I'm always worried about being assertive and confident because I don't want to come across as rude. I don't know whether I should keep being shy or risk losing friends!
I hate being this way.. I have anxiety and I struggle to talk to people really bad.. I can't keep eye contact. I look at the ground when I look I talk to people.. It's the worst talking to people I don't know well or people I barely talk to! I'm fine at home loud, confident and well able to talk and ask for things because I was born into my family and I know them my whole life so obviously I'm gonna be confident around them.. But when I'm in school it's the worst I can't start a conversation I don't know what to talk about and I feel like people don't want to talk to me I really really really need help I actually hate school becaus I'm so shy and not able to talk in class or make friends with people I know years.. I'm leaving school in May and I can't wait because school is torture!! When I leave I think I'll be a lot happier but still I'm not able to do interviews or anything without being awkward and shy and quiet I hate it!! How am I supposed to get into college or anything or get along with people make new friends etc if I can't speak :'( :'( I think about it all the time and I get really upset about it :(
Thoughts become things Andrea. You need to be in control of your thoughts and the way in which you perceive yourself in terms of "value." Ask yourself this; "what do I love/respect about me?" The answers to this question will immediately give your confidence level a slight boost if not higher. Next, ask your relatives what they REALLY think of you and find out if they "miss you" when you're not around and "WHY?" This is almost identical to carrying out some market research - but instead of researching for a product, your research is about YOU instead. Try to take your "observations" seriously, they'll act like a mirror-image or reflection. Meditation is something which will develop you naturally, so if you're new to this then please give it a try. Meditation changed many areas of my life over the years - more importantly it changed me. Now I am able to help and support others in their own life-challenges - not just myself :) Feel free to visit my channel as I believe that my videos will help you in many ways. Believe in yourself Andrea, otherwise "nobody else will have reason to believe in you." Ask me any questions and I will be happy to answer them to my best ability - ok. You WILL be successful, dignified and mentally strong as soon as you divorce your insecurities, but first one step at a time. Remember, it starts with how much you value yourself - others will take their "cue" from this. Take care.
Chloe Peacock Hey hey hey he was just trying to help this person out! He meant no harm alright? Who knows if his words didnt help? What if it DID help her out? No harm in helping a person out:)
When I was young, I guess you could say that my dad "taught" me that my opinions weren't worth anything. That I could make my own choices in life and always had to rely on others. I couldn't be the leader of anything since all my opinions and choices were wrong. Not only have these videos helped, but they helped me find real friends that made me realise that I AM important. That my opinions ARE worth something. And that's all thanks to these videos. Thank you, Wellcast. Signed,a girl from Sweden
This is like my birthday and Christmas wrapped up in one. Thank you soooooo much! I've struggled like crazy with all these things to the extent that I've given up on trying and let people do almost whatever they want without complaint. It's been so hard for me to find a balance of confident and humble, and assertive and courteous. This should really help. Thank you all!!!!!
I'm extremely shy and I found a lot off them I don't feel I could do, and once a girl was pulling my fringe back and I feel uncomfortable with it back and I asked her nicely if she could maybe stop it and I pulled my fringe down and she got angry and threw the bobble she wanted to tie my hair up with (I also don't like my hair back) and lots of confident people treat me like a baby and they do stuff like skip me in line,push me, steal my pencils and take !y food and stuff... Yeah I need a lot of help in my confidence...
To be honest, there will come a day if you don't start working on it now where you will get too fed up and snap and no one wants that so the best thing is to remember you are also a human and deserve just as much as the next person and no one is as on your side as you are so you need to be your own fighter/cheerleader or what ever to get what you want because everyone is already too busy backing themselves up. (P.s. don't let any basic think she can touch you like that, it is your body. Next time she does it tell her to back tf up or you'll punch her and set it up like it was self defence and make sure she sees you smiling when she gets punished.)
I absolutely hate it when people talk about me in different languages that I don't understand behind my back! My parents and friends always judge me on how I always look down, I try to get my back straight and my face up but the sun always shines in my eyes and I just can't help it! But I'm working on it.. and it's becoming better! I'm starting to participate more but I still need to socialize more, which I think I'm improving a lot on. ^^
When I'm trying to be myself, I never have someone talk to me. I have to be drawing or something for people to talk to me... It's sad how I'm judged like that and I want more friends.. I just don't have the guts to say hi to a random person.. I don't wanna be quiet anymore..
At least you do have a few friends who'd listen to you, right? why don't you start with them? a friend of mine told me to open up myself a little bit and gradually making friends this way. I know you're shy and I'm having a similar issue, but again you have to open up!
+rabbit54446 AJ Well you don't just high-five them like out of nowhere. What is exactly the situation you are facing rn? I can't tell a lot from your comment ._.
+Hanif Siraj It's like I just don't fit in with anyone and all the white girls (no racism) just stare at me and stuff and they don't talk to me and I'm pretty sure they talk behind my back but yeah, I just really don't fit in
..not easy if you've been raised by bullies. Best to know the traits of the type 1 sociopath. You probably have one in your life right now. When you can identify the traits, then you become more confident, because you will be able to recognize when someone is playing with your mind or trying to intimate you. They will know you more than you know yourself and they prey on people who have no confidence. When you know the traits of the type 1 sociopath, you will become so confident and empowered! At first you may have to go through an angry stage while you process this information that seems to be hidden from us- but then you become stronger, more confident, and assertive! Great video!
Is this true though? I went through a kind of angry patch and I can say I'm definitely more confident and mature now but I feel bitter and aggressive. It just makes me feel down that I cant see other people as other than threats.
Sorry to hear that! Ideally, we can all become accepting of each other's differences-introvert or extrovert, gay or straight-that is the whole message of Wellcast. We have a video on maintaining friendships that might help you, but ultimately, you can't control others' actions. You are probably better off making friends with people who can love you for who you are and who you become!
It's so hard for me. ever since i was little, i was always shy and hiding away from everything. I thought that moving onto high school would change that and I would become more confident. guess i was wrong because its still just as bad. i feel like everyone is looking down on everything i do and say then at the end of the day, i always find myself feeling so embarrassed to the point where it just hurts and i wanna pull my hair out. i dont even want to go out anymore with friends because i dont feel like myself anymore. i cant wait to graduate soon. im sick of going to a school full of people im totally uncomfortable around
thx its really helped me at school i never could talk to people i always hid but i did what you say and stood out, every one did not care but this girl who is now my best friend liked my braveness (:
When i was in elementary i dont have any confidence in myself. even if i've been with the same person over the past 5 years in class, i still dont have the confidence. when my teacher call my name for participation, i'll tremble to death even though i know the answer. All of this disappear when i enter Grade 8 and at that time, my vision got blurry where i have to put glasses so instead of putting it, i did not. because the benefits of having a blur vision is you can't see their reaction and that helps me big time
I watch a lot of videos to improve myself and this is the first time I see something that I naturally have and don't have to work on it. I love this feeling
Whoever suggested this video is a genius. I'm so shy lol... at least 1) around real-life strangers and 2) in class. And, if I know you well, then I'll turn into this weirdo from outer space.
I found this channel through my english teacher. She showed us one of your videos about puberty as an introdcution to our next unit, which is not about all the embarrassing, but actually rather serious parts of a teenager's life. We first wondered why she showed us the video, since all of us are off-age (in Germany) now. ^^' She didn't show us the whole video so I wanted to watch it myself and am now looking through various others. I'm certainly trying the confidence tips. Thank you.
It's so awesome that you help people. Because they have a bad time or they have a crush or something. You even helped me with my homework. Hahah. I am really thankful!
Say what you will the Well Cast Team does a very good job at presenting their material. Yes faking it until you make it DOES work if and ONLY if you want it to work.
This is a tricky situation and we've all been there, perhaps one we'll cover in the future! You can be honest with someone and tell them something they need to hear without being a jerk about it.
AWWW!!! We have a video on asking out your crush, but it sounds like maybe you two need to put in some time getting to know each other first, perhaps going for coffee or doing some homework together?
Your videos are awesome, and I have been taking notes, as requested. Maybe they will help my anxiety issues and my bad habits and negate my failure to win over friends and employers. I'll watch more videos-including this one- on a later date.
The girl who narrates this has such a friendly and knowledgeable voice. She's like a big sister who's giving you helpful advice and you just wanna hug her but you don't wanna seem uncool :P
I used to be unassertive when I was in Jr.Highschool, I got accused of lots of things, and the teachers would never side with me. Even something ridiculous. One time I had something bothering my eye, and instead of picking it out, I tried just rolling my eyes up while closing them to remove the irritation. It was working, but it took a while. What happened? A boy went to the counselor and accused me of flirting at him with my eyes, which people bullied me often. What did the counselor do? Accuse me of doing it, and told me not to flirt with boys. No matter what I said, didn't matter. In fact, I rolled my eyes like I did before because my eye was bothering me, and the counselor accused me of flirting with HER. It was so stupid. Can you account for that as lack of assertiveness, or unfortunate events?
unassertive behaviour. It happened to me back in school. I was so nervous I started cracking my fingers during an exam and avoiding the teacher's loo, I was horribly shy and unassertive, the teacher thought I was about to cheat and send me to the principal. I swore to them I wasn't trying to cheat, but none believed me. Later on, I learnt assertiveness, it took me a lot of time and practice but things have gotten much better since then. Good luck, fake it to make it, you're great, don't forget that !
Neither; It's a lack of common sense in the people accusing you. Like, really, who flirts with someone by rolling their eyes? Wouldn't they make it more obvious? Wouldn't they know that the person they are flirting with is not gay and likely homophobic? Shouldn't a reasonable person know this?
I was watching this & my wife laughed out loud. This is SOO me. Especially the " I can't even hear you right now" part. Thanks for the top tips. Subbed. Will now be an avid watcher.
I used to talk alot in English at school but.. just becoz of my first geometry presentation, i started feeling embarrassed of speaking and i was so nervous that i made pronounciation mistakes.. after that had happened, i cannot even start a conversation with friends by using my second language, English. I really wanna be confident like i used to be in a few months ago..
I am not very confident in whatever i do.even though im good at things i still put myself down and i spend too much thinking.people critize me for what im not able to do and that includes my cousins too.you're doing a great job.i love your voice..haha..:)
BLUSH LIKE CRAZY is a term I also HAD.... By practicing some new things you can overcome this.1.Change your inner voice to a stronger women or man who says (when your about to blush or in it) COME ON SHOW ME MORE IS THAT IT?2 Find humor in the situation, i'm turning red well that guy/girl is too hot so ofcourse i'm blushing 3. Avoid caffeine, Theine, Aspartaam and MSG these will make you extra nervous just go 2weeks without them and notice it.Test these out they seem strange but It could help
Based in this video then in theory if I would ask a girl out I whould then rather say "I would like us to do something" than "would you like to do something with me", or am I completly wrong?
Thank You Watchwellcast!! I want you back and make more videos:(( But if that's impossible, it's okkay. Just know that we appreciate all the videos you make:))
Watch a ted talks video that talks about body language and how it shapes our behavior. Its some blonde lady I forgot her name but it's going to help you. She also talks about controlling anxiety when giving a speech.
If you keep calling yourself ugly you will think you are ugly, this goes by the consistency principle ( In psychology it is the desire to be consistent, in attitudes and beliefs) it happens to all people, if you keep saying your ugly, you WILL believe you are ugly, so stop calling yourself ugly ad don't compare yourself to others
Thank you for making this video, and the procrastination one (haven't gone through all). I am SO very grateful I've stumbled across your youtube channel; Wellcast Rocks!
Yes thanks for the support i discovered that the guy who bullied me was constantly beaten by his mom with electric cables O.o that's pretty harsh. I am glad because i am now bullied-free but also feel sorry for him i will try to give him support by talking to him
What r the most important thing to me here? (Priorities) Simple honest and direct. Fake it till ya make it. (Body lan and voice) Be and eagle not a turtle.
I can agree with the acting assertive part, cause I'm in a P.E class with older, buff, and more physically fit kids and I get really nervous. I can get easily picked on, but it never happened because i stood up tall and held my head high
Could you make a video about not being shy and make us speak out. I'm really really shy and whenever I get bugged or bullied I just look down and stay there until the person stops yelling at me. It would help a lot. Thanks!
When in public you probably won't ever see 95% of people there again so there's no reason to be shy
JamieG321
That doesn’t mean that you have to dress like a furry while walking down the street.
Absolutely true!
I'm always worried about being assertive and confident because I don't want to come across as rude. I don't know whether I should keep being shy or risk losing friends!
If your so called "friends" leave you because you are confident and assertive I say the hell with them.
Okabe erm not the best idea for me.
*May or may not be addicted to these videos*
:3
I love these o-o
"Yay!"
+Fluffy “Kit” the Meowstic I'm glad I'm not the only one
I ordered a kale salad, then sent it back saying I ordered a cheeseburger just to be more confident
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+redact207 thats so cool
LOL 😅
no... that's not how you do it
XD
Show me what you got That makes you a liar.. but I am not here to judge you I just want to state my point.
I hate being this way.. I have anxiety and I struggle to talk to people really bad.. I can't keep eye contact. I look at the ground when I look I talk to people.. It's the worst talking to people I don't know well or people I barely talk to! I'm fine at home loud, confident and well able to talk and ask for things because I was born into my family and I know them my whole life so obviously I'm gonna be confident around them.. But when I'm in school it's the worst I can't start a conversation I don't know what to talk about and I feel like people don't want to talk to me I really really really need help I actually hate school becaus I'm so shy and not able to talk in class or make friends with people I know years.. I'm leaving school in May and I can't wait because school is torture!! When I leave I think I'll be a lot happier but still I'm not able to do interviews or anything without being awkward and shy and quiet I hate it!! How am I supposed to get into college or anything or get along with people make new friends etc if I can't speak :'( :'( I think about it all the time and I get really upset about it :(
Same here :/
Thoughts become things Andrea. You need to be in control of your thoughts and the way in which you perceive yourself in terms of "value." Ask yourself this; "what do I love/respect about me?"
The answers to this question will immediately give your confidence level a slight boost if not higher. Next, ask your relatives what they REALLY think of you and find out if they "miss you" when you're not around and "WHY?"
This is almost identical to carrying out some market research - but instead of researching for a product, your research is about YOU instead. Try to take your "observations" seriously, they'll act like a mirror-image or reflection.
Meditation is something which will develop you naturally, so if you're new to this then please give it a try. Meditation changed many areas of my life over the years - more importantly it changed me. Now I am able to help and support others in their own life-challenges - not just myself :)
Feel free to visit my channel as I believe that my videos will help you in many ways. Believe in yourself Andrea, otherwise "nobody else will have reason to believe in you."
Ask me any questions and I will be happy to answer them to my best ability - ok.
You WILL be successful, dignified and mentally strong as soon as you divorce your insecurities, but first one step at a time. Remember, it starts with how much you value yourself - others will take their "cue" from this.
Take care.
Thanks for your interest Nikka. How can I help you? I'm happy to answer your questions :)
omg i feel like you described me,im exactly like you and i hate it :(
Chloe Peacock Hey hey hey he was just trying to help this person out! He meant no harm alright? Who knows if his words didnt help? What if it DID help her out? No harm in helping a person out:)
Who is procrastinating and got to this video immediately after watching the video on how to stop procrastinating?
Whoa. I literally just watched that!
+Chuckie Waitt Me!!
+Chuckie Waitt I've been studying treating shyness at home and found an awesome website at Seans Shy Program (google it if you're interested)
what is procastinating? I'm spanish and I don't get the meaning of that word.
+noemi esther garcia argudo Putting off important things until the exact last possible minute before the dead line to do it.
The ironic thing is I just came here from the "How To Stop Procrastinating" video, and I am currently procrastinating.
Just roaming UA-cam ignoring my urgent problem of procrastination.
IheartMagikarp omg! me too. lol!!!!
IheartMagikarp I literally am doing the same thing
IheartMagikarp sameeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
Sameeee hahaha
"Be simple, honest and direct" That is just so hard, people are so sensitive now a days
yeah seriously. one little thing is a ginormous thing to them
IIKRRRRR
Sadly that was true lmao
here in 2020 this statement is so true
When I was young, I guess you could say that my dad "taught" me that my opinions weren't worth anything. That I could make my own choices in life and always had to rely on others. I couldn't be the leader of anything since all my opinions and choices were wrong. Not only have these videos helped, but they helped me find real friends that made me realise that I AM important. That my opinions ARE worth something. And that's all thanks to these videos. Thank you, Wellcast. Signed,a girl from Sweden
This is like my birthday and Christmas wrapped up in one. Thank you soooooo much! I've struggled like crazy with all these things to the extent that I've given up on trying and let people do almost whatever they want without complaint. It's been so hard for me to find a balance of confident and humble, and assertive and courteous. This should really help. Thank you all!!!!!
I'm extremely shy and I found a lot off them I don't feel I could do, and once a girl was pulling my fringe back and I feel uncomfortable with it back and I asked her nicely if she could maybe stop it and I pulled my fringe down and she got angry and threw the bobble she wanted to tie my hair up with (I also don't like my hair back) and lots of confident people treat me like a baby and they do stuff like skip me in line,push me, steal my pencils and take !y food and stuff...
Yeah I need a lot of help in my confidence...
Smack the bitch in the face take her Gucci bag and the north face off her back. Jab her if she act
To be honest, there will come a day if you don't start working on it now where you will get too fed up and snap and no one wants that so the best thing is to remember you are also a human and deserve just as much as the next person and no one is as on your side as you are so you need to be your own fighter/cheerleader or what ever to get what you want because everyone is already too busy backing themselves up. (P.s. don't let any basic think she can touch you like that, it is your body. Next time she does it tell her to back tf up or you'll punch her and set it up like it was self defence and make sure she sees you smiling when she gets punished.)
if you'd like some help, just stand up to them or tell an adult. It is a form of bullying.
I absolutely hate it when people talk about me in different languages that I don't understand behind my back! My parents and friends always judge me on how I always look down, I try to get my back straight and my face up but the sun always shines in my eyes and I just can't help it! But I'm working on it.. and it's becoming better! I'm starting to participate more but I still need to socialize more, which I think I'm improving a lot on. ^^
People are assholes don't let them mistreat you.
When I'm trying to be myself, I never have someone talk to me. I have to be drawing or something for people to talk to me... It's sad how I'm judged like that and I want more friends.. I just don't have the guts to say hi to a random person.. I don't wanna be quiet anymore..
At least you do have a few friends who'd listen to you, right? why don't you start with them? a friend of mine told me to open up myself a little bit and gradually making friends this way. I know you're shy and I'm having a similar issue, but again you have to open up!
+Hanif Siraj I'm starting out by giving random people high fives...
+rabbit54446 AJ Well you don't just high-five them like out of nowhere. What is exactly the situation you are facing rn? I can't tell a lot from your comment ._.
+Hanif Siraj It's like I just don't fit in with anyone and all the white girls (no racism) just stare at me and stuff and they don't talk to me and I'm pretty sure they talk behind my back but yeah, I just really don't fit in
+rabbit54446 AJ You mean they're not greeting you or even say hi at all? Damn sorry for you. Now that's a hard situation I never experienced before..
..not easy if you've been raised by bullies. Best to know the traits of the type 1 sociopath. You probably have one in your life right now. When you can identify the traits, then you become more confident, because you will be able to recognize when someone is playing with your mind or trying to intimate you. They will know you more than you know yourself and they prey on people who have no confidence. When you know the traits of the type 1 sociopath, you will become so confident and empowered! At first you may have to go through an angry stage while you process this information that seems to be hidden from us- but then you become stronger, more confident, and assertive! Great video!
Is this true though? I went through a kind of angry patch and I can say I'm definitely more confident and mature now but I feel bitter and aggressive. It just makes me feel down that I cant see other people as other than threats.
Always easier said than done
If only this video was availible a few years ago.
I liked the tip about looking at someones nose or forehead, because I feel really awkward when trying to keep eye contact, like I'm staring at them:D
I did a presentation a day ago and I'm so shy and I broke down inside and almost cry
don't worry one day you'll overcome the crying and shyness andbyoull be like me, all loud and not that shy XD idk but hopefully thjs works doe
+Yuliana Vargas This*
when I break down I cry like my life depends on it...even if it is just before doing a speech
I did one and I froze and cried and ran and hugged my friend and I could hear the people in class laughing at me.
i was not a naturally assertive person but now i am very assertive
What if your roommate is your best friend? I would just say "yo do the fuckin dishes."
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I would.
Lol
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Sorry to hear that! Ideally, we can all become accepting of each other's differences-introvert or extrovert, gay or straight-that is the whole message of Wellcast. We have a video on maintaining friendships that might help you, but ultimately, you can't control others' actions. You are probably better off making friends with people who can love you for who you are and who you become!
Someone in the watchwellcast is a fan of Legend of Zelda.
Never has a profile picture matched a comment so perfectly.
OMG I LOVE ZELDA
+Elliot Reed ikr
perfect perfect perfect match with your profile pic
I noticed that lol
It's so hard for me. ever since i was little, i was always shy and hiding away from everything. I thought that moving onto high school would change that and I would become more confident. guess i was wrong because its still just as bad. i feel like everyone is looking down on everything i do and say then at the end of the day, i always find myself feeling so embarrassed to the point where it just hurts and i wanna pull my hair out. i dont even want to go out anymore with friends because i dont feel like myself anymore. i cant wait to graduate soon. im sick of going to a school full of people im totally uncomfortable around
thx its really helped me at school i never could talk to people i always hid but i did what you say and stood out, every one did not care but this girl who is now my best friend liked my braveness (:
I can be assertive and direct when I'm feeling confident and my anxiety isn't acting up.
i love this. i always have difficulty asking about a wrong order
When i was in elementary i dont have any confidence in myself. even if i've been with the same person over the past 5 years in class, i still dont have the confidence. when my teacher call my name for participation, i'll tremble to death even though i know the answer. All of this disappear when i enter Grade 8 and at that time, my vision got blurry where i have to put glasses so instead of putting it, i did not. because the benefits of having a blur vision is you can't see their reaction and that helps me big time
i fucking agree
I watch a lot of videos to improve myself and this is the first time I see something that I naturally have and don't have to work on it. I love this feeling
Whoever suggested this video is a genius. I'm so shy lol... at least 1) around real-life strangers and 2) in class. And, if I know you well, then I'll turn into this weirdo from outer space.
I am like you :)
Same
doodlist true very true
I found this channel through my english teacher. She showed us one of your videos about puberty as an introdcution to our next unit, which is not about all the embarrassing, but actually rather serious parts of a teenager's life. We first wondered why she showed us the video, since all of us are off-age (in Germany) now. ^^' She didn't show us the whole video so I wanted to watch it myself and am now looking through various others. I'm certainly trying the confidence tips.
Thank you.
It's so awesome that you help people. Because they have a bad time or they have a crush or something. You even helped me with my homework. Hahah. I am really thankful!
Wellcast your animating really has improved!! I dont see if anyone else realizes this but, awesome work you guys! :D
Say what you will the Well Cast Team does a very good job at presenting their material.
Yes faking it until you make it DOES work if and ONLY if you want it to work.
Thanks for sharing this incredible lesson have a wonderful day ❤
This is a tricky situation and we've all been there, perhaps one we'll cover in the future! You can be honest with someone and tell them something they need to hear without being a jerk about it.
AWWW!!! We have a video on asking out your crush, but it sounds like maybe you two need to put in some time getting to know each other first, perhaps going for coffee or doing some homework together?
When someone tries to block, show them that you rock!
This worked, now im rlly confident in my class and nvr be nervous thx so much
I listened to everything you said and ask out my crush and she said he'll nah
two types of people in the comments in this comment
We have a video on supporting friends who have come out!
Thanks these kind videos have changed my life
Your videos are awesome, and I have been taking notes, as requested. Maybe they will help my anxiety issues and my bad habits and negate my failure to win over friends and employers. I'll watch more videos-including this one- on a later date.
i had to stop mid way thru the vid just to say the way you speak is extremely awesome. okay gonna go back now
your videos comfort me
Falling in love the way she talks, you're amazing. Keep up the good work and we love you
It's amazing how these videos just pop up when I need them by coincidense
The girl who narrates this has such a friendly and knowledgeable voice. She's like a big sister who's giving you helpful advice and you just wanna hug her but you don't wanna seem uncool :P
oh, sooo helpfull! i like that simple way of you to show everyone how's things work
I used to be unassertive when I was in Jr.Highschool, I got accused of lots of things, and the teachers would never side with me. Even something ridiculous. One time I had something bothering my eye, and instead of picking it out, I tried just rolling my eyes up while closing them to remove the irritation. It was working, but it took a while. What happened? A boy went to the counselor and accused me of flirting at him with my eyes, which people bullied me often. What did the counselor do? Accuse me of doing it, and told me not to flirt with boys. No matter what I said, didn't matter. In fact, I rolled my eyes like I did before because my eye was bothering me, and the counselor accused me of flirting with HER. It was so stupid.
Can you account for that as lack of assertiveness, or unfortunate events?
unassertive behaviour. It happened to me back in school. I was so nervous I started cracking my fingers during an exam and avoiding the teacher's loo, I was horribly shy and unassertive, the teacher thought I was about to cheat and send me to the principal. I swore to them I wasn't trying to cheat, but none believed me. Later on, I learnt assertiveness, it took me a lot of time and practice but things have gotten much better since then. Good luck, fake it to make it, you're great, don't forget that !
tina7077 teacher's look* I meant.
Neither; It's a lack of common sense in the people accusing you. Like, really, who flirts with someone by rolling their eyes? Wouldn't they make it more obvious? Wouldn't they know that the person they are flirting with is not gay and likely homophobic? Shouldn't a reasonable person know this?
I was watching this & my wife laughed out loud. This is SOO me. Especially the " I can't even hear you right now" part. Thanks for the top tips. Subbed. Will now be an avid watcher.
My power grows stronger!
omg THANK YOU SOOOOO MUCH!!!! i think this is really going to help me, especially since school starts in a week. once again Thank You!!!!
I used to talk alot in English at school but.. just becoz of my first geometry presentation, i started feeling embarrassed of speaking and i was so nervous that i made pronounciation mistakes.. after that had happened, i cannot even start a conversation with friends by using my second language, English. I really wanna be confident like i used to be in a few months ago..
I love your contents
I never thought of using "I" statements. Great thought!
That was Amazing, thank you all :)
and Caitlin dear, I adore your voice and hosting skills ... wonderful :)
I am a doormat. I really hate it when people treat me like their puppet.
ME TO!
Me too it makes me wanna get violent.
Thanks...this advice helped me alot
these help me to be more confident in my self
Heyyyyyyy that worked!! I can't believe after watching this, I felt better already! I feel much confident for my public speaking tomorrow!
how did it go?
Musiclover5803 it went awesome! Although I was a little nervous, but I got it! It went over pretty soon
I am not very confident in whatever i do.even though im good at things i still put myself down and i spend too much thinking.people critize me for what im not able to do and that includes my cousins too.you're doing a great job.i love your voice..haha..:)
this? i love well cast videos good job guys!
I love that you have Legend of Zelda bits around your videos!
I loved the last tip about "I" statements! Thanks, guys!
BLUSH LIKE CRAZY is a term I also HAD.... By practicing some new things you can overcome this.1.Change your inner voice to a stronger women or man who says (when your about to blush or in it) COME ON SHOW ME MORE IS THAT IT?2 Find humor in the situation, i'm turning red well that guy/girl is too hot so ofcourse i'm blushing 3. Avoid caffeine, Theine, Aspartaam and MSG these will make you extra nervous just go 2weeks without them and notice it.Test these out they seem strange but It could help
I HEARD THE BACKROUND LAUGH
OHHHHHHH
that's being assertive!!!
This is such a great channel, just found it randomly! Thanks xx
I love your advice
can you do a video on coping with being in a three? i Would really appreciate it.
Based in this video then in theory if I would ask a girl out I whould then rather say "I would like us to do something" than "would you like to do something with me", or am I completly wrong?
Right!
Thank You Watchwellcast!! I want you back and make more videos:((
But if that's impossible, it's okkay. Just know that we appreciate all the videos you make:))
can you post an episode on auditioning in front of people for introverts
also ccan you post it by monDAY
AGFbydesign Lol its almost monDAY
yea… darn it, i don't have much time until my auditions. I still don't know how I'm gonna get up in front of my 70 person class and audition
Watch a ted talks video that talks about body language and how it shapes our behavior. Its some blonde lady I forgot her name but it's going to help you. She also talks about controlling anxiety when giving a speech.
We miss you WellCast
i love WATCH WELLCAST! MAKE ALOT MORE VIDEOS! ❤
You guys are great (Wellcast), bu are you going to upload any new videos, not reuploads.
Thank you
this was really really helpful thanks
GOOD advices...thanks for all of them, it helps really to deal with my life :)
I really like this! Very true! Learned plenty of these in college, through practice and learned in the classroom.
If you keep calling yourself ugly you will think you are ugly, this goes by the consistency principle ( In psychology it is the desire to be consistent, in attitudes and beliefs) it happens to all people, if you keep saying your ugly, you WILL believe you are ugly, so stop calling yourself ugly ad don't compare yourself to others
It’s 3am and I’m watching this video
great help wellcast
thank you for your kind video I feel pretty good right now and confident I have a pretty good meeting which I got to attend right now thank you
Nice, a grocery list of things to consider whenever I want to ask for something. I hope everyone took notes, I certanally need to.
I'm glad you made this video.
Just found this channel. Love it
Thanks needed this !
Thank you for making this video, and the procrastination one (haven't gone through all). I am SO very grateful I've stumbled across your youtube channel; Wellcast Rocks!
This is awesome. It was entertaining and informative, good job.
Thank you, you are great.
thank you so much
hahaha this is maybe my favorite episode so far XD its awesome, I will try to take your advice wellcast :3
Yes thanks for the support i discovered that the guy who bullied me was constantly beaten by his mom with electric cables O.o that's pretty harsh. I am glad because i am now bullied-free but also feel sorry for him i will try to give him support by talking to him
this channel is awesome!
I think I'm falling in love with the narrator
What r the most important thing to me here? (Priorities)
Simple honest and direct.
Fake it till ya make it. (Body lan and voice)
Be and eagle not a turtle.
Someone laughs when she says I know you didn't wash your hands
that zelda shield tho
Great Video! I'll try these things but I'm sure the'll help ! ^^
I can agree with the acting assertive part, cause I'm in a P.E class with older, buff, and more physically fit kids and I get really nervous. I can get easily picked on, but it never happened because i stood up tall and held my head high
Thanks I needed this
Could you make a video about not being shy and make us speak out. I'm really really shy and whenever I get bugged or bullied I just look down and stay there until the person stops yelling at me. It would help a lot. Thanks!