As a high school teacher, I really enjoyed hearing you articulate a strategy I already use with students by becoming irresistible in order to gain their compliance. I was unaware why my strategy worked until hearing your explanation. You are a gifted communicator, and I’m looking forward to learning more from your expertise!
Hey Andy, you have just given me the best tinder advice ever. With this message I and others want to thank you for you effort putting this video together. I wish you a lot of views and subscribers.
Andrew ive listened to thousands of hours of self help stuff and what you mention about coming at people with a simple and easy personality, rather than a complex one, has been a lifelong struggle for me and its really a profound thought that I needed to hear
I find that coming at people with authenticity matters more than simplicity. Not everyone is going to like you, but the right ones will. We should be more concerned with Do I Like Them?
@@perpetualplatypussy69 I'd like to say that's a possibility but that's the thing I do most often which in turn actually scares people or makes me peculiar. I think the point Andrew is bringing is that you should facilitate others authenticity and put your own aside
Haha. I own a construction company and i get a lot of nonsense messages from people trying to sell something. Every once in a while i get an intriguing message and call them back. Intriguing to me means that it could add value to my life.
As a man who prides himself as an intellectual, my mind is ever focused on complexities. This was a much needed insight that simplicity is more attractive than intrigue
I decided to try to join the navy a few days ago, and yesterday YT started recommending me your videos. I don't know if there's a correlation, but I feel like your videos are really helping me prepare for this new chapter.
All apologies, I am remiss here, therefore: "Congratulations and kudos on your brave new adventure! May you be blessed and protected alway. May you live long and prosper well, valiant new protector of life and Liberty"! :-)
I despise responding to crypic messages. it seems so narcissistic to me that people think you'll give a shit if they are not clear and concise about what they want. Then again I am an ENTP. Great video!
Amazing video! I am going to start out asking " Would you like ______ for dinner? Instead of asking "What would you like to eat?" I already know it's going to make my life easier. Now that I've had this lesson, I'm going to apply this to almost everything I can and see where it gets me!
Another mind blowing lesson. Lol I was afraid you were going to read one of my messages out loud, but actually you were really cool and responded. One of my messages was probably a mix of cryptic and clear language.
Love you, man! All the information you share is amazing! You change lives! Mine is already changed thanks to you and your channel/podcasts/EverydaySpy. THANK YOU!!!! You'll read it here and there probably thousand times from me, but I can't help it. So much, so concise, so useful, so understandable, absolutely practical and possible to be applied "here and now" - I've never seen/read/heard anything similar before.
I first saw you on Lex Friedman several months ago. I thought you were both fascinating. I’m so happy I found your channel. Thanks for all this knowledge. Old lady in Louisiana.
Andy,I'm humbled from your honest approach to helping others and the honor & loyalty to your family by putting them first is a perfect example of being a confident Man of God Almighty,
Man of God...A.U.M Harmony >continued, just wanted to say to all Field Agents who painstakingly gives above & beyond to make U.S Marines look like Superstars ,when in reality You guys are the True Heroes .God Bless & Semper Fidelis:Rooster P.Kock 🐓
Andrew teaching people how to human. 💪 A lot of the examples he'd given that he doesn't reply to comes from ego and a lack of vulnerability. And that's an issue we've been facing but good news is that the pendulum is swinging the other way with more men being conscious in how they show up and then actually doing something about it. We have to nurse ourselves and then the wounded females of today.
Thank you for this video! I never cared about school or college bc I’m really poor and wanted to be a welder or something. But my ankles and back keep me from having a job where I can live and support myself with. I recently found my gift and it involves speaking to corporate to show them my skills. Using the information in this video should help my success rate so much! Thanks man! Bless you! 🙌🏾🙏🏾
No kidding! I often experience frustration when someone starts a conversation that feels like a slow walk to asking for a favor, using 3 or 4 teaser questions before they make their real point.
This made me think of the difference between an introvert and an extrovert. You seemed to have fallen into an explanation of why people would be willing to talk to an extrovert because they ask or suggest simple ideas. An introvert overthinks or thinks deep on some level so their ideas, suggestions, and/or expectations might demand more mental energy from others so they may get some negative feedback when they do come out of their shell. As an introvert, I do find it hard to keep it simple. But it is good to understand the why. Great video, thank you. At least I know how to become more appealing, but I will need alot of practice 😂
Oh, man! I am crazily extroverted. I always have clear ideas and questions, backed by good simple logic, but when I start talking or writing..... suddenly thousand other things come to interfere :D Not only introverts need more efforts to make a question clear and concise ;)
Hi Andrew. That was a great discussion. I am noticing the parallels between your insights and Bishop's Framework for communicating under stress to prevent misunderstandings. In this framework one structures responses to provide as clear, concise and low-processing overhead as possible in accordance with a basic structure: Greeting - observation - concern - proposal -request for buy-in. So something like (taking an aviation example): Hey George, I am seeing a fuel imbalance. I am concerned maybe we have a fuel leak. I would like to brief diverting in case this worsens. Is that all right with you? Does that closely play into what you are suggesting here?
Hi Andrew, I learned a lot from your interviews. Could you please explain with an example like how to simply be irresistible in your social life ? If you can give examples between being simple and complex ? Thanks in advance
You mention something about flirting being it’s own breakdown and social scenario. Would you ever do a video on it? It would be interesting to get your perspective/tips on how to be irresistible in that scenario
Your examples are hilarious Andy! Every time I see texts or emails like those, I will now hear your voice saying, "Your brain is repulsed."...yep! Lol!
You are a master teacher. Your lessons are crystal, structured, and straight to the point. I find myself being able to become a sponge and soak in the ‘knowledge ‘ from your ‘information’ . Outstanding work!
Love your insights and your visits to other's podcasts. Enjoy watching how you relate to each person. Wish these were videos. Pam-67 year old spy wannabe be😊
I this might be the ONE Ive always wished for. Is for people to be direct with me.... Talk directly to me...instead of through a wire or an air way... Humanity in me starves for it will starve for it. It's a rare form if you think about it, directly.
no doubt, bustamonte is a sharp, intelligent person. no doubt. granted kudos for graduating from USAFA. few years with the agency and he treats the former, and he is permitted i assume, like it was an MBA pre program. i worked for DoS in the middle east for years. the agency CI and others i knew. mostly older than bustamonte, retired living in a foreign nation. safe, secure. one teaches at a US college online and his cover is he was a retired HS principle. from what i know, they would put a bullet in their head in their aunt's kitchen before they would... talk and yapp like a lot of these guys do on: vetting, NS, training, selection and trade craft. then again, they did both 25+ yrs career. the agency was not just "a" career stepping stone to making big money with their own company. this is much different.
Ok I can understand that messages need to get straight to the point especially for busy people On the subject of irresistible..any chance on a topic on Sexpionage or loverboy method used in spywarefare
Love your podcasts you have been really interesting I have heard you say things that I have said myself! Rly cool to connect that way. I appreciate your knowledge and what you share would love to take a course with you. I also second the adding video to podcast point! Love the siblings Analogy I was like your son growing up and than became like your daughter more but my step dad even says what u have that “the core person doesn’t change”
Just want to say that YOU ARE AWESOME Andrew and I'm new to you but already learning so much about what I've been not doing right and need to tweak based on your advice! You ROCK DUDE! BikerBonnie from Llano, TX. (Which has the BEST BBQ in the WORLD!) 👍🏼😎
Andy, do they teach you any of the techniques that they do in the gateway tapes? Or is that kind of a special section doing its own thing? A lot of it seems like it could be very, very very very useful to anybody for any day considering it shows you how to get into deeper focus and deeper rest.
Andrew hopefully I relay this message correctly. I have a hard time relating to people on any platform. How would I take your class. I'm missing out on life due to this.
You're a very inspiring human and have been confirming all manner of things that I had already boiled down and known about/had suspisions of since I was a toddler. You are educating, inspiring and a well-articulate scholar. Thank you for all your work!
So I watched a clip where you were trying to explain the Meyers Briggs and you went from EI... NS... then FP? Instead of FT then PJ... I am ENFP so I assume you made the mistake because perhaps you are that as well. And then the clip ended with that mistake and I was a bit disappointed. I don't know if you fixed the mistake later but I was hoping to more send me a link? I'm having trouble finding more on UA-cam. Or a link on your site for more on your take and how you use it.
Those shady DM’s are sales and marketing tactics that will work only on the uninspired and clueless targets…. Unimaginative, salesy, click-baity, and tabloidy. You get my drift.
I think if you watch this yourself and examine yourself with further introspection, you will come to the conclusion that you're not responding to "the directness and simplicity of the message", you are responding to the "suck up", the inflation of ego. It's okay, that just makes you human. Maybe this is a Eureka moment? I don't know. That is for you to decide.
just fell down a AB podcast wormhole.... but I'm more than a little disappointed that there's no AB & mike glover podcasts.... both guys are top tier communicators
Bro, this is hilarious. I run a business and I get shit like this all the time and I’m annoyed because I don’t like to waste time. I be getting the “Hey bro can we talk?” “Yo hit me back ASAP?” DMs
Just another great piece of wisdom, nothing special...until you actually try to apply it! Turns out really doing these things are harder than simply hearing them. The only thing more impressive than most of this content is that so few people have noticed yet.
As a high school teacher, I really enjoyed hearing you articulate a strategy I already use with students by becoming irresistible in order to gain their compliance. I was unaware why my strategy worked until hearing your explanation. You are a gifted communicator, and I’m looking forward to learning more from your expertise!
That was such a high school teacher response and genuine gratitude😂❤ 🙏🏽
Any correlation on why female teachers keep getting caught with their underaged students.🤔
Women aren’t ready for that conversation.
Clear
Concise
Compelling
Love how there's no fluff nonsense in between good, concrete points.
Clear simple message
Be very specific so ppl take immediate action
Propose simple specific questions
Deep diving the content cause I’ve really been digging your 2023 stuff!
Excited to share the stage with you in the future!
I really look foward to your sharing Andrew.Discovering you has been life changing .Suddenly I am so full of energy and drive
Hey Andy, you have just given me the best tinder advice ever. With this message I and others want to thank you for you effort putting this video together. I wish you a lot of views and subscribers.
Andrew ive listened to thousands of hours of self help stuff and what you mention about coming at people with a simple and easy personality, rather than a complex one, has been a lifelong struggle for me and its really a profound thought that I needed to hear
I find that coming at people with authenticity matters more than simplicity. Not everyone is going to like you, but the right ones will. We should be more concerned with Do I Like Them?
@@perpetualplatypussy69 I'd like to say that's a possibility but that's the thing I do most often which in turn actually scares people or makes me peculiar. I think the point Andrew is bringing is that you should facilitate others authenticity and put your own aside
Haha. I own a construction company and i get a lot of nonsense messages from people trying to sell something. Every once in a while i get an intriguing message and call them back. Intriguing to me means that it could add value to my life.
As a man who prides himself as an intellectual, my mind is ever focused on complexities. This was a much needed insight that simplicity is more attractive than intrigue
This same subject, you spoke about, has been over dramatized by many people. I love your manner of teaching, wise, precise and brief.
I decided to try to join the navy a few days ago, and yesterday YT started recommending me your videos. I don't know if there's a correlation, but I feel like your videos are really helping me prepare for this new chapter.
Why the Navy? Do you support wars/invasions?
What made you decide with Navy?
Same with me
Look for synchronicity in life always the understanding of synchronicity see Carl Jung please!
All apologies, I am remiss here, therefore: "Congratulations and kudos on your brave new adventure! May you be blessed and protected alway. May you live long and prosper well, valiant new protector of life and Liberty"! :-)
I always worried that I'm being TOO straight to the point ( but not enough to change)
It's great to know that at least some people appreciate it!
Great examples.. thanks Andrew
I despise responding to crypic messages. it seems so narcissistic to me that people think you'll give a shit if they are not clear and concise about what they want. Then again I am an ENTP. Great video!
Your a very good communicator who is extremely knowledgeable. I enjoy listening to you. Thank you.
Salute to you Andrew. 😎
Amazing video! I am going to start out asking " Would you like ______ for dinner? Instead of asking "What would you like to eat?" I already know it's going to make my life easier. Now that I've had this lesson, I'm going to apply this to almost everything I can and see where it gets me!
Another mind blowing lesson. Lol I was afraid you were going to read one of my messages out loud, but actually you were really cool and responded. One of my messages was probably a mix of cryptic and clear language.
Love you, man! All the information you share is amazing! You change lives! Mine is already changed thanks to you and your channel/podcasts/EverydaySpy. THANK YOU!!!! You'll read it here and there probably thousand times from me, but I can't help it. So much, so concise, so useful, so understandable, absolutely practical and possible to be applied "here and now" - I've never seen/read/heard anything similar before.
Nothing like clarity
this guy out here casually putting out free game 💯
I first saw you on Lex Friedman several months ago. I thought you were both fascinating. I’m so happy I found your channel. Thanks for all this knowledge. Old lady in Louisiana.
This is my first time visiting your channel. About 7.5 minutes in, I exclaimed, "this guy's good!" and subscribed.
Sure makes reaching out to prospects much simpler, thank you
Your the first famous person or influencer I actually wish I could meet, thank u
The man is amazing...a true educator...
You’re a ‘Solid’ guy, Drew. A Good Friend of Ours, Forreal. Practical Knowledge is VITAL to Transcendence so THX.
8:02 this is already an amazing podcast and it all clicked
Andy,I'm humbled from your honest approach to helping others and the honor & loyalty to your family by putting them first is a perfect example of being a confident Man of God Almighty,
Man of God...A.U.M Harmony >continued, just wanted to say to all Field Agents who painstakingly gives above & beyond to make U.S Marines look like Superstars ,when in reality You guys are the True Heroes .God Bless & Semper Fidelis:Rooster P.Kock 🐓
Andrew teaching people how to human. 💪
A lot of the examples he'd given that he doesn't reply to comes from ego and a lack of vulnerability. And that's an issue we've been facing but good news is that the pendulum is swinging the other way with more men being conscious in how they show up and then actually doing something about it. We have to nurse ourselves and then the wounded females of today.
Lets build our men up 💪🏼💯
Thank you for this video! I never cared about school or college bc I’m really poor and wanted to be a welder or something. But my ankles and back keep me from having a job where I can live and support myself with.
I recently found my gift and it involves speaking to corporate to show them my skills. Using the information in this video should help my success rate so much! Thanks man! Bless you! 🙌🏾🙏🏾
Yet another lesson learned. Thank you Andy.
Excellent, excellent, excellent speaker and teacher!
Andrew, thank you so much for sharing these awesome pearls of wisdom and advice. I look forward to each video you release!
Great Content! I listen to it twice to make sure I understood every point. Thank you
Fabulous timestamps!! ❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you! This information is very helpful.
Knowledge is not freedom it’s the application of knowledge that sets u free
Thank you, this is fantastic advice. I never considered first interactions from this perspective. Thanks again!
Hi Andie this couldnt come at a right time, amazing works bro, we are greatly learning on the the amazing insights to optimizing our potential
Good advice. Thanks. Great commentary.
Great episode! Keep it simple!!
clear and simple
I'm gonna try these Jedi mind lessons on my thesis presentation 🤝
No kidding! I often experience frustration when someone starts a conversation that feels like a slow walk to asking for a favor, using 3 or 4 teaser questions before they make their real point.
These are so badass thank you sir. Im always trying to listen to the knowledge u give out
This made me think of the difference between an introvert and an extrovert. You seemed to have fallen into an explanation of why people would be willing to talk to an extrovert because they ask or suggest simple ideas. An introvert overthinks or thinks deep on some level so their ideas, suggestions, and/or expectations might demand more mental energy from others so they may get some negative feedback when they do come out of their shell. As an introvert, I do find it hard to keep it simple. But it is good to understand the why. Great video, thank you. At least I know how to become more appealing, but I will need alot of practice 😂
Being either is fine...it's a matter of timing :-)...I rather appreciate your message 😊
Oh, man! I am crazily extroverted. I always have clear ideas and questions, backed by good simple logic, but when I start talking or writing..... suddenly thousand other things come to interfere :D Not only introverts need more efforts to make a question clear and concise ;)
Great actionable and practical guidance for everyday communication. Thank you!
This was a great listen. Thank you
Wow, information age started. Andrew Bustamante you bring value. Thank you very much)
18:19 - “No need to respond if you’re too busy.”
Way to clearly tackle a tricky topic!
Hi Andrew. That was a great discussion.
I am noticing the parallels between your insights and Bishop's Framework for communicating under stress to prevent misunderstandings.
In this framework one structures responses to provide as clear, concise and low-processing overhead as possible in accordance with a basic structure:
Greeting - observation - concern - proposal -request for buy-in.
So something like (taking an aviation example):
Hey George,
I am seeing a fuel imbalance. I am concerned maybe we have a fuel leak.
I would like to brief diverting in case this worsens.
Is that all right with you?
Does that closely play into what you are suggesting here?
Thank you
Hi Andrew, I learned a lot from your interviews. Could you please explain with an example like how to simply be irresistible in your social life ? If you can give examples between being simple and complex ? Thanks in advance
If you're looking for dating advice, you're better off watching videos of Craig Ferguson, Kezia Noble, and Strong Successful Male.
Golden information. Thanks for sharing!
Thank you for your service to our country, I love these masterclasses aswell,thanks again.
So amazing !! You are always like the magnet to a piece of iron. Lots of love from Nepal.
Yeah, right...
Yup. That's why if someone doesn't set a date or time for a meetup or at the LEAST a date and a time frame then i dont take them seriously at all!
I love your podcasts. You're a great speaker and your business acumen is impeccable
I needed to hear this. Thanks Andrew!
You mention something about flirting being it’s own breakdown and social scenario. Would you ever do a video on it? It would be interesting to get your perspective/tips on how to be irresistible in that scenario
Your examples are hilarious Andy! Every time I see texts or emails like those, I will now hear your voice saying, "Your brain is repulsed."...yep! Lol!
You are a master teacher. Your lessons are crystal, structured, and straight to the point. I find myself being able to become a sponge and soak in the ‘knowledge ‘ from your ‘information’ . Outstanding work!
Love your insights and your visits to other's podcasts. Enjoy watching how you relate to each person. Wish these were videos.
Pam-67 year old spy wannabe be😊
I this might be the ONE Ive always wished for. Is for people to be direct with me.... Talk directly to me...instead of through a wire or an air way... Humanity in me starves for it will starve for it. It's a rare form if you think about it, directly.
0:14 FREEDOM!! 🧠💾
no doubt, bustamonte is a sharp, intelligent person. no doubt. granted kudos for graduating from USAFA.
few years with the agency and he treats the former, and he is permitted i assume, like it was an MBA pre program.
i worked for DoS in the middle east for years. the agency CI and others i knew. mostly older than bustamonte, retired living in a foreign nation. safe, secure. one teaches at a US college online and his cover is he was a retired HS principle.
from what i know, they would put a bullet in their head in their aunt's kitchen before they would...
talk and yapp like a lot of these guys do on: vetting, NS, training, selection and trade craft. then again, they did both 25+ yrs career.
the agency was not just "a" career stepping stone to making big money with their own company.
this is much different.
More amazing content from the everydayspy
I have been absorbing Andrew’s content the last week, and he blows my mind with the way he thinks!
U R Awesome. Thank you. 🥂
I appreciate you sir
Ok I can understand that messages need to get straight to the point especially for busy people
On the subject of irresistible..any chance on a topic on Sexpionage or loverboy method used in spywarefare
your a legend, appreciate you.
What microphone do you use?
Love the channel! Appreciate ya Andrew. 🫡
Love your podcasts you have been really interesting I have heard you say things that I have said myself! Rly cool to connect that way. I appreciate your knowledge and what you share would love to take a course with you.
I also second the adding video to podcast point!
Love the siblings Analogy I was like your son growing up and than became like your daughter more but my step dad even says what u have that “the core person doesn’t change”
Just want to say that YOU ARE AWESOME Andrew and I'm new to you but already learning so much about what I've been not doing right and need to tweak based on your advice! You ROCK DUDE! BikerBonnie from Llano, TX. (Which has the BEST BBQ in the WORLD!) 👍🏼😎
Thank you so much Andy 🤗💪
Thanks Andrew from another Andrew
Andy, do they teach you any of the techniques that they do in the gateway tapes? Or is that kind of a special section doing its own thing? A lot of it seems like it could be very, very very very useful to anybody for any day considering it shows you how to get into deeper focus and deeper rest.
I wonder if this could put me ahead
Andrew hopefully I relay this message correctly. I have a hard time relating to people on any platform. How would I take your class. I'm missing out on life due to this.
brother got a sick intro tune tho 😎
You points are effectively and briefly made. Thanks, clear, brief and simple are the trifecta of effective communications.
You're a very inspiring human and have been confirming all manner of things that I had already boiled down and known about/had suspisions of since I was a toddler. You are educating, inspiring and a well-articulate scholar. Thank you for all your work!
Using the podcast request as a template!
So I watched a clip where you were trying to explain the Meyers Briggs and you went from EI... NS... then FP?
Instead of FT then PJ...
I am ENFP so I assume you made the mistake because perhaps you are that as well. And then the clip ended with that mistake and I was a bit disappointed. I don't know if you fixed the mistake later but I was hoping to more send me a link? I'm having trouble finding more on UA-cam. Or a link on your site for more on your take and how you use it.
Dude you're awesome
My only complain is that he didn't give any examples of flirting messages over social media:-)
Those shady DM’s are sales and marketing tactics that will work only on the uninspired and clueless targets…. Unimaginative, salesy, click-baity, and tabloidy. You get my drift.
This is your subject. You're definitely irresistible.
I think if you watch this yourself and examine yourself with further introspection, you will come to the conclusion that you're not responding to "the directness and simplicity of the message", you are responding to the "suck up", the inflation of ego. It's okay, that just makes you human. Maybe this is a Eureka moment? I don't know. That is for you to decide.
just fell down a AB podcast wormhole.... but I'm more than a little disappointed that there's no AB & mike glover podcasts.... both guys are top tier communicators
What’s the song in the intro?
Interesting. Being desirable must be exhausting. I would prefer to be non existent but it makes it hard to pay bills.
Video would go a long way!
Bro, this is hilarious. I run a business and I get shit like this all the time and I’m annoyed because I don’t like to waste time. I be getting the “Hey bro can we talk?” “Yo hit me back ASAP?” DMs
Just another great piece of wisdom, nothing special...until you actually try to apply it! Turns out really doing these things are harder than simply hearing them. The only thing more impressive than most of this content is that so few people have noticed yet.