@corinneblair8795 If I may say, you don't know how much relief came to me from being done with just a narc gf. Years ago now. But the memories of intentional sick mind games never will. So in your case if it's multiplied, the relief may be that many times more. There just has to be a final discernment it will never change with these type and self care in no contact. It may not be possible I know. But no human deserves their...shit.
When you said they’re mad you’re an autonomous human being, it’s because they’re not. Narcissists are inherently codependent, they need to constantly be feeding off others’ energy, because their own energy is so low and negative. They are inherently and overwhelmingly envious of real people with real emotions.
My ex said to me one time “It’s ok if you get jealous, I like it, I want to be posessed” Now in hindsight I really think about that statement he made to me snd what it actually means
I think a lot of times the reason they discard is because they're projecting their dependency onto us. With they're black-and-white thinking, if we're dependent and running after them then we're the dependent ones, not them. Inside every counterdependent is a codependent. Also, they're controlling it all and sitting back watching us acting out their dependency.
40 yrs w a narc is so confusing .., going from buying you a brand new car and spending 50 k on buying me porcelain veneers .. and then trying to turn are 27 yr old daughter against you w parental alienation by saying I’m a cheater .. he’s been exposed by his own daughter , he’s the cheater . She found court documents w him paying a supplies back rent of 3 k .😵💫
Now that ive realized the monster my husband is, i now know why i could always feel a level of resentment coming from him. He never loved me, he hated me the entire 12 years
I started to notice he would lag behind me in the grocery store. I just started to walk ahead to complete the task. One time I looked up and caught him starring at me but the look on his face was pure disdain and hate. In the beginning he used to say don't take it personal. I would respond but Im a person! Here I am 8 yrs later engagement off and I am so proud of myself. I don't have 8 more to waste😊
I would catch my ex Looking at me like that too. With disdain. It’s such a disorienting feeling. One time he was raging at me. (One of many ) he screamed “I hate you, I hate you, I hate you,I hate you” and the dark contemptuous look on his face was shocking. I said back to him…”You don’t hate me, you hate yourself” and he stopped for a split second as if he was jolted out of himself and looked perplexed and said “yea I do, but I hate you too” he really hurt my heart, I loved him and thought he was my person at one point. I miss his sweet dog, she loved me and my furry family, and we loved her. He ruined it for us all. He destroyed something so good.
@@tanyadepoalo4312totally relate. Good for you and good for calling him out. I was able to do that a few times as well. I called out self-victimization and feel grateful that I didn't necessarily see anything as crude as base hatred though.
The first reason -- "because you're an autonomous human being" -- helps me understand why my narc female parent and narc ex-husband went into a rage whenever they caught me reading a book. They would actually scream, "READING again!" as though it were some horrible vice. Makes sense now -- I was reading someone else's story, not the self-aggrandizing one they had scripted for themselves.
I totally feel your first point - with my narc, I had always played the character as the low-in-confidence, yet goofy sidekick, and everything was hunky-dory. But when I started taking steps to grow myself into a better version of myself, he started having issues with me doing it, to the point, where he would either try to stop me doing it (he was my "best friend"/co-worker, by the way), or to insult, devalue and browbeat me into a place of low confidence, all because he was afraid of losing his spot as the big man on campus. It took me quite a while to get over his betrayal, because I had asked a question, why would he do me like that? I realise now, because he was never a friend to begin with - he was the overlord, the main character of the story, and to him, I was nothing more than a minion.....
I was groomed long distance for a year by a somatic narcissist. The second time we met up in a hotel he told me he was an "actor". Well boy did I find out in a very bad way he definitely was acting.
Once I quit trying to suppress my rage from their abuse, instead I went full amplification of rage, actively fed that rage and showed them how nasty I can get. The next day she attempted to pick a fight again and collapsed shaking all over in an anxiety attack. My reactions were no longer entertaining, I made them a threat. They were abusing me for entertainment.
I used to cringe when I got a compliment because I stole the comment from the narcissist. When we had children I had no part in it. The kids just appeared as gifts that show what a great parent the narcissist is. The constant boredom is a real danger, and it can result in cheating. No such luck for me because the narcissist hates women.
Early in the relationship was the very first time I was aware of the ex Narc’s contempt for me. I was befuddled by the entire shift of negative energy and his nerve to display such crappy behavior. Of course it was downhill from there …. I wanted out and I finally opted out.
It is cognitive dissonance forming when receiving such behavior while in the next moment your being invited back the next night. That's when I realized that projection, triangulation & some kind of absurd blame shifting for something during their day, is exactly what they want you back for. Just completely crazy. Good riddens.
Whats interesting is a narcissist cant exist without a empath yet they often sabatoge any relationship.. The biggest problem this world has is people in authority & power, medical, justice system, etc.. with no compassion or emotions that is really required!?
great talking points. but the uno reverse card any victim will play on themselves is taking the bait of regulating the narcissist emotions. the victims automatically becomes their servant, a peasant, nanny theor care taker, their garbage collector. amd the potential victims will be looked down upon and be treated as such. while the narc go out seeking new supply leaving their victim to wallow in pain, self disgust, pity, sad, hopeless, helpless, suicidal, pain, sorrow, low self of worth/esteem, void. these are the true inner core of a narcissist.
Father, siblings, husband and daughter. Daughter is the worst. A malignant narcissist/ psychopath. Abusive. Does things no one would ever believe. She has killed me. I just haven’t stopped breathing yet.
Great straight forward delivery of facts. I’ve had this very communication with myself after 16 years of marriage to a narcissist only to be discarded in the blink of an eye!
On the other end of not being to help I was able to help with all problems that envy kicks in and they hate you .Why?Because you are above or on the same level now and they are not having that.
Your videos are literally always spot on and they resonate with me like nothing else. The fact that I relate so much is terrifying because it makes me wonder what did I go through that everything this woman says just clicks with me right away. Thanks for shedding light on this topic. I would love if you talked about the "belief' that people stop growing up at the age they're traumatized and whether it's real xx
I just had to comment to tell you this, but I actually aspire to be a movie and television director and have directed about a dozen short projects to make my way. Narcissistic actors absolutely hate you as a director and I've worked with three narcissistic actors, one of them asked me to film an audition for him, he could not take direction at all or what's called "an adjustment" which is basically asking the actor to try the scene a different way from the way they interpret it, so you might say to them "try this scene as if it's an emergency and you really need help." that may not have anything to do with the dialogue of the scene itself, but it changes the performance (or at least it should) in a dramatic way. Narcissistic actors can't take adjustments, they can only play the scene the way they want, I use adjustments in the audition process to weed out difficult actors, because they will refuse to follow the adjustment. Another narcissistic actress I worked with, I asked her not to forget her cue because another actor was waiting on her cue to leave the room, she threw a tantrum in front of everyone and stomped out like a child. Another actor I worked with was suppose to show up at 5:30am for an on-location shoot, it was that early because the location is empty at that time, as the day progresses it gets filled with people, he showed up two hours late and then we couldn't film, he was boiling with rage until another actor suggested a different location that could work and we moved to that one. Surprisingly most actors are not that narcissistic, but when they are, they tend to be easy to spot because they're very overt.
My narc brother watches my every move at family gatherings. When I arrive, how I enter the house, where I sit, when I speak, if I am the first to leave the room or table. It is all a problem. If I am the first to leave the dinner table or the room, it is a BIG scandal! I arrived to my mom’s house after him and he raged at me. I cannot finish a sentence without him raising his voice, cutting me off and saying something condensing. Often I need to stay quiet and be as invisible as possible when I go to family gatherings. Or just not go at all, which is my new preference. No contact.
My older sister treats me exactly the same, she now wants me to reduce my parents' inheritance so her daughter can , can buy the house cheaper, I don't have any kids .
@corinneblair8795 he obviously has major jealous issues with you, bet he notices if you buy a new shirt etc, these folk are all very sick minded people , take care friend !
mine too. But you can play games back with him just keep updating him on how life is so good your so happy and your really successful and you've never been happier. fill his miserable head so full of shit he'll hate you so much he won't contact you 😂 I told him I was promoted to supervisor which I was he shouted down the phone and said yeah next youll be ceo with rage so I ignored it and a couple of months later I told him I was made ceo and he fucking flipped out going insane. He lives in a different hemisphere so it keeps him at bay because they hate good news. It's insanity
Good lord. My brother blames me for his life long drug addiction because he says he thought of me as a father and I abandoned him by joining the army. I am six years older than he. Yet my actual father who abandoned him because of drugs he is fine with. My narscisstic mother would pertend he didnt exist every time he did drugs. Now that he pretends that he no longer does drugs and I am no longer welcome in the family because I have just caused too much hurt to the family by deploying in the infantry. Because I wanted to make sure I was brave enough to die for a worthy cause. Like a family of my own. God, this video makes so much sense. My wife is zero contact with her family and I am zero contact with mine. Our holidays are centered around our three shared kids. Narcaissists always ruin a good time.
I have said this to you in past after watching your Videos and your channel. Your Knowledge and your Educational value that you bring to the table as to who these very disturbed people are. You described my Ex and my Relationshit with her to the T. You, yourself would have had to have been in the same exact hurtful situation. To really understand this at your Level of Experience with the Narcissist. You really do a Great Job.
@@LookingBehindtheMirror Yes its Killer Content and yes its very helpful. And I appreciate you being there. Still Love the Glasses on you. where were you when I was looking for a Normal Relationship. lol
Great video, one of my favorites on youtube, excellent and spot on explanations! Everything about the narcissist is fake in the sense that it’s all an act. It’s difficult for most people to actually realize this, until the discard. But they themselves don’t even know it’s fake. They never were able to be genuine, so they don’t even know what it means.
I have never been able to form a relationship with opposite sex because I'm so traumatised, I inevitably have always gone for npfs or mentally ill people because all members of my family are npd, dad schizophrenic too, now I have become totally aware I'm pretty o old, life is tough but I make most of what I do have, I don't have people much but there is a LOT I DO HAVE, AND I AM 🎨 ARTIST WHICH I LOVE, ALWAYS BUSY CREATING! THANKS !
Just enjoy life, alone, because it is more joyful than being belittled by evil spirits. Life is short. Too short to spend with evil spirits... just having the freedom to be what you want to be is good enough for me. Self love is the greatest love of all because you become free to join with other free spirits.
Great Video as always. I know I made right the decision for pulling the the plug on my 15 year Toxic Narcissist Ex Girlfriend. Selfish to the Core. Insecure, Jealous, No Empathy for anyone but her Poor Victim Self. Always a Taker Never a Giver. So self entitled like you owe them something. And they are never satisficed with things that you do for them. 8 months of no contact. Since walking away from her. I'm pretty sure she was grooming some New Supply while I busy being way to good to her. Always poring yourself into this Black Hole of a person. BIG MISTAKE because your being Future Faked. Until you Expose them for who they are and then they run like Cowards. And your left holding the Bag saying how dis I end up being in this Nightmare. The last 2 years were Bad. Just using you taking you for Granted. Instead of her being some kind of Adult straight up and saying do you want to talk about our Situation. Let me just treat this Guy like my personal punching bag. Until I'm ready to discard him. because he is not going to be leaving me his PENSION. Scary. Go be with some new guy I'll the $$$$$$.
gosh the "script writing "actually explains so so much.. that i was nothing but a "disappointment " but couldnt see for the life of me why...... was because i failed in the role i was given !!!!! my role as a child was to be "a doll" and when the doll has her own thoughts . ways of being, the script writer parent is outraged. That you will ALWAYS fail with these people if you have one bit of autonomy going on in you is a sure fire bet.
Thank You For Sharing This I WAS HORRIBLY ABUSED AND EMOTIONALLY ABUSED BY AN OVERT NARCISSISTS FOR OVER 8 YEARS I HAVE BECOME SEVERELY DEPRESSED.THIS PERSON WOULD GIVE ME MONTHS AND YEARS OF THE SILENT TREATMENT I BECAME SUICIDAL.I JUST NEVER KNEW THAT EVILNESS EXISTED LIKE THIS.I FINALLY FOUND THE COURAGE TO BLOCK DISCONNECT FROM THIS PERSON...MY QUESTION TO YOU IS HOW DO I STAY STRONG AND NOT UNBLOCK HIM...
It’s a decision you have to make over and over. Identify the reasons you don’t want to go back, and remind yourself of those reasons every time you are tempted. Nothing but time will make it easy.
I saw my ex’s eyes go from red to white after he raged at me bc he didn’t have acess to his drug of choice he always looked happy and content in himself . He would always accuse me of being out to get him in reality he was always betraying me and he would drop subtile hints
This is on point! The delusions and demands put on you AFTER all the love bombing and idealization is truly heartbreaking and disorienting. I lived in these shadows for many years before being finally discarded, without ever feeling that he truly acknowledged any of the disrespectful, and sometimes dehumanizing rages I endured- and was always blamed for. This disorder is serious, but the worst part is the damage they leave behind to those who loved them. Convinced that they were the victims, they move on to the next person of prey, and begin the cycle all over again. New supply will learn, but it will take time, as he is working beyond his capacity to hold onto this one and avoid being 68 and being alone. I wish she could save herself from the misery that surely waits.
This makes sense. My narc mother and siblings were doing this to me before I went no contact with them all 4 years ago. Best thing I ever did. I wish I had done it sooner. I went off the scapegoat script and their heads almost exploded. There was even a family mobbing that included violence. Can you do a video on the sg child of malignant narc mother who goes no contact after over 5 decades of being gaslit and pulled into her matrix. She turned family and friends against me. Now that I understand narcs, I realize she smear campaigned me from day 1. Due to me being colicky as a baby. These monsters are insane. What do you think happens to an 80 something narc who loses the supply she cultivated for over 50 years? Thank you.
Im my case - Generational / learned fromone generational to another. Why would narc u learn it..... Lose all the benefits.... So I left... And learned (learning) to look after myself.
So sad, so what do you advice to the ppl that love their spouse and are wondering if they should go or stay… a lot of us would feel guilty to leave a disordered person who needs help right?
You cannot help them. Staying doesn’t help them. It enables them. They don’t want help. They don’t want to change. It is like a zebra thinking they will “help” a lion by staying and letting the lion eat them.
You cannot think about the narc when it comes to your health and safety, do or did they care about yours? Of course not, because they only care about themselves, you come first!!!
If your spouse is a narc and you´ve been married with such an idiot for over 20 years already and never noticed, what you have married - you are in very serious trouble my friend.
"Watch Sleepwalkers by Stephen King. This will make so much sense. Just watch the opening scene and the lightbulb will shine. Get out fast! 🤗" she hate my like the a Deamon 🤗, i dont hate i ❤.
I never realized it before but... Does all narcissists hate us after they discarded us? I mean, if every narcissist with who we get closer to (relationship, close friendship which were going to situationship) - does narcissist in every this case hate the other person? I wonder if they envy us or if if they hate us, and if yes then why?
Even if you could fix them they don't listen to you anyways, only hardcore therapy might help, but the have a huge ego, and won't go unless forced, thats why they don't take showers cause it fogs the mirror.
They are sick and there's nothing anyone can do about it.
Sick & no cure
THEY ARE DEMON POSSESSED AND THEY HAD SOMETHING TO DO WITH IT!!!!
Facts! No Cap!
They r jealous of you. Especially if u can do better in something then them. You r a threat to their ego.
Your light blinds their darkness - they believe they are god and you are showing them reality
They want to douse your light.
Spot on. It's like walking through a haunted house, having no idea that it's a haunted house.
Good analogy!! It can leave you feeling like you’re fighting with ghosts.
@@LookingBehindtheMirrorYOU ARE ACTUALLY FIGHTING THE DEMONS THAT ARE IN THEM LITERALLY!!!!
A lot times it feels like I am not dealing with or talking to humans with my narc family.
@corinneblair8795 If I may say, you don't know how much relief came to me from being done with just a narc gf. Years ago now. But the memories of intentional sick mind games never will. So in your case if it's multiplied, the relief may be that many times more. There just has to be a final discernment it will never change with these type and self care in no contact. It may not be possible I know. But no human deserves their...shit.
@@LookingBehindtheMirror At work to always end up exposed. They are cowards.
They get mad when you go off script, but they didn't even give you the script, not that you asked for it.
"Punching bag on call" truly, truly
'What are you talking about?',their favourite gaslighting phrase when side stepping reality.
Right. Because you exist, and have the audacity to not be them.
Haha. Well said!!
When you said they’re mad you’re an autonomous human being, it’s because they’re not. Narcissists are inherently codependent, they need to constantly be feeding off others’ energy, because their own energy is so low and negative. They are inherently and overwhelmingly envious of real people with real emotions.
Excellent point.
My ex said to me one time “It’s ok if you get jealous, I like it, I want to be posessed” Now in hindsight I really think about that statement he made to me snd what it actually means
I think a lot of times the reason they discard is because they're projecting their dependency onto us. With they're black-and-white thinking, if we're dependent and running after them then we're the dependent ones, not them. Inside every counterdependent is a codependent. Also, they're controlling it all and sitting back watching us acting out their dependency.
40 yrs w a narc is so confusing .., going from buying you a brand new car and spending 50 k on buying me porcelain veneers .. and then trying to turn are 27 yr old daughter against you w parental alienation by saying I’m a cheater .. he’s been exposed by his own daughter , he’s the cheater . She found court documents w him paying a supplies back rent of 3 k .😵💫
Now that ive realized the monster my husband is, i now know why i could always feel a level of resentment coming from him. He never loved me, he hated me the entire 12 years
I started to notice he would lag behind me in the grocery store. I just started to walk ahead to complete the task. One time I looked up and caught him starring at me but the look on his face was pure disdain and hate. In the beginning he used to say don't take it personal. I would respond but Im a person! Here I am 8 yrs later engagement off and I am so proud of myself. I don't have 8 more to waste😊
I would catch my ex Looking at me like that too. With disdain. It’s such a disorienting feeling. One time he was raging at me. (One of many ) he screamed “I hate you, I hate you, I hate you,I hate you” and the dark contemptuous look on his face was shocking. I said back to him…”You don’t hate me, you hate yourself” and he stopped for a split second as if he was jolted out of himself and looked perplexed and said “yea I do, but I hate you too” he really hurt my heart, I loved him and thought he was my person at one point. I miss his sweet dog, she loved me and my furry family, and we loved her. He ruined it for us all. He destroyed something so good.
@@tanyadepoalo4312totally relate. Good for you and good for calling him out. I was able to do that a few times as well. I called out self-victimization and feel grateful that I didn't necessarily see anything as crude as base hatred though.
The first reason -- "because you're an autonomous human being" -- helps me understand why my narc female parent and narc ex-husband went into a rage whenever they caught me reading a book. They would actually scream, "READING again!" as though it were some horrible vice. Makes sense now -- I was reading someone else's story, not the self-aggrandizing one they had scripted for themselves.
Narcs are probably too busy running their own script to understand the concept of checking out someone else's. They love TV though, don't they?
Girl I don't think they are ever close to anyone
I totally feel your first point - with my narc, I had always played the character as the low-in-confidence, yet goofy sidekick, and everything was hunky-dory. But when I started taking steps to grow myself into a better version of myself, he started having issues with me doing it, to the point, where he would either try to stop me doing it (he was my "best friend"/co-worker, by the way), or to insult, devalue and browbeat me into a place of low confidence, all because he was afraid of losing his spot as the big man on campus.
It took me quite a while to get over his betrayal, because I had asked a question, why would he do me like that? I realise now, because he was never a friend to begin with - he was the overlord, the main character of the story, and to him, I was nothing more than a minion.....
Narcissist are actors playing a role .
I was groomed long distance for a year by a somatic narcissist. The second time we met up in a hotel he told me he was an "actor". Well boy did I find out in a very bad way he definitely was acting.
After 4 years of confusion and sickness of how he treating me I am now free and enjoying my life and with my kids
Once I quit trying to suppress my rage from their abuse, instead I went full amplification of rage, actively fed that rage and showed them how nasty I can get. The next day she attempted to pick a fight again and collapsed shaking all over in an anxiety attack. My reactions were no longer entertaining, I made them a threat. They were abusing me for entertainment.
My ex-wife had always held me in contempt and I decided to live up to her assessment of me.
I don't think this is a healthy comment 🤔 😕
How did that work out for you?
I used to cringe when I got a compliment because I stole the comment from the narcissist. When we had children I had no part in it. The kids just appeared as gifts that show what a great parent the narcissist is. The constant boredom is a real danger, and it can result in cheating. No such luck for me because the narcissist hates women.
No effort by them either tells you a lot
Early in the relationship was the very first time I was aware of the ex Narc’s contempt for me. I was befuddled by the entire shift of negative energy and his nerve to display such crappy behavior. Of course it was downhill from there …. I wanted out and I finally opted out.
It is cognitive dissonance forming when receiving such behavior while in the next moment your being invited back the next night. That's when I realized that projection, triangulation & some kind of absurd blame shifting for something during their day, is exactly what they want you back for. Just completely crazy. Good riddens.
NEGATIVE ENERGY EXACTLY!!!!
Key phrase. "You're (Supposed) to".
Whats interesting is a narcissist cant exist without a empath yet they often sabatoge any relationship.. The biggest problem this world has is people in authority & power, medical, justice system, etc.. with no compassion or emotions that is really required!?
🎯💯 so true unfortunately 😢
Totally agree, too many people with lack of empathy in those positions
The script part is so on point!! Everything she explains is exactly what they do. I pray yall heal and get set free 💕
Yeah. Try the subject of Free Will, and the rage is abundant.
Nailed it. The most concise and insightful things I’ve heard in a while regarding narcissists and how/why the operate.
great talking points. but the uno reverse card any victim will play on themselves is taking the bait of regulating the narcissist emotions. the victims automatically becomes their servant, a peasant, nanny theor care taker, their garbage collector. amd the potential victims will be looked down upon and be treated as such. while the narc go out seeking new supply leaving their victim to wallow in pain, self disgust, pity, sad, hopeless, helpless, suicidal, pain, sorrow, low self of worth/esteem, void. these are the true inner core of a narcissist.
Father, siblings, husband and daughter. Daughter is the worst. A malignant narcissist/ psychopath. Abusive. Does things no one would ever believe. She has killed me. I just haven’t stopped breathing yet.
I see you met my mother!!!!
😂 Maybe!
My mother as well !!
Great straight forward delivery of facts. I’ve had this very communication with myself after 16 years of marriage to a narcissist only to be discarded in the blink of an eye!
Same thing happened to me after 12 years married. He left, ghosted and filed for divorce
On the other end of not being to help I was able to help with all problems that envy kicks in and they hate you .Why?Because you are above or on the same level now and they are not having that.
Your videos are literally always spot on and they resonate with me like nothing else. The fact that I relate so much is terrifying because it makes me wonder what did I go through that everything this woman says just clicks with me right away. Thanks for shedding light on this topic. I would love if you talked about the "belief' that people stop growing up at the age they're traumatized and whether it's real xx
Agreed! She is by far my favorite. The way she relates, relays and breaks it down is literally on point in every way.
She’s better than a therapist , she’s spot on w these subhumans 🤡
He looks stunned when I say “ I’m not your emotional punching bag “ .. he actually looks like awhh you got me . 😅
I just had to comment to tell you this, but I actually aspire to be a movie and television director and have directed about a dozen short projects to make my way. Narcissistic actors absolutely hate you as a director and I've worked with three narcissistic actors, one of them asked me to film an audition for him, he could not take direction at all or what's called "an adjustment" which is basically asking the actor to try the scene a different way from the way they interpret it, so you might say to them "try this scene as if it's an emergency and you really need help." that may not have anything to do with the dialogue of the scene itself, but it changes the performance (or at least it should) in a dramatic way. Narcissistic actors can't take adjustments, they can only play the scene the way they want, I use adjustments in the audition process to weed out difficult actors, because they will refuse to follow the adjustment. Another narcissistic actress I worked with, I asked her not to forget her cue because another actor was waiting on her cue to leave the room, she threw a tantrum in front of everyone and stomped out like a child. Another actor I worked with was suppose to show up at 5:30am for an on-location shoot, it was that early because the location is empty at that time, as the day progresses it gets filled with people, he showed up two hours late and then we couldn't film, he was boiling with rage until another actor suggested a different location that could work and we moved to that one. Surprisingly most actors are not that narcissistic, but when they are, they tend to be easy to spot because they're very overt.
My narc brother watches my every move at family gatherings. When I arrive, how I enter the house, where I sit, when I speak, if I am the first to leave the room or table. It is all a problem. If I am the first to leave the dinner table or the room, it is a BIG scandal! I arrived to my mom’s house after him and he raged at me. I cannot finish a sentence without him raising his voice, cutting me off and saying something condensing. Often I need to stay quiet and be as invisible as possible when I go to family gatherings. Or just not go at all, which is my new preference. No contact.
My older sister treats me exactly the same, she now wants me to reduce my parents' inheritance so her daughter can , can buy the house cheaper, I don't have any kids .
@@andrewrees8749DON'T DO IT!!!!!!!!!
@corinneblair8795 he obviously has major jealous issues with you, bet he notices if you buy a new shirt etc, these folk are all very sick minded people
, take care friend !
My narcissistic dad hates me because I won't put up with his b.s.!
mine too. But you can play games back with him just keep updating him on how life is so good your so happy and your really successful and you've never been happier. fill his miserable head so full of shit he'll hate you so much he won't contact you 😂 I told him I was promoted to supervisor which I was he shouted down the phone and said yeah next youll be ceo with rage so I ignored it and a couple of months later I told him I was made ceo and he fucking flipped out going insane. He lives in a different hemisphere so it keeps him at bay because they hate good news. It's insanity
Good lord. My brother blames me for his life long drug addiction because he says he thought of me as a father and I abandoned him by joining the army. I am six years older than he. Yet my actual father who abandoned him because of drugs he is fine with. My narscisstic mother would pertend he didnt exist every time he did drugs. Now that he pretends that he no longer does drugs and I am no longer welcome in the family because I have just caused too much hurt to the family by deploying in the infantry. Because I wanted to make sure I was brave enough to die for a worthy cause. Like a family of my own. God, this video makes so much sense. My wife is zero contact with her family and I am zero contact with mine. Our holidays are centered around our three shared kids. Narcaissists always ruin a good time.
OMFG I LOVE YOUR DIRECTOR ANALOGY! So much love from me to you. Thank you! Literally my ex vulnerable narcissist
They are lazy
His favourite gaslight phrase is " what is your problem?" Because your boundaries are too strong
I have said this to you in past after watching your Videos and your channel. Your Knowledge and your Educational value that you bring to the table as to who these very disturbed people are. You described my Ex and my Relationshit with her to the T. You, yourself would have had to have been in the same exact hurtful situation. To really understand this at your Level of Experience with the Narcissist. You really do a Great Job.
Thank you. A UA-camr’s content helped me out when I was struggling, and I wanted to do my part. I’m glad it is helpful!
I meant every word of it. Your Great and you do Great work.
@@LookingBehindtheMirror Yes its Killer Content and yes its very helpful. And I appreciate you being there. Still Love the Glasses on you. where were you when I was looking for a Normal Relationship. lol
Great video, one of my favorites on youtube, excellent and spot on explanations! Everything about the narcissist is fake in the sense that it’s all an act. It’s difficult for most people to actually realize this, until the discard. But they themselves don’t even know it’s fake. They never were able to be genuine, so they don’t even know what it means.
Bravo! You hit the narc nail on the head! Thank You So Much!
I have never been able to form a relationship with opposite sex because I'm so traumatised, I inevitably have always gone for npfs or mentally ill people because all members of my family are npd, dad schizophrenic too, now I have become totally aware I'm pretty o
old, life is tough but I make most of what I do have, I don't have people much but there is a
LOT I DO HAVE, AND I AM 🎨 ARTIST WHICH I LOVE, ALWAYS BUSY CREATING! THANKS !
Just enjoy life, alone, because it is more joyful than being belittled by evil spirits. Life is short. Too short to spend with evil spirits... just having the freedom to be what you want to be is good enough for me. Self love is the greatest love of all because you become free to join with other free spirits.
Great Video as always. I know I made right the decision for pulling the the plug on my 15 year Toxic Narcissist Ex Girlfriend. Selfish to the Core. Insecure, Jealous, No Empathy for anyone but her Poor Victim Self. Always a Taker Never a Giver. So self entitled like you owe them something. And they are never satisficed with things that you do for them. 8 months of no contact. Since walking away from her.
I'm pretty sure she was grooming some New Supply
while I busy being way to good to her. Always poring yourself into this Black Hole of a person. BIG MISTAKE because your being Future Faked. Until you Expose them for who they are and then they run like Cowards. And your left holding the Bag saying how dis I end up being in this Nightmare. The last 2 years were Bad. Just using you taking you for Granted. Instead of her being some kind of Adult straight up and saying do you want to talk about our Situation.
Let me just treat this Guy like my personal punching bag. Until I'm ready to discard him. because he is not going to be leaving me his PENSION. Scary. Go be with some new guy I'll the $$$$$$.
Thank you for the comment about “ hate”. I never thought of it that way! So, so true! You are right on!!!
Your Videos Are 100% Correct !!!!!!
All true. They also hate you because you are everything they are not.
They run from the same script.
gosh the "script writing "actually explains so so much.. that i was nothing but a "disappointment " but couldnt see for the life of me why...... was because i failed in the role i was given !!!!! my role as a child was to be "a doll" and when the doll has her own thoughts . ways of being, the script writer parent is outraged. That you will ALWAYS fail with these people if you have one bit of autonomy going on in you is a sure fire bet.
100%. Listened to it 4 times. It’s spot on. Mines my own daughter.
It’s terrifying I relate to everything every aspect
Incredible insight! Thank you so much, you are wonderfully perceptive! ❤
These youtube videos are very educational ❤
Thank You For Sharing This
I WAS HORRIBLY ABUSED AND EMOTIONALLY ABUSED BY AN OVERT NARCISSISTS
FOR OVER 8 YEARS I HAVE BECOME SEVERELY DEPRESSED.THIS PERSON WOULD GIVE ME MONTHS AND YEARS OF THE SILENT TREATMENT I BECAME SUICIDAL.I JUST NEVER KNEW THAT EVILNESS EXISTED LIKE THIS.I FINALLY FOUND THE COURAGE TO BLOCK DISCONNECT FROM THIS PERSON...MY QUESTION TO YOU IS HOW DO I STAY STRONG AND NOT UNBLOCK HIM...
It’s a decision you have to make over and over. Identify the reasons you don’t want to go back, and remind yourself of those reasons every time you are tempted. Nothing but time will make it easy.
@@LookingBehindtheMirror
YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY RIGHT THANK YOU 🙏
Demi.... If you open that door to the devil you WILL pay... Join the gym. Paint a picture. Join a cooking class. Anything but returning to the devil
@@tootienottoofruitie1726
YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY RIGHT THANK YOU
@@demigaines5644 yeah hope I helped. Get a CD on breathing exercises. Pay attention to you 🌹 love your self 🍀🍀🍀
I saw my ex’s eyes go from red to white after he raged at me bc he didn’t have acess to his drug of choice he always looked happy and content in himself . He would always accuse me of being out to get him in reality he was always betraying me and he would drop subtile hints
This is on point! The delusions and demands put on you AFTER all the love bombing and idealization is truly heartbreaking and disorienting. I lived in these shadows for many years before being finally discarded, without ever feeling that he truly acknowledged any of the disrespectful, and sometimes dehumanizing rages I endured- and was always blamed for.
This disorder is serious, but the worst part is the damage they leave behind to those who loved them. Convinced that they were the victims, they move on to the next person of prey, and begin the cycle all over again.
New supply will learn, but it will take time, as he is working beyond his capacity to hold onto this one and avoid being 68 and being alone. I wish she could save herself from the misery that surely waits.
You tell this in a very memorable way. Thanks:)
She was expecting me move her out off the getto n i disapeared Lol
Hi can you please enlighten us on the reasons why we are so isolated while with a narc? No friendships together
That’s a great topic. Thanks for the idea. I will put some thought into that.
Superb commentary as always!
Thanks for your wisdom, very helpful
Excellent. Thank you so much.
Thank you.
Thats y i disappeared They r demons
This makes sense. My narc mother and siblings were doing this to me before I went no contact with them all 4 years ago. Best thing I ever did. I wish I had done it sooner. I went off the scapegoat script and their heads almost exploded. There was even a family mobbing that included violence. Can you do a video on the sg child of malignant narc mother who goes no contact after over 5 decades of being gaslit and pulled into her matrix. She turned family and friends against me. Now that I understand narcs, I realize she smear campaigned me from day 1. Due to me being colicky as a baby. These monsters are insane. What do you think happens to an 80 something narc who loses the supply she cultivated for over 50 years? Thank you.
Oh, our mothers are sisters !!!
Great video. Such awesome insight into what many of us deal with regarding various people we encounter.
This is a learned behavior that can be UNLEARNED.
12/11/21❤️😇
Yes, that’s true, but behavior can only be unlearned by someone that wants to unlearn.
Im my case - Generational / learned fromone generational to another.
Why would narc u learn it..... Lose all the benefits....
So I left... And learned (learning) to look after myself.
How have got sooo well?
Your sooo good at this.
I challenged the lies
So well expressed!
a reason why a narcissist might seem to hate you is: Well, they gotta hate somebody 🤣
Great explanation. They're massively immature, aren't they?
When you know who they are, it s hilarious 😂😂
Uses abused & fused
Great job!
My ex gf to the T
You show them the reality about themselves , that is the reasen they are playing with you and try to harm you , it is real sick. behaviour.
Narcissts hate those who are good and talented because they cant see anyone better than them
1st rule of narcissim: RUN
Love from India ❤️
So sad, so what do you advice to the ppl that love their spouse and are wondering if they should go or stay… a lot of us would feel guilty to leave a disordered person who needs help right?
You cannot help them. Staying doesn’t help them. It enables them. They don’t want help. They don’t want to change. It is like a zebra thinking they will “help” a lion by staying and letting the lion eat them.
@@LookingBehindtheMirror good analogy 🎯
You cannot think about the narc when it comes to your health and safety, do or did they care about yours? Of course not, because they only care about themselves, you come first!!!
If your spouse is a narc and you´ve been married with such an idiot for over 20 years already and never noticed, what you have married - you are in very serious trouble my friend.
Very true
"Watch Sleepwalkers by Stephen King. This will make so much sense. Just watch the opening scene and the lightbulb will shine. Get out fast! 🤗" she hate my like the a Deamon 🤗, i dont hate i ❤.
Please stop the music.
and the black blinking and flashing throughout the clip....otherwise nice clip.....good info.....
So will put
I was obligated my law to cut off contact in 2013 with my parents
December 2023
I never realized it before but... Does all narcissists hate us after they discarded us? I mean, if every narcissist with who we get closer to (relationship, close friendship which were going to situationship) - does narcissist in every this case hate the other person? I wonder if they envy us or if if they hate us, and if yes then why?
Maybe because while you are looking for someone to love on. They want someone to hate on.😢
Omg, the realizations every single day ! Thank you!
Even if you could fix them they don't listen to you anyways, only hardcore therapy might help, but the have a huge ego, and won't go unless forced, thats why they don't take showers cause it fogs the mirror.
Facts💯💯
Show idea female psychopath in history
Eye Opening 👁👁 🧐
😢❤
🎯
Music is distracting
❤
for actions to match the words