The ENTP Empath: A Different Perspective

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  • Опубліковано 26 лип 2024
  • Why are do so many ENTPs mistype as INFJs? In this video I present a new look at the ENTP personality type, and explore the ways in which this type is far more empathetic than commonly understood.
    Does the scientific-debator ENTP exist? Absolutely, but I would argue this is a rarer manifestation of a type that typically employs far more Extraverted Feeling than the modern paradigms would suggest.
    5 Signs You're Not An ENTP: • 5 Signs You're Not An ...
    More information on different forms of empathy: • Understanding Empathy
    Special thanks to Kiara Kerrick for the subtitles!
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    About me:
    Hi, I'm Harry, and I'm intensely passionate about personality typing and self-development - so much so that I have created my own Jung-inspired system, taking a more high-resolution look at the factors making up personality.
    Through Cognitive Personality Theory I examine the underlying mechanisms behind cognition, and the means through which a single type can have limitless individual variation - I believe type itself is just a set of cognitive predispositions that can according to the needs of the situation be overcome.
    I don't believe any type is limited in what they can achieve, but have noticed sensationalist attitudes and internet trends propagating a culture in which type-development is actively discouraged in favour of conforming to simplistic archetypes. Through CPT I hope to dispel various myths and oversimplifications of what constitutes personality type, and along the way encourage a healthier attitude towards type that allows a person to become not who they are told they are, but rather who they want to be.
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    00:00 - Introduction
    02:0O - The ENTP Misunderstanding
    03:54 - Cognitive Dynamics
    08:53 - Why ENTPs seek Social Affirmation
    11:02 - Ne-Fe Digital Acclimation
    12:08 - ENTP Empathy
    17:52 - ENTP vs INFJ I - Social Styles
    23:18 - ENTP vs INFJ II - Relationships
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    KEY
    Ni/Introverted Intuition - Broad & plethoric perception of internal world.
    Ne/Extraverted Intuition - Broad & plethoric perception of external world.
    Si/Introverted Sensing - Specific and concrete perception of internal world.
    Se/Extraverted Sensing - Specific and concrete perception of external world.
    Fi/Introverted Feeling - Subjective codec; internal emotional data & harmony.
    Fe/Extraverted Feeling - Subjective codec; external emotional data & harmony.
    Ti/Introverted Thinking - Objective codec; internal logical order.
    Te/Extraverted Thinking - Objective codec; external logical order.
    Lens - Perceives data.
    Codec - Rationalises data.
    Convergent - Positive, creative, enacting change and seeking novelty.
    Divergent - Negative, authoritative, instilling consequence and driving utility.
    For more clarification on terms see the CPT eBook!
    #ENTP #INFJ #16personalities

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  • @avocadoperson
    @avocadoperson 4 роки тому +1325

    Thanks for being the first person on the internet who doesn't call entps sociopaths I'm so touched that I have to emojis 😭🤧🥺😌

    • @CognitivePersonalityTheory
      @CognitivePersonalityTheory  4 роки тому +173

      My pleasure! I know too many kind & sensitive ENTPs in real life to let this unfair stereotype continue unabated.

    • @Talkingwithfamouspeople
      @Talkingwithfamouspeople 4 роки тому +90

      "I'm so touched I have to emojis," lol. I'ma have to cop that, good stuff.

    • @revolutionfrommahbed4246
      @revolutionfrommahbed4246 4 роки тому +36

      I know - right??? This is so ridiculously validating 💜💜💜. And eerily on point. Thank youuuu 😘😊

    • @Haru-nee
      @Haru-nee 4 роки тому +13

      Eff it. I wanna be a sociopath. It'll be much more peaceful.

    • @Haru-nee
      @Haru-nee 4 роки тому +3

      Also, how do you know you're not an INTP? I need help.

  • @troper3604
    @troper3604 3 роки тому +460

    I always found it weird that how a type so exceptionally good at putting themselves in other people's shoes supposedly was "bad" with emotions.

    • @CognitivePersonalityTheory
      @CognitivePersonalityTheory  3 роки тому +37

      Agreed

    • @fleetingfootnotes9133
      @fleetingfootnotes9133 2 роки тому +18

      Oh? I thought it was to be expected; how much time do they have for their own emotions? And if they need to be alone too much they won't have much outside input for reflection. It's a bit like they'd need to pull their own weight, but they're not into pulling. So I can imagine their mental own-emotion muscles atrophying.

    • @ivaylotsankov7292
      @ivaylotsankov7292 2 роки тому +7

      @@fleetingfootnotes9133 Even after severe atrophying lifelong they are still stronger than AT LEAST half of the 16.

    • @ViguLiviu
      @ViguLiviu Рік тому +2

      Because if you actually do have intense emotions you can't guarantee that you can get the social outcome that you want because the situation in question requiers a different emotion. Feelings have sense as a reflection of the world around you, not as a result of you're own state. Why? Because you have the impression that you can't be understood.

    • @geetee8665
      @geetee8665 11 місяців тому +1

      I believe it's because we can perspective shift by imagining a scenario by moving through the events using a cause and effect logical analysis to forsee who will and will not be happy or not happy about a certain result from the task at hand.
      That's how that looks, we don't have a good personal fluid use of colorful emotions and warm expressions, we are not silly or playful, and we don't get what's inappropriate to make funny comments on until it's too late because we often speak on sacred aspects of life as if they are just ideas to throw around, however these things are not okay at all times and around all types, we get better once we are aware of this and want to evolve.

  • @zaracassid8631
    @zaracassid8631 4 роки тому +681

    ENTP here. So true! I'm highly empathetic and so are all the other ENTPs I've met in my life. It confuses me that there are so many negative preconceptions about us. Thanks for explaining.

    • @CognitivePersonalityTheory
      @CognitivePersonalityTheory  4 роки тому +22

      My pleasure :)

    • @mickadatwist1620
      @mickadatwist1620 3 роки тому +13

      its difficult to navigate with people who think you are a cold, narcissistic dick when in fact.....

    • @giftzwerg7345
      @giftzwerg7345 2 роки тому

      @@CognitivePersonalityTheory
      So basicly the entps have not only fooled themselves, other entps, but also the World. A World whos All to willing take it and to give the Illusion thier own t positiv or negativ
      Twist to fit thier narative. turnig the Illusion into propaganda lie.
      How the fuck are you supposed to feel about that

    • @jaimexqxs
      @jaimexqxs 2 роки тому +4

      I feel you man. I wish all people could disagree to agree.

    • @triniblunt9482
      @triniblunt9482 2 роки тому +8

      bro it's just because we care alot more about people than they think and when ever we get mad its the worst of the worst so we get a negitive outlook

  • @bridget3364
    @bridget3364 4 роки тому +468

    I’m a female ENTP mistyped as a feeler (as many women are) for years. I had to pause the video when you mentioned the need for for social affirmation and attention because I resonate so much. Making people laugh has always been my go-to method for affirmation. After being chastised for being too loud as a kid I directed that energy towards humor.

    • @CognitivePersonalityTheory
      @CognitivePersonalityTheory  4 роки тому +50

      You're right, female ENTPs are generally more likely to mistype as ENFPs :)
      Thanks for your comment!

    • @katierose1893
      @katierose1893 3 роки тому +37

      I think ENTPs had traumatic childhoods

    • @Diathon1
      @Diathon1 2 роки тому +4

      Beloved. If you have not, I suggest listening to the audiobook (I know! I know.) Will by Will Smith.

    • @langoda4794
      @langoda4794 2 роки тому +1

      Likewise:)

    • @isabellaxxiong
      @isabellaxxiong 2 роки тому +8

      Cognitive Personality Theory I was typed as an ENFP mostly throughout my hs / teen years until recently I’ve been typed as an ENTP so this is so true !

  • @SNeaker328
    @SNeaker328 4 роки тому +379

    My goodness, thank you. I'm an ENTP and while I am not sensitive in terms of my own feelings and don't get easily hurt, I am extremely sensitive to the emotions of others and empathetic to a degree that can sometimes veer into unhealthy. I rarely cry for myself, but I can't see someone else crying without crying too, and the amount of pain and suffering and injustice in the world can cause distress levels that can be alarming unless I consciously pull back. Do I love to argue? Indeed. But I argue about things because they matter, and because I care. It's not illogical to care.

    • @CognitivePersonalityTheory
      @CognitivePersonalityTheory  4 роки тому +66

      'It's not illogical to care' - perfectly said.
      I am frankly amazed this sociopath stereotype took off! Time and time again I'm hearing from ENTPs such as yourself who are deeply empathetic by nature.
      Thank you for your comment!

    • @annaingridm
      @annaingridm 3 роки тому +10

      Same even reading this almost made me cry HA

    • @shinchannohara5621
      @shinchannohara5621 2 роки тому +7

      Me too, I care that's why I argue.

  • @senaykarademir6053
    @senaykarademir6053 4 роки тому +268

    Wowww. I am an ENTP female, first time i feel like i am understood. How we are actually sensitive but seen as sociopaths etc.. misunderstandings of lacking emotions or feeling.. I wish I could show this video to all people that judged me until now..

    • @CognitivePersonalityTheory
      @CognitivePersonalityTheory  4 роки тому +30

      I've never really understood why so many people don't seem to 'get' the deeper emotional side of the ENTP to be honest!

    • @RaederlePhoenix
      @RaederlePhoenix 3 роки тому +13

      The Ne function can seem very invalidating sometimes just because of how much it can jump around. I've learned to accept it, but I understand why it is can be mistaken for being disengaged or cold in some way.

  • @davidlakomski3919
    @davidlakomski3919 4 роки тому +613

    You're clearly healing me from the stereotype bud. Never an ENTP description resonated more with me than yours. BIG BIG thanks

    • @CognitivePersonalityTheory
      @CognitivePersonalityTheory  4 роки тому +17

      Awesome to hear - I appreciate you commenting!

    • @johnredding2587
      @johnredding2587 3 роки тому +5

      @@CognitivePersonalityTheory absolutely, I second what David said! I’ve mistyped as enfp and INFJ almost simultaneously every other time I took the test. So out of my confusion, I’ve studied the cognitive functions like introverted feeling, but never personally related to it. I’ve always felt people’s emotions to a point where I sometimes cannot control my tears. I believe it’s my Ne read of people and zooming into Fe, I then pair Fe with Ti to take care of what’s happening in the moment because I know it will lead to what’s underlying. I’ve never felt so heard in MBTI because I’ve bounced between enfp and INFJ for too long, but entp empath sounds more suitable

  • @impetussubitus1
    @impetussubitus1 4 роки тому +306

    If you have a parent with emotional problems, you might be an ENTP.

    • @gouthambolt
      @gouthambolt 3 роки тому +18

      But isn't that borderline personality disorder? Saying this because I have some traits of bpd and am an entp

    • @rodgerwisdom
      @rodgerwisdom 3 роки тому +7

      My mum has bipolar and I’m an ENTP is that what u mean?

    • @ADeeSHUPA
      @ADeeSHUPA 3 роки тому

      @@gouthambolt bpd

    • @hoodaticus
      @hoodaticus 3 роки тому +7

      BPD mom, psychopath dad, both abandoned me at 17 lol.

    • @haleemamalik4308
      @haleemamalik4308 3 роки тому +8

      well I am ENTP and yes I do have that-
      ;-; why me lol

  • @paulagonzalez1721
    @paulagonzalez1721 4 роки тому +196

    I'm an INFJ married to an ENTP. This is absolutely true. You went very deep and I appreciate it. ENTPs are beautiful, beautiful souls. So kind and caring in their motivation and intentions. ❤️

    • @CognitivePersonalityTheory
      @CognitivePersonalityTheory  4 роки тому +16

      Agreed 100%. Thanks for the great comment!

    • @richsackett3423
      @richsackett3423 2 роки тому +2

      Errr... a brief cautionary word or two. [You even superficially resemble her. It was the headband that hooked me early on.] Don't become boring. Tall order; I know, but life has a way of making our actions and thoughts routine. Don't let it. Also, we are an unknown quantity, since the thought gnomes are always working. We will seem to change outwardly. Know that the same machinery is still in place, just running updated software. Please keep up with the current version of him as not to be unpleasantly surprised.
      Promise him tonight: No INFJ doorslam ever. Talk about cutting off your nose to spite your face.

    • @Lauray1
      @Lauray1 Рік тому

      Are you really giving unsolicited romantic advice? And to a women also no doubt. Jesus. You ain't sucking his dick boy hush.

    • @glitcharcing
      @glitcharcing 7 місяців тому

      Thank you so much

    • @glitcharcing
      @glitcharcing 7 місяців тому

      @@richsackett3423yep

  • @TheUkuleleAffair
    @TheUkuleleAffair 4 роки тому +152

    You’re making me cry fudge. I have never felt more understood about how much I care for others ugh

  • @Talkingwithfamouspeople
    @Talkingwithfamouspeople 4 роки тому +149

    Around 14:00 - a developed ENTP understands the power of transparency and public vulnerability. Sharing with another one's own vulnerability is step one in the power sharing implicit in a healthy relationship.

  • @addieclark2026
    @addieclark2026 4 роки тому +259

    I’m a female ENTP and I’ve had people say I’m mistyped my whole life because I have this EXACT experience. I‘ve accumulated a very large Instagram following (I have no idea how tbh) but I HATE being the direct center of attention in any other situation. Your ENTP UA-camr comment absolutely resonated with me

    • @CognitivePersonalityTheory
      @CognitivePersonalityTheory  4 роки тому +23

      Thanks for your comment! Many ENTPs are gifted at presenting themselves in a manner that countless highly different people can find resonance with - PewDiePie is a great example too!

    • @CognitivePersonalityTheory
      @CognitivePersonalityTheory  4 роки тому +12

      @Who let the virus out? Woof woof woofhan Whoa now let's hold of assuming we'll like every person of x type soley because they're x type XD
      I'm not a huge fan either, but cognitive function wise he seems innately tapped in to the Fe of his audience while expending social energy according to an Si-Ti framework :)

    • @HappyPundit
      @HappyPundit 4 роки тому +32

      I get that! Also a female ENTP and I am very uncomfortable being personally celebrated or the guest of honor. I don't mind informally being the center of attention but formally makes my skin crawl

    • @TheQwuilleran
      @TheQwuilleran 4 роки тому +17

      Yeah, I think a lot of gatekeeping against women entps is their well-developed Fe being seen as too dominant. It has a lot to do with how they're socialized.

    • @1chienandalou
      @1chienandalou 4 роки тому +2

      What do you mean I don't look happy? Carl Jung who did the original MBTI 😂🤣😂

  • @Haru-nee
    @Haru-nee 4 роки тому +60

    What was that meme?
    ENTP:
    Schrodinger's Douchebag
    They make a statement and decide whether or not they're joking depending on the receiving they get.

    • @CognitivePersonalityTheory
      @CognitivePersonalityTheory  4 роки тому +6

      Ahaha!

    • @1chienandalou
      @1chienandalou 4 роки тому +5

      That’s funny!!
      (In reality, I do know the answer though, at least the vast majority of the time. Maybe I am dead inside ;))

    • @Haru-nee
      @Haru-nee 4 роки тому +2

      @@1chienandalou we all are. Check out r/antinatalism.

    • @FalconOfStorms
      @FalconOfStorms 3 роки тому +1

      @@Haru-nee icky, ew.

    • @spannycat2
      @spannycat2 2 роки тому +3

      People accuse me of backtracking. (... They are correct). I'll deny I ever meant what I said seriously to my grave if there's consequences!!!!!

  • @nyx7829
    @nyx7829 4 роки тому +233

    This settles the ENTP/INFJ dichotomy I've been struggling with in terms of typing myself.
    Somehow I'd become convinced that ENTPs are this socially "useless" types that only stirs up trouble for the sake of it, whereas, now that I've gleaned from your video, we behave in incongruent personality "masks" in order to provide the diversity needed to give all sorts of people a good experience.
    Many many thanks, dear 💜

    • @CognitivePersonalityTheory
      @CognitivePersonalityTheory  4 роки тому +21

      Yes, you describe it here perfectly! :)
      ENTPs are incredibly socially gifted and are the type I've been most inspired by when learning to use my Fe in a more convergent manner.

    • @7sanctuz
      @7sanctuz 4 роки тому +5

      I relate N Y X
      Been in a typing spiral going ENTP, INFJ, ENFJ and back again
      (even considered xNTJ for brief periods of time)

    • @madladiesscientists6894
      @madladiesscientists6894 3 роки тому +3

      I'm always told I'm an Entp but I relate more to infp except I'm way more loud at times. But basically everything being said about Entp is so similar to me as well and I'm annoyed because both types don't seem to always know themselves that well, but I guess you could say that's the case with everyone who doesn't know themselves well...I just hate not knowing. Drives me batty. Lol 😂😂😂

    • @barbarabuttler7647
      @barbarabuttler7647 3 роки тому +2

      I'm an ENTP and my sister is an INFJ. We are joined at the hip and love engaging in deep conversations. We could go on for hours. My husband is an ISTJ, like most of the engineers I 've worked in high tech with.

    • @moneymind84
      @moneymind84 2 роки тому +2

      @@7sanctuz this is hella late gosh don't know if youre out there but am in the same shituation fam

  • @everalvelast
    @everalvelast 3 роки тому +38

    It doesn’t matter how hard I try to please people, I feel like they never acknowledge it. I hate those bad stereotypes because that is not who I really am. Yo I am sobbing wtf

  • @greysonwoods4367
    @greysonwoods4367 3 роки тому +101

    This is so interesting to learn about. When I was younger I was super sensitive, and empathic towards others. To the point where people would make fun of me, and tell me I was being too sensitive. And as I got older, I was taken out of school, and we moved a lot. It took a large toll on my social intuition and I'm still trying to rebuild it. I ended up having almost no friends as a result and coming off as very cold and analytic to everyone I met.

  • @hfortenberry
    @hfortenberry 4 роки тому +90

    I have an ENTP boss and I think you totally nailed his personality. I'm not surprised. You are an INFJ afterall. My Mother was an INFJ and she was so good at understanding the essence of people as well.

  • @TheJackndabox83
    @TheJackndabox83 4 роки тому +154

    Thank you for this! As an ENTP female it’s very hard to convince people one cares. Which immediately results in debate and argument due to close minded remarks. 🖤

    • @CognitivePersonalityTheory
      @CognitivePersonalityTheory  4 роки тому +18

      I often find ENTPs prefer the everyday expression of caring to big gestures, but I also think it's unfair for anyone to expect a continuous steam of Fe affirmation too! Such things can always be difficult to navigate.
      Thank you for your comment!

    • @dwelfusius
      @dwelfusius 4 роки тому +21

      @@CognitivePersonalityTheory As another entp female, I concur. I can only maintain 1 or 2 Fe needy friendships at the same time. I way too easily "lose" them by dixit:ignoring them. While it's actually just..not really having that need for the chitchat, social calls and what not.But have learned that the couple of esfj's/isfj's I do have and want to keep need that, like watering a flower. But too much is too much.Look at what I do , not how often i send texts or call you. If I'm opening the door at midnight because you got in a fight with your bf, it should be telling more than my "life pings" in a friendship

    • @revolutionfrommahbed4246
      @revolutionfrommahbed4246 4 роки тому +24

      “ENTPs prefer the every day expression of caring to big gestures...” Spot On! It actually tends to derail my interest in the early stages of friendship or dating if someone goes really big right at the beginning. A) It’s unsustainable and B) It comes across as needy and/or suspect. Now you apparently want/expect something from me that I might not be keen on being coerced into. Slow and steady wins the race 😉. Plus, being beneficial in my day to day life with little things gives me time and an excuse to get to know and appreciate you better. The adjusting empath in me is always uneasy about inserting myself too much into someone’s life. I don’t want to push in, take over or appropriate someone’s life, especially if I like or am attracted to them. I always give people space to reach back out to me to make sure they are as invested in the connection as I am.

    • @CognitivePersonalityTheory
      @CognitivePersonalityTheory  4 роки тому +1

      @@revolutionfrommahbed4246 Amazing contributions, thank you!!

    • @dianasmith5953
      @dianasmith5953 4 роки тому +1

      @@revolutionfrommahbed4246 spot on for me too.

  • @silentgrove7670
    @silentgrove7670 4 роки тому +51

    Of the T's I have met it is the ENTP that is the kindness and most morally grounded. ENFP

    • @CognitivePersonalityTheory
      @CognitivePersonalityTheory  4 роки тому +7

      Agreed :)

    • @BlueKungFu
      @BlueKungFu 2 роки тому +1

      I love you ENFP! I love ENFP's and their deep understanding of the world around them, their kindness and acceptance of others whilst also standing up for what is right. I also love their humour; you are hilarious! I've never met a dull ENFP.
      ENTP

    • @spaghetti5914
      @spaghetti5914 2 роки тому

      As an entp, I must say enfps and isfjs are my favorite feeler types

  • @devon4780
    @devon4780 4 роки тому +124

    ENTP here, I think I have only commented on one other UA-cam video.. but I had to comment on this. Your insight, sheer knowledge about the ENTP in this video is SCARY ACCURATE! The funny thing is that I've never actual typed as an ENTP on any personality test.. I've typed as ENFP, INTJ, and INTP on multiple occasions. I have typed myself as an ENTP based on its function stack and tons of introspection. After watching this video, you basically explained MY WHOLE LIFE in 30 minutes haha. I have always been a bit self conscious about "wearing different mask's" before I found out about types, I never understood why I did this, but you are correct.. it all comes down to social harmony and the desire for myself and others to have a great social experience! I could go on forever but I will stop here! First video of yours that I have watched and it literally blew my mind haha! Great work!

    • @CognitivePersonalityTheory
      @CognitivePersonalityTheory  4 роки тому +10

      Cheers Devon, I appreciate it!
      What you have described is so often the case for other ENTPs - this is simply not a type that matches the MBTI dichotomies.
      Thanks for the comment :)

  • @robertmitchell1920
    @robertmitchell1920 4 роки тому +103

    By far the best video on ENTP emotional processing that I've seen. It so true about wanting everyone to be happy and trying to help, be humorous, and look out for any outsiders, while beeing deeply embarrassed when people give you praise. The only reward I need is to see people smile. That being said I do like to point out that there is a technical difference between being an empath, which means you are clairsentient and actually feel the emotions of others, as opposed to being empathetic, which means to imagine and relate to anothers suffering. (From ENTP claircognizant empath)

    • @CognitivePersonalityTheory
      @CognitivePersonalityTheory  4 роки тому +4

      This is a great comment, thanks so much!
      You offer a very fair distinction - uses of the word empath do often overlap with any perception (intuitive or otherwise) of emotion on a deeper level, I would offer.

  • @conradsmith9441
    @conradsmith9441 4 роки тому +55

    I’m an ENTP and my ex is a ENFP. She broke up with me because she thought I didn’t love people. She was afraid I would offend people. I’m so glad I found this video. I do care about people, but I do this by encouraging everyone to question the truth. I want everyone to be happy, but I think there is a logical way to get there. Sadly this logical way of getting there involves being blunt. I know that taking drugs will not make someone happy in the long run. Other types would support people who struggle with this by letting them continue their bad habits because they don’t want to offend the druggy. I know that the druggy will be happier off of drugs, so I am blunt to him/her and I warn them of the consequences of continuing their stupid mistakes. I care for people. I just use logic to get there.

    • @CognitivePersonalityTheory
      @CognitivePersonalityTheory  4 роки тому +4

      Thank you for this comment!

    • @orionsmintaka
      @orionsmintaka Рік тому +2

      I'm an INFJ, but this is something I do as well, ha! Caring for someone means being honest, true friends tell you when you are fucking up, enabling people is not love, rather the opposite. Also, it goes both ways, I don't want people I trust to tell me what they think I want to hear! Give it to me straight, lol. This might be my enneagram 6w5, but, I just think honesty is the only trustworthy quality (vs. the alternative); if I fuck up and don't know it, I also want to be told. Caressing my ego won't help me, so I want people to tell me the truth in my face if they truly care, and so I do the same.

  • @Talkingwithfamouspeople
    @Talkingwithfamouspeople 4 роки тому +127

    In typical ENTP fashion, I write multiple comments. I dunno. It's just how I roll.... Anyhow, I totally watched this whole thing! That's really saying something man. I do not watch 30 minutes of other people's videos. I'm too busy taking responsibility for others' feelings within a shorter time frame than that, I guess ;-)

    • @CognitivePersonalityTheory
      @CognitivePersonalityTheory  4 роки тому +9

      I personally love it - only downside is a couple of your comments went, initially, under my radar!
      It was a pleasant surprise hearing from you, and I really appreciated the shout-out you gave within that time-frame ;)
      Thank you mate!

    • @AlextheENTP
      @AlextheENTP 4 роки тому +8

      @Talking with Famous People
      I really try to restrain myself, but I can seldom stop myself from commenting all over the place.
      Makes sense that would be an ENTP thing.

  • @lizwindsor9602
    @lizwindsor9602 4 роки тому +72

    i got entp as-well but i'm an empath and then i thought about it and realised that i don't view emotions as illogical

    • @CognitivePersonalityTheory
      @CognitivePersonalityTheory  4 роки тому +20

      I believe logic is comprised of both Subjectivity (feeling) and Objectivity (thinking), and a developed empathatic human being would definitely have a good relationship with both codec functions :)

    • @celialusma4618
      @celialusma4618 3 роки тому +3

      I am litterally 50 feeling and 50 thinking in my result it really interesting

    • @Milkythefawn
      @Milkythefawn 3 роки тому +1

      As an Entp, I find all feelings and guilt Illogical ;-;

    • @LadySelene100
      @LadySelene100 3 роки тому +13

      @@Milkythefawn Feelings are illogical within their nature. But they serve a logical purpose within ourselves and our emotional connection with others.

    • @agentperihelion6714
      @agentperihelion6714 3 роки тому +2

      emotions are a human thing-

  • @diornodiovanna2838
    @diornodiovanna2838 4 роки тому +27

    What the hell this is too real. I can laugh at the ENTP memes and relate to some of the stereotypes but goddamn this video is speaking to my soul

  • @buddymckay3486
    @buddymckay3486 4 роки тому +34

    I'm ENTP and keep telling myself I have low empathy. What you said about "Not wanting to ruin others social experience" is spot on. If someone is bleeding, puking or being sick, I'm usually the first one to help them while showing the rest how it's done. I have a dark sense of humor and tend to think about how gruesome things would be in real life and it clearly bothers me at times, I just won't admit it to others. But as an ENTP, the most logical thing to do is opening more up. People kill themselves instead of it after all, and I wouldn't be the first one to give it a thought. Being creative is another trait I possess, with very little boundary. I feel we are in the past all the time. Where is my brain chip implant and HUD in real life? Neural thought control would be excellent. If we can make a Tesla Roadster going 0-60 in 1.9 seconds, why can't we get a HUD?

  • @YaburuRunyaru
    @YaburuRunyaru 3 роки тому +43

    Thank you for humanizing this type instead of allowing it to be left as “internet troll” I always wondered why I related to INFJs so much.
    Also, because of the stereotype (and other factors), I usually loath the use of memes. Look at that, an ENTP who hates memes.

  • @kingofpbrs
    @kingofpbrs 4 роки тому +53

    Wow! Resonates pretty deeply. I host a lot out of my home, and when someone who attended one of my parties recently asked: "How come so many people love you?" I deflected and just made it sound like anyone can do what I do, but then he persisted and wrote me this:
    "I value your genuineness and sure everyone around you do too. I am also sure that hosting parties and owning a beautiful place like yours, cooking ribs, isn’t the main thing people love you for.
    It’s your character. You’re an artist, respectful, and have a beautiful spirit. You make people smile and forget their sad times once they walk in at the door."

  • @planetketchup5460
    @planetketchup5460 4 роки тому +53

    thank you for this video. I mistyped as ENFP for years as a result of misunderstanding the difference between stereotype and functionality in manifestation.

  • @shadi8075
    @shadi8075 4 роки тому +66

    You cannot understand how I enjoy your nuanced perspective. You do take into consideration that there is a multiplicity of other things that influence the way we think and behave. Keep up the good work, this is how everyone should approach personality types. As an ENTP, this was very refreshing, considering we are often portrayed as mild sociopaths. You are absolutely right when you say ENTPs can see themselves as having psychopathic traits, but at the same time, placed in any social atmosphere, my behaviors are all centered toward maintaining the social harmony or enhancing it. As a type that takes into consideration the bigger picture in our decision making, we can seem cold in the present, but this is sometimes because, I think, that we believe that the current moment even if uncomfortable, leads to a better outcome moving forward, enhancing the general social harmony of our environment. Anyway, thank you.

    • @CognitivePersonalityTheory
      @CognitivePersonalityTheory  4 роки тому +6

      Thanks so much for the reassuring comment!
      Yes indeed, I seek through CPT to cover all the possible cognitive factors while also distinguishing between cognition and personality factors such as identity - I'm starting with cognition and may in the future branch out from there :)
      Your description of your own experience as an ENTP is great - Ne is often a future oriented function, especially with the near-future, so the ENTP will so long as the Fe world is in order definitely be forward moving by nature!

  • @AeonAxisProductions
    @AeonAxisProductions 4 роки тому +69

    I actually mis identified as intp because I thought I was introverted, and they have the same 2 main functions but they're reversed, what really madee realize that I'm entp is the fact that since my Si is my inferior function I absolutely hate control like if you force me to do something I'll do the opposite just to spite you

    • @CognitivePersonalityTheory
      @CognitivePersonalityTheory  4 роки тому +16

      Both types hate to be controlled for sure, and many ENTPs do indeed consider themselves as introverted due to their reflective nature :)

    • @bobjoe6656
      @bobjoe6656 4 роки тому +10

      I went through a process where I thought I was Intp then I realized I was more social in comparison to intps, which made me think I could be a feeler type so I decided I might be an infp, but I was definitely not that emotional and I was also still more Entp like. It l
      Took me about a year but I finally figured out I have been an Entp this entire time. It’s kinda of crazy looking back because I used the intp and infp label to shape how I acted, “‘masks” and it actually caused me a lot of problems because using theses “masks” caused me to act contrary to my true self which as an Entp is actually extroverted although I do enjoy alone time. Properly typing yourself is important because if you mistype you unconsciously will shape your interaction styles to be more like the stereotypes of those mistyped types. This video also was really interesting I watched the whole thing CS Joseph also made some eye opening videos which helped me properly type myslef.

    • @_Hyphema_
      @_Hyphema_ 4 роки тому +5

      Bob Joe This is pretty close to my own experience. I thought I was introverted and framed my life around this persona, going so far to use it to normalize my destructive behavior. Wasn’t until last night I discovered personality types. I feel like a dunce though, when I look back all the signs are there. I’m so grateful that I finally figured out why I’ve felt as if I was an imposter.

    • @entropy8000
      @entropy8000 4 роки тому +1

      Bob Joe this is congruent to my experience

  • @Maudegr
    @Maudegr 4 роки тому +42

    I always thought I was an ENFP because of sensitivity to others, yet always resonated with the wholistic cognitive view of the ENTP. Thank you for clearing things up

    • @CognitivePersonalityTheory
      @CognitivePersonalityTheory  4 роки тому +4

      My pleasure :)

    • @spannycat2
      @spannycat2 2 роки тому +7

      @@CognitivePersonalityTheory I've gotten both results but I am an HSP and empathetic. But I'm highly analytical too. It's hard to tell what I am. I can't tell if I use Fi or Ti. I can't tell if I use Fe or Te.

  • @PARoth2011
    @PARoth2011 Рік тому +11

    Omg…I’m half way through and had to stop and absorb because you are describing the under layer so accurately I could cry. You said it so well. Driven to deeply understand my social situation whatever it is and make a positive impact. Even as a child in grade school I wondered why I felt a need to find something nice about someone who was somewhat shunned and give a compliment to make them feel better. Yes, on the the MB test I am an over the top extrovert yet need lots of alone time to “research, process and think about” the things going on around me so I can make sense of the behaviors, health, feelings around me and then be a positive influence. Holy Toledo, Im doing my extrovert processing by writing this so I can watch the rest of the video. The social feedback loop is at the heart of it, isn’t it? That’s what made me stop the video…oh wow, when you said that I realized that it’s such a deeply vulnerable need. You are probably about to say it, that empathic part of our nature is also our downfall because it makes us people pleasers for the positive feedback. Oh gees, it’s what makes us so attractive to narcissists. Ah and that facade of logic, the protective wall of reason. I’m so well prepared with social/logical information that I step into social leadership by default be it in my marriage or a larger group, waiting for someone else who knows more/is better to take over which, in hindsight, caused me to fall into enabler patterns. Thank god for the therapists who helped guide me.

  • @ibrahimnizamani4958
    @ibrahimnizamani4958 2 роки тому +7

    ENTPs fix the mood first and then the underlying issue. Because, they want to have a transparent, logical, and objective talk on what's going on, what to do next, and how the fix the problem.

  • @mikeymcginley
    @mikeymcginley 4 роки тому +44

    Geez. That was incredibly informative indeed. My wife (INFJ) and myself (ENTP) found this video to be especially jaw-droppingly accurate; but more importantly, enlightening. Thank you very much for the hard work and time spent putting this together!

  • @captainnatalie6937
    @captainnatalie6937 4 роки тому +35

    this was so true for me. Hence I take huge social vacations as sometimes I do too much for the social situation and loose track of my own needs.

  • @baaf777
    @baaf777 4 роки тому +26

    One of the better descriptions of ENTPs and INFJs at UA-cam. I’ve a very emphatic ENTP co-worker. He’s married to an INFJ. My son is also an ENTP and your description fits him well.

  • @ashleelmb
    @ashleelmb 4 роки тому +34

    I'm an emotionally damaged ENTP and I've been deeply hurt in past relationships. My parents hurt me, relationships with women have been a disaster and I've had friends screw me over. So I'm automatically very verbally combative and skeptical in life now and have been for years. But I'm a very sensitive person under my hard stubborn exterior. I live alone and I've become comfortable in my own surroundings by myself because I don't have to conform to anyone elses standards. I'm good at interacting with people on a social level where I can be free to express myself and come and go as I like. But because I generally don't believe I can live up to other peoples expectations, I have a lot of anxiety when it comes to having to do things for other people, especially in a work environment. And I need a lot positive feedback about what I'm doing from managers to give me the confidence to continue with what I'm doing. I'm always late and getting myself up early and focused into my work can be utter torture for me. It makes me very unhappy to have to live like this tbh. I don't fit in with what society expects. But equally I get very frustrated with other people who say or do things which goes against what I believe is logic or that doesn't make sense and I end up freaking out about it, especially in the work environment because I can't stand having to play a guessing game about what people meant or why people did something a certain way that I don't understand.

    • @CognitivePersonalityTheory
      @CognitivePersonalityTheory  4 роки тому +4

      Thank you for sharing this!

    • @JohnSmith-ob8zw
      @JohnSmith-ob8zw 4 роки тому

      This is me

    • @dianasmith5953
      @dianasmith5953 4 роки тому +5

      I'm damaged too. Personality hackers website and videos have been really helpful. The one where the break the four personality functions into sitting positions in a car is especially good for broken ENTP'S. They also suggest a book called Radical Honesty. Well I'm on my second reading, its a hard pill to swallow because it hits so close to the heart. Anyway, I don't want to get too dark and deep here so but these things have helped me and I hope they help you too.

  • @royxriza4ever
    @royxriza4ever 3 роки тому +10

    My husband is an ENTP and I am an ISFJ. My mom is an INFJ and we are very close.
    This really helped me understand my ENTP husband better. My husband needs a lot of support from me, like a cheerleader. The ENTP need for affirmation struck a chord with me. My husband has suffered greatly this year because we cannot have those fun experiences to bring up the mood when we are stressed. This also helped me see why he feels very responsible for being a mood maker in social situations. Always wants everyone to have a good time. Once again, thank you so much!

  • @dwelfusius
    @dwelfusius 4 роки тому +31

    I really like the connection you make between taking responsibility and being empathetic. Because it is so spot on.I often wind up being the unwilling group leader (hence when a compromise needs to take place to choose lets say a restaurant).You have some people that say oh it doesn't matter, and it doesn't (if i believe you when you say it, don't come nagging afterwards, because you will make me feel super lousy). Then you have those that say it doesn't matter, but you can see it does matter.If we choose a place without consulting these people and kind of pushing them to state a preference I feel very..anxious.Because they are oozing emotion.I often feel like a radio receiver that picks up all the signals sent out by others. Maybe it's the adhd though.They ooze annoyance of not daring to state a preference, so I kind of..pull it out by offering a plethora of suggestions. Only when we achieve a reasonable amount of people that made a choice will I feel "at ease" with the group dynamic. Like someone in the comments, I'm super sensitive to passive aggresiveness, even when people think they are not being agressive, they kinda are.

    • @CognitivePersonalityTheory
      @CognitivePersonalityTheory  4 роки тому +2

      Keeping everyone happy in those situations can be difficult, but a decision must be made in any case. As an INFJ such decisions on behalf of others can be much more difficult, as my divergent Fe makes me far more risk-averse in such matters than an ENTP!

    • @dwelfusius
      @dwelfusius 4 роки тому +9

      @@CognitivePersonalityTheory Oh I don't take decisions in the place of others. But it's more out of a..I want people to choose for themselves.I don't mind pushing people into taking a descision vs inaction and providing info ,basically be an agitator. And I will try to convince others of my preference, but they need to want it as well. I want them to feel like they are content with their choice, or it will disrupt harmony.If someone says "ok we'll go there because you like it", I'm seldom ok with that. The objective determinable concensus is the ultimate goal.It leaves the least possibility for annoyed people afterwards, or people feeling like their decision was not taken into account. And it provides.. justification should that situation arise anyway.
      It's as you mentioned, a framework. I am very aware of who in the group will act a certain way if a certain thing is said,and I always try to manage it to make everything as pleasant as possible for people. Not meaning I let myself be used because I will call out someone that is purposefully disturbing the harmony.It led me to believe I was not a "thinker" type for a long time, because I feel so much and am so sensitive to disharmony.
      But there is that.."cold streak" that I think allows me to actually act in a way that sometimes goes against harmony..to restore it. if that makes sense.

    • @CognitivePersonalityTheory
      @CognitivePersonalityTheory  4 роки тому +3

      @@dwelfusius Fair points and great information - thanks! This is such a great example of the Fe utility operating from a logical Ti foundation :)

    • @dianasmith5953
      @dianasmith5953 4 роки тому +1

      @@dwelfusius I concur. This is how I also operate in groups. I orchestrate, I moderate, I entertain, I distract all for group harmony.

  • @amirabassi7535
    @amirabassi7535 3 роки тому +18

    as an entp i care about other peoples feelings but i'm always misunderstood for being an emotionless person):

  • @ArasheNorto
    @ArasheNorto 3 роки тому +5

    As an ENTP who often feels misunderstood and also tends to think of himself as self contradictory you couldn't be more accurate. So sympathetically accurate I should say, that I somehow feel understood at last, and even sort of healed to some extent. I've literally been labeling myself "a walking paradox" for quite some time. Which is exactly what you said!
    Thank you for explaining people like me to other people in ways we never could!

  • @jeanettemchenry505
    @jeanettemchenry505 4 роки тому +32

    Enjoyed this very much. So insightful and true. I am INFJ. My late husband was ENTP, the love of my life.

  • @victoriabugado6272
    @victoriabugado6272 2 роки тому +3

    Watching this made me think of an analogy for how people on different judgement axes interact with the social milieu. If you think of the social-emotional environment as a pool:
    Te-Fi: Cannonballs into the water, splashing everyone
    Fi-Te: Jumps in, trying not to splash people in their immediate vicinity, but doesn't see waves created farther out.
    Fe-Ti: Smoothing the waves created by the others
    Ti-Fe: Keeping an eye on things, but can't resist doing a little splashing just to see what happens.

  • @sarahelizabeth6053
    @sarahelizabeth6053 2 роки тому +5

    I have taken tests and I get INFJ and INTJ, but I know that's not what I am. After a really deep study I decided I was an ENTP. This video is perfect because it really does describe so much. I am such a chameleon around many many people. I don't feel like it's a mask so much though because I'm mirroring people to make them feel comfortable. I notice so much about everyone it's almost scary. I rarely share my own problems, I feel robotic and cold often, yet care deeply. Thank you for this video and the explanation, it's huge.

  • @wadewilson622
    @wadewilson622 4 роки тому +28

    Thank you for this. I've always known my type to be ENTP even though most people would argue I'm more introverted, or more of a feeling type. Heck even I considered myself to be an INFJ/INTJ. I'm way too concerned with socilazing and people to be INTJ. It never really bothered me as much with interacting especially with strangers. And I've always focused on the reason and truth and believe what I know is based on what I've learned and observed and more scientific as opposed to INFJ, which I think gets and understands things, especially feelings somewhat "magically" or simply Ni. Anyway again, thank you for putting this out there cause I've had my fair share of being judged and labeled as someone who doesn't care, when in fact I care so much and it gets me frustrated that people don't see this just because it doesn't show as how they see it should. Especially being private and not sharing things, and being somewhat robotic. People can easily misjudge us. So I appreciate you bringing this out here. Ironically tho I don't want a lot of people to know cause I felt a little exposed. Please continue making more content. Not just for ENTPs but all the types cause I feel you have a much more deeper understanding of the types. This is just my first vid from you btw. Subscribed!

    • @CognitivePersonalityTheory
      @CognitivePersonalityTheory  4 роки тому +3

      Thanks so much for subscribing!
      ENTPs really are such caring people and it's my absolute pleasure to illuminate the empathic side of the type!

    • @revolutionfrommahbed4246
      @revolutionfrommahbed4246 4 роки тому +3

      Pretty sure my ex was an INTJ and he NEVER understood the depth with which I cared for people in an ever expanding social circle. He didn’t believe I REALLY cared about anyone since I rotate and cycle through time spent with various different friends. He had two best friends, his mom, his siblings and me. In fact, he kinda had a hierarchy for which siblings he preferred as well. 😬 Of course, if you’re with a partner who you doesn’t believe you have strong feelings for anyone, it’s just a matter of time until you convince yourself that her feelings for you aren’t strong enough to matter. Blah. Onward and upward - and now, I can sit someone down with this video if they ever doubt me again😉

  • @TheUkuleleAffair
    @TheUkuleleAffair 4 роки тому +17

    Omg, I thought this would never ever be up on the internet. 😭 I feel less alone now. Thank you! 😭

  • @scythe2534
    @scythe2534 3 роки тому +6

    I've fallen down the rabbit hole of UA-cam, to find that I am an ENTP Empath. This is so insanely accurate, and I didn't know there was a reason WHY I felt so responsible for people's emotions. Feeling responsible for other's feelings SUCKS because it often makes me feel worse too, but I feel like its completely worth it because I get to help people
    I've also had a sneaking suspicion for a while that I was a sociopath or narcissist- but that suspicion always went away because I care so much about other people's feelings. Now I understand why I thought abt that, and it really eased my mind.
    AMAZING video bro

  • @shondmichael1363
    @shondmichael1363 2 роки тому +7

    I learned I was an ENTP when I was 30. When I was younger, I thought that I was an introvert who happened to be amazing at public speaking and poetry. I'm 47 now, and I can attest to pretty much everything he is saying in the video. I've had many troubles relating/communicating(?) with people I wished liked me. I rub people the wrong way more than I want to.

  • @MrFowl
    @MrFowl 3 роки тому +10

    Wow... My girlfriend is an ENTP and I'm an INFJ ...this is like a complete breakdown of our relationship.

  • @katelynkebodeaux6928
    @katelynkebodeaux6928 3 роки тому +7

    From my experience, it's the younger ENTPs that are the more "intellectual hardass" (age 18-early 20s) and then around ages 23-25, we mature, better develop empathy, and become more humanitarian-focused.

  • @LexZionsUniverse
    @LexZionsUniverse 4 роки тому +38

    Wow this was super deep, like holy cow, most accurate, assessment of ENTP, Ive ever heard in my Life, truely grateful for the way you explained it, thank you!!!!

  • @Thomas-nu7vj
    @Thomas-nu7vj 2 роки тому +4

    One thing that caught my attention was when you said ENTPs are quiet when they’re young, that couldn’t be further from the truth for me. I feel like, when I entered my mid teens I became more introverted. I used to be very social, ask questions, come up with ideas and tended to be a bit of a class clown, but I feel like I was constantly judged by teachers and classmates etc. So I feel like my personality was watered down over the years. It’s only now that I’m starting to regain my confidence and dgaf attitude which I lost during my teens. Everything else that you said I resonate with, so thanks for making these videos.

  • @heartpoint5289
    @heartpoint5289 3 роки тому +8

    Thank you very much for creating this articulate and empathetic video. My teenage son is an ENTP. I have always seen his empathic gifts, his amazing ability to engage almost anyone, and his tendency to take too much responsibility for other’s feelings. However, as you explained, he is misunderstood as actually lacking empathy and integrity. His father, stepmother and certain teachers have criticized him for his lack of care/regard for others. I see he feels deeply hurt and unseen when this happens. But because he is reluctant to show vulnerability, this reinforces their opinion that he is self-centered and lacks regard for others. This video was very validating for me, and helps give me strength and patience to continue to guide him as my intuition tells me, rather than being swayed by those who choose to look at human beings at the surface level. Again, thank you.

  • @AllisonLujan
    @AllisonLujan 4 роки тому +13

    I thought I was INFP but I took a test on a different site than “16 personalities” and I got ENTP! I identify more with ENTP and never knew if this type before

  • @MatthewARoyal
    @MatthewARoyal 2 роки тому +5

    "...views the emotional state of another person, and views it as their responsibility to monitor and maintain" 100% accurate

  • @Maddy_VA
    @Maddy_VA 2 роки тому +3

    I am a ENTP It’s so weird- I for a fact am a huge empath.. I have been all my life.. the only time that switches off is if I’m pissed off or-… well arguing.

  • @angelofmidnight.
    @angelofmidnight. 4 роки тому +9

    you def clearified my doubts about being an INFJ or ENTP... looking from your point of view, I feel blessed to be ENTP 😄😄😂🥰

    • @CognitivePersonalityTheory
      @CognitivePersonalityTheory  4 роки тому +3

      You should! I find ENTPs utterly inspiring and am always slightly in awe of both their social energies and specific thinking style!

  • @christinebernchat7125
    @christinebernchat7125 Рік тому +2

    Now this is more like it. I’ve been periodically taking this personality test for close to 20 years and I am always an ENTP. No other result. I find the logical characteristics to be accurate, and yet I am also very empathetic and regularly described as a caring person. You analysis of this gap is phenomenal.

  • @gem1900
    @gem1900 2 роки тому +5

    This really explains it so well. As an ENTP female it took me so long to correctly type myself no only because of all the things you mentioned in the video but also because stereotypical depictions of ENTPs are often more reminiscent of males of this type due to the fact that typical ENTP behavior such as being oppositional is more accepted when it comes from a boy so ENTP girls learn to hide a lot of their natural ENTP traits to the point that they don’t even think they are this type anymore

  • @user-ym4eh4fn5y
    @user-ym4eh4fn5y 4 роки тому +31

    Please, make a video about difference between ENTP & ENFP

  • @kingofpbrs
    @kingofpbrs 4 роки тому +14

    ENTP here, and yes, the intensity that I put into my socialization requires a lot of recharging. My ESFP girlfriend has had to really get used to me needing this. Last night as an event was closing, 1am - I was waiting very patiently being tortured by small talk with drunk people as she was still mingling, walking to the car at 2am - she hinted that she wanted to find the after party (she gets serious FOMO) and I saw nothing but inefficient interaction which = in my mind HUGE deficit spending of my social budget lol

    • @CognitivePersonalityTheory
      @CognitivePersonalityTheory  4 роки тому +1

      Hey Andrew, yes ESTPs are by comparison a lot better at pacing themselves, though the times they do need alone time are often comparatively more grumpy!
      They tend to be very open ended (and subsequently FOMO!) when it comes to a future outcome whereas the ENTP is often a lot more precise when determining whether something is worth their effort!

    • @ashleelmb
      @ashleelmb 4 роки тому

      @@CognitivePersonalityTheory He didn't say his girlfriend was an ESTP, he said she was an ESFP. 😂
      ESTP is the entrepreneurial type - Sociable, motivating yet statistical, and analytical in order to gain status, wealth and entertainment through self indulgence. ESFP is the entertainer type - Sociable and wanting to be the centre of attention, is typically into drama and theatre but isn't concerned with facts and figures and is apolitical.

    • @CognitivePersonalityTheory
      @CognitivePersonalityTheory  4 роки тому

      @@ashleelmb Ah, my bad!!
      Indeed, my words on respective alone times applied more to the ESTP ENTP comparison - ENTP ESFP tends to be a pretty common and effective combination!

    • @amandacoelho9524
      @amandacoelho9524 2 роки тому +1

      loved the social budget part, so true!

  • @jeydangosman699
    @jeydangosman699 3 роки тому +5

    *Thank you so much for making this video!*
    I am a 21-year old student, and I used to hate that tests identified me as an ENTP. I considered my love of logic and debate my worst qualities - because they often isolated me from others, despite my best intentions. Being identified as "The Debater" stung. I am a very sensitive, loving person. I never wanted others to see me as cold, emotionless robot - like "Debaters" are frequently described.
    After your video, I finally feel comfortable embracing the ENTP type. :) I wish I watched this years ago!

  • @AlextheENTP
    @AlextheENTP 4 роки тому +25

    Needing to be alone to do my hobbies and learn new skills: 100% accurate. In fact, if I don't do those things, I end up annoyed that I've wasted my alone time.
    Taking responsibility for other people's feelings... ehhhhhh, depends entirely on the context. With friends, sure, I really like seeing them happy, seeing them enjoy the story I'm telling them, etc. That is a social situation, ie, socialising and feeling great is the whole point of it. But when there's a decision to be made, especially if the people involved are just colleagues or some other randos, then it's Ti before Fe, and if the decision is one they don't like, they can either listen to the logical explanation or cry on their own time. Seems uncaring, but... well it is uncaring, but only when it makes sense to not care. Know what I mean?
    When I'm truly empathetic is when people have genuine needs that have nothing to do with feelings. Homeless people, abused people, abused animals, all have a legitimate need to escape their situation. What makes sense to me is supporting organisations that give the homeless the skills and mindset to rejoin society, not running around telling homeless people, "You're special, sweetie!"
    The UA-cam observation - ahhh, that's my secret fantasy. But it goes against my abhorrence of celebrity status and people knowing my personal stuff. So I'm in secret limbo about that.
    Well, I've rambled, which I've noticed seems to be a very xNxx thing to do online, so if you're a fellow N, hello! Welcome to my blog, which I publish entirely in other people's comment sections.

    • @CognitivePersonalityTheory
      @CognitivePersonalityTheory  4 роки тому +4

      Happy to read your blog my fellow N!
      Yes, when there's a decision to be made the ENTP will often (though certainly not always) shut down the axis between Fe and Ti and essentially communicate Ti with Ne-Te. The primary utility of the type, in most instances, is social, and therefore the playground tends to be one of externalised emotions :)
      I have a video exploring different forms of empathy! Many ENTPs will experience Mirror Empathy and, for so long as the person is within their locus of control, so they very much feel the emotional harmony of a social situation. The Relational Empathy component tends to be more unconscious in an ENTP, but still present, though I would say the humanistically-informed logic you're describing may be more of a Ti rationalisation of Fe data than empathy per se.

    • @AlextheENTP
      @AlextheENTP 4 роки тому +3

      @@CognitivePersonalityTheory "playground... externalised emotions". Yes, that's what shakes many people. That we're perfectly happy to _show_ emotion, but don't employ it as the primary advisor for decision making. Living in a majority feeling-deciding world, people just expect that to be how a "decent person" functions, and they're often shocked when our "robotic" side is revealed. While I agree with you that absolutely anyone enduring past their threshold of hurt or betrayal is likely to fall into their type's weaknesses, I disagree that ENTPs are robotic for this reason. We're NTs, robotic is just part of the package. Yes, we're the most playful and emotionally expressive of the robots, but we're still robots. There's literally nothing wrong with that.
      Your last paragraph is a bit jargony for me to answer right now, so I'll try to check out your forms of empathy video and maybe ramble in that comment section too. I'm trying to understand what you mean by my description of empathy not really being empathy at all? Actually it sounds like you're describing... lol... a robot doing emotions. Which is genuinely hilarious if that's what you're saying.
      Alright, enough of my meaningless opinions for now. Thank you for taking the time to reply to me. I've enjoyed our conversation, and just for the sake of Poe's Law + possible thinker-feeler misunderstandings, everything I've said has been friendly, not fighty 👍.
      Signed, Cyborg 009.

    • @dianasmith5953
      @dianasmith5953 4 роки тому +3

      Haha. Welcome to my blog that I publish in other people's comment sections.......you win best quote today.

  • @savingthesalt4later898
    @savingthesalt4later898 4 роки тому +19

    I loved this video so much!!! As an ENTP I find that people around will call me sociopath/asshole whether in person and even a lot of ENTP information online will reflect this narrative so it was very intriguing to see these qualities sort of flipped to be empathetic rather than sociopathic. A lot of things you mentioned I didn’t even realize I did but looking back I could totally see where these fit in. I found this video very eye opening and a lot more accurate in its portrayal of an ENTP than most. so thank you I guess for empathizing with us ENTPs even though we can be contradictory loll

  • @sin3358
    @sin3358 3 роки тому +8

    Aweee, entps are so adorable!

  • @spanishtutor2552
    @spanishtutor2552 3 роки тому +4

    For ENTP’s, information like this is what therapy must be for others, I am sure I am not the only ENTP on this. Warmly, thank you for your work

  • @Dremr-in3if
    @Dremr-in3if 4 роки тому +5

    This is an incredibly accurate account of an ENTP's experience. I'm an ENTP who lived with an INFJ friend for years. You seem to understand both types very well. The great thing about INFJs in my opinion is that I don't have to hold back my ENTP-ness (heh) around them. They can, in reasonable doses, handle the intense social experience an ENTP will demand of them. Very thought-provoking video. Thanks for taking the time to make it.

    • @CognitivePersonalityTheory
      @CognitivePersonalityTheory  4 роки тому +2

      Thank you! Something that gets overlooked about INFJs is our capacity for intense Se-Fe experience - it definitely blends well with an ENTP-ness dynamic ;)

  • @erinpatchell
    @erinpatchell 4 роки тому +4

    For myself, as an entp, my more private nature is a protection mechanism because you're totally right that I'm very invested/committed to others' experiences - to my own detriment. Being selective with the people I am truly open with is an energy management technique and absolutely necessary to my survival (lol).

    • @CognitivePersonalityTheory
      @CognitivePersonalityTheory  4 роки тому

      So often times this is the case - few types are naturally private, but many Fe users become thus as a necessity :)

  • @Emily_kayy
    @Emily_kayy 2 роки тому +4

    I have never felt so understood, I have fallen into the trap of labelling myself as a narcissist or a sociopath however I know deep down that I am empathetic and I am sensitive. I have always worried that I come across as fake or manipulative however I really do this all in the effort of social cohesion and positive experience for all; it is always very important for me to be liked and to be helpful.

  • @SarahSmith-qj4uz
    @SarahSmith-qj4uz 2 роки тому +1

    i genuinely took notes because this was so insightful! i’ve never related to entp more, thank you 🙌🏼

  • @jackp.8438
    @jackp.8438 3 роки тому +1

    This resonated so deeply that it almost hurt to listen to. Something I needed to hear, though, so thank you for your insight! I was struggling to reconcile my being an ENTP with my (frequently crippling) empathy, but this gave me a new angle to see how they're really connected.

  • @aaronlacey1866
    @aaronlacey1866 4 роки тому +29

    WOW! I"ve always identified as an ENTP but always had doubts due to my empathetic tendencies at times. I always attributed this to developed Fe but this videos explains and myself better than I even could myself! Also going to ask, are you from the North East by any chance? I'm from Gateshead and heard a bit of an accent in there haha.. keep u the good work!

    • @CognitivePersonalityTheory
      @CognitivePersonalityTheory  4 роки тому +6

      Thanks Aaron!
      Good ear! I am indeed from the North East - my non-UK subscribers tend to have a harder time placing my accent (latest parralel was an Irish accent); I originate from Durham! Stay safe.

  • @yanheda
    @yanheda 4 роки тому +6

    Thank you for this video!
    An ENTP female here and been told on numerous occasions that I am cold and do not provide this constant confirmation of my feelings, which I find very upsetting. I go out of my way for people to have "the experience" for the lack of better words, surprising when they least expect it with something I know they will enjoy.
    Your "mask wearing" explanation is eye opening and finally explains what I been struggling to understand about myself for many years!

  • @lofttm969
    @lofttm969 4 роки тому +3

    This is brilliant, thank you.
    I am a 31 year old ENTP man that is easily moved to tears, and this is the first I’ve heard this nuance on describing ENTP.
    Addition 10 mins into the video:
    LOL I am currently on a binge tear of watching serial killer content and have that lurking question always. It’s funny to hear it described so acutely. It’s like the old saying “if you are wondering if you are crazy, you’re not crazy yet because crazy people don’t know they’re crazy”
    Edit 2: Wow. The bite sized chunks of introverted thinking is EXACTLY it. My girlfriend is a real INFJ and I think that’s why she likes me and gets my humor

  • @mickadatwist1620
    @mickadatwist1620 3 роки тому +2

    Brillaint.,,,,Im so gratefull for UA-cam throwing this my way. Explanation takes away so much guilt and victimhood that I been carrying for long now.

  • @nellautumngirl
    @nellautumngirl 4 роки тому +3

    My best friends' brother is an ENTP, he definitely likes debating, but he is very respectful about it, empathetic, emotionally smart and works as a social worker. I'm an INFP and I've never felt anything but comfortable around him. He's also very entertaining but used to be a quiet child.

  • @Niveous23
    @Niveous23 4 роки тому +8

    Well, you nailed my entire life. This went above and beyond 'well thought out'. And you did it with the much over-looked framework of, 'we're all more alike than we are different', and i love you for it. Wish I could sub you twice.

    • @CognitivePersonalityTheory
      @CognitivePersonalityTheory  4 роки тому +3

      Thanks so much for this comment! The outlook you mention is near and dear to me - cognitive type only goes so far and despite variations in the way we process information we are ultimately all still human and affected by life in similar ways.

  • @pipapoo
    @pipapoo 2 роки тому

    Great presentation! I even listened on normal speed and wound back quite a few times to take it all in, which is rare for me as I normally have to speed everything up cause videos like this are seldom packed just with useful information. So cheers!

  • @no_special_person
    @no_special_person 3 роки тому +1

    1 comment out of almost a thousand but I still think it needs to be said.
    I'm incredibly grateful for the videos you create, it's been an amazing source of understanding as I come to grapes mbti.
    And possibly this is the #1 course of the mbti community, for accurate information.
    Your clear, well-spoken and really have an indepth knowledge, I think your great I just wanna acknowledge this.

  • @laeticiagillespie8805
    @laeticiagillespie8805 4 роки тому +7

    Very appreciative of your thoughts, perspectives, explanations and understanding regarding ENTPs - I've been conflicted over being typed as an ENTP when often pages and some people consider ENTPs to be insensitive and incapable of caring about others emotions as well as confusion over my love of being around people but requiring periods alone with my thoughts, making me ponder whether I may be considered an introvert. Thanks for helping to clear up some misunderstandings regarding the type:) Can't believe this video has been out 6 months and I've only just watched it.

    • @CognitivePersonalityTheory
      @CognitivePersonalityTheory  4 роки тому

      It can so often be the reverse in terms of such behaviour too!
      Cheers for watching! The video is gradually getting shown to more people :)

  • @lulukakabulu
    @lulukakabulu 4 роки тому +6

    This must be the best description of the entp that I have come across this far. I'm an infj and my partner is an entp, I would love to see more videos on the entp!

  • @livelearnlovesmile
    @livelearnlovesmile Рік тому +2

    I can't stop crying from the joy you've given me. Completely describes my entire life. Affirmation seeking. Drive to make others happy. Hell it's why I went into becoming a counselor myself. The little fear of my own masks and if it was a cover for being a sociopath. I just admitted to my partner last night I don't know if I really was my my mask presentation or if I was a sociopath that was just self trained to care... I've felt a weight lifted off me by your description of my entire inner monolog for my life. The constant planning and running social scenarios in my mind all day... I'm just dumbfounded and so grateful. I cannot wait to send this to my fiance and girlfriend.

  • @MithraSemiramis
    @MithraSemiramis 3 роки тому +2

    I appreciate how you've pinpointed this manifestation of the ENTP type because it's often overlooked and it's actually what I've had the most experience with.

  • @jsmith7356
    @jsmith7356 4 роки тому +5

    This was beautifully articulate.
    Well done, sir.
    Most adequate 😍

  • @nic5916
    @nic5916 4 роки тому +3

    Oh my goodness, thankyou! I’m an entp who completely relates to what you are saying. New sub!

  • @darkrebel123
    @darkrebel123 9 днів тому

    I think I'm an ENTP. For years I assumed I was an introvert, but after speaking in depth with my therapist and my psychiatrist, they helped me see that I have pretty severe social anxiety, which has led me to think that I've actually always been an extrovert with social anxiety. A socially anxious extrovert can look very introverted.
    Also, your observations about taking responsibility for how others feel is spot on. I was in a relationship once with a woman who I think had BPD, which meant she was emotionally volatile, and at one point I had to make the conscious descision that I cannot hold myself responsible for her negative emotions if I have done my best to facilitate positive ones. That was a huge wakeup call for me, and a learning moment. Shifted my perspective on how I relate with everyone. Now i beleive it is my responsibility to create an environment conducive to positive experiences, but my responsibility ends there. The way someone responds to the environment I create is ultimately on them.

  • @hilcho
    @hilcho Рік тому

    Thanks dude. This makes so much more sense that a lot of the other video from creators. Tests typed me as INTP and research confused me because it wasn't lining up

  • @chrisd.2831
    @chrisd.2831 4 роки тому +6

    one addition since you describe young entps... Id say they are maybe as you say appearing introverted but!!! they are very curious and inquisitive and might ask a lot of questions and are not really quiet probably.
    Alonetime... yes, because relations are difficult to process, one cannot do that all the time. But lot of intake by reading or online and communicating there.
    Also thank you for mentioning guilt/responsibility for the social outcome, spot on for me. Also masks.. yes often misunderstood. Everything is so true, very well done!

    • @CognitivePersonalityTheory
      @CognitivePersonalityTheory  4 роки тому +2

      Thank you so much for your awesome comments!
      I agree many, many younger ENTPs also have that inquisitive streak :)

    • @chrisd.2831
      @chrisd.2831 4 роки тому +1

      Cognitive Personality Theory Im so impressed! How could you figure this out in such a precision? the not showing ones vulnerability (instead joking, lighten the mood, ...) Noone talks about that but its my life. Theres a big fat stop sign when its about showing weakness/vulnerability. Usually the Entp is being seen as unfeeling not vulnerable but feelings can be difficult to process and make us vulnerable because we are not so skilled in the area of Fi.

    • @CognitivePersonalityTheory
      @CognitivePersonalityTheory  4 роки тому +1

      @@chrisd.2831 It's my privilege to know a few ENTPs personally, which has been a massive help in understanding the type on a deeper level :)

  • @AutoAlchemy
    @AutoAlchemy 4 роки тому +5

    Wow. Excellent video, man. The presentation is phenomenal, and this is exactly the kind of stereotype-busting that's needed re: ENTPs. I'm an ENTP, but people often suspect I am an INFJ. For the longest time, I thought that I was an INTP; I couldn't stand the 'image' of ENTPs and felt that it was so far from my own self-perception. If I'd seen something like this years ago, my typing journey might have been easier.

    • @CognitivePersonalityTheory
      @CognitivePersonalityTheory  4 роки тому +2

      Thank you mate! Yes the ENTP stereotypes have been a source of frustration to me for some time, so it means a lot to see ENTPs such as yourself responding so well to the video :)
      I've subscribed to your channel and look forward to checking it out properly soon!

    • @dwelfusius
      @dwelfusius 4 роки тому +1

      I'm in a facebook group "True entp" , it was a getaway from the entp main group that is full of trolly people feeling they need to adhere to the stereotypical entp image.It's awfull. Every once in a while we get some in our group,and they choose not to abide to the rules. Claiming, ENTP's don't do rules :D They don't last long. There I really found a cool spot of likeminded people, like finding your tribe.It was a magnificent experience.

  • @seekeroflight3765
    @seekeroflight3765 2 роки тому +2

    Finally, you are someone who described exactly where I found my self with 100% accuracy. I became more confident of your description as an ENTP Empath, because almost year long I have been in touched with INFJ, in your description my interaction with INFJ also reaction of INFJ, I found not even slim difference. Thanks for enriching my knowledge for oneself as well as for INFJ. Be blessed.

  • @bananagomm
    @bananagomm 2 роки тому +1

    I feel so called out and so understood at the same time. Thank you so much, really.

  • @anushkadwivedi4331
    @anushkadwivedi4331 2 роки тому +3

    it's nice coming across videos that do not project us ENTP's as arrogant assholes who only care for arguing with their surface level knowledge. thank u understanding us so deeply.

  • @taydupreez8555
    @taydupreez8555 4 роки тому +3

    😭 This really struck me deeply. Thank you so much for this video.

    • @CognitivePersonalityTheory
      @CognitivePersonalityTheory  4 роки тому +1

      Really glad you got something out of it!! :)

    • @taydupreez8555
      @taydupreez8555 4 роки тому

      @@CognitivePersonalityTheory I'm actually watching this video again! 😍
      For many years I suppressed my Fe partly due to being repeatedly hurt because of my marriage to a covert narcissist as well as due to him forcefully isolating me from family and friends. As u can imagine this caused me severe depression to the point of near suicide but fortunately those days are over. I can definitely see why an entp might under such circumstances display sociopathic behavior and had I not been responsible for the welfare of my children I likely too would have done a few crazy things. 😅
      I can also understand how someone having acquired an inordinate amount of wounds in their lives could become narcissistic and attention seeking and develop entitlement syndrome. In fact I suffered from the entitlement until I read a book on it and realised I was playing the victim and that snapped me out of it really quickly. I refuse to become a burden to someone else because i haven't developed enough self awareness to rise above my circumstances/past.
      I have also been accused of being inauthentic when in social situations though I don't consider it being so. I think of myself as being multifaceted and depending on which group I'm with or which social situation I'm in a certain facet will then come to light. In my mind I'm connecting with people on a level that they are comfortable with and that allows for an enjoyable experience for all, especially since I have a very extensive range of interests.
      And yes! As a child/teen I was very introverted, spending most of my reading about my interests and writing stories or doing art and performing on stage. I was very quite at home but when in social situations rather boisterous and engaging which I supposed made me seem all the more fake to some haha! I have also often been accused of giving unsolicited advice. It's become a family joke now even though I don't do it anymore but generally when I am unable to help someone or fix a situation I feel 'useless'.
      When I am in introvert mode I'm usually learning something or doing some writing/reading. I cannot sit and do nothing! If I don't have some sort of creative outlet or means to sate my random bursts of curiosity I get extremely frustrated. Most of the time I forget to eat and don't even know I'm tired until I start to pass out while doing something because my quiet time is still productive time. I often wish I didn't need sleep/food/etc lol
      I don't think of myself as extremely scientifically inclined. Though I do enjoy science and experimenting I'm also only extremely stubborn if there are clear facts to back my claims up and the person trying to dissuade me has no proof. I'm rather open minded and if someone can offer me better more efficient theories/opinions/ideas I might change my point of view.
      As for the introverted intuition and introverted feeling I have in this last year I would say I have definitely ignored my need to make people happy and affirmation seeking tendencies in lieu of what I know is best for me and my children. Though it's very hard to do sometimes though I realised I have to live with myself and my choices, not other people, and thus I should do what makes sense to me for me and mine.
      Lmao I think I will stop this essay here since this is more than enough unnecessary information! Thank you again for your wonderful videos! I will keep on watching ❤️

  • @ashzhere3212
    @ashzhere3212 Рік тому +1

    Someone finally explained how stereotypes don’t make sense while i wasn’t exactly able to list the parts where I should put most emphasis to, THANK YOU

  • @austinhunsaker3270
    @austinhunsaker3270 4 роки тому +1

    What a great video!!!! I understand myself better now as an ENTP. Much appreciated!

  • @scottfinley8392
    @scottfinley8392 2 роки тому +3

    I am a very healthy ENTP and have improved my weaker cognitive stacks to the conscious activated level of empathy and have discovered a great many healthy internal frameworks which allows me to stay happy and optimistic and unbothered even if someone is actually insulting me to my face. It helps a great deal that my confidence has reached the point that I do not care at all what people think of me, I actually no longer get embarrassed by anything anymore because my confidence no longer has anything to do with peoples validation or approval but it all is gained internally from my core values of being a wonderful helpful nice person and incredibly talented dancer and make everyone laugh and also people literally can't stay sad around me because my happiness and enthusiasm is very contagious and making people laugh and my joy while dancing and totally not caring what anyone thinks even dancing alone on a dance floor, pretty much everyone knows me at music events now even if I have never met them. Apparently every time I dance totally not caring what anyone thinks and having so much fun will dance completely alone with 50 people standing on the sides watching me it ends up showing people that its about having fun and that caring what people think isn't important and I end up motivating people to get off their seats and come dance and have fun.
    Anyways its crazy how accurate it fits me all the things you said about empath ENTP. I always am trying to improve the overall experience and enjoyment of people around me everywhere I go. Also if someone is sad and depressed about something that happened recently, I will literally drop everything I am doing, even having fun playing a video game to cheer them up because instantly cheering them up becomes the most important thing I could possibly be doing, I actually realized that when they are bummed I end up being bummed out too because I'm an Empath so I actually am protecting my self because when they cheer up then I cheer up. I am 100% naturally an entertainer at heart, I dance with led shoes and do light shows at festivals and I entertain people who are sitting at the outskirts with my dancing skills and unique style and footwork and I am learning Dragonstaff flow arts and want to entertain people that way too. Thanks for such a great video.

  • @dominiscus
    @dominiscus 4 роки тому +6

    The video I've been waiting for. Thanks so much for the fantastic video! On a side note, how have gotten such in-depth knowledge of other types minds? I can assuredly confirm these theories when comparing them to myself and another ENTP friend I have, however considering you are an INFJ, it's boggling to see you able to speak such truthful words without being an ENTP yourself. Again, fantastic video, I genuinely can't wait for more and can easily see you becoming a widely known member in the MBTI/Jungian community. Edit: Just bought your book, I need so much more of this. Cant't wait to get into it!

    • @CognitivePersonalityTheory
      @CognitivePersonalityTheory  4 роки тому +2

      No worries Dominick, I'm glad it didn't dissappoint! :)

    • @soniac2156
      @soniac2156 4 роки тому

      What book? I want it also, can you please tell me the name of it. thks

    • @dominiscus
      @dominiscus 4 роки тому +1

      @@soniac2156 "Cognitive Personality Theory" by Harry Murrell

  • @LatIenws
    @LatIenws 2 роки тому

    👏👏👏 yeeeesss thank you for including a more broad description. I have people I consider dear to me and deeply enjoy their company as they’re pretty healthy or well rounded people. I really don’t like how it’s stereotyped, I think they could often be misunderstood - INFJ

  • @rainbowlove3371
    @rainbowlove3371 3 роки тому +2

    We're so lucky to have you in UA-cam!
    Thank you so much for your hard work
    We really appreciate it ❤