For someone who has watched a lot of narcissism channels I have to say that this is a very good breakdown about the personality disorder it will help a lot of people.
Melli, once you break the trust, it will never be the same! And every one of you watching need to know this, and take it seriously, because if you really like someone, you better keep it REAL!
I’m not sure if she thinks not telling her boyfriend before hanging out with the guy is wrong or if her hanging out with the guy in the first place is wrong.
Dealt with this personally from not just women, but people in general. 1.) Guilt Tripping? It's only guilt if you GIVE them PERMISSION 2.) Silent treatment? A silent person doesn't care. They prefer it! 3.) Gaslighting? Just ignore them. 4.) Projection? Just act calm. They'll eventually self destruct 5.) Feigned Ignorance? See answer number 3 6.) Tantrums? Act cold and disregard them. 7.) Playing Victim? Be the victor. Confidence always wins
Some humans just don't know themselves and their emotions good enough to imagine and predict themselves in the future. They are drunk with the feeling of being in love and they just don't realize that this drunkness will fade. The love can then mature in a more sober kind of love but if they aren't mature enough to accept that, they'll chase the drunkeness and betray you. That's why nobody should use a relationship to flee from something.
@@zzzo4509 and what ? What’s life about ? Be simp when you need to and be the opposite when you want to by not expecting something back. You got me Good luck dude
@@zzzo4509 some of you american man are so crazy lol. So telling a woman she is gorgeous is being a simp?? Since when?????? So you guys dont compliment each other?? Man am happy that our men are not part of this culture. They compliment us, we smile and say thank you.. We compliment them, they smile snd say thank you. Jeez
@@africaine4889 completely right we’re not part of this culture. Some of them include concepts on everything related to women I don’t know but it’s weird though. Coz woman is also a person like us !!
Awesome channel. Love'in it. Really appreciate someone who is willing share such valuable insight in a way that's raw & unsensored. No fluff...No BS...Just brutally honest reality is how I see it. This cuts through all the fluff and bullshit.
This is so true and I keep needing women like this all the time it's like an assembly line when it comes to dating same s*** over and over again did you get the silent treatment for no reason they always want to give a guilt trip play victim constantly that's another one
Melli I saw that video of you approaching the light skin guy at the bar. And even though he rejected you.... You we're still cool about it!! You have my respect because that took alot of courage 🔥🔥🔥 Salute!
I enjoy listening to you I went threw a 7 year narcissistic relationship I thought it was me the whole time made me feel crazy just for caring but god had my back and got me away from her she found new supply and I'm happy again but again keep doing what your doing your cool as shit !!!✌
You're like a witchy wood sprite so full of life and movement! You use your channel to really help folks and it'd super interactive ! P.s. you're hair looks so dope
Side take about the guy who couldn’t get over your mistake. I can relate to him because there’s one thing you never mentioned. You never apologized for it. Women tend to try to just “move past” their misdeeds. It’s fucked up and makes us feel like you’re still on the same sh*t.
I have to agree... altho' I wouldn't drag it for not even 6 weeks, let alone 6 months... I mean sorry Melli, but for such a "mistake" I'd be done and over with it in like no more than a week...
🤣 Easiest way to combat these mind games is to Understand its a Game of Supply and Demand... Too much Supply/Attention decreases Demand & Visa Versa. Take control 🎮 of both levers and don't let them go... Game over also Nice Hair and Great Video!
I dated one too , nearly ruined my life 2 years to recover , now if I see any traits I RUN .....Oh and they come back even years later . guys don't even play .yep mine had me running round like a headless chicken . millie people wont get it till they experience it theres nothing like it
#1 way to keep any 'real' relationship ' HONESTY ' . . Once it is gone it's gone. Sadly this is 99.99% gone in todays society. It is as rare as marriage is today.
All these signs are pretty bad but #2 #4 #6 are hardest to deal with in my opinion, and number #3 is king of them all. a woman that can manipulate your mind is closes thing to the devil. I'm not a shame to say I've been this situation before and the experience made me become a bachelor ever since ....I actually lost control of myself and how I think just to please her and it still wasn't good enough...it was a complete nightmare I tell you and I had to level up.
Another great video Melli! You’re a very clever & narcissistic women. You know very well that you should’ve not gone out with that guy “friend”. What kind of reaction were you expecting from your boyfriend knowing you were out with another guy?
Some people afraid of death to be by them myselfs and they put on these facades to fake friendships. The Key is to meditate on god in you. It broke my phobias and our ancestors will support us.
I will take this moment to admit I have a handful of these traits after seeing this I will get some help and change my ways because no one should feel that way
I will share with you the signs I found out by living with a narcissist : all is about making you unable to think rationally (so they can do whatever of you) : 1. Changing of subject. 2. Making you feel guilty. 3. Getting angry, making dramas (often mixed with making you feel guilty : "how can you dare talking about this ?!") for building taboos (in order to avoid the same question to come again). 4. Explaining their own mistakes by the fault of someone else : yes I cheated on him but it's because of what he did to me (without saying what he ever did to her), etc. Not only betrayal is in their genes, but it's their best pleasure provider : the higher the level of betrayal is, the happier they are. For instance, cheating with the best friend (double level of betrayal), in the same house and same bed, if the boyfriend is not far away it's ever better and if she is the best friend of the girl of the guy she is cheating with, it's just ecstasy. This kind of girl will generally stay somewhere for awhile, untill all girls of the place force her to find a new place where they can restart their games.
Melli, ur English penetrates; you articulate ur thoughts and ideas💡 better that most of us who were born speaking this American english.......ur English is poetic.
The advice she gives in each clip is really helpful it is the handbook on love and dating without respect and truth there can't be any trust honesty opens the eyes of the blind if a person can't see the value and worth of the other if not sooner than later they will.
What she is describing is a "Covert Narcissist", in my experience there are full on Covert Narcissist, and there are women displaying Narcissists traits and tactics.
Hey Melli. I'm a recent subscriber and I love your channel. I saw a lot of my last relationship in this post. Are you a formally trained relationship coach, cause I gotta say, everything I've heard you discuss regarding relationships has been spot on! 💯 Keep up the awesome work beautiful 👍❤️
I kind of became like this where I couldn’t get over things when I was done wrong but I couldn’t get over it because I smelled bullshit off the apology. But didn’t want to let go. It’s a fucked up feeling but it’s better to be straight forward with yourself.
This video really helped me but damn I was in a toxic relationship I didn't know how to escape I felt stuck on her trying to give her the benefit of the doubt we all human we all make mistakes but it is what it is
Oh My Goodness Melli I LOVE YOU SO MUCH!!! Please don't take your Beautiful ass offa YTube helping dudes know how to deal with females the correct way, and brightening my day cause I can see and hear an honest woman whos great to look at but more importantly is only spitting the realist shit. So Beautiful and Refreshing
Every video that I watch from you, you project this awesome energy that makes me want to be a young rebel again, you must be fun & corky as f***k! Cheers!
the guilt tripping is really easy for me to spot now. I just laugh and literally ask, "are you trying to guilt trip me?" It's fun. Usually they've never been called out on it so they start squirming.
Hehe...most of the women probably hate her for revealing tips... and she's doing this easily because she's not born in the US and a product of the feminist movement...
Avoided 2 narcs recently. Thanks. God is good. "he is never happy" this sums it up. Only when you are broken is he happy. vice versa, yet they smile inside you cannot see it. mmm beware of the best sex. It blinds. Especially the good bodies. Take your time, a man once told me, if she cannot wait 3 years, keep it moving. I do not agree with him, but I understood his point, do not rush to marry. Sometimes I wonder where the line is drawn, I know these parents of mine are toxic, but who can I trust anymore? I trust God...
@mellimonaco actually you look good and you are doing great with the channel. This video was spot on. So many people are in love with narcissists and get their energy drained constantly. Also can you get off your butt and walk around sometimes. We want to see more of you. Peace. Love you.
It's not, "I didn't do anything i just hang out." it's,we just hanged out, or you Can also say you didn't do anything you just hung out Or we were just hanging out. A little bit more slang right there sweetheart... Keep the videos coming. It's helping me cope with, a what seems to be a divorce 5 years marriage with 2 kids it's helped me cope . We've been separated for 8 months now she has not filed but she's everything and then some of what you talk about manipulation and narcissist in a woman thank you God-bless
Hearing you describe guilt tripping alone made me almost puke a tiny amount in my mouth. It was wonderful. You’ve got a way with words. Alright I’ll stop my Eddie Haskell interpretation
1. Guilt tripping
2. Silent treatment
3. Gaslighting
4. Projection
5. Feigned ignorance
6. Tantrums
7. Playing the victim
Stg i get projection alot
I love when people MAKE AN OUTLINE and review the video! 😜🥰 I guess it's the way I think and learn!
The summary guy never dissapoint 🤣
@@mashnjo8271 y'all check me out
My Ex Wife did most of these on a daily basis.
For someone who has watched a lot of narcissism channels I have to say that this is a very good breakdown about the personality disorder it will help a lot of people.
Melli, once you break the trust, it will never be the same! And every one of you watching need to know this, and take it seriously, because if you really like someone, you better keep it REAL!
BIGGFACTS
I’m not sure if she thinks not telling her boyfriend before hanging out with the guy is wrong or if her hanging out with the guy in the first place is wrong.
@Slime ball explain..
@Slime ball I hear you, I’m just amazed that she didn’t think hanging out with other dudes was a little suspect to begin with.
@Slime ball yeah you right. There’s no rules in the beginning.
Reasons why I'm still single. Society is full of narcissism. How to change that mentality Melli??
Social media is at fault, nothing we can do about it sadly :(
And drugs abuse are at fault... it's too late, nothing can ever change that...
Indeed.
Stay out of Hollywood. Show biz attracts them like crap attracts flies.
Yes we can just leave them alone and confide in Christ have nothing to do with such people. @@THELIONGUY1981
Dealt with this personally from not just women, but people in general.
1.) Guilt Tripping? It's only guilt if you GIVE them PERMISSION
2.) Silent treatment? A silent person doesn't care. They prefer it!
3.) Gaslighting? Just ignore them.
4.) Projection? Just act calm. They'll eventually self destruct
5.) Feigned Ignorance? See answer number 3
6.) Tantrums? Act cold and disregard them.
7.) Playing Victim? Be the victor. Confidence always wins
Gray rock method is the best
Just ignore them is the answer for all 7
Or just simply walk away from that toxic environment... even if sometimes is really not that simple...
Love it Unc!!!
almost everythign of this is solved by staying calm just let it 😂
You are good, been married 23 years. Took me 20 years to realize it was not me, it was my narc.....damn......These all are true and to the point.
He wasn't guilt tripping you... he was just reminding himself of the type of woman you were to him. I agree he should have left.
The beginning right? Like seriously loll opposite sex hanging out idk ......
Omg! I was dealing with a narcissist that whole time. I got away just in time, but thx for the game Meli
This is one of the realest videos i have watched in a while
The number one game women use on men is telling you she loves you and will always love you , never fall for that game
Some humans just don't know themselves and their emotions good enough to imagine and predict themselves in the future. They are drunk with the feeling of being in love and they just don't realize that this drunkness will fade. The love can then mature in a more sober kind of love but if they aren't mature enough to accept that, they'll chase the drunkeness and betray you. That's why nobody should use a relationship to flee from something.
On god
Facts
@@dualfluidreactor
@@dualfluidreactor
Ooooooh wow melli is becoming more more and gorgeous with her new hair look. Yo guys slow down just listen to what she's saying. Much love
Your such a Simp dude
@@zzzo4509 and what ?
What’s life about ?
Be simp when you need to and be the opposite when you want to by not expecting something back. You got me
Good luck dude
@@zzzo4509 some of you american man are so crazy lol. So telling a woman she is gorgeous is being a simp?? Since when?????? So you guys dont compliment each other?? Man am happy that our men are not part of this culture. They compliment us, we smile and say thank you.. We compliment them, they smile snd say thank you. Jeez
@@africaine4889 completely right we’re not part of this culture. Some of them include concepts on everything related to women I don’t know but it’s weird though. Coz woman is also a person like us !!
I really appreciate Melli! She is so dedicated to seeing good guys win! Damn!
This is so accurate,happens to me today so we both break up..everything you talk about is on point
Some people got it bad when they can't accept a genuine apology. It's a turnoff all over again. ( trifling )
Im in this cycle right now im stuck proving myself..
Awesome channel. Love'in it. Really appreciate someone who is willing share such valuable insight in a way that's raw & unsensored. No fluff...No BS...Just brutally honest reality is how I see it. This cuts through all the fluff and bullshit.
Meli you looking extra good l. Great topic too. I hate when the toxic one calls me toxic. Manipulation is at an all time high
If the toxic one is calling you toxic, just walk away for good... even if it may not be that easy, it won't get any better...
I hate the fact that I love this chick so much. keep up that great energy
Please stand up!I would lov to se all of U! Keep shining!
This is so true and I keep needing women like this all the time it's like an assembly line when it comes to dating same s*** over and over again did you get the silent treatment for no reason they always want to give a guilt trip play victim constantly that's another one
Melli I saw that video of you approaching the light skin guy at the bar. And even though he rejected you.... You we're still cool about it!! You have my respect because that took alot of courage 🔥🔥🔥 Salute!
OMFG. it took me 10 years to figure this out, You have it dialed in 💯
I enjoy listening to you I went threw a 7 year narcissistic relationship I thought it was me the whole time made me feel crazy just for caring but god had my back and got me away from her she found new supply and I'm happy again but again keep doing what your doing your cool as shit !!!✌
You're like a witchy wood sprite so full of life and movement! You use your channel to really help folks and it'd super interactive !
P.s. you're hair looks so dope
Guilt tripping. And when a woman has children the mother will gilt trip their kids ALL THE TIME lol
Then her children will date someone who guilts trip them 😆
I appreciate these videos Melli. It's refreshing to hear a woman touch on issues according to her p.o.v.
Side take about the guy who couldn’t get over your mistake. I can relate to him because there’s one thing you never mentioned. You never apologized for it. Women tend to try to just “move past” their misdeeds. It’s fucked up and makes us feel like you’re still on the same sh*t.
POWERFUL~
I have to agree... altho' I wouldn't drag it for not even 6 weeks, let alone 6 months... I mean sorry Melli, but for such a "mistake" I'd be done and over with it in like no more than a week...
🤣 Easiest way to combat these mind games is to Understand its a Game of Supply and Demand... Too much Supply/Attention decreases Demand & Visa Versa. Take control 🎮 of both levers and don't let them go... Game over also Nice Hair and Great Video!
This is so funny but yeah I experienced it any relationship with a narcissist is a waste of life.
You’re never!!! Annoying plus your hair looks great on you have a great weekend lover! 🥂
Woah she hit it right on the money… This is so true fr fr !!!
I dated one too , nearly ruined my life 2 years to recover , now if I see any traits I RUN .....Oh and they come back even years later . guys don't even play .yep mine had me running round like a headless chicken . millie people wont get it till they experience it theres nothing like it
Melli ,Thank you for giving us what our mothers or sisters would definitely never give us
I was thinking the same, does that also mean our relatives are against us?
#1 way to keep any 'real' relationship ' HONESTY ' . . Once it is gone it's gone. Sadly this is 99.99% gone in todays society. It is as rare as marriage is today.
thank you for all your honest opinions from a woman's pov Melli 💪 much love to you and your family take care and keep up the great work 🤗
All these signs are pretty bad but #2 #4 #6 are hardest to deal with in my opinion, and number #3 is king of them all. a woman that can manipulate your mind is closes thing to the devil. I'm not a shame to say I've been this situation before and the experience made me become a bachelor ever since ....I actually lost control of myself and how I think just to please her and it still wasn't good enough...it was a complete nightmare I tell you and I had to level up.
This video was great. I refuse to deal with it my sanity is much more valuable!
Listening to these points just brought back bad memories.
Another great video Melli! You’re a very clever & narcissistic women. You know very well that you should’ve not gone out with that guy “friend”. What kind of reaction were you expecting from your boyfriend knowing you were out with another guy?
Some people afraid of death to be by them myselfs and they put on these facades to fake friendships. The Key is to meditate on god in you. It broke my phobias and our ancestors will support us.
This is great life advice to watch out for toxic people/energy vampires in general
Nice hairstyle, nice look, and -as usual, awesome content.
I will take this moment to admit I have a handful of these traits after seeing this I will get some help and change my ways because no one should feel that way
You're never a Hot mess, great input
I will share with you the signs I found out by living with a narcissist : all is about making you unable to think rationally (so they can do whatever of you) :
1. Changing of subject.
2. Making you feel guilty.
3. Getting angry, making dramas (often mixed with making you feel guilty : "how can you dare talking about this ?!") for building taboos (in order to avoid the same question to come again).
4. Explaining their own mistakes by the fault of someone else : yes I cheated on him but it's because of what he did to me (without saying what he ever did to her), etc.
Not only betrayal is in their genes, but it's their best pleasure provider : the higher the level of betrayal is, the happier they are. For instance, cheating with the best friend (double level of betrayal), in the same house and same bed, if the boyfriend is not far away it's ever better and if she is the best friend of the girl of the guy she is cheating with, it's just ecstasy.
This kind of girl will generally stay somewhere for awhile, untill all girls of the place force her to find a new place where they can restart their games.
Wow... that's sick... that's also bipolar behavior...
Your hair and overall look was really very attractive in this piece Melli.
Dropping this comment for the algorithm. Let’s go 💪🏾
Melli, ur English penetrates; you articulate ur thoughts and ideas💡 better that most of us who were born speaking this American english.......ur English is poetic.
French accent does that... french is the love language...
You 💯% real.
All you said is true. That's absolutely true.
The advice she gives in each clip is really helpful it is the handbook on love and dating without respect and truth there can't be any trust honesty opens the eyes of the blind if a person can't see the value and worth of the other if not sooner than later they will.
You are not annoying and your hair is not a mess. You give life experiences and it helps others.
Her hair I Hot Sauce chorty,say this Ma,am Monaco ,hair is rain forest desiring to, eyes
Melli, this blue top looks lovely!
This hair is amazing. Now I don't know whether i love the earlier one or this very one. You're just sweet
The Bush is better
Thanks for all your help in dealing g with women
What she is describing is a "Covert Narcissist", in my experience there are full on Covert Narcissist, and there are women displaying Narcissists traits and tactics.
😂 the rant about guilt trippin' is dead on, legend 🌠
I love the first seconds her smile.
Hey Melli. I'm a recent subscriber and I love your channel. I saw a lot of my last relationship in this post. Are you a formally trained relationship coach, cause I gotta say, everything I've heard you discuss regarding relationships has been spot on! 💯 Keep up the awesome work beautiful 👍❤️
why are your describing my x partner down to the t, anyway thanks for the great vid melli as usual, love and blessings to you always.
I kind of became like this where I couldn’t get over things when I was done wrong but I couldn’t get over it because I smelled bullshit off the apology. But didn’t want to let go. It’s a fucked up feeling but it’s better to be straight forward with yourself.
Melli, do you have a hairstylist living with you? You hair style changes every day! BTW, this one looks very nice and this is a kickass episode.
You look nice today and thanks for the great advice
Best hairstyle yet, Melli.
Approved 👍.
Narcissist are also opportunist. Melli your hair is fine. It's looks very natural on you. Love u, love u, love u 😘
I really needed to hear this 🙏🏾
I love you cause you are well informed!
You so true Monaco...love you from Ivory Coast 🇨🇮
This video really helped me but damn I was in a toxic relationship I didn't know how to escape I felt stuck on her trying to give her the benefit of the doubt we all human we all make mistakes but it is what it is
Stay single my friend , a divorced man here , after being married for over 20 yrs , there is nothing like being single 👍
Hey Melli, You're killing it with these videos! Keep up the good work.
Your advice is priceless!!
You spot on with these. Great video!
Melli You Literally Descibed All My Exes-TOXIC WASTE💯 I Love You Lady Your Content Is Amazing!🙌🏾
I like this hair style ❤️🔥💯❤️🔥
Oh My Goodness Melli I LOVE YOU SO MUCH!!! Please don't take your Beautiful ass offa YTube helping dudes know how to deal with females the correct way, and brightening my day cause I can see and hear an honest woman whos great to look at but more importantly is only spitting the realist shit. So Beautiful and Refreshing
Every video that I watch from you, you project this awesome energy that makes me want to be a young rebel again, you must be fun & corky as f***k! Cheers!
the guilt tripping is really easy for me to spot now. I just laugh and literally ask, "are you trying to guilt trip me?" It's fun. Usually they've never been called out on it so they start squirming.
Love your Work. Keep up the Awesome work Queen
You are a natural. Way to go, lovaaa
Wow wish all woman would be like you straight up no games or drama just real you are one hot cool chick thanks for keeping it honest
Respect to you for keeping it real. Confirmation tht I needed. I appreciate you. Notice how there are very few comments from women. 🤐
Hehe...most of the women probably hate her for revealing tips... and she's doing this easily because she's not born in the US and a product of the feminist movement...
Thank you so much luv 🖤 keep doing what your doing bless
You finally cleared your cat fax he loved you he was and never will forget that
Avoided 2 narcs recently. Thanks. God is good. "he is never happy" this sums it up. Only when you are broken is he happy. vice versa, yet they smile inside you cannot see it. mmm beware of the best sex. It blinds. Especially the good bodies. Take your time, a man once told me, if she cannot wait 3 years, keep it moving. I do not agree with him, but I understood his point, do not rush to marry.
Sometimes I wonder where the line is drawn, I know these parents of mine are toxic, but who can I trust anymore? I trust God...
You are 100% correct. I got sucked in.... NEVER again
I'm feeling The Pineapple Show. Hilarious and a lot fun!
You are so right it's crazy
Thanks so much! FU’d when you just trying so show everyone respect as a human being. Sounds naive! I way I try to live life.👍🏾
thank u bruh cuz this has been happening to me. knew I wasn't crazy haha
Your hair looks perfect ❤
This girl is beyond gorgeous
love your vids & personality! Tnx so much for making them & sharing! Keep going!
HAIR LOOKS GREAT
@mellimonaco actually you look good and you are doing great with the channel. This video was spot on. So many people are in love with narcissists and get their energy drained constantly. Also can you get off your butt and walk around sometimes. We want to see more of you. Peace. Love you.
Watch the video of her showing her tattoos and you'll see a lot of her...
Dam Mel the hair down looks so dam good!!!!!! Woooooow❤❤
It's not, "I didn't do anything i just hang out." it's,we just hanged out, or you Can also say you didn't do anything you just hung out Or we were just hanging out. A little bit more slang right there sweetheart... Keep the videos coming. It's helping me cope with, a what seems to be a divorce 5 years marriage with 2 kids it's helped me cope . We've been separated for 8 months now she has not filed but she's everything and then some of what you talk about manipulation and narcissist in a woman thank you God-bless
Hearing you describe guilt tripping alone made me almost puke a tiny amount in my mouth. It was wonderful. You’ve got a way with words. Alright I’ll stop my Eddie Haskell interpretation
Love the hair. Never seen it like this. Guess I've just been watching newer videos.
Ma'am, Monaco you and I love your hair style!
Excellente vidéo, Melli. Keep up the good work. ;-)
Hmm melli is providing wisdom and Beauty 🧡