The most unfair part of an eating disorder is that food doesn't look the same anymore. It turns into numbers on your phone or puke sitting in youe toilet bowl or an extra workout or just pure guilt
Have you found Alice Olivia on youtube? She helped me overcome binge eating after an eating disorder because she introduced me to what set point theory is and extreme hunger.
i really wish well for you, from personal experience I've learnt that it can often take a lot of time before you are mentally prepared to battle your disorder. one of the things I found to do was surround myself with people 24/7, which would force me to not binge and purge. i know you can find the strength to recover, its deep down inside but you will find it one day if you keep on battling :)
Try to eat more throughout the day. Even if it means that you’ll put on a little weight. JUST TRY IT. I’ve never had a problem with binging, but i was eating too little and was afriad of weight gain. Slowly i started eating more and more and told myself that “if i won’t like to eat normally, i can get back to where i was before”. May sound a bit crazy/mentally not ok, but the more i ate, the more relaxed i’ve become and now i’m in the state where i don’t think about food. Crazy right?😅 also going for a walk and listening to podcasts/music helped me, so i wasn’t always thinking bout myself. So main points: Eat more, walk more😋😄 and i wish you the best!!!❤️
@GROID-19 People recovering from eating disorders are advised to avoid restrictive diets as they can encourage the development of Fear Foods and Food Anxiety, so... No lowcarb for us
@GROID-19 I'm slim. BMI 17. I also eat carbs. Cutting out carbs is simply a way to restrict your caloric intake, weight loss & weight maintenance is all about CICO in the long term.
I was in the parking lot of a grocery store because I wanted to buy some chips while eating donuts at 12:30 am. I wanted to cry and just wanted to stop eating. I want a healthy relationship with food.
I'm sorry to hear that :( Have you thought about seeing a therapist? I'm a normale eating person, more often than I not I eat less calories on a day than I need, but when there are stressful periods I'm eating like a mad man, unable to stop. That's I'm trying to find a good psychologist, since I don't know how to help myself or find a better outlet
I know my reply is 7 months old, and I really wish you are getting better in the past 7 months. I had exactly the same experience for years. Just try to eat healthy, like what the video say don't try to take things out, just add healthy elements to your diet. Overtime you will be sick of processed foods, now for me almost any sweetened cereal is too sweet, and last time I had donuts was at the specialty store about a few months ago. I learned to enjoy real foods, and life just got so much better. Be mindful when you are eating, trying to enjoy the taste especially when you are eating real whole foods like fresh fruit and home cooked veggies. It took me a few months to get over the binge eating cycle, and I would say at least a year to completely recover from it. Now from time to time I occasionally overdo on corn chips or some other things but that's completely normal. Try to enjoy your food, don't let it be some filler that you use to fill your emotional void. Life is still beautiful, i believe in you, and I really wish you well. Be nice to yourself, love yourself, love real food. Wish you the best!
It took me 24 years to learn how to be kind to my body. Throughout the years I would go through phases of crash diets and then the polar opposite. I was so addicted to carbs and sugars. Two months ago I found the strength to eat right and work out. This has been the hardest obstacle in my life and I am finally becoming the person I want to be. Sending nothing but love to those struggling.
I can’t remember the last time I had a healthy relationship with food. I don’t remember the last time I finished a meal. I don’t remember the last time i didn’t feel guilty after eating. I just want to be happy. I don’t know how to be healthy. Édit: two years later. Wow. Things have changed and not for the better, but my mental state around eating has improved so so much. Now I eat without guilt, and I finish my meals. I’m not going to say it gets better, because everyone here has already heard that. But I will say don’t give up. I’m proud of everyone reading this, i promise you’re worth getting better.
Vivi Underhay You’re not alone. I wish you peace, luck and courage. I am trying to be healthy now too. The UA-camr Alivea D’Andrea’s Glow up Diaries is helping me at the moment. She might be able to help you as well 💕
hey vivi, happiness is definitely the goal and its so great that health and happiness are your goals rather than a specific weight. Finding your own path and balance with food and lifestyle are the key to your success. I can suggest a few things if thats ok with you?
If I may add a suggestion that really helped me, order some cook books and find recipes you really enjoy. Once you start making your own food even if it’s just dinners, you start to learn and know what’s going into your foods. It gives you feelings of achievement and control instead of guilt. You can do it!
writing down this comment as someone in recovery from anorexia, thank you (edit : more than a year later and i'm writing this to let you know that i'm doing so so so much better. No matter what your battle is, please keep going. I promise things get better. And not only that, they even get good, beautiful, magical. Sending love, you've got this
with an eating disorder, food is no longer a fuel, it's just a reminder that you'll never be perfect. Every time your stomach rumbles, it hurts so much. Like you can get over a disorder but it'll always be part of you and it hurts that you can't just eat that one cookie without feeling guilt.
On the flip side, there’s Not much enjoyment out of life if you become obese (from food enjoyment) get T2D, liver damage, kidney damage, heart disease......early death.
D.E.B. B Yes, sugar addiction is real, it stimulates the same part of the brain that is stimulated by alcohol and drug addiction. I lost all my extra weight with intermittent fasting. Best thing I ever did, and I’m keeping it off bc I’ve adopted it as a lifestyle. I no longer have those strong sugar cravings, I still eat some sweets, just way less refined and processed foods. It’s been so great!! 😃😃😃
Its not about "I had one biscuit I minds well have the whole pack" Its more like "I cannot stop myself with just one, I have to eat them all until they are gone - I adore the crunch, flavor, texture and cannot stop." Its better just to not even open that pandoras box at all. The emotional, and physical pain is not worth it, but it is still a trap of obsession of foods that harm my body either physically or emotionally. I don't like the shape of my body that my body likes if that makes sense. Body dismorphia, food allergies and obsession with food - the struggles are so real....
Let yourself eat those foods more regularly, put them into your daily diet, eat them when you want them, let go of all of your food rules and really just let yourself eat whatever you want. As well, you have to let yourself enjoy the pleasure that food brings, food is meant to be enjoyed, but at the same time, find pleasure in something else than food. In activities, in people, in yourself.
I started running and naturally my body started to crave more nourishing foods, and I’m not hungry all the time anymore, I still eat everything in moderation and focus on my nutrition such as nuts, avocado es, eggs, cheese 🧀 etc. and I still have my chocolate 🍫 when ever I want, now that I no longer have these mental restrictions, I don’t feel the desire to eat the whole box of chocolates or pastries.
i absolutely love this woman. she sounds so educated, wise, honest. the incredible thing about lecture is that it is all based on experience which is even more empowering. I have an unhealthy relationship with food and an unhealthy view of my body but she has really helped that and relieved some of my worries. credits to her.
I wish everyone in the world could see this video because she's so right. As someone who used to be overweight and would struggle and switch between restrictive eating and binge eating, the answer I have found, just as Lambert said, is to eat in the grey area. For what it's worth, I think it's also worth mentioning that it's so important to have an internal source of happiness that takes precedent. So many people go on diets because they compare themselves to others and feel bad, when in reality, those who truly love themselves feel no reason to compare themselves to others. Just as she said, respect your body, love yourself, and know that everything in moderation is they key. Well said by Lambert, truly.
Finally, a nutritionalist that understands that people are unique genetically, hormonally and metabolically. I have friends who steam through life on potatoes and cheese while that would turn me into a brain fogged, lazy buffoon for 3 days.
this talk was so powerful. ive had an eating disorder since I was about 8 years old and I cannot remember what it feels like to sit in front of a plate of food and not have a panic attack. everytime my friends ask me out I have to find a reason as to why I cant go, because I know food will be involved, and every meal time with my family is another argument. And not to forget every doctor turning me away because "im not quite skinny enough" to be accepted into treatment until I literally had to be hospitalized. Thank you fo this talk I think it might help :)
I know food is good for you body, and I really want to enjoy every bite. I don't have an ED, but sometimes I can't help but have so many fear foods and see foods as numbers. Best of luck to anyone out there struggling and having these unhealthy food thoughts. You'll be able to beat them one day
This video spoke to me so much almost made me cry 🥺 eating disorders are soo horrible 😔 Im trying to have a good relationship with food and change my life for good but its very hard!
Dealing with an ED sucks. It’s also mentally exhausting. But reading all these comments, it’s comforting to know I’m not alone. I have faith we all find our peace one day
Used to be like this until I stopped counting calories and thinking ice cream is bad. Now I literally have 2 tubs of ice cream in my freezer untouched because I know I can have it if I want (and I proved it to myself by allowing it) It is mind-boggling how when I truly stopped restricting I eat only when I want it! And I have history of binging when restricting. You got this! Read the amazing book called Intuitive Eating
Such a good Ted Talk. This is my life every. single. day. I check my weight twice a day, I beat myself up for falling off the wagon. I hate my body because it no longer looks like my 17yr old, super slim body. I'm learning to love my body and not obsess about what I eat, but it's a process.
For the past year and a half, I have been on a water-only strict diet. I very rarely drink soda, juice, sport drink, or alcohol. I drink tea or herbal drink from time to time. But mainly, I drink only water, a lot of water, all day, everyday. It has changed my life. After I accomplished that, I started controlling my food diet. It works out very well for me.
I remember eating two big bowls of cereal in the morning following with eggs beans cheese , one time I ate a entire bowl of Ice cream and I didnt Care I was actually a really happy girl growing up in a blink of an eye im 5'2 weighting 80 lbs fearing Foods its honestly consuming I wish a healthy relationship with food and be happy again
I remember when i was young i used to have angel food cake with whipped cream and stawberries(three layers of that) at least 2 bowls of cereal(or the entire box) a pint of ice cream and then dinner. And then as a late night "snack" a bag of chips and 4 peices of toast with honey plus soda throughout the day, and no one ever told me no, so those habit came with me into my teens, but hey at least we are trying to find that healthy relationship with food
Loved this! I have been working on myself for years to reach that healthy relationship with food and I am getting there. It is good to know that I am doing it for the right reasons, self love and acceptance.
I really enjoyed this. I’ve struggled with body image and my weight since I was in middle school. During COVID, I lost almost 50lbs and gain the weight back within a year. Now as I get older I realized that my relationship w/ food is the REAL problem. I have to unlearn most of the things I was taught.
You know how with smokers, people think they have no hope because they've failed to quit so many times, but in reality, a higher amount of times trying to quit is actually a predictor for giving up cigarettes for good? I think it's kind of like that for us. I've tried so many times to quit my ED, but I feel like I'm finally making progress this time around. People do recover. We can do it.
The binging is a direct consequence of being restrictive for so long - your body needs time. Please i know you've watched dozens of videos like this and heard it 100 times before but you can recover and you're doing better than u think
@@janie2103 it's been 3 months, but I hope you're doing better today. Suicide would not be better for your body - it works day and night every day to keep you alive, because that's what it wants and needs. Please love it back and love yourself. ❤️
I think major part she skips over is the relationship between mental illness and food. I have depression and when those months hit, I literally sit in bed all day and eat junk food even to the point of feeling sick; then I feel terribly guilty, but it sadly becomes the only thing I look forward to in life. Then when I not depressed, I actually exercise, only eat when I'm actually hungry, and have the mental energy to make healthy choices. As a result, I end up losing weight and going back to my setpoint weight. Living with any mental illness is incredibly hard; it affects every aspect of my life from motivation to happiness to food. It's the biggest reason for my terribly inconsistent relationship with food.
Beautifully said. I am starting to follow this recently after getting too skinny and overweight my whole life so far. But what I struggle with is people committing or making fun of me when I m struggling to loose or gain weight.
When I was about 12 or so we were learning about different kinds of food in English class and the teacher asked to the classroom to start a conversation: "Do you think food is for fuel or pleasure?". Almost uninanimously all girls in that class said fuel. At that time I didn't realize the trascendence of the question but boy do I think about that moment often
Lots of people think losing weight and having a healthy relationship with food is disciplin. It is bot, it is psychological, it is all mindset. If you are happy and have a healthy life then you will have a healthy relationship with food. I have learned from a young age to eat my veggies and only then I can have a dessert. That is not the way to raise kids. As adults we raise our kids that way aswell. Change your mindset amd you will start to see changes. Goodluck ya'll xxxx
She has the right idea the tricky part is me implementing it. I was slim but got there and stayed there by eating a lot less, moving a lot and having cycles of eating guilty things then superstrict. When I moved far from home to go university and food was money and I had no car and rarely found it economically smart to take a bus etc. Still back then trying this and that with shakes and pills to add a burn. I stayed there by constantly being my own bully and eventually when other things in life crashed I more and more let go of restrictions, felt free and a little happier... Until I packed on weight and haven’t gotten back down to slim for years.
That usually happens when you are not taught the importance of water in your childhood. Your brain might develop a IF hungry, THEN soda or sugary drink association over time.
Thank you so much for this talk, especially the part about the psychology around our relationship with food. My aunt swung from fad diet to fad diet her whole life. She didn't need to, but she couldn't see that. All she could see was that she didn't look like she was 16 any more; no amount of weight loss will reverse aging. She was trying to stop the world in its tracks, as if eating exactly the right thing could make it 1955 again and turn back all the changes since.
maybe a healthy relationship with food means recognizing that it's not that big a part of your life? I mean you might spend idk 90 minutes a day prepping and eating food plus going to the bathroom which is consequence of eating. but that's only 1/16th of your day (if i did my math right)
I came across this Ted talk today. I didn’t know of her but this popped up. This video really spoke to me and hope to have a better relationship with food 💖
all these diet online that requires less 1000 calories a day says will help u, but until now, i can say, everything in moderation is the best advice for everyone to take note.
If it were really so easy as moderation - I literally do NOT have an off switch with food, unless I strictly control what I am eating. I will just hog out.. I wish it were as easy as moderation....
This is also accurate for other needs. As she said, we need to have everything with moderation and not start randomly cutting items just because some fitness UA-camr said so.
I have the same problem. I was on a diet for 7 years. Every single day I struggled with myself. One day I ate healthy food, for the next day I ate fast food and blamed myself too much because I couldn’t find balance. I didn’t have througtful approach to my food habits. I ate bland food and didn’t enjoy my meal. After hard 7 years I quit my diet and gained 10 kg. I tend to gain weight so fast, but I couldn’t control myself anymore. I started eating fattening food and a lot of fast food. Now I still don’t have good relationship with food. I wanna find balance, but when I come back from work I am so tired, starving and my voice inside my head tells me “you deserve for something tasty and filling”. I wish one day I can find balance and will have healthy relationships with food and will listen more my body then my inside’s voice
I've always had an ED, when I was a kid I was so picky id frequently end up in the hospital from malnourishment, when I finally got healthy toxic friends drove me to ana, then binge eating. Now I'm finally getting better and the moment I shared this my "friend" Again just started attacking my body, weight, with slight comments. But I'm not going to let her triggr my ed again
I already thinking about foods this way. I think i'm on the right path after watching this video 🥰 having a healthy relationship w food is about how to balance them, easy to say hard to practice at first. But it gets better and easier once you get used to it. Make a balanced diet, your new lifestyle. Then you can eat whatever you want on a daily basis.. before creating new healthier lifestyle, you should set you mindset first. Healthy relationship w food only possible if you have healthy mentality, loving yourself first. If not, then you should start from that. If you love yourself enough, then you can change your lifestyle into a healthier one.. but if not (yet), it could be really challenging... and never underestimate the small changes(baby step).. a bigger change in your life start from a small..start a healthy habit from whatever you think is the easiest one..and try to improve them day by day to a healthier one.. 9:10 Find the balance that works for YOU (This Is IT!)
Its scary how quick people are to judge overweight people like my self, i didnt get this big because im lazy. A lot goes into becoming overweight than most people(that ive encountered) think. I dont really know what a healthy relationship with food looks like for me, ever since i was young, i ate what i wanted and however much i wanted of that food, no one ever told me no, so those habits followed me into my teens and ive seen the effects it has had on me especially my mental health, but at least im trying. Hopefully someone can relate to this
I love this!! She is so inspiring! I am just about to write up me dissertation in BSc Psychology about emotional eating. I really enjoyed listen to this :)
I kinda think she could have said more. For breakfast I had an egg in a wrap with cheese. Some watermelon and an apple. And I don't know if i'm doing the right things. I talked to a dietitian who said I needed protein in my morning meal. So I've been eating an egg or two for breakfast with toast or a wrap and a piece of fruit. I'm so confused about what I'm doing. I have a hard time controlling what I eat. but I read in the joyce meyers devo the other day. treat your body well. be careful not to put junk in your body. I've been praying to lose weight or not to gain anymore. I hope God answers my pray.
peaceannie you can find your healthy! I feel like a huge part of having a healthy relationship with food(and a healthy diet) is knowledge. Read research, try to eat more veggies/fruits, and find what is sustainable for you. PickUpLimes, Abbey Sharp, and AthleanX have good info. I believe in you!
I have developed this within the last three months, I won’t eat food. I won’t. I will chew and spit. Everyone has been commenting on my weight loss and it just makes me feel worse. I feel like the worst person in the world I will lie to my partner and say yes I have eaten and when I look at my son I feel all the worlds of bad. It started when my partner told me I eat all the food then when I asked if I look better thinner and he said yes, all is my fault for asking. But it got bad when I was told by someone that I don’t deserve anything in my head that means everything, I just am to embarrassed to go and ask for help, I’ve seen myself in my dreams months on and I’m frail. My dreams scare me so badly, I have no idea how to change this
She is not taking into account the effects of sugar on our brain. Sometimes, you want to eat something sweet not for your mind or your body, but because your brain is addicted to sugar. This play a major role on unhealthy relationship with food.
Its hard to think: I can only eat green veggies from now on in two weeks. Your will probably crash... and beanch even harder then you did before. Try instead to think like this: Can i Eat Veggies atleast on one meal per day for the rest of my life? Think longterm. Wich you good luck. I struggle too with binge eating but i getting at it.
I keep a mental note on how much I eat just to keep myself from eating a whole bag of chips. I tend to give myself a casual time limit and eat slowly. I still do question if I've got a healthy relationship
Doctors can’t win. If we don’t prescribe needed meds for depression/anxiety, we’re not treating a very treatable disease. If we do, we’re being hasty. I’m sure this doctor was trying something that may have been helpful to many, even if it wasn’t to her.
Wait a minute..1:14 I realise tht ted talks provide these teleprompters for short notes.. Ohh now i know how these public speakers are able to speak so smoothly without stuttering sometimes.
Nope, that's not a prompter . I have given a TEDx talk, and you have to learn that speech by heart - say it over and over again, have it tweaked, and then practice again. It isn't even hard to do if you have a message you want to communicate.
I'm starting to believe that the only way I can eat healthily is if I live alone. And even then, I'll never be able to eat as much as I want, I wonder if I'll always have to restrict food intake. I exercise so much but every day I stress over food and my weight. it's very tiring :( and I don't know how to be normal anymore
The most unfair part of an eating disorder is that food doesn't look the same anymore. It turns into numbers on your phone or puke sitting in youe toilet bowl or an extra workout or just pure guilt
This is just so relatable
Evangeline how did you did it? I’m struggling with the same :(
Sorry for my English
I am so glad my fellow Indians are reading about it too.
@josipa and how do u get there
Have you found Alice Olivia on youtube? She helped me overcome binge eating after an eating disorder because she introduced me to what set point theory is and extreme hunger.
Watching it while my brain is planing a binge-purge action. I am just trying to fight it. Lord help me. Amen.
God bless you on your journey, you got this🙏
i really wish well for you, from personal experience I've learnt that it can often take a lot of time before you are mentally prepared to battle your disorder. one of the things I found to do was surround myself with people 24/7, which would force me to not binge and purge. i know you can find the strength to recover, its deep down inside but you will find it one day if you keep on battling :)
Try to eat more throughout the day. Even if it means that you’ll put on a little weight. JUST TRY IT. I’ve never had a problem with binging, but i was eating too little and was afriad of weight gain. Slowly i started eating more and more and told myself that “if i won’t like to eat normally, i can get back to where i was before”. May sound a bit crazy/mentally not ok, but the more i ate, the more relaxed i’ve become and now i’m in the state where i don’t think about food. Crazy right?😅 also going for a walk and listening to podcasts/music helped me, so i wasn’t always thinking bout myself. So main points: Eat more, walk more😋😄 and i wish you the best!!!❤️
If you ever need to talk, I'm here💗
I’m sending you the best vibes in your recovery journey💕✨
1. Respect your body
2. Refuel
3. Rehydrate
4. Rest
@GROID-19 People recovering from eating disorders are advised to avoid restrictive diets as they can encourage the development of Fear Foods and Food Anxiety, so... No lowcarb for us
@GROID-19 I'm slim. BMI 17. I also eat carbs. Cutting out carbs is simply a way to restrict your caloric intake, weight loss & weight maintenance is all about CICO in the long term.
@GROID-19 carbs are the body’s main source of energy.
@GROID-19 carbs are not bad for you?????
@GROID-19 too many ANYTHING can be harmful to you and besides, why whould i want to remain slim?
I was in the parking lot of a grocery store because I wanted to buy some chips while eating donuts at 12:30 am. I wanted to cry and just wanted to stop eating. I want a healthy relationship with food.
Johnny Cash try keto. It’ll change your life I promise
I'm sorry to hear that :(
Have you thought about seeing a therapist?
I'm a normale eating person, more often than I not I eat less calories on a day than I need, but when there are stressful periods I'm eating like a mad man, unable to stop.
That's I'm trying to find a good psychologist, since I don't know how to help myself or find a better outlet
Read about intuitive eating.
@@Salafi5977 It's not healthy long term.
I know my reply is 7 months old, and I really wish you are getting better in the past 7 months. I had exactly the same experience for years. Just try to eat healthy, like what the video say don't try to take things out, just add healthy elements to your diet. Overtime you will be sick of processed foods, now for me almost any sweetened cereal is too sweet, and last time I had donuts was at the specialty store about a few months ago. I learned to enjoy real foods, and life just got so much better. Be mindful when you are eating, trying to enjoy the taste especially when you are eating real whole foods like fresh fruit and home cooked veggies. It took me a few months to get over the binge eating cycle, and I would say at least a year to completely recover from it. Now from time to time I occasionally overdo on corn chips or some other things but that's completely normal. Try to enjoy your food, don't let it be some filler that you use to fill your emotional void. Life is still beautiful, i believe in you, and I really wish you well.
Be nice to yourself, love yourself, love real food. Wish you the best!
It took me 24 years to learn how to be kind to my body. Throughout the years I would go through phases of crash diets and then the polar opposite. I was so addicted to carbs and sugars. Two months ago I found the strength to eat right and work out. This has been the hardest obstacle in my life and I am finally becoming the person I want to be. Sending nothing but love to those struggling.
I’m proud of u
I pray to get to this point. I don't want to be plagued by my issues with food and my body anymore.
I'm happy for you. 💜💜💜
I can’t remember the last time I had a healthy relationship with food. I don’t remember the last time I finished a meal. I don’t remember the last time i didn’t feel guilty after eating. I just want to be happy. I don’t know how to be healthy.
Édit: two years later. Wow. Things have changed and not for the better, but my mental state around eating has improved so so much. Now I eat without guilt, and I finish my meals. I’m not going to say it gets better, because everyone here has already heard that. But I will say don’t give up. I’m proud of everyone reading this, i promise you’re worth getting better.
Vivi Underhay You’re not alone. I wish you peace, luck and courage. I am trying to be healthy now too. The UA-camr Alivea D’Andrea’s Glow up Diaries is helping me at the moment. She might be able to help you as well 💕
hey vivi, happiness is definitely the goal and its so great that health and happiness are your goals rather than a specific weight. Finding your own path and balance with food and lifestyle are the key to your success. I can suggest a few things if thats ok with you?
Sara Waldbauer some tips would be so helpful if you don’t mind! I hope your staying safe during this time.
Grace Satay thanks for the recommendation! I can’t wait to watch. I hope your staying healthy!
If I may add a suggestion that really helped me, order some cook books and find recipes you really enjoy. Once you start making your own food even if it’s just dinners, you start to learn and know what’s going into your foods. It gives you feelings of achievement and control instead of guilt. You can do it!
writing down this comment as someone in recovery from anorexia, thank you
(edit : more than a year later and i'm writing this to let you know that i'm doing so so so much better. No matter what your battle is, please keep going. I promise things get better. And not only that, they even get good, beautiful, magical. Sending love, you've got this
Good luck honey 💕 it is difficult, but you'll be able to beat this ED
apolline x. Same x
I hope you’re doing good now buddy
@@thahayathoha3997 hi ! it's crazy to find this comment a year later cause im doing so much better now
@@apollineunow ayy im glad to hear it
It's scary how quickly doctors prescribe anti-depressants over providing nutritional guidelines.
When they do it, they are called fatphobic :')
And how often said prescriptions induce life altering permanent side effects like anhedonia
I know right
Nutritional guidelines are pointless if disordered eating is involved.
@@alienordaquitaine2805 doctors don't really care if they are called fatphobic
Drop whatever you are doing and go read the book Womans’s weight loss secrets: the unspoken truth, its absolutely life changing, trust me on this
with an eating disorder, food is no longer a fuel, it's just a reminder that you'll never be perfect. Every time your stomach rumbles, it hurts so much. Like you can get over a disorder but it'll always be part of you and it hurts that you can't just eat that one cookie without feeling guilt.
If you don't like eating it, you won't be able to stay on that diet. For many, the food is pretty much the only enjoyment they get out of life.
You're so right.
ja da yeah, like raw cauliflower vs cauliflower baked+seasoned
On the flip side, there’s Not much enjoyment out of life if you become obese (from food enjoyment) get T2D, liver damage, kidney damage, heart disease......early death.
@@tamidurcan6804 Considering that most of America is now obese, I have to wonder about that. Something's pushing them to eat so much.
D.E.B. B Yes, sugar addiction is real, it stimulates the same part of the brain that is stimulated by alcohol and drug addiction. I lost all my extra weight with intermittent fasting. Best thing I ever did, and I’m keeping it off bc I’ve adopted it as a lifestyle. I no longer have those strong sugar cravings, I still eat some sweets, just way less refined and processed foods. It’s been so great!! 😃😃😃
Its not about "I had one biscuit I minds well have the whole pack" Its more like "I cannot stop myself with just one, I have to eat them all until they are gone - I adore the crunch, flavor, texture and cannot stop." Its better just to not even open that pandoras box at all. The emotional, and physical pain is not worth it, but it is still a trap of obsession of foods that harm my body either physically or emotionally.
I don't like the shape of my body that my body likes if that makes sense. Body dismorphia, food allergies and obsession with food - the struggles are so real....
You described that very accurately
:(
@GROID-19 you are not helpful. Carbs are fine.
omg yes.
Let yourself eat those foods more regularly, put them into your daily diet, eat them when you want them, let go of all of your food rules and really just let yourself eat whatever you want. As well, you have to let yourself enjoy the pleasure that food brings, food is meant to be enjoyed, but at the same time, find pleasure in something else than food. In activities, in people, in yourself.
I started running and naturally my body started to crave more nourishing foods, and I’m not hungry all the time anymore, I still eat everything in moderation and focus on my nutrition such as nuts, avocado es, eggs, cheese 🧀 etc. and I still have my chocolate 🍫 when ever I want, now that I no longer have these mental restrictions, I don’t feel the desire to eat the whole box of chocolates or pastries.
Good job
I get that. The days I exercise I crave more healthy food but I know that’s what my body needs after a workout
i absolutely love this woman. she sounds so educated, wise, honest. the incredible thing about lecture is that it is all based on experience which is even more empowering. I have an unhealthy relationship with food and an unhealthy view of my body but she has really helped that and relieved some of my worries. credits to her.
I wish everyone in the world could see this video because she's so right. As someone who used to be overweight and would struggle and switch between restrictive eating and binge eating, the answer I have found, just as Lambert said, is to eat in the grey area. For what it's worth, I think it's also worth mentioning that it's so important to have an internal source of happiness that takes precedent. So many people go on diets because they compare themselves to others and feel bad, when in reality, those who truly love themselves feel no reason to compare themselves to others. Just as she said, respect your body, love yourself, and know that everything in moderation is they key. Well said by Lambert, truly.
One of the best Ted Talks I've watched. Go back to basics. Unlearn all you know about nutrition. I loved this
Finally, a nutritionalist that understands that people are unique genetically, hormonally and metabolically. I have friends who steam through life on potatoes and cheese while that would turn me into a brain fogged, lazy buffoon for 3 days.
this talk was so powerful. ive had an eating disorder since I was about 8 years old and I cannot remember what it feels like to sit in front of a plate of food and not have a panic attack. everytime my friends ask me out I have to find a reason as to why I cant go, because I know food will be involved, and every meal time with my family is another argument. And not to forget every doctor turning me away because "im not quite skinny enough" to be accepted into treatment until I literally had to be hospitalized. Thank you fo this talk I think it might help :)
I know food is good for you body, and I really want to enjoy every bite. I don't have an ED, but sometimes I can't help but have so many fear foods and see foods as numbers.
Best of luck to anyone out there struggling and having these unhealthy food thoughts. You'll be able to beat them one day
I like how she has a more balanced opinion
I hope everyone's who's struggling with eating disorders will develop a better relationship with food this year.
This video spoke to me so much almost made me cry 🥺 eating disorders are soo horrible 😔 Im trying to have a good relationship with food and change my life for good but its very hard!
Dealing with an ED sucks. It’s also mentally exhausting. But reading all these comments, it’s comforting to know I’m not alone. I have faith we all find our peace one day
This is something I wish I have heard as a child.
Well said! Powerful truths delivered in a non-threatening and non-judgmental way. EXCELLENT!
Thank you
I had two full tubs of ice cream for dinner. Something has to change.
LadySpira you got this queen
I believe in you!!
Used to be like this until I stopped counting calories and thinking ice cream is bad. Now I literally have 2 tubs of ice cream in my freezer untouched because I know I can have it if I want (and I proved it to myself by allowing it) It is mind-boggling how when I truly stopped restricting I eat only when I want it! And I have history of binging when restricting. You got this! Read the amazing book called Intuitive Eating
Absolutely. You were supposed to have two full tubs of ice cream for lunch. You must have missed a meal. And you forgot the hot fudge topping.
You can do this!
Such a good Ted Talk. This is my life every. single. day. I check my weight twice a day, I beat myself up for falling off the wagon. I hate my body because it no longer looks like my 17yr old, super slim body. I'm learning to love my body and not obsess about what I eat, but it's a process.
For the past year and a half, I have been on a water-only strict diet. I very rarely drink soda, juice, sport drink, or alcohol. I drink tea or herbal drink from time to time. But mainly, I drink only water, a lot of water, all day, everyday. It has changed my life. After I accomplished that, I started controlling my food diet. It works out very well for me.
I remember eating two big bowls of cereal in the morning following with eggs beans cheese , one time I ate a entire bowl of Ice cream and I didnt Care I was actually a really happy girl growing up in a blink of an eye im 5'2 weighting 80 lbs fearing Foods its honestly consuming I wish a healthy relationship with food and be happy again
My disordered mind thought "wow 5'2 and 80 lbs how lucky"
I hope we can all be better soon💕
I remember when i was young i used to have angel food cake with whipped cream and stawberries(three layers of that) at least 2 bowls of cereal(or the entire box) a pint of ice cream and then dinner. And then as a late night "snack" a bag of chips and 4 peices of toast with honey plus soda throughout the day, and no one ever told me no, so those habit came with me into my teens, but hey at least we are trying to find that healthy relationship with food
Loved this! I have been working on myself for years to reach that healthy relationship with food and I am getting there. It is good to know that I am doing it for the right reasons, self love and acceptance.
I really enjoyed this. I’ve struggled with body image and my weight since I was in middle school. During COVID, I lost almost 50lbs and gain the weight back within a year. Now as I get older I realized that my relationship w/ food is the REAL problem. I have to unlearn most of the things I was taught.
I almost cried. I have a veryyyy y bad relationship with food
As someone who had anorexia for 3 years and binge eating for 2 after that, I have all but given up hope for a normal relationship to food.
Me too, im so lost idk what to do anymore :/
Don’t give up it’s never too late trust me
You know how with smokers, people think they have no hope because they've failed to quit so many times, but in reality, a higher amount of times trying to quit is actually a predictor for giving up cigarettes for good? I think it's kind of like that for us. I've tried so many times to quit my ED, but I feel like I'm finally making progress this time around. People do recover. We can do it.
The binging is a direct consequence of being restrictive for so long - your body needs time. Please i know you've watched dozens of videos like this and heard it 100 times before but you can recover and you're doing better than u think
@@janie2103 it's been 3 months, but I hope you're doing better today.
Suicide would not be better for your body - it works day and night every day to keep you alive, because that's what it wants and needs. Please love it back and love yourself. ❤️
I think major part she skips over is the relationship between mental illness and food. I have depression and when those months hit, I literally sit in bed all day and eat junk food even to the point of feeling sick; then I feel terribly guilty, but it sadly becomes the only thing I look forward to in life. Then when I not depressed, I actually exercise, only eat when I'm actually hungry, and have the mental energy to make healthy choices. As a result, I end up losing weight and going back to my setpoint weight. Living with any mental illness is incredibly hard; it affects every aspect of my life from motivation to happiness to food. It's the biggest reason for my terribly inconsistent relationship with food.
I go into this in depth on my Food For Thought podcast if you want to hear conversations about this xx
most underrated tedx talk
Beautifully said. I am starting to follow this recently after getting too skinny and overweight my whole life so far. But what I struggle with is people committing or making fun of me when I m struggling to loose or gain weight.
When I was about 12 or so we were learning about different kinds of food in English class and the teacher asked to the classroom to start a conversation: "Do you think food is for fuel or pleasure?". Almost uninanimously all girls in that class said fuel. At that time I didn't realize the trascendence of the question but boy do I think about that moment often
Lots of people think losing weight and having a healthy relationship with food is disciplin. It is bot, it is psychological, it is all mindset. If you are happy and have a healthy life then you will have a healthy relationship with food. I have learned from a young age to eat my veggies and only then I can have a dessert. That is not the way to raise kids. As adults we raise our kids that way aswell. Change your mindset amd you will start to see changes. Goodluck ya'll xxxx
So true
She has the right idea the tricky part is me implementing it.
I was slim but got there and stayed there by eating a lot less, moving a lot and having cycles of eating guilty things then superstrict.
When I moved far from home to go university and food was money and I had no car and rarely found it economically smart to take a bus etc.
Still back then trying this and that with shakes and pills to add a burn. I stayed there by constantly being my own bully and eventually when other things in life crashed I more and more let go of restrictions, felt free and a little happier...
Until I packed on weight and haven’t gotten back down to slim for years.
This seriously needs more views
I'm sure there are many people in the US that simply don't drink plain water. Everything they drink has added sugar.
Discovermyview I bet you eat a lot of salt, you salty girl
Nope. For some, barley and hops, not sugar. That's why it's called a beer belly and not a sugar belly.
well here i am, ive only drank water for the last 4 months. better for the calories
That usually happens when you are not taught the importance of water in your childhood. Your brain might develop a IF hungry, THEN soda or sugary drink association over time.
I'm shocked to hear that not everyone drinks water.. That can't be good ☹️
Respect, rehydrate, refuel, recover
Everyone has to have a hard experience in life to make him/her think ennovatively 👏🏻
She looks very healthy. Her hair and her body is amazing.
This was great! One of the best Ted Talks!
Amazing! Well done! every foodie should hear this! Love it!!
This is simply brilliant!! About time we had simplicity with food. I can recommend her book, 'A simple way to eat well'.
this actually really helped me
Thank you so much for this talk, especially the part about the psychology around our relationship with food.
My aunt swung from fad diet to fad diet her whole life. She didn't need to, but she couldn't see that. All she could see was that she didn't look like she was 16 any more; no amount of weight loss will reverse aging. She was trying to stop the world in its tracks, as if eating exactly the right thing could make it 1955 again and turn back all the changes since.
i havent had a healthy relationship with food since i was 12. Its been a hard 4 yrs in terms of food.
maybe a healthy relationship with food means recognizing that it's not that big a part of your life? I mean you might spend idk 90 minutes a day prepping and eating food plus going to the bathroom which is consequence of eating. but that's only 1/16th of your day (if i did my math right)
i love her voice/energy
What a powerful talk. We are so much more than our appearance
I came across this Ted talk today. I didn’t know of her but this popped up. This video really spoke to me and hope to have a better relationship with food 💖
Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!
Just: Thank you.
all these diet online that requires less 1000 calories a day says will help u, but until now, i can say, everything in moderation is the best advice for everyone to take note.
If it were really so easy as moderation - I literally do NOT have an off switch with food, unless I strictly control what I am eating. I will just hog out.. I wish it were as easy as moderation....
This is also accurate for other needs. As she said, we need to have everything with moderation and not start randomly cutting items just because some fitness UA-camr said so.
My dream is to have at least one day where I don’t think about my weight, what I should eat, what I shouldn’t eat, shame …to just live.
Powerful, honest, brutal but beautiful ❤️
I have the same problem. I was on a diet for 7 years. Every single day I struggled with myself. One day I ate healthy food, for the next day I ate fast food and blamed myself too much because I couldn’t find balance. I didn’t have througtful approach to my food habits. I ate bland food and didn’t enjoy my meal. After hard 7 years I quit my diet and gained 10 kg. I tend to gain weight so fast, but I couldn’t control myself anymore. I started eating fattening food and a lot of fast food.
Now I still don’t have good relationship with food. I wanna find balance, but when I come back from work I am so tired, starving and my voice inside my head tells me “you deserve for something tasty and filling”.
I wish one day I can find balance and will have healthy relationships with food and will listen more my body then my inside’s voice
The four 4’s
Food is FUEL
Function
Sleep
Body/mind
Food is a POSITIVE aspect in our lives
She so good! Well said
Did you know that behaviors such as stealing, cheating, and lying can become a habitual part of a persons DIET also??? Its true
10:16 THANK YOU!!!!! 💞🙌🏻
Glad I clicked this on really upscale and helpful thoughts turn to things!!! Love Mikayla Thank you
I've always had an ED, when I was a kid I was so picky id frequently end up in the hospital from malnourishment, when I finally got healthy toxic friends drove me to ana, then binge eating. Now I'm finally getting better and the moment I shared this my "friend" Again just started attacking my body, weight, with slight comments. But I'm not going to let her triggr my ed again
I already thinking about foods this way. I think i'm on the right path after watching this video 🥰 having a healthy relationship w food is about how to balance them, easy to say hard to practice at first. But it gets better and easier once you get used to it. Make a balanced diet, your new lifestyle. Then you can eat whatever you want on a daily basis.. before creating new healthier lifestyle, you should set you mindset first. Healthy relationship w food only possible if you have healthy mentality, loving yourself first. If not, then you should start from that. If you love yourself enough, then you can change your lifestyle into a healthier one.. but if not (yet), it could be really challenging... and never underestimate the small changes(baby step).. a bigger change in your life start from a small..start a healthy habit from whatever you think is the easiest one..and try to improve them day by day to a healthier one..
9:10
Find the balance that works for YOU
(This Is IT!)
Such an inspirational talk! 🤩
You earned a follower/ subscriber and a fan today ma'am.
This is so on point 🔥🔥🔥
She's a Inspiration Al Cute and Things I'll work themselves out
Its scary how quick people are to judge overweight people like my self, i didnt get this big because im lazy. A lot goes into becoming overweight than most people(that ive encountered) think. I dont really know what a healthy relationship with food looks like for me, ever since i was young, i ate what i wanted and however much i wanted of that food, no one ever told me no, so those habits followed me into my teens and ive seen the effects it has had on me especially my mental health, but at least im trying. Hopefully someone can relate to this
health and safety is important
I'm watching this while eating my 4th bowl of chocolate cereal.
I'm proud of you 🤗
Great talk when you look like her and there's nothing wrong with you.
She has a very new and very gooood way with things.
I believe in MIRACLES and in SPIRIT and in GOD and that's the reality of it
I love this!! She is so inspiring! I am just about to write up me dissertation in BSc Psychology about emotional eating. I really enjoyed listen to this :)
I kinda think she could have said more. For breakfast I had an egg in a wrap with cheese. Some watermelon and an apple. And I don't know if i'm doing the right things. I talked to a dietitian who said I needed protein in my morning meal. So I've been eating an egg or two for breakfast with toast or a wrap and a piece of fruit. I'm so confused about what I'm doing. I have a hard time controlling what I eat. but I read in the joyce meyers devo the other day. treat your body well. be careful not to put junk in your body. I've been praying to lose weight or not to gain anymore. I hope God answers my pray.
peaceannie you can find your healthy! I feel like a huge part of having a healthy relationship with food(and a healthy diet) is knowledge. Read research, try to eat more veggies/fruits, and find what is sustainable for you. PickUpLimes, Abbey Sharp, and AthleanX have good info. I believe in you!
Get her book! It breaks down to the basics the science behind the good food making you have the knowledge and recipes are genius honestly so nice
it takes a while, but you’ll get there eventually! keep going, but don’t push yourself too hard !
This was a very impressive and well-rounded video on healthy eating and lifestyle. Thanks!
Some important stuff here. Thank you.
Wow i found this really powerful! Such passion in her words ❤️
❤️❤️such an amazing speech
Thank you! :)
I have developed this within the last three months, I won’t eat food. I won’t. I will chew and spit. Everyone has been commenting on my weight loss and it just makes me feel worse. I feel like the worst person in the world I will lie to my partner and say yes I have eaten and when I look at my son I feel all the worlds of bad. It started when my partner told me I eat all the food then when I asked if I look better thinner and he said yes, all is my fault for asking. But it got bad when I was told by someone that I don’t deserve anything in my head that means everything, I just am to embarrassed to go and ask for help, I’ve seen myself in my dreams months on and I’m frail. My dreams scare me so badly, I have no idea how to change this
The healthy relationship with food is this ratio
After my weight loose .I'm scare to eat any unhealthy foods even eventually. Also I can't eat carbs 😓 what can I do ! Even I workout more though!
She is not taking into account the effects of sugar on our brain. Sometimes, you want to eat something sweet not for your mind or your body, but because your brain is addicted to sugar. This play a major role on unhealthy relationship with food.
I have a podcast episode call the shocking truth about sugar. Just search Food For Thought. Sugar isn’t addictive but does trigger reward centres.
Its hard to think: I can only eat green veggies from now on in two weeks. Your will probably crash... and beanch even harder then you did before. Try instead to think like this: Can i Eat Veggies atleast on one meal per day for the rest of my life? Think longterm. Wich you good luck. I struggle too with binge eating but i getting at it.
She looks like she’s in perfect shape. I think she’s on a very strict diet
I keep a mental note on how much I eat just to keep myself from eating a whole bag of chips. I tend to give myself a casual time limit and eat slowly. I still do question if I've got a healthy relationship
Great talk, but one glass of water? How often? A day, an hour?
a day, but we drink a lot of tea, coffee and fizzy/still drinks.
Drink when you feel thirsty. Stop when you don't want any more. Repeat when you feel thirsty again.
its actually right
Joe Jimbo it’s wrong to wait to drink till your thirsty cause it means you’re already pretty dehydrated
Doctors can’t win. If we don’t prescribe needed meds for depression/anxiety, we’re not treating a very treatable disease. If we do, we’re being hasty. I’m sure this doctor was trying something that may have been helpful to many, even if it wasn’t to her.
Wait a minute..1:14 I realise tht ted talks provide these teleprompters for short notes.. Ohh now i know how these public speakers are able to speak so smoothly without stuttering sometimes.
Nope, that's not a prompter . I have given a TEDx talk, and you have to learn that speech by heart - say it over and over again, have it tweaked, and then practice again. It isn't even hard to do if you have a message you want to communicate.
Relationship is not with food it's with people
Thank you ❤️
Amazing love this!
Great inspirational post! Well said !
Just watch greg doucette and buy his cook book it's the best thing ever trust me. He seems mean at first but it makes sense
I'm starting to believe that the only way I can eat healthily is if I live alone. And even then, I'll never be able to eat as much as I want, I wonder if I'll always have to restrict food intake. I exercise so much but every day I stress over food and my weight. it's very tiring :( and I don't know how to be normal anymore
I'm having ice tea and watching this.