I just smile when I hear this song...brings back memories of much simpler and innocent times..DH has my enduring thanks for all he has done to keep the music alive
This has to be one of my favorite videos on UA-cam. I'm sure I can take credit for at least 100 of these views. What I love most about this performance is that before the end of the song, Daryl Hall is ecstatic with joy and knows that the group has just nailed this song. If you look hard enough you can see Nick Lowe smiling at the very end knowing too that the song has been nailed. The late T-Bone Wolk does an excellent job here on rhythm guitar and really adds a lot to the song. Overall a fantastic performance of a great song.
quite right! and what a great song... and must have seen you guys over a dozen times back then along with Ducks Deluxe, Help Yourself, Ace, Quiver, Bees make Honey and a bunch of others I can't recall, and shared a few bills ... and of course the Gommcaster! ... even saw Kippington Lodge pre Brinsley...
And there was I thinking Shakespeare had written at least four of the words. ;-) - thank you for the song and my just diagnosed "Sudden-Onset-Brinsley-Schwarz-Nostalgia-Syndrome".
As absolutely fantastic as the 70s and 80s were for Mr. Hall, these "documents" from lfdhwill stand the test of time as his most important contributions. Thank you, Daryl !!!
oh I loved em so I get you...I think they never were able to translate the live work to LP record besides singles which evidently they were huge! They had a like a Sgt Peppers or Joshua Tree in them...different production...should stuck with Arif Mardin or get Tom Dowd
Gonna post/comment on this 'cause I saw/heard a recent interview where Nick reduced himself to 'mostly' a hack in his song writing- 're-writing' based on his own influences. No way Brother Nick. You wrote some AMAZINGLY GIFTED songs/lps/collaborative s- not to mention what you produced fro some others. Sales doesn't dictate class/creativity or talent. Fashion may- but what you have left is a body of work that, should new ears seek, will inspire, smile, swing and amaze. Just look at Daryl smile half way through the song. Musicians only smile when they're in the pocket and in the gift of GOOD!
Hope this doesn't break any copyright rules. It's for educational purposes only (and fun!) ..... because these guys are having way too much fun. Verse 1: [C]Oh, I can't stand another [Em]heartache Though you [F]say you're my friend, [G]I'm at my wits end [C]You say your love is [Em]bona fide, but that [F]don't coin[Em]cide [Dm7] With the things that you [F]do, and when I [Em]ask you, to be [F]nice, you [G]say ..... Chorus 1: You gotta be [F]cruel to be [G]kind, [Em]in the right [Am]measure [F]Cruel to be [G]kind, it's a [Em]very good [Am]sign [F]Cruel to be [G]kind, [Em]means that I [Am]love you [G7sus4]Ba-by, you [G]gotta be cruel to be [C]kind Turnaround: | [C] | [Em] | [F] | [G7sus4] | Verse 2: I [C]do my best to under[Em]stand it But you [F]still mystify, and [G]I wanna know why [C]I pick myself up, back [Em]off the ground To have you [F]knock me [Em]back down [Dm7] Again and a[F]gain, when I [Em]ask you to ex[F]plain, you [G7sus4]say Chorus 1: Bridge: | [C] | [C] | [A] | [Asus4] [A] | Solo: | [F] [G] | [Em] [Am] | | [F] [G] | [Em] [Am] | | [F] [G] | [Em] [Am] | | [G7sus4] | [G7sus4] | Verse 3: Well, I [C]do my best to under[Em]stand, Dear But, you [F]still mystify, and [G]I wanna know why [C]I pick myself up, back [Em]off the ground To have you [F]knock me [Em]back down [Dm7] Again and a[F]gain, and when I [Em]ask you to ex[F]plain, you [G7sus4]say ... Chorus 2: You gotta be [F]cruel to be [G]kind, [Em]in the right [Am]measure [F]Cruel to be [G]kind, it's a [Em]very good [Am]sign [F]Cruel to be [G]kind, [Em]means that I [Am]love you [G7sus4]Ba-by ..... Outro: So [G7sus4]Ba-by .... [G7sus4]Ba-by, you [G]gotta be cruel to be [F]kind [G] [Cmaj7]
So glad to revisit this I’m sad for the 8 thumbs down currently displayed I can’t see how they’re missing this joyous moment between 3 musicians who can strip off the external veneer even when being taped and filmed
Daryl was the very first professional live musician I ever saw! My old school won a contest through Wrigley Gum, lmao. Winner got Hall & Oates. We won!
Ian Gomm, If that is the case, thank you. Am a great Nick Lowe and Daryl Hall fan but if you contributed to this performance, even by writing the song, I am also a fan of yours.
If only they would have let me into this session and those at Daryl's house. I would have brought my own beer and nibbles, sat in the corner and not got in anyone's way. :-(
if i was going to do a cover version of this song and put it on youtube, this is the version i would do. not that youtube needs any more cover versions.
This was posted a few years ago when the episode aired. I would watch it often. At some point it just disappeared off You Tube....and when it suddenly came back, it had lost all its views. This song was uploaded 4 years ago...and the comments date back only 2 years. So that might explain the lack of views.
Nick Lowe has such a superb voice.
Well...3 fantastic guitars...3 fantastic musicians ....and (still) fantastic vocalists (god bless T-Bone), with a memorable song..happy days 🤠
Damn, Daryl. Wow! You can jam with any music genre. Great respect, then and now.
Good musicians can throw together a arrangement almost effortlessly. Pick your harmonies, talk about the chorus, and off ya go. You gotta love it!
Not arguing, just OH MY FUCKING GOD this is so delectable!!!
So true.; I’ve seen it happen many times! Wish I could do that!
Indeed Kim .
I just smile when I hear this song...brings back memories of much simpler and innocent times..DH has my enduring thanks for all he has done to keep the music alive
Love this ,,,,and don't we all wish we could play and sing like this ,
This has to be one of my favorite videos on UA-cam. I'm sure I can take credit for at least 100 of these views. What I love most about this performance is that before the end of the song, Daryl Hall is ecstatic with joy and knows that the group has just nailed this song. If you look hard enough you can see Nick Lowe smiling at the very end knowing too that the song has been nailed. The late T-Bone Wolk does an excellent job here on rhythm guitar and really adds a lot to the song. Overall a fantastic performance of a great song.
Thought I'd better just mention that I co-wrote this song with 'Spanker' Lowe when we were both in the Brinsley Schwarz group seeing as he never does!
quite right! and what a great song... and must have seen you guys over a dozen times back then along with Ducks Deluxe, Help Yourself, Ace, Quiver, Bees make Honey and a bunch of others I can't recall, and shared a few bills
... and of course the Gommcaster! ... even saw Kippington Lodge pre Brinsley...
+Ian Gomm and a fine job you both did too. A serious life truth in verse and melody. Thanks!
And there was I thinking Shakespeare had written at least four of the words.
;-) - thank you for the song and my just diagnosed "Sudden-Onset-Brinsley-Schwarz-Nostalgia-Syndrome".
Great song! Loved it since I was a kid - would love to know more about it's melodic influences and the part you played in the process.
He probably mentions it about as often as Elvis Costello mentions that Lowe wrote 'Peace Love And Understanding' ;-)
Awesome. You can tell that Daryl is enjoy playing this awesome tune. One of my favs!
i watch this a few times a week...anyone else use headphones to listen?, its fantastic!
Always, always, always...Puts us in the room and the mix...
I do.....love it
At this very moment.
One night I awoke from sleeping on the couch and this was on TV and it just captivated me. Ive watched/listened to this like 100 times!!!!
Me too
Same!
Great job, great harmonies, and they seem so chilled and happy. Wish I was a musician.
03:20 Daryl hits it and loves it. One of best pop songs written.
Yes, thanks Nick
Beautiful. Great song and done so well without the tinkles and bells. I love this version.
Song captures a moment in my life timeline. It was a happy time too.
Cute little ditty well performed 😍 by great artists having fun together ❤
Absolutely superb.I must have seen this over 100 times.
Man, they did a great job on this song, I've always love it(the song), but this version just blew me away.
Just love Nick's voice...
Its superb and T Bone is a great all round musician / producer between two legends
Love it. I've not heard a rendition of this song since I first seen it aired back in 1981 on MTV
Professional musicians make it look so easy. If only I could play and sing like these guys.
yeahhhh
Perfectly said
❤ Nick ALWAYS keeps time with his left leg. ❤
It's not often Daryl is matched on vocals. Nick Lowe has a beautiful voice.
WOW.......Excellent.
I listen to it over and over
T-Bone got more color out of a six string than any player I can think of. Appeared to have heart of gold. Terrific loss. Gone too soon.
As absolutely fantastic as the 70s and 80s were for Mr. Hall, these "documents" from lfdhwill stand the test of time as his most important contributions. Thank you, Daryl !!!
!!!DUDE!!! All fucking hell how much better does it get?!?!?
Ouch! A Blue-Eyed Soul New Wave toon! Awesome!
Love it! Thanks for posting this.
I was a kid in the '70s, and I think I took Hall and Oates for granted. They were so remarkable.
oh I loved em so I get you...I think they never were able to translate the live work to LP record besides singles which evidently they were huge! They had a like a Sgt Peppers or Joshua Tree in them...different production...should stuck with Arif Mardin or get Tom Dowd
Gonna post/comment on this 'cause I saw/heard a recent interview where Nick reduced himself to 'mostly' a hack in his song writing- 're-writing' based on his own influences. No way Brother Nick. You wrote some AMAZINGLY GIFTED songs/lps/collaborative s- not to mention what you produced fro some others. Sales doesn't dictate class/creativity or talent. Fashion may- but what you have left is a body of work that, should new ears seek, will inspire, smile, swing and amaze. Just look at Daryl smile half way through the song. Musicians only smile when they're in the pocket and in the gift of GOOD!
Killer, got hooked on this song in high school!
Hope this doesn't break any copyright rules. It's for educational purposes only (and fun!) ..... because these guys are having way too much fun.
Verse 1:
[C]Oh, I can't stand another [Em]heartache
Though you [F]say you're my friend, [G]I'm at my wits end
[C]You say your love is [Em]bona fide, but that [F]don't coin[Em]cide [Dm7]
With the things that you [F]do, and when I [Em]ask you, to be [F]nice, you [G]say .....
Chorus 1:
You gotta be [F]cruel to be [G]kind, [Em]in the right [Am]measure
[F]Cruel to be [G]kind, it's a [Em]very good [Am]sign
[F]Cruel to be [G]kind, [Em]means that I [Am]love you
[G7sus4]Ba-by, you [G]gotta be cruel to be [C]kind
Turnaround:
| [C] | [Em] | [F] | [G7sus4] |
Verse 2:
I [C]do my best to under[Em]stand it
But you [F]still mystify, and [G]I wanna know why
[C]I pick myself up, back [Em]off the ground
To have you [F]knock me [Em]back down [Dm7]
Again and a[F]gain, when I [Em]ask you to ex[F]plain, you [G7sus4]say
Chorus 1:
Bridge:
| [C] | [C] | [A] | [Asus4] [A] |
Solo:
| [F] [G] | [Em] [Am] |
| [F] [G] | [Em] [Am] |
| [F] [G] | [Em] [Am] |
| [G7sus4] | [G7sus4] |
Verse 3:
Well, I [C]do my best to under[Em]stand, Dear
But, you [F]still mystify, and [G]I wanna know why
[C]I pick myself up, back [Em]off the ground
To have you [F]knock me [Em]back down [Dm7]
Again and a[F]gain, and when I [Em]ask you to ex[F]plain, you [G7sus4]say ...
Chorus 2:
You gotta be [F]cruel to be [G]kind, [Em]in the right [Am]measure
[F]Cruel to be [G]kind, it's a [Em]very good [Am]sign
[F]Cruel to be [G]kind, [Em]means that I [Am]love you
[G7sus4]Ba-by .....
Outro:
So [G7sus4]Ba-by ....
[G7sus4]Ba-by, you [G]gotta be cruel to be [F]kind [G] [Cmaj7]
I love Nick Lowe. He's always been one snappy dresser for sure.
Is it just me...or at 55yrs old, am I the ONLY one here, who still thinks these legends are so stinking HOT? Not bad for a few old 'grandpas'!!
So glad to revisit this
I’m sad for the 8 thumbs down currently displayed
I can’t see how they’re missing this joyous moment between 3 musicians who can strip off the external veneer even when being taped and filmed
This is what talent looks like 👍
Just love this so much
Me too.
I watch it often.
Daryll is 72 and looks great.
Love the voice and guitar harmony
Just love this song
love this so simple so brilliant
geez it seems like just yesterday this was blasting out of the car radio.........I'm OLD!!!!!!!!
Daryl was the very first professional live musician I ever saw! My old school won a contest through Wrigley Gum, lmao. Winner got Hall & Oates. We won!
Simply brilliant!
Awesome...... When live at Daryl's House first started..... When it was awesome.... before money hungry people got involved! RIP T-Bonz!!
Nice acoustic jam, sweet little ending by T Bone.
As usual UNBELIEVABLE !!!
Brilliant.
OMG just opened this on You Tube Amazing. Real Stars are real stars aren`t they ?
Lord, I miss T-Bone.
Ian Gomm, If that is the case, thank you. Am a great Nick Lowe and Daryl Hall fan but if you contributed to this performance, even by writing the song, I am also a fan of yours.
That was amazing...
That is great always the song good job
Brilliant and just plane awsome
Love this song
God I freakin love that.
I am a "player" but these guys are MUSICIANS!
I really love this.
Love this!!!!
Wow, how good is that!
Lovin' this
Just brilliant
If only they would have let me into this session and those at Daryl's house. I would have brought my own beer and nibbles, sat in the corner and not got in anyone's way. :-(
Man you guys sound great!
I like this a lot.
That is ridiculously good.
if i was going to do a cover version of this song and put it on youtube, this is the version i would do. not that youtube needs any more cover versions.
Nick is soo cool.
I really love video.
WONDERFUL
Felicitaciones!!!
Daryl: I want to sing the second verse but frame it as a question of whether you want me to.
Nick: Fuck it. I guess so. It's your show.
Superb
Ohmigod ohmigod ohmigod ohmigod!!!!
Johnny Cash’s son-in-law. Cheers, Nick.
long overdue DH and NL duo oh call elvis and oates and we can all call it a party!
Awesome!👍
Lowe’s voice is amazing
великолепно
Che bella 💕
fabulous!
+Pam P Yes, indeed.
AWESOME!
siiiiii
Charming
No words...😲😲😲😲😲😲
Awesome
That was cool!
That is very cool.
Amazing...so sad about so few views
This was posted a few years ago when the episode aired. I would watch it
often. At some point it just disappeared off You Tube....and when it
suddenly came back, it had lost all its views. This song was uploaded 4
years ago...and the comments date back only 2 years. So that might
explain the lack of views.
excellent....
Pure pop for now people !!
I WAS TOLD I WAS HARSH, didn't think that I should have replied: you've got to be crewel to be kind... lol
Very cool.
Perfect What else is there to say.
Tune starts 0:56
So cool
What's up with this?
Only 27,000 views. Probably 1,000 are mine!
Kick it bros !
Nice
I play this and sing this with my folk guitar. It sounds like shit, but it's fun anyway.
WOW!