Have you ever experienced post-traumatic growth? Do you believe it's possible? To dive deeper, grab the guide here: terricole.com/transformation-after-trauma-guide
Thank you ! I'm New here, I just want to ask if Mother wounds affect finances, because everytime I get a job, peoples act very rude with me until i lost it. Now I have 39 years and I'm jobless. I feel really stuck ! Also without friends, without lover !
What happens with each post- traumatic stress syndrome is that your life gets smaller and smaller bcz you are now afraid to do the things you were not afraid to do before.
Dear Terri, every time I look at you, you never fail to impress me with your youthfulness, your natural and cultured beauty and the charm of your demeanor. Let me tell you, your body didnt let you down. You had suppressed anger in those days, thats how you got the cancer. I am so sorry you suffered and so happy you came out of it. 🙂
Dear Terri, I had a few traumas. Violence towards me in relationships. Although it happened a long time ago and I'm aware, it's still not forgotten. Sometimes I think about it. In another violent case, it took me 18 years to get over it, thanks to the books of Willem Glaudemans en Adyashanti I could. That really helped me letting go. I did it on my own because nobody understood. I'm relatively strong, but I'm still working on it. I mean myself. Propably untill I dye 😜 Thanks for your love, help, care and sharing your wisdom. Love you ♥️♥️♥️🙏🌈
@DavidMorgan-mg8dj dear David, thanks for caring. How are you? I'm fine. I read a book about acceptance and it seems it made a breakthrough in myself. Ofcourse somethings didn't change yet and it's not ok but I can accept it, I'm not fighting it. Struggling is suffering 😁🙏🌈♥️ have a nice day dear 😇
As always your video is so helpful! There is so much trending online about trauma and it is so refreshing to see someone, you!, showing us how to heal it. Thank you!
You are a beautiful person! Thank you for your work! 🙏❤️ I just finished this video. My last two relationships were with men who had terrible trauma as children. Which is heartbreaking. As a consequence, they are heartbroken and consequently, break others hearts. I just began praying for a miracle that they will stop the cycle. So that others are not hurt. Your work is important. And your mission is important. You deserve so much love and gratitude for what you do! 🙏❤️
Thank you, Terri. Such an honest, from the heart sharing. I perceive you growing and deepening and I honor you and am grateful for your existence and the help you offer.
for me, having an unrelated traumatic experience made me accepting of being vulnerable enough to finally be able to process the decades of abuse inherent in my family that was too mind-numbing for me to even see for what it was and what it did to me
Sí lo experimenté y con mucha intensidad hace aproximadamente seis años. Me ayudó una terapista experimentada y después fue como un renacimiento en.todos los sentidos para mí.
Wow, Terri, I am blown away by how powerful and courageous you are! I had no idea what you had gone through and overcome! May you be healthy and well for the rest of your life!
suffered from trauma bonding couple of years ago. Didn't know I had some much trauma/resolved pain buried in my subconscious. Pursuing hobbies and interests and studying online now.
This was really nice to hear. The mourning part.. you know it so true.. and really real. That's been a really hard part for me. This post-traumatic growth writing is so interesting. I definitely will try it. Thank you, thank you.. love always 🩷
@@terri_cole Thank you. I think they will be. I never used to journal before.. but Mel Robbins got me doing it.. and as you know.. it's quite insightful 💗 I like it!
Make sure you choose a good therapist. It is not a given that any therapist can help you. Inform yourself about their specialty, and ask them thoroughly about their approach, successes, etc. I find that, somehow, people assume every therapist is suited for the job. But just like with doctors, you need someone who can treat your specific problem. For instance, my therapist was all about solutions and didn't do any grieving with me. Therefore, I wasted 2 years. I couldn't integrate the solutions because I hadn't done the work necessary for that.
I find your videos so helpful, thank you for speaking so deep about these topics! ❤ I find myself an empath and the information you are sharing is so relatable. Can you also make a video about that situation when a friend is rummaging or digging up for questions and topics that make you uncomfortable, coming with the argument that the topic they want to discuss is part of the reality, thus I should be at least curious about it in their opinion. There are also those situations when in a group of friends people share some personal stories which are sad or frustrating and maybe you do not find yourself in a similar situation and thus you don t have something similar to share, and then the attention is brought to you: “you haven’t been to something like this? Come on, dig a bit, you are not a bit curious?”
Hi, from Thailand Terri. I have learned so much form u. I really really really appreciate u. This one I love it the most. It's so wonderful. I can resonate to the tee with all of them. 🎉🎉🎉 Amazing. You are so beautiful inside out. ❤❤❤
Will you leave a link to the guide you mentioned that is on your website about rewriting your story prompts associated with Rokelle Lerner? I searched your website but could not find it. I typed in your web address followed by the word guide but wasn’t able to get to it.
This is besides the topic but something I'm curious about my question is I have a mother that's co dependant that I have learned by living with her as a daughter I try to help her see where she could benefit in her growth in her narcisitic ways and trust me I have my own set of issues I'm trying grow and learn and change if there changeable but she's so far into her toxic cycles she won't budge to any of my help and all she want to do is tell me that the problem is me when its evident in my life when I get stronger and move in a good direction my life every time she sees that quality in me she tries and gets stronger in her will to tri to tear me down in every which way she can then wants to turn around and laughs in my face saying I did it to myself when I can see truly that she uses tactics and sabatage to break me down how can I cope with this behavior and is there a way I can escape from her hurting me?
Hi Cherish, I am so sorry you are experiencing this. I have a few videos on daughters and narcissistic mothers, which it sounds like you may be dealing with, especially if your mother does not want you to have any autonomy. Check out these videos for tips on protecting yourself ❤️ ua-cam.com/video/p7wbjZeKihU/v-deo.html ua-cam.com/video/hFrmWNieN_c/v-deo.html ua-cam.com/video/dDTF5iXvbi4/v-deo.html
There is a question that popped into my head while listening -- perhaps some can't heal from trauma because they cannot identify what trauma really is.. I was always a "tough" one, things that were happening to me were not traumas and problems, they were challenges that I was attacking with a full blown "hold my beer" attitude. Is it possible I just never treated such experiences as traumatic because of this heads-on approach and therefore they still linger somewhere as unfinished business because I couldn't admit to myself that they were in fact traumatic? Open question..
The real question is, do you have any evidence or difficulties in your current life relating to past unresolved traumas? It would look like intrusive memories, extreme or big reactions to stimuli that remind you of the origins trauma, etc. If the answer is no, then even if those things were traumatic- you survived them without the lingering trauma effects. I hope that helps ❤️
@@terri_cole Actually I don't think I do have any evident signals of this happening. So I guess it's not so much trauma as coping mechanisms that I have to deal with. Thank you for an interesting point of reference.
@@tracygarcia4078 Havent heard of that...interesting, I'll look into it. The fact is, not one human on this planet had perfect childhood. It's just how it is. The question is can we just deal with it and overcome the effects to live happier and mor fulfilled lives? :)
@@tracygarcia4078 This is amazing, ho people in such situations usually go for blaming themselves...is it cultural? Has to be. I don't see this reaction as being part of our primal selves trying to survive.
Have you ever experienced post-traumatic growth? Do you believe it's possible? To dive deeper, grab the guide here: terricole.com/transformation-after-trauma-guide
Thank you Terri! 🙏💕
Thank you ! I'm New here, I just want to ask if Mother wounds affect finances, because everytime I get a job, peoples act very rude with me until i lost it. Now I have 39 years and I'm jobless. I feel really stuck ! Also without friends, without lover !
I just saw this. Do U have more series in this video
What happens with each post- traumatic stress syndrome is that your life gets smaller and smaller bcz you are now afraid to do the things you were not afraid to do before.
TRUTH!😢
Bingo!! 🎯
Very insightful. So true.❤🙏🏻
Dear Terri, every time I look at you, you never fail to impress me with your youthfulness, your natural and cultured beauty and the charm of your demeanor. Let me tell you, your body didnt let you down. You had suppressed anger in those days, thats how you got the cancer. I am so sorry you suffered and so happy you came out of it. 🙂
Dear Terri, I had a few traumas. Violence towards me in relationships. Although it happened a long time ago and I'm aware, it's still not forgotten. Sometimes I think about it.
In another violent case, it took me 18 years to get over it, thanks to the books of Willem Glaudemans en Adyashanti I could.
That really helped me letting go.
I did it on my own because nobody understood.
I'm relatively strong, but I'm still working on it. I mean myself. Propably untill I dye 😜
Thanks for your love, help, care and sharing your wisdom.
Love you ♥️♥️♥️🙏🌈
@DavidMorgan-mg8dj dear David, thanks for caring. How are you? I'm fine. I read a book about acceptance and it seems it made a breakthrough in myself. Ofcourse somethings didn't change yet and it's not ok but I can accept it, I'm not fighting it. Struggling is suffering 😁🙏🌈♥️ have a nice day dear 😇
@DavidMorgan-mg8dj did you get my emailadress because I don't see it anymore
@DavidMorgan-mg8dj yes I just send you 😁😉🍀🌼🙏🌈
As always your video is so helpful! There is so much trending online about trauma and it is so refreshing to see someone, you!, showing us how to heal it. Thank you!
So glad it was helpful Michelle ❤️
Excelent post, my dear Terri. I love how you integrate your own experiences in your videos, that makes your speaking more close and real.
@David Morgan fine thanks
You are a beautiful person! Thank you for your work! 🙏❤️
I just finished this video. My last two relationships were with men who had terrible trauma as children. Which is heartbreaking. As a consequence, they are heartbroken and consequently, break others hearts. I just began praying for a miracle that they will stop the cycle. So that others are not hurt. Your work is important. And your mission is important. You deserve so much love and gratitude for what you do! 🙏❤️
Thank you so much, Sally ❤️ Glad to have you here!
Thank you, Terri. Such an honest, from the heart sharing. I perceive you growing and deepening and I honor you and am grateful for your existence and the help you offer.
❤️❤️
Bessel van der Kolk- The Body Keeps Score.
The Bible of Trauma, especially chronic PTSD. Best book ever!
for me, having an unrelated traumatic experience made me accepting of being vulnerable enough to finally be able to process the decades of abuse inherent in my family that was too mind-numbing for me to even see for what it was and what it did to me
I am witnessing you with compassion ❤️
Sí lo experimenté y con mucha intensidad hace aproximadamente seis años. Me ayudó una terapista experimentada y después fue como un renacimiento en.todos los sentidos para mí.
I am so glad you were able to have this experience after working with a therapist, Gregaria ❤️
Thank you for being a big part of me processing my trauma.❤
Thank you for being here, Julia ❤️❤️❤️
Wow, Terri, I am blown away by how powerful and courageous you are! I had no idea what you had gone through and overcome! May you be healthy and well for the rest of your life!
❤️
Gracias Terry 🙏🏼
suffered from trauma bonding couple of years ago. Didn't know I had some much trauma/resolved pain buried in my subconscious. Pursuing hobbies and interests and studying online now.
I am witnessing you with compassion ❤️
This was really nice to hear. The mourning part.. you know it so true.. and really real. That's been a really hard part for me. This post-traumatic growth writing is so interesting. I definitely will try it. Thank you, thank you.. love always 🩷
I hope the writing exercises are helpful! ❤️
@@terri_cole Thank you. I think they will be. I never used to journal before.. but Mel Robbins got me doing it.. and as you know.. it's quite insightful 💗 I like it!
Make sure you choose a good therapist. It is not a given that any therapist can help you. Inform yourself about their specialty, and ask them thoroughly about their approach, successes, etc. I find that, somehow, people assume every therapist is suited for the job. But just like with doctors, you need someone who can treat your specific problem.
For instance, my therapist was all about solutions and didn't do any grieving with me. Therefore, I wasted 2 years. I couldn't integrate the solutions because I hadn't done the work necessary for that.
Absolutely - thank you for sharing. I did a video on how to choose the right therapist, for anyone looking: ua-cam.com/video/GIg_2A1VZzw/v-deo.html
I find your videos so helpful, thank you for speaking so deep about these topics! ❤ I find myself an empath and the information you are sharing is so relatable. Can you also make a video about that situation when a friend is rummaging or digging up for questions and topics that make you uncomfortable, coming with the argument that the topic they want to discuss is part of the reality, thus I should be at least curious about it in their opinion. There are also those situations when in a group of friends people share some personal stories which are sad or frustrating and maybe you do not find yourself in a similar situation and thus you don t have something similar to share, and then the attention is brought to you: “you haven’t been to something like this? Come on, dig a bit, you are not a bit curious?”
thank you
You're welcome ❤️
Beautiful content. Thank you, Terri. You are a lovely human being.
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Hi, from Thailand Terri. I have learned so much form u. I really really really appreciate u. This one I love it the most. It's so wonderful. I can resonate to the tee with all of them. 🎉🎉🎉 Amazing.
You are so beautiful inside out. ❤❤❤
Thank you so much for being here ❤️
New subscriber here. Thanks for using your experience and expertise to help us (me).
❤️❤️❤️
Priceless! Thank you!
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Will you leave a link to the guide you mentioned that is on your website about rewriting your story prompts associated with Rokelle Lerner? I searched your website but could not find it. I typed in your web address followed by the word guide but wasn’t able to get to it.
Sure thing: terricole.com/transformation-after-trauma-guide Most videos have the guide link in the description as well as the pinned comment ❤
Your are AMAZING
I just found your page ✨️🕊
Welcome! Glad to have you here, Sima ❤️
This is besides the topic but something I'm curious about my question is I have a mother that's co dependant that I have learned by living with her as a daughter I try to help her see where she could benefit in her growth in her narcisitic ways and trust me I have my own set of issues I'm trying grow and learn and change if there changeable but she's so far into her toxic cycles she won't budge to any of my help and all she want to do is tell me that the problem is me when its evident in my life when I get stronger and move in a good direction my life every time she sees that quality in me she tries and gets stronger in her will to tri to tear me down in every which way she can then wants to turn around and laughs in my face saying I did it to myself when I can see truly that she uses tactics and sabatage to break me down how can I cope with this behavior and is there a way I can escape from her hurting me?
Hi Cherish, I am so sorry you are experiencing this. I have a few videos on daughters and narcissistic mothers, which it sounds like you may be dealing with, especially if your mother does not want you to have any autonomy. Check out these videos for tips on protecting yourself ❤️
ua-cam.com/video/p7wbjZeKihU/v-deo.html
ua-cam.com/video/hFrmWNieN_c/v-deo.html
ua-cam.com/video/dDTF5iXvbi4/v-deo.html
There is a question that popped into my head while listening -- perhaps some can't heal from trauma because they cannot identify what trauma really is.. I was always a "tough" one, things that were happening to me were not traumas and problems, they were challenges that I was attacking with a full blown "hold my beer" attitude. Is it possible I just never treated such experiences as traumatic because of this heads-on approach and therefore they still linger somewhere as unfinished business because I couldn't admit to myself that they were in fact traumatic? Open question..
The real question is, do you have any evidence or difficulties in your current life relating to past unresolved traumas? It would look like intrusive memories, extreme or big reactions to stimuli that remind you of the origins trauma, etc. If the answer is no, then even if those things were traumatic- you survived them without the lingering trauma effects. I hope that helps ❤️
@@terri_cole Actually I don't think I do have any evident signals of this happening. So I guess it's not so much trauma as coping mechanisms that I have to deal with. Thank you for an interesting point of reference.
@@tracygarcia4078 Havent heard of that...interesting, I'll look into it. The fact is, not one human on this planet had perfect childhood. It's just how it is. The question is can we just deal with it and overcome the effects to live happier and mor fulfilled lives? :)
@@tracygarcia4078 This is amazing, ho people in such situations usually go for blaming themselves...is it cultural? Has to be. I don't see this reaction as being part of our primal selves trying to survive.