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About the internet and pornography issue: The Good And The Beautiful has a really good unit on maturation. The unit has a section on pornography, and why we should stay away from it. The videos talk about how pornography is just helping sex trafficking, it has interviews from people who were formerly addicted to porn where they tell how having a porn addiction has affected their lives, and they talk about how they got out of the addiction. The videos were really eye opening even for me as an adult. They are done in a really thoughtful way. We thought the whole unit was very well done.
I just bought this and will be diving into some parts of it this summer with my daughter (Just the parts appropriate for a younger child). It's a great resource for revisiting as topics need to be addressed. My plan is to use this over the course of the next few years, and I have seen nothing but high praise about how The Good and the Beautiful address these topics!
@@yellowroses8736 That's exactly what we have done. We have done it piece by piece for the appropriate ages. The videos were especially eye opening.
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I feel like from porn to other kids you're able to control the world your kids live in. Because of the number of the things I. The world you condemn I wonder why do you continue to have kids In a 🌎 so bad you really can't let your kids live in it unsupervised for more than 5 minutes safely?
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As a '90s baby I am so glad I had a normal childhood before electronics came into our household.
YOU control what comes into your household.
@@bethlewis9981 I think she was referring to it coming into her household as a teen... when her parents got the internet and none of us knew what was going on!
Wow Sarah and Solo, this really hit home for me. I am a mother to a 8 yr old girl and a 6 yr old boy and they have known electronics for a long time. It started with me giving them my cell phone as toddlers to “quiet” them down or to keep them occupied while I grocery shopped. It then graduated to my husband and I buying them tablets to help them learn their numbers, colors, etc. I always monitored what programs that was on their tablets until march of 2020. All of a sudden I’m working from home with a toddler and a kindergartner…oh and my husband who broke his hip on a electric skateboard…but that’s a story for a different day 🙄Suddenly, things were chaotic at home BUT there wasn't anywhere else to go! So, I did give my kids their tablets for an unlimited time because I had meetings to attend, trainings, and reports to submit to court. My kids quickly became addicted to their tablets and their behaviors changed They cried and screamed when we would take the tablets away, they were wired at night. Then my 7 year old daughter begins chatting with other players from games and trying to explain to her the reasons why she couldn’t text other players when all she wanted to do was make friends...it had to stop. So, more than 8 months ago my husband and I took the tablets away from our children. It was difficult at first but after 2 weeks our kids stopped asking for their tablets. We've noticed that they interact better with each other and they are more creative with drawing, coloring, and imaginative play! We now monitor UA-cam content they watch as well because not everything on UA-cam is kid friendly!
I love the advice and thank you both for all you share! Tell my nieces and nephews hi from LA! ❤🙏🏾
Wow....thanks so much for sharing your story!
excellent
We had a horrible situation when our grandaughter at 14 was scammed and manipulated by someone on internet. We are dealing with the consequences years later. I hope parents will really listen to you!🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
You are so right. Many parents wouldn't dream of letting their child go alone to the park, but will readily allow them to enter into the world wide web, unmonitored.
I’m 23 been watching you guys for years. I don’t have children yet but this is an example of how I want to parent when I have children in the future ❤
I wish MORE parents thought this way ..I thought I was the only one who was this aware
Sara I so love what you just said “we are trying to raise adults”. So many times I have watch people who have children that just forget that at some point their children will be considered adults in the real world and the real world will treat them that way whether they are ready or not. You two are doing a good job of raising responsible
, caring, loving, people and that is not an easy thing to do.
I just love your husband he’s so sensible and intelligent on things in life . There’s a knowledgeable sense about him. I can’t explain it.But anyway I like to hear him speak.
Its The Holy spirt In him
@@sharonatl yes I just never thought of that It makes sense😇
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I agree . Solo is clearly a wise man. I always appreciate his perspective .
Kindest Husband and Dad...adorable couple
I love that you guys home school and allow the children to explore beyond media.
I’m soon to be 63.
I love children but my childhood wasn’t the best and I knew at a very young age that having a child was not for me.
I have 4 brothers.
I have lots of nieces and nephews and 7 great nieces and my life is abundant with Joy and fulfilled as far as having children in my life!
I also helped raise my husband’s 2 children, who are now in their 40’s!
It seems it is such a difficult time with all of the internet and electronic games!
We had TV and a pool table, many friends and my dad bought us a pong game!
You two are wonderful parents and you have beautiful and kind children! Be Proud 🙏🏻🕊✝️🌸♥️
Well said! As a teacher of 7th and 8th graders for over 30 years, I've seen a LOT of issues arise just because parents are NOT aware of what their child is really involved in. Teaching the "WHY" is so very important. Thank you for sharing this. Continued prayers! ❤️🙏❤️
Thanks for sharing!!
Sarah, I know you’re a busy mama. BUT, if you started a parenting discussion series with advice and challenges, etc. I WOULD SO LOVE THAT!!!!!!!!! I have 3 boys and I admire your boys so much, I strive to raise such kind souls like you!!!
Don't forget to buy her book
Good idea ❤🎉
I'm a 66 year old Grandma and I would like to watch this channel for my grandbabies. Then I would tell my Son and Daughter about this channel.
My firstborn is 6 months old. I am just soaking up every moment before she learns what the internet is... 🤣
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She doesn't have to learn until she is much older.
My friend daughter grankid age 2 got tablet for Xmas she sits in buggy and gots to bed with it x
@@ASmith-jn7kf yes, thankfully! I stay home the majority of the day, so I get total control of what she sees. I know most parents don't get that opportunity. We are very blessed.
My granddaughter who is 3 and has already asked for a phone.
You guys do SO well at really making your audience feel like they are a part of a conversation with you rather than just reading a script. Also, I adore how you each watch the other speak. Very endearing. ❤️
I love how protective (and rightfully so!) you two are with all your children, and their friends. My husband and I raised 3 boys. Our theory was always, in protecting their eyes, ears, and minds, we are also protecting their hearts. It’s our job and PRIVILEGE to protect them, and raise them to be the people God has called them to be. Kudos to you Solo and Sarah! I applaud you both. You are in our prayers as you strive to continue to protect their hearts, and their future. God bless you both!
Nothing has shown us the need to govern ourselves more than the internet has. You can put all kinds of perimeters for others, but the heart is still bent toward evil. So thanks for the great content, guiding the innocent, and also helping kids learn to make good personal choices. -Sharon
I 100% agree. Parenting with the internet has been the absolute hardest thing for me.
Keep talking! Not enough people are discussing this issue in this way. Sooo important! 🎉
This is all so important! Thank you for speaking to it on this platform. I think there are parents who don’t even realize what they’re exposing their children to in this world, because it’s just the norm, and just need to learn. We don’t know what we don’t know! So thank you for using your voice!
You guys nailed it. Biggest challenge for educators, too.
I was in a counseling program for a month where phones were a no for the first two weeks, then not allowed during class times or in the building after that. It was such an eye opening time. It was like suddenly the world came alive in full color and sound again. Like the device fuzzed everything out a little because my brain was so used to being subconsciously connected to something else going on somewhere else. It was so crazy to stop and really notice how many people were looking down all the time. How many people would be out together but never talked to each other. How dependant I felt on the distraction every time I needed to wait for something. It was so surreal. But, having gone back to regular life, it's so easy to get sucked back in, even knowing what I know...
I don’t have kids but I highly recommend other parents watch this video and take notes. I love you you both parent. Your children are well rounded individuals, happy ,loved etc. bravo to you both❤
agreed
I've been watching you guys for about 3 years now. Every video. I have to say I enjoy every one, but this is the BEST yet. You are amazing people and even better parents. Thank you!!!! Common sense & true love for your children. Wish the whole world was like this!
Bless you both 🙏🏼! I’ve always loved your channel and both of you individually but this video has blown me away. You are incredible parents to your beautiful children, and it is abundantly clear with everything that you share, that your family is focused on love and unity in the forefront. I have a whole new found respect for you both because everything you said should be considered by EVERY parent on earth. The internet and smart devices should never be a method to keep a child silent but unfortunately the internet and devices are taking over everything that made my childhood what it was; playing with the neighbors kids, playing in the yard, making up fun plays/shows/dances and playing Barbie’s in the dirt haha! This message is so incredible important! Thank you for being incredible human beings. I love you both and your incredible family! ♥️
I love what you said about how the Lord will show parents what they need to be aware of. After raising our four children, who are adults with kids of their own, this truth was so powerful, as the Lord would enlighten me to areas of concern, and then He would provide divine grace and mercy to show how to lovingly guide them.
Good morning to both of you! It is nice to see more of Solo. You pair so well! Bless your family!🥰
This is so timely for me as my six year old autistic daughter is becoming more interested in devices . As a young teen I experienced the images and bullying from school peers that I should have had no access to ! In that time our parents had no idea what we were accessing . I really admire you both as loving dedicated parents. ❤
Y'all give me hope for the future of our children! We limited screen and cell use when our children were young and today they are thoughtful, creative, compassionate humans who value human connection over electronics. I continue to admire your commitment to your family ❤️
Great advice! My MIL has a neighbor who had their 14 year old granddaughter spend the night. They live in a small town and another neighbor heard a car door and she looked out the window and saw a man parked in their alley. She didn't recognize the person and watched him walk to the back of her neighbor's house and saw him enter a side window. She immediately called the police thinking she was stopping a burglary. What was happening was that the granddaughter had been talking with this "boy" and had let him in the window when her grandparents were asleep. This "boy" was in fact 32 years old and had driven several hours to meet this young lady. So not only are you protecting your children but others!! Who knows what would have happened if the police weren't called immediately. Many blessings to you and your family!!!
Thank you both for your love for family and Christ. I will be sharing this video with my 13-year-old grandson that God has so graciously given me the honor of loving and raising him. Thank you for following your hearts on what God led you to share.
God bless you for raising him!
Us 80’s kids grew up without it! 😁 My husband and I wrote letters during college. It can be done. ❤️ Great message guys!
Us 80's kids lived the best life ( in my opinion LOL!!)
I agree. 80s was a great time to grow up. I appreciate my childhood now more than ever. Except for the fact that most of our parents were of the boomer generation which comes with a slew of issues in itself. Either way I'll take it over the internet generation. I feel so sorry for them.
Books, library, walks and talks!
I agree with you! It is so important to monitor internet use with your kids. Also, you hit the nail on the head with commercials. Even young children’s shows have inappropriate commercials! Great video.
Thank you for raising awareness and practical tips on this very important topic! About a decade ago I was staying with a bunch of teenagers for a friend who was out of town (including exchange students). I remember feeling very uneasy about all of them on the internet in their bedrooms with the doors closed. I was down stairs, silently panicking, wondering how I could protect them and I couldn't think of good solution in my position and I felt awful!
I agree when I worked at Sam's club part time i saw to many adults coming thru the line and they were hooked to their phones. I would see kids trying for parents attention that the parents were hooked to the phone. I wanted to shout put the phone down people pay attention to the little ones that are striving for your attention.
My oldest son is a protective soul. He makes sure that I have protective settings on my internet accounts. I have him check things out before I do things because he will help keep me safe. I was very protective of my children as they grew up and they are very protective of me as well. When my boys were growing up we had flip phones that didn't have any options but to make a phone call. It is challenging for parents to monitor what is available currently. Thanks for discussing this challenging topic.
Fantastic conversation thank you. As a grandmother of 13 ranging in ages from 2 years old to 24 I am aware of the interaction children and young adults have with the internet. My oldest son has a rule in his house where at 7pm his childrens phones and lap tops are placed in a certain place.
On the other hand, my youngest daughter has struggles with her youngest ( 12 years old ) playing on line game called Fortnight so much so that it started to effect his schooling. Fortunately she has that under control.
Sarah you and your husband really have my utmost respect. I love watching your videos. Thank you so much.
I agree the digital world is scary. I love your parenting style I've learned so much to use with my grandsons!!
Great! Great! Great!!! All parents should watch this and take this wonderful wisdom and advice. Thank you Solo and Sarah.
Solo & Sara ... each time I listen to you both share about your life, raising your beautiful children, I realize how much Godly wisdom you have in these challenging areas of life. It is a blessing to hear folks like you both sharing such practical, wise tools, ideas & boundaries to deal with the Internet. I too grew up in the days before computers, cell phones & electronics ... how much I realize now that my childhood was a gift of innocence, imagination & outdoor play with neighborhood friends! Your tips & wisdom help so many who are bombarded with these helpful, but often addictive tool ... electronics! I truly love & respect you both ... and your great children! God bless you all from your Internet friend in Southern Calif! (I do see the blessing of seeing you on UA-cam!!)
Hello Our Tribe of Many, good to see you both. Love watching your videos. My Aunty use to love flip phone, but she have changed to Samsung phone. Before time we do not have television up on the Island in the Torres Strait, living with my grandparents. We go gardening and bring back chopped wood to start a fire to cook our cooking for the evening. Well for me it was a hardship for my grandparents, but I’ve learned so much from them and I’m proud of myself and been telling her my story about how I grow up. But I will stop talking about myself and how are you both and also your family.🌺🌈🦋💖❤️😊😘 Take care and stay safe and God Bless all 🙏🏻Lots of love and hugs from Edith in cairns Queensland Australia 🇦🇺 Cheers!!!!
Absolutely. I wish others would think about this.
More parents should be doing this !
As a parent.
Love is unconditional. You feel it first from your children. Then have to remember to reciprocate
I agree not letting your children not be on the internet or social media, parenting helps in the home while they are under your care but prayer will be needed as they become adults and leave your home because we can all honestly say we now as adults we were taught things in our home but the world unfortunately provides enticements that curiosity trumps values sometimes, so I do what is necessary in the beginning and when and if they pull away they will have the foundation to I PRAY come back, but we may experience a prodigal child whether we want to or not
My husband's youngest sister said the other day she does not want to have kids and he was a little up set about that declaration but when I reminded him the climate of the country we live in is today and she might not want to bring children into an uncertain world
Kids have lived in much more uncertain times.
Agreed!!
I'm 65
Where is my landline!
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All times are uncertain because no one can predict the future
I actually think this is one of the best times to raise a child. I maybe wrong. But I'm today's society everything is at a arms length.
If not the internet, there would be a different struggles. I feel you have the right approach. Teach through the struggles, cause they will always be there. Great vid
My husband doesn't know how to use any device, smart phone, tablet or computer and doesn't want to learn. He asks me to look up things for him. So many commercials have sexual content. It seems as if so many children have no filters. Your children are well behaved and seem so well adjusted. You are doing a great job.
If you live in a different country from your family like I do and like Solo does...then you probably think that the internet is a blessing in spite of all its dangers.💯
Sarah you and Solo are such good parents , and a good example for those with children , love your dad's book it's so helpful with guidance,. Thank you for being you and sharing this valuable information ❣️ love to The Tribe Of Many 💕🥰😘💖🌲🌲🌲🧚🕊️💐❤️
This is all so true.So many parents have given there parenting over to electronics .It takes a lot of hard work and time to parent the way you should without handing over a electronic.Sadly the parents can’t get away from the electronics to parent the children.Great video .
I absolutely love listening to you both. You're both so wise ❤
This video is something that all parents can learn from. Good job! When I started the video my adult daughter asked what I was watching. I turned up the volume and she said u guys are so good together. Definitely two people who respect each other's view . You opened up a conversation on our home. God bless you and your family!!
I have followed your channel for years. I have seen every video.
This video is so right. Every point was right on.
My teens also have Gabb phones.
Thank you for taking the time to teach parents some wisdom.
Thanks for watching for so long!
I love how you addressed the 2 different videos you watched about complete opposite opinions that both sounded legit. I often get conflicted when it comes to looking things up on the internet through youtube..especially when it comes to fittness and food!!! Love your family and morals.
Love your family! So with you on this subject. And it's a challenge for sure and you all use common sense which is severely lacking today. Children need to learn about the internet as it's our future and they need to be introduced in stages to keep them kids and not turn them into mini adults too soon. I didn't have internet when I grew up and turned out just fine. And I only have one TV and no computer or internet. I do have a cell phone, but it's old and no longer supported, however it's all I need, as I never shop or bank on line (long story, won't bore everyone with the details), and I function just fine! Gives me lots to time to spend with the pets, hobbies and spending time outside tending to my plants, reading, cooking and baking for my bubble buddy and co-worker groups. And not stuck to a computer and enjoy being in the present. Thanks for sharing! 💖
Parenting is never passive. We Were very intentional with our childrens access to the internet and rules regarding social media. Thier peers had freedom. As little ones they had books games etc. As children they still had imaginative play. Now in thierearly20s they are great young people who can hold meaningful conversation with any age group.are active in life and service to others and can put thier phones away with zero problems. None of this held them back or made them less socially aware or unable to navigate a tech led world
PLEASE KEEP GOING ON AND ON… I’m learning here!!!!! 🙋♀️🙋♀️
Thank you for this conversation! This is a great conversation on protecting and teaching our children.
My favorite thought is our children on the internet is like leaving them in a park on their own. We would never do that.
Good morning, thank you for your encouragement and advice on this topic. We’ve had a 3 yr battle over cell phone, apps, and internet with our oldest. I’ve learned consistency, accountability, and communication are KEY!! We used all the things to block and you are spot on”Where there’s a will there’s a way!” A lot of things in also learning is an issue of the heart so this mamas prayer life has definitely gotten stronger❤️ Than you again for sharing your life with us on here. You are a weekly encouragement to me❤️
Thanks for watching!
Oh wow I did the same with my children regarding the password for school pick up. I was just talking about it yesterday. They're grown now with their own families
I'm so happy you made this! Just the other day I was thinking about asking you guys about this ☺️
As a child, the internet was never an issue, as it wasn’t created yet. One thing you hit on was the password, and I still remember my password that my mom created for us as children. I am 53, and that lure of “Your parent was hurt, and sent me to pick you up, was a very real threat at that time, even by known people to that child and the parents.” I still to this day have never told anyone our password. My mom has now gone to live with our Lord, but this is such a great tip, that needs to be highlighted. Someone who knows your child could be a predator, and your child needs to be taught, that every single adult, including the ones they think they can trust have to be asked what the password is.
Gabb phone is really an awesome tool.
I wasn't informed about this option. Thank you guys!!!👍
I totally agree with this! We have 3 children. Our oldest is 18 and our youngest are 6 and 2. When our oldest was little we didn't have so many devices around. With our two younger children it seems like most of the children their age are device experts already. We do not let our little ones have devices. We as parents do not use devices on a regular basis. Our oldest has a cell phone in case he has an accident or break down. We do monitor everything they see even with our 18 year old. We try to teach them about internet safety. It is a lot harder with the younger ones it seems to maintain their innocence... I think I would go back to no internet. I know there are many benefits to the internet, but I feel the bad things out weigh the good. Just my opinion. I would love to see a parenting series on here... Thanks so much for the content you are producing.
I remember loving the library. It was my key to the rest of the world. I poured over the encyclopedia - from A to Z. That was my life & I loved it.
NON-internet for me, but then again, I’m in my 70’s. When I hear that my granddaughter’s teacher suggests she “look it up on the Internet” I really fear for the young generation in school. Is that the teacher being lazy, or is he teaching them to find out information for themselves - just as I used the library when I was at school. She is nearly 13 but needs a phone to ask which parent, or me, is picking her up from school each day. Other than using it for that - I would throw it in the garbage !
@@minkgin3370 I, too, am in my 70's and have the same fears. Scary.
Sarah, I am so glad that you mentioned the example that even children who have been sheltered their entire lives from certain things, as adults they can still fall prey to certain influences.
I think the best thing to take away from this is that, this is how your family has structured your rules for how you guys feel is best for raising your children, according to your lifestyle.
For us who have children who have been subjected to "the real world", because we have no other choice but to send them to public schools, have our own challenges. It's HARD to parent children who have a variety of uncontrollable influences, but can be manageable. My big thing with my kids has always been communication, communication, communication! Open dialog I have felt has been key with raising my children. An example I have is with my daughter when she was younger, and a few of her friends were allowed 2 piece bathing suits to go swimming. I personally didn't feel that a 2 piece was appropriate for a young girl. We had discussed why (she was 8) and because I answered her honestly why I felt the way I did, and answered her questions, it wasn't an issue with her. It opened up the issue of modesty and having respect for your body, without making her feel shamed or the peer pressure to fit in with the crowd. She's now 21 and still has that mindset that she doesn't need to wear more revealing, trendy clothes to fit in with her peers. Nor does she dress like a puritan lol.
At the end of the day, we just all need to raise our children to be the best possible humans they can be. By giving them the tools to live good lives, is the best thing we can do for our kids.
This was a such a fantastic video. I love the park analogy as well as the idea of a central space for viewing technology.
"It's a web!" - Hahahaha! Class.
I think your children have great imaginations. Kudos to y’all
I remember years ago in the early days of the internet , our dog was not well and my daughter typed into the search engine sick puppy , I cannot tell you the horrors that were on that web page ! So it’s absolutely imperative to stand beside them in order to turn that stuff off immediately ! Xx
Woah....internet translation can be so different than what we meant to ask!!!
Oh, Sarah! I would absolutely say no internet. It makes me sound like an old lady, and I'm only in my 40's, but I grew up without internet and have done just fine. I have 4 adult kids and we were very intentional about limiting their internet use and we actively had family time, encouraged reading and had actual conversations! None of them had TV's in their bedrooms and when they finally got phones at around age 15, they had to bring them to our bedroom and were monitored by day. Three of them have a very balanced relationship with the internet and have handled it very well. One will be 21 this month and she is NOT balanced. We knew she had the tendency to lean hard to one side or the other, so we spent a lot of time talking to her and trying to teach her self control and the importance of balance, which is something we've always done with this particular child. She actually got a phone even later than her siblings because, as parents, we know our kids! After getting the phone, we knew we needed to set up ALL of the protections possible in order to help her. Now, at almost 21, she is addicted or pretty close to, addicted to social media. It makes me sad because she can barely hold intelligent conversations and we have to tell her to put her phone away when we are all together and talking. But, she's an adult so the best we can do is pray and continue to talk to her as we feel led. Parenting/counseling/consulting adult children can be tricky to say the least!
I loved this.. needed this.. I've been making the changes with the electronics in my house.. I have 3 toddlers and I have just started to realize .. this is not safe
I really appreciate all of the content you guys put out. It's so refreshing to see other people hold the same beliefs as my family. Its easy to feel like society is going completely down hill these days. I have to remind myself daily that God is always winning.
No internet
If there wasn't the internet we wouldn't have been able to meet you and your family. The internet can be used for good and bad. Just like the news. They report on shootings and then you hear of more. Solo I keep thinking of the time you went on the missionary trip and sat next to the guy name Hans. Y'all find so much joy in life.
I absolutely agree with everything you both said. I am overprotective over my daughter, my husband thinks it's too much sometimes, but I'm glad that I am this way due to all of these dangers and what it all can do to a child down the road. I do have your book also. Thank you so much again for your wisdom, you're both so amazing and very inspiring, God Bless.
I always love hearing your take on parenting issues. My boys are now 14,17,19 and 22. I am pretty close to the same age as you guys. And it’s nice to have another parenting perspective and get some ideas on handling things.
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This is such a topic that gets brought up daily in our house. specifically surrounding getting an iphone. he's 15 and has a gabb phone so he can talk and text but no picture sharing and internet. He also has a bunch of blockers on his laptop. he just doesn't understand the dangers. and we are trying to protect him by all the "junk" as long as we can
So glad you are discussing it though.
I am like Sarah. I would like to go back to no internet. I know I do enjoy watching your videos on the internet because your values are what I grew up with. But I also limit my time and what I watch. You all are a blessing to your viewers.
I’m parent of three adult children they all are educated and working to continue their education. I agree I believe in reading books,board games with interaction of subjects they don’t know about and the beginning of a open discussion as children. So, I agree with you on this topic.
Sarah and family have a great week have fun thanks from Oklahoma
I would recommend this video to anyone raising children. You are setting your children on a path to be discerning and mentally healthy. Plus you are so right about how long it takes a child’s brain to reach maturity. By regulating internet and social media your allowing their brain to mature before they are overwhelmed. I see many children and young adults with high anxiety and depression, which I believe is acerbated by the internet and social media. The human brain needs more downtime than just thinking, we don’t need to be entertained 24/7. Chill out people!
This is brilliant. Alas our children are even older than the 2 of you and we didn't have this to worry about so much. It has been my grandchildren who have suffered because we didn't understand how much damage could be done. Our country would be a very different place if we had all known. Breaks my heart.
Yes it would!
Thank you for this video! I love this format of video and hope you do more! I raised 2 son's with these rules. I put a timer on any screen use. Then they had computers for school. I did make the rule computers only in the living room where they had their homework station. I thought I was doing all the right things. My older son learned very quickly from other kids at school how to bypass the "parental screen" that was supposed to keep you from accessing sites other than the school's program.. I am bringing this up so other parents know this is possible.
I should have spent more time working and talking about why to stay out of the general internet. It all turned out okay but we did have some serious challenges as a result that we were able to walk through.
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Thank you, thank you, thank you for safeguarding your children. I know there are a lot of parents who protect their children from the bad stuff on the internet as well, but there are a lot of parents who do not think about the dangers of the internet. Keep up the good work. Your children depend on it.
I can honestly say that growing up with 6 kids in the house and only one tv with rabbit ears that we only got one channel from we spent the majority of our days outside. (playing with sticks probably 90% of the time. Haha!) . But it had advantages in that we learned to be creative, problem solvers, creators, builders; we rode horses, swam, fished, ice skated, rode bikes. All of those things can be just as fun if not more than sitting in front of electronics. Since we lived in the country we only had each other to play with and had to learn how to get along with each other (communication skills, sharing, compromise, etc)
I do love a good movie and TV show (and UA-cam). It is very convenient and much safer to have a phone that you can carry around with you (not one that is attached to the wall or plugged into the wall). Schoolwork would have been so much easier. Information is right at your fingertips and not found in volumes of the Britannica! I also have some games I play on my phone but if I had to do it all over again, I'd choose no electronics any day (or maybe split it in some way)
We have the same exact philosophy as you. We'll said. I've definitely considered getting rid of Internet and going old school (we didn't have a TV for 9 years) but I feel like it would be better to teach them how to use it wisely and to prepare them for being on their own and having to navigate it themselves.
One word of wisdom that I received from the Holy Spirit that has renewed me in the spirit of my mind is to be led and not driven.
Our world teaches us to be driven to make your goals happen and your dreams come true, but God's ways are higher than our ways and His thoughts are higher than our thoughts. Those who are led by the Spirit of God, they are the children of God. ❤️
If I had to choose, I would probably choose NO INTERNET. However, knowing that it is not going anywhere anytime soon, I think the whole world needs to develop a mindset similar to yours! Our kids need us!
I would rather have a world WITHOUT internet! We survived in the 80's with real books and land line phones.
Thank you for this! You are absolutely spot on.🙏❤
Solo thinking about the horror of communication that you guys could have had during your courtship without the internet 😂😂😂😂😂 almost gave him a panic attack
This is a great conversation. Our household is a no tv household cause mindless tv watching and commercials are a no. My kids do have iPads. My 7yr old loves her educational apps. All apps need to be approved. We don’t do Roblox or Minecraft or any web games. I think many people gloss over the idea of these games being infiltrated by randos etc.
I enjoy y'all's videos. ❤️ Unashamedly following & worshipping the Lord.
My dad is the flip phone, no internet guy!! My husband and I both say we are so grateful the internet was not easily accessed when our children were little. They did not get a phone with internet connection until they were seniors in high school. We did not have to compete with computers when they were younger. Parenting is hard, but the rewards are many!!
Thank you guys!🙂❤
It's OK Solo..preach it!