In my experience, your body quickly realizes when you do something right by encouraging you to keep doing it. If you feed it, it's happy, and it'll keep seeking that happiness and health... if it wants a mile, and you give it an inch, it's not going to just ignore that need...
Awesome. I need to listen to this every day right now. It makes so much sense and I’m so grateful for the woman who wrote in this question. Hope she’s doing well and thank you Tabatha for your wisdom and the straight truth in which you encourage us. Don’t restrict...ever...period. ☺️❤️
Love your hair! BTW could you do videos on: - not feeling hungry in the mornings. - what to do when you feel a little bit hungry but then by the time you can eat (e.g. when class is over) you no longer are hungry at all. - dealing with your healthy body being bigger than those around you (e.g. I have recently realised that I can only get my period when at a high body fat %). - how to stop being triggered by those around you (e.g. my older sister who I'm pretty sure is orthorexic never eats any sweets or "junk" food, take-out, often won't come or won't order if we go out to dinner, and over the past year has decided that she "doesn't like" fries anymore!), I find these behaviours really triggering especially because she can get her period at a lower body fat % than me and has always been the skinnier one. - thanks so much for everything!! I have recently found you and have been binge watching all your videos, that have been a massive help!
Issy, I don't have any advice, but I wanted you to know you aren't alone in the triggering sister department. I had a tough-ish Thanksgiving because my sister has disordered eating (wanting to stay thin, eating clean, etc.), and I know how hard that can be when you are recovering. I wobbled a bit, but went right back on schedule with unrestricted eating after she left. I love her to pieces, but I want to get a grip on my emotions food-wise when I'm around her. The reality is that I MUST eat much more than she does to stay healthy in my mind and body.
thanks! it's great to know that I'm not the only one. Usually when I start feeling triggered I try to imagine all the things I'll miss out on if I "clean-eat" or restrict (e.g. cultural foods when travelling, my own wedding/birthday cakes, baking with future kids, etc.) and end up feeling sorry for my sister and all the missed taste sensations lost by eating bland food all the time! - I also like to think of how much comfier it is hugging my mum vs a skinny aunty of mine, and realise that being softer is ok (and much more huggable!) @@friendoftherese1
This is what I’m dealing with right now. I restricted all week (thanks, Thanksgiving :/) then yesterday I tried to eat more and I was SO HUNGRY all day. I baked cookies that didn’t get to see today haha.
I’ve been in recovery for around 11 months sometimes slipping but getting back up. Sometimes still I get extreme hunger, actually I’m having extreme hunger right now bc of school and the lack of sleep and eating time changing after the holidays. It’s quite hard tbh especially when at your before Ed weight. Weirdly though restricting is kinda out of the question now , it doesn’t really come to mind as often as it use to but I do still panic and look back and think is I’m doing the right thing . Idk sometimes it gets hard, ygm. Anyways stay strong peeps 💪
Heya, I'm in the same situation right now! (Well, not in school, but college applications and lack of sleep causing extreme hunger). I'm even the same amount of time in real recovery, though of course now you're much further ahead. How are you doing currently?
Tabitha, could you do a video on whether your material pertains to fat folks as well? I think what you say is more easily accepted re: folks who are thin and "visibly" "need" to gain weight. Thanks a bunch, I'd really need this in my advocacy!!
From my understanding, Tabitha is a HAES advocate so I would say that this information and advice is for anyone who can benefit from it! Small, large, it doesn't matter. Like she said in the video, it has nothing to do with weight. You can suffer from these symptoms at any size.
How long does it take for the brain to think we're in a famine? Say if you miss breakfast because you're running late would it think the same think or does it need to be a continual action of skipping meals or fewer calories? Even though it wouldn't be enough calories would it be better just to pick something quick so u have something to fuel your body.
Can u make a vid on anorexia and depression from before I restricted cuz I think I’m fat after 2 failed recovery I’m restricting cuz I have a thought of suicide
In my experience, your body quickly realizes when you do something right by encouraging you to keep doing it. If you feed it, it's happy, and it'll keep seeking that happiness and health... if it wants a mile, and you give it an inch, it's not going to just ignore that need...
Thank you, relevant and timely as always, Tabitha. 💕
Awesome. I need to listen to this every day right now. It makes so much sense and I’m so grateful for the woman who wrote in this question. Hope she’s doing well and thank you Tabatha for your wisdom and the straight truth in which you encourage us. Don’t restrict...ever...period. ☺️❤️
Love your hair!
BTW could you do videos on:
- not feeling hungry in the mornings.
- what to do when you feel a little bit hungry but then by the time you can eat (e.g. when class is over) you no longer are hungry at all.
- dealing with your healthy body being bigger than those around you (e.g. I have recently realised that I can only get my period when at a high body fat %).
- how to stop being triggered by those around you (e.g. my older sister who I'm pretty sure is orthorexic never eats any sweets or "junk" food, take-out, often won't come or won't order if we go out to dinner, and over the past year has decided that she "doesn't like" fries anymore!), I find these behaviours really triggering especially because she can get her period at a lower body fat % than me and has always been the skinnier one.
- thanks so much for everything!! I have recently found you and have been binge watching all your videos, that have been a massive help!
Issy, I don't have any advice, but I wanted you to know you aren't alone in the triggering sister department. I had a tough-ish Thanksgiving because my sister has disordered eating (wanting to stay thin, eating clean, etc.), and I know how hard that can be when you are recovering. I wobbled a bit, but went right back on schedule with unrestricted eating after she left. I love her to pieces, but I want to get a grip on my emotions food-wise when I'm around her. The reality is that I MUST eat much more than she does to stay healthy in my mind and body.
thanks! it's great to know that I'm not the only one.
Usually when I start feeling triggered I try to imagine all the things I'll miss out on if I "clean-eat" or restrict (e.g. cultural foods when travelling, my own wedding/birthday cakes, baking with future kids, etc.) and end up feeling sorry for my sister and all the missed taste sensations lost by eating bland food all the time!
- I also like to think of how much comfier it is hugging my mum vs a skinny aunty of mine, and realise that being softer is ok (and much more huggable!)
@@friendoftherese1
@@issymather8116 Fluffy hugs are definitely better!
This is what I’m dealing with right now. I restricted all week (thanks, Thanksgiving :/) then yesterday I tried to eat more and I was SO HUNGRY all day. I baked cookies that didn’t get to see today haha.
Thank you so much Tabitha! You allow yourself to be so accessible by answering all these questions and its such an incredible help!
I’ve been in recovery for around 11 months sometimes slipping but getting back up. Sometimes still I get extreme hunger, actually I’m having extreme hunger right now bc of school and the lack of sleep and eating time changing after the holidays. It’s quite hard tbh especially when at your before Ed weight. Weirdly though restricting is kinda out of the question now , it doesn’t really come to mind as often as it use to but I do still panic and look back and think is I’m doing the right thing . Idk sometimes it gets hard, ygm. Anyways stay strong peeps 💪
Heya, I'm in the same situation right now! (Well, not in school, but college applications and lack of sleep causing extreme hunger). I'm even the same amount of time in real recovery, though of course now you're much further ahead. How are you doing currently?
Tabitha, could you do a video on whether your material pertains to fat folks as well? I think what you say is more easily accepted re: folks who are thin and "visibly" "need" to gain weight. Thanks a bunch, I'd really need this in my advocacy!!
From my understanding, Tabitha is a HAES advocate so I would say that this information and advice is for anyone who can benefit from it! Small, large, it doesn't matter. Like she said in the video, it has nothing to do with weight. You can suffer from these symptoms at any size.
How long does it take for the brain to think we're in a famine? Say if you miss breakfast because you're running late would it think the same think or does it need to be a continual action of skipping meals or fewer calories? Even though it wouldn't be enough calories would it be better just to pick something quick so u have something to fuel your body.
Can u make a vid on anorexia and depression from before I restricted cuz I think I’m fat after 2 failed recovery I’m restricting cuz I have a thought of suicide