Yes! Very happy to hear you draw correlations on good inside parenting and corporate leadership. Felt really good to have my views and strategies validated
Consequences aren't the same thing as punishment. A time out or quiet time is time to calm down, is a consequence but is not a punishment. A consequence is a result of a behaviour. Good behaviour gets rewarded. Inappropriate behaviour gets a time to chill out, for hormones like adrenaline to wash out of the system, so the child isn't stuck in a negative emotional & behavioural loop.
One more question. What if your spouse doesn't agree with "no consequences?" For e.g., my youngest often has an attitude or a "chip on her shoulder" toward her older sister and often myself. One day, my oldest had a conversation with her dad because she was upset (I actually took a drive for 15 minutes) and when I came home, my youngest was told to stay in her room and all screens were banned for a week. I just don't think taking away screens taught her anything, especially to be nicer to her sister. It was a long week and I do think my youngest is addicted to screens but there were still moments of feeling like we have to "walk on eggshells" even without screen privileges.
Gentle parenting alone is not enough. That’s what I’ve used and we have some things to resolve so here i am! Thank you for your work ❤
thank you for this wonderful material Dr. Becky
Yes! Very happy to hear you draw correlations on good inside parenting and corporate leadership. Felt really good to have my views and strategies validated
Consequences aren't the same thing as punishment. A time out or quiet time is time to calm down, is a consequence but is not a punishment. A consequence is a result of a behaviour. Good behaviour gets rewarded. Inappropriate behaviour gets a time to chill out, for hormones like adrenaline to wash out of the system, so the child isn't stuck in a negative emotional & behavioural loop.
One more question. What if your spouse doesn't agree with "no consequences?" For e.g., my youngest often has an attitude or a "chip on her shoulder" toward her older sister and often myself. One day, my oldest had a conversation with her dad because she was upset (I actually took a drive for 15 minutes) and when I came home, my youngest was told to stay in her room and all screens were banned for a week. I just don't think taking away screens taught her anything, especially to be nicer to her sister. It was a long week and I do think my youngest is addicted to screens but there were still moments of feeling like we have to "walk on eggshells" even without screen privileges.
Great podcast! What is a "DFK?" Thanks!
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The delivery of this material is awful.
Dr Becky is amazing