I was taught as a teacher that we were never supposed to “complain” about things in the classroom. When I questioned that tack, I was admonished. Now I recognize that a system that doesn’t allow me to acknowledge what isn’t working is toxic. I’ve learned a lot about honoring my own boundaries from your videos. Thank you.
I find that some toxic positive people are not the least bit positive behind closed doors. Some of them are actually very negative and judge harshly but are very much into virtue signaling. Seems like narcissism to me.
More than misrepresenting reality, toxic positivity goes farther: it suppresses and excludes voices of realism, healthy skepticism, and counter factual (I.e.: risk assessment) thinking. Sometimes it outright punishes and gaslights diverse perspectives. The result is cynicism, disengagement, and the flight of talent.
Right, part of my healing was admitting to God that I wasn’t okay. (I’m religious) and that was really hard asking God for help. But he’s coming through for me.
Alan Watts tells me reality is ommmmmm... Biting the apple from the tree of knowledge has been very toxic. Knowledge is the new currency but without action it remains an illusion or hallucinations. Application turns knowledge into wisdom. Now if I can figure out how to apply my experience strength and hope to help is my hurdle
Well said- but I would make sure to include all of the clichés that tell people things like- if I can do it, so can you, or just pray about it. Toxic positivity should always include all of the aspects, like the rhetoric and sophistry, that doesn't account for an individual's ability, agency, and autonomy to accomplish his or her aspirations
This is the only major point I found disagreeing, in part, with Simon. Positivity is tattooed in my brain. Positivity and Optimism. Of course 'toxic' anything ain't good. But Positivity by of it self is a Virtue as such so many others. I'll raise Positivity always, even in rough times, acknowledging every piece of data and Reality. But eternally focusing on the Gain. Be Positive.
Yes I agree with the other response here. I think also toxic positivity is something you do to yourself where you convince yourself everything is okay where as gaslighting is done by another person. But honestly I didn’t spend the time looking that word up.
I was taught as a teacher that we were never supposed to “complain” about things in the classroom. When I questioned that tack, I was admonished. Now I recognize that a system that doesn’t allow me to acknowledge what isn’t working is toxic. I’ve learned a lot about honoring my own boundaries from your videos. Thank you.
Hence my resignation recently.
I find that some toxic positive people are not the least bit positive behind closed doors. Some of them are actually very negative and judge harshly but are very much into virtue signaling. Seems like narcissism to me.
Glad optimism and realism can coexist. I felt like I was always told I was a pessimist because of my realism but I felt like that didn’t quite fit me.
More than misrepresenting reality, toxic positivity goes farther: it suppresses and excludes voices of realism, healthy skepticism, and counter factual (I.e.: risk assessment) thinking. Sometimes it outright punishes and gaslights diverse perspectives. The result is cynicism, disengagement, and the flight of talent.
These are the hardest years of my life. I chose this. The future is worth it. Blessings now are worth it
Hope u alright
I consider myself a hopeful realist.
I say this all the time without knowing it had a name. Toxic positivity - this is brilliant. Thank you
I'm also just learning that this has a name...
Your team will respect you for being real. Great opportunity to build trust.
Holding space for others and self and having hope, faith, and seeing the light no matter how far away it is…I am also an eternal optimist
Right, part of my healing was admitting to God that I wasn’t okay. (I’m religious) and that was really hard asking God for help. But he’s coming through for me.
I needed to hear this while the whole company is going through challenging times at work while no one seems to agree that it is challenging times
Weathering the storm is about recognizing that there is a storm and protecting yourself from the storm❤
Alan Watts tells me reality is ommmmmm... Biting the apple from the tree of knowledge has been very toxic. Knowledge is the new currency but without action it remains an illusion or hallucinations. Application turns knowledge into wisdom. Now if I can figure out how to apply my experience strength and hope to help is my hurdle
Wonderful 👌I LOVE SIMON SINEK. Great guy!
I love it. ❤Simon
Amazing ❤
Thank you Simon.
This is very real ❤
Amazing as usual ❤️
That's great perspective
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"We will get through this in better shape" is lovely and optimistic, but certainly not a given. I would say it adds bagage at least.
Love realism!!
Wisdom
Well said- but I would make sure to include all of the clichés that tell people things like- if I can do it, so can you, or just pray about it.
Toxic positivity should always include all of the aspects, like the rhetoric and sophistry, that doesn't account for an individual's ability, agency, and autonomy to accomplish his or her aspirations
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Is like that image with the dog in a house on fire and he says: this is fine
Right sir❤😅
This is the only major point I found disagreeing, in part, with Simon. Positivity is tattooed in my brain. Positivity and Optimism. Of course 'toxic' anything ain't good. But Positivity by of it self is a Virtue as such so many others. I'll raise Positivity always, even in rough times, acknowledging every piece of data and Reality. But eternally focusing on the Gain. Be Positive.
I'm being positive in public all the time, cause I'm terrified of criticism.
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Stockdale Paradox
I have a mentally abusive mother who is like that
Most people on the internet are unfortunately blindly positive.
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AKA gaslighting
No. That isn't the same thing.
It's more denial than being a deceiver.
Yes I agree with the other response here. I think also toxic positivity is something you do to yourself where you convince yourself everything is okay where as gaslighting is done by another person. But honestly I didn’t spend the time looking that word up.
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