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Sonja L. McGhee I don't quite agree with that statement. The fact that someone is praying to marry someone doesn't mean God has approved him or her to marry that person....
@ Sweetheart I don't play with these men if I see red flags, if there's no connection & if he doesn't have the basics ( car/ vehicle, house/ apartment, responsible) I cut my ties quickly. One of his books, he says some women know within the 1st date / 1st conversation that a guy isn't a good fit for her.
Proverbs 4:23: Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life. (NLT) I don't know about you, but my heart can be fickle. This is why it must be guarded and I have to use my brain. No one wants to be on a relationship merry-go-round for 5 years due to loving and pouring in to the wrong person. 😊
Hurt people attract other hurt people. Change your vibrations change your life. Start taking care of yourself and loving yourself. Then you'll attract the right person for you. Women keep listening to these men selling dreams. When all the answers they seek are with in themselves. As soon as I changed my outlook and attitude towards life I started pulling more postive people to me.. You can keep begging and pleading for a man but until you get your shit together you will not attract a decent one. You'll continue to attract vultures that feed off of your insecurities. Turn your attention to loving yourselves ladies and I promise you you'll attract the right man and instantly start blocking out the garbage.
Yes in part but not completely. Im not hurt but I attract hurt people bc their energy vampires. They want to be around people who aren't hurt bc it's healing to them. I will not let anyone like that in my circle anymore. I don't feel sorry for them either. I worked hard on myself and they'd take me down to destroy me bc it makes them feel better.
Lin Rey Exactly, it took me a long time but I’ve gotten to that point too. Being a empath can get you to a destructive path if not careful bc of feeling sorry for people and their misfortunes...
@@nofybn7794 What? How can you love yourself if you're hurt? Damage people attract other damaged people. Yes not even thats hurt, takes it out on others. But more often than not that hurt person becomes jaded.
@@nofybn7794 What you're saying doesn't make any sense. What do you mean by hurting? In what context are you trying to use the word? Listen if you're going to comment on what I wrote at lest be able to explain yourself better, instead of just spewing nonsense
The man who claimed he prayed for God to send me into his life n for me to be his wife has cheated on me time and time again, emotionally and i believe physically (I never had concrete proof). Men can lie and use God as a way to gain a Christian woman trust, it happened to me.
That wasn't the man for you. For an honorable man has the FEAR OF GOD, and will honor the commandment "Thou shall not commit adultery". Therefore, if he looks to you as his wife he will not move to mess anything up. Next time, pray for wisdom, discernment and ask that God brings forth your Husband. Nextly, see to it that he is a MAN OF GOD. But most importantly SPEAK LIFE in your relationship, good or bad times. Remain persistent and consistent. Nobody's perfect, so repent if you must but when God knows your heart he holds steady for you 😊
Please make sure you don't trust what anyone says without checking their fruits. The bible says you will know them by their fruits!! Men will lie but we also have to do our homework!!
Blessed One sorry to hear this, I hope this taught you to trust Your gut or in this case the Holy Spirit next time. You knew you weren’t ready, however you allowed your brokenness to pull you in and be deceived again...that enemy is a sneaky one. I hope things are better for you now...continue to focus on your healing and happiness 🙌🏾👏🏾💕
Something else to be mindful of is that god will not send someone into your life that will separate you from him, he does not test you like that in that area.. he gets no glory out of you having a full scholarship to hell cause you now have a man or woman in your life separating you from him. Know what you are waiting for, and except no potential mates, or charity projects... you can’t make them into what you want.
I pray my daughter see that her boyfriend is drawing her further away from God. She just recently said she doesnt want to go to church any more. Her boyfriend isn't a beliver in Jesus. I pray for him to have a heart thats willing to know the Lord.
I needed to read this. I was second guessing myself on my decision to leave a certain man alone. Thank you for letting the Spirit use you to write this word.
J. T I agree!!! The Lord says we can pray for wisdom and He gives it to us liberally! My prayer is that all women continually Seek First the kingdom of God and ALL things will be added to you He doesn’t say cast your cares on me for you do what you will after!? No. Cast your cares even what you desire because He gave you that desire and He will give you abundantly more than what I want. Discernment/ Wisdom/ and Guard your heart ❤️
Mampe Lesetla - yes he does, but the only difference is the person he sends to you will have an evil motive. And that motive is to kill, still and destroy. If we use Gods discernment we will see all of the red flags. Be blessed💜
I agree to disagree on this one. The man or woman (for the men on this platform) GOD has for you will be for you. If it doesn’t happen then, it’s a matter of divine alignment and timing. One thing about our GOD, we as humans aren’t that powerful to wreck HIS divine plan. That’s, of course, when we surrender to HIS will. I believe, if that person is praying, then GOD will shed light on why the person they are pursuing is guarded. That way, your spirit is able to minister to those areas of fear. GOD will speak.
I dont know you but your comment made my day... I had that conversation, someone told me how my walls were up...I thought he would know how to approach me and be patient...wrong he was aiming for his instant gratification and I was not buying his talk, he disappeared... So thank you again👏👏
I agree. The Holy Spirit is everything when it comes to choosing a godly spouse. You have to have heard from the Holy Spirit that this is the guy and the Holy Spirit must give the guy clearance to pursue a specific babe. That way, it'll be more of an encounter than a game. If the girl doesn't agree at first, maybe it's because she's so focused on the things of God that she hasn't been bothered about the absence of a husband. We're in the era of exactitude with the Holy Spirit in charge. I believe it's He that leads each person into all truths about marriage so that when they meet, they're already groomed for marriage.
Janae Miller Media I totally agree. The man/ woman God has for you is For You and it is all about Gods timing and his divine alignment. We are not powerful enough to wreck or mess up or stop Gods plan for our life. But we must do our part and prepare our hearts and mind to be ready to receive when the time/person arrives. We must allow God to make us whole in every area of our lives.
Helen Enang I like your statement....that it will be more of an encounter then a game. Because if either parties are not ready but God has ordained the relationship, it will become a very frustrating game. Until both or on God’s timing and divine alignment is in order.
“God if this is not the man, take him away” to be honest I always pray a prayer like this. And it’s closer to “God if he is not the right one for me, remove my feelings and attraction to him” It doesn’t come from me wanting to put the responsibility on God, it’s the fact that I am so committed to Him that my interest in someone who is not in line with the Word of God and does not have a relationship with Him deeply I don’t want to start getting attached to if that man is not a part of God’s will for my life. There is God’s will and then our own. And we know what happens when we choose our own will. Yes I believe that God gives us choices but it is also our responsibility to take those choices to Him and ask His opinion because He sees and knows the hearts of man. God is jealous over those that are His. Why would I not ask my Father for His divine wisdom especially when who you choose to marry is the second most important life long decision you will make.
You are so right. I have been in relationship with the wrong man . I am now in a relationship with the man God has chosen for me. Everything is different, there is peace, trust, communication. Big, big difference, I refer to the book sometimes. Its a must get ladies! Truly a very good and helpful book!! ❤️
@b Howard. You are miss applying that scripture read on to verse 21. It talks about how to discern the men bearing righteous fruit and how to determine Who they are. It is the ONE doing the will of my father. Jesus is not referring to a marriage mate that is worthy of you. I dig that you refer to scripture but don't mis apply scripture. 2 Tim 2:15-19
@@perfumetester10 I hope you are well and had a great day! The entire scripture was read. However, can this not be applied to individuals who cross our path. Husband or not. You will know who people are at their core and in their spirit by the fruit that they produce. A liar will produce lying fruit, a cheater will produce cheating fruit, etc. etc. Just merely stating that people will be able to recognize good from bad by the fruit they bring forth or produce. I hope you have a great night and a wonderful tomorrow! 🍏😊
@@bhoward thank you I did actually had a great day. I just don't especially like when people move the scripture around to Fit what their philosophy is. The word is the Word. Yes everyday people will show you their fruits they bear. But STILL the scripture says..... you will Know them... because they do the WILL of my father. Not this....Not that... let's get b Howard philosophy on the mater. his/her version of what the scripture means. I can tell by your reply you did not read 2 Tim 2:15-17. Please read that FIRST. Have a really good day and fantastic week. 💜
@@perfumetester10 Glad you had a great day! In addition, I did read 2 Timothy prior to responding. We can agree to disagree🤗 Ms. Brady! Have a great night!
My husband is praying for me right now I have been praying for my husband too it's a crazy thought but it's so true I will find my husband through Christ not in myself
Yes, do the work as well. And while you do the work The Most High will bring the man that will also show you / help you get to the place that TMH has for you. Remember you're both going to the same place together, so it's a journey you both are on at the same time. He isn't perfect and neither are you! but his love and care and yours back to him will tell you whether you're on the right road with the right person. Video is on Point!
Oh ABBAH FATHER, please let the man you've made for me find me and when he does, please help me to be spiritually sensitive to recognize him and be ready and willing to accept and appreciate his love. Amen🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾!!!
Jesus loves you all and is coming soon! ❤️ if you haven’t repented and turned from sin and accepted Jesus as Savior believing He died and rose again for you, today is perfect and scripture says that today is the day of salvation!!
This is great and all! But can you do something that speaks to men. Everywhere I go I see all types of support for women to help heal emotional damage. Develop better self love, self awareness, emotional control and ultimately revamp their dating approach. But men are still in the dark like we don't go through the same things.
I hear him speak on both men and women in allot of interviews I've seen him in. Just gotta look for it. I know that must be frustrating tho. There really is more info out here for women. That's a true statement
@@quinntheqt4281 Thank you for the praise and the recommendation. Don't get me wrong there are people doing things. I've been following Apollonia Aponti on UA-cam, her work is specifically for men. Yes I do find this odd!! She teaches how to decode the female dating mentality. Also how to respond to women's responses when a man shows interest. Fifty percent of what she says makes sense. The rest comes off as catering to women to get what you want. You essentially play mental chess with women. One wrong move brings instant rejection. It makes dating women seem really over complicated. A lot of male coaches talk about a bunch manipulative games and mind tricks. My last relationship was with a manipulative narcissistic woman. It became very toxic and abusive physically/mentally/ emotionally. It put me in my current 3yr dating break. So not interested in doing the same to anyone its very cruel.
You cant sabotage something that was never meant for you in the first place. As you said, there are choices we need to make...choices that God already knew we were going to make before we did.
So embarrassed 😳 I’ve said this prayer so many times just waiting for something to happen lol. Thank you Stephan for caring so much about women and their well being. God has done good by you ✨
To be honest, I've prayed the EXACT words and I made the EXACT face when he mentioned it lol. I'm so glad he's allowing God to use him to guide us. Each one teach one and many Blessings to you all.❤️
I prayed for God to remove a man if God didnt want things to go any further. And the man suddenly stopped messaging me and got back with his ex. Im so glad God protected me from getting into a relationship with him and catching feelings. God sees what we can't see. He knew that man was still attached to his ex
Two things that I got, that I learned from this video: 1. Establish a relationship with God; & 2. Practice abstinence (even if you had sex before). Both of these will bring self- love ❤️, care and respect.
Thank you for this. My ex of 3 years left me abruptly in May 2022 over an argument he started and became disrespectful towards me during. Still, I thought I had done something wrong and apologized, a lot. We would end up being apart for 2.5 months. During this time I focused RELIGIOUSLY on facing my demons, learning femininity, letting go of victim mentality and learned accountability. I also got closer to God and started embracing his word. I was so, so eager to prove to myself I was a damn good woman. He unexpectedly returned July 2022 and I let him back into my life and house without..even expecting him to apologize, explain himself or tell me why he showed up at my door at 2am on a Friday with a plastic ring I gave him 1 year ago telling me “I thought you might want this back” when that ring was not even worth Pennie’s. We got close and I became intimate within 4 days of us being back together. However upon looking within, I brought up to him that I didn’t want to keep having sex. He claimed to love the lord too and he was never religious before. He didn’t like that. On my birthday august 9th, my ex broke up with me. This was the 2nd time he did that to me on my birthday. He blocked and deleted me the following day. No apology. Nothing. I realized God allowed me to speak my truth to reveal my exes intentions. This was also because my ex kept talking about his plans and future but I realized it didn’t involve me. Due to my healing I didn’t take that personal. I simply realized I needed to step back and let him do him. After he crushed my soul for the 2nd time on my birthday and seemingly didn’t care. All because I declined sex, I realized this man never truly loved or valued me. He came back because he couldn’t move on to someone else. I truly felt like an idiot especially surviving emotional abuse from him for 3 years, I somehow trusted his words because he was actually PERFECT our final three weeks together. He’s gone and I miss him but I’m glad I held firm to my boundaries. He tried making me feel bad because he said “as a man I should be able to pleasure you and fuck you and I can’t do my job as a man because you make me look like a joke!” He left my house crying and I stood there…confused. 22 Minutes into my birthday. He could’ve started that rje day before or the weekend before. But he choose to do so right after my birthday had just barely started.
Amen! I had to let one go who was a good one because I’m still healing from back to back toxic relationships and I know I’m not in a place where I can give the full attention and care to another that a healthy relationship deserves 😕 I have to focus on me and why I allowed myself to be in these toxic cycles for so long.
That's amazing and so unselfish of you to do that. I'm in a toxic relationship now that has just broken me down and I'm just asking God for strength to walk away from this toxic marriage because it has just broken me down mentally and emotionally. I need all the prayer warriors to pray for me.🙏
@@YollyB It took me 26 years, but with Gods grace, he gave me the strength to leave. Its been 3 years since the divorce and I can honestly say I am healed. You can do this. Trust God, take a dee breath, tell yourself the truth and go for it. God will be there with you every day.
@@lvncsr6166 Thank you for your kind words I'm taking it one day at a time because it's super stressful when kids are involved and you are dependent financially on the person. So I'm just working on getting myself together.
It sounds like u need to focus on your relationship with God and obeying him ,theres no way u would of gone through all that if u would of obeyed and waited patiently to his will and instruction
Wow my same situation. I just had to let someone go as well due to me needing to get my mental together because im so affected by my very toxic, abusive past relationships. I cant b good to someone else if im not good myself mentally. Taking this time getting closer to God n focusing n working on myself feels so good, something i never did. I know God is going to send my husband when he knows im really ready n im happy n patient with that
I've never witnessed a healthy relationship up close. One set of my grandparents stayed together, but they were old. I never saw them kiss or anything like that. My parents had a VERY toxic relationship that seems to have messed me up. I witnessed love as pain. I wish I could heal it.
baritunde the Holy Spirit can heal you and give you a new lease on life. If you have accepted Jesus Christ as your Lord, you're eligible to receive the Holy Spirit. Just ask God for his Spirit and he will give you abundantly. Jesus said when the Holy Spirit comes he'll lead you into all truth. When I received the Holy Spirit, he changed my heart and began to teach me so much about marriage and gave me a ministry. He will do the same for you 🙏
My boyfriend of 11 years just admitted to cheating on me several times, then dumped me. 😂 Your channel is really helpful. I am currently on day 2 of moving on.
I love that there is a laughing emoji at the end of you first sentence haha. You have the right attitude, he is the loser here! I can’t wait for you to meet someone with way more emotional intelligence!
@megan a LOT better :) It's almost 2 yrs since that breakup and I am still single but happy and grateful to no longer be in that abusive manipulative relationship. I am currently dating a man with a better character, but no DTR yet :) Wish me luck and good luck to you too!
That's true. So there is a difference in how a Godly Man pursues you vs slick Willie. An ungodly man will pursue your body and a Godly Man will pursue your heart.
That’s still a powerful prayer because sometimes you just don’t know, or you just don’t have time. God knows. And he has answered that exact prayer for me many times. I also prayed and asked God to reveal certain things in the first conversation and it’s been amazing the things men have revealed to me in first conversations. God is almighty and powerful and all seeing and knowing and he’s there, so chase him
Yes! Continue to Pray what the Holy Spirit is leading you to pray. We are to be obedient to God not Man - So Pray Without Ceasing....Also, ask for discernment and our God Will Reveal The Truth. Amen 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾✝️
This is so true....I need to let it go if it's not for me even if it feels awkward, but I'm ready to let walls down but be ready to walk away in a mature loving way and just take my time and the holy spirit will show me. It's so real that God won't do my part for me amen.
I actually laughed out loud when you quoted the prayer we pray to God! That sounds just like me. Hahahahaha. Great insight and words of wisdom. I look forward to buying your book!
I honestly don't think it's a problem to pray this prayer. You come before God in sincerity, it doesn't have to be a complicated prayer. He's sees our hearts and knows what's best for us. If this is the prayer you can say, isn't God able to provide an answer?
N Jeremiah Many times we don’t wait and listen for God’s answer. Day after the prayer, he calls/comes by, “oh well I guess God wants him to stay around”
Not being rude, but no he doesn't. He knows your actions because of what he watches , but he doesn't know your heart only God knows and continue to ask for the gifts of the spirit including discernment day by day.
If it contradicts God's standards and principles, then you have discernment. Biggest thing is just waiting. Seek him first. He will reveal things about the person that are unacceptable to God's principles. Reward is waiting. The devil can't sustain the light for long.
“ Imagine A Man Praying To God He Gets To Marry You”. He’s the Lucky Man! 😍 But I do believe as he prays that he gets to marry her the Lord will guide him as to what's needed to pursue her but I also believe that the woman should be praying that she gets to marry the man God has for her. However, there is work to be done on both the man/woman because they have to be willing to nurture, experience and receive each other by operating on one accord to establish the foundation.
"The Man God Has for You" is a gem that I keep in my purse....I've had that prayer a few times in the past...pleading and/or bargaining with God asking him to take away a Man if he was not for me, and although it has worked (lol) I can see how that is not the correct route to take when learning to know if he is the man God has for me...thankful for growth! Great book. Every woman should read it! God bless
I have been praying that the man God has for me will pursue me and I won’t have to pursue him. I’ve been trying not to go after someone because the last time I did that it didn’t end well. But lately no one is pursuing me . But praying it’s cause the right one hasn’t come .
I thought well i did like this guy , i thought he liked me. He is in a relationship i think about him sometimes, i have seen him twice recently i just never had talked to him in a conversation. Anyway while I'm praying sometimes his name pop in my prayer like i don't be thinking about him like gotta have him. But evertime i we see each other it's a smile but no conversation. I sometimes don't pray for him but i told God i left it alone. He is busy with ministry.
literals your first sentence made me just start crying...I have been waiting 36 years for a man to be praying for me and who wants me like that. I just ended a 5 year relationship because he wasn't committing to me and God told me to leave. He actually told me 2 years ago but I disobeyed and now told me again. This time I listened. HARDEST THING EVER TO DO...but he keeps telling me to trust him through all these tears. I will....I am still waiting for my Boaz.
Amen!!! So true! God is the best Matchmaker!!! I am embracing my singleness for now, and when the time is right God will give me my Boaz!!! Thank you Jesus!!!🙏🏽❤️😘
I made mistakes in the past and I has one child from the guy who I never imagined that! I’ll have a child for him. but that was God’s permission, I know God has another plan for me “ I feel the anointing of him and something is going to happen accelerated out of the blue. God is my helper and my fortress, I put all my trust in Jesus, he will Send me the right man for me As I declare and decree” amen and amen
I know God has someone for me who's my equal. But until then I'm patiently waiting. You have great insight on relationships. I appreciate you man of God.
It’s so funny, I had the hardest time listening to you until I have learned more about self-worth & self-love. You feel like the friend who never gave up on me. ❤️ Thank you!
Disclaimer-(My intention is NOT to be rude, nor disrespect the information you have shared, it is helpful...thank you!!...I’m just genuinely curious) Who is teaching men about being a Godly man or leader in Christ!?! Do they know what to look for in a godly woman and the importance on why they should?!? I see sooo many “good men” lost within who they are in Christ and stuck in limbo of generational curses! More woman are spiritually ready waiting for men, who are more so spiritually lost!?! (Look at the number of women in churches, serving, and working compared to men. It’s like a ration of 5:1 (women to men) We need help!! It starts with the head (man)! In my opinion we are getting women ready for men who are still asleep! Would you agree or disagree?
True., let go and let on those men., because you don't want an unhealthy relationship ., we as women pray then wait on god He can and will turn eye's and ears to that man He has for you., and we you think it's him go back again pray and wait for god to answer this has to happen it's a process that we as women have to change our man choosing tactics., not to say choose a hobit who 3 foot tall and has a lop sided afro chasing chasing you around in church., and you no some idiot in church sent him to you., because this happened to me and Aunt who is Ushered for 25 years was Livid and so was I., folks in church are worse than folks who don't attend church a haven for the evil decisive ones., I say help the homeless., feed the poor that is what I do., this Is outside god blesses openly share your testimony .., and sees churches going no we're but hell.., jesus went from city to city ., no to church all dressed up, then go home eat go back to church., is anybody getting food., shelter love., no because. There to busy in themselves
I met my ex-husband 37 years ago and I knew he wasn't for me.God was telling me and I wouldn't listrn.You are correct we have to take responsibility for when we go with the wrong man.I paid the price in many ways emotionally financially etc.
I have to agree to disagree with you, a man that wants you will pursue you, chase, move mountains to be with you. He will put forth the effort and you won't have to ask if he is the right man.
@@kmc1994 You are absolutely right, and I agree with you 100%. A KING RECOGNIZES HIS QUEEN AND HE WILL PURSUE HER BY ANY MEAN NECESSARY(not stalking or anything negative) but he will let her know of his intentions. You are also right about men wanting women to pursue them. I say, 'be that man that wants to lead, protect, provide and profess his interest or love for a women.' A man that does this is not being weak....Proverbs 18:22.
@@kmc1994 Then he and his friends should stop being afraid and making assumptions and communicate honestly with the women that they are interested in. The right woman will make him feel comfortable enough to open up and be vulnerable with her. Men have intuition/discernment just like women do and they should use it to weed out the fake from the real...ijs.
Thanks for sharing, i have been in a Relationship for 8 months. My boyfriend prayed for us everyday in and out, asking advice, caring, courage from God about our relationship to prosper. Talking about us, planning and he was so engaged iny kid's life. All of a sudden he left me hanging. Im shattered im trying to get back on my feet again. Today its the 58 day without hearing from him. We never fought or had misunderstanding but here i am confused
I am very blessed to have met the man that God delivered to me, without having a solid faith in him myself. Since meeting him I have completely embraced the Lord and his divinity, I am eternally grateful for my life partner and will continue to focus on our future and God's role in supporting it.
We make selections for so many different reason. We don't want to be lonely, we feel like we need to be with someone because our friends are in relationships. So many reasons but you're so on point.
My exact words in former times. "Lord if he is not for me take him away, remove him out my life!" But as I progress in age and maturity I found out I have a say in who I choose!. I call it change your filter.. if not healed and delivered the filter is full of gunk that influences you perception and processing of information. Just out of a toxic relationship and asking God to purify my heart mind body and spirit.. (change my filter and fix my picker)
So right.. if I have to pray to ask God to remove someone from my life if that person is not for me.. the signs that he is not are clearly already present. It is time for us to put our big girl pants on and do the work we need to do. And then thank God for showing us and giving us the courage to move forward.
I love this it's very informative💗. I pray to God for a good husband (in details) Iv only had two real relationships and I have been single for a really long time but I'm patiently waiting on God.
I totally believe what you are saying, what if you felt in your heart and had confirmation that you will meet your husband in church. I am a member at a small church in my community and a teacher in child ministry and a teacher assistant for head start. Lately I'm just on go mode, church, family and work. But I don't wanna miss it. Thats my problem. I don't wanna look when God is already healing me. But I do pray for my husband. I just don't feel I am ready right now.
This was very good and clear to women Because that is often a prayer most women pray Lord if he is not the one remove him and we don’t take responsibility that we have choice and God has given us power to choose to be with someone and to yes seek God about it - but also know He has given us the right to choose - very good
@StephanSpeaks As an African-American woman growing into the fullness of who I am as as God's masterpiece, I think the advice you give is invaluable. I no longer entertain anyone that is not able or willing to be a committed partner of character and virtue. At the same time I think it's important to address that black women don't have the options we use to, especially if we are spiritual and educated. Many of us are single, not because we are not making ourselves "available" living full lives OR staying in dead end situations but because we can't find men equally yoked to us. We find chemistry and compatibility but no character. The bar has been so lowered by many of our needy choices many men don't feel the need to commit to relationship that will move towards covenant marriage. How do you speak to that?
I'm not sure how he'll respond, but I know for me: raise the bar, stop giving the (loser) boyfriend husband benefits. I listen to Redefined TV and many others, and I think a lot of men don't want to commit because they get the benefits elsewhere. Mind you, I am black, almost 35 this year if the Lord keeps me, and I've NEVER been in a serious relationship. I've had opportunity, but thank God for His protection and gifts of discernment and wisdom, but I don't give a man-child with impure intentions the time of day. He's got to be straight from the Lord without all the "well, I've got needs" and the desire to run games on me. Time is short and my life, peace and sanity are precious and invaluable. If we as women would stop taking just whatever comes around out of our insecurities or desperation, over time those men would eventually get the picture once they've had an encounter with Christ. But it starts with the woman refusing to be played, being okay with herself in her own skin, and learning to trust Him. Be blessed!
Thank for that word,now I know he’s not the one for me because we’re in a 10 year relationship, and I’m ready to take it to the next lever but he’s telling me that I’m not ready after 10 years of my life and I’m not ready,
And you were doing a good Job keep saying that prayer please dont listen to him.That is one Of the most powerful prayers for God to Change you.God cant Change you or elevate you if you're holding on to dead weight
@@helenabailey40 I can’t understand why he said that, that prayer saved me from a lot of heartache . God knows what’s in the hearts of these men and a no good man with bad intentions needs to be revealed, and removed
I was taught when a Man want you, he will chase you down if he have to, to get to you and this was over 100s Saved and UnSaved, basically, if he don’t chase then he missed his catch. God Bless
It's so sad that male and female have to go through this. It was a time when people knew what they wanted in a relationship. A guy I meet ask me to finance multiple children he fathered. I did not cause God has not called me to support the man. God made him the covering not me. No one knows their place in a relationship. God to man Saint to Saint Male and Female Put God first and you win all the time✌✌✌
That guy is looking for spanish women buy black men everything., so they don't leave hidden agenda to steal kill and destroy the black. Family men wake up.., or stay sleeping
The Holy Sirit will lead you and guide you into all truth(John 16-13..... I believe that if we ask God to reveal to us what the intentions of the other is, He will reveal them as he did for me in the last encounter I had. I am so grateful I was able to recognize his evil intentions and get away from him. My ex husband said he asked God for me but he turned out to be an abusive Narcissist.
I'm reading this book right now and I have to say it's a great book for every woman specially when Stephan start to dispel some myths that we grown with. I'm reading and thinking about everything he says. Unfortunally sometimes we are not prepared for a relationship as God wants and we ended up waste our time, our energy with someone who will make us feeling like we worth nothing but fortunally this book is an open eyes for us and I see Stephan as a man of God and we have to admit that most of the time we do need some help when it comes to wait for the man God has for us no matter how age we are.
I read the book and I will read it several times before I begin dating again. Thank you brother. Yes that prayer. I’ve prayed it before. The book opened up my eyes 👀 in a remarkable way. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
This video has come on time. I'm putting myself out here with this, but sometimes I pray and ask God to remove the ungodly desire I have at times. I need to read the book again to apply. Thank you for the video!
Thank you Stephan, your messages are always so powerful. I just fear that it’s too late for the right man to find me. I’m not exactly young anymore, and don’t want to be negative, but it just gets so much harder the older you get. I’m trying to hold onto hope, but it gets very discouraging at times.
Thanks for your perspective. I've heard this many times but never explained so clearly. I stayed in a loveless marriage for far too many years. Looking forward to my second act regarding relationships. God bless you,Stephan.
Well advice taken, I will just be. Let go and let God. I release my ego, and surrender to God's will for me. I've been stubborn, but I'm willing to evolve and nurture...
I don’t agree. I prayed that exact prayer and he ghosted me & unfriend me on FB when I brought to his attention he was disrespecting me. It was validated because he didn’t respect me enough to tell me + he could easily walk away because I refuse to compromise my respect. BYE !!!!!! his rejection was God’s protection.
I really needed to hear this!!!!! I've been waiting so long for that one right guy, asking God why I dont have a good man in my life when I know plenty of no good female's with no drive,ambition,no respect and 10 kids who always find a good man...Smh! All I ask for is protection,respect and love...didnt think that was too much to ask for🤷♀️
Trinese ,I can understand how you associate a woman with no ambition to be a of poor quality but wth does 10 kids have to do with anything? Smh. Stop being so judgemental.
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Imagine a man praying to God he gets to marry you! Such a powerful statement.
Your wisdom has much truth.
May God continue to work through you.
Ouu yes 😍
I had several guys praying for me but that didn't make them the one for me but the thought of the right one praying that prayer is encouraging
Hmm...I know someone who's praying to marry me vut he's not my type
Sonja L. McGhee I don't quite agree with that statement.
The fact that someone is praying to marry someone doesn't mean God has approved him or her to marry that person....
Amen
My prayer is "God if you didn't send him remove him".
Me too
Amen
Yes me too. Any guy that comes into my life I always ask God if they are not meant to be remove them from my life.
@@CherrelleColeman I agree with this.
This is exactly what I ask for
I can’t wait to meet the man that is praying for me ❤️🙏
But will I recognize him🤔
Yeh. Weh he @
Same here
OMG Brandy. Me too....🙏
Amen
YES selection process is off, stop entertaining men that aren't equally yoked with you. I pray for wisdom & discernment interacting with men.
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Sweetheart I don't play with these men if I see red flags, if there's no connection & if he doesn't have the basics ( car/ vehicle, house/ apartment, responsible) I cut my ties quickly. One of his books, he says some women know within the 1st date / 1st conversation that a guy isn't a good fit for her.
Amen
Michelle McDonald that is so true and have to agree men are like children
Michelle McDonald so true..
Why is church so full of single women? Especially black churches.?
Proverbs 4:23: Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life. (NLT) I don't know about you, but my heart can be fickle. This is why it must be guarded and I have to use my brain. No one wants to be on a relationship merry-go-round for 5 years due to loving and pouring in to the wrong person. 😊
Amen....
B Howard say that!!!
"Follow your heart, but take your brain with you."
Amen to this
I would LOVE to take this comment and post it on my Twitter ❤❤❤
Hurt people attract other hurt people. Change your vibrations change your life. Start taking care of yourself and loving yourself. Then you'll attract the right person for you. Women keep listening to these men selling dreams. When all the answers they seek are with in themselves. As soon as I changed my outlook and attitude towards life I started pulling more postive people to me.. You can keep begging and pleading for a man but until you get your shit together you will not attract a decent one. You'll continue to attract vultures that feed off of your insecurities. Turn your attention to loving yourselves ladies and I promise you you'll attract the right man and instantly start blocking out the garbage.
Yes in part but not completely.
Im not hurt but I attract hurt people bc their energy vampires. They want to be around people who aren't hurt bc it's healing to them. I will not let anyone like that in my circle anymore. I don't feel sorry for them either. I worked hard on myself and they'd take me down to destroy me bc it makes them feel better.
Lin Rey Exactly, it took me a long time but I’ve gotten to that point too. Being a empath can get you to a destructive path if not careful bc of feeling sorry for people and their misfortunes...
Hurting doesn't mean you don't love yourself so I don't agree.
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What? How can you love yourself if you're hurt? Damage people attract other damaged people. Yes not even thats hurt, takes it out on others. But more often than not that hurt person becomes jaded.
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What you're saying doesn't make any sense. What do you mean by hurting? In what context are you trying to use the word? Listen if you're going to comment on what I wrote at lest be able to explain yourself better, instead of just spewing nonsense
I Can’t Wait To Meet The Man God Chose For Me 💯
its a beautiful thing. i dont want anything in my life it God didnt order it
I'm Thirding This Yess....Ma'am 🚺💪🙏💪🙏....
Forthing this as well. ijn.
Me too
Me as well, 😓
The man who claimed he prayed for God to send me into his life n for me to be his wife has cheated on me time and time again, emotionally and i believe physically (I never had concrete proof). Men can lie and use God as a way to gain a Christian woman trust, it happened to me.
That wasn't the man for you. For an honorable man has the FEAR OF GOD, and will honor the commandment "Thou shall not commit adultery". Therefore, if he looks to you as his wife he will not move to mess anything up. Next time, pray for wisdom, discernment and ask that God brings forth your Husband. Nextly, see to it that he is a MAN OF GOD. But most importantly SPEAK LIFE in your relationship, good or bad times. Remain persistent and consistent. Nobody's perfect, so repent if you must but when God knows your heart he holds steady for you 😊
It's important to have a relationship with God and ask for yourself if what he is saying is true.
Please make sure you don't trust what anyone says without checking their fruits. The bible says you will know them by their fruits!! Men will lie but we also have to do our homework!!
Blessed One sorry to hear this, I hope this taught you to trust Your gut or in this case the Holy Spirit next time. You knew you weren’t ready, however you allowed your brokenness to pull you in and be deceived again...that enemy is a sneaky one. I hope things are better for you now...continue to focus on your healing and happiness 🙌🏾👏🏾💕
Thank you smuccilicious for your prayers & encouragement on the matter. I'm doing better and I haven't given up on love...❤ ❤ ❤
Something else to be mindful of is that god will not send someone into your life that will separate you from him, he does not test you like that in that area.. he gets no glory out of you having a full scholarship to hell cause you now have a man or woman in your life separating you from him. Know what you are waiting for, and except no potential mates, or charity projects... you can’t make them into what you want.
So very very true. Well said!
Yes full scholarship to hell, I certainly don't want that. God will remove certain people out of our lives to avoid this, I've definitely seen it.
I pray my daughter see that her boyfriend is drawing her further away from God. She just recently said she doesnt want to go to church any more. Her boyfriend isn't a beliver in Jesus. I pray for him to have a heart thats willing to know the Lord.
YES!!!!! 🙌🙌🙌💯
I needed to read this. I was second guessing myself on my decision to leave a certain man alone. Thank you for letting the Spirit use you to write this word.
Women we need to ask God for a spirit of dicernemmt....test the spirit by the Holy spirit...examine his fruit....not just his words
J. T I agree!!! The Lord says we can pray for wisdom and He gives it to us liberally! My prayer is that all women continually Seek First the kingdom of God and ALL things will be added to you He doesn’t say cast your cares on me for you do what you will after!? No. Cast your cares even what you desire because He gave you that desire and He will give you abundantly more than what I want. Discernment/ Wisdom/ and Guard your heart ❤️
Ebony Essence Discernment comes naturally if we feed ourselves the Word daily.
💅 it..never trust what they say but what they do
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The devil also pursues you, I had so many in the past.
Amen!
Yep!
Mampe Lesetla - yes he does, but the only difference is the person he sends to you will have an evil motive. And that motive is to kill, still and destroy. If we use Gods discernment we will see all of the red flags. Be blessed💜
Lol
Amen and amen!!!
I agree to disagree on this one. The man or woman (for the men on this platform) GOD has for you will be for you. If it doesn’t happen then, it’s a matter of divine alignment and timing. One thing about our GOD, we as humans aren’t that powerful to wreck HIS divine plan. That’s, of course, when we surrender to HIS will. I believe, if that person is praying, then GOD will shed light on why the person they are pursuing is guarded. That way, your spirit is able to minister to those areas of fear. GOD will speak.
I dont know you but your comment made my day... I had that conversation, someone told me how my walls were up...I thought he would know how to approach me and be patient...wrong he was aiming for his instant gratification and I was not buying his talk, he disappeared... So thank you again👏👏
I agree. The Holy Spirit is everything when it comes to choosing a godly spouse. You have to have heard from the Holy Spirit that this is the guy and the Holy Spirit must give the guy clearance to pursue a specific babe. That way, it'll be more of an encounter than a game.
If the girl doesn't agree at first, maybe it's because she's so focused on the things of God that she hasn't been bothered about the absence of a husband.
We're in the era of exactitude with the Holy Spirit in charge. I believe it's He that leads each person into all truths about marriage so that when they meet, they're already groomed for marriage.
Janae Miller Media I totally agree. The man/ woman God has for you is For You and it is all about Gods timing and his divine alignment. We are not powerful enough to wreck or mess up or stop Gods plan for our life. But we must do our part and prepare our hearts and mind to be ready to receive when the time/person arrives. We must allow God to make us whole in every area of our lives.
Helen Enang I like your statement....that it will be more of an encounter then a game. Because if either parties are not ready but God has ordained the relationship, it will become a very frustrating game. Until both or on God’s timing and divine alignment is in order.
amen too that!
“God if this is not the man, take him away” to be honest I always pray a prayer like this. And it’s closer to “God if he is not the right one for me, remove my feelings and attraction to him” It doesn’t come from me wanting to put the responsibility on God, it’s the fact that I am so committed to Him that my interest in someone who is not in line with the Word of God and does not have a relationship with Him deeply I don’t want to start getting attached to if that man is not a part of God’s will for my life. There is God’s will and then our own. And we know what happens when we choose our own will. Yes I believe that God gives us choices but it is also our responsibility to take those choices to Him and ask His opinion because He sees and knows the hearts of man. God is jealous over those that are His. Why would I not ask my Father for His divine wisdom especially when who you choose to marry is the second most important life long decision you will make.
You are amazing. 100% agree and have prayed like this. So true.
"Imagine a man praying to God he gets to marry you." Amen! I will continue to pray to the most high for Mr.Right.
“ Imagine a man praying to God that he gets to marry you!” I LOVE that thought! Thank you!! 🥰
You are so right. I have been in relationship with the wrong man . I am now in a relationship with the man God has chosen for me.
Everything is different, there is peace, trust, communication. Big, big difference, I refer to the book sometimes. Its a must get ladies! Truly a very good and helpful book!! ❤️
God bless your marriage!
I love this! I spent many nights in tears because I didnt know my self worth! I have this book and its AMAZING!
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You are amazing!!!!
All the best always
My mother often told me that the devil always comes first, and I have encountered alot of them that was sent by the enemy. #counterfeit
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Matthew 7:16a: Ye shall know them by their fruits (KJV). The fruit that he produces will assist you in determining if he is worthy of your time.
B Howard Amen
@b Howard. You are miss applying that scripture read on to verse 21. It talks about how to discern the men bearing righteous fruit and how to determine Who they are. It is the ONE doing the will of my father. Jesus is not referring to a marriage mate that is worthy of you. I dig that you refer to scripture but don't mis apply scripture. 2 Tim 2:15-19
@@perfumetester10 I hope you are well and had a great day! The entire scripture was read. However, can this not be applied to individuals who cross our path. Husband or not. You will know who people are at their core and in their spirit by the fruit that they produce. A liar will produce lying fruit, a cheater will produce cheating fruit, etc. etc. Just merely stating that people will be able to recognize good from bad by the fruit they bring forth or produce. I hope you have a great night and a wonderful tomorrow! 🍏😊
@@bhoward thank you I did actually had a great day. I just don't especially like when people move the scripture around to Fit what their philosophy is. The word is the Word. Yes everyday people will show you their fruits they bear. But STILL the scripture says..... you will Know them... because they do the WILL of my father. Not this....Not that... let's get b Howard philosophy on the mater. his/her version of what the scripture means. I can tell by your reply you did not read 2 Tim 2:15-17. Please read that FIRST. Have a really good day and fantastic week. 💜
@@perfumetester10 Glad you had a great day! In addition, I did read 2 Timothy prior to responding. We can agree to disagree🤗 Ms. Brady! Have a great night!
My husband is praying for me right now I have been praying for my husband too it's a crazy thought but it's so true I will find my husband through Christ not in myself
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Yes, do the work as well. And while you do the work The Most High will bring the man that will also show you / help you get to the place that TMH has for you. Remember you're both going to the same place together, so it's a journey you both are on at the same time. He isn't perfect and neither are you! but his love and care and yours back to him will tell you whether you're on the right road with the right person. Video is on Point!
Oh ABBAH FATHER, please let the man you've made for me find me and when he does, please help me to be spiritually sensitive to recognize him and be ready and willing to accept and appreciate his love. Amen🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾!!!
Jesus loves you all and is coming soon! ❤️ if you haven’t repented and turned from sin and accepted Jesus as Savior believing He died and rose again for you, today is perfect and scripture says that today is the day of salvation!!
This is great and all! But can you do something that speaks to men. Everywhere I go I see all types of support for women to help heal emotional damage. Develop better self love, self awareness, emotional control and ultimately revamp their dating approach. But men are still in the dark like we don't go through the same things.
I hear him speak on both men and women in allot of interviews I've seen him in. Just gotta look for it. I know that must be frustrating tho. There really is more info out here for women. That's a true statement
@@quinntheqt4281 Thank you for the praise and the recommendation. Don't get me wrong there are people doing things. I've been following Apollonia Aponti on UA-cam, her work is specifically for men. Yes I do find this odd!! She teaches how to decode the female dating mentality. Also how to respond to women's responses when a man shows interest. Fifty percent of what she says makes sense. The rest comes off as catering to women to get what you want. You essentially play mental chess with women. One wrong move brings instant rejection. It makes dating women seem really over complicated. A lot of male coaches talk about a bunch manipulative games and mind tricks. My last relationship was with a manipulative narcissistic woman. It became very toxic and abusive physically/mentally/ emotionally. It put me in my current 3yr dating break. So not interested in doing the same to anyone its very cruel.
I appreciate you for even asking!
Agreed because then it will be unilateral when u enter into relationships
@@chriscambridge8295 Sorry you went thru that. I know EXACTLY what you're talking about. Went thru that myself. I'll be praying for you!
You cant sabotage something that was never meant for you in the first place. As you said, there are choices we need to make...choices that God already knew we were going to make before we did.
So embarrassed 😳 I’ve said this prayer so many times just waiting for something to happen lol. Thank you Stephan for caring so much about women and their well being. God has done good by you ✨
Stephan Speaks It’s my pleasure ✨
I have too! lol Almost verbatim. Yikes.
It’s crazy right! I guess we all have the same desire to just be loved by the right one. ✨
To be honest, I've prayed the EXACT words and I made the EXACT face when he mentioned it lol. I'm so glad he's allowing God to use him to guide us. Each one teach one and many Blessings to you all.❤️
Me too...I will pray differently now. Amen.
I prayed for God to remove a man if God didnt want things to go any further. And the man suddenly stopped messaging me and got back with his ex. Im so glad God protected me from getting into a relationship with him and catching feelings. God sees what we can't see. He knew that man was still attached to his ex
It’s so encouraging to know my king is praying for me ❤️♊️❤️ as I am for him. GOD BLESS US BOTH .
Im learning to love me...most of all Loving God with l my heart...what God has for me is for me!
Yessssssss i hear u
Two things that I got, that I learned from this video: 1. Establish a relationship with God; & 2. Practice abstinence (even if you had sex before). Both of these will bring self- love ❤️, care and respect.
And also, watch the chaff fall off and blow away in your life. 👍🏾
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
Thank you for this. My ex of 3 years left me abruptly in May 2022 over an argument he started and became disrespectful towards me during. Still, I thought I had done something wrong and apologized, a lot. We would end up being apart for 2.5 months. During this time I focused RELIGIOUSLY on facing my demons, learning femininity, letting go of victim mentality and learned accountability. I also got closer to God and started embracing his word. I was so, so eager to prove to myself I was a damn good woman. He unexpectedly returned July 2022 and I let him back into my life and house without..even expecting him to apologize, explain himself or tell me why he showed up at my door at 2am on a Friday with a plastic ring I gave him 1 year ago telling me “I thought you might want this back” when that ring was not even worth Pennie’s. We got close and I became intimate within 4 days of us being back together. However upon looking within, I brought up to him that I didn’t want to keep having sex. He claimed to love the lord too and he was never religious before. He didn’t like that. On my birthday august 9th, my ex broke up with me. This was the 2nd time he did that to me on my birthday. He blocked and deleted me the following day. No apology. Nothing. I realized God allowed me to speak my truth to reveal my exes intentions. This was also because my ex kept talking about his plans and future but I realized it didn’t involve me. Due to my healing I didn’t take that personal. I simply realized I needed to step back and let him do him. After he crushed my soul for the 2nd time on my birthday and seemingly didn’t care. All because I declined sex, I realized this man never truly loved or valued me. He came back because he couldn’t move on to someone else. I truly felt like an idiot especially surviving emotional abuse from him for 3 years, I somehow trusted his words because he was actually PERFECT our final three weeks together. He’s gone and I miss him but I’m glad I held firm to my boundaries. He tried making me feel bad because he said “as a man I should be able to pleasure you and fuck you and I can’t do my job as a man because you make me look like a joke!” He left my house crying and I stood there…confused. 22 Minutes into my birthday. He could’ve started that rje day before or the weekend before. But he choose to do so right after my birthday had just barely started.
You revealed the truth about being chased verses pursued.💡Thanks for mentioning the prayers mortals pray, & exercising our freewill.👍🏽
Amen! I had to let one go who was a good one because I’m still healing from back to back toxic relationships and I know I’m not in a place where I can give the full attention and care to another that a healthy relationship deserves 😕 I have to focus on me and why I allowed myself to be in these toxic cycles for so long.
That's amazing and so unselfish of you to do that. I'm in a toxic relationship now that has just broken me down and I'm just asking God for strength to walk away from this toxic marriage because it has just broken me down mentally and emotionally. I need all the prayer warriors to pray for me.🙏
@@YollyB It took me 26 years, but with Gods grace, he gave me the strength to leave. Its been 3 years since the divorce and I can honestly say I am healed. You can do this. Trust God, take a dee breath, tell yourself the truth and go for it. God will be there with you every day.
@@lvncsr6166 Thank you for your kind words I'm taking it one day at a time because it's super stressful when kids are involved and you are dependent financially on the person. So I'm just working on getting myself together.
It sounds like u need to focus on your relationship with God and obeying him ,theres no way u would of gone through all that if u would of obeyed and waited patiently to his will and instruction
Wow my same situation. I just had to let someone go as well due to me needing to get my mental together because im so affected by my very toxic, abusive past relationships. I cant b good to someone else if im not good myself mentally. Taking this time getting closer to God n focusing n working on myself feels so good, something i never did. I know God is going to send my husband when he knows im really ready n im happy n patient with that
I've never witnessed a healthy relationship up close. One set of my grandparents stayed together, but they were old. I never saw them kiss or anything like that. My parents had a VERY toxic relationship that seems to have messed me up. I witnessed love as pain. I wish I could heal it.
baritunde the Holy Spirit can heal you and give you a new lease on life. If you have accepted Jesus Christ as your Lord, you're eligible to receive the Holy Spirit. Just ask God for his Spirit and he will give you abundantly.
Jesus said when the Holy Spirit comes he'll lead you into all truth.
When I received the Holy Spirit, he changed my heart and began to teach me so much about marriage and gave me a ministry.
He will do the same for you
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Take it to the Lord
You can heal it
My boyfriend of 11 years just admitted to cheating on me several times, then dumped me. 😂 Your channel is really helpful. I am currently on day 2 of moving on.
I love that there is a laughing emoji at the end of you first sentence haha. You have the right attitude, he is the loser here! I can’t wait for you to meet someone with way more emotional intelligence!
How are you now? ❤
@megan a LOT better :) It's almost 2 yrs since that breakup and I am still single but happy and grateful to no longer be in that abusive manipulative relationship. I am currently dating a man with a better character, but no DTR yet :) Wish me luck and good luck to you too!
@@PaanoTheTagalogHowToChannel oh I'm so happy to hear that!! Congrats on your healing and new love. Wish you all the best moving forward 🙏💖
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I can't wait to embrace the man God has for me ,will allow myself to be loved again and love again....need this book
The wrong ones will pursue you too!!!!! Can you elaborate please.
I agree !
ALLLLLLLLLLL FACTS
That's true. So there is a difference in how a Godly Man pursues you vs slick Willie. An ungodly man will pursue your body and a Godly Man will pursue your heart.
He has already stated
Yeah but they won't be healthy..nd u'll knw it
That’s still a powerful prayer because sometimes you just don’t know, or you just don’t have time. God knows. And he has answered that exact prayer for me many times. I also prayed and asked God to reveal certain things in the first conversation and it’s been amazing the things men have revealed to me in first conversations. God is almighty and powerful and all seeing and knowing and he’s there, so chase him
Yes! Continue to Pray what the Holy Spirit is leading you to pray. We are to be obedient to God not Man - So Pray Without Ceasing....Also, ask for discernment and our God Will Reveal The Truth. Amen 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾✝️
Waiting for that godly man....single and happy now...with God....until he send me that....Man 🙏🏽amen
This is so true....I need to let it go if it's not for me even if it feels awkward, but I'm ready to let walls down but be ready to walk away in a mature loving way and just take my time and the holy spirit will show me. It's so real that God won't do my part for me amen.
I actually laughed out loud when you quoted the prayer we pray to God! That sounds just like me. Hahahahaha. Great insight and words of wisdom. I look forward to buying your book!
I honestly don't think it's a problem to pray this prayer. You come before God in sincerity, it doesn't have to be a complicated prayer. He's sees our hearts and knows what's best for us. If this is the prayer you can say, isn't God able to provide an answer?
N Jeremiah Many times we don’t wait and listen for God’s answer. Day after the prayer, he calls/comes by, “oh well I guess God wants him to stay around”
he told me he did pray for me and now he's the worst thing that ever happen to me
Correct 🥴
I'm still trying to master discernment, the enemy knows your heart as well.
Not being rude, but no he doesn't. He knows your actions because of what he watches , but he doesn't know your heart only God knows and continue to ask for the gifts of the spirit including discernment day by day.
@@audrinay 2 Corinthians 11:14 And no wonder, for even Satan disguises himself as an angel of light. Knowledge is power.
If it contradicts God's standards and principles, then you have discernment. Biggest thing is just waiting. Seek him first. He will reveal things about the person that are unacceptable to God's principles. Reward is waiting. The devil can't sustain the light for long.
Only God knows our hearts and minds...Satan doesn't
“ Imagine A Man Praying To God He Gets To Marry You”. He’s the Lucky Man! 😍 But I do believe as he prays that he gets to marry her the Lord will guide him as to what's needed to pursue her but I also believe that the woman should be praying that she gets to marry the man God has for her. However, there is work to be done on both the man/woman because they have to be willing to nurture, experience and receive each other by operating on one accord to establish the foundation.
praying for all you ladies out there tonight
Guard my Heart and my Body. NO ONE CAN HAVE IT
Because of you I am able to cherish the amazing man God has given me.
"The Man God Has for You" is a gem that I keep in my purse....I've had that prayer a few times in the past...pleading and/or bargaining with God asking him to take away a Man if he was not for me, and although it has worked (lol) I can see how that is not the correct route to take when learning to know if he is the man God has for me...thankful for growth! Great book. Every woman should read it! God bless
I have been praying that the man God has for me will pursue me and I won’t have to pursue him. I’ve been trying not to go after someone because the last time I did that it didn’t end well. But lately no one is pursuing me . But praying it’s cause the right one hasn’t come .
Divorced and single for the past 3 years... will not change that until my Lord tells me to.
I thought well i did like this guy , i thought he liked me. He is in a relationship i think about him sometimes, i have seen him twice recently i just never had talked to him in a conversation. Anyway while I'm praying sometimes his name pop in my prayer like i don't be thinking about him like gotta have him. But evertime i we see each other it's a smile but no conversation. I sometimes don't pray for him but i told God i left it alone. He is busy with ministry.
literals your first sentence made me just start crying...I have been waiting 36 years for a man to be praying for me and who wants me like that. I just ended a 5 year relationship because he wasn't committing to me and God told me to leave. He actually told me 2 years ago but I disobeyed and now told me again. This time I listened. HARDEST THING EVER TO DO...but he keeps telling me to trust him through all these tears. I will....I am still waiting for my Boaz.
I never did ask God to do this I ask him to help me from this situation and he did thank the Lord
Amen!!! So true! God is the best Matchmaker!!! I am embracing my singleness for now, and when the time is right God will give me my Boaz!!! Thank you Jesus!!!🙏🏽❤️😘
I made mistakes in the past and I has one child from the guy who I never imagined that! I’ll have a child for him. but that was God’s permission, I know God has another plan for me “ I feel the anointing of him and something is going to happen accelerated out of the blue. God is my helper and my fortress, I put all my trust in Jesus, he will Send me the right man for me As I declare and decree” amen and amen
I love how everyone knows my story like they are in my body and my mind. I’m not explaining it to anyone but him. God already knows
I know God has someone for me who's my equal. But until then I'm patiently waiting. You have great insight on relationships. I appreciate you man of God.
This is so true.... This has taken the exact words out of my mouth.... This person is out there some where...... And this person is some where
I've been praying for 7 years. The song "in vain" by the Clark sister's comes to my mind.
Search ‘apostle Tim husband prayer” on youtube and pray with him regularly
I'm praying from the age of 19 now I'm 33....
It’s so funny, I had the hardest time listening to you until I have learned more about self-worth & self-love. You feel like the friend who never gave up on me. ❤️ Thank you!
Disclaimer-(My intention is NOT to be rude, nor disrespect the information you have shared, it is helpful...thank you!!...I’m just genuinely curious) Who is teaching men about being a Godly man or leader in Christ!?! Do they know what to look for in a godly woman and the importance on why they should?!? I see sooo many “good men” lost within who they are in Christ and stuck in limbo of generational curses! More woman are spiritually ready waiting for men, who are more so spiritually lost!?! (Look at the number of women in churches, serving, and working compared to men. It’s like a ration of 5:1 (women to men) We need help!! It starts with the head (man)! In my opinion we are getting women ready for men who are still asleep! Would you agree or disagree?
ABsolutely! Well said!!
I totally agree with this. Most men are very consumed with feeding their flesh.
True., let go and let on those men., because you don't want an unhealthy relationship ., we as women pray then wait on god He can and will turn eye's and ears to that man He has for you., and we you think it's him go back again pray and wait for god to answer this has to happen it's a process that we as women have to change our man choosing tactics., not to say choose a hobit who 3 foot tall and has a lop sided afro chasing chasing you around in church., and you no some idiot in church sent him to you., because this happened to me and Aunt who is Ushered for 25 years was Livid and so was I., folks in church are worse than folks who don't attend church a haven for the evil decisive ones., I say help the homeless., feed the poor that is what I do., this Is outside god blesses openly share your testimony .., and sees churches going no we're but hell.., jesus went from city to city ., no to church all dressed up, then go home eat go back to church., is anybody getting food., shelter love., no because. There to busy in themselves
Dejene Ok It certainly feels like this
Girl !!! I'm speechless....,..,,..... This is sOooooo deep and profound
I met my ex-husband 37 years ago and I knew he wasn't for me.God was telling me and I wouldn't listrn.You are correct we have to take responsibility for when we go with the wrong man.I paid the price in many ways emotionally financially etc.
I have to agree to disagree with you, a man that wants you will pursue you, chase, move mountains to be with you. He will put forth the effort and you won't have to ask if he is the right man.
What will the woman do?
@@leew5647 same effort, same energy, equally yoked...
@@kmc1994 You are absolutely right, and I agree with you 100%. A KING RECOGNIZES HIS QUEEN AND HE WILL PURSUE HER BY ANY MEAN NECESSARY(not stalking or anything negative) but he will let her know of his intentions. You are also right about men wanting women to pursue them. I say, 'be that man that wants to lead, protect, provide and profess his interest or love for a women.' A man that does this is not being weak....Proverbs 18:22.
@@kmc1994 Then he and his friends should stop being afraid and making assumptions and communicate honestly with the women that they are interested in. The right woman will make him feel comfortable enough to open up and be vulnerable with her. Men have intuition/discernment just like women do and they should use it to weed out the fake from the real...ijs.
@@kmc1994 woooow! You made me laugh! Loved the comment! 😂☺😁
I agree don't ask god to remove him do it yourself let that man go who is not for you been there done that
Thanks for sharing, i have been in a Relationship for 8 months. My boyfriend prayed for us everyday in and out, asking advice, caring, courage from God about our relationship to prosper. Talking about us, planning and he was so engaged iny kid's life. All of a sudden he left me hanging. Im shattered im trying to get back on my feet again. Today its the 58 day without hearing from him. We never fought or had misunderstanding but here i am confused
I am very blessed to have met the man that God delivered to me, without having a solid faith in him myself. Since meeting him I have completely embraced the Lord and his divinity, I am eternally grateful for my life partner and will continue to focus on our future and God's role in supporting it.
Their need to be an approach and a connection and the willingness to move forward..
Immediately subscribed after watching one video. This guy is very well spoken. His relationship concepts are clear and concise.
Men of God thank you for taking the time to do this. God bless you my friend
We make selections for so many different reason. We don't want to be lonely, we feel like we need to be with someone because our friends are in relationships. So many reasons but you're so on point.
I like how spiritually grounded you are, admittedly it is not my forte but I can see how it works.
My exact words in former times. "Lord if he is not for me take him away, remove him out my life!" But as I progress in age and maturity I found out I have a say in who I choose!. I call it change your filter.. if not healed and delivered the filter is full of gunk that influences you perception and processing of information. Just out of a toxic relationship and asking God to purify my heart mind body and spirit.. (change my filter and fix my picker)
The man God has for you will be spiritually connected to you.
So right.. if I have to pray to ask God to remove someone from my life if that person is not for me.. the signs that he is not are clearly already present. It is time for us to put our big girl pants on and do the work we need to do. And then thank God for showing us and giving us the courage to move forward.
I love this it's very informative💗. I pray to God for a good husband (in details) Iv only had two real relationships and I have been single for a really long time but I'm patiently waiting on God.
I totally believe what you are saying, what if you felt in your heart and had confirmation that you will meet your husband in church. I am a member at a small church in my community and a teacher in child ministry and a teacher assistant for head start. Lately I'm just on go mode, church, family and work. But I don't wanna miss it. Thats my problem. I don't wanna look when God is already healing me. But I do pray for my husband. I just don't feel I am ready right now.
If a woman is not in a season to see that, then she isn't ready and God won't bring a man for her if she is still "sabotaging" her relationship.
This was very good and clear to women
Because that is often a prayer most women pray Lord if he is not the one remove him and we don’t take responsibility that we have choice and God has given us power to choose to be with someone and to yes seek God about it - but also know He has given us the right to choose - very good
@StephanSpeaks As an African-American woman growing into the fullness of who I am as as God's masterpiece, I think the advice you give is invaluable. I no longer entertain anyone that is not able or willing to be a committed partner of character and virtue. At the same time I think it's important to address that black women don't have the options we use to, especially if we are spiritual and educated. Many of us are single, not because we are not making ourselves "available" living full lives OR staying in dead end situations but because we can't find men equally yoked to us. We find chemistry and compatibility but no character. The bar has been so lowered by many of our needy choices many men don't feel the need to commit to relationship that will move towards covenant marriage. How do you speak to that?
I'm not sure how he'll respond, but I know for me: raise the bar, stop giving the (loser) boyfriend husband benefits. I listen to Redefined TV and many others, and I think a lot of men don't want to commit because they get the benefits elsewhere. Mind you, I am black, almost 35 this year if the Lord keeps me, and I've NEVER been in a serious relationship. I've had opportunity, but thank God for His protection and gifts of discernment and wisdom, but I don't give a man-child with impure intentions the time of day. He's got to be straight from the Lord without all the "well, I've got needs" and the desire to run games on me. Time is short and my life, peace and sanity are precious and invaluable. If we as women would stop taking just whatever comes around out of our insecurities or desperation, over time those men would eventually get the picture once they've had an encounter with Christ. But it starts with the woman refusing to be played, being okay with herself in her own skin, and learning to trust Him. Be blessed!
Amen to both of these comments!
Thank for that word,now I know he’s not the one for me because we’re in a 10 year relationship, and I’m ready to take it to the next lever but he’s telling me that I’m not ready after 10 years of my life and I’m not ready,
Man... that is the exact prayer that I pray! Lol like verbatim! Thought I was covering myself good...dang it
And you were doing a good Job keep saying that prayer please dont listen to him.That is one Of the most powerful prayers for God to Change you.God cant Change you or elevate you if you're holding on to dead weight
This is why praying in the spirit is so important. Romans 8:26 says it best
@@helenabailey40 I can’t understand why he said that, that prayer saved me from a lot of heartache . God knows what’s in the hearts of these men and a no good man with bad intentions needs to be revealed, and removed
I was taught when a Man want you, he will chase you down if he have to, to get to you and this was over 100s Saved and UnSaved, basically, if he don’t chase then he missed his catch. God Bless
It's so sad that male and female have to go through this. It was a time when people knew what they wanted in a relationship. A guy I meet ask me to finance multiple children he fathered. I did not cause God has not called me to support the man. God made him the covering not me. No one knows their place in a relationship.
God to man
Saint to Saint
Male and Female
Put God first and you win all the time✌✌✌
That guy is looking for spanish women buy black men everything., so they don't leave hidden agenda to steal kill and destroy the black. Family men wake up.., or stay sleeping
Cant wait to meet the man who is praying for me. Thank you Lord
The Holy Sirit will lead you and guide you into all truth(John 16-13..... I believe that if we ask God to reveal to us what the intentions of the other is, He will reveal them as he did for me in the last encounter I had. I am so grateful I was able to recognize his evil intentions and get away from him. My ex husband said he asked God for me but he turned out to be an abusive Narcissist.
I'm reading this book right now and I have to say it's a great book for every woman specially when Stephan start to dispel some myths that we grown with. I'm reading and thinking about everything he says. Unfortunally sometimes we are not prepared for a relationship as God wants and we ended up waste our time, our energy with someone who will make us feeling like we worth nothing but fortunally this book is an open eyes for us and I see Stephan as a man of God and we have to admit that most of the time we do need some help when it comes to wait for the man God has for us no matter how age we are.
Wow...honestly never knew I should pray in such a way as it relates to my future husband or men I am dating...thank you
Lord I await for your timing ❤️
I love this message😍😍😍🙏😇 God reveal the man to me so I will not ignore him! I'm focusing on me 😍😍😍🙏😇
Nail it...Show up n show out!
I read the book and I will read it several times before I begin dating again.
Thank you brother.
Yes that prayer. I’ve prayed it before. The book opened up my eyes 👀 in a remarkable way.
🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
This video has come on time. I'm putting myself out here with this, but sometimes I pray and ask God to remove the ungodly desire I have at times. I need to read the book again to apply. Thank you for the video!
Thank you Stephan, your messages are always so powerful. I just fear that it’s too late for the right man to find me. I’m not exactly young anymore, and don’t want to be negative, but it just gets so much harder the older you get. I’m trying to hold onto hope, but it gets very discouraging at times.
O my G! Shivers down my spine with this one!👀🙏👂
U got to. heal if u been in abusive relationships ..when that man come we will know each other
Thanks for your perspective. I've heard this many times but never explained so clearly. I stayed in a loveless marriage for far too many years. Looking forward to my second act regarding relationships. God bless you,Stephan.
Well advice taken, I will just be. Let go and let God. I release my ego, and surrender to God's will for me. I've been stubborn, but I'm willing to evolve and nurture...
I don’t agree. I prayed that exact prayer and he ghosted me & unfriend me on FB when I brought to his attention he was disrespecting me. It was validated because he didn’t respect me enough to tell me + he could easily walk away because I refuse to compromise my respect. BYE !!!!!! his rejection was God’s protection.
He wasn't the man for you. You may have prayed but God acts in his timing. With 💞
He ghosted me too. I'm over it, not even angry not upset. Happy and at peace.
I always wanted a God fearing man, a man that really Love God, because then that man will Love them self an they will Love there woman,
I really needed to hear this!!!!! I've been waiting so long for that one right guy, asking God why I dont have a good man in my life when I know plenty of no good female's with no drive,ambition,no respect and 10 kids who always find a good man...Smh! All I ask for is protection,respect and love...didnt think that was too much to ask for🤷♀️
Trinese ,I can understand how you associate a woman with no ambition to be a of poor quality but wth does 10 kids have to do with anything? Smh. Stop being so judgemental.
Love jesus first the best is yet to come keep the faith love love yourself do good and good will follow you