@@jenniferknight1511 LMAO thank you for demonstrating the problem! Me thinks you should teach your bastard, then. Since the professional must not know what they're talking about.
I taught for 12 years and didn’t realize how miserable teaching made my whole existence. I absolutely loved my students and lived and breathed for them but administrators parents and test scores did me in. I remember feeling relieved when I was diagnosed with a rare neurological disease that has impacted by entire life because I knew I would finally leave teaching. I am finally taking care of myself and even with this disease I feel better than I have in years.
Interesting that you would say that. I was once at the hospital having emergency surgery. The next day a colleague called me from my hospital bed, and told me "lucky you!" She wished she were in my situation. That says it all.
Unfortunately, speaking the truth to some parents can create a negative environment especially on report card days. Some parents are in complete denial and believe it's all the teacher's fault.
The American education system is broken. The sense of humanity empathy and compassion in general society is severely lacking. The next generation is lost and by our hands Parents refuse to stand solid to their children. No is considered child abuse and they teach a sense of entitlement. We will reap what we've sown. Teachers have so much to overcome so much. In the end it's society that will pay this bill. To all good teachers parents and people. Please keep your lights strong. We truly need you for the darkness that is now in full swing.
I work in a Title 1 school. Everyone gets free lunch. And interestingly, most of these kids leave school early for their trips to Disney. Multiple trips to Disney. Who knew "poverty" was so great?!
Teaching~ I LOVED it. Started in the early '90s. Took some years off to raise my own children. Went back. I was still able to navigate well after years away. Thank God. Usually, most parents were very supportive. I had good relationships with kids and parents and the administration. Then the pressure of high-stakes testing came in. I learned how to do what the school district wanted although it was not good for those kids. I tried my very best to balance all that testing with plenty of joy and love in my own classroom with great hands-on projects. The kids did phenomenally. Lots of encouragement ~and they would also encourage each other. I loved that! I put their QUALITY hard work of joy and creativity out in the hallway year after year. Usually would update those about once a month. However, I was criticized heavily, ostracized, and belittled by my own grade level "team." I was shunned, talked about, ridiculed, and lied about to others by this "team.". I tried my best to shake it off daily. I would go into my own classroom and open up the best space possible to enjoy those kids and love, love love on them. And, I LOVED it still! We would laugh and be silly. I taught them practical helps to keep them focused and strong. They ate it up. Those kids were, for the most part, very cooperative, caring, and hard-working. Crazy hours ~ easy 11 hour days ~ every single day. Then every weekend it was a lot of prep and work for the upcoming week. I thought I could do well even under those conditions but the mean-spirited "team level" approach was really very burdensome and hateful. They would have meetings without me, talk down to me frequently, accuse me,. My health began to take a downturn spiral. I resigned before school began in August 2020.
Whoa..my second year teaching I was threatened from my student's older siblings that they would be waiting for me in the parking lot (the student was the sweetest, btw). To actually have been assaulted? That's insane...and to have admin joke about it? Disgusting. It's scary when the bullies are the ones in charge💔 I quit after my 3rd year and 3 weeks before school ended (now 13 years ago) I've carried so much guilt and shame all of these years for not feeling tough enough to stick it out, after hearing all of these quitting stories has been so healing!! I wish TouTube was big in 2007 when I quit! Thanks for sharing ❤️
ok my aunt was a principle.what she did was when kids were acting up she would call the parents and make them come get them.no matter if they were working or what ever didn't matter just come get your kid.in every case bonce a parent realized they would have to take responsibility u started seeing a change in those kids.
And your aunt would do what when the parents never showed up? Parents will tell you they are 'busy' at 'work' all true, but for many people their kids are prime above all. But not all parents.
shane: I totally respect your principle, but that is a policy that would never fly at my school. I suspect it wouldn't fly in most schools, considering today's climate. Most principles today would be fired for such a policy. Principles are being told that students MUST stay in class, not matter what they are doing. - It's just one sign of how far broken the educational system has become.
@@nickcarraway3790 Yes, it is basic ethics even in the adult world, that when someone is being abusive or disruptive in BEHAVIOUR, then they must be removed. Yet with Children, they are taught very bad lessons, because others are forced to pander to their bad behaviour. I don't know what it's like in Australia, where I live.
Very eye-opening. And I'm sorry for what those women did to you. Then again, like you stated here, it all worked out for the best. Congratulations on your success and your freedom. I'm not a teacher myself, but this was very inspirational for me. I love the bible verse that reads "All things work out good for those who love the Lord." I forget to remember that sometimes and your video reminded me of this today. Thank you. 🤗
@ It's funny because now we do have virtual classrooms and it just doesn't work for the majority. Children have low attention spans and will play their video games over logging on to work. Parents are lazy and unhelpful so they will allow it and pretend they encourage their children to work. Physical classrooms teaches children routine, structure, social emotional learning, cooperation, collabortation, gross motor skills, etc. It's not just tests and hw. That's why most homeschooled kids are socially awkward.
I know very much the pain of being ridiculed and not being supported by the people who should be in your corner. This happened to me during my postgrad work :/ Do not feel like you’re in the wrong, you’re quite right to expect support and be disappointed at not getting it.
I've been a private tutor for 26 years. The best part is that I don't have to deal with uncooperative and incorrigible students (or crazy parents for that matter). If the student becomes a problem, I withdraw my services.
Educators need to stop saying “I am not in this profession for the money”. When we say that, it undervalues our worth to our society and justifies how we are viewed in the United States. When we say those words of not being in it for the money just continues the notion that teachers do not deserve better pay and working environments.
Thanks for sharing. I just quit my teaching job. I’m trying to get ready to teach abroad. I really want to do something else. Ignore those negative comments some of those people have never taught in a inner city classroom
All the politicians want to talk about is the very, very remote chance of a threat from outside the classroom, while the real threat is sitting right in front of these teachers every day.
I taught for eleven years (high school aged teens in the Caribbean). I never wanted to teach, basically all that kids stuff is not for me. Some of the things that made me leave: being treated unfairly by admin when I would not suck up and when I decided to let parents know what their kids were doing. Also, a principal who was married, invited me into his office and basically tried to be inappropriate. The complaints avenue was an office filled with men who told me 'Maybe he was just joking". the same principal used to make veiled, insulting comments towards me in front of the school. There were lots of run ins with parents who encouraged the laziness and ill behavior of their kids. I was sooo done. I even started to develop medical issues because of stress. During one of my last days at that job, the same inhuman principal decided to apologise privately. Nope. Even family members and associates make comments asking/ telling me to go back to teach. No, you all can teach. This taught me that I should have isolated myself early on from those people who wanted me to teach. They just wanted to be financially dependent on me. If I could have done this over I would have migrated to another country with more options in my field.
I just watched a documentary were the Teacher had statistics showing that 50% of Teachers quit by the five year mark. If, they make it that far. Really sad. But, no problem can be corrected without support.
In my county they give the bulk of the raise money allotted to the first five year teachers to lure them in. The further along you are, you get so little in raises that by year 20, you are making only a couple thousand more than first year teachers.
Sadly, she sugar coated it all. I have done my last semester. Is it worth it after 15 years of teaching, no it's not. It will get a lot worse even though most can not even imagine how bad it has already become. I had it easier than most because I was a 245 lb muscled up man. Society should question why thousands of teachers, national wide are quitting the profession.
Like you, I was too naive thinking about changing the world from the classroom, but the monster is too big, thick and wide. I lost my soul at this unhealthy environment and I know I'm not the only one. Now my daughter is going to college and the only thing I asked her is not to become a teacher.
Sooo imagine if the parent called the school and said “I won’t send my child to this school because the teacher was rude to me” after the parking lot incident and then your administrator moves you to a different school. Yep, story of my life working in schools!!
You're a strong person. So sorry this happened to you. I'm thinking about becoming a teacher here in New York. Here on UA-cam a lot of former teachers complain about students in low income areas. Congrats on your marriage and career though. Can't get over your story! I'm at a loss for words.
That is quite a story,...how awful,..something so terrible happened to a such a positive soul like yours. Though I am 100 years older than u r, I am also a woman of color, I can relate to your kind of "quirkiness " as well as the "save the world " mentality. Unfortunately, u r correct, it is pretty naive. So sorry you had to experience what sounds like to me a series of purposeful events intended to get you on the happy and successful track that u r on now. But what a loss to the classroom. I can appreciate your list of lessons learned and if I could let go of a workplace situation that happened to me back in 2012, maybe I could find the lesson. It was awful workg for someone who treated me like crap. Yes, of course I hv made tons of mistakes in life but like you alluded to I had and still hv expectations of those who are supposed to be leaders. A couple of things come to mind however abt what I may hv learned, the first is that people w nt always tell u tb truth about who u r when they are offended, ...I am the opposite--2nd I hv learned that people project their insecurities on to you as a way to pull you down--- if I hv ever bn that way, God forbid, I have asked forgiveness--and I have learned that life is precious and that maybe I do not need to ultimately become a teacher. Maybe I can be a little too quirky and naive unless it is adult educ which probably dz nt pay well. The best to you and your new life, ...homeschooling is a great idea,...and good luck in all business endeavors. Thanks for sharing---sorry for the ramble.
Teaching~ I LOVED it. Started in the early '90s. Took some years off to raise my own children. Went back. I was still able to navigate well after years away. Thank God. Usually, most parents were very supportive. I had good relationships with kids and parents and the administration. Then the pressure of high-stakes testing came in. I learned how to do what the school district wanted although it was not good for those kids. I tried my very best to balance all that testing with plenty of joy and love in my own classroom with great hands-on projects. The kids did phenomenally. Lots of encouragement ~and they would also encourage each other. I loved that! I put their QUALITY hard work of joy and creativity out in the hallway year after year. Usually would update those about once a month. However, I was criticized heavily, ostracized, and belittled by my own grade level "team." I was shunned, talked about, ridiculed, and lied about to others by this "team.". I tried my best to shake it off daily. I would go into my own classroom and open up the best space possible to enjoy those kids and love, love love on them. And, I LOVED it still! We would laugh and be silly. I taught them practical helps to keep them focused and strong. They ate it up. Those kids were, for the most part, very cooperative, caring, and hard-working. Crazy hours ~ easy 11 hour days ~ every single day. Then every weekend it was a lot of prep and work for the upcoming week. I thought I could do well even under those conditions but the mean-spirited "team level" approach was really very burdensome and hateful. They would have meetings without me, talk down to me frequently, accuse me,. My health began to take a downturn spiral. I resigned before school began in August 2020.
When I was teaching in Alaska the native in a village in my district hated the school principal so much that he had to be taken out by helicopter in an emergency lift because they all were going to rise up and kill him. Yep in Alaska in 2012.
I am so sad to hear what happened to you. That should never have happened. I am an educator and years ago when I was around your age a parent of one of my students somehow slipped past the office and came into my classroom and started verbally assaulting me. I had no idea what was going on, why this parent was angry, nothing. At the break, I mentioned the incident to the secretary and she was alarmed that a parent had come in without checking in at the office as they were required to. I also found out that the principal had spoken to this parent and I was never informed of the conversation and any of the concerns the parent had. I felt left out, disrespected, and unsettled. I was too young at the time to take control of the situation and discuss the incident further and make sure I was on the same page with the principal and the parent. However, I have never aloud parents to disrespect me since.
This is horrifying!!!! As soon as you saw them in the gym you should have got the hell out of that room to protect yourself!! I'm so sorry for what you went through, that is seriously traumatizing and you were only doing your job and trying to protect the child. You may even want to seek therapy as this is a really scary thing to go through, and then on top of it, the PRINCIPAL made a joke out of it!! The way he acted was disgusting, cruel and shameful. I do not blame you ONE BIT for getting the hell out of there - a place where you are laughed at after being violently assaulted, but the people who are supposed to protect you!! It is a disgusting state of affairs that our school system is in. Did these perpetrators get jailed???? I hope so!!!! Thank you for telling your story!
Sounds like your teaching experience wasn't a wholesome one. I hope you know Administrators should always have your back. I'm a teacher too, actually NRA weapons instructor. Tough students come in all ages. Out of the 2000+ students I've certified to carry concealed approximately 80-100 students couldn't read the test. These were all adults over 21 in South Carolina. So you see, if teachers and parents can't make these kids learn to read, they come to me and want to carry a gun. There's no law against illiterate people with CWPs. That's why it's so important. It's good to hear you are still teaching though.
Oh HELL NO!!!!! How dare the Mother & Daughter ! They were stalking you , you poor thing , I would of sprayed them with mace but I know you were caught off guard , I'm so sorry , Good for you , so sorry , so emotionally taxing ..... I honestly could not believe what I was hearing ......
If a male did that, there is no way they could have gotten away with that, at least I'm pretty sure in Australia. Esp since there was a witness to it starting, and bruises and the prior incident. That's the way it should be.
That is so funny. Yes the first year is the hardest, but then there can be that one year that can surprise you that can make you feel like a novice!!!!
being beat up by dad was routine as a 2nd grader for me. violence in education? that's normal, lady. fight back! fat people are slow and get tired quickly. cardio isn't just for slim abs.
I disagree with getting a restraining order. I feel that this was over - reacting and crossing boundaries. This is embarrassing for the students individually and their family as a whole. When students feel singled out and hurt, parents can and will over - react. You never know what is going on in their home life behind the poor attendance. I would have spoken to my principal and received advice before taking such drastic measures. It often takes time to feel out the situation. A stylist is not a teacher. Volunteering and reading a story is not teaching. Teaching is teaching, and it requires love, devotion, time, and consistency. Students who feel supported, respected, and loved win over parents who see this, and before you know it, with patience and care, and most of all trust, attendance picks up.
A ton of teachers in the UK and US are flocking to China because pay is great here and pressure is much lighter. Our family paid off $55k in school loan debt while here! Contact me if you're interested in teaching in China. I can give advice and connect you with great places to work
I wish I already had my bachelors. A tour of that part of the would wld be great for me right about now. It wld be nice to see what they do over there. Then again, I have a fear of flying...
Wait a minute! I taught Language Arts in secondary schools in Florida, 31 years and 28 in a tough Miami school. I've been retired now four years, written four novels and can't get published because I'm told I need a platform. The only platform I have was I was a public school teacher, and that's nothing apparently since I'm among thousands who used to teach. Nothing special. So, how does she get published? Her platform was teaching. And I could write nonfiction. I've got plenty to say how I was roughed up as a teacher, and I bet my ideas on school reform are plenty page turning. She gets published. But me, I've sent out years of synopses and nobody wants to publish me. Of course I may not be as talented as this lady. Maybe. Maybe.
Dear one, I'm really sorry that happened to you. One of our most valuable national treasures are teachers. Yet this has nothing to do with you being in the noblest of professions, what we are witnessing is what a nation becomes when God is systemically removed and rejected from all institutions. This country is rapidly collasping and I don't know if you're a Christian but there is no solution to this other than Jesus Christ and the rapture for his bride.
That's an ignorant comment. A lot of European countries are secular and do well, it's not about religion. It's about lazy parents who won't discipline their children. All parents should be mandated to take a course on discipline and a seminar each school year regarding respect and supporting your child.
DAM That is so SAD 😢 for those children. Should really be grounds for taking the children from their parents (if they wanted to) or to use a homeschool system with them, where they get tutored to catch up. It's child abuse. "You have no idea how to be a parent" Me: "You have no idea how to be a responsible parent. Other parents here do".
How could they not get arrested? Wow..They should have moved you to another school. Would you have fought back they would have fired you and it would have made the news. As for the administration, how horrid.
Thanks for posting this. A little constructive criticism, don’t be sarcastic: “Filing a restraining order against a child. That was fun.” “And I was also trying to plan my wedding. No big deal.” Otherwise beginning teachers and tax payers need to know your reality. Also, it might be helpful for you to know your staff felt they could make fun of you because of your high level of attractiveness. Being in the teaching game 14 years (elem, middle, and high school), I can tell you the attractive female teachers have escape options that most teachers simply don’t. Pretty much old fashioned jealousy.
But, was it worse than being a hated cop or lawyer or having bombs thrown at you as a soldier? Someone has to work in the sewers and slaughterhouses and I'm sure many of them would rather be working in a temperature controlled clean environment. I'm glad your emotional needs were fulfilled. Be sure you tell all those men toiling away to keep the world safe and running that they should concern themselves with their own emotional needs and learn to code or something.
Are you ok? Why don't you try calming down, buddy. If a former teacher who got beat up is not allowed to tell her story without you going on a gender inequality tirade, then it's time you make an appointment with a professional.
@@misterb1132 Sure, they would -- if you expected them to teach plumbing, butchering or other trade skills. A teacher goes to college to teach a particular subject or (in the case of younger students, basic subjects of math, science, history, etc.). Surely by the time a teacher earns that degree and certification; he should be able to teach. He should be able to follow a standard course teaching plan. Given a few weeks of practice under a mentor; a plumber should be able to teach plumbing. These kinds of teachers are --- Shop Teachers.
Wow, this is appalling. Your biggest mistake was being naive and letting your guard down. Teacher's need some self defense training these days. It's where we are in America, and all Democrats care about is gun control.
You did well, admins organize assaults to settle scores. Doesn’t seem like that happened to you but it was close. Pretty girls draw envy, did you notice ?
Wow, this is a sad video but not for the reasons you may think. It is sad because it is clear you (Deidra Murphy) lack the necessary empathy to be an effective teacher. Do you understand the unique needs of Title I students; their holistic characteristics? You created and fueled the entire confrontation with your student's parent. I think you were upset about the mother yelling at you and retaliated against her by initiating court intervention to have the parent fined. Title I parents do not even have money for food and rent, but you think fining the family will solve an attendance problem. You had no business teaching in the first place. You are cold and unkind!
The person lacking empathy is you. Furthermore, you sound like an enabler. How incredibly stupid and naive of you to make the assumption what money kids in a title one school have or do not have. They apparently had enough for mom to have a car and a family membership at a gym. In my over two decades of experience teaching and living in the inner city, I will tell you point blank that most families have more money than the teachers and since they do not have to prioritize it on food or education, it is spent on shoes, cars, and clothing, as well as other luxury items. There are some kids, of course, who have virtually nothing, but that is not the majority.
Mike Denn, you sound as crazy as the 2 fat slobs that assaulted her. THEY are responsible for their OWN actions. THEY chose to regularly not bring their kids to school. THEY chose to scream at the teacher. THEY chose to commit violence against an innocent teacher for no reason. But you're trying to blame their behavior on the teacher! Those people are a violent menace to society and that woman cares nothing about her children, refusing them an education and teaching them violence. Those kids will all end up in jail. But people like you will blame it on someone else. Losers like these people ALWAYS blame everyone else for their own actions and take zero personal responsibility. Just like giant children.
As I retired teacher i can state that one of the hardest things to do is to tell some parents the truth about their child.
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Which often reflects the current truth about themselves?
Parents are in denial and know their child is a reflection of them.
It would be your truth about their child...which may not be correct.
@@jenniferknight1511 LMAO thank you for demonstrating the problem! Me thinks you should teach your bastard, then. Since the professional must not know what they're talking about.
@@jenniferknight1511 Or... maybe correct... who's to tell?!
I taught for 12 years and didn’t realize how miserable teaching made my whole existence. I absolutely loved my students and lived and breathed for them but administrators parents and test scores did me in. I remember feeling relieved when I was diagnosed with a rare neurological disease that has impacted by entire life because I knew I would finally leave teaching. I am finally taking care of myself and even with this disease I feel better than I have in years.
Interesting that you would say that. I was once at the hospital having emergency surgery. The next day a colleague called me from my hospital bed, and told me "lucky you!" She wished she were in my situation. That says it all.
Wow, that is a powerful testimony. I just said a prayer for you.
The stress gave me rheumatoid arthritis. I am taking care of myself and I'm feeling so much better 😊😌😊😌😊😊😊. Thank you God ! 🙏🙌👏
Unfortunately, speaking the truth to some parents can create a negative environment especially on report card days. Some parents are in complete denial and believe it's all the teacher's fault.
exactly that´s why Im moving on. :( so horrible
Especially, in Special Ed.
@@ericafarley2850 not really.
As teachers we have little to no parental support and NO ONE takes responsibility for anything. I am ready for change as well
You have to go back to the 50's to find a society that took full responsibility.
The American education system is broken. The sense of humanity empathy and compassion in general society is severely lacking. The next generation is lost and by our hands Parents refuse to stand solid to their children. No is considered child abuse and they teach a sense of entitlement. We will reap what we've sown. Teachers have so much to overcome so much. In the end it's society that will pay this bill. To all good teachers parents and people. Please keep your lights strong. We truly need you for the darkness that is now in full swing.
I work in a Title 1 school. Everyone gets free lunch. And interestingly, most of these kids leave school early for their trips to Disney. Multiple trips to Disney.
Who knew "poverty" was so great?!
Yaelra R. I work in title 1 too. The number of cruises is astounding as well
If they are going to Disney, it's not for the amusement. Most people have no idea what Disney really is.
What is Disney?
Let's hope none of them scuff their $200 sport shoes.
@@sharonsumnerlott mind control
Teaching~ I LOVED it. Started in the early '90s. Took some years off to raise my own children. Went back. I was still able to navigate well after years away. Thank God. Usually, most parents were very supportive. I had good relationships with kids and parents and the administration. Then the pressure of high-stakes testing came in. I learned how to do what the school district wanted although it was not good for those kids. I tried my very best to balance all that testing with plenty of joy and love in my own classroom with great hands-on projects. The kids did phenomenally. Lots of encouragement ~and they would also encourage each other. I loved that! I put their QUALITY hard work of joy and creativity out in the hallway year after year. Usually would update those about once a month.
However, I was criticized heavily, ostracized, and belittled by my own grade level "team." I was shunned, talked about, ridiculed, and lied about to others by this "team.". I tried my best to shake it off daily. I would go into my own classroom and open up the best space possible to enjoy those kids and love, love love on them. And, I LOVED it still! We would laugh and be silly. I taught them practical helps to keep them focused and strong. They ate it up. Those kids were, for the most part, very cooperative, caring, and hard-working.
Crazy hours ~ easy 11 hour days ~ every single day. Then every weekend it was a lot of prep and work for the upcoming week. I thought I could do well even under those conditions but the mean-spirited "team level" approach was really very burdensome and hateful. They would have meetings without me, talk down to me frequently, accuse me,. My health began to take a downturn spiral. I resigned before school began in August 2020.
Whoa..my second year teaching I was threatened from my student's older siblings that they would be waiting for me in the parking lot (the student was the sweetest, btw). To actually have been assaulted? That's insane...and to have admin joke about it? Disgusting. It's scary when the bullies are the ones in charge💔 I quit after my 3rd year and 3 weeks before school ended (now 13 years ago) I've carried so much guilt and shame all of these years for not feeling tough enough to stick it out, after hearing all of these quitting stories has been so healing!! I wish TouTube was big in 2007 when I quit! Thanks for sharing ❤️
ok my aunt was a principle.what she did was when kids were acting up she would call the parents and make them come get them.no matter if they were working or what ever didn't matter just come get your kid.in every case bonce a parent realized they would have to take responsibility u started seeing a change in those kids.
shane hester
That's a brilliant Policy.
The child is primarily the Parent's responsibility.
And your aunt would do what when the parents never showed up? Parents will tell you they are 'busy' at 'work' all true, but for many people their kids are prime above all. But not all parents.
shane: I totally respect your principle, but that is a policy that would never fly at my school. I suspect it wouldn't fly in most schools, considering today's climate. Most principles today would be fired for such a policy. Principles are being told that students MUST stay in class, not matter what they are doing. - It's just one sign of how far broken the educational system has become.
@@nickcarraway3790
Yes, it is basic ethics even in the adult world, that when someone is being abusive or disruptive in BEHAVIOUR, then they must be removed.
Yet with Children, they are taught very bad lessons, because others are forced to pander to their bad behaviour.
I don't know what it's like in Australia, where I live.
Nick Carraway principal not “principle.”
I started substitute teaching and the weirdest thing for me is that there are no school books and homework.😬 (Yes even in highschool)
Very eye-opening. And I'm sorry for what those women did to you. Then again, like you stated here, it all worked out for the best. Congratulations on your success and your freedom. I'm not a teacher myself, but this was very inspirational for me. I love the bible verse that reads "All things work out good for those who love the Lord." I forget to remember that sometimes and your video reminded me of this today. Thank you. 🤗
Thanks for sharing your story! It sounds intense!
Homeschool for the win.
Thank you for sharing your story, WOW! I'm so glad you can look back at it with such a positive outlook.
I hate to hear that you weren't supported but that's education. I am glad you came out on a good, promising side. Thanks for sharing your story.
The awakening is coming for public schools. Market forces will correct and more and more independent thinkers will find alternatives for education.
Aha! So maybe there is hope in the minds of the creatives after all!
@ It's funny because now we do have virtual classrooms and it just doesn't work for the majority. Children have low attention spans and will play their video games over logging on to work. Parents are lazy and unhelpful so they will allow it and pretend they encourage their children to work. Physical classrooms teaches children routine, structure, social emotional learning, cooperation, collabortation, gross motor skills, etc. It's not just tests and hw. That's why most homeschooled kids are socially awkward.
I know very much the pain of being ridiculed and not being supported by the people who should be in your corner. This happened to me during my postgrad work :/ Do not feel like you’re in the wrong, you’re quite right to expect support and be disappointed at not getting it.
if you enjoy teaching then have your own classes at your house. Chose your students. Get out of the system you don't need it.
blu4x5 I need to look into this. Never heard of this.
I've been a private tutor for 26 years. The best part is that I don't have to deal with uncooperative and incorrigible students (or crazy parents for that matter). If the student becomes a problem, I withdraw my services.
Educators need to stop saying “I am not in this profession for the money”. When we say that, it undervalues our worth to our society and justifies how we are viewed in the United States. When we say those words of not being in it for the money just continues the notion that teachers do not deserve better pay and working environments.
I’m a teacher nothing will make my jaw drop. 😂
A toxic workplace starts at the top. Principals who disrespect their teachers should be fired. I'm sorry for your experience.
Good for you on home schooling and entrepreneurship!!!
Sounds like my teaching experience. I now teach online.
Thanks for sharing. I just quit my teaching job. I’m trying to get ready to teach abroad. I really want to do something else. Ignore those negative comments some of those people have never taught in a inner city classroom
All the politicians want to talk about is the very, very remote chance of a threat from outside the classroom, while the real threat is sitting right in front of these teachers every day.
I taught for eleven years (high school aged teens in the Caribbean). I never wanted to teach, basically all that kids stuff is not for me. Some of the things that made me leave: being treated unfairly by admin when I would not suck up and when I decided to let parents know what their kids were doing. Also, a principal who was married, invited me into his office and basically tried to be inappropriate. The complaints avenue was an office filled with men who told me 'Maybe he was just joking". the same principal used to make veiled, insulting comments towards me in front of the school. There were lots of run ins with parents who encouraged the laziness and ill behavior of their kids. I was sooo done. I even started to develop medical issues because of stress. During one of my last days at that job, the same inhuman principal decided to apologise privately. Nope. Even family members and associates make comments asking/ telling me to go back to teach. No, you all can teach.
This taught me that I should have isolated myself early on from those people who wanted me to teach. They just wanted to be financially dependent on me. If I could have done this over I would have migrated to another country with more options in my field.
I just watched a documentary were the Teacher had statistics showing that 50% of Teachers
quit by the five year mark. If, they make it that far. Really sad. But, no problem can be corrected without support.
rockbay79 I'm one of those. I had 5 principals in 5 years, and only 3 were sane.
Me too. One was great. One was good. Two were sociopaths. And one was borderline illiterate.
Yeah very true they usually quit
In my county they give the bulk of the raise money allotted to the first five year teachers to lure them in. The further along you are, you get so little in raises that by year 20, you are making only a couple thousand more than first year teachers.
What was the name of the documentary?
Sadly, she sugar coated it all. I have done my last semester. Is it worth it after 15 years of teaching, no it's not. It will get a lot worse even though most can not even imagine how bad it has already become. I had it easier than most because I was a 245 lb muscled up man. Society should question why thousands of teachers, national wide are quitting the profession.
bad kids
@@brightonchou1393 Yeah this last batch of kids is horrible from what I see. People don’t realize that “parent” is not just a noun, it’s a verb.
I don't know why I clicked this, but I'm interested now. Good story.
Edit: I mean it's a tragedy, but it makes for a 'good' story.
Like you, I was too naive thinking about changing the world from the classroom, but the monster is too big, thick and wide. I lost my soul at this unhealthy environment and I know I'm not the only one.
Now my daughter is going to college and the only thing I asked her is not to become a teacher.
That is terrible where we are with education. What are we going to do as a society? Why are we allowing children to behave like animals in schools?
Sooo imagine if the parent called the school and said “I won’t send my child to this school because the teacher was rude to me” after the parking lot incident and then your administrator moves you to a different school. Yep, story of my life working in schools!!
Teaching is even more difficult in the Pacific North West. The drug culture and poor discipline seriously contribute to the problem.
I had never thought about that...I'm in Ca
You're a strong person. So sorry this happened to you. I'm thinking about becoming a teacher here in New York. Here on UA-cam a lot of former teachers complain about students in low income areas. Congrats on your marriage and career though. Can't get over your story! I'm at a loss for words.
That is quite a story,...how awful,..something so terrible happened to a such a positive soul like yours. Though I am 100 years older than u r, I am also a woman of color, I can relate to your kind of "quirkiness " as well as the "save the world " mentality. Unfortunately, u r correct, it is pretty naive. So sorry you had to experience what sounds like to me a series of purposeful events intended to get you on the happy and successful track that u r on now. But what a loss to the classroom. I can appreciate your list of lessons learned and if I could let go of a workplace situation that happened to me back in 2012, maybe I could find the lesson. It was awful workg for someone who treated me like crap. Yes, of course I hv made tons of mistakes in life but like you alluded to I had and still hv expectations of those who are supposed to be leaders. A couple of things come to mind however abt what I may hv learned, the first is that people w nt always tell u tb truth about who u r when they are offended, ...I am the opposite--2nd I hv learned that people project their insecurities on to you as a way to pull you down--- if I hv ever bn that way, God forbid, I have asked forgiveness--and I have learned that life is precious and that maybe I do not need to ultimately become a teacher. Maybe I can be a little too quirky and naive unless it is adult educ which probably dz nt pay well. The best to you and your new life, ...homeschooling is a great idea,...and good luck in all business endeavors. Thanks for sharing---sorry for the ramble.
Wow again. The admin and other teachers made fun of you? Yeah I could see why you quit. That's awful.
It happened with me too
Teaching~ I LOVED it. Started in the early '90s. Took some years off to raise my own children. Went back. I was still able to navigate well after years away. Thank God. Usually, most parents were very supportive. I had good relationships with kids and parents and the administration. Then the pressure of high-stakes testing came in. I learned how to do what the school district wanted although it was not good for those kids. I tried my very best to balance all that testing with plenty of joy and love in my own classroom with great hands-on projects. The kids did phenomenally. Lots of encouragement ~and they would also encourage each other. I loved that! I put their QUALITY hard work of joy and creativity out in the hallway year after year. Usually would update those about once a month.
However, I was criticized heavily, ostracized, and belittled by my own grade level "team." I was shunned, talked about, ridiculed, and lied about to others by this "team.". I tried my best to shake it off daily. I would go into my own classroom and open up the best space possible to enjoy those kids and love, love love on them. And, I LOVED it still! We would laugh and be silly. I taught them practical helps to keep them focused and strong. They ate it up. Those kids were, for the most part, very cooperative, caring, and hard-working.
Crazy hours ~ easy 11 hour days ~ every single day. Then every weekend it was a lot of prep and work for the upcoming week. I thought I could do well even under those conditions but the mean-spirited "team level" approach was really very burdensome and hateful. They would have meetings without me, talk down to me frequently, accuse me,. My health began to take a downturn spiral. I resigned before school began in August 2020.
When I was teaching in Alaska the native in a village in my district hated the school principal so much that he had to be taken out by helicopter in an emergency lift because they all were going to rise up and kill him. Yep in Alaska in 2012.
I am so sad to hear what happened to you. That should never have happened. I am an educator and years ago when I was around your age a parent of one of my students somehow slipped past the office and came into my classroom and started verbally assaulting me. I had no idea what was going on, why this parent was angry, nothing. At the break, I mentioned the incident to the secretary and she was alarmed that a parent had come in without checking in at the office as they were required to. I also found out that the principal had spoken to this parent and I was never informed of the conversation and any of the concerns the parent had. I felt left out, disrespected, and unsettled. I was too young at the time to take control of the situation and discuss the incident further and make sure I was on the same page with the principal and the parent. However, I have never aloud parents to disrespect me since.
Crazy story - thank you for sharing! :-)
This is horrifying!!!! As soon as you saw them in the gym you should have got the hell out of that room to protect yourself!! I'm so sorry for what you went through, that is seriously traumatizing and you were only doing your job and trying to protect the child. You may even want to seek therapy as this is a really scary thing to go through, and then on top of it, the PRINCIPAL made a joke out of it!! The way he acted was disgusting, cruel and shameful. I do not blame you ONE BIT for getting the hell out of there - a place where you are laughed at after being violently assaulted, but the people who are supposed to protect you!! It is a disgusting state of affairs that our school system is in. Did these perpetrators get jailed???? I hope so!!!! Thank you for telling your story!
Sounds like your teaching experience wasn't a wholesome one. I hope you know Administrators should always have your back.
I'm a teacher too, actually NRA weapons instructor. Tough students come in all ages. Out of the 2000+ students I've certified to carry concealed approximately 80-100 students couldn't read the test. These were all adults over 21 in South Carolina. So you see, if teachers and parents can't make these kids learn to read, they come to me and want to carry a gun. There's no law against illiterate people with CWPs. That's why it's so important. It's good to hear you are still teaching though.
No teachers want 5th and 6th at the elementary level that’s where all the openings usually are in general education.
ETK & Kgn too
middle school
Oh HELL NO!!!!! How dare the Mother & Daughter ! They were stalking you , you poor thing , I would of sprayed them with mace but I know you were caught off guard , I'm so sorry , Good for you , so sorry , so emotionally taxing ..... I honestly could not believe what I was hearing ......
If a male did that, there is no way they could have gotten away with that, at least I'm pretty sure in Australia. Esp since there was a witness to it starting, and bruises and the prior incident.
That's the way it should be.
What kind of work are you doing now?1
kind of stylist
That is so funny. Yes the first year is the hardest, but then there can be that one year that can surprise you that can make you feel like a novice!!!!
being beat up by dad was routine as a 2nd grader for me. violence in education? that's normal, lady. fight back! fat people are slow and get tired quickly. cardio isn't just for slim abs.
I disagree with getting a restraining order. I feel that this was over - reacting and crossing boundaries. This is embarrassing for the students individually and their family as a whole. When students feel singled out and hurt, parents can and will over - react. You never know what is going on in their home life behind the poor attendance. I would have spoken to my principal and received advice before taking such drastic measures. It often takes time to feel out the situation.
A stylist is not a teacher. Volunteering and reading a story is not teaching. Teaching is teaching, and it requires love, devotion, time, and consistency. Students who feel supported, respected, and loved win over parents who see this, and before you know it, with patience and care, and most of all trust, attendance picks up.
Love your story! Thank you for sharing it. Check out my similar story when you get a chance! 🙏🙏
A ton of teachers in the UK and US are flocking to China because pay is great here and pressure is much lighter. Our family paid off $55k in school loan debt while here! Contact me if you're interested in teaching in China. I can give advice and connect you with great places to work
I wish I already had my bachelors. A tour of that part of the would wld be great for me right about now. It wld be nice to see what they do over there. Then again, I have a fear of flying...
@@shantareid2770 Although unconventional now, there are still ship fares! :) Where there's a will, there's a way!
like your voice.....
Wait a minute! I taught Language Arts in secondary schools in Florida, 31 years and 28 in a tough Miami school. I've been retired now four years, written four novels and can't get published because I'm told I need a platform. The only platform I have was I was a public school teacher, and that's nothing apparently since I'm among thousands who used to teach. Nothing special. So, how does she get published? Her platform was teaching. And I could write nonfiction. I've got plenty to say how I was roughed up as a teacher, and I bet my ideas on school reform are plenty page turning. She gets published. But me, I've sent out years of synopses and nobody wants to publish me. Of course I may not be as talented as this lady. Maybe. Maybe.
I love that name "Doris Karloff"! I guess you are a vintage horror movie fan like myself? No, I'm joking. She got published and good for her.
Let me guess, the ''everyone thinks my math is ''Witchcraft'' issue mentioned in Young Sheldon, etc.
Jaw dropping :O
That gym story was horrific!!!! Oh my gosh. I am so sorry this happened to you! awful...................
Dear one, I'm really sorry that happened to you. One of our most valuable national treasures are teachers. Yet this has nothing to do with you being in the noblest of professions, what we are witnessing is what a nation becomes when God is systemically removed and rejected from all institutions. This country is rapidly collasping and I don't know if you're a Christian but there is no solution to this other than Jesus Christ and the rapture for his bride.
I could not agree more that the country is collapsing. But we have to get a handle on the children...social media and extreme access is ruining them.
That's an ignorant comment. A lot of European countries are secular and do well, it's not about religion. It's about lazy parents who won't discipline their children. All parents should be mandated to take a course on discipline and a seminar each school year regarding respect and supporting your child.
Wow. I hope you pressed charges on that asshole.
DAM That is so SAD 😢 for those children. Should really be grounds for taking the children from their parents (if they wanted to) or to use a homeschool system with them, where they get tutored to catch up.
It's child abuse.
"You have no idea how to be a parent"
Me: "You have no idea how to be a responsible parent. Other parents here do".
How could they not get arrested? Wow..They should have moved you to another school. Would you have fought back they would have fired you and it would have made the news. As for the administration, how horrid.
Cut to 11 minutes. On the chronically truant children, just do a home visit and a schedule a parent conference including administrators.
Why do schools stress parents when they are 1 minutes late
Because you should be there on time!!
Thanks for posting this. A little constructive criticism, don’t be sarcastic: “Filing a restraining order against a child. That was fun.” “And I was also trying to plan my wedding. No big deal.” Otherwise beginning teachers and tax payers need to know your reality.
Also, it might be helpful for you to know your staff felt they could make fun of you because of your high level of attractiveness. Being in the teaching game 14 years (elem, middle, and high school), I can tell you the attractive female teachers have escape options that most teachers simply don’t. Pretty much old fashioned jealousy.
The sarcasm didn't bother me. Is it a bad thing?
Sorry this happened to you. I've had my share of unsupportive, even rude administrators behaving like gods.
THIS IS AN OUTRAGE! I would've taken every class she taught!
But, was it worse than being a hated cop or lawyer or having bombs thrown at you as a soldier? Someone has to work in the sewers and slaughterhouses and I'm sure many of them would rather be working in a temperature controlled clean environment.
I'm glad your emotional needs were fulfilled. Be sure you tell all those men toiling away to keep the world safe and running that they should concern themselves with their own emotional needs and learn to code or something.
Are you ok? Why don't you try calming down, buddy. If a former teacher who got beat up is not allowed to tell her story without you going on a gender inequality tirade, then it's time you make an appointment with a professional.
@@aquamarine0023 Not an argumenr.
Uhh, put 33 students and six different subjects to teach in front of those plumbers and meat house workers and they wouldn't last a month.
@@misterb1132 Sure, they would -- if you expected them to teach plumbing, butchering or other trade skills.
A teacher goes to college to teach a particular subject or (in the case of younger students, basic subjects of math, science, history, etc.). Surely by the time a teacher earns that degree and certification; he should be able to teach. He should be able to follow a standard course teaching plan.
Given a few weeks of practice under a mentor; a plumber should be able to teach plumbing. These kinds of teachers are --- Shop Teachers.
WOW, get to the point already.
I think you should have stayed being a teacher.
teacher job is for people cant find a job.
Black kids are fine as long as you dont do it at a all black school
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DARK SKIN TV rashida strober in my experience black students are taught racism by their parents
where is all back school?
Whew thats good to know cause i thought it was just a black thing
Wow, this is appalling. Your biggest mistake was being naive and letting your guard down. Teacher's need some self defense training these days. It's where we are in America, and all Democrats care about is gun control.
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“I obviously like to work out” smh
You did well, admins organize assaults to settle scores. Doesn’t seem like that happened to you but it was close. Pretty girls draw envy, did you notice ?
Wow, this is a sad video but not for the reasons you may think. It is sad because it is clear you (Deidra Murphy) lack the necessary empathy to be an effective teacher. Do you understand the unique needs of Title I students; their holistic characteristics? You created and fueled the entire confrontation with your student's parent. I think you were upset about the mother yelling at you and retaliated against her by initiating court intervention to have the parent fined. Title I parents do not even have money for food and rent, but you think fining the family will solve an attendance problem. You had no business teaching in the first place. You are cold and unkind!
Mike Denn
But they DO have money for smart phones, $200 shoes, trips to Disney World, cruises, etc. You lack any common sense
The person lacking empathy is you. Furthermore, you sound like an enabler. How incredibly stupid and naive of you to make the assumption what money kids in a title one school have or do not have. They apparently had enough for mom to have a car and a family membership at a gym. In my over two decades of experience teaching and living in the inner city, I will tell you point blank that most families have more money than the teachers and since they do not have to prioritize it on food or education, it is spent on shoes, cars, and clothing, as well as other luxury items. There are some kids, of course, who have virtually nothing, but that is not the majority.
Mike Denn, you sound as crazy as the 2 fat slobs that assaulted her. THEY are responsible for their OWN actions. THEY chose to regularly not bring their kids to school. THEY chose to scream at the teacher. THEY chose to commit violence against an innocent teacher for no reason. But you're trying to blame their behavior on the teacher! Those people are a violent menace to society and that woman cares nothing about her children, refusing them an education and teaching them violence. Those kids will all end up in jail. But people like you will blame it on someone else. Losers like these people ALWAYS blame everyone else for their own actions and take zero personal responsibility. Just like giant children.
This is a every day thing now......