@@JessieArt Dunno if you've seen it yet but there was a very adorable scene followed by a moment that flared Ben's insecurities up. It's...kinda painful.
@@LittleGiant11037 I'm sure he'll slowly build up his confidence as time goes on, again thanks so much cause I wasn't going to watch this if it wasn't for your comment!😂💗
@@JessieArt Yeah, I hope so too. Callum will be able to help restore his self-esteem in time. Luckily, he's a very patient and loving guy. Absolutely no worries, happy to help!
Ben just doesn't understand(can't let himself believe) that a person can love him no matter what...that he is enough. I think this was even before he got deaf, now it's just built that pain up even more. He has doubts and he doesn't know how to handle it. Just heartbreaking. The music scene was something beyond beautiful...ofc, some stupid bitches had to ruin the moment!
Just so loving this Ballum scene just so cute. Love the way callum held out his to Ben and told him to get up. They went towards the music system callum Still holding Ben’s hand and tells him to feel the music. Ben’s face was so happy has he looks into his boyfriends face . That is definitely true love ❤️
Ben suffered a lot during his childhood. It left a big scar. I know how it feels to be unloved and considering that he is also gay just adds to the complexity of his relationship towards his father. All he wants is to be loved and accepted.
please tell the people in Eastenders to change the tune. Callum is good for Ben, Someone has to tell Ben that there is more in life that proving being a Mitchell. Super good acting as usual
In other words, after apologizing to Callum for being selfish and talking to that man at the bar, Ben has changed nothing. I love Ben, but he makes zero effort in his relationship. He bought Callum some pastries from the cafe that day, so that's something, I guess.
Honestly, can callum get any cuter and sweeter!! That’s like the perfect model of a boyfriend everyone no matter men or women want in their life!!! Honestly, I’ve never seen anyone can be THIS PATIENT with their partners!! He must really love him!! 💗💗 No matter how Ben’s treating him, or Ben’s struggling or Ben’s on edge, he is always himself loving and supporting!! Not too many people can do that, Especially in real life, dating someone like Ben is EXTREMELY HARD!! With Ben’s recent behavior, I don’t think anyone in real life can manage a relationship with someone like Ben!! It’s too much!!
Chen Zhou ... I am starting to agree. I love Ben so much but Callum can’t go on like this forever. The relationship is too one-sided with Callum doing all the work to keep them together. He’s only human and deserves some love and support in return. He gets absolutely nothing back from Ben whatsoever. Even Callum will reach his limit eventually.
Jade Johnson thank you so so much!!!! I’m so glad I’m not the only one feeling this way!! I love ben A LOT!! Max Bowden is the reason I started watching eastenders again!! I totally got it what Ben’s going through!! Ben thought his own way of loving himself but to us, what ben actually behaves is not loving himself or callum or anyone else!! Ben is on edge, he doesn’t know where he stands so he doesn’t know how to love anyone including himself, he’s really a mess!! That’s why I’m sacred for both of them!! Especially for callum, IM TRYING SO HARD TO MAKE EXCUSES FOR BEN’s behavior, But let’s imagine if we are callum, would you love someone like Ben that much that no matter how he treats you or what mess he gets into, you can guarantee yourself that your patience NEVER RUN OUT?? That’s not realistic, that’s fairytale!! So if this continues, when callum reaches threshold, that’s it!!😭😭
Chen Zhou ... I am with you! I want them to stay together more than anything, but at some point Callum has to accept that Ben simply can’t get past this and has made his decision - which is his Dad and being a criminal over a life with Callum, the greatest boyfriend on the planet who loves him unconditionally. Go figure.
Sophie Johnston oh basically what i mean is like ive seen a lot of fans who think that Ben is heartless etc and a lot of negative things but many are starting to see him as he really is which is actually a good person
@@lara7214 oh ok thats good and I agree with you, some people don't understand Ben's character and think that he's really evil. That annoys me because Ben a layered character and there a lot more to him than being a villian or "evil" as some people say. So when I read your comment I though something negative of it but I'm glad that I was wrong
Nuh. It’s as painful scene- but they’re hardly even giving Ben and Callum a glance. They might not even have noticed them, just laughing about something else. I read the situation and the camera angles as being much more about Ben’s own insecurities and vulnerability in the crisis he’s going through, not that much about random people’s reactions. It’s sad and painful for sure, because we see it from Ben’s perspective, he’s sad and hurting. But the people at the bar might not even have noticed anything.
@@badlydrawnavocado2569 I so agree, and i couldn't have put it better myself. I watched the scene, and the perfect word for it is "heartwrenching" 😭 I feel so bad for Ben, but I'm soo excited for his special episode!!!
Jessie Art I’m super hyped as well! The ep i s gonna be really exciting and different for sure- and I love that Eastenders has the bravery and ambition to do something from that angle! And GOD Max is gonna smash it, he’s an absolute treasure!
Why those girls laughed I will never understand. Still, I feel like Ben is falling out of love with Callum. When the boat accident took place he stopped at nothing to get Callum back and then there was that time where he though Callum was leaving and begged him. Not he’s going back to his criminal ways to prove a point by Phil. He’s not exactly lovely gushy with Callum anymore and it doesn’t look like there’s a spark anymore when he looks at Callum. Bottom line is a few months ago “for Callum I would” and not it’s “Phil this and dad that” he’s clearly going back to his old ways and not being able to hear is no excuse. He’s taking Callum for a ride. I don’t think there will be wedding bells and I can’t see their relationship surviving... not unless I’m proven otherwise (by future EE episodes)
Kylie 96 hes just as in love with callum he’s just confused and doesn’t love himself anymore. He has always tried to please phil and that will always continue. He’ll always want them both happy with him
He loves Callum the same and he always will. But he doesn't understand why/how Callum loves him, cause he doesn't love himself. (which is Phil's fault)
It's a bit annoying to see Ben in the same scheme with his dad... and pushing away Callum to protect him,even if he's a cop now! And he don't want to see Callum in trouble...but using the same strings again... you know Ben that Callum loves you even if you're hearing or deaf ! Callum loves you in a heartbeat... tonight it was music beat but quite the same! Don't care about the others, especially the girls at the pub... they're laughing about their lives and love stories maybe... not on you !
Actually, they were laughing at Ben 2:38; 2:57; 3:00 (the last one may not look like they were having a go at Ben but if you piece it with the first two instances, it does)
@@bradleybassett1769 That's horrible. No one would ever say that for no reason there's almost always a reason behind it. Maybe she isn't happy at home, etc,
Ben breaks my heart, he's been through so much, you can see how much he's suffering but he's trying to put on a brave front and hide it but he doesn't need to but Phil has taught him too as he's made him feel like its weak to feel/show his emotions and open up and he's still struggling with losing Paul. It's so upsetting how he feels that he can't be loved and can't see why someone would love him because he's never really been loved by anyone except Paul (who was probably the first one who truly loved him) and now Callum, not even his own father loves him because he doesn't fulfil this idea he's got of a perfect son, well he doesn't need to be a "hard man" who can hear and be strong all the time and who loves women, Ben is amazing the way he is and should be loved for who he is, if I was his family I'd love him even more and would be the proudest family member you could meet, I hope one day Phil realises how amazing his son is and finally loves him for who he is. There's so much stuff he hasn't faced and dealt with. He's so worthy of love and he is an amazing person but he doesn't show it or see it, breaks my heart how much he hates himself and I reckon he's also afraid to be in a relationship after everything with Paul in case it repeats itself. I really hope he gets through all this because he deserves to be happy and he's so worthy of love, he needs to see that he doesn't always have to be this "hard man" who's always "strong" because sometimes the bravest thing to do is face your issues and open up and show your emotions and he needs to see that he's worthy of love and he should allow Callum to love him back instead of pushing him away, and realise it's okay to need help sometimes/ask for help. I hope one day Ben can be happy and overcome his insecurities because he's so insecure and realise all these things, he deserves it. Also words can't begin to say how amazing Max Bowden is, you can see how hard he works and his emotions are so convincing, it's not easy doing the things he does in the show but he has been absolutely phenomenal! I'm honestly so proud of him, can't wait to see him shine even more!☺️
when Callum brought ben near the speaker i shouted "VIBRATION" that cost me a lot of looks and concerns but still Ben looked happy that he could 'feel' the sounds for once this episode makes me melt inside just from that scene, til those girls started laughing then it all got ruined I know it's embarrassing for ben to do stuff in public risking judgement but can't he just do one thing and understand that Callum loves him he said it himself, he'd 'do him' whether he was hearing or deaf, because he's still the ben he loves sure a few changes and difficulties, and struggles now, but please just be happy and love eachother without any drama, just for a bit, p l e a s e
COULDNT OF PUT IT BETTER MYSELF! And especially that end bit: a writer on twitter by the name of "Duncan Linsay" said that happiness is coming for Ballum! 💗
@ Jessie Art ... omg I hope that’s true. I’m exhausted. I feel like I am the one in this relationship lol. I feel deflated and on the verge of giving up on these two and it hurts my heart ... so I pray, pray, pray this is true. Otherwise it’s time for Callum to admit defeat and move on now - and I hate saying that, but eventually enough’s enough.
@@Tricia-gn9bj I 100 percent agree with you! I'm exhausted too. If I was Callum I would have left ages ago! I guess he loves Ben so much and he knows that they would both be broken if they broke up tho. BBC are kind of doing a rinse and repeat all the time, im sick of it tbh. Everytime they're happy theres another knockback and drama. If ballum wasn't one of the most popular and favourite couple in EE i wonder if they would be happier w not as much drama if that makes sense. BBC know how much we enjoy watching them so they want as much content/drama from them as possible. I guess it's better that they're on our screens, tho... If they're not happier next week I'm going to email BBC and complain 😂
After next Monday and Tuesdays episodes is that it until they get back to filming new episodes? Or do we have 2 more episodes. Wonder how much longer until Bens surgery actually happens??
He already struggles with accepting that someone could remotely care for him when he wasn’t dealing w complete deafness. So now? It’s even more so. It’s actually very in character. Annoying? Yeah kinda. But I get it,
@@mechellemybell1000 I understand why but he acted this way before he became deaf! Callum has stood by him through so much and I just want them to have a easy time at least for a couple episodes.
If one of the outcomes of the Ben POV episode next week isnt that he doesn’t change his ways toward Callum then they should really break up ballum. That being said the speaker scene was 😍😍
AGAIN!!!! How can you do that ben. You still let him down. You dont need to shout at him coz of those idiot girls. Callum tries his best to make you happy, dont you know that? Poor callum, maybe from now on every single thing he does for ben will always wrong. He doesnt get respect, a word THANKS, and even something who can make him happy as a boyfriend. 😭😭😭
@dr103 insecurity about what??? Callum have said he loves him, and ben said he loves him. So what else. Ben said i'll support you, so follow your dream. But he tried to get some intel information from the police to his idiot dad Phil. Callum trying his best just to make ben feel safe, warm, by his side. But what callum get? NOTHING. and in this episode Ben stil shout at him and say "How can you? i'm not the person you fell in love with". Can you even imagine how HURT, SAD it was. Ben still the son of that idiot Phil and will do anything for his dad. Compare to his dad callum is nothing. Even in another episode Ben said *For Callum i would.
So Ben has ‘Phil’ on his phone now. Not dad. He usually has ‘dad’ on his phone. Sorry to be picky but I remember things like this. Beautiful scene in the club though 🥰🥰
Omg! You know what this means, right? Well, I could be wrong, but when people are in an argument or don't feel close to their dads/mums they sometimes change it to their real name. I've seen it happen irl, it could be that meaning behind it or just EE messing up😂
I hope Callum lets go of Ben soon. It's only so much you can do for someone. Ben needs to work on himself. Love himself. Then he can come back to Callum.
Someone help - I've only watched the to the bit where they're both sitting in the E20, and I stopped and I don't want to watch it cause I hate angst and they're like having an argument at the end. I feel stupid lol Is it bad??
Ok how many times is Ben gonna hurt Callum and push him away and break his trust then ends up in a mess as soon as Callum leaves him or is arguing with him like it’s going in circles and I’m sorry but Phil Mitchell just needs a right good smack across the face I’m hoping Kathy does it and tells Phil to stop messing with bens head and let him be happy with Callum and if he wants dodgey jobs done then fine but to leave her son Ben out of it I mean cmon surely it ain’t just me hoping she does that it Sharron does it and tells him to stop the dodgey work since it was dodgey work that killed Dennis if you think about it in a way and am I the only one praying that Ben realises he’s better with Callum and they get married after bens operation I mean cmon surely not just me
Richard Stokes well yes but if phil didn’t hit his son then Ben wouldn’t have fell and hit the wheel and the boat wouldn’t have crashed but Ian shouldn’t have locked him in the room
In the end, like I said before, I don’t doubt ben loves callum, But deep down he just loves himself more than he loves callum, Callum DEFINITELY loves Ben more than the other way around!! Ben, ask yourself, would you do the same for callum like he did for you?? Clearly not!! If he puts callum first, he would stay away from phil, let him deal with his business!! So, “GOOD LUCK NEXT MONDAY”!!! Let’s see what kind of lesson you will learn this time, ben!!!😆😆😆😆
NO. NO. NO. You've got it all wrong. Ben's snarky comments and what looks like a big ego IS ALL A COVER UP. He has ZERO self esteem in reality. (because of Phil, Stella, and other people in his life etc)
dr103 yeah! In the past he did all those good actions! So I never said he doesn’t love callum, OF COURSE HE DOES!! But those are not the excuses for his recent behavior!! If he loves callum more than anything, he should ALWAYS PUT CALLUM FIRST AHEAD OF HIMSELF OR ANYONE ELSE, certainly not phil!! And he should change his lifestyle for callum if he wants this relationship last long! Because callum always is there for him despite how’s Ben treating him!! But callum is still just a normal guy, there’s just this much that a guy can take!! Imagine yourself if you’re callum, and you are being treated by Ben like that, and you constantly try to comfort him, support him and cheer him up, but you don’t see any signs that he will change and do the same for you, Then you ask yourself, How much longer I can take this?? If you’re callum, would you wanna be treated by Ben like that? Do you have that kind of patience for dating someone like Ben in real life? It takes two for a relationship to work, not one sided effort 😊😊
dr103 you are absolutely right! And that’s very kind of you!😊😊 So I do have faith that the two of them will work out! It’s just I don’t want the writers to write the storyline goes down that way where ben keeps pushing callum to the limit until finally callum can’t take it anymore and he just won’t look back no matter how ben tries to fix it, it would be too late!! So I’m not saying you should give up a good relationship easily, you should absolutely fight for it, but both members have to work together towards the center, if only constantly one person keeps holding them together while the other keeps pushing away, that just won’t last long, it’s simple logic!😊
Ok anyone else just done with Ben giving up on love with callum or not believing he can love him etc its old at this point. Just make ben hear again and be on your merry way
Thank you for this I only follow the gay storyline. Callum is too good for Ben he is just a sweet fellow such a handsome gay character. Ben is getting on my nerves. Callum is unrealistic the character to just take Ben abuse. I know Ben fans will say he is struggling being deaf. It doesn't excuse Ben treating Callum like shit. This is not a gay love story. On Emmerdale at least Robert changed for Aaron he really loved him. All I see is Callum trying hard and Ben treating him like shit. I want Callum to dump Ben.
Ben isn't abusive towards callum, also gay love story it's a soap mate not a rom-com. Not everything is going to sunshine and rainbows. He is struggling being deaf because a dramatic life change. He knows what Callums doing for him, being supportive and comforting him but Ben doesn't know how to react or to deal with that because he never been shown love it that, his dad doesn't love him or care about him and the last person he loved died. Also no one care about Emmerdale, don't compare the two because there two different shows on two different channels.
@mr mike yeah I know it's stupid and annoying. They really need to research what abuse is because clearly they don't understand. I know that Ben is struggling hard at the moment and everything he's feeling hes taking it out on callum. But everyone saying that Ben is treating Callum like shit and Callum needs to break up with ben. It actually drives me crazy but I would love to see what people say about Callum if the roles were reversed. If it was callum lashing out on ben or doing something wrong.
@mr mike they honestly do, those people that are saying that Callum needs to break up with Ben because apparently he's being a brat and an asshole obovously have never been around someone whose struggling or have something life changing happen to them
@@jk-gx6nc It's really how much you respect yourself and how much you are willing to put up with. "Hearts and Flowers" relationships are fine but on at least one side it isn't happening. Callum has put up with a lot from Ben.
Oh gosh, this drivel once more? I swear the writers are a bunch of sadists. Are they going to break up again for the umpteenth time? GET NEW WRITERS! Still waiting for the Ballum spin off.
Ben and Callum are so different they don't belong to eachother ben needs someone like Brendan from hollyoaks we need to bring more ronnie kray types of gays so they can be with ben
Callum has the patience of a saint tbh. He’s trying so hard the poor guy.
Returning the patience Ben showed him throughout his coming out🥰
Ben hugging the loudspeakers - what an absolutely beautiful moment / scene! And Callum Highway is the best boyfriend ever!
He looks so good in that scene😍😍😍
Callum comforting Ben was so sweet. I wish we could have got to see them dance together!
That's exactly what I wanted to happen - to put their arms round each other, lost in each other and hearing the music inside.
Absolutely wanted to slap those girls!!!!
That would be amazing. 💙💙💙
Fast forward to January 2023, they were dancing together with Lexi ❤
Ben has never felt unconditional love from phil and thus finds it hard to believe that people could actually love him without expectations, without conditions. That’s why it’s so hard for him to truly accept that Callum loves all of him.
OH MY GOD YES!!! THIS IS THE BEST F*CKING COMMENT IVE SEEN ON HERE!
@@JessieArt I agree with you 100% best comment ever
Oh geez that coment his hard 🥺. Summed it up perfectly
ooof' - heartbreaking but soo true
Nailed it
Ben lost his hearing. Nothing else about him has changed. I wish he could see himself through Callum's eyes.
Same. Poor guy's self-esteem is almost non-existant. He can't see how Callum could still love him as much as he does.
This episode sums up Ben's insecurities. He cannot understand how Callum could possibly still love him. "I'm not the person you fell in love with," is Ben's complex talking. Silly boy is really underestimating the depth of Callum's love for him. And I really wanted to jump into the screen and give a tight slap to those nasty cows laughing at Ben! Just when he was feeling the beat of the music. Seriously, people are so damn judgemental. Riles me up...even though we're talking about a soap, lol.
Thanks, Zebra!
I don’t think those girls were laughing at him. That’s Bens paranoias. I think they were doing what I would have been doing. Staring at a cute gay couple where 1 is looking after and helping the other. Giggling and squealing and Awww 🥰 at the cuteness.
Phil (sociopath/narcissist) ruined him, unless he breaks free, Ben will continue to seek self-worth through Phil and have trouble accepting anyone else's compliments/validation.
@@danushkadethabrew7871 maybe but I don't know🤔
It maybe a soap but what occured mirrors reality. It does suck especially for those who have low self esteem and those who don't have a strong support system/group.
That argument wasn't even an agrument, it was just Ben showing all of his insecurities with that one line "how can you" and that hurt. the way Callum loves Ben is something that Ben's never had before because growing up Phil never loved him and the last person he loved died. So ben thinks he's unworthy of love and that he doesn't deserve it. I just want to hug him and protect him. Ben has never been loved unconditionally because of all the trauma in his life and the ways Phil treated him just breaks my heart. Also Phil can fuck off with all the "put on a front" and those girls laughing at Ben, made me angry. Like that was a cute moment and then Ben seeing those girls laughing.
I always want to protect Ben and Callum tbh. Also, nice pfp. Looks like we picked the same kiss 😂
It's amazing how ben could hear part of the music throughout this deafness ! I love it
AWWWW and OWWW and AWWW and OWWWW - thats a representation of me through this episode
Callum suggesting Ben to dance at the lyrics on the screen is like the old goofy innocent Callum 🤣😅😍.
Ballum Ben and Callum My Two Boys From EastEnders ❤❤❤
It was so cute Ben feeling the music, my heart melted, poor Ben :(
I think Callum was getting through to him...then he saw those girls😡😡
@@theresabruebaker1030 Them girls were so insensitive :(
@@beccacostelloe04 I agree. Hopefully they'll grow out of it
I hate those girls. This is an accurate representation though. Really well done.
@@GinaSigillitounfortunately I think we've all met those kind of girls
Ayyy Callum is legit #PartnerGoals. His empathy and compassion is amazing. I love the idea of getting him to feel the music. EE is doing a wonderful job with this storyline!
My heart melted when Ben was smiling with his ear pressed on the speaker. So cute. And the angst wasn’t too bad tonight, it’s the kinda angst I expect from this sort of storyline. Not gangster crap! Loved it :)
Haha ... "gangster crap" made my day! unfortunately "gangster crap" also sums up about 78% of ben bloody mitchell's airtime, unfortunately 😑
Mythologoumenon Lol Thanks. I just wish they would focus more on the deaf part of this storyline but it’s most centred around this gangster stuff innit? Oh well, at least he gets screen time! :)
Okay this was a powerful scene. Speaks volumes about how society can be so judgmental and can't seem to mind their own business. This is just so sad and infuriating at the same time.
Yeah.
I think it speaks a lot more about Ben's paranoia and insecurities. A group of girls laughing in a club isn't an unusual sight and probably had nothing to do with him
@@MonsieurMcRib well, and that too. But everybody is insecure to a certain degree. In this case, Ben's insecurities were just a bit easier to trigger especially with his handicap. People should be mindful about how they act (i know, this is too idealistic but well, i can't help but wish ) around people who are a bit physically and mentally challeged. Because for some, their handicap could amplify their insecurities. And who knows what goes around their head once these insecurities kick in. Also, I don't think those girls were just randomly laughing. They were laughing at Ben and they made it worse with those ugly smirk plastered on their face. Those smirks they threw were really unnecessary and quite frankly, bullyish.
@@pointblank1737 Exacly they were so insensitive and mean. Wanted Callum to say something to them!!
“How can you?” Ben does love Callum but Ben doesn’t love himself :( not as much as he should anyway
He have deep insecurities since his childhood which left a scar. His dad's lack of acceptance of him of his deafness makes it even worst.
deffo yep!!
I agreed Ben thinks he’s not good enough Callum when he is. 💙💙♾💙💙
John Elmore I don’t agreed Ben’s just going through a lot that’s all
Callum: *calling after Ben* I'll see you later, yeah?
Me: Cal...he's deaf, remember?
LMFAOOO WHEN WATCHING THAT SCENE I LAUGHED SO HARD
Thanks for giving me a laugh from this comment😂😂
@@JessieArt No problem. Glad I made you laugh 😂
Same... 😂
I feel this job Ben going to do with his dad will go horribly wrong.
Yeah, I have the same feeling of dread, “waiting for the other shoe to drop”, so to speak.
One hundred percent. I heard a rumour that Ben ends up in hospital😳
Jessie Art ooh where did you hear that? I heard he ends up with a gun pointed at him! Can’t wait for next week, need to know what’s gonna happen!
I read on a scoop somewhere that Phil kicks Ben off the job because he’s frustrated he can’t hear and apparently Ben manages to get hold of a gun. But Ben sees a mysterious van follow Phil and the other guy doing the job and gets worried so follows them to check what’s going on and ends up in serious trouble.
Ben gets held at gunpoint
In the beginning it was Ben pushing Callum, now it's Callum pushing Been. so nice to see how the roles have switched. #BallumForever 😍😍😍😍
Oh i need callum in my life!!!
Ben shutting down Callum just sizzles my anger
Ugh same, also is the "argument" bad? I'm scared to watch it.
@@JessieArt It's sad if anything
I’m so scared for what’s coming 🥴 I hope Ballum stays strong coz they are literally so cuteeee😭💪
They are really doing a good job of showing how this affects the person and their partner. Both of my grandparents were almost completely deaf. People who are blaming Phil really don't understand that a lot of this is how Ben feels about himself, he doesn't feel like himself. Phil could die tomorrow and that wouldn't change. A major disability will do that to anyone when they first endure it.
Why do they keep doing this to us? 😭😭 That scene in the club was so powerful.
Ikr ugh
That went from sweet to heartwrenching in seconds. Damn.
@@JessieArt Dunno if you've seen it yet but there was a very adorable scene followed by a moment that flared Ben's insecurities up. It's...kinda painful.
@@LittleGiant11037 Ok thanks for telling me, I appreciate it.
I just didn't want them to argue
:(
@@JessieArt Not a problem. They didn't really argue - Ben mainly just vented. Poor guy is insecure as hell right now.
@@LittleGiant11037 I'm sure he'll slowly build up his confidence as time goes on, again thanks so much cause I wasn't going to watch this if it wasn't for your comment!😂💗
@@JessieArt Yeah, I hope so too. Callum will be able to help restore his self-esteem in time. Luckily, he's a very patient and loving guy. Absolutely no worries, happy to help!
The song in the background too. ‘Tell me that you want me, tell me that you need me’ 😭😭
OH MY GOD WHATTTTTT😭😭
Jessie Art Rudimental ft. Ella Eyre - waiting all night....Love this song
@@beaubobo6378 thanks!!
Only way for Ben to get better is to cut Phil out completely, someone so destructive/toxic to you, cannot be allowed to keep dragging you down.
ben underestimates callum. next week is going to be very interesting.
Hmm...
These two are killing me!
“How can you!, I’m not the person you fell In love with” w.o.w that hit me hard... 😣😔 idk why tho but I loved That line
Ballum are able to make us all laugh, cry... everything! 😭 🙏
Ben just doesn't understand(can't let himself believe) that a person can love him no matter what...that he is enough. I think this was even before he got deaf, now it's just built that pain up even more. He has doubts and he doesn't know how to handle it. Just heartbreaking.
The music scene was something beyond beautiful...ofc, some stupid bitches had to ruin the moment!
Don't have to look far what's the real cause: Phil.
Just so loving this Ballum scene just so cute. Love the way callum held out his to Ben and told him to get up. They went towards the music system callum Still holding Ben’s hand and tells him to feel the music. Ben’s face was so happy has he looks into his boyfriends face . That is definitely true love ❤️
Callum so sweet
Callum Highway is the most amazing man in the world
I would have lose patience long ago with Ben's behavior ...
Poor Callum,
Ben Doesn't give him a break......
Wish I had a guy like Callum who would do anything to make me happy. Ben stop being a brat and just accept what Callum does for you.
Ben suffered a lot during his childhood. It left a big scar. I know how it feels to be unloved and considering that he is also gay just adds to the complexity of his relationship towards his father. All he wants is to be loved and accepted.
please tell the people in Eastenders to change the tune. Callum is good for Ben, Someone has to tell Ben that there is more in life that proving being a Mitchell. Super good acting as usual
@dr103 the story
In other words, after apologizing to Callum for being selfish and talking to that man at the bar, Ben has changed nothing. I love Ben, but he makes zero effort in his relationship. He bought Callum some pastries from the cafe that day, so that's something, I guess.
LMFAOOO THAT END SENTENCE 😭😂😂
Honestly, can callum get any cuter and sweeter!!
That’s like the perfect model of a boyfriend everyone no matter men or women want in their life!!!
Honestly, I’ve never seen anyone can be THIS PATIENT with their partners!!
He must really love him!! 💗💗
No matter how Ben’s treating him, or Ben’s struggling or Ben’s on edge, he is always himself loving and supporting!!
Not too many people can do that,
Especially in real life, dating someone like Ben is EXTREMELY HARD!!
With Ben’s recent behavior, I don’t think anyone in real life can manage a relationship with someone like Ben!!
It’s too much!!
Chen Zhou ... I am starting to agree. I love Ben so much but Callum can’t go on like this forever. The relationship is too one-sided with Callum doing all the work to keep them together. He’s only human and deserves some love and support in return. He gets absolutely nothing back from Ben whatsoever. Even Callum will reach his limit eventually.
Jade Johnson thank you so so much!!!!
I’m so glad I’m not the only one feeling this way!!
I love ben A LOT!! Max Bowden is the reason I started watching eastenders again!!
I totally got it what Ben’s going through!!
Ben thought his own way of loving himself but to us, what ben actually behaves is not loving himself or callum or anyone else!!
Ben is on edge, he doesn’t know where he stands so he doesn’t know how to love anyone including himself, he’s really a mess!!
That’s why I’m sacred for both of them!!
Especially for callum, IM TRYING SO HARD TO MAKE EXCUSES FOR BEN’s behavior,
But let’s imagine if we are callum, would you love someone like Ben that much that no matter how he treats you or what mess he gets into, you can guarantee yourself that your patience NEVER RUN OUT??
That’s not realistic, that’s fairytale!!
So if this continues, when callum reaches threshold, that’s it!!😭😭
Chen Zhou ... I am with you! I want them to stay together more than anything, but at some point Callum has to accept that Ben simply can’t get past this and has made his decision - which is his Dad and being a criminal over a life with Callum, the greatest boyfriend on the planet who loves him unconditionally. Go figure.
The last scene sums it up it It is different not being deaf since u wr born he is insecure and wonders how Callum can still love him
I love them so much
Beneeneenene nooooooo he luvvvs yooouuu
Hahaha I laughed sm @ this comment😂
Poor Ben :( But even more so poor Callum :( they are in such a bad place! (Am I the only one noticing Ben basically lives with Callum now haha)
Haha yeah love then
I’m so sad to see Ben get back into trouble! Just not sure I can keep watching him break Callus’s heart!
i'm so glad fans are finally starting to see ben for who he actually is-
Meaning what?
Sophie Johnston wdym?
@@lara7214 sorry I just dont understand your comment about fans seeing Ben for who he actually is.
Sophie Johnston oh basically what i mean is like ive seen a lot of fans who think that Ben is heartless etc and a lot of negative things but many are starting to see him as he really is which is actually a good person
@@lara7214 oh ok thats good and I agree with you, some people don't understand Ben's character and think that he's really evil. That annoys me because Ben a layered character and there a lot more to him than being a villian or "evil" as some people say. So when I read your comment I though something negative of it but I'm glad that I was wrong
No. When those girls looked at him!!!
Damn bitches! 😡
Is it bad? I'm scared to watch it 😩 I'm too soft for angst!
Nuh. It’s as painful scene- but they’re hardly even giving Ben and Callum a glance. They might not even have noticed them, just laughing about something else. I read the situation and the camera angles as being much more about Ben’s own insecurities and vulnerability in the crisis he’s going through, not that much about random people’s reactions. It’s sad and painful for sure, because we see it from Ben’s perspective, he’s sad and hurting. But the people at the bar might not even have noticed anything.
@@badlydrawnavocado2569 I so agree, and i couldn't have put it better myself. I watched the scene, and the perfect word for it is "heartwrenching" 😭 I feel so bad for Ben, but I'm soo excited for his special episode!!!
Jessie Art I’m super hyped as well! The ep i s gonna be really exciting and different for sure- and I love that Eastenders has the bravery and ambition to do something from that angle! And GOD Max is gonna smash it, he’s an absolute treasure!
Why those girls laughed I will never understand. Still, I feel like Ben is falling out of love with Callum. When the boat accident took place he stopped at nothing to get Callum back and then there was that time where he though Callum was leaving and begged him. Not he’s going back to his criminal ways to prove a point by Phil. He’s not exactly lovely gushy with Callum anymore and it doesn’t look like there’s a spark anymore when he looks at Callum.
Bottom line is a few months ago “for Callum I would” and not it’s “Phil this and dad that” he’s clearly going back to his old ways and not being able to hear is no excuse. He’s taking Callum for a ride. I don’t think there will be wedding bells and I can’t see their relationship surviving... not unless I’m proven otherwise (by future EE episodes)
Kylie 96 hes just as in love with callum he’s just confused and doesn’t love himself anymore. He has always tried to please phil and that will always continue. He’ll always want them both happy with him
He loves Callum the same and he always will. But he doesn't understand why/how Callum loves him, cause he doesn't love himself. (which is Phil's fault)
Aww Ben and Callum are cute together
It's a bit annoying to see Ben in the same scheme with his dad... and pushing away Callum to protect him,even if he's a cop now! And he don't want to see Callum in trouble...but using the same strings again... you know Ben that Callum loves you even if you're hearing or deaf ! Callum loves you in a heartbeat... tonight it was music beat but quite the same! Don't care about the others, especially the girls at the pub... they're laughing about their lives and love stories maybe... not on you !
Actually, they were laughing at Ben 2:38; 2:57; 3:00 (the last one may not look like they were having a go at Ben but if you piece it with the first two instances, it does)
You always have them girls in school that belittle others🤦♀️
Normally cause they're insecure abt themselves
@@JessieArt i had a girl who was at my school called Lourai she told me to go and kill myself.
@@bradleybassett1769 That's horrible. No one would ever say that for no reason there's almost always a reason behind it. Maybe she isn't happy at home, etc,
I hate those girls that were laughing at Ben.
ARGH SAME
what’s the train sound effect about?
Ben breaks my heart, he's been through so much, you can see how much he's suffering but he's trying to put on a brave front and hide it but he doesn't need to but Phil has taught him too as he's made him feel like its weak to feel/show his emotions and open up and he's still struggling with losing Paul. It's so upsetting how he feels that he can't be loved and can't see why someone would love him because he's never really been loved by anyone except Paul (who was probably the first one who truly loved him) and now Callum, not even his own father loves him because he doesn't fulfil this idea he's got of a perfect son, well he doesn't need to be a "hard man" who can hear and be strong all the time and who loves women, Ben is amazing the way he is and should be loved for who he is, if I was his family I'd love him even more and would be the proudest family member you could meet, I hope one day Phil realises how amazing his son is and finally loves him for who he is. There's so much stuff he hasn't faced and dealt with. He's so worthy of love and he is an amazing person but he doesn't show it or see it, breaks my heart how much he hates himself and I reckon he's also afraid to be in a relationship after everything with Paul in case it repeats itself. I really hope he gets through all this because he deserves to be happy and he's so worthy of love, he needs to see that he doesn't always have to be this "hard man" who's always "strong" because sometimes the bravest thing to do is face your issues and open up and show your emotions and he needs to see that he's worthy of love and he should allow Callum to love him back instead of pushing him away, and realise it's okay to need help sometimes/ask for help. I hope one day Ben can be happy and overcome his insecurities because he's so insecure and realise all these things, he deserves it. Also words can't begin to say how amazing Max Bowden is, you can see how hard he works and his emotions are so convincing, it's not easy doing the things he does in the show but he has been absolutely phenomenal! I'm honestly so proud of him, can't wait to see him shine even more!☺️
Gosh! The ending is so frustrating. I wonder how much Callum could take in 😑
when Callum brought ben near the speaker i shouted "VIBRATION"
that cost me a lot of looks and concerns but still
Ben looked happy that he could 'feel' the sounds for once
this episode makes me melt inside just from that scene, til those girls started laughing then it all got ruined
I know it's embarrassing for ben to do stuff in public risking judgement but can't he just do one thing and understand that Callum loves him
he said it himself, he'd 'do him' whether he was hearing or deaf, because he's still the ben he loves
sure a few changes and difficulties, and struggles now, but please just be happy and love eachother without any drama, just for a bit, p l e a s e
COULDNT OF PUT IT BETTER MYSELF!
And especially that end bit: a writer on twitter by the name of "Duncan Linsay" said that happiness is coming for Ballum! 💗
Jessie Art oh thank god i was worrying
that ballum happiness better last for the sake of my heart
@@SlothBird yeah same haha😭💗😂
@ Jessie Art ... omg I hope that’s true. I’m exhausted. I feel like I am the one in this relationship lol. I feel deflated and on the verge of giving up on these two and it hurts my heart ... so I pray, pray, pray this is true. Otherwise it’s time for Callum to admit defeat and move on now - and I hate saying that, but eventually enough’s enough.
@@Tricia-gn9bj I 100 percent agree with you! I'm exhausted too.
If I was Callum I would have left ages ago! I guess he loves Ben so much and he knows that they would both be broken if they broke up tho.
BBC are kind of doing a rinse and repeat all the time, im sick of it tbh. Everytime they're happy theres another knockback and drama.
If ballum wasn't one of the most popular and favourite couple in EE i wonder if they would be happier w not as much drama if that makes sense. BBC know how much we enjoy watching them so they want as much content/drama from them as possible. I guess it's better that they're on our screens, tho...
If they're not happier next week I'm going to email BBC and complain 😂
Why can't Ben love himself 😢
Ikr 😭
Phil
@@Bruced82 One word needed and i agree with you.
God I wish Phil would stay in Portugal.
@@JessieArt me too
I know ben is hurting but he is driving me insane. I know he loves Callum but he's treating him like garbage
Love
I guess there are "mean girls" wherever you go😡😡
What's the song paying called
After next Monday and Tuesdays episodes is that it until they get back to filming new episodes? Or do we have 2 more episodes. Wonder how much longer until Bens surgery actually happens??
1 more week after next week I think, maybe 2.......
I'm getting so tired of this attitude Ben has tord Callum. He's the only one that gives a toss about Ben. He never learns his lesson.
He already struggles with accepting that someone could remotely care for him when he wasn’t dealing w complete deafness. So now? It’s even more so. It’s actually very in character. Annoying? Yeah kinda. But I get it,
@@mechellemybell1000 I understand why but he acted this way before he became deaf! Callum has stood by him through so much and I just want them to have a easy time at least for a couple episodes.
The real culprit is Phil, he made Ben's self-esteem completely reliant on him. Callum won't get really through, as long as Phil is in the picture.
i love this scene, someone knows this song
If one of the outcomes of the Ben POV episode next week isnt that he doesn’t change his ways toward Callum then they should really break up ballum. That being said the speaker scene was 😍😍
AGAIN!!!!
How can you do that ben. You still let him down. You dont need to shout at him coz of those idiot girls. Callum tries his best to make you happy, dont you know that? Poor callum, maybe from now on every single thing he does for ben will always wrong. He doesnt get respect, a word THANKS, and even something who can make him happy as a boyfriend. 😭😭😭
@dr103 you should watch the episode before christmas. In the episode Callum said He loves ben.
@dr103 insecurity about what???
Callum have said he loves him, and ben said he loves him. So what else.
Ben said i'll support you, so follow your dream. But he tried to get some intel information from the police to his idiot dad Phil. Callum trying his best just to make ben feel safe, warm, by his side. But what callum get? NOTHING. and in this episode Ben stil shout at him and say "How can you? i'm not the person you fell in love with".
Can you even imagine how HURT, SAD it was. Ben still the son of that idiot Phil and will do anything for his dad. Compare to his dad callum is nothing. Even in another episode Ben said *For Callum i would.
@dr103 ok bro/sis thanks for the opinion. I appreciate it. Thanks 😀
@dr103 I agree with you, I hope Callum makes Ben see!!
❤❤❤❤
Next Monday’s episode is Ben’s special episode
yeah! cant wait
I’m soooooooooo bored with Ben trying to please daddy.
Ugh arent we all😩🙄
That song is tune tho
So Ben has ‘Phil’ on his phone now. Not dad. He usually has ‘dad’ on his phone. Sorry to be picky but I remember things like this. Beautiful scene in the club though 🥰🥰
Omg! You know what this means, right?
Well, I could be wrong, but when people are in an argument or don't feel close to their dads/mums they sometimes change it to their real name.
I've seen it happen irl, it could be that meaning behind it or just EE messing up😂
Jessie Art 🤣🤣 have you noticed that Phil has different telephone numbers? Maybe he has a lot of burner phones, the criminal that he is lol 😂
@@beaubobo6378 ahhh, good point! I reckon you're right!
Which show is it?
eastenders
I hope Callum lets go of Ben soon. It's only so much you can do for someone.
Ben needs to work on himself. Love himself. Then he can come back to Callum.
Glutton for Punishment ... I agree. Otherwise we need to put your user name on a t-shirt and ship it off to Callum.
Jade Johnson
😂
what ben tried to hide?
Bruh have u even been watching these episodes?
If you mean in the flat, he was trying to hide a gun
@@jk-gx6nc Ohhh right I thought they meant about the dodgey job 😂
Someone help - I've only watched the to the bit where they're both sitting in the E20, and I stopped and I don't want to watch it cause I hate angst and they're like having an argument at the end. I feel stupid lol
Is it bad??
Not really :)
Nope ... it’s extremely minor compared to other arguments (“I don’t want to do this anymore” comes to mind!). It’s really just more of the same sadly.
@@Tricia-gn9bj okay thank you so much lol 😂 I'm too soft for angst😩
@@beccacostelloe04 Ok ty :)
Ben didn’t just break up with Callum right They just had a fight right not broken up right? I’m confused 😐. I really hope not.
Ok how many times is Ben gonna hurt Callum and push him away and break his trust then ends up in a mess as soon as Callum leaves him or is arguing with him like it’s going in circles and I’m sorry but Phil Mitchell just needs a right good smack across the face I’m hoping Kathy does it and tells Phil to stop messing with bens head and let him be happy with Callum and if he wants dodgey jobs done then fine but to leave her son Ben out of it I mean cmon surely it ain’t just me hoping she does that it Sharron does it and tells him to stop the dodgey work since it was dodgey work that killed Dennis if you think about it in a way and am I the only one praying that Ben realises he’s better with Callum and they get married after bens operation I mean cmon surely not just me
So Ian is still carrying his nasty little secret about Dennis's death?
Richard Stokes well yes but if phil didn’t hit his son then Ben wouldn’t have fell and hit the wheel and the boat wouldn’t have crashed but Ian shouldn’t have locked him in the room
🥰🥰😍😍🤗🤗🥺🥺🥺🥺💔💔💔💔 .....Sums up my reaction to this video.
I still need to gather my thoughts, I’ll be back later....
Hey you gathered your thoughts now? 😂💗💗
Totally get it. I needed a minute after watching too haha. So many emotions in one 3 minute clip.
In the end, like I said before,
I don’t doubt ben loves callum,
But deep down he just loves himself more than he loves callum,
Callum DEFINITELY loves Ben more than the other way around!!
Ben, ask yourself, would you do the same for callum like he did for you??
Clearly not!!
If he puts callum first, he would stay away from phil, let him deal with his business!!
So, “GOOD LUCK NEXT MONDAY”!!!
Let’s see what kind of lesson you will learn this time, ben!!!😆😆😆😆
NO. NO. NO. You've got it all wrong. Ben's snarky comments and what looks like a big ego IS ALL A COVER UP. He has ZERO self esteem in reality. (because of Phil, Stella, and other people in his life etc)
dr103 yeah! In the past he did all those good actions! So I never said he doesn’t love callum, OF COURSE HE DOES!!
But those are not the excuses for his recent behavior!!
If he loves callum more than anything, he should ALWAYS PUT CALLUM FIRST AHEAD OF HIMSELF OR ANYONE ELSE, certainly not phil!!
And he should change his lifestyle for callum if he wants this relationship last long!
Because callum always is there for him despite how’s Ben treating him!!
But callum is still just a normal guy, there’s just this much that a guy can take!!
Imagine yourself if you’re callum, and you are being treated by Ben like that, and you constantly try to comfort him, support him and cheer him up, but you don’t see any signs that he will change and do the same for you,
Then you ask yourself,
How much longer I can take this??
If you’re callum, would you wanna be treated by Ben like that?
Do you have that kind of patience for dating someone like Ben in real life?
It takes two for a relationship to work, not one sided effort 😊😊
dr103 you are absolutely right! And that’s very kind of you!😊😊
So I do have faith that the two of them will work out!
It’s just I don’t want the writers to write the storyline goes down that way where ben keeps pushing callum to the limit until finally callum can’t take it anymore and he just won’t look back no matter how ben tries to fix it, it would be too late!!
So I’m not saying you should give up a good relationship easily, you should absolutely fight for it, but both members have to work together towards the center, if only constantly one person keeps holding them together while the other keeps pushing away, that just won’t last long, it’s simple logic!😊
Phil needs to be gone.
Ok anyone else just done with Ben giving up on love with callum or not believing he can love him etc its old at this point. Just make ben hear again and be on your merry way
Thank you for this I only follow the gay storyline. Callum is too good for Ben he is just a sweet fellow such a handsome gay character. Ben is getting on my nerves. Callum is unrealistic the character to just take Ben abuse. I know Ben fans will say he is struggling being deaf. It doesn't excuse Ben treating Callum like shit. This is not a gay love story. On Emmerdale at least Robert changed for Aaron he really loved him. All I see is Callum trying hard and Ben treating him like shit. I want Callum to dump Ben.
Ben isn't abusive towards callum, also gay love story it's a soap mate not a rom-com. Not everything is going to sunshine and rainbows. He is struggling being deaf because a dramatic life change. He knows what Callums doing for him, being supportive and comforting him but Ben doesn't know how to react or to deal with that because he never been shown love it that, his dad doesn't love him or care about him and the last person he loved died. Also no one care about Emmerdale, don't compare the two because there two different shows on two different channels.
Aaah don't talk about robron so sad. Yea Rob changed so drastically for Aaron must have been hard
@mr mike yeah I know it's stupid and annoying. They really need to research what abuse is because clearly they don't understand. I know that Ben is struggling hard at the moment and everything he's feeling hes taking it out on callum. But everyone saying that Ben is treating Callum like shit and Callum needs to break up with ben. It actually drives me crazy but I would love to see what people say about Callum if the roles were reversed. If it was callum lashing out on ben or doing something wrong.
@mr mike they honestly do, those people that are saying that Callum needs to break up with Ben because apparently he's being a brat and an asshole obovously have never been around someone whose struggling or have something life changing happen to them
@@jk-gx6nc It's really how much you respect yourself and how much you are willing to put up with. "Hearts and Flowers" relationships are fine but on at least one side it isn't happening. Callum has put up with a lot from Ben.
Ffs Ben 🤦♀️
Oh gosh, this drivel once more? I swear the writers are a bunch of sadists. Are they going to break up again for the umpteenth time? GET NEW WRITERS! Still waiting for the Ballum spin off.
They've only broken up once
@@jk-gx6nc Ben's "put offs" are just as bad as a breakup.
Why can't Ben see that Callum loves him?
@dr103 yeah :(
Ben and Callum are so different they don't belong to eachother ben needs someone like Brendan from hollyoaks we need to bring more ronnie kray types of gays so they can be with ben