No idea, my crush have a crush, and weirdly enough i dont really care¯\_(ツ)_/¯ (maybe something with the depression i had? Still trying to return to actually having feelings lol)
REMEMBER: feeling a bit of jealousy is absolutely normal. We're humans after all and we have to accept our emotions. If we aknowledge that we're jealous, then we can breath and think "maybe there's no reason to be jealous, it's healthy to interact with more people. Plus, it's impossible and really unhealthy to control what the other person is doing". Also remember that sometimes it's better to communicate directly and say to the person that you're feeling insecure and you need to openly and honestly talk about feelings.
I would say it’s more effective to control your emotions. You certainly can’t control what anyone else is doing, however never. Ever. Expose yourself as insecure. No one deserves to know that.
@@buggus0034 I have a very close friend and when we feel insecure about something we feel free to express it. It's better to express your emotions in a healthy way rather than bottle things up and feel depressed. Obviously it has to be balanced.
That happens to me at gym… When I was talking to people at gym, I see him he would check on me & see him that he always walk passing to behind my friends. I get upset, So I ask him if he’s jealous he said no he didn’t pay attention to anyone.. but weeks passed he still do same thing again. I knew he always hiding his feelings so he would check to see what am I doing…
@@monica.anzaldua I honestly don't know if you can "get used to" or "forget" jealousy, I think it's toxic when you are acting jealous and you aren't even conscious of it. Jealousy has to be balanced, like all the emotions, because dealing with really insecure or controlling people is exhausting. But I don't know at all your situation (and the situation of the boy you're talking about). So please take this as a simple opinion of an unknown person.
Hehe me too I am introverted due to my appearance as everyone won't like me just rare ones....plus I am unpredictable cuz my life lessons taught me like that
Timestamps 0:34 Compensatory Restoration (Your crush is being extra kind to you and giving you more attention) 1:34 Keep your friends close and your enemies closer (They're being talking down about someone you know) 2:31 The freeze out(They try to avoid you) 3:05 Keeping Tabs (Your crush checks on you too often) My first time of making timestamps,hope it helps!😊
i had a crush who i was pretty sure also liked me back, but neither of us said anything about it. he often hung out with this girl who i was pretty sure had a crush on him too, but he wasn't that interested in her. I was pretty jealous (?) over that, so I went out of my way to point out how cute those two would be together as a couple and how they're totally into each other. After thinking it over, it might've been both a coping mechinism in case he didn't actually like me that would soften the blow of rejection, along with some psycological test to see if he would deny it or not.
@@wbxhn honestly? i think he might've just been making a comment. I've learned that most of the things guys say should be taken for what they are, and usually (key word usually) there isn't any hidden motive behind them. The ignoring this is kinda... but maybe he didn't hear you? or maybe hes secretly really jealous idk
It seems you are the opposite of this video. Instead of your crush being jealous, it is you that is being jealous. So on the contrary, it is signs you are jealous.
I remember this one girl I used to know was, ironically, more interested in me when she realized that I had other girls around me. Girls can be quite competitive with each other
Same,at the start,many guys had crushes on me at the same time (if many is 3 then i guess its good) and now no one is interested in me... its weird😐 i got rejected 3 times,2 undirectly and 1 in the face (actually that "one" was multiple times to the same person) I just wish that someone would like me :(
My best advice to you darling, is by first liking yourself. That’s the most important thing. The more positivity you share to the world, the more you’ll receive in return
Self improvement is a never ending journey. As long as you stay committed, you’ll attain what you desire. It’s well worth it in the end. Best of luck to you!
@@iammell1 That is why it is not wise not to take popularity for granted. If you know that you can be capable of having multiples guys liking you, you only pick one. If you allow them to compete over you. Then they ended up feeling tired of competing over you. So in the beginning, you were likable because you were available but once you are seen with multiple guys all over you, you will not look available. So on the contrary, you did have someone liking you from the start. It just happened to be multiples guys having a crush on you and competing over you. So what you should of done is don't push your luck. Just pick 1 rather then to take all of them.
I’m the jealous one. I liked him from the day I met him, but he kept sending me mixed signals. The reason I’m jealous is my fault- someone liked him and I told him and they eventually wanted to meet each other so I set them up and one thing led to another and they’re dating now. I want him to be happy, but it still sucks.
Not a good idea to set a crush up with someone else. If you have a power to set up your crush to date someone else, you had an opportunity to set yourself up on a date with your crush. If you ask your crush to date someone else, you give up the right to claim that guy to be your bf. That someone else have the right to keep your crush because you gave a consent.
You won't even be making a good impression if this is how you play the game. The more you play this mind games, your crush will have a reason to leave you and move on. If you play this kind of game for revenge or payback, your crush will have a reason to cut you out of his/her life. Be careful who you mess with because if that crush don't even find you attractive, your crush would not be desperate enough to play mind games for that attention. You can end up driving good people away if you think like that. You only use this games only when you know you don't want a relationship and you know you want to reject.
To be honest, I'm jealous around my crush when there is someone else that she is talking to. I start trying to get closer to her and defend her from him lol.
If it makes you feel better. I’m the same way. Anytime another lady talks to my crush, I get really jealous and (I’m not one to hide my emotions) so I do my best to pretend that I don’t see anything and go on about my life. I also don’t want to put down any of them either, because that would make me look ugly. I Hope this helps.
Opposite claim from this video because the video is called signs your crush is jealous of you. But instead you were jealous of your crush. If you find yourself in an opposite position from the video title, then it means your crush is not showing signs of being obsessed with you. You were competing for your crush's attention and your crush was not doing it on you.
Be careful because technically, you don't have the right. Your crush's fiance have to right to defend her. If you are considered a total stranger and have never build a connection, you won't earn the right to defend her because she is already taken. If you do this, you will be considered a homewrecker. If your crush never find you attractive from day 1, she and her fiance would have a power to put a restraining order on you. Do not defend a person who was never your fiance from day 1. That will be a creepy behavior. If you want to defend her, you need to build enough trust and get into a relationship with her before having a right to defend her.
@@hp2546 I'm glad to say that I am no longer that type of person since one whole year has passed since then, but I was 12-13 when I wrote that. I haven't been exposed to new experiences at the time 😭. Thanks for the heads-up though, I'll keep it in mind in case I run into a similar scenario later on.👍
I don't usually feel jealousy. My reason is, if it's not for me, then I have to fully accept. I keep observing that unusual surveillance and improving quality time more often on my crush when I was on high school, such good old days! 😌
Yeah but feeling a bit of jealousy is absolutely normal. We're humans after all. If we aknowledge that we're jealous, then we can breath and think "maybe there's no reason to be jealous, it's healthy to interact with more people. And anyways I can't control this, it's none of my business". But if you are feeling very jealous you can communicate: "look, I want to spend a bit more time with you, I like you and I have to admit that this days I'm feeling a bit insecure and jealous since we aren't communicating directly, and I don't know what you feel".
I think the same way, I will almost always feel happy for that person, better for them. Except my brain AAHHHHHHH: One day I was walking in school when I saw *her* walking, she's still on middle school, I'm already in highschool, so I go to chat with her, I ask her why she's not on gymnastics and she responds she's going to see a friend (in Spanish and says amigo, the masculine word). I couldn't even think before mouth expelled out who? Like WHAT, and in no time I realized I didn't hear properly so I could use sound as an excuse to hide it, but I knew ot before speaking. WTF BRAIN She just said amigo, but it was amiga, in fact, my friend's sister, who went to the cafeteria to buy food for the class. I'm genuinely scared of my brain now. I also ALWAYS think twice before talking, never Ever spill out something without at least considering it, even if I am still wrong and what I said was a bad idea, but never just speak out like that.
@@joanaborrellsanchez9225 This rules cannot apply to all crushes. What if it is a crush that you barely know and you know there is not enough connections from Day 1? It would be inappropriate to address the jealousy part. Now if it is someone you built a relationship with your best friend and that best friend is your crush, then that may be appropriate but if it is someone that sees you as a stranger assuming you just wanted to confess your feelings and ask that person out on a date, then that is acceptable. Won't be appropriate to do that to crushes that barely knows you because it is inappropriate and will sound too entitled. After reading Noname-1695's comment, maybe that person never build any relationship from step 1 and most mostly know his/her crush is already taken and possibly already married. So attempting to build a couple's relationship would be forbidden from day 1. Normally, if that crush barely knows you and was never your fiance, you won't earn the right to address it because that person was never your fiance from day 1. Crushes that barely knows you have a power to date whoever they want. It will be creepy if a random stranger addresses the jealousy part and attempting to fight for what is not even rightfully theirs to begin with. Now if that person had been your fiance and your fiance cheated, then it is appropriate to address the jealousy part knowing that it is your job. If I know that person don't owe me anything, that person do not have to please me. If I know that person is already married or have a fiance, it won't be my place to address my jealousy issue. The reason why Noname-1965 usually aren't jealous is because Noname-1965 did not mess with off limits people in the 1st place. Would be inappropriate to fight for relationships that don't even belong to you because that would be like attempting to steal someone else's fiance. Addressing this issue to crushes requires that they are already part of your life. Otherwise if it comes from random strangers, it sounds too personal. Just like how you told buggus0034. Once in relationship with his wife, he needs to be brave enough to address his jealousy issue because it won't be right for a husband to give their wife a free pass to cheat. buggus0034 earns the right to address jealousy issues but chose not to. Imagine you just met that person and find out that crush of yours is already married. You won't earn that right to address it.
If you are an INFP like me, then don't worry... Your mind will probably daydream about many crush scenarios to keep you entertained while your real crush appears 😂😁
@@Psych2go my thing is that I have a crush but they talk to me it's nothing though they are really good but I feel I am not a person who is really into someone like the hard one 😅
Timestamps 1). Compensatory restoration 0:44 2). Keep your friends close, and your enemies closer 1:34 3). The freeze-out 2:30 4). Keeping tabs 3:04 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
I have some ideas as to the possible thinking behind these behaviors. Being extra kind: "If I am more kind to my crush, they will value our relationship more than they would ever value a possible relationship with my rival and will therefore pick me." Talking down on the rival: "If I bring up the bad things about my rival, my crush will value a possible relationship with them less than the relationship with me and will therefore pick me." Confronting the rival (hostile or otherwise): "By confronting my rival I can make them respect the relationship between me and my crush so that my rival will not make a move on my crush, therefore neutralizing my rival as a threat." Avoidance: "If I avoid my crush, they will have to invest in our relationship. If they do, they probably prefer me. If they don't, they probably prefer my rival." Keeping tabs: "By keeping tabs I can find out the dynamic between me, my crush and my rival. If my crush seems to prefer me, nothing to worry about. If they seem to prefer my rival, the pain won't be as strong since I will see it coming, or I can act in one of the aforementioned ways."
It's crazy how as jealous I get, I never did any of this. I just let it happen. I knew if I was really desired by someone, they wouldn't be hanging out with others so much more often.
@@DeRez19 I would not expect my crush to behave like this around me. Normally, I seem to attract someone I am not attracted to at all. Someone who I find attractive don't behave like this around me. This video is mainly talking about someone we attracted to will be competitive. As for me, whenever I see my crush, I don't even chase. I leave them alone because I always stick to the belief of being comfortable in solitude. I am not going to go into extreme to act creepy towards my crush and I know my crush does not behave like this around me. If my crush is not interested in me or is hanging out with somebody else, I respect their decision and I leave them alone. I am sure my crush will do the same. Besides, I don't even expect any of my crush is obssessed with me to begin with. I don't show signs of being obssessed.
Ideas you came up with is just competing against your rival. Your rival can also play this same strategy too. You are just playing with fire by messing with your crush's fiance. If your crush is already taken, don't bother investing in them. Not all rivals are dumb. Smart way is just look for someone who is available so that way, you have no rivals to compare yourself to. Even if you beat your rival now, it doesn't mean it lasts. Suppose you get complacent after getting into that relationship, you will end up feeling the same pain as your rival. Getting your crush to like you should not be at the cost of competing against rivals. People can be extra kind to their crushes but doesn't mean they are trying to win a date against their rival. How is talking down about rivals to your crushes making you a better person? That is a sound of you being jealous. Why would you confront a rival that is hanging out with your crush? It sounds like you are telling your crush and your rival how jealous you are. Then this won't fit the theme of avoiding your crush. If you are planning to be better then your rival, the rules of this restriction is no showing signs of jealousy and you had already sound like you have lost to your rival. If you lose the match, that is fine, but don't lose to insecurity.
I've had a little crush on a girl I've seen at the gym the last couple years. It's just a silly little crush with no intention to pursue anything because neither of us are in the position to go anywhere with it, and as such I've barely even talked to her. But I have had numerous un-spoken interactions with her each time I see her and I've always wondered if she crushes on me the way I do on her. One peculiar thing I have noticed is that when any other girl (particularly one who looks like they could be a potential romantic interest for me) talks to me or comes near to me as if she might try to talk to me, I notice that this girl I crush on is looking over at us either directly or using a mirror and watching to see what happens. And she always has a serious look on her face at the time she's watching. Maybe its all in my head but I feel like in a way she may be experiencing some jealousy seeing other women around me, and it makes me think that maybe she does have a little crush on me too.
It is clear this may be in your head because in your head, you are fantasizing. If she really likes you, there will be no competition, no mind games, no control etc. If she wanted you, she would of approach you with no entitlement. If she like you, she will be willing to earn your trust fair and square. Besides, if she wanted to earn the right to control who you are allowed to be with, she needs to be your fiance first.
I will literally just sit there, and observe quietly. Never talking to them,just sitting listening in. I wont really *avoid* them, ill get somewhat close, but when they get too close, i start to walk away.
When it comes to dealing with crushes, you need to create a mindset of not being creepy around your crush. Your crush wanted you out of his/her life when you refused to leave so this will give your crush a reason to put a restraining order on you.
Well I'm definately guilty of that first one, suddenly finding my best was dating out of the blue made me realise that I had missed out on so much with her that I never wanted to be left in the dark like that again. So whenever possible I try to find time to talk with her or hang more often, I do love her but I don't want to be the reason they break up because that's how much I care about her. So I'm willing to go out meet new people and hopefully find someone special myself, if they friends decide to help me then I will appreciate their but if for some reason they break up then I'll at least try to be there her and help get through the emotional pain of heartbreak and break ups.
@@Psych2go I guess the jealousy I face is looking around, seeing the smiles of couples, holding hands as I make my way to class. It worries me so that despite everyone seeming happy with their relationships, that I'm this lonely individual still looking to find a girlfriend.
@@timinator900 I guess many unlucky people know that feeling. I'm already jealous if I see people getting along well. Life that way is torture. And there are other people that share even that feeling, I just don't know anyone else personally.
@@timinator900 At least you aren't showing it. So that has got to be a good example of hiding it. Here is the reason. There is nothing in your comments that say you confronted them or complain about them having a fiance. You aren't showing entitlement. You aren't competiting for attention and you aren't complaining to any couples. You also aren't looking for their attention. If you did all of these insecure behaviors, you won't be hiding it. It is ok to fall in love somebody and never act upon them which is what you did. Life is only torturing if you don't see value in solitude life.
Jealousy often insults in anger, not towards the person, but you feel angry about the situation and it’s like angry at yourself because you can’t show it
My ‘Crush’ is constantly pointing out my bad qualities and encouraging a colleague of mine to do the same, but if I sat there pointing out his bad qualities he’d lose his shit. So a word of advice, never dwell on someone’s bad qualities, it’s extremely damaging for that person, and is basically bullying in my opinion. No human being should be treated this way.
What your crush did is a turn off. It makes you fall out of love. It makes you don't want to see your crush. Those who blindly fall in love would make it their choice to put up with bullying. At first, you most likely fell for that person's beauty since you did call that person your crush. Then once that crush mistreats you, you knew it is time to withdraw your offer. That person you have a crush on is not worth your time.
Freeze out for sure. Hold a grudge until I can't hold it anymore. I don't hold onto emotional baggage that long. I try to let go of it before she notices.
my crush was walking towards me but one of his friends (I think they were friends) came out of nowhere and started asking how I am and if I have anything exciting happening, and my crush turn around and stormed off looking REALLY mad. He seems to get really mad if I start talking to other males.
Normally, I would not expect crushes to approach me like that with jealousy. For starters, you were never his fiance from day 1. Look at the way how your crush behaves. It proves your crush saw you as an easy target to control. For starters, it isn't your crush's business to compete because that person is currently not in relationship with you. It is clear your crush had not been honest with himself. I mean if he really likes you, why can't he just accept you for who you are instead of complaining about you? There should never be a competition in the 1st place. Your crush seems to think he is good looking so therefore does not have to learn how to respect. It is clear your crush is only in it for control. Once you say yes, your crush will get away treating you like a property.
Avoiding is so true omg.... I have a crush in someone and he likes to talk to this one girl lately. So I try to avoid him the whole time to not hurt my own feelings. I guess you can also portrait this the other way around. Your Crush could be crushing on you too and avoids you because the may belive you like someone else.
In my case she suddendly sends messages after 1~2 months without talking anything. Even thought we aren't as close as we were, there's still some things that she only shares with me and a few others. Oh, what a life I have.
Jealosy is just so weird. I am a very understanding person, and I will always shut down those jealousy feelings, and usually be happy for someone instead of jealous. One day I was walking in school when I saw *her* walking, she's still on middle school, I'm already in highschool, so I go to chat with her, I ask her why she's not on gymnastics and she responds she's going to see a friend (in Spanish and says amigo, the masculine word). I couldn't even think before mouth expelled out who? Like WHAT, and in no time I realized I didn't hear properly so I could use sound as an excuse to hide it, but I knew ot before speaking. WTF BRAIN She just said amigo, but it was amiga, in fact, my friend's sister, who went to the cafeteria to buy food for the class. I'm genuinely scared of my brain now.
Not everybody goes around competing for crush's attention and you were one of those people. For example, if your crush is with someone else, you respect their decision and move on. You don't go around fighting for your spot because you know technically she is not your girlfriend. When you ran into her, all you did is strike a strange conversation but at least it isn't confession. I know because I would get scared to mess things up with my crush. My style is I rather fantasize instead of dating them. I admire my crush from afar. So a friendly conversation is good enough. There is no need to move the relationship further and I am sure it is the same for you. I don't compete for my crush's attention either. If my crush is taken, I am happy for them.
@@hp2546 I honestly just see her as a friend, and I most time try to ignore the in love part (it heavily annoys me) That is what I did, I saw her and just decided to say hi and strike a conversation (not weird), as she should have been in another class at the moment. My comment was on how jealousy is powerful, it literally skipped all my rational thinking and had me react and formulate a plan before I even had time to think (I didn't want to be jealous) It's the same for every time I've felt that powerful jealousy, it strikes before I can think, but it is towards my friends, people I'm happy if they succeed even if that means I fail. Oh, and edit: I only redacted it that weird and dumb way and not properly like this paragraph because I wanted to write or tell that to someone, and I guessed most likely no one would see this, but you did
@@genio2509 Jealousy can be so powerful that some even give in to entitlement and refusing to take no for an answer. This can cause them to become creepy towards their crush. So I do understand this concept. There are even people who gets so jealous that they fight for relationships that don't even belong to them in the 1st place. There are even those that is already taken and would act so entitled to cheat on their current fiance. Jealousy is so powerful that many don't even think straight. As long as you don't act upon them, nothing is weird.
My crush who's pretty into me was keeping tabs on me while i was playing chess with other guy's, talking and all, i was gathered by a bunch of large group of guys the next day he knew i was gonna play chess with them the other day he brings his friends around him( girl friends) and not approaching me and being avoidant and shit and when i approached him abt him being jealous over a specific guy he freezed up
so you guys talk to your crushes and actually interact with them on frequent basis? woah 😮 because I just fell on a single conversation that was lasted about 5 min and never talked again (well maybe couple more his, that’s it) lol 😅 and he is my crush because it’s like never gon happen 😅
When I'm jealous, I keep tabs first. I just want to make sure if my crush likes someone else. After I find out, I move on. So the second stage is similar to avoidance.
Technically that is not jealousy. People who is jealous of their crush dating someone else would be considered entitled people. What you are doing is admiring from afar. When you know your crush is not available, you simply move on. Those that call you jealous would prove they are not happy in their own relationship. If a crush were to be jealous just because you don't make a move, it means your crush is pretending to be happy in their current relationship. What you are doing is choosing not to interfere and choosing not to treat your crush like your current fiance because you know you don't have the right to defend your crush.
@@hp2546 Ah I think I understand. So I’m not jealous. But if my crush is unavailable, I take that as a no and move on. Honestly, she deserves to be happy and be with whom she likes. I can’t force my crush to date me. ^^ Edit: Oh and yes. I think you're right. I think I like to admire from afar usually. ^^
@@haeven1622 Yes! Normally, jealous people would be the extrovert type because they ended up doing the chasing and feeling ashamed of admitting it. There are tons of extrovert people that struggle in an attempt to be introvert. They would keep claiming they are introvert only for them to come out of their comfort zone and confess. Many of them even play hard to get because they hate to admit they did the chasing. Only a jealous type would compete for attention and refuse to take no for an answer. A jealous type of person would not give you a right to be happy and would want to control you. Normally, jealous people do not let you walk out the door. If you give your permission for your crush to walk out that door, you are a better person. I know how you feel since you are the introvert type. When I look at the title, 4 Signs Your Crush Is Jealous (But Hiding It), I look at the title like this. NO way my crush will compete for my attention. I would not expect that coming from a person I am attracted to because I never once experience that coming from a person I am attracted to. I mean I get that coming from an ugly woman which will make it easy for me to say no so I cannot call her my crush if I am never attracted to her in the 1st place.
this video really maid me think i always in my head say that i have a crush but this maid me think that the person i so called like is just like a brother to me and that i probably only said that so i could fit in with my friends witch is probably sum-thing i should faraway from doing
I was the jealous one with my crush, whom i developed feelings for (and i think she likes me too?- anyways.) When we were both hanging out, this new dude came along. For Context: She likes deep voiced guys, along with uhh- like..country accents? Which is what the guy did. And he had a pretty deep voice. So as someone, when i noticed she was flustered over him (i did flirt with her playfully at times but it was more like for the laughs since we both found it funny? I liked her personality.) And within the next few days they got along and he confessed, i was puzzled and upset since i knew her more longer, she asked me what to do and i pushed my emotions aside and basically told her “Hey, if you don’t want the relationship, then thats fine!! But if you have feelings for him, i’d suggest you go for it! I’ll support you either way dw, I think he’s okay.” And she got along with him, idk if theyre still together but over the past few weeks when they got together, i think i somehow shutted my emotions for her (went into denial) and lost all my feelings (i forced myself to, since i wondered if she was happier this way.) Last i knew aboit the guy and her, She found him cute and happy to be with cuz he was “desperate” and very very affectionate (since he had a crush on her). Well theres always better people in the sea, but i’ll still love her, shes my best friend. How could i not?- *But if he breaks her heart harshly, i might plot another funeral*
That happens to me at gym… When I was talking to people at gym, I see him he would check on me & see him that he always walk passing to behind my friends. I get upset, So I ask him if he’s jealous he said no he didn’t pay attention to anyone.. but weeks passed he still do same thing again. I knew he always hiding his feelings so he would check to see what am I doing…
That person cannot be called your crush. I mean in your perspective, you are not attracted to him but he is attracted to you. So on the contrary, you are that person's crush. That is why he is being creepy. There are times you get attention from a person you are not even attracted to. Besides, your goal is not to win that person's heart anyways because he is not even your crush. You don't even like him back. So that right there is unwanted attention. If it comes from a real crush, then it is considered a wanted attention.
I remember having a crush in highschool that I thought was one sided but now that I think about it maybe it wasn't lol . Because the girlfriend acted weirdly towards me told me he was interested when I never even mentioned or gave any real indication that I liked him besides being shy around him but he would talk to me and ask me questions all the time . But this video makes me think maybe the girlfriend also had a crush on me ( later on I found out she is bi so it's a possibility )
Make sense in a way because for her to be bisexual can mean, she is tempted to cheat. She can feel the temptation on wanting you while having a boyfriend vice versa. For her to be bi-sexual is normally why she is wanting that excuse to be with a man and a woman. Being bi is normally an excuse for her to have sex with more then 1 person so even if it means having sex with both genders, that person would choose to be bi-sexual.
i really dont know what they feel.. but sometimes when my friends touch me in a slightly flirty way (its normal for us) she tends to look away and find other things to distract on with her poker face
WOW! I was thinking correctly according to this video and my intuition was on it. My crush is showing all the signs of what is in this video. The only thing that I can add is that, he is very protective of me. We work together and if someone is bothering me while I'm working. He will make it quite clear to them to leave me alone. At first I thought it was kind of weird but then I realized what He was doing. Thank you so much for sharing this video. ❤️❤️
That may be different. Anyone can be protective of you and not trying to keep you for themselves. That may not be a good example of your crush being jealous. Anyone can be your savior and not doing it for relationships. Based on what this video is saying, jealousy have something to do with competing for attention.
we made it clear we are all friends, (3 guys and me a female) but one guy constantly asks the other guys if they talked to me, or saw me. If they say yes, they get interrogated. So they started saying no, and now they are accused of lying. I feel like I should stop bothering with them all.
can you please remove the subtitles pls? Its really not good for attention span and we can’t even deactivate it because its in the video. If someone wants subtitles, youtube already has an option for subtitles.
Asking a few more details than usual... yeah, sounds familiar. Incredibly annoying and unnerving behavior, an absolute dealbreaker and a sure way to end any sort of relationship for good and for ever with a resounding door slam.
Social ineptitude isn’t an upside for this one. Doesn’t help that my best friend talks to her a lot. That’s a difficult situation that makes me rather negative.
I'd be the jealous crush here. I can't do compensatory restoration because I'm already super attentive. Won't talk down rivals because it's cheap, and makes me look bad/manipulative (but if they approach me and do something strange? I might point that out). I already have the habit of trying to keep tabs on my crush's condition/movements, so it also wouldn't be new (I try hard not to be overbearing though). So the only thing I can do is to give them the cold shoulder, the complete opposite of how I usually am... but that too, is a dangerous gamble. What if they actually get pushed away? Or play the same game? I think it's just one of the potentially self-destructive things to do. I suppose it's tempting, to hope that my crush would notice, and chase after me/pay more attention to me instead. But I doubt that it is what would go down.
Your crush may not even see you as a crush from day 1. Chances you, you like that person and that person may not even like you back. If your goal is to impress your crush, you got to really get rid of this jealous behaviors. If you get jealous, your crush can already walk out on you and say no to you. The situation is you are not their fiance so once you act like you are their fiance, your crush can already put a restraining order on you. Wait til you get into a couple's relationship with your crush 1st and then you have a power to be jealous if your fiance were to cheat on you. Otherwise, if you act too entitled, you already do not gain a relationship.
@@hp2546 Ah, you misunderstood: The only *behavior* I exhibit is sign 4, surveillance. I was explaining why I wouldn't even do the 3 other things, despite being a bit jealous/insecure myself. And even then, my surveillance is just keep tab of his activities, like who is he play games with. (And maybe ask what he is doing.) This is strictly an internet thing anyway. If you want to say "stop being jealous", well, there are basically two ways to do that: 1. Stop caring/care less. If you don't care, you can't get jealous; 2. Pretend not to be jealous, give people a different image, despite what you're actually feeling. I rather be honest with my feeling. If I feel jealous, then I feel jealous. I'm not going to say or tell myself, I don't feel jealous, because, I do feel jealous... but as for what I _do:_ Well, that's what my 1st comment was explaining lol. What one does, and what one feels, are different things. You can have destructive feelings and still choose to do the right thing. I'm being honest both with my feelings AND my code. But, well, I don't expect people to understand me. (Tbh, I didn't expect anyone to even reply. Was just venting-- there's no purpose to my post, except making myself feel better because I expressed how I felt somewhere.) But here's another perspective for you: Sometimes one is just going to end up being stuck in a situationship. Sometimes, one is just not going to be a couple with another, because they prefer a vague, undefined, unofficial "relationship". He likes me, feels like I'm a good guy, flirt around sometimes, and wants to have me around... ... But he's not going to love me. He has seen my best side, which most people will never see, and still has no feelings, so, it's just not going to happen. It is what it is. But you know, at least I'm honest with my feelings. I didn't get what I want, but I wasn't going to get it anyway. However, I do get to keep going, knowing that I didn't try to pretend or fake something about me. (Not that I'm good at that anyway. Do I look like someone who cares to manipulate people's opinion about me? lol) And if you're wondering if I actually did something to make him not like me-- No. Really. We're still fine, the difference is, I accepted that there will be no progress, because he just prefers having situationships, is all. More than friends, but never a couple. Thanks for trying to advice/troubleshoot/help. Even though I'm a bit shameless, I'm not dumb or unwise, so no worries.
@@aquablast3155 When it comes to crushes, I would not even make it my job to decide how my crush dates because that crush was never mines to begin with. If that crush was never my fiance from day 1, I don't compete for that crush's attention. I also do not play games. Once my crush is taken, I move on. I don't even bother waiting for my crush to break up with their current fiances. At the end of the day, we just have to remind ourselves not to go after crushes that is already taken. Just focus on the ones who is currently available. If that person is not my fiance, I don't earn the right to tell my crush who I can or cannot date. So if that person never agreed to be your romantic partner, that person is not your fiance. So you may try to address it but there are restrictions too. Just make sure not to go overboard with it. You don't want to end up making your crush reject you and tell you sorry I am already taken. Once you let your crush know, you also need to accept the rejection gracefully as well. Once you choose the route of letting your crush know how you feel, you also have a responsibility to take the rejection gracefully if your crush were to say no. Jealousy can be so powerful that some even give in to entitlement and refusing to take no for an answer. This can cause them to become creepy towards their crush. So I do understand this concept. There are even people who gets so jealous that they fight for relationships that don't even belong to them in the 1st place. There are even those that is already taken and would act so entitled to cheat on their current fiance. Jealousy is so powerful that many don't even think straight.
@@aquablast3155 Yes! What matter is self control. Once you address your feelings which can be same as confessing to your crush, you also need be able to accept the rejection gracefully if you were to receive a no answer. Once addressing, got to be careful not to go overboard. I mean many ended up going overboard and refused to admit their own flaws and started doing the chasing to a point where they turned themselves creepy towards their crush. Many compete for attention and started ignoring their own red flags. Your way is you may ask your crush out and address how you feel but with restrictions of course. Important thing is not to get too carried away. especially, if they don't even share a special relationship with you. After all, if they barely know you, they earn the right to cut you off. So knowing when to back off right after addressing your feelings is what makes you a better person. Confessing your feelings of course is not about getting a yes answer.
@@hp2546 Haha, I've been through the rejection already. My 1st comment was from a year ago. But I do suggest reading on "situationships". Your advice would be more valid for regular relationships, but mine is actually not that. Imagine if you don't have anyone, and someone whom you have the potential to get interested in, come along, likes you, and seems to be interested in you, and is receptive to flirting AND flirts back... BUT, with the condition that, I don't expect a relationship out of this. (And if I can't comply with this condition, he'd insist we either stay strictly friends/no flirting, or part ways, if it's too painful for me.) When I heard that, I parsed that as, "Okay, he doesn't have feelings for me now, but he likes/is interested in me and might have feelings/want to commit someday"... Except, no, that's wrong. Our current "above friends, but below couples" state IS _exactly_ what he is comfortable with. Again, I encourage reading up on "situationships". It's the only way to understand my situation, as well as those who are in similar situations. This is a fairly new concept, I believe. I have only learned about it recently. And no, I do not need help "breaking up" from this situationship either lol. Like I said, I'm not looking for help. I was just expressing my thoughts. You'll just have to trust me that I'm not dumb, not unwise, and knows how to behave/have enough common sense.
Pov: You help ur crush hook up w girls. But you try not to act jealous. He confesses to you. You date. He breaks up w you. And he likes someone else after 1 week. :))
I have a crush on that boy who's name starts with T you know he constantly keeps flirting with that one girl who's name starts with D and I get jealous sometimes seeing them together and I once had a dream of her chasing my crush and I instantly woke up after that what a werid dream I thought. Once at the school my crush was talking to a girl who was sitting next to me and I've caught him looking at me and that one boy I was talking,holding hands and playing games with, I kinda felt like he was also jealous because once me and that boy looked at him he just turned and sat at a different seat where he can see us clearly and my crush looked furious tbh, never expected that from him, I glared at him and he just gave me a smile and a wink and I thought maybe he flirts with everyone, then at the next day he constantly sat next to me at the recess and whenever the teacher doesn't come at class. He stared at me when he and the girl sitting next to me was talking, I was pretty sure that he was tryna make sure I don't get near to any boy, tsk tsk, he ain't my dad for looking out for me 🥱🤧
I just reunited with mine and we've had a mutal one for a few years and well she's just recently been giving her classic death stare it's something she does every now and then when I'm around someone else like a friend or family member. We did have a planned catch up online but it appears she got cold feet.
I feel you. I mean there is no way opportunities fall from a sky that easily. No way any of our crush will approach us like that to compete for attention. No way our crush will be obsessed that easily.
sometimes it seems like he also feel the same way and then he ignores me it's so confusing. I'm just so jealous of his female bestie ik it's immature but I can't control myself.
You just have to remind yourself that it is only your mind that is thinking that because your mind is in fantasy land. In reality, your crush may not be attracted to you. Your mind just wanted to feel like your crush likes you. If your crush really likes you, your crush would already confess to you long time ago.
While my left has not exactly been a festival of romance, I have neither exhibited nor been exposed to any of THIS behavior, so maybe it's not all bad.
Make sure not to go overboard with it. Normally, you will only have the right to address a jealousy issue if that person is already your fiance and is currently cheating on you. But if it is your crush and you are not in a couple's relationship with him/her, you won't be given a right to address it especially if your crush is already taken. If you address it, you got to make sure not to do it at the cost of going into entitlement mode. If that person were to be your crush but not in relationship with you, you won't even have the right to explain why if that crush were to have a power to reject you. Jealousy comments coming from someone we barely know would be inappropriate but if it is someone you build a relationship with, then it is your job.
@@hp2546 you are right. I didn't really pay attention to the context of where I was posting this. I meant this in general with people who I already know. not a crush or anything like that, that would be really weird
@@kosycat1 Yes! Now to give an example. I have a crush on my next door neighbor. I have no right to address it because she is already married and is with her husband. I have to accept the fact that she was never my girlfriend from day 1 and I never had built any connections with her. She is like a total stranger. Of course, I am in no position to tell her or explain it. I have to let it go and move on knowing that she was never mines to begin with. Just as long as you address to the people who is not considered off limits, then telling them is appropriate.
It sounds like you are jealous yourself because if your crush wanted you, your crush would of cashed in to be with you long time ago. For starters, you called that person your crush which proves you are attracted to a person. Instead of your crush taking you, your crush takes your friend instead. If you like your crush and your crush likes you back, your crush should already accept you long time ago instead of continuing the hard to get games. I mean what did you do to make your crush jealous?
I see you know what this video is talking about. I mean that person is your crush which means it isn't your job to fix your crush. Based on looking at this youtube title 4 Signs Your Crush Is Jealous (But Hiding It). Sounds like crushes is not hiding it at all because this video is about crushes who is attempting to control outcomes that isn't supposed to be controlled. I mean there is a difference between crushes and lovers. If that person is not your fiance, it isn't your place to address your jealousy and not your place to control the outcome on who your crush sees especially if they are like strangers to you. Vice versa for your crush as well. Just as crushes do not earn the right to complain about your life, you don't earn it either. If he or she is your fiance, then you earn the right to address the jealousy issue assuming if he or she crossed the line on cheating. When reading that title, it won't even be appropriate for crushes to address any jealousy issues. As for me, I only give that person a power to be jealous of me after that person gives me a couple's relationship first. If they don't give me any relationship, they don't earn the right to decide who I can and can't see. If they decided not to give me a couple's relationship, it is fair game and they don't earn the right to claim I cheated. If I am not given a couple's relationship, I am technically available. When you ask yourself what gives you the right to get pissed at him? The answer is he never agreed to be your bf which means it won't be a good reason to complain about a person being already taken. If I am going to earn the right to be jealous, I have to be sure I got into a relationship legally first.
The biggest tragedy in my life is that the person I am jealous of is one of my good friends lol I can't even show my jealousy I don't even want to get jealous of her cuz she is kinda good. She is far better than me 😭
What should I do if my crush is doing the 'freeze-out'? I find our online conversations are getting less and less interesting and I always have to start them. It's also a bit awkward off screen too
Then it is possible that those girls had reached out to him and made a move on him. If you know a person is introvert, you must not be introvert yourself. That proves that those women who reached out to him was an extrovert. That proves if you wanted him to be with you, you should of been the one to ask him to hang out. It is normal because anyone who is introvert sits around and wait for others to reach out. So that will prove that you were introvert yourself so other women will beat you to it. Otherwise, if you choose to be introvert to miss out opportunity to ask him, other people will.
This is what it means to be introvert. Normally, an introvert do not initiate the chasing. The reason why he could be in relationship is because girls were the one who initiated a chasing. If girls asked him out, all he will do is say yes. It proves he does not play hard to get and is honest about it. This is how to get introverts out of their comfort zone. If you want an introvert to feel comfortable around you, then you need to be brave enough to ask him out.
It will be more like you did not make a good impression. So it is not jealousy. If you hang out with your friends in front of your crush, you don't even look available for your crush to hang out with. Just because you did not make a good impression does not mean you should project that jealousy on your crush. If this is your behavior, your crush can leave you. Your crush avoids you because you were already with your friends and your crush did not want to interrupt you when you were hanging out with friends. If you want to be approachable, at least find a time to walk alone in front of your crush. If you hang out with too many people, you look more like you are popular celebrity. Maybe your crush is introvert so if you hang out with people, your crush can feel intimidated to approach you. So all the people who avoids approaching you, do not call them jealous. If they want nothing to do with you and you call them jealous, you drive them away. Jealousy is not on them if they don't want to even see you or approach you. Besides, where is the proof that your crush is competing for attention to have your friends? Same rules apply in interview. If you don't make a good impression to get hired, you cannot call your interviewer jealous.
Noooo don’t give me hope 😭😭 I work with him and we started texting and we used to talk a lot and I never felt like he didn’t want to talk to me, but I went on a trip and since I’ve come back, he’s been acting different. He’s not starting conversations with me anymore and just seems different. It’s making me pretty sad so I’m going to ask him if I did something. I don’t know though. I miss talking to him
Normally this is not the time to ask him. Reason why he may not keep the conversation going on is he thought he needed to move on. Besides, you weren't the one who confessed you like him before you left on your trip. If you ask him now, you are letting this video trick you into believing you missed an opportunity. What kind of opportunity do you think you have with that crush of yours? Romance? I doubt that. Once you choose to hide your feelings, that conversation can be gone. Your crush can quietly leave you without telling you because he knows it isn't his job to be there for you. Plus you did not tell him you wanted a romantic relationship from day 1. So if you ask him now, you will only let this video trick you into giving you false hope.
I saw my crush and her seat mate scale their hands (the seat mate is my friend and we had the same crush )I hate feeling jealous but we're not in a relationship so I just let it go.
At the same time, you have to keep it bottled up inside because that crush was not even your fiance. So that meant your friend earned it. Normally, a right to show jealousy is after you get into a relationship with your crush and only if your crush cheated. Since that crush was not yours, then your crush would belong to your best friend. So it is best to stay out of a competition. Letting go is a 1st step of moving on. You have to let go because your crush did not owe you a relationship and you did not owe your crush a relationship.
This is a sign that your ex is regreting his decision of breaking up with you. Chances are, he will be too ashamed to admit his mistakes. He brought it upon himself. When your ex broke up with you, he did not think of a back up plan on how to move on.
Last night I was at my crush's birthday his in a relationship with someone who hangs in to his coat tail. He can do a lot more better if you ask me.. anyway went to say goodbye to my crush and I had to climb big step to hug my crush goodbye and I was going home for tonight ( a fight broke out in another area) not in the party I was attending..it was time to go.. so somebody was helping me up the step... and his spouse decided to help me as well. I didn't ask you , I didn't want you, to even touch me ... the hand was extended.. and I said no thank you ... and you still put your hands on me? The audacity 😒...anyway that's how I handled jealousy.. weird yes... am I forward with it.. hell yeah
Well my crush calls me everyday without fail and every day by video I have a bunch of friends but ever sense she started doing that I talk way less to them then I usually do
How do you show that you are jealous?
I dont know
I don't know
Sulk 😶😶
No idea, my crush have a crush, and weirdly enough i dont really care¯\_(ツ)_/¯ (maybe something with the depression i had? Still trying to return to actually having feelings lol)
Tell them directly
REMEMBER: feeling a bit of jealousy is absolutely normal. We're humans after all and we have to accept our emotions. If we aknowledge that we're jealous, then we can breath and think "maybe there's no reason to be jealous, it's healthy to interact with more people. Plus, it's impossible and really unhealthy to control what the other person is doing". Also remember that sometimes it's better to communicate directly and say to the person that you're feeling insecure and you need to openly and honestly talk about feelings.
I would say it’s more effective to control your emotions. You certainly can’t control what anyone else is doing, however never. Ever. Expose yourself as insecure. No one deserves to know that.
@@buggus0034 I have a very close friend and when we feel insecure about something we feel free to express it. It's better to express your emotions in a healthy way rather than bottle things up and feel depressed. Obviously it has to be balanced.
Do you think like soon or later, they will get used to it with jealousy or they will forget about it
That happens to me at gym…
When I was talking to people at gym, I see him he would check on me & see him that he always walk passing to behind my friends. I get upset, So I ask him if he’s jealous he said no he didn’t pay attention to anyone.. but weeks passed he still do same thing again. I knew he always hiding his feelings so he would check to see what am I doing…
@@monica.anzaldua I honestly don't know if you can "get used to" or "forget" jealousy, I think it's toxic when you are acting jealous and you aren't even conscious of it. Jealousy has to be balanced, like all the emotions, because dealing with really insecure or controlling people is exhausting. But I don't know at all your situation (and the situation of the boy you're talking about). So please take this as a simple opinion of an unknown person.
My crush is introverted, he's really unpredictable smh
Hehe me too I am introverted due to my appearance as everyone won't like me just rare ones....plus I am unpredictable cuz my life lessons taught me like that
@@markantony1069 Clearly.
Same here
We like to confuse each other a lot, and now i barely have any braincells left
What makes him unpredictable?
Timestamps
0:34 Compensatory Restoration (Your crush is being extra kind to you and giving you more attention)
1:34 Keep your friends close and your enemies closer (They're being talking down about someone you know)
2:31 The freeze out(They try to avoid you)
3:05 Keeping Tabs (Your crush checks on you too often)
My first time of making timestamps,hope it helps!😊
I'm so glad that I don't have any crush. Must be really annoying.
And timestamps are more detailed!
How do you even timestamp on a video?
I actually love how detailed you put the time stamps most people just time stamp with the title but not additional detail as to what it could mean 🩵
Thanks for the very detailed time stamp!
can we just take a moment to appreciate the amount of hard work she does for us? This is so underrated
exactly! and how cute aren't the cartoon characters in the videos??❤
lmao naaw lol.😂
brotha she has 11m subs how is that underrated lol
1) 0:45 Compensatory Restoration
2) 1:34 Keep your Friends Close, and your Enemies Closer
3) 2:31 The Freeze-Out
4) 3:04 Keeping Tabs
Thank you for the time stamps!
@@Psych2go I was thinking if you guyz could cover a topic on psychodynamic perspective? ❤😂
i had a crush who i was pretty sure also liked me back, but neither of us said anything about it. he often hung out with this girl who i was pretty sure had a crush on him too, but he wasn't that interested in her. I was pretty jealous (?) over that, so I went out of my way to point out how cute those two would be together as a couple and how they're totally into each other. After thinking it over, it might've been both a coping mechinism in case he didn't actually like me that would soften the blow of rejection, along with some psycological test to see if he would deny it or not.
Proof that tests are not a good idea...
So what happened between the two of you!?
@@XGD5layer american school system rn 😭
@@wbxhn honestly? i think he might've just been making a comment. I've learned that most of the things guys say should be taken for what they are, and usually (key word usually) there isn't any hidden motive behind them. The ignoring this is kinda... but maybe he didn't hear you?
or maybe hes secretly really jealous idk
It seems you are the opposite of this video. Instead of your crush being jealous, it is you that is being jealous. So on the contrary, it is signs you are jealous.
Basically, I always ignore my crush and then just ignore her more when Im feeling jealous
Oh no :( how does your crush feel about that?
I remember this one girl I used to know was, ironically, more interested in me when she realized that I had other girls around me. Girls can be quite competitive with each other
Same,at the start,many guys had crushes on me at the same time (if many is 3 then i guess its good) and now no one is interested in me... its weird😐 i got rejected 3 times,2 undirectly and 1 in the face (actually that "one" was multiple times to the same person) I just wish that someone would like me :(
My best advice to you darling, is by first liking yourself. That’s the most important thing. The more positivity you share to the world, the more you’ll receive in return
@@NSolares25 that explains why with time ive been so insecure and that at the start i was very happy.
Self improvement is a never ending journey. As long as you stay committed, you’ll attain what you desire. It’s well worth it in the end. Best of luck to you!
@@iammell1 That is why it is not wise not to take popularity for granted. If you know that you can be capable of having multiples guys liking you, you only pick one. If you allow them to compete over you. Then they ended up feeling tired of competing over you. So in the beginning, you were likable because you were available but once you are seen with multiple guys all over you, you will not look available. So on the contrary, you did have someone liking you from the start. It just happened to be multiples guys having a crush on you and competing over you. So what you should of done is don't push your luck. Just pick 1 rather then to take all of them.
1. Compensatory Restoration 0:44
2. Keep your friends close, and your enemies closer 1:36
3. The freeze-out 2:31
4. Keeping tabs 3:05
Thank you for the time stamps!
I’m the jealous one. I liked him from the day I met him, but he kept sending me mixed signals. The reason I’m jealous is my fault- someone liked him and I told him and they eventually wanted to meet each other so I set them up and one thing led to another and they’re dating now. I want him to be happy, but it still sucks.
Not a good idea to set a crush up with someone else. If you have a power to set up your crush to date someone else, you had an opportunity to set yourself up on a date with your crush. If you ask your crush to date someone else, you give up the right to claim that guy to be your bf. That someone else have the right to keep your crush because you gave a consent.
These don't only have to apply to your crush, I feel.
Do you mean that it could apply to people in general and not necessarily just to crushes?
@@Psych2go yep that's what they are saying I guess
Tbh it's good to make your crush jealous, first they don't appreciate us being there and when we move on. Oh now they want us huh !
That's... one way to look at it.
You won't even be making a good impression if this is how you play the game. The more you play this mind games, your crush will have a reason to leave you and move on. If you play this kind of game for revenge or payback, your crush will have a reason to cut you out of his/her life. Be careful who you mess with because if that crush don't even find you attractive, your crush would not be desperate enough to play mind games for that attention. You can end up driving good people away if you think like that. You only use this games only when you know you don't want a relationship and you know you want to reject.
This is super cute! I think this video is an adorable exploration of crushes and jealousy (as long as it's not harmful jealousy!) 💖✨
Thank you for the comment! In your opinion, what kind of jealousy is unhealthy and harmful? How much jealousy do you think is considered harmful?
a couple of these signs are surprisingly accurate 0_0
How was this 12 days ago
Wait how
What the f?
@@Banna-Man7792 LOL!!! Touché
12 days??
To be honest, I'm jealous around my crush when there is someone else that she is talking to. I start trying to get closer to her and defend her from him lol.
If it makes you feel better. I’m the same way. Anytime another lady talks to my crush, I get really jealous and (I’m not one to hide my emotions) so I do my best to pretend that I don’t see anything and go on about my life. I also don’t want to put down any of them either, because that would make me look ugly. I Hope this helps.
Opposite claim from this video because the video is called signs your crush is jealous of you. But instead you were jealous of your crush. If you find yourself in an opposite position from the video title, then it means your crush is not showing signs of being obsessed with you. You were competing for your crush's attention and your crush was not doing it on you.
Be careful because technically, you don't have the right. Your crush's fiance have to right to defend her. If you are considered a total stranger and have never build a connection, you won't earn the right to defend her because she is already taken. If you do this, you will be considered a homewrecker. If your crush never find you attractive from day 1, she and her fiance would have a power to put a restraining order on you. Do not defend a person who was never your fiance from day 1. That will be a creepy behavior. If you want to defend her, you need to build enough trust and get into a relationship with her before having a right to defend her.
@@hp2546 I'm glad to say that I am no longer that type of person since one whole year has passed since then, but I was 12-13 when I wrote that. I haven't been exposed to new experiences at the time 😭.
Thanks for the heads-up though, I'll keep it in mind in case I run into a similar scenario later on.👍
Watching this has helped me to see that I use Compensatory Restoration as a means of dealing with deeply-buried jealousy about my partner's polyamory
I don't usually feel jealousy. My reason is, if it's not for me, then I have to fully accept. I keep observing that unusual surveillance and improving quality time more often on my crush when I was on high school, such good old days! 😌
Yeah but feeling a bit of jealousy is absolutely normal. We're humans after all. If we aknowledge that we're jealous, then we can breath and think "maybe there's no reason to be jealous, it's healthy to interact with more people. And anyways I can't control this, it's none of my business". But if you are feeling very jealous you can communicate: "look, I want to spend a bit more time with you, I like you and I have to admit that this days I'm feeling a bit insecure and jealous since we aren't communicating directly, and I don't know what you feel".
I think the same way, I will almost always feel happy for that person, better for them.
Except my brain AAHHHHHHH: One day I was walking in school when I saw *her* walking, she's still on middle school, I'm already in highschool, so I go to chat with her, I ask her why she's not on gymnastics and she responds she's going to see a friend (in Spanish and says amigo, the masculine word). I couldn't even think before mouth expelled out who? Like WHAT, and in no time I realized I didn't hear properly so I could use sound as an excuse to hide it, but I knew ot before speaking. WTF BRAIN
She just said amigo, but it was amiga, in fact, my friend's sister, who went to the cafeteria to buy food for the class. I'm genuinely scared of my brain now.
I also ALWAYS think twice before talking, never Ever spill out something without at least considering it, even if I am still wrong and what I said was a bad idea, but never just speak out like that.
@@joanaborrellsanchez9225 aint that cute lol.😢😂
@@firerams_and_arisinglion what? I'm not english so I don't understand that expression
@@joanaborrellsanchez9225 This rules cannot apply to all crushes. What if it is a crush that you barely know and you know there is not enough connections from Day 1? It would be inappropriate to address the jealousy part. Now if it is someone you built a relationship with your best friend and that best friend is your crush, then that may be appropriate but if it is someone that sees you as a stranger assuming you just wanted to confess your feelings and ask that person out on a date, then that is acceptable. Won't be appropriate to do that to crushes that barely knows you because it is inappropriate and will sound too entitled. After reading Noname-1695's comment, maybe that person never build any relationship from step 1 and most mostly know his/her crush is already taken and possibly already married. So attempting to build a couple's relationship would be forbidden from day 1. Normally, if that crush barely knows you and was never your fiance, you won't earn the right to address it because that person was never your fiance from day 1. Crushes that barely knows you have a power to date whoever they want. It will be creepy if a random stranger addresses the jealousy part and attempting to fight for what is not even rightfully theirs to begin with. Now if that person had been your fiance and your fiance cheated, then it is appropriate to address the jealousy part knowing that it is your job. If I know that person don't owe me anything, that person do not have to please me. If I know that person is already married or have a fiance, it won't be my place to address my jealousy issue. The reason why Noname-1965 usually aren't jealous is because Noname-1965 did not mess with off limits people in the 1st place. Would be inappropriate to fight for relationships that don't even belong to you because that would be like attempting to steal someone else's fiance. Addressing this issue to crushes requires that they are already part of your life. Otherwise if it comes from random strangers, it sounds too personal. Just like how you told buggus0034. Once in relationship with his wife, he needs to be brave enough to address his jealousy issue because it won't be right for a husband to give their wife a free pass to cheat. buggus0034 earns the right to address jealousy issues but chose not to. Imagine you just met that person and find out that crush of yours is already married. You won't earn that right to address it.
seeing these videos without having a crush makes me feel really alone 😂
I think you will crush on someone later.
If you are an INFP like me, then don't worry... Your mind will probably daydream about many crush scenarios to keep you entertained while your real crush appears 😂😁
@@DeepForestWall this is very accurate AHAHA XD
You'll find a crush someday!
@@Psych2go my thing is that I have a crush but they talk to me it's nothing though they are really good but I feel I am not a person who is really into someone like the hard one 😅
Timestamps
1). Compensatory restoration 0:44
2). Keep your friends close, and your enemies closer 1:34
3). The freeze-out 2:30
4). Keeping tabs 3:04
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
Your time stamps are always helpful! Hope you have a nice day as well!
@@Psych2go not a problem happy to help hope y'all at Psych2Go have a nice day too
Me who doesnt have a crush:Yes yes very important!🤔
Idem 😂
me who is aromantic: this is so helpful
Now you're fully prepared for when you do have a crush!
I have some ideas as to the possible thinking behind these behaviors.
Being extra kind: "If I am more kind to my crush, they will value our relationship more than they would ever value a possible relationship with my rival and will therefore pick me."
Talking down on the rival: "If I bring up the bad things about my rival, my crush will value a possible relationship with them less than the relationship with me and will therefore pick me."
Confronting the rival (hostile or otherwise): "By confronting my rival I can make them respect the relationship between me and my crush so that my rival will not make a move on my crush, therefore neutralizing my rival as a threat."
Avoidance: "If I avoid my crush, they will have to invest in our relationship. If they do, they probably prefer me. If they don't, they probably prefer my rival."
Keeping tabs: "By keeping tabs I can find out the dynamic between me, my crush and my rival. If my crush seems to prefer me, nothing to worry about. If they seem to prefer my rival, the pain won't be as strong since I will see it coming, or I can act in one of the aforementioned ways."
its halarious because ive had every single one of these thoughts at one point, but i dont think ive ever acted upon most of them 🥲
It's crazy how as jealous I get, I never did any of this. I just let it happen. I knew if I was really desired by someone, they wouldn't be hanging out with others so much more often.
@@DeRez19 I would not expect my crush to behave like this around me. Normally, I seem to attract someone I am not attracted to at all. Someone who I find attractive don't behave like this around me. This video is mainly talking about someone we attracted to will be competitive. As for me, whenever I see my crush, I don't even chase. I leave them alone because I always stick to the belief of being comfortable in solitude. I am not going to go into extreme to act creepy towards my crush and I know my crush does not behave like this around me. If my crush is not interested in me or is hanging out with somebody else, I respect their decision and I leave them alone. I am sure my crush will do the same. Besides, I don't even expect any of my crush is obssessed with me to begin with. I don't show signs of being obssessed.
Ideas you came up with is just competing against your rival. Your rival can also play this same strategy too. You are just playing with fire by messing with your crush's fiance. If your crush is already taken, don't bother investing in them. Not all rivals are dumb. Smart way is just look for someone who is available so that way, you have no rivals to compare yourself to. Even if you beat your rival now, it doesn't mean it lasts. Suppose you get complacent after getting into that relationship, you will end up feeling the same pain as your rival. Getting your crush to like you should not be at the cost of competing against rivals. People can be extra kind to their crushes but doesn't mean they are trying to win a date against their rival. How is talking down about rivals to your crushes making you a better person? That is a sound of you being jealous. Why would you confront a rival that is hanging out with your crush? It sounds like you are telling your crush and your rival how jealous you are. Then this won't fit the theme of avoiding your crush. If you are planning to be better then your rival, the rules of this restriction is no showing signs of jealousy and you had already sound like you have lost to your rival. If you lose the match, that is fine, but don't lose to insecurity.
I've had a little crush on a girl I've seen at the gym the last couple years. It's just a silly little crush with no intention to pursue anything because neither of us are in the position to go anywhere with it, and as such I've barely even talked to her. But I have had numerous un-spoken interactions with her each time I see her and I've always wondered if she crushes on me the way I do on her. One peculiar thing I have noticed is that when any other girl (particularly one who looks like they could be a potential romantic interest for me) talks to me or comes near to me as if she might try to talk to me, I notice that this girl I crush on is looking over at us either directly or using a mirror and watching to see what happens. And she always has a serious look on her face at the time she's watching. Maybe its all in my head but I feel like in a way she may be experiencing some jealousy seeing other women around me, and it makes me think that maybe she does have a little crush on me too.
yeah sure buddy lmaooo.😂
Try to interact with her more, maybe she does like u or is interested ^^
She wants you, so much is clear.
It is clear this may be in your head because in your head, you are fantasizing. If she really likes you, there will be no competition, no mind games, no control etc. If she wanted you, she would of approach you with no entitlement. If she like you, she will be willing to earn your trust fair and square. Besides, if she wanted to earn the right to control who you are allowed to be with, she needs to be your fiance first.
I will literally just sit there, and observe quietly. Never talking to them,just sitting listening in. I wont really *avoid* them, ill get somewhat close, but when they get too close, i start to walk away.
My crushes put restraining orders on me
Lol!
That’s new.
When it comes to dealing with crushes, you need to create a mindset of not being creepy around your crush. Your crush wanted you out of his/her life when you refused to leave so this will give your crush a reason to put a restraining order on you.
This relates to my friend. Video idea for next time. 5 ways to expose your chrushes feelings
Well I'm definately guilty of that first one, suddenly finding my best was dating out of the blue made me realise that I had missed out on so much with her that I never wanted to be left in the dark like that again. So whenever possible I try to find time to talk with her or hang more often, I do love her but I don't want to be the reason they break up because that's how much I care about her. So I'm willing to go out meet new people and hopefully find someone special myself, if they friends decide to help me then I will appreciate their but if for some reason they break up then I'll at least try to be there her and help get through the emotional pain of heartbreak and break ups.
For someone who's single and never dated in real life, I just so happen to fall in this category
How do you display jealousy? Which part of the video was relatable to you?
@@Psych2go I guess the jealousy I face is looking around, seeing the smiles of couples, holding hands as I make my way to class. It worries me so that despite everyone seeming happy with their relationships, that I'm this lonely individual still looking to find a girlfriend.
@@timinator900 I guess many unlucky people know that feeling. I'm already jealous if I see people getting along well. Life that way is torture. And there are other people that share even that feeling, I just don't know anyone else personally.
@@timinator900 At least you aren't showing it. So that has got to be a good example of hiding it. Here is the reason. There is nothing in your comments that say you confronted them or complain about them having a fiance. You aren't showing entitlement. You aren't competiting for attention and you aren't complaining to any couples. You also aren't looking for their attention. If you did all of these insecure behaviors, you won't be hiding it. It is ok to fall in love somebody and never act upon them which is what you did. Life is only torturing if you don't see value in solitude life.
Jealousy often insults in anger, not towards the person, but you feel angry about the situation and it’s like angry at yourself because you can’t show it
I don't know how, but you're voice somehow is kind of.. relaxing?
My ‘Crush’ is constantly pointing out my bad qualities and encouraging a colleague of mine to do the same, but if I sat there pointing out his bad qualities he’d lose his shit. So a word of advice, never dwell on someone’s bad qualities, it’s extremely damaging for that person, and is basically bullying in my opinion. No human being should be treated this way.
What your crush did is a turn off. It makes you fall out of love. It makes you don't want to see your crush. Those who blindly fall in love would make it their choice to put up with bullying. At first, you most likely fell for that person's beauty since you did call that person your crush. Then once that crush mistreats you, you knew it is time to withdraw your offer. That person you have a crush on is not worth your time.
@@hp2546 I don’t see him anymore, and I have left that workplace anyway.
Freeze out for sure. Hold a grudge until I can't hold it anymore. I don't hold onto emotional baggage that long. I try to let go of it before she notices.
Currently i m in the The Freeze-Out phase. But i dont like it. But I dont want that my cruch see how emotionally i m. Its so difficult :(
my crush was walking towards me but one of his friends (I think they were friends) came out of nowhere and started asking how I am and if I have anything exciting happening, and my crush turn around and stormed off looking REALLY mad. He seems to get really mad if I start talking to other males.
Normally, I would not expect crushes to approach me like that with jealousy. For starters, you were never his fiance from day 1. Look at the way how your crush behaves. It proves your crush saw you as an easy target to control. For starters, it isn't your crush's business to compete because that person is currently not in relationship with you. It is clear your crush had not been honest with himself. I mean if he really likes you, why can't he just accept you for who you are instead of complaining about you? There should never be a competition in the 1st place. Your crush seems to think he is good looking so therefore does not have to learn how to respect. It is clear your crush is only in it for control. Once you say yes, your crush will get away treating you like a property.
@@hp2546 oh.
Avoiding is so true omg.... I have a crush in someone and he likes to talk to this one girl lately. So I try to avoid him the whole time to not hurt my own feelings. I guess you can also portrait this the other way around. Your Crush could be crushing on you too and avoids you because the may belive you like someone else.
In my case she suddendly sends messages after 1~2 months without talking anything. Even thought we aren't as close as we were, there's still some things that she only shares with me and a few others. Oh, what a life I have.
Jealosy is just so weird.
I am a very understanding person, and I will always shut down those jealousy feelings, and usually be happy for someone instead of jealous.
One day I was walking in school when I saw *her* walking, she's still on middle school, I'm already in highschool, so I go to chat with her, I ask her why she's not on gymnastics and she responds she's going to see a friend (in Spanish and says amigo, the masculine word). I couldn't even think before mouth expelled out who? Like WHAT, and in no time I realized I didn't hear properly so I could use sound as an excuse to hide it, but I knew ot before speaking. WTF BRAIN
She just said amigo, but it was amiga, in fact, my friend's sister, who went to the cafeteria to buy food for the class. I'm genuinely scared of my brain now.
Not everybody goes around competing for crush's attention and you were one of those people. For example, if your crush is with someone else, you respect their decision and move on. You don't go around fighting for your spot because you know technically she is not your girlfriend. When you ran into her, all you did is strike a strange conversation but at least it isn't confession. I know because I would get scared to mess things up with my crush. My style is I rather fantasize instead of dating them. I admire my crush from afar. So a friendly conversation is good enough. There is no need to move the relationship further and I am sure it is the same for you. I don't compete for my crush's attention either. If my crush is taken, I am happy for them.
@@hp2546 I honestly just see her as a friend, and I most time try to ignore the in love part (it heavily annoys me)
That is what I did, I saw her and just decided to say hi and strike a conversation (not weird), as she should have been in another class at the moment.
My comment was on how jealousy is powerful, it literally skipped all my rational thinking and had me react and formulate a plan before I even had time to think (I didn't want to be jealous)
It's the same for every time I've felt that powerful jealousy, it strikes before I can think, but it is towards my friends, people I'm happy if they succeed even if that means I fail.
Oh, and edit: I only redacted it that weird and dumb way and not properly like this paragraph because I wanted to write or tell that to someone, and I guessed most likely no one would see this, but you did
@@genio2509 Jealousy can be so powerful that some even give in to entitlement and refusing to take no for an answer. This can cause them to become creepy towards their crush. So I do understand this concept. There are even people who gets so jealous that they fight for relationships that don't even belong to them in the 1st place. There are even those that is already taken and would act so entitled to cheat on their current fiance. Jealousy is so powerful that many don't even think straight.
As long as you don't act upon them, nothing is weird.
My crush who's pretty into me was keeping tabs on me while i was playing chess with other guy's, talking and all, i was gathered by a bunch of large group of guys the next day he knew i was gonna play chess with them the other day he brings his friends around him( girl friends) and not approaching me and being avoidant and shit and when i approached him abt him being jealous over a specific guy he freezed up
He avoided me and the one whos he is jealous with said the they can keep me.. LIKE WHAT, I WANT YOU. 😭😭
Miss crushing on someone
so you guys talk to your crushes and actually interact with them on frequent basis? woah 😮 because I just fell on a single conversation that was lasted about 5 min and never talked again (well maybe couple more his, that’s it) lol 😅 and he is my crush because it’s like never gon happen 😅
When I'm jealous, I keep tabs first. I just want to make sure if my crush likes someone else. After I find out, I move on. So the second stage is similar to avoidance.
Technically that is not jealousy. People who is jealous of their crush dating someone else would be considered entitled people. What you are doing is admiring from afar. When you know your crush is not available, you simply move on. Those that call you jealous would prove they are not happy in their own relationship. If a crush were to be jealous just because you don't make a move, it means your crush is pretending to be happy in their current relationship. What you are doing is choosing not to interfere and choosing not to treat your crush like your current fiance because you know you don't have the right to defend your crush.
@@hp2546 Ah I think I understand. So I’m not jealous. But if my crush is unavailable, I take that as a no and move on.
Honestly, she deserves to be happy and be with whom she likes. I can’t force my crush to date me. ^^
Edit: Oh and yes. I think you're right. I think I like to admire from afar usually. ^^
@@haeven1622 Yes! Normally, jealous people would be the extrovert type because they ended up doing the chasing and feeling ashamed of admitting it. There are tons of extrovert people that struggle in an attempt to be introvert. They would keep claiming they are introvert only for them to come out of their comfort zone and confess. Many of them even play hard to get because they hate to admit they did the chasing. Only a jealous type would compete for attention and refuse to take no for an answer. A jealous type of person would not give you a right to be happy and would want to control you. Normally, jealous people do not let you walk out the door. If you give your permission for your crush to walk out that door, you are a better person.
I know how you feel since you are the introvert type. When I look at the title, 4 Signs Your Crush Is Jealous (But Hiding It), I look at the title like this. NO way my crush will compete for my attention. I would not expect that coming from a person I am attracted to because I never once experience that coming from a person I am attracted to. I mean I get that coming from an ugly woman which will make it easy for me to say no so I cannot call her my crush if I am never attracted to her in the 1st place.
this video really maid me think i always in my head say that i have a crush but this maid me think that the person i so called like is just like a brother to me and that i probably only said that so i could fit in with my friends witch is probably sum-thing i should faraway from doing
I was the jealous one with my crush, whom i developed feelings for (and i think she likes me too?- anyways.) When we were both hanging out, this new dude came along.
For Context: She likes deep voiced guys, along with uhh- like..country accents? Which is what the guy did. And he had a pretty deep voice.
So as someone, when i noticed she was flustered over him (i did flirt with her playfully at times but it was more like for the laughs since we both found it funny? I liked her personality.)
And within the next few days they got along and he confessed, i was puzzled and upset since i knew her more longer, she asked me what to do and i pushed my emotions aside and basically told her “Hey, if you don’t want the relationship, then thats fine!! But if you have feelings for him, i’d suggest you go for it! I’ll support you either way dw, I think he’s okay.”
And she got along with him, idk if theyre still together but over the past few weeks when they got together, i think i somehow shutted my emotions for her (went into denial) and lost all my feelings (i forced myself to, since i wondered if she was happier this way.)
Last i knew aboit the guy and her, She found him cute and happy to be with cuz he was “desperate” and very very affectionate (since he had a crush on her).
Well theres always better people in the sea, but i’ll still love her, shes my best friend. How could i not?- *But if he breaks her heart harshly, i might plot another funeral*
That happens to me at gym…
When I was talking to people at gym, I see him he would check on me & see him that he always walk passing to behind my friends. I get upset, So I ask him if he’s jealous he said no he didn’t pay attention to anyone.. but weeks passed he still do same thing again. I knew he always hiding his feelings so he would check to see what am I doing…
That's honestly a little creepy to me. He needs to chill.
@@DeRez19 I don’t know. He’s crazy
@@monica.anzaldua I had to report this one girl for harassing me in high school. She never got expelled but her mom was very angry about it lol.
That person cannot be called your crush. I mean in your perspective, you are not attracted to him but he is attracted to you. So on the contrary, you are that person's crush. That is why he is being creepy. There are times you get attention from a person you are not even attracted to. Besides, your goal is not to win that person's heart anyways because he is not even your crush. You don't even like him back. So that right there is unwanted attention. If it comes from a real crush, then it is considered a wanted attention.
I remember having a crush in highschool that I thought was one sided but now that I think about it maybe it wasn't lol . Because the girlfriend acted weirdly towards me told me he was interested when I never even mentioned or gave any real indication that I liked him besides being shy around him but he would talk to me and ask me questions all the time . But this video makes me think maybe the girlfriend also had a crush on me ( later on I found out she is bi so it's a possibility )
Make sense in a way because for her to be bisexual can mean, she is tempted to cheat. She can feel the temptation on wanting you while having a boyfriend vice versa. For her to be bi-sexual is normally why she is wanting that excuse to be with a man and a woman. Being bi is normally an excuse for her to have sex with more then 1 person so even if it means having sex with both genders, that person would choose to be bi-sexual.
I feel like if someone strongly says they are not in love with you, then they probably want to be
i really dont know what they feel.. but sometimes when my friends touch me in a slightly flirty way (its normal for us) she tends to look away and find other things to distract on with her poker face
I was very surprised at the first signs mentioned & feel i've learned a lot. Great video!
They act like they don't care
WOW!
I was thinking correctly according to this video and my intuition was on it. My crush is showing all the signs of what is in this video.
The only thing that I can add is that, he is very protective of me. We work together and if someone is bothering me while I'm working. He will make it quite clear to them to leave me alone. At first I thought it was kind of weird but then I realized what He was doing.
Thank you so much for sharing this video. ❤️❤️
That may be different. Anyone can be protective of you and not trying to keep you for themselves. That may not be a good example of your crush being jealous. Anyone can be your savior and not doing it for relationships. Based on what this video is saying, jealousy have something to do with competing for attention.
I was jealous, so I walked away 😢
How did that go? Did it help to walk away?
Smart.
Mirroring is a bit too common I believe. Some people just mirror you because they respect you, but admire is a bit much. The rest are nice though.
Every single point in this video is super accurate but it's *me* who does all of it and not my crush, I guess I have my answer😌
And why i am watching this vid i don't even taking to crush as i am introverted 🙃
we made it clear we are all friends, (3 guys and me a female) but one guy constantly asks the other guys if they talked to me, or saw me. If they say yes, they get interrogated. So they started saying no, and now they are accused of lying. I feel like I should stop bothering with them all.
*Does anybody know the background music? Please!*
I had to watch the video twice, because the first time, I was enraptured by the song. 😂😂😂
Bold of you to assume i have experience in these things
can you please remove the subtitles pls? Its really not good for attention span and we can’t even deactivate it because its in the video. If someone wants subtitles, youtube already has an option for subtitles.
Asking a few more details than usual... yeah, sounds familiar. Incredibly annoying and unnerving behavior, an absolute dealbreaker and a sure way to end any sort of relationship for good and for ever with a resounding door slam.
Could this be jealousy? Girl that I used to like starts talking to me more and gazing at me when I thought that she didn't like me anymore
Social ineptitude isn’t an upside for this one. Doesn’t help that my best friend talks to her a lot. That’s a difficult situation that makes me rather negative.
These are very accurate
Which part did you relate to the most?
@@Psych2go probably at 2:31 also ty for responding :)
please keep adding subtitles like this so i can practice shadowing technique 🥰
I'd be the jealous crush here. I can't do compensatory restoration because I'm already super attentive. Won't talk down rivals because it's cheap, and makes me look bad/manipulative (but if they approach me and do something strange? I might point that out). I already have the habit of trying to keep tabs on my crush's condition/movements, so it also wouldn't be new (I try hard not to be overbearing though).
So the only thing I can do is to give them the cold shoulder, the complete opposite of how I usually am... but that too, is a dangerous gamble. What if they actually get pushed away? Or play the same game? I think it's just one of the potentially self-destructive things to do.
I suppose it's tempting, to hope that my crush would notice, and chase after me/pay more attention to me instead. But I doubt that it is what would go down.
Your crush may not even see you as a crush from day 1. Chances you, you like that person and that person may not even like you back. If your goal is to impress your crush, you got to really get rid of this jealous behaviors. If you get jealous, your crush can already walk out on you and say no to you. The situation is you are not their fiance so once you act like you are their fiance, your crush can already put a restraining order on you. Wait til you get into a couple's relationship with your crush 1st and then you have a power to be jealous if your fiance were to cheat on you. Otherwise, if you act too entitled, you already do not gain a relationship.
@@hp2546 Ah, you misunderstood: The only *behavior* I exhibit is sign 4, surveillance. I was explaining why I wouldn't even do the 3 other things, despite being a bit jealous/insecure myself. And even then, my surveillance is just keep tab of his activities, like who is he play games with. (And maybe ask what he is doing.) This is strictly an internet thing anyway.
If you want to say "stop being jealous", well, there are basically two ways to do that:
1. Stop caring/care less. If you don't care, you can't get jealous;
2. Pretend not to be jealous, give people a different image, despite what you're actually feeling.
I rather be honest with my feeling. If I feel jealous, then I feel jealous. I'm not going to say or tell myself, I don't feel jealous, because, I do feel jealous... but as for what I _do:_ Well, that's what my 1st comment was explaining lol.
What one does, and what one feels, are different things. You can have destructive feelings and still choose to do the right thing. I'm being honest both with my feelings AND my code.
But, well, I don't expect people to understand me. (Tbh, I didn't expect anyone to even reply. Was just venting-- there's no purpose to my post, except making myself feel better because I expressed how I felt somewhere.)
But here's another perspective for you: Sometimes one is just going to end up being stuck in a situationship. Sometimes, one is just not going to be a couple with another, because they prefer a vague, undefined, unofficial "relationship".
He likes me, feels like I'm a good guy, flirt around sometimes, and wants to have me around...
... But he's not going to love me. He has seen my best side, which most people will never see, and still has no feelings, so, it's just not going to happen. It is what it is.
But you know, at least I'm honest with my feelings. I didn't get what I want, but I wasn't going to get it anyway. However, I do get to keep going, knowing that I didn't try to pretend or fake something about me. (Not that I'm good at that anyway. Do I look like someone who cares to manipulate people's opinion about me? lol)
And if you're wondering if I actually did something to make him not like me-- No. Really. We're still fine, the difference is, I accepted that there will be no progress, because he just prefers having situationships, is all. More than friends, but never a couple.
Thanks for trying to advice/troubleshoot/help. Even though I'm a bit shameless, I'm not dumb or unwise, so no worries.
@@aquablast3155 When it comes to crushes, I would not even make it my job to decide how my crush dates because that crush was never mines to begin with. If that crush was never my fiance from day 1, I don't compete for that crush's attention. I also do not play games. Once my crush is taken, I move on. I don't even bother waiting for my crush to break up with their current fiances. At the end of the day, we just have to remind ourselves not to go after crushes that is already taken. Just focus on the ones who is currently available. If that person is not my fiance, I don't earn the right to tell my crush who I can or cannot date. So if that person never agreed to be your romantic partner, that person is not your fiance. So you may try to address it but there are restrictions too. Just make sure not to go overboard with it. You don't want to end up making your crush reject you and tell you sorry I am already taken. Once you let your crush know, you also need to accept the rejection gracefully as well. Once you choose the route of letting your crush know how you feel, you also have a responsibility to take the rejection gracefully if your crush were to say no. Jealousy can be so powerful that some even give in to entitlement and refusing to take no for an answer. This can cause them to become creepy towards their crush. So I do understand this concept. There are even people who gets so jealous that they fight for relationships that don't even belong to them in the 1st place. There are even those that is already taken and would act so entitled to cheat on their current fiance. Jealousy is so powerful that many don't even think straight.
@@aquablast3155 Yes! What matter is self control. Once you address your feelings which can be same as confessing to your crush, you also need be able to accept the rejection gracefully if you were to receive a no answer. Once addressing, got to be careful not to go overboard. I mean many ended up going overboard and refused to admit their own flaws and started doing the chasing to a point where they turned themselves creepy towards their crush. Many compete for attention and started ignoring their own red flags. Your way is you may ask your crush out and address how you feel but with restrictions of course. Important thing is not to get too carried away. especially, if they don't even share a special relationship with you. After all, if they barely know you, they earn the right to cut you off. So knowing when to back off right after addressing your feelings is what makes you a better person. Confessing your feelings of course is not about getting a yes answer.
@@hp2546 Haha, I've been through the rejection already. My 1st comment was from a year ago. But I do suggest reading on "situationships". Your advice would be more valid for regular relationships, but mine is actually not that.
Imagine if you don't have anyone, and someone whom you have the potential to get interested in, come along, likes you, and seems to be interested in you, and is receptive to flirting AND flirts back... BUT, with the condition that, I don't expect a relationship out of this. (And if I can't comply with this condition, he'd insist we either stay strictly friends/no flirting, or part ways, if it's too painful for me.)
When I heard that, I parsed that as, "Okay, he doesn't have feelings for me now, but he likes/is interested in me and might have feelings/want to commit someday"... Except, no, that's wrong. Our current "above friends, but below couples" state IS _exactly_ what he is comfortable with.
Again, I encourage reading up on "situationships". It's the only way to understand my situation, as well as those who are in similar situations. This is a fairly new concept, I believe. I have only learned about it recently.
And no, I do not need help "breaking up" from this situationship either lol. Like I said, I'm not looking for help. I was just expressing my thoughts. You'll just have to trust me that I'm not dumb, not unwise, and knows how to behave/have enough common sense.
Pov: You help ur crush hook up w girls. But you try not to act jealous.
He confesses to you.
You date.
He breaks up w you.
And he likes someone else after 1 week. :))
I always feel intrigued by your amazing videos. 😊
I have a crush on that boy who's name starts with T you know he constantly keeps flirting with that one girl who's name starts with D and I get jealous sometimes seeing them together and I once had a dream of her chasing my crush and I instantly woke up after that what a werid dream I thought. Once at the school my crush was talking to a girl who was sitting next to me and I've caught him looking at me and that one boy I was talking,holding hands and playing games with, I kinda felt like he was also jealous because once me and that boy looked at him he just turned and sat at a different seat where he can see us clearly and my crush looked furious tbh, never expected that from him, I glared at him and he just gave me a smile and a wink and I thought maybe he flirts with everyone, then at the next day he constantly sat next to me at the recess and whenever the teacher doesn't come at class. He stared at me when he and the girl sitting next to me was talking, I was pretty sure that he was tryna make sure I don't get near to any boy, tsk tsk, he ain't my dad for looking out for me 🥱🤧
He would ask me random questions of what i was doing or why was i acting like that. honestly it seemed really weird to me.
am i the only one who doesn't have a crush but still watching this?
I just reunited with mine and we've had a mutal one for a few years and well she's just recently been giving her classic death stare it's something she does every now and then when I'm around someone else like a friend or family member. We did have a planned catch up online but it appears she got cold feet.
God I must have been obvious... but in the end I learned that some things just aren't meant to be...
I used to be the jealous one. I refuse to have another crush again. 😅
how was this made 1 minute ago and there are comments from 2 weeks
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This does not sound like my crush…
It sounds like me 💀😂
I feel you. I mean there is no way opportunities fall from a sky that easily. No way any of our crush will approach us like that to compete for attention. No way our crush will be obsessed that easily.
I'm the freeze-out type as it turns out.
I’ve noticed excessive laughter when the rival is brought up
sometimes it seems like he also feel the same way and then he ignores me it's so confusing. I'm just so jealous of his female bestie ik it's immature but I can't control myself.
You just have to remind yourself that it is only your mind that is thinking that because your mind is in fantasy land. In reality, your crush may not be attracted to you. Your mind just wanted to feel like your crush likes you. If your crush really likes you, your crush would already confess to you long time ago.
These signs sound more like situations in an anime rom-com.
While my left has not exactly been a festival of romance, I have neither exhibited nor been exposed to any of THIS behavior, so maybe it's not all bad.
Wonderful music. I love how Amanda pronounced compensatory.
Well that would certainly explain why he suddenly gave me the cold shudder
"And her collegagues".. Psychology added with sense of humour.. 👍
if i am ever jelous of someone, i usualy will just tell them,and explain why
Make sure not to go overboard with it. Normally, you will only have the right to address a jealousy issue if that person is already your fiance and is currently cheating on you. But if it is your crush and you are not in a couple's relationship with him/her, you won't be given a right to address it especially if your crush is already taken. If you address it, you got to make sure not to do it at the cost of going into entitlement mode. If that person were to be your crush but not in relationship with you, you won't even have the right to explain why if that crush were to have a power to reject you. Jealousy comments coming from someone we barely know would be inappropriate but if it is someone you build a relationship with, then it is your job.
@@hp2546 you are right. I didn't really pay attention to the context of where I was posting this. I meant this in general with people who I already know. not a crush or anything like that, that would be really weird
@@kosycat1 Yes! Now to give an example. I have a crush on my next door neighbor. I have no right to address it because she is already married and is with her husband. I have to accept the fact that she was never my girlfriend from day 1 and I never had built any connections with her. She is like a total stranger. Of course, I am in no position to tell her or explain it. I have to let it go and move on knowing that she was never mines to begin with. Just as long as you address to the people who is not considered off limits, then telling them is appropriate.
My crush is always ignoring me and has started dating my friend, I think they’re jealous of me and my friend and they really have a crush on me.
It sounds like you are jealous yourself because if your crush wanted you, your crush would of cashed in to be with you long time ago. For starters, you called that person your crush which proves you are attracted to a person. Instead of your crush taking you, your crush takes your friend instead. If you like your crush and your crush likes you back, your crush should already accept you long time ago instead of continuing the hard to get games. I mean what did you do to make your crush jealous?
My ex was rather happy when he heard my guy friend who he believes I'm in love with broke his leg, I thought that was pretty obviously jealousy.
That proves your ex is regretting the decision of the break up and could not move on.
The freeze out is definitely me. Like who the f gave me the right to get pissed when he's flirting with other women? We aren't even in a relationship
I see you know what this video is talking about. I mean that person is your crush which means it isn't your job to fix your crush. Based on looking at this youtube title 4 Signs Your Crush Is Jealous (But Hiding It). Sounds like crushes is not hiding it at all because this video is about crushes who is attempting to control outcomes that isn't supposed to be controlled. I mean there is a difference between crushes and lovers. If that person is not your fiance, it isn't your place to address your jealousy and not your place to control the outcome on who your crush sees especially if they are like strangers to you. Vice versa for your crush as well. Just as crushes do not earn the right to complain about your life, you don't earn it either. If he or she is your fiance, then you earn the right to address the jealousy issue assuming if he or she crossed the line on cheating. When reading that title, it won't even be appropriate for crushes to address any jealousy issues. As for me, I only give that person a power to be jealous of me after that person gives me a couple's relationship first. If they don't give me any relationship, they don't earn the right to decide who I can and can't see. If they decided not to give me a couple's relationship, it is fair game and they don't earn the right to claim I cheated. If I am not given a couple's relationship, I am technically available. When you ask yourself what gives you the right to get pissed at him? The answer is he never agreed to be your bf which means it won't be a good reason to complain about a person being already taken. If I am going to earn the right to be jealous, I have to be sure I got into a relationship legally first.
The biggest tragedy in my life is that the person I am jealous of is one of my good friends lol I can't even show my jealousy I don't even want to get jealous of her cuz she is kinda good. She is far better than me 😭
What should I do if my crush is doing the 'freeze-out'? I find our online conversations are getting less and less interesting and I always have to start them. It's also a bit awkward off screen too
what app do you do your online convos on? just a question
he thought i was still with my ex husband and made a random dig at me when it was un-necessary. it stung
He suddenly started speaking about other girls (he's an introvert he told me girls asked him to hang out with him)
Then it is possible that those girls had reached out to him and made a move on him. If you know a person is introvert, you must not be introvert yourself. That proves that those women who reached out to him was an extrovert. That proves if you wanted him to be with you, you should of been the one to ask him to hang out. It is normal because anyone who is introvert sits around and wait for others to reach out. So that will prove that you were introvert yourself so other women will beat you to it. Otherwise, if you choose to be introvert to miss out opportunity to ask him, other people will.
This is what it means to be introvert. Normally, an introvert do not initiate the chasing. The reason why he could be in relationship is because girls were the one who initiated a chasing. If girls asked him out, all he will do is say yes. It proves he does not play hard to get and is honest about it. This is how to get introverts out of their comfort zone. If you want an introvert to feel comfortable around you, then you need to be brave enough to ask him out.
I dont understand my crush
Whenever im with my friends he will avoid me but when they go he will be so friendly again
Is it jealousy?
It will be more like you did not make a good impression. So it is not jealousy. If you hang out with your friends in front of your crush, you don't even look available for your crush to hang out with. Just because you did not make a good impression does not mean you should project that jealousy on your crush. If this is your behavior, your crush can leave you. Your crush avoids you because you were already with your friends and your crush did not want to interrupt you when you were hanging out with friends. If you want to be approachable, at least find a time to walk alone in front of your crush. If you hang out with too many people, you look more like you are popular celebrity. Maybe your crush is introvert so if you hang out with people, your crush can feel intimidated to approach you. So all the people who avoids approaching you, do not call them jealous. If they want nothing to do with you and you call them jealous, you drive them away. Jealousy is not on them if they don't want to even see you or approach you. Besides, where is the proof that your crush is competing for attention to have your friends? Same rules apply in interview. If you don't make a good impression to get hired, you cannot call your interviewer jealous.
3:55 such a wholesome cute animation :D
~strange tree
:)
Noooo don’t give me hope 😭😭 I work with him and we started texting and we used to talk a lot and I never felt like he didn’t want to talk to me, but I went on a trip and since I’ve come back, he’s been acting different. He’s not starting conversations with me anymore and just seems different. It’s making me pretty sad so I’m going to ask him if I did something. I don’t know though. I miss talking to him
Normally this is not the time to ask him. Reason why he may not keep the conversation going on is he thought he needed to move on. Besides, you weren't the one who confessed you like him before you left on your trip. If you ask him now, you are letting this video trick you into believing you missed an opportunity. What kind of opportunity do you think you have with that crush of yours? Romance? I doubt that. Once you choose to hide your feelings, that conversation can be gone. Your crush can quietly leave you without telling you because he knows it isn't his job to be there for you. Plus you did not tell him you wanted a romantic relationship from day 1. So if you ask him now, you will only let this video trick you into giving you false hope.
These signs are also present in platonic feelings.
-Tucker
I saw my crush and her seat mate scale their hands (the seat mate is my friend and we had the same crush )I hate feeling jealous but we're not in a relationship so I just let it go.
At the same time, you have to keep it bottled up inside because that crush was not even your fiance. So that meant your friend earned it. Normally, a right to show jealousy is after you get into a relationship with your crush and only if your crush cheated. Since that crush was not yours, then your crush would belong to your best friend. So it is best to stay out of a competition. Letting go is a 1st step of moving on. You have to let go because your crush did not owe you a relationship and you did not owe your crush a relationship.
My ex used to jealous on me like that, but he such a stalker!
This is a sign that your ex is regreting his decision of breaking up with you. Chances are, he will be too ashamed to admit his mistakes. He brought it upon himself. When your ex broke up with you, he did not think of a back up plan on how to move on.
Last night I was at my crush's birthday his in a relationship with someone who hangs in to his coat tail. He can do a lot more better if you ask me.. anyway went to say goodbye to my crush and I had to climb big step to hug my crush goodbye and I was going home for tonight ( a fight broke out in another area) not in the party I was attending..it was time to go.. so somebody was helping me up the step... and his spouse decided to help me as well. I didn't ask you , I didn't want you, to even touch me ... the hand was extended.. and I said no thank you ... and you still put your hands on me? The audacity 😒...anyway that's how I handled jealousy.. weird yes... am I forward with it.. hell yeah
Well my crush calls me everyday without fail and every day by video I have a bunch of friends but ever sense she started doing that I talk way less to them then I usually do
Awesome!