4 Huge Mistakes In Charisma On Command Advice

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  • @DroppingInPodcast
    @DroppingInPodcast  Рік тому +138

    What do you think? Want to see more of these?

    • @medicat6494
      @medicat6494 Рік тому +9

      This was fantastic! The best of the podcast for me personally has always been you (and Ben in the past!) serving as role models for growth and learning about oneself.
      The first part, where you talked about "always having to run when afraid" is true for me, and I didn't realize it until now!

    • @Florinedev
      @Florinedev Рік тому +1

      Yes ❤❤ this is amazing

    • @bartekdaniel6255
      @bartekdaniel6255 Рік тому +2

      Yes please!

    • @b_lilla_t6464
      @b_lilla_t6464 Рік тому +2

      Absolutely! I was hoping for a video like this!

    • @waitingpatiently
      @waitingpatiently Рік тому

      Yessss!

  • @ivomirrikerpro3805
    @ivomirrikerpro3805 Рік тому +53

    “I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.”
    ― Frank Herbert, Dune

    • @Zdv0rz
      @Zdv0rz 6 місяців тому

      It's Lady Jessica, Frank wrote it but Lady Jessica said it

    • @wistfulgraph
      @wistfulgraph 4 місяці тому

      @@Zdv0rzno shit

  • @TheSinlessAssassin
    @TheSinlessAssassin Рік тому +71

    Yooo classic style Charisma on Command video where it's just Charlie talking to us straight up! And on another channel too LOL. And yes I would love more talking heads videos, it's what I started and learned the most from when I discovered your channel. I enjoy the celebrity breakdowns for the most part, but these feel more personal, intimate, and plausible for us average joes.

    • @pbdomit
      @pbdomit Рік тому +2

      You're sooo right! I hadn't realized until you said it how much I missed those videos

  • @schlep350
    @schlep350 Рік тому +56

    I remember listening to CoC 6ish years ago. The growth shown in this video aligns so well with the growth a lot of us experience.

    • @ZapatosVibes
      @ZapatosVibes Рік тому

      Big true.

    • @rachel4060
      @rachel4060 Рік тому +1

      I really want to see a breakdown of statistics of where these followers are living and are they single hahah

    • @itsjase1993
      @itsjase1993 8 місяців тому

      Coc

  • @johnc2956
    @johnc2956 Рік тому +16

    True charisma comes from taking responsibility for our mistakes and admitting we were wrong. That humility is very charismatic because of the authenticity. Kudos to you, Charlie.

  • @Zack-bl2gg
    @Zack-bl2gg 3 місяці тому +2

    This shows a lot of psychological growth, from that classic “gigachad” vibe you had going on to a general health mindset, I’m a big fan of that

  • @ZapatosVibes
    @ZapatosVibes Рік тому +9

    Very interesting to see the "level 2" of CoC. Hope for more.

  • @christianwolthuis1285
    @christianwolthuis1285 Рік тому +5

    i really like this style of video tbh, i kinda grew up on your charisma on command channel and id like to think i took tidbits of most your videos, so seeing you actually go back and evolve those principles was really nice

  • @TheCUBARY
    @TheCUBARY Рік тому +5

    Ohhh man, instant wave of nostalgia when I saw that classic talking head style video from way back in the day! Thanks so much for so many insights over the years Charles, from you and Ben both.🤞

  • @codex0089
    @codex0089 Рік тому +10

    I really like this type of video and would like more of the same. To remind people that these are rules-of-thumb and there is nuance in social interactions that need to be factored.

  • @antpixel3984
    @antpixel3984 11 місяців тому +1

    Outstanding video man. I literally took notes off of this one.
    I never comment on videos but here I am now. I am part of the majority who hide and never comment. I just watch, read, and judge what everyone else thinks- meanwhile I’m in the “safety” of not being judged/ argued against openly.
    Screw that. It’s like point two of the video, I’m like displaying a mask, I’m never displaying who I am, or what I think about. Openly in this arena of thought.
    Yeah… it’s easy to be the critic on the sidelines, while dreaming about being the gladiator in the arena.
    Here I am. Finally, making the dream real.

  • @EthanSmith
    @EthanSmith Рік тому +5

    It's CHARLIE!

  • @mohammadomarsalih4703
    @mohammadomarsalih4703 Рік тому +1

    I gotta say Charlie, from the deepest pits of my heart: Thank you.
    Just listening to you and Ben over the last 3 years has changed so much in me, to become more forgiving, more open minded, and of course, more confident and charismatic. Now I still have a long way to go, but right now I'm not saying that from a place of lacking, but from a place of excitement for what's to come.
    Again, Thank You. From the bottom of my ❤️

  • @_aSilver
    @_aSilver 9 місяців тому

    listening and being patient is a major one since I have been trying to be more social and rush into stuff more. but talked to this person who is really shy and I used to be good at being patient but recently been rushing to do things rather than sitting in a moment being patient to let someone take there time I ended up making a fool of myself in front of them since I wasn't patient and listening to what they were saying at that moment.

  • @AlistairWhatley
    @AlistairWhatley 17 днів тому

    Love this, please make more. I know this didn’t get the most views ever but I liked it a lot. Very strong nuanced view.

  • @Alchemal
    @Alchemal Рік тому +1

    What i want to see more of is authentic charlie.
    I really like listening to you talk about your real experiences rather then analyzing other people, as its hard to have the same insights about the internal state of other people, and i think thats where people's demeanor and behaviors reallg come from
    Like for example i enjoyed this video because you talked about the ways you grew and the lessons you learned, and i think that is really valuable

  • @DominusNovemus
    @DominusNovemus Рік тому +4

    Thank you, helpful. And respect for uploading a self-critical video like this

  • @poshdelux
    @poshdelux Рік тому +2

    I also noticed you have a young following. My brother 15 y.o. Got stuck on this MDMA topic for a while. He’s obsessed. It’s frightening.

  • @michaellupo3299
    @michaellupo3299 Рік тому +3

    Videos like this are really good I feel, because they bridge the gap between really good concepts like attacking your fears, and what can happen if that’s the only habit you learned to grow. Especially now in the world of online self-improvement, finding the right advice for your particular situation can be tricky and it’s very easy to get lost in how loud everything is, the flashy, cool sounding advice often can rise to the top quickly and be the loudest. Content like this is what we need more of

  • @cynicshminic
    @cynicshminic Рік тому +1

    Wow. Rule #1 was really impactful to me. I grew up on Simple Pickup/Project GO content back in the day, and also later, you/Charisma on Command. I got into daygame, picking up girls, and beyond just dating, leaning into problem solving or going after what I want more than 95% of people. But now I don't know how to sit comfortably with things, to the point of having chronic stress at times from always trying to "solve" something.

  • @StormBRNGER
    @StormBRNGER 10 місяців тому +1

    This was great. And I think you are right in everything you are now "correcting". I think that most things have good and bad parts to them, and they change depending on the situation. That's why you should be always aware and try your best to "be" in every situation, as it might not be as the one you encountered in the past and you should act differently now.
    Aware, humble, brave and knowing yourself, four pillars I would highlight maybe.

  • @NoahTahiliani
    @NoahTahiliani 7 місяців тому

    Love the old style! Feels like a FaceTime or just convo with a friend I love it!

  • @gabikoyenov
    @gabikoyenov Рік тому +1

    Hey Charlie, I loved this video. Genuine listening is such an important thing for living a fulfilling life. It's probably the most important thing for truly connecting with people. This video also reminded me of the older days of COC. Thanks!

  • @seanfrancishenry
    @seanfrancishenry 10 місяців тому +1

    Pertaining to your first point, letting the fear wash over you and then deciding if you want to engage, I think most people choose just not to engage, this is the easy way out and an excuse to not push themselves.. Definitely push yourself maybe for a couple years and then try this washing over/decision technique.

  • @appliancetraining
    @appliancetraining Рік тому +1

    It was good to see ‘you’ again.

  • @AnnHelle
    @AnnHelle Рік тому

    Leaving this here in case it helps anyone, as someone who's recovered from GAD and a panic disorder. In my experience I'd say #1 isn't great advice for some. "Staying with the fear" sounds good on paper, but actually TRAINS the body to get accustomed to being in a constant state of anxiety and fear, which will sooner or later turn into a full-blown anxiety disorder.
    Instead, we need to activate the parasympathetic nervous system, to get out of the fight/flight/freeze response as soon as possible. Breathwork is great for this, so is movement-type meditation like taichi and yoga.

  • @simoc69
    @simoc69 Рік тому +2

    This! 👌🙌🔥 more of these please. Very self actualization.

  • @Jabran-i6s
    @Jabran-i6s Рік тому

    yes do more of these, i just found your channel, Long time subscriber for my daughter, I teach her these things and your videos are a learning material i go in depth in.

  • @mattrfay
    @mattrfay Рік тому +1

    Great! Please make some more videos on listening skills that would be awesome 🙏

  • @intrinsicload
    @intrinsicload 7 місяців тому

    I'd love to hear more about the downfalls for the other 4 charisma types!

  • @hh8982
    @hh8982 Рік тому +1

    yayyyyyyyy talking head!!! i actually cant tell you how much i miss this

  • @andhover3686
    @andhover3686 Рік тому +1

    Big fan love this and the podcast I know your probably being pulled in alot of directions but I think these style videos are the most tangibly helpful and applicable if those are metrics your interested in thank you love the content keep up the great work

  • @zacharydean6637
    @zacharydean6637 Рік тому +2

    really enjoyed the video, hope to see more of this format

  • @brandonulloa17
    @brandonulloa17 6 місяців тому

    Give us more videos both types! Loved this fr

  • @Bomberman64x
    @Bomberman64x 8 місяців тому

    you need to post this on you old channel a lot of people need to hear this :3

  • @lokyewming
    @lokyewming 7 місяців тому

    this is your best video essay so far. thank you.

  • @LearningKaizen
    @LearningKaizen 10 місяців тому

    🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
    00:29 🏃‍♂️ *Embrace anxiety by moving towards it rather than fleeing, as it can lead to positive outcomes, but be cautious of reinforcing a habit of running from fear.*
    03:59 💔 *Rejection should be felt and acknowledged, as numbing the pain can lead to pursuing relationships where your authentic self isn't accepted.*
    06:30 👂 *Deep listening is crucial for fostering intimate connections and building trust in relationships, even though it's often undervalued in our culture.*
    08:23 💡 *Be cautious of overreliance on charisma types like conviction, as while they can bring initial success, they may hinder long-term growth without authenticity and listening.*
    Made with HARPA AI

  • @thegoat1261
    @thegoat1261 5 місяців тому

    Character development, great vid

  • @jacobmorres9817
    @jacobmorres9817 Рік тому

    Yes ❤ nuanced advice is the most valuable advice

  • @warrengday
    @warrengday Рік тому

    Great adjust advice. Thanks. All content good regardless of video format.

  • @nownotlater
    @nownotlater Рік тому +4

    Charlie, when are you and Mark Manson going to do a podcast together? It might be an echo chamber, but it would be a really good one! 😂

  • @petbird19
    @petbird19 Рік тому

    Wise advice! I'd love to know your deeper takes on the old videos.

  • @oponomo
    @oponomo Рік тому

    Hi charlie, big sucker for you here. The style of the isn't my favorite i'd say so so. But the content on this topic just brought me some peace, as i was struggling recently exactly with the negative feelings/outcomes you described, for these reasons! Thank you for helping me see hope through my natural unbreakable barrier to advices.

  • @samduke3669
    @samduke3669 Рік тому

    Would love more content like this! you have definitely have grown a lot and so have I, I could use more COC type content but for higher level consciousness type stuff.

  • @barbaralawrence6226
    @barbaralawrence6226 7 місяців тому

    Thank you. Yes, more of these, please. New subscriber 🙋‍♀️💖

  • @MrCaptainSquibbles
    @MrCaptainSquibbles Рік тому

    Hi CHarlie, welcome back to the video!

  • @Yarmalate
    @Yarmalate Рік тому

    So valuable and much appreciated. Very helpful, thanks

  • @TrentonF505
    @TrentonF505 Рік тому

    I want more of these kinds of videos

  • @dynamonawab
    @dynamonawab Рік тому

    Brillant. Want more of this

  • @NicholasTada
    @NicholasTada Рік тому

    Love this video style

  • @asdfasdfuhf
    @asdfasdfuhf Рік тому +4

    I have done nothing my whole life than wear different social masks that I don't know what my true core personality is if that makes sense.

  • @antonpletikos1470
    @antonpletikos1470 Рік тому

    We want more!

  • @johncracker5217
    @johncracker5217 Рік тому +2

    Women’s super power is being able to socially calibrate. However, guys who say “they know exactly what they’re doing.” Are dead wrong.. their greatest weakness is that they are almost always oblivious to how they come off and how men are truly judging them… use this knowledge men.

  • @simpleselfhelp
    @simpleselfhelp 11 місяців тому

    I love this type of video

  • @jasonfanclub4267
    @jasonfanclub4267 8 місяців тому

    I miss videos like these

  • @parkervybiral1736
    @parkervybiral1736 Рік тому

    I’d be interested in an in-depth video about deep listening from you

  • @emersonpfeiffer9674
    @emersonpfeiffer9674 Рік тому

    Love the vid style

  • @charisma-Leo
    @charisma-Leo Рік тому

    Miss this. Still so eloquent haha

  • @bluehorse6714
    @bluehorse6714 Рік тому

    Amazing!

  • @shootatsquare
    @shootatsquare Рік тому

    Excellent 👏

  • @MajorasMaskMailman
    @MajorasMaskMailman Рік тому

    Great work to the thumbnail guy

  • @Werdxp
    @Werdxp 11 місяців тому

    awesome video

  • @richardkingjunior7475
    @richardkingjunior7475 Рік тому

    GOAT

  • @DonnieThorson
    @DonnieThorson 7 місяців тому

    As state in the CD episode-Tiffanis Gold:They just are.

  • @kai_johnsonn
    @kai_johnsonn 9 місяців тому +1

    I find that a lot of the videos are very intense and don't truly represent every day interactions. Some are displays of two extremes, which can appear unattainable to most. This is especially the case when you are emulating behaviour of Hollywood stars who are the epitome of physical attractiveness, combined with the highest of social status. When you are acting in similar ways, people won't respond in the way you see on the TV screen. People admire those who are famous, they don't admire the common man on the street.

    • @LittleTimmyO
      @LittleTimmyO 8 місяців тому +1

      Agreed. The examples on here are too outlandish, and honestly performative.
      All the examples are of actors and singers giving interviews which is about marketing their movies and own brand. The second the cameras turn off, they’re completely different.
      Less present, less overtly assured, and certainly less confident.

  • @averma12
    @averma12 Рік тому +2

    First

  • @SynaTek240
    @SynaTek240 Рік тому

    ok, I have not watched the entire video, but just on the first point, ain't no way building a habit of talking to random people is going to make you start negging your partner when they need space. I understand the connection that was laid out, but I don't buy it, it's too elusory

  • @technicolorgiallo1111
    @technicolorgiallo1111 Рік тому +2

    ...ironically, you look like the male Charisma Carpenter.
    Might be a distant relative.
    Excellent content as always. Thank you.
    Minus the Joe Rogan stuff, of course-his world views are far-right and his followers are the bottom of the barrel.

  • @burlingo
    @burlingo Місяць тому

    Because Joe Rogan is a salesman, his reactions aren't good examples.

  • @simeond8685
    @simeond8685 Рік тому

    MORE TALKING HEAD

  • @bigknight202
    @bigknight202 Рік тому

    Bro, I bet you're just a hater
    ;)