@@OurTribeofMany Thank you so much! Wow! Didn't expect this! God is Good. You and Solo have no idea how much your words meant to me. Just a confirmation of what the Holy Spirit has been telling me for years!! 🥲🥲🥲
Hi --- This is a suggestion for Samantha. Before going to a church with your daughter, get permission to stay with her in her children's gathering/class. After attending with her for a few weeks, you might feel more at ease for her and for yourself. In time, you may feel comfortable enough to leave her class and attend the adult meetings. If you or your daughter need to meet with church leaders, have someone you trust go with you. Don't be afraid to share that you are an abuse victim, and you have trust issues. If that church won't respect your wishes, keep looking until you find a church where you can feel peace. Praying for you!
Samantha, my initial thought was does your daughter have a friend who goes, and that’s why she’s asking? Using the above parameters and Solo and Sarah’s advise, maybe visit. I thought the same thing they said, God is using your daughter to push you. Healing is hard, forgiveness is harder. But we have to do uncomfortable things to grow. I will pray for you and your family, Congratulations on ALL you have overcome and accomplished! You’re amazing!
Hi. I have trust issues in the church as well. I was not personally abused, but a sibling (by a trusted neighbor at age 8, not on the church) even so, I have major trust issues when it comes to my children. Before we attend a new church I meet with the children's minister, make sure they have good policies in place that they actually follow ( not just on paper). However, it's important to remember that no amount of safety protocols will ensure 100% safety. So it's important to talk to your child about appropriate touch, talking, etc. With my 4 kiddos I have used God Made All Of Me to talk about safe touch. We talk about it all the time in my house, as well as pornography (the books Not If, But When and Good Pictures, Bad Pictures). Just my two cents :)
Excellent advice. And do not be afraid to talk to the members about the pastor you will very quickly hear how he is viewed. For a good man people naturally will tell you so.
My MIL said I shouldn’t be making my boys do housework. My dear husband replied to her that he wanted them to learn a work ethic and how to do housework from their Mom, not their wife like I had to. She couldn’t argue with that.
Wooo!! 🥳🥳 👏🏼👏🏼 good man right there! Love that he stood beside you against his mother. Especially when it came to your parenting with YOUR children, not hers. And also, he made a great point. I am a woman but growing up, my mom did all the housework. And I still suck at it lol. So I completely get what he means! My parents were good parents but they definitely slacked on the life skills teachings. I'm 31 and still get nervous having to do certain things in the world cuz I was never taught how to.
I told hubby that our son will know how to look after himself, without relying on a woman. He's now in his mid20's and, while still living at home, is happy to look after himself for several weeks while his dad and I travel. I told hubby that no woman wants to marry and train a domestic cripple. (housework wise, not referring to physical disability)
My mom originally said the same thing - but she changed her mind when I told her that my kids whether boy or girl will learn to do housework, wash their own laundry, iron if need be (or go wrinkled), sew and mend, and plan and prepare all kinds of foods/meals. At the same time not only my son will (and did) learn all that, but I also maintained that my kids will also learn to change tires, do plugs and points (yes, this was definitely BEFORE "the modern times"), mow lawns, fill a gas tank, change oil and all the so-called "manly" things. My kids when grown may CHOOSE to have someone else do those things for them, but it won't be because they won't know how.
Times change so I can understand your mother in law however these days it's more the norm for boys/men to take part in housework and cooking especially if both parents are working or like Sarah and Solo with a larger family. It's great to teach all children to work as a team because it will teach them skills for when they enter the workforce. Your husband is a good man for letting his mum know that his family works differently. 😊
As soon as my kids started public school I immediately made myself their scape goat. They could use me as their excuse for anything and everything. If someone asked them to have a sleepover (a huge NO in our family) all they had to do was say, my mom says I’m not allowed. My mom says I can’t watch that movie. My mom says I can’t have a phone.
Maybe an outside church, like a revival. I had a lot of issues from preachers and pastors who hurt me physically, and spiritually. But that woman who felt it too soon to return church. Revivals help those who are triggered by brick and mortar, try a revival. Just my throats.
I was the same way with my children and now they are 22 & 20 and both very responsible adults work full time and just bought their first house together. My kids never wanted to stay the night anywhere. I never pursued them. They didn’t get a phone until they were much older and were responsible for a phone I had rules that they couldn’t have social media it was only for emergency to get ahold of me when they needed me. My daughter was 17 when she got her first phone my son was 18.
Yep! Mama of six and I remember all of those phone calls preceding by a text saying “mom, I’m gonna call you, just say no” I love that my children used me to protect themselves and honor their convictions
I was abused by a catholic priest for 5.5 years, starting at age 6. Over 200 times. The hardest part was my mother still made me go to church even after she found out(the priest had died before I told). It was so traumatic to be forced to keep going. What has helped me as an adult was sitting at the back of the church in case I needed to leave. Also, my kids and husband know and are compassionate about it. I have days that are much easier to go and others where just the site of a white collar or the smell of frankincense will cause a panic. There are support groups for those abused by clergy. I am sending great big survivor hugs and letting you know that you’re not alone! Of everything the person took from me, the one that hurt the most was my ability to trust GOD. I very badly want to.. sometimes I get close but then recoil! I struggle with it even at 48. Give yourself grace and allow yourself to take baby steps. GOD doesn’t care if you go into a building to LOVE him.
Big hugs! It is sad that so many people go through this that there would be enough for support groups. But reading through the comments I am quickly finding out that there are lots of us. I'm sorry you went through that.
I'm so sorry to hear this. If you ever get to the point where you are ready to contact the Catholic Church, I encourage you to do so. My old diocese had a priest who was a pedophile years ago. A few years ago they were working to make amends and help the victims. Now there is a lot of education for everyone working in the Church to help keep kids safe.
My 2 sisters and I shared a room. In fact we 3 shared one bed. We had such a good time. Many many nights we would hear Dad saying "girls! Stop that giggling and go to sleep!" 😊
Children who see porn or violence are actually traumatized. Their brains are affected, which in turn affects their behaviour and then their relationships. As parents we wouldn't let our kids swallow harmful substances, so anything we can do to stop our kids from taking in harmful content through their eyes and ears is wise parenting.
Noelle's face peaking through the blinds brought a smile to my face. I remember watching a vlog years ago that took place over Christmas. I remember Noelle being unhappy when the family sang "the First Noelle". The birth of Christ, we share the same name! What a beautiful reminder of our Saviour. Your family has been a blessing to me, when my own complicated family has ellicited pain. I love my family and I'm thankful for a Godly family like yours being a light in the world for all to see the goodness of God. Hallelujah!
Sara. I am Catholic and I get great peace from this final prayer from Divine Mercy Chaplet. Please tell the lady abused by her father. Eternal God, in whom mercy is endless and the treasury of compassion inexhaustible, look kindly upon us and increase your mercy in us, that in difficult moments we might not despair nor become despondent, but with great confidence submit ourselves to your holy will, which is Love and Mercy itself. Amen. Thanks Marianne
Amen 🙏 fellow Catholic here!! I love the Divine Mercy Chaplet I especially love it set to music and play it on my phone every day while I shower !! It is a very healing prayer 🙏
I have also just thought of another prayer that was suggested to me by a wonderful priest many years ago it was a “Healing Prayer at Bedtime “ That would be another suggestion to the lady who had suffered abuse 🙏
Where were you guys 15yrs ago when I was struggling with my in-laws undermining all of my husband and I’s decisions??? 😅😅 This was awesome advice. I am more rooted in my parenting now, thank God. This was very helpful content.❤
I was the oldest of 7 children. My parents made our home open to our friends. My parents were very strict and had a plan how they wanted us to be raised. In order for their rules to be implemented. They had a plan. In this process our friends could play with us at our home and very seldom could we visit their homes. My parents had to know their parents or have met our friends parents. After, that they would determine if we could visit our friends at their home. Later, I found out that most of our friends like coming to our home because there were games played and food always presents. I do not know how my parents could afford same, but when it comes to your children and their up bringing you make adjustments. I raised my kids the same . I am glad I did I knew where they were and whom they were with.
There is so much on the internet that children should not be exposed to. I don’t think most parents realize the damage it does. As a kindergarten teacher I can tell you that some of these babies are already “addicted” to their tablets, iPads and phones. They have said to me that they “need my iPad” when they get upset or frustrated. I’m all for choosing the friends that are not all about their devices. It’s a scary time where that is concerned.
My daughter decided to limit tablet time to a couple of hours on weekends only. As Grammy who helped with homework everyday, it was a great choice. No UA-cam allowed at all either. They stream all TV and they are only allowed certain shows. It has made a big difference in their attitudes especially toward school work and reading.
Totally agree with you on the phone usage! We have 11 children, and all the way down to our 3 years old, we have to watch them on all of this! When we decided to start doing UA-cam, and I started working as an influencer on all these platforms, we had to lay down some strict rules. It's a complex daily discussion, but it's worth the effort! Just saw Sound Freedom, and these people look for your children on the internet daily; we need to protect our kids. You both are amazing! I love your Q and A videos! Sending love from Wisconsin!
I need advice/suggestions - my daughter and grandson live with me. He is 10... almost 11. She bought him a phone and while she had parental controls in place, I disagree with him having one Aside from not letting him on the phone when I am his caretaker, any other suggestions?
Just a note for Solo. God definitely blessed you with the ability to counsel…your response to the child abuse survivor was well thought out, sensitive, and helpful for this lady. May bless this lady and continue to help her heal. May God bless you and your family and church.
I could listen to Solo all day. What wisdom you both share. I will be praying for the young mother who experienced such horror. You are loved and worthy to find peace. 🙏
To add to the first ladies question( Kimberly) I’d love to learn about each special need, how you cope, what you wish the public knew about each child’s needs, talk about the up times, the down times, what encourages you. There is SO much I’d love to know about children w/ special needs! ALSO, wow! I’d LOVE to know about your husband’s country! Compare contrasts w/ U.S., & specific ways we can help you! I think you could do a several part deep dive on each subject! That’s just my outlook on it & my opinion, but I think your channel would grow quickly with information about your interesting & your journey! Kimberly, I hope you see this & I’ll check back for your channel’s name! I have a feeling your channel will quickly grow! 😊 God bless! 💜🕊️
Also, I love "Be the parent you want to be"- Solo. 😊 T Being able to just be ok that your family is different from other families is so important, and people in your life need to not be threatened just by the fsct that you made a different decision than they did. Even Grandma and Grandpa. My oldest has her first baby, and I am very firm about this even with her. It is OK that she makes different decisions than I did! It helps a lot to tell my kods early and often that we do things differently sometimes than other families, other families do things differently than us, and that's ok.
In one answer a subscriber said that they had nothing in common with you other than faith but I want you to know that we enjoy watching you and your family, primarily because we can see you are kind people trying to always do the right person. My husband and I have no faith and no children, but your tolerance or others beliefs and life styles impress us and you look as full as joy.
Sarah I'm 74 and I just Love watching your channel. I respect you and Solo parenting as I agree with you. There are so many board games that kids can play instead of being on a phone seeing things that demented adults put out there. We used to fix a big bowl of popcorn sit in the kitchen and play cards with friends over. Throughout my life I've had many challenges and still do today. I've had many test that God has put me through. I feel because of the hard times it has made me a better person for myself. Don't let the past rob you of life that God's grace has given you. I truly enjoyed this and thank you.
I am a black 69 years I love this family I have four grown children you both are amazing parents and wear your hair the way you want to thank so many for the amazing different dishes God bless you both much respect
Not taking anything away from Sarah, but Solo has so much insight and really communicates his beliefs and wisdom so accurately. You two are so inspirational. I have followed you for a long time now and never miss a video. Cheers from Australia!!
Wow! Great advice to all the people out there! My husband is listening with me & keeps saying ‘I like this guy!’ ‘I really like what he says & believes!’ Thank you for both of you sharing today! Blessings! 🤗🤗
Wow! Thank you guys so much for speaking out about healthy boundaries!! So important for parents to enforce them and protect their kids from the horrible influence out there that can impress on their minds. It is so much worse these days and all our kids need parents to not be pushovers in this. Thank you guys for giving food for thought on this and it's awesome how much you guys care for your own kids❤ Much love and prayers ~ Sarah
We have a 3 bed house and had 3 kids, when i became pregnant with twins we had to decide how to make the room situation work. My husband said let's make 3 bedrooms work because it helps them learn how to live with others and solve disagreements, in preparation for marriage
To the woman that was abused by the pastor……I just attended a soul care conference by Rob Reimer. It was the most transformational experience ever!!! I highly recommend attending one, especially given what you experienced. He does conferences all over the world. You will not regret going. ❤❤❤
Thank you for the sweet words you stopped....to impart with Samantha. It does sound like a gentle nudging to look at healing...praying God clearly opens the door to the place you will find it❤
My kids are now 15&17, I had a lot of my own family dislike the way I parented them. I never lost sight of what kind of parent I wanted to be and NEVER backed down. Now my family cannot say enough about how respectful they are. Definitely be the parent you want to be
Another helpful advice with Samantha, is working with a therapist to help you with walking inside a church first for yourself to feel safe. It took me a long time to get back into church after being accused of picketing and literally being thrown up against the wall, choked by our pastor in front of kids and many adults. This was over 20 years ago in my teenage years. Working with my therapist at that time really really helped me.
While not all of this applied to me directly, Solo’s words and the Spirit was powerfully felt as he shared. ❤❤❤ Edit: I’ve gone to church alone before, and it is hard, especially if your new to the area. I remember praying so hard the next wk that I would be needed. Needless to say, a new member waved me over to sit with them in the main mtg. Then for SS, her child was being too active and it was hard for them to listen, so I helped out and went with the child to his age class. At first, he didn’t want to go with me, a stranger. But the Spirit whispered, you have primary peanuts! (In my purse, just peanuts), these were peanuts that I could only give a few at a time while in primary! 😂. It worked! He’s 18 yrs old now, and still calls them, primary peanuts! It was just what I needed. God knew. ❤
Your parenting messages are right on. I had to limit my kids viewing of movies when they were younger and friends didn't have the same limits. The best text i've ever received is my adult daughter to me, "thanks mom for not letting us watch (such and such movie), I just watched it as a pre-view for your grandkids, and you were right!" Solo, your heartfelt message to Samantha was beautiful. Thank you both for your messages today.
I have enjoyed watching your family for several years. I have been a widow for 7 yrs and you have blessed me. Solo seems so kind hearted and patient. Gods spirit is so evident in your lives. I have no family and my kitty hears Sara's voice and comes and lays right beside me while I watch.
I love all the wise counsel. Pastor Solo such a blessing seeing and hearing . I could hear divine counsel. So nice. Also I was thinking what is Peace eating she was really enjoying it. This is a unique channel and it ministers healing to me in so many ways.
I am blown a away by hearing such great questions from people around the world. Hearing your responses from the both of you. My heart goes out to the young lady who was abused by her step father who was hiding behind being a pastor. Hearing your answers and seeing the faith you have and your thoughts on raising your children is wonderful. I raised my children to do chores, and values and was never questioned by my parents on why I did this or why they are doing dishes. My mother taught my daughter to do housework, make beds and so forth. As a single dad who raised both his children, having my parents there to help me train my children was amazing. I agree with your parenting style, and I love that you are a spirit filled church. God’s Grace be with you both, and pray your home sales soon
Wow you guys have inspired me.. I've carried a heavy heart with trauma from childhood and more into adulthood.. I've had 1 heart attack and am currently on the way to heart disease.. but something just clicked in my head and heart to let go of all that. Time to focus on my health and let go.. I'm 58... ❤
Thanks for the Q and A Sarah and Solo! I am single but I enjoy watching your channel. I came from a family of five children, we also had struggles, my Dad usually always worked 2 jobs.❤🎉😊
Sara and Solo, what a beautiful episode, your answers to all of the questions posed to you today were so informative, not only for the people who we were asking, but for us listeners also, I truly enjoy and look forward to your videos. May God continue to bless and keep you all, and keep those videos coming. I also enjoy your mom and papa's videos too ❤
I reviewed the comments a bit (not all 300+!) and I don’t want to minimize the heart-wrenching stories, but I want to comment on the rainwater collection suggestion. I know you will do all the research in time, but when I got a rain barrel connected to my gutters I was told that the water could only be used for irrigation because of the chemicals present in the roofing material that the water passes over. Just suggesting that you look into that…you might have a roofing option that would be okay. I am a recently retired teacher, and have been watching your channel for a few years now and love it! I also watch your dad’s channel, and love it as well. Thank you for all your beautiful, inspirational videos. You are a blessing in my life, and so many others.
Whenever I have set a boundary for my children I always make sure that I explain why in love and in detail. I think children understanding why we don’t do some thing is very important for their mental health as they’ll feel your love and intention behind the reasoning. And they’re actually has to be a real common sense and verifiable reason to these boundaries. People don’t want to obey boundaries that they haven’t been shown are logical and a universal truth, or just flat out, aren’t logical or an obvious truth. The tips given were very good in the video, I just wanted to add that we need to make sure our children understand why we tell them to do or don’t do some thing, but ultimately it’s our love for them.
Exactly! I have done this with my oldest and it helped IMMENSELY through the teenage years to not have a rebellious child and she is in her 20’s now and we have such a close and amazing relationship ❤️ They may get mad at you for your decisions and that’s ok bc they’ll get over it. When they know the reasoning behind your decision it makes it hard to stay mad bc the boundaries were clear from the beginning. Also, what’s not helpful is having extreme reactions to situations. The punishment needs to be in proportion to the “crime” so to speak.
Samantha, God Bless You sweet woman/ mama. I'm a survivor too and I am still a Holy Bible believing Christian . My heart goes out to you. My children are grown, but the abuse I suffered really colored my world and how I reared my children. So, start with a women's Bible study where you can bring your child. You'll get the support of women who may have a similar experience. You can write down your concerns for ladies to read silently so your baby doesn't hear.Keep some special toys/ books back that she only gets to use at your Bible study. Stay with your child in Children's church or Sunday School like I did. I eventually rotated as a Sunday school teacher for all my kids year after year. It was not until they were old enough to protect themselves that I was able to relax as a mom. You are worthy. Let our ABBA father hold you in the palm of His hand . I will be praying for you.
We really like these Tuesday talks, especially when Solo is included! We like your parenting style even though our kids are 39 and up. But we have grandkids who we try to spend a lot of time with.
Pastoring 101, so awesome you guys! Keep up the good work may the good Lord continue to bless your family and give you a a good counsel spirit to continue ministering those in need.
Love Sarah and Solo segments!! Yall are very wise and have so much advice that could benefit so many. Even if there's no advice, just hearing you two together and experiences you've been thru, just seeing how you complete each other so well is beautiful and really brings me joy. 💜💚
Thank you for these Q&A videos! I tell you phones and devices lately are the bane of my existence lately.. the pressure is strong and my kids don’t understand why all their cousins ages 8 and up have phones etc. we don’t give our teens phones until they are driving and working , and over 16. It’s hard to be tough in this area for sure
30:25 I loved sharing a room with my older sister when we were younger. Even once my dad finished the basement and my brother moved downstairs and I had my own room, me and my sister had “sleepovers” in one another’s room almost every single night lol.
Sarah and Solo I really enjoyed the video today . So many good questions and answers . Solo you and Sarah make such a great team . ...and the answers you give are very helpful . Prayers for all the people that reach out to get help know matter what they are going through ❤❤❤
I would definitely watch Kimberly's channel. I am elderly, so nothing in common but feel strongly about the current state of affairs in our world. If you find a person that gives you good vibes, then definitely spend time watching them and skip some of the other stuff.
I just wanted to say thank you for starting this segment where you take the time to answer specific questions as I'm sure there is definitely someone out there other than the person asking who can benefit. Thank you for the ministry your channel provides
About the storage container situation , you can paint them green to blend in with the land and trees and you can grow things over them like vines for grapes and kiwis etc they don’t have to stick out like a sore thumb !
Love your videos, Sarah. Thank you for sharing your family’s adventures with us. You certainly seem to be in a very, very busy time of life right now. Cheers to you for somehow managing it all.
I really enjoy watching your channel. I am a single woman, never married. I am one of eight children that for many years lived in a three bedroom house. I developed a closeness to my sisters that is there decades later. I see that with your children. They truly love each other. I know they get into scrapes because that's life but their connection is real. That's due to you and Solo's parenting. The advice you give is always sound. God bless you both 🙏🏽
I laughed out loud when Solo mentioned people expect to see ugly “vintage” things on a farm😂. Very true for our farm and my parent’s farm- more animals, more mess. Love your videos!!
Hello again family! Sure enjoyed our visit! Solo is a good question partner. Y'all really have some great advice for us! Hope you'll have a great day! Love from SC!
very good sharing with us!! both of you spoke clearly and "suggestions" were right on. hope you will do it again soon...this is something we need to hear. thank you
This was so interesting to me . I’m 61, mom to boys in their 20s one still at home. Married but husband and I have found we have growing apart /have different interests as we and the children got older. My parents both passed my mom 6 years ago and I was extremely close with her and still miss her a lot. Would love a chat with her! I used to go to Sunday school as a child , my mom always had belief and prayed . My husband is a total non believer but I have found more and more over last few years that I am drawn more to my thoughts and beliefs. I would like to go to church but don’t know where to go to if I have the confidence to go alone. Thank you for being voices of reason and friendship via your channel, it is appreciated. Xx
Samantha, a good option to start is maybe watching a service stream from your house to find a pastor that you connect with and your child can still be exposed to the word of God. Then maybe in time visit a church that is interesting to you and you connect with. From what I have heard about trauma, depending on where you are in your journey … facing it and going through it helps move past the trauma. As a trauma survivor myself, you gotta get all that buried emotion out and talk about it so you can move past it and it has less of an effect on you over time. Also, a lot of people are aware of generational trauma so allowing your child to build a relationship with the lord will help her in her journey in life like it helped you to move through difficult times. It’s so important to have faith bc hard times come in life and it’s so helpful to have that knowledge that the Lord is with us in good times and bad. As far as what to say, just let her know you went through something really hard when you were younger with a person who betrayed you and you are still working through those feelings so you just want to take things slow. You can give her a testimony of your faith and how the Lord has shown up for you. Kids are so smart and understanding. Praying that you hear the prompts you need to make a decision that you feel peace with ❤️
Walking through the healing process of abuse by anyone in the church is a personal process with Jesus. Depending on how far you have been on the healing path with Him will determine how you can move forward with your daughter into the church . Prayed for you Samantha. It’s worth the healing process .
Wow that is crazy. We block that stuff on our internet. Our kid has Certain amount of screen time too on her phone. And , she’s 14. But it’s so important to protect them as much as possible ❤❤
I was also abused at a church, by someone that works there... Its very hard to even walk into a church, I have to know that there are so many in the church though that are great kind people :) thank you.
Samantha, I'm so happy you came forward to ask Sarah and Solo's perspective. Praying the Lord is using this time in your life to draw you closer to Him. Praying for you.
This is an interesting video. Its almost like a group meeting where folks discuss their life situations. With yall giving Glory to God for His Help & Work in ur lives. It is really cute that yall are having this discussion on ur front porch. In days past the front porch was often a place of visiting & discussing topics
Só lovely to see you both this morning and little Peace with her fabulous smile ! Thank you for answering all these difficult questions ❤ I hope your house sells soon ,we are. struggling with something similar at the minute ! Xx❤ I believe you’re right about the Lord knowing what is best , I am looking forward to seeing the reason for our delay in selling ! Maybe something good is coming ! ❤🙏
I'm single with no kids and can really relate to your life now. Just finished renovating a house (used a contractor) and am now preparing my old house for sale. It is a hard job and I don't have all the kids and animals you have. Just one dog for me. Good luck on your build.
I don't have a youtube channel, but I watch several. I would encourage people trying to launch a channel to work on their public speaking skills. Many times I find a channel who's content I think I will like, but their speaking skills are just...painful. I did speech and debate in school and it is a definite skills set. Some people are just very natural and enjoyable to watch on camera, whatever their content. Sarah is one of those people. I'm sure her years as a pastor helps! 😊 The lady that sent in that video clip seems like another, honestly. Her speaking style is very pleasant and comfortable, so she does have that already going for her!
I totally agree with you both on monitoring the kids on social media nd phones , it's so scary what they can see on line these day . I love how strong you both are in regards to what you want for ur children xxxxxx
With the question about the in-laws giving pushback about kids doing chores, I know it’s hard to not want to hurt other people’s feelings, but that’s why it’s easier for parents to be a “friend” to their kid instead of “the adult,” but it’s not necessarily what’s in the best interest of the child. It’s sucks sometimes to have to be in a confrontational situation, but sometimes you really just gotta put your foot down. You don’t have to be crass or anything but just firm. People will get the message. Personally, if I already explained to them nicely why we made that decision then the next time they brought it up I would say every decision that we make regarding how we raise our kids is for the benefit of them when they get older. If they learn good habits now it will be easier for them when they are adults bc it’s already something they automatically know how to do without it seeming like a huge hurdle which will allow them to use that effort to do things that will allow them to excel in life in all areas. RESPECTFULLY, we have made our decision and ask that we not re-visit this topic again. Like I tell my 3 year old, throwing a tantrum is not going to change my mind. Same concept with other adults….being pushy/bullying me into a certain decision is not gonna change my mind. I have had a situation where my husband and I got pushback on a a couple of decisions we made regarding our kids and they don’t bring it up anymore. Now in hindsight, they know that we made the right decision. And as a matter-of-fact, just yesterday my MIL said she’s so glad we made a certain decision.
For the 3rd Kimberly with in-laws questioning their parenting decisions: Is there something specific that your husband wishes his parents would have taught him before he was an adult? I've found that it helps to gently point out that we are trying to teach our children the things that we wish we had known before we were alone and clueless. If that doesn't work and they won't leave it be, it is always OK to limit your time spent with them. 🤷♀️
I found Kimberly’s channel! It is: Motivation with Kimberly! (The exclamation point is in the channel name.)
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Thanks....here is the link. www.youtube.com/@reeseincorporated
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@@OurTribeofMany Thank you so much! Wow! Didn't expect this! God is Good. You and Solo have no idea how much your words meant to me. Just a confirmation of what the Holy Spirit has been telling me for years!! 🥲🥲🥲
Hi --- This is a suggestion for Samantha. Before going to a church with your daughter, get permission to stay with her in her children's gathering/class. After attending with her for a few weeks, you might feel more at ease for her and for yourself. In time, you may feel comfortable enough to leave her class and attend the adult meetings. If you or your daughter need to meet with church leaders, have someone you trust go with you. Don't be afraid to share that you are an abuse victim, and you have trust issues. If that church won't respect your wishes, keep looking until you find a church where you can feel peace. Praying for you!
I was also thinking that just joining a women's group (mom's group, Bible study) at first might help her feel more comfortable in the church.
Great advice! Prayers for her!!
Samantha, my initial thought was does your daughter have a friend who goes, and that’s why she’s asking? Using the above parameters and Solo and Sarah’s advise, maybe visit. I thought the same thing they said, God is using your daughter to push you. Healing is hard, forgiveness is harder. But we have to do uncomfortable things to grow. I will pray for you and your family, Congratulations on ALL you have overcome and accomplished! You’re amazing!
Hi. I have trust issues in the church as well. I was not personally abused, but a sibling (by a trusted neighbor at age 8, not on the church) even so, I have major trust issues when it comes to my children. Before we attend a new church I meet with the children's minister, make sure they have good policies in place that they actually follow ( not just on paper). However, it's important to remember that no amount of safety protocols will ensure 100% safety. So it's important to talk to your child about appropriate touch, talking, etc. With my 4 kiddos I have used God Made All Of Me to talk about safe touch. We talk about it all the time in my house, as well as pornography (the books Not If, But When and Good Pictures, Bad Pictures). Just my two cents :)
Excellent advice. And do not be afraid to talk to the members about the pastor you will very quickly hear how he is viewed. For a good man people naturally will tell you so.
My MIL said I shouldn’t be making my boys do housework. My dear husband replied to her that he wanted them to learn a work ethic and how to do housework from their Mom, not their wife like I had to. She couldn’t argue with that.
Wooo!! 🥳🥳 👏🏼👏🏼 good man right there! Love that he stood beside you against his mother. Especially when it came to your parenting with YOUR children, not hers. And also, he made a great point. I am a woman but growing up, my mom did all the housework. And I still suck at it lol. So I completely get what he means! My parents were good parents but they definitely slacked on the life skills teachings. I'm 31 and still get nervous having to do certain things in the world cuz I was never taught how to.
I told hubby that our son will know how to look after himself, without relying on a woman. He's now in his mid20's and, while still living at home, is happy to look after himself for several weeks while his dad and I travel. I told hubby that no woman wants to marry and train a domestic cripple. (housework wise, not referring to physical disability)
My mom originally said the same thing - but she changed her mind when I told her that my kids whether boy or girl will learn to do housework, wash their own laundry, iron if need be (or go wrinkled), sew and mend, and plan and prepare all kinds of foods/meals. At the same time not only my son will (and did) learn all that, but I also maintained that my kids will also learn to change tires, do plugs and points (yes, this was definitely BEFORE "the modern times"), mow lawns, fill a gas tank, change oil and all the so-called "manly" things. My kids when grown may CHOOSE to have someone else do those things for them, but it won't be because they won't know how.
Times change so I can understand your mother in law however these days it's more the norm for boys/men to take part in housework and cooking especially if both parents are working or like Sarah and Solo with a larger family. It's great to teach all children to work as a team because it will teach them skills for when they enter the workforce. Your husband is a good man for letting his mum know that his family works differently. 😊
@@helenkoenig3876You are a great Mum preparing your children for when they are adults.
As soon as my kids started public school I immediately made myself their scape goat. They could use me as their excuse for anything and everything. If someone asked them to have a sleepover (a huge NO in our family) all they had to do was say, my mom says I’m not allowed. My mom says I can’t watch that movie. My mom says I can’t have a phone.
Maybe an outside church, like a revival. I had a lot of issues from preachers and pastors who hurt me physically, and spiritually. But that woman who felt it too soon to return church. Revivals help those who are triggered by brick and mortar, try a revival. Just my throats.
I was the same way with my children and now they are 22 & 20 and both very responsible adults work full time and just bought their first house together. My kids never wanted to stay the night anywhere. I never pursued them. They didn’t get a phone until they were much older and were responsible for a phone I had rules that they couldn’t have social media it was only for emergency to get ahold of me when they needed me. My daughter was 17 when she got her first phone my son was 18.
I also let my kids use me as a scapegoat to not have to do the things I didn't want them to do that would hinder their walk.
Yep! Mama of six and I remember all of those phone calls preceding by a text saying “mom, I’m gonna call you, just say no” I love that my children used me to protect themselves and honor their convictions
@@eliza_kai I definitely got those calls and texts as well. Happy to do it.
I love when Solo graces us with his presence! He has so many good things to say, just like Sarah!
I love how you multi task…you just kept recording while holding Peace,the cat and the dog. Your family is my favorite…!
Love it when Solo is on. He is so gentle and wise, he makes me feel safe.
He seems like he can talk anyone out of doing something unGodly with his gentle, understanding and forgiving tone.
I was abused by a catholic priest for 5.5 years, starting at age 6. Over 200 times. The hardest part was my mother still made me go to church even after she found out(the priest had died before I told). It was so traumatic to be forced to keep going.
What has helped me as an adult was sitting at the back of the church in case I needed to leave. Also, my kids and husband know and are compassionate about it. I have days that are much easier to go and others where just the site of a white collar or the smell of frankincense will cause a panic. There are support groups for those abused by clergy. I am sending great big survivor hugs and letting you know that you’re not alone! Of everything the person took from me, the one that hurt the most was my ability to trust GOD. I very badly want to.. sometimes I get close but then recoil! I struggle with it even at 48.
Give yourself grace and allow yourself to take baby steps. GOD doesn’t care if you go into a building to LOVE him.
Big hugs! It is sad that so many people go through this that there would be enough for support groups. But reading through the comments I am quickly finding out that there are lots of us. I'm sorry you went through that.
I'm so sorry to hear this. If you ever get to the point where you are ready to contact the Catholic Church, I encourage you to do so. My old diocese had a priest who was a pedophile years ago. A few years ago they were working to make amends and help the victims. Now there is a lot of education for everyone working in the Church to help keep kids safe.
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My 2 sisters and I shared a room. In fact we 3 shared one bed. We had such a good time. Many many nights we would hear Dad saying "girls! Stop that giggling and go to sleep!" 😊
My childhood exactly! ❤️
My sister and I would swing over to each other’s beds during the night via the door, because there’s a crocodile on the carpet!!!! ❤😂
Children who see porn or violence are actually traumatized. Their brains are affected, which in turn affects their behaviour and then their relationships. As parents we wouldn't let our kids swallow harmful substances, so anything we can do to stop our kids from taking in harmful content through their eyes and ears is wise parenting.
@joyces.9021 Yes they put demons on everything!
Music, movies you name it, it's so sad.
Noelle's face peaking through the blinds brought a smile to my face. I remember watching a vlog years ago that took place over Christmas. I remember Noelle being unhappy when the family sang "the First Noelle". The birth of Christ, we share the same name! What a beautiful reminder of our Saviour. Your family has been a blessing to me, when my own complicated family has ellicited pain. I love my family and I'm thankful for a Godly family like yours being a light in the world for all to see the goodness of God. Hallelujah!
Sara. I am Catholic and I get great peace from this final prayer from Divine Mercy Chaplet. Please tell the lady abused by her father. Eternal God, in whom mercy is endless and the treasury of compassion inexhaustible, look kindly upon us and increase your mercy in us, that in difficult moments we might not despair nor become despondent, but with great confidence submit ourselves to your holy will, which is Love and Mercy itself. Amen. Thanks Marianne
Amen 🙏 fellow Catholic here!! I love the Divine Mercy Chaplet I especially love it set to music and play it on my phone every day while I shower !! It is a very healing prayer 🙏
I have also just thought of another prayer that was suggested to me by a wonderful priest many years ago it was a “Healing Prayer at Bedtime “
That would be another suggestion to the lady who had suffered abuse 🙏
Where were you guys 15yrs ago when I was struggling with my in-laws undermining all of my husband and I’s decisions??? 😅😅 This was awesome advice. I am more rooted in my parenting now, thank God. This was very helpful content.❤
I was the oldest of 7 children. My parents made our home open to our friends. My parents were very strict and had a plan how they wanted us to be raised. In order for their rules to be implemented. They had a plan. In this process our friends could play with us at our home and very seldom could we visit their homes. My parents had to know their parents or have met our friends parents. After, that they would determine if we could visit our friends at their home. Later, I found out that most of our friends like coming to our home because there were games played and food always presents. I do not know how my parents could afford same, but when it comes to your children and their up bringing you make adjustments. I raised my kids the same . I am glad I did I knew where they were and whom they were with.
A plan is important!! We talk about that in our book....Common Sense Parenting.
I raised my children the same way!
There is so much on the internet that children should not be exposed to. I don’t think most parents realize the damage it does. As a kindergarten teacher I can tell you that some of these babies are already “addicted” to their tablets, iPads and phones. They have said to me that they “need my iPad” when they get upset or frustrated. I’m all for choosing the friends that are not all about their devices. It’s a scary time where that is concerned.
My daughter decided to limit tablet time to a couple of hours on weekends only. As Grammy who helped with homework everyday, it was a great choice. No UA-cam allowed at all either. They stream all TV and they are only allowed certain shows. It has made a big difference in their attitudes especially toward school work and reading.
Totally agree with you on the phone usage! We have 11 children, and all the way down to our 3 years old, we have to watch them on all of this! When we decided to start doing UA-cam, and I started working as an influencer on all these platforms, we had to lay down some strict rules. It's a complex daily discussion, but it's worth the effort! Just saw Sound Freedom, and these people look for your children on the internet daily; we need to protect our kids. You both are amazing! I love your Q and A videos! Sending love from Wisconsin!
I need advice/suggestions - my daughter and grandson live with me. He is 10... almost 11. She bought him a phone and while she had parental controls in place, I disagree with him having one
Aside from not letting him on the phone when I am his caretaker, any other suggestions?
Leave it alone. You’re not his parent. Aside from that, pour yourself into him. Activities with you when possible may distract him from the phone.
@@kristinscomments641 - thanks. That is what I've been doing...
Just a note for Solo. God definitely blessed you with the ability to counsel…your response to the child abuse survivor was well thought out, sensitive, and helpful for this lady. May bless this lady and continue to help her heal. May God bless you and your family and church.
Im impressed with tbe respect you and solo have for each other, and your kindness
I could listen to Solo all day. What wisdom you both share. I will be praying for the young mother who experienced such horror. You are loved and worthy to find peace. 🙏
To add to the first ladies question( Kimberly) I’d love to learn about each special need, how you cope, what you wish the public knew about each child’s needs, talk about the up times, the down times, what encourages you. There is SO much I’d love to know about children w/ special needs!
ALSO, wow! I’d LOVE to know about your husband’s country! Compare contrasts w/ U.S., & specific ways we can help you! I think you could do a several part deep dive on each subject! That’s just my outlook on it & my opinion, but I think your channel would grow quickly with information about your interesting & your journey!
Kimberly, I hope you see this & I’ll check back for your channel’s name! I have a feeling your channel will quickly grow! 😊
God bless! 💜🕊️
Same thoughts here
Same 💕🙏🏻
yes,,, i wish she had share your channel with us...
Also, I love "Be the parent you want to be"- Solo. 😊 T
Being able to just be ok that your family is different from other families is so important, and people in your life need to not be threatened just by the fsct that you made a different decision than they did. Even Grandma and Grandpa. My oldest has her first baby, and I am very firm about this even with her. It is OK that she makes different decisions than I did! It helps a lot to tell my kods early and often that we do things differently sometimes than other families, other families do things differently than us, and that's ok.
I agree but homeschooling sure makes that easier because the children arn’t as exposed.
They should put that quote on merch lol
In one answer a subscriber said that they had nothing in common with you other than faith but I want you to know that we enjoy watching you and your family, primarily because we can see you are kind people trying to always do the right person. My husband and I have no faith and no children, but your tolerance or others beliefs and life styles impress us and you look as full as joy.
Sarah I'm 74 and I just Love watching your channel. I respect you and Solo parenting as I agree with you. There are so many board games that kids can play instead of being on a phone seeing things that demented adults put out there. We used to fix a big bowl of popcorn sit in the kitchen and play cards with friends over. Throughout my life I've had many challenges and still do today. I've had many test that God has put me through. I feel because of the hard times it has made me a better person for myself. Don't let the past rob you of life that God's grace has given you. I truly enjoyed this and thank you.
I am a black 69 years I love this family I have four grown children you both are amazing parents and wear your hair the way you want to thank so many for the amazing different dishes God bless you both much respect
Me too I am 64 15:42
Have that woman talk about special needs we need that!!
Not taking anything away from Sarah, but Solo has so much insight and really communicates his beliefs and wisdom so accurately. You two are so inspirational. I have followed you for a long time now and never miss a video. Cheers from Australia!!
Wow! Great advice to all the people out there! My husband is listening with me & keeps saying ‘I like this guy!’ ‘I really like what he says & believes!’ Thank you for both of you sharing today! Blessings! 🤗🤗
Peek a boo, I see you! I cracked up with the kids peeking out the blinds behind you. You both gave such exceptional advice to the questions asked.
Wow! Thank you guys so much for speaking out about healthy boundaries!! So important for parents to enforce them and protect their kids from the horrible influence out there that can impress on their minds. It is so much worse these days and all our kids need parents to not be pushovers in this. Thank you guys for giving food for thought on this and it's awesome how much you guys care for your own kids❤ Much love and prayers ~ Sarah
We have a 3 bed house and had 3 kids, when i became pregnant with twins we had to decide how to make the room situation work.
My husband said let's make 3 bedrooms work because it helps them learn how to live with others and solve disagreements, in preparation for marriage
To the woman that was abused by the pastor……I just attended a soul care conference by Rob Reimer. It was the most transformational experience ever!!! I highly recommend attending one, especially given what you experienced. He does conferences all over the world. You will not regret going. ❤❤❤
The Sarah & Solo Q&A is so good. ❤
Thank you for covering some not so easy topics. Problems need to be talked about, and you gave great advice.
I loved this video! Truly appreciate that you and Solo answered the questions authentically and didn’t shy away from the topics!
Thank you for the sweet words you stopped....to impart with Samantha. It does sound like a gentle nudging to look at healing...praying God clearly opens the door to the place you will find it❤
My kids are now 15&17, I had a lot of my own family dislike the way I parented them. I never lost sight of what kind of parent I wanted to be and NEVER backed down. Now my family cannot say enough about how respectful they are.
Definitely be the parent you want to be
Another helpful advice with Samantha, is working with a therapist to help you with walking inside a church first for yourself to feel safe. It took me a long time to get back into church after being accused of picketing and literally being thrown up against the wall, choked by our pastor in front of kids and many adults. This was over 20 years ago in my teenage years. Working with my therapist at that time really really helped me.
Thank you Sarah and Solo! God bless your family!
While not all of this applied to me directly, Solo’s words and the Spirit was powerfully felt as he shared. ❤❤❤
Edit: I’ve gone to church alone before, and it is hard, especially if your new to the area. I remember praying so hard the next wk that I would be needed. Needless to say, a new member waved me over to sit with them in the main mtg. Then for SS, her child was being too active and it was hard for them to listen, so I helped out and went with the child to his age class. At first, he didn’t want to go with me, a stranger. But the Spirit whispered, you have primary peanuts! (In my purse, just peanuts), these were peanuts that I could only give a few at a time while in primary! 😂. It worked! He’s 18 yrs old now, and still calls them, primary peanuts! It was just what I needed. God knew. ❤
Your parenting messages are right on. I had to limit my kids viewing of movies when they were younger and friends didn't have the same limits. The best text i've ever received is my adult daughter to me, "thanks mom for not letting us watch (such and such movie), I just watched it as a pre-view for your grandkids, and you were right!" Solo, your heartfelt message to Samantha was beautiful. Thank you both for your messages today.
I have enjoyed watching your family for several years. I have been a widow for 7 yrs and you have blessed me. Solo seems so kind hearted and patient. Gods spirit is so evident in your lives. I have no family and my kitty hears Sara's voice and comes and lays right beside me while I watch.
The love you're giving to that kitten is so sweet and the kitten is adorable.
I love all the wise counsel. Pastor Solo such a blessing seeing and hearing . I could hear divine counsel. So nice. Also
I was thinking what is Peace eating she was really enjoying it. This is a unique channel and it ministers healing to me in so many ways.
That is so true- you don’t get to see the end at the beginning 😀
Thank you for your videos. Peace is busy, cute and expressive little girl.
I am blown a away by hearing such great questions from people around the world. Hearing your responses from the both of you. My heart goes out to the young lady who was abused by her step father who was hiding behind being a pastor. Hearing your answers and seeing the faith you have and your thoughts on raising your children is wonderful. I raised my children to do chores, and values and was never questioned by my parents on why I did this or why they are doing dishes. My mother taught my daughter to do housework, make beds and so forth. As a single dad who raised both his children, having my parents there to help me train my children was amazing. I agree with your parenting style, and I love that you are a spirit filled church. God’s Grace be with you both, and pray your home sales soon
Wow you guys have inspired me.. I've carried a heavy heart with trauma from childhood and more into adulthood.. I've had 1 heart attack and am currently on the way to heart disease.. but something just clicked in my head and heart to let go of all that. Time to focus on my health and let go.. I'm 58... ❤
Thanks for the Q and A Sarah and Solo! I am single but I enjoy watching your channel. I came from a family of five children, we also had struggles, my Dad usually always worked 2 jobs.❤🎉😊
Hello Tribe of Many!
Was that Noel peeking through the blinds?
She's a girl after my own heart.
I love how she makes her appearance. So cute!!!!
Sara and Solo, what a beautiful episode, your answers to all of the questions posed to you today were so informative, not only for the people who we were asking, but for us listeners also, I truly enjoy and look forward to your videos. May God continue to bless and keep you all, and keep those videos coming. I also enjoy your mom and papa's videos too ❤
“Failure is part of the journey”…. True story 😊
I reviewed the comments a bit (not all 300+!) and I don’t want to minimize the heart-wrenching stories, but I want to comment on the rainwater collection suggestion. I know you will do all the research in time, but when I got a rain barrel connected to my gutters I was told that the water could only be used for irrigation because of the chemicals present in the roofing material that the water passes over. Just suggesting that you look into that…you might have a roofing option that would be okay.
I am a recently retired teacher, and have been watching your channel for a few years now and love it! I also watch your dad’s channel, and love it as well. Thank you for all your beautiful, inspirational videos. You are a blessing in my life, and so many others.
Whenever I have set a boundary for my children I always make sure that I explain why in love and in detail. I think children understanding why we don’t do some thing is very important for their mental health as they’ll feel your love and intention behind the reasoning. And they’re actually has to be a real common sense and verifiable reason to these boundaries. People don’t want to obey boundaries that they haven’t been shown are logical and a universal truth, or just flat out, aren’t logical or an obvious truth. The tips given were very good in the video, I just wanted to add that we need to make sure our children understand why we tell them to do or don’t do some thing, but ultimately it’s our love for them.
Exactly! I have done this with my oldest and it helped IMMENSELY through the teenage years to not have a rebellious child and she is in her 20’s now and we have such a close and amazing relationship ❤️ They may get mad at you for your decisions and that’s ok bc they’ll get over it. When they know the reasoning behind your decision it makes it hard to stay mad bc the boundaries were clear from the beginning. Also, what’s not helpful is having extreme reactions to situations. The punishment needs to be in proportion to the “crime” so to speak.
Great, great words to Samantha!! Way to go as well on 11yrs of recovery! That is amazing!! Love from family in Christ, in Indiana!! ❤❤❤
Samantha, God Bless You sweet woman/ mama. I'm a survivor too and I am still a Holy Bible believing Christian . My heart goes out to you. My children are grown, but the abuse I suffered really colored my world and how I reared my children. So, start with a women's Bible study where you can bring your child. You'll get the support of women who may have a similar experience. You can write down your concerns for ladies to read silently so your baby doesn't hear.Keep some special toys/ books back that she only gets to use at your Bible study. Stay with your child in Children's church or Sunday School like I did. I eventually rotated as a Sunday school teacher for all my kids year after year. It was not until they were old enough to protect themselves that I was able to relax as a mom. You are worthy. Let our ABBA father hold you in the palm of His hand . I will be praying for you.
Excellent, excellent, excellent as usual! So much amazing godly wisdom and so personal and real too! Excellent! Thank you both! 👏🏾👏🏾🙏🏾
We really like these Tuesday talks, especially when Solo is included! We like your parenting style even though our kids are 39 and up. But we have grandkids who we try to spend a lot of time with.
Pastoring 101, so awesome you guys! Keep up the good work may the good Lord continue to bless your family and give you a a good counsel spirit to continue ministering those in need.
Love Sarah and Solo segments!! Yall are very wise and have so much advice that could benefit so many. Even if there's no advice, just hearing you two together and experiences you've been thru, just seeing how you complete each other so well is beautiful and really brings me joy. 💜💚
Both you and Solo speak with so much wisdom Sarah. This video was a pleasure to watch. Thank you
Thank you for these Q&A videos! I tell you phones and devices lately are the bane of my existence lately.. the pressure is strong and my kids don’t understand why all their cousins ages 8 and up have phones etc. we don’t give our teens phones until they are driving and working , and over 16. It’s hard to be tough in this area for sure
30:25 I loved sharing a room with my older sister when we were younger. Even once my dad finished the basement and my brother moved downstairs and I had my own room, me and my sister had “sleepovers” in one another’s room almost every single night lol.
Sarah and Solo I really enjoyed the video today . So many good questions and answers . Solo you and Sarah make such a great team . ...and the answers you give are very helpful . Prayers for all the people that reach out to get help know matter what they are going through ❤❤❤
I would definitely watch Kimberly's channel. I am elderly, so nothing in common but feel strongly about the current state of affairs in our world. If you find a person that gives you good vibes, then definitely spend time watching them and skip some of the other stuff.
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I love this series. I always love your perspective on different things. As well as hearing Solos take on things. You are always real and honest.
Oh, Sarah & Solo, I appreciate so very much all the Godly advice you give to those asking questions. May God richly bless your family.
I just wanted to say thank you for starting this segment where you take the time to answer specific questions as I'm sure there is definitely someone out there other than the person asking who can benefit. Thank you for the ministry your channel provides
About the storage container situation , you can paint them green to blend in with the land and trees and you can grow things over them like vines for grapes and kiwis etc they don’t have to stick out like a sore thumb !
Love your videos, Sarah. Thank you for sharing your family’s adventures with us. You certainly seem to be in a very, very busy time of life right now. Cheers to you for somehow managing it all.
I really enjoy watching your channel. I am a single woman, never married. I am one of eight children that for many years lived in a three bedroom house. I developed a closeness to my sisters that is there decades later. I see that with your children. They truly love each other. I know they get into scrapes because that's life but their connection is real. That's due to you and Solo's parenting. The advice you give is always sound. God bless you both 🙏🏽
Your chats are excellent. Great questions, again. Your answers, very thoughtful. Lots of moving parts and you smiled all the way through. Great vlog.
Praise the Lord for Samantha! Won’t our God do it!!
Sarah & solo I so appreciate your guidance and wisdom on all of these topics!
I laughed out loud when Solo mentioned people expect to see ugly “vintage” things on a farm😂. Very true for our farm and my parent’s farm- more animals, more mess. Love your videos!!
Hello again family! Sure enjoyed our visit! Solo is a good question partner. Y'all really have some great advice for us! Hope you'll have a great day! Love from SC!
very good sharing with us!! both of you spoke clearly and "suggestions" were right on. hope you will do it again soon...this is something we need to hear. thank you
This was so interesting to me . I’m 61, mom to boys in their 20s one still at home. Married but husband and I have found we have growing apart /have different interests as we and the children got older. My parents both passed my mom 6 years ago and I was extremely close with her and still miss her a lot. Would love a chat with her! I used to go to Sunday school as a child , my mom always had belief and prayed .
My husband is a total non believer but I have found more and more over last few years that I am drawn more to my thoughts and beliefs. I would like to go to church but don’t know where to go to if I have the confidence to go alone. Thank you for being voices of reason and friendship via your channel, it is appreciated. Xx
Samantha, a good option to start is maybe watching a service stream from your house to find a pastor that you connect with and your child can still be exposed to the word of God. Then maybe in time visit a church that is interesting to you and you connect with. From what I have heard about trauma, depending on where you are in your journey … facing it and going through it helps move past the trauma. As a trauma survivor myself, you gotta get all that buried emotion out and talk about it so you can move past it and it has less of an effect on you over time. Also, a lot of people are aware of generational trauma so allowing your child to build a relationship with the lord will help her in her journey in life like it helped you to move through difficult times. It’s so important to have faith bc hard times come in life and it’s so helpful to have that knowledge that the Lord is with us in good times and bad. As far as what to say, just let her know you went through something really hard when you were younger with a person who betrayed you and you are still working through those feelings so you just want to take things slow. You can give her a testimony of your faith and how the Lord has shown up for you. Kids are so smart and understanding. Praying that you hear the prompts you need to make a decision that you feel peace with ❤️
I just returned from Kenya and it was the most beautiful,moving experience!!!
Walking through the healing process of abuse by anyone in the church is a personal process with Jesus. Depending on how far you have been on the healing path with Him will determine how you can move forward with your daughter into the church . Prayed for you Samantha. It’s worth the healing process .
Wow that is crazy. We block that stuff on our internet. Our kid has Certain amount of screen time too on her phone. And , she’s 14. But it’s so important to protect them as much as possible ❤❤
I love these question and answer sessions.. thank you
I was also abused at a church, by someone that works there... Its very hard to even walk into a church, I have to know that there are so many in the church though that are great kind people :) thank you.
Oh wow tears flowing from Samantha’s story. Prayers for Christ’s love to cover you
Such wisdom from both of you. Blessing prayed for Samantha. ❤
Amen! We had a whole sermon this week 🥰
🎉🎉🎉🎉 CONGRATULATIONS SAMANTHA 🎉🎉🎉🎉
Samantha, I'm so happy you came forward to ask Sarah and Solo's perspective. Praying the Lord is using this time in your life to draw you closer to Him. Praying for you.
Excellent! Thank you Solo and Sarah.
You both remind me of my parents and how I was raised. Very thankful for them.
This is an interesting video. Its almost like a group meeting where folks discuss their life situations. With yall giving Glory to God for His Help & Work in ur lives. It is really cute that yall are having this discussion on ur front porch. In days past the front porch was often a place of visiting & discussing topics
Só lovely to see you both this morning and little Peace with her fabulous smile ! Thank you for answering all these difficult questions ❤ I hope your house sells soon ,we are. struggling with something similar at the minute ! Xx❤ I believe you’re right about the Lord knowing what is best , I am looking forward to seeing the reason for our delay in selling ! Maybe something good is coming ! ❤🙏
I'm single with no kids and can really relate to your life now. Just finished renovating a house (used a contractor) and am now preparing my old house for sale. It is a hard job and I don't have all the kids and animals you have. Just one dog for me. Good luck on your build.
I don't have a youtube channel, but I watch several. I would encourage people trying to launch a channel to work on their public speaking skills. Many times I find a channel who's content I think I will like, but their speaking skills are just...painful. I did speech and debate in school and it is a definite skills set. Some people are just very natural and enjoyable to watch on camera, whatever their content. Sarah is one of those people. I'm sure her years as a pastor helps! 😊 The lady that sent in that video clip seems like another, honestly. Her speaking style is very pleasant and comfortable, so she does have that already going for her!
Great video guys.......love it all! Excited for all the newness happening on your place!
God bless!
I totally agree with you both on monitoring the kids on social media nd phones , it's so scary what they can see on line these day . I love how strong you both are in regards to what you want for ur children xxxxxx
I needed Solo when I was trying to raise my children. His answers are exactly what I would have been needing.
With the question about the in-laws giving pushback about kids doing chores, I know it’s hard to not want to hurt other people’s feelings, but that’s why it’s easier for parents to be a “friend” to their kid instead of “the adult,” but it’s not necessarily what’s in the best interest of the child. It’s sucks sometimes to have to be in a confrontational situation, but sometimes you really just gotta put your foot down. You don’t have to be crass or anything but just firm. People will get the message. Personally, if I already explained to them nicely why we made that decision then the next time they brought it up I would say every decision that we make regarding how we raise our kids is for the benefit of them when they get older. If they learn good habits now it will be easier for them when they are adults bc it’s already something they automatically know how to do without it seeming like a huge hurdle which will allow them to use that effort to do things that will allow them to excel in life in all areas. RESPECTFULLY, we have made our decision and ask that we not re-visit this topic again.
Like I tell my 3 year old, throwing a tantrum is not going to change my mind. Same concept with other adults….being pushy/bullying me into a certain decision is not gonna change my mind. I have had a situation where my husband and I got pushback on a a couple of decisions we made regarding our kids and they don’t bring it up anymore. Now in hindsight, they know that we made the right decision. And as a matter-of-fact, just yesterday my MIL said she’s so glad we made a certain decision.
So good to see solo and Sarah together in a video again 🥰.
For the 3rd Kimberly with in-laws questioning their parenting decisions: Is there something specific that your husband wishes his parents would have taught him before he was an adult? I've found that it helps to gently point out that we are trying to teach our children the things that we wish we had known before we were alone and clueless. If that doesn't work and they won't leave it be, it is always OK to limit your time spent with them. 🤷♀️
I have watched you guy's for a long time.
I look forward to you videos!
You're such positive people, it makes me feel better.
Love from Michigan ❤️
“Failure is part of the journey.” Amen!