Queerfully Yours | EP 3: Our Coming-Out Stories

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  • @lemuelmalongayon334
    @lemuelmalongayon334 Рік тому +39

    That line, "Kaya pala akong mahalin kahit di ako tuwid" 🥺💯 juskoooo

  • @ProximaSun
    @ProximaSun Рік тому +34

    ang Wise ni Chardi sa pag explain nya nung mga nahihirapan mag come out, you gained my respect.

    • @faith8582
      @faith8582 Рік тому

      Agree! Pansin ko rin napaka smart niya magsalita.

  • @roseannermino3489
    @roseannermino3489 Рік тому +13

    This is so far the ep for me. Me as a woman with a gay man partner, it is indeed true na talagang kayang mahalin ang isang tao regardless of our gender. Late ko man 'to napanood. ❤ Happy Pride! 🌈

  • @paureinhardt9175
    @paureinhardt9175 Рік тому +7

    Love LGBT community! Yung son ko 2 yrs old palang alam ko na na soft siya. Ngaun 12 n siya, dati nahiya p siya sbhn skn pero sbe ko kahit ano p siya, mahal ko siya. Ang mahalaga marunong k rumespeto ng ibang tao. ❤️

    • @ecxzac2
      @ecxzac2 8 місяців тому

      hugs

  • @Bosdaks
    @Bosdaks Рік тому

    Thank you for this. I'm straight and madami sa circle of friends namin na nafefeel namin na 'not straight' men but we haven't asked ever since we've met around 10 years ago. Now this actually helpful knowing the struggles and difficulties of coming out. Same scenario kami lagi tinatanong ng ibang tao, pero we don't care din naman whichever pronoun pa sila

  • @EzaTowerCamp
    @EzaTowerCamp Рік тому +5

    It’s also boils down how you approach the person when you ask for their pronouns. If you give proper disclosure or you’re both in the right open communication mindset can also help the awkwardness in asking them about their pronouns. Kasi for me in my experience, it’s fine if people misgender me or what but the tone of their words and also yung minsan pinapamukha sayong minimisgender ka nila, is the only time na na-ooffend ako

  • @timothyjohnaguila2798
    @timothyjohnaguila2798 11 місяців тому

    On point ung sinabi ni charlie, don’t ask kung he or she sya kung hindi kayo close and your just met in some events or situation… lalo pang hindi sya comfortable kapag yan ang topic.. nakaka inis talaga and nakaka offend .. respect respect and respect

  • @educto1
    @educto1 Рік тому +1

    Apaka spontaneous nila to the point na alam mong genuine ang usapan. Also, the way they listen to e/o ang evident. More content like this po!

  • @radiusoxide
    @radiusoxide Рік тому +1

    a member of the community explained it to me in easy terms about LGBTQ++.
    LGB - is about sexuality
    TQ++ - is about gender identity

  • @micaelcarampatan4869
    @micaelcarampatan4869 Рік тому +15

    Best to have a fixed mouth to microphone distance to avoid sana inconsistency sa speech volume nyo po. I love watching you guys & hearing you talk. So sensible and not a dull moment #luv

    • @alexmarchettispag
      @alexmarchettispag Рік тому +1

      true. hassle pag adjust ka nang adjust ng volume kase hindi mo na maintindihan tapos sasagot yung isa na buong buo yung boses tapos malakas kase halos dikit na sa bunganga ang mic. I still loved this episode.

    • @markarielmilano2827
      @markarielmilano2827 Рік тому

      Relate...

  • @aldwinralphbriones2110
    @aldwinralphbriones2110 Рік тому +4

    Another episode worth to watch. Coming out is not really easy lalo na sa mga taong mahal mo. I’m loving their group na. ❤❤❤

  • @missalategomez
    @missalategomez Рік тому

    Mga mi, question, naiinis ba kayo pag may followers kayo na nag aask ng, "mi gay ba cya"? Yong kau ang tinatanong kc sinasabi nila, kaung mga out ang malakas pang-amoy kung straight ba talaga ang isang lalake or hindi ...
    TIA. Ingat kau lagi. Ang sarap nyo panoorin, sobrang may sense. God bless sa inyong lahat.

  • @rolandoramos8790
    @rolandoramos8790 Рік тому

    I hope we can raise more awareness and create support group for people like us. Kasi hinde lahat ng tao madaling natanggap ang pagkatao nila. Sa iba, dumadaan pa sa processo. Maswerte ang ilan na open and supportive ang family nila when they come out. Hope we also lend our ears for those people who cannot come out due to their circumstances.

  • @coronacitas1964
    @coronacitas1964 Рік тому

    Na paka topical at enlightening ng episode na eto. What I like about this vlog is that it showcases a spectrum of gayness. Hindi naka kahon at may kanya-kanyang perspective ang bawat isa, which makes for interesting watch, aside from the bonus of it being informative in an easy manner.

  • @iam_rubyjane
    @iam_rubyjane Рік тому +2

    My dad is closeted. My mom left him when she caught him with another guy pero she didn’t tell him the reason why she left. I’m his unica hija pero nauna pa ko mag out sa kanya (I’m pan). I knew he’s been dating men on the down low since bata pa ko and honestly, I feel bad for him. He’s the highest achiever but his cousins calls him “bakling” behind his back. Those people are the ones he helped ha! They’re only nice to him kasi they’re gaining sumn from him. I feel bad for my dad tbh. Ako, I’m out pero my relatives are still in denial. I’m good with them calling me the blacksheep basta I’m happy and free. I can’t be like my dad. Sobrang lungkot.

    • @iam_rubyjane
      @iam_rubyjane Рік тому +2

      And to add. My parents are still friends up to this day. My mum was absentee pero that’s bcos my lola had to hide me for years. Now that mum found me, I had her move back into our house and my parents are like besties na hahaha I guess that’s our happy ending

  • @rolandoramos8790
    @rolandoramos8790 Рік тому +1

    I think one of the issues as well is that some cannot come out due to identity crisis. I myself was also closeted gay before and took me 20 years to completely understand and accept myself. During my time, early 90's, limited lang ang alam ng mga tao about LGBTQIA+. So kapag bakla ka, lalaki na nagdadamit at kumikilos na parang babae. Kapag tomboy ka, babae kang lalaki kumilos at lalaki ka din manamit. During those times ang hirap kapag closeted ka lalo pa't yung family mo is conservative and is very religious. I am afraid to come out kasi alam kong ma bubully ako sa school noon kasi nga kapag bakla ka subject ka na bullying and disrespect. Walang support group or organization sa school or community to help gay people like us. Kaya ang hirap. Dumating na ako sa puntong gusto ko nang mag suicide dahil litong lito ako sa sarili ko.

  • @gelomari8904
    @gelomari8904 Рік тому +1

    Ang talino at ang lalim ng apat na to pag serious talk and stuff ❤❤❤ love you all mga Mhie

  • @Rociokirsten
    @Rociokirsten Рік тому

    3:17 Toni talks ko sila nakilala! Joey Mead King and Angie.

  • @jeromedag-uman1134
    @jeromedag-uman1134 Рік тому +1

    I love this session even the 1st episode up until this ❤🥰

  • @seumi747
    @seumi747 Рік тому

    'Bakit sayang? --SAMEE! I get uncomfortable pag nakakabasa or nakakarinig ako ng comments na may 'sayang ... ' Naisip ko, why do people have a narrow understanding of what happiness is? Di naman iisa ang formula to happiness, so just accept and appreciate. No need to feel bad for something just because you have a different opinion. Just respect and be happy for them, ganern.
    BTW, sooo loving the podcast. Haha binge watching here. ❤

  • @alexmarchettispag
    @alexmarchettispag Рік тому

    Very timely conversation since rare or impossible for me to have these topics discussed among my friends for a long duration.

  • @theemerloocorner4466
    @theemerloocorner4466 Рік тому

    Sa sobrang mahal ko tong 4 na to, ang hirap magskip ng advertisement!!!!

  • @poy0508
    @poy0508 Рік тому +3

    Chardie capable of everything👍ang ganda ng mga point of view nya.

  • @rizalolegario9270
    @rizalolegario9270 Рік тому

    Lagi sinusubaybayan Ang episode nio godbless sa Inyong apat more content to come

  • @jericotalingtingpalima1049
    @jericotalingtingpalima1049 Рік тому

    Another episode worth to watch, I love you all❤ and salamat po lot off learning❤

  • @applepickerify
    @applepickerify Рік тому +6

    Steven: Sino ung nagtransition din ung husband niya?
    Poca: Carla Abellana?
    the teaaaa hahahaha! #iykyk

  • @kayemine
    @kayemine Рік тому +7

    Can I drop a question? Can straight join the rainbow colors? Kasi I want to let my daughter know that I support her kahit it surprises me to the max! I am listening via spotify and I don't know where to drop this question. I like your podcast it makes me awake my whole shift. Love it!

    • @jovelt18
      @jovelt18 Рік тому +4

      It's for everyone actually. The main point of it all is... as long as you respect individuality, you're more than welcome to the community. 🥰

    • @EzaTowerCamp
      @EzaTowerCamp Рік тому

      Allys are already included in the rainbow color already because Allys are the backbone of the community. the pride flag colors encompasses from different people within the community and it’s allys

  • @louisemcjagger
    @louisemcjagger Рік тому

    I really admire the 4 of you and your stories. I just wish asking pronouns was already a norm and no one is shamed for asking or for answering. He/Him, She/Her, They/Them and all the rest of the pronouns can never be concluded just by looks alone. I'm hoping we can live in a world where everyone is comfortable asking and answering these questions. Our identities shouldn't be something we should be ashamed of or shamed for. More power to the 4 of you. You always have an ally in me. :) Love you guys!

  • @jendookie2033
    @jendookie2033 Рік тому

    as someone who also struggles when it comes to addresing people whether they are a she or he, I just stick with saying they/them I think that is much safer since we are not jumping into conclusions that they are a she or he.

  • @EzaTowerCamp
    @EzaTowerCamp Рік тому +8

    Gender Identity and Gender Expression is different from each other. Lagi siyang nagiging misconceptions and parang norm.

  • @liane5189
    @liane5189 Рік тому

    I really enjoyed your podcast. Loving it.. More paaaa

  • @HelloHi-pu5zx
    @HelloHi-pu5zx Рік тому +3

    no hate naobserve ko lang after listening and watching to all your podcasts si chardie medyo serious and pag me iba nagjojoke habang nagsasalita sya parang ayaw nya medyo suplada and ang bilis nya ma trigger sa topic i hope chardie loosen up a bit lang siguro 🥰 i love all your podcasts btw!! more please!! ang gaganda ng topic.

  • @v2bytz
    @v2bytz Рік тому +1

    Guys ayusin nyo audio please, may mahina tapos bigla lalakas, diko alam kung lalaksan ko ba o hihinaan speakerrrrr

  • @iambeigaruhh
    @iambeigaruhh Рік тому +1

    Wala akong Coming Out story 🤦 kasi since birth alam na nang family ko, yung papa ko nga ang unang tao na nagbigay ng pambili ng lipstick sa akin 😅

  • @esbi3523
    @esbi3523 Рік тому

    good insights, great contents. hope you'll stay solid as a team and as friends.

  • @itsjust_random
    @itsjust_random Рік тому

    You guys are so articulate. Waiting for your next vid. Godspeed!

  • @hermiejadegordoncillo
    @hermiejadegordoncillo Рік тому

    deep, so genuine

  • @Kien534
    @Kien534 Рік тому

    38:21 back handed compliment siya

  • @jessicaquejano3167
    @jessicaquejano3167 4 дні тому

    nanonosebleed ako sa inyo ahha

  • @JehoshabeathYlaya
    @JehoshabeathYlaya Рік тому +2

    one situation po, for salespersons or people dealing with clients/customers, how to ask po correctly/properly/politely in asking pronouns?
    need pa po ba e ask firsthand? or no need?

    • @roypelareja05
      @roypelareja05 Рік тому

      I believe for me you can ask politely naman po, if nahihirapan ka kung ano itatawag sa client niyo... ako kasi tinaanong ako ng iba kunga ano prefer kong pronouns and its a she haha

  • @jelamaef.olarte3748
    @jelamaef.olarte3748 Рік тому

    naalala ko ung isang kinasal na transman sabi niya sa wife niya "AKO MUNA HABANG INAANTAY MO PA YONG TAONG NAKALAAN SAYO"

  • @andhengandheng2982
    @andhengandheng2982 Рік тому

    Worth watching mga Mhie ❤ can't wait for another episode 😊

  • @newooo1997
    @newooo1997 Рік тому

    thank you for addressing about the asking on how you properly addressed someone who's in 3rd sex. Kasi ako personally I don't want to offend someone kasi mali yung pagtawag ko sa kanila 😅

  • @v2bytz
    @v2bytz Рік тому

    try nyo po gumamit ng headphone para marninig nyo isat isa sa mic

  • @billyacorin88
    @billyacorin88 Рік тому

    Bentang beta sakin ung “it all boils down” hahahahaa

  • @khoymahinayvlog1114
    @khoymahinayvlog1114 Рік тому +5

    Uy legit gusto kona talaga mag out pero mga friends ko kase mga st8 guys and just scared to what will say, not only them but all people kase they know na I'm into girl den and but I cannot say that I'm also into guy😭

    • @mcrnznrcs3607
      @mcrnznrcs3607 Рік тому +2

      Anong kinakatakot mo? Ayaw mo nun, malalaman mo kung sino yung mga taong magi-stay sayo kahit ano ka pa. Kung di nila matanggap pagkatao mo, then be it. At least nagpakatotoo ka

    • @ethancarmona6428
      @ethancarmona6428 Рік тому +2

      Kailangan talaga ng lakas ng loob,, kung gusto mo na mag out then go,, nakakatakot Oo, but after that sobrang sarap sa pakiramdam,, kung natatakot ka it means you’re not yet ready to come out pa talaga

    • @khoymahinayvlog1114
      @khoymahinayvlog1114 Рік тому +1

      @@mcrnznrcs3607 salamat sa concern🫶🏻

    • @khoymahinayvlog1114
      @khoymahinayvlog1114 Рік тому +1

      @@ethancarmona6428 salamat❤‍🔥

  • @jenniferfromthestar7008
    @jenniferfromthestar7008 Рік тому

    Naiyak ako. Reality hits 😢

  • @yeenabayra5944
    @yeenabayra5944 Рік тому

    sandaleeeeeee wag nyo ilayo ung mic sa bibig nyoooooo ..... char.. bakit ung kay steveeeeen at deliciousness ganda ng sounds .. pakiayos po ung kay poca at chardieeee..

  • @qwyxiiiqwyxiii6071
    @qwyxiiiqwyxiii6071 Рік тому

    anyare kay chardie sa bandang last part? something feels off.

  • @missdimitrimahiwaga508
    @missdimitrimahiwaga508 Рік тому

    Hi loves!
    Thank you for creating contents such as this. I currently am training in a BPO company. In this case, may I kindly request on your suggestion. What are the affirmative ways in addressing a member of the LGBTQIA+?

    • @missdimitrimahiwaga508
      @missdimitrimahiwaga508 Рік тому

      Additionally po, what if the scenario is an introduction. Is it proper to either ask:
      I hope you don't mind if I confirm your pronoun?

  • @njbuddy4028
    @njbuddy4028 Рік тому

    hi po Saw you in the float last pride march all of you 4 I have some stolen picts sainyo kaso po ndi ko kau nakuhaan maayus ehehehe nice seeing you kahit sa malayu po :D

  • @gellatin1819
    @gellatin1819 Рік тому +3

    Good thing in the Filipino language is we are inclusive... No need for pronouns... You don't need to walk on eggshells just to make sure you use the right pronouns... But regardless of gender, we always need to respect one another... We love you... Just be you... 🥰🥰🥰

  • @meldenpearlblesspatino6092
    @meldenpearlblesspatino6092 Рік тому

    So ayun. Derecho ako sa 3 kaya pala iba topic di pala ito 2😂😂😂

  • @debxc
    @debxc Рік тому

    loved how they talk about this topic with sensitivity 🫶

  • @NicLlave
    @NicLlave 2 місяці тому

    MA NAGKAKAMALI DIN PALA AKO EE

  • @markedmeee
    @markedmeee Рік тому

    someone told me that we should address them based on how they express themselves. for example lesbian express themselves as men, we should address him as he.

  • @kakuyayi
    @kakuyayi Рік тому

    Hoping na may representative din lesbians.

  • @LoveLove-eb7mn
    @LoveLove-eb7mn Рік тому

    💗💗💗💗💗💗♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️💗💗💗💗💗💗♥️♥️♥️♥️ Loooooveeeee it po.. very informative, you can learn something din.. Mhi Pwede request how about how to deal sa manga toxic religion like for me I’m Christian born again.. pleaseeeee po

  • @friendolphdimayugua5222
    @friendolphdimayugua5222 Рік тому

    mayo 1 araw ng manggagawa

  • @michaelsyotrp
    @michaelsyotrp Рік тому +1

    I disagree that we have to ask pronouns right away bec not everyone wants to be confronted with sexuality and identity. And not all people know about the appropriation of pronouns. We can be educative but not forceful. Just my opinion.

  • @arlonjamespaculba1996
    @arlonjamespaculba1996 Рік тому

    "Slice Breed" - nimal hahahha🤣💀

  • @jesseryzauldanobleza3751
    @jesseryzauldanobleza3751 Рік тому

    If you are a transgender you identify yourself as a women. Your sexual orientation is you are attracted to man, your gender identity is that you identify yourself as a women and your gender expression is very feminine. Ito I think yung SOGIE ni Miss Deliciousness

  • @ninojamespagobo14
    @ninojamespagobo14 Рік тому

    Chardie What happen?

  • @stellajanemurillo6812
    @stellajanemurillo6812 Рік тому

    Ang hina ng mic nila Poca and Chardie for this ep

  • @MichKa33357
    @MichKa33357 Рік тому

    🥰🥰🥰

  • @lovelycabarles770
    @lovelycabarles770 Рік тому

    Naguguluhan ako s pronoun. Sa other country daming ganyan topic. Women and trans women.

  • @EliAna3277
    @EliAna3277 Рік тому

    Steve looks like a vampire here very maputeh

  • @charmedones6398
    @charmedones6398 Рік тому

    Pronouns is grammar we cannot change it. It would be nice if it will politely start from you guyz. Lets say a server addressed you as sir or kuya, you may correct them by saying id like to be addressed sana as mam, madam or ate politely ha. Tayo namang mga pinoy open dyan but you have to do it politely.

  • @atekim3737
    @atekim3737 Рік тому

  • @salvadorcayabyab5186
    @salvadorcayabyab5186 Рік тому

    But you cannot force us the way to wanted to be address to…..because we have different views of sexuality if we perceived you as male or female we wil use the right pronoun for a male and female……..not for anyth8ng else so dont get offended if we use he if your male trAnsgender and vice versa……

  • @carlagarduque8545
    @carlagarduque8545 10 місяців тому

    WIZ WAS PAPUA

  • @maricardemesa915
    @maricardemesa915 Рік тому

    Nakakaoffend din yung tatawagin kang bakla ng kaibigan mong babae sa madaming tao😅 hindi ko naman kinakahiya pero nakakaoffend sya hahaha😂

  • @carlagarduque8545
    @carlagarduque8545 10 місяців тому

    WIZ O WISZ WAS MAYTON
    AKO SI MATONIC
    SO MAYTONIC BY AN C

  • @DavidMendoza-pi3wz
    @DavidMendoza-pi3wz Рік тому +2

    naloka ako mga mami

  • @SheSpends2MuchOnKpop
    @SheSpends2MuchOnKpop Рік тому

    Hirap tayo kasi sa tagalog naman, "siya" lang naman tayo. Boy, girl, bakla, tomboy. Nagkagulo lang nung nilapat na yung western perspective.

  • @confidentlybeautiful2108
    @confidentlybeautiful2108 Рік тому

    be..8 parts of speech hinde 7..

  • @confidentlybeautiful2108
    @confidentlybeautiful2108 Рік тому

    FYI , may mga matataray na trans pag tinanong kung anong pronoun ang gagamitin..sasabihin nilang kita mong long hair ako at naka dress at make-up tatanong mo payan? lol

  • @carlagarduque8545
    @carlagarduque8545 10 місяців тому

    AKO SI PAPPAL

  • @hanibanlaoi
    @hanibanlaoi Рік тому

    i think to avoid incorrect assumptions just correct them politely.

  • @nobaharuchiiattempts4050
    @nobaharuchiiattempts4050 Рік тому

    i once asked someone about his pronoun and he got offended. mukha ba daw syang bakla bat ko pa ba daw tinatanong

  • @unknownfancy
    @unknownfancy Рік тому

    Magtagalog na lang walang misgendering kasi nongendered naturally

  • @KyMarzan
    @KyMarzan Рік тому

    Agree ako kay Ms. D, kasi mamaya iask mo ng pronoun tapos maoffend di pala part ng LGBT Community 😅

  • @mariatheresaabisan6870
    @mariatheresaabisan6870 Рік тому

    Omg, i have a question.. our family have this hairdresser na bakla.. tapos he's like, not naman matanda, but you know older than everyone.. yet my family calls him by his first name.. however, ako, bilang im the youngest in the family.. i dont think its appropriate for me to just call him by his name kase parang i feel like, walang respect ung mag tawag lng nga pangalan nya using his first name. And mind you, this hairdresser, he's parang, sir sir na bakla.. parang very formal and i dont think i can simply call him "Ate" kase, i think its not appropriate.. So, the question is, how do i address him/her without, you know, sounding like a total idiot. 😅 Should i call him "Ate" or "Kuya"? Kase naman For the longest time, everytime kinakausap nya ako, i address him as "kuya" kase yan ung nakaugalian ko na since i was very little. Am i wrong to call him that now? Or should i change it to "Ate"?

  • @idontcare2805
    @idontcare2805 Рік тому

    Nakakalito pronouns ng English, Buti na lang walang gender identity ang pronouns ng Filipino language.. ikaw ,siya,si..hahaha

  • @tzuliannee3815
    @tzuliannee3815 Рік тому

    I don't know why some get offended if addressed using the proper usage of pronouns. As long as everyone is respected and accepted, simple things such as pronouns should not be made complicated. We adore the LGBTIQA+ community! 🩷

  • @staynayo
    @staynayo Рік тому

    For pronouns, it's really okay to ask. Our preferences aren't plastered on our faces, so it's really okay to ask. I appreciate it whenever I'm asked properly 🫶

  • @Hellyiana
    @Hellyiana Рік тому

    Personally by simply stating the fact that you are asking out of respect and if its okay to ask them about their pronouns with consent is fine 🤍