How To Handle ANY INSULT | The BLACKOUT Method
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- Опубліковано 23 вер 2020
- Find out the best, timeless ways to handle any insult that is thrown your way and learn how to do it in a high-class way. Men who view themselves as having a high value typically don't waste their energy on insults, so they use something called the Blackout Method to conserve their energy for more important things.
When you stop caring about what others think is when you start living your best life
100% true for me when I did that in high school. It was awesome.
But other's opinion and a direct insult are very different things.
@@viharsarok and you shouldnt care about being insulted..that says more about the other person than yourself
A great trick I learned off a friend in highschool:
Look behind you on both sides and say with visible confusion, "are you talking to me?". Or call someone out in your direction and say the insultung person is speaking to them. 'Play dumb'
@@CMH7 what if that tends to be your grandmother
When you have a lot of confidence and you feel like nobody can beat you; it is game over for losers around you. Let them insult(!) you while you are climbing the stairs of success.
How do you have the confidence
@@NN-bv5bk A lot to do with what makes people confident is just 'acting' confident.
Acting confident (even when you're not) is like practicing. The more you act it the more you'll start feeling it.
Hence the saying - Fake it till you make it
exactly
@@Caaine , exactly.
3. No reaction
2. Confirming that they are true
1.taking them seriously
Have a good day
I strongly agre on 2. And 1.
No reaction can't be axceptable.
@@arbernani4727 yes bro some times you need to stand up for yourself being unreactive doesn't work all time but the rest two points are correct..but being witty will work
Your list is nice but I prefer explanations to go along with them. Have a nice day
@@thepushkar476
I have a crooked nose.
So if someone mention that, I can't be angry since it is real like the sun itself.
I wanted to know how to behave during that poker game. You can't just beat someone during a poker game just for pushing buttons.
They just explained the problem though, not the solution...
1 is not taking them seriously I thought lol
when i deep realize that people that insult you for no reason is actually threatened by you, I begun to do the things listed in this video naturally. it's empowering AF.
There was this guy that kept making fun of me, I ignored his insults but he never stopped, so i gave him a smack and he stopped after that ;)
like he said context
That's the best way to handle a bully that won't leave you alone. If its a random person and a rare occurrence then ignoring is best. If its a workplace or something similar a calm collective but assertive confrontation is best. If its a friend, the best thing is either humor or a "you're still coming out of this ahead" type of vibe.
weak move bro
@@groominggrandma3121
That's not what the guy thought as he was laying on the ground
He asserted his dominance old school, a good smack with a club
If he never stopped his insults then never stop smacking him.
When someone insults me, I feel really sorry for Them, I feel bad for them, they are broken mentally to not be happy and positive like me I feel sorry for them 🙏
100%
ok.
I don't like to say this not your life is important or whatever but who you living it ha suck suck right now
Now that's a great way to explain social transmutation
1) Don't get mad
2) Redirect with humor
3) Ignore the idiot
With friends:
1) Humor
2) Light hearted insult back
Mastering others is strength, Mastering yourself is TRUE POWER!
Preach
The Tao Te Chung. Chapter 33
Any insult thrown your way is actually a compliment. The worst thing you can do is to take it personally. That will only reduce your power. By not caring, you only enhance your power as the bigger man. Let the cowards/losers throw their insults then. It's quite clear that you're doing great! :D
Truth
Either way, a part of you will take it a little serious though, and it's not good to ignore it if it's constant, like he said in the video.
I was already having a bad day and feeling so tired from school. As I was walking home, a girl just said “quiet girl” right as I walked past her. I know I’m quiet and is even dealing with social problems that I’ve been dealing with for years, but she didn’t have to say that. After she said that I just stopped walking and stared at her, then kept walking and cried quietly on my way home. I’m done with life, I hate peaple so much.
My post is a little late. A bald guy called me quiet at work infront of my brother. I looked over at him and told him he talks too much. Just call them out and say yes I'm quiet or just accept your quiet. There is nothing wrong with it. I'm 24 and I barely snapped about it. There comes a time when you stop giving a crap about being socially accepted.
Excellent advice! It’s how I prefer to respond, with good humor... then (when possible) cut the ties, or go low contact with ppl that are toxic/or somewhat annoying to me. Life’s to short to tolerate ppl that are mean spirited.🤷♀️
You got that shyt right Barbara
When someone try to insult me, I usually respond with a smile. I learned it by experience, because sometime I'm not so fast to replay or I'm just out of order, that the smile is the only stuff Im able to do.
Happy people want to see others happy and succeed. The person who insults is the one with deep seeded issues, not the happy person.
100%
The best way is to insult back indirectly in a humorous way and if possible an insult worst than his/hers. That person will never insult you again
So destroy someone’s self confidence?
Yytambaya, agreed. Either ignore, or calmly throw a verbal jab back at them.
@Weevil ,in the context you mentioned, you're likely to have to defend yourself.
@@olliec.243 not really..youre just outsmarted them
People suck! Ignore them if possible!
Almost all of my problems come from people. And they ask why I don’t talk much lol.
Closing your eyes won't calm the storm you have to face it
@@nadeemakhtar5369 true
Nishikata same bro
Amen.
I’d just say, “Yeah you’re right” and just stare at them blankly. The key is just to not care.
100..theyre looking for a reaction and you cant give them one
Yeah I understand, I'm the same. Only I'm viewed as a 'happy chappy'. Large, heavily built. There are certain work colleagues that always want to test the 'happy' guy. Either I just don't respond period, or if it's the same retort, my response usually goes, "do you realise how boring the same (insult) is? Wow..you know how tiring this is? I think next time I see you, I'll have to bring my alarm clock". All the while, I have the biggest smile on my face.
I think a stronger response would be to set boundaries. Say to the dude. What's your problem, if you've got a problem with me, just say it. Then say don't talk to me like that. Use a little anger. Your not angry because your hurt by what he said. You angry because you don't talk to me like that. There is a huge difference. Kings don't let the peasants insult them. You expect people to be respectful of you.
Dude you’re a genius u have the best mindset
It's true, I got 2 stories to share: 1) I was walking my dog and there was a bunch of brats not too far from me, one of them called me out (I don't remember what he said exactly), but I just ignored him and walked off. Boom, nothing happened, and the moron didn't get anything out of it but embarrassment. 2) I was walking down a staircase with my dog and some luggage, and there was a drunkard carrying something too, and I kinda bumped into him -- so he started nagging something like "move it with your dog already!" and I just said, "don't tell me what to do" and he got pissed off. And then I just walked down ignoring him. I think he was also about to fight me or something, because he put down his bag in anger. But I would've kicked the shit outta him as he's only a lowlife drunkard, so maybe he came to his senses and calmed down, I dunno. But the point is -- ignoring and not getting pissed off is the best reply to an encounter.
“Getting Angry” ≠ “the insult it’s true”! There is a very good audiobook on this topic: “Comebacks at the workplace”. Highly recommend
You're right that anger doesn't mean it's true, but it is a weak response.
Yeah i get upset because its rude and childish. Whether its true or not it doesnt matter. Like quit being a total immature pos
this is one of the truest and best vids by this dude.
Thank you so much for this video bro! I watch all of videos since I found your channel you help lot being a best version of myself! Now I feel so confident and I'm ready to show off!🔥
It`s pretty hard to respond with humor to an insult coming from someone you dislike especially if you are the type of guy that takes things seriously. I am that type and I don`t care about being a funny or charismatic guy, when situations like this arise all I want is to not get bothered/insulted. Many times I responded by trying to ignore the person that insults me and sometimes raising the tone when I get angry. I also once threatened someone to beat the shit out of him when he got too far (I feel like I go into this type of agressive behaviour when I feel the glass is full so to speak). He then apologised and never insulted me again which actually surprised me. I am pretty confident in my physical strength (I think I can win at least 90% of the physical fights with average size guys like me). Honestly I am more interesed in a type of response that would scare/make the person back off than something that would earn me appreciation from others. I also don`t want to go over the board, I would prefer psycological humiliation or cursing/insulting myself the over physical threats. I never looked for trouble in my life and never insulted someone with no reason. I just want to be left in peace and everyone to mind their own business but there are a lot of idiots that are not like this and I have to adjust somehow, so thi9s is my way.
1. Those who have great sense of humor don't need this advice, they already know how to answer. Others don't possess this kind of technique.
2. Ignoring doesn't always work, they come back after you again and try to dig deeper into you. If they are out to get you, they won't stop until they do.
What has always worked for me: I just call them out and say stuff like: "Oh, you are so insecure that you have to say... and... . Sweetie, you need to do something about your self-esteem, otherwise you might end up in psychiatry if you hate/envy others so much." Saying that with pity and a nice smile makes them very angry and next time they won't provoke, since being exposed like that is their worst nightmare.
Man that is smart
If im in a crowd and I hear the insult, I'm not looking at the person then slowly turn and say ,,"heyyy! Billy I didn't even notice you were there" while I smile and everyone starts laughing while he shrinks up cause he feels insecure after. Don't play with me lol
"Why is your nose so big?"
"Why is your stare as cold as ice?" 😂
Weird
🤦♂️
👏😐
for me assertiveness and direct communication is the best and smart way to make the bullies fear you bcuz they are not used to that kind of behaviour and assertive people are rare and very powerful bcuz u have in control of ur emotions everybody will respect you even the enemies
Yes yes i totally agree always be very chill and relaxed and respond in humorous way!! It makes the other person feel so dumb that they couldn’t have much power on you
If you get defensive, THEY WIN.
Laugh at yourself while not caring, that's how you stop hearing petty insults.
SAYAN CHATTERJEE or acting indifferent
Actually don’t, here’s a trick
Ask them to repeat the petty insult for more than 3 times
1st time they repeat = makes them feel strong to get something out of you
2nd time they repeat = doubts started to plant inside their head that you might be playing them
3rd time they repeat = they completely know that they’re being outsmarted by you pretending not to listen
Wrong!!!
There's this friend of mine who always calls me dumb and most of my friends ask me why don't i talk back or say something or insult her right back but that's where their wrong
1. I would probably say something back only if I'm offended or deep inside i believe that i am dumb but if i don't believe her or don't agree with her why should i argue...if i argue back it means I'm agreeing with the statement and trying to defend myself
2. The person who insults u would probably want u to snap back or talk back so don't give them what they wanted...infact give them exactly the opposite and that's by ignoring the statement and carry on
3. Calling someone dumb makes u stupid...now ik this may seem complicated or u may think it doesn't make sense but when u think of it intelligence has a lot to do with maturity...so do u think a mature person would call someone dumb and insult them? The answer is No.
I'm a 17 year psychology student and trust me i face insults everyday...and being called dumb was one of insecurities and then i realised it's an insecurity only if i believe it so i got over it.....I took this subject just so i can learn more about how the human mind works and i wanna help people get over their insecurities and live confidently
You’re clearly very intelligent, anyone who would say something like that to you is the one who is not that bright or threatened by how smart you are.
This is a good ass video y’all gotta remember life is 10% physical 90% mental 👏🏽
Really? I dont need to whip the children in my basement anymore?
That's right O$U!
@@nizaryusof1817 ...
This video is much needed. Thanks
You can't run forever.
Guys don't pay for classes, psychologists/counselors, $500 courses. Be obedient to the videos. These are so informative. And I'm glad they are free because this type of man is rare and if they were paid even less of people would be aware of what its like to be prudent.
- dude why is your nose so big?!
- man I don’t know but the ladies love it when I’m down on them. 🤣😂
There I fixed it
Good one lmao
what if I got a small d 😂..how to cover it up
@@axelblaze9927 brush up on those oral skills and have an incredible personality!
@@SHELL.SEX.CENTRIC aww u really replied..thanks ! btw don't mind but is 5 inches okay for women ? ☹️
@@axelblaze9927 the truthful answer is for some women yes and for others no. It’s neither a downfall or advantage it’s simply what you have. If you want to be okay with women, start learning about what women want. It isn’t a big member or money or status... we want someone who speaks our language. Start by reading ‘love languages’ then read man uncivilized by Travor Boehm. That will get you off to a good start. But stop worrying about size. Start worrying about quality.
Watch out for the high-energy people that will insult you in front of a group and then quickly redirect their energy and attention to someone else and they'll quickly change the subject. They are low value and needy and cowardly.
True method:
*•reply with “>ok”*
@@janpello ok
Never validate a low esteem person. It's kills them.. Teflon 💯
NON-ATTACHMENT 🔥🤘🔥🤘 be a badass and live in FREEDOM...strong wishes from another mans channel
Sarcasm can kill the insult as well
I react mad to insults but not because insults hurt me, but because time and time again, getting mad keeps fools away and keeps my favorite people close.
This video is good thanks man
I like this type of content thanks Julian
When you have experienced friendships based on respect and positivity, you will realize that dealing with immature people is a waste of time if you can avoid it. If you can't avoid the annoying person, then deal with in the best way possible.
never show it angers u never apologize or excuse yourself or else they will keep bothering u about it because its fun to trigger ppl if they are weak minded (if u do not respond eventually they will drop the subject because they end up weak minded and appear stupid if keep insulting with same subject ...)
Very powerful thanks
the downside of the 2nd one, humour, is that you can actually get bullied more often. When my previous friends made fun of me or pouring water on me for example, when i joked with them, it fuelled them even more to make more fun of me. Because i looked inferior to them and i was open and okay with them doing that to me
First off you need to find better friends if they insult you often even when they know its something that hurts you. I generally don't respond back with an insult anymore because the person who makes the insult is usually more insecure and it ends up being a fight. Now I respond as if I'm coming out ahead no matter what. They usually can't say anything back because
1) they know it doesn't bother you
2) they know if what they say is true it still doesn't matter because you'll be better off in the end.
Also if you see one of your friends being insulted by another friend the best thing you can do is shame the guy insulting, don't try to insult them back. Always try to lift people up.
I'm having a bad day...
UA-cam recommends this...
They're evolving
I think they key is to be self satisfied first and then ignore any insults
Wow, 7 minutes worth watching !
Nice this can save u from getting aggravated assault please remember that ignoring is like saying the other person isnt worth ur time insulting back. if u dont believe me he'll try and try trash talking now its up to u to kill em with success so put that chin up and smile and transform negative into positive after all they are ur hater and time is golden one love.
big nose insults- reminds me of Steve Martin's character in the movie "Roxanne"
Instead of getting angry, one could look at the person, with a fake 'surprised' look on one's face and say loudly: "Gee, thanks for noticing me, I love you too." and then turn away, returning to what one was doing before, whilst slightly smiling to oneself.
That will put all the attention back on to the insulter whilst also embarrassing them.
I’ve had people tell me that’s a lie and we have to care about what others think, professionally, personally etc.
Insults are the sincerest form of jealousy
I like that picture reminds me of me! Motivation!
video starts at 3:30
Ty
You: the MVP
Have a comedian as a friend and learn sharpness from them it's an art.
Bro, where i come from if you insult the wrong person you end up either beat up dead or up in tree tied up.
If you're a man, you should be aware that there are crazy and insane peeps out there that are not going to get or put up with your humor or your back handed compliment or your confidence probing statement, don't be surprised if you end up dead or in a Ditch or your family dead as well, what I'm saying here fellas is that it is far better to enjoy your life minding your own business doing you and keeping in mind that no matter how crazy or alpha or strong you are, there is always someone up in the next level 😘
I like to either not respond or deflect with sarcasm.(mostly sarcasm and some acting😂)
I have a Masters Degree in Sarcasm.
Outstanding! You're so right about this!
Just say-Opinions Vary.....
Works every time..
Thanks!
Bob : You are a fool
Me : Most possibly , as I am responding to one such 😇😂
Hahah Bob Is really a fool man
Ur so bad to him
Thankyou❤️
thanks
My first response to "why ur nose so big" is "air is free bro"
An Angry response is what they want, unless you flog them when you get outside.
Anger has killed many with top notch confidence.
The lesson:
It's all fun and games until it's the insane person with ptsd and bullets start flying...
I noticed you have alot of duplicate videos, would you recommend watcing the new and old versions of them? Or do you make duplicates because you make the new ones better?
You go create your own frame of mind and have people chase it or be drawn unto it and stay with your frame
I like the art
Good video
Best way is to preempt by warmly introducing yourself to everyone in the room, ask a few questions about their life and find something you genuinely appreciate about them
Be of good humour and keep very relaxed body language all the way
Nobody will want to insult you because they'll all like you and seeing you being chill with everyone in the room makes them feel it's in their interest to be nice to you
"Don't take your guns to town Bill" -Johnny Cash.
If I only knew this 30 or 40 years ago.... When I was a kid my elder brothers always made bad jokes at me, etc and every time I was very angry, I got red like a tomato, it happened almost in all my teenhood, and always said to myself, "why if they know I get angry they go on doing it??", the answer now is very easy: because they wanted me to be mad and angry. I remember my mum always telling me "ignore them.", but was very difficult for me to do it because I never understood why people treat badly another person intentionally, it is something I'd never do. Well, 30 years later I discovered about the narcissist or jealous or under-self-esteem personalities etc, that the worst you can do to them is just ignoring. It is still hard for me to do it for me because now being adult sometimes I still have that suffering inside from my childhood I could never got rid from my memory, and it is like now I can attack back to those kind of bullies, sometimes I reaction aggressive or intimidating for the bully in front of me, and when it happens I can feel they get really scared and start to act submissive. So, reacting in one side is good but not always maybe. I wish I could control it better but sometimes this feeling is stronger than me, I've sicilian blood inside. When I see the "insult" comes with humour and reveal some truth I laugh or I'm even agree of what he says, but when I detect the joke/insult comes from a person with low-esteem and/or pretend to be funny using me there is when I attack back, and sometimes aggressively.
Holy shit you’re old
@@theomega24th37 I'm not old, you are too young.
Not engaging is a good way of showing the other party that you won't even dignify what they said with a response. You are basically taking away the power that they thought that they had.
I found car doors work very well,lots of leverage in them.
For
1) I first analyze that what they are saying is true or not, if there is really some weakness or mistake in me, I take it positively and accept the insult, otherwise, I damn care.
2) My strength lies in my self-discipline and hardwork. So, external factors can't weaken me.
"Oh thanks man, I like you too - even if you are ..... (insert personal insult here)"
For example: An alcoholic, a hipster, a hippy
Keep the conversation... then wait till the person is off guard, read again very effective
I remember one guy back in school says ,,for me the real man has to have a bit of weight not being skinny" and i didn't respond and immediately one of the girls says yes but i prefer mans to have some type of six packs!! I mean to ignore the insult really show to others just how much the other person is insecure about themselves.
You make some really good points; however, I honestly believe your response depends largely on the "place" where you were insulted. Personally, I assume anyone or everyone who has the audacity to insult me in person is "my friend" (it depends though on the age-gap and the type of relationship I have with the person). What I meant by "my friend" was, I almost always use rhetorical questions, sarcasm or humor to deflect the insult either back to the "owner" or make a joke out of it. If I don't say anything, sometimes it "eats me up on the inside" though I must admit it's not a bad idea!
What I also meant by "place" was, it depends on the space in which the insult occurred and/or the subject-matter discussed. Also on your level of maturity [emotional maturity to be precise] and the maturity levels of those in that "place." Why? Because how they receive the insult thrown at you could have an effect on how you respond as well. Now, allow me to explain further by what I meant by "place." Forinstance, an insult given in person by either a friend, a kid or a stranger could be deflected by the awesome ways discussed in your video, but also depends on the place it occurred. For example an insult given on social-media (or over the internet) where the parties involved cannot be seen, might be taken alot differently than an insult given in person. Why? Consider a circumstance where a UA-camr post's a controversial video on UA-cam. No one (unless mature people) sees your silence as counter-active to the insult thrown at you. (That is also where the levels of maturity comes into play virtually.) Immature people will "like [👍]" the insult and might add "salt to the wound" or may say nothing and simply think of you as incapable of "standing-up" for yourself (which is also a very unattractive quality for men to have in the eye's of women); nonetheless, if u were to take the insult slightly "seriously," not by retaliating angrily or instantly, but intuitively-smart by employing some of the other good points you mentioned (like humor forinstance) it may mitigate the issue. I personally almost always employ humor, rhetorical questions and sarcasm because I feel its the best strategy. However, if I were "low-key" pissed, then I will employ, "figures of speech," idioms or/and proverbs. (They are great "tools" to have handy when needed.) Nonetheless, if I were talking to an adult, personally, I usually say nothing only because of my cultural background. But if I lost control of myself and had to say something (because I was so upset) I would use "scriptures." They are the best weapons for adults especially Christians ✝️ [Christianity is the largest growing religion according to current stat's], because they most likely will get the picture. Anyways, I didn't mean to be so verbose [a UA-cam comment just low-key pissed me off before seeing this recommended video]; I apologize! 😔
Personally, I'm almost always considerate of other feelings, even when I feel insulted, because sometimes, I care too much! (🤔 Or am I really that stupid because of that?!) The most ironic thing is, usually, the one insulting is the one deemed to be the "caring" or "wise-one" (to be cruel is to be kind. An overused oxymoron interpreted wrongly by moron's to pardon themselves and uplift their SELFISH EGO) in the eye's of some "men [unisex implied]." Anyways, maturity does not come with age, but experience so I guess people will react differently irrespective.🤷
Thanks! I needed to let off a "little-steam," but I hope others can relate as well. 🙂 🙏🏽
Ps: I never really used to care when I was insulted. I was even nick-named gyimi-gyimi [literally translates to mentally-retarded or FOOL], but it hits differently when the people u love the most follow in the same foot-steps and start treating (or calling) you as such. I will NOT share a personal experience at this juncture. Just know that I have one (which cuts deeper than a 2-edged sword even till this day when it comes to mind). I will conclude by saying-Always stand up for yourself no matter what may arise as a result, or irrespective of who you are!👍🏽
That was abit insulting (from u). "The honest truth?!" 2:04
Are you saying im too dumb to think of a witty retort? How very dare you sir! (Though you are probably right). :)
Basically, prepare for a roast session...and be good at it...lol
Way better 💜💜💜💜💜
So if someone say "you're a piece of ..." then this video suggest that I am ? Thank you for your advices, I feel much better now :)
I have always responding by silence and what i was exactly thinking is that comme on i have better things to do than responding to a guy like you , you're not worthit.
I think humor is the better option rather than simply ignoring it. Ignoring insults is not only the easiest option, but it's like taking revenge: "You made me feel less valuable, so I'll show you you're not even worth my time."
Not only is humor the better option, but it usually involves taking the insult to the extreme, making it absurd and embarrassing for the other. That's what Christians call "offering the other cheek".
I think I would say “ Yeah I look like Pinocchio, go ask me some questions if u think my nose is big now, it will be even bigger”
Or just say “ok” then they will leave you alone
I laugh and call them childish
Instructions unclear : Got beaten up
Also stare at them with a wired smile
why so serious...joker thats why this word touches his or her heart whoever is reading comment ...
Good.
You're ready for VR Chat.
Guy : u need to eat a cheeseburger
:buy one for me
I respond with the funnest way
What you think of me is none of my business. That shuts them up everytime. If they persist, repeat in calm voice
The worst kind of insult is one made indirectly, not giving you actually a chance to defend yourself. When you confront the person, she makes it look like you are speaking madness, or she starts to act as if you are the one who is being offensive. When this happens, we totally lose the battle.
Insult yourself after that insult. One up every insult until they give up.
Can you do a video on loud upstairs Neighbor’s that makes noises on purpose when you have let them know kindly that you are living underneath. How do you cope with that? Because I have developed: panick attacks, sleep apnea, insomnia. I could lie awake for 12 days at sometimes.
Although silence is the better answer you feel like Mr Worldwide when you turn their insult on them.
“Why you’re nose so big?”
Me: “to sniff out bullshitters/ to sniff out people that are full of shit .” *sniff around and eventually toward the guy who said it “right now it’s really strong over there” *place where the guy is sittin*
That was an original. Big nose dudes feel free to use it.💯👏🏿