As someone who lived and worked in Japan for 4 years, this is all true 😂 Got many LINE IDs but you get left on read if she’s not interested. Also if a Japanese girl likes you, expect her to say she LOVES you. They don’t have the same concept of gradual progression of attraction like in US/Canada. Both of the girls I dated in Japan confessed to me that they loved me after the first date. It surprised me but I liked it. Also you know you’re dating a Japanese woman when: She brings you many gifts like Japanese snacks and candies, especially to bring to your family Also may cook things like Yakisoba for you. She can be very possessive. They don’t like “playboys” (and foreign guys have that stereotype) In public, Japanese people are not very touchy but in private, you are very close/have a lot of skin-ship. Don’t expect a lot of PDA, although the two I dated were exceptions. If she loves you, she is VERY loyal. She will be impressed if you like Japanese food and she might want to see your reaction to trying natto (なっと)🤮
@@30803080308030803081 Same thing is going on in China and South Korea. It's just normal. I'm pretty sure the women still don't like it, but a man won't look down on you for doing it. That's at least my impression.
Actually I think it's because so many of the Japanese men are incels who just don't have the courage to do anything that actually gives them a chance at ending up in a relationship with a woman. Video games also helps to distract them from trying since playing video games is way more comfortable. We have the same problems here in the west.
As a Japanese woman, this video is exactly why I do not get along with most Japanese women and ran away to a different society... if it seems crazy and demanding and guessing-game enough just from one video, but living among this every single day, and even as a woman among other Japanese women..... no thanks.
Honto ni? I'm Filipino and this is somewhat similar with the women in my culture, just taken a bit more conservative (which we already are in the first place!)
@@zeshan35 I don't agree at all. They are usually very cute, intelligent, polite. The thing is that it's not so easy getting intimate with them as with a western girl.
these girls are all the same: cold , no feelings , tatemae all the time , manipulative... Just date other girls from worlwide. if you're not agree please explain yourselves with positive arguments. please don't report me.
As a Westerner, the whole guessing game thing sounds like a huge hassle. Because for us that's being dishonest. For example, if he hadn't given her the scarf, he would have lost points with her, even though he DID show concern for her comfort by repeatedly asking about it. It's not his fault she literally lied, so that's not fair to him. I understand it's a cultural thing, it just might be hard for Western guys to adjust.
I lived there 4 years, dated Japanese women...you're right, it's not easy, and can genuinely be WEIRD....as just one example, similar to yours, I was out once there on a double date, we all bought crepes at a crepe stand, except my date didnt want one...fine....I bought one, offered her some, she didnt want any...fine.....the next day I called her friend to ask how it went (as that was our first date)...could I see her friend again etc etc...she said her friend didnt want to see me again because I bought a crepe and she didnt like crepes! Seriously :) I just laughed out loud, man, it was just like a seinfeld episode!!
Little Lulubee To a WESTERNER, she lied. To a JAPANESE, she was trying to not be too demanding. To a JAPANESE, the man was supposed to pre-anticipate her need. I am NOT kidding. This is part of the Japanese culture, to think in advance of the needs of the people around you.
It's not about honesty for the Japanese. It's about not seeming too demanding and not causing offense and not drawing too much attention to yourself. They learn from birth to anticipate what other people want from very small gestures and very small changes in expression. So small, so subtle, the average westerner misses them until lots of repetitive experience is gained. They see this as a way of taking care of each other's needs. It's just the way they are. Westerners will need to learn to deal with this to be successful. Otherwise, better off going after a woman from some other ethnicity.
Marina you and Yui NAILED this! I say this from experience: Western men have to become mind readers, learning to watch very small, subtle, indirect signals from Japanese women in order to win them over. In my experience they literally want you to guess accurately what they are thinking or feeling. Which is very VERY difficult since Japanese are not only trained to be polite, they are also trained to not show very much emotion around people they don't know well...particularly ANY kind of negative emotion, and especially in public. Additionally, that point about making a first date a "group date" where several friends go do something together...is often a way for a Japanese woman to feel more comfortable evaluating the foreign man. Japanese people place a lot of importance on doing things as a bonded group of people. The best way for a foreign guy to get an opening into a Japanese woman's heart is for him to build warm relationships with her "group". Whatever group. Friends. Co-workers. Family. etc., etc., etc. Also, it takes Japanese people much, much longer to fully evaluate a person and decide if they want to slowly inch toward a one-on-one relationship. Reason: Japanese people are trained from birth to be extremely meticulous, extremely careful, and to take everything into account before making a decision about certain things. Finally: That part about asking her dad (and mom) for permission to date his daughter with the goal of MARRIAGE...Marina and Yui aren't kidding. One will literally have to ask her father for her hand. OH...one last thing. Sometimes the eldest son (the girls older brother) will need to be asked permission, too. And you will NEED to get nice gifts, properly wrapped, for the Dad and the brother, of EQUAL value...better yet, the VERY SAME ITEM. Giving the dad something better than the brother...will totally insult the brother. GREAT JOB on this video! Very VERY accurate.
As a person who has lived in Japan, I think people are taking this "guessing game" the wrong way. Japanese people tend to avoid direct statements, especially with rejection or negative answers. To circumvent this, they try to drop hints so you can get their meaning. They also do this to help you save face since a rejection could look bad for the person who was rejected. For example: A Japanese person may say something like "You must be tired after this long day" to insinuate you should go to bed. I also want to mention that they don't do this to play games like many women do in the west. The intent for these "Guessing games" is to help you save face and not be rude. It can be difficult to tell sometimes but I assure you, it is done with good intentions.
Dominant guys = what Japanese women love. We (like 90% of us) are submissive so a lot of girls love dominant guys... and a lot of Japanese girls like foreigners so if you are a non-Japanese person living in Japan that’s like a bonus lmao
I must confess that, i have many funny stories with my japanese ex-girlfriend she is a great woman, I am from Honduras our cultural differences, made our relationship something unique! although i like my life as a bachelor, it's hard for me to stop thinking about it, but I'll always wish her the best, this video is so accurate but they can say no! hahah thanks!
I have been with a Japanese woman before and honestly the best way to approach them is simply being polite, considerate and have the ability to read air (atmosphere, mood, setting). Polite can be small things like returning the question she asked you. Keep the conversation open ended and listen intently what she is saying and make a conversation out of it. Considerate can be little things too like opening the door for her, walking on the car side of the sidewalk, pulling her chair out. Want to take it further? Offer her some of your food if you're out to lunch or dinner. That is a huge bonus. Reading air is important too because it ties to being considerate. She isn't talkative today? Ask what's wrong. She seems tense, worried, etc. Tell her that you're there to listen and if need be, give help. Guys, I have to say Japanese women (and any women) just want to be treated with kindness and respect. Bonus tip: Keep your talents a secret and surprise her about them. For example, good at cooking? Suggest that you will cook lunch instead of eating out. Good at sports? Suggest doing an activity that shows off your skills. Play an instrument? Show her.
I dated a wonderful Japanese woman. She explained the concept of "aimai" which sort of translates to "ambiguity." She said, "Yes, we like that." It's not dishonesty. It's polite to be indirect. Another Japanese friend explained that the culture considers it refined to be able to discern what another is meaning by their actions or words. But my girlfriend also explained that with other nihonjin, she often doesn't really know what is going on in a conversation in terms of the person's intention. Complicated.
I think thewasiest way to understand this concept is to recall what happens when the potential employers says "we will call you later" after the interview :D Quite often it's polite, it's inderect.... re-fu-sal :D Seems like the Japanese people simply employ this strategy in a wider range of aspects of life.
I think when 2 strangers dates together, they have to adapt to each other culture. But I guess it depends in what country you date. Dating a Japanese woman in Japan means adapt to the Japanese codes. But dating a Japanese woman outside will be pretty different: she will have to adapt to the country's code where she is otherwise her dating life will be pretty tough.
Me too. Being at a genetical size disadvantage, muscle tone disadvantage and also having to play guessing games with the opposite sex would be insufferable. No wonder the suicide rate is significantly higher there and the amount of incel otacons is through the roof.
This is pretty much true since I do live in Japan. But of course different places in Japan vary. For example, in Okinawa because it’s very U.S. Military populated, the women really think differently. Like almost opposite from mainland. They tend to think more westernized and because A LOT of military men go after them, they actually have to be a bit more aggressive then most Japanese women.
From a JAPANESE GUY: just be yourselves. If you have to follow someone else's cultural customs then it's inevitably going to end because it will just get old- just like her.
This is so true!! I’m currently talking to a Japanese woman now where I can truly be myself. No interests whereby I have to fake to show her that I’m interested. Realising we had common interests while staying true to myself is a cherry on top.
The guessing where she wants to eat is pretty universal. My GF doesn't know where she wants to eat, she only knows where she doesn't want to eat. So it just ends with me suggesting places until she agrees to one of them.
The thing that I keep seeing over and over again in countless dating videos and no matter how I try not to is this. Every other culture besides America and especially Los Angeles has some sort of quality that allows progress and potential in dating, even when there is not.
As someone who has dated women I can say that regardless of her Nationality there is a lot of body language. If a woman wants you around or she wants you gone you should pick up on that quick.
Merry Xmas to the Dating Beyond Borders team/family. lmao...I like this comedy video concept. Kinda reminded me of Smoking gun presents... in a way. The Japanese culture is definitely a unique one. I can tell from this video relationships may not be so common like those in the western culture but are definitely more serious involving commitments from both parties. I just hope communication isn't a problem with Japanese ladies constantly expecting their men to guess what they want or need.
I always thought I would really like japanese women but when I see these mind games and opposite signals, I really, really do not. Women who don't make up their mind and verbalize it, don't make their own decision, nor pull 50% of the weight are utterly undesirable. The only female I will lead and decide for is my underage daughter. Also, ghosting is the #1 most vile and disgusting habit of the modern world.
My wife is Korean. Totally different cultures: Koreans are super-direct. But one thing I see in common is that she wants me to plan everything and she wants to say "no." I spent most of my life among feminists...so I was always offering her options. Finally, one day, she said: "You are giving me a headache. I want you to choose and I get to say 'no.'"
I think all girls around the world are all the same, some are more confident than the others. Some Asian women prefer Asian men, and some prefer white (but Asian men like me for example like all women, as long as they're beautiful LOL), western women will prefer shutting you down when they're not interested, and Asian women will prefer giving you excuses to cancel dates. The more traditional Asian women will prefer Asian men because of their culture similarity. Don't overthink, some women will like you and some will not, you just have to find one you have a great chemistry with or two and more (if you're that kind of guy ;)).
Marina, thank you for the video and this is something new for me to learn on Japanese 🇯🇵 women if I were to ever date one. I do find the Japanese 🇯🇵 women very beautiful and I would love to visit the country of Japan 🇯🇵 if I ever get travel over there. Happy Holidays to you Marina and your family 🎅🏻🤶🏻🌲🕎. Looking beautiful in red as the song "Lady in red" came to my mind during the video 😂😍.
Thanks, John! I think Japanese culture is fascinating myself. There is a great show Love & Sex Around the World on Netflix and the first episode is about Japan. I recommend to watch it!
@@DatingBeyondBorders Good morning Marina! Thanks for the information and I'll look into finding the show Love & Sex Around the World. After I read the comment, I looked it up on IMDB.com and I saw that it has good ratings. It must be a good show! I actually never heard of it before. Do they show it on anything else besides Netflix? I ask only because I don't have Netflix
Yes, from experience, quite a few of these are true. The guesswork and lack of straightforwardness is somewhat exasperating at times. They can be very nice and show intentions clearly but it doesn’t necessarily mean they want a relationship. Japanese women are somewhat of a mystery and one very few can crack. Good luck.
Only one thing didn't reflect reality: The part where Yui-san was asking Fadi to keep stepping back, to keep backing up until she was comfortable with the personal body space. That would be far too assertive for the average Japanese woman to ask. In reality, SHE would be the one to keep backing away. Fadi is from a middle eastern heritage where much closer body contact is comfortable. What would really happen in reality is, Yui-san would keep backing away, Fadi would step forward to follow her, and that'd go on and on and on until Fadi realized Yui really wanted to avoid being that close. Or until Yui found some polite excuse to break off and get away.
If you’re American take into account that the women in Ireland are not your standard « Irish » women of America. Many people in Ireland die alone. Americans marry at 25 on average, Irish marry at 35 on average (with a big minority that never does).
My Misses is Filipina and does the same “It’s up to you.”. When you ask her where she would like to go for dinner. She cannot get her head around the Western concept of “ladies first”. She doesn’t understand that by asking her that question we are trying to be polite and be gentlemen. She sees it as careless, weak and not really showing consideration for her. So if it’s your first date ask them where they would like to go and when they say “It’s up to you.” Just say “I know a charming place with good food, let me take you there.
Man I do so many cold approaches that it's almost ingrained in me what Japanese women respond to and find attractive in a man. First of all is of course Confidence and taking the lead Second is do NOT come on too strong by walking upto her and saying Hey I saw you and I find you beautiful black blah blah.... Rarely if ever works out Try to be more subtle about it like walk upto her and comment on her bag,hair,dress,eyes, anything interesting you notice about her etc and just keep walking with her do NOT try to stop her. Try to get in as much Japanese as possible so she'll be a bit interested in you and starts to open up. At this point take the lead a lil aggressively make her laugh and once you feel comfortable ask her for 'Nomikai' (Drinking) fuck that coffee shit, it won't get you anywhere! Then take her to Karaoke and close the deal lol
Best comment so far. Couple of questions if you don't mind. Why not ask her come your place instead of Karoake? Is it too much for her? Also you aim for action first date or too fast? Cheers mate!
My wife is Japanese. My pick up line was telling her “you know I could whistle in Japanese… ” I made a “bomb dropping” type whistle … she loved it 😍 lol
I know everyone is different but my experience trying to date or just to be accepted by various Japanese women has been a financial and an emotional nightmare. After 4 years I have had enough. I'm from the U.S. and I have constantly been strung along for attention while these girls have openly told me that my brother is the handsome one while I was asked to buy these girls concert tickets. Concerts that I wasn't invited to!. So good luck out there, I hope your experience is a positive one!
@NonyaBusiness! Thank you for your reply. I'm decent looking guy and I'm in shape. I'm 6'2 and that seemed to be something that she liked because she asked me how tall I was. I've been to Japan 9 times and I will be going again next month so I am financially stable..My brother is a former romance novel cover model and I have been 2nd place to him most of my adult life. So these girls in Japan were just a continuation of my situation with my brother. I don't speak much Japanese and I don't really have any game, so there is the obvious problem. I have stopped all contact with some of these girls and I hope to start over with a new group of friends..
@@Trace7173 Please don´t take the advice to not give a shit about women. I can´t stress how stupid that is. Be yourself and consistent to that. At a first glance some might be more attracted to your brother, but I assure you cool people have leverage in relationships. And please stay away from empty headed women. If that is the only kind of women you know, at least admit you´re the one digging your own grave. Be interesting and interested in getting to know people before assuming they own you anything (and don´t give away your money in the process, invest in yourself). xoxo
Trace Rollins Don't take that to your heart.You're not second place to your brother, you're number 1.You sound like a great guy. Any woman or person that makes you compete with you brother isn't worth it. Iwould have been flattered by all the efforts you made.
Wow! A very civilized conversation with a lot of useful advices. My 2 cents: You are tall, in shape and handsome (according to yourself), thats all good, but the most important thing for a man is CONFIDENCE and as NonyaBusiness already said, the best way to do it is to talk to a lot of women. If at the begining you feel intimidated, then talk to the ugly ones.
Bro why do you try to date Japanese women you should have enjoyed your trip in Japan instead with all the money you spent on a girl like that, she should be ashamed of being such a parasite.
Well, this is why I'll never ever date a Japanese woman, despite being a huge weeaboo who loves Japan. I don't want to guess. I want the girl to be honest and tell it like it is instead of playing mental games. The whole guessing game is just not for me.
@@GlacieraBr1de I mean, I watch anime, studied a little bit of Japanese, I love Japanese music, interested in Japanese history (from the Sengoku Jidai and before all the way to WW2), etc. Am I not a weeaboo?
OH MY GOD. you so nailed my exact experience. never rejected flat out. also i could tell by their eyes and reaction if they were interested or just being nice. am i wrong? the ones that were interested had smiles so big, i thought their face was going to break. and they were saying something to their girlfriends in a very excited way.
Dude.. that’s even tougher than dating an Indian girl. Guessing and predicting. It’s like a fine line between “Hey I am interested in you” vs “ Hey I am stalking you”. What if the girl file complaint of Harassment?
If you want to start a basis of romance with any girl, you HAVE to engage in touching. Not touching enough during the knowing phase will only get you in the friend zone and it will be that much harder to create attraction. But don't be a creep either.
To a brazilian guy like me, the personal space part would be a nightmare, we literally greet girls with kisses on the cheek (when it's casual.). My immediate response for the scarf situation would probably be to warm her hands with mine or give her a hug.
Spent a year and a half there way back in the day , it helps if you have friend from Japan to act as a wing man if not good luck with that p.s. learn some Japanese
As Japanese woman, I'm agree with it's hard to say no 😂 and saying I'm okay but actually it's not. I'm okay with body contact but I'm not used to lol and always feel sorry about that :(
Just for curiosity, a married man in Japan needs to work long hours to provide for the family?they don't spend the time with the family? or it's possible to have a balanced life beetween the job and take care of the wife and kids?
@@LucasHenrique-it2io It depends on job and person but most of man like that you said. They're working a long hours and after that they go to 居酒屋(it's a kind of bar) with colleague and back in mid night. My father is coming back to 6pm sometimes he has overtime work. so it depends tho!11 I've had a boyfriend who is English teacher in school and he doesn't have a holiday because in Saturday and Sunday, he needs to teach sports club team. and we can't meet often then break up. There's no time for private. The scared thing is almost of all of them think it's usual. so that's why Japan's birth rate is low. I surprised to know Australia because shop close early time and work end up on the time.
these girls are all the same: cold , no feelings , tatemae all the time , manipulative... Just date other girls from worlwide. if you're not agree please explain yourselves with positive arguments. please don't report me.
"heyyyyyy, how are yo-...."
"I have a boyfirend."
LOL
so the conclusion is girls are complicate no matter where is she from
Better get a dog. Or a cat. 😅
And I thought the language barrier was the only obstacle. とても大変ですね。
Bruh
No wonder low population rate
but some are more complicated than others, i think japanese are pretty much on top of the complicated pyramid
As someone who lived and worked in Japan for 4 years, this is all true 😂 Got many LINE IDs but you get left on read if she’s not interested. Also if a Japanese girl likes you, expect her to say she LOVES you. They don’t have the same concept of gradual progression of attraction like in US/Canada. Both of the girls I dated in Japan confessed to me that they loved me after the first date. It surprised me but I liked it.
Also you know you’re dating a Japanese woman when:
She brings you many gifts like Japanese snacks and candies, especially to bring to your family
Also may cook things like Yakisoba for you.
She can be very possessive. They don’t like “playboys” (and foreign guys have that stereotype)
In public, Japanese people are not very touchy but in private, you are very close/have a lot of skin-ship.
Don’t expect a lot of PDA, although the two I dated were exceptions.
If she loves you, she is VERY loyal.
She will be impressed if you like Japanese food and she might want to see your reaction to trying natto (なっと)🤮
I was told by Japanese men not to date Japanese women
@@spicysausage2853 Because they don't want you giving them even more competition, man...Go for it and send it!
I’ve heard they cheat a lot, though. Like, cheating is just normal in Japan.
@@30803080308030803081 Same thing is going on in China and South Korea. It's just normal. I'm pretty sure the women still don't like it, but a man won't look down on you for doing it. That's at least my impression.
Even Japanese friends will want you to try natto. I have never met a Japanese person who has tried to convince me to try natto.
Man: Wanna get married?
Japanese Woman: Uh, sure...
1 year anniversary: Is this a bad time to tell him I'm not interested???
Awwwh...
Rofl
that's actually pretty relevant when they are 35+! I shit you not, the phrase "I'll learn to love him" is surprisingly common
😂😂😂😂
This comment is SAVAGE! 😂
that’s probably the reason why Japan’s birth rate is so atrociously low
Actually I think it's because so many of the Japanese men are incels who just don't have the courage to do anything that actually gives them a chance at ending up in a relationship with a woman. Video games also helps to distract them from trying since playing video games is way more comfortable.
We have the same problems here in the west.
Actually its cause they work to much, Japan has a hyper capitalist culture which means everyone's working alk the time with not time in their hands.
All the above answers are true in their own ways, albeit quite generalized
As a Japanese woman, this video is exactly why I do not get along with most Japanese women and ran away to a different society... if it seems crazy and demanding and guessing-game enough just from one video, but living among this every single day, and even as a woman among other Japanese women..... no thanks.
Honto ni? I'm Filipino and this is somewhat similar with the women in my culture, just taken a bit more conservative (which we already are in the first place!)
You are the type of Japanese woman latin men would take candy and flowers to on the first date. Hy yuki i love electronics too.
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Yuki Tachibana I'm curious. To where did you move?
Yeah screw japan. Overrated weeb island.
I dated a Japanese girl for 6 years... she was fkn nuts.. she still is nuts
😂😂😂😂😂
The Tribal Funkster no I have an Asian fetish and I just put up with for bang 🤷🏻♂️
The Tribal Funkster the struggle continues
Same here. Dated a Japanese girl for 6 years..she has that "guessing culture" mentality. Made me a better psychologist than the rest.
man give me some tips...i have a crush with a Japanese girl and she seems to have a crush on me too
1. Be attractive
2. Have lots of money
3. Don't be unattractive.
And 4.don't be ugly
5. dont be an asshole
@@salahben3352 that's three
@@Sp1n1985 no shit sherlock
Kefka so, I've got 0/3. Your saying I've got a shot, right?
I'm a Japanese woman and this video is accurate! Please make a video, you know when you are dating a Japanese woman when...
Why do you girls like to say "Himitsu - 秘密"?
Worst women on earth
@@zeshan35 why? what reasons?
@@zeshan35 I don't agree at all. They are usually very cute, intelligent, polite. The thing is that it's not so easy getting intimate with them as with a western girl.
Tarcísiod'almeida jr May be you right
I’m a Japanese woman. I’ve never be like that. I am pretty straight forward. And try to be honest :)
It's great that the majority of Japanese woman aren't always like that.
Yayoi, I love that about you. Are you single? If so, I'd love to know you more and see where it leads.
these girls are all the same: cold , no feelings ,
tatemae all the time , manipulative... Just date other girls from worlwide. if you're
not agree please explain yourselves with positive arguments. please
don't report me.
Osakan?
As a Westerner, the whole guessing game thing sounds like a huge hassle. Because for us that's being dishonest. For example, if he hadn't given her the scarf, he would have lost points with her, even though he DID show concern for her comfort by repeatedly asking about it. It's not his fault she literally lied, so that's not fair to him. I understand it's a cultural thing, it just might be hard for Western guys to adjust.
@Brian Tabare Yeah but at least in a more western setting it might be at least considered to be a lie even though it's practiced there, too :)
I lived there 4 years, dated Japanese women...you're right, it's not easy, and can genuinely be WEIRD....as just one example, similar to yours, I was out once there on a double date, we all bought crepes at a crepe stand, except my date didnt want one...fine....I bought one, offered her some, she didnt want any...fine.....the next day I called her friend to ask how it went (as that was our first date)...could I see her friend again etc etc...she said her friend didnt want to see me again because I bought a crepe and she didnt like crepes! Seriously :) I just laughed out loud, man, it was just like a seinfeld episode!!
Fabian Patrizio That’s mad....
Little Lulubee
To a WESTERNER, she lied.
To a JAPANESE, she was trying to not be too demanding.
To a JAPANESE, the man was supposed to pre-anticipate her need.
I am NOT kidding. This is part of the Japanese culture, to think in advance of the needs of the people around you.
It's not about honesty for the Japanese. It's about not seeming too demanding and not causing offense and not drawing too much attention to yourself. They learn from birth to anticipate what other people want from very small gestures and very small changes in expression. So small, so subtle, the average westerner misses them until lots of repetitive experience is gained. They see this as a way of taking care of each other's needs. It's just the way they are. Westerners will need to learn to deal with this to be successful. Otherwise, better off going after a woman from some other ethnicity.
Marina you and Yui NAILED this!
I say this from experience: Western men have to become mind readers, learning to watch very small, subtle, indirect signals from Japanese women in order to win them over. In my experience they literally want you to guess accurately what they are thinking or feeling. Which is very VERY difficult since Japanese are not only trained to be polite, they are also trained to not show very much emotion around people they don't know well...particularly ANY kind of negative emotion, and especially in public. Additionally, that point about making a first date a "group date" where several friends go do something together...is often a way for a Japanese woman to feel more comfortable evaluating the foreign man. Japanese people place a lot of importance on doing things as a bonded group of people. The best way for a foreign guy to get an opening into a Japanese woman's heart is for him to build warm relationships with her "group". Whatever group. Friends. Co-workers. Family. etc., etc., etc. Also, it takes Japanese people much, much longer to fully evaluate a person and decide if they want to slowly inch toward a one-on-one relationship. Reason: Japanese people are trained from birth to be extremely meticulous, extremely careful, and to take everything into account before making a decision about certain things. Finally: That part about asking her dad (and mom) for permission to date his daughter with the goal of MARRIAGE...Marina and Yui aren't kidding. One will literally have to ask her father for her hand. OH...one last thing. Sometimes the eldest son (the girls older brother) will need to be asked permission, too. And you will NEED to get nice gifts, properly wrapped, for the Dad and the brother, of EQUAL value...better yet, the VERY SAME ITEM. Giving the dad something better than the brother...will totally insult the brother.
GREAT JOB on this video! Very VERY accurate.
Wow!!!! Thought the vid was over the top....
Very interesting - thanks for sharing😊
what. a doomed culture.
@@demetresgozkozes9589 I tried to read all of it but it kept going
Never ask a fish how to fish
never ask a fish how to catch a fish..
But a fish knows how to swim like a fish, and can talk like a fish, and eat other fish. Mmmmmm, yum, I like fish
Disagree. As a fisherman, you need to know what bait to put on the hook that the fish will go after.
@@r.andres7265 Can't ask them, they just do it.
@@jsb5188 fish is stank
Watching this makes me appreciate my German wife even more. No double talk, everything is always transparent, just the way I like it.
Please can you make a video on you know you are dating a Japanese woman when...
Yeah, they really need that.
When they scream excessively loud during inter course
@@azzlaird5541 For real lmao 😂
I think *"you know you are dating a Japanese woman when..."* is way, waaaay overdue now.
They should do one about dating Swedish women, too. They already did the other Nordic countries.
"The Julien Blanc approching" I DIED XD
That shit had me dying as wellllll.
Lolololololol!!!!!
Me too lol
😂😂😂
That's too much for me.
As a person who has lived in Japan, I think people are taking this "guessing game" the wrong way. Japanese people tend to avoid direct statements, especially with rejection or negative answers. To circumvent this, they try to drop hints so you can get their meaning. They also do this to help you save face since a rejection could look bad for the person who was rejected. For example: A Japanese person may say something like "You must be tired after this long day" to insinuate you should go to bed. I also want to mention that they don't do this to play games like many women do in the west. The intent for these "Guessing games" is to help you save face and not be rude. It can be difficult to tell sometimes but I assure you, it is done with good intentions.
Dominant guys = what Japanese women love. We (like 90% of us) are submissive so a lot of girls love dominant guys... and a lot of Japanese girls like foreigners so if you are a non-Japanese person living in Japan that’s like a bonus lmao
I must confess that, i have many funny stories with my japanese ex-girlfriend she is a great woman, I am from Honduras our cultural differences, made our relationship something unique! although i like my life as a bachelor, it's hard for me to stop thinking about it, but I'll always wish her the best, this video is so accurate but they can say no! hahah thanks!
@Daenack Dranils ??
haha no body contact...which is why Latin men and Japanese girls dont mix :)
My father is Japanese and mother Mexican (both non-American born) so it can happen ;) haha
@@keikokamiya2532 fair enough :)
But Japanese men & Latinas do mix! 😂
Brazil has the largest Japanese population outside of Japan
ua-cam.com/video/JBRzjXAxETY/v-deo.html this youtuber married a Japanese woman
I have been with a Japanese woman before and honestly the best way to approach them is simply being polite, considerate and have the ability to read air (atmosphere, mood, setting).
Polite can be small things like returning the question she asked you. Keep the conversation open ended and listen intently what she is saying and make a conversation out of it.
Considerate can be little things too like opening the door for her, walking on the car side of the sidewalk, pulling her chair out. Want to take it further? Offer her some of your food if you're out to lunch or dinner. That is a huge bonus.
Reading air is important too because it ties to being considerate. She isn't talkative today? Ask what's wrong. She seems tense, worried, etc. Tell her that you're there to listen and if need be, give help.
Guys, I have to say Japanese women (and any women) just want to be treated with kindness and respect.
Bonus tip: Keep your talents a secret and surprise her about them. For example, good at cooking? Suggest that you will cook lunch instead of eating out. Good at sports? Suggest doing an activity that shows off your skills. Play an instrument? Show her.
YESSS, and then be humble about it! It will only add on more points. ^w^
I dated a wonderful Japanese woman. She explained the concept of "aimai" which sort of translates to "ambiguity." She said, "Yes, we like that." It's not dishonesty. It's polite to be indirect. Another Japanese friend explained that the culture considers it refined to be able to discern what another is meaning by their actions or words. But my girlfriend also explained that with other nihonjin, she often doesn't really know what is going on in a conversation in terms of the person's intention. Complicated.
I think thewasiest way to understand this concept is to recall what happens when the potential employers says "we will call you later" after the interview :D Quite often it's polite, it's inderect.... re-fu-sal :D Seems like the Japanese people simply employ this strategy in a wider range of aspects of life.
I think when 2 strangers dates together, they have to adapt to each other culture. But I guess it depends in what country you date. Dating a Japanese woman in Japan means adapt to the Japanese codes. But dating a Japanese woman outside will be pretty different: she will have to adapt to the country's code where she is otherwise her dating life will be pretty tough.
Crongratulations for your channel Marina. I can see you put a Lot of effort to provide a good content.
I can tell that the Japanese girl is feeling even the girl sitting next to her right now is too close
Her body is tilting the other side😂😂😂
I feel bad for Japanese men....
Well, I know some Japanese men... and I feel bad for Japanese women.
@Prince White Charming Exactly
Excuse me, but I don't understand. What or who are the "children of white"? Why do they worship Japanese women? Sorry I cannot catch the comment...
Well, don't. It was them who established this conservative way of behaving for women in the past. The Japanese society is very patriarchal.
Me too. Being at a genetical size disadvantage, muscle tone disadvantage and also having to play guessing games with the opposite sex would be insufferable. No wonder the suicide rate is significantly higher there and the amount of incel otacons is through the roof.
This is pretty much true since I do live in Japan. But of course different places in Japan vary. For example, in Okinawa because it’s very U.S. Military populated, the women really think differently. Like almost opposite from mainland. They tend to think more westernized and because A LOT of military men go after them, they actually have to be a bit more aggressive then most Japanese women.
I LOVE this topics of yours! I hope you continue this! hehe
BTW, may I request for Tips on Attracting a FINNISH WOMAN? thanks!
The presenter is so geogous,better than all the other woman.She transmits warmpth,intelligence,understanding,comes across so natural.
From a JAPANESE GUY: just be yourselves. If you have to follow someone else's cultural customs then it's inevitably going to end because it will just get old- just like her.
Best strategy = don’t think about it, just be yourself and enjoy whatever you’re doing and they will come to you. This has been my experience anyway.
That true be your self
Nonsense
Bruh you gotta approach em
Agreed
This is so true!! I’m currently talking to a Japanese woman now where I can truly be myself. No interests whereby I have to fake to show her that I’m interested. Realising we had common interests while staying true to myself is a cherry on top.
This makes me happy to see that Japanese women are not that much less stressful than Chinese women.
" The Julien Blanc" approaching had me laughing so hard that I cried 😂😂😂😂
As a single guy, I just spent time laughing at the vid more than picking up tips, its funny as hell! xD
I always enjoy your videos, Marina 😘
Japanese women for me is one of the most beautiful faces I've ever seen.Their faces is so innocent and cute.
The guessing where she wants to eat is pretty universal. My GF doesn't know where she wants to eat, she only knows where she doesn't want to eat. So it just ends with me suggesting places until she agrees to one of them.
The thing that I keep seeing over and over again in countless dating videos and no matter how I try not to is this. Every other culture besides America and especially Los Angeles has some sort of quality that allows progress and potential in dating, even when there is not.
As someone who has dated women I can say that regardless of her Nationality there is a lot of body language.
If a woman wants you around or she wants you gone you should pick up on that quick.
Merry Xmas to the Dating Beyond Borders team/family. lmao...I like this comedy video concept. Kinda reminded me of Smoking gun presents... in a way. The Japanese culture is definitely a unique one. I can tell from this video relationships may not be so common like those in the western culture but are definitely more serious involving commitments from both parties. I just hope communication isn't a problem with Japanese ladies constantly expecting their men to guess what they want or need.
Bloody loved this video so hilarious and informative 😂😂😂😂😂👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
So what does this all have to do with Poland?
yes we need more Poland in our lives ;)
Damn bro i chuckled
You know, poles
Ja pierdole 😂😁
Poland is number 1, they go everywhere even in a video about Japan
This was great! Funny and informative. :)
5:21 this scene really called me and my (Japanese) girlfriend out🙈 She indeed rather insists that I make the plans for us
I dont like people to touch me either neither come to me flirting randomly. I think that's gross. So i like to take the first step. Great video!!
You are so excellent Marina. I watch all kinds of your videos. They are so good-natured and funny.
Ooh, thanks Larry! 😆
@@DatingBeyondBorders You are so talented and bring charm and good humor to a complex world. And so useful for my trips to Romania. :)
I always thought I would really like japanese women but when I see these mind games and opposite signals, I really, really do not. Women who don't make up their mind and verbalize it, don't make their own decision, nor pull 50% of the weight are utterly undesirable. The only female I will lead and decide for is my underage daughter.
Also, ghosting is the #1 most vile and disgusting habit of the modern world.
Lol u beta male
I’m glad you see the light.
Yui, you are so nice and sweet, thank you for sharing your culture with us😊
I like the fact that you talk about many different countries! :)
Hello
I about fell out on the floor laughing with the Julien Blanc approach. Love me some Julien but yeah I can see him doing that.
Be white be rich be tall
Being white counts as 50% of your attractiveness
I'm 2/3 of the way there. Next I need to be rich. Time to play the lottery.
And don't be southeast Asian.
Fuck damn it! Lol kkkkkkk
Well I’m 2/3 of that
I got to meet my husband on JapanCupid
I am recommending this to my friend who love Nippon girls and he is from Romania
My wife is Korean. Totally different cultures: Koreans are super-direct. But one thing I see in common is that she wants me to plan everything and she wants to say "no." I spent most of my life among feminists...so I was always offering her options. Finally, one day, she said: "You are giving me a headache. I want you to choose and I get to say 'no.'"
korean is pretty the same as the rest women in the world
indeed they're the most East Asian country inflicted with American culture
Her getting off on saying no to man is sad
I think "you know you are dating a Japanese woman when..." is way, waaaay overdue by now.
subtitles in Portuguese please! I love this channel ❤
I think all girls around the world are all the same, some are more confident than the others. Some Asian women prefer Asian men, and some prefer white (but Asian men like me for example like all women, as long as they're beautiful LOL), western women will prefer shutting you down when they're not interested, and Asian women will prefer giving you excuses to cancel dates. The more traditional Asian women will prefer Asian men because of their culture similarity. Don't overthink, some women will like you and some will not, you just have to find one you have a great chemistry with or two and more (if you're that kind of guy ;)).
That “back up” bit had me Rolmfao 😂😂😂
Best comment in the whole video at the end " is there and app to tell me what she is thinking" I want one of those for all women! Cheers
Such good production in these tips vids, really funny too, more please. Brazil tips?
Marina, thank you for the video and this is something new for me to learn on Japanese 🇯🇵 women if I were to ever date one. I do find the Japanese 🇯🇵 women very beautiful and I would love to visit the country of Japan 🇯🇵 if I ever get travel over there. Happy Holidays to you Marina and your family 🎅🏻🤶🏻🌲🕎. Looking beautiful in red as the song "Lady in red" came to my mind during the video 😂😍.
Thanks, John! I think Japanese culture is fascinating myself. There is a great show Love & Sex Around the World on Netflix and the first episode is about Japan. I recommend to watch it!
@@DatingBeyondBorders Good morning Marina! Thanks for the information and I'll look into finding the show Love & Sex Around the World. After I read the comment, I looked it up on IMDB.com and I saw that it has good ratings. It must be a good show! I actually never heard of it before. Do they show it on anything else besides Netflix? I ask only because I don't have Netflix
I’m a girl, but watching for fun 😂
I do the same at times 😂 Are you single? If so, I'd love to know you more and see if it turns Into a relationship.
the title is wrong, it should be what japanese girls feel uncomfortable when foreigner do these.
I think this video is great, you should show more of this of other women countries too.
When will you do a you know you're dating a Japanese woman video
Yes, from experience, quite a few of these are true. The guesswork and lack of straightforwardness is somewhat exasperating at times. They can be very nice and show intentions clearly but it doesn’t necessarily mean they want a relationship. Japanese women are somewhat of a mystery and one very few can crack. Good luck.
I’ve lived in Japan for two years and I haven’t went on one date. Plus, it probably didn’t help that I have ADHD and came off as off putting
I live in the states and met two Japanese girls off internet and had fun dates :)
Only one thing didn't reflect reality: The part where Yui-san was asking Fadi to keep stepping back, to keep backing up until she was comfortable with the personal body space. That would be far too assertive for the average Japanese woman to ask. In reality, SHE would be the one to keep backing away. Fadi is from a middle eastern heritage where much closer body contact is comfortable. What would really happen in reality is, Yui-san would keep backing away, Fadi would step forward to follow her, and that'd go on and on and on until Fadi realized Yui really wanted to avoid being that close. Or until Yui found some polite excuse to break off and get away.
Your partner there looks like Mulan. O.o
The guessing game is one more reason why I prefer the outspoken, easygoing Irish women, though. :P
Haha she really does!
If you’re American take into account that the women in Ireland are not your standard « Irish » women of America. Many people in Ireland die alone. Americans marry at 25 on average, Irish marry at 35 on average (with a big minority that never does).
My Misses is Filipina and does the same “It’s up to you.”. When you ask her where she would like to go for dinner.
She cannot get her head around the Western concept of “ladies first”.
She doesn’t understand that by asking her that question we are trying to be polite and be gentlemen.
She sees it as careless, weak and not really showing consideration for her.
So if it’s your first date ask them where they would like to go and when they say “It’s up to you.” Just say “I know a charming place with good food, let me take you there.
They don't say what they want. Chinese women are more frank and forthright. Japanese beat around the bush so much
Like your videos. Please do dating a Norwegian woman. I would be leaving for Norway in the next two years
Julien Blanc huh ? Maybe you could learn a thing or 2 about dating from him. Still love the humor from the videos
you mean assault women on the street and choking them "for fun"? yeah no thanks
Man I do so many cold approaches that it's almost ingrained in me what Japanese women respond to and find attractive in a man.
First of all is of course Confidence and taking the lead
Second is do NOT come on too strong by walking upto her and saying Hey I saw you and I find you beautiful black blah blah.... Rarely if ever works out
Try to be more subtle about it like walk upto her and comment on her bag,hair,dress,eyes, anything interesting you notice about her etc and just keep walking with her do NOT try to stop her.
Try to get in as much Japanese as possible so she'll be a bit interested in you and starts to open up. At this point take the lead a lil aggressively make her laugh and once you feel comfortable ask her for 'Nomikai' (Drinking) fuck that coffee shit, it won't get you anywhere!
Then take her to Karaoke and close the deal lol
Best comment so far. Couple of questions if you don't mind. Why not ask her come your place instead of Karoake? Is it too much for her? Also you aim for action first date or too fast?
Cheers mate!
Well this sounds like the fuck boy approach that only wants sex. I want to get to know her not just bang uglies on the 1st date.
In other words, I have 0 chance of getting a Japanese girl 😂😁😢😭
Hey Yui! Great video!
There's a Japanese internet quote, "結局は顔でしょ"which translates to: After everything else it'll be your face, right?
My wife is Japanese. My pick up line was telling her “you know I could whistle in Japanese… ”
I made a “bomb dropping” type whistle … she loved it 😍
lol
Here come the weebs.
My man!!!🤙🤙🤣🤣🤣🤣
Tired of using a body pillow? Get some japanese girls!
but you can't understand if they are attracted or not, they are totally poker face.
At the time. The way you know for sure is if they reply and agree to meet up again
I loved the Japanese Women. They were so classy.
Maybe we should stay in our own countries and date our own people. Just a thought
This video helped me. I'm dating a Filipina-Japanese right now, and she's showing some behaviours that seems very alien to my side.
i love this video.. i want more videos like that
I know everyone is different but my experience trying to date or just to be accepted by various Japanese women has been a financial and an emotional nightmare. After 4 years I have had enough. I'm from the U.S. and I have constantly been strung along for attention while these girls have openly told me that my brother is the handsome one while I was asked to buy these girls concert tickets. Concerts that I wasn't invited to!. So good luck out there, I hope your experience is a positive one!
@NonyaBusiness! Thank you for your reply. I'm decent looking guy and I'm in shape. I'm 6'2 and that seemed to be something that she liked because she asked me how tall I was. I've been to Japan 9 times and I will be going again next month so I am financially stable..My brother is a former romance novel cover model and I have been 2nd place to him most of my adult life. So these girls in Japan were just a continuation of my situation with my brother. I don't speak much Japanese and I don't really have any game, so there is the obvious problem. I have stopped all contact with some of these girls and I hope to start over with a new group of friends..
@@Trace7173 Please don´t take the advice to not give a shit about women. I can´t stress how stupid that is. Be yourself and consistent to that. At a first glance some might be more attracted to your brother, but I assure you cool people have leverage in relationships. And please stay away from empty headed women. If that is the only kind of women you know, at least admit you´re the one digging your own grave. Be interesting and interested in getting to know people before assuming they own you anything (and don´t give away your money in the process, invest in yourself). xoxo
Trace Rollins
Don't take that to your heart.You're not second place to your brother, you're number 1.You sound like a great guy. Any woman or person that makes you compete with you brother isn't worth it. Iwould have been flattered by all the efforts you made.
Wow! A very civilized conversation with a lot of useful advices.
My 2 cents: You are tall, in shape and handsome (according to yourself), thats all good, but the most important thing for a man is CONFIDENCE and as NonyaBusiness already said, the best way to do it is to talk to a lot of women.
If at the begining you feel intimidated, then talk to the ugly ones.
Bro why do you try to date Japanese women you should have enjoyed your trip in Japan instead with all the money you spent on a girl like that, she should be ashamed of being such a parasite.
Great video. However, I am not sure if I date a Japanese girl. 🤔🙂😀
Well, this is why I'll never ever date a Japanese woman, despite being a huge weeaboo who loves Japan. I don't want to guess. I want the girl to be honest and tell it like it is instead of playing mental games. The whole guessing game is just not for me.
Imagine calling yourself a weeaboo🤣
@@GlacieraBr1de I mean, I watch anime, studied a little bit of Japanese, I love Japanese music, interested in Japanese history (from the Sengoku Jidai and before all the way to WW2), etc. Am I not a weeaboo?
as a Japanese guy , i can say It's all exaggerated bit too much, I've never met such girls like that, girls here r more simple in my experience tho
Hi Yoshi. You need to take this with a pinch of salt, or, sense of humor is advised! :)
Do japanese girls have sideways pussys
Well at least maybe that's what you thought, but maybe you guessed wrong xD.
yoshiki f それは本当だ
Anybody searching things like this on UA-cam to confess your feelings to your crush
Interesting and fun as always, Marina. Great,lighthearted enjoyable channel. Keep up the good work! All the best from England.
Thank you! All the best from Canada ❄
The Japanese woman is very pretty. And these two have good advice.
OH MY GOD. you so nailed my exact experience. never rejected flat out. also i could tell by their eyes and reaction if they were interested or just being nice. am i wrong? the ones that were interested had smiles so big, i thought their face was going to break. and they were saying something to their girlfriends in a very excited way.
NASA be studying about the universe and making some ground breaking discoveries
Man: hey NASA can y'all study wem...
(Man dies a misterious death)
Dude.. that’s even tougher than dating an Indian girl.
Guessing and predicting. It’s like a fine line between “Hey I am interested in you” vs “ Hey I am stalking you”.
What if the girl file complaint of Harassment?
lol
the girls have no rights to even think of doing that, in a patriarchical society, duh
In India not even rape cases are treated seriously let alone harassment charges
I'm Portuguese American and I think shy japanese girls are the best. Their eyes and pronunciation are so かわいい。 ❤
If you want to start a basis of romance with any girl, you HAVE to engage in touching. Not touching enough during the knowing phase will only get you in the friend zone and it will be that much harder to create attraction. But don't be a creep either.
To a brazilian guy like me, the personal space part would be a nightmare, we literally greet girls with kisses on the cheek (when it's casual.). My immediate response for the scarf situation would probably be to warm her hands with mine or give her a hug.
Spent a year and a half there way back in the day , it helps if you have friend from Japan to act as a wing man if not good luck with that p.s. learn some Japanese
As Japanese woman, I'm agree with it's hard to say no 😂 and saying I'm okay but actually it's not. I'm okay with body contact but I'm not used to lol
and always feel sorry about that :(
Just for curiosity, a married man in Japan needs to work long hours to provide for the family?they don't spend the time with the family? or it's possible to have a balanced life beetween the job and take care of the wife and kids?
@@LucasHenrique-it2io It depends on job and person but most of man like that you said. They're working a long hours and after that they go to 居酒屋(it's a kind of bar) with colleague and back in mid night. My father is coming back to 6pm sometimes he has overtime work. so it depends tho!11 I've had a boyfriend who is English teacher in school and he doesn't have a holiday because in Saturday and Sunday, he needs to teach sports club team. and we can't meet often then break up. There's no time for private. The scared thing is almost of all of them think it's usual. so that's why Japan's birth rate is low. I surprised to know Australia because shop close early time and work end up on the time.
@@lionedheart Sure my guy!👌😄
these girls are all the same: cold , no feelings ,
tatemae all the time , manipulative... Just date other girls from worlwide. if you're
not agree please explain yourselves with positive arguments. please
don't report me.
So basically be kind respectful and have a plan