10 Signs Your Friend Is Fake or Jealous Of You (Part 2)
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- Signs that your friend is jealous of you.
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I found out who my true friends were during this pandemic. Let's just say it's me and God for the most part!
Facts
💯
Romans 12:2-10🙏
Truth
Tell me about it
Be careful with whom you share certain things with.
Exactly
Shoot there's family who exhibit some or all of these
Yes, be careful what you share with folks because when it's convenient for them they will use what you told them against you.
Yes indeed
@@StopIt-ic8of because unfortunately 😔 your pain is their pleasure.
The best way to deal with jealous fake people is learn to be happy alone, be friends with yourself and move forward with your life in secret... It has worked wonders for me. 😉
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Learning to be happy alone and move forward with my life in secret is a skill I need to develop in 2021.
I Couldn't have said it better, I have been doing this for the past couple years and I can honestly say I feel free, happy and at peace. Jealousy, toxicity, fakeness from so called family or friends can actually have an impact on your mental health. Being able to enjoy your own company is pure bliss!!😏☺🙂
I totally agree 👍
God bless you! Beautifully said! 💗
Ur right move on god is my best friend
U forgot that friend that u call when u have a problem or want to vent and they turn the conversation about them as if they didn't acknowledge your problem at all
I feel that would go in the category of one upping u let’s say you’re going through something then they go and talk about how they’re going through a sadder situation
Vs supporting you
No caring or sympathy for you. Might actually be happy about your problems. Another sign of fake or jealous friend.
That's the narcissistic friend! Whew that would be a whole other video
Facts
Keeping my distance. I'm not in high school anymore
I honestly think we need to stop using the word friend so loosely. The Bible says in the last days love will wax cold. Not very many people have genuine love for God, self, and other people.
So true!
This is so very true, best comment! You nailed it! We are very deep in the last days & (Matthew 24:12) , genuine love that we should have for one another has seriously cooled off, - this makes it hard today to find real friends.. I like how you likened it to wax cooling, great illustration.
Facebook "friend" has reduced the notion to, a contact in your database.
This comment! Wow! A lot of people need to hear this. I've recently had this revelation. I was mad at the fact that some people who I considered friends were acting a certain way to me. The relationships were one sided. So placing people in the right category helps you distinguish who are your real friends and gives you so much peace.
Whodini taught me the true meaning of real friends when I was 5...
Orale Whodini!✊
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6. If they don’t put the same amount of effort into the relationship (Perhaps using you)
7. If they only reach out to you if they need something
8. If they only want you to open up but never disclose about them
9. Belittles you or your accomplishments
10. When your friend is judgmental or always has something negative to say
A fake friend/family member is a scary thing to be honest... how can someone so close be such a snake? 🐍
It’s a spiritual battle don’t forget that and show mercy and grace to them like Christ is with us.
Ephesians 6:10-20
2 Corinthians 10:4-6
@@NewCreationInChrist896 Amen. 🙏🏼💞
Exactly!!!😢
It’s dangerous honestly, imagine they can harm you or your children,
@@amanlizamasha1937 that's why i plead the blood of Jesus over me and mine. 🙏❤
Number 11: when they always tell you bad things people say about you, and never mention if or how they defended you
Funny right
Absolutely 💯
Good lawd yes👍👍👍
That's why I talk to god only, I'm realizing that one way or another someone is fake in your life, I choose to stand on my own and not deal with that to many.
@@luvthslf79 That is why I said THEY tell YOU, not YOU tell Them....
A jealous friend can be loving, might even care for you deeply. This is why you feel so frustrated and confused.
That's true!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Because I used to have a friend like that. I'm glad that I chose to let the friendship go!
If they are jealous of you
They CANNOT love and care for anyone deeply..
oil and water
Yesszzzzz Barbara
@@johnwilson9670 Even within a familial relationship? And maybe this happens with females, and not males. Did Joseph’s brothers hate him or were they jealous? I’m going to have to reread those verses.
Jealousy is a personal issue. Whatever they may be struggling is not on you but on how they react.
Another way to tell if you’re dealing with a fake friend is if someone’s name keeps popping up in your mind while watching this video.😩I can honestly say I’ve learned during this pandemic of 2020. It was made crystal clear to me.
lol
Friendenimies
Yes !! Exactly.
Oh yes I just had the same thoughts of a specific person 🙌
Lmaooo 🤣
I can’t with the excuses. Friendship is definitely a two way street.
Say loud for the people in the back!!
True however it’s not about us it’s about winning souls to Christ. This is why it’s important to develop a real relationship with Jesus so we don’t forget that. If we are Christ like we can help win them back from a lukewarm fellowship to Christ. They may have sin in their life and need you to help them confess it.
2 Timothy 2:24-25
Matthew 6:14-15
@@NewCreationInChrist896 this is true!
Minimizing your accomplishments is a BIG sign of jealousy!!! Thanks Karolyne
That’s a good one!!! I recently passed state boards to be an RN. And she had the nerve to say “you about to start you new Lil job” caught that immediately!!
I had a bestie at one point in my life. And then the pandemic hit and ppl started showing their true colors
Usually that's when you know who are really for you, not just with friends but also with family. When you've hit a downside then you see who truly cares. Bless day
So true 🙏🏽 I asked God "Please, show me the true colors of the persons around me" and I got the confirmation
@@sarahpuckerin667 ❤ especially family.. & that's sad but we're Blessed! & if they can't handle that oh well. If they watch themselves, they'd see that they are Blessed too!
Its always when things go to shit that you find whos truely got your back and whos a backstabbing snake.
@@mariluzguerraariza2520 YES!!! I did this and 3 close friends dropped like flies
U can also have a lover & they're worst than a jealous friend & ur wondering to urself, "where the hell did all this come from??"
This is so sad. 99% of my past and present “friendships” share these qualities you mentioned.
I had a “friend” who I always traveled to see her and support her goals. She was making excuses about visiting me while flying across the country to visit friends she would gossip about, or flat out didn’t even like. Meanwhile I lived an hour and half away. I’m so glad I dropped her.
This applies to family members as well
The main ones...
This is why I love being alone❤
Me too ooo
@@herryvivar7415 how do you not get bored or lonely? Would love to succeed in loving my own company so i dont have to deal with peoples shit
@@LLastRose how can you get bored being alone? I’m not bashing you. But think about it. You are always alone in your thoughts no one knows what goes on in your head but yourself. Do you know you can have friends and be lonely?
Find things you enjoy to do. Like reading, going for walks, doing hobby’s like sewing drawing etc….
You can start affirming thoughts like I am whole by myself anything extra is a tip of an iceberg……. Something like that. Hope this helps😘
@@Prettywins i agree with you. Ive always felt lonely with friends since i can never be myself. And with family. I always had to hide my vulnerability and happiness because of jealousy. After becoming more Aware my energy is just too sensitive and manny of them are no longer in my life. Yet here I am still seeking approval. I think staying home for 11 years as a stay home has drained me emotionally as well. I didnt get to really enjoy my teens as much from strict parents and got married very young and had kids didnt even really enjoy my 20s either. Im just surrounded with disappointments too. I guess I am hurt inside. So I feel lonely since the people I want to have bonds with disappointed me severely. Yea expect less I know but Its not so hard to be kind and supportive. So all this drama and failed relationships with family and friends AND feeling isolated as a stay at home has effected me, it SUCKS. A lot.
Oh me too! I'm soo much happier. Who needs their shit !!
The type of "friends" that irritate me the most are ones that spitefully go and tell other people personal things you shared only with them and it tends to happen a lot once you and that "friend" have a falling out or disagreement about something.
Happened to me before.
Grrrr!!
They aren't your friend
Yes, and even if you confront and ask them straight please why did you tell abc about "something private" ; they might even laugh a little and say oh I didn't think it was that important, or they lie and say "abc already knew and told me all about it"
You know it's not the truth because you know you only told that one person that "something private" information
Sometimes when I can sense a person is really not my friend, I will keep everything BASIC & SURFACE LEVEL for my protection! I’m not opening up to someone who seems to come around just to collect information.
I have a friend whom I don't share anything deep with but will get into what's going on in their lives but its actually for the opposite reason. I am generally interested in her life and well-being, however, she is a gossiper and I know better than to divulge any pertinent information about my life to her lol.
I'd never befriend a gossiper.
That’s an associate
Similar situation but with my friend, I know she tells her husband a lot and that bothers my spirit. So I learned along time ago, not to share anything I didn’t want her husband to know about me🙅🏾♀️
So I hope ur not the type that relishes in her down falls if I was her I wouldn’t share too much personal things
Oh boy, same. My ‘friend’ has told me some really heavy stuff, which is enough to scar a person’s reputation for life. Yet, I didn’t repeat a single word to another soul. But, during a time when I was going through a very challenging time in my life, I confided in her some things, a few weeks and months later, her family knew about what I said, as well as mine. I felt so numb. I felt so stupid. I felt so dumbstruck. How does a person with so many skeletons in her closet think it’s okay to casually share the challenges another person is going through at a difficult time in their life? She is actually bipolar, not just saying it as a curse word. So, my fault was I trusted a bipolar person with my sadness. No shade on bipolar, but def shade on my friend. I am now trying to rebuild the damage this person did to my life. She is completely oblivious to what she did to me, and continues to try to come back to my life. I am half tempted to curse her out and be rid of her. But then I remind myself not to bring myself down as a person to try to get revenge on a person with very little redeeming qualities about her. Her punishment is really her own damn life. She has no good friends. Her childhood friends abandoned, not at all surprised why. Everyone else she tries to make friends with takes advantage of her and disses her because she doesn’t know how to have healthy boundaries and gives an energy that manipulative people would easily try to take advantage of. And the two other close friends she does have are all married and moved away, and I’m going to guess, probably people who don’t think too much about her. I have allowed myself to let her walk all over me for so long because I always felt bad for her, that now, I almost wish others would continue to insult her so that I get my revenge. I no longer give to others in a way that would make me feel bad for over giving. But knowing what I let her get away with still hurts my self respect. I quite detest her now. She doesn’t deserve my kind of loyal, steady unwavering friendship in the slightest bit. Hopefully someday she will get hers. She apologizes frequently because she is beginning to realize all that I’d done for her, put up with for her and I guess how much she took all that for granted. But I’ve reached the point where no apology is going to work. I’ve reached the point where I can forgive, but there’s not going to be forgetting. I have reached my limit with her, and she deserves to see the reality of the nature adult friendships, and how ill-prepared she is for it, though she pines for it so much. I’m very annoyed by her now, can’t stand her, but pretend to be nice for civility’s sake. But she realizes what’s up. I don’t have any patience for her anymore, she tiptoes around me to try to get me to get emotionally involved in her drama series of a life again. But, I’m done. Can’t fool me twice. I let people have their consequences now, though it seems hard. Consequences make people grow up. And if there’s one person who needs that, it’s her.
Haters hate and lovers love. It's real simple
I'm down to me and Jesus...I do not use the term "Best Friend " and do not allow anyone to label me as such. At 50 I've learned that some people label you to obligate you, it's a trap.
Omgoodness absolutely right!
Even one's own mother and daughter are jealous for what God gave me ..rather shocking. But proud of God's blessings on me.
Cheers 🎉for you
OMG that part!!! But it's real 😭
BREAKING NEWS Whoever reading this, Just know that God is about to drop you a Miracle that willl cancel your worries in life. Amen.💕
Thank you I receive it.
Amen!
I receive this word!
Amen! Thanks! 🙏🏾
Amen Amen
let's face, there are no friends. just associates.......period !
All this is just why I walk alone!
Friends are over rated. Since having my daughter I realized I dont have friends. It sad it been hard to deal with. But I will never open up any one again cause when shit happens they are the one to throw back in your face a use your down falls against you. Never again. Going forward just me and my child
Oh wow!! I understand you!! Once I became a mom I outgrew so many people and now I just I wish I can let go without fear.
Lord this is such confirmation!!! I had a friend recently that would randomly throw shade, never compliment me, and always in subtle ways try to put me down and I would beat myself up about it like why is this happening!!!!! So thank you for breaking this down for me and basically helping me put this guilt and frustration to rest. I dont know if its a forever separation, but I'm relieved
You dont need that kind of friend in your life. Trust me been there 💜 you deserve better
I have nearly attacked by fake and jeously all my life and most of the above points are exactly what I went through them,may Good God strengthen me to overcome all the arrows my enemies and fake jeously people in this life.
My Father in heaven I pray of your direction and to direct me to your abundantly glorious Love and to protect me and give me wisdom and discernment to spot fake and jeously, manipulative and silent treatment people over my life.
Father I pray to help
me and guide me to overcome all the arrows of the enemies and all mentioned kind of people as I was been attack in many times by fake and jeously people including my family member in Jesus name 🙏
Father cover me and my entire life with blood of Jesus Christ 🙏
Just distance yourself from them physically reach out to them if possible and pray for them. If are true friends surely will come back to you this has happened to me. Good luck.
The people that I know always want me there for them. When I'm having a bad day, there is not one person I can call on other than GOD. One person only wants to talk when she is mad at her significant other. I'm always happy for them but when I share they act like I'm bragging. So I have to keep my happiness to myself. Sad!
Me and best friend parted ways due to her being jealous of me. I saw it twice before and I brushed it off put the pandemic but the stamp on it. 12 years of friendship. I never saw this coming.
Same here
37 yr friendship for me
I had a friend since I was 5 years old, I'm 60 years old now. Just before the pandemic we had to go our separate ways. Spend all of those years stepping on egg shells around her. Just because I didn't want to hurt her feelings. Yet, she seemed to go out of her way to crush the "egg shells" around me. Christmas 2019 and 2020 without insulting my decorations ☃️🎄
Same here.
Same! The pandemic exposed a lot
If people would learn how to be happy with themselves this will be a perfect world sister Karolyne God bless🕊🙌🛐🙏
Yes. People need to love and appreciate themselves. But it is okay to have healthy friendships and other type of relationships outside of yourself.
You make a valid point there,but at the sametime most people don't want to accept that we are people,anyways God bless 🕊🙌🛐🙏
It’s loving Jesus Christ for who he is. Is the thing.
@@debbiescott1293 Amen sister✝️🙌
I have learned it and I'm in a safe place now. Only my 03 boys and husband.
Genuine friends are like diamonds , precious and very rare to find. I personally have been disappointed at people I thought were my friends, so I don't have close friends anymore
Im a good listener, so people tell me things that are going on with them. I, however, don't tell what's going on with me, not bc I want to gossip or glory off their pain, but bc I don't trust people fully. When people stop liking you, everything you ever told them will be used against you. I don't open up with friends fully, bc I don't fully trust people, but I can acknowledge that that is a problem I have. I want to open up, but in the back of mind I'm thinking, "what happens if this friendship goes sour?". All my personal info will be in the streets.
Yep!!! Truth be told 🤷
Trust me..youll never regret sharing your weakness that can be used against you. I am the Exact same and I am soooo thankful I never caved in!
I agree with that one. I ve been very open and transparent in the past and have guided myself because i've come to notice that folk are gossiping, so i choose to keep it humble and not say too much.
I learned who was loyal and who wasn't. There are acquaintances and friends....people need to know the difference.
Focus on your goals that’s the best friend right there and genuine people will come support👍🏽
The Bible says a friend loves @ ALL times....I found out it’s ok to be a party of 1 (after dealing with a Narcissistic Friend for 5 years) God WILL send you that Good Loving Godly friend🙌🏽
Yes I’m dealing with that friend now we been friends for 10 years but I think I out grown it .. it’s just not the Same
I am in a similar situation.
@@monicarussell3059 same
Me too angel 🙌
I think this is a negative trait I have when it comes to being a friend, if you do something “fake” I’m just gonna cut you off lol I hate having those types of conversations bc you know what you did!
Girl everything you've been saying so far happens in my family you are literally descriving my entire family right now, and I've always said '' Who needs friends or Enemies when it's all these 10 bad signs plays into your family three''
My daughter had a best friend of many years , was her in wedding , always was supported of her ECT, ECT,but when my daughter had positive things happen in her life (she became author) her best didn't show up for the book signing
Very powerful. I had to let go and let God handle a friendship and it hurt but at the end of the day I cherish my peace and my space. No negativity because the world is already full of it no need to add more to it. Your videos are very inspiring. Thank you.
I think it's important to be the type of friend we desire others to be to us. Thanks for the insight. We all need growth sometimes.
So true!!!
I keep to myself after so many people have turned on me.
I found this video on accident. And I had a "best friend " for 17 years who had 8 out of 10 and I did realize any of it until 2 years ago, when I ended the friendship. Everybody always said "she jealous of you, she don't really like you". I loved her so much I didn't see it until I had a evaluation in my lifes journey and she hated it. Ppl are crazy.
Thank you for this video.
It's amazing how God reveals things to us. This pandemic has come to test our faith and has truly identified who really true immediate people close to you. What have learnt during this COVID is just to look to God and keep myself happy if when friends are gone he will be there for me and am testifieing the mercies he has shown me. Very encouraging messages
2020 has been a real eye opener for me the people who are really jealous of me has come to the surface!!! I was blind to the fact before but NOW I can clearly see who they are!! Thanks for this video!!!:))💕
Thank you for this message. I have encountered just about all these types, some of which are immediate family members.
It pains when its immediate family, friends you can leave but family is always in our lives..
@@pamelabarnes3261 Exactly. Sometimes it seems like the very people you wanna get away from are the very people you need help from.
For real
I just found out that have became a fake friend to someone that I know that really loves me; It wasn’t like that at the beginning though, I just think She and I now have different perspectives on what a friendship is but I feel ashamed of talking to her about the situation ‘cause I don’t wanna hurt her. Please, pray for me, I need wisdom to handle this situation. BTW, I’m so blessed with all of your videos sis.
@Alixa Maldonado Don’t be discouraged sis! I had a similar situation with a wonderful friend of mine. The enemy was trying to attack me with feelings of jealousy towards her! It was bothering me so bad because I didn’t want to feel that way towards her cause she’s a wonderful friend I want to keep. The Lord eventually pushed me to talk with her about it. I was so scared she would be upset but she was soooo loving and immediately began to pray with me and started binding the enemy! I was sooo happy and I’ve seen God brings us together closer and closer and I can truly say she’s my sister and I love her! I’ve still had to pray against those feelings! It’s a daily surrender but I’ve given it to the Lord and I know everyday he helps me! So I pray this encourages you to not give up! Give it to God and trust that he will work it out and transform you! Just because you’ve dealt with this doesn’t mean you are a bad person don’t allow the enemy to condemn you because there’s NO condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. Unfortunately as believers were not exempt from temptation but we have the Holy Spirit to help us overcome the enemy! The Lord has given us the power to trample on snakes and scorpions and to defeat the power of our enemy Satan so nothing shall harm us( Luke 10:19)! be encouraged sis! ❤️
Stephanie Wade I so very appreciate your wise counseling; it definitely has encouraged me to pray more about it and let the Spirit work in our friendship and I hope this process make us strengthen what the Lord has given us. Thank you so much sis, God bless you
@@LuzDeAuroraDevocionales God bless you as well! 😄💗
The truth won't hurt as bad as a lie, you are hurting her now because you are most likely keeping something that she NEEDS TO KNOW FROM HER. Pick up the phone or stop by and tell her whatever it is.
The Tiger Pack You’re right! I’ve been praying and asking the Lord for a moment to sincerely talk to her about the situation and see what comes out of it. Thank you so much for your counseling!
I've experienced 7 out of 10, and you was so clear and true. Too bad I noticed late but I had to let my Toxic fake friendship go and I pray for them. Your points was on time. Thanks!
That last one whewww...it hits home. Had to end a friendship with someone I was friends with since I was 12. I kept questioning if it was the right decision but my life is honestly a lot more peaceful without them. I felt like everytime I made a choice about my life I'd have to explain my reasoning to this person lol. I'm glad to be in a different season now
Also I've seen this three times. Women who have sisters and constantly trashed them. The 3 worst experiences I've had with "fake friends, frenemies" were always criticizing their sisters or fighting with them. Then when I got to really know the other sisters they were amazing. The evil sister was my "friend" 🤔
Thank you for this video. I moved out to the west coast to start a new life. Friends and family back home have been rude. I don't regret moving. I love the west coast....I will work on setting boundaries and just send them love. I'm growing...and working on "me" right now...and I have a right to do that.....I want to grow and heal and build a better life for myself....it's my journey...
I wish you well! Your comment resonates with me because none of my “closest friends” or family were happy for me when I moved to California 2 months ago. I came out here with the same objective as you. It’s like they hate that I don’t need them, am trying to grow myself, and am not dependent on them for help
How about the friend who judges you for your spiritual life?? And he/she thinks that God talks to him/her more than you? This is not the right thing to do because, even if he/she knows you very well, doesn't mean you have to bully him/her...!
I've had 2 like that!! The last one just parted from me. I have thank God for saving me from having a weeping soul....
I have those experiences...sometimes you just feel spiritually useless.
Spend less time with them and more time with God.
They are not bad as they motivate you to press more in God only that your mental health is affected.
Woowww this is so trueeeee
I learned that I was by myself doing the pandemic, and when I was in a narcissistic relationship...I had no body, no friends, no family...by myself.
Very very deep insight thank you! Unfortunately you can receive all the ten signs within your family too 🥺
It’s SO IMPORTANT to know the difference between Cools and Friends. I have plenty people I’m crazy cool with, but I am EXTREMELY selective as to who my friends are!
I struggle with sharing how I feel because people don’t ask. So I take it as they don’t care 🤷🏾♀️
Their are discouraging friends too. I've seen a lot of that around when you share something good, exciting and/or positive and they're like oh, it might not work out. Or just anything negative against it
That’s why you have to work in silence 😉
That excuse thing is real. I had a friend that always flaked out when meeting up for an event or outing at the last minute. After the 3rd time, I stopped calling her all together. Then I had another friend who always wanted to rearrange my timed planned for an event around her schedule.
actually not sharing anything wrong or negative its not always about to make someone feeling worse. not everyone can be talkative and sincere with others just because of type of their personality
Hardly have any friends and I am here listening and passing time like mmmhhhmmm
My dad always told me you will be lucky in life if you can find one friend and he was so right and he also told me to trust no one not even him to let me know how treacherous people can be and he was so right. I'm so glad that the one friend that I did think I had finally showed me her true colors and I'm no longer binded by the word friend but I have a whole lot of associates and I also have people that are good kind people towards me and I'm the same way towards them I just pray to God that he will cover me and only allow people in my life that are supposed to be in my life amen be blessed and be safe 🙌🏽
I got hurt many times that now I really don’t have close friends anymore.
Me too. Im solo
Same. And I'm perfectly okay with that.
Sad
I understand when you say you don't have close friends. I get you do have friends ( probably associates), it saddens me. It's so sad bc God created us for fellowship. We need one another in this world. Please pray and ask God to help you develop lasting relationships. There really are alot of good people who are capable and want honest connections. No fake stuff.
I had a friend who when a colleague was describing how supportive I had been she had a look of disbelief on her face and she kept this look throughout the conversation. However, I am only now realising how envious she was and I did not recognise and the subtle ways in which she would put me down. It culminated in her betraying me badly, which we got over to an extent but she has said some things recently that reinforced what I was seeing. It is fortunate that she has not contacted me for 2021 so there is no requirement to have any dealings with her.
I’ve had the issue with #8 before, but I was the person who never shared about myself. I always felt like every second was about her and that I was just there for her to vent to, but when it came to my life I had no energy left to talk about it. It was not a 2-way street because she was always pouring out to me and using up my energy, but never asked about me and my life. I sat and listened to her complain about everything. I tried to communicate with her multiple times why I was struggling with our friendship, but nothing much ever changed. It was an emotional energy drain. I eventually ended the friendship and feel much better for it now, but I worry that she never fully grasped why I wasn’t happy.
Same exact situation with me also
I’ve experienced the same thing and eventually drifted from this person. I tried to explain it to her often but the behavior never changes.
10min limit on phone conversations....managing my time, it's valuable.
Told one female associate you get 1 phone call to vent about a dude and his nonsense after that I will charge a session fee!! Honor my time especially if you still choosing to mess with him knowing he's no good. Then yes I'm charging you a session fee lol
The friend that never wants to open up but feeds off of you being honest and transparent 💯💯 they only want to see you low never better than them. Thank you for this video it really helped me put things into perspective. Bless you🙏🏽
Very Good video ! A tip I learned I
therapy is when pointing something out say “ I feel blank, when you do blank”. Very helpful when addressing Issues bc human nature may cause defensiveness.
Friends who insult you all the time! Cut them lose!
Thank you for this beautiful message,is better to be alone than to be with fake friend, U can't change them,if they are really against you...
True indeed
Everything you said 1 through 10 relates to me I have some friends like that and family mostly friends. I had one guy friend who wanted my company but he would never wanted to go out he always wanted to stay in. He would always brag about other female friends that comes over his house and would tell me oh we went to a restaurant we walked along the beach. So I did bring it up and he tells me oh next you come over we can go out. Never did. This was going on for about a year. Then one day text me a picture with a girl a selfie picture and I didn't reply and then I stopped calling him after that. He kept calling me I told sorry I can't come over anymore you have to many people coming over to your house and he was getting sick and so was I.
One scenario is they call you and you listen to thier problems and how thier day went and as soon as you start to talk about your self they shut you down and get off the phone
Really need perspectives on friends who when you say you're going through some hard stuff they make say theyre going through something worse
Remember, a friend can love you but would never want you to be better than them!!
I have experience almost all you have said, sometimes I wonder how people can pretend to like someone and deep down inside them they hate you.
I’ve been back in school for a year now and when I tell you God came through kicking ppl out my life left and right to make space for my new group! Now some I went back to God said no and kicked them right back out. I have been growing no just personally but with my relationship with God and it has changed my lfe so much. Ill be graduating Spring 2022.
Sometimes it's hard
With folk especially
If you tell them sometin
And they exspose it .
All I can say is having the Lord in my life has really been a great comfort. I wouldn't be able to make it without him.
What I have come to know is "I never had a true friend in my life" and I always know that.😑😑
@@RSY873 Thanks a lot. God bless you!
Me either
Very true story.
You have the perfect spirit and personality to deliver this message 🙌I don't believe in coincidences I needed to hear this I needed confirmation sometimes hard letting go of friendships that have a lot of history but all the signs are there😢. .thank you so much 🙏
Bottom line is; My Mom and Dad Raised Me with these simple words; "Treat People the Way You Want To Be Treated"🤗
1 - 10 was my x best friend thank God I let the negative out of my life it was weighing me down. And there was nothing happy in her life and I started to take on her problems and started to be angry because she was going through what she was going through and I brought that in my engagement at first then I had to check myself because I didn’t want to to play a part in my marriage. No thanks
I had a friend do the subliminal judging thing. That was the final straw. As soon as we got off the phone, she made a subliminal status. That’s not the first time she did that too. Just not towards me & that bold. Had to cut her off completely. Not about to be friends with anyone who kicks me while I’m down. Especially on social media.
I had a friend do the very thing to me about belittling my accomplishments. I recently made the decision to return to college. My friend and I were having a conversation about the difference between my grades at 19 and the difference between my grades at 44. When I pointed out the differences my friends responds was what college isn't for everyone. I see how much I have grown as a person when I'm not going to do is measure myself against people that don't see the growth in me. Lately I haven't talked to her as much because talking to her really drains me. I am really struggling on how to end this friendship because in my heart I believe she does not have my best interest at heart she only wants to measure herself against me.
I lost a lot of friends this past year and I realise now that God did me well but at first I did not see that because I felt so alone not having a single friend left. I started blaming myself but when I look back their behaviors were questionable. I told a friend that I was having problems in my faith and the next few days she had a status that was talking about how she did not want people who struggled with their faith near her. When I confronted her she said "I wish you nothing but the best,"
Love your hair! Keep doing you! 😃
Communication is key! I've learned this over the last 11 years. My friend NEVER, NEVER came over my house to chill, talk, and have a good time. I ALWAYS was at her house. Our friendship dismantled because I didn't watch her kids 1 time. She called me at work and cussed at me after I had volunteered to do so with a full schedule but because, I couldn't be around the full weekend to watch them. It broke my heart. It still bothers me til this day.
Be happy. A friend never desert you.
She wasn't a real friend 😎
She had no understanding for your time and obligations and you did all you could do to oblige her. She proved her true colors when she got mad at you for not accommodating her. It happened to me a lot when I was raising my kids. I never asked friends to watch my children but a few friends would ask me. If I couldnt some would get upset and I'd be upset and feel guilty for turning them down. I finally realised those were not my friends, they were users.
That's not a friend, that's a user. You're a good person Queen, straightened your crown and move forward, Queens aren't bothered by peasants!
Here's one...I have a relative who always puts her friends in bad situations to make herself look good or hangs with people that's less than to make herself look good.
One that always try to copy everything u do but still trying to bring down in the process (by saying mean stuff about u indirectly but when confronted, she’s just “trying to correct me “).. bad friend
What about neighbours? 🤦🏻♀️
I'm glad that I found you. I've been wrecking my brain and emotions over silly things. I felt as tho some people were not being real with me but when I tried to talk to best friend about somethings I was noticing -- she just ignored me. People often get the wrong impression of me anyway, but I think my closest friend thinks im just gossiping but im seeing REAL SIGNS. She just doesnt respond or provide feedback when she normal does about anything else. I didnt think she would misunderstand because i thought she was my closest friend but after listening and reflecting it may be more than that. It's a good thing i don't mind being alone so im just going stay to myself for awhile.
We’re living the same life.. i thought out of all ppl my best friend would get me.. I’m falling wayyy back..
That's Why I'm Going To Pack My Bags And Find Somewhere Else To Live
I have a “friend” who I have actively put distance between us I’ve the last 7 months because of a lot of reasons on this list. She is insecure, jealous, belittles my accomplishments, copies me,and is never happy for me.
For example over the past few years my husband and I paid off all our debt except our mortgage. However, we do have over 50% equity in our home. Then, I decided not to go back to work once my maternity leave was over, because my husband got promoted, so I became a stay at home mom. This “friend” criticized my husband and I for being overly restrictive with our budgeting when we were paying off our debt, and then told me at lunch that I was just “lucky” to be able to be a stay at home mom,despite my husband spending two years in a position that had him travel so much we only saw each other on weekends before getting promoted.
In January she called me to announce she too has been working to pay off her debt and is becoming a stay at home mom this month, and she has done just that. Literally used my life as a blueprint on how to make this happen, ridiculed and belittled me along the way, then when she accomplished it doesn’t give me credit AND expected me to be happy for her. Let’s just say I haven’t initiated contact with her since January and when she talks to me I treat her out of a long handled spoon.
100% accurate. This year I understood very very well how detrimental is a fake friendship, even a family member, it is sad but true.
And you know? Let's once and for all put down to earth and re-evaluate the idea that it's ok to always impose an opinion over what the others are doing. Critiques and judgement about the hard work of others is despicable. It is supposed to be a friendship, not a competition. A friend isn't a judge.
It's ok to get feedback, but what makes an actual feedback is the advice about how to make it better. But the jealousy doesn't match with the feedback, only with the judgement and critiques.
Positivity isn't always flowers and rainbows, is being a *conscious human being*
Keep it coming!!! Shed light. In these times we definitely need to descern the company we keep.
Bless You and this Message ❤
A Beautiful Women Pleases The Eye, A Good Women Pleases The Heart, The First Ones A Jewel. The Second Is A Treasure. ♥
Wow, after watching these videos I realize how blind I have been to others not reciprocating efforts to be a genuinely loving and caring friend 😕
I was reflecting on my own life being as a friend am I truly a friend as well! Friends are people who we choose families we are born into but yet need to be careful what we shared with whom in our families circle
I have a roommate that I can't share anything with because she's a gossiper. Instead of offering help she'll gossip. And if the problem causing stifled talk is because she doesn't want to talk about it because she feels she's being judged. She feels she's right all the time and she likes making neighbors hate you to hide her wrongs.
I lost 3 friends one being my own mother when I got my Nursing degree many years ago. They only had negative things to say about nurses or always found a way to bring up my profession even in conversations that had nothing to do with it. One former frienemy befriended my fellow classmate/enemy while we were in college and supported her & attended her graduation but not mine. She would still insist that she was my friend and made sure she'd tell me all the bad things that the chick was saying about me & how she defended me
I don't open up to a lot of my friends but not because I gossip about them or use what they say against but because I dont trust some of them and when I did open up they made the conversation about themselves which caused me to be closed off to them.