I lost my sister to cancer in november (she was 30) and she and I joked about all the terrible cancer memes right to the end. I give this video 9 saline-flushed IVs out of 10 pre-warmed hospital blankets.
Sending you warmth as you navigate the loss of your sister, why couldn’t someone without a sense of humour take her place, I could’ve sent a list of contenders. All the best 💔
When my mum was dying of cancer, a friend constantly told me "if she stays positive and prays, she will survive". I told them that she literally couldn't survive as the cancer had taken over her entire body, yet they persisted saying "she can fight it, she's strong and god loves her". This went on for some time, and I was very polite until I just snapped and screamed that she was f**king dying! Now she had emotional strength! She fought off cancer twice (whilst also suffering from MS) before it finally got her. Cancer survivors have my total respect because they've endured horrific, painful treatment and come out the other side, but those who die are just as strong! It kills indiscriminately and religion ain't got nothing to do with it.
I'm so sorry to hear that. As a former Christian I apologize on behalf of all of "us". (Though I NEVER would have told someone that. Hell, I never even believed it even THEN). My deepest sympathies.
I am so sorry you had to experience that. Religion makes some people very out of touch and ignorant. Not every painful situation warrants a response that is religious, mentioning God and prayer doesn’t automatically make a response empathetic. I hope you are doing well 💚
Yeah, I know a family who just lost their two year old daughter to brain cancer. The mom has been very incessant during the entire ordeal that those religious wishes do more harm than good. It made her feel like “what kind of God would do this to a baby? How is a BABY gods strongest soldier and why would he give a BABY his hardest battle???” And it just made her angry. Not everyone has a faith and I wish people remembered that in times like these
I never had cancer but I was put on chemo for lupus nephritis when I was a kid. It was a low dose but I went bald twice, so that was fun. Also I grew up in an evangelical cult and it really sucked to come home alive at 13 and then have people tell me that I owe my future to the church cuz god and all their prayers saved me
Shit like this is why I hate religion so damn much. I'm happy you showed your lupus nephritis the finger and got through it, and simultaneously so sorry to hear that you had to deal with that kind of people afterwards...
ah, growing up with autoimmune diseases in an evangelical bubble. idk how many times I was told I was being tested by God, or how God was giving me a battle because I was strong, or how I just needed to be more faithful and pray more and I'd be healed.
@@Leah-yu5gd I would resist the temptation of shouting at everyones face "woww must be shitty being you and not be loved by God like i am! Clearly he doesn't love you or he wouldve given you sickness, but he did not because you're weak and he knows that! Good luck going to hell then!" but... yeah maybe not...
my grandma literally told her doctor, “you know i really appreciate all you guys did but more than anyone I thank god. he’s the one who really healed me.” tbh if i was a doctor i’d just 💀💀💀 WHAT
There's a line in A Raisin in the Sun where one of the characters says she's sick of people giving God credit for the hard work of real people (and her grandma literally slaps her for saying it smh) and it's so true. Imagine someone pushing you out the way of a truck saving your life and instead of thanking them just saying to their face that you believe God is who really saved them.
@@SuzER08 omg yes! I remember reading that in my ap literature class and I was so pissed off when her grandma slapped her. this religious girl in my class was cheering the grandma on and gave a speech about how god is more important than doctors because sky daddy gave them the ability to be a doctor in the first place so that’s why he gets credit and my professor was just like ._. no that’s not how that works
i've lost a lot of loved ones to cancer, so it's always been a really touchy subject for me. so seeing someone not only survive it, but also talk and joke openly about it has really helped me, even if i can't really put it into words. so uh.. thanks for that /gen
My mom is Episcopalian. She taught me that prayer can’t be used to change fate. Otherwise, God would’ve clearly done so for everyone who prays, and the world would be perfect. She taught me that prayer was more like meditation, that you should ask God for answers to internal struggles, or ask Him to help you find peace. I’m not religious, but I really respect how my mom taught me about faith.
That’s how I’ve always felt about it, as a non-churchgoing Christian and rather unenthused with the faith, prayer is just taking a moment to collect your thoughts and talk directly to god about them. But the way people teach it to kids and the way they seem to perpetuate prayer in movies always makes it seem like it’s putting in a help desk ticket to god to get him to fix your shit 😭 💀 babes it’s not
I learned early on (as a Christian) that you can pray for something but God will not always say yes. Just because you ask him for something doesn't mean it'll happen or you'll get it. I dont understand why He does these things, why He lets people die like this, but we're not supposed to understand ig lol
i told my mom the cancer joke you made from Jesus TikTok where you said "you really think god gave me brain cancer to get closer to me" or something like that and she laughed her ass off she struggled with ovarian cancer but she's also in remission it was really nice that made her laugh because she never laughs about it and it was refreshing y'know
My cousin used my brain cancer as an excuse to dye her hair. Her and I were never close or even friendly to each other and my family acted like she cured my cancer with a cheap box dye. I appreciate the kindness people gave me during chemo but some of it was so fucking cheesy it made me feel awful about myself like I was a mascot or something.
@@devonkelly44 That's the dumbest shit I've ever heard in my life. Lol. I say the person either gets the balls to fully shave their head along with the person going through chemo or don't do shit, lmao.
my boyfriend had cancer and he said once that us making like a million Walter white jokes helped him more than any of his family doing group prayers for him at the hospital
When I was 13, I was diagnosed with endometriosis, which is when the tissues and lining that should be inside of if your uterus are growing outside of it. I was a member of a nondenominational church at the time, and I, being a devout Christian, when to my reverend for advice. She didn’t believe me because, quote, “most of the time, only women who’ve had children get it, so I’m sure you’re fine!” This was after I told her I 100% had it, as diagnosed by an OBGYN. Skip two years down the line, and at age 15, I was diagnosed with ovarian cancer. It was horrible. I felt so sick and drained, all the time. I felt like God was punishing me, and that he hated me. Again, I went to someone in the church for advice, feeling lost and alone, and I remember so vividly how he clasped my shoulder and said “Maybe you should stop trying medicine and give it to God for a while.” I can’t imagine what could have happened to me if I had followed that advice. I understand that God is comforting for some, but these two people during two very desperate parts of my life, are a big part of the reason I left the church. I didn’t want to be told I was lying or that I should stop getting treatment, I wanted to be comforted, the way elders in the church should do. So anytime I see one of the Christian cancer/sickness memes, I get just a liiiiittle heated
you poor thing, I wish conditions of the uterus were talked about more. It sucks when people just brush off period pain and other life altering conditions as 'JuSt HoW iT iS'. I understand that most people are kept in the dark but still I hate seeing it
not comparing the illnesses, just the experience. So one evening when I was waiting to get a 7hr IViG treatment (because I have MS) I was waiting in the hospital lobby and these 2 random ppl walking by stopped and one of them asked "Can we pray for you" I was exhausted and not in the mood to talk with anyone but thought what's the harm and so said "yeah sure, thanks" when I then realized AS THEY PUT THEIR HANDS ON MY SHOULDERS WHICH COULD BARELY HOLD UP ON THEIR OWN (and, like many /most parts of me were painful) AND STARTED MUMBLING NONSENSE that they had actually asked "Can we pray ON you" OMG don't ask sick ppl this, you're putting them in an ackward position and if they wanted you touching them or doing anything like that they'd call you or your church ... I was confused, annoyed, felt intruded and that they were in my personal (painful) space and reacted as you'd probably expect telling them "OH MY GOD I misunderstood what you said please stop".
Idk why people think this is ok? Some dude in walmart did the same for me, in a WALMART sorry you had to go through that glad you spoke up for yourself :))
That's so shitty! When I was in a boot over my foot (autoimmune arthritis) and upset and crying over being put on bed rest and not being able to work, I had a nurse ask if she could pray for me and I said yes and she just sat beside me and took my hand and prayed, that's how it should be done. Not doing what they did to you. I hope you're doing well now! Much love!
My family has the same mindset. No matter how random, they go “God led me to this person and I HAVE to pray for them.” They walk away feeling as if it’s God’s work while I’m just confused about the entire thing
@@gromplin like I mentioned I would've been fine of course with them Praying "FOR" me, it's that they thought they had any business praying "ON" me (putting their hands on me while I was in an Emergency waiting room - they shouldn't even have approached me, no one should do that to a person who is alone in the hospital, there's a power unbalance that is not cool) that really unsettled and annoyed me.
My mom was waiting in a hospital reception room for a few hours with my grandma who was having a health issue and needed to be seen by a doctor. When my mom came home she told me “oh there was someone with cancer/M.S./terminal disease there and we hugged them and prayed for them” and it just made me feel gross. A big part of me feels like SO many Christian’s do “performative prayer” especially in public. Like, just ask the person their name and ask if it’s ok to put their name in your nighttime/morning time prayers. Praying ON them and touching them in public (oh and this happened during COVID too) is just weird to me. If it happened to me, HEY! I’m in PAIN. Just leave me alone, being stuck in this waiting room is hell enough.
I have type 1 diabetes and went into a coma when I first got it. I got so many Jesus-themed cards (I’m Jewish) and everyone kept telling me the “god gives his toughest battles to his strongest soldiers” line. Made me absolutely feral.
Honestly it sucks. I have a chronic illness and joking makes me happy and so many ppl go 'dont say that' im like what? I just wanna make myself laugh sometimes!
@@melliethemortician yes exactly! i am also chronically ill and i love joking about my illness as a way to cope and people get so hurt and are like “you shouldn’t be saying that”. why not? it’s my illness and i want to laugh lol
@@melliethemortician gatekeeping someone's illness and how they're supposed to cope with it is one of the GROSSEST things, I'm so sorry you've had to deal with that. Like God forbid you find some manner of coping that helps you get through the tougher times.
@@melliethemortician had a friend in school who lost both his parents and his brother, he lost his dad after high school but joked about his brother and mother being dead, he got in so much trouble for it and sent to the office multiple times over it. Like let the man cope.
I am actively trying to separate from my family and congregation, and it’s always nice to hear about how he departed from it and came out okay, and can even joke about it.
I'm not there yet but I know I will be bc I'm gay and have been very deep in the closet for some time, so I feel like I'm symbolically waving to you across a river or stream that I'm about to cross. I'll meet you on that other side soon enough, bud.
I actually had a non-cancerous brain tumor that I had to have surgically removed, and strangely I got sent a lot of inspirational cancer memes like these. I don't know why. I don't know if it just made people so uncomfortable that they couldn't just say "hi, sorry about your tumor, hope the surgery goes well" and they felt like they had to come up with a weird indirect way of expressing sympathy, or if they just didn't care to get the details of my medical crisis straight, but it was a weird time. I guess the meme factories don't make benign tumor content?
Interestingly, from the point of cancer surveillance and data collection, we largely don't differentiate between cancers of other body systems and benign nervous system tumors. They're both equally important to track from a data standpoint and can have similar effects on the body. Not that that is a particularly helpful thought for you the patient lol.
@@BlackPhoenixNight Not surprised to learn that! I had a craniopharyngioma, so I was having vision problems and pretty severe hormonal dysfunction; there's really no leaving that in there, and I can't imagine the point of trying to do a biopsy first to confirm whether it's benign or malignant when you definitely have to remove it anyway. It is interesting to know in retrospect, though! Still doesn't explain why people kept asking me how the chemo was going, though...
Rooting for your husband to come out the other side and for your finances and spirits not to be crushed in the process, glad you can find some comfort in this content, hope you find plenty more uplifting videos etc along the way!
My uncle died of colon cancer and he would have LOVED your videos. He was such an asshole I love it. His stomach was protruding I don’t remember the term. But I asked him what it meant and he replied “it means I’m fucking pregnant” ….😭💀
so I posted a tweet a while back that I had a random seizure at this september's stand up show in Albany NY, and just the fact that it happened while you made a joke about brain cancer is the ultimate one up attempt. My brain said ''ok but what about me though 🙄'' and just glitched
@kaili I'm mad bummed out I didn't get to see the show and got hospitalized in a foreign country but now I'm good :') I love to think that if I had died the last thing I'd have seen was Jacob making a jerking off while having cancer joke 🤣
@@boiifyoudontfaggumas4648 I found out it was actually fairly common? 😲 especially in sleep deprived students lmao, glad to know you're okay as well though!!
I will never forget when I was a child after my dad died of cancer when someone from our church telling me it was my problem because I didn’t pray enough 🙃 but thank you for a fun video!
YO SAME HERE!!! And first, I’m so sorry that happened to you. People can cause so much fkn pain just by being thoughtless and having such shallow, blind faith. My little sister was 8 when our mom died and her friend’s dad who attended our church was like “sorry your mom dieddd, you should’ve asked the church to pray for her! When my wife (or whoever, idk) had cancer our church prayed for them and they got betterrr 😗”. Like to an EIGHT YEAR OLD. When in fact our priest came to our house weekly for dinner & my mom took communion from my gma daily for many months of her being sick. (We weren’t a super devout family but our priest was a wonderful guy so he showed us care & love even tho we hardly went to church. THAT’S the beauty of religion and of community. Not God saving you bc you prayed “enough”.) Having faith in any god/s does not mean you shouldn’t ever think critically about anything, but too many people end up doing exactly that. Just hollow, careless faith. It’s a DAMN SHAME too cuz faith (in a variety of things!) can be so beautiful.
It wasn’t until my dad found out he had cancer and the family started receiving care baskets and cards and such, that I realized SO much motivational and supportive phrases and designs are geared towards women with breast cancer. We didn’t find much in those bunches that was both A) gender neutral/male focused support, and B) mass produced. It’s not an issue, exactly, my dad just wants to get back to skiing and tennis with us, but we did find it kinda weird that there were only so many neutral supportive phrases and designs before we started getting pink ribboned boxes of chocolate.
That reminds me of Daniel Sloss's bit. His sister died at 9 i think from cerebral palsy, and after a while at the anniversary his mother was laughing her ass off while reading the condolences cards. And it turned out that one of the bouqets were misplaced They - a greving family - received a love confession So you can imagine what the love interest got
I really want you to know how helpful your Witness jokes are. I’m actively working to get out of my JW situation, and it’s very empowering to me to hear you joke about it. Genuinely. Thank you.
@@asoupyferretnamedfar3634 💛💛💛 Got told that kiddie lovers and gay people are the same caliber of human by my witness parents. Just needed to share. But thank you for your words. I appreciate them.
I had cancer in 2020 and went into remission after 8 months of chemo, this made me sad laugh, the jokes are funny and dark. It was so satisfying to laugh at something I also related to. The IV Benedryl was too much 🤣🤣
my mom passed of cancer and she would constantly get cringey shit like this even tho she had stage four and was suffering, it’s so disrespectful and she would always shut it down. i respect her so much for it
oh I love when you do videos like this. I had cancer when I was 7 and being told I was brave for going thru it was annoying then and is still annoying now
i work with a nonprofit that supports kids and teens whose parents have/had cancer. we take the kids to a week-long summer camp and give them a chance to feel normal and be around other kids who understand what they're going through, while also hopefully giving those parents a bit of a break from feeling like they have to act strong or put on a brave face for their kids. cancer sucks and it's scary and sometimes you just need to be allowed to feel like shit without feeling pressured to play the part of the brave, strong fighter for the benefit of everyone else
The worst I've gotten when people find out I have cancer is "everything happens for a reason" like it's an encouragement and not them implying that i deserve my illness 🤡🤡🤡
thank you for making this jacob! although i didn’t have cancer, i’ve struggled with chronic illness since i was 14 and it’s a touchy subject. being able to have someone to somewhat relate to and laugh about it is really healing. you’re amazing also fucking hilarious🤠🤠❤️
my dad just passed from brain cancer on november 7th. he specifically hated people calling him brave, but handled everything with so much grace. it was hard not to tell him he was brave but i always let him know he's my hero. thanks for the normalization and humor, jacob! rip tim kelly, best dad ever ❤ p.s. i was taking nuggets out of the air fryer when i started this video lol
Thinking about the time my neighbour came over and decided to tell my mom with stage four lung cancer say and I quote “I heard that eating asparagus can help fight cancer”
Saw you in Minneapolis with Kurtis and Dean! Your jokes about religion were beyond therapeutic to me! ♥️ Thank you for not shying away from talking about religion because there is plenty to criticize and cringe at.
Yes!! Recently I have seen many people on the internet (and media too) who have this "rule" of never criticizing religion and always respecting it, but I could never agree as someone who has seen the bad things religion has done. It is really refreshing to see videos like this one.
@@juli5945 100% agreed. Most of my childhood was filled with trauma in the form of religious abuse. It has taken me years of therapy to get to where I am today.
I haven't finished the video yet but I just want to let you all know that I had a dream about Jacob tonight where in order to cure his brain cancer he had to swim in a pool of ice cold water and for some reason he took a picture of his feet under the water and became a meme. People kept telling him to "show feet" lmao.
i have physical and mental disabilities, and if i had a dollar for every time someone said they’d “pray for me” to try to cure my disabilities, i’d have enough money to find a cure for them AND for cancer too.
i just gotta say as a disabled person whose fundie christian family no longer speaks to, i laughed SO fucking hard at 11:21 thank you mister sharpe i feel seen
I have a degenerative nervous system disorder and my closest friends have cancer or MS. It's nice to be able to feel comfortable in our illness. We all know we're going to die, or have at least seriously felt that inevitability, and we can joke about it and be open about it. It's a fucked up kinda bond but it's impossible to understand chronic pain or disability unless you've experienced it, which is why crap like this exists. This guy is my favorite UA-camr and has been since before I got really sick. Now that I'm part of the dying club I appreciate his humor a lot more 😂
I obviously cant equate this with cancer, but as someone w chronic pain, i hear SO MUCH religious stuff like ‘god is testing you’ or ‘you will be rewarded for suffering.’ 😭😭😭😭
I totally relate to just wanting a day off from being sick. A have a handful of chronic illnesses and conditions that make it really hard for me to do much of anything physical, and I often wish I could just have one day off where I could do anything I want and not be in agonizing pain.
My ex’s mum had cancer and was very much like “chemo so I don’t die” while her other sons MIL constantly gave her shit for having chemo because “green vegetables would fix her”…the MIL was ternimal with cancer at the time and was convinced green vegetables would magically fix it
ugh, those positive cancer quotes used to get on my mom’s nerves SOO bad. people used to always tell her “you’re sooo brave and strong!!! keep fighting!!!” and it always made her eye twitch… like… “no, i’m not “brave” and “strong,” i’m not standing at the edge of a cliff and jumping off, or choosing to fight in war, knowing i may die in battle, i’m not going to the gym and working out until failure. i’m dying, and i wasn’t given a choice to or not.” she felt weak because she physically WAS weak. she couldn’t be around someone with allergies because her immune system was so weak that getting coughed or sneezed on ONCE could land her bed ridden for two to four weeks. some days she could barely even stand up and walk to bed from our living room, and i’d have to carry her to bed. she wasn’t “choosing bravery,” she was literally just trying to live. she felt being brave is something you choose to be, and she didn’t CHOOSE to have cancer, and that’s why she hated the whole “you’re so strong and brave!!” rhetoric. she was incredible, and she was wonderful, and she was kind, and she was intelligent, and she was positive, and she didn’t let it ruin her love for life, and she didn’t let it scare her into not living how she wanted anymore, and she was worth fighting for, but the last thing she felt was “brave and strong,” and she hated when people who never struggled with what she struggled with would tell her that she was when she wasn’t. the sentiment was positive, but it lacked thoughtfulness and meaningfulness. she didn’t have a choice to “keep fighting” or not, it wasn’t really her choice. it was up to cancer, and that made her feel helpless and lacking control, not “strong and brave.” and cancer taking her life didn’t make her weak just because she died. staying alive didn’t make her strong and brave, and dying didn’t make her weak and scared. it all was just what the cancer chose. she was just trying to live her last days without being terrified of what she knew was to come, because if she had no choice in whether she lived or died, at least she had a choice between finding peace and feeling happy with what she had accomplished, so that’s what she did. rest in peace, mama. you are so loved, and so missed 🩷
It feels like I’m surrounded by family members or friends with terminal cancer at the moment and it’s incredibly stressful. I can’t put my emotions and thoughts into words. It’s scary. Thanks for making it a bit of a lighter topic
My mom died of cancer three years ago and your videos always make me laugh about a topic thats very hard for me. We used to joke about things like this even when we weren't feeling positive. Miss her a lot.
honestly its a real relief to hear you talk about your cancer in a way thats like. both genuine and biting. im a survivor also, and for a few years after my treatment i was just so angry all the time lol. theres a heavy societal expectation of how cancer survivors need to act and think and behave, and its always a weird sense of martyrdom. Selflessness at being "given" a "second chance"? its weird and uncomfortable, and youre so right. a lot of the things people say, thought well intentioned, just feel so dehumanizing when ur rly going thru it.
i have a chronic immuno disease and i grew up very religious and the church almost kicked out my parents because we went to the hospital and doctors got help instead of just praying about it, safe to say i lost my religiousness fairly young 🤠 love you jacob!
I love you and Kurtis you can say you cured my cancer....not really I do appreciate you're videos I been in remissions for a long time and very grateful but you make light of it is what the world needs to do sometimes when those dark times do come....plus ex-Jehovah witnesses have this weird awesome connection like nothing else lol Hope all the love and humor you send out to others in life and in you're videos follow you in you're recovery...geez that sounded like a cancer meme to ugh
Hey I'm sorry if this is a touchy subject, but if you could(you don't have to), could you explain what remission is? I would like to know so I can understand it a bit better. And again if not that's totally fine :]
@@asoupyferretnamedfar3634 permission just means and more or less words that they cancer is not hurting me anymore that's the easiest way to explain it at least. My first year of remission I still had to see the doctors pretty regularly but it's been 10 plus years for me and I see my primary care physician and give follow-up appointment as far as my bone density and other things that could have been affected by the cancer but I no longer have to receive treatment. Permissions not always easy though you might be out of the water per say but there are still many things that you have to watch after you're considered in remission.
In august I was going to a ton of drs appointments to figure out what this strange lump on my throat was, which I was certain was NOT cancer. During that time I went to see Kurtis Connors comedy show and watched you perform and through all your bits about going through cancer it suddenly hit me that I probably had cancer. I got officially diagnosed the next day. I love to joke that you gave me cancer (thanks for that/jk) I’m almost done with chemo and it’s been a wild fucking ride that I hope to never go on again but through it all your jokes from that show really helped me make peace with it all and get through it as positively as I could, (also you where right, family members really do just be saying “this is our fight” lmao) anyways from one cancer baldie to the next I just wanted to say thanks for making this shitty thing easier. Much love 💖
Brain cancer is also my favorite flavor!! whenever i get a big bag of jelly beans i throw out all the other flavors just so i can have brain cancer flavor!!!
I love your videos and cancer jokes so much! I don't have cancer, but my mom did (she survived thankfully) and all those things you talk about is so so true. She sometimes says, that when she was sick, somedays having the cancer wasn't the worst part, but everyone else treating her so differently or avoiding her completely. You never really hear about the true loneliness of having cancer in movies etc. Anyways, I love your videos and I hope you'll never ever have to go through that again! ❤️ (English isn't my first language so there might be typos lol)
Man I would've loved watching this video now but I'll have to add it to my watch later list I fear.... my dad died of cancer a few days ago and I honestly don't think I'll be able to stomach this video, but I'm glad you're back Jacob 💕
I've had stage 4 cancer for the last like 11 months, and despite that I never got any memes, but if I did I would wanna strangle them. I did get bible quotes about how beauty isn't everything when I vented about being insecure about losing my hair or wearing a wig smh
Lifelong autoimmune patient with a benign brain tumour; so much of what Jacob said applies to me + people I've met like me. Eg I completely identify with the odd, very particular feeling about having to minimize or hide or joke-away anything you're going thru as a patient bc you can see you're freaking a loved or liked one out then you wind up soothing them, bc y'know, constant fatigue certainly means patients can accommodate more emotional labour & deal with their own deep fears alone so healthy-folk don't feel uncomfortable or awkward & you don't challenge any of their assumptions about the systems in place to help & protect sick people. (The people supposedly there to help can really put the "mean" in "means testing", is all I'll say.) My personal least fave --- other than the surprising number of people who believe we all can manifest or banish health problems at will so I have to willpower harder I guess? --- is a trope Hollywood + Hallmark love to reinforce, whereby there's "a lesson" somehow being imparted via suffering, & once the cosmic mystery box of illness(es) is solved by the patient (or in more condescending fare the patient's caregiver), suddenly cured like magic! Explicitly or by implication, when I get it, this usually involves the bonus sh*t idea that somehow the sickness is a path to me becoming a nebulously described chiaroscuro of "a better person" of some kind from it, but usually it's all vibes & if I press for specifics, esp bc this suggests that this other person (or gasp maybe even GAWD??!?) thinks I'm a terrible enough person to need/deserve a lesson of such extremes + magnitudes, whoever's telling me this defers to a higher power (with that clever planning higher powers do so naturally lol) & has no defined ideas of what I do or who I am that's apparently so offensive to the Universe as to merit my experiences. Nah, folks, trust: suffering cannot & does not make a person become their True Best Selves. Rebecca Watson I think has a video on a study debunking any connection between cancer outcomes & whether the patients have positive or negative outlooks. Very conclusively does not matter, so don't police yourself or others, let them feel how they feel & express downs + ups. Here's the only good things to say to those suffering: 1) "That sucks." 2) "You don't deserve it." 3) "I'm so sorry this is happening to you." & 4) {optional; bc "put yr oxygen on 1st before helping", etc} ... "How can I help? I can do things like _______ --- would that help? Can we talk about what will get you thru this as best as possible?"
My 5 year remission anniversary is coming up, which will make me the only person I’ve ever personally known to survive bone cancer for 5 or more years. But sure, send people positive vibes and shit. Also, your rating scale is on point 😂
As someone who went through cancer and had an ulcerated tumor which literally caused me to be on the ground sobbing in pain from just a small gust of wind when I was getting out of the shower I had to sit through this shit from like all of my family, it was arguably the most exhausting part of it all. Like no heather your prayers aren't helping get me my god damn pain killers
"Don't worry god can fight ur cancer" okay so when literally all of my grandmother's sibling (who were literally the most religious people ever) all died of cancer God just didn't want to??? What?
my mom just got diagnosed with breast cancer and we live in Alabama so we are just waiting for the cancer prayers to come rolling in. sending this to her rn lol
the idea of "losing your battle to cancer" is so fucking stupid. as if that person wasn't strong or good enough to fight it off. imagine telling someone who lost a loved one to cancer, "sorry :/ i guess they didn't try hard enough :/"
My brother had a diagnosis (I forgot the name of it) but he needed brain surgery and his father denied it because “god would heal him” my brother was almost killed because my ex step father couldn’t believe he surgery could help him that’s why he didn’t get custody when my mum and him slit which was the best decision she ever made
I don’t have cancer, but I was born with spina bifida and a severe heart defect, and looking up my conditions on Redbubble is one of the most entertaining things I’ve ever done. If you think these are wild, wait till you get to the mommy merch, the shirts that say shit like “most people never meet their heroes. I raised mine.” It’s so fucking funny, istg
Cancer patient here. Remission never lasted more than 3 months for me and I’ve been fighting it for 4 years. Please try to be thankful while your in remission and move forward with your life as much as possible. Thank you for another great video!
I don't have cancer, but I do have multiple serious chronic illnesses that cause a ton of pain and disrupt and dictate my entire life. I cannot TELL YOU how many times people have just told me to "think positive", "pray for healing", or that i "was so strong for being such a fighter"! WHAT OTHER CHOICE DO I HAVE???? I was so sick of hearing it, especially when I wasn't even being negative, just stating the facts. And I hate how people say someone "lost their battle with cancer". there is literally nothing you can do to "fight harder" against cancer. it makes it sound like a moral failing... honestly I wonder if people are scared of the fact that they truly are that powerless in the face of disease, that they can't just push through like they do with a cold.
My grandad passed from cancer and other infections last month, joking about things like cancer and death is part of how I’ve been coping with the loss. Is it healthy? Idk, but thanks for giving me a laugh in a difficult time!
11:36 In all seriousness, I totally agree. My dad's side of the family are hella religious and put religion over chemo when my aunt (rip) had breast cancer. With all respect, it was the most infuriating and stupid thing they've ever done. On a lighter note, love you jacob and I want a truck load of nugs
one time i pissed the bed after waking up from kidney surgery and my mom brought the blanket home and washed it and i was like why didn't you just leave it at the hospital
Gonna preference this by saying I don’t have cancer cause I’m not trying to be disrespectful and cosplay. I have a different disability that’s prob gonna kill me yayeet. There are some days we’re I want to put stuffed animals on my IV line, stickers on my chair, fight ableism, be loud and proud. Then there’s days where I wanna murder anyone who sees me (including myself) cause all I (and they) can think is “disabled”. The idea of being a Good Cripple and always being positive is so damn toxic. Let us be angry!!!! Let us scream and cry and say no I can’t do it. It actually HELPS as it’s cathartic and such negativity needs to be let out or we’ll drown in it.
It isn’t cancer but my mother is terminally ill, and people love to talk like this about it and it’s distressing and upsetting. No, god isn’t going to cure her. That isn’t how it works. “You can be a Victim or Survivor” makes me so angry
kurtis should be given the nobel prize for singlehandedly ending cancer with his "hardly know her" joke
how was the video posted 4hr ago but your comment was posted 5hr ago 🤯
@@susiescollections Witch behavior
cancer. i hardly know er
@@susiescollections 4 hours? He hardly knew er.
Nobel Piece Prize
I fucking love the fact we're halfway through Januray and Jacob posts a video in a full Christmas look
Christmas is just 11 months away, can't blame him for feeling that holiday spirit
For some reason I did not notice it and I was very confused at first reading this comment
it's fucking Christmas time 😡
merry Christmas 😡
@@枒 hi morel
I lost my sister to cancer in november (she was 30) and she and I joked about all the terrible cancer memes right to the end. I give this video 9 saline-flushed IVs out of 10 pre-warmed hospital blankets.
I'm so sorry you lost her!! I'm glad you guys could laugh about things together tho. Much love! 💓
Sending you warmth as you navigate the loss of your sister, why couldn’t someone without a sense of humour take her place, I could’ve sent a list of contenders. All the best 💔
So sorry for your loss, I’m sure she found a lot of comfort in + appreciated being able to joke with you. Sending love your way.
My condolences. Hope you're doing and feeling better. ❤️
those blankets are so amazing ngl wish I had a blanket warming machine
When my mum was dying of cancer, a friend constantly told me "if she stays positive and prays, she will survive". I told them that she literally couldn't survive as the cancer had taken over her entire body, yet they persisted saying "she can fight it, she's strong and god loves her". This went on for some time, and I was very polite until I just snapped and screamed that she was f**king dying! Now she had emotional strength! She fought off cancer twice (whilst also suffering from MS) before it finally got her. Cancer survivors have my total respect because they've endured horrific, painful treatment and come out the other side, but those who die are just as strong! It kills indiscriminately and religion ain't got nothing to do with it.
im very sorry about your mom :( what did the religious person say after you said that to them? just wondering. again I'm very sorry for your loss
I'm so sorry to hear that. As a former Christian I apologize on behalf of all of "us". (Though I NEVER would have told someone that. Hell, I never even believed it even THEN). My deepest sympathies.
I’m so sorry for your loss!
I am so sorry you had to experience that. Religion makes some people very out of touch and ignorant. Not every painful situation warrants a response that is religious, mentioning God and prayer doesn’t automatically make a response empathetic. I hope you are doing well 💚
Yeah, I know a family who just lost their two year old daughter to brain cancer. The mom has been very incessant during the entire ordeal that those religious wishes do more harm than good. It made her feel like “what kind of God would do this to a baby? How is a BABY gods strongest soldier and why would he give a BABY his hardest battle???” And it just made her angry. Not everyone has a faith and I wish people remembered that in times like these
I never had cancer but I was put on chemo for lupus nephritis when I was a kid. It was a low dose but I went bald twice, so that was fun. Also I grew up in an evangelical cult and it really sucked to come home alive at 13 and then have people tell me that I owe my future to the church cuz god and all their prayers saved me
Shit like this is why I hate religion so damn much. I'm happy you showed your lupus nephritis the finger and got through it, and simultaneously so sorry to hear that you had to deal with that kind of people afterwards...
ah, growing up with autoimmune diseases in an evangelical bubble. idk how many times I was told I was being tested by God, or how God was giving me a battle because I was strong, or how I just needed to be more faithful and pray more and I'd be healed.
That sounds so disgusting and culty..
@@Leah-yu5gd if I was told that I’d be like “God sounds like a terrible guy then”
@@Leah-yu5gd I would resist the temptation of shouting at everyones face "woww must be shitty being you and not be loved by God like i am! Clearly he doesn't love you or he wouldve given you sickness, but he did not because you're weak and he knows that! Good luck going to hell then!"
but... yeah maybe not...
thank you jacob! my mom passed from cancer when I was 13 (18 now) i know we would've laughed at this together:)
omg twinz! age and all
Almost same!! (I was 14 and now 22). Dead mom kids get it lmao
sending love to you and the pals in the replies ❤️ big hugs
samee. love to you guys
I was diagnosed with cancer last year. Thanks for making it a little easier to laugh at, and for making it feel a little less alienating.
Dont worry with jesus it will be cured 😍😍
Kidding, but glad your here with us!
Wish you the best, fam. Fuck cancer.
survivor here, sending u a lot of love n i hope u will come out okay on the other end 💗💗💗
damn dude, good luck! humor really does make life a little easier sometimes xD
I just got diagnosed too. I feel so scared even though my cancer is an easier one to treat.
It feels very lonely at times.
my grandma literally told her doctor, “you know i really appreciate all you guys did but more than anyone I thank god. he’s the one who really healed me.” tbh if i was a doctor i’d just 💀💀💀 WHAT
There's a line in A Raisin in the Sun where one of the characters says she's sick of people giving God credit for the hard work of real people (and her grandma literally slaps her for saying it smh) and it's so true. Imagine someone pushing you out the way of a truck saving your life and instead of thanking them just saying to their face that you believe God is who really saved them.
@@SuzER08 sounds like something a crazy Christian would do tbh. Or they would say that God sent you to them
I would lose my marbles
@@SuzER08 omg yes! I remember reading that in my ap literature class and I was so pissed off when her grandma slapped her. this religious girl in my class was cheering the grandma on and gave a speech about how god is more important than doctors because sky daddy gave them the ability to be a doctor in the first place so that’s why he gets credit and my professor was just like ._. no that’s not how that works
@@SuzER08 I totally forgot I read raisin in the sun in high school, I want to reread it. Great book
i've lost a lot of loved ones to cancer, so it's always been a really touchy subject for me. so seeing someone not only survive it, but also talk and joke openly about it has really helped me, even if i can't really put it into words. so uh.. thanks for that /gen
im sorry for your loss
Sorry for your losses
a truly touching sentiment, thank you Nagito. sorry for your losses.
this is a great community for you then
My mom is Episcopalian. She taught me that prayer can’t be used to change fate. Otherwise, God would’ve clearly done so for everyone who prays, and the world would be perfect. She taught me that prayer was more like meditation, that you should ask God for answers to internal struggles, or ask Him to help you find peace. I’m not religious, but I really respect how my mom taught me about faith.
I like that
That's basically what prayer actually is, but everyone thinks prayer is like, this one-stop-shop for everything and they get addicted to the feeling.
That’s how I’ve always felt about it, as a non-churchgoing Christian and rather unenthused with the faith, prayer is just taking a moment to collect your thoughts and talk directly to god about them. But the way people teach it to kids and the way they seem to perpetuate prayer in movies always makes it seem like it’s putting in a help desk ticket to god to get him to fix your shit 😭 💀 babes it’s not
I learned early on (as a Christian) that you can pray for something but God will not always say yes. Just because you ask him for something doesn't mean it'll happen or you'll get it. I dont understand why He does these things, why He lets people die like this, but we're not supposed to understand ig lol
i told my mom the cancer joke you made from Jesus TikTok where you said "you really think god gave me brain cancer to get closer to me" or something like that and she laughed her ass off she struggled with ovarian cancer but she's also in remission it was really nice that made her laugh because she never laughs about it and it was refreshing y'know
I'm just replying so you can see how much likes you got
i want a friendship like jacob and kurtis so bad omg
Same here 🤚
This feels like a gross thing to say. They're people, not anime characters.
@@UseMoreLensFlare how is it gross?💀
He keeps saying cancer isn't a mindset, but *Jacob's* cancer is literally set in his mind
Cancer is stored in the mind
I'm just replying so you can see how much likes you got
@@afellowpotato damn I used to be funny
My cousin used my brain cancer as an excuse to dye her hair. Her and I were never close or even friendly to each other and my family acted like she cured my cancer with a cheap box dye. I appreciate the kindness people gave me during chemo but some of it was so fucking cheesy it made me feel awful about myself like I was a mascot or something.
How in the fuck does hair dye even remotely relate to helping?!
That.. makes no sense.. like how would hair dye do anything..? Your family sounds dumb 💀
@@futuristic.handgunlike as a tribute. like how pink is attributed to breast cancer. terrible. 🙄
@@devonkelly44 That's the dumbest shit I've ever heard in my life. Lol. I say the person either gets the balls to fully shave their head along with the person going through chemo or don't do shit, lmao.
@@devonkelly44 tbh it just sounds like her parents wouldn't let her dye her hair, so she made an excuse lmap
my boyfriend had cancer and he said once that us making like a million Walter white jokes helped him more than any of his family doing group prayers for him at the hospital
This is so sweet oh my god
LMFAOO i love this
That's hilarious and wholesome at the same time
When I was 13, I was diagnosed with endometriosis, which is when the tissues and lining that should be inside of if your uterus are growing outside of it. I was a member of a nondenominational church at the time, and I, being a devout Christian, when to my reverend for advice. She didn’t believe me because, quote, “most of the time, only women who’ve had children get it, so I’m sure you’re fine!” This was after I told her I 100% had it, as diagnosed by an OBGYN. Skip two years down the line, and at age 15, I was diagnosed with ovarian cancer. It was horrible. I felt so sick and drained, all the time. I felt like God was punishing me, and that he hated me. Again, I went to someone in the church for advice, feeling lost and alone, and I remember so vividly how he clasped my shoulder and said “Maybe you should stop trying medicine and give it to God for a while.” I can’t imagine what could have happened to me if I had followed that advice. I understand that God is comforting for some, but these two people during two very desperate parts of my life, are a big part of the reason I left the church. I didn’t want to be told I was lying or that I should stop getting treatment, I wanted to be comforted, the way elders in the church should do. So anytime I see one of the Christian cancer/sickness memes, I get just a liiiiittle heated
I’m so sorry that happened to you, I hope you have more supportive people in your life these days!
@@milkteamachine I definitely do! It was just very strenuous for me back then
Jesus and god try to do anything good for humanity challenge (impossible)
@@Shjejkf278 Jesus and God heal sick people the way Christians claim challenge (impossible! Gone wrong!)
you poor thing, I wish conditions of the uterus were talked about more. It sucks when people just brush off period pain and other life altering conditions as 'JuSt HoW iT iS'. I understand that most people are kept in the dark but still I hate seeing it
not comparing the illnesses, just the experience. So one evening when I was waiting to get a 7hr IViG treatment (because I have MS) I was waiting in the hospital lobby and these 2 random ppl walking by stopped and one of them asked "Can we pray for you" I was exhausted and not in the mood to talk with anyone but thought what's the harm and so said "yeah sure, thanks" when I then realized AS THEY PUT THEIR HANDS ON MY SHOULDERS WHICH COULD BARELY HOLD UP ON THEIR OWN (and, like many /most parts of me were painful) AND STARTED MUMBLING NONSENSE that they had actually asked "Can we pray ON you" OMG don't ask sick ppl this, you're putting them in an ackward position and if they wanted you touching them or doing anything like that they'd call you or your church ... I was confused, annoyed, felt intruded and that they were in my personal (painful) space and reacted as you'd probably expect telling them "OH MY GOD I misunderstood what you said please stop".
Idk why people think this is ok? Some dude in walmart did the same for me, in a WALMART
sorry you had to go through that glad you spoke up for yourself :))
That's so shitty! When I was in a boot over my foot (autoimmune arthritis) and upset and crying over being put on bed rest and not being able to work, I had a nurse ask if she could pray for me and I said yes and she just sat beside me and took my hand and prayed, that's how it should be done. Not doing what they did to you. I hope you're doing well now! Much love!
My family has the same mindset. No matter how random, they go “God led me to this person and I HAVE to pray for them.” They walk away feeling as if it’s God’s work while I’m just confused about the entire thing
@@gromplin like I mentioned I would've been fine of course with them Praying "FOR" me, it's that they thought they had any business praying "ON" me (putting their hands on me while I was in an Emergency waiting room - they shouldn't even have approached me, no one should do that to a person who is alone in the hospital, there's a power unbalance that is not cool) that really unsettled and annoyed me.
My mom was waiting in a hospital reception room for a few hours with my grandma who was having a health issue and needed to be seen by a doctor. When my mom came home she told me “oh there was someone with cancer/M.S./terminal disease there and we hugged them and prayed for them” and it just made me feel gross. A big part of me feels like SO many Christian’s do “performative prayer” especially in public. Like, just ask the person their name and ask if it’s ok to put their name in your nighttime/morning time prayers. Praying ON them and touching them in public (oh and this happened during COVID too) is just weird to me. If it happened to me, HEY! I’m in PAIN. Just leave me alone, being stuck in this waiting room is hell enough.
Thank you Mr. Sharpe for packing this video with brain cancer nuggets💕
I have type 1 diabetes and went into a coma when I first got it. I got so many Jesus-themed cards (I’m Jewish) and everyone kept telling me the “god gives his toughest battles to his strongest soldiers” line. Made me absolutely feral.
Omfg same! I'm also type 1 but i got it at 3 years old and the religious stuff on top of the "cures" gets so tiring.
Not only did my friends not send me memes when I had Cancer, they stopped laughing at anything I said 🥸 literally worse than chemo xx
Why'd they stop laughing at your jokes, bro 💀💀😭 wtf lmao people are strange as hell
Honestly it sucks. I have a chronic illness and joking makes me happy and so many ppl go 'dont say that' im like what? I just wanna make myself laugh sometimes!
@@melliethemortician yes exactly! i am also chronically ill and i love joking about my illness as a way to cope and people get so hurt and are like “you shouldn’t be saying that”. why not? it’s my illness and i want to laugh lol
@@melliethemortician gatekeeping someone's illness and how they're supposed to cope with it is one of the GROSSEST things, I'm so sorry you've had to deal with that. Like God forbid you find some manner of coping that helps you get through the tougher times.
@@melliethemortician had a friend in school who lost both his parents and his brother, he lost his dad after high school but joked about his brother and mother being dead, he got in so much trouble for it and sent to the office multiple times over it. Like let the man cope.
My religious grandma died of cancer. But it's okay because her friend said that she actually died because she still had sin in her life 👍
Holy shit, what an awful thing to say to anyone!
Religion serving as an excuse for people to be disgusting since the dawn of mankind
ppl like that won’t make it (if heaven is real) sry about ur loss buddy
@@possum2203 And to say it about someone who was supposed to be a friend..
I’m disfellowshipped as well it’s been incredibly hard for me. Hearing you joke about it actually made me laugh very hard so thank you for that.
Saaaame!
I am actively trying to separate from my family and congregation, and it’s always nice to hear about how he departed from it and came out okay, and can even joke about it.
Hey disfellowship gang!
@@Julia-tk2em you got this love. It’s always gonna be hard but time will heal anything.
I'm not there yet but I know I will be bc I'm gay and have been very deep in the closet for some time, so I feel like I'm symbolically waving to you across a river or stream that I'm about to cross. I'll meet you on that other side soon enough, bud.
I actually had a non-cancerous brain tumor that I had to have surgically removed, and strangely I got sent a lot of inspirational cancer memes like these. I don't know why. I don't know if it just made people so uncomfortable that they couldn't just say "hi, sorry about your tumor, hope the surgery goes well" and they felt like they had to come up with a weird indirect way of expressing sympathy, or if they just didn't care to get the details of my medical crisis straight, but it was a weird time. I guess the meme factories don't make benign tumor content?
They probably don't know tumors can be bengin in the first place, they think tumor = cancer and shortcircut
@@brutus3631 most people don’t know a lot about cancer or illnesses in general. Someone once thought my sisters shunt was just a synonym for tumor
Interestingly, from the point of cancer surveillance and data collection, we largely don't differentiate between cancers of other body systems and benign nervous system tumors. They're both equally important to track from a data standpoint and can have similar effects on the body. Not that that is a particularly helpful thought for you the patient lol.
@@BlackPhoenixNight Not surprised to learn that! I had a craniopharyngioma, so I was having vision problems and pretty severe hormonal dysfunction; there's really no leaving that in there, and I can't imagine the point of trying to do a biopsy first to confirm whether it's benign or malignant when you definitely have to remove it anyway. It is interesting to know in retrospect, though!
Still doesn't explain why people kept asking me how the chemo was going, though...
My husband got surprise kidney cancer for christmas, even though he is way too young for it. So this message was perfectly timed and I appreciate it.
Unfortunately, cancer refuses to discriminate based on age. I hope your husband is able to recover and that it doesn’t put too much strain on y’all
Rooting for your husband to come out the other side and for your finances and spirits not to be crushed in the process, glad you can find some comfort in this content, hope you find plenty more uplifting videos etc along the way!
Well thats certainly a surprise present id want to regift. But in all seriousness i hope all turns out well for the both of you.
My uncle died of colon cancer and he would have LOVED your videos. He was such an asshole I love it. His stomach was protruding I don’t remember the term. But I asked him what it meant and he replied “it means I’m fucking pregnant” ….😭💀
so I posted a tweet a while back that I had a random seizure at this september's stand up show in Albany NY, and just the fact that it happened while you made a joke about brain cancer is the ultimate one up attempt. My brain said ''ok but what about me though 🙄'' and just glitched
omg lol😭😭 hope you’re doing good now
I'm glad I'm not the only one who just had a Random seizure and kinda just moved on like nothing happened 😂
@kaili I'm mad bummed out I didn't get to see the show and got hospitalized in a foreign country but now I'm good :') I love to think that if I had died the last thing I'd have seen was Jacob making a jerking off while having cancer joke 🤣
@@boiifyoudontfaggumas4648 I found out it was actually fairly common? 😲 especially in sleep deprived students lmao, glad to know you're okay as well though!!
@@vicmint wow I never really thought about it that much but that makes alot of sense. And thanks bro I'm glad your here aswell :)
I will never forget when I was a child after my dad died of cancer when someone from our church telling me it was my problem because I didn’t pray enough 🙃 but thank you for a fun video!
Oh my god, I’m so sorry about your loss and no one should have to hear that!
Christian’s try not to be rude and condescending challenge (impossible)
Christians r a tad blinded and rude
I'm so sorry for you and hope that they step on spilled water every time they are wearing socks.
YO SAME HERE!!! And first, I’m so sorry that happened to you. People can cause so much fkn pain just by being thoughtless and having such shallow, blind faith.
My little sister was 8 when our mom died and her friend’s dad who attended our church was like “sorry your mom dieddd, you should’ve asked the church to pray for her! When my wife (or whoever, idk) had cancer our church prayed for them and they got betterrr 😗”. Like to an EIGHT YEAR OLD. When in fact our priest came to our house weekly for dinner & my mom took communion from my gma daily for many months of her being sick. (We weren’t a super devout family but our priest was a wonderful guy so he showed us care & love even tho we hardly went to church. THAT’S the beauty of religion and of community. Not God saving you bc you prayed “enough”.)
Having faith in any god/s does not mean you shouldn’t ever think critically about anything, but too many people end up doing exactly that. Just hollow, careless faith. It’s a DAMN SHAME too cuz faith (in a variety of things!) can be so beautiful.
It wasn’t until my dad found out he had cancer and the family started receiving care baskets and cards and such, that I realized SO much motivational and supportive phrases and designs are geared towards women with breast cancer. We didn’t find much in those bunches that was both A) gender neutral/male focused support, and B) mass produced.
It’s not an issue, exactly, my dad just wants to get back to skiing and tennis with us, but we did find it kinda weird that there were only so many neutral supportive phrases and designs before we started getting pink ribboned boxes of chocolate.
That reminds me of Daniel Sloss's bit. His sister died at 9 i think from cerebral palsy, and after a while at the anniversary his mother was laughing her ass off while reading the condolences cards. And it turned out that one of the bouqets were misplaced
They - a greving family - received a love confession
So you can imagine what the love interest got
I really want you to know how helpful your Witness jokes are. I’m actively working to get out of my JW situation, and it’s very empowering to me to hear you joke about it. Genuinely. Thank you.
Hey I hope you're doing okay, I hope you are able to get out of it!
@@asoupyferretnamedfar3634 💛💛💛 Got told that kiddie lovers and gay people are the same caliber of human by my witness parents. Just needed to share. But thank you for your words. I appreciate them.
Same here! Stay strong, you’ll find people who love and support you through it. 🥺💕
@@batterybroken 💛💛
I had cancer in 2020 and went into remission after 8 months of chemo, this made me sad laugh, the jokes are funny and dark. It was so satisfying to laugh at something I also related to. The IV Benedryl was too much 🤣🤣
you’re right jacob.. religious cancer memes ARE out of control 🤔
It's ironic how cancerous religious cancer memes are lol
Just like cancer
my mom passed of cancer and she would constantly get cringey shit like this even tho she had stage four and was suffering, it’s so disrespectful and she would always shut it down. i respect her so much for it
oh I love when you do videos like this. I had cancer when I was 7 and being told I was brave for going thru it was annoying then and is still annoying now
I take care of my cancer-riddled papa who is now entering hospice and these memes made me feel so much better. Love you
you are literally a saint, shits hard work. mad respect man
i work with a nonprofit that supports kids and teens whose parents have/had cancer. we take the kids to a week-long summer camp and give them a chance to feel normal and be around other kids who understand what they're going through, while also hopefully giving those parents a bit of a break from feeling like they have to act strong or put on a brave face for their kids. cancer sucks and it's scary and sometimes you just need to be allowed to feel like shit without feeling pressured to play the part of the brave, strong fighter for the benefit of everyone else
The worst I've gotten when people find out I have cancer is "everything happens for a reason" like it's an encouragement and not them implying that i deserve my illness 🤡🤡🤡
The doctor seeing his hard work get attributed to a man in the sky who may or may not exist
I may not have cancer but I am disabled and trust me we get this atrocious memes sent to us too 😅
thank you for making this jacob! although i didn’t have cancer, i’ve struggled with chronic illness since i was 14 and it’s a touchy subject. being able to have someone to somewhat relate to and laugh about it is really healing. you’re amazing also fucking hilarious🤠🤠❤️
The cure for cancer was Kurtis' "i hardly know her" joke all along
my dad just passed from brain cancer on november 7th.
he specifically hated people calling him brave, but handled everything with so much grace. it was hard not to tell him he was brave but i always let him know he's my hero. thanks for the normalization and humor, jacob!
rip tim kelly, best dad ever ❤
p.s. i was taking nuggets out of the air fryer when i started this video lol
As a leukemia survivor, your videos are very cathartic. I really appreciate hearing someone joke about this cause cancer is a ridiculous disease.
Thinking about the time my neighbour came over and decided to tell my mom with stage four lung cancer say and I quote “I heard that eating asparagus can help fight cancer”
Saw you in Minneapolis with Kurtis and Dean! Your jokes about religion were beyond therapeutic to me! ♥️ Thank you for not shying away from talking about religion because there is plenty to criticize and cringe at.
Yes!! Recently I have seen many people on the internet (and media too) who have this "rule" of never criticizing religion and always respecting it, but I could never agree as someone who has seen the bad things religion has done. It is really refreshing to see videos like this one.
@@juli5945 100% agreed. Most of my childhood was filled with trauma in the form of religious abuse. It has taken me years of therapy to get to where I am today.
I haven't finished the video yet but I just want to let you all know that I had a dream about Jacob tonight where in order to cure his brain cancer he had to swim in a pool of ice cold water and for some reason he took a picture of his feet under the water and became a meme. People kept telling him to "show feet" lmao.
LEARNING YOU ARE AN EXJW MAKES SO MUCH SENSE. Fkkkkk dude. ex-jw's are a different breed. No wonder I adore your sense of humor
Right???
i have physical and mental disabilities, and if i had a dollar for every time someone said they’d “pray for me” to try to cure my disabilities, i’d have enough money to find a cure for them AND for cancer too.
I absolutely adore this man's beef with God.
i just gotta say as a disabled person whose fundie christian family no longer speaks to, i laughed SO fucking hard at 11:21 thank you mister sharpe i feel seen
I have a degenerative nervous system disorder and my closest friends have cancer or MS. It's nice to be able to feel comfortable in our illness. We all know we're going to die, or have at least seriously felt that inevitability, and we can joke about it and be open about it. It's a fucked up kinda bond but it's impossible to understand chronic pain or disability unless you've experienced it, which is why crap like this exists. This guy is my favorite UA-camr and has been since before I got really sick. Now that I'm part of the dying club I appreciate his humor a lot more 😂
Make sure to take the cancer curing essential oil from the person whose never had cancer
I obviously cant equate this with cancer, but as someone w chronic pain, i hear SO MUCH religious stuff like ‘god is testing you’ or ‘you will be rewarded for suffering.’ 😭😭😭😭
I totally relate to just wanting a day off from being sick. A have a handful of chronic illnesses and conditions that make it really hard for me to do much of anything physical, and I often wish I could just have one day off where I could do anything I want and not be in agonizing pain.
As an ex Mormon it makes so much sense that Jacob is an ex jehovas witness, we’re kindred souls
Religious trauma gang.
Same lol
My ex’s mum had cancer and was very much like “chemo so I don’t die” while her other sons MIL constantly gave her shit for having chemo because “green vegetables would fix her”…the MIL was ternimal with cancer at the time and was convinced green vegetables would magically fix it
Did she think she could photosynthesize the cancer out of herself? The mind does work in mysterious ways.
ugh, those positive cancer quotes used to get on my mom’s nerves SOO bad. people used to always tell her “you’re sooo brave and strong!!! keep fighting!!!” and it always made her eye twitch… like… “no, i’m not “brave” and “strong,” i’m not standing at the edge of a cliff and jumping off, or choosing to fight in war, knowing i may die in battle, i’m not going to the gym and working out until failure. i’m dying, and i wasn’t given a choice to or not.” she felt weak because she physically WAS weak. she couldn’t be around someone with allergies because her immune system was so weak that getting coughed or sneezed on ONCE could land her bed ridden for two to four weeks. some days she could barely even stand up and walk to bed from our living room, and i’d have to carry her to bed. she wasn’t “choosing bravery,” she was literally just trying to live. she felt being brave is something you choose to be, and she didn’t CHOOSE to have cancer, and that’s why she hated the whole “you’re so strong and brave!!” rhetoric. she was incredible, and she was wonderful, and she was kind, and she was intelligent, and she was positive, and she didn’t let it ruin her love for life, and she didn’t let it scare her into not living how she wanted anymore, and she was worth fighting for, but the last thing she felt was “brave and strong,” and she hated when people who never struggled with what she struggled with would tell her that she was when she wasn’t. the sentiment was positive, but it lacked thoughtfulness and meaningfulness. she didn’t have a choice to “keep fighting” or not, it wasn’t really her choice. it was up to cancer, and that made her feel helpless and lacking control, not “strong and brave.” and cancer taking her life didn’t make her weak just because she died. staying alive didn’t make her strong and brave, and dying didn’t make her weak and scared. it all was just what the cancer chose. she was just trying to live her last days without being terrified of what she knew was to come, because if she had no choice in whether she lived or died, at least she had a choice between finding peace and feeling happy with what she had accomplished, so that’s what she did.
rest in peace, mama. you are so loved, and so missed 🩷
It feels like I’m surrounded by family members or friends with terminal cancer at the moment and it’s incredibly stressful. I can’t put my emotions and thoughts into words. It’s scary. Thanks for making it a bit of a lighter topic
My mom died of cancer three years ago and your videos always make me laugh about a topic thats very hard for me. We used to joke about things like this even when we weren't feeling positive. Miss her a lot.
these videos mean so much to me, it’s nice to feel like we aren’t so alone in our suffering :,) -fellow cancer survivor as of nov 2022
honestly its a real relief to hear you talk about your cancer in a way thats like. both genuine and biting. im a survivor also, and for a few years after my treatment i was just so angry all the time lol. theres a heavy societal expectation of how cancer survivors need to act and think and behave, and its always a weird sense of martyrdom. Selflessness at being "given" a "second chance"? its weird and uncomfortable, and youre so right. a lot of the things people say, thought well intentioned, just feel so dehumanizing when ur rly going thru it.
i have a chronic immuno disease and i grew up very religious and the church almost kicked out my parents because we went to the hospital and doctors got help instead of just praying about it, safe to say i lost my religiousness fairly young 🤠 love you jacob!
I love that Jacob is Benjamin Buttoning 2023 and personally can't wait for a Halloween themed March
Oh good, a holiday UA-cam video just in time for Christmas
I love you and Kurtis you can say you cured my cancer....not really I do appreciate you're videos I been in remissions for a long time and very grateful but you make light of it is what the world needs to do sometimes when those dark times do come....plus ex-Jehovah witnesses have this weird awesome connection like nothing else lol
Hope all the love and humor you send out to others in life and in you're videos follow you in you're recovery...geez that sounded like a cancer meme to ugh
Hey I'm sorry if this is a touchy subject, but if you could(you don't have to), could you explain what remission is? I would like to know so I can understand it a bit better. And again if not that's totally fine :]
@@asoupyferretnamedfar3634 permission just means and more or less words that they cancer is not hurting me anymore that's the easiest way to explain it at least. My first year of remission I still had to see the doctors pretty regularly but it's been 10 plus years for me and I see my primary care physician and give follow-up appointment as far as my bone density and other things that could have been affected by the cancer but I no longer have to receive treatment. Permissions not always easy though you might be out of the water per say but there are still many things that you have to watch after you're considered in remission.
@@sydneymcknight1891 thank you so much for explaining this to me! I greatly appreciate it!
@@asoupyferretnamedfar3634 Glad to be of help
You are creepily good at doing that wierd awkward millenial thing, it's uncanny.
In august I was going to a ton of drs appointments to figure out what this strange lump on my throat was, which I was certain was NOT cancer. During that time I went to see Kurtis Connors comedy show and watched you perform and through all your bits about going through cancer it suddenly hit me that I probably had cancer. I got officially diagnosed the next day. I love to joke that you gave me cancer (thanks for that/jk) I’m almost done with chemo and it’s been a wild fucking ride that I hope to never go on again but through it all your jokes from that show really helped me make peace with it all and get through it as positively as I could, (also you where right, family members really do just be saying “this is our fight” lmao) anyways from one cancer baldie to the next I just wanted to say thanks for making this shitty thing easier. Much love 💖
Brain cancer is also my favorite flavor!! whenever i get a big bag of jelly beans i throw out all the other flavors just so i can have brain cancer flavor!!!
I love your videos and cancer jokes so much! I don't have cancer, but my mom did (she survived thankfully) and all those things you talk about is so so true. She sometimes says, that when she was sick, somedays having the cancer wasn't the worst part, but everyone else treating her so differently or avoiding her completely. You never really hear about the true loneliness of having cancer in movies etc. Anyways, I love your videos and I hope you'll never ever have to go through that again! ❤️ (English isn't my first language so there might be typos lol)
Man I would've loved watching this video now but I'll have to add it to my watch later list I fear.... my dad died of cancer a few days ago and I honestly don't think I'll be able to stomach this video, but I'm glad you're back Jacob 💕
I've had stage 4 cancer for the last like 11 months, and despite that I never got any memes, but if I did I would wanna strangle them. I did get bible quotes about how beauty isn't everything when I vented about being insecure about losing my hair or wearing a wig smh
I just found out that my mum has cancer this holiday season and the video made me feel lot better, thanks for the cancer nuggs jacob
Lifelong autoimmune patient with a benign brain tumour; so much of what Jacob said applies to me + people I've met like me. Eg I completely identify with the odd, very particular feeling about having to minimize or hide or joke-away anything you're going thru as a patient bc you can see you're freaking a loved or liked one out then you wind up soothing them, bc y'know, constant fatigue certainly means patients can accommodate more emotional labour & deal with their own deep fears alone so healthy-folk don't feel uncomfortable or awkward & you don't challenge any of their assumptions about the systems in place to help & protect sick people. (The people supposedly there to help can really put the "mean" in "means testing", is all I'll say.)
My personal least fave --- other than the surprising number of people who believe we all can manifest or banish health problems at will so I have to willpower harder I guess? --- is a trope Hollywood + Hallmark love to reinforce, whereby there's "a lesson" somehow being imparted via suffering, & once the cosmic mystery box of illness(es) is solved by the patient (or in more condescending fare the patient's caregiver), suddenly cured like magic!
Explicitly or by implication, when I get it, this usually involves the bonus sh*t idea that somehow the sickness is a path to me becoming a nebulously described chiaroscuro of "a better person" of some kind from it, but usually it's all vibes & if I press for specifics, esp bc this suggests that this other person (or gasp maybe even GAWD??!?) thinks I'm a terrible enough person to need/deserve a lesson of such extremes + magnitudes, whoever's telling me this defers to a higher power (with that clever planning higher powers do so naturally lol) & has no defined ideas of what I do or who I am that's apparently so offensive to the Universe as to merit my experiences.
Nah, folks, trust: suffering cannot & does not make a person become their True Best Selves.
Rebecca Watson I think has a video on a study debunking any connection between cancer outcomes & whether the patients have positive or negative outlooks. Very conclusively does not matter, so don't police yourself or others, let them feel how they feel & express downs + ups.
Here's the only good things to say to those suffering:
1) "That sucks."
2) "You don't deserve it."
3) "I'm so sorry this is happening to you."
& 4) {optional; bc "put yr oxygen on 1st before helping", etc} ... "How can I help? I can do things like _______ --- would that help? Can we talk about what will get you thru this as best as possible?"
My 5 year remission anniversary is coming up, which will make me the only person I’ve ever personally known to survive bone cancer for 5 or more years. But sure, send people positive vibes and shit.
Also, your rating scale is on point 😂
as a mentally ill person, a lot of this video heavily resonates with me. thank you so much jacob, you’re one of my favorite content creators
i was just watching his religious tik tok video, what a coincidence he's back on the jesus train 20 minutes later 🤩
As someone who went through cancer and had an ulcerated tumor which literally caused me to be on the ground sobbing in pain from just a small gust of wind when I was getting out of the shower I had to sit through this shit from like all of my family, it was arguably the most exhausting part of it all. Like no heather your prayers aren't helping get me my god damn pain killers
"Don't worry god can fight ur cancer" okay so when literally all of my grandmother's sibling (who were literally the most religious people ever) all died of cancer God just didn't want to??? What?
These are the types of images my mom shares in facebook groups 💀
My grandma too 🤦🏼♀️
god created the people who made medicine, so we should trust god to help the hands of the doctors/nurses/etc. thats my take on that.
my mom just got diagnosed with breast cancer and we live in Alabama so we are just waiting for the cancer prayers to come rolling in. sending this to her rn lol
This is also extremely relatable to chronic illness I love this whole video amazing vibes the entire time
The millennial part has me crying. “Er meh gerd cerncer” 💀
the idea of "losing your battle to cancer" is so fucking stupid. as if that person wasn't strong or good enough to fight it off. imagine telling someone who lost a loved one to cancer, "sorry :/ i guess they didn't try hard enough :/"
i dont think god will have your cancer come back. what's he going to do, make you double bald? he cant make you bald twice. that's not as funny.
Kind of unrelated to the topic, but I have to wonder… we’re you really a Jehovahs Witness? I was so that may explain why I love the content. ❤
I recently lost my mom to cancer after her treating it/having it come back for 10 years so this was really nice I really love your videos
As a fellow ex jw. The my family doesn't speak to me hits fucking home and I laughed like a manic. Thanks for that. 💙
Dude, I screamed 😂😂😂
My brother had a diagnosis (I forgot the name of it) but he needed brain surgery and his father denied it because “god would heal him” my brother was almost killed because my ex step father couldn’t believe he surgery could help him that’s why he didn’t get custody when my mum and him slit which was the best decision she ever made
my uncle recently got diagnosed with most likely terminal cancer and watching ur videos is something we've bonded over :) thank u for the nugs
I don’t have cancer, but I was born with spina bifida and a severe heart defect, and looking up my conditions on Redbubble is one of the most entertaining things I’ve ever done. If you think these are wild, wait till you get to the mommy merch, the shirts that say shit like “most people never meet their heroes. I raised mine.” It’s so fucking funny, istg
Cancer patient here. Remission never lasted more than 3 months for me and I’ve been fighting it for 4 years. Please try to be thankful while your in remission and move forward with your life as much as possible. Thank you for another great video!
I don't have cancer, but I do have multiple serious chronic illnesses that cause a ton of pain and disrupt and dictate my entire life. I cannot TELL YOU how many times people have just told me to "think positive", "pray for healing", or that i "was so strong for being such a fighter"! WHAT OTHER CHOICE DO I HAVE???? I was so sick of hearing it, especially when I wasn't even being negative, just stating the facts. And I hate how people say someone "lost their battle with cancer". there is literally nothing you can do to "fight harder" against cancer. it makes it sound like a moral failing... honestly I wonder if people are scared of the fact that they truly are that powerless in the face of disease, that they can't just push through like they do with a cold.
My grandad passed from cancer and other infections last month, joking about things like cancer and death is part of how I’ve been coping with the loss. Is it healthy? Idk, but thanks for giving me a laugh in a difficult time!
i can't believe andrew said "cup of chem-joe" when "cup of 'mo" was right there
11:36 In all seriousness, I totally agree. My dad's side of the family are hella religious and put religion over chemo when my aunt (rip) had breast cancer. With all respect, it was the most infuriating and stupid thing they've ever done. On a lighter note, love you jacob and I want a truck load of nugs
one time i pissed the bed after waking up from kidney surgery and my mom brought the blanket home and washed it and i was like why didn't you just leave it at the hospital
If you pee on something, you own it forever. Them's the rules.
Hey, i know we've never met. but Jacob, i love you, and i think we'd have alot of good...
Chemo-stry BU DUM TCHHH
“2010 Cancer Aesthetic” is going to take off, I just know it
Gonna preference this by saying I don’t have cancer cause I’m not trying to be disrespectful and cosplay. I have a different disability that’s prob gonna kill me yayeet.
There are some days we’re I want to put stuffed animals on my IV line, stickers on my chair, fight ableism, be loud and proud. Then there’s days where I wanna murder anyone who sees me (including myself) cause all I (and they) can think is “disabled”.
The idea of being a Good Cripple and always being positive is so damn toxic. Let us be angry!!!! Let us scream and cry and say no I can’t do it. It actually HELPS as it’s cathartic and such negativity needs to be let out or we’ll drown in it.
It isn’t cancer but my mother is terminally ill, and people love to talk like this about it and it’s distressing and upsetting. No, god isn’t going to cure her. That isn’t how it works. “You can be a Victim or Survivor” makes me so angry