I am 48 years old and have done so much in my life, did so many type of jobs, reinvented myself 50 times and still find your videos very inspiring. I also have a 3 month old daughter, and i wish she would be as smart and as grounded person as you. thank you. you are truly a unique soul.
this video really hit a spot for me! im 21 and navigating through a tough time, learning some things the hard way but also trying to be more gentle with myself. living for others, serving and meeting their expectations is draining and im still struggling to develop more compassion for myself and my needs because i dont wanna let them down although its not my responsibility. thank you leah!!
This hit home , I've realised so much about myself (limiting beliefs, negative patterns ) of course the anti hero in my head , although it's been difficult to nurture myself and stop people pleasing has been really hard and at the same time I've started to trust the process. I hope you all have the faith and trust in yourself Have a great day/life 😂
This is random but related. Sometimes I randomly think about the Mona Lisa and how thousands of people visit the Louvre daily. I’ve heard so many people say it’s unimpressive and I just want to say to them I think it’s a damn good thing da Vinci wasn’t trying to impress YOU. I guess it goes without saying that when we make impactful work or connections especially nowadays in a world riddled with envy accusation and assumptions, a lot of people will be eggy, unimpressed, and unfortunately even hostile. And the worst part is no matter how much we tell ourselves it shouldn’t matter, it does and it still hurts so much. I can say as someone who’s chronically online just trying to feel something that you are different Leah. For however much time you end up putting out your work and thoughts on here I’ll forever be grateful.
"Do I question it every week before my period?" SO RELATABLE 😭 Also I'm glad this video got uploaded as I was just having another severe case of self-doubt again a few minutes ago 🥹
Leah, I can’t tell you how perfect of a time this video came. I just quit my first big girl architecture job after almost three years - it’s been a week since and I have been trying to navigate through so much self doubt and questioning if I made the right decision. I tend to spiral when it comes to negative thoughts, so your words about acknowledging self doubt and fear, but going into it with hope and action are truly comforting. Thank you as always - I have been watching your vids for years now, and it’s been great to see how much you yourself have grown and become so wise 😌
idk how much this will help anyone but as a person in my early 20s, what has really helped is to always get back up after a failure. sth about pushing thru even when the odds are 'against' your favour. keep pushing, aim high and keep trying. be gentle with yourself too. it may never make sense but we tried
I had a list of qualities I wanted in a life partner. I could not have designed a better partner than the man that waltzed into my life 6 years ago. He has strengths and qualities that I never would have chosen for myself. I thought I wanted someone who liked most of the things I liked. But really.. he cooks, he cleans and he’s secure in himself. We agree on the fundamentals of life but our interests and passions are so different. We have so many things to talk about because our experiences and opinions can be so different.
this really helped me to realize the importance of listening to one’s own needs and what we can do to live better, thank you for that, this place is beautiful by the way ! Can’t wait to look forward to seeing your evolution again and again, it allows me to grow more serenely, to see other young adults sharing their doubt ❤️
i hope that the next time you think about how many people are triggered by what you say and do not agree with you, that you also remember there are 10x as many people who are waiting for your videos every week and watch till the very end because i care about what you have to say and everytime you upload it feels like i can finally enter my safe space again and see someone who inspire me to take care of myself as well
turning 26 this year on november.. i've been contemplating on a lot of stuff especially financial security and personal goals. cried a lil when you talked about hope with action and fear without action damn that hits. i guess navigating this so called late 20s means being more compassionate towards ourselves and regulate big emotions and distractions! i swear i procrastinate a lot, i don't even know why. i guess it's also that damn phones and not sitting well with my emotions.
it's useful to see the hope/fear visual and the maslow's hierarchy visual as I'm a visual learner and I'm certainly in a situation now in my adult life where I stay in a state of fear for long and it has to do with a hard time with unresolved trauma and just having a hard time with things as a 21 y/o. I feel in my spirit that if I were to just do SOMETHING that feels a bit intuitive and right, even if it's imperfect, I could get through what I'm facing, however, still, the self-doubt and anxiety consumes me and it's just an unhealthy relationship I have with myself where my priorities aren't always clear to me and I don't have a strong "why". the maslow's hierarchy example is really insightful because I come from a russian immigrant family (I was born in the U.S. though) and they create such a stigma about mental health and self-care and all of that and it's awful to me and really difficult to navigate. however, the original hierarchy that you shared from the indigenous groups helps affirm my choices and intuition and the little steps I make to take care of myself.
Leah you're an amazing human. This is beautiful. Being a 20 year old, contemplating life and dreams, watching myself scared of living and people, isolating,self sabotaging, lost, self doubting and running away from myself at the same time wanting to figure out life in general is so difficult for me. I was always the odd one everywhere, and now, since i find humans like you I've had this realization, no, there are people existing with similar thoughts, still trying and navigating their life, still scared and self doubting and that is a humane thing! maybe a little different from others but this is us, this is me, growing vulnerable and delicate and it's fine🤍 this is my first time commenting anywhere at all and believe me I've had to gather courage for this too lol :)
I like how open you are Leah, I resonate with so many of the things you said. I've started a new role and signed a lease to move in with my partner recently, and started having imposter syndrome. But you're right! Fear with action makes the fear smaller. Sometimes in uncertainty, we just have to keep doing, iterating, and retrospectiving.
You’re one of the most charming people I’ve seen (and I mean that in a very impressive way that actually even translates through a screen) and the way you share your thoughts in your content is SO thoughtful. I think it resonates with and brings value to a lot of us!
This really hit, in all sorta ways. I had been super full of self-doubt, thinking about my choices, perceived mistakes, and current projections. Similar to you I’m turning 27 in June (woopie gemini life) and just all over the place. I moved to a new place back-ish home (moved around for a while then came back home, but not with family), lost a close friend, and just changed like whole career. I reevaluated a lot of what makes me happy and really matters to me. I can happily say choosing myself was an amazing choice and one that looks different daily. I’m in a smoother path where I’ll be starting a new job at a farm soon leaving a job with pretty toxic mentality, trying to find a community around me (friends who align w me) and just deepening my relationship with my partner. It’s all been a journey and it still isn’t perfect and I don’t have it figured out, at all, but like all the little actions and changes are really helping me go to what feels best. If you’re ever in LA love to chat! Feel like we’ve been in a pretty similar wave, but sounds like so many of us are!! Good luck on your move and your next steps!
Being a 18 year old discovering ur channel when i was 16 was the best thing ever !!! Leah whenever i watch these videos i feel more happy and inspired from you I doubt my self very much coz rn I'm getting academically and physically weak but mentally I'm getting very strong and i will definitely improve my life and take actions even tho I'm scared and i will keep spreading love and kindness in the world just like you☺️
I am 29 and 2 years ago I moved away from my home country to another continent to start a new life. Being an outsider of the local culture I am struggling to make myself recognized by the new environment. This year I've learned to prioritize my own needs over the expectation of external interests. Self-doubt has become not a judgment of my worth, but rather a tool for self-discovery and understanding.
Okay, holy moly, I feel the exact same way about dating and setting the bar. The “problem” with it is, for me, I got out of a 10 year relationship when I was 27. I’m 36 now and have barely dated (I had 1 serious partner for 15 months during that time), and it’s because I’m sooo picky and my standards are sooo high. BUT, I often feel like “am I falling behind? Am I missing out?” Which leads to the child issue. I never really wanted children, but my younger brother has 2 children under 5 now, and I’m like “dang, I do want a life partner (that’s always been a yes for me) and maybe I do want a child” but, is it too late? And then I just get depressed, feeling like I’ll never have what I truly want, a wife and kid(s). Life is hard lol. But, all you can do is keep developing yourself, push forward a step at a time, TRY to not let your past turn into regrets, and TRY to not project your future as being one of lack. Love you @leahsfieldnotes and love to all you viewers
I can relate to that too. I spent my 20s either casually dating or being stuck in relationships that didn't work out for me and as I was entering my 30s I felt the pressure of finding a serious parner but dating became just so daunting that I litterally had to force myself to get out and meet people. I'm also quite picky and, in my culture, people (usually women) get blamed for having high standards and never settling down. But now I see that high standards are not the problem. Believing in the existence of an ideal partner is the first step to finding him/her. Instead of lowering my standards, I would expand my capacity to love myself and others. And I no longer see my past mistakes as a waste of time. They got me ready for this loving, fulfilling relationship that I am in now. Keep your hope up and good luck!
i was hesitant to click on this video when i first encountered it because self compassion is such an intimidating concept for me to grapple with. i’ve lived my life prioritizing the expectations and wants of others, so much so that i have no clue how to tap into my own needs and desires. i loved hearing you speak on hope and fear and awareness and the self - it is such a comfort to see you break down this big looming presence into thoughts i can recognize in real time. releasing myself of guilt, shame and converting these into acceptance will take some time, but your video offered me some relief from cyclical/harmful thinking and offered some hope, too. this video came at an important time, thank you!
I'm so glad to see you again! You are my favorite youtuber, and someone I really admire (and aspire to be), mainly because we are so similar (and I mean this in a non-weird way). Your videos, your style, and just how you speak and live are so comforting. I was severely doubting myself for the entire day today, thinking that I don't deserve the love and resources I recieve, so your video really came at the right time for me. 你的视频总是可以引起共鸣，真的很欣赏你
leah your videos have truly been a source of inspiration for me over the past few years and always come at points in my life when i need them most. i so deeply appreciate your perspective and willingness to be open about your continued growth as a human being. please never stop doing what you're doing
Leah, this video was so important to me! I’ve been navigating this weird time in life where I don’t really know where I’ll go or what I’ll do in the future, and hearing that a person that I so admire and take as an inspiration has the same fears and doubts was like a hug. Thank you for being so vulnerable about your feelings, because even though it's scary, and people on the internet can be so mean, know that somewhere in Brazil there is a viewer that felt inspired to create and overcome her own self-doubts. Lots of love! 🥰
I came to the same conclusion about triggers as you recently. They can show you where you still have wounds to heal & where you need to be extra compassionate with yourself if you let them. It’s all about growth mindset in the end. ❤ Moving “back home” can be almost unbearably hard but it’s perfect for intense reflection on how far you’ve come and where you really want to go.
leah ive been watching ur stuff since i was 19 freshly moved out, im almost 23 and in a happy relationship now, and we have a one year old daughter together. i still watch ur content bc life is ever changing and they bring me sm peace no matter where i'm at in life
Ohhhh myyy goodness 😭🫶🤍 I feel so proud of you I can’t believe you’ve become a mama in this span of time! Haha why do I feel like i became an aunt 😂 sending you all lots of love💐
The video's exploration of using triggers as pathways to healing is profoundly impactful. 🌱 Embracing self-compassion not only aids personal growth but can also significantly enhance one's resilience in personal life.
As a young adult, there's SO much self doubt because you're expected to be at a certain point in life and you have no example of what that looks like or what you're supposed to do because you're supposed to create it for yourself. Especially with people that have estranged relationships with their parents and they're unable to teach them things, you're just kinda thrown into life and have to learn things yourself. My best friend was facing a lot of self doubt because he doesn't know exactly what career he wants and doesn't know whether to go to college or focus on getting experience. Plus his dad isn't supportive in the way that he needs. So he had to overcome that and realize this is his life and he doesn't need his approval and he has people behind him to support him and care about him. But I believe doing proper research and putting yourself in a position to try new things is so important because we're so used to the box that we grew up in that we don't realize possibilities outside of what we know. So yeah, I've been thinking about the concept of self doubt a lot recently. With my best friend and myself too because I had to grow up so quickly. As someone about to turn 22 in June, if I had to leave any advice it would be to master and embrace your emotions and confront your stubbornness instill responsibility in yourself, save money because it will be a life saver even if you're financially stable, and use the Internet to your advantage and look up the things you don't understand about how to build a life for yourself when independent. 👍🏽 Hope any of this helps.
i kept checking your channel the past few days if there was a new upload cuz i always feel so at peace when watching your videos!🤍 looking forward to watching this leah!!🫶🏽
I hope your contract with Better Help ends soon, so I can fully immerse myself in your content again. I don't trust the company, they support genocide and are capitalizing on a mental health crisis, I've done my research. Wish you the best, do trust your good intentions
I wasn't having the best day really and was doubting myself a lot and my feelings. Your videos always make me feel at peace. Its like im listening to a friend talk ;-; love you leah
Dear Leah, I am normally a silent viewer but I just wanted to tell you that you are such a source of inspiration to me! Because of you mentioning it in your (last?!) video I bought "The artist's way" and it has helped me tremendously already (although I have to admit that I haven't been completely consistent with the exercises)! And today again you have helped me realize so much which I will certainly also share with my friends & family. Thank you for being!
your channel helps me so much, I am only 20 years old but really struggling with all my emotions and feelings (I am super sensitive:)), it helps a lot to see someone be so open and conscious with their feelings and struggles. It feels like you are a big sister to kind of give me an overview that finally you will find more of a balance in your life with still the same struggles. Thanks for that!
Happy Birthday Leah! I want to add a thought to this worry, that noone will ever meet your standards as a partner. Whenever I feel that way, I look at what I wrote about a future partner and ask myself: Am I that person? What can I do to become more like that? If you can do it, there are other people who can do it too. Thinking that way also ensures that you will never ask for something in a partner, that you yourself can´t provide.
Oh Leah, what a time to believe in a higher power. You made me absolutely tear up, in the best of ways! So many gems. Hope with action!!! I do, so sincerely, feel safe in your space, and I love you for creating it. Thank you infinitely ❤ A thing we’re learning at work is internal narratives. I find it helpful to recognise self-doubt as a narrative that we can combat. So yes, we’re gonna trigger some people. And also yes, some people are gonna love our videos. I appreciate what you share, and I’m a better person because of you. So please know these affirming truths exist too 🫂⛅️
Dear Leah, enourmous thank you for articulating your UNHEARD VOICE. Thank you for showing us that phase of self-doubting is not a straight path that we only encounter it once in lifetime. You have shown that it's the reality but we will be fine even if we question ourselves back-to-back. Your storytelling ways in telling small details of the hard process IS, DAMN, MAKE IT MORE RELATEABLE. Warm huggg
Thank you from the bottom of my aching heart Leah ♥️✨🧸 I’m 24 and trying to quit my current finance job and pursue something more aligned with my path. I also want to create content but posting the shit is the most daunting part 😅 I wrestle with self-doubt everyday but I recently learned that an opportunity will be available soon that I may be considered for! It’s very exciting, scary, nervewracking, but I keep trying to remind myself that I’ve been through harder transitions before and survived them. I wouldn’t trade that wisdom for anything else. Good to always be reminded that uncertainty lives within all of us but so does compassion and love 🥰 keep sharing your field notes pls! We love em
By watching this, I've realized one of the most relevant things in my life: (1) to view my triggers as a gift and an opportunity. I just turned 18 within the last two months, and for the past seven years, I've been struggling with coping when faced with my so much trauma triggers. All too often, I've ended up coping in ways that are harmful to my physical, mental, and emotional health. Knowing someone who see triggers as an opportunity to heal a wound has given me relief !!! I now feel quite quite quiteee open in seeing my own triggers in a similar way- seeing them as chances to open spaces that allow me to heal in a more healthy and safer way. ps: i missed you a looot. graduation's coming in a few days and just by seeing this new video of yours feels like a huge reward already ❤
leah, you're such an inspiration to me. your view on life and advice really helped me be more introspective and be kinder to myself, and I hope you keep sharing what you've learned. i see a lot of parts of myself in you, and you've impacted me a lot, and I know you've impacted so many other people's lives as well. you motivate me to do my best while caring for myself and reminding myself that it's not my fault for everything!
Your videos are always so well-synced to whatever I am going through at the time that I watch them - I couldn’t sleep as I was overthinking some of my own triggers and self-doubts from past and future, and decided to watch your new video which I had been saving for the morning, and this was perfect. Thanks always, Leah!!
Hey Leah! I'm currently in uni and watching this video feels like as if you were deep talking with your best friend :^) I love how you set the video outdoor since seeing the nature is also been relaxing for the mind. Adulting has been quite hard lately.. Watching you talking about your expericence with your little nephew almost made me cried (especially when you hug him, it really made me smile!) Sometimes we all need those simple things. Talking about healing journey, Art therapy has been really nice to navigate emotions for me!. Your video is always been so inspiring on my healing journey too. I'm sending much much much love for you Leah! ❤
3:04 i felt this LOL but what a nice reminder that you already possess the skills needed to be compassionate and take care of yourself! rooting for you Leah! ✨
thank you for this video leah! your videos always come at the right time. I've been struggling with self-doubt for the past three years and it has been troublesome for me. but yep, just like you i try to my best to overcome it! like what you said, fear decreases when there is action done. so despite the negative emotions i feel, i have put my self in spaces where i can grow. although very uncomfortable and scary, i think the fear I've had before has become something i can fit inside my hand. it will always be there, but it has evolved into something that i can control and manage. i also understand what you said about being intentional when it comes to dating. i get you! as someone who's in my early 20s, there is this feeling of pressure of whether i should just be like other people who casually date for fun. but then again, there is also the option of considering all the aspects that go into relationships. although i have never dated before and it also wouldn't hurt to explore just like my peers, i also like the idea of being upfront with what i expect from a relationship. what you said about your nephew also resonated with me. lately I've been volunteering for children and teaching them how to read. showing patience and understanding to these kids made me realize that i should also be kinder and more compassionate with myself. thank you so much for this!!!!! sorry if this is too long already!!!! i always wish you love and health and happiness. your videos have always inspired me 💗
Thank you Leah ❤ im 30 and went through a breakup a couple of weeks ago (short relationship I ended) and struggling a lot of shame and anxiety, self hate stemming from my loneliness, all the free time I have now, shame in reaching out to others for support, and if Im good enough to have the romantic relationships/the friendships I really want. This made me feel less alone!!! I believe in us
Thanks Leah for sharing, I’m turning 33 this years. I encounter self doubt many times within months per year. Still I’m trying to go over it through taking care of mental health. Listen to ur vdo makes me skip fear for a moment and move on.
I've been watching your videos for years now and they always provide such a cathartic space for me. Thank you for not feeding into these self doubts and continuing to share your thoughts and feelings with us. It truly makes my day whenever I get to watch one of your videos. Best of luck with the move!
The part that really hit me the most was about the young adults living in a very sheltered life and then being thrown out into the wild with zero clue or knowledge on how to be an adult. For me, I was thrown out due to drunken parents that were abusive and I stood up for myself, and I had to learn how to keep a job, save my money and take care of myself all by myself (I'm 21, still learning of course) but overall for me it was very much a fight or flight thing. I'm on my own insurance, I'm disabled but still managing to keep myself alive with some sort of shelter thanks to my friends, and overall just barely scraping by. I think the think I've found that has helped me the most, especially as a person who hates asking for help, is piece by piece taking apart my walls through something creative that makes me the most happy; such as journalling, poetry, painting, dancing, exploring new possibilities and trying out new hobbies, and starting to look forward rather than staring at my past life filled with trauma and sadness, only focusing on the "what if's". I've found that grounding meditation, finding joy in things, even if it's as small as a leaf that was really pretty passing by your feet, or a small cool breeze brushing past you on a hot day, has really helped me a lot in noticing that not everything is "doom and gloom". A quote that I absolutely live my day to day life is: "You can do anything you put your mind to." Whether it's getting out of bed, or accomplishing a big goal in your life, you will succeed as long as you fully put your mind to it. Having love, faith, and confidence in yourself is the most powerful thing one can accomplish, and if you put in the right amount of work, passion and courage in what you want to do in life, I fully believe that it can be done. Rome wasn't built in a day, neither is getting over your own personal mental battles, such as depression, trauma, anxiety, bad habits, the list goes on. Be patient with yourself, cut yourself some slack, and don't obsess over the past because it will only do you more harm than good. I know this was long, but I hope it's brought some insight on the topic of self doubt or has helped someone in some way or another. And thank you for taking the time to read this essay lol ❤❤❤
Hi Leah, a lot of growth in this video. Taking care of basic human needs will lead to self-actualization. Basic Needs: Growth, Contribution, Significance, Certainty, Love & Connection, & also includes Uncertainty. You are a breathe of fresh air, blessings on your Journey! 🤩
I just graduated after 7 years of struggling through undergrad with the anxiety that I'm "falling behind" - I hope to center myself in understanding that I'm exactly where I want - and need - to be.. I realized I've been pushing down some personal desires for the sake of 'success', but I'm ready now. I want to pursue the things that have always scared me, because I can trust myself. Thanks for another lovely video
I found your page a while back and i just want to say, you have this way with words that is really compelling and thought provoking. I have recently started therapy as a way to help cope with my anxiety , so your videos are really soothing since you have such a serene nature about you. It's like I know I can watch your videos on a low feelings day because you won't overwhelm me and I feel better after your videos. ❤ I hope whatever journey life brings you on brings your soul happiness and thank you for sharing these moments in your life
I've been watching your videos for a while now & haven't ever commented I'm not sure you'll see this but I wanted to thank you... your shared field notes have helped me have a gentler & kinder view on life :)
hi Leah, I feel so resonated with your experience. Firstly, the fear. I am joining a international volunteer in new country within a month and half. I feel worried a lot because it is my first time traveling without any close friends. There are questions like whether I can make it, or I can integrate into the new culture, make any friends, whether my choice is right or wrong... Such fears is always there, so just accept it. Also, I agree your graph about the action with fear. It is so true in my case that the fear is like a reminder to be more focused on the goal, to have a broader observation of what I should do now, what I need to prioritize. If I only spend time on overthinking these questions, it would not diminish, instead, lead to the the withdrawal or procrastination. That why I do believe action matters. Also, I get a notion online, which motivated me a lots and also gave me the idea around action. "If I am taking action consistently, I can still find the opportunity, but if If I am not taking action consistently, I am just waiting" . This quote reminds me of perceiving an action as an real evidence for how hard I try for my goal if the fear may be back when there might be unexpected outcomes though I make lots effort. My accumulated action can become an critical evaluation and guidance to what I should do next and whether this goal is what I actually desire for my life, particularly in my past, I tended to pick up external goals, not from my inner desire. thanks so much for sharing ideas.
As someone who is going to be entering my 20s i am at a stage where it all feels so odd and confusing but am aware this feeling or feelings will pass. lately i have been experiencing major impostor syndrome and all the points you went over have really hit where it needed too. I appreciate people who speak from their heart and are willing to be vulnerable and to have a space for those who may feel similar. We are all dealing with different aspects in this life but in so many ways we are connected by similar experiences and knowledge. I hope you have a beautiful day and keep it up with your videos :)
thank u for making videos!! Leah ! u are such a sweet person and your videos always make me feel safe and comforted and like I'm not alone in my doubts and challenges! some of of the doubts that have been weighing me down are coming out to my parents as transgender, learning how to drive, taking my art business further, finishing ged, moving out, finding work, going out by my self and a whole bunch moreeeee. together I believe we can overcome our fears and take action despite the anxiety... we learn how to live even if it takes time
thanks for the reminder to be kinder to ourselves, its so hard when life gets so busy but sometimes when im like life is too much whats the point all i needed was a snack and a hug and a nap love uu leah🫶🫶
thank you for making this video and being so vulnerable!! your video's always make me feel not so alone with my thoughts, feelings and insecurities!! ❤️
Thank you honey for this video🤍I am 23 and lately I have often thought about the essence of the concept of self-confidence. I have come to the conclusion that for me, confidence is taking responsibility for taking the necessary steps towards what my soul wants. I think everyone has this image of a confident person, but I don't want to tweet just an image, I just want to feel like I'm doing everything possible to realize my desires, for my comfort. and in the end, confidence is a permanent state characterized by the fact that you will simply be on your side until the end, you will be kind and sensitive to yourself
thank you for sharing about your doubts regarding relationships, particularly about having standards and knowing what you want. i think that in our current context, dating feels particularly bleak, but finding love is a topic that has produced so many books, songs, paintings, poems, movies, etc for SUCH A LONG TIME! that's not to say there aren't things about the world today that make it feel like an especially lost cause, but realizing that it's one of the major consistencies of the human experience helps comfort me when i find myself in a moment that's filled with despair about not ever getting to experience the magic of finding that *special someone*. there's a lot to be said about the depth that you have in the relationship with yourself, though. idk just a very relevant topic for me that i have a lot of thoughts about and thank you for validating that quest and hope in this video.
It surprised me when I met my current partner how perfect he was for me. He’s not perfect for everyone but all of the flaws that he has are perfectly matched with things that I feel are my strengths so we balance each other out. There were also a couple of compromises that I’ve made to my initial list of qualities I was looking for because I realized some were not really that important to me after all once I met him (like superficial things). So it’s great to know what you want but also be open to changing your mind because you never know who could surprise you!
Oh my gosh the living at home and questioning it every week before your period is sooooo real! As a 26 yr old that wants to share things online as well, this was a very nice video to see 😊
first of all, happy birthday Leah !! it's so strange and also comforting to know that other people are struggling with the same feelings as us, this was exactly what i needed to hear to try to release the self doubt i'm feeling lately regarding my career habilities, social skills, the way i'm perceived and even my body image (i'm usually a pretty positive person when it comes to loving and respecting my body, but lately 👎🏻 maybe it's my pre period doubts, that i 100% related to yours.) thank you so much for being you, i genuinely love you❤
Thank you so much for sharing this! I hope you see success in your journey! I'm also in the middle of a social media journey and I'm now trying to get myself out there by trying to communicate little things about sustainability and ways we can become more climate change resilient, so I'll be showing you support from this end!
There are so many things going through my mind after watching this video and moments that I deeply related to... but for now, all can muster is: Thank you, Leah! ❤
thank you so much for this calming video and your insights about life. on the topic of finding a life partner, i don't know if i believe in life partners, but i do believe that the right person will come up on your path (what's meant to be, will be) and we don't need to worry about the timing of that moment. also i think it's great that you know what you want out of your life partner, but i think it's important that people let go of their expectations, if you fall in love, you do and i really think that people will attract other people with the same energy in life. thanks again
You make my life better with your videos, really. You’re truly inspiring, original, smart, funny and looking at you I get a huge inspiring to create!^~^ thank you for what you’re doing for us
hiii leah, thank you for making this video! im 21 right now, and feel doubt about my myself. i'II always complaining about me or my relationship with other, why does'nt work? I often blame myself. but, after watching your video i realize not everythings be my mistake. sometimes situations is. or maybe that universe dont give me permission to reach my wish or expectations. im still learning how to manage my emotions or dealing with my thought, not blaming everyone or feel sorry about being me. it's okay and it takes a time to learn it. life gonna hard sometimes, but if im gently take care of myself I'II can pass it. I can happy in my way & trust the proccess. really enjoy your video! thank you leah, please be happy ya! (sorry for broke english, this is not my mother languange) :)
As you said in the beginning, the same thing happens to me, it means I also want to start a UA-cam channel but I am afraid of what people will think about me, my videos will not go viral, and I won't get likes. But I really like making videos, I have a lot of videos on my phone but I don't upload any of them... 🥲🫧
I can 100% relate to the standards and worry if anyone is out there for us. I recently got out of a 6 year relationship and getting back in to dating was an absolute pain and a train wreck. I've opted to just see what comes to me and work on myself. Just like you said I would rather be taking care of myself and be doing what is best for me than give something I know probably won't work my energy and time. I love the idea of being in love again and being able to share my life with someone but if I do end up not finding that I will be content knowing I cared for myself and friends/family in the way I needed.
hiii Leah, whoa you came up with another healing vlog again and it makes me so happy. I felt like I was talking to you when watching this. Thanks a lot for sharing your stories and a little bit from your journal with us, Leah. I really appreciate that and I think I should share something with you too. I'm not a native speaker and you help me so much in this learning English journey. Your vlogs are the only videos that I can learn precious things from along with I CAN UNDERSTAND THEM CLEARLY YAY. I mean in a way that it's not for beginners but also not too hard to understand, the way you pronounce words or the flow that you speak, everything's perfect for me to have fun and learn
happy late birthday, leah! i’m glad you’re allowing yourself time to heal and that you feel ready to share this process with us.❤ this video brought up some very interesting points for me. as a person and an artist i tend to allow my insecurities and people pleasing to completely overrule my dreams. it is definitely trying and tiresome but i think the fear/hope diagram you showed should be a good thing to have in mind when these feelings come up. excited to see what else we can learn together and teach each other :))
Hi Leah, thank you so much for always sharing your journey so openly. Every time I watch one of your videos, it immediately makes me feel less alone and inspires me to try new things. Listening to you is like a wholesome therapy session with a friend and because of you I learnt how to treat myself kinder. You truly are (to me and definitely to many others) a safe space. Sending you lots of love and a belated happy birthday! ❤
Leah, your videos have made me so inspired. You're so talented. I'm newly 30 years old and I see so much potential and love in you. Fuck anyone who makes you feel bad about your content. You're doing something amazing and I look forward to more videos from you - for years to come! We need to all dream forever.
Thanks leah! Loved that little hope/fear graphic. And I really support your vision of creating a space for more safety and love. Keep being a champion. I need it, we need it, it helps
I have so many doubts about pursuing a career in design by myself, I just want freelancing and art, and it's hard to believe in myself many times, but the diagram helped me to see better, and everytime I feel this way, I am going to take more actions. Thank you so much ❤
i really relate to your feelings of self doubt leah!! i just graduated from uni so i’m feeling the post grad existential crisis feelings🥲thank you for carving out a space on the internet that feels safe and grounded in kinship and support❤as you said in the beginning, we do truly like to hear your thoughts and i love reading comments on your videos, it really does feel like a community, so i truly am grateful that you’ve been posting again❤❤
I am very emotional person and even little things make me so stressed and my boyfriend lately gave me so helpful advice on having doubts and feeling stressed he said the obstacles in life are important beause they verify if we want something enough to overcome them and grow, and he also said that we can stay in our comfort zone and be stressed that we live the same life everyday or get out of our comfort zone and make this fear of not changing our fuel to do things, that motivated me to do things even if im so scared and i hope it will motivate somone else too!
I often forget to be kind to myself. I guess it will take time for it to become an automatic thing for me. But right now, I am glad that I know that's the thing I needed. Be kind to yourself, everyone! Be a gentle parent to yourself ❤😊
Thank you so much Leah :) you never fail to inspire! I have very similar dreams and desires and still learning to self regulate (also through gentle parenting my younger cousins!) just wanted u to know that ur not alone and you made me feel less alone too. 🥰 much love
hello internet stranger, i am also packing up all my stuff to move next week, ill be moving out for the first time long term to the other side of the country. while I have friends there and a somewhat supportive family, I am very anxious and keep telling myself that whatever is meant to happen to me has already happened in the future. i am supposed to be wherever I am, wherever I end up. thanks for pushing people to believe in themselves more :)) have a lovely weekend and happy travels! hope our moving plans arent as insane and rough as we think they might be
Sometimes life is about living the questions instead of finding all the answers ✨
aww I love that!
It's a Rilke quote! @@leahsfieldnotes
This is beautiful, I really needed to read this. This resonate so much with my life. Thank you for sharing
I am 48 years old and have done so much in my life, did so many type of jobs, reinvented myself 50 times and still find your videos very inspiring. I also have a 3 month old daughter, and i wish she would be as smart and as grounded person as you. thank you. you are truly a unique soul.
Oh my gosh what an honour 😭🫶🤍 sending u and your sweet daughter lots of love!!
this video really hit a spot for me! im 21 and navigating through a tough time, learning some things the hard way but also trying to be more gentle with myself. living for others, serving and meeting their expectations is draining and im still struggling to develop more compassion for myself and my needs because i dont wanna let them down although its not my responsibility. thank you leah!!
I am also 21 and going through the same as you. Keep strong, i believe in us!
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being 21 is weird af!! bless us all lmao
@@martacruz7997me too 🫶🏻
This hit home , I've realised so much about myself (limiting beliefs, negative patterns ) of course the anti hero in my head , although it's been difficult to nurture myself and stop people pleasing has been really hard and at the same time I've started to trust the process.
I hope you all have the faith and trust in yourself
Have a great day/life 😂
This is random but related. Sometimes I randomly think about the Mona Lisa and how thousands of people visit the Louvre daily. I’ve heard so many people say it’s unimpressive and I just want to say to them I think it’s a damn good thing da Vinci wasn’t trying to impress YOU. I guess it goes without saying that when we make impactful work or connections especially nowadays in a world riddled with envy accusation and assumptions, a lot of people will be eggy, unimpressed, and unfortunately even hostile. And the worst part is no matter how much we tell ourselves it shouldn’t matter, it does and it still hurts so much.
I can say as someone who’s chronically online just trying to feel something that you are different Leah. For however much time you end up putting out your work and thoughts on here I’ll forever be grateful.
I like your example soo much❤
"Do I question it every week before my period?"
SO RELATABLE 😭
Also I'm glad this video got uploaded as I was just having another severe case of self-doubt again a few minutes ago 🥹
Leah, I can’t tell you how perfect of a time this video came. I just quit my first big girl architecture job after almost three years - it’s been a week since and I have been trying to navigate through so much self doubt and questioning if I made the right decision. I tend to spiral when it comes to negative thoughts, so your words about acknowledging self doubt and fear, but going into it with hope and action are truly comforting. Thank you as always - I have been watching your vids for years now, and it’s been great to see how much you yourself have grown and become so wise 😌
awww sending u lots of love and extra hope! excited for what’s in your future 🫶
idk how much this will help anyone but as a person in my early 20s, what has really helped is to always get back up after a failure. sth about pushing thru even when the odds are 'against' your favour. keep pushing, aim high and keep trying. be gentle with yourself too. it may never make sense but we tried
I had a list of qualities I wanted in a life partner. I could not have designed a better partner than the man that waltzed into my life 6 years ago. He has strengths and qualities that I never would have chosen for myself.
I thought I wanted someone who liked most of the things I liked. But really.. he cooks, he cleans and he’s secure in himself. We agree on the fundamentals of life but our interests and passions are so different. We have so many things to talk about because our experiences and opinions can be so different.
That’s so beautiful to hear 🥹🤍
this really helped me to realize the importance of listening to one’s own needs and what we can do to live better, thank you for that, this place is beautiful by the way ! Can’t wait to look forward to seeing your evolution again and again, it allows me to grow more serenely, to see other young adults sharing their doubt ❤️
i hope that the next time you think about how many people are triggered by what you say and do not agree with you, that you also remember there are 10x as many people who are waiting for your videos every week and watch till the very end because i care about what you have to say and everytime you upload it feels like i can finally enter my safe space again and see someone who inspire me to take care of myself as well
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turning 26 this year on november.. i've been contemplating on a lot of stuff especially financial security and personal goals. cried a lil when you talked about hope with action and fear without action damn that hits. i guess navigating this so called late 20s means being more compassionate towards ourselves and regulate big emotions and distractions! i swear i procrastinate a lot, i don't even know why. i guess it's also that damn phones and not sitting well with my emotions.
it's useful to see the hope/fear visual and the maslow's hierarchy visual as I'm a visual learner and I'm certainly in a situation now in my adult life where I stay in a state of fear for long and it has to do with a hard time with unresolved trauma and just having a hard time with things as a 21 y/o. I feel in my spirit that if I were to just do SOMETHING that feels a bit intuitive and right, even if it's imperfect, I could get through what I'm facing, however, still, the self-doubt and anxiety consumes me and it's just an unhealthy relationship I have with myself where my priorities aren't always clear to me and I don't have a strong "why". the maslow's hierarchy example is really insightful because I come from a russian immigrant family (I was born in the U.S. though) and they create such a stigma about mental health and self-care and all of that and it's awful to me and really difficult to navigate. however, the original hierarchy that you shared from the indigenous groups helps affirm my choices and intuition and the little steps I make to take care of myself.
Leah you're an amazing human. This is beautiful. Being a 20 year old, contemplating life and dreams, watching myself scared of living and people, isolating,self sabotaging, lost, self doubting and running away from myself at the same time wanting to figure out life in general is so difficult for me.
I was always the odd one everywhere, and now, since i find humans like you I've had this realization, no, there are people existing with similar thoughts, still trying and navigating their life, still scared and self doubting and that is a humane thing! maybe a little different from others but this is us, this is me, growing vulnerable and delicate and it's fine🤍
this is my first time commenting anywhere at all and believe me I've had to gather courage for this too lol :)
I like how open you are Leah, I resonate with so many of the things you said. I've started a new role and signed a lease to move in with my partner recently, and started having imposter syndrome. But you're right! Fear with action makes the fear smaller. Sometimes in uncertainty, we just have to keep doing, iterating, and retrospectiving.
You’re one of the most charming people I’ve seen (and I mean that in a very impressive way that actually even translates through a screen) and the way you share your thoughts in your content is SO thoughtful. I think it resonates with and brings value to a lot of us!
This really hit, in all sorta ways. I had been super full of self-doubt, thinking about my choices, perceived mistakes, and current projections. Similar to you I’m turning 27 in June (woopie gemini life) and just all over the place. I moved to a new place back-ish home (moved around for a while then came back home, but not with family), lost a close friend, and just changed like whole career. I reevaluated a lot of what makes me happy and really matters to me. I can happily say choosing myself was an amazing choice and one that looks different daily. I’m in a smoother path where I’ll be starting a new job at a farm soon leaving a job with pretty toxic mentality, trying to find a community around me (friends who align w me) and just deepening my relationship with my partner. It’s all been a journey and it still isn’t perfect and I don’t have it figured out, at all, but like all the little actions and changes are really helping me go to what feels best. If you’re ever in LA love to chat! Feel like we’ve been in a pretty similar wave, but sounds like so many of us are!! Good luck on your move and your next steps!
Being a 18 year old discovering ur channel when i was 16 was the best thing ever !!! Leah whenever i watch these videos i feel more happy and inspired from you I doubt my self very much coz rn I'm getting academically and physically weak but mentally I'm getting very strong and i will definitely improve my life and take actions even tho I'm scared and i will keep spreading love and kindness in the world just like you☺️
I am 29 and 2 years ago I moved away from my home country to another continent to start a new life. Being an outsider of the local culture I am struggling to make myself recognized by the new environment. This year I've learned to prioritize my own needs over the expectation of external interests. Self-doubt has become not a judgment of my worth, but rather a tool for self-discovery and understanding.
Okay, holy moly, I feel the exact same way about dating and setting the bar. The “problem” with it is, for me, I got out of a 10 year relationship when I was 27. I’m 36 now and have barely dated (I had 1 serious partner for 15 months during that time), and it’s because I’m sooo picky and my standards are sooo high. BUT, I often feel like “am I falling behind? Am I missing out?”
Which leads to the child issue. I never really wanted children, but my younger brother has 2 children under 5 now, and I’m like “dang, I do want a life partner (that’s always been a yes for me) and maybe I do want a child” but, is it too late? And then I just get depressed, feeling like I’ll never have what I truly want, a wife and kid(s). Life is hard lol. But, all you can do is keep developing yourself, push forward a step at a time, TRY to not let your past turn into regrets, and TRY to not project your future as being one of lack. Love you @leahsfieldnotes and love to all you viewers
I can relate to that too. I spent my 20s either casually dating or being stuck in relationships that didn't work out for me and as I was entering my 30s I felt the pressure of finding a serious parner but dating became just so daunting that I litterally had to force myself to get out and meet people. I'm also quite picky and, in my culture, people (usually women) get blamed for having high standards and never settling down. But now I see that high standards are not the problem. Believing in the existence of an ideal partner is the first step to finding him/her. Instead of lowering my standards, I would expand my capacity to love myself and others. And I no longer see my past mistakes as a waste of time. They got me ready for this loving, fulfilling relationship that I am in now. Keep your hope up and good luck!
i was hesitant to click on this video when i first encountered it because self compassion is such an intimidating concept for me to grapple with. i’ve lived my life prioritizing the expectations and wants of others, so much so that i have no clue how to tap into my own needs and desires. i loved hearing you speak on hope and fear and awareness and the self - it is such a comfort to see you break down this big looming presence into thoughts i can recognize in real time. releasing myself of guilt, shame and converting these into acceptance will take some time, but your video offered me some relief from cyclical/harmful thinking and offered some hope, too. this video came at an important time, thank you!
I'm so glad to see you again! You are my favorite youtuber, and someone I really admire (and aspire to be), mainly because we are so similar (and I mean this in a non-weird way). Your videos, your style, and just how you speak and live are so comforting. I was severely doubting myself for the entire day today, thinking that I don't deserve the love and resources I recieve, so your video really came at the right time for me. 你的视频总是可以引起共鸣，真的很欣赏你
leah your videos have truly been a source of inspiration for me over the past few years and always come at points in my life when i need them most. i so deeply appreciate your perspective and willingness to be open about your continued growth as a human being. please never stop doing what you're doing
Leah, this video was so important to me! I’ve been navigating this weird time in life where I don’t really know where I’ll go or what I’ll do in the future, and hearing that a person that I so admire and take as an inspiration has the same fears and doubts was like a hug.
Thank you for being so vulnerable about your feelings, because even though it's scary, and people on the internet can be so mean, know that somewhere in Brazil there is a viewer that felt inspired to create and overcome her own self-doubts.
Lots of love! 🥰
awwwwww that means so much to me 😭🫶🤍 thank u sweet angel 👼
I came to the same conclusion about triggers as you recently. They can show you where you still have wounds to heal & where you need to be extra compassionate with yourself if you let them. It’s all about growth mindset in the end. ❤ Moving “back home” can be almost unbearably hard but it’s perfect for intense reflection on how far you’ve come and where you really want to go.
leah ive been watching ur stuff since i was 19 freshly moved out, im almost 23 and in a happy relationship now, and we have a one year old daughter together. i still watch ur content bc life is ever changing and they bring me sm peace no matter where i'm at in life
Ohhhh myyy goodness 😭🫶🤍 I feel so proud of you I can’t believe you’ve become a mama in this span of time! Haha why do I feel like i became an aunt 😂 sending you all lots of love💐
@@leahsfieldnotes thank you sm!!
hiii leah, i want to thank you a lot
The video's exploration of using triggers as pathways to healing is profoundly impactful. 🌱 Embracing self-compassion not only aids personal growth but can also significantly enhance one's resilience in personal life.
As a young adult, there's SO much self doubt because you're expected to be at a certain point in life and you have no example of what that looks like or what you're supposed to do because you're supposed to create it for yourself. Especially with people that have estranged relationships with their parents and they're unable to teach them things, you're just kinda thrown into life and have to learn things yourself. My best friend was facing a lot of self doubt because he doesn't know exactly what career he wants and doesn't know whether to go to college or focus on getting experience. Plus his dad isn't supportive in the way that he needs. So he had to overcome that and realize this is his life and he doesn't need his approval and he has people behind him to support him and care about him. But I believe doing proper research and putting yourself in a position to try new things is so important because we're so used to the box that we grew up in that we don't realize possibilities outside of what we know. So yeah, I've been thinking about the concept of self doubt a lot recently. With my best friend and myself too because I had to grow up so quickly. As someone about to turn 22 in June, if I had to leave any advice it would be to master and embrace your emotions and confront your stubbornness instill responsibility in yourself, save money because it will be a life saver even if you're financially stable, and use the Internet to your advantage and look up the things you don't understand about how to build a life for yourself when independent. 👍🏽 Hope any of this helps.
i kept checking your channel the past few days if there was a new upload cuz i always feel so at peace when watching your videos!🤍 looking forward to watching this leah!!🫶🏽
I hope your contract with Better Help ends soon, so I can fully immerse myself in your content again. I don't trust the company, they support genocide and are capitalizing on a mental health crisis, I've done my research. Wish you the best, do trust your good intentions
She surely heard this before. I think this is a very loyal sponsor to her to let it go
oh i did not know they're genocide supporter :(( lots of my favorite content creators do sponsorships from them as well
Also they’re not really helping anything, this is a scam
Is that all the bad comments about? Im trying to keep up what happened?
I wasn't having the best day really and was doubting myself a lot and my feelings. Your videos always make me feel at peace. Its like im listening to a friend talk ;-; love you leah
Dear Leah, I am normally a silent viewer but I just wanted to tell you that you are such a source of inspiration to me! Because of you mentioning it in your (last?!) video I bought "The artist's way" and it has helped me tremendously already (although I have to admit that I haven't been completely consistent with the exercises)! And today again you have helped me realize so much which I will certainly also share with my friends & family. Thank you for being!
your channel helps me so much, I am only 20 years old but really struggling with all my emotions and feelings (I am super sensitive:)), it helps a lot to see someone be so open and conscious with their feelings and struggles. It feels like you are a big sister to kind of give me an overview that finally you will find more of a balance in your life with still the same struggles. Thanks for that!
Happy Birthday Leah!
I want to add a thought to this worry, that noone will ever meet your standards as a partner.
Whenever I feel that way, I look at what I wrote about a future partner and ask myself: Am I that person? What can I do to become more like that? If you can do it, there are other people who can do it too.
Thinking that way also ensures that you will never ask for something in a partner, that you yourself can´t provide.
Oh Leah, what a time to believe in a higher power. You made me absolutely tear up, in the best of ways! So many gems. Hope with action!!! I do, so sincerely, feel safe in your space, and I love you for creating it. Thank you infinitely ❤
A thing we’re learning at work is internal narratives. I find it helpful to recognise self-doubt as a narrative that we can combat. So yes, we’re gonna trigger some people. And also yes, some people are gonna love our videos. I appreciate what you share, and I’m a better person because of you. So please know these affirming truths exist too 🫂⛅️
Dear Leah, enourmous thank you for articulating your UNHEARD VOICE. Thank you for showing us that phase of self-doubting is not a straight path that we only encounter it once in lifetime. You have shown that it's the reality but we will be fine even if we question ourselves back-to-back. Your storytelling ways in telling small details of the hard process IS, DAMN, MAKE IT MORE RELATEABLE. Warm huggg
Thank you from the bottom of my aching heart Leah ♥️✨🧸 I’m 24 and trying to quit my current finance job and pursue something more aligned with my path. I also want to create content but posting the shit is the most daunting part 😅 I wrestle with self-doubt everyday but I recently learned that an opportunity will be available soon that I may be considered for! It’s very exciting, scary, nervewracking, but I keep trying to remind myself that I’ve been through harder transitions before and survived them. I wouldn’t trade that wisdom for anything else. Good to always be reminded that uncertainty lives within all of us but so does compassion and love 🥰 keep sharing your field notes pls! We love em
We love you Leah. You’ve been the home on Internet for lot of us
awww 😭🤍 you are so sweet!
@@leahsfieldnotes 😭😭😭 I hope you stay healthy: physically & emotionally. Lots of love 🩵
By watching this, I've realized one of the most relevant things in my life: (1) to view my triggers as a gift and an opportunity.
I just turned 18 within the last two months, and for the past seven years, I've been struggling with coping when faced with my so much trauma triggers. All too often, I've ended up coping in ways that are harmful to my physical, mental, and emotional health. Knowing someone who see triggers as an opportunity to heal a wound has given me relief !!! I now feel quite quite quiteee open in seeing my own triggers in a similar way- seeing them as chances to open spaces that allow me to heal in a more healthy and safer way.
ps: i missed you a looot. graduation's coming in a few days and just by seeing this new video of yours feels like a huge reward already ❤
leah, you're such an inspiration to me. your view on life and advice really helped me be more introspective and be kinder to myself, and I hope you keep sharing what you've learned. i see a lot of parts of myself in you, and you've impacted me a lot, and I know you've impacted so many other people's lives as well. you motivate me to do my best while caring for myself and reminding myself that it's not my fault for everything!
Your videos are always so well-synced to whatever I am going through at the time that I watch them - I couldn’t sleep as I was overthinking some of my own triggers and self-doubts from past and future, and decided to watch your new video which I had been saving for the morning, and this was perfect. Thanks always, Leah!!
we're the same age, in similar situations, & have similar attitudes in life - love your channel & thank you for sharing yourself w the internet
you're very self aware and that's such a blessing, enjoy this season of your life :)
Yes to decolonizing mental health from individualism to tending and strategizing for collective liberation ❤❤❤
This channel is a beautiful safe space. You are so thoughtful and genuine it's very refreshing :)
Hey Leah! I'm currently in uni and watching this video feels like as if you were deep talking with your best friend :^) I love how you set the video outdoor since seeing the nature is also been relaxing for the mind. Adulting has been quite hard lately.. Watching you talking about your expericence with your little nephew almost made me cried (especially when you hug him, it really made me smile!) Sometimes we all need those simple things. Talking about healing journey, Art therapy has been really nice to navigate emotions for me!. Your video is always been so inspiring on my healing journey too. I'm sending much much much love for you Leah! ❤
3:04 i felt this LOL but what a nice reminder that you already possess the skills needed to be compassionate and take care of yourself! rooting for you Leah! ✨
❤❤❤For triggers I really resonates with you Leah. I just want to say love you! And we are all on our way for better self🎉
thank you for this video leah! your videos always come at the right time. I've been struggling with self-doubt for the past three years and it has been troublesome for me. but yep, just like you i try to my best to overcome it! like what you said, fear decreases when there is action done. so despite the negative emotions i feel, i have put my self in spaces where i can grow. although very uncomfortable and scary, i think the fear I've had before has become something i can fit inside my hand. it will always be there, but it has evolved into something that i can control and manage.
i also understand what you said about being intentional when it comes to dating. i get you! as someone who's in my early 20s, there is this feeling of pressure of whether i should just be like other people who casually date for fun. but then again, there is also the option of considering all the aspects that go into relationships. although i have never dated before and it also wouldn't hurt to explore just like my peers, i also like the idea of being upfront with what i expect from a relationship. what you said about your nephew also resonated with me. lately I've been volunteering for children and teaching them how to read. showing patience and understanding to these kids made me realize that i should also be kinder and more compassionate with myself.
thank you so much for this!!!!! sorry if this is too long already!!!! i always wish you love and health and happiness. your videos have always inspired me 💗
Thank you Leah ❤ im 30 and went through a breakup a couple of weeks ago (short relationship I ended) and struggling a lot of shame and anxiety, self hate stemming from my loneliness, all the free time I have now, shame in reaching out to others for support, and if Im good enough to have the romantic relationships/the friendships I really want. This made me feel less alone!!! I believe in us
You have no idea how happy i was to see you posted again 🥹🥹 ur fr lil a big sis to me
This is such an insightful discussion! Thank you for sharing this peace. Your thoughts and aesthetic always gives me peace
Thanks Leah for sharing, I’m turning 33 this years. I encounter self doubt many times within months per year. Still I’m trying to go over it through taking care of mental health. Listen to ur vdo makes me skip fear for a moment and move on.
I think I’ll be coming back to the first three minutes of this video many times. The wisdom!!
I've been watching your videos for years now and they always provide such a cathartic space for me. Thank you for not feeding into these self doubts and continuing to share your thoughts and feelings with us. It truly makes my day whenever I get to watch one of your videos. Best of luck with the move!
The part that really hit me the most was about the young adults living in a very sheltered life and then being thrown out into the wild with zero clue or knowledge on how to be an adult. For me, I was thrown out due to drunken parents that were abusive and I stood up for myself, and I had to learn how to keep a job, save my money and take care of myself all by myself (I'm 21, still learning of course) but overall for me it was very much a fight or flight thing. I'm on my own insurance, I'm disabled but still managing to keep myself alive with some sort of shelter thanks to my friends, and overall just barely scraping by.
I think the think I've found that has helped me the most, especially as a person who hates asking for help, is piece by piece taking apart my walls through something creative that makes me the most happy; such as journalling, poetry, painting, dancing, exploring new possibilities and trying out new hobbies, and starting to look forward rather than staring at my past life filled with trauma and sadness, only focusing on the "what if's". I've found that grounding meditation, finding joy in things, even if it's as small as a leaf that was really pretty passing by your feet, or a small cool breeze brushing past you on a hot day, has really helped me a lot in noticing that not everything is "doom and gloom".
A quote that I absolutely live my day to day life is:
"You can do anything you put your mind to."
Whether it's getting out of bed, or accomplishing a big goal in your life, you will succeed as long as you fully put your mind to it. Having love, faith, and confidence in yourself is the most powerful thing one can accomplish, and if you put in the right amount of work, passion and courage in what you want to do in life, I fully believe that it can be done. Rome wasn't built in a day, neither is getting over your own personal mental battles, such as depression, trauma, anxiety, bad habits, the list goes on. Be patient with yourself, cut yourself some slack, and don't obsess over the past because it will only do you more harm than good.
I know this was long, but I hope it's brought some insight on the topic of self doubt or has helped someone in some way or another. And thank you for taking the time to read this essay lol ❤❤❤
Hi Leah, a lot of growth in this video. Taking care of basic human needs will lead to self-actualization. Basic Needs: Growth, Contribution, Significance, Certainty, Love & Connection, & also includes Uncertainty. You are a breathe of fresh air, blessings on your Journey! 🤩
I just graduated after 7 years of struggling through undergrad with the anxiety that I'm "falling behind" - I hope to center myself in understanding that I'm exactly where I want - and need - to be.. I realized I've been pushing down some personal desires for the sake of 'success', but I'm ready now. I want to pursue the things that have always scared me, because I can trust myself. Thanks for another lovely video
I found your page a while back and i just want to say, you have this way with words that is really compelling and thought provoking. I have recently started therapy as a way to help cope with my anxiety , so your videos are really soothing since you have such a serene nature about you. It's like I know I can watch your videos on a low feelings day because you won't overwhelm me and I feel better after your videos. ❤ I hope whatever journey life brings you on brings your soul happiness and thank you for sharing these moments in your life
Really appreciated this video Leah, especially the thought of using the gentle parenting style on yourself ❤
thank you for posting, I love watching your videos right before bed, they feel like a hug when I'm tired too
I've been watching your videos for a while now & haven't ever commented
I'm not sure you'll see this but I wanted to thank you... your shared field notes have helped me have a gentler & kinder view on life :)
hi Leah, I feel so resonated with your experience. Firstly, the fear. I am joining a international volunteer in new country within a month and half. I feel worried a lot because it is my first time traveling without any close friends. There are questions like whether I can make it, or I can integrate into the new culture, make any friends, whether my choice is right or wrong... Such fears is always there, so just accept it. Also, I agree your graph about the action with fear. It is so true in my case that the fear is like a reminder to be more focused on the goal, to have a broader observation of what I should do now, what I need to prioritize. If I only spend time on overthinking these questions, it would not diminish, instead, lead to the the withdrawal or procrastination. That why I do believe action matters. Also, I get a notion online, which motivated me a lots and also gave me the idea around action. "If I am taking action consistently, I can still find the opportunity, but if If I am not taking action consistently, I am just waiting" . This quote reminds me of perceiving an action as an real evidence for how hard I try for my goal if the fear may be back when there might be unexpected outcomes though I make lots effort. My accumulated action can become an critical evaluation and guidance to what I should do next and whether this goal is what I actually desire for my life, particularly in my past, I tended to pick up external goals, not from my inner desire.
thanks so much for sharing ideas.
As someone who is going to be entering my 20s
i am at a stage where it all feels so odd and confusing but am aware this feeling or feelings will pass. lately i have been experiencing major impostor syndrome and all the points you went over have really hit where it needed too. I appreciate people who speak from their heart and are willing to be vulnerable and to have a space for those who may feel similar. We are all dealing with different aspects in this life but in so many ways we are connected by similar experiences and knowledge. I hope you have a beautiful day and keep it up with your videos :)
thank u for making videos!! Leah ! u are such a sweet person and your videos always make me feel safe and comforted and like I'm not alone in my doubts and challenges!
some of of the doubts that have been weighing me down are coming out to my parents as transgender, learning how to drive, taking my art business further, finishing ged, moving out, finding work, going out by my self and a whole bunch moreeeee.
together I believe we can overcome our fears and take action despite the anxiety... we learn how to live even if it takes time
thanks for the reminder to be kinder to ourselves, its so hard when life gets so busy but sometimes when im like life is too much whats the point all i needed was a snack and a hug and a nap love uu leah🫶🫶
i miss you i love you im so happy to see you leahh :")
thank you for making this video and being so vulnerable!! your video's always make me feel not so alone with my thoughts, feelings and insecurities!! ❤️
Your videos are comfort to me, feels like I'm getting a hug whenever I watch your videos. Thank you so much, leah.
Thank you honey for this video🤍I am 23 and lately I have often thought about the essence of the concept of self-confidence. I have come to the conclusion that for me, confidence is taking responsibility for taking the necessary steps towards what my soul wants. I think everyone has this image of a confident person, but I don't want to tweet just an image, I just want to feel like I'm doing everything possible to realize my desires, for my comfort. and in the end, confidence is a permanent state characterized by the fact that you will simply be on your side until the end, you will be kind and sensitive to yourself
thank you for sharing about your doubts regarding relationships, particularly about having standards and knowing what you want. i think that in our current context, dating feels particularly bleak, but finding love is a topic that has produced so many books, songs, paintings, poems, movies, etc for SUCH A LONG TIME! that's not to say there aren't things about the world today that make it feel like an especially lost cause, but realizing that it's one of the major consistencies of the human experience helps comfort me when i find myself in a moment that's filled with despair about not ever getting to experience the magic of finding that *special someone*. there's a lot to be said about the depth that you have in the relationship with yourself, though. idk just a very relevant topic for me that i have a lot of thoughts about and thank you for validating that quest and hope in this video.
Watching you grow helps me grow
It surprised me when I met my current partner how perfect he was for me. He’s not perfect for everyone but all of the flaws that he has are perfectly matched with things that I feel are my strengths so we balance each other out. There were also a couple of compromises that I’ve made to my initial list of qualities I was looking for because I realized some were not really that important to me after all once I met him (like superficial things). So it’s great to know what you want but also be open to changing your mind because you never know who could surprise you!
Oh my gosh the living at home and questioning it every week before your period is sooooo real! As a 26 yr old that wants to share things online as well, this was a very nice video to see 😊
this video is what I needed solo travelling at the moment it’s been a lot of growth overwhelming at times, this made me cry! thanks leah
first of all, happy birthday Leah !! it's so strange and also comforting to know that other people are struggling with the same feelings as us, this was exactly what i needed to hear to try to release the self doubt i'm feeling lately regarding my career habilities, social skills, the way i'm perceived and even my body image (i'm usually a pretty positive person when it comes to loving and respecting my body, but lately 👎🏻 maybe it's my pre period doubts, that i 100% related to yours.) thank you so much for being you, i genuinely love you❤
Thank you so much for sharing this! I hope you see success in your journey! I'm also in the middle of a social media journey and I'm now trying to get myself out there by trying to communicate little things about sustainability and ways we can become more climate change resilient, so I'll be showing you support from this end!
IM SO HAPPY TO SEE YOU LEAH
There are so many things going through my mind after watching this video and moments that I deeply related to... but for now, all can muster is: Thank you, Leah! ❤
thank you so much for this calming video and your insights about life. on the topic of finding a life partner, i don't know if i believe in life partners, but i do believe that the right person will come up on your path (what's meant to be, will be) and we don't need to worry about the timing of that moment. also i think it's great that you know what you want out of your life partner, but i think it's important that people let go of their expectations, if you fall in love, you do and i really think that people will attract other people with the same energy in life. thanks again
You make my life better with your videos, really. You’re truly inspiring, original, smart, funny and looking at you I get a huge inspiring to create!^~^ thank you for what you’re doing for us
hiii leah, thank you for making this video! im 21 right now, and feel doubt about my myself. i'II always complaining about me or my relationship with other, why does'nt work? I often blame myself.
but, after watching your video i realize not everythings be my mistake. sometimes situations is. or maybe that universe dont give me permission to reach my wish or expectations.
im still learning how to manage my emotions or dealing with my thought, not blaming everyone or feel sorry about being me. it's okay and it takes a time to learn it.
life gonna hard sometimes, but if im gently take care of myself I'II can pass it. I can happy in my way & trust the proccess.
really enjoy your video! thank you leah, please be happy ya! (sorry for broke english, this is not my mother languange) :)
As you said in the beginning, the same thing happens to me, it means I also want to start a UA-cam channel but I am afraid of what people will think about me, my videos will not go viral, and I won't get likes. But I really like making videos, I have a lot of videos on my phone but I don't upload any of them... 🥲🫧
Do it!
Do it!!!
DO IITT!
do it and let us know !!
I can 100% relate to the standards and worry if anyone is out there for us. I recently got out of a 6 year relationship and getting back in to dating was an absolute pain and a train wreck. I've opted to just see what comes to me and work on myself. Just like you said I would rather be taking care of myself and be doing what is best for me than give something I know probably won't work my energy and time. I love the idea of being in love again and being able to share my life with someone but if I do end up not finding that I will be content knowing I cared for myself and friends/family in the way I needed.
hiii Leah, whoa you came up with another healing vlog again and it makes me so happy. I felt like I was talking to you when watching this. Thanks a lot for sharing your stories and a little bit from your journal with us, Leah. I really appreciate that and I think I should share something with you too.
I'm not a native speaker and you help me so much in this learning English journey. Your vlogs are the only videos that I can learn precious things from along with I CAN UNDERSTAND THEM CLEARLY YAY. I mean in a way that it's not for beginners but also not too hard to understand, the way you pronounce words or the flow that you speak, everything's perfect for me to have fun and learn
So so so so grateful for the algorithm!!!! I am releasing self-doubt of expressing my gifts to my family
After having a busy day in the office, it’s sooo relaxing to just lie down and watch you video and listen to your talks.
happy late birthday, leah! i’m glad you’re allowing yourself time to heal and that you feel ready to share this process with us.❤
this video brought up some very interesting points for me. as a person and an artist i tend to allow my insecurities and people pleasing to completely overrule my dreams.
it is definitely trying and tiresome but i think the fear/hope diagram you showed should be a good thing to have in mind when these feelings come up.
excited to see what else we can learn together and teach each other :))
Hi Leah, thank you so much for always sharing your journey so openly. Every time I watch one of your videos, it immediately makes me feel less alone and inspires me to try new things. Listening to you is like a wholesome therapy session with a friend and because of you I learnt how to treat myself kinder. You truly are (to me and definitely to many others) a safe space.
Sending you lots of love and a belated happy birthday! ❤
Leah, your videos have made me so inspired. You're so talented. I'm newly 30 years old and I see so much potential and love in you. Fuck anyone who makes you feel bad about your content. You're doing something amazing and I look forward to more videos from you - for years to come! We need to all dream forever.
Thanks leah! Loved that little hope/fear graphic. And I really support your vision of creating a space for more safety and love. Keep being a champion. I need it, we need it, it helps
I have so many doubts about pursuing a career in design by myself, I just want freelancing and art, and it's hard to believe in myself many times, but the diagram helped me to see better, and everytime I feel this way, I am going to take more actions. Thank you so much ❤
there's a quote from clarice lispector that helps me, it is "depois do medo, vem o mundo" (after fear comes the world)
i really relate to your feelings of self doubt leah!! i just graduated from uni so i’m feeling the post grad existential crisis feelings🥲thank you for carving out a space on the internet that feels safe and grounded in kinship and support❤as you said in the beginning, we do truly like to hear your thoughts and i love reading comments on your videos, it really does feel like a community, so i truly am grateful that you’ve been posting again❤❤
i'm 22, i have lost my dad a year ago and dealing with massive existential crises, your videos are a bit of calm in the storm. thanks
I am very emotional person and even little things make me so stressed and my boyfriend lately gave me so helpful advice on having doubts and feeling stressed he said the obstacles in life are important beause they verify if we want something enough to overcome them and grow, and he also said that we can stay in our comfort zone and be stressed that we live the same life everyday or get out of our comfort zone and make this fear of not changing our fuel to do things, that motivated me to do things even if im so scared and i hope it will motivate somone else too!
I often forget to be kind to myself. I guess it will take time for it to become an automatic thing for me. But right now, I am glad that I know that's the thing I needed. Be kind to yourself, everyone! Be a gentle parent to yourself ❤😊
Hey, this is my first comment on youtube ever lol, but I just felt like I have to speak out loud how much I appreciate your vulnerability
Thank you so much Leah :) you never fail to inspire! I have very similar dreams and desires and still learning to self regulate (also through gentle parenting my younger cousins!) just wanted u to know that ur not alone and you made me feel less alone too. 🥰 much love
hello internet stranger, i am also packing up all my stuff to move next week, ill be moving out for the first time long term to the other side of the country. while I have friends there and a somewhat supportive family, I am very anxious and keep telling myself that whatever is meant to happen to me has already happened in the future. i am supposed to be wherever I am, wherever I end up. thanks for pushing people to believe in themselves more :)) have a lovely weekend and happy travels! hope our moving plans arent as insane and rough as we think they might be