I love your balanced approach to slow fashion. Not shaming or guilting people for making occasional unplanned purchases. I think this approach is more realistic and sustainable. Love your channel.
As a plus sized woman, I don't always have the option of natural fibers or slow fashion companies. There is just less to choose from. I appreciate you acknowledging that there is room for these if they check the right boxes.
I thrift everything. I buy nothing new. I don't buy things because they are cheap, just things that are high quality and fit into my wardrobe. If something doesn't work I sell it online or re-donate. I sometimes find surprise items, maybe vintage or designer, that I would never consider would suit me, but they can become my wardrobe staples, and no one else has them. So I can impulse buy with confidence.
Thank you for not trying to impose an orthodoxy that would limit your creativity. It is so sad when extreme restrictions are placed to following a slow fashion lifestyle, sometimes to the point that original style and creativity disappear.
Great video. Impulse buys are far less problematic if you know yourself and your style really well, because it’s very likely that you will genuinely use them often.
Hip, hip, hooray!!! Every time you’ve done a culling exercise, I’ve feared for the future of the red Bill Blass shirt. You look fantastic in it, and you’ve made it work in such an appealing way. It brings a smile to my face every time I see it. If there’s a fan club for the shirt, I want to join it! I’m so glad you let your vintage store owner friend persuade you to try it. Bravissima!
I treat baby blue in my closet almost like a denim, I don’t really consider it a “color”. Treating it like a denim has made for some surprising outfit combinations.
I second your statement on not focusing only on the material contents but also on the quality and feel. As much as I like natural fabrics inmy sweaters and shirts, I have found that I dislike wearing 100% cotton T-shirts! I feel so much better in my Uniqlo Airism and Heat tech poly blend shirts, camis and longsleeves...and they last and last and dont smell. In pants, lots of my vintage dress pants are poly and they are really nice quality and dont wrinkle.
I so agree! I have some wonderful lightweight poly trouser pants and blouses that are really good quality and fabulous for travel as they don’t wrinkle and they weigh almost nothing to pack. They make an instant elevated outfit and I wear them a lot!
One of my absolute must for purchasing an item is I have to love it on my self, even if it’s a basic white tee. If I’m not dancing in the mirrors with delight, I’m not purchasing it, period.
Great topic! I looked in my closet at my impulse buys and two things popped out immediately - bold colors and texture. I think it’s because neutrals feel safe and undoubtedly will offer a good return on investment. But my style words are “flowy,” “layered” and “unexpected” so every once in a while my inner stylist rears up and says “we need something unexpected!” When I wear those items, I feel special, and get lots of compliments. It’s like you in the yellow dress, when you feel good about how you look, you shine!
Totally agree with your point about polyester. My favourite pair of flowy trousers is made of polyester too, and they are really light and breathable, easy to take care of (I had a viscose pair before which shrunk after the first machine wash at delicate cycle). However I don't own a single polyester top, because I get a sauna effect momentaniosly, just because they are too close to the body 😅
So glad you talked about the benefits of polyester. Some of my *nicest* clothing is high quality polyester. It's wrinkle resistant and drapes well. There's also a lot of cheap polyester out there, but that's a cost decision that a brand makes, not inherent to the fabric in general.
Yep, I bought a lot of high quality "corporate" wear, suits, blazers, suit slacks, blouses, when I was working. An awful lot of it was at least a poly blend. Wool with a bit of poly? Cotton with some poly? It looked great, it wore well, it was easy to care for.
Yes! I loved this video so much. In the past, I've been made to feel guilty for loving polyester or acrylic fast-fashion items I have had for years. Now I feel like you've given me "permission" to love them openly. Thank you. I am on a 5-year no-buy streak, so it will take a LOT to convince me to buy a new piece, especially if it isn't truly functional or special like those blue flats.
😉Her baby blue ballet flats make 💯% sense in her wardrobe, but maybe not in yours. Thought Alyssa made a valid point how certain colors that become beloved💖 in our closet can actually start to serve as a neutral for us. Love mostly dark neutrals, but I do have a smattering of lights & brights. Adore a tonal & matching monochromatic look, but I don't want to own shoes in every color of the 🌈rainbow. Other than my white sneakers, I look for a variety of shoes in navy, black, brown, & gray. Metallics work when nothing else will do. Trying to find some nude or even light tan options to go w/my other colors. 😊Find fashion influencers & other folks online push natural fibers like they are the 💫 holy grail〰️but the truth is touch & my instincts on comfort in my extreme 😎LA climate has never steered me wrong. Of course, we rarely if ever experience any high humidity w/our 🌞sun & high heat🌡. Dry heat has it's own challenges, but any tropical humidity is a killer... Besides, never been a fan of the feel of silk😖 or how messy natural linen looks after a few hours in it😂. 🤓While I love cotton, it's weight & breathability is also important. Always been truly picky in a tactile sense. Have had excellent experiences w/synthetics & also tech fabrics that have moisture😰 wicking properties. 😠Do hate the sense of superiority & shaming that seems to exist in this realm. ❤May you wear your favorite pieces w/joy & abandon🎉! 💚Bridget from Cali☘️ (using my pal's YT acct)
@@teresacarle294 IKR wrt influencer pushing sponsorships with LIlysilk over how creased it gets and messy it looks, I have a ton of natural fibre items but they need so much "coddling" I rarely wear them. I would adore those flats in the exact same colour as Alyssa's. They would absolutely make sense in my light-neutral wardrobe . I live in South Africa (right now) where the weather is absolutely mental. So I need a balanced wardrobe. Since I travel quite a bit, creasing etc is an issue since no one wants to pay for hotel ironing fees all the time or travel with a travel iron which, IMHO, doesn't do that great anyway. I love some easy-wear items and find I only reach for the silks, linens and so on while on vacations or time at home. It doesn't make much sense in a high-use wardrobe. Alyssa is my favourite since she is always encouraging me to think outside the box.
to be honest, sometimes my well thought out purchases were a dud and impulse worked out much better. I guess impulse sometimes is an intuition and giving yourself too much time just makes you justify something that may not be for you. good video and a different persepctive.
@TheSharmam Your slightly brutal use of the word 'dud' had me lol 😄 I ALWAYS think I'll get the wrong buys to work somehow. More often than not, it's the long march through various closets and shelves, till finally hitting the donate pile. Your word 'dud' immediately made me think of some seriously considered failures. Often for a big price, thinking they'd be 'forever items'.
This is so good. I have items that have shocked me because they became so versatile in my wardrobe, things that I can’t imagine getting rid of. On the other hand I try to exclusively shop second hand which is pretty challenging when I also try so hard to be thoughtful of fabrics and do a more muted approach to style and fashion. I’m an Eileen fisher and Vince kind of girl so finding timeless pieces are very hit and miss. But gosh sometimes I just grab a polyester cutesy summer dress because they are so easy to wear on the go. ❤
I got some baby blue walking sandals on holiday in Istanbul last year and I’m so looking forward to wearing them again this summer. Recently reorganised my shoe storage and just seeing them made me smile. They go with so many outfits & activities. Baby blue flats are definitely the way forwards. For me, blue and purple are neutrals. It always amazes me when people say winters can wear any shade of blush, beige or yellow. They wash me out so badly, but you look great in that yellow dress. If something gives a nice surprise like that, I think it’s a worthy impulse buy because it adds a lot more interest & long-lasting novelty to the wardrobe.
You view on fashion and clothes, is exactly the same way I approach my clients with food and lifestyle. It’s about balance and understanding, thanks you so much for this info. I’ve tended to stay away from polyester since living in canada, but had never thought of air flow !!!!!
As I grow older and have watched your videos for several years now I've become more aware of my purchases, making a more concerted effort to buy what I love and need, not 'just because I can'. Having said that, you're right - we can splurge every so often - whether it's an impulse buy or spending more than we would normally and if we love that piece we know we'll get lots of wear from/with it.
Thanks to you, Alyssa, and Signe and Christina, I am buying more items pre-loved. I have been stalking a Ralph Lauren skirt on their website for several months . My new rule is to sleep on it and not to buy if I don’t need it. I got 2 wedding invites snd knew it would work! However, I am losing weight and knew it would not fit next spring. So I shopped Poshmark and found a skirt that was probably from last year AND the color will make it a breeze to style with what I have in my closet. I am also sending back online purchases that are not perfect! Baby steps.
I used to avoid anything 100% polyester, because of the bad reputation. But as you said there is quality spectrum in the fabrics. Some polyester feels ‘good’ quality and some polyester feels cheap and plastic.
Hi Alyssa! I loved this video. I am learning more (and this video reinforced the idea) that I just need to try things. Don't restrict yourself because you have the idea "I can't wear that" or "I don't wear that colour/style/fabric" etc. Also hanger appeal can be really deceiving so not to write something off because it looks blah on a hanger.
Recently I did make an unusual impulse purchase. A friend and I had gone for a drive to one of the little country towns nearby. Mainly for coffee 😊😄 and because she felt she needed to get out. We saw a clothing shop that looked like it had some great pieces. It did. My friend was trying on some outfits. I'd seen a pair of 3/4 summer pants that were not my size, not my colour, not on sale, the only pair left but they really "spoke to me". Ultimately my friend and the assistant suggested I try them on anyway. (As I'm not as big as I think I am!) And so I now have a fabulous pair of trousers. It's autumn now so have had to put them away. But before I did I wore them rather a lot. Getting compliments often 😊 On the flip side some impulse buys a few years ago I recently passed on to friends and in some cases to charity shops. I feel good about really beginning to know when to buy and what. I'd begun this some years ago but an glad I've now found your channel too. Have to say as a long legged!! short bodied!!!! woman with a bust your videos are not exactly me but do give ideas. Thank you.
Great video! I love two things you said (phrasing), plus there's a personal takeaway for me to reflect on. First small point, love that you specify that the red shirt is a button-up shirt. So many people now seem to think that a button-down shirt is any shirt with buttons, but it's not! Fussy detail maybe, but I appreciate it. Second: love that you mention the concept of cost per wear! I've long felt that the $25 item which you wear once is expensive, while the $300 item which you wear dozens, or hundreds, of times is not. Finally, your thoughts on impulse purchases had me reflecting that I'm more likely to buy on impulse if the item is deeply discounted. Sometimes these purchases have still served me well, but the price really shouldn't factor in. I love it and it's useful, or I don't and it's not. Thanks again, Alyssa!
I guy a lot from thrift stores on impulse often and if it doesn't fit or look good I just resell it or give it away. I rarely, if ever buy brand new. I have so many wonderful items that I have in my closet that I have had for years and still love them to this day.
I live in the second most humid city of the world. Natural fibres are not a luxury but a necessity and I hate how polyester retains moisture. However, I do have a few polyester pieces for the dry season. It’s great not having to iron it.
I trust my gut more and more. Impulsive can also mean intuitive for me. Some of my best purchases were definitely see it buy it reactions. It doesn’t happen often, so I feel like I can honor the urge.
Today’s topic is great!! I have moved on to thrifting first, if I’m looking for something. I sometimes find that when I purchase a thrifted item, unconsciously I tend to wear it more often than clothes that I’ve had in my wardrobe for years. Does this happen to anyone else? I can’t even explain it. Never been a shopper, always had a limited closet, just recently started thrifting (1 year ago). Am I the only one that does this?
Brilliant! Thank you! I too have some fast fashion fabrics in my wardrobe but I wear them so much, and they bring other parts of my wardrobe together 😊
Ciao! Loved this video, Alyssa. I have picked up items in my travels that have become favourites as well. To me, it just increases that sentimental value too. Merci beaucoup!
seconded! I love a good souvenir with purpose- that's what I consider finds like those. My favorite jewelry pieces are from my travels- they're the perfect souvenir. Super packable, useful, beautiful, and sentimental :)
I've learned fast fashion and well made can go hand in hand. I've got Joe Fresh in my closet for over 10 years now. You just need to be picky about how it's made. Those blue shoes....love, love, love.
Your recommendations are very much appreciated- as always 😊thank you. I bought a red leather jacket about 15 years ago- totally an impulse purchase and it is in my closet to remind me of what you are saying- take a step back and understand the motivation 😅
I truly love your approach to fashion consumption. You always make me think about ways to look at the things I am interested in acquiring and why. And to start taking a breath before pulling the proverbial trigger on pulling out the payment card. Thanks so much❤
Color isn't as hard as everyone thinks. It can absolutely function as a "neutral." I would say the most difficult part of color, is shopping for it, and seeing qualities of a color in a single garment. It's hard to understand the nature of a color, when you don't have other colors similar colors to compare it to. So if you are looking for light blue: is it icy? is it pastel? Is it closer to white or closer to blue? All of those questions can make a difference when pairing a garment with color in your wardrobe and completely understandable that people don't want to add that on, when you have to sift through fit, style, fabric composition to find something to wear. Then it may only be offered in 3 colors. So you just end up buying black, because there is always a black option.
Good Morning Alyssa! The more I travel with a "capsule wardrobe" the more I appreciate all of your advice. Just packing now for a trip to Scandinavia and it will be so much easier with your all of your tips in mind. Also, I'm staying at Bryggen Guldsmeden!
hi Alyssa. love this video so much. I made my realy think about a wide leg, linnen trouser i bought last year, but i wor it only twice. I was in to it because it was linnen, but i realy hated te fit, so a had it alterd, but i kept hating it. now it sits there, wasting space, money en effort. but i think i give it one last chance.
Great video Alyssa! I love how human you are and very real! You live outside a box when it comes to fashion and you are very creative and energetic!! On the subject of polyester pants that turned out to be worth it. Can you maybe please make a video on good and bad fabric blends? Both naturals and synthetic fabrics please 🙏🏾 Thank you 😊❤
Thank you for a great video! I'm watching you in the last 2 or 3 years and I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for all the wonderful content.... I've learned so much and I've taken some of your Mottos and I'm using them in other aspects of my life. Let's just say I sometimes grab my husband in the last 30 years to bed, and tell him 'loving and using what you already have'. So I guess I'm not the only one who's grateful in our family 😅😅😅
All important points, especially that your examples were found in person so you can use the feel test on fabric. I also push pause for a minimum of 24 hours to check my impulses. 😊 It saves my wallet! 😂
I agree about the importance of in-person shopping! The weight, drape, texture of an item are difficult or impossible to determine from photos - but are such important characteristics.
Great video that offers a balanced realistic approach to impulse purchases. Appreciate your perspective and for sharing! Btw, that red looks fabulous one you 😊
Love this topic - always super interesting to hear your perspective and learn from you. Love the idea of mulling over an impulse buy before you purchase it and focussing on fabric feel.
Oh my gosh! I impulse purchased an oversized, flame orangey red button up shirt this year! haha. I love wearing it and incorporating it into my neutrals.
My impulse buys are less of a disaster than a decade ago. I know more about myself now, so "it's on sale" and "it just looks pretty" is not the reasons they come home with me anymore. 😅
You are so beautiful!! I absolutely love all your videos. Your smile is always the first thing I love about your videos. Thank you for your advice and your encouragement. So wonderful!🥰
What do you think about wearing the baby blue flats with the yellow dress? It may work! I really appreciate your thoughts about slow fashion. I too made an impulse purchase on a pair of black wide trousers that are made of polyester. They were so comfortable but more importantly I felt that they were very flattering on me. My goal is to stop making so many impulse purchases and start shopping my closet more. I am getting there!
Hi. I know you do “shop your closet” events but would you consider doing an actual shop with one of your viewers at a second hand store when you are in a new city? I’m in Toronto😊
My all-time favourites of your impulse purchases are that gorgeous second-hand buttoned jacket/blazer/cardigan from Portugal, and that stunning black maxi dress with the front split that you got in... uh, either Croatia or Italy? :) And yes, this red shirt!
Alyssa, I love your content and you have motivated me to adopt slow fashion in a way that I wouldn’t have been able to do on my own❤️ and even though our body types are completely different, even I get attracted more towards neutrals and resonate with your style. But nowadays I am having trouble minimizing my impulsive purchase for skin and personal care. Any suggestions on how to do the same?
@snehadhar8037 I remember Drew Barrymore did a segment on her show, maybe in 2023. She freely admitted she's a makeup-aholic 😁 She brought tubs of her makeup products from home into the studio, and sorted them on camera. And talked about why she'd bought so much. ➡ So, I think getting everything you have out onto a surface can be a good start. You can sort products into groups - which will instantly show if you're purchasing too many of the same thing. Eg Face Masks, Serums, Lipsticks. You may also be able to let some items go which aren't 'best of category' or your favorite. (Either donate to a friend, or use up the product on your hands/elbows/legs/arms etc.) ➡ When I had a break between jobs some years ago, and I was home more, I counted that I had 35 face washes and cleansers in the cupboard and on the bathroom counter. I was quite surprised!! But realised that I purchased a new version nearly every time I shopped. So I just stopped for awhile. Understanding that I used these products at a much slower rate than I was buying them. I also realised that my skin had changed with age, and some of the cleansers were too harsh now. I donated the unopened packs, and binned the half-used. ➡ Lastly, Alyssa talked in her video here about looking deeper into our habits of Impulse Purchase. What's going on at the point we buy? Are we online? Is it a little 'me time' away from the kids. Are we buying for our Fantasy Selves? and more. Good luck 😀
@@comealongcomealong4480 Thanks a lot!! ❤️ This helps. I will implement above suggestions this weekend and will have to probably check the expiry dates as well 🫣
@@snehadhar8037 I think you'll feel happier about your beauty purchases and use more of them when you know your inventory 😊 I wanted to reach out to you because when I told my sister about the 35 face washes I'd counted, she made exasperated disapproving noises on the phone. She didn't understand what I was trying to express - just judged me for being a useless spender 😳 Have a great weekend!
I got a question if anyone can help answer… I get the impression dress pants are for working in an office. I rarely wear dress pants instead i wear jeans as a daily wear Should I change my outlook? For example, I wouldn’t take dress pants on vacation
Definitely, give it a go. Especially if you dress it down with something unexpected. I remember years ago I was visiting my cousin in Sweden and we went for a walk around her neighbourhood in Stockholm. She wore a pair of voluminous black dress pants with a cute summer top. It was so effortlessly chic. You can also dress it up for evening. I was just thinking of buying a new pair of black dress pants for weekend wear. We've recently moved and I have more use for dressy casual wear. Maybe play around with your wardrobe and see if you have items to wear with the pants to make them weekend appropriate.
@@isainmaine You've probably thought already of trying ThredUp, Depop, Poshmark, EBay, Vestiare Collective etc. One of the online consignment stores. Hope you get lucky 👍
One of the reasons I follow you I’d because you have similar colouring to me but I wear heaps of colour! I think you look great in that red shirt. Jewel tones are my go to I rarely wear an outfit of all neutrals without a pop of colour as it’s not my personality. I totally get the impulse thing but have got much better lately at waiting to really think about buying stuff and whether it will fit in with the rest of my clothes. I’m currently trying to do the #75hardstylechallenge and succeeded till yesterday when I had noticed a jumper in the sale that was just like one I used to have but had to let go because it got too small for me. I loved that jumper and this was 100% cotton and will go with everything and reduced so have succumbed. It was in my basket from last Thursday till Sunday so I really thought about it! 😂
There's something about these light blue items - I bought a clutch bag in this color a few years ago. I wasn't sure if it was a good idea, but it works like a pair of blue jeans - it goes with almost everything in my closet! 🩵 Thank you for sharing your thoughts on spontaneous shopping, sometimes it's just ok to do so when needed.
I would love to purchase a ticket for the shop your closet event but I’m unable to attend live on May25th. Are there options or do I just catch the next one? Thanks 😊
Lots of good points in this video. Thanks. I'd like to know you asked the shops to hold the items you were considering for 24hr before you bought them. Since they were purchased at vintage or second hand shops, did they hold them for you? Does that happen in a thrift shop?
I starter a job where I have to wear scrubs and I miss my clothes and feel like blaaaa. I only wear my clothes on weekends and it makes me feel like such a waste. I have full closet of clothes and no occasion to wear them. I don’t want to go shopping, I just want to wear my clothes. Just a thought… 🤗
Picnic at the park on Friday after work!! I make occasions to wear some of my pieces. Big party at Xmas at my house; meet up w a friend for a cocktail etc.
Hi Alyssa, thanks for the very insightful video! Just a question: if you were able to make these items yourself or have them made for you exactly the way you wanted them to be, would the black pant still be hq-polyester and the light gray sweater synthetic? Or would you prefer other materials when it comes down to wearability/practicality in very warm/very cold weather and durability?
what an excellent question ... honestly i like the durability of the polyester here ... but if i could find a similar tropical wool i would go with that ...
I love your balanced approach to slow fashion. Not shaming or guilting people for making occasional unplanned purchases. I think this approach is more realistic and sustainable. Love your channel.
Glad you are enjoying this approach!
Hi Alyssa! I live in Portugal and would love to know what boutique you got those trousers from!
You’re so right about not being so rigid that we are stuck in a box - for example your polyester pants. They work, they feel good, they wear well.
Thank you for watching!
As a plus sized woman, I don't always have the option of natural fibers or slow fashion companies. There is just less to choose from. I appreciate you acknowledging that there is room for these if they check the right boxes.
I thrift everything. I buy nothing new. I don't buy things because they are cheap, just things that are high quality and fit into my wardrobe. If something doesn't work I sell it online or re-donate. I sometimes find surprise items, maybe vintage or designer, that I would never consider would suit me, but they can become my wardrobe staples, and no one else has them. So I can impulse buy with confidence.
Thank you for not trying to impose an orthodoxy that would limit your creativity. It is so sad when extreme restrictions are placed to following a slow fashion lifestyle, sometimes to the point that original style and creativity disappear.
Great video. Impulse buys are far less problematic if you know yourself and your style really well, because it’s very likely that you will genuinely use them often.
Well said!
@@AlyssaBeltempoThank you.
Hip, hip, hooray!!! Every time you’ve done a culling exercise, I’ve feared for the future of the red Bill Blass shirt. You look fantastic in it, and you’ve made it work in such an appealing way. It brings a smile to my face every time I see it. If there’s a fan club for the shirt, I want to join it! I’m so glad you let your vintage store owner friend persuade you to try it. Bravissima!
I treat baby blue in my closet almost like a denim, I don’t really consider it a “color”. Treating it like a denim has made for some surprising outfit combinations.
Yup, blue in my wardrobe is a neutral colour too, unless it's mixed with green or looks cobalt.
I can’t believe you don’t like red. You look beautiful in red!
thank you! It depends on the type of red!
I second your statement on not focusing only on the material contents but also on the quality and feel. As much as I like natural fabrics inmy sweaters and shirts, I have found that I dislike wearing 100% cotton T-shirts! I feel so much better in my Uniqlo Airism and Heat tech poly blend shirts, camis and longsleeves...and they last and last and dont smell. In pants, lots of my vintage dress pants are poly and they are really nice quality and dont wrinkle.
Thank you for sharing! ❤
I so agree! I have some wonderful lightweight poly trouser pants and blouses that are really good quality and fabulous for travel as they don’t wrinkle and they weigh almost nothing to pack. They make an instant elevated outfit and I wear them a lot!
One of my absolute must for purchasing an item is I have to love it on my self, even if it’s a basic white tee. If I’m not dancing in the mirrors with delight, I’m not purchasing it, period.
Great topic! I looked in my closet at my impulse buys and two things popped out immediately - bold colors and texture. I think it’s because neutrals feel safe and undoubtedly will offer a good return on investment. But my style words are “flowy,” “layered” and “unexpected” so every once in a while my inner stylist rears up and says “we need something unexpected!”
When I wear those items, I feel special, and get lots of compliments. It’s like you in the yellow dress, when you feel good about how you look, you shine!
Totally agree with your point about polyester. My favourite pair of flowy trousers is made of polyester too, and they are really light and breathable, easy to take care of (I had a viscose pair before which shrunk after the first machine wash at delicate cycle). However I don't own a single polyester top, because I get a sauna effect momentaniosly, just because they are too close to the body 😅
So glad you talked about the benefits of polyester. Some of my *nicest* clothing is high quality polyester. It's wrinkle resistant and drapes well. There's also a lot of cheap polyester out there, but that's a cost decision that a brand makes, not inherent to the fabric in general.
Yep, I bought a lot of high quality "corporate" wear, suits, blazers, suit slacks, blouses, when I was working. An awful lot of it was at least a poly blend. Wool with a bit of poly? Cotton with some poly? It looked great, it wore well, it was easy to care for.
I really don't mind good polyester in trousers, especially that they're usually worn for work. You don't want them all wrinkly
Yes! I loved this video so much. In the past, I've been made to feel guilty for loving polyester or acrylic fast-fashion items I have had for years. Now I feel like you've given me "permission" to love them openly. Thank you. I am on a 5-year no-buy streak, so it will take a LOT to convince me to buy a new piece, especially if it isn't truly functional or special like those blue flats.
😉Her baby blue ballet flats make 💯% sense in her wardrobe, but maybe not in yours. Thought Alyssa made a valid point how certain colors that become beloved💖 in our closet can actually start to serve as a neutral for us.
Love mostly dark neutrals, but I do have a smattering of lights & brights. Adore a tonal & matching monochromatic look, but I don't want to own shoes in every color of the 🌈rainbow.
Other than my white sneakers, I look for a variety of shoes in navy, black, brown, & gray. Metallics work when nothing else will do. Trying to find some nude or even light tan options to go w/my other colors.
😊Find fashion influencers & other folks online push natural fibers like they are the 💫 holy grail〰️but the truth is touch & my instincts on comfort in my extreme 😎LA climate has never steered me wrong.
Of course, we rarely if ever experience any high humidity w/our 🌞sun & high heat🌡. Dry heat has it's own challenges, but any tropical humidity is a killer...
Besides, never been a fan of the feel of silk😖 or how messy natural linen looks after a few hours in it😂.
🤓While I love cotton, it's weight & breathability is also important. Always been truly picky in a tactile sense. Have had excellent experiences w/synthetics & also tech fabrics that have moisture😰 wicking properties.
😠Do hate the sense of superiority & shaming that seems to exist in this realm. ❤May you wear your favorite pieces w/joy & abandon🎉!
💚Bridget from Cali☘️
(using my pal's YT acct)
Nice job on your no-buy streak!!
@@teresacarle294 IKR wrt influencer pushing sponsorships with LIlysilk over how creased it gets and messy it looks, I have a ton of natural fibre items but they need so much "coddling" I rarely wear them.
I would adore those flats in the exact same colour as Alyssa's. They would absolutely make sense in my light-neutral wardrobe .
I live in South Africa (right now) where the weather is absolutely mental. So I need a balanced wardrobe. Since I travel quite a bit, creasing etc is an issue since no one wants to pay for hotel ironing fees all the time or travel with a travel iron which, IMHO, doesn't do that great anyway.
I love some easy-wear items and find I only reach for the silks, linens and so on while on vacations or time at home. It doesn't make much sense in a high-use wardrobe.
Alyssa is my favourite since she is always encouraging me to think outside the box.
@@ConserveMore Thank you! I have worked very hard to get to the point where I am 100% happy with what I have.
to be honest, sometimes my well thought out purchases were a dud and impulse worked out much better. I guess impulse sometimes is an intuition and giving yourself too much time just makes you justify something that may not be for you. good video and a different persepctive.
@TheSharmam Your slightly brutal use of the word 'dud' had me lol 😄 I ALWAYS think I'll get the wrong buys to work somehow. More often than not, it's the long march through various closets and shelves, till finally hitting the donate pile. Your word 'dud' immediately made me think of some seriously considered failures. Often for a big price, thinking they'd be 'forever items'.
I have the same thing! My impulse buys often work better than the ones I research and plan for.
I’m also a cool toned high contrasting person who loves yellow. I understand
Ahhhh so glad you understand!!
This is so good. I have items that have shocked me because they became so versatile in my wardrobe, things that I can’t imagine getting rid of. On the other hand I try to exclusively shop second hand which is pretty challenging when I also try so hard to be thoughtful of fabrics and do a more muted approach to style and fashion. I’m an Eileen fisher and Vince kind of girl so finding timeless pieces are very hit and miss. But gosh sometimes I just grab a polyester cutesy summer dress because they are so easy to wear on the go. ❤
I got some baby blue walking sandals on holiday in Istanbul last year and I’m so looking forward to wearing them again this summer. Recently reorganised my shoe storage and just seeing them made me smile. They go with so many outfits & activities. Baby blue flats are definitely the way forwards. For me, blue and purple are neutrals. It always amazes me when people say winters can wear any shade of blush, beige or yellow. They wash me out so badly, but you look great in that yellow dress. If something gives a nice surprise like that, I think it’s a worthy impulse buy because it adds a lot more interest & long-lasting novelty to the wardrobe.
You view on fashion and clothes, is exactly the same way I approach my clients with food and lifestyle. It’s about balance and understanding, thanks you so much for this info. I’ve tended to stay away from polyester since living in canada, but had never thought of air flow !!!!!
As I grow older and have watched your videos for several years now I've become more aware of my purchases, making a more concerted effort to buy what I love and need, not 'just because I can'. Having said that, you're right - we can splurge every so often - whether it's an impulse buy or spending more than we would normally and if we love that piece we know we'll get lots of wear from/with it.
Did you say the red was a cool red? It looks very warm on my monitor.
Thanks to you, Alyssa, and Signe and Christina, I am buying more items pre-loved. I have been stalking a Ralph Lauren skirt on their website for several months . My new rule is to sleep on it and not to buy if I don’t need it. I got 2 wedding invites snd knew it would work! However, I am losing weight and knew it would not fit next spring. So I shopped Poshmark and found a skirt that was probably from last year AND the color will make it a breeze to style with what I have in my closet. I am also sending back online purchases that are not perfect! Baby steps.
That’s great Kathy! Shopping secondhand and rethinking purchases is so important ❤
That yellow dress looks adorable on you! So Italian, if you follow Italian street style, they wear tons of color!
You look amazing in that red color!
I agree. I love dark haired people with olive tone skin in red 😊
You look stunning in red, Alyssa. I am relatively new to your Chanel but your style and approach to fashion/style is completely my gem.❤
Agree. I dont want to rewrite everything I want to be mindful about my choices.❤
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I used to avoid anything 100% polyester, because of the bad reputation. But as you said there is quality spectrum in the fabrics. Some polyester feels ‘good’ quality and some polyester feels cheap and plastic.
Hi Alyssa! I loved this video. I am learning more (and this video reinforced the idea) that I just need to try things. Don't restrict yourself because you have the idea "I can't wear that" or "I don't wear that colour/style/fabric" etc. Also hanger appeal can be really deceiving so not to write something off because it looks blah on a hanger.
Recently I did make an unusual impulse purchase. A friend and I had gone for a drive to one of the little country towns nearby. Mainly for coffee 😊😄 and because she felt she needed to get out.
We saw a clothing shop that looked like it had some great pieces. It did. My friend was trying on some outfits. I'd seen a pair of 3/4 summer pants that were not my size, not my colour, not on sale, the only pair left but they really "spoke to me".
Ultimately my friend and the assistant suggested I try them on anyway. (As I'm not as big as I think I am!)
And so I now have a fabulous pair of trousers.
It's autumn now so have had to put them away. But before I did I wore them rather a lot. Getting compliments often 😊
On the flip side some impulse buys a few years ago I recently passed on to friends and in some cases to charity shops.
I feel good about really beginning to know when to buy and what.
I'd begun this some years ago but an glad I've now found your channel too.
Have to say as a long legged!! short bodied!!!! woman with a bust your videos are not exactly me but do give ideas.
Thank you.
Great video! The yellow dress is gorgeous.
My best unplanned purchase was a Ralph Lauren paisley velvet fringed scarf. It was love at first site. Grabbed it and checked out.
Great video! I love two things you said (phrasing), plus there's a personal takeaway for me to reflect on. First small point, love that you specify that the red shirt is a button-up shirt. So many people now seem to think that a button-down shirt is any shirt with buttons, but it's not! Fussy detail maybe, but I appreciate it. Second: love that you mention the concept of cost per wear! I've long felt that the $25 item which you wear once is expensive, while the $300 item which you wear dozens, or hundreds, of times is not. Finally, your thoughts on impulse purchases had me reflecting that I'm more likely to buy on impulse if the item is deeply discounted. Sometimes these purchases have still served me well, but the price really shouldn't factor in. I love it and it's useful, or I don't and it's not. Thanks again, Alyssa!
These are great reflections thank you for sharing!!
Very good points. 👍😊
I'm not a polyester snob. Some of my favorite pieces are polyester, and they do not look the least bit cheap.
I guy a lot from thrift stores on impulse often and if it doesn't fit or look good I just resell it or give it away. I rarely, if ever buy brand new. I have so many wonderful items that I have in my closet that I have had for years and still love them to this day.
Wow! You look wonderful in red!
I live in the second most humid city of the world. Natural fibres are not a luxury but a necessity and I hate how polyester retains moisture. However, I do have a few polyester pieces for the dry season. It’s great not having to iron it.
I trust my gut more and more. Impulsive can also mean intuitive for me. Some of my best purchases were definitely see it buy it reactions. It doesn’t happen often, so I feel like I can honor the urge.
A really interesting video! Thank you!
Yes. They are some really strong pieces that are adult, sophisticated and wearable!❤
Today’s topic is great!!
I have moved on to thrifting first, if I’m looking for something.
I sometimes find that when I purchase a thrifted item, unconsciously I tend to wear it more often than clothes that I’ve had in my wardrobe for years. Does this happen to anyone else?
I can’t even explain it.
Never been a shopper, always had a limited closet, just recently started thrifting (1 year ago).
Am I the only one that does this?
Yes the same happens for me, I'm less concerned to get an item stained or worn out if I've purchased it second hand.
Hi Alyssa, where was your stripe off the shoulder top from?
Hi, what was the brand of the black trousers? Thanks.
Love that red shirt!!
A visceral LOVE for the item. Love how you articulated that.
Brilliant! Thank you! I too have some fast fashion fabrics in my wardrobe but I wear them so much, and they bring other parts of my wardrobe together 😊
Thank you, Alyssa. Great exercise to identify our patterns and also be understanding with ourselves. ❤
I’m so glad you appreciate that!❤
Ciao! Loved this video, Alyssa. I have picked up items in my travels that have become favourites as well. To me, it just increases that sentimental value too. Merci beaucoup!
Great point about sentimental value!
seconded! I love a good souvenir with purpose- that's what I consider finds like those. My favorite jewelry pieces are from my travels- they're the perfect souvenir. Super packable, useful, beautiful, and sentimental :)
Me too!❤
I live in the land of sewing what I cannot find and thrifting when I can and this video speaks to me!❤
I've learned fast fashion and well made can go hand in hand. I've got Joe Fresh in my closet for over 10 years now. You just need to be picky about how it's made.
Those blue shoes....love, love, love.
You look so great in that red.
Your recommendations are very much appreciated- as always 😊thank you. I bought a red leather jacket about 15 years ago- totally an impulse purchase and it is in my closet to remind me of what you are saying- take a step back and understand the motivation 😅
Oh wow sounds like a fun purchase!
I truly love your approach to fashion consumption. You always make me think about ways to look at the things I am interested in acquiring and why. And to start taking a breath before pulling the proverbial trigger on pulling out the payment card. Thanks so much❤
Thanks for giving permission to open the parameters
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Color isn't as hard as everyone thinks. It can absolutely function as a "neutral." I would say the most difficult part of color, is shopping for it, and seeing qualities of a color in a single garment. It's hard to understand the nature of a color, when you don't have other colors similar colors to compare it to. So if you are looking for light blue: is it icy? is it pastel? Is it closer to white or closer to blue? All of those questions can make a difference when pairing a garment with color in your wardrobe and completely understandable that people don't want to add that on, when you have to sift through fit, style, fabric composition to find something to wear. Then it may only be offered in 3 colors. So you just end up buying black, because there is always a black option.
Good Morning Alyssa! The more I travel with a "capsule wardrobe" the more I appreciate all of your advice. Just packing now for a trip to Scandinavia and it will be so much easier with your all of your tips in mind.
Also, I'm staying at Bryggen Guldsmeden!
Omg! Love to hear this! Have a wonderful trip and enjoy the hotel you will LOVE IT❤
Excellent video, Alyssa. Thank you ❤ You have made such an impact on my shopping, and I'm extremely grateful 🛍 😌
Terrific video Alyssa! Especially the questions to ask yourself when you are thinking of making an impulse buy!❤
Excellent! Loved this today and excited to just celebrate the clothing I have.
hi Alyssa. love this video so much. I made my realy think about a wide leg, linnen trouser i bought last year, but i wor it only twice. I was in to it because it was linnen, but i realy hated te fit, so a had it alterd, but i kept hating it. now it sits there, wasting space, money en effort. but i think i give it one last chance.
Great video Alyssa! I love how human you are and very real! You live outside a box when it comes to fashion and you are very creative and energetic!! On the subject of polyester pants that turned out to be worth it. Can you maybe please make a video on good and bad fabric blends? Both naturals and synthetic fabrics please 🙏🏾 Thank you 😊❤
Thank you so much for these kind words, I really take them to heart! this is a great suggestion- thank you ❤️
Va va va voom! That red on you…a knockout!
Thank you for a great video! I'm watching you in the last 2 or 3 years and I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for all the wonderful content.... I've learned so much and I've taken some of your Mottos and I'm using them in other aspects of my life. Let's just say I sometimes grab my husband in the last 30 years to bed, and tell him 'loving and using what you already have'. So I guess I'm not the only one who's grateful in our family 😅😅😅
this is amazing thank you so much for the kind words!
That is a hilarious and wonderful application of that phrase!
I will be stealing that application for my husband… 😃
All important points, especially that your examples were found in person so you can use the feel test on fabric. I also push pause for a minimum of 24 hours to check my impulses. 😊 It saves my wallet! 😂
It definitely does!
I agree about the importance of in-person shopping! The weight, drape, texture of an item are difficult or impossible to determine from photos - but are such important characteristics.
Great video that offers a balanced realistic approach to impulse purchases. Appreciate your perspective and for sharing! Btw, that red looks fabulous one you 😊
Love this topic - always super interesting to hear your perspective and learn from you. Love the idea of mulling over an impulse buy before you purchase it and focussing on fabric feel.
Oh my gosh! I impulse purchased an oversized, flame orangey red button up shirt this year! haha. I love wearing it and incorporating it into my neutrals.
When could you talk about the beautiful patterned sweater that was on the rail with your impulse buys? It is gorgeous!
Brilliant Alyssa! I just love the way you reason! 👌
Great video! You look amazing in the cool-tone red shirt.
My impulse buys are less of a disaster than a decade ago. I know more about myself now, so "it's on sale" and "it just looks pretty" is not the reasons they come home with me anymore. 😅
This is the way!!
You are so beautiful!! I absolutely love all your videos. Your smile is always the first thing I love about your videos. Thank you for your advice and your encouragement. So wonderful!🥰
what a great topic for a video---very well done!
I really enjoyed this! Thank you !
What do you think about wearing the baby blue flats with the yellow dress? It may work! I really appreciate your thoughts about slow fashion. I too made an impulse purchase on a pair of black wide trousers that are made of polyester. They were so comfortable but more importantly I felt that they were very flattering on me. My goal is to stop making so many impulse purchases and start shopping my closet more. I am getting there!
Hi. I know you do “shop your closet” events but would you consider doing an actual shop with one of your viewers at a second hand store when you are in a new city? I’m in Toronto😊
I love that idea! I’m also in Toronto 😅 I’m sure we can point you to the best thrift stores in Toronto!
This would be fun!! Esp with a small group!
@@AlyssaBeltempo Yes, I agree that it would be fun. We can all learn from one another and perhaps grab a coffee.
You look amazing in the yellow dress, so there. :)
My all-time favourites of your impulse purchases are that gorgeous second-hand buttoned jacket/blazer/cardigan from Portugal, and that stunning black maxi dress with the front split that you got in... uh, either Croatia or Italy? :) And yes, this red shirt!
Always so informative!
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Hello Alyssa! Do you have a list of some sort of slow fashion brands ?
Alyssa, I love your content and you have motivated me to adopt slow fashion in a way that I wouldn’t have been able to do on my own❤️ and even though our body types are completely different, even I get attracted more towards neutrals and resonate with your style. But nowadays I am having trouble minimizing my impulsive purchase for skin and personal care. Any suggestions on how to do the same?
@snehadhar8037 I remember Drew Barrymore did a segment on her show, maybe in 2023. She freely admitted she's a makeup-aholic 😁 She brought tubs of her makeup products from home into the studio, and sorted them on camera. And talked about why she'd bought so much.
➡ So, I think getting everything you have out onto a surface can be a good start. You can sort products into groups - which will instantly show if you're purchasing too many of the same thing. Eg Face Masks, Serums, Lipsticks. You may also be able to let some items go which aren't 'best of category' or your favorite. (Either donate to a friend, or use up the product on your hands/elbows/legs/arms etc.)
➡ When I had a break between jobs some years ago, and I was home more, I counted that I had 35 face washes and cleansers in the cupboard and on the bathroom counter. I was quite surprised!! But realised that I purchased a new version nearly every time I shopped. So I just stopped for awhile. Understanding that I used these products at a much slower rate than I was buying them. I also realised that my skin had changed with age, and some of the cleansers were too harsh now. I donated the unopened packs, and binned the half-used.
➡ Lastly, Alyssa talked in her video here about looking deeper into our habits of Impulse Purchase. What's going on at the point we buy? Are we online? Is it a little 'me time' away from the kids. Are we buying for our Fantasy Selves? and more. Good luck 😀
@@comealongcomealong4480 Thanks a lot!! ❤️ This helps. I will implement above suggestions this weekend and will have to probably check the expiry dates as well 🫣
@@snehadhar8037 I think you'll feel happier about your beauty purchases and use more of them when you know your inventory 😊 I wanted to reach out to you because when I told my sister about the 35 face washes I'd counted, she made exasperated disapproving noises on the phone. She didn't understand what I was trying to express - just judged me for being a useless spender 😳 Have a great weekend!
I got a question if anyone can help answer… I get the impression dress pants are for working in an office. I rarely wear dress pants instead i wear jeans as a daily wear
Should I change my outlook?
For example, I wouldn’t take dress pants on vacation
Definitely, give it a go. Especially if you dress it down with something unexpected.
I remember years ago I was visiting my cousin in Sweden and we went for a walk around her neighbourhood in Stockholm. She wore a pair of voluminous black dress pants with a cute summer top. It was so effortlessly chic.
You can also dress it up for evening.
I was just thinking of buying a new pair of black dress pants for weekend wear. We've recently moved and I have more use for dressy casual wear.
Maybe play around with your wardrobe and see if you have items to wear with the pants to make them weekend appropriate.
I think you look just as lovely in the yellow as usual.
Does anyone know the spelling of the brand of black pants?
They are Beatrice B :)
@@AlyssaBeltempo thank you!
@@AlyssaBeltempoI have been searching for that syle pant and it looks like Beatrice B is not making that flat front elastic on the back style anymore.
Also what brand is the striped off the shoulder top that you are wearing.
@@isainmaine You've probably thought already of trying ThredUp, Depop, Poshmark, EBay, Vestiare Collective etc. One of the online consignment stores. Hope you get lucky 👍
One of the reasons I follow you I’d because you have similar colouring to me but I wear heaps of colour! I think you look great in that red shirt. Jewel tones are my go to I rarely wear an outfit of all neutrals without a pop of colour as it’s not my personality. I totally get the impulse thing but have got much better lately at waiting to really think about buying stuff and whether it will fit in with the rest of my clothes. I’m currently trying to do the #75hardstylechallenge and succeeded till yesterday when I had noticed a jumper in the sale that was just like one I used to have but had to let go because it got too small for me. I loved that jumper and this was 100% cotton and will go with everything and reduced so have succumbed. It was in my basket from last Thursday till Sunday so I really thought about it! 😂
Hello,
New subscriber. I love your style. Greetings from Vancouver, BC
There's something about these light blue items - I bought a clutch bag in this color a few years ago. I wasn't sure if it was a good idea, but it works like a pair of blue jeans - it goes with almost everything in my closet! 🩵 Thank you for sharing your thoughts on spontaneous shopping, sometimes it's just ok to do so when needed.
Damn… That red shirt is just amazing on you! Amazing, amazing! And that H&M jacket on your rack, is always a true gem for the eyes!
Hello Alyssa, do you know the Kaai bags? I am interested in the ikon shoulder bag, but there are not so many reviews out there….
Thank you
I would love to purchase a ticket for the shop your closet event but I’m unable to attend live on May25th. Are there options or do I just catch the next one? Thanks 😊
We send the recording to anyone who buys a ticket but cannot attend OR you can catch the next one! It will be in September !
Brilliant!
Lots of good points in this video. Thanks. I'd like to know you asked the shops to hold the items you were considering for 24hr before you bought them. Since they were purchased at vintage or second hand shops, did they hold them for you? Does that happen in a thrift shop?
I didn’t ask for a hold just left them … figured if it wasn’t meant to be they’d be gone!
@AlyssaBeltempo good metaphor for life, eh?! That's what I've done... But - ohhhh, sometimes, I should have just forked out the cash on the spot!♥️
What’s the brand of the black trousers?
What is the brocade (?) jacket/piece on the rack? I don't think you mentioned it.
It is another very old piece that I received as part of a collaboration !
I starter a job where I have to wear scrubs and I miss my clothes and feel like blaaaa. I only wear my clothes on weekends and it makes me feel like such a waste. I have full closet of clothes and no occasion to wear them. I don’t want to go shopping, I just want to wear my clothes. Just a thought… 🤗
Picnic at the park on Friday after work!! I make occasions to wear some of my pieces. Big party at Xmas at my house; meet up w a friend for a cocktail etc.
Hi Alyssa, thanks for the very insightful video! Just a question: if you were able to make these items yourself or have them made for you exactly the way you wanted them to be, would the black pant still be hq-polyester and the light gray sweater synthetic? Or would you prefer other materials when it comes down to wearability/practicality in very warm/very cold weather and durability?
what an excellent question ... honestly i like the durability of the polyester here ... but if i could find a similar tropical wool i would go with that ...
What brand is de sweater from?
It is Joe Fresh!