Neither He, Nor She, But Me | Hannah Fons | TEDxAdelphiUniversity

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  • @itzpredicator3589
    @itzpredicator3589 3 роки тому +36

    I live in a society where people still can't accept you if you are different from others. Watching Hannah reminds me that just because my community is behind the times does not mean others do not get it and for that I am grateful. Thank you Hannah for paving the way.

  • @thenextbigthingishere
    @thenextbigthingishere 3 роки тому +47

    There was a time when I questioned and judged, then I started to hear what I said and what I thought and realized what I had become, a bigot. Now I see this and I think, this is a human, and nothing they are doing or advocating harms me, they just want to live free, hey, just like me. Well said Hannah!

  • @bethdanster
    @bethdanster 3 роки тому +84

    Has anyone stopped to think that maybe kids these days just have access to better language, reference and exposure that means they are better able to express those inner feelings? Hannah has articulated so much of this beautifully. I love it.

    • @kr-schon
      @kr-schon Рік тому +1

      NOPE - ​​⁠Pronoun means nothing because DNA 🧬 fingerprinting will be in everybody’s photo ID🥜

    • @WandaBarquinG
      @WandaBarquinG 2 місяці тому

      If you urinate standing up, you are a male. If you have XX chromosomes you are a woman. You want to cross dress, fine! Feel however you wish…tomboys exist, butch women have been out there for ages, anyone can be attracted to whomever and wear what he/she pleases. Some people are born intersex. But stop making up new language that makes no sense. Be whomever…be happy and/or confused if need be…but please just don’t try to confuse others. Thank you.

    • @casstropman4959
      @casstropman4959 2 місяці тому

      Kids nowadays bro don't know what gender they are because their being brainwashed by this rubbish.

  • @kevinolomon4587
    @kevinolomon4587 4 роки тому +48

    This makes me cry. It makes me cry HARD. Not for Hannah- not for other trans or non-binary folks. But for those sorts who are so closed-minded and so small & cruel that they'll never understand Hannah- nor get to know anyone similar. ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

    • @raphkisento
      @raphkisento 3 роки тому +4

      Me too, I agree 100% time for more understanding.

    • @alanwoopchuck
      @alanwoopchuck 3 роки тому +3

      I agree, tears are good though as it shows we care.

    • @aprildiamond6510
      @aprildiamond6510 2 роки тому +3

      💙😢😢thank you

    • @sakkasufle6326
      @sakkasufle6326 2 роки тому

      A Gen Z tard crying over made up problems and imaginary gender spectrum. Imagine my lack of shock 😂

    • @muhammadjibran8239
      @muhammadjibran8239 Рік тому

      This is madness ..... Ruining your personality just to become like a man or woman.
      She was a girl but hated her gender and wanted to become like a man.... Girls have a beautiful personality, now look at her... She has become disgusted.

  • @realjcoop182
    @realjcoop182 6 років тому +6

    Proud to say, we've met and the Fons is hella cool.

  • @maym3456
    @maym3456 6 років тому +36

    Hannah is so amazing! A beautiful soul with a message that people need to hear. I wish that the world would understand what Hannah is saying. I love when Hannah said "Neither a he or a she, but just me" I do not understand why people have a need to identify others and feel threatened because someone is different. Everyone has the right to feel safe in this world.

  • @Jonny-wt3rg
    @Jonny-wt3rg 9 місяців тому +2

    If life was more difficult this wouldnt even be a discussion..

  • @ineffablemars
    @ineffablemars 2 роки тому +30

    I got to 1:44 and started crying... this was my experience as a child. I remember being a child and having a toy tool box and going outside to where the men were working to pretend I was a worker like one of them. But I also loved playing dress up in my moms heels and when I was a little older I got into makeup (I love makeup now) tears are running down my cheeks as a type this... it's so validating hearing someone else talking about similar experiences.

    • @DaRyteJuan
      @DaRyteJuan 9 місяців тому

      When you’re a child there really aren’t many constraints. You can do whatever suits your fancy.

  • @makiweshter
    @makiweshter 3 роки тому +4

    I am grateful to you Hannah for having the voice and presence to speak up and educate, thank you.

  • @evanesterneg
    @evanesterneg 3 роки тому +4

    Really great to have a talk that is open, honest and real- not all drama and flair (though I do love me some drama and flair). Powerfully genuine, thanks Hannah.

    • @ivanahelenka
      @ivanahelenka 3 роки тому

      I thought the way Hannah presented had the perfect amount of all those things. One of the best speakers I've seen in a long time

  • @jaspernedivek
    @jaspernedivek 3 роки тому +5

    I have used this talk to help show some friends the very perspective I have, thank you Hannah

  • @ArvyVillamarzo
    @ArvyVillamarzo 8 місяців тому +2

    This is the first time I'm understanding all these words. Thank you for making it very easy to understand.

  • @lucyhossel
    @lucyhossel 3 роки тому +14

    This is such an important talk, because very quickly Hannah puts you at ease, with clear understandable descriptions of topics most people just gossip about and never bother to learn about.

  • @jessicasaigh6435
    @jessicasaigh6435 3 роки тому +16

    They are so incredibly lucky to have a loving, supportive family. I would love to hear from their mother to explain her compassionate and understanding parenting. It makes all the difference. Hannah grew up feeling strong and supported. I especially loved how the mother said after the surgery, "You look more like yourself now." If more trans parents treated their children with dignity and understanding, maybe fewer trans people would attempt suicide. Hannah and their mother are wonderful examples for us all on how to treat people and live with understanding.

    • @phyllishack
      @phyllishack 3 роки тому

      I was thinking the same thing.

  • @MarisaSalvartoLoungeSongs
    @MarisaSalvartoLoungeSongs 2 роки тому +4

    how beautifully and authentically presented. I am cisgender person trying to find an understanding around the needs of those around me. This was really really helpful. thank you.

  • @ucheajubige3730
    @ucheajubige3730 5 років тому +3

    Currently we spoke , chat and discuss important issues of life I can proudly tell you that Hanaah is such a wonderful, gifted, unique individual . I keep loving hana each and every moment we chat. She is so amazing and special . She is among the few people created by God to impact the human race positively. God bless you Hanaah

  • @geraldemery1417
    @geraldemery1417 3 роки тому +3

    Hannah is divine! What a beautiful soul and an incredible speaker. We have so much conditioning to shed and it's people like Hannah that are leading by example. I love it.

    • @maehaslet
      @maehaslet 3 роки тому

      This was the best ted Ive ever seen without a doubt

  • @sariyah7175
    @sariyah7175 3 роки тому +6

    So refreshing to hear a story like this where family and the like were supportive and understanding, definitely brought some tears to my eyes.

    • @shannonnikita
      @shannonnikita 3 роки тому

      I know right! There are many parents who could use this lesson and understanding

  • @artcornish3520
    @artcornish3520 3 роки тому +5

    So interesting to hear Hannah's story. I loved hearing how they found themselves, felt more comfortable within themselves, despite peoples initial reactions. A really beautiful (and tough) journey but I can only imagine how it'll help other youths struggling with identity.

  • @elainehampton2314
    @elainehampton2314 Рік тому +2

    Watching Hannah was so inspiring. It was such a great speech that everyone should listen to. ❤️❤️❤️🦋

  • @jessicajohnston5693
    @jessicajohnston5693 Рік тому +1

    Thank you. I hope to be a better human and a better friend to everyone. 🙏

  • @kathrynlthomas
    @kathrynlthomas 3 роки тому +2

    Can I just say, I had been admiring your eyebrows from the start and was so happy when you mentioned them!! Goals!

  • @kricherds
    @kricherds 6 років тому +13

    You nailed it H. So bummed I was out of town and missed this. For the lady in the comments that wants to meet her: You're not wrong. Hannah is one of my favorite humans on this planet. Intelligent, self aware, empathetic and ridiculously funny.

  • @garymacdonald5370
    @garymacdonald5370 3 роки тому +2

    Hannah is exquisite! It's hard enough being human let alone struggling with one's identity. Hannah could really help some grade school children I dare say.

    • @eirajansta
      @eirajansta 3 роки тому

      Honestly I can't wait to show this to my kids, I think they'll get a lot out of it.

  • @tterrydoyle
    @tterrydoyle 3 роки тому +1

    I respect people like Hannah. They have the courage to be what they like!

  • @lucyholmesisme
    @lucyholmesisme 3 роки тому +2

    I love how Hannah explains the differences in Gender, S3xuality and the like. I really was unsure of how to differentiate between them and now I do!

  • @macyduens
    @macyduens 3 роки тому +2

    Incredible speaker and a topic that I believe the vast majority of the population needs a little perspective for and my goodness, Hannah is superb!

  • @carriesisk8955
    @carriesisk8955 6 років тому +3

    WOW. That was excellent. Thank you for getting this message out there, Hannah! Eloquent, intelligent, and informative-this is exactly what our world needs. More of this, please!

    • @pierrevilleneu
      @pierrevilleneu 3 роки тому +1

      it has opened my eyes, and shut my mouth til I know!

  • @malachijude
    @malachijude 3 роки тому +2

    I know you have no doubt suffered to find your path, but I love how unashamedly you you are and your stories of your youth. I wish I had the sense of self that you have. I have a long way to go.

    • @diggerreese
      @diggerreese 3 роки тому

      An inspiration, we all need some Hannah in our lives.

  • @kinsleyhawker
    @kinsleyhawker 3 роки тому

    This talk created a complete picture in my head of what a person may feel when they have doubts about their gender identity.

  • @Seeyatellite
    @Seeyatellite Рік тому

    Hannah gives me hope I have the chance to find people who accept me enough that I no longer hide just to fit in comfortably.
    Discomfort with yourself shouldn’t be a requirement for comfort among your friends and family.

  • @ZARinVA
    @ZARinVA 6 років тому +19

    Thank you so much for doing this talk. I've bookmarked it to use whenever someone asks me to explain my kid's gender. People are so used to thinking in the binary, that they just can't seem to wrap their heads around anything non-binary, let alone a non-binary gender.

    • @MustyUnderboob
      @MustyUnderboob Рік тому

      What's your kid up to now four years later?

  • @marcynielsen5837
    @marcynielsen5837 2 роки тому +1

    This is the coolest human I've ever seen/heard..... this is how I feel about gender exactly 💯

    • @bookgirlny8511
      @bookgirlny8511 2 роки тому

      I totally agree. As a middle school teacher, I feel humbled yet grateful for people like them who share their stories.

  • @AdirondackJenScott74
    @AdirondackJenScott74 6 років тому +12

    Yaaaaaahhhhhhh!!!! I've been WAITING for this to be released, SUPER!!!! This is so amazing, wonderful and I love this, yes yes yes!! Thank you!! The world needs an hour++ long version of this fantastic-ness!! They should play this TedTalk at those lamaze classes for new parents, so their kids can grow up with compassion & freedom to be whoever they are. Change the binary dialogue, that is where it starts. Thank you!

  • @baileyporter7748
    @baileyporter7748 Рік тому

    I wish I’d seen this closer to the presentation date to be able to comment then. But I still want to say how wonderful this talk was to hear. I’ve revisited it a few times now. A beautiful and meaningful message presented with such a kind and smart voice. I hope Hannah Fons plans to present and give talks in the future. A really captivating presenter.

  • @DaRyteJuan
    @DaRyteJuan 9 місяців тому +3

    This is probably one of the best talks on transgenderism I’ve ever heard. Some who feels more masculine than a typical woman, but also doesn’t try to impose herself onto what it means to be a man either.
    Acceptance ought to be a two way street.

  • @sharonroberts4758
    @sharonroberts4758 4 роки тому +4

    Thank you that was an amazing talk. Intelligent and beautiful .

  • @jessiesangster
    @jessiesangster 3 роки тому

    14:08- the price of truth is solitude… This is a true statement of choosing yourself over a relationship and is a very powerful statement. In the wrong hands, it could be so dangerous and isolating. I am so happy that we live in a world now where these discussions are happening and a community is building around acceptance of the individual rather than their conformity.

    • @judeblyth3606
      @judeblyth3606 3 роки тому

      Gosh me too! It has taken us much too long

  • @erinwright3351
    @erinwright3351 11 місяців тому

    Oh my gosh, what a beautiful person, inside and out ❤

  • @jamesyuille9534
    @jamesyuille9534 3 роки тому +1

    Probably the best video on this topic I've seen, and I've seen hundreds. Congrats Hannah. Thank you. Straight male with female gender identity.

  • @theupwardspiral1580
    @theupwardspiral1580 6 років тому +3

    all of this needed to be said. and this was perfect. the "static" part totally resonated. i hope im a mom like that too. this is why i want to adopt everyone lol

    • @muhammad-baksh
      @muhammad-baksh 3 роки тому

      I know what you mean, I am the same way.

  • @BenedictThambiah
    @BenedictThambiah Рік тому +5

    This is an incredible lecture. What we all need is room, respect and reciprocity.

  • @hasnain-jeelani
    @hasnain-jeelani 3 роки тому +4

    I loved hearing about when you arrived in NY and really coming into yourself. This life sounds like it would make an incredible movie script. There are many young people who need to hear this story.

    • @macyduens
      @macyduens 3 роки тому +1

      I often think of NY as a city to lose and then find yourself

    • @hasnain-jeelani
      @hasnain-jeelani 3 роки тому

      @@macyduens exactly!

    • @yogidevish
      @yogidevish 3 роки тому

      I have heard many stories of NY but I think Hannah's feeling of the place is how I imagine it to be

  • @jensjfriedemann
    @jensjfriedemann 3 роки тому +5

    The run through of terminology in the beginning is the perfect start point, and defining them and three separate qualities is the perfect opening to this discussion. It really lays some solid ground work and more people need to know these terms.

    • @samanthaabadi
      @samanthaabadi 3 роки тому +1

      Agreed, perfect way to help people understand.

  • @iayanarael2315
    @iayanarael2315 Рік тому

    Thank you. Best I've heard on this topic. Thanks so much and best wishes.

  • @jaineyrosting
    @jaineyrosting 3 роки тому +3

    Sounds like Hannah really hit the jackpot with their support network. I've known far too many people in my time who could never and would never be able to speak this freely.

  • @LizaWiemer
    @LizaWiemer Рік тому

    Such an important talk! Thank you so much for sharing and being the amazing and inspiring YOU!

  • @eric-tran
    @eric-tran 3 роки тому +1

    Great stuff here. Brilliant to hear the differences in such an articulate and experience filled way. Much appreciated.

  • @peterdgrubb
    @peterdgrubb 3 роки тому

    Hannah, your strength and resilience are mind blowing. Your strength of character and confidence are seriously inspiring. I want to hear more from you!

    • @hasnain-jeelani
      @hasnain-jeelani 3 роки тому

      They're so incredibly beautiful, inside and out

  • @zusanneahlin3046
    @zusanneahlin3046 Рік тому

    A great person and interesting to listen at.Thank you ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @MaisyDaisy333
    @MaisyDaisy333 2 роки тому +1

    This was an incredible talk. Thank you so much for sharing your story with us! 💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗

  • @BeKind2UrSelf6
    @BeKind2UrSelf6 Рік тому

    Hannahhh, I appreciate you so much for sharing your experience and perspective. It's been so helpful to use with my clients.

  • @dudley4318
    @dudley4318 3 роки тому +1

    Everyone has to live the life they like. Forget all the stereotypes.

  • @carollcole
    @carollcole 3 роки тому

    Beautiful beautiful soul, bless you Hannah.

  • @camilaanders3419
    @camilaanders3419 3 роки тому

    Perfect talk Hannah! thank you for being so Brave!

  • @kaylacalkins489
    @kaylacalkins489 3 роки тому

    Beautiful person with an amazing message. You go Hannah!

  • @lynnelowe8461
    @lynnelowe8461 2 роки тому

    Excellent TED talk. I learned so much from this. Thank you so much for sharing your experience. Much Love. Lynne

  • @ctmelear
    @ctmelear 6 років тому +9

    Excellent explanation of terms I didn't understand. Hannah is so beautiful and speaks so well. I recommend this TED Talk to everyone. Someday I want to meet her.(Oh dear is that the correct pronoun?) I love hearing about how her mother gave her the love and support she needed.

    • @hannahfons8320
      @hannahfons8320 6 років тому +4

      Totally the right pronoun! (In my case, there really isn't a 'wrong' one!) :)

  • @windowtrimmer8211
    @windowtrimmer8211 Рік тому

    Splendid presentation. Thanks.

  • @susancarrier4681
    @susancarrier4681 2 роки тому

    This presentation is so informative, valuable, and illuminating. Thank you for sharing your truth and helping our whole species develop into something better.

  • @susanbuckingham4981
    @susanbuckingham4981 6 років тому +2

    Wow....clear and concise...thank you.

  • @realminipowers
    @realminipowers 3 роки тому

    Heck yes this was such an incredible topic for a ted talk and I think Hannah has done such an incredible job explaining just what it means. Incredible!!!!

  • @rosiealturo14
    @rosiealturo14 3 роки тому

    I wish so much that people could understand that societal conditioning has done a number on us in regards to prejudice and stereotypes. I genuinely believe we won't be free until we shed ourselves of such beliefs.

  • @moyaresgard
    @moyaresgard 3 роки тому

    Thank you Hannah, this is such a beautifully put together talk and one that could educate so many as we move forward.

  • @giacomots
    @giacomots 3 роки тому

    Variation is the biggest thing. I always wonder how much is based on conditioning. I feel Hannah on many levels. I am definitely a non-conformist. I feel better about that now having heard Hannah speak out. This is brilliant.

  • @miriamhilley
    @miriamhilley 3 роки тому

    2021 and people still have to explain themselves, good talk!

  • @brielleanyez7113
    @brielleanyez7113 2 роки тому +1

    you are absolutely beautiful ❤️ thankyou for this.

  • @AnaMaria-my1we
    @AnaMaria-my1we Рік тому +1

    I am just finding out that I also have some masculine part in me that I always had. I would love to meet more people like this. Like Hanna who I find is an amazing being and I would love to talk to them and find out what makes them tick. Could I ever talk to her? Amazing!❤❤❤

  • @ianrendle
    @ianrendle 3 роки тому

    Great story of the inner personality coming to life.

  • @ninamenes
    @ninamenes 3 роки тому

    In this day and age it is just awful that people are still scared to say who and what they are. Well done TED!

  • @frankiebingxinyu2947
    @frankiebingxinyu2947 2 роки тому

    we need more this kind of talk

  • @ronniehambeka5064
    @ronniehambeka5064 2 роки тому +4

    the crowd missed a great opportunity to give an applause at 16:00
    "Just because your culture doesn't acknowledge or value what you are; doesn't make what you are the problem!"

  • @marekdluzniak
    @marekdluzniak 3 роки тому +2

    What a fascinating journey. I had to google search you! And I think your Mother is a writer? Makes sense because the way in which you articulate and carry yourself is mesmerizing. Thank you for speaking so openly, so very much appreciated

    • @tonyiquintero
      @tonyiquintero 3 роки тому +1

      Hannah has incredible presence on that stage, such a joy to hear and watch

  • @easyrider9366
    @easyrider9366 3 роки тому

    I struggle with this, not lieing, I do!

  • @mikethesailor
    @mikethesailor 3 роки тому

    This is so good, so much honesty.

  • @justwill6625
    @justwill6625 2 роки тому

    Great talk. Brought with humor, I loved it.
    Wouldn't it make everything so much easier if things like different genders was tought at school in biologyclass?
    That there are more genders then just male or female, but also both in the same body, or neither.

  • @gabrielivar
    @gabrielivar 3 роки тому +2

    Put aside your judgement, and just hear Hannah out, and it you hade prejudice I bet it will change!

  • @eddysgarage
    @eddysgarage 3 роки тому

    a real eye opener here

  • @pierretheiller2394
    @pierretheiller2394 2 роки тому +1

    At 4:14 I appreciate what Hannah says. Also a lot of what Hannah mentions.
    Hormones and surgeries those are not the things that define or legitimize a trans identity.
    In the binary context of society, however, it is often handled in this way.
    You can have an f or an m in your passport. As a legal document.
    Often you are taken seriously when you take steps. Such as the alignment of the body.

  • @smithgaming7732
    @smithgaming7732 2 роки тому

    Amazing and eye opening

  • @arsdenis
    @arsdenis 2 роки тому +1

    🥰👏🤗❤️ tnx for sharing your experience with the world 🤗

  • @kenyacorteportela9368
    @kenyacorteportela9368 2 роки тому

    thank you so much for this video

  • @susanpqpowell
    @susanpqpowell 3 роки тому +1

    You are happy to have a wonderful, understanding family. But I know stories where children were denied because they didn't feel that they have the right body or had other preferences.

  • @annam7233
    @annam7233 3 місяці тому +1

  • @bcacres9837
    @bcacres9837 3 роки тому

    Beautiful talk, as awkward as this sounds, this is bringing humanity to humans, because first and foremost thats what we all are first.

  • @roundblueduck
    @roundblueduck 2 роки тому

    I wish I had this courage. I think I'll be "trapped in the halloween costume", dealing with bearable, for ever

  • @morongocho6795
    @morongocho6795 3 роки тому

    En que momento de toda mi vida toque para ver este video??????

  • @davefisher1840
    @davefisher1840 2 роки тому

    Excellent 👍

  • @aaronereid
    @aaronereid 3 роки тому +1

    Hannah, I would love to know what you feel about Gina Rippon's research! Your talk is beautiful and I think a lot of people need to see this to fully understand. Sharing right away!

  • @rubylcharlotte
    @rubylcharlotte 3 роки тому +1

    Why do we have to label everything? Can’t we just be what we are and get on with life? Seriously, as long as you aren’t causing others suffering, you do you! I often feel like this need to label feeds the ‘us and them’ mentality.

    • @oscarkluk
      @oscarkluk 3 роки тому +3

      Pretty sure that's Hannah's whole point!

  • @myfavoritestories
    @myfavoritestories 3 роки тому +3

    I believe once we have all accepted gender non-conformity, when we've finally released the shackles of stereotypes, only then will be free!

  • @superlizard001
    @superlizard001 4 роки тому +3

    Also follow Hs' instagram.

  • @hanka4077
    @hanka4077 Рік тому

    Great person!
    If only all trans would be that sound and reasonable.
    Really thanks for sharing this story and view.
    Will always support people like this. Cudos.

  • @stanhopeishere
    @stanhopeishere 3 роки тому

    Thanks for making everything clear. I was sure that $exual orientation and $exual identity are the same things.

  • @davidmenke7552
    @davidmenke7552 2 роки тому +4

    I can't believe that its socially acceptable today to tell people that when you're born, the doctor assigns your gender. It's just maddening. Does that mean I could be a girl?! I mean, if my doctor "assigned" my gender as male, doesn't that mean he just took a random guess based on his own perspective or bias or whatever? Now you tell little kids this. It's just so wrong on so many levels and it gets me so worked up how we all just accept it as truth. OR we're all just too afraid to call this nonsense out. One of the two.

  • @jenniferfarsh675
    @jenniferfarsh675 6 років тому +1

    ❤️

  • @K-o_S
    @K-o_S 6 місяців тому

    Hannah looks and sounds like Marilyn Manson and I think that's pretty cool 🥰

  • @calebandxion
    @calebandxion Рік тому

    Trans ≠ across from.
    Trans = to go across, extend across, through. (You know, like how you transition from one place to the next)
    Hetero would probably be a better fit. It means another. There's other, better terms probably but that's the one i first thought

  • @julieb7866
    @julieb7866 Рік тому

    Thank you for helping me to understand your situation better. :}

  • @bencycaitlin
    @bencycaitlin 3 роки тому +1

    Your family and the relevant education helped you to perceive yourself. But many many people don't have the support and the knowledge for this. It's a pity.