Can I use your sentence in my journal? I want to make two pages talking about depression and suicidal thoughts, cause it’s something that touches me more than anything, and I want to use the most beautiful quotes I’ve seen till now. I just want to know if I have your permission 💜
@@BG-pl1zx Pipe down cause I'm calm, I was just truth telling. He didn't tell us something we already know, well I guess can't speak for you huh? So you didn't know I assume.
@@zoraideale4046 You’re literally being argumentative for no reason. The guys talking about something his father told him that he obviously found inspiration from and he’s sharing that here. Yet you have to put him down like that and try to act all cocky. Grow up and have some compassion for your fellow man
"i don't want to be healed. i have a strong urge and desire to just disappear and never be seen again. and at this point, pain is sweet." yes, there are people who feel this way
@jenkinsrower7380 I didn't want to waste people's time with my pain, I felt like it would be an inconvenience to my peers to ask for help, so I just didn't. I broke out of it last year, and genuinely smiling is a great feeling. Sometimes I just do it for no reason, besides being content. It can get better, and I knew that one day I might not regret leaving, and it came sooner than I expected
@@that_guy_standing5754 Trust me you don't waste anyones time I often had that thought that I was a heavy weight for others if I would tell them of my feelings but it resulted that I got the deep bondings with some friends and not only those who could relate in some way.
I’m sure they love you a ton and their lives would be hell without you in it. Don’t just stay for them but stay for the random people like me who read this comment. I know it probably doesn’t mean much coming from a stranger but your life does matter. I know it might feel like you’re going through hell right now but even if it’s a cheesy thing to say, it does get better. I believe in you.
The loved ones not getting hurt is my top reason as well, with the second one (and the cause for the first) being the need to leave the world a better place before leaving it, but oh, it is so hard to see the validity of said reasons on some days.
My husband killed himself. And yes, it destroys everybody who ever loved you. Suicide does not end pain. It increases it exponentially and transfers it to the people who loved you
What I find very sad about suicide is how a lot of people become really happy right before they do it. It's like they have already died and are just waiting to pass over. The sadness completely leaves them once they decide to do it, because they now feel empowered and feel like they now have control on when the pain ends. I've just always found that to be the most troubling is that bout of happiness right before they kill themselves. The people that have quietly been worrying about the person sees this happiness and is relieved that thier loved one finally seems to be coming out of their depression, but is then hit with the earth shattering suicide. It's like how a person that is dying in the hospice seems to come alive and are full of energy right before they die. They'll be in a coma state and suddenly wake up and start talking to everyone in an alert and excited manner and then falls over dead. Life is strange as is death.
This felt very similar to terminal lucidity in people with dementia or Alzheimer’s. They cant remember even the names of their loved ones for years, yet a few hours or days before their death they can recall memories and recognize people. Kinda like bliss.
@@kerbeezzz Everyone I've ever know that was old and dying always saw people in the room that no one else could see. It's weird, but I always think of that being their guardian angels.
been depressed for six years up until last year. Younger brother is a drug addict. He was overdosing about twice a week. I dug up hundreds of pills from his room each month. This went on for years. My parents visibly aged twice as fast from this. One day i just sort came to terms with the fact that my young, little brother will die. Sooner or later. Probably sooner than later. That day my depression collapsed into an emotional numbness. I was able to slowly rebuild from that. You sort of grow older when you accept the unneeded death of a close relative. Less innocent, but with more space for new happy feelings. Last weekend i invited my parents to a concert of their favorite band. I cant stand groups of more than five people and loud sounds. Yet, i stood their with my Parents and 66000 other people cheering at ACDC. It was awesome. I saw my dad behave like a teenager again. I loved it. I love them. There is always a chance to come back, friends. For all of us. No matter how dark it seems to be.
My brother started to play video games all day long for the last 6 months before he took his own life and he was always playing the same game. One day when I asked him " are you not bored doing the same thing over and over again?" He said "it's not that I'm enjoying this but at least I'm not self aware when I'm doing this" he was crippled in a car accident and couldn't accept living a life he never thought he would. I miss him so much
im sorry for your loss. Car accidents are so hard. Its been over 10 years since mine but im grappling struggles that started that day (driving being scary, hard to get around). A handicap can really set you aside in life, then everyone says they have to go to fast to even think about you coming along. Its really lonesome & feels like a deadend. I wish I could tell him (or anyone in a similar position): Youre not alone in how you feel. Youre not too damaged to find healing. Youre worth it.
damn. that quote perfectly describes me. "it's not that I'm enjoying this but at least I'm not self aware when I'm doing this" when i listen to music, try on the rare occasions to play a video games again, movie, show, exercise, its all the same. I'm just waiting for the end.
What people often don’t understand about suicide is that when someone has been depressed for a very long time and they finally make the decision, they finally start to feel peace and calmness because they know that the pain and suffering will end, so if you know someone who has been under the weather for a very long time and all of a sudden one day they’re in a really good mood, that’s not just a sign, that’s a whole siren because that probably means the decision has been made Edit: the amount of stories in the replies about how you guys had loved ones that committed suicide is heartbreaking, I am so sorry to all of you that have experienced such horrible losses and to all the people who have taken their own lives, may you at least Rest In Peace
Lost my best mate to suicide 24 years ago when we were both 23. Had no idea he was struggling, not always easy to spot the signs if they’re not there. Funniest bloke I knew and we were out together the night he found the courage to do what I guess he felt he had to do. Rest easy Dean Kerry. I miss you and wish I could’ve helped.
So sorry to hear that man, i feel like the way you’re describing your friend is how people who know me would describe me. I am 23 next month and nobody knows anything. I’m just a strong pillar everybody looks up to. I feel like it’s a taboo and people tend to ignore it when they experience it firsthand. I owe my life to a lot if my people i won’t do anything of that sort but i live like i have done it already
In high school, my best friend popped into my job on a Saturday just to hang out for a bit. It was a little unexpected but there were no red flags. He killed himself on Sunday night. I still have his picture in my wallet more than a decade later because he's the only reason I've never hurt myself regardless of how I'm feeling; the pain it inflicts on others is not worth it. I miss you so much man. Edit: Thank you for the supportive comments, and I'm so sorry for those who have gone through similar situations. To those who doubt me, I wish it wasn't true. To those saying I should have done more, I hope you get help.
I can relate. A close friend of mine committed suicide when we were 16, and his funeral still haunts me. I could never do that to my family and friends. I'll never forget his mom standing by the casket as we all walked by for the viewing, she grabbed me by my sleeve and kept asking me if I knew why he did it, if I had noticed him acting weird beforehand, etc. Almost as if she felt she could fix it if she could just figure out why it happened. I could never do that to my mom & sisters. He didn't just kill himself, he killed his entire family that day. They never recovered from it.
@@waltertanmusic1100 my son did. Everyone we spoke said they had seen him, went for a walk, had diner, spoke to him. His last night was with his cousin (almost like brothers) they had fun, music, film, diner. It seemed a normal evening. Only the part when my son left was different. We all felt that. Looking back it was strange. But we didn't know it back then. that he visited or spoke to everyone his last 2 weeks.
The thing with suicide is, as soon as someone says they want to end their own life wether it be in a moment of depression, a moment of stress or even in a moment of emotional exhaustion, that statement should tell you that you need to stand by that person and keep them going, no matter what the context, always take the threat seriously.
The thing is, people who say they want to commit suicide are the ones that never go through with it. Most often it's the people who won't admit it and seem relatively happy in their life. And that's the saddest thing about this.
Really hard to do when a person starts abusing the attention he/she gets by saying that. Seen it happen many times and it makes me so mad... but you can never be certain that they're doing it for attention. Which is the worst form of emotional manipulation.
@@Blugharm yea true, I hid it always, I made a plan when and how I'm gonna end it all and the day came , but I failed cutting open my wrist with my veins, I still have the sign
Suicidal people don't usually say it, because they don't want people to intervene, normally the people who say that are the one craving atention and in most cases don't have the guts to take their own lives.
@@freddo9682 There's nothing courageous about taking your own life. It doesn't take "guts". Sometimes people express their desire to die because we ride a constant wave. Sometimes we're up, sometimes we're down. When we're lucky enough to have another up, we want those closest to us to know that we can't guarantee that our next down won't be the last and that we're not sure we'd have the strength to pull ourselves out the next time. Think before you speak.
It's hard because most of us didn't choose to feel damaged. We had that stripped from us through unsolicited life experiences. You grow into an adult expecting to be able to carry all that weight and the weight of others. Sometimes that weight feels too much. I say this as someone who has dealt with suicidal ideation since I was 8 due to trauma. Not a day goes by that I don't wish it would stop. But I love life truly and try to make the best of it. I fully understand when others have had enough and I don't judge them. But unless you've felt like this I don't quite think you get it. When there's certain days if you just didn't wake up you could ignore the pain. That's the sad reward for death.
Hey bro, just know that you are loved and you matter, regardless of your traumas and life experiences. Also, I want to kindly recommend you to five David Goggins a listen on youtube, after that buy his book. You are going to change so much that trauma will mean nothing to you. I believe in you brother.
Dude, I fkn lost it reading this. Perfect description. All I can say is hang in there. You only get one shot at life. The odds of being born are 1 in 400 TRILLION. Remember that.
I don't know who you are, I don't know where you live but I want you to know, from a total stranger to a total stranger, my heart goes to you, It's okay to feel how you feel, and I sincerely hope you can find some semblance of peace, whenever you are ready for it. Do take care.
@@spicydramarama852 I struggle to see the connection between this scripture and the Brad Meltzer quote (genuinely). Love != kindness, but being truly loving might lead you to kindness (maybe). And giving your son as a sacrifice out of love seems unrelated to being kind to a stranger who is having an internal battle of the mind. Also being God being loving or kind feels far removed from the struggles of us mere mortals being loving or kind to others. I'm not trying to be difficult - but the connection seems tenuous at best.
Definitely understand. If life is going good, your good. Life is going bad, you feel like its not worth continuing. Felt depressed for years and have some good spells and not as suicidal . I haven't reached the tipping point, but its really hard for me to handle stress and feeling hopeless. You ever feel alone, like no one gets you? Trying to conform to how society is set up, chips away at your soul. I often wonder would my life be better if i hit the genetic jackpot. Some people are just meant to be here and thrive. Others may just live harder lives and dealt with more trauma. We all go through shit don't get me wrong. However some people seem to have good head start.You never know things could work out in the long run. You can get the fire at any point and push you to a happier existence. This could be therapy, gym, books, meeting someone, you never know.
It's important to know that you can't _always_ help. I was in a place like that many years ago and I made sure nobody could tell. One day I thought of a reason that I couldn't do it and that was the end. Nobody ever knew.
That is the truth. Personally, I’ve always wanted to but my family and fiancée need me. I was so tired and I wanted to feel peace. I became so talented at hiding my pain that even to this day, the only way it comes out is through nightmares. I’m trying to be better though. Pickup hobbies, try to appreciate life, etc. it’s working but I’m afraid it won’t be a permanent solution and the psych ward might be seeing me one day.
I think media has overemphasized that angle and made people feel responsible as a result when in reality most of the time people can't help. They would if given the chance but usually they're not given one. Hard to not feel responsible but the media has made sure that people do.
What breaks my heart is that in some of them, you can see it that they're tired. Not a physical tired but they're tired. And it breaks me knowing that I can't do anything about what happened to them. They had fun with their families or friends because they knew that they wouldn't ever again. The guy with the ice cream, you could see a little frown on his face, and it ruined me because I could tell he was either just trying to have a good time or trying to make the people around him smile one more time.
@@americantoastman7296 And what breaks my heart more is knowing that most of these are men. Why does that break my heart? Because just in 2020 alone it was discovered that men suicidal rates were 4 times higher than women, being at a rate of 1 man every minute killing himself.
Thank you so much for sharing this observation. The same hitting my mind immediately. No matter what was a purpose to publish this video, I agree with comments saying that suicide hurt a close people around, but there is so much denial and prejudice on the topic of suffering, pain and suicide, that it is unbearable.
My dad died by suicide on Thanksgiving Day.It was absolutely shocking and he was always a major extrovert and the life of any party. I now understand that he showed the world one side but inside he was feeling opposite.
i had a gunny in the marine corps do the same thing and he was the same way. we all came back from holiday leave and was told the news. it still doesnt sit right with me.
It's very bizarre, because you expect people that are suicidal to be so sad and depressed that they walk around frowning with their heads down all day.
I`am 35 years old, I`ve been under psychiatric treatment for half a year, due to severe depression and generalized anxiety, and I tell you, I don`t wish it on anyone. Many people believe that depression is like crying like a baby in the corner of your room, when in reality you simply lose hope in your goals, plans and objectives. You stop caring about what happens to you and in some cases you even start thinking of ways to leave sooner. I have often felt and had these thoughts more and more frequently and the simple fact of thinking about it brings me a calm and tranquility that I miss feeling. My advice, never underestimate what your family or friends tell you about this topic, most people who decide to end their suffering have expressed it at some point, pay attention. Good luck fellas.
I remember talking to my mom about feeling suicidal. She made the conversation about herself and complained about my father. She wound up crying about her own problems and I ended up comforting her. Gotta love being raised by a narcissist.
Same, that is very close to what I experienced. Actually 1:1. Except that I got screamed at and told to "go to my father" (who lives divorced from her)
Maybe your mom is depressed and you’re the narcissist…. Maybe she needs that comfort as well. Not everything is about you either bro. Put yourself in her shoes
I've called the hotline nine times. Told family about it. Finally after three years and six months of extreme gratitude focus (I've said thank you probably ten thousand times... literally...), I pulled myself out of it. I'm one of these smiley people myself, and yeah, I get what these people were feeling.
@@basedbroskiworldgot back into church earlier this year. Been fighting suicidal thoughts, depression, and a few other issues, since 2014 when I was discharged from the Navy. I decided to try some churches again, because I was feeling utterly hopeless and I knew what that was gonna mean. Used drugs and alcohol for years, to just keep making it another day. Now, I'm in church, getting clean, volunteering again, and trying to help encourage others. It'll still be hard but at least we have hope.
I can’t count the amount of times I have written ‘Goodbye’ letters for my parents, sister, and friends. I don’t want to die, I just want to end my pain. My friends are getting married, this Friday, and my cousins are getting married, next week. I should feel really happy. Instead, I’m just feeling really depressed. I thought I was being selfish for not feeling excited for either of the events, but that’s not the case. My mental health has come to the point where I feel so drained, exhausted, and just so done with everything.
I feel you, I’ve been there. Seeing life happen while you have this weird empty feeling in you, eating away at you at all hours. I never wanted to wake up from sleeping, always disappointed when I did wake up that I didn’t die in my sleep. I drank to numb the thoughts. I’ve been there, writing that letter to my friends and family. Not knowing how to explain why I feel this way even though they always gave me love and care. Hyping myself up in the bathroom to commit, only to have my dog walk in dropping her toy at my feet, making me break down in tears because I couldn’t believe what I’d do to her. I’ve been in that spot. I’ve gotten better, I’ve made life better. It’s a lot of fucking work that won’t feel good at the time, but if you get through it, life gets better. The exhaustion decreases, you feel like you’re apart of life again. I won’t lie, there’s flare ups, it’s a part of you. You can manage it if you learn how though. I went to therapy to learn, changed aspect of my life that helped it grow, and I was open to those who loved me. There’s hope my friend, I’m glad you did not follow through with those letters. I know that probably doesn’t mean much coming from a stranger from the internet, but I mean it. Don’t give up the fight to experience life. Your depression will convince you it’s not worth to see, it’s a lie.
@@bowenc24 I’m really sorry about what you went through. Honestly, I’m so glad that your dog came in, when they did. I’m glad that you decided not to do it. Your family & friends love you. My schoolfriend died, last December, due to mental health, and that’s had a massive impact on my life. Last year, I sent her a message, saying, “Happy Birthday!”, and she replied with, “Thank-you, lovely! ❤️”. I didn’t reply, as I felt there was no need. I regret that so much. I didn’t know that she was gonna do that, but I regret not checking on her.
@@blockedmedusa1737 Thank-you, that really means a lot. Sorry for the slow reply, it’s been a really hard time. I wish you the best, and I hope you’re ok.
Nothing anyone can say will change how you feel. That's all on you, just know, you are not alone. Life is about struggle and moments of peace, laughter etc. Find something that makes you happy, carry on. A relationship won't make you happy, it will just show you you're still depressed and make things worse. Don't do that to yourself or anyone else, find peace first. Then you can live, or just stay depressed. In the end, it's 100% up to you. Nobody can make you happy, but you. Good luck, it doesn't get easier, only harder as your depression pushes loved ones away.
@@TedEhioghae That’s something I think you should keep to you. Just imagine if it were someone from your family. You wouldn’t want someone to tell he/she is going to Hell. Also, God is merciful, don’t try judging anyone. Have a good day. 🎉❤
My friend killed himself few weeks ago. We hadn't really been in touch for about a year before it and we knew each other for a short time, but man, this information left me shocked and devastated. He helped me through one of the hardest moments in my life. Since his suicide, there hasn't been a single day I wouldn't think about him. He was the purest soul ever, always eager to help others, always energetic and always cheerful. Such a beautiful, extremely young, lost person. As far as I know, the reason was bullying and it makes me fucking mad. It seems he was just an angel, too delicate for this shitty world and fucked up people. That feels bad as hell.
Truly an honour to have been a small part of this incredible campaign and to have my voice associated with such an important message. My heart goes to the families and loved ones of those featured in this film and to anyone else affected by this subject.
Adopt whatever animal you could see in your life. It's a game changer. And if it's not a game changer for you, at least you made that animal not feel alone anymore.
It's a sickening feeling. I often think how much of an a$$hole I am for not ending it before trying to start a life I knew wasn't meant for me and dragging everybody down with me. Burnt a bridge with my best friend the other day, everything is horrible and getting worse. It's scary how many people feel this way.
I will always regret not answering my friends phone call and finding out two days later he was gone :(. He was dealing with severe depression and I was there to help as best I could. He called the day of my brothers 3 year anniversary of his funeral and jjst wasnt wanting to talk to anyone. I say he called that day at 5 pm and I didn’t answer thinking I would talk to him later but unfortunately he passed away later that day. Please check in with your people ❤️❤️❤️
Hey, don’t be too hard on yourself. You did not know what was to happen even if you did answer the call, there may have not been anything which you could have done. The decision had been made already. God bless your friend and look after yourself ❤🙏🏻
@@Blindswordsman1994 making me cry god damn 🥹🥹 appreciate your kind message❤️❤️❤️ just hurts because he was my best friend and the feeling of letting him down or not doing enough by not being there when he needed me most. Means a lot :))) god bless you too ❤️❤️❤️
Got a similar story... had a friend who had cancer... i couldn't deal with it... i just was a mess, i just denied it i couldn't believe it... he stopped contacting me, he died from cancer probably... he was going through a breakup i think..., i still regret not being there for him, but it wasn't my fault, i was just... simply in pain myself and idk how to comfort myself let alone him... not feeling empathy made it worse, i miss him
@@hodayfa000hI have very similar experience bud. It is just awful. Like you I still regret it dearly. But it is not your fault. In order to help others you must help yourself first. To be honest thanks for sharing I thought I was only one who experienced this. Let's try to get over this together. I'm here if you need someone to talk to.
I was a volunteer firefighter in high school and began fighting my ptsd. I was involved with multiple successful suicides and that was a major factor. I struggled with aggression and isolation at times. One day I really got stuck in a loop of suicidal ideation, but I never acted. One hour later the same day, I responded to another attempt and saved a patients life on her living room floor. That was my call to keep serving and get help
No one ever talks about the suicidal ideation loop, where you constantly think of ending ur life at that point, you are realistically very very very close to it, n it takes alot of willpower to come out of it. None of the fuckers around me will understand it, they will only know the actual attempt, the actual attempt is easy, it's the not doing the attempt.... I understand
It's been almost a year since my little brother took his own life. This brought me to tears instantly. Man I miss my little brother. No note, no warning signs. Just gone, guessing he felt that life wasn't for him. For those who feel this way speak up, call somebody, anybody. Man I miss my little brother. 😔☹️
Tried to speak up. Told them. Everyone thinks I can't have depression. Nobody ever takes it seriously. They think I'll be fine. Time will heal everything. I have spent a long time here in this emptiness and darkness. I have no energy left to fight. I'm suffocating so badly I'll die.
@@MisaHalit keep going every day. Find peace within yourself. Pray if you believe. 🙏 ask for guidance and relief from your pain. I care about you and I've never met you. Love ya keep fighting to find yourself again.
@@907Ak Thank you for being kind 🌸 yes I do believe and pray. It's only because of God that I'll never attempt suicide. This is life. I'm trying everyday. I'm sorry about your brother I pray he's in peace. I just want you to know that you don't have your brother anymore but you have this sister and you somehow saved her. And there your brother will always live ! As a beautiful reflection whenever you'll help people this way 🌸
My friend sent me a text message about 10 years ago. He wanted to hang out. So we went shopping just for fun. He paid me a bunch of stuff, food clothes etc. He wa smiling and happy. At first. He was " normal " but the same day at night he sent me a message saying that he loves me and he was very happy to be my friend and that he was sorry for what he was about to do. I knew something was not good. So a jumped in my car, i was riding so fast that I don't even know how I didn't crashed. I broke into his home and he was cuting his wrists. I saved him. He was very mad. He never said thank you and i never asked for. But now he has a daughter and everytime I go visit them he always says to his daughter "look that's my best friend the one who saved my life so many times"
@@loouuiisssss296 in this case it's likely that Sue Cade was the last one to have contact with said person, which makes sense for the police to investigate, in order to determine the course of events
@@kitvalentin4292 1. I'm pretty sure in her story the police came to inform, not investigate. 2. The police do not investigate suicide case the way they investigate murders. Unless they find the suicide case suspicious, or someone has assisted suicide.
The one person at my workplace who ended her own life was the happiest most sweetest person we knew. She was always bringing light into other peoples lives. That’s why it was the biggest shock to all of us when we heard she had taken her life. The whole office went quiet for a whole day. I cried thinking about her and I rarely cry for people I don’t love.
In 1991, my husband & father to our 4yo son & 1yo daughter, ended his life. 32yrs of unanswered questions, not an hour goes by without him in my thoughts. Please know that you ARE loved, you are NOT alone & we’re ALL in this together! Reach out & I promise you, someone will take your hand. 🙏🏻
My late sister-in-law took her own life nearly 4 years ago. In the hours before she did it, she was joking around with her father and playing cards with him in his room. Afterwards she popped the shelf out of her closet and hung herself there. And her mother found her when she went into her room to wake her up for school. She was 14. Nobody noticed anything at all because she was laughing, joking around, and being herself the night before. You never know what people are fighting behind their grins and laughs. Always reach out, even if you don’t think it will help, it does.
@@user-vi4xy1jw7e just try to not assume that everyone is okay + when you ask someone how they are doing, try to really mean it and ask them on a deeper level.
Well fuck I’m crying. I never cry, let alone at UA-cam comments but I think this hit way too close to home. I’m so, so sorry you and your family had to go through that. I was intently suicidal and attempted around that age (peaking at 13) until I sought help privately and no one ever knew, not even my family, until many years later, since I was the always the joker of the family. The past 5 years since then haven’t been all great but showed me that life is nothing if worth living. I can’t imagine actually going through the pain of losing someone as young as your family member. I just wished that every depressed person knew it gets better and that you will soon have some of the happiest moments of your life after recovering. Thanks for sharing and rest in peace
When my best friend was actively suicidal, he was very outgoing and fun to be with, he attracted everyone. He seemed so happy because he was literally living each day like it was his last. Nothing mattered to him, because he didn't know if he would see tomorrow. You would've never guessed how much he was suffering, being he was so brave and confident. And now that he's finally fully healed, he's actually quite shy and anxious. But he's healthy and truly happy now.
"Sometimes the pain is too much, and sometimes everything is not enough" "It's hard to look forward to tomorrow when today and yesterday look the same" "You just don't understand" I do understand, not because I've heard it but because I know the pain. I spent alot of time helping/listening to suicidal and depressed people. It's not an easy thing to do but I have yet to hear of anyone of them commit suicide. They all still suffer and hide their depression though, but I understand why. People often compare strengths but they never understand this type of weakness and mental illness. Medication only suppresses it but the love of people around them makes depression easier to ignore, and ignore the triggers. Being alone and being left alone for too long is not a good idea.
Thank you for sharing and I Hope you're doing well today. Just wanted to let you know that you are here for a reason and know that someone cares for you💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖 Have a blessed day 🕊🕊🕊
As someone who attempted four times, the state where you finally decided to do it is scary. First, you become blank. Then, you plan when and how. After that, you wait and then act normal. Basically the mindset is "I'm gonna die soon, so I'll make the best out of my remaining hours."
You know what, as I get older, I realize how miserable and difficult living is. It’s a rarity someone makes it to the natural end in one piece both physically and mentally. Have fun everyone. Be safe.
But it can also be rewarding. To learn from those hardships and grow stronger from them. To look back and realize all you've overcome. To look forward to challenge as a way to become better. It's all about perspective. And I've been through hell in my life, so I'm not just talking out of my arse like someone who has never had problems. The best thing we can do is treat our children with love and make sure they never go through abuse or negative childhood experiences like that. Raise them to be mentally healthy and they'll never have to deal with the stuff we have had to. God bless and stay safe.
We didn’t ask to be here. Feels weird when you think of it that way…it’s why I’m pretty sure I’m not having kids. People act like life is this amazing thing and it truly can be but so much if it…is hard. I’m lucky because my life is pretty good, outwardly, but the older I get the more I realize how rare that seems to be. So many people are born into broken homes and horrific situations. It was thrust upon them and yeah it’s all so weird. I don’t think life has to be as hard and painful as it is though…I think a lot of people at the top make decisions that make them richer and make the lives of working class people unnecessarily hard. Life can be beautiful but the way it’s heading…we’re gonna destroy not only ourselves, but so much of the beauty and nature around us 😔
@@fibonaccisequins4637 completely agree. The way the world is structure only favors the top, while the masses suffer. The planet enough resources for everyone to live prosperously and healthy, but it will never happen. It cuts into the profits. I’m on the same boat, children is not even a thought in my mind.
@@nonnegaard exactly my situation. I'm a young kid rn and I'm suffering lately from these thoughts. I wanna reach out, But the timing isn't right. My parents aren't getting along, mom treat me as her therapist, but she's aware of that and apologizes for it. And My friends are uneducated about mental illnesses. I got no one to trust. Wish me the best please. I don't wanna do it.
I had suicidal thoughts since I was 14 years old until I told my school counselor I didn't want to live anymore... I've struggled so much with the health care system here in the US. Pills only made me feel stupid, numb and spacey. Thankfully, one of my jobs recommended to go see a NATUROPATHIC DOCTOR. I was extremely skeptical my depression wouldn't go away. Thankfully it went away. 🥹 Now I'm really HAPPY to say that I'm living my best fucking life without depression and those stupid antidepressants!!!! Please be safe!!! You will get through this!!! ❤
Also, to those who think that suicide is selfish; I cannot forget that reddit thread on suicide where one guy was saying that he keeps deferring suicide, not because that he was hopeful that his life may change, but because he had some loans and his parents were cosigning parties, so he said he was working as hard as he could to pay back those loans first as he didn't want to leave his parents both grieving and in debt...... there are ones who defer suicide because they don't want to harm their families, or because they need to continue their roles as caregivers while, deep down, they are dying.
Suizid is selfish, there is no way to discuss about. Its just simple. If you are in a situation, where suizid is the fastest option to end the pain you do in this moment what its best for you - stop the pain. But if you kill yourself and you have a family people where love you or if you are even responsible for a child etc. You are a m*f assh.l. Allright. ? I suffer from bipolar disorder since iam 11. iam 28 now and i tried two times to kill myself and its a wonder i did not die. Since two years i have a son. My depressions are under control now. And i had one hard time where i was thinking about suizide.. but i was strong, because i did swear to myself i will never try to killself again, because iam responsible now, i have a child and he need me and he needs a father who loves him. There is no option. Fight and do the best what you can do. And time will reward you. Cause you get stronger and stronger. Times will come where it goes down again, but if you have a victory about your hardest fall, you will do it again. Stand up try it again. For me important. If you have no one where needs you, or will miss you etc. For sure then its okay if you commit suicide. But its always important to not forget, suicide is not a solution in 90% of all cases its only a irreparable end of your existence including all your problems. Some people have cancer or other terrible illness, pain etc… and if they have no way to recover. Its also totally okay to choose this way. This will be the 10% from above. Don’t destroy the live of others just because you want do finish your problems…
@@sakesan6828 That is a classic case of "look at me, I am stronger than you".... you have a son "so I could assume you have a family", meaning that you have something to live for; there are others who have nothing and there are others who kept fighting and fighting till they had no energy left; be glad and thank God that you still have energy left in you to stay alive, others weren't that lucky and weren't that privileged.... every case is different, so, again, be grateful
Every delay I've had has been because of others " maybe not this month, it's so and so's birthday", "oh man, so and so's going through a hard time. Let me not make things worse for them"....
My sister’s boyfriend was a theater actor and he always looked happy, we used to watch movies and play videogames all together, he committed suicide last Christmas while his family was celebrating. He didn’t looked depressed or anything, just a bit stressed, he faked his happiness very well. I still remember the last time we played together, we were playing Half Life 2: Deathmatch, It was 18 December. He was like a brother to me
I'm pro choice on suicide, I see that as a right we all can have, but I gotta say, choosing his moment to be on one of the biggest holidays and without ever discussing his plans with the family so they aren't shocked by his decision is one of the most selfish things I've read. As much as we have that right to go, those we love should be aware to get their goodbyes and certainly not be done on holidays or special get togethers.
@@queenieburgers50 your ignorance here is crazy. Knowing people who tried as well as myself. The amount of pain you have to be in to try to end it all is so great your families reaction is so irrelavent and small to yourself and your impulsivity. Why tf would they discuss it with their family who would stop it. Also pro choice on suicide would lead to so many people including myself that could/would be dead that didnt get to reach the other side of the tunnel, where one regrets that action and is thankful to be alive.
@Noah Sylvester as someone who has been dealing with chronic pain and depression my entire life, suicide has been talked about with my family and doctors often so there wouldn't be any surprises if it happened, or if I planned on going to a clinic for doctor assisted death. The more it's openly discussed, the less family members are caught off guard and obsessively wondering what could have been done or why they even made the decision. Eventually, people understand the decision why and they will stop involuntarily hospitalizing at some point.. They don't want their loved one to be suffering. We didn't ask to be here, it's our right to go. Talking about it is something those who are in the chronic pain community do more openly than others, so maybe it's shocking to you that I'd respect someone's decisions or speak to family about it but if you ever see other comments similar to mine, you'll understand that that's probably a chronic pain patient. It's not always an impulsive decision, shit builds and builds for weeks, months, years and one more thing can have them follow through. Throughout that time, plans are being made, and throughout that time, discussions can also be made. Kind of strange that you didn't realize I was saying what I had based on *my* experience, so not everyone has had the same experiences *you* have had, your ignorance here is crazy.
Hey guys i am 19 yr old girl from india. State:Kerala. I don't know why i am always crying at night. Just something makes me emotional, sad and numb feel. I don't know what i will become in future. But i am not suicidal at all. Something is making me sad inside my heart . I didn't know why i am commenting here about this but it makes me calm at somehow.love u all❤. And a big hugs and love to those who are feeling lonely ❤. (Sorry about my grammar mistakes)
relatable situation even the same age. I also don't have friends, no one talks to me first and even my parents don't speak to me nor siblings do. ... but the thing is I got someone, She is loyal, She is beautiful, She is the only one who is with me all the time, even in my lowest ..... and she is my bicycle 💕 7 year together isn't is love?... You can try to find your love in another thing other than people...👑
Oh okay . Are u from kerala? I want to share this.I got rejected once when I am in 12th std. But actually at that time he loved one girl but they were not in a relationship. They are kind of best friends at that time . At the end they got into relationship. But the girl who he loved once dated one of his best friend but nothing serious and they seperated and she got relationship with the boy which I had crush on.They are now happy and i am happy for them too. Hope I will get someone in future. I passed 12th std in 2023 and took an year for the neet exam preparation. Now I am hoping to get a college seat. Excited to have a good college life.
Being happy doesn't mean you're not depressed. Having these thoughts doesn't mean that you're weak. Sometimes there's no answer. A long time ago...I used to go for long rides/drives. Rode/drove fast and hard to places I'd never been before, with a teeny tiny hope in the back of my mind that something goes wrong and I never return. Found a purpose.
@@bigbiscuit3622 just doing it right now, stopped at a gas station to buy me some cigarettes and write this. I drive myself mindlessly to take the mind off the pain. Distraction. And the hope that throughout the night, which I hold so dear, I survive and that the next day may bring something joyful, anything at all. Funny enough I do exceptionally well at hoping, despite the thoughts of ending it all and never get old, whenever I see a tall building or a bridge.. but I always remember, about serious things one should laugh.
My grandad has had 3 suicidal attempts, was in a mental hospital for Christmas and is still in it, and all my parents think about is how selfish he’s being, he’s not, he lost his wife 2 years ago, I lost the worlds best grandma, I cannot loose him too, I can’t express how much I wish him the best and how he knows he’s loved and it still has friends and family left in his life
We gotta let them rest too. If my father wants to commit suicide I will talk to him if he's sure and why does he wants to do it and the consequences of it... but I will not force him to stay by actions. Ofc he would be doing something selfish by killing himself but forcing him to stay with me is also selfish. He already has told me that when he gets old and if the pain is too strong to bear living he will choose to die and there will come a time when I'll have to accept it. Your parents are just as selfish as your grandad and that's okay, we're like that sometimes. We know it would hurt us if they left so we try to selfishly force suicidal people to stay instead of understanding what's hurting them and understanding our own selves. Understanding that our loved ones don't belong to us. Understanding that we can't lose what was never ours. That's life and that's change.
I hate when people call people selfish for committing suicide...it's such a heartless and thoughtless statement. But there is no shortage of people with dark spirits or just too dumb to know better.
I was suicidal for years and years, eventually I went to hospital. When I was suicidal, I tried hard to keep it from people around me - partly because I knew there wasn’t much anyone could do, and also because I didn’t want to cause them distress. I’m so glad those days are behind me
Great to here but in the future Just say it maybe not even think just get it out and let those you love comfort you. I’m in no position to be able to relate but all I can do is assure you that coming out will be very difficult and apprehensive but it’s better than being silent
@@JoelHeidrich In my case, a really good psychiatrist and a long course of medication with only very occasional therapy. Before going to hospital, I had avoided medication, I chose to focus on lots of therapy and meditation thinking I could find a spiritual answer or some way to fix my feelings on my own. After going to hospital, I realised things had gone too far and that trusting a doctor who was scientifically trained to help people in my situation was a much better idea. Without his help and the medication, I would've really struggled. If I were to find myself in that position again, I would go back to trusting the science as much as possible. I rarely revisit that part of my past now, but I remember how impossible it was to see a way out when I was going through it. It took time but my recovery was straightforward. I've had the best memories of my life since then and my life is now rich with purpose
Check on your friends, tell them you appreciate them. Everyone’s going through something but not everyone shows ❤ Much love and support to everyone fighting through depression or any kind of mental illness
I watched this video and cried, only to have my brother die by suicide a month later. I thought he was happy but I learned after that he was homeless and struggling. Calling counselors and even the suicide hotline. In this video, everyone looks so happy. That was the same case with my brother. Everyone he last with spoke so highly of him. It's been 6 weeks and I only see things getting harder. Our childhood we struggled, and through our struggles we failed to bond as brothers should. So he shut me out after he moved out, and the last memory I have with him is him telling me I'm useless to him. If only he knew how much I and our family loved him. He was 20.
Recently, my mom lost a friend to suicide. He killed himself due to bills and rent being due and him not having the money. His death was so brutal that the cops couldn’t go inside for 2 hours. Rest in peace Lee.
South Korean actor Lee Sun-kyun, best known for his role in the Oscar-winning film Parasite, has been found dead in an apparent suicide in central Seoul. Police found the body of the actor, who was 48, in a car near a city park on Wednesday. They believe Lee took his own life, Yonhap news agency reports. Police said earlier they had received a report that he had left his home after writing a note. He had been under investigation for alleged illegal drug use since October.
Im sorry but what did he do exactly? Paint himself all over the walls with explosives? A gunshot to the head using a 12gauge? Bathtub toaster? Or was he lying already dead for a week?Those are some whimpy cops if they couldn't even determine what to do for 2 hours.
@@MalcolmNessGranger Honestly, he was already gone after he pulled the trigger. The police are very wimpy here in Oregon. My uncle was actually shot and killed by police during to a mental health breakdown.
Attempted suicide twice. So glad I didn’t shoot myself that day. Now I can write this paragraph and let others know that to always be there for their loved ones whether they show signs or don’t. You never know what a person is going through before it’s too late. Always check up and let them know how loved they are and for anyone suffering with depression, I care and many of your loved ones also care about you deeply. You are loved and appreciated and whatever you are going through, always keep pushing forward even through the worst of the worst. You’re strong and me and so many other people are proud of you for trying your best during these hard times. You’re a warrior. You got this always
Notice how the real deal like u aren't even shown love. Ppl just presenting a lil oh I cried about someone...or gotta see the signs...get hundreds of likes. Just look at the smarta** in the comment below. Almost as if simon either saying u r full of 💩 or wishes you try the old 3 strikes then u r out. I say always try to take fruitcakes like that with u, so u go bettering the world.
Sometimes suicidal people suddenly look happier because they have made the decision to end their life and they’re happy their pain will finally be ending soon. It would be great if our society had safe welcoming places for people to go to and confess these plans. Unfortunately it is still too difficult to get compassionate, adequate care, especially when you are mired in depression and can’t advocate for yourself.
We suffer alone and cry silently. No one could ever imagine people like us are capable of this… we have learned to mask and stay strong for others even though the world has stepped on us. I’m only here for my 2 kids.
It sounds pretty much alike my mother. She used to be a great mother before she became alcoholic. She still says I and my brother are the only reasons she is still alive but I because of her has my own health issues and I might just give up as there is no point at studing if the family could never pay for my colage and if I can't get a well paid job then I will end up just as my mother in small house woth big problems... so whats the point at even trying. Why should live just to get dissapointed
Let me know if I can help man, I know the feeling I watched my older brother put a revolver to his chin and blow the bottom half of his face completely off, a month later, a close friend did the same, 6 months after that I started self harming, a year later I took a bottle of pills, woke up in the hospital, was locked in there for almost a 3 months, got out came home was OK for a week or 2, then started cutting again, only to then take out a 9mm load a single bullet in the head looked in the mirror let out the loudest blood currtling scream you could ever hear hear, squeezed the trigger as hard as I could, only to be disappointed by the safety, I slammed the barrel of that pistol into the mirror si hard, said I couldn't even kill myself with a gun I'm such a fuck up, I cut the fuck outta my wrist that night, probably should've went to the hospital, 7 months later i ended up losing my dad, and taking a hard left turn into drugs, and had several more attempts, Mt most recent was earlier this year when I tried hanging myself, I was found unconscious, hanging, my fiance untied that rope around my neck, once I finally woke uo and came to she was screaming, what I'm not sure, everything was ringing and blurry, I could faint screaming though, only to be put in the back of a cop car drove to a hospital 35 minutes later and I'm now here today, keep going man you got this💯
Really makes you look at people differently. This is why I treat everyone the same and give the respect I would like back. Be mindful of those around you and check in on close ones, it could save a life .
As a person who has tried to kill himself and has been in coma for 2 days, I can say people around you don't realize what's in your head even when you want to die so bad. You say to yourself "they must see it" but they don't. We often smile and say everything is alright even when the thoughts in your head are darker than black. When you finally tell people around It's often a shock to them, but we have to deal with these thoughts everyday.
@@UnknownEvil_BadAliens so glad you're still alive, this second chance was for a reason and you matter as a person ! I remember when I had to save one of my close friends from an OD and it just made me happy to know they're better now
@@KR0OK You're really nice 🙂 We all have our burden to bear And the thing with suicide is that the pain when you're gone only remain in thoses who love you, it might be a deliverance for you, but not for thoses who care. That's why I try to get better, I never want to see the faces of my parents this sad again
Find a friend to talk to, vent it out, don't let it grow and weigh on you. Listen to good music and cry alot, life is difficult but good thing is up ahead.
@John Smith even though there’s stuff out there that may be inevitable, you can always still focus on better things that genuinely makes you feel good and just deal with the not so good stuff when it happens if it happens
I lost my brother last year, I can't watch this, it's still too painful. Everyone out there struggling, your life is a light in this world and it will be a darker place for everyone without you in it. I love you Liam, I miss you so much
I constantly fight with my dad, once I fought with him really bad, after that I stayed in my room so silently, my dad came up to the door and called my name asking if he could come in my room to talk, I ignored him and stayed in silence, he repeated my name, he sounded more worried every time he repeated my name, he got desperate and ran in my room very worried saying "I thought something happened to you son", I remember that moment constantly, and it breaks my heart, I don’t want my dad to think I have suicide wishes, I don’t want to fight with him no more, i don’t want to build a pile of stress for him as his working every day to have me under a roof, give me and my family food, and the things we always want, I just want him to live peacefully, spend all the good time with him and make him proud and happy, I want a happy son and dad life 💔
This made me cry last night. My dad is the reason I am still here today. I don’t like worrying him either. Now I have 2 cats, 1 dog, and a husband whom I can’t hurt either. It’s the same thing when it comes to my alcoholism. If I drink, I’d hurt people that love me. We need more good people in this world. 🙏❤️🩹 We are all sinners but we are forgiven. God is more powerful than my enemies. God knows what we need. He has plans to prosper us and not to harm us. I’m speaking to myself mostly. Thank you for your comment and thanks for reading.
@@hr_47 that’s hard, but your mom made you feel happy and that’s the good side you have to think about, appreciate her and love her forever. God bless you and your mom 🙏 stay safe ❤️
The only reason I’m still here is for my parents my mum and dad don’t deserve to suffer because I don’t know how to man up and handle life…. Good luck to y’all may you find some happiness in your life I certainly haven’t but maybe one day
This is true, because I've done it myself. I realized nobody likes being around depressed people because all we do in their eyes is "kill the vibez". So we fake our happiness just to get along with people, because we know being alone for long periods of time only worsens our state of mind. But all the fake smiles and good times doesn't hide the fact that they will never truly know what is really going on inside. I remember my cousin asking me why I always look down most of the time. I told him "I can explain it to you, but you will never truly know how it feels." He said I was overthinking it, and I said, "Your dad is still alive, you were there at the funeral. So stop acting like this is something I can easily get out of my head." He just walked away without saying anything.
yep. I haven't really seen someone agree with my theory about socialising as much as you Tempus. The second sentence is completely true. Even if your current personality is 99% negative, you are obliged to show 1% of the positive at all cost in order to create a friendship . Sadly enough you sort of need friends or a support group to help lift you out of that state but during that state you push people away and you do stuff which makes it hard for people to see what is inside. It is highly self-destructive.
I used to be depressed, anxious and terrified of life, but Jesus saved me!!!! All we need to do in order to receive his grace and peace is by repentance, turning away from sin and trusting in him!!!! "The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears them; he delivers them from all their troubles. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit." (Psalms 34:17-18) "Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest." (Matthew 11:28) Still take your medication though! God Bless You All And Amen!!!!
@@patrickbasedman5255 Yes I am, I'm not clinically depressed. I was depressed due to the late death of my father (RIP), I knew a day like this would come, I just didn't think it would be so soon. I was only 24 at the time. I'm 27 now and realized that within that time, it doesn't do any good to dwell on it. Life goes on man, just gotta keep moving forward 🙏
man I cannot stop crying every time i watch this video. remember that you have a reason on this planet. maybe right now you don’t feel like it, but eventually you will find your purpose.❤️
What is even sadder is that some of these people who commited suicide had children Imagine growing up with just one parent it feels like a big chunk of your life is missing I feel terrible for them and their children must have been a lot going on to do that😢
As someone who's been close to that point I can honestly say that it's very difficult to be taken seriously by people who aren't trained in such things. It's far too easy to just say to yourself "They seem happy enough" and not actually check in. Going that extra step can often make the difference. It's not about occasionally being overtly happy, it's about consistency. If you spot a friend who is never consistent and swing ls from one extreme to the other. Please take the time to check on them
I’ve gotten very good at smiling and laughing, when deep down inside, I don’t want to be here anymore. I refuse to burden my loved ones with my pain, people already have enough problems. But watching this video is like watching my life.
@@r2dxhate I'm in the same situation.. so I understand and I feel what you feel. I realized I'm surrounded by psychopath who believed that "Everyone in this world can be wrong and will do wrong, except me. No matter how wrong I am, it must be right because it's me who's doing it." Don't talk to these people... it's a waste of your precious energy, time, and life.. play online games... find someone else outside your family.. enjoy your days without thinking of the future.. the worst scenario that could happen to us is exactly like what happened to those in this video. but at least, we can finally enjoy our last moments before it's over. I know for a lot of people this advise sounds malicious but those who are in this situation wouldn't find it difficult to understand that there's no way out and there's nothing else we can do. Why don't make the best out of it while before it's all over..?
@@r2dxhate they are jerks. people whve never been in such a situation would never understand. Kindness is a rare find. Nowadays everyone plays supper tough with their 'buck it up' nonsense. Hope you're okey. Stay connected!
@@r2dxhate it's more that we need help, we need someone who would help us to fix our life à little bit, and it does require attention and time..., And it's kinda disgusting how they would care and spend days on meaningless things, instead of trying to help someone who can literally die at any moment... They wouldn't even give u the satisfaction to feel understood, ur are just becoming à malédiction in their life, the one who should just change the way she thinks and everything would be alright Bullshit, i so wish i was never been born at all, or that i could just disappear, i don't want anyone to remember me or cry for me..., i just want to be no where
One thing you get from this is that the last moments they spent on camera was to bring joy to those around them instead of themselves. Making other people laugh or even just smile. It’s beautiful and sad at the same time. At some point you care so little of yourself that you care for other people in place of that.
“I think the saddest people always try their hardest to make people happy because they know what it’s like to feel absolutely worthless and they don’t want anyone else to feel like that” - Robin Williams
I think a lot of people don't realize that living with depression isn't "just a phase" and a lot of time, it doesn't just "go away." A lot of people learn to mask it or learn to harness it. Having it doesn't mean 24/7 sulking and LOOKING depressed all the time. As a person who deals with major depressional issues myself, seeing this gets me a different type of way. These people search for joy in the tiniest things, and they could find it for a brief moment, but the depression still lingers
Find peace in Jesus our lord. I also fighr fight with depression but without Jesus i couldn't cope. God bless you and i pray u will be truly happy soon in Jesus name ill pray❤
@@toughenupfluffy7294 please get some help. I've been in treatment for 3 years now it has really helped. I still have days where I wish I was gone but the reality is there is meaning.
Thanks for this post. A friend and I talked someone out of it while the gun was under his chin. We were 14 or 15 he was twelve. His mother came up crying and distraught knocking on the door. She asked us to see if we could talk to him. We cautiously knocked and entered slowly . He was sitting on the edge of the bed looking straight forward, we asked all the things we could think of, and nothing but tears came from his eyes and determination. 2 years or so before his older brother did it with the same gun in the same house. 30 minutes or more we kept getting closer giving positive words and bragging on him. My friend starting rubbing his back saying don't, don't real soft. He eased up put his hand near the trigger and eased his hand off and got the rifle away and emptied it. We stayed awhile that night. I talked to him about God and things and I wasn't saved then. He's still living and has kids. He and his Mom mended things. All that said, please don't murder yourself, the pain your going through is bad and unreal. But remember the times of pure bliss with your family and friends and think of having those again. The bad things will pass but the great times will last. The memories of friends that have done it, to me looking back I wish I could joke with them now and laugh about getting old. Jesus truly loves you search for him in prayer he will show up. Yes I have almost did it, prayer stopped me. Thank you
That's great that you both could stop him. How in the World did a twelve year old get his hands on a rifle ... especially if his brother killed himself with the same gun!! I know people can kill themselves in many ways but that's making it easy.
For anyone doesn't know, people literally can't control depression. So you can't tell people that "just snap out of it" because it's a chemical imbalance in the brain due stress and stuff. Please, if you know people who has been diagnosed by depression, please help them seriously before it's too late.
No. There's a thing called cognitive therapy, read David Burns' "Feeling good". The thought "depression is beyond my control cos it's chemistry in the brain" isn't true. You can control your mood with the therapy. The core of the cognitive therapy is writing down your negative thoughts, analysing them and giving rational answers that explain falsity of those thoughts. The result is lifted mood. There's many other exercises in the book for different cases. So, thinking that you can't prevent and control depression except taking medication is another negative thought that only worsen your depression and gives your an excuse not to make an effort to solve the problem at the same time.
@@dyadyabafomyot1668 Yeah, that's helping to cure that chemical imbalance though isn't it ? I get what you're saying though as putting it down to something we have no control over isn't helpful we can fix ourselves and I didn't need any smarties or therapy to do it. Whatever helps the individual is a positive thing though.
@@dyadyabafomyot1668 look man, i dont want to come off accusatory but this is a heavy topic. i get what ur saying but you're grossly missing the point and coming across as a know-it-all since you're taking their comment too literally and barging in to ruin a really good message to peers of depressed people. the problem is that people are not properly helping their peers but trying to dismiss depression and the effects of it on the brain. referring to it as a chemical imbalance helps put into perspective that it's a lot more out of control than people would usually assume. sure, lots of things can help, but more often than not, people dont help and tell depressed people to just get over it, just man up, just stop being sad, just go outside, just improve their coping mechanisms etc. the point of the comment is to prove that it's not something you can JUST control, like a broken arm. you cant "just move it", at least not without a lot of pain, but proper care could help nurture it back to health again. what you mentioned doesn't have to be contradictory to their original statement. the methods you mentioned would categorise as "proper care" for the brain alongside other things (like professional therapy or meds in severe cases) that would alleviate the symptoms of depression. op is not even suggesting that medicine is the only thing that can cure depression, nor are they implying that help=meds. they just told people to make sure to take depressed people around them seriously instead of saying utterly unhelpful and even hurtful things, as well as refusing to let them get professional help in the cases of parents
@@hyukleberry5567 Broken arms and depression are wildly different. People have recovered from depression naturally. People haven't recovered from broken arms naturally. The problem with the chemical imbalance is precisely the fact that it tells people it's entirely out of their control. Your moods and changes in them are largely within your control. As for chemical changes in your brain, those are caused by just about everything. Watching porn can also lead to chemical changes in the brain, do you believe that is a chemical imbalance? Hell, even regular workouts can create long-term chemical changes in the brain. Is that a chemical imbalance? How do you decide whether or not something is a chemical "imbalance" or not?
Buddy don't, I was at the lowest short time ago I decided to commit suicide not through dying but through insisting on living this thing called depression is an enemy a sticky goo stuck on you take it off
A good friend of mine took his life. It was really sudden cause he was happy for awhile before this and he was talking about writing a science fiction book. He was a great guy that loved music and video games. He left a hole in the hearts of his very close friends and his family. His mom lives on to spread awareness and she started a foundation in his name. This guy wanted to be friends with everyone and he never talked about religion or politics as a result. I'm crying right now thinking about if I had just known what he was planning. I was trying to cheer him up a lot, but it tears me up to see his mom and sister so devastated. His mom dedicated her Facebook profile to him with all these pictures and memories of him. He was only 22 when he died.
Never talked about religion or politics because he wanted to be everyone's friend. That part particularly sounded too familiar to me.. thanks for sharing though, I hope everyone involved is able to let themselves heal over time
I empathise with you. Suicide bereavement gets easier but that hole in your heart remains. I lost a dear friend in the same way. There was no way you could've known because your friend wouldn't have known. It's likely not something he meticulously planned. Take care of yourself.
I was depressed for about 6 months.. Everything seems normal when u are around others.. The real struggle comes when u are alone and your mind starts talking.. Closing my eyes was the scariest moment back then.. I fought it all alone, what I did was think of my family and friends and think about all the good things I have done...(+music and watching/listening comdey of all types was a big help too )It's not easy but believe me it works!
Music bro, it helps big time. I've never attempted suicide but shit has gotten close. The music and thought of damage that would be done to family is what snapped me out of it. Glad you and I beat something so difficult but common like depression.
@@tozmcgoz8405 I just listened to some of my favorite music for about an hour and I feel so much better than I’ve felt all day. Music can truly be magical
Recently, after telling my classmate that I have depression he invalidated me and said “You don’t have depression and you are not suicidal.” He implied that I was an attention seeker I suppose and it hurts so fucking much knowing that no one believes me and thinks exactly like him. Here’s a message for people who want to be educated on the subject: mentally ill people, depressed people, suicidal people may not always show it, and you should never be quick to judge. You never know what someone is going through.
Lots of young people pretend to have diseases, mental illnesses for attention nowadays. I saw people online pretending to have Tourette Syndrome or multiple personalities. Some claimed to have a brain tumor. I'm NOT saying, that you're lying though.
Miss Flying Butter, if you have suicidal thoughts and are at risk of self harming then speak to your parents, a teacher or a medical practitioner. Your young and life might be depressing you right know but in time that will change.
Been depressed for about 20 years. Nothing's gotten better, I'm just older and more alone than ever. I am not suicidal, but I get why people are. Christ is my rock.
My dad said his uncle, my great uncle, and he went to visit my grandpa. They played some poker and he was laughing and smiling. Told them both how much he loved them and hugged them goodbye. Apparently my great uncle thought it was weird, so he went back later that night. Found him in the garage with the car running. My grandma doesn't know. The official story was a heart attack to preserve his dignity with the family. My dad has always taken mental health and cries for help extremely seriously. I never knew this about my grandpa, I always knew it was just a heart attack. When I was struggling in school and mentioned that I thought I was depressed, my dad's demeanor towards me changed completely from "Why aren't you studying, what's wrong with you" to "take your time, you can stay here as long as you need." I'm really glad my dad gave me the time to grow up a bit more without pressuring me when I dropped out of school. Those few extra years were really important. I learned about my grandpa years later from my brother who talked about it with my dad after he almost killed himself. Indirectly, my grandfather saved both of our lives.
The worst part is the friends, family, coworkers, and everyone in the videos laughing and having a good time BECAUSE of the person who decided they werent loved, nobody cares, financial issues, etc. Theres always someone who will miss you.
It ain't about the people they leave behind. It's about an inescapable pain that they can only mask. I've been suicidal. I knew people would miss me. I still wanted nothing more than an escape from life. I just didn't say anything because I knew people like you would make me out as the "villain" of the story with guilt-tripping and what-if scenarios.
@@SageArdor “people like you” yeah piss off man. I’m not here to guilt trip. My brother killed himself and didn’t feel he could ever talk to me. If I didn’t make it clear enough for you, it didn’t have an ill intention.
And I’ve also attempted. So I’m not brain dead clueless on what it feels like. But if you think suicide is the best option you’re a fucking idiot. There’s other outlets than suicide or self harm. Hit the gym to cope like I did and turn your life around. It’s never too late and it pisses me off so many people still think it is because it’s not.
@@SageArdor Hunter isn't making suicidal people into a villain. They just mean that the suicidal people in the videos made others happy and are loved and missed
As someone with severe depression and constant suicidal thoughts, it’s a bit warming to see so many ppl sharing how they feel, from one stranger to however many sees this, you’re loved and you’re worthy of greatness. *fist bump* ❤️
You have a reason to live, mate. You might not know it, but a lot of people care about you. Yes, life has it's downsides, but just treat life as a game, you might lose some stuff, but in the end, you'll be MVP. But to be MVP, you gotta get through the challenges. All i'm saying is, don't give up easily. You might have one time only living on this planet, so make the most of it. Meditate abit, hydrate yourself, socialize (don't be afraid!), control your emotions (you can train yourself) and express your problems with people who can help you. Hope you stay safe, mate.
This life is temporary, the next is forever. Take from this life for the next, worship your Creator, Allaah, until death reaches you and follow His Messenger Muhammad, and you will never lose.
And yet, many see depression/suicidal tendencies as "weakness" or "softness", something that you are expected to "toughen up" or "grow out of it" to get through.
Those messages make it harder to bear those feelings. Having those thoughts doesn't make you "weak", but there is a right way and a wrong way to deal with those feelings. It seems there is a cultural shift happening away from that attitude, so hopefully more people feel comfortable to talk to someone about such thoughts, like a friend or relative if a therapist isn't an affordable option.
@@AnonYmous-ez4es I have this mentality too, as someone who’s depressed. It’ll pass. I’ll pass one day too, and everything can continue passing by me, as life goes on. Waiting for my depression to pass has been a long journey. From a very young age, I’ve waited. And waited. Faked happy. I still do fake happy. It seems people know that I fake happy. I can tell that everyone can tell.
Sadness is an emotion, Depression is a state of mind. You can be happy yet still suffer from depression.
You explained it perfectly
Sadness is seasonal, what remains is emptiness ... I understand this shit, we are here to transcend our hole into light
True
Can I use your sentence in my journal? I want to make two pages talking about depression and suicidal thoughts, cause it’s something that touches me more than anything, and I want to use the most beautiful quotes I’ve seen till now. I just want to know if I have your permission 💜
Depression is a state of mind, but most precisely a mental illness.
Anyway, you want it to go away most of the time.
“Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know absolutely nothing about. Be kind-always.” - Robin Williams
Goddam if it ain’t the truth. The fight to stay alive never ends.
E' Platone che dice queste parole
That quote is bullshit, something nobody lives by.
@@Miley-we1iq E' John Watson che dice queste parole
@@echolalia682 Platone e' nato prima 😂😂 Sorry
My father always said…
“Life isn’t fun without a struggle in it, but some struggles lead to tragic endings.”
Well no shit, was there supposed to be a meaningful point or lesson here?
@@zoraideale4046 pops gave em a reality check 😭
@@zoraideale4046 chill out lol
@@BG-pl1zx Pipe down cause I'm calm, I was just truth telling. He didn't tell us something we already know, well I guess can't speak for you huh? So you didn't know I assume.
@@zoraideale4046 You’re literally being argumentative for no reason. The guys talking about something his father told him that he obviously found inspiration from and he’s sharing that here. Yet you have to put him down like that and try to act all cocky. Grow up and have some compassion for your fellow man
"The last expression of people before they kill themselves, it's a smile, but isn't a normal smile."
- A smart guy
Yeah
Its releave
"i don't want to be healed. i have a strong urge and desire to just disappear and never be seen again. and at this point, pain is sweet." yes, there are people who feel this way
Same things are going in my life as well I'm failing my college exams and the urge to kill myself is getting stronger day by day ...
Some people are just too broken to be healed
People who are really suffering want to be healed.
If someone say that he don't want, he 1- don't feel that bad, 2- is mad, 3- can't be healed
@jenkinsrower7380 I didn't want to waste people's time with my pain, I felt like it would be an inconvenience to my peers to ask for help, so I just didn't. I broke out of it last year, and genuinely smiling is a great feeling. Sometimes I just do it for no reason, besides being content. It can get better, and I knew that one day I might not regret leaving, and it came sooner than I expected
@@that_guy_standing5754 Trust me you don't waste anyones time
I often had that thought that I was a heavy weight for others if I would tell them of my feelings but it resulted that I got the deep bondings with some friends and not only those who could relate in some way.
Been depressed/suicidal for a long, long time (20+ years). Only thing stopping me is knowing that it would destroy my loved ones. I could never do it.
I’m sure they love you a ton and their lives would be hell without you in it. Don’t just stay for them but stay for the random people like me who read this comment. I know it probably doesn’t mean much coming from a stranger but your life does matter. I know it might feel like you’re going through hell right now but even if it’s a cheesy thing to say, it does get better. I believe in you.
Keep your head up! I hope you find peace. ❤✌
The loved ones not getting hurt is my top reason as well, with the second one (and the cause for the first) being the need to leave the world a better place before leaving it, but oh, it is so hard to see the validity of said reasons on some days.
My husband killed himself. And yes, it destroys everybody who ever loved you.
Suicide does not end pain. It increases it exponentially and transfers it to the people who loved you
You are worth it. Love yourself
What I find very sad about suicide is how a lot of people become really happy right before they do it. It's like they have already died and are just waiting to pass over. The sadness completely leaves them once they decide to do it, because they now feel empowered and feel like they now have control on when the pain ends. I've just always found that to be the most troubling is that bout of happiness right before they kill themselves. The people that have quietly been worrying about the person sees this happiness and is relieved that thier loved one finally seems to be coming out of their depression, but is then hit with the earth shattering suicide.
It's like how a person that is dying in the hospice seems to come alive and are full of energy right before they die. They'll be in a coma state and suddenly wake up and start talking to everyone in an alert and excited manner and then falls over dead. Life is strange as is death.
Life is hard sometimes, it sucks...
Interesting phenomenon.
This felt very similar to terminal lucidity in people with dementia or Alzheimer’s. They cant remember even the names of their loved ones for years, yet a few hours or days before their death they can recall memories and recognize people. Kinda like bliss.
@@kerbeezzz Everyone I've ever know that was old and dying always saw people in the room that no one else could see. It's weird, but I always think of that being their guardian angels.
Life is shit
been depressed for six years up until last year. Younger brother is a drug addict. He was overdosing about twice a week. I dug up hundreds of pills from his room each month. This went on for years. My parents visibly aged twice as fast from this.
One day i just sort came to terms with the fact that my young, little brother will die. Sooner or later. Probably sooner than later. That day my depression collapsed into an emotional numbness. I was able to slowly rebuild from that. You sort of grow older when you accept the unneeded death of a close relative. Less innocent, but with more space for new happy feelings.
Last weekend i invited my parents to a concert of their favorite band. I cant stand groups of more than five people and loud sounds. Yet, i stood their with my Parents and 66000 other people cheering at ACDC. It was awesome. I saw my dad behave like a teenager again. I loved it. I love them. There is always a chance to come back, friends. For all of us. No matter how dark it seems to be.
🖤
How your brother now?
Is your brother okay? Are YOU okay?
❤ x
My brother started to play video games all day long for the last 6 months before he took his own life and he was always playing the same game. One day when I asked him " are you not bored doing the same thing over and over again?" He said "it's not that I'm enjoying this but at least I'm not self aware when I'm doing this" he was crippled in a car accident and couldn't accept living a life he never thought he would. I miss him so much
im sorry for your loss. Car accidents are so hard. Its been over 10 years since mine but im grappling struggles that started that day (driving being scary, hard to get around). A handicap can really set you aside in life, then everyone says they have to go to fast to even think about you coming along. Its really lonesome & feels like a deadend. I wish I could tell him (or anyone in a similar position):
Youre not alone in how you feel. Youre not too damaged to find healing. Youre worth it.
what game did he keep playing?
@@jasonvoorhees5640 THAT's what you took away from this? smh
damn. that quote perfectly describes me. "it's not that I'm enjoying this but at least I'm not self aware when I'm doing this" when i listen to music, try on the rare occasions to play a video games again, movie, show, exercise, its all the same. I'm just waiting for the end.
@@treesaretough I appreciate your kind words please never give up you're the only one that matters don't you ever forget that
What people often don’t understand about suicide is that when someone has been depressed for a very long time and they finally make the decision, they finally start to feel peace and calmness because they know that the pain and suffering will end, so if you know someone who has been under the weather for a very long time and all of a sudden one day they’re in a really good mood, that’s not just a sign, that’s a whole siren because that probably means the decision has been made
Edit: the amount of stories in the replies about how you guys had loved ones that committed suicide is heartbreaking, I am so sorry to all of you that have experienced such horrible losses and to all the people who have taken their own lives, may you at least Rest In Peace
very true 👍
How are you doing?
@@the.seagull.35 I’m fine, I’m not suicidal I just wanted to share this info
@@phantom_wolf5274DO IT
Just like with physical illnesses. Often, shortly before death, a person feels better. The body throws away the remaining reserves.
@@YasnaKo yeah it essentially means your immune system gave up trying to fight it
Lost my best mate to suicide 24 years ago when we were both 23.
Had no idea he was struggling, not always easy to spot the signs if they’re not there.
Funniest bloke I knew and we were out together the night he found the courage to do what I guess he felt he had to do.
Rest easy Dean Kerry.
I miss you and wish I could’ve helped.
Rest in peace, Dean Kerry.
Have a good rest Dean Kerry
So sorry to hear that man, i feel like the way you’re describing your friend is how people who know me would describe me. I am 23 next month and nobody knows anything. I’m just a strong pillar everybody looks up to. I feel like it’s a taboo and people tend to ignore it when they experience it firsthand. I owe my life to a lot if my people i won’t do anything of that sort but i live like i have done it already
Rest in peace, Dean Kerry. I love you.
:((
Its awful that you dont even have someone to save you from suicidal thoughts by just listening, i feel like im close to the end
I can listen to your suicidal thoughts because I am having them too :)
I am here for you. My inbox is open, I will listen to anything you need to say. Please stay with us. You are loved.
u got me. Please hang in there. I will listen to your story 24/7.
@@moby4447 ...would it be possible to have you hear me, too? Sorry if I'm overstepping...
@@Sodorboy98 sure bro! Feel free to tell your feeling or mind
In high school, my best friend popped into my job on a Saturday just to hang out for a bit. It was a little unexpected but there were no red flags.
He killed himself on Sunday night. I still have his picture in my wallet more than a decade later because he's the only reason I've never hurt myself regardless of how I'm feeling; the pain it inflicts on others is not worth it. I miss you so much man.
Edit: Thank you for the supportive comments, and I'm so sorry for those who have gone through similar situations. To those who doubt me, I wish it wasn't true. To those saying I should have done more, I hope you get help.
He probably want to meet all the people he known before he go, I assume, cause that's what I will probably do if I ever committed
sorry to hear brother. losing a great mate to suicide is something you never get over
I can relate. A close friend of mine committed suicide when we were 16, and his funeral still haunts me. I could never do that to my family and friends. I'll never forget his mom standing by the casket as we all walked by for the viewing, she grabbed me by my sleeve and kept asking me if I knew why he did it, if I had noticed him acting weird beforehand, etc. Almost as if she felt she could fix it if she could just figure out why it happened. I could never do that to my mom & sisters. He didn't just kill himself, he killed his entire family that day. They never recovered from it.
@@robert743 thank you for sharing Robert.
@@waltertanmusic1100 my son did. Everyone we spoke said they had seen him, went for a walk, had diner, spoke to him. His last night was with his cousin (almost like brothers) they had fun, music, film, diner. It seemed a normal evening. Only the part when my son left was different. We all felt that. Looking back it was strange. But we didn't know it back then. that he visited or spoke to everyone his last 2 weeks.
The thing with suicide is, as soon as someone says they want to end their own life wether it be in a moment of depression, a moment of stress or even in a moment of emotional exhaustion, that statement should tell you that you need to stand by that person and keep them going, no matter what the context, always take the threat seriously.
The thing is, people who say they want to commit suicide are the ones that never go through with it. Most often it's the people who won't admit it and seem relatively happy in their life. And that's the saddest thing about this.
Really hard to do when a person starts abusing the attention he/she gets by saying that. Seen it happen many times and it makes me so mad... but you can never be certain that they're doing it for attention. Which is the worst form of emotional manipulation.
@@Blugharm yea true, I hid it always, I made a plan when and how I'm gonna end it all and the day came , but I failed cutting open my wrist with my veins, I still have the sign
Suicidal people don't usually say it, because they don't want people to intervene, normally the people who say that are the one craving atention and in most cases don't have the guts to take their own lives.
@@freddo9682 There's nothing courageous about taking your own life. It doesn't take "guts". Sometimes people express their desire to die because we ride a constant wave. Sometimes we're up, sometimes we're down. When we're lucky enough to have another up, we want those closest to us to know that we can't guarantee that our next down won't be the last and that we're not sure we'd have the strength to pull ourselves out the next time. Think before you speak.
It's hard because most of us didn't choose to feel damaged. We had that stripped from us through unsolicited life experiences. You grow into an adult expecting to be able to carry all that weight and the weight of others. Sometimes that weight feels too much.
I say this as someone who has dealt with suicidal ideation since I was 8 due to trauma. Not a day goes by that I don't wish it would stop. But I love life truly and try to make the best of it. I fully understand when others have had enough and I don't judge them.
But unless you've felt like this I don't quite think you get it. When there's certain days if you just didn't wake up you could ignore the pain. That's the sad reward for death.
Well said
@Fritz White Unless you have a mental illness or unresolved trauma, you have no right to speak. No, not everyone goes through that. Shut the hell up.
@@FritzDWhite bitch, what?
Hey bro, just know that you are loved and you matter, regardless of your traumas and life experiences.
Also, I want to kindly recommend you to five David Goggins a listen on youtube, after that buy his book. You are going to change so much that trauma will mean nothing to you. I believe in you brother.
Dude, I fkn lost it reading this.
Perfect description.
All I can say is hang in there. You only get one shot at life. The odds of being born are 1 in 400 TRILLION.
Remember that.
The fact that now I watch this, knowing that no one will get to see their beautiful smiles again.
your comment actually made me tear up a bit
My sister just took her own life. It's been three days. I feel numb. I wish I could have talked to her one last time. It's heartbreaking.
💔💔💔 I felt it just reading this post. Man it has to hurt so much.
If you need someone to talk to don't hesitate to reach out. I'm here for you
So sori for u & her🤝🖐️
I'm so sorry, for your lost, My respects to your sister, I'm sorry you have to go through this, please try and stay strong.
I don't know who you are, I don't know where you live but I want you to know, from a total stranger to a total stranger, my heart goes to you, It's okay to feel how you feel, and I sincerely hope you can find some semblance of peace, whenever you are ready for it.
Do take care.
having a sister and reading this, my heart breaks in two 💔
This hit me right in the chest. I know exactly how these beautiful people were feeling and I struggle everyday. We need to talk more 🖤
Your in my thoughts and prayers. Wishing you a beautiful day! Hugs
C.J.S you are in my thoughts.
I send you oodles of love. 🌹
How do you know these people are really dead?
Jesus loves you. You are worthy of love, if you do not want your life, give it to Jesus. Please stay, I love you.
The paradox is the feeling of loneliness and despair we have yet we are legion.
“Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind. Always.”
- Brad Meltzer
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. John 3:16.
@@spicydramarama852 I struggle to see the connection between this scripture and the Brad Meltzer quote (genuinely). Love != kindness, but being truly loving might lead you to kindness (maybe). And giving your son as a sacrifice out of love seems unrelated to being kind to a stranger who is having an internal battle of the mind. Also being God being loving or kind feels far removed from the struggles of us mere mortals being loving or kind to others. I'm not trying to be difficult - but the connection seems tenuous at best.
@@sugarshane1985 Good catch, seems to be Brad Meltzer 's quote
@@gregdee5548 Good to know. I edited the original comment.
That's something good to go by. I know not everything is rainbows and sunshine so I try not to be a jerk. Actually like helping people.
I understand every person who has ever toyed with the idea. Life is often not worth living...
I understand it too. Stay strong. It's really tough I know, but there is hope. I found it in the depths of darkness. Hugs to you x
Definitely understand. If life is going good, your good. Life is going bad, you feel like its not worth continuing. Felt depressed for years and have some good spells and not as suicidal . I haven't reached the tipping point, but its really hard for me to handle stress and feeling hopeless. You ever feel alone, like no one gets you? Trying to conform to how society is set up, chips away at your soul. I often wonder would my life be better if i hit the genetic jackpot. Some people are just meant to be here and thrive. Others may just live harder lives and dealt with more trauma. We all go through shit don't get me wrong. However some people seem to have good head start.You never know things could work out in the long run. You can get the fire at any point and push you to a happier existence. This could be therapy, gym, books, meeting someone, you never know.
Then your dumb cuz life ain't worth quitting
Existence is pain
It really is buddy but always look on the bright side @@Henry_Mustache
It's important to know that you can't _always_ help. I was in a place like that many years ago and I made sure nobody could tell. One day I thought of a reason that I couldn't do it and that was the end. Nobody ever knew.
That is the truth. Personally, I’ve always wanted to but my family and fiancée need me. I was so tired and I wanted to feel peace. I became so talented at hiding my pain that even to this day, the only way it comes out is through nightmares.
I’m trying to be better though. Pickup hobbies, try to appreciate life, etc. it’s working but I’m afraid it won’t be a permanent solution and the psych ward might be seeing me one day.
@@homeslice2825 you're doing okay though. Thinking outside of yourself sounds like something worth doing a lot no matter how hard it is.
Did you hide it because you didn’t want your friends and family to get you help?
Sad, but true. Most hide very well.
I think media has overemphasized that angle and made people feel responsible as a result when in reality most of the time people can't help. They would if given the chance but usually they're not given one. Hard to not feel responsible but the media has made sure that people do.
What breaks my heart is that in some of them, you can see it that they're tired. Not a physical tired but they're tired. And it breaks me knowing that I can't do anything about what happened to them. They had fun with their families or friends because they knew that they wouldn't ever again. The guy with the ice cream, you could see a little frown on his face, and it ruined me because I could tell he was either just trying to have a good time or trying to make the people around him smile one more time.
Yeah bro it's such a broken smile :(
@@americantoastman7296 And what breaks my heart more is knowing that most of these are men. Why does that break my heart? Because just in 2020 alone it was discovered that men suicidal rates were 4 times higher than women, being at a rate of 1 man every minute killing himself.
Indeed. If u have depression u can easily see it on their eyes, that they are happy at the moment... but not truly
I saw it most in the ice-cream stunt in the beginning
Thank you so much for sharing this observation. The same hitting my mind immediately. No matter what was a purpose to publish this video, I agree with comments saying that suicide hurt a close people around, but there is so much denial and prejudice on the topic of suffering, pain and suicide, that it is unbearable.
My dad died by suicide on Thanksgiving Day.It was absolutely shocking and he was always a major extrovert and the life of any party. I now understand that he showed the world one side but inside he was feeling opposite.
That made me sad as shit
Wow, U r so strong. Just keep going.
i had a gunny in the marine corps do the same thing and he was the same way. we all came back from holiday leave and was told the news. it still doesnt sit right with me.
It's very bizarre, because you expect people that are suicidal to be so sad and depressed that they walk around frowning with their heads down all day.
👁
I`am 35 years old, I`ve been under psychiatric treatment for half a year, due to severe depression and generalized anxiety, and I tell you, I don`t wish it on anyone.
Many people believe that depression is like crying like a baby in the corner of your room, when in reality you simply lose hope in your goals, plans and objectives. You stop caring about what happens to you and in some cases you even start thinking of ways to leave sooner. I have often felt and had these thoughts more and more frequently and the simple fact of thinking about it brings me a calm and tranquility that I miss feeling.
My advice, never underestimate what your family or friends tell you about this topic, most people who decide to end their suffering have expressed it at some point, pay attention. Good luck fellas.
Sometimes some people with depression just enjoy the present because they know there is no future for them.
Lmao
😐
*because they think there is no future for them* you meant 🤟
100 percent
😢
I remember talking to my mom about feeling suicidal. She made the conversation about herself and complained about my father. She wound up crying about her own problems and I ended up comforting her.
Gotta love being raised by a narcissist.
I'm sorry, hope you find the help you need.
Same, that is very close to what I experienced. Actually 1:1. Except that I got screamed at and told to "go to my father" (who lives divorced from her)
well, you can't help someone if you're filled by trouble yourself :)
@@HUEHUEUHEPony you can, I've tried, not to mention that the troubles of these non suicidal people are not even comparable oftentimes.
Maybe your mom is depressed and you’re the narcissist…. Maybe she needs that comfort as well.
Not everything is about you either bro. Put yourself in her shoes
I've called the hotline nine times. Told family about it. Finally after three years and six months of extreme gratitude focus (I've said thank you probably ten thousand times... literally...), I pulled myself out of it. I'm one of these smiley people myself, and yeah, I get what these people were feeling.
Good for you bro 🙂
Being a Christian helps its literally the only reason im around
@@basedbroskiworldlol what bullshit being associated with any religion is pure bullsh!t
@@pipipupu5104 if a religion helped them through hard times why try to take that away from them and calling it bullshit?
@@basedbroskiworldgot back into church earlier this year. Been fighting suicidal thoughts, depression, and a few other issues, since 2014 when I was discharged from the Navy. I decided to try some churches again, because I was feeling utterly hopeless and I knew what that was gonna mean. Used drugs and alcohol for years, to just keep making it another day. Now, I'm in church, getting clean, volunteering again, and trying to help encourage others. It'll still be hard but at least we have hope.
I can’t count the amount of times I have written ‘Goodbye’ letters for my parents, sister, and friends. I don’t want to die, I just want to end my pain. My friends are getting married, this Friday, and my cousins are getting married, next week. I should feel really happy. Instead, I’m just feeling really depressed. I thought I was being selfish for not feeling excited for either of the events, but that’s not the case. My mental health has come to the point where I feel so drained, exhausted, and just so done with everything.
I feel you, I’ve been there. Seeing life happen while you have this weird empty feeling in you, eating away at you at all hours. I never wanted to wake up from sleeping, always disappointed when I did wake up that I didn’t die in my sleep. I drank to numb the thoughts. I’ve been there, writing that letter to my friends and family. Not knowing how to explain why I feel this way even though they always gave me love and care. Hyping myself up in the bathroom to commit, only to have my dog walk in dropping her toy at my feet, making me break down in tears because I couldn’t believe what I’d do to her. I’ve been in that spot.
I’ve gotten better, I’ve made life better. It’s a lot of fucking work that won’t feel good at the time, but if you get through it, life gets better. The exhaustion decreases, you feel like you’re apart of life again. I won’t lie, there’s flare ups, it’s a part of you. You can manage it if you learn how though. I went to therapy to learn, changed aspect of my life that helped it grow, and I was open to those who loved me. There’s hope my friend, I’m glad you did not follow through with those letters. I know that probably doesn’t mean much coming from a stranger from the internet, but I mean it. Don’t give up the fight to experience life. Your depression will convince you it’s not worth to see, it’s a lie.
@@bowenc24 I’m really sorry about what you went through. Honestly, I’m so glad that your dog came in, when they did. I’m glad that you decided not to do it. Your family & friends love you. My schoolfriend died, last December, due to mental health, and that’s had a massive impact on my life. Last year, I sent her a message, saying, “Happy Birthday!”, and she replied with, “Thank-you, lovely! ❤️”. I didn’t reply, as I felt there was no need. I regret that so much. I didn’t know that she was gonna do that, but I regret not checking on her.
@@justalex3525 I wish you the only the best
@@blockedmedusa1737 Thank-you, that really means a lot. Sorry for the slow reply, it’s been a really hard time. I wish you the best, and I hope you’re ok.
Nothing anyone can say will change how you feel. That's all on you, just know, you are not alone. Life is about struggle and moments of peace, laughter etc. Find something that makes you happy, carry on. A relationship won't make you happy, it will just show you you're still depressed and make things worse. Don't do that to yourself or anyone else, find peace first. Then you can live, or just stay depressed. In the end, it's 100% up to you. Nobody can make you happy, but you. Good luck, it doesn't get easier, only harder as your depression pushes loved ones away.
My neighbor was one of people who you would never expect. Always had this amazing smile on his face. We will never forget you Stanton.
Just know that suicide leads to Hell Fire.
:(
Please people, repent before it is too late.
@@TedEhioghae not the place to say that
@@TedEhioghae That’s something I think you should keep to you. Just imagine if it were someone from your family. You wouldn’t want someone to tell he/she is going to Hell. Also, God is merciful, don’t try judging anyone. Have a good day. 🎉❤
@@TedEhioghae please stop believing in fairy tales
@@TedEhioghae WTF
My friend killed himself few weeks ago. We hadn't really been in touch for about a year before it and we knew each other for a short time, but man, this information left me shocked and devastated. He helped me through one of the hardest moments in my life. Since his suicide, there hasn't been a single day I wouldn't think about him. He was the purest soul ever, always eager to help others, always energetic and always cheerful. Such a beautiful, extremely young, lost person. As far as I know, the reason was bullying and it makes me fucking mad. It seems he was just an angel, too delicate for this shitty world and fucked up people. That feels bad as hell.
how did he end up his life?
@@jeraldaguilar2763 He hanged himself
Im sorry for your loss. Im sure he is in a better place
So sorry for your loss
I'm so
sorry.
Truly an honour to have been a small part of this incredible campaign and to have my voice associated with such an important message.
My heart goes to the families and loved ones of those featured in this film and to anyone else affected by this subject.
Beth, you should record this cover! I love your work
Yes ! You should definitly record this cover ! I love your voice filled with emotion. This spot made me discover you art.
@@juliandorange1450 i agree
💓💓💓
por favor grava un un cover completo de esta canción, tu voz es hermosa.
I’m sick of being alone
I'm sick of being alive
I love u .. all the way from Africa middle of small village ❤❤
Adopt whatever animal you could see in your life. It's a game changer. And if it's not a game changer for you, at least you made that animal not feel alone anymore.
Find groups with common interests! Board games, church, line dancing... ❤
Same @@starseeker27
I sometimes wish I had no loved ones, because I feel trapped. I hate living like this, but I can’t leave and hurt my family, friends and partner.
Yeah same ,
You are so beautiful, hope you will feeling better, i want to kill myself as a kid because my parents torture me
Same. I want this to end, but I think of how much pain I’ll cost my daughter.
Please don't give up people, things will work out, trust.
It's a sickening feeling. I often think how much of an a$$hole I am for not ending it before trying to start a life I knew wasn't meant for me and dragging everybody down with me. Burnt a bridge with my best friend the other day, everything is horrible and getting worse. It's scary how many people feel this way.
"Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind. Always."
Rest in peace!
wonder
I lost my brother to suicide 4 years ago. It still feels like yesterday. I’m still in counseling and healing from it. Thank you for posting
man I'm really sorry to hear that.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
Sorry to hear that
May God comfort your heart
I’ve joined your path my man, lost mine too, much love from one self brother to another
I will always regret not answering my friends phone call and finding out two days later he was gone :(. He was dealing with severe depression and I was there to help as best I could. He called the day of my brothers 3 year anniversary of his funeral and jjst wasnt wanting to talk to anyone. I say he called that day at 5 pm and I didn’t answer thinking I would talk to him later but unfortunately he passed away later that day. Please check in with your people ❤️❤️❤️
im sorry to hear that bro
Hey, don’t be too hard on yourself. You did not know what was to happen even if you did answer the call, there may have not been anything which you could have done. The decision had been made already. God bless your friend and look after yourself ❤🙏🏻
@@Blindswordsman1994 making me cry god damn 🥹🥹 appreciate your kind message❤️❤️❤️ just hurts because he was my best friend and the feeling of letting him down or not doing enough by not being there when he needed me most. Means a lot :))) god bless you too ❤️❤️❤️
Got a similar story... had a friend who had cancer... i couldn't deal with it... i just was a mess, i just denied it i couldn't believe it... he stopped contacting me, he died from cancer probably... he was going through a breakup i think..., i still regret not being there for him, but it wasn't my fault, i was just... simply in pain myself and idk how to comfort myself let alone him... not feeling empathy made it worse, i miss him
@@hodayfa000hI have very similar experience bud. It is just awful. Like you I still regret it dearly. But it is not your fault. In order to help others you must help yourself first. To be honest thanks for sharing I thought I was only one who experienced this. Let's try to get over this together. I'm here if you need someone to talk to.
I was a volunteer firefighter in high school and began fighting my ptsd. I was involved with multiple successful suicides and that was a major factor. I struggled with aggression and isolation at times. One day I really got stuck in a loop of suicidal ideation, but I never acted. One hour later the same day, I responded to another attempt and saved a patients life on her living room floor. That was my call to keep serving and get help
Thank you for your service! ❤️
No one ever talks about the suicidal ideation loop, where you constantly think of ending ur life at that point, you are realistically very very very close to it, n it takes alot of willpower to come out of it. None of the fuckers around me will understand it, they will only know the actual attempt, the actual attempt is easy, it's the not doing the attempt.... I understand
Why save her?
@@Codeman22 why not?
@@wadadparker957 hi I hope you’re doing okay!!
It's been almost a year since my little brother took his own life. This brought me to tears instantly. Man I miss my little brother. No note, no warning signs. Just gone, guessing he felt that life wasn't for him. For those who feel this way speak up, call somebody, anybody. Man I miss my little brother. 😔☹️
@Kevin Thach I appreciate the kind words and hope all is well with you and your siblings.
Tried to speak up. Told them. Everyone thinks I can't have depression. Nobody ever takes it seriously. They think I'll be fine. Time will heal everything.
I have spent a long time here in this emptiness and darkness. I have no energy left to fight. I'm suffocating so badly I'll die.
@@MisaHalit keep going every day. Find peace within yourself. Pray if you believe. 🙏 ask for guidance and relief from your pain. I care about you and I've never met you. Love ya keep fighting to find yourself again.
I miss my little brother too he took his own life may 6 2020 and I’ve lost my mind since then
@@907Ak Thank you for being kind 🌸 yes I do believe and pray. It's only because of God that I'll never attempt suicide.
This is life. I'm trying everyday.
I'm sorry about your brother I pray he's in peace. I just want you to know that you don't have your brother anymore but you have this sister and you somehow saved her. And there your brother will always live ! As a beautiful reflection whenever you'll help people this way 🌸
My friend sent me a text message about 10 years ago. He wanted to hang out. So we went shopping just for fun. He paid me a bunch of stuff, food clothes etc. He wa smiling and happy. At first. He was " normal " but the same day at night he sent me a message saying that he loves me and he was very happy to be my friend and that he was sorry for what he was about to do. I knew something was not good. So a jumped in my car, i was riding so fast that I don't even know how I didn't crashed. I broke into his home and he was cuting his wrists. I saved him. He was very mad. He never said thank you and i never asked for. But now he has a daughter and everytime I go visit them he always says to his daughter "look that's my best friend the one who saved my life so many times"
I cried.
Lmao
Alas,he is saved
I cried , wish to have friend like you
I cried too that’s so sweet
Men are always told to seek help, when we do, we're bereaved, scolded, reported, fired, etc.
Or just guilted into shutting up.
@@SteamGrace yes. There's a list of things we could add
Ignored or laughed at
Fired?
@@Ballowax I was thinking on terms of pilots
So true with my friend Peter, we spent an afternoon joking about ice cream - then the following morning the police knocked on my door. I'm in tears.
I'm so sorry
So fake bro. Why the police came to you if Peter is your friend? Peter has no other family members? Peter has only one friend?
@@loouuiisssss296 in this case it's likely that Sue Cade was the last one to have contact with said person, which makes sense for the police to investigate, in order to determine the course of events
@@kitvalentin4292 1. I'm pretty sure in her story the police came to inform, not investigate. 2. The police do not investigate suicide case the way they investigate murders. Unless they find the suicide case suspicious, or someone has assisted suicide.
@@loouuiisssss296 3. shut up kiddo
The one person at my workplace who ended her own life was the happiest most sweetest person we knew. She was always bringing light into other peoples lives. That’s why it was the biggest shock to all of us when we heard she had taken her life. The whole office went quiet for a whole day. I cried thinking about her and I rarely cry for people I don’t love.
Some people say ,most of cheerful person hide their pain/depression really good
I’m soooo sorry :(
the deepest and most hurtful scars are hidden behind a smile.
I got tears in my eyes reading this. RIP
I hope god heals whatever she was going through in her afterlife so she doesn't have to suffer there as well.
Maybe she just drank too much that day?
In 1991, my husband & father to our 4yo son & 1yo daughter, ended his life. 32yrs of unanswered questions, not an hour goes by without him in my thoughts. Please know that you ARE loved, you are NOT alone & we’re ALL in this together! Reach out & I promise you, someone will take your hand. 🙏🏻
fake story so people don't die just fake 🤥
Who cares😂😂😂
Thanks for your kind words...🙏✨🙏
All alone is all we are.
32 years of unanswered questions.. what a way to put it, bless you, thank you and Rest in peace to your loved one.
It's so heartbreaking thinking about the fact that some people have never had any happy moments in their lives...
My late sister-in-law took her own life nearly 4 years ago. In the hours before she did it, she was joking around with her father and playing cards with him in his room. Afterwards she popped the shelf out of her closet and hung herself there.
And her mother found her when she went into her room to wake her up for school. She was 14. Nobody noticed anything at all because she was laughing, joking around, and being herself the night before.
You never know what people are fighting behind their grins and laughs. Always reach out, even if you don’t think it will help, it does.
All you can see is that puppy dog face before they go..
How do you know to reach out if they're acting normal
@@user-vi4xy1jw7e just try to not assume that everyone is okay + when you ask someone how they are doing, try to really mean it and ask them on a deeper level.
Well fuck I’m crying. I never cry, let alone at UA-cam comments but I think this hit way too close to home. I’m so, so sorry you and your family had to go through that. I was intently suicidal and attempted around that age (peaking at 13) until I sought help privately and no one ever knew, not even my family, until many years later, since I was the always the joker of the family. The past 5 years since then haven’t been all great but showed me that life is nothing if worth living. I can’t imagine actually going through the pain of losing someone as young as your family member. I just wished that every depressed person knew it gets better and that you will soon have some of the happiest moments of your life after recovering. Thanks for sharing and rest in peace
May she rest in peace ❤❤❤
When my best friend was actively suicidal, he was very outgoing and fun to be with, he attracted everyone. He seemed so happy because he was literally living each day like it was his last. Nothing mattered to him, because he didn't know if he would see tomorrow. You would've never guessed how much he was suffering, being he was so brave and confident. And now that he's finally fully healed, he's actually quite shy and anxious. But he's healthy and truly happy now.
The good ending :)
Nice to hear that he's doing well.
Sometimes people learn to deal with the pain, but the feeling always lingers.
*Sigh*
It gave me the goosebumps :<
So glad that he's doing better now!
"Sometimes the pain is too much, and sometimes everything is not enough"
"It's hard to look forward to tomorrow when today and yesterday look the same"
"You just don't understand"
I do understand, not because I've heard it but because I know the pain.
I spent alot of time helping/listening to suicidal and depressed people. It's not an easy thing to do but I have yet to hear of anyone of them commit suicide.
They all still suffer and hide their depression though, but I understand why.
People often compare strengths but they never understand this type of weakness and mental illness.
Medication only suppresses it but the love of people around them makes depression easier to ignore, and ignore the triggers.
Being alone and being left alone for too long is not a good idea.
Thank you for sharing and
I Hope you're doing well today.
Just wanted to let you know that you are here for a reason and know that someone cares for you💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖
Have a blessed day 🕊🕊🕊
What do I care of your pain? Lol the world doesn't. Bite the bullet and solider on
What’s even more sad is a depressed person helping another depressed person to make it to the next day
@@elizabethcremeans731 It's common for people to associate with who they identify with.
Thank you, somebody that understands!
It’s not their death that makes me sad, it’s the amount of pain they went through before they made this decision. Horrific.
As someone who attempted four times, the state where you finally decided to do it is scary. First, you become blank. Then, you plan when and how. After that, you wait and then act normal. Basically the mindset is "I'm gonna die soon, so I'll make the best out of my remaining hours."
Battling demons is difficult, be part of high energy and life be great.
@@healthyliam6803you seem to be bad at living n stuff
@@ibinkyz anotha one bites tha dusttt… 🌟
@21minute I can relate 😞
What does becoming blank feel like?
You know what, as I get older, I realize how miserable and difficult living is. It’s a rarity someone makes it to the natural end in one piece both physically and mentally. Have fun everyone. Be safe.
But it can also be rewarding. To learn from those hardships and grow stronger from them. To look back and realize all you've overcome. To look forward to challenge as a way to become better. It's all about perspective. And I've been through hell in my life, so I'm not just talking out of my arse like someone who has never had problems.
The best thing we can do is treat our children with love and make sure they never go through abuse or negative childhood experiences like that. Raise them to be mentally healthy and they'll never have to deal with the stuff we have had to. God bless and stay safe.
Same, I’m so tired wow. Life is drowning me.
We didn’t ask to be here.
Feels weird when you think of it that way…it’s why I’m pretty sure I’m not having kids. People act like life is this amazing thing and it truly can be but so much if it…is hard. I’m lucky because my life is pretty good, outwardly, but the older I get the more I realize how rare that seems to be.
So many people are born into broken homes and horrific situations. It was thrust upon them and yeah it’s all so weird. I don’t think life has to be as hard and painful as it is though…I think a lot of people at the top make decisions that make them richer and make the lives of working class people unnecessarily hard.
Life can be beautiful but the way it’s heading…we’re gonna destroy not only ourselves, but so much of the beauty and nature around us 😔
@@imover9999 It’s hard to do that when society is so fucked up.
@@fibonaccisequins4637 completely agree. The way the world is structure only favors the top, while the masses suffer. The planet enough resources for everyone to live prosperously and healthy, but it will never happen. It cuts into the profits. I’m on the same boat, children is not even a thought in my mind.
This is so true. It’s often when they’ve made up their minds to go through with it that they seem most relaxed and happy ☹️😔
Saddest thing about this video is there really isn't anything you can do if someone is this good at masking their depression.
Among us impostor
Actually there is.
Build up trust with people.
They're more likely to share when they have confidence you genuinely care.
@@breadleyYT why
@@breadleyYT wrong time, wrong place
@@nonnegaard exactly my situation. I'm a young kid rn and I'm suffering lately from these thoughts. I wanna reach out, But the timing isn't right. My parents aren't getting along, mom treat me as her therapist, but she's aware of that and apologizes for it. And My friends are uneducated about mental illnesses. I got no one to trust. Wish me the best please. I don't wanna do it.
At least they made somebody they loved happy.. my brother just died at his 40th birthday... No idea whats better, love you all
I'm sorry for your loss. May God bless you.
I keep coming back to this whenever I feel suicidal.
I had suicidal thoughts since I was 14 years old until I told my school counselor I didn't want to live anymore... I've struggled so much with the health care system here in the US. Pills only made me feel stupid, numb and spacey. Thankfully, one of my jobs recommended to go see a NATUROPATHIC DOCTOR.
I was extremely skeptical my depression wouldn't go away. Thankfully it went away. 🥹
Now I'm really HAPPY to say that I'm living my best fucking life without depression and those stupid antidepressants!!!! Please be safe!!! You will get through this!!! ❤
@@ale_30341
Sister can you help me I tell my problems if you agree?
@@ale_30341but not me
Me too
@@maxoupichou888 what not you? ☹️
Also, to those who think that suicide is selfish; I cannot forget that reddit thread on suicide where one guy was saying that he keeps deferring suicide, not because that he was hopeful that his life may change, but because he had some loans and his parents were cosigning parties, so he said he was working as hard as he could to pay back those loans first as he didn't want to leave his parents both grieving and in debt...... there are ones who defer suicide because they don't want to harm their families, or because they need to continue their roles as caregivers while, deep down, they are dying.
Suizid is selfish, there is no way to discuss about. Its just simple. If you are in a situation, where suizid is the fastest option to end the pain you do in this moment what its best for you - stop the pain. But if you kill yourself and you have a family people where love you or if you are even responsible for a child etc. You are a m*f assh.l. Allright. ? I suffer from bipolar disorder since iam 11. iam 28 now and i tried two times to kill myself and its a wonder i did not die. Since two years i have a son. My depressions are under control now. And i had one hard time where i was thinking about suizide.. but i was strong, because i did swear to myself i will never try to killself again, because iam responsible now, i have a child and he need me and he needs a father who loves him. There is no option. Fight and do the best what you can do. And time will reward you. Cause you get stronger and stronger. Times will come where it goes down again, but if you have a victory about your hardest fall, you will do it again. Stand up try it again.
For me important. If you have no one where needs you, or will miss you etc. For sure then its okay if you commit suicide. But its always important to not forget, suicide is not a solution in 90% of all cases its only a irreparable end of your existence including all your problems.
Some people have cancer or other terrible illness, pain etc… and if they have no way to recover. Its also totally okay to choose this way. This will be the 10% from above. Don’t destroy the live of others just because you want do finish your problems…
@@sakesan6828 That is a classic case of "look at me, I am stronger than you".... you have a son "so I could assume you have a family", meaning that you have something to live for; there are others who have nothing and there are others who kept fighting and fighting till they had no energy left; be glad and thank God that you still have energy left in you to stay alive, others weren't that lucky and weren't that privileged.... every case is different, so, again, be grateful
Every delay I've had has been because of others " maybe not this month, it's so and so's birthday", "oh man, so and so's going through a hard time. Let me not make things worse for them"....
@@nonkululekotembo1652 You good now bro?
@@nonkululekotembo1652 just because I am human, and you are human, I am glad you are still here. God bless you
“Be nice you never know who is trying their best not to fall apart”
My sister’s boyfriend was a theater actor and he always looked happy, we used to watch movies and play videogames all together, he committed suicide last Christmas while his family was celebrating.
He didn’t looked depressed or anything, just a bit stressed, he faked his happiness very well.
I still remember the last time we played together, we were playing Half Life 2: Deathmatch, It was 18 December.
He was like a brother to me
He probably didn’t fake his happiness in the moment. People can be happy but still be depressed in their minds.
I'm pro choice on suicide, I see that as a right we all can have, but I gotta say, choosing his moment to be on one of the biggest holidays and without ever discussing his plans with the family so they aren't shocked by his decision is one of the most selfish things I've read. As much as we have that right to go, those we love should be aware to get their goodbyes and certainly not be done on holidays or special get togethers.
@@queenieburgers50 your ignorance here is crazy. Knowing people who tried as well as myself. The amount of pain you have to be in to try to end it all is so great your families reaction is so irrelavent and small to yourself and your impulsivity. Why tf would they discuss it with their family who would stop it. Also pro choice on suicide would lead to so many people including myself that could/would be dead that didnt get to reach the other side of the tunnel, where one regrets that action and is thankful to be alive.
@Noah Sylvester as someone who has been dealing with chronic pain and depression my entire life, suicide has been talked about with my family and doctors often so there wouldn't be any surprises if it happened, or if I planned on going to a clinic for doctor assisted death. The more it's openly discussed, the less family members are caught off guard and obsessively wondering what could have been done or why they even made the decision. Eventually, people understand the decision why and they will stop involuntarily hospitalizing at some point.. They don't want their loved one to be suffering. We didn't ask to be here, it's our right to go. Talking about it is something those who are in the chronic pain community do more openly than others, so maybe it's shocking to you that I'd respect someone's decisions or speak to family about it but if you ever see other comments similar to mine, you'll understand that that's probably a chronic pain patient. It's not always an impulsive decision, shit builds and builds for weeks, months, years and one more thing can have them follow through. Throughout that time, plans are being made, and throughout that time, discussions can also be made. Kind of strange that you didn't realize I was saying what I had based on *my* experience, so not everyone has had the same experiences *you* have had, your ignorance here is crazy.
@@noahsylvester8994 yes but the thing is your death isn't just your death, you basically kill all your most beloved parents by doing that
Hey guys i am 19 yr old girl from india. State:Kerala. I don't know why i am always crying at night. Just something makes me emotional, sad and numb feel. I don't know what i will become in future. But i am not suicidal at all. Something is making me sad inside my heart . I didn't know why i am commenting here about this but it makes me calm at somehow.love u all❤. And a big hugs and love to those who are feeling lonely ❤. (Sorry about my grammar mistakes)
relatable situation even the same age. I also don't have friends, no one talks to me first and even my parents don't speak to me nor siblings do. ... but the thing is I got someone, She is loyal, She is beautiful, She is the only one who is with me all the time, even in my lowest ..... and she is my bicycle 💕 7 year together isn't is love?...
You can try to find your love in another thing other than people...👑
Oh okay . Are u from kerala? I want to share this.I got rejected once when I am in 12th std. But actually at that time he loved one girl but they were not in a relationship. They are kind of best friends at that time . At the end they got into relationship. But the girl who he loved once dated one of his best friend but nothing serious and they seperated and she got relationship with the boy which I had crush on.They are now happy and i am happy for them too. Hope I will get someone in future. I passed 12th std in 2023 and took an year for the neet exam preparation. Now I am hoping to get a college seat. Excited to have a good college life.
@@anjanab980you'll have a blast don't worry
@@homie7218 ❤
Being happy doesn't mean you're not depressed. Having these thoughts doesn't mean that you're weak. Sometimes there's no answer.
A long time ago...I used to go for long rides/drives. Rode/drove fast and hard to places I'd never been before, with a teeny tiny hope in the back of my mind that something goes wrong and I never return.
Found a purpose.
I understand, right now I just drive at night to think and get anger out. And sometimes I have that hope too
@@bigbiscuit3622 just doing it right now, stopped at a gas station to buy me some cigarettes and write this. I drive myself mindlessly to take the mind off the pain. Distraction. And the hope that throughout the night, which I hold so dear, I survive and that the next day may bring something joyful, anything at all. Funny enough I do exceptionally well at hoping, despite the thoughts of ending it all and never get old, whenever I see a tall building or a bridge.. but I always remember, about serious things one should laugh.
solution: man up
@@NcR2004 dude have some consideration
It's ok to accept your weak, but it's not okay to stay weak
Everyone who made it far, thank you for staying alive
Welcome 💓🤗
Damn, this hit differently
For what though really? Lol
Thank you this brought me to tears honestly.
What dont even know you fam but ill take cash for my good work
My grandad has had 3 suicidal attempts, was in a mental hospital for Christmas and is still in it, and all my parents think about is how selfish he’s being, he’s not, he lost his wife 2 years ago, I lost the worlds best grandma, I cannot loose him too, I can’t express how much I wish him the best and how he knows he’s loved and it still has friends and family left in his life
Bro hoe do you even fail😂
We gotta let them rest too. If my father wants to commit suicide I will talk to him if he's sure and why does he wants to do it and the consequences of it... but I will not force him to stay by actions. Ofc he would be doing something selfish by killing himself but forcing him to stay with me is also selfish. He already has told me that when he gets old and if the pain is too strong to bear living he will choose to die and there will come a time when I'll have to accept it.
Your parents are just as selfish as your grandad and that's okay, we're like that sometimes.
We know it would hurt us if they left so we try to selfishly force suicidal people to stay instead of understanding what's hurting them and understanding our own selves. Understanding that our loved ones don't belong to us. Understanding that we can't lose what was never ours. That's life and that's change.
@@marcospina162I’ve been trying to tell people exactly what you’ve just said for years now and everyone looks and me with disgust when I say it
@@vazorta It also happens to me. I hope we can become a more comprehensive society someday. Don't give up and keep spreading the empathy.
I hate when people call people selfish for committing suicide...it's such a heartless and thoughtless statement. But there is no shortage of people with dark spirits or just too dumb to know better.
I think this is the single most powerful video I have ever seen in my entire life. Blessings to who ever put it together! ❤❤❤
I was suicidal for years and years, eventually I went to hospital. When I was suicidal, I tried hard to keep it from people around me - partly because I knew there wasn’t much anyone could do, and also because I didn’t want to cause them distress. I’m so glad those days are behind me
What did you do to find a way out? Asking for a friend...😅
Great to here but in the future
Just say it maybe not even think just get it out and let those you love comfort you.
I’m in no position to be able to relate but all I can do is assure you that coming out will be very difficult and apprehensive but it’s better than being silent
Deuteronomy 31:8💙I’m so sorry.. Praying for you
@@JoelHeidrich In my case, a really good psychiatrist and a long course of medication with only very occasional therapy. Before going to hospital, I had avoided medication, I chose to focus on lots of therapy and meditation thinking I could find a spiritual answer or some way to fix my feelings on my own. After going to hospital, I realised things had gone too far and that trusting a doctor who was scientifically trained to help people in my situation was a much better idea. Without his help and the medication, I would've really struggled. If I were to find myself in that position again, I would go back to trusting the science as much as possible. I rarely revisit that part of my past now, but I remember how impossible it was to see a way out when I was going through it. It took time but my recovery was straightforward. I've had the best memories of my life since then and my life is now rich with purpose
how are you now?
Check on your friends, tell them you appreciate them. Everyone’s going through something but not everyone shows ❤ Much love and support to everyone fighting through depression or any kind of mental illness
I'm glad someone this popular also cares about this, you warmed my heart ❤️
@FRuelein me neither lets be friends
No friends
I have 0 friends.
I’m alone out of choice. So that when I die, no-one will have to mourn 😊
I watched this video and cried, only to have my brother die by suicide a month later. I thought he was happy but I learned after that he was homeless and struggling. Calling counselors and even the suicide hotline. In this video, everyone looks so happy. That was the same case with my brother. Everyone he last with spoke so highly of him. It's been 6 weeks and I only see things getting harder. Our childhood we struggled, and through our struggles we failed to bond as brothers should. So he shut me out after he moved out, and the last memory I have with him is him telling me I'm useless to him. If only he knew how much I and our family loved him. He was 20.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you can find peace in your life.
I’m very sorry for your loss.
R.I.P I’m sorry for your loss
😢😢 sorry for ur loss 😢😢
That is not your fault. Sorry for your loss
Watching this and feeling so sad and broken inside..
How I wish i was dead fr....i dont wanna live anymore
Recently, my mom lost a friend to suicide. He killed himself due to bills and rent being due and him not having the money. His death was so brutal that the cops couldn’t go inside for 2 hours.
Rest in peace Lee.
my name is lee... rest in peace
South Korean actor Lee Sun-kyun, best known for his role in the Oscar-winning film Parasite, has been found dead in an apparent suicide in central Seoul.
Police found the body of the actor, who was 48, in a car near a city park on Wednesday. They believe Lee took his own life, Yonhap news agency reports.
Police said earlier they had received a report that he had left his home after writing a note.
He had been under investigation for alleged illegal drug use since October.
Im sorry but what did he do exactly? Paint himself all over the walls with explosives? A gunshot to the head using a 12gauge? Bathtub toaster? Or was he lying already dead for a week?Those are some whimpy cops if they couldn't even determine what to do for 2 hours.
@@MalcolmNessGranger It’s was confirmed by police that it was a gunshot wound to the head.
@@MalcolmNessGranger Honestly, he was already gone after he pulled the trigger. The police are very wimpy here in Oregon. My uncle was actually shot and killed by police during to a mental health breakdown.
Attempted suicide twice. So glad I didn’t shoot myself that day. Now I can write this paragraph and let others know that to always be there for their loved ones whether they show signs or don’t. You never know what a person is going through before it’s too late. Always check up and let them know how loved they are and for anyone suffering with depression, I care and many of your loved ones also care about you deeply. You are loved and appreciated and whatever you are going through, always keep pushing forward even through the worst of the worst. You’re strong and me and so many other people are proud of you for trying your best during these hard times. You’re a warrior. You got this always
Failed twice eh
Notice how the real deal like u aren't even shown love. Ppl just presenting a lil oh I cried about someone...or gotta see the signs...get hundreds of likes. Just look at the smarta** in the comment below. Almost as if simon either saying u r full of 💩 or wishes you try the old 3 strikes then u r out. I say always try to take fruitcakes like that with u, so u go bettering the world.
❤️
Thank you for your words of encouragement!
just man up thats all. Av a beer or two.
This could be absolutely anyone you know. Please treat everyone with kindness because you never know what they’re going through.
доброта здесь ни при чём, мой друг
Kindness has a lot to do with it and absolutely what you say is true.
My heart truly goes out to all the people who suffer from suicidal thoughts. Life is hard. Be kind to everyone. You never know what someone is facing.
LOL
lmao
@@edzam. What is so funny?
@@sregginetahi999 ? What's the joke?
@@420kiwiwarrior LOL
Sometimes suicidal people suddenly look happier because they have made the decision to end their life and they’re happy their pain will finally be ending soon. It would be great if our society had safe welcoming places for people to go to and confess these plans. Unfortunately it is still too difficult to get compassionate, adequate care, especially when you are mired in depression and can’t advocate for yourself.
We suffer alone and cry silently. No one could ever imagine people like us are capable of this… we have learned to mask and stay strong for others even though the world has stepped on us.
I’m only here for my 2 kids.
I'm so glad you have them. If you need another reason to stay, I'll always be here
@@buddy3635 thanks buddy 💝 appreciate it
@@James4044-5 thanks
It sounds pretty much alike my mother. She used to be a great mother before she became alcoholic. She still says I and my brother are the only reasons she is still alive but I because of her has my own health issues and I might just give up as there is no point at studing if the family could never pay for my colage and if I can't get a well paid job then I will end up just as my mother in small house woth big problems... so whats the point at even trying. Why should live just to get dissapointed
Same. ❤
This video pushed me over the limit and got me to seek help for the first time. Well done and thank you to all who made this. You saved my life.
That's great ... Wishing you all the best.
Let me know if I can help man, I know the feeling I watched my older brother put a revolver to his chin and blow the bottom half of his face completely off, a month later, a close friend did the same, 6 months after that I started self harming, a year later I took a bottle of pills, woke up in the hospital, was locked in there for almost a 3 months, got out came home was OK for a week or 2, then started cutting again, only to then take out a 9mm load a single bullet in the head looked in the mirror let out the loudest blood currtling scream you could ever hear hear, squeezed the trigger as hard as I could, only to be disappointed by the safety, I slammed the barrel of that pistol into the mirror si hard, said I couldn't even kill myself with a gun I'm such a fuck up, I cut the fuck outta my wrist that night, probably should've went to the hospital, 7 months later i ended up losing my dad, and taking a hard left turn into drugs, and had several more attempts, Mt most recent was earlier this year when I tried hanging myself, I was found unconscious, hanging, my fiance untied that rope around my neck, once I finally woke uo and came to she was screaming, what I'm not sure, everything was ringing and blurry, I could faint screaming though, only to be put in the back of a cop car drove to a hospital 35 minutes later and I'm now here today, keep going man you got this💯
Im so proud of you! GET THAT HELP! SHOW YOUR DEPRESSION HOW STRONG YOU REALLY ARE!
Much love for you ❤❤
You took a brave step in seeking help, and I wish you all the best.
Really makes you look at people differently. This is why I treat everyone the same and give the respect I would like back. Be mindful of those around you and check in on close ones, it could save a life .
And sadly people abuse that respect we give.
As a person who has tried to kill himself and has been in coma for 2 days, I can say people around you don't realize what's in your head even when you want to die so bad.
You say to yourself "they must see it" but they don't.
We often smile and say everything is alright even when the thoughts in your head are darker than black.
When you finally tell people around It's often a shock to them, but we have to deal with these thoughts everyday.
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@@UnknownEvil_BadAliens so glad you're still alive, this second chance was for a reason and you matter as a person ! I remember when I had to save one of my close friends from an OD and it just made me happy to know they're better now
@@KR0OK You're really nice 🙂
We all have our burden to bear
And the thing with suicide is that the pain when you're gone only remain in thoses who love you, it might be a deliverance for you, but not for thoses who care.
That's why I try to get better, I never want to see the faces of my parents this sad again
As someone who's struggled and still struggles with crippling depression, this hit really hard because these people look much happier than me.
Find a friend to talk to, vent it out, don't let it grow and weigh on you. Listen to good music and cry alot, life is difficult but good thing is up ahead.
@@Kylelongwest sometimes it's nice just to know other people care
Mate reach out your near one, you are here for purpose, be strong and ofcourse you can reach out to me
@@Kylelongwest
I don't have anyone I trust and care to talk to.
@John Smith even though there’s stuff out there that may be inevitable, you can always still focus on better things that genuinely makes you feel good and just deal with the not so good stuff when it happens if it happens
I lost my brother last year, I can't watch this, it's still too painful. Everyone out there struggling, your life is a light in this world and it will be a darker place for everyone without you in it. I love you Liam, I miss you so much
I'm so sorry for your loss...
So sorry for your loss. May he rest in peace.
Sorry about your bro. ❤️
Sorry to hear Alyssa , hope you’re doing great in Heaven Liam .
I am sorry, little angel...
I constantly fight with my dad, once I fought with him really bad, after that I stayed in my room so silently, my dad came up to the door and called my name asking if he could come in my room to talk, I ignored him and stayed in silence, he repeated my name, he sounded more worried every time he repeated my name, he got desperate and ran in my room very worried saying "I thought something happened to you son", I remember that moment constantly, and it breaks my heart, I don’t want my dad to think I have suicide wishes, I don’t want to fight with him no more, i don’t want to build a pile of stress for him as his working every day to have me under a roof, give me and my family food, and the things we always want, I just want him to live peacefully, spend all the good time with him and make him proud and happy, I want a happy son and dad life 💔
This made me cry last night. My dad is the reason I am still here today. I don’t like worrying him either. Now I have 2 cats, 1 dog, and a husband whom I can’t hurt either. It’s the same thing when it comes to my alcoholism. If I drink, I’d hurt people that love me. We need more good people in this world. 🙏❤️🩹 We are all sinners but we are forgiven. God is more powerful than my enemies. God knows what we need. He has plans to prosper us and not to harm us. I’m speaking to myself mostly. Thank you for your comment and thanks for reading.
@@Windowshopping0217 Amen. Stay safe and healthy 🙏
Lucky you. I grew up without one. But my mom made sure I didn’t feel the void. She is the sole reason i am living today.
@@hr_47 that’s hard, but your mom made you feel happy and that’s the good side you have to think about, appreciate her and love her forever. God bless you and your mom 🙏 stay safe ❤️
Keep trying man. We cant imagine how much our parents care for us.
The only reason I’m still here is for my parents my mum and dad don’t deserve to suffer because I don’t know how to man up and handle life…. Good luck to y’all may you find some happiness in your life I certainly haven’t but maybe one day
This is true, because I've done it myself. I realized nobody likes being around depressed people because all we do in their eyes is "kill the vibez". So we fake our happiness just to get along with people, because we know being alone for long periods of time only worsens our state of mind. But all the fake smiles and good times doesn't hide the fact that they will never truly know what is really going on inside. I remember my cousin asking me why I always look down most of the time. I told him "I can explain it to you, but you will never truly know how it feels." He said I was overthinking it, and I said, "Your dad is still alive, you were there at the funeral. So stop acting like this is something I can easily get out of my head." He just walked away without saying anything.
yep. I haven't really seen someone agree with my theory about socialising as much as you Tempus. The second sentence is completely true. Even if your current personality is 99% negative, you are obliged to show 1% of the positive at all cost in order to create a friendship . Sadly enough you sort of need friends or a support group to help lift you out of that state but during that state you push people away and you do stuff which makes it hard for people to see what is inside. It is highly self-destructive.
Thamb mummy la kar te sobat ch aahe
I used to be depressed, anxious and terrified of life, but Jesus saved me!!!!
All we need to do in order to receive his grace and peace is by repentance, turning away from sin and trusting in him!!!!
"The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears them;
he delivers them from all their troubles.
The Lord is close to the brokenhearted
and saves those who are crushed in spirit." (Psalms 34:17-18)
"Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest." (Matthew 11:28)
Still take your medication though!
God Bless You All And Amen!!!!
Are you all better now?
@@patrickbasedman5255 Yes I am, I'm not clinically depressed. I was depressed due to the late death of my father (RIP), I knew a day like this would come, I just didn't think it would be so soon. I was only 24 at the time. I'm 27 now and realized that within that time, it doesn't do any good to dwell on it. Life goes on man, just gotta keep moving forward 🙏
man I cannot stop crying every time i watch this video. remember that you have a reason on this planet. maybe right now you don’t feel like it, but eventually you will find your purpose.❤️
What is even sadder is that some of these people who commited suicide had children Imagine growing up with just one parent it feels like a big chunk of your life is missing I feel terrible for them and their children must have been a lot going on to do that😢
As someone who's been close to that point I can honestly say that it's very difficult to be taken seriously by people who aren't trained in such things. It's far too easy to just say to yourself "They seem happy enough" and not actually check in. Going that extra step can often make the difference. It's not about occasionally being overtly happy, it's about consistency. If you spot a friend who is never consistent and swing ls from one extreme to the other. Please take the time to check on them
you ok?
@@eva-ov8sp I'm good. I appreciate you asking.
I hope you're good too
Glad to know that you're good
@@dazzag i'm glad you're better now. I also am
@@dazzag Is it ok to get help? Lately everything seems so painful. Life seems painful. Should I consult?
I’ve gotten very good at smiling and laughing, when deep down inside, I don’t want to be here anymore. I refuse to burden my loved ones with my pain, people already have enough problems. But watching this video is like watching my life.
Hurts even more when you tell someone you trust, and then they just ditch you.
Exactly. Sometimes I wonder if "he just wanted attention" will be on my tombstone.
@@r2dxhate
Are you trying to harm yourself?
@@r2dxhate I'm in the same situation.. so I understand and I feel what you feel. I realized I'm surrounded by psychopath who believed that "Everyone in this world can be wrong and will do wrong, except me. No matter how wrong I am, it must be right because it's me who's doing it."
Don't talk to these people... it's a waste of your precious energy, time, and life.. play online games... find someone else outside your family.. enjoy your days without thinking of the future.. the worst scenario that could happen to us is exactly like what happened to those in this video. but at least, we can finally enjoy our last moments before it's over.
I know for a lot of people this advise sounds malicious but those who are in this situation wouldn't find it difficult to understand that there's no way out and there's nothing else we can do. Why don't make the best out of it while before it's all over..?
@@r2dxhate they are jerks. people whve never been in such a situation would never understand. Kindness is a rare find. Nowadays everyone plays supper tough with their 'buck it up' nonsense.
Hope you're okey. Stay connected!
@@r2dxhate it's more that we need help, we need someone who would help us to fix our life à little bit, and it does require attention and time...,
And it's kinda disgusting how they would care and spend days on meaningless things, instead of trying to help someone who can literally die at any moment...
They wouldn't even give u the satisfaction to feel understood, ur are just becoming à malédiction in their life, the one who should just change the way she thinks and everything would be alright
Bullshit, i so wish i was never been born at all, or that i could just disappear, i don't want anyone to remember me or cry for me..., i just want to be no where
One thing you get from this is that the last moments they spent on camera was to bring joy to those around them instead of themselves. Making other people laugh or even just smile. It’s beautiful and sad at the same time. At some point you care so little of yourself that you care for other people in place of that.
“I think the saddest people always try their hardest to make people happy because they know what it’s like to feel absolutely worthless and they don’t want anyone else to feel like that” - Robin Williams
Just know that suicide leads to Hell Fire.
:(
Please people, repent before it is too late.
Fr everyone used to say I'm worthless but then I just accept it and use it as an advantage to not to do jobs that I don't like
@@TedEhioghae oh quit it, no one with suicidal thoughts wants to be preached to.
@@TedEhioghaeare you fuckin serious, is that how you tryna "prevent" people from suicide? Fckin hell.. some ppl have the audacity..
@@klayman2I love you
I think a lot of people don't realize that living with depression isn't "just a phase" and a lot of time, it doesn't just "go away." A lot of people learn to mask it or learn to harness it. Having it doesn't mean 24/7 sulking and LOOKING depressed all the time.
As a person who deals with major depressional issues myself, seeing this gets me a different type of way. These people search for joy in the tiniest things, and they could find it for a brief moment, but the depression still lingers
100% true. i can be over joyed with the smallest of things but still be struggling mentally.
There isn't one single day that I don't wish I was dead. Not one. 63 years of this shit.
Indeed it's right for 90% of depressed ppl but the other 10 just are fucked
Find peace in Jesus our lord. I also fighr fight with depression but without Jesus i couldn't cope. God bless you and i pray u will be truly happy soon in Jesus name ill pray❤
@@toughenupfluffy7294 please get some help.
I've been in treatment for 3 years now it has really helped.
I still have days where I wish I was gone but the reality is there is meaning.
Thanks for this post. A friend and I talked someone out of it while the gun was under his chin. We were 14 or 15 he was twelve. His mother came up crying and distraught knocking on the door. She asked us to see if we could talk to him. We cautiously knocked and entered slowly . He was sitting on the edge of the bed looking straight forward, we asked all the things we could think of, and nothing but tears came from his eyes and determination. 2 years or so before his older brother did it with the same gun in the same house. 30 minutes or more we kept getting closer giving positive words and bragging on him. My friend starting rubbing his back saying don't, don't real soft. He eased up put his hand near the trigger and eased his hand off and got the rifle away and emptied it. We stayed awhile that night. I talked to him about God and things and I wasn't saved then. He's still living and has kids. He and his Mom mended things. All that said, please don't murder yourself, the pain your going through is bad and unreal. But remember the times of pure bliss with your family and friends and think of having those again. The bad things will pass but the great times will last. The memories of friends that have done it, to me looking back I wish I could joke with them now and laugh about getting old. Jesus truly loves you search for him in prayer he will show up. Yes I have almost did it, prayer stopped me. Thank you
That's great that you both could stop him. How in the World did a twelve year old get his hands on a rifle ... especially if his brother killed himself with the same gun!! I know people can kill themselves in many ways but that's making it easy.
This was beautiful. Thank you for sharing
Man. At 15 talking someone down, that's gotta be the most mature thing a kid would ever have to do. I'm glad you were able to help.
im just gonna say bullshit and nice story telling
@@panzergaming9108 u a hating ah jit just cuz it wasn’t you 🤦♂️
Nobody cares about mental health until it's too late. It's a sad fact of life.
For anyone doesn't know, people literally can't control depression. So you can't tell people that "just snap out of it" because it's a chemical imbalance in the brain due stress and stuff. Please, if you know people who has been diagnosed by depression, please help them seriously before it's too late.
No. There's a thing called cognitive therapy, read David Burns' "Feeling good". The thought "depression is beyond my control cos it's chemistry in the brain" isn't true. You can control your mood with the therapy. The core of the cognitive therapy is writing down your negative thoughts, analysing them and giving rational answers that explain falsity of those thoughts. The result is lifted mood. There's many other exercises in the book for different cases. So, thinking that you can't prevent and control depression except taking medication is another negative thought that only worsen your depression and gives your an excuse not to make an effort to solve the problem at the same time.
@@dyadyabafomyot1668 yeah I think what they meant was that you can’t just immediately “snap out of it”
@@dyadyabafomyot1668
Yeah, that's helping to cure that chemical imbalance though isn't it ? I get what you're saying though as putting it down to something we have no control over isn't helpful we can fix ourselves and I didn't need any smarties or therapy to do it. Whatever helps the individual is a positive thing though.
@@dyadyabafomyot1668 look man, i dont want to come off accusatory but this is a heavy topic. i get what ur saying but you're grossly missing the point and coming across as a know-it-all since you're taking their comment too literally and barging in to ruin a really good message to peers of depressed people.
the problem is that people are not properly helping their peers but trying to dismiss depression and the effects of it on the brain. referring to it as a chemical imbalance helps put into perspective that it's a lot more out of control than people would usually assume. sure, lots of things can help, but more often than not, people dont help and tell depressed people to just get over it, just man up, just stop being sad, just go outside, just improve their coping mechanisms etc. the point of the comment is to prove that it's not something you can JUST control, like a broken arm. you cant "just move it", at least not without a lot of pain, but proper care could help nurture it back to health again.
what you mentioned doesn't have to be contradictory to their original statement. the methods you mentioned would categorise as "proper care" for the brain alongside other things (like professional therapy or meds in severe cases) that would alleviate the symptoms of depression. op is not even suggesting that medicine is the only thing that can cure depression, nor are they implying that help=meds. they just told people to make sure to take depressed people around them seriously instead of saying utterly unhelpful and even hurtful things, as well as refusing to let them get professional help in the cases of parents
@@hyukleberry5567 Broken arms and depression are wildly different. People have recovered from depression naturally. People haven't recovered from broken arms naturally.
The problem with the chemical imbalance is precisely the fact that it tells people it's entirely out of their control. Your moods and changes in them are largely within your control. As for chemical changes in your brain, those are caused by just about everything.
Watching porn can also lead to chemical changes in the brain, do you believe that is a chemical imbalance? Hell, even regular workouts can create long-term chemical changes in the brain. Is that a chemical imbalance?
How do you decide whether or not something is a chemical "imbalance" or not?
Honestly can’t stop watching this. These people deserve to be remembered in some of their happy moments. Rip 🤍🤍
Gonna join this compilation soon
Buddy don't, I was at the lowest short time ago I decided to commit suicide not through dying but through insisting on living this thing called depression is an enemy a sticky goo stuck on you take it off
Don’t you dare do that to your family
I might be doing the same thing. 😢😢
A good friend of mine took his life. It was really sudden cause he was happy for awhile before this and he was talking about writing a science fiction book. He was a great guy that loved music and video games. He left a hole in the hearts of his very close friends and his family. His mom lives on to spread awareness and she started a foundation in his name. This guy wanted to be friends with everyone and he never talked about religion or politics as a result. I'm crying right now thinking about if I had just known what he was planning. I was trying to cheer him up a lot, but it tears me up to see his mom and sister so devastated. His mom dedicated her Facebook profile to him with all these pictures and memories of him. He was only 22 when he died.
I'm so sorry
Never talked about religion or politics because he wanted to be everyone's friend. That part particularly sounded too familiar to me.. thanks for sharing though, I hope everyone involved is able to let themselves heal over time
I empathise with you. Suicide bereavement gets easier but that hole in your heart remains. I lost a dear friend in the same way. There was no way you could've known because your friend wouldn't have known. It's likely not something he meticulously planned. Take care of yourself.
I was depressed for about 6 months.. Everything seems normal when u are around others.. The real struggle comes when u are alone and your mind starts talking.. Closing my eyes was the scariest moment back then.. I fought it all alone, what I did was think of my family and friends and think about all the good things I have done...(+music and watching/listening comdey of all types was a big help too )It's not easy but believe me it works!
Wasn't your mind but Satan whispering. Only good, loving godly thoughts cast him away.
I’m glad you found a good method- I’ll have to remember it! Thank you
Music bro, it helps big time. I've never attempted suicide but shit has gotten close. The music and thought of damage that would be done to family is what snapped me out of it. Glad you and I beat something so difficult but common like depression.
@@tozmcgoz8405 I just listened to some of my favorite music for about an hour and I feel so much better than I’ve felt all day. Music can truly be magical
@@katiarepublic7057 factual
Recently, after telling my classmate that I have depression he invalidated me and said “You don’t have depression and you are not suicidal.” He implied that I was an attention seeker I suppose and it hurts so fucking much knowing that no one believes me and thinks exactly like him. Here’s a message for people who want to be educated on the subject: mentally ill people, depressed people, suicidal people may not always show it, and you should never be quick to judge. You never know what someone is going through.
If you want you can vent here. I will listen. I will believe you
Lots of young people pretend to have diseases, mental illnesses for attention nowadays. I saw people online pretending to have Tourette Syndrome or multiple personalities. Some claimed to have a brain tumor. I'm NOT saying, that you're lying though.
Miss Flying Butter, if you have suicidal thoughts and are at risk of self harming then speak to your parents, a teacher or a medical practitioner. Your young and life might be depressing you right know but in time that will change.
Yes it is an invisible illness
And we tend to forget that when we are low
RIP
Been depressed for about 20 years. Nothing's gotten better, I'm just older and more alone than ever. I am not suicidal, but I get why people are. Christ is my rock.
My dad said his uncle, my great uncle, and he went to visit my grandpa. They played some poker and he was laughing and smiling. Told them both how much he loved them and hugged them goodbye.
Apparently my great uncle thought it was weird, so he went back later that night. Found him in the garage with the car running.
My grandma doesn't know. The official story was a heart attack to preserve his dignity with the family.
My dad has always taken mental health and cries for help extremely seriously. I never knew this about my grandpa, I always knew it was just a heart attack. When I was struggling in school and mentioned that I thought I was depressed, my dad's demeanor towards me changed completely from "Why aren't you studying, what's wrong with you" to "take your time, you can stay here as long as you need."
I'm really glad my dad gave me the time to grow up a bit more without pressuring me when I dropped out of school. Those few extra years were really important.
I learned about my grandpa years later from my brother who talked about it with my dad after he almost killed himself.
Indirectly, my grandfather saved both of our lives.
The worst part is the friends, family, coworkers, and everyone in the videos laughing and having a good time BECAUSE of the person who decided they werent loved, nobody cares, financial issues, etc. Theres always someone who will miss you.
that hit really hard..
It ain't about the people they leave behind. It's about an inescapable pain that they can only mask.
I've been suicidal. I knew people would miss me. I still wanted nothing more than an escape from life. I just didn't say anything because I knew people like you would make me out as the "villain" of the story with guilt-tripping and what-if scenarios.
@@SageArdor “people like you” yeah piss off man. I’m not here to guilt trip. My brother killed himself and didn’t feel he could ever talk to me. If I didn’t make it clear enough for you, it didn’t have an ill intention.
And I’ve also attempted. So I’m not brain dead clueless on what it feels like. But if you think suicide is the best option you’re a fucking idiot. There’s other outlets than suicide or self harm. Hit the gym to cope like I did and turn your life around. It’s never too late and it pisses me off so many people still think it is because it’s not.
@@SageArdor Hunter isn't making suicidal people into a villain. They just mean that the suicidal people in the videos made others happy and are loved and missed
As someone with severe depression and constant suicidal thoughts, it’s a bit warming to see so many ppl sharing how they feel, from one stranger to however many sees this, you’re loved and you’re worthy of greatness. *fist bump* ❤️
If you ever want to talk I'm here.
fist bump :)
You are gonna get through it believe in yourself...i believe in you💞👊🏾
You have a reason to live, mate. You might not know it, but a lot of people care about you. Yes, life has it's downsides, but just treat life as a game, you might lose some stuff, but in the end, you'll be MVP. But to be MVP, you gotta get through the challenges.
All i'm saying is, don't give up easily. You might have one time only living on this planet, so make the most of it. Meditate abit, hydrate yourself, socialize (don't be afraid!), control your emotions (you can train yourself) and express your problems with people who can help you. Hope you stay safe, mate.
True indeed
This life is temporary, the next is forever. Take from this life for the next, worship your Creator, Allaah, until death reaches you and follow His Messenger Muhammad, and you will never lose.
Instead of hiding their internal struggles, people should express them. Together we can save their mental health❤
And yet, many see depression/suicidal tendencies as "weakness" or "softness", something that you are expected to "toughen up" or "grow out of it" to get through.
Well everything must pass. Including depression. Forbearance is not taught in schools though.
Those messages make it harder to bear those feelings. Having those thoughts doesn't make you "weak", but there is a right way and a wrong way to deal with those feelings. It seems there is a cultural shift happening away from that attitude, so hopefully more people feel comfortable to talk to someone about such thoughts, like a friend or relative if a therapist isn't an affordable option.
@@AnonYmous-ez4es I have this mentality too, as someone who’s depressed. It’ll pass. I’ll pass one day too, and everything can continue passing by me, as life goes on.
Waiting for my depression to pass has been a long journey. From a very young age, I’ve waited. And waited. Faked happy. I still do fake happy. It seems people know that I fake happy. I can tell that everyone can tell.
@@user-ez9tz4vt4g stop eating animals and you won't get depressed. their suffering becomes your suffering, karmically.