@@OurTribeofMany Thank you so much! Wow! Didn't expect this! God is Good. You and Solo have no idea how much your words meant to me. Just a confirmation of what the Holy Spirit has been telling me for years!! 🥲🥲🥲
My MIL said I shouldn’t be making my boys do housework. My dear husband replied to her that he wanted them to learn a work ethic and how to do housework from their Mom, not their wife like I had to. She couldn’t argue with that.
Wooo!! 🥳🥳 👏🏼👏🏼 good man right there! Love that he stood beside you against his mother. Especially when it came to your parenting with YOUR children, not hers. And also, he made a great point. I am a woman but growing up, my mom did all the housework. And I still suck at it lol. So I completely get what he means! My parents were good parents but they definitely slacked on the life skills teachings. I'm 31 and still get nervous having to do certain things in the world cuz I was never taught how to.
I told hubby that our son will know how to look after himself, without relying on a woman. He's now in his mid20's and, while still living at home, is happy to look after himself for several weeks while his dad and I travel. I told hubby that no woman wants to marry and train a domestic cripple. (housework wise, not referring to physical disability)
My mom originally said the same thing - but she changed her mind when I told her that my kids whether boy or girl will learn to do housework, wash their own laundry, iron if need be (or go wrinkled), sew and mend, and plan and prepare all kinds of foods/meals. At the same time not only my son will (and did) learn all that, but I also maintained that my kids will also learn to change tires, do plugs and points (yes, this was definitely BEFORE "the modern times"), mow lawns, fill a gas tank, change oil and all the so-called "manly" things. My kids when grown may CHOOSE to have someone else do those things for them, but it won't be because they won't know how.
Times change so I can understand your mother in law however these days it's more the norm for boys/men to take part in housework and cooking especially if both parents are working or like Sarah and Solo with a larger family. It's great to teach all children to work as a team because it will teach them skills for when they enter the workforce. Your husband is a good man for letting his mum know that his family works differently. 😊
Hi --- This is a suggestion for Samantha. Before going to a church with your daughter, get permission to stay with her in her children's gathering/class. After attending with her for a few weeks, you might feel more at ease for her and for yourself. In time, you may feel comfortable enough to leave her class and attend the adult meetings. If you or your daughter need to meet with church leaders, have someone you trust go with you. Don't be afraid to share that you are an abuse victim, and you have trust issues. If that church won't respect your wishes, keep looking until you find a church where you can feel peace. Praying for you!
Samantha, my initial thought was does your daughter have a friend who goes, and that’s why she’s asking? Using the above parameters and Solo and Sarah’s advise, maybe visit. I thought the same thing they said, God is using your daughter to push you. Healing is hard, forgiveness is harder. But we have to do uncomfortable things to grow. I will pray for you and your family, Congratulations on ALL you have overcome and accomplished! You’re amazing!
Hi. I have trust issues in the church as well. I was not personally abused, but a sibling (by a trusted neighbor at age 8, not on the church) even so, I have major trust issues when it comes to my children. Before we attend a new church I meet with the children's minister, make sure they have good policies in place that they actually follow ( not just on paper). However, it's important to remember that no amount of safety protocols will ensure 100% safety. So it's important to talk to your child about appropriate touch, talking, etc. With my 4 kiddos I have used God Made All Of Me to talk about safe touch. We talk about it all the time in my house, as well as pornography (the books Not If, But When and Good Pictures, Bad Pictures). Just my two cents :)
Excellent advice. And do not be afraid to talk to the members about the pastor you will very quickly hear how he is viewed. For a good man people naturally will tell you so.
30:25 I loved sharing a room with my older sister when we were younger. Even once my dad finished the basement and my brother moved downstairs and I had my own room, me and my sister had “sleepovers” in one another’s room almost every single night lol.
Totally agree with you on the phone usage! We have 11 children, and all the way down to our 3 years old, we have to watch them on all of this! When we decided to start doing UA-cam, and I started working as an influencer on all these platforms, we had to lay down some strict rules. It's a complex daily discussion, but it's worth the effort! Just saw Sound Freedom, and these people look for your children on the internet daily; we need to protect our kids. You both are amazing! I love your Q and A videos! Sending love from Wisconsin!
I need advice/suggestions - my daughter and grandson live with me. He is 10... almost 11. She bought him a phone and while she had parental controls in place, I disagree with him having one Aside from not letting him on the phone when I am his caretaker, any other suggestions?
As soon as my kids started public school I immediately made myself their scape goat. They could use me as their excuse for anything and everything. If someone asked them to have a sleepover (a huge NO in our family) all they had to do was say, my mom says I’m not allowed. My mom says I can’t watch that movie. My mom says I can’t have a phone.
Maybe an outside church, like a revival. I had a lot of issues from preachers and pastors who hurt me physically, and spiritually. But that woman who felt it too soon to return church. Revivals help those who are triggered by brick and mortar, try a revival. Just my throats.
I was the same way with my children and now they are 22 & 20 and both very responsible adults work full time and just bought their first house together. My kids never wanted to stay the night anywhere. I never pursued them. They didn’t get a phone until they were much older and were responsible for a phone I had rules that they couldn’t have social media it was only for emergency to get ahold of me when they needed me. My daughter was 17 when she got her first phone my son was 18.
Yep! Mama of six and I remember all of those phone calls preceding by a text saying “mom, I’m gonna call you, just say no” I love that my children used me to protect themselves and honor their convictions
Just a note for Solo. God definitely blessed you with the ability to counsel…your response to the child abuse survivor was well thought out, sensitive, and helpful for this lady. May bless this lady and continue to help her heal. May God bless you and your family and church.
Noelle's face peaking through the blinds brought a smile to my face. I remember watching a vlog years ago that took place over Christmas. I remember Noelle being unhappy when the family sang "the First Noelle". The birth of Christ, we share the same name! What a beautiful reminder of our Saviour. Your family has been a blessing to me, when my own complicated family has ellicited pain. I love my family and I'm thankful for a Godly family like yours being a light in the world for all to see the goodness of God. Hallelujah!
I could listen to Solo all day. What wisdom you both share. I will be praying for the young mother who experienced such horror. You are loved and worthy to find peace. 🙏
My 2 sisters and I shared a room. In fact we 3 shared one bed. We had such a good time. Many many nights we would hear Dad saying "girls! Stop that giggling and go to sleep!" 😊
Wow! Great advice to all the people out there! My husband is listening with me & keeps saying ‘I like this guy!’ ‘I really like what he says & believes!’ Thank you for both of you sharing today! Blessings! 🤗🤗
I love all the wise counsel. Pastor Solo such a blessing seeing and hearing . I could hear divine counsel. So nice. Also I was thinking what is Peace eating she was really enjoying it. This is a unique channel and it ministers healing to me in so many ways.
I was the oldest of 7 children. My parents made our home open to our friends. My parents were very strict and had a plan how they wanted us to be raised. In order for their rules to be implemented. They had a plan. In this process our friends could play with us at our home and very seldom could we visit their homes. My parents had to know their parents or have met our friends parents. After, that they would determine if we could visit our friends at their home. Later, I found out that most of our friends like coming to our home because there were games played and food always presents. I do not know how my parents could afford same, but when it comes to your children and their up bringing you make adjustments. I raised my kids the same . I am glad I did I knew where they were and whom they were with.
Also, I love "Be the parent you want to be"- Solo. 😊 T Being able to just be ok that your family is different from other families is so important, and people in your life need to not be threatened just by the fsct that you made a different decision than they did. Even Grandma and Grandpa. My oldest has her first baby, and I am very firm about this even with her. It is OK that she makes different decisions than I did! It helps a lot to tell my kods early and often that we do things differently sometimes than other families, other families do things differently than us, and that's ok.
I was abused by a catholic priest for 5.5 years, starting at age 6. Over 200 times. The hardest part was my mother still made me go to church even after she found out(the priest had died before I told). It was so traumatic to be forced to keep going. What has helped me as an adult was sitting at the back of the church in case I needed to leave. Also, my kids and husband know and are compassionate about it. I have days that are much easier to go and others where just the site of a white collar or the smell of frankincense will cause a panic. There are support groups for those abused by clergy. I am sending great big survivor hugs and letting you know that you’re not alone! Of everything the person took from me, the one that hurt the most was my ability to trust GOD. I very badly want to.. sometimes I get close but then recoil! I struggle with it even at 48. Give yourself grace and allow yourself to take baby steps. GOD doesn’t care if you go into a building to LOVE him.
Big hugs! It is sad that so many people go through this that there would be enough for support groups. But reading through the comments I am quickly finding out that there are lots of us. I'm sorry you went through that.
I'm so sorry to hear this. If you ever get to the point where you are ready to contact the Catholic Church, I encourage you to do so. My old diocese had a priest who was a pedophile years ago. A few years ago they were working to make amends and help the victims. Now there is a lot of education for everyone working in the Church to help keep kids safe.
Not taking anything away from Sarah, but Solo has so much insight and really communicates his beliefs and wisdom so accurately. You two are so inspirational. I have followed you for a long time now and never miss a video. Cheers from Australia!!
Thank you for the sweet words you stopped....to impart with Samantha. It does sound like a gentle nudging to look at healing...praying God clearly opens the door to the place you will find it❤
I have enjoyed watching your family for several years. I have been a widow for 7 yrs and you have blessed me. Solo seems so kind hearted and patient. Gods spirit is so evident in your lives. I have no family and my kitty hears Sara's voice and comes and lays right beside me while I watch.
Sarah I'm 74 and I just Love watching your channel. I respect you and Solo parenting as I agree with you. There are so many board games that kids can play instead of being on a phone seeing things that demented adults put out there. We used to fix a big bowl of popcorn sit in the kitchen and play cards with friends over. Throughout my life I've had many challenges and still do today. I've had many test that God has put me through. I feel because of the hard times it has made me a better person for myself. Don't let the past rob you of life that God's grace has given you. I truly enjoyed this and thank you.
I am a black 69 years I love this family I have four grown children you both are amazing parents and wear your hair the way you want to thank so many for the amazing different dishes God bless you both much respect
Wow! Thank you guys so much for speaking out about healthy boundaries!! So important for parents to enforce them and protect their kids from the horrible influence out there that can impress on their minds. It is so much worse these days and all our kids need parents to not be pushovers in this. Thank you guys for giving food for thought on this and it's awesome how much you guys care for your own kids❤ Much love and prayers ~ Sarah
Sara. I am Catholic and I get great peace from this final prayer from Divine Mercy Chaplet. Please tell the lady abused by her father. Eternal God, in whom mercy is endless and the treasury of compassion inexhaustible, look kindly upon us and increase your mercy in us, that in difficult moments we might not despair nor become despondent, but with great confidence submit ourselves to your holy will, which is Love and Mercy itself. Amen. Thanks Marianne
Amen 🙏 fellow Catholic here!! I love the Divine Mercy Chaplet I especially love it set to music and play it on my phone every day while I shower !! It is a very healing prayer 🙏
I have also just thought of another prayer that was suggested to me by a wonderful priest many years ago it was a “Healing Prayer at Bedtime “ That would be another suggestion to the lady who had suffered abuse 🙏
16:30 I couldn't hold in my laughter !!!! Love the Kimberly theme 😍 😂❤ so funny hahahhahaha Sarah, such a great video, so educational. I love it! I'm 29 years old I have 1 kid and 5 Mos pregnant and I absolutely love all the advice you give! I've used.many tips and tricks you do! God bless ❤❤❤
Wow you guys have inspired me.. I've carried a heavy heart with trauma from childhood and more into adulthood.. I've had 1 heart attack and am currently on the way to heart disease.. but something just clicked in my head and heart to let go of all that. Time to focus on my health and let go.. I'm 58... ❤
Where were you guys 15yrs ago when I was struggling with my in-laws undermining all of my husband and I’s decisions??? 😅😅 This was awesome advice. I am more rooted in my parenting now, thank God. This was very helpful content.❤
This was so interesting to me . I’m 61, mom to boys in their 20s one still at home. Married but husband and I have found we have growing apart /have different interests as we and the children got older. My parents both passed my mom 6 years ago and I was extremely close with her and still miss her a lot. Would love a chat with her! I used to go to Sunday school as a child , my mom always had belief and prayed . My husband is a total non believer but I have found more and more over last few years that I am drawn more to my thoughts and beliefs. I would like to go to church but don’t know where to go to if I have the confidence to go alone. Thank you for being voices of reason and friendship via your channel, it is appreciated. Xx
Your parenting messages are right on. I had to limit my kids viewing of movies when they were younger and friends didn't have the same limits. The best text i've ever received is my adult daughter to me, "thanks mom for not letting us watch (such and such movie), I just watched it as a pre-view for your grandkids, and you were right!" Solo, your heartfelt message to Samantha was beautiful. Thank you both for your messages today.
In one answer a subscriber said that they had nothing in common with you other than faith but I want you to know that we enjoy watching you and your family, primarily because we can see you are kind people trying to always do the right person. My husband and I have no faith and no children, but your tolerance or others beliefs and life styles impress us and you look as full as joy.
Thank you for these Q&A videos! I tell you phones and devices lately are the bane of my existence lately.. the pressure is strong and my kids don’t understand why all their cousins ages 8 and up have phones etc. we don’t give our teens phones until they are driving and working , and over 16. It’s hard to be tough in this area for sure
I am blown a away by hearing such great questions from people around the world. Hearing your responses from the both of you. My heart goes out to the young lady who was abused by her step father who was hiding behind being a pastor. Hearing your answers and seeing the faith you have and your thoughts on raising your children is wonderful. I raised my children to do chores, and values and was never questioned by my parents on why I did this or why they are doing dishes. My mother taught my daughter to do housework, make beds and so forth. As a single dad who raised both his children, having my parents there to help me train my children was amazing. I agree with your parenting style, and I love that you are a spirit filled church. God’s Grace be with you both, and pray your home sales soon
We really like these Tuesday talks, especially when Solo is included! We like your parenting style even though our kids are 39 and up. But we have grandkids who we try to spend a lot of time with.
Thanks for the Q and A Sarah and Solo! I am single but I enjoy watching your channel. I came from a family of five children, we also had struggles, my Dad usually always worked 2 jobs.❤🎉😊
Hello again family! Sure enjoyed our visit! Solo is a good question partner. Y'all really have some great advice for us! Hope you'll have a great day! Love from SC!
Pastoring 101, so awesome you guys! Keep up the good work may the good Lord continue to bless your family and give you a a good counsel spirit to continue ministering those in need.
Sara and Solo, what a beautiful episode, your answers to all of the questions posed to you today were so informative, not only for the people who we were asking, but for us listeners also, I truly enjoy and look forward to your videos. May God continue to bless and keep you all, and keep those videos coming. I also enjoy your mom and papa's videos too ❤
About the storage container situation , you can paint them green to blend in with the land and trees and you can grow things over them like vines for grapes and kiwis etc they don’t have to stick out like a sore thumb !
Love Sarah and Solo segments!! Yall are very wise and have so much advice that could benefit so many. Even if there's no advice, just hearing you two together and experiences you've been thru, just seeing how you complete each other so well is beautiful and really brings me joy. 💜💚
This is an interesting video. Its almost like a group meeting where folks discuss their life situations. With yall giving Glory to God for His Help & Work in ur lives. It is really cute that yall are having this discussion on ur front porch. In days past the front porch was often a place of visiting & discussing topics
I just wanted to say thank you for starting this segment where you take the time to answer specific questions as I'm sure there is definitely someone out there other than the person asking who can benefit. Thank you for the ministry your channel provides
My kids are now 15&17, I had a lot of my own family dislike the way I parented them. I never lost sight of what kind of parent I wanted to be and NEVER backed down. Now my family cannot say enough about how respectful they are. Definitely be the parent you want to be
Sarah and Solo I really enjoyed the video today . So many good questions and answers . Solo you and Sarah make such a great team . ...and the answers you give are very helpful . Prayers for all the people that reach out to get help know matter what they are going through ❤❤❤
very good sharing with us!! both of you spoke clearly and "suggestions" were right on. hope you will do it again soon...this is something we need to hear. thank you
Love your videos, Sarah. Thank you for sharing your family’s adventures with us. You certainly seem to be in a very, very busy time of life right now. Cheers to you for somehow managing it all.
I totally agree with you both on monitoring the kids on social media nd phones , it's so scary what they can see on line these day . I love how strong you both are in regards to what you want for ur children xxxxxx
I reviewed the comments a bit (not all 300+!) and I don’t want to minimize the heart-wrenching stories, but I want to comment on the rainwater collection suggestion. I know you will do all the research in time, but when I got a rain barrel connected to my gutters I was told that the water could only be used for irrigation because of the chemicals present in the roofing material that the water passes over. Just suggesting that you look into that…you might have a roofing option that would be okay. I am a recently retired teacher, and have been watching your channel for a few years now and love it! I also watch your dad’s channel, and love it as well. Thank you for all your beautiful, inspirational videos. You are a blessing in my life, and so many others.
Thanks so much for the advice on phones and other children. We struggle with this with our 6 year old. We do not let him have a phone, free video games, etc. However, we have family members who do not have the same standards. It is a struggle!
These Q's and A's r so interesting and u always give great advice. Even tho I'm a great gma for the first time, i can always use some good advice. The world has changed a lot as u know. Thank u for having a wonderful channel. U two r pretty funny together!!
Another helpful advice with Samantha, is working with a therapist to help you with walking inside a church first for yourself to feel safe. It took me a long time to get back into church after being accused of picketing and literally being thrown up against the wall, choked by our pastor in front of kids and many adults. This was over 20 years ago in my teenage years. Working with my therapist at that time really really helped me.
I like ir advice on the tiktok or phn situation. I'm 50+ and my kids downloaded it onto my phn couple yrs back and as an adult I can tell u no child shld be on it, I got so put off with content I got rid of it almost 2 yrs ago and have tried to encourage my adult kids to get rid of it too but they have to make their own choices now. Wish I had this advice whn they were growing up
To add to the first ladies question( Kimberly) I’d love to learn about each special need, how you cope, what you wish the public knew about each child’s needs, talk about the up times, the down times, what encourages you. There is SO much I’d love to know about children w/ special needs! ALSO, wow! I’d LOVE to know about your husband’s country! Compare contrasts w/ U.S., & specific ways we can help you! I think you could do a several part deep dive on each subject! That’s just my outlook on it & my opinion, but I think your channel would grow quickly with information about your interesting & your journey! Kimberly, I hope you see this & I’ll check back for your channel’s name! I have a feeling your channel will quickly grow! 😊 God bless! 💜🕊️
I really enjoy seeing you as a couple. You have such a wonderful balance between you. A compliment of one another. Solo is very wise his take on things is always interesting because its a way i usually havent thought of things before.
Samantha, I'm so happy you came forward to ask Sarah and Solo's perspective. Praying the Lord is using this time in your life to draw you closer to Him. Praying for you.
Sarah and Solo you both were wonderful together answering questions Children see to many things on I agree with you both God bless you all 🙏🏻✝️☮️🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🌹❤️💜💐💚🍀💕🌺💙
I laughed out loud when Solo mentioned people expect to see ugly “vintage” things on a farm😂. Very true for our farm and my parent’s farm- more animals, more mess. Love your videos!!
I was also abused at a church, by someone that works there... Its very hard to even walk into a church, I have to know that there are so many in the church though that are great kind people :) thank you.
Wow that is crazy. We block that stuff on our internet. Our kid has Certain amount of screen time too on her phone. And , she’s 14. But it’s so important to protect them as much as possible ❤❤
While not all of this applied to me directly, Solo’s words and the Spirit was powerfully felt as he shared. ❤❤❤ Edit: I’ve gone to church alone before, and it is hard, especially if your new to the area. I remember praying so hard the next wk that I would be needed. Needless to say, a new member waved me over to sit with them in the main mtg. Then for SS, her child was being too active and it was hard for them to listen, so I helped out and went with the child to his age class. At first, he didn’t want to go with me, a stranger. But the Spirit whispered, you have primary peanuts! (In my purse, just peanuts), these were peanuts that I could only give a few at a time while in primary! 😂. It worked! He’s 18 yrs old now, and still calls them, primary peanuts! It was just what I needed. God knew. ❤
I found Kimberly’s channel! It is: Motivation with Kimberly! (The exclamation point is in the channel name.)
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Thanks....here is the link. www.youtube.com/@reeseincorporated
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@@OurTribeofMany Thank you so much! Wow! Didn't expect this! God is Good. You and Solo have no idea how much your words meant to me. Just a confirmation of what the Holy Spirit has been telling me for years!! 🥲🥲🥲
My MIL said I shouldn’t be making my boys do housework. My dear husband replied to her that he wanted them to learn a work ethic and how to do housework from their Mom, not their wife like I had to. She couldn’t argue with that.
Wooo!! 🥳🥳 👏🏼👏🏼 good man right there! Love that he stood beside you against his mother. Especially when it came to your parenting with YOUR children, not hers. And also, he made a great point. I am a woman but growing up, my mom did all the housework. And I still suck at it lol. So I completely get what he means! My parents were good parents but they definitely slacked on the life skills teachings. I'm 31 and still get nervous having to do certain things in the world cuz I was never taught how to.
I told hubby that our son will know how to look after himself, without relying on a woman. He's now in his mid20's and, while still living at home, is happy to look after himself for several weeks while his dad and I travel. I told hubby that no woman wants to marry and train a domestic cripple. (housework wise, not referring to physical disability)
My mom originally said the same thing - but she changed her mind when I told her that my kids whether boy or girl will learn to do housework, wash their own laundry, iron if need be (or go wrinkled), sew and mend, and plan and prepare all kinds of foods/meals. At the same time not only my son will (and did) learn all that, but I also maintained that my kids will also learn to change tires, do plugs and points (yes, this was definitely BEFORE "the modern times"), mow lawns, fill a gas tank, change oil and all the so-called "manly" things. My kids when grown may CHOOSE to have someone else do those things for them, but it won't be because they won't know how.
Times change so I can understand your mother in law however these days it's more the norm for boys/men to take part in housework and cooking especially if both parents are working or like Sarah and Solo with a larger family. It's great to teach all children to work as a team because it will teach them skills for when they enter the workforce. Your husband is a good man for letting his mum know that his family works differently. 😊
@@helenkoenig3876You are a great Mum preparing your children for when they are adults.
I love when Solo graces us with his presence! He has so many good things to say, just like Sarah!
Hi --- This is a suggestion for Samantha. Before going to a church with your daughter, get permission to stay with her in her children's gathering/class. After attending with her for a few weeks, you might feel more at ease for her and for yourself. In time, you may feel comfortable enough to leave her class and attend the adult meetings. If you or your daughter need to meet with church leaders, have someone you trust go with you. Don't be afraid to share that you are an abuse victim, and you have trust issues. If that church won't respect your wishes, keep looking until you find a church where you can feel peace. Praying for you!
I was also thinking that just joining a women's group (mom's group, Bible study) at first might help her feel more comfortable in the church.
Great advice! Prayers for her!!
Samantha, my initial thought was does your daughter have a friend who goes, and that’s why she’s asking? Using the above parameters and Solo and Sarah’s advise, maybe visit. I thought the same thing they said, God is using your daughter to push you. Healing is hard, forgiveness is harder. But we have to do uncomfortable things to grow. I will pray for you and your family, Congratulations on ALL you have overcome and accomplished! You’re amazing!
Hi. I have trust issues in the church as well. I was not personally abused, but a sibling (by a trusted neighbor at age 8, not on the church) even so, I have major trust issues when it comes to my children. Before we attend a new church I meet with the children's minister, make sure they have good policies in place that they actually follow ( not just on paper). However, it's important to remember that no amount of safety protocols will ensure 100% safety. So it's important to talk to your child about appropriate touch, talking, etc. With my 4 kiddos I have used God Made All Of Me to talk about safe touch. We talk about it all the time in my house, as well as pornography (the books Not If, But When and Good Pictures, Bad Pictures). Just my two cents :)
Excellent advice. And do not be afraid to talk to the members about the pastor you will very quickly hear how he is viewed. For a good man people naturally will tell you so.
Im impressed with tbe respect you and solo have for each other, and your kindness
That is so true- you don’t get to see the end at the beginning 😀
Love it when Solo is on. He is so gentle and wise, he makes me feel safe.
He seems like he can talk anyone out of doing something unGodly with his gentle, understanding and forgiving tone.
I love how you multi task…you just kept recording while holding Peace,the cat and the dog. Your family is my favorite…!
30:25 I loved sharing a room with my older sister when we were younger. Even once my dad finished the basement and my brother moved downstairs and I had my own room, me and my sister had “sleepovers” in one another’s room almost every single night lol.
Peek a boo, I see you! I cracked up with the kids peeking out the blinds behind you. You both gave such exceptional advice to the questions asked.
Totally agree with you on the phone usage! We have 11 children, and all the way down to our 3 years old, we have to watch them on all of this! When we decided to start doing UA-cam, and I started working as an influencer on all these platforms, we had to lay down some strict rules. It's a complex daily discussion, but it's worth the effort! Just saw Sound Freedom, and these people look for your children on the internet daily; we need to protect our kids. You both are amazing! I love your Q and A videos! Sending love from Wisconsin!
I need advice/suggestions - my daughter and grandson live with me. He is 10... almost 11. She bought him a phone and while she had parental controls in place, I disagree with him having one
Aside from not letting him on the phone when I am his caretaker, any other suggestions?
Leave it alone. You’re not his parent. Aside from that, pour yourself into him. Activities with you when possible may distract him from the phone.
@@kristinscomments641 - thanks. That is what I've been doing...
As soon as my kids started public school I immediately made myself their scape goat. They could use me as their excuse for anything and everything. If someone asked them to have a sleepover (a huge NO in our family) all they had to do was say, my mom says I’m not allowed. My mom says I can’t watch that movie. My mom says I can’t have a phone.
Maybe an outside church, like a revival. I had a lot of issues from preachers and pastors who hurt me physically, and spiritually. But that woman who felt it too soon to return church. Revivals help those who are triggered by brick and mortar, try a revival. Just my throats.
I was the same way with my children and now they are 22 & 20 and both very responsible adults work full time and just bought their first house together. My kids never wanted to stay the night anywhere. I never pursued them. They didn’t get a phone until they were much older and were responsible for a phone I had rules that they couldn’t have social media it was only for emergency to get ahold of me when they needed me. My daughter was 17 when she got her first phone my son was 18.
I also let my kids use me as a scapegoat to not have to do the things I didn't want them to do that would hinder their walk.
Yep! Mama of six and I remember all of those phone calls preceding by a text saying “mom, I’m gonna call you, just say no” I love that my children used me to protect themselves and honor their convictions
@@eliza_kai I definitely got those calls and texts as well. Happy to do it.
Just a note for Solo. God definitely blessed you with the ability to counsel…your response to the child abuse survivor was well thought out, sensitive, and helpful for this lady. May bless this lady and continue to help her heal. May God bless you and your family and church.
Thank you for your videos. Peace is busy, cute and expressive little girl.
The Sarah & Solo Q&A is so good. ❤
Noelle's face peaking through the blinds brought a smile to my face. I remember watching a vlog years ago that took place over Christmas. I remember Noelle being unhappy when the family sang "the First Noelle". The birth of Christ, we share the same name! What a beautiful reminder of our Saviour. Your family has been a blessing to me, when my own complicated family has ellicited pain. I love my family and I'm thankful for a Godly family like yours being a light in the world for all to see the goodness of God. Hallelujah!
I could listen to Solo all day. What wisdom you both share. I will be praying for the young mother who experienced such horror. You are loved and worthy to find peace. 🙏
My 2 sisters and I shared a room. In fact we 3 shared one bed. We had such a good time. Many many nights we would hear Dad saying "girls! Stop that giggling and go to sleep!" 😊
My childhood exactly! ❤️
My sister and I would swing over to each other’s beds during the night via the door, because there’s a crocodile on the carpet!!!! ❤😂
Wow! Great advice to all the people out there! My husband is listening with me & keeps saying ‘I like this guy!’ ‘I really like what he says & believes!’ Thank you for both of you sharing today! Blessings! 🤗🤗
Thank you for covering some not so easy topics. Problems need to be talked about, and you gave great advice.
The love you're giving to that kitten is so sweet and the kitten is adorable.
I love all the wise counsel. Pastor Solo such a blessing seeing and hearing . I could hear divine counsel. So nice. Also
I was thinking what is Peace eating she was really enjoying it. This is a unique channel and it ministers healing to me in so many ways.
I was the oldest of 7 children. My parents made our home open to our friends. My parents were very strict and had a plan how they wanted us to be raised. In order for their rules to be implemented. They had a plan. In this process our friends could play with us at our home and very seldom could we visit their homes. My parents had to know their parents or have met our friends parents. After, that they would determine if we could visit our friends at their home. Later, I found out that most of our friends like coming to our home because there were games played and food always presents. I do not know how my parents could afford same, but when it comes to your children and their up bringing you make adjustments. I raised my kids the same . I am glad I did I knew where they were and whom they were with.
A plan is important!! We talk about that in our book....Common Sense Parenting.
I raised my children the same way!
I loved this video! Truly appreciate that you and Solo answered the questions authentically and didn’t shy away from the topics!
Also, I love "Be the parent you want to be"- Solo. 😊 T
Being able to just be ok that your family is different from other families is so important, and people in your life need to not be threatened just by the fsct that you made a different decision than they did. Even Grandma and Grandpa. My oldest has her first baby, and I am very firm about this even with her. It is OK that she makes different decisions than I did! It helps a lot to tell my kods early and often that we do things differently sometimes than other families, other families do things differently than us, and that's ok.
I agree but homeschooling sure makes that easier because the children arn’t as exposed.
They should put that quote on merch lol
I was abused by a catholic priest for 5.5 years, starting at age 6. Over 200 times. The hardest part was my mother still made me go to church even after she found out(the priest had died before I told). It was so traumatic to be forced to keep going.
What has helped me as an adult was sitting at the back of the church in case I needed to leave. Also, my kids and husband know and are compassionate about it. I have days that are much easier to go and others where just the site of a white collar or the smell of frankincense will cause a panic. There are support groups for those abused by clergy. I am sending great big survivor hugs and letting you know that you’re not alone! Of everything the person took from me, the one that hurt the most was my ability to trust GOD. I very badly want to.. sometimes I get close but then recoil! I struggle with it even at 48.
Give yourself grace and allow yourself to take baby steps. GOD doesn’t care if you go into a building to LOVE him.
Big hugs! It is sad that so many people go through this that there would be enough for support groups. But reading through the comments I am quickly finding out that there are lots of us. I'm sorry you went through that.
I'm so sorry to hear this. If you ever get to the point where you are ready to contact the Catholic Church, I encourage you to do so. My old diocese had a priest who was a pedophile years ago. A few years ago they were working to make amends and help the victims. Now there is a lot of education for everyone working in the Church to help keep kids safe.
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Not taking anything away from Sarah, but Solo has so much insight and really communicates his beliefs and wisdom so accurately. You two are so inspirational. I have followed you for a long time now and never miss a video. Cheers from Australia!!
Thank you Sarah and Solo! God bless your family!
Thank you for the sweet words you stopped....to impart with Samantha. It does sound like a gentle nudging to look at healing...praying God clearly opens the door to the place you will find it❤
I have enjoyed watching your family for several years. I have been a widow for 7 yrs and you have blessed me. Solo seems so kind hearted and patient. Gods spirit is so evident in your lives. I have no family and my kitty hears Sara's voice and comes and lays right beside me while I watch.
Sarah I'm 74 and I just Love watching your channel. I respect you and Solo parenting as I agree with you. There are so many board games that kids can play instead of being on a phone seeing things that demented adults put out there. We used to fix a big bowl of popcorn sit in the kitchen and play cards with friends over. Throughout my life I've had many challenges and still do today. I've had many test that God has put me through. I feel because of the hard times it has made me a better person for myself. Don't let the past rob you of life that God's grace has given you. I truly enjoyed this and thank you.
I am a black 69 years I love this family I have four grown children you both are amazing parents and wear your hair the way you want to thank so many for the amazing different dishes God bless you both much respect
Me too I am 64 15:42
Just now watching this video, but at the end Peace eating her snack is my spirit animal 🤣 the nomnom noises and everything hahaha
Wow! Thank you guys so much for speaking out about healthy boundaries!! So important for parents to enforce them and protect their kids from the horrible influence out there that can impress on their minds. It is so much worse these days and all our kids need parents to not be pushovers in this. Thank you guys for giving food for thought on this and it's awesome how much you guys care for your own kids❤ Much love and prayers ~ Sarah
Sara. I am Catholic and I get great peace from this final prayer from Divine Mercy Chaplet. Please tell the lady abused by her father. Eternal God, in whom mercy is endless and the treasury of compassion inexhaustible, look kindly upon us and increase your mercy in us, that in difficult moments we might not despair nor become despondent, but with great confidence submit ourselves to your holy will, which is Love and Mercy itself. Amen. Thanks Marianne
Amen 🙏 fellow Catholic here!! I love the Divine Mercy Chaplet I especially love it set to music and play it on my phone every day while I shower !! It is a very healing prayer 🙏
I have also just thought of another prayer that was suggested to me by a wonderful priest many years ago it was a “Healing Prayer at Bedtime “
That would be another suggestion to the lady who had suffered abuse 🙏
Excellent, excellent, excellent as usual! So much amazing godly wisdom and so personal and real too! Excellent! Thank you both! 👏🏾👏🏾🙏🏾
16:30 I couldn't hold in my laughter !!!! Love the Kimberly theme 😍 😂❤ so funny hahahhahaha Sarah, such a great video, so educational. I love it! I'm 29 years old I have 1 kid and 5 Mos pregnant and I absolutely love all the advice you give! I've used.many tips and tricks you do! God bless ❤❤❤
Excellent! Thank you Solo and Sarah.
Wow you guys have inspired me.. I've carried a heavy heart with trauma from childhood and more into adulthood.. I've had 1 heart attack and am currently on the way to heart disease.. but something just clicked in my head and heart to let go of all that. Time to focus on my health and let go.. I'm 58... ❤
Amen! We had a whole sermon this week 🥰
Where were you guys 15yrs ago when I was struggling with my in-laws undermining all of my husband and I’s decisions??? 😅😅 This was awesome advice. I am more rooted in my parenting now, thank God. This was very helpful content.❤
Such wisdom from both of you. Blessing prayed for Samantha. ❤
This was so interesting to me . I’m 61, mom to boys in their 20s one still at home. Married but husband and I have found we have growing apart /have different interests as we and the children got older. My parents both passed my mom 6 years ago and I was extremely close with her and still miss her a lot. Would love a chat with her! I used to go to Sunday school as a child , my mom always had belief and prayed .
My husband is a total non believer but I have found more and more over last few years that I am drawn more to my thoughts and beliefs. I would like to go to church but don’t know where to go to if I have the confidence to go alone. Thank you for being voices of reason and friendship via your channel, it is appreciated. Xx
Hahha I was so focused on what Solo was saying I never realized when the Cat was switched out with Nessa... 😂😂😂😂😂
Your parenting messages are right on. I had to limit my kids viewing of movies when they were younger and friends didn't have the same limits. The best text i've ever received is my adult daughter to me, "thanks mom for not letting us watch (such and such movie), I just watched it as a pre-view for your grandkids, and you were right!" Solo, your heartfelt message to Samantha was beautiful. Thank you both for your messages today.
In one answer a subscriber said that they had nothing in common with you other than faith but I want you to know that we enjoy watching you and your family, primarily because we can see you are kind people trying to always do the right person. My husband and I have no faith and no children, but your tolerance or others beliefs and life styles impress us and you look as full as joy.
Thank you for these Q&A videos! I tell you phones and devices lately are the bane of my existence lately.. the pressure is strong and my kids don’t understand why all their cousins ages 8 and up have phones etc. we don’t give our teens phones until they are driving and working , and over 16. It’s hard to be tough in this area for sure
I am blown a away by hearing such great questions from people around the world. Hearing your responses from the both of you. My heart goes out to the young lady who was abused by her step father who was hiding behind being a pastor. Hearing your answers and seeing the faith you have and your thoughts on raising your children is wonderful. I raised my children to do chores, and values and was never questioned by my parents on why I did this or why they are doing dishes. My mother taught my daughter to do housework, make beds and so forth. As a single dad who raised both his children, having my parents there to help me train my children was amazing. I agree with your parenting style, and I love that you are a spirit filled church. God’s Grace be with you both, and pray your home sales soon
🎉🎉🎉🎉 CONGRATULATIONS SAMANTHA 🎉🎉🎉🎉
Great video guys.......love it all! Excited for all the newness happening on your place!
God bless!
We really like these Tuesday talks, especially when Solo is included! We like your parenting style even though our kids are 39 and up. But we have grandkids who we try to spend a lot of time with.
Thanks for the Q and A Sarah and Solo! I am single but I enjoy watching your channel. I came from a family of five children, we also had struggles, my Dad usually always worked 2 jobs.❤🎉😊
You both remind me of my parents and how I was raised. Very thankful for them.
Such a great answer to the phone/socialmedia question!
Both you and Solo speak with so much wisdom Sarah. This video was a pleasure to watch. Thank you
Hello again family! Sure enjoyed our visit! Solo is a good question partner. Y'all really have some great advice for us! Hope you'll have a great day! Love from SC!
I just returned from Kenya and it was the most beautiful,moving experience!!!
Pastoring 101, so awesome you guys! Keep up the good work may the good Lord continue to bless your family and give you a a good counsel spirit to continue ministering those in need.
Sara and Solo, what a beautiful episode, your answers to all of the questions posed to you today were so informative, not only for the people who we were asking, but for us listeners also, I truly enjoy and look forward to your videos. May God continue to bless and keep you all, and keep those videos coming. I also enjoy your mom and papa's videos too ❤
I love these question and answer sessions.. thank you
About the storage container situation , you can paint them green to blend in with the land and trees and you can grow things over them like vines for grapes and kiwis etc they don’t have to stick out like a sore thumb !
Praise the Lord for Samantha! Won’t our God do it!!
Sarah & solo I so appreciate your guidance and wisdom on all of these topics!
Love Sarah and Solo segments!! Yall are very wise and have so much advice that could benefit so many. Even if there's no advice, just hearing you two together and experiences you've been thru, just seeing how you complete each other so well is beautiful and really brings me joy. 💜💚
This is an interesting video. Its almost like a group meeting where folks discuss their life situations. With yall giving Glory to God for His Help & Work in ur lives. It is really cute that yall are having this discussion on ur front porch. In days past the front porch was often a place of visiting & discussing topics
I just wanted to say thank you for starting this segment where you take the time to answer specific questions as I'm sure there is definitely someone out there other than the person asking who can benefit. Thank you for the ministry your channel provides
Oh, Sarah & Solo, I appreciate so very much all the Godly advice you give to those asking questions. May God richly bless your family.
My kids are now 15&17, I had a lot of my own family dislike the way I parented them. I never lost sight of what kind of parent I wanted to be and NEVER backed down. Now my family cannot say enough about how respectful they are.
Definitely be the parent you want to be
Great, great words to Samantha!! Way to go as well on 11yrs of recovery! That is amazing!! Love from family in Christ, in Indiana!! ❤❤❤
I love this series. I always love your perspective on different things. As well as hearing Solos take on things. You are always real and honest.
Sarah and Solo I really enjoyed the video today . So many good questions and answers . Solo you and Sarah make such a great team . ...and the answers you give are very helpful . Prayers for all the people that reach out to get help know matter what they are going through ❤❤❤
Your chats are excellent. Great questions, again. Your answers, very thoughtful. Lots of moving parts and you smiled all the way through. Great vlog.
very good sharing with us!! both of you spoke clearly and "suggestions" were right on. hope you will do it again soon...this is something we need to hear. thank you
Oh wow tears flowing from Samantha’s story. Prayers for Christ’s love to cover you
“Failure is part of the journey”…. True story 😊
Love your videos, Sarah. Thank you for sharing your family’s adventures with us. You certainly seem to be in a very, very busy time of life right now. Cheers to you for somehow managing it all.
Good morning, love these question and answer sessions!! ❤
I totally agree with you both on monitoring the kids on social media nd phones , it's so scary what they can see on line these day . I love how strong you both are in regards to what you want for ur children xxxxxx
God is working through you both. Keep up the great work
I reviewed the comments a bit (not all 300+!) and I don’t want to minimize the heart-wrenching stories, but I want to comment on the rainwater collection suggestion. I know you will do all the research in time, but when I got a rain barrel connected to my gutters I was told that the water could only be used for irrigation because of the chemicals present in the roofing material that the water passes over. Just suggesting that you look into that…you might have a roofing option that would be okay.
I am a recently retired teacher, and have been watching your channel for a few years now and love it! I also watch your dad’s channel, and love it as well. Thank you for all your beautiful, inspirational videos. You are a blessing in my life, and so many others.
Thanks so much for the advice on phones and other children. We struggle with this with our 6 year old. We do not let him have a phone, free video games, etc. However, we have family members who do not have the same standards. It is a struggle!
I noticed solos shirt. Kings kid village. I read a wonderfu! Book called kings kids many years ago
I love the wisdom Solo has
These Q's and A's r so interesting and u always give great advice. Even tho I'm a great gma for the first time, i can always use some good advice. The world has changed a lot as u know. Thank u for having a wonderful channel. U two r pretty funny together!!
Another helpful advice with Samantha, is working with a therapist to help you with walking inside a church first for yourself to feel safe. It took me a long time to get back into church after being accused of picketing and literally being thrown up against the wall, choked by our pastor in front of kids and many adults. This was over 20 years ago in my teenage years. Working with my therapist at that time really really helped me.
I like ir advice on the tiktok or phn situation. I'm 50+ and my kids downloaded it onto my phn couple yrs back and as an adult I can tell u no child shld be on it, I got so put off with content I got rid of it almost 2 yrs ago and have tried to encourage my adult kids to get rid of it too but they have to make their own choices now. Wish I had this advice whn they were growing up
Agree.
I just cd not cope with Facebook as well and I left
To add to the first ladies question( Kimberly) I’d love to learn about each special need, how you cope, what you wish the public knew about each child’s needs, talk about the up times, the down times, what encourages you. There is SO much I’d love to know about children w/ special needs!
ALSO, wow! I’d LOVE to know about your husband’s country! Compare contrasts w/ U.S., & specific ways we can help you! I think you could do a several part deep dive on each subject! That’s just my outlook on it & my opinion, but I think your channel would grow quickly with information about your interesting & your journey!
Kimberly, I hope you see this & I’ll check back for your channel’s name! I have a feeling your channel will quickly grow! 😊
God bless! 💜🕊️
Same thoughts here
Same 💕🙏🏻
yes,,, i wish she had share your channel with us...
I really enjoy seeing you as a couple. You have such a wonderful balance between you. A compliment of one another. Solo is very wise his take on things is always interesting because its a way i usually havent thought of things before.
18:46 Go Samantha!!! 11 years is AMAZING!!!!
Love seeing Solo doing Q&A with you good questions and good answers and advice 🤗☀️🍀🙏💞
Samantha, I'm so happy you came forward to ask Sarah and Solo's perspective. Praying the Lord is using this time in your life to draw you closer to Him. Praying for you.
Sarah and Solo you both were wonderful together answering questions Children see to many things on I agree with you both God bless you all 🙏🏻✝️☮️🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🌹❤️💜💐💚🍀💕🌺💙
Hello Tribe of Many!
Was that Noel peeking through the blinds?
She's a girl after my own heart.
I love how she makes her appearance. So cute!!!!
You guys are the bomb!!!!!! Thank you for being you and all you do for others
Awww cute baby Peace!! Love her little cute face, Great video Sarah and Solo! Great advice!
I laughed out loud when Solo mentioned people expect to see ugly “vintage” things on a farm😂. Very true for our farm and my parent’s farm- more animals, more mess. Love your videos!!
Good morning watching before thrifting. God bless your sweet growing family.
I was also abused at a church, by someone that works there... Its very hard to even walk into a church, I have to know that there are so many in the church though that are great kind people :) thank you.
I have watched you guy's for a long time.
I look forward to you videos!
You're such positive people, it makes me feel better.
Love from Michigan ❤️
Wow that is crazy. We block that stuff on our internet. Our kid has Certain amount of screen time too on her phone. And , she’s 14. But it’s so important to protect them as much as possible ❤❤
Love your answers. Enjoyed the questions. ❤
While not all of this applied to me directly, Solo’s words and the Spirit was powerfully felt as he shared. ❤❤❤
Edit: I’ve gone to church alone before, and it is hard, especially if your new to the area. I remember praying so hard the next wk that I would be needed. Needless to say, a new member waved me over to sit with them in the main mtg. Then for SS, her child was being too active and it was hard for them to listen, so I helped out and went with the child to his age class. At first, he didn’t want to go with me, a stranger. But the Spirit whispered, you have primary peanuts! (In my purse, just peanuts), these were peanuts that I could only give a few at a time while in primary! 😂. It worked! He’s 18 yrs old now, and still calls them, primary peanuts! It was just what I needed. God knew. ❤