I love getting your notifications. I like what you said about making the fun wherever you are: My favorite place to practice your techniques is when I'm in the checkout line at the grocery store. I talk to everyone and if I can get a smile out of someone that wasn't smiling before, I count that as a WIN.
That spit at 7:00 made me like him more. This guy always seemed kinda too perfect to relate to but spitting while enunciating, so relatable. Thanks for not editing it out.
The fact that this dude spent 10 minutes explaining in detail techniques to be more attractive, saying why they work and giving examples, and 70% of the comments are about him spitting in minute 7 is so beautiful to me
He also conveniently had a true story for every event and he didn't miss a beat like someone who rehearsed, it doesn't feel like he is talking about a event that he experienced
@@lisinasadiaa3327 start being comfortable with it....as long as u don't give a damn others won't as well..I've got an ugly friend (a very friendly guy)who doesn't even care that he is ugly yet he goes and talks to all the people in the class and when others see him standing alone they just go up and stick up to him...he doesn't care abt the fact that he is ugly even tho he knows this and talks to me abt it😂😂..
here is an example of a smart, genuine guy. he knows what he is talking about, explains it well, and helps everybody understand, with different examples for different learners. he is a great role model, explaining that you don’t have to drink at bars, you can just talk to people, but is responsible. he is outgoing, and helps other people be more outgoing as well. i normally don’t subscribe to somebody without watching a few videos first, but i instantly subbed. i know that doesn’t sound like a lot, but this is an amazing guy and a great role model. keep up the amazing work, bro!!
And it's quite some epic spit. It's not some shy spit that you notice out the corner of your eye, no. Right to the camera! with power and pressure. So it actually was a charismatic spit XD
3:30 But also remember not to overdo this. If you try too hard to strike up a conversation with someone, and they're clearly not interested, don't keep pushing it. If they're not interested in talking to you, that's ok! Try someone else
Personally, I’ll tell them the reason why I’m leaving “maybe my friends want to go to a different club, and I’ll ask if they wanna add my Facebook, snapchat etc. At least if they say no which doesn’t really happen because it’s so informal, you’re already leaving so who gives a shit.
Hey everyone, the best info that ive ever had was by using the Seans Shy Program (i found it on google) - definately the most incredible method that I have ever seen.
Your videos are so good. I'm over 40 years old and have experienced almost all the points you cover in your videos but so many of them were never evident to me. As I watch your videos, I keep finding myself saying, "hey...that is 100% true!". Being self-aware of these things you point out is key! Thanks again for all the great content.
@@Charismaoncommand you know, that's one of the things that keeps me from making videos. I already know I won't enjoy that process, but would love to master the one take video instead.
Damn. I started watching these videos on the new year after going through a breakup from a very long-term relationship and I have to say, this has helped me so much. I'm very much putting myself out there more and I've realised that I've been getting more smiles, compliments and general intimacy from virtually everyone I know. There isn't a better time I could have come across this channel, thank you so much and keep up the good work!
I'm not a really shy person but I find striking up a conversation with a stranger in a line really hard. I love and admire it when someone does it to me. But when I want to do it it seems weird and awkward. And even when I force myself to do it I feel like the conversation dies soon and then we go back to an even awkwarder silently standing in line. Any tips?
Give yourself tons of credit for the awkward attempts. Seriously. Those form the foundation of the confidence necessary to make it go more smoothly. So every time you try - that's an A+ day. Also, practice removing the filter: just say a greater % of the things that come to your mind (not all, haha). Oftentimes good conversation is born from the inane things somebody says out loud, like in line at the check out "Oh man, that dark chocolate brand you have is the best..."
Yeah, trying, even if it's awkward, is the best thing you can do. I've had pretty severe anxiety for a while now and I basically set out a goal for myself to go ouside and talk to a stranger at least once a day and that helps a lot. Conversations like that start to feel much more natural. Every attempt is one step closer to greatness.
John Dougherty Dude i used to be BEYOND awkward. I just realised that it's not à big deal, if a conversation develops, cool. If it dies out, you just say " Alright, see you around" and go get à beer. Also you can start a conversation with any kind of crap, you don't need to start talking about the theory of relativity.
Notes: 1. Use expansive gestures 2. Face your companion/s, have fun together or whoever is nearby instead of "seeking" 3. Step in and stand next to (instead of across from) a new person for group-to-group interactions 4. Smile often (within context) and with your eyes
I love your channel so much! As a shy individual my confidence has always been circumstantial. I am working on consistency and not being so effected by the vibes around me, real or imagined (thank you social anxiety). Your videos make me feel good about myself, embrace my awkwardness and pump me up for the day. Thank you so much!
Hey, I realize you posted this a hot minute ago but boy howdy, that sure vibed with me. Grew up super shy and awkward but this channel helped me learn about how to communicate more smoothly when I'm out and about. It's totally all about just letting go and use my weirdness as a tool for humor and becoming closer with people.
@@orrhousecreative So true. Ive realized that most people are pretty awkward and being my authentic self helps everyone feel more comfortable being their authentic. It’s liberating.
My guy, you have NOOOO idea how much you have been changing my life by helping me get through 8th grade and I know this is cliche but I have been down and Straight up dead inside for a couple years and I needed happiness so I found you. You have helped me get friends and become less insecure than I have ever been and it feels MORE THAN AMAZING! Just wanted to say thank your for helping me and so many others.
i know this video is about non-verbal communication but DAMN, your storytelling is crazy good! i have a youtube channel, i know how hard it is to speak unstifled in front of a camera! very well done, love your videos!
Ime a uk lorry driver..probably not a very good driver..so I chat to a lot of people...I always try to leave people feeling upbeat ...it might the change the the world but it might make that part of there day better...have a fantastic weekend...
I used to make a lot of friends while waiting in the bathroom line at the bar i go to. It great because talking to people makes the line go faster for everyone involved because you’re not standing awkwardly waiting
Man this channel is amazing and you do a wonderful job of communicating positive ideas and how to live life with an uplifted mindset . I am 50 years old and I've learned so much from listening to your vids and I guess an old dog can learn new tricks after all. Lol
Your videos are absolutely AMAZING!!!! I've always been interested in body language, being charismatic, and other things you speak about. ( Ever since I was in my teens). Some of them I already had read about. Such as not keeping your arms IN while speaking to somebody, maintain eye contact, standing your ground/your opinion, using certain hand gestures while speaking, etc... But, your videos are EXTREMELY helpful. Thank you.
I was literally about to make a comment about smiling right before you mentioned it because you demonstrate it so well. You know how to naturally involve it with your talking in such a fluid way that is inviting because it gives off a friendly and confident tone.
No idea if you'll ever read this but you're videos have changed my life I went from being an introverted person being nervous to go to a party or even introduce myself to seeing immediate results of being more social outgoing and what I feel likable thanks brother
You're ironically different... and I love it. You dont seem like you act like anybody else... you dont seem like you're actually following a standard to look confident... you act different in a very good way. Dont ever change
+darren Depends where you are from and what you are used to. This constant smile is common in service industry for example, so if you spend much of your time in that habitat, you will get used to it. The big "bullshit smile" every businessman has to know. But I agree that if you are used to more "honest" interactions with people(or if you are from Eastern Europe like me, where people tend to be colder towards strangers), it really seems creepy at times.
Dude, this is honestly super helpful. I'm not one to seek help when it comes to thease kinds of things, but thease videos are seriously amazing. What you're saying really makes sense and I'll totally keep it in mind in the future.
Hey! I’m a really shy and quiet person but I’ve watched your videos today because I’m determined to get out of my box and get more friends and I have to say I’m feeling really confident to go to school more now and get new friends! Thank you! You make me smile a lot!😁😊
Need your advice, Charlie. I feel like 10-15 of the friends I spend the most time with don’t know much about me, particularly because they never ask anything about my life. In conversations, I aim to remove my ego and shine the spotlight on them. And while I do this, my hope is that they will turn it around and ask about my life, too, but it often doesn’t happen. They keep responding to my questions and/or go off on tangents of their own. I’ll interject with little anecdotes here and there, but mostly, they never ask me to elaborate. So, time after time, I feel like they don’t know much about me. Do you have any advice or thoughts on the matter?
you know you can have only a few REAL friends in life,right, second you sould probably search for someone else,Ive been in this situation and trust me youll be better without them,because you will feel a massive confidence HIT from those interactions-my advice,take a piece of paper and describe te friend you want to have and then where can you find im,who could know someone like that and you can watch tony robbin's stuff on law of attraction-his the guru Hope it helps
I think the advice to explore new relationships is a good one, because there is a chance these are just the type that only like to talk about themselves. But when it comes to storytelling, there are little things you can do to get them asking you to tell more. Search for any of our storytelling videos, including the one with Kevin Hart. It all comes down to attracting their attention before you start and then to keeping a sense of mystery/humor going to maintain that attention
fejj122 na Hey man i also have a group of 10-20 friends at school that i sort of hangout with. It’s been like this since grade 9 and I’m in 12 now. The only time we all see each other is at lunch when we, ahem, smoke dope. But I’ve learnt it’s just fine to socialize with them and never feel interested enough to pursue an out of school friendship. I only hangout with like 2-4 of them. Personally what works for me to be involved in a conversation is just being friendly chirped at for the dumb things I’ve done. I don’t share many stories of them with myself except for the most dramatic ones. Example; police pursuit (constant criminal jokes), strict dad (call him the punisher and warden etc.. just put ur embarrassment shit out there cause it’s actually pretty unlikely that people care so much that they would spread it around but at least they would remember it about u. I have no idea about my advice but like fuck it works for me and when I’m laughed at i find it funny as fuck too
I have to give credit to you. I have experienced myself all of these points except maybe the third one, and they actually work. Usually I expect these types of channels to be absolute bullsh*t and clickbait, but this is actually good content. I will definitely check more of your stuff.
So much of this stuff is just about letting go of the limits put on you by your ego. I love it. Learning a lot and I'm going to be joining the Charisma University course very soon. I've been watching these videos for about a week now and what you're saying is working its way into so much of what I do - really fantastic stuff!
Did anyone else notice that Charlie is using all the tips and tricks that he teaches through his channel? Moving hands (Keanu Reeves), showing his palms (Tom Holland), Keeping an eye contact with the camera , smiling when needed and more importantly using a story as a bait like Charlie Hunnam :) . I like people who use their own product before selling it to other people. Good Job :) . Subscribed !
Watching these videos makes me realize how confident my dad is. He makes friends everywhere he goes and teaches me and my siblings to be more confident and less "Imma walk away if someone tries to talk to me". He's very chirpy and funny and will talk to literally anyone.
This is phenomenal! I love how you have included the adverse of the tips that you provided. These are also extremely legitimate and actionable tips! Highly recommend. Love the feedback loop point, SO wise!
This guy could tell 1 thousand facts about being interesting and still would have some secrets he keeps for himself. I dont know what he does but he makes me feel comfortable around him...
I can’t agree more with the Two Bros looking out at the bar. My buddy and I were out of town on a business trip, got on with a third guy at the same course we were on. Three of us went out to a bar, made the Manager laugh, made the waiter laugh. And the three of us were telling work stories and making each other howl. And we didn’t even notice two attractive women at the end of the bar trying to jump in on our conversation, and we ended up with them all night, going to billiards, shots, etc
Hey Charlie and Ben! Loved the video as always and astounded by your guys' care for getting to our questions even though I know you guys are extremely busy! You guys helped me out tremendously throughout this year and half of finding and exploring your channel and I can not express how much you guys are key to my personal growth as a person. Anyway, I do have two questions. This also may interest many others in every age range as well. How do I become a leader of a friend group, or a regular part of one? How can I be well respected and never on the receiving end of roasts, have tremendous influence on group decisions, be the one everyone wants to be around, and get invited to most, if not all of group events? As always take your time with this one and thank you for all your help over this time :)
We definitely need some more videos on friend groups. I think this could be an entire video. But it starts with you. People gravitate towards positive emotion and away from needy/negative ones. So fill yourself with those emotions on your own. This can mean dancing around in the morning before leaving the house, watching more comedies, attending meetups that interest you. When you have that store of positive emotions it tends to come through in everything you do. All of a sudden you'll be brighter, plus you'll have things to invite people to. You'll be connecting different friend groups and naturally you'll be the one they call when something is going on
Hey Charlie! I really like all of your videos and try implementing them in my life. You've made many videos about how to start a conversation or how to continue it. But it'll be really helpful if you make one about how to end a conversation with an impact, whether it'd be with a Co-worker or a group of friends. Thanks a lot!
I must say you are completely right. I have experienced almost all the things you said in the video. When clubbing, my advice would be to dance like no one were watching you (I know it’s complicated because you may know some people there) but I can assure you it is way more fun! I remember that I saw people that danced like a bit crazy and I approached them just because they seemed to have fun without caring of what other people might think. That’s how I made friends partying. Of course you have to be with your friends but, at the same time, feel free to talk or dance with other persons. One last thing, when people see that you are having fun (laughing, dancing) they will approach to you easily.
To be Passionate with the person you talk to brings so many more people over. It reminds me of.. .. when I was in a club in colleage. At the first I felt so lonely because the people I used to talk to wasn't there. Then I striked up a conversation with a guy and it turned out we were so passionate about the subject (filmmaking) that Girls from different groups joined us all the time. I even rejected a good-looking girl who wanted to talk. (damn..) Moral of the story: Don't be too passionate! (Or at least passionate with a girl)
I can definitely attest to this. My 2 roommates and I went out dancing and there was so much fun and energy between us that not only did girls come up to us to join our circle but guys did as well. Fun definitely attracts more fun and everyone had a good time that night.
I truly enjoy your videos. They are very informative, engaging, and presented in such a lighthearted, fun way. The inclusion of the "smile" tip is brilliant; many people instantly look so much more attractive (and younger), and approachable when they smile (the genuine smile that is), and that certainly includes the phone conversations where the person on the other end can't see you, but they can "hear" you smiling.
I feel like with most social things the stuff that we're afraid of doing are EXACTLY the stuff that we should do.....I think maybe our minds think of the outcome in a different way. Like we can be hesitant to talk about embarassing moments because we think it might make us looks like fools but in reality it actually makes us more open and gives the power back in our hands
And he often says " and I'm guilty of this myself " because this way more people are going to acknowledge this mistake regarding their own behaviour and are more willing to change
That's true about dancing as goofy as you can. I'm usually straight faced and very calm, but when I'm (sadly on MDMA to forget the world) I noticed everyone loving me. I was carrying this stranger and making silly dance moves the other night and noticed how both men and women were attracted and more friendly (way more friendly). I always wondered why I loved that self on MDMA, but now I know, I should try to be more free-minded and show the silly me hiding within. (No drugs needed)
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7:02 HeHeHeHeHe ;))))
Great video, please make videos more often. Helped a lot
This is like the politically correct version of pick-up artistry, nice work
I love getting your notifications. I like what you said about making the fun wherever you are: My favorite place to practice your techniques is when I'm in the checkout line at the grocery store. I talk to everyone and if I can get a smile out of someone that wasn't smiling before, I count that as a WIN.
your smile reminds me of the jokers smile....really off putting.
Like him or not, he is spitting some truth 7:01
Yes 👏
👏🏼🤣
He is literally spitting truth 👏🏽🔥clever
lol
Hahahahahaha
That spit at 7:00 made me like him more. This guy always seemed kinda too perfect to relate to but spitting while enunciating, so relatable. Thanks for not editing it out.
What if he did that on purpose!?😌😁
@@yogurl_nari what if its also part of charisma lol
@@thegreatone12345678 oh yes it probably is!!😂
You just got charisma'd
S Berg LMFAO WHAT-
The fact that this dude spent 10 minutes explaining in detail techniques to be more attractive, saying why they work and giving examples, and 70% of the comments are about him spitting in minute 7 is so beautiful to me
TRUE
I'm fuckin dead, I just seen that 🤣
Well...there was a lot of spit
He also conveniently had a true story for every event and he didn't miss a beat like someone who rehearsed, it doesn't feel like he is talking about a event that he experienced
I'm not disappointed
*walks around with extended arms, smiling, talking to every single person around and shouting "this looks like we are in a sixth-grade dance"*
😂 People would view you as a weirdo
@@saeedaaden3088 what? You tellin' me i wouldn't instantly look more attractive?
😂😂😂
Im fucking sitting on a train DYING of laughter about to pee my pants at this comment and people are looking at me weirdly fuck you 😂😂😂
I laughed at this comment for far too long
Dude really puts “smiling from ear to ear” to the test
Gavin Peterson 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 omfg
I really like his smile haha
What if am not comfortable with my teeth
@@lisinasadiaa3327 start being comfortable with it....as long as u don't give a damn others won't as well..I've got an ugly friend (a very friendly guy)who doesn't even care that he is ugly yet he goes and talks to all the people in the class and when others see him standing alone they just go up and stick up to him...he doesn't care abt the fact that he is ugly even tho he knows this and talks to me abt it😂😂..
@@lisinasadiaa3327 Save up and fix them. It’s worth it 💯
Me: *reads comments about him spitting at the 7 minute mark*
Me: *not able to focus the whole video, only anticipating the cannon of spit*
CANNON OF SPIT HAHAHA
7:01
and what a huge cannon it was
You evil evil person
SAME
*sees tip 1
*walks around t-posing*
Sorry but that comments been taken
Stolen comment
Should start picking up girls While T-posing
*Bulk up to assert dominance*
Idrc if it’s taken it’s funny as hell
10% of comments: "wow thanks that's good advice!"
90% : the tsunami
Juandi Rection 😂
TRUE 💦
Tsunami 🤣😂🤣😂
@@EJW2003 Kaboom Boutique Otis Maria. UVA March
Don't you mean
The TRUEnami?
here is an example of a smart, genuine guy. he knows what he is talking about, explains it well, and helps everybody understand, with different examples for different learners. he is a great role model, explaining that you don’t have to drink at bars, you can just talk to people, but is responsible. he is outgoing, and helps other people be more outgoing as well. i normally don’t subscribe to somebody without watching a few videos first, but i instantly subbed. i know that doesn’t sound like a lot, but this is an amazing guy and a great role model.
keep up the amazing work, bro!!
Agree wholeheartedly!
*REFRESHING!*
Or is that what he WANTS you to think 🤔
And he's hot as hell!
@@fuktiktok8611 helps with the charisma thing
7:00 the most Charismatic Saliva I have ever seen
Can't stop laughing over these comments. Crying, wow, I really needed that spit in my day! 😂
I cant stop laughing over this....😂😂😂
BAHAHHAAHHAHAHA STOP
😂😂😂
And it's quite some epic spit. It's not some shy spit that you notice out the corner of your eye, no. Right to the camera! with power and pressure. So it actually was a charismatic spit XD
7:01 We asked for the news not the weather 😂😂😂
Lmaoooo
Tell me Why I Tried To Dodge It Tho 😂
@Joe Mauro It's been 3 days now
😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣
Y’all wild 😭😂
**sees tip 1; walks around with arms as far out wide as possible**
*Cuts off arm and throws across room*
T-pose to assert dominance
If you don’t walk around looking like you’ve been crucified, then you’re doing it wrong lol
Dr. Mr. Jeff 😂😂😂😂😂
Flobbled literally was about to say the same thing
T- Rex’s
“Is this a personal attack or something?”
Bri larson😂
ah ahah brie
Julian Flores` 😂
Loll
I resemble that remark, I have short arm's, 20” arms an 15” for arms.......just really short😞🦖
3:30 But also remember not to overdo this. If you try too hard to strike up a conversation with someone, and they're clearly not interested, don't keep pushing it. If they're not interested in talking to you, that's ok! Try someone else
^ This
Oof I force it all the time no wonder people never approach me.
He didn’t mention to read people’s body language before approaching them. Also act naturally everything will flow then . This stuff would work maybe.
"We hung out with these women for the rest of the night... In the club."
So wholesome.
7:00 for a free shower
I laugh a lot with dis
Fake it until it becomes a real thing.
This comment killed me
As if I wasn't already ugly laughing
Lmao
Im dying I cant stop laughing😭
Hell yeah, Charlie really out here saving lives 🙌
Brett Maverick i am a subscriber
Yay Brett I love you dude
Brett Maverick I’m a fan of you both
Saving lives for us ugly ppl. You’re hot so you don’t knwo our struggle lol 💀💀💀💀😂😂😂
Brett Maverick oh shoot! The one and only Brett Maverick!!
7:00 just give me that saliva bro
I was looking for someone else that noticed it too!! hhahahaa
I tried to dodge it haha
Ahah, it's funny 'cause it's Trhhh--rueee!
just scolled down to find this comment haha
I wonder if that's body language tip #4
i love how Charlie spits on 6:59 and just dosent give a f hahah. he didnt even edited it. True charisma
right he even zoomed in on it 😭
Him: Use expansive gestures
Me: Uses expansive gestures, ends up hitting crush or friend in the face.
Body contact: established. 😁
How to end a conversation smoothly? Or could you make a video on this topic please?
Amit Verghese great idea!!
Good idea - I'll add it to the list
Thank you so much, Charlie! You are doing an amazing job changing people's lives, including mine. Looking forward to seeing that video
definitely do that cause i just walk off usually lol
Personally, I’ll tell them the reason why I’m leaving “maybe my friends want to go to a different club, and I’ll ask if they wanna add my Facebook, snapchat etc. At least if they say no which doesn’t really happen because it’s so informal, you’re already leaving so who gives a shit.
I will never wash my face again after having you spit on it. Thank you.
Hey everyone, the best info that ive ever had was by using the Seans Shy Program (i found it on google) - definately the most incredible method that I have ever seen.
Warum wird dieser man immer so gefickt 😂😂😂😂
@Random Person You Don't know ew do not say that😂
It was probably on purpose!?
7:00 - 4 body language tips to get people to like you more.
1. Say it.
2. Don't spray it.
3. Give us the news.
4. ...not the weather!
everyone spits
Your videos are so good. I'm over 40 years old and have experienced almost all the points you cover in your videos but so many of them were never evident to me. As I watch your videos, I keep finding myself saying, "hey...that is 100% true!". Being self-aware of these things you point out is key! Thanks again for all the great content.
7:00 I felt it in my face
Didn’t even need 3D glasses..
//ITALIAN IN VEGAS\\ porn must be awful for you lmao
At 7:01 i jumped because of the spit heading straight for me
I admire that you guys can get these videos out fluently in one take. Props!
It all started as a trick to avoid having to edit in post haha
@@Charismaoncommand you know, that's one of the things that keeps me from making videos. I already know I won't enjoy that process, but would love to master the one take video instead.
Just wanted to say: love your videos. Keep up the good work.
Much appreciated Thomas!
Thomas Long ㅑ
He really just spat in my mouth, I feel a lot more confident
Honestly if Charlie spat in my mouth I'd probably take it as a blessing
@7:00 do a video on what to do when you accidentally spit on someone mid conversation
Embrace it, obviously apologize but don’t ignore it exactly like Charlie did, he literally edited the video to zoom in on him before he spit
Hahhahahhahahaha
Just laugh and say..'here let me help you out of those wet clothes' lol.
Damn. I started watching these videos on the new year after going through a breakup from a very long-term relationship and I have to say, this has helped me so much. I'm very much putting myself out there more and I've realised that I've been getting more smiles, compliments and general intimacy from virtually everyone I know. There isn't a better time I could have come across this channel, thank you so much and keep up the good work!
~ That's awesome Harry! So glad you're finding the channel helpful. :-)
I'm not a really shy person but I find striking up a conversation with a stranger in a line really hard. I love and admire it when someone does it to me. But when I want to do it it seems weird and awkward. And even when I force myself to do it I feel like the conversation dies soon and then we go back to an even awkwarder silently standing in line. Any tips?
Give yourself tons of credit for the awkward attempts. Seriously. Those form the foundation of the confidence necessary to make it go more smoothly. So every time you try - that's an A+ day. Also, practice removing the filter: just say a greater % of the things that come to your mind (not all, haha). Oftentimes good conversation is born from the inane things somebody says out loud, like in line at the check out "Oh man, that dark chocolate brand you have is the best..."
Yeah, trying, even if it's awkward, is the best thing you can do. I've had pretty severe anxiety for a while now and I basically set out a goal for myself to go ouside and talk to a stranger at least once a day and that helps a lot. Conversations like that start to feel much more natural.
Every attempt is one step closer to greatness.
John Dougherty Dude i used to be BEYOND awkward. I just realised that it's not à big deal, if a conversation develops, cool. If it dies out, you just say " Alright, see you around" and go get à beer. Also you can start a conversation with any kind of crap, you don't need to start talking about the theory of relativity.
Paul Pince Lmao i actually started a convo with the theory of relativity the other day. Physics is fun to me lol
First Last it might not be to Someone else tho
Notes:
1. Use expansive gestures
2. Face your companion/s, have fun together or whoever is nearby instead of "seeking"
3. Step in and stand next to (instead of across from) a new person for group-to-group interactions
4. Smile often (within context) and with your eyes
I love your channel so much! As a shy individual my confidence has always been circumstantial. I am working on consistency and not being so effected by the vibes around me, real or imagined (thank you social anxiety). Your videos make me feel good about myself, embrace my awkwardness and pump me up for the day. Thank you so much!
Hey, I realize you posted this a hot minute ago but boy howdy, that sure vibed with me. Grew up super shy and awkward but this channel helped me learn about how to communicate more smoothly when I'm out and about. It's totally all about just letting go and use my weirdness as a tool for humor and becoming closer with people.
@@orrhousecreative So true. Ive realized that most people are pretty awkward and being my authentic self helps everyone feel more comfortable being their authentic. It’s liberating.
My guy, you have NOOOO idea how much you have been changing my life by helping me get through 8th grade and I know this is cliche but I have been down and Straight up dead inside for a couple years and I needed happiness so I found you. You have helped me get friends and become less insecure than I have ever been and it feels MORE THAN AMAZING! Just wanted to say thank your for helping me and so many others.
i know this video is about non-verbal communication but DAMN, your storytelling is crazy good! i have a youtube channel, i know how hard it is to speak unstifled in front of a camera! very well done, love your videos!
Wolkify tell me about it! I felt the same way too!
Body language and emotion
You can probably eat an apple in one bite
😂😂😂
Wtf *facepalm*
🤣
@@fujinwinds2514 hint: what do you bite and chew an apple with?
@@blu3j00LsI use tentacles
Simce I've been watching your videos, my life is changing positively. People perceive me in such an amazing way. Thanks
sees 1st tip
*stands on dance floor while holding T-Pose*
“Strike up a conversation”?
Not in my vocabulary
Keep digging into this channel
K
@@prosurgeon6957 what, you don't want to learn how to have a conversation?
Your one word, no, one LETTER response speaks volumes.
My handy trick is asking people what they do for work, because people love talking about their jobs
Ime a uk lorry driver..probably not a very good driver..so I chat to a lot of people...I always try to leave people feeling upbeat ...it might the change the the world but it might make that part of there day better...have a fantastic weekend...
7.02 TRUE💦💦
:D It started raining suddenly
I looked down into the comments as soon as he spit because I knew someone would point it out! hahah
Jake Paul be like
I took off my 3D glasses for that one
Tbh he played it off masterfully
*(hears first advice)*
*(T-Poses)*
I am the definition of confidence, fear me mortals.
CultureShock ϟ 😂
I can’t- 🤣
I fear you
😂
How to be attractive:
Be attractive
OriginalCornChips good tip
I used to make a lot of friends while waiting in the bathroom line at the bar i go to. It great because talking to people makes the line go faster for everyone involved because you’re not standing awkwardly waiting
That spit came out like venom 7:00
Jeremy Buenaventura God, I laughed way harder than I should!
Jeremy Buenaventura 😂😂😂
Illuminati
Too funny!! 🤣
oh my god HAHAHA😂🤣
Man this channel is amazing and you do a wonderful job of communicating positive ideas and how to live life with an uplifted mindset . I am 50 years old and I've learned so much from listening to your vids and I guess an old dog can learn new tricks after all. Lol
Aw that's so awesome - thanks David!
Your videos are absolutely AMAZING!!!! I've always been interested in body language, being charismatic, and other things you speak about. ( Ever since I was in my teens).
Some of them I already had read about. Such as not keeping your arms IN while speaking to somebody, maintain eye contact, standing your ground/your opinion, using certain hand gestures while speaking, etc...
But, your videos are EXTREMELY helpful.
Thank you.
I was literally about to make a comment about smiling right before you mentioned it because you demonstrate it so well. You know how to naturally involve it with your talking in such a fluid way that is inviting because it gives off a friendly and confident tone.
Thank you for teaching me how to be a person lmfao
7:00 I already took a shower bro but thank you for giving me another
THIS COMMENT SECTION HAS ME DYING
Hahhahahah
Same here
Yessssirrrrrrrrr
i literally spit all the time and so now i’m feeling a lot better.
Bruh this entire comment section is about that one little spray that he did in the middle of the video
Mimey Man WAS LOOKING FOR THIS COMMENT THANK YOU
No idea if you'll ever read this but you're videos have changed my life I went from being an introverted person being nervous to go to a party or even introduce myself to seeing immediate results of being more social outgoing and what I feel likable thanks brother
I've been with this channel for three weeks now. And this channel is great and informative keep it up 👍.
~ Thanks Matt!
Girl got so attracted to me, she got a restraining order! Thanks!
You're ironically different... and I love it. You dont seem like you act like anybody else... you dont seem like you're actually following a standard to look confident... you act different in a very good way. Dont ever change
The way he explains things makes me feel like hey I can actually do this!
You have a beautiful smile btw 😁
and he spit all over the camera on 7:xx mins =D
dem anti-T-rex saliva comin' in hot
I find his facial expression a bit annoying though, this guy keeps a creepy smile when there is no actual things to smile to
+darren Depends where you are from and what you are used to. This constant smile is common in service industry for example, so if you spend much of your time in that habitat, you will get used to it. The big "bullshit smile" every businessman has to know. But I agree that if you are used to more "honest" interactions with people(or if you are from Eastern Europe like me, where people tend to be colder towards strangers), it really seems creepy at times.
darren yang he scares md
Dude, this is honestly super helpful. I'm not one to seek help when it comes to thease kinds of things, but thease videos are seriously amazing. What you're saying really makes sense and I'll totally keep it in mind in the future.
Glad you liked it!
The advice of having fun wherever you are and with whoever you have next to you is super cute and super real.
Simple thing but priceless 👌🏻
Hey! I’m a really shy and quiet person but I’ve watched your videos today because I’m determined to get out of my box and get more friends and I have to say I’m feeling really confident to go to school more now and get new friends! Thank you! You make me smile a lot!😁😊
Man, this video format is so simple but executed so incredibly well. It really helps me understand what I'm lacking in my videos which is invaluable.
Need your advice, Charlie. I feel like 10-15 of the friends I spend the most time with don’t know much about me, particularly because they never ask anything about my life. In conversations, I aim to remove my ego and shine the spotlight on them. And while I do this, my hope is that they will turn it around and ask about my life, too, but it often doesn’t happen. They keep responding to my questions and/or go off on tangents of their own. I’ll interject with little anecdotes here and there, but mostly, they never ask me to elaborate. So, time after time, I feel like they don’t know much about me. Do you have any advice or thoughts on the matter?
you know you can have only a few REAL friends in life,right, second you sould probably search for someone else,Ive been in this situation and trust me youll be better without them,because you will feel a massive confidence HIT from those interactions-my advice,take a piece of paper and describe te friend you want to have and then where can you find im,who could know someone like that and you can watch tony robbin's stuff on law of attraction-his the guru
Hope it helps
I think the advice to explore new relationships is a good one, because there is a chance these are just the type that only like to talk about themselves. But when it comes to storytelling, there are little things you can do to get them asking you to tell more. Search for any of our storytelling videos, including the one with Kevin Hart. It all comes down to attracting their attention before you start and then to keeping a sense of mystery/humor going to maintain that attention
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Damn 10-15 friends. I have 1-5 but never build a proper bond with em. Never will cus im too cold. But also the problem you have
fejj122 na 10-15 people can be a lot. Do you see them seperatly or is it like a bigger group of friends?
fejj122 na Hey man i also have a group of 10-20 friends at school that i sort of hangout with. It’s been like this since grade 9 and I’m in 12 now. The only time we all see each other is at lunch when we, ahem, smoke dope. But I’ve learnt it’s just fine to socialize with them and never feel interested enough to pursue an out of school friendship. I only hangout with like 2-4 of them. Personally what works for me to be involved in a conversation is just being friendly chirped at for the dumb things I’ve done. I don’t share many stories of them with myself except for the most dramatic ones. Example; police pursuit (constant criminal jokes), strict dad (call him the punisher and warden etc.. just put ur embarrassment shit out there cause it’s actually pretty unlikely that people care so much that they would spread it around but at least they would remember it about u. I have no idea about my advice but like fuck it works for me and when I’m laughed at i find it funny as fuck too
I have to give credit to you.
I have experienced myself all of these points except maybe the third one, and they actually work. Usually I expect these types of channels to be absolute bullsh*t and clickbait, but this is actually good content. I will definitely check more of your stuff.
So much of this stuff is just about letting go of the limits put on you by your ego. I love it. Learning a lot and I'm going to be joining the Charisma University course very soon. I've been watching these videos for about a week now and what you're saying is working its way into so much of what I do - really fantastic stuff!
Thank you for introducing me to “The six pillars of self esteem” It....probably saved my life
I admire that you guys can get these videos out fluently in one take. Good job.
Before you mentioned smiling YOU SMILED Charlie.
Continue your good works.
You're like a mix of John Mayer and Brendon Urie
I don’t think he looks like either tbh
Always reminded me of the peeta guy from hunger games lol
Nah...
Yesssss, and Peeta from Hunger Games. Buttttt... He is uniquely himself and that's very attractive in itself 👍
Right??!
I can’t even explain man how you have opened my eyes
Did anyone else notice that Charlie is using all the tips and tricks that he teaches through his channel? Moving hands (Keanu Reeves), showing his palms (Tom Holland), Keeping an eye contact with the camera , smiling when needed and more importantly using a story as a bait like Charlie Hunnam :) . I like people who use their own product before selling it to other people. Good Job :) . Subscribed !
Watching these videos makes me realize how confident my dad is. He makes friends everywhere he goes and teaches me and my siblings to be more confident and less "Imma walk away if someone tries to talk to me". He's very chirpy and funny and will talk to literally anyone.
It’s funny because it’s “tcshreew” 💦, 6:59
Milky Fx IM DYING
Milky Fx IM DEAD
No sir, it's chharoo!
i died
6:47 i usually feel more comfortable sitting next to people when speaking with them, so i just say that i cant hear them and move closer to them
This is phenomenal! I love how you have included the adverse of the tips that you provided. These are also extremely legitimate and actionable tips! Highly recommend. Love the feedback loop point, SO wise!
This guy could tell 1 thousand facts about being interesting and still would have some secrets he keeps for himself. I dont know what he does but he makes me feel comfortable around him...
I can’t agree more with the Two Bros looking out at the bar.
My buddy and I were out of town on a business trip, got on with a third guy at the same course we were on.
Three of us went out to a bar, made the Manager laugh, made the waiter laugh. And the three of us were telling work stories and making each other howl.
And we didn’t even notice two attractive women at the end of the bar trying to jump in on our conversation, and we ended up with them all night, going to billiards, shots, etc
Hey Charlie and Ben!
Loved the video as always and astounded by your guys' care for getting to our questions even though I know you guys are extremely busy! You guys helped me out tremendously throughout this year and half of finding and exploring your channel and I can not express how much you guys are key to my personal growth as a person.
Anyway, I do have two questions. This also may interest many others in every age range as well.
How do I become a leader of a friend group, or a regular part of one? How can I be well respected and never on the receiving end of roasts, have tremendous influence on group decisions, be the one everyone wants to be around, and get invited to most, if not all of group events? As always take your time with this one and thank you for all your help over this time :)
We definitely need some more videos on friend groups. I think this could be an entire video. But it starts with you. People gravitate towards positive emotion and away from needy/negative ones. So fill yourself with those emotions on your own. This can mean dancing around in the morning before leaving the house, watching more comedies, attending meetups that interest you. When you have that store of positive emotions it tends to come through in everything you do. All of a sudden you'll be brighter, plus you'll have things to invite people to. You'll be connecting different friend groups and naturally you'll be the one they call when something is going on
literally just here to stop by and say hi! youre amazing, thanks so much cc:
Hey Charlie! I really like all of your videos and try implementing them in my life. You've made many videos about how to start a conversation or how to continue it. But it'll be really helpful if you make one about how to end a conversation with an impact, whether it'd be with a Co-worker or a group of friends. Thanks a lot!
7:00 when he says TRUE he spits all over the place, very charismatic 😉
7:00 this felt almost 3D
7:00 My screen is wet now
Watching this during pandemic times and being nostalgic about hanging out in bars and clubs:’)
Cool video,but if you guys could make more videos about expanse gestures or dominant body language that would be great,thanks!
Can do in the future!
I must say you are completely right. I have experienced almost all the things you said in the video. When clubbing, my advice would be to dance like no one were watching you (I know it’s complicated because you may know some people there) but I can assure you it is way more fun! I remember that I saw people that danced like a bit crazy and I approached them just because they seemed to have fun without caring of what other people might think. That’s how I made friends partying. Of course you have to be with your friends but, at the same time, feel free to talk or dance with other persons. One last thing, when people see that you are having fun (laughing, dancing) they will approach to you easily.
Off topic: Can you make a Joker impression someday?
7:00 if you want to see him spitting like 3 liters into the camera
To be Passionate with the person you talk to brings so many more people over.
It reminds me of..
.. when I was in a club in colleage. At the first I felt so lonely because the people I used to talk to wasn't there. Then I striked up a conversation with a guy and it turned out we were so passionate about the subject (filmmaking) that Girls from different groups joined us all the time. I even rejected a good-looking girl who wanted to talk. (damn..)
Moral of the story: Don't be too passionate!
(Or at least passionate with a girl)
Nah, I'd rather have an enjoyable conversation about a subject I'm interested in rather than go talk to some random girl :P
Haha me too, which was why I continued talking with the guy :P
:)
I can definitely attest to this.
My 2 roommates and I went out dancing and there was so much fun and energy between us that not only did girls come up to us to join our circle but guys did as well. Fun definitely attracts more fun and everyone had a good time that night.
I truly enjoy your videos. They are very informative, engaging, and presented in such a lighthearted, fun way. The inclusion of the "smile" tip is brilliant; many people instantly look so much more attractive (and younger), and approachable when they smile (the genuine smile that is), and that certainly includes the phone conversations where the person on the other end can't see you, but they can "hear" you smiling.
I feel like with most social things the stuff that we're afraid of doing are EXACTLY the stuff that we should do.....I think maybe our minds think of the outcome in a different way. Like we can be hesitant to talk about embarassing moments because we think it might make us looks like fools but in reality it actually makes us more open and gives the power back in our hands
Tip 1: being attractive
Tip 2: follow tip 1
Tip 3: follow tip 2
Tip 4 : Spit on camera 7:00
Wow thanks. U r a real one
Does anyone else notice he always slyly adding how he’s picked up girls in different situations?
Yeah I did too
Wdym?
Don’t blame him. Guy seems like the definition of chad
Examples like these are more appealing to the majority of his viewers who are boys
And he often says " and I'm guilty of this myself " because this way more people are going to acknowledge this mistake regarding their own behaviour and are more willing to change
Charlie, you have helped change my life. Thank you!
I never thought about it until just now, but I do that "seeking" thing all the time! I'll have to watch out for that from now on.
Wow thanks for this... the little things you change in demeanor make a huge difference
That's true about dancing as goofy as you can.
I'm usually straight faced and very calm, but when I'm (sadly on MDMA to forget the world) I noticed everyone loving me. I was carrying this stranger and making silly dance moves the other night and noticed how both men and women were attracted and more friendly (way more friendly). I always wondered why I loved that self on MDMA, but now I know, I should try to be more free-minded and show the silly me hiding within. (No drugs needed)