The Pillars of NoFap (How I Broke Free)
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- Опубліковано 26 вер 2024
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In my self improvement journey, nofap is crucial, so I explain how to stop fapping through retention, sexual transmutation, building a new identity, finding your purpose, and more.
This man was actually made to be a UA-camr, full watch time every time without fail, regardless of the topic or video. Keep grinding Kenny 👑
that's such an honor to hear, thank you
@@kenny.bender You're not free. One movie and you will be the old simp we all know.
@@kenny.bender nearly read that as horror😃
@@kenny.bendert's the fact that you don't hold a pre-set agenda to actively try to sell something, like a course or anything. You rather try and present your experience and genuine advice without some behind the back intent to it. Keep up the good work brother 💪🏻🔥🫡
@@kenny.bender Bro thanks for the video
Any tips for replacing fap with something else, which is the main thing.
It can be going out and making Friends. But it takes time to make friends that meet say every weekend.
People prefer going to say live music.
The question is not really fap but dopamine n loneliness, as per my study.
1 week clean. i’ve had my temptations, but so far i’ve been able to overcome them all. this is literally the longest i’ve gone without it for the past 4 years almost
i found a video how nofap is good for u at 12, since then ive been clean
Keep going bro! You’ve got this!
What about now?
Try searching if there is any science that backs up the nofap. For ur own good please….
What about today?
What if you're making me all that I was meant to be?
Love how you don't milk these topics like other youtubers and speak only the necessary parts. Never stop making videos man! You're a great dude
luve the name chad
nice name , haha!
I used to have the urge but now I NEVER do. With school, gym, and waking up at 5:30Am for swim(I’m on the HS swim team), I’m so exhausted it never crosses my mind. I dont even look at girls or think about it. I don’t know if it’s bad or not but whatever.
maybe because of stress and age
sigma grind
Maybe your testosterone is low. Do you get morning wood?
I commend you brother. I hope you stay on the path. I am hoping to do the same
this is the exact mindset and grind the top 10% of my school are doing, at a glance at how they carry themselves and their grades you can tell they are going somewhere in life, I look up to them keep at it.
Bro, I don't know if you will ever watch this video but, seriously, thanks.
SImply thanks.
I relapsed yesterday, but after many days of trying.
I started watching magazines when I was about 6.
Now I am 23. And my life has become hell because of this.
But your words of wisdom took me back on track, this time for good.
The hero journey, that's real.
It's interesting because I certainly don't identify as someone with a porn fap addiction. My life is very full and wholesome in a lot of ways. I have a great marriage and insane fun with my kids everyday, I work for myself, and I'm very positive habit oriented. I have a pretty good workout routine, I spend an enormous amount of time in the wilderness either backpacking mountains or practicing bushcrafting, wildcrafting and herbalism. I'm a good musician. While I don't consider myself a religious man, I'm well read in a wide variety of literature; I do read the bible and I feel I have a good relationship with God. I have a very positive life most of the time. But I still have this secret addiction that is intensely engrained in me since prepubescence. I hate it. And I now think I'm out of inadvertent tricks to use to get out of it. I just need to use my own will power and just stop. I smoked cigarettes for around 10 years and managed to totally quit about 8 years ago. It's amazing how much powerful porn is compared to other drug addictions.
Damn. I feel this. Even though i do not have kids or anything. I am 16 haha but i realise how hard is it to quit. My life is very full too. I do handball 7 times a week and have a good relationship with god too. But as he said you need this objective perspective when your body wants you to fap. I know you gonna make it bro
I've done it guys, I've finally conquered my porn addiction. I've lost count of the amount of times I've tried to stop, but now, finally, I'm free.
Dude, congrats. I know this was a year ago, but it gives me hope. Thank you homie, you're a hero!
Ayo I’m gonna be honest you might of just saved me. I’m not at the point of doing it everyday, but when you started talking about the mental stuff it does I started realizing that I’m dangerously close to that point. I never realized that I could have an addiction, but literally everything you said made me realized that I do. Thanks so much man, im gonna start working to turn my life around. Thanks a lot for giving me the motivation i needed to do that.
You got this king
you got this bro 🙏
I 'm so happy for you to realize this addiction so fast, i know im some random stranger replying to this right now but im so happy for you my brother, I didnt realize i had this addiction until i had done it everyday and become such a slave to it and im so happy that you wont get to the point such as doing it everyday or getting to a much worse point in that addiction, be strong brother and kill this addiciton before it gets harder, now is the easiest time and its most defenitely worth it because of all the damage that addiction does and all the benifits of quiting also.
TIMES OF THE VIDEO
01:31 •Finding your purpose
02:17 •Understanding your antithesis
03:13 •Shifting identity
04:15 •Mindfulness
06:11 •Sexual transmutation
Watch the full video, there's a lot of value on it. Sorry if my english is bad.
thank you brother! I need to go back and add chapters tomorrow
Thank you man I needed this
Sweet baby Jesus
Thankyou 😇
@@kenny.bender I think you procastinated on that one hehe
As much as I struggle and relapse, everytime I finally make myself watch one of your videos, I find myself with the desire to take notes and better understand your words. One of your amazing qualities is that you don't necessarily say the words you say in the way you understand them, but rather you speak for your words to be understood by others.
We're all gonna get there, and I'm sure that good things are coming your way. You're building a fantastic community of men who are finding motivation in themselves, as opposed to other people and things. Thanks man, I really appreciate you. You inspire.
Good video Kenny. Pornhub 2022 stats were pretty disgusting (and sad). America is blowing out the rest of the world in porn consumption and it might be the biggest problem we are facing as a country because of the downstream effects of it.
A lot of what you said is what worked for me to quit as well. One big thing for me was having a social life.
If you just sit around in your house all day, idc how disciplined you are you are going to end up doom scrolling, fapping off, binge eating or something like this
is it really a problem i dont think its a problem
What were some of the things you did to create a better social life?
Honeslty, the greatest self-improvement channel on the Internet, fantastic work and have a beautiful life, my man
The things that help me the most and will probably help you are finding and eliminating my triggers, not getting over confident in my self control, never edging, and being self aware.
This is only the second video of yours that I've watched, but both vids have been exactly what I've needed to hear. Def earned a sub.
Great video Kenny. I’ve been through my share of nice streaks on nofap, but have also been pitted with terrible relapses. I’m back on a nice streak now using a different strategy. I remembered that some habits can become entangled with one another because of the combined dopamine surge that it creates. For example, cigarettes and coffee. For this streak, I kept conscious to separate the act from the material if ya catch my drift. I’m sure we are all aware how bad the urges get a few days to a week in. To help mitigate this, if you only allow yourself to do the act without the material, it keeps the urges at bay for a couple of days. My end goal is to keep this up for a few weeks until I feel comfortable in stepping away from the act. This in theory should be easier since the feeling isn’t as great due to the lower dopamine release. I’ve always been a firm believer in cold turkey and absolute willpower, but when you become entrenched in repetitive insanity, you sometimes just have to step back and look at it from a 10,000 ft level. I hope this can help someone here looking in the comments. This strategy also works with other coupled addictions. Stay strong fellas.
A word from the wise 💯
I do alcohol and weed, bro im 32 and i have no shit. I feel terrible and cant be by myself. I just want to build myself a new but im a really big mess... Can i ask your permition to write you private? So i could ask you more about quitting addictions?
@@laukinis1990I appreciate you asking brother but I’m not the one to look to. I still struggle with keeping myself in check. I am doing better than I was though. I used to have the same afflictions as you but I had to force myself to get them under control. There isn’t much else that I can add on top of my original comment besides this: Find God and find your purpose. In order to work towards improvement in your life, you have to have a reason and a goal. Confiding in Christ and stripping away the sandbags of life that are holding you back will help you greatly. I suggest that you find yourself a nice local non denominational or Baptist church. Surround yourself in people who want the best for you. I might also suggest becoming a workaholic. I find that it is easier to refrain from certain activities when you simply have no time for them. Work, gym, eat, sleep. Do this for 90 days and your life will change. I hope you find what you are looking for brother. If you need more tactics for keeping yourself disciplined, I suggest reading through the “Nofap guide”. Google it and do some reading.
@@Blaaake Thank you kind sir. I will try my best, i promise.
@@laukinis1990 good luck
This guy is like a self improvement enjoyer like me, only he helps spread the word, so I just gotta say, thanks for being a pretty normal person like me but still spread some great wisdom. Very relatable, you earned a sub.
Excellent video as always Kenny, thank you brother
1. Finding your purpose (what do you want to do with your life)
2. Understanding your antithesis (get extremely honest with yourself, envision the path this addiction is bringing you down, envision the worst case scenario. This temporary suffering avoids that long term suffering. Vice versa, you can remind yourself of the long term benefits of abstaining from no fap. Visualize it as well)
3. Shifting identities (your mental mindset shifts into someone who believes “I can overcome porn and I do not need porn” and your mind will perform a self hypnosis which helps you combat those urges when they do arrive. It’s going “I’m not someone who ever gets tempted” it’s “I’m someone who gets tempted and resists it”)
4. Practice mindfulness (See the bigger picture in yourself, allow your mind to pull back and observe the thoughts you’re having. When you practice mindfulness, you will be able to catch these thoughts and urges trying to pull you back into relapsing. You observe the thought, but you don’t give it power because you know that isn’t you) (practice meditation)
5. Sexual transmutation ( biological, one of our biggest goals as men is attracting a mate and reproducing. Out of all stimuli, this is the strongest one. Take that sexual energy and transform it into productive energy. Aka: you’re using your motivation to get women to ultimately work towards a more productive, positive state in your life) (don’t confuse this with “putting women up on a pedestal”)
Resist temptation (no fap) and Meditation seems to be two biggest Deals.
Funny quote. "Men did greater things, when it was harder to see boobs" -tradwest
Imagine there was a recording of yourself in the act, start to finish.
And you had to watch it back, start to finish.
You'd be disgusted with yourself, wouldn't you?
Shiit bro I’m saving this
short video
Super helpful and motivated man. Great work, will definitely implement these to help my self 💪
props to all the guys who decided to even click on the video, keep at it boys :)
“I am someone that resists temptation” mantra to live by
Seeing thoughts and dissasociating them with yourself is something I just learned. I never really thought about it like that, I'm not fighting myself. Smart
Man, tbh I have not watched a better-explained video and you have only touched upon the important points which make the audience not waste their time understanding irrelevant points. Great video keep it up! 👍
I found your channel a few days ago and I’ve found it to be very helpful. I am a 6’6’’ 22y/o who has always been skinny and gangly until about a year ago when the hard work from the last couple years started to show. Within the last couple of weeks, I’ve decided to take that “next step” so to speak, and then I found this video by random, minutes after it was uploaded, and you’re speaking mad truths man. I’ve been kinda doing my own thing for so long, but taking that next step into no fap, meditation, truly disconnecting yourself from everything negative dopamine-wise, has been the hardest part and definitely required some structured advice. So thank you, you are now part of my years long journey into becoming my actualized self. I have one question, how tall are you? There’s not much good stuff for tall gangly guys like us out there (hence me doing my own program for so long) but your Armageddon really does have my arms beat for the first time in a while.
GIGACHAD
Could you Share a few tips to gain weight, i am also verz tall and skinny
I don't think I ever suffered from a porn addiction for 1.5-2 years of my teenage years. I knew it was bad, I knew it wasn't attractive so I decided to keep myself from it. I guess I have more self control than others which enabled me to stop it.
I began to notice differences between me and my classmates like being more confident, more mature, calmer, I felt/feel more grounded. I find going up to girls more easier, though I am still working out the details. I also started to realise how much the people around me can influence me, I already knew they did I just didn't realise how much that mattered. So right now I'm starting to finding new people and shutting out the old one's that have a bad influence on me. Everything is more coloured in life.
I'd like to know where you guys think your at in life, and also how old you think I am😅
Kenny my man never stop inspiring the people! Keep up the good work
I was 7 and so so young way too young to have found it and started doing it. its such a struggle to not need it.
I needed this so long ago. I got addicted at 11 years old after accidentally finding it on my 3DS browser.
It's worth it 100% I never want to go back to what I was.
I’m so glad there are people out here like this.
Really impressed with this video. I’m starting a habit to watch a video on nofap everyday to help with inspiration and I’m lucky that this was the first video I found while starting. Good stuff!
Those first 2 minutes felt like 5 minutes probably cuz we all don’t want to hear it but need to… great condensed message
Probably one of the best youtubers I've ever seen in my entire life
I've read a book by a "brain scientist" and things like prayer/ meditation can help rewire an addicted brain. Just like you have mentioned, it's a no stimulus activity were you have to focus on something for a prolonged period of time, without a constant influx of stimulus to keep you "engaged"
Hey man, just wanted to say how much I’ve enjoyed your channel and videos. They really resonated with a lot In sure most of us have struggled with, and you should be proud of what you have done. Keep it up bro
I’ve struggled with Porn and Masturbation since I was in 5th Grade. I’m now 24 , married,and have a daughter but the issue has still been with me.
I’m currently separated, my actions have brought me to this point. Church always says do it for God. These addiction counseling places tell you that you need to find purpose and become shame resilient. Yet, after all the time I’ve spent with those? 2 15 minute videos from you opened my mind. Helped me see that it’s not impossible to bounce back and become the man I know and want to be. Thank you so much man
very good video man thanks, I love the improvement in your video production quality and I hope you keep blowing up you make great content straight to the point and actually want to convey the information well not just reach 10 minutes or say or do whatever gets the most views you actually give the actionable steps
Thank you, I recently watched this video yesterday and I want use your points to help elevate my own life, I struggle a lot with no fap but I want to do my best, I’ve been working out before and I have been seeing a lot of results, but I still have a long way too go. I know I can do this and I will do this, this video just motivated me more.
Gotta break it to you Kenny, so far the best video about fapping!
You need to truly internalize that sexual imagery and masturbation is being imposed on you. There exists a little group of people wearing small hats who want you to be depressed and pacified. Once you understand that its not coming from the inside but that its a war being waged against you, it turns into a battle against something instead of against yourself.
thanks, watched this video at around the right time. Known all the downsides and have been struggling, but this really just made me really mad at myself. I need to find a way to make that motivation last
thank you man this helped a lot you saved me from getting into that rabbit hole
Wow, okay. This made me look at things a lot different. Gotta admit, this video is amazing.
Thanks !
You the homie thank you for existing I like your mindset
THANK YOU!
Thankyou so much, you're helping me save myself
Beautiful, bro. Thanks
This was deep man, thanks for your insight
Judy hopps, I’ve been there bro I get it. She crazy asf 🤣
My strat is just to vigorously shake my head when I see or think of women and instead think of some physics or astronomy stuff. It works 10/10 would recommend
i dont know what to say besides thank you
Thank you brother
Keep up the great content brother.
If you enjoy topics about mastery and masculinity, I invite you to explore the videos I share on the Mastery Order Channel.
Challenge yourself with some ideas about manhood, explore your masculine potential to the maximum and become the kind of man you would respect and look up to.
We can only better ourselves together, as men among men, so I invite you to use what I share and, of course, share your own thoughts so that others can benefit from them as well.
All the best to you!
Such a nice video bro must needed when you're fighting with yourself only. will follow all the steps and will be the idealistic version of myself ✨ and then comeback here and pinned it down 👍🏻
Thank you so much!
Brothers we must stay strong 😭 i miss my old self so much i was so inoccent 😭
Thank you god bless you in your journey
I related a lot with this video, thank you for putting this out there.
Its stupid difficult to stop. I grew up with no childhood and teenage hood. Abusive home. I was exposed to porn at 6 or 7 an started fappy by 10. It was my copping mechanism through our my life. My life has always been difficult and even when i had a gf had sex of go home and still gasp from 16 to now. I'm 30 and still find it difficult to stop. So thank you for making this. Been thinking of going to edibles to help with my depression and focus
Kenny is the Goat🐐👑
1975 days hard mode Nofap- what can I say, it's beyond God mode!
Absolute unit, KEEP AT IT
@@superloko9926 2019 days hm now.
that's alot of years
Bro I relapsed after 45 days and man I feel so down right now :( I feel I have hit rock bottom , it’s actually the first time I can say I feel gone in life , I am going to wake up tomorrow and really figure out how I am going to move on , I’ll just step outside and think I am a idiot and I can’t carry a fake persona because I know I am a stupid person now , but I know I can change that and I will but talking is cheap I hope I find a way because I am a failure and that’s that in this time of my life
Great video as always man I needed to hear this, Thankyou ❤️
Instead of educating women that playing with men's hormones is wrong, you are trying to solve conseqiences, bravo. This is big brain thing
I loved the last part of the video about sexual transmutaion. thanks
01.06.2023 Today is the day where I change my life fr
thank you kenny for the top facts that have saved me now and i wish you that you keep up the good work in the gym and in life basically
update I didn't fap but went and payed for s*x )) wish me luck for the next month GAME ON
I once did it for 50 days. Got my first girlfriend during that 50 days. Was at my physical peak, people were complimenting my chest. I'm going to try it again
Brother, my best is 50 days as well. Last year at day 50 I was like, "oh well you did 50 days that's an achievement, one time can't hurt now". Yeah right... Fell down the rabbithole again. Now I'm on day 6 again, my dreams are becoming more intense and i generally feel better and calmer during the day.
your videos empower me
Nice thumbnail design🔥
Found a gem
The purpose of NoFap is farsightedness.
The antithesis to it is present-mindedness.
Farsightedness is the process of civilisation. Present-mindedness is the process of decivilisation, of animalism. Fapping and being present-minded are inextricably linked. Not fapping involves embarking on a radical transformation to how you conduct life and to your time preference. Actually caring about the future of things rather than throwing them out the window and to the wind. Being a pilot rather than the aimless passenger.
thank you
The hardest part about doing this is that I don’t have sex. So after a week of no fap, I’ll get into a conversation with some milf or something (I work in sales so I talk to A LOT OF people and get hit on quite often by older women) and the rest of the afternoon my head will be spinning with dopamine cravings as I just want to release. I can’t stand doing no fap and having to talk to these hot women all the time. I end up caving because I can’t take it anymore. Women will touch my arm, make strong eye contact, etc…it drives me crazy. I can’t get laid because I don’t really go out and meet women. All my friends are married and I’m kinda stuck either working or at home. I don’t have the confidence to go out by myself. I’m good at my job but that’s…a job, it’s different when you go into a social setting. Plus I don’t drink, I’m an alcoholic…well I’m sober, but you know what I mean. I don’t drink.
u earned my sub chad 🙏💪
Great video, helping me out a lot
another great video bro🔥💯
U deserve more subz
If you enjoy topics about mastery and masculinity, I invite you to explore the videos I share on the Mastery Order Channel.
Challenge yourself with some ideas about manhood, explore your masculine potential to the maximum and become the kind of man you would respect and look up to.
We can only better ourselves together, as men among men, so I invite you to use what I share and, of course, share your own thoughts so that others can benefit from them as well.
All the best to you!
This man is a genius
Part of the ship part of the crew
You actually changed my dam life bro much love to you 💜
Truly thanks
The Judy hops on 9gag killed me 😵
Someone should do a free group chat for men to help quit fap to help each other out
Shift your mindset into someone who is driven by purpose and embraces discipline
Great video.
Bro love you from India I'm also practicing nofap
Bro you help me alot thanks mate
Good video bro
Man... Thanks... Just fuckin' thanks
Rackin up doe . Blow
Started no fap 6 months ago now I only use my phone once a week to check messages or UA-cam
"People knew well the strength of man's desire for a woman. The force of the urge was not wasted, for their forbears had harnessed it for the vehicle which carried them to greatness above others. They, which could properly channel the forces contained within themselves, were ready to control the forces beyond themselves. The greatest forces a man can harness to his benefit are those lying within himself, but the underlying strength of the people lay in the morality of its women, for this was the strength that governed, because it was the safeguard for something of value"
Rather than wasting energy by indulging in orgasms one must let it flow upward to the solar plexus, the area between the navel and lower rib cage. Doing so builds willpower, self-confidence, security, happiness, intuition, empathy, etc. We are brainwashed to waste sacral energy thereby reducing the energy available to the solar plexus resulting in guilt, low self-esteem, dejection, etc.
Also, wasting creative energy is a factor in negative thought/feeling feedback loops--sex addiction, where any negative thoughts and feelings for oneself or others or the world could reinforce one another and perpetuate the unnatural energy dynamic/wastage.
Hey fellas, I gotta say the gym helps a lot.
I wanted to give a like many times in the video but I can only give one lol
Im 75 years oild and id lik to stop tuching my self
dude... great video
good video my guy