WHY IMPORTED SPOUSES DON'T WORK!!
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- Опубліковано 6 вер 2024
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My daughter got her PhD at 28 and she’s so focused in her career now that she’s not talking about marriage. I’m not in haste. I have 3 daughters all I’m doing is praying for them for the right person that will support their dreams and vice versa.
Good.
Great achievement. But at 28 years ,she need to start looking at settling down. At 35yrs old, a woman's time is running out. Risk of low egg reserve, risk of Downs syndrome child, high risk pregnancy etc.
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All of these are the reasons that lead people into desperation/wrong choices...Everyone's time is different....Settling down is not the penultimate in life.....
Hi, I am from Belgium 🇧🇪. I am also an imported wife 18 years ago. To God be the glory I marry Godly man.
One of the biggest mistake people make when they go marry in Africa they don't marry their type
YEP. They go and FLEX and lie and when the spouse get tot the west, it's something else. Those in Africa also agree come to the west with hidden agendas.
It would be lovely to marry from your Environment. The Challenge is meeting someone with similar values
The $1,000,000.00 Question is how do you bring together Single matured Adults in Diaspora in a relaxed Fun filled Environment
Where there can be "trust"!!!?
So that everyone is comfortable to just be themselves. A pleasant ,warm cozy environment is conducive to helping make Sparks fly???.
This issue is a lot. What baffles me the most is that people never learn. They hear all these stories and warnings but they go right ahead to make same mistake🤦♀️
Aunty Bree I love the way you handle these issues . This topic is necessary. (Imported spouses. ) The Pros and cons must be highlighted. Diaspora is by no means a FAIRYTALE. Ladies and gentlemen it is very rewarding to develop your own self first. You should feel complete without a Partner , When you have a good sense of self you make Better decisions.
Auntie B, you are 100% correct. Long distance relationship is a gamble and you never get to know each other very well.
You are wrong and a hater.. married to my wife for 14 years now and we met online and she is from Nigeria
I will say that first of all in marriage, don’t marry somebody you don’t know, marry your best friend that both of you trust each other with your lives. Marrying without knowing who you are marrying it doesn’t matter where the person comes from or background it will burn like fire that can not be quenched
Human importation is like importing goods some may be good some may be poor quality
It’s a chance you take
Lol 😂
Came to USA in my mid thirties now mid fifties its not easy to meet someone life here is about work work once in a while you attend Social gatherings but most of the people are couples. Gone are the good old days of match making.
Anty B you are so funny oh. I laughed so hard when you said poverty can make someone marry their ancestors. 🤣🤣🤣🤣. Thank you for all you do. Much love.
Happy 50th birthday auntie B…we celebrate you and God goodness! 🎉💕🎂❤️💃🏾🎁
I like Monica she is so down to earth. She nails it in the head. She is just like my wife they say it all without reservations, ladies like that are cool to date, they hardly keep malice.
Anty B this topic ehn I can relate. I was introduced to a white nice looking guy with 20+ years age gap, honestly the age was not really the issue but the chemistry that I was struggling with, I tried to connect but unfortunately I could not and they guy is kind. Trust me it was a tough decision cause of my financial struggles back in Nigeria. A lot of people felt I was foolish to have not ceased that opportunity in my 30s but the truth is I cannot lie to myself or pretend that I felt love for him, I even visited him in the u.k and at a point I wished I was settled there, but my mind no gree me deceive myself oh. 🤣🤣. I felt I would be mortgaging my life if I settled for the wrong reasons, cause those reasons were not strong enough to keep me glued to him. I told myself that there are several channels to jappa, which other people have used so why do I want to choose a lazy/easier way out? I had to speak truth to my conscience, and remind myself of my worth and capabilities. I created a mental image With the state of my emotions with this kind guy, and I felt cheating would be inevitable. Bottom line, marriage fraud with an Obodo person is a poverty induced decisions and high expectations.
Now I’ve secured admissions and even partial scholarship, it was not an easy process but I’m glad this is the route I’m taking and I am proud of myself and love myself more for how kind and respectful I am to myself.
I understand what you're saying. I have suffered much on Europe before I got residence. Why did I suffer? Because I couldn't lie that I love the white guys I would meet just to use them to get residence.
Back to back…auntie B giving us a wealth of information! ❤
Sis B please be taking a sip of water intermittently so your mouth will not be dry. Thank you for all you do, Happy birthday in advance.
The problem I personally see in these imported wives or husbands is "TRUTH", many men and women doesn't open up on how they are living in Europe or anywhere in diaspora from Africa, this's the taproot of the problem.
I have also seen a lot of spouses that imported their wives or husbands that are are still living together without breakup despite challenges in every marriages or relationship.
Auntie B, maybe you should consider opening a rubric on the show where single diasporians can chat according to their respective geographical locations, then take it from there if they so desire.
there is already an dating app created by a ghanian for exactly that and nobody uses it
@@twerk5954 oh ok, maybe the creator of the App can creat more awareness by advertising through African diasporian youtubers like here
I like the way you handle your show. The way you talk, laugh and make inferences. Especially your laughter 😋😋
I have been introduced and sent many pictures of men back home who are ready to marry now by my parents and friends. My reply is always no. I told my parent that I would rather die single than bring anyone here. I always tell them not all of us will marry in this life 😂😂😂😂😂. No one can control me so.🤷🏾♀️
Correct talk 😂😂😂😂 there's no marriage in heaven
@@lucyefomovlogs6383 Good luck with that. I won’t take shit because am married and like I said before, not every woman on earth will marry and that’s okay. As a woman men should come to me for marriage and not the other way around, going back home to marry a man lol. What’s that. Hell NO
@@rokmisodi9803 none my sister. Some women will rather suffer than be alone and be happy. I see the pain they go through everyday lIke wtf
Pls don’t do it. Open ur options to marry other men from other African countries. Or even a white man. Pls don’t import a husband. It’s a huge risk. You’d be paying the bills before he finds his feet, pay for the visa stuff and u don’t even know if he has a girlfriend back home who is in on it to use u for papers. Find a man where u are. Importing a husband reeks of desperation eew
@@lucyefomovlogs6383 that’s good for u and ur sister. However not very woman abroad wants to import a husband. There are men here and it’s okay to find one here
Find me a nurse for a wife. That's why we're having all these issues
On issue of dating outside of race by woman in Canada, unsure about issue of accent but agree, Canadian men are more conservative in dating in comparison to European or American men when it comes to dating non whites and the few who do, prefer dating or marrying Asians (Chinese/Filipino).
Because they are submissive.
June is my birth month and my jubilee year as well too sis! Happy jubilee birthday to us!🥰🥰❤
People, marry where you live. Avoid the headache. Don't go marry somewhere because you grew up there, they don't have the presence living conditions and environmental variation issue plays a role.
There is a cultural difference from the two parties. One party has two sides of the coins the other party has only one side of the coins culturally.
Na wao! This man that is always going to Nigeria to marry, maybe his ancestors have given him a mission to bring as many women to America as he can 😆😆😆
lol
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The big question is how did he treat this women?
You are right about this ,going home is really difficult
Hello Auntie B love ur Channel aswell I’m here representing Botswana 🇧🇼 and I think we should allocate u a plot of Land in my home village because we need someone like u who speaks nothing but the truth 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
First call you are on point, you hit the nail on the head.
I love you Aunty B like my elder sister. Thank you for all you do. Learning a lot from your platform. Thanks to obodofam
Exactly. I know a man who got his papers by marrying a oyinbo woman that he did a whole lot him being referred to a cats daddy that it's time for him to be treated well. He don't anything in the house
Happy birthday Anty B. Would have sent you a gift from niger but unfortunately all the courier services are out of fuel to transport my gift, however I will deliver anytime I visit the u.k 🤣🤣🤣🤣. In the meantime here is a like button.
B O is on point👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
We Nigerians have problems with some of our cultures. Imagine The Boys have Girls in the family and we love and RESPECT them, we cant cheat or control them un-necessarily BUT we have the believe that we can CONTROL our wives and force them into submission.
WHEN MEN LOVE THEIR WIVES ITS ANOTHER LEVEL OF SUBMISSION TO OUR WIVES INDIRECTLY.
WHEN WOMEN SUBMITTS TO THEIR HUSBAND ITS SIMPLY EXHIBIT SOME LEVEL OF LOVE.
SUBMISSION AND LOVE ARE INTERWOVEN; yet we don't know.
Congratulations OB.. we coming to Carolina! 💃🏾
I am with you auntie B, I think it's non sense to live in with a man without marriage
Well done aunty B. You are doing a wonderful job. The lessons are very educating. Happy birthday in advance.
Great show👏
Aunty B, you look amazing for your age. Honestly!!!
Once you land................Gwangaaa, i love this phrase.
Happy 🎂🎉🎂🎂🎂🎂🎉 birth month Lady B 🥰🎈🎈
People abroad are too lazy or too busy to work hard to meet the marriage expectation of a man or woman living abroad. It's much more convenient and easier to go home to find a spouse. Everybody has an expectation especially when it comes to marriage. Personally, I think some people's expectation is unrealistic and set too high which is why they experience marital delay and have to go back home for a spouse.
I hate to hear when men say "I brought her to America and blah blah blah. No be where man dey live, Im wife go live with am?
Lovette, how I wish I can like this your comment a million times.
Sweet 50, keep it up aunty B.
I've seen a few cases of imported spouses and they seem to be working quite well. The cases I see more if is men from Africa looking for European citizens to use
Auntie B,it’s not just marrying from home. We have so many nurses living in USA who are single and young who goes to Europe and bring the guy to USA, they end dumping the woman
I believe in my own opinion is about the peace that you are married to your own
Monica you really got me cracking ooh!
The woman with the two kids is capping …she wanted to move to the US …she is not that naive …
Congratulations 🎊 as a gemini like me.
We can subscribe from smart tv… HBD MAAM
My birth month too👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾
On the accent thing, aunty B, you are relying on your experience in the UK. I live and work in the US and what she said is true for this part of the world. Americans, especially White Americans, do not believe they have accents. I actually teach my students what you said and it is hard for them to accept. What E said is right to an extent. There are oyibos who are open to dating interracially. But there are oyibos who don't want to date outside their race like us. Some pick on other differences. Some rely on the stereotypes they have heard about Africans (especially those ones that think Africa is a country). Some are held back because of family and laws that once made interracial marriage and dating illegal (a senator proposed bringing those laws back last year). We are also assuming that oyibos are saints. Oyibos are humans too and whatever fault you find in Nigerian society, you will definitely find it among oyibo people. African women should definitely date outside their country and race. But it may be harder to do in the US depending on where you live, your age and other factors. For some sisters, if oyibo dey your destiny, na only them go dey chase you. Plus, this issue is not only affecting Black African women. It's affecting Black women generally and you will see many videos and studies emphasizing this issue in America.
Oyinbos trouble
Yes u can maribi
This is very educative...
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Hi my son birthday is on the 7th of June
Age group is just as bad … Aunty …hold some of the woman more accountable …one sided accounts from most of the women …
Women far outnumber men. People go to Nigeria out of desperation
That is a FALSE narrative. Men are actually more than women. The problem is that most do not want to go to far from their own.
More like a last resort I say....
Not at all, all women are not hetero, people just want to go search in their country.
@@kellymensah8181 You might end up marrying a total stranger, then complain when things don't work out. What is it about importing someone from your own country? Just asking.
Osas get ur statistic right. Men outnumber women oh.
There is no trial of marriage
Let the people speak Aunty ..you keep interrupting your guests…
Ma,marrying from other countries is not also very easy because u don't known the men u think u do an explain Gahanna men .Nigeria women think they are very sweet 😋 No No No they are marrying and using the same Nigeria woman they say the love for ritual and the law is they stay with the woman Dan our women 🙄 the Ghana 🇬🇭 men are in love with them known u are just a victim. May God help us please let marry from our own land .thanks to all us
NIGERIAN MEN ARE THE BEST WORLD OO LOL
Why do u blame them for wanting their African peers, when you didn't marry a non-Nigerian??
She found someone who’s worthy and a Nigerian and married him…Her luck.
Her point is if you can’t find such, marry other nationalities…It mustn’t be a Nigerian.
@@okorochukwunonso2563 don't shame them for trying either. May not have worked first time, but it has worked for many the second time. I have seen cases like that.
There are huge sacrifices when people marry out, especially in communities where their people as a collective don't like black people.
It's not that simple, so she needs to balance out the conversation.
Aunty B,why are your callers blaming men for wanting a submissive woman and is there anything wrong in submission?..I'm just asking this question respectfully.
Yes there is.
@@mikolowiskamikolowiska4993 it's 50 percent. Where does submission work? Definitely not Africa. Especially west,nigeria etc. The place is one of the most corrupt places in the world. Submit to who? Men from there? They can't even make a civilized country for themselves.
💯 % wrong expecting any human being to submit to you? It’s another form of oppression and control. Why would you want to control anybody? It never works. Then there is something psychological wrong with the person. For relationship to work, respect and team work.
Women here in UK are not serious, they are doing shakara too much, espacially when you don't have papers. To get woman here in UK who is serious in relationship is very hard. That is why we men go to Africa to marry. The women in Africa are serious and ready to settle down
You can marry from the church!
Lol but men claim women in UK are so desperate to marry them but we have bad attitude and men don’t want us. Now it’s too much shakara. Abeg make up your minds on which it is 🤣🤣🤣🙂🤣
Can you blame some of them? They might be thinking you are in it for the papers. That can make anyone paranoid.
@@4-real950 do you have any one that is good and serious in the church?
@@chineduoguekusi22 I live in the United States, so I don't no about you people over there! But here in America, we have Godly Nigeria church ladies! Beautiful one's as a matter of fact!